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| 108 | If only FDS existed a decade ago…Whenever I find old images I have saved, like anti-feminist memes - now I look at them and think, how tf did I ever find these funny…? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 07:21 PM |
| 10 | Genuine question: how can a woman maintain the hope that there really are good men out there?When I first came here, the “male depravity” posts really drove the point home for me that most men are not worthy of respect. They were like my pickme antidote. So I think they have value and shouldn’t be scrapped altogether, but I agree with capping them or limiting them to a certain day or thread, otherwise we’re just WGTOW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 07:13 PM |
| 51 | Is there even a bar anymore?“Because wow” from a scrote can refer to either any woman or a McChicken. Not really a compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:53 PM |
| 12 | Roast me, ladies. I deserve it.Pick-mes largely want to feel in control. They’re so desperate for male approval that they’ll harp on guys who make them feel they’re not good enough. It’s why so many of them are susceptible to negging. Is it HIM you want, or his approval? What do you think you’ll get out of it if you do rekindle something with him? Do you honestly think the sex will be any good if you feel insecure with him? Are you seduced by passive scrotes who don’t remember you exist until you remind them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:44 PM |
| 246 | My pre-FDS self would have gone with this. My current self unmatched him!Do I look like a man with a plan? :) They have no shame now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 03:10 AM |
| 28 | Blocked & DeletedWe’ve all been there. It took me a while to unlearn a lot. Even when my self-esteem was shit, I behaved and treated men as if I felt the opposite. And eventually you start to believe it. Not only that, but you owe it to yourself to surround yourself with people who will only support and uplift you. You’re your own greatest protector and advocate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 03:08 AM |
| 21 | War on Women vs War on Men“I’m Ukrainian” = “I live in the US and 1/24th Ukrainian on my dad’s side” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over youYep. The truth is that the majority of men don’t like women. They’re raised from a young age to believe that the worst thing they can be is like a girl - for example, being “overemotional”. So when they see you crying and pleading, they don’t take you seriously. They respect you more when you act “like a man” - being cold and unemotional about it. It’s bullshit I know, but men are either incapable or unwilling to develop the emotional intelligence to understand that there’s a full spectrum of hu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 07:00 PM |
| 25 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?Years ago I stated on an OLD profile “I don’t respond to openers like hey/how are you/etc.” small talk like that. It was pretty effective in weeding out men who didn’t read my profile, but on the flip side, it prompted a couple of LVM to match with me only to harass me about it (“oh you have such picky standards!!”) and insult my appearance. So even if they read your profile, they might insist on coffee/walk dates out of spite, or as a power move, to see if you’ll give in. I agree with others th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 03:07 AM |
| 20 | 🤡😂 Men can dish it, but can’t take it. Women need to act, look and think a certain way but the second even a tiny gendered expectation is put on a man, ITS SOOOO UNFAIR 😢 WE REALLY DO LIVE IN A SOCIETY🤔 Also, before you performed the extreme physical labor of leaning in for a kiss, I’d already Googled you to make sure you weren’t a sex offender. But go off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 01:12 AM |
| 36 | Men Who Hate Women Show It When Women Are Most VulnerableI organised to take the week off work to keep her company, help prep food, etc. I thought it was the least I could do since she claimed to need someone there. The least you could do? The bar is a limbo stick in hell at Satan’s birthday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 83 | From a FB group: male rando on OLD sends woman low-effort opener asking for personal information, woman states boundary, pickmes are upset she didn’t coddle him enough.It’s so shady. There’s a lot of personal information you get find with just someone’s phone number. That’s why I use Google voice until I like and trust them. And yeah he’s probably not flailing and crying about a stranger not being nice to him on the Internet 😂 So idk why these women think it’s so necessary for her to be “nicer” about it. That was his first message to her ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:51 PM |
| 313 | From a FB group: male rando on OLD sends woman low-effort opener asking for personal information, woman states boundary, pickmes are upset she didn’t coddle him enough.Context for the first comment: he ended up making misogynistic and homophobic comments towards her. Who on Earth could’ve seen that coming? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:22 PM |
| 58 | Say to a man : "I don't trust men"HVM will not only sympathize when you trash-talk men, but they’ll go off on their own tangents about most men being garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:33 PM |
| 42 | Basically just discovered a new fetish for myselfMy favorite is when men flirt with you by telling you they’ve been watching porn, as if that’s a flex…? As if that’s anything…? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 11:53 PM |
| 17 | I only read female-dominated subreddits nowAh right. They’re so hard to find -.- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:39 PM |
| 25 | I only read female-dominated subreddits nowAny good ones you can recommend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:06 PM |
| 14 | Stand in line ladies… please roast this scrote!It has to be. They don’t say this shit out loud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:35 AM |
| 64 | Men Double TextingIf he’s this controlling when he barely knows you, just imagine down the line. It’s really creepy how emotionally involved he is already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:30 AM |
| 75 | Flip the scriptIf he’s “reeally bad at planning LoL 🤪” what other essential life skills does he not have? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:02 AM |
| 529 | Flip the script“Spontaneous” 🚩🚩🚩 Low-effort, irresponsible, smooth-brained hedonist, take your pick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 12:03 AM |
| 45 | Pickmeisha me vs FDS enlightened me:It feels good to just ghost dudes who step out of line now. No arguing, no stress, just getting the fuck out of there. When I cut off my ex for trying to complain about me to my friends (he wanted to “tell his side”… out of nowhere… they’re not even close with him), he threw a giant tantrum while I was so stone-faced and felt nothing. It was glorious. Old pickme me would’ve been like ooohhhhhh whhhhhhyyyyy, why would u do such a thing😢, trying to appeal to his humanity, as if he had any to begin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Just found this on tumblr. They call us ‘femcels’ for having high standards and help each other while incels hate and k*ll women.This reads as sarcasm to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 03:39 PM |
| 47 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮Bless her heart but she needs to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:45 PM |
| 25 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮Classical male entitlement. They have their list of demands for girlfriends, wives, even women they’ve never met, then come at relationships expecting to be loved unconditionally. Also, I’ve not met one dude, ONE DUDE, that was concerned about contracting STDs. They’ll have unprotected sex with whomever, whenever, wherever. If you won’t sleep with him until he provides negative full-panel results, you’re “paranoid” and a “prude”. But women always have to be the bigger people and be “clean” for h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:41 PM |
| 5 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?Same here. I was way more forgetful as a teen, but I still remembered to respect others’ needs. And it took yeeeeaaaars and years of rigorous self-improvement to become the functioning adult I am now (also on Wellbutrin 🙂). One thing that frustrated me about him (and a lot of other LV neurodivergent people) is that any sort of genuine self-reflection for him was like garlic to a vampire. As a LVM he had the added benefit of being neurodivergent to explain his way out of accountability. I was a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:28 PM |
| 5 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?I hope he at least remembered to change his underwear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:03 PM |
| 48 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?I think he means his mother 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:42 AM |
| 17 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?No!! No diagnosis excuses any abuse, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:41 AM |
| 29 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?Yeah, I don’t vent about my relationships to my mother and sister anymore because they always want to psychoanalyze him and try to “explain” why he might have done things, when I’m really mad at him. I know why, and I don’t care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:39 AM |
| 14 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?Stupid. Why do they think that’s an excuse? If you did it while drunk, you were definitely thinking of doing it anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:33 AM |
| 27 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?He sounds like the guys who get caught on To Catch A Predator saying, “While I was driving 5 1/2 hours to come here I had serious reservations about the whole thing, believe me… I was like… is this even right…?” Like that makes it better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:30 AM |
| 52 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?Also, it was his idea to go on vacation in the first place 🤔 and he WAS born… if he hadn’t been born, he never would’ve driven a car… hmmmm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:28 AM |
| 24 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?Hahaha!! If it was a date with Margot Robbie or whoever I bet he’d have the same problem 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:25 AM |
| 49 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?He’s told me that too! Not sure if you experienced this also, but constantly reminding him to clean up, make appointments, etc. made me feel more like a “mother” to him than a girlfriend, and needless to say, my attraction towards him died. According to him, this made me a big ol’ meanbutt. Since I’m also neurodivergent with ADHD I tried to be open-minded and accepting about it but just… no. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:21 AM |
| 75 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?What is it with men and equating their orgasms to like… a soothing bath or something 🙄 or anything else therapeutic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:12 AM |
| 109 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?That’s such an 8yo thing to say, what an idiot. I’m in a library right now and trying to stifle a loud cackle from your last paragraph 😂 It just gets worse and worse! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 09:11 PM |
| 293 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?He definitely was just BSing me. Idk if that makes it better or worse. He actually broke up with me on my birthday, which honestly, was a really great gift. Being away from him is an antidepressant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 09:05 PM |
| 71 | Do any of you NOT want to get married one day?I don’t see the point in marriage for myself. I don’t want kids, I want to sustain myself and I don’t want to be anyone’s stepmother. But I’m not closed off to the idea of a long-term partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 07:37 PM |
| 29 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyI’m in my 30s and I look way better than I did in my 20s, with the added benefit of giving less of a fuck 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 01:13 AM |
| 51 | Darcey from TLC's 90 Day Fiance is usually a mess, but I love this video where she handles her petty, insecure scrote ex like a queen.This was so great to watch because Darcey was such a crying pickme for this gremlin before. She did a complete 180 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 02:38 AM |
| 19 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭I have never ever lied there like a starfish when the sex was enjoyable 🤣 All these guys complaining about women not being “enthusiastic” during sex are telling on themselves.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 02:33 AM |
| 14 | Another FDS hate post on the frontpage of LV males frothing at the mouthEven if we are “female incels”, do regular incels get this much harassment and death threats? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:05 AM |
| 34 | Read this if you’ve ever wondered “what if I gave my lvx a second chance…?”I enjoyed calling him out on his bullshit, on his lies, on how inconsistent he was. I made it clear that he wouldn’t fool me twice, and if it was his goal (it is) he was wasting his time. He didn’t take it seriously. He never respected what I said, he always dismissed it, so it was expected of him. Not surprising. This is why you just block and delete. Misogynistic men find women’s anger funny and/or a mild inconvenience at most. Calling them out will get you nowhere, and they love the attention… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:03 PM |
| 241 | Friends that make questionable relationship decisions like this are LV. I don’t understand how the entire friend group KNOWS it’s disgusting and yet…no one steps up to call him out. Gross.I had an ex who told me that at an event, he and his friends (late 20s) met these two teenage girls and a guy in his group started following them around. They would all talk about how creepy that was, but didn’t confront him at all about it. I asked him why HE didn’t call him out and he just was stumped. Guys like this care more about their reputation among their bRoS than a vulnerable person’s safety. It also shows he’s so far removed from the reality of women’s experiences that he can’t be bot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 04:45 PM |
| 4 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?The greatest dick I’ve ever experienced in my life belonged to a ZVM 😩 I wish they were portable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:54 PM |
| 5 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?I legit just told my date to show me his dick because he was hard. He obliged. I looked and didn’t even touch it. Didn’t show him anything of mine and he didn’t push my boundaries on it. That’s what I’d rather do! I guess my hesitancy is that the guy will typically expect you to go “all the way” at that point and make a fuss if you don’t. I guess you can just weed them out at that point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:51 PM |
| 4 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?I knew a guy who was 8” and pretty average hands. So I don’t really trust that as an indicator | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:49 PM |
| 17 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?There are so many in my inbox telling on themselves 😂🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:48 PM |
| 6 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?Good idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:53 AM |
| 12 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?Yeah. Sex isn’t as enjoyable for me under a certain size. If I can’t feel much then that’s a big deal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:53 AM |
| 90 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?I got 3 already 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 12:39 AM |
| 21 | Men being body shamed 😢Probably why they’re proud of their “dad bods” 🥴 I see them indicating that on so many OLD profiles. Meanwhile women are shamed for having essentially mom bods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:10 PM |
| 10 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?Understood. Also I meant 5.9 inches - I edited my post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:06 PM |
| 27 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?Good point, thanks. And 5.9 inches I meant. I edited my post for clarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:05 PM |
| 30 | Men being body shamed 😢Men will gaslight women into believing they’re overreacting to every perceived slight, but you give men a taste of their own medicine and they throw a tantrum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:00 PM |
| 21 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?When we were at a mall, he threw a pretzel in the trash, changed his mind, then fished it out and ate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:46 AM |
| 12 | Remember that ex you so desperately wanted to marry?This is why the bar is in hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:40 AM |
| 41 | Remember that ex you so desperately wanted to marry?I had to inform the first man I wanted to marry that women don’t pee out of their buttholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:39 AM |
| 10 | SeX iS eXpEcTeD - Man is trying to coerce9 woman to have sex with him and everyone is cool with this??If not even being calculated about it, he has a big sense of entitlement. He EXPECTED her to have sex with him and cried(lol) when he didn’t get it. A sense of entitlement is the ROOT of abusive people’s behavior | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 06:03 AM |
| 36 | SeX iS eXpEcTeD - Man is trying to coerce9 woman to have sex with him and everyone is cool with this??A lot of the comments have some variation of “obviously you don’t have to have sex with him if you don’t want to BUuUUuUTTTTTT-” There is no “but”, she doesn’t owe him anything… 5 months… Why is he crying over this?? Either he’s severely mentally unwell or being extremely manipulative. Dear god. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 05:16 AM |
| 171 | This ain’t no Build-A-Boy, ya know?Men don’t typically value women’s kindness or generosity. They LIKE it because it makes them feel good. But it doesn’t make them respect you one bit. Being their “ride-or-die”, loving them unconditionally… end it. It gets you nowhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 08:54 PM |
| 225 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?Dude, men are always complaining that women expect them to be mind readers, and would kill for a woman who directly communicates. I am extremely direct and literal with my needs. Never met one dude who liked it. They would always rather me dance nicely around the subject. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:10 AM |
| 89 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?Our first meeting… gave me intense IBS. And from that moment, I knew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:02 AM |
| 22 | More FDS Fan Art!These are great, I’d love to see more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:59 AM |
| 7 | FDS Fan Art! (by me)NICE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:58 AM |
| 2 | I can't tell if this is a jokeHonk honk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 04:19 PM |
| 4 | If he says he doesn’t eat pussy or acts disgusted by it, simply say “Oh my god, I had no idea you were gay, you know you could’ve told me from the start I would’ve accepted you! There’s no reason to hide. It’s 202X!”This totally works. Usually I say, “are you even straight?” Or I’ll mention in passing, if it has to do with the conversation, “for guys who don’t like eating pussy, I question if they’re even straight” then they go on and on about how much they love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 04:16 PM |
| 148 | Bet this guy would have 0 qualms about having sex while “hanging out”And he’s just not that interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:08 AM |
| 179 | Ladies, how to react to this? Details in comments.Met on OLD. Never met in person before. This is the second time he cancelled the date. First time was due to bad weather, which I agreed to (I’ll only accept outdoor “dates” due to the pandemic). That was supposed to have been on Friday. We then rescheduled for Sunday (today), but he sent me this tonight. On one hand, I want to be understanding about this “rare event” and at least he apologized and asked to reschedule. On the other hand, the fuck? Clearly I’m not a priority to you. On the OTHER … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 07:28 AM |
| 2 | What’s some good FDS advice for when you’re nervous before a first date and afraid of rejection?It does. I’ll try it out, thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | What’s some good FDS advice for when you’re nervous before a first date and afraid of rejection?Hah. Thank you, I’ll follow all of these. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:24 PM |
| 1 | What’s some good FDS advice for when you’re nervous before a first date and afraid of rejection?This is true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:24 PM |
| 3 | What’s some good FDS advice for when you’re nervous before a first date and afraid of rejection?dick is abundant and in low value I will repeat this to myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:24 PM |
| 1 | What’s some good FDS advice for when you’re nervous before a first date and afraid of rejection?Yes, thanks for reminding me!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:23 PM |
| 26 | What would you do if your boyfriend called another girl hot/cute in front of you?“Well, then why don’t you ask her out? I wish you all the best.” Then fucking leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:22 AM |
| 13 | Top 2 Ways to Prevent Men from Wasting Your Time!Where’s the lie tho | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 11:51 AM |
| 32 | Did you ever experience true love?I believe I did, but I gave it to the wrong people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 11:35 AM |
| 7 | Classic PickmeishaEx-bf used to do this exact same shit!! I felt guilty even bringing it up. He was full of dumb excuses. I didn’t want to lose him so I just accepted it. Fucking never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 08:09 PM |
| 92 | If someone cares, they’ll make an effort. Stop reaching out to men, who otherwise would not give a shit about you.I get queasy at the thought of pursuing a man now... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 08:01 PM |
| 9 | If a man treats you badly/doesn’t see your worth, it is NOT a reflection on you.It’s such bullshit how a lot of male (and some female unfortunately) dating coaches talk like, if he’s not putting in the effort, you’re obviously not “dream girl” material and you must be doing something wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 07:59 PM |
| 24 | How do you respond on OLD when a guy asks you to travel to him?Guess that’s how they weed themselves out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 02:51 AM |
| 24 | Why men are the one who must pay for datesMy first boyfriend was a broke, unmotivated LVM. His own mother told him he “can’t afford a girlfriend” when she found out we were dating. My pickme-ass still loved him even though he never paid for shit. He ended up stringing me along for 3 years and then dumping me for someone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 02:50 AM |
| 6 | Don’t let the Narcissists & Fuckbois break your goodness.Well, they certainly broke my CoolGirlness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:44 PM |
| 5 | Playlist for HVW? Anyone know any songs that can help get you into the mindset of being a HVW?“That Don’t Impress Me Much” - Shania Twain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 02:00 PM |
| 27 | i literally have no fucking wordsIt’s like he’s proud of himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 06:22 PM |
| 12 | What are your biggest pet peeves from men’s OLD profiles?When their profile is “under construction”. Low-effort Larry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 03:23 AM |
| 13 | I’m really tired of intros on OLD like “how are you?”, “what are you up to today?”..Yessss. It just screams “entertain me!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 02:07 AM |
| 8 | I’m really tired of intros on OLD like “how are you?”, “what are you up to today?”..Honestly I’d rather get “nice to meet you”, in my experience they come from guys who actually want to get to know me. Small talk questions like what I described earlier just seem like placeholders for actual convo starters. Also, probably cause “hey there” is usually followed by “little fella 🤓🤓” and references something smaller and weaker.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 01:29 AM |
| 14 | I’m really tired of intros on OLD like “how are you?”, “what are you up to today?”..Usually just referencing something in my profile or match questions, a dumb pickup line, something funny. You stand out because you show genuine interest, and something funny/clever indicates that not only are you creative, but you’re actually trying to impress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 12:39 AM |
| 4 | I’m really tired of intros on OLD like “how are you?”, “what are you up to today?”..I don’t think you should have to pry anything out of them, if they’re interested then they should show you by maybe asking questions about stuff in your bio. Like what you do in your spare time. It’s how you get to know a person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:50 PM |
| 103 | Now that I feel confident enough to date, I don’t want to 😂Your standards naturally rose, you aren’t as easily impressed, and men can’t fuck with you. That’s leveling up 🤟 former Pickmeisha’s especially become the most savage! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:40 PM |
| 8 | Should I even respond?You successfully weeded him out! That’s what FDS strategies are designed to do... to save your precious time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 10:59 AM |
| 13 | Let me play a sad song for you on the world’s smallest violin :(Yeah, men are not stupid, no matter how much they pretend to be. They loooooove to pretend they’re dumb. It’s the best way to avoid accountability. Even if they are stupid, no one wants a stupid boyfriend. So either way, it’s good you dumped his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Women discuss being diagnosed with Anxiety, depression, ADHD and being on multiple medications for years. Turns out their shit ass husbands were actually the cause and the problem and dropping his ass suddenly solved all their “mental health issues”.Thank you sis :)♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 05:14 PM |
| 20 | Let me play a sad song for you on the world’s smallest violin :(He’s straight and his “looking for” says short or long term dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 05:12 PM |
| 5 | Women discuss being diagnosed with Anxiety, depression, ADHD and being on multiple medications for years. Turns out their shit ass husbands were actually the cause and the problem and dropping his ass suddenly solved all their “mental health issues”.I haven’t had a single panic attack since breaking up with my bf 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 02:56 PM |
| 15 | A couple basic questionsIf he’s done well so far, that’s good! Leave it all to him. It’s his job to pursue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 02:55 PM |
| 74 | Let me play a sad song for you on the world’s smallest violin :(So sorry that you have to deal with “nagging” and “drama” from your gf whenever you decide to cheat, douche. Dumb and silly indeed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 02:19 PM |
| 21 | Wake up!... I mean go to sleep!Yup. It just adds fuel to the fire. If he gave a shit you wouldn’t need to send them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 05:15 PM |
| 90 | Wake up!... I mean go to sleep!Also, don’t text him long ass paragraphs detailing how he hurt you. He don’t care. Don’t waste your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 04:34 PM |
| 27 | LVM treat OLD like an Uber eats deliveryLeast Uber Eats requires payment 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 01:49 PM |
| 3 | LVM treat OLD like an Uber eats deliveryOnline Dating :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 01:48 PM |
| 41 | Opinions on the question ‘what made you swipe right on me?’I take it as an arrogance.. I just say “probably for the same reasons you did me”. If they ask me to elaborate, I say I liked their photos/profile. Keep that shit vague, they’re not as special as they think | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 01:33 PM |
| 1 | PreachWhat’s even the point of helping a man grow? I want a guy I can lean on.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Does this deserve a response? Never met this guy - from hinge. Am I being sensitive thinking this is too forward?Suuuup Low effort monkey | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 01:30 PM |
| 2 | True self care.This shit works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 03:55 AM |
| 26 | A guy who I briefly talked to a few years ago shared this. Funny thing is, he kissed me at a party and then went downstairs and started making out with another girl and I caught him. Now all he does is complain on social media...mostly about women.-polishes mallet- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 02:47 PM |
| 13 | If they don’t compensate you, they don’t get your attention.Holy fuckin moly. Why would anyone be caught dead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 02:41 PM |
| 12 | Men inflating their value, expect women to lower theirsYeah I’m sure he values women for their “personalities” as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 09:37 AM |
| 7 | There's a great channel YouTube that teaches the *how* of FDSYes, love her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 09:35 AM |
| 7 | What are you doing this month to prepare for #FuckboyFree2020?You’re growing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 09:32 AM |
| 29 | What are you doing this month to prepare for #FuckboyFree2020?No more “does he like me?”. Do I like HIM? No more entertaining stale convos “in case it goes somewhere” No more dumbing down or lightening up my opinions No more accepting low effort shit If I’m not 100% comfortable with it, it’s a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 09:30 AM |
| 2 | The actual nerveHow is he not embarrassed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 08:16 AM |
| 14 | How to flush a douche, sisters.It’s hard to explain crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 08:05 AM |
| 10 | Why having high standards will never work against you! “If men have the option not to pay with other women why would they go with a woman who demands it?”Here is Why.Yup, have them, it’s just too much for them apparently. Ugh, it’s just so frustrating. Thank god I have a good FWB, I’d go nuts otherwise | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 03:45 AM |
| 22 | Why having high standards will never work against you! “If men have the option not to pay with other women why would they go with a woman who demands it?”Here is Why.It just seems like, in my experience, seems like most men are lazy and just like convenience. After I’ve stopped being a pick-me, guys don’t stick around anymore. It’s hard to believe that men actually like all that with this shit going on. Men used to have to chase to get sex, now they don’t have to anymore. HVM are really 1/1000. I think I’ve met two in my entire life. Our personalities didn’t click though. And one of them is my dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 03:43 AM |
| 37 | Why having high standards will never work against you! “If men have the option not to pay with other women why would they go with a woman who demands it?”Here is Why.Men like women who have standards. Having standards demonstrates your worth. You teach people how to treat you. Does your mans dream girl settle for bread crumbs? No, she demands excellence. Then why do a lot of women feel they must lower their standards to get a guy? And why does this weed out the vast majority? I haven’t seen any evidence that men like this at all. Very few, but most no. It seems they run away the moment an obligation of any kind is put on them. Which speaks to the quality of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 04:36 PM |
| 13 | You got me 😂Guys have straight up fingered me with my leggings on and think it actually feels good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 09:02 PM |
| 12 | Does this present any red flags?He’s buttering you up. Enjoy the compliment and proceed as normal. Show him you aren’t easily impressed by flattery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 08:59 PM |
| 7 | Made a mistake agreeing to meet fuckboy again. I feel terrible.Hun, this is what they do! We’ve all done it. We can’t help our emotions/hormones sometimes and they know this.. I just blocked an old fuckboy too after he reached out through text. I engaged with him, but then I thought.. actually be a man and fucking call me if you want to make things right. Blocked his ass. You’ll be better equipped next time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 12:46 PM |
| 13 | The Dumb Fox CredoHow they do it. Or both | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 09:26 PM |
| 14 | The Dumb Fox CredoReally? How’s that? Interesting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Feeling guilt when you start holding men to your standards?What rules have you set for yourself? If you don’t mind sharing, of course | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:51 AM |
| 39 | Feeling guilt when you start holding men to your standards?Tbh that flair makes me wonder why we should bother with men at all.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:42 AM |
| 19 | Feeling guilt when you start holding men to your standards?Example: a guy on OKC recently asked me out for a coffee date. I respectfully said that I would be down for a dinner instead. I was embarrassed. I owe nothing to this stranger and simply stated my terms, yet I’m already whipping myself, worried I’m a “gold digger”, “selfish”, this and that. I am in therapy for pure OCD and it obviously plays a role. But I’m sure a lot of other former pick-mes can relate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:35 AM |
| 4 | Heyo I really like this guy, and I think the feelings mutual? What do I do?It’s his job to lead the relationship. Unless he does it first, you won’t kiss. Just keep having fun on the dates. Date other guys in the meantime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Should I let guys know how single I am?Laugh and take it as if they said it as a compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 01:54 AM |
| 1 | He joked I'll "empty out his wallet":* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 02:24 PM |
| 13 | He joked I'll "empty out his wallet"Play dumb by playfully agreeing and then actually empty his wallet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 04:29 AM |
| 45 | When you ask a guy “what are you looking for”, what response is acceptable if you want a relationship? What are some red flags?“I’m just socializing and having fun and whatever happens, happens” if you say you’re looking for a relationship, the guy might fake feelings to get into your pants. Just don’t show your cards. See how he treats you when there’s no pressure on him. Meanwhile, maintain your boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 04:23 AM |
| 22 | AskReddit: how do guys feel abour girls making the first moveAlso could be more of a sexual fantasy than anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 03:45 PM |
| 4 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”Mhm!! I am ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 03:39 PM |
| 29 | AskReddit: how do guys feel abour girls making the first moveMen who want women to make the first move, Bigfoot, Chupacabra | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 02:16 PM |
| 10 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”Very fitting that he came back in October! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 01:48 PM |
| 9 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”He tried to weave it in as if it were relevant to our conversation, but it still stuck out to me. I just shrugged and said “No I mean I’m not a big texter anyway” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 01:46 PM |
| 37 | Stop being impressed by mediocre shit.My friend justifies her relationship with this dusty ass emotionally abusive guy with, “well, he doesn’t cheat” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 09:38 AM |
| 10 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”Yes! It feels good, however annoying the texts are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 04:25 AM |
| 22 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”Thanks :) I’m doing better now. Still infuriating but it would be worse to be a doormat in this situation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Gentle Sunday reminderYup. Men are selfish. When they want something/someone, they’ll get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 04:09 AM |
| 12 | To the moid lurkers. If women expecting more feels like an affront to you, it's because you're low effort and need to do better. That's not our fault 😂🤣wHaT dO wOmEn bRiNg tO tHe tAbLe :V | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 04:07 AM |
| 2 | To the moid lurkers. If women expecting more feels like an affront to you, it's because you're low effort and need to do better. That's not our fault 😂🤣Fucking preach | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 04:06 AM |
| 14 | STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIM!"He isn't texting me back/planning dates/making time for me because he's really busy right now" Ask him to come over so you can suck his dick. See if he’s still busy then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 04:04 AM |
| 28 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”He’s 30 and still an entitled frat boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 03:52 AM |
| 33 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”Thanks. I’m not engaging further with this noise. Supposedly he’s used to dating girls with low self-esteem. He used to blow up my phone, months later he calmed down, I didn’t care, then he’d be like “have you noticed I text you much less?” Fucking why.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 03:52 AM |
| 54 | “Heyy I know I ghosted you when you called me out on my shit, but don’t worry - I forgive you. Would you like to stroke my ego some more?”Nutshell context: really cool guy, chivalrous, he wanted a relationship, I said I wanted to take it slow as I just ended a 4 year relationship, would rather have fwb, he said it was all good, said he would “wait”, 6 months of casual dating, he maintained that he “liked me a lot”, then I eventually got feelings for him, started holding him to higher standards, he got wishy-washy and passive-aggressive, would cancel last minute, I respectfully raised my concern that he was playing me, he attempted… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 03:48 AM |
| 8 | Sunday Reminder: Sisters, You Don’t Owe Men JACK SHIT!Until you break out of seeing yourself through the male gaze and your life through male wants and needs you will NEVER be happy. How do you know if you do this and how do you unlearn it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Any Youtuber recommendations?Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 12:36 PM |
| 3 | This. After he cheated on me & ruined our 15 year marriage. I am happy! Happy I got away from you.yes, she should enjoy the ego stroke and move on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 12:29 PM |
| 9 | Proposal for a sticky: a non negotiable list of dealbreakers in husbands, fans, dates, boyfriends, etc“Why should I pay? It’s 2019” but expects you to look done up for him at all times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 12:23 PM |
| 11 | Question: who should text who after a first date?Thank him when you’re with him, then let him reach out to you first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 04:41 PM |
| 5 | Why would a man bother to put in effort to get a HV women where he has other girls who will accept little effort?It really is astonishing how entitled a lot of men are when they have nothing to give. No doubt because of the Pick Me Penelopes and so on. I used to be her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Why would a man bother to put in effort to get a HV women where he has other girls who will accept little effort?Yeah, it almost seems like way more women are into all that than men are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 05:09 PM |
| 38 | If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:Also, you already paid. For your hair, makeup, skincare, outfit, etc. to look nice for him. You played your role, now he has to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 02:59 PM |
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