Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?

superheroxnerd · 2021-12-10T20:38:22+00:00

In the gift of fear (an FDS favorite) Gavin debecker says that dogs sense when you’re tense and will react to people like your ex. It’s not that pets can tell when people are nv it’s that they are picking up on the negative emotions you’re feeling and that women are conditioned to ignore. So yes trust your pets and your gut!

DiosaCordilia · 2021-12-10T22:04:43+00:00

Cats are so wise and intuitive, sadly I'm a bit allergic to the fur (thats why I want a sphynx 🥺) but I would go as far to take anti-allergic (? Idk if I say this right lol) medication to have a cat anyway.

Not only cats, pets in general are so intuitive, most pets are so generous 🥺🥺🙏🙏 Also dogs, God I want 40 dogs

iggypiggyfiggy · 2021-12-10T21:23:10+00:00

My cats despised my LT ex. Like hated every second he was around. He was loud, abrupt, yelled at them for absolutely everything and would get jealous of them cuddling me? Insanity

wonkyeyes8877 · 2021-12-10T21:15:26+00:00

I dog sat a very timid dog that used to be at a puppy mill. She only ever once cuddled up to me to keep warm, otherwise, she kept to herself. The scrote who a****lted me several times was once invited over while I was dog sitting. He got on the floor and played with her chew toy. She jumped up and started playing with him. She never played. Not with her owner, not with me, no one. But she was excited and bouncy with this dude who just walked into her house.

So, no, I don't trust animals when it comes to this lol

ThrowRA_lantern · 2021-12-10T22:48:41+00:00

It’s a tough one, i definitely agree with one of my exes (a guy who was actually diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder) which my friendly fluffy little dog actually barked at non-stop and bit his entire wrist without wanting to let go, something I had NEVER seen my dog do before.

But another ex, the one who did the most damage and trauma to me, my dog didn’t seem to mind. That ex gave off submissive non-threatening vibes to my dog because he was severely depressed, frail, pornsick and insecure so he never did any physical aggressive harm (except during sex). He also had pets of his own. So I guess it depends on what warning signs the pets pick up on.

I say that but my dog actually goes crazy happy and affectionate with my current bf who’s incredibly different from my exes and is seemingly HV. So yeah I think pets are still somewhat a good indicator.

arnezuara · 2021-12-10T21:40:41+00:00

Your cat is so cute! 😩

Similar-Tart-4848 · 2021-12-10T21:06:40+00:00

My dog never barks at people, other dogs sure but not at people. Once I was out walking her as she just instantly took dislike to this man approaching us. Her fur was on end, she was growling and barking at the end of her lead. She’s a pit mix so the guy backed the hell away. Never seen her like that since 🤔

call_me_elle · 2021-12-10T20:37:14+00:00

Your cat is soo cute! I'd trust my cat with this and I also prefer my cat over any guy so if she doesn't like him it's not worth to try

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-12-10T22:15:54+00:00

Absolutely! Cats are fantastic vetters of men. Never date a man who dislikes cats. If a man has bad allergic reactions that's one thing but men who dislike cats generally have issues with consent.

nothingt0say · 2021-12-10T22:10:45+00:00

My X who treated me terribly didn't like cats. He ignored mine. Lesson learned!!

goldspotzingthing · 2021-12-10T23:37:55+00:00

I don't subscribe to the 'pet test.' I know someone who raped a woman. He was great with both pet cats and dogs. Animals respond according to their individual temperament and to how people treat them.

jupitarianrise · 2021-12-10T20:51:41+00:00

First of all your cat is so precious 🥺

And to answer your question… Yes. I’d trust my cat’s instincts. They can feel the bad vibes 🧿

poxto28 · 2021-12-10T22:43:02+00:00

My cat meows loudly and urgently if someone is yelling at me or if I'm yelling. I usually yell when I'm feeling defensive, so she's a good indicator to make conversations more calm or at least more quiet.

Drpyroxene · 2021-12-10T21:41:49+00:00

I love him 🥺Also, I trust my cats' instincts.

poison_snacc · 2021-12-10T22:15:47+00:00

Oh yes. This should be a main tenet. When my ex became abusive (it was verbal, very, very bad and while it eventually became physical the verbal was the worst by far) my (fur)daughter began to hiss whenever he tried to pet her or pick her up. This never stopped, up until the end of the relationship.

This started when the abuse wasn’t that bad. The thing is, we were together for a decade before he became abusive and she always totally adored him. He used to be very caring and I think he really loved her so her switch in behavior made him extremely angry. He was coked out / on other drugs and he thought she started hating him out of the blue but the truth was that when I became afraid of him she picked up on that and just switched her opinion completely.

It was validating and helped me escape as he’d totally isolated me. Not only was i in a new city & state with no car; I’m disabled by chronic illness & he didn’t let me talk to his friends & would barely let me leave the apartment. So there wasn’t anyone around to tell me, he’s changed, this is wrong. Except for my sweet little cat. She reminded me of the reality of the situation when I wanted to escape into my mind and pretend nothing was wrong. I love her so much. I owe her my life.

Edit- your cat is so beautiful 🥰

katiekat0214 · 2021-12-10T23:11:31+00:00

Always trust your pet and your gut. Pets know. So does your gut.

Japanese_Lasagna · 2021-12-11T02:19:02+00:00

I don’t trust a man who dislikes cats, but I don’t trust the judgment of a cat who dislikes or likes anyone in particular. Some cats hate everyone. Some cats love everyone. Some cats both love and hate everyone depending on how the stars align a particular day and how recently they ate.

lucidlotus · 2021-12-10T21:44:46+00:00

My cat was a great judge of character. Always hissed at and was wary around men who later proved to be crappy. Cuddled right up to men who showed over time they were good people.

ferociouslycurious · 2021-12-10T23:32:30+00:00

To an extent. But cats can react negatively to the smells of strange cats on a person, and they prefer people who ignore them, so it’s not always an easy answer. I have seven indoor cats of my own and they are a significant part of my professional experience.

GlitteryMoss · 2021-12-10T21:51:41+00:00

randomgirl34861 · 2021-12-11T07:04:35+00:00

If my cat doesn’t like someone, I feel like I have absolutely no right to hold that against them. I got her as an adult and she’s from outside so she has socialization issues (I won’t be able to get another pet during her lifetime).

She sat in a shelter for months after all her kittens were adopted. No one called about her or filled out her application. People asked to see her once they were already at the shelter, but she rarely came out of her cage and if she did she didn’t like being touched. I came to see her and didn’t even entertain the idea of a different cat. She crept towards me then climbed in my lap when I met her. A bunch of shelter workers came and told me this was my cat now because she’s never done anything like that.

She’s like tuned into something. It’s odd. I swear she knew someone came just for her and was soaking up that energy.

If my cat is indifferent to you, that’s ok and expected. But if she doesn’t like you and you keep meeting her and she doesn’t warm to you at all…. I’m skeptical of you. I don’t expect her to sit by you, but if you put a treat down and she won’t even touch it, I’m gonna assume your energy is bad lol

yfunk3 · 2021-12-11T00:59:29+00:00

All right, I see a cat, I'm comin' in... 🤪😸 Your kitty is adorable!

ironglaciers · 2021-12-11T01:08:28+00:00

My ex's cat would hiss and bat and me, every single time I was over. Every time. I should have taken the hint and left sooner. Also his place was a total pigsty and he was pretty low value... She may have been trying to do me a favor by attempting to scare me off.

My own cat did not do that to him, but neither did he warm up and act affectionate to my ex, either. But I don't really take this as a strike because my cat is somewhat indifferent to everyone but me. He's my buddy.

solstice100 · 2021-12-11T03:20:08+00:00

I love this sm 😍 Taking in a sweet little boy kitten in a week- he’s the most passive and affectionate of his littermates.

OnlyPaperListens · 2021-12-10T23:15:25+00:00

Honestly, no. Their sense of smell is so strong, they could be reacting to anything.

Zitrone77 · 2021-12-11T00:11:29+00:00

I got a kitten in addition to my other two cats I had at the time. The cat peed on him in bed. It was so frustrating that he was doing that and I couldn’t figure it out. He stopped. When my ex-H moved out and the kitten, a year old at that point, became full of personality instead of anxiety.

I was afraid he just didn’t like men, but he was fine with the person I dated for a few years after ex-H.

One of the two cats before getting the kitten loved my ex-H. She loved people in general, but she really liked him. When he left, he came back a few months later to pick up his stuff and that cat wanted nothing to do with him. It was really out of character for her because she always had greeted everyone. She passed away recently, but I really do think cats can sense things more than we can.

spicyspa · 2021-12-11T03:41:08+00:00

If the cat could talk what tales he'd tell.

Softrito · 2021-12-11T05:36:00+00:00

My cat is prejudice towards English speakers. I noticed she sticks around and allows anybody that's Hispanic to pet her but as soon as she hears someone who is not Hispanic she runs and hides. I think it is just what is familiar for her.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-12-11T17:00:28+00:00

By extreme mental compartmentalization, some predators can alter their vibe on a nearly cellular level. For instance, the coworker who stalked me always had a way with animals and children. In fact, as he waited in the dark under my neighbor's hedge for my husband and I to get home (he was wearing his father's medical fatigues, presumably for the blood he intended to shed) he was petting the neighbor's cat.

SmoothDaikon · 2021-12-11T00:38:29+00:00

Definitely. My dog has only barked at one guy and he turned out to be an asshole in disguise.

glossiglam · 2021-12-10T23:23:06+00:00

They say animals and babies/kids are great judges of character

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2021-12-11T02:26:50+00:00

Aww your kitty is so cute!

cwinparr · 2021-12-11T08:33:25+00:00

My cats HATED my ex and they never hated anyone before or since, not even vets. I should have taken the hint. The cats LOVE my husband to bits, though. One even prefers him over me now. My husband helps with medical care, cleans their boxes every day, has taken buses for over an hour just to see a vet, snuggles and plays with them all the time, and has spent thousands of dollars with me on them.

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2021-12-11T12:10:21+00:00

My dog liked most of my exes, but one guy I brought over and she peed on his shoes and chewed off a shoe lace. Sadly, I did keep dating him and he ended up ghosting me. However, now I know better for next time.

heythereitsemily · 2021-12-11T14:49:31+00:00

I have a 110lb German Shepherd. He’s very loyal to me and extremely protective. He’s a super sweetheart but also a total badass. I completely trust his judgement of peoples character. If he didn’t like a guy, I would strongly consider his opinion and probably agree. Also the guy would need to defend his life every time he comes over and that might get complicated. I love that anyone who wants to come over is already nervous about my dog…be on your best behavior or you might lose an arm! :)

AmeliaEmiliaEmma · 2021-12-11T17:17:28+00:00

No. My cat is a traitor.

kerean1997 · 2021-12-14T10:33:00+00:00

I always trust my dog's instinct. She has sniffed out LVMs all the time. She doesn't like getting touched by them, or them getting close to me. Without fail she always sniffed them out and bit them if they were getting close to me or touched her if she didn't want to be pet. She never does this with women, children or men that I'm comfortable around, like some friends or my dad.

She was a rescue dog. Found her on the street as a puppy, and raised her myself. Probably some LVM abused her as a puppy and now she can sniff them out.

I 1000% trust her instincts. And do I let her get territorial and let her bite? Yes. She clearly signals when she doesn't want to be touched, or doesn't want a men getting close to me. If you disrespect her boundaries, that's your fault, not my dogs. And that also apllies to me.

thediverswife · 2021-12-14T12:21:11+00:00

Your cat definitely knew something was up! They sense energy on a deep level

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Title	Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?
Author	kumquat_fds
Upvotes	796
Comments	59
Date	December 10, 2021 8:29 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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