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DISCUSSIONkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:12 AM
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STRATEGYkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:51 AM
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RANTkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:23 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:22 PM
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DISCUSSIONkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:33 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:20 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:07 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:48 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:04 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:52 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:27 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:54 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:15 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:45 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:39 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:23 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:41 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:25 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEkiyankiriam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:39 PM
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I just remove myself from him when these things happen. Tell him to go after other women he finds attractive and harsh reality will smack him on his head🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:02 PM
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Yeah but i think my friend was exception tbh. Because even in real life, no guy fucks with her because of her looks and vibes. She is one of the most high maintenance ppl i’ve ever seen. Maybe bc she grew up extremely wealthy, she gives off certain vibe and her outfits are 100% on point all the time. I personally cant do that myself. But one thing i noticed, when i put my pics of when i was skinny, guys respected me alot more even on OLD. Guys stopped messaging me come over and netflix and chill…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:43 AM
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I actually think outdoorsy pics are better but guys logic( or LvM logic) would be ‘outdoorsy(if its revealing workout clothes)=down to earth=easy’. If you understand what I mean. I actually did an experiment few times on tinder and when i put my pics in 10/10 dolled up pics with my long hair down and formal clothing ( no showing skin) i got way more HVM matches and luckily didnt get any lewd mags compared to my hiking pics or my pics in leggings. But i dont think its the pic itself but whether y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:24 PM
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Just ghost on him or tell him you found someone to be exclusive with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:39 PM
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So true. Thats why i expect men to do everything from planning dates, paying for it to initiating text. He should do everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:31 PM
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Of course you should but i’m talking about most men and they’re mostly LVM. What i mean is if you dont want LVM to mess with you, look and give off hard to approach vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:22 PM
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Personally i enjoyed using OLD to some degree as it allows me to meet wide array of men out of my social circle. I’ve met one of the most good looking guys and it helped me figure out what kind of guys that i mash well with and polish my standards. I’ve met on paper hvm who went top top schools, extremely good looking. Old is really good for experimenting and finding your type of men. Bewary of men who join OLD after their breakup. I was talking to a guy who joined tinder right after the breakup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:03 PM
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I’d have threatened him to ccall security guard on him. That’s why i have resting bitch face when i’m in public. I do not tolerate any bs anymore from LvM. I’ve hd this happen near my grocery store I smiled and I called the manager right away and he was thrown out of the store. He’s banned from coming to the store again. Also if a guy on OLD makes backhanded effort and negging and ask to come over, i called the cops and sent them to his address.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:39 AM
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That’s why i dont use hinge. I dont want these guys to think I’m in their league. Never. I wouldnt even meet them if soemone paid me to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 07:31 AM
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Not only that, but mentally immature men shouldnt be allowed to have kids. Its actually more important that financial security in some sense. I see so many rich and smart guys who have kids later to raise the kids as exactly as him; immature and manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:20 AM
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Go away. Lol made me laugh so hard. I should treat guys like this as flies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:54 PM
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I thought so also but didnt want to go out in park dates. Since restaurants are closed due to pandemic i didnt want to go out meeting some stranger in low cost, low effort park dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:22 PM
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In my culture I’d dare say that’s how more than half of the relationships starts. Female give male a chance just bc he had been pursuing her. Its the same thing with a men. Men dont put much effort into women if she doesnt come close to his type and be willing to ditch her at any moment of the day if she’s not his physical type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:14 PM
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So are you dating someone now ? Sometimes i wonder how long it’ll take for me to meet someone who meets my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:49 PM
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This was a largely debated issue in korean website and majority of women said yes to it. Girls dont like it when guys who they think below their league approach them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/20 02:25 AM
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I report guys also, only when they send me offensive messages. You can join with different number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:59 PM
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Can confirm. When i met on paper HVM, they didnt like me confronting them or voicing opinions. The best was when i just sit still and look pretty. And one of the guy who divorced his ex told me he doesnt like career minded women as theyre high strung.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:52 PM
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Also i thought it was TOO FUNNY when American guys dont look good but entitled the girls to look good. Average german men is way better looking than so called chads here. Im sorry but it really is. guys in US usually have gym made muscular bodies which is turn off and short while german guys have bodies that were made while doing sports and being out in the nature lacking sense of style too loud and talk much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 10:53 PM
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Yeah totally agree. Of all the guys i met American men were the ones who always played mind games and entitled. IME in europe, if your not his type, the guy just moves on in respectful way but in America they drag you till the end. Thats why i dont pay for dates as you never know. And even in nyc, good looking american guys are very rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 10:45 PM
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Its common topic in r/deadbedrooms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:18 AM
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My friends psychologist and few of mynother friends work as therapist. They say kids who havent been loved growing up, whether rich or poor will most likely be unappreciative of affection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:46 PM
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Also to add, dont date a guy who had family issues when young. To be specific, guys who have not received love when growing up. The worst guys ive dated had this trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:16 PM
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I used to think that i attract flies only, but realized flowers attract both butterflies and flies. You just have to weed them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:05 PM
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Not only bc he made an insult on women in general, but he has cheap mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:31 PM
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I just put on my pokerface and agree but vet them. Those guys are difficult to deal with. Next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 09:51 PM
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I used to feel that way. But didnt do much. Dont force yourself to be attracted to someone youre not attracted to. Its recipe for disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 09:49 PM
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I have similar experience. Visited my bf abroad and never once he took the flight to do the same. But tbh, looks matter. Innoticed if a guy has higher attractiveness in terms of looks, they are aware of it and use it to their advantage. But the difference between hvm is hvm dont string the girls along and play with their emptions, they just refuse them. But good looking lvm knows this and string them along till the end. After this i realized i level up my mindset and definitely the looks. They s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:18 PM
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Yes and women blame themslevs and men blame women for being “too sensitive”. I learned through my own experience that if i get this upset or start encumbering jealousy infront of him when im clearly upset, its my self esteem telling me to leave him asap. Relationships arent supposed to be rollercoaster of feelings with all kinds of drama involved like whats going on other dating forums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:40 AM
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But with jealously, its mostly the guys fault. If the guy creates and gives healthy and stable affection, you wont feel jealous mostly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:31 PM
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I tell them I have to make a phone call and take my bag and walk out. Tell them you’re going to bathroom Or I just walk out without telling them. Guy can’t grab you and make a scene as people think he’d be sexually assaulting you or kidnapping you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:08 AM
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One thing I realized after adopting FDS is I try not to speak a lot, rather I control my feelings and show my actions. If they do something wrong don’t blame them but just walk away. That’s why it’s so important not to make any single investments on guys as it’s hard to walk away when this happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:01 AM
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I’ve had a guy in my apt approach me randomly at night, asking for my number. He wasn’t my type at all, but I gave him my number so that he doesn’t do weird shit to me, considering we live in same apt. He asked me out, and date wasn’t good and asked me out the day before again and when i refused , he asked if he could come to my apt and starting to send paragraphed texts. Never again. I tend to act more shy and reserved infront of guys I like. So when I talk a lot it means I don’t like the guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:51 AM
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Literally all the American guys on OLD I’ve met in person lied to me about their height. I noticed it’s American thing. Instead of increasing their height, they should work on decreasing their weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 11:35 PM
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Typical thing my ex said to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:39 PM
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Yeah and this poor girl had know knowledge of it when she first was infected from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:29 AM
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He wanted me to ask him questions and act interested but I didn’t. He wasn’t much of a talker . He started going crazy and said he’s going to send my pics to his ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:34 AM
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And herpes type 2 is disease like AIDS where you have to live with it forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:19 AM
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I wish I could write it in English more in details. But basically, he didn’t tell the girl about his herpes and when she was experiencing the symptoms, he assured her saying it’s nothing to worry about and continue to sleep around. When she uploaded her encounter with this guy online, he threatened her that he’ll be killing him self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:19 AM
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IME, i wear more fancy and preppy look when I used to live in UK and it definitely deterred LVM. But you never know HVM seemingly ones are real HVM or not. Just bc the guy is good looking and has high income doesn’t mean he is a good person for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:13 AM
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Had similar experience while I never commented on his looks. It’s actually backed my psychological studies that people who lack self esteem do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 11:41 PM
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Also I met numerous men in real life and on OLD, usually the ugliest ones are the ones who had high standard and vocal about it. If a guy is vocal about it I know right away that have been rejected by lots of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 11:21 PM
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I can confirm almost all the time, guys who are ugly and have insecurity are shallow. Good looking guys ? They don’t need to. That’s why I actively avoid ugly guys as they’re entitled. I thought it was only young men thing until I joined seeeking arrangement and mind you most guys on there are wealthy. But good looking guys who guys who took great care of themselves were the ones who treated me well the most. Ugly ones ? It was the worst. One guy got mad at me because I didn’t ask him questions …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:39 PM
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Hehe Nein for me too. I thought it was only American thing until I met a guy in Berlin who told me he’s leaving everything behind to move to Chiangmai in Thailand. Why ? He loves skinny girls there and it’s cheaper to live there. He didn’t have stable career nor solid financial assets on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:49 AM
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I don’t think he will as he said he doesn’t tell this to girls he meet online prior to meeting. I think he wanted easy fuck as when I said I don’t invite guests, right after this is what he texted. I knew he was lying about not allowing guests in his place either but I played dumb acting like I believe what he said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:53 PM
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I used to think the same way but just string them along like how guys do. Think like a man. I do. Eye for an eye tactic. If the guy says this, I just use them as free meal ticket. Why ? Bc I lost interest in them when they said they’re not lllking for something serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:34 AM
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Well that’s why I adapted the mindset that the guy have to financially invest in me. If not he’s good to go. Because guys want to date around multiple woman and reek benefits. Who wouldn’t ? Woman comes to their apt to cook and clean and open legs for easy sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:26 AM
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They say guys say this when he thinks he can find better woman or he thinks he’s better than you. I think it might be true, but you don’t want to add that kind of person into your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:25 AM
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TELL him that you could be like other girls and walked away and you stayed with him or cheated on him. Doesn’t matter. Dump him ASAP. It’s form of manipulation and he’s putting the blame on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:38 AM
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He should be registered in to mental asylum instead of dating. Isn’t it tiring ? Dating should be fun and should be adding endorphins and serotonins in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:17 AM
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Hence don’t add any value in their life including emotional support. This is a big one. When a guy tells me his trauma or sob story I don’t really listen. I don’t want to add negativity in my life. If a guy really likes you, he wouldn’t tell you these things unless you guys are serious and openly share these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:11 AM
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Hence I don’t date American guys. Because long time ago, there’s a post I read on reddit and it opened my eyes. I won’t elaborate here but I think white American guys tend to Asians as there are more Asians here and also they always blame obesity rate. When I moved to Europe for school and work it was eye opening experience. First, women there are more fit (I don’t mean to diss but it’s backed by results) and they take more care of themselves and more feminine I noticed. I could see why they dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:30 AM
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Yeah can’t agree more. If a girl is out of the guys league in terms of looks guys would do anything. At my lowest weight I’d had guys taken me on trips while I was overweight, none of that happened. Guys are very visual creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:39 PM
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I’ve met few guys like this living in nyc. I learned the very hard way even if the guy offendsme like his that I don’t react right away. What I do is smile and assure him I’m not a gold digger and order expensive meal and walk out on dates. Don’t react or try to prove anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:34 PM
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There’s a reason why he dated early 20s girl. We all know men in late 20s and women in early 20s have totally different perspective. If I were her, id start begging him and asking for money indirectly. Use him as much as you can until you dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:27 PM
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Typically the person who has more value doesn’t chase.
/r/seduction22/04/20 08:21 PM
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Can confirm. Usually it means he’s just settling for you. Sorry to say this, but majority of people whether men or woman are average on looks and few are really quiet strikingly beautiful. I’ve seen numerous of my friends boyfriends attitude difference in average vs beautiful woman. If the woman is beautiful they usually are very vocal about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:52 PM
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Yes I totally understand. Actually I asked on FDS numerous times as I met white American guy. And he’s typical well educated Ivy guy. Little did I know that he was divorced and had sex escapades in Thailand. I didn’t know this until I met him for the date. We met few times, and it started to get on my nerves how he has Thai fetishes and literally make harsh comments if the girl is ugly. Outright infront of her. That’s why so wary of it. I didn’t know this until I met him few times. First I thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:09 AM
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Can I message you ? I’d love to learn more about it. I never cohabitation but when we were together briefly for travel, I did all of wifey things and on weekends, he’d ghost me and his excuse was we are literally together 24/7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:13 AM
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Yeah I’m not from Thailand, and nowhere in my post history says I’m from Thailand. Just stop guessing where I’m from for the love of god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:40 AM
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And putting down on woman just bc she refused to go along with his suggestions. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:20 PM
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Mind you, he went to Chicago Law, and was working for prestigious law firm in nyc. I usually go on dates based on the guy meaning if you make high $ I expect the guy to make more financial investment in the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:18 PM
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Yes I actually wrote a post about it. I’d get really really triggered by him being friends with hookers, and his criticisms of women’s looks and etc. he’d say I’m too prude sensitive. I thought so, but then I just stoped talking to him. It was constant arguments after arguments. Just block him. Go tell him to talk to other girls. If he asks why? Either go silent or tell him, you’re doing him a favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:35 PM
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And well to do guys doesn’t equal to HVM. Well to do guys are more intelligent and high chance of being narcissistic and sociopath and wouldn’t be able to detect because of their coverup and their intelligence. After dating numerous guys, I realized it’s better to date plain John who has HVM qualities than Chas who has LvM qualities. In the long run, most people want partners who are like their best friend. Who they can talk to when they have a bad day and also have good sexual compatibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 07:41 AM
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I used to think the same exact question. I’m well educated, went to top school, grew up in multiple countries. I think it was the vibe I was giving off. Generally on social dating apps, photos matter more than anything. So even if the girl is uneducated and low class girl, If she is pretty and slim and seem decent enough she attracts well to do guys. I changed my photos to me traveling and going to art galleries and it really did the work. And ofc on dating apps, LVM generally swipe on most girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:43 AM
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Yeah I noticed when guys from Europe move to nyc for work, mostly guys in finance their true fuckboy mind comes out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:42 PM
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I’ve dated German guys when I was in Berlin and Munich and German guys in New York. But this guy was the cheapest. At least for first date they NEVER ask to split. But I’ve had few guys if i could chip in as they were poor students. I think it’s common in Europe to split more than in the states.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:27 PM
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This should be on FDS handbook. I see lot of girls force themselves with a guy when he’s clearly mildly attracted to you until someone better comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 07:48 AM
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To be honest, was she prettier than you? Guys like that care a lot about looks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:33 PM
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Yes but I doubt that he’ll change. He won’t and can’t. He’ll be doing this continuously until he’s old and dead. Some other girl will take on his issues with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:02 AM
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So true, they just want the girls to become easy and cool girl. Who’d drink with them and laugh at their jokes while come over to their place for quick sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:47 AM
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Oh I meant 2 years. He didn’t hit my physically but abused me emotionally till I was suicidal. I threatened him if he ever comes to USA, I’ll make sure I’ll file a lawsuit. I was and I’m surprised at myself in that sense but I still struggle from trauma a lot. I once thought of hiring hitman to kill him. If I could, I’d rip his organs out of him and sell it or let the stray dogs have it. I think he’s getting his Karma now from what I’ve heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:45 AM
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It’s waste of time. Sure there’s hot guys and interesting ones but how do you know he’s a good person ? You don’t unless you’ve known him for long. Thought that my abusive ex was HVM until I started spending more time with him he was abusive. There’s a reason why those guys join online apps. They just don’t join there for pure intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:28 AM
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When a guy is into a girl he remembers every little detail. Guys are very sharp when it comes to women’s body change. My ex commented on how my boobs got bigger while he didn’t remember my full name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:38 PM
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Hello, thanks for the reply. Yes he is or was. He told me his ex wife emotionally abused him and they divorced finally. I like his personality but even if a person is traumatized I feel like they should do things within boundaries, and him going to Thailand was something that way over the limit. I just can’t and he’s still looking for those girls or Thai girls in nyc when he has plenty of opportunities to meet other girls in nyc( he’s American ) and I felt uncomfortable when he talked about how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:02 AM
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Thanks so much :) so if I ask, what happened after with him ? It hurts and i cried but I cut him off finally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:53 AM
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Ok thanks so much. I admit I was trying too hard at first telling him I have other dates and asking him advices for impressing other guy. But he said he was turned off that I lied on certain things on first date. I lied because I don’t like oversharing things first date as I don’t know how it’ll go with this guy. But as soon as the new girl came in, he told me he has romantic feelings for her. Issue is, I went to his place on second date and we had sex. And on the third date also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:19 AM
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Thanks for your reply. I’ll that to mind and valuing myself rather than playing petty games. Thanks :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:00 PM
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Thanks, yes I did tell him that I’m going on other dates and meeting guys to make him jealous. Then I was uneasy of him sending me pics even it was just simple food pix. It was fancy place while he didn’t bother taking me to fancy place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:52 PM
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Hey, thanks :) yes I felt uneasy about it. And the fact that he was leading me on hurt my self esteem. Then I caught myself and told myself it’s not worth my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:45 PM
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If you don’t mind, can I ask something? Does meeting a girl on evening vs daytime has different meanings than what it seems ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:35 PM
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So what did he say after ? Or how did it go after. That’s what I said to this guy and he said he likes me so he still hangout with me. But I wanted him to be my bf. But also he has so many red flags. This guy was divorced also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:44 PM
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Thanks... yes after failing my college entrance exam and going to uni that was on the lower end tier (I’m korean) it really damaged my self esteem not only that, I was severely abused emotionally by my ex. And it took me years to fully recover from it. Adding to that I’ve always had struggled with my body that I’m chubby than other girls, so even when I was fully dressed up and received compliments I ways always comparing myself to other girls. ESP when I goto places like soho, it kills my self …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:55 PM
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No I don’t bc I usually don’t tell this to a guy. But I never ever met a guy who told me he dated professional sex worker from Thailand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:17 PM
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His ex wife wasn’t sex worker. It was his ex after his divorce. He told me his ex was sex worker before first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:15 PM
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Yeah, you’re right. Bc when I heard about his ex, my expression hardened. I wasn’t sure of meeting him in the first place. He wasn’t my type physically but personality wise, we got along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:51 PM
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Yes my instinct was telling me it was red flag, but I used to be sugarbaby briefly which I told him. I told him I regret it a lot bc it interferes with my morality in the end. He told me he used to tell his ex if he was a girl, he’d def be a sugarbaby. Other than this red flag, he seems fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:37 PM
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He mentioned everything honestly but I can’t get over the fact that he’s divorced and he used to date sex worker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:43 PM
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The thing is, I used to briefly be as sugarbaby. I told him about this after he mentioned his ex was sex worker from Thailand working in japan. Irony is he works in big 4 consulting, and went to top ivy school but I feel like he’s acting out after his divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:42 PM
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But I realized after reading numerous psychology books that you need to forgive yourself. Sometimes people come into your life to make you learn and better yourself. Always tell yourself you’re valuable and you’re not compromising your values and standards. I actually have a list in red flag written down on my phone and I check whenever I meet new guy for a date. Your ex will be doing same thing over& over again until he learns or something serious happens due to consequences of his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:52 AM
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I hear you. I wrote a post about it actually. My ex was very good looking and I was caught up on past memories which didn’t do any good on present moment. You need to know he used you not loved you. There’s a clear difference. And even if he comes back, he’ll be the same person. One thing I learned not only dating men but dealing with different ppl as I get older is PEOPLE DONT CHANGE! so we won’t change ever, he will but chances are low. Time will heal you and you need to work on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:51 PM
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This is what I used to do to abusive ex. He gas lighted you that’s why you don’t have clear perspective on the situation. Seek therapy for now. Block him and it’ll take time to heal. But forgive yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:44 AM
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The guys nuts. He should check in with therapist instead of talking to you. Block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:37 AM
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Well I kept ghosting on him so he blocked me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:43 AM
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So do you agree that they don’t wife up the ugly girls ? I heard guys don’t even consider average or ugly girls as gf material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:55 AM
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Same here. I don’t want to do hookup because it adds zero value in my life, but rather brings risks with it. Dating ? Not sure but no. I’m just too tired of games that guys play and then I’m also tired at myself. I ghosts on guys a lot when he tries to use me for sex. I’m trying to put myself in higher vibration. And even if I dare, I want someone whom I can consider as best friend. Someone I can tell a lot of things and trust fully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:47 PM
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They always say I’m cute, but I feel like that’s all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:40 AM
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Yeah I made the mistake of putting him on pedestal bc of his looks. He was extremely good looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:25 AM
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Thanks I just added more explanation but I never encountered this with any guys so I was clueless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:02 AM
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That’s so true. I went to uni where there were lot of French guys. Also went on dates with multiple French men. One word that could describe French men. SLEAZY. I hate guys who are sleazy same goes for women also. That’s why I don’t date French guys at all in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:33 AM
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I think the best way is to not teach him anything. I learned the hard way. If he shows red flag, prepared to walk away. What I do is ultimate strategy. I ghost on them, and after awhile when it cools down and if it seems like he changed, then I come back. Don’t teach him anything don’t give him any advice and don’t add value to his life. You don’t become a starter by raising standards on your side. He can’t leave you once he invested a lot in you. I don’t deal with guys who doesn’t treat me seri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:10 AM
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What’s IME? Yes but those guys are extremely rare. ESP in such a ego inflated places like nyc. He was 10/10 but in natural sense. Not because he dress well or has other assets. He had hottest body I’ve ever seen (not gym made but genetic lottery) and mostly worn same clothes (H&m sweatshirt and jeans ). I actually get really turned off when a guy is into designer stuffs or too pretentious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:02 AM
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I’ve met really hot German guy who’s like 10/10 ( way hotter than any other guys I’ve seen in real life) but he saids he was bullied when young so he thinks he left still ugly timid boy in his mind. But I knew that those guys are very very rare to come by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:09 AM
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Yeah I used to be like that bc I met these guys over OLD. I always filter guys who’ve just broken up, and also it’s not your fault. So you shouldn’t be asking yourself why he was emotionally open to X and not you. Because of the timing. Guys join tinder after their breakup mostly. And now I’m older, I don’t even bother talking to guys who has emotional baggage from ex. It’s not because they can’t open up emotionally, it’s bc they don’t want to. Move on to another guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:03 PM
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Thanks, it meant a lot to me. Yes he told me he was divorced. He was 40. But judging by the way he talks about his ex gf I could see he cared about looks a lot. And definitely LVM. Aftermeeting once, and mind you we didn’t do anything romantic. We had very non sexual talks. He told me that he missed me. Only after meeting once and kept asking me to meet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:59 AM
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