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yes, your instincts are fighting this- we have a natural drive to be there and protect our kids, and the empty hopeless feelings can drive a lot of negative thoughts and behaviors. Forgive yourself first, then realize that you have 2 choices. Let this drive you to be better, or let it take you down. It's ok to be down for a while, but try to love yourself, keep valuing yourself, and just find things to make your personal situation better. I've been right where you are, it's empty... I'm sorry, i…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/20 06:01 PM
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Yes, now go home and sit and stare at a screen and use these obviously censored platforms and websites to form all your opinions on life. This is going to turn out great! :)
/r/MensRights24/03/20 05:28 PM
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Document. Yes, this is going to be very hard on divorced families. I'm not sure what we can do but keep the cooler head... stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/20 05:02 PM
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Unless it's in the decree she and you can say whatever you want... It all about who has the most personal gravity and power in the situation. if you have that power, exercise it. Even if you have to be a bit gruff about don't allow yourself to be denied equal time with your kid. Setting the precedent is very important, especially if she is the one wanting the divorce. don't leave the home, don't give up time with your kids, and don't tell her anything. the best option is 7 out of 14, which means…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/20 04:53 PM
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The day it stops throbbing in pain is the day you realize you are 'better off' then after that it takes a bunch of months to get over the constantly aching pain. From there, maybe a year or so off you'll only be reminded of it when you fail to move on properly, or let yourself get bogged down. Best thing to do is get used to being alone, grieve the loss and put the pieces of yourself back together as best you can. It's ok to feel terrible about this, let yourself feel the low. I joined a men's o…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/20 05:21 PM
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I guess in a way I'm 'lucky' my ex-wife was so dreadful to me I hadn't even slept in a bed (much less with a woman) for many years. So I don't even know what I'm missing. I was so used to being treated like trash that being alone is preferable. I've been through an immense amount of pain, solitude, resentment and agony so I don't want it to come off like I'm 'happy' with this... it's awful, but I've accepted it and with any hope, that is the key to getting out of the vicious cycle of desire and …
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/20 09:29 PM
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yeah, it's funny- if we were as naive as we were the first time, I'm sure the second marriage could be just as bad, if not worse. ;) I'm in the same boat, I was seeing this pretty nice girl but when the mask started to come off I just BOLTED. I think it's ok to have those standards, but it certainly cuts down on your options. Most guys are ok to play those games, and I'm just not.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/20 09:20 PM
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Only marry a woman who wants to be a wife, then make sure she wants to be YOUR wife. Marriage is one of the greatest inventions of all time and when it's done right, with the right person it's an amazing gift. Done wrong, with the wrong person it is a living hell. Choose the right woman and you're a genius, choose the wrong one and you're a bum. If i were young, I would examine and test my relationships MUCH more than i did, there's no hurry to get married. Take your time and let the good things…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 07:45 PM
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If you want some great materials check out "The Rational Male" book series. The best thing you can do right now is work on yourself, enjoy the women you can attract at the current moment, and look for a way to plan to get the things you want out of the next few years. Online dating is tricky, there are girls on there that I wouldn't swipe on but I would like if I met in person, and vice-versa. Let an older lady have a crack at you. Don't judge yourself based on who you can attract right now, jus…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/20 05:53 PM
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If you go directly to the dating apps expecting a beautiful young lady to just fall into your lap you're going to be very disappointed. For the most part desirable women don't really need to work very hard to get bombarded with matches so if you're just sitting there swiping, you won't get much going. You can get lucky however, so don't give up. I think the key is to really be yourself on your profile. There are great women out there who are looking for something specific, so it helps to try and…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/20 05:42 PM
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I joined a mens alanon group. Works wonders.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 09:33 PM
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Yes, the system creates feeds these villains... they are crawling beneath the surface pretending to be normal people, but there are insanely dangerous sociopaths all around us. The system loves to have these people in seats of power. They clamor for the power given to them by these courts and governments. I'm so sorry you got hurt like this, I can't believe how awful this sounds. You may need to practice letting go, and just let this monster have her victory over these possessions and money that…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 08:47 PM
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Eve loves Apples.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/19 03:34 PM
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Yeah, maybe- the world has turned upside down for 'marriages' now because of the constant and instant infidelity offered by phone/tech. You should be brutally honest with her, is there a woman you'd love to send dick pics to and go plow her every so often, say so. In these situation I think it's best for a guy to let his nuts hang. Show her she would be a fool to leave you. Start exercising, step up your game and make her desire you again. A little jealousy, some new sexy boundaries and you may …
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/19 05:58 PM
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Demand your rights, make the effort and be patient. She will crack if you keep your hand heavy on the plow. Once they realize they can't control you they will let go, but just don't play into any games.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/19 10:14 PM
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I'm from MN and my ex went OFF on me, trying to take full custody but I held my ground, used the crooked system and in the end secured my rights via a settlement. No matter how evil and possessive they are you can always win if you stay calm and demand your EQUAL rights.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/19 10:12 PM
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It should be. You might need a lawyer who drinks blood in their free time, but the simple fact is women do not own our children.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/19 10:10 PM
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Don't be gaslit by your ex. You define your boundaries, and what you are willing and not willing to do. Stand by your decisions and let her say whatever shit she wants, it's not really your concern anymore. Don't play games, if you want 50/50 take her to court. You can't play nice with an ex who pulls that crap you have to take care of yourself first.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/19 08:12 PM
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Might be a better idea to live like a monk for a while, it's probably not a good idea to put a new life on credit. I lived with my sister, and then I lived without a lot of the shit I thought was important and it turned out it really wasn't. Now I'm mostly put together and debt free. The last year felt pretty raw, but I'm primed to make a good move forward when the right opportunity presents itself. Unless you have a lot of money, or already have the divorce finalized- the safe bet is to go with…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/19 08:34 PM
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oh boy. Stay calm, don't respond to threats don't get too caught up the details of 'now' and look forward to how it will end do your research, and have a goal to get 50/50 custody if at all possible realize this is kind of normal, divorce is like Thunderdome for damaged women- it's never as bad as they make it seem. lean on friends, vent, talk it out all while cutting off contact with the ex. join a men's group take a deep breath it's going to be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/19 09:09 PM
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Yes!!! Best advice I got (i'm recently divorced after a long crappy process): shut up, lawyer up, and understand anything you say and do WILL be used against you. I would stop making apologies and start taking notes and compiling 'evidence'. If you're going into a divorce you'll be lucky not to be ruined by it, it's ugly, it's unfair and you have nothing to gain by playing nice. If she is the one asking for it, stepping out on you, and all that you need to hear right now, she won't think twice a…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/19 07:06 PM
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You will bare the black mark upon your e-soul now and forever more.
/r/MGTOW27/06/19 08:49 PM
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A good idea would be to surround yourself with older guys, who have been through something similar. I go to a Men's Alanon meeting and it has been invaluable to me to share the company of guys who have been there and done that. Alanon is a great program to learn about co-dependency, troubled relationships and the difficulty that faces the modern family. It also gives you a chance to work out some of your thoughts before taking action. I have a sponsor in the program and he has helped me coutless…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/19 01:40 PM
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Before you do anything, it might be a good idea to look at what might be driving your emotions and leading you to make these decisions. I went through something similar, and while I won't tell you what to do, I would caution you about jumping from one situation to another... Read/research the ideas involved with Jung's "Animus". It might be a good idea to get yourself out of one situation before you launch into a new one. Sounds to me like you are stepping into a very tough situation- child supp…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/19 05:12 PM
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So many of these 'professionals' are little more than con-artists who bilk cash from sad, helpless people.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/19 06:33 PM
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The counselor I saw with my now ex WAS A JOKE! She was a total fraud in my opinion and I was surprised she was able to keep a practice going with the absolute idiocy that came out of her face. It was really disturbing to think that people went to her for help. As a man, you have got to keep your relationships going to the right way from beginning to end and the harsh truth is it is 100% on you to do it. If you've let yourself, and your relationship slip no amount of counseling or talking it out …
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/19 06:32 PM
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