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| 156 | Glamour Mag: If He Wanted To, He Would Is "Horrible Advice"Lyrics include: “If he loved you, he would tell you. If he missed you, he would call.” Okay?? The author really uses this as a problematic song. I don’t get what’s bad about it? Expressing your feelings and reaching out when you miss someone is the bare minimum for an adult relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/22 02:55 AM |
| 29 | depressed by misogyny todayThey should stop calling them “helping professions” and call the “draining professions” because that’s what they are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 06:51 PM |
| 61 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.Not every single strategy is going to work for everyone. I literally don’t like any form of comedy when I’m with people because I’ve been critiqued for not smiling so many times I’ve become self conscious about it. So I personally like dumb foxing. But showing your expressions and emotions in real time is a powerful tool, too. Your immediate displeasure or shock forces the other person to confront the issue immediately and doesn’t give them time to think up excuses. The more you own this, the mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:04 AM |
| 163 | In your face misogyny is terrible, but subtle sexism is just as bad: A look into celebrated mediaAgreed. It’s funny how these things are never applied to the male protagonists because if they are, the men get uncomfortable and stop watching. But we’re not only expected to watch it, we’re expected to find humor in it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I didn’t like the language used in the articles I was coming across and the one I ended up linking was the one with the least offensive wording to me (which may not have been the most legit one). While I don’t want to promote incel propaganda (and I see what you’re saying it does have those vibes) I’m going to leave it up. If it is incel propaganda, it’s not very good because there will always be women who try to get pregnant by famous men. That’s nothing new. Damn, it’s really bad incel propaga… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:09 AM |
| 7 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I hope you’re joking… I can’t tell 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I’m definitely not condoning it. It’s a horrible, unethical idea and she should be ashamed of herself. At the same time, he is well aware of the fact that women he sleeps with will try to take the used condoms and had had thousands of methods to dispose of the condom. And of those thousands of ways he picked one that would cause her internal injuries. I’m not sticking up for her, I’m just trying to put some accountability on him as well. What she did was not okay, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:27 PM |
| 9 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?They both did LV things, but I still wouldn’t say she deserves this. Drake is very wealthy and she’s not. He’s in a much better situation than her and is well aware that stealing the condom would be appealing to her because her quality of life would improve if she was to get paid child support from him. If she had a shred of dignity, she wouldn’t have fell into this trap. He’s wrong too though because he shouldn’t be having sex with someone he wants to hurt like that and feels the need to leave … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:22 AM |
| 65 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?They do make spermicide that’s safe and intended to use inside of a vagina… so why not that? Thats proven to k**l sperm. There’s no research on hot sauce. For all we know they could be feasting on it and swimming faster | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 06:03 AM |
| 21 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I’m sure his burnt out ass had a used baggie on him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:58 AM |
| 43 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?If a hot sauce company sponsors him after this my last shred of faith in humanity will be gone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:36 AM |
| 37 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?If he washed it with soap and water none of the sperm would survive. Cut it open to be extra safe so that none are enclosed and any that just so happen to survive would be exposed to the air and d*e. These literally could have been easily washed down the drain. OR if he had cameras in certain areas of his home (which I imagine he probably has a few in some places) he could throw it away in a trash can that is visible to the camera. Then he could have been totally in the right and prosecuted her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:43 AM |
| 25 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?Unfortunately it is true :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:11 AM |
| 26 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?If it was like a clear hot sauce, I imagine that would help her court case. Because it would show that he was being sneaky and wanted her to hurt herself with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 03:42 AM |
| 49 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I’m in a normal relationship so I just throw them in the bathroom trash can. But literally he could rinse it out with hot soapy water and turn it inside out?? If any happen to survive that (which is unlikely) they’ll d*e when they’re exposed to the air. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 03:40 AM |
| 156 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?EWWWW I didn’t know he did that. At 14, I remember locking my bedroom door at night because I still played with Polly Pockets and didn’t want anyone to know. That’s a CHILD 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 03:35 AM |
| 61 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I wondered this as well. Or make it have a weird smell? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 02:33 AM |
| 175 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I deleted all his music from my playlists. I’d like to see him go back to the bottom where he started from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:32 AM |
| 185 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?The Article: Instagram Model Burned after Attempting to Impregnate Herself with Drake’s Semen from a Tainted Condom I learned about this hot sauce condom incident involving Drake and an Instagram model today. I was disgusted by both of their behavior. This goes without saying, but she was completely wrong for taking the condom out of the trash and trying to impregnate herself. He didn’t agree to sex without a condom. But he was also wrong for tainting the condom and leaving it there for her to “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:10 AM |
| 3 | What do you think of your partner having long weekends without you?I wish my boyfriend would take a long weekend trip. There’s nothing wrong with him, I just like spending time alone (and time with just the cat.) He went to college out-of-state, doesn’t talk to his high school friends and has no work buddies since he works from home… so unfortunately he has no friends. He complains other men make “gross comments” (he’s very bothered by the overly sexual comments and antisemetic jokes) and is having a very hard time finding quality friends. I honestly don’t judg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:38 PM |
| 20 | Share your methods! How do you reach out to ask for help?If you struggle with the asking for help, spend some time reflecting on your core beliefs. The ability to ask for help is very tied into your core beliefs. Thinking I am not enough or I’m only lovable if I preform at a high level (two common negative core beliefs for women) make it very difficult to ask for help. Also, when you do ask for help be very specific. If you ask someone Can you help me with a favor? Are you available Tuesday? you’re not giving them much info. People don’t like to commi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:49 AM |
| 4 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)The medical irresponsibility was the worst. The family fell for it every time. Literally all of this could have been prevented with a granola bar 🙄 She had adopted a another kid (who was no longer a kid- she was my age (21) at the time) and she was the only one who thought it was absurd, although she only told me she couldn’t bring it up to anyone in the family. I always felt super guilty about not wanting to adopt her adult child (she’d be a young adult now) because she was so sweet to me and a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 05:39 AM |
| 51 | “Women like you give feminism bad name” shut up - effective feminism always had a “bad name.”If anything, that ad is only going to recruit more women for the cause. I’d love to go to a bar with ice cream, pretzels and signs that advise us not to trust men on the wall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 05:59 PM |
| 128 | Saw this elsewhere and yupI saw this like 6 years ago when I was going through an awful break up and saved it to my phone. It’s so true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 05:53 PM |
| 38 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)My first boyfriend was a mama’s boy and it was hellish. He was one of 4 brothers, and 2 of them lived very close to her (he lived an hour away.) She would call him up for the stupidest things, like help removing the pool cover even though her husband could do it. Also, the other brothers were often there that same day because she watched their children?? She clearly did it just to get him there. Then she’d complain that she never saw him and take him on a guilt trip. Beg him to stay for dinner a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 05:39 PM |
| 11 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everMy Catholic upbringing was far from perfect, but I like the messages we got about casual sex. They always said casual sex only results in heartbreak for women. Liberal feminists tried to dispute this and say it’s fine, but it’s not. The women that seek casual sex have been traumatized/have some other mental health issue. If they were well, they wouldn’t be seeking casual sex. So if you’re a man who sleeps with these women, it’s a sin to be taking advantage of them and you should know better. My … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 04:59 PM |
| 2 | A couple celebrate their 81st anniversary & I wonder any of us will get to experience this 🥲😭I got to go to my great grandparent’s 75th anniversary and it was so wonderful. (But only because I know their backstory and the relationship was a very loving and healthy one. And they were considered very progressive for their time, which back then just meant he also cleaned the house and made meals.) She ended up getting cancer in her mid 90’s and he was in his late 90’s still doing everything he could to take care of her and watching the home health aids like a hawk. They would always call e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 04:48 PM |
| 1 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?My boyfriend grew up really differently from me. His parents made a lot of money, although he’s not wealthy now. He makes good money and doesn’t have debt (same with me). The class difference has honestly added some extra character to the relationship. I got to be the first person to take him to a Dollar Store and now he’s hooked. A few months ago we saw a shirtless, gross scrotey-looking man making repeated trips to the dumpster at our old apartment. He was a eyesore, but harmless. Clearly just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 04:28 PM |
| 27 | (Possible TW) Can this type of stuff stop being normalizedWould never grip another living being like this unless they were an animal I was trying to remove from a house fire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 04:03 PM |
| 24 | REMINDER: Those "small signs" that you let slide at the beginning of the relationship? Those aren't "nothing" - they are 3-seconds teaser to what's coming.This applies to all men. Even the ones who are/seem high value. Those little things that make you go huh? are almost always the tip of the iceberg for bigger issues. Really take note of them and pay attention. I suggested a local chain restaurant to my boyfriend on one of our first couple dates. He picked me up but then I noticed we had been driving for quite a while and I got that huh? feeling. He drove us to the chain place I requested but in another town about 45 minutes away, which I thought… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:24 PM |
| 18 | you're allowed to want a fairytale wedding & a pricey ringIt’s all about generosity that’s proportionate to his income. I’m in my late 20’s and so is my boyfriend. We live in an expensive state and would like to eventually get married, get a home and possibly start a family (a family that may involve children but he’s also okay with just cats hahah). He’s making decent money (about 70k) and I make much less (about 35k). We both make responsible choices with our money and have savings, but definitely need to save more for those things. He’s really into … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:52 AM |
| 51 | girl whatThey say laughing adds years to your life… here’s a wonderful example of that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:26 AM |
| 50 | What I hate most about reddit.Meanwhile, the guy spent 20 minutes on the toilet crafting his “joke” and 0 minutes wiping his ass when he finished | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 12:03 AM |
| 26 | What I hate most about reddit.One million percent agree. It is way harder to make a clean joke. I just started watching Seinfeld for the first time and all of Jerry’s jokes are clean and have me cracking up. He’s very clever and makes little observations about every day life and turns them into comedic bits. It takes much more effort and talent to realize something many people are going through and spin it to be funny. I can see why he rose to the level of fame that he did. Men who are actually funny are so rare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 12:00 AM |
| 8 | What I hate most about reddit.Also, people need to learn the difference between an actual quality roast and being just plain nasty. A lot of the time men think they’re hilarious but they’re really just mean spirited. There’s no wit behind their jokes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 11:54 PM |
| 10 | What do members of FDS think of the idea of love at first sight?I really don’t believe in love at first sight. I think it can be a big red flag to feel that way immediately because you may be dealing with a man who has plenty of practice charming women. He appears chill at first which seems attractive, but it’s really because he doesn’t care about the outcome of your date (versus a man that’s eager to impress you who may put off some nervous energy.) When I first met my boyfriend I noticed he had nice hair, crisp ironed clothes and perfect teeth… but it stil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 03:54 AM |
| 3 | This ZV Canadian politician put his ineptitude on blast for the entire world to see.I googled them both and I’m gonna ask my doctor about POTS syndrome next time I go! It says having low blood volume can be tied to that and I know I have that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 01:00 AM |
| 15 | Protect your wombMy boyfriend and I dated for several months before sleeping together and have slept together well over a year ago. We have always had sex with a condom. He’s never complained about it or questioned it. I know he doesn’t have diseases, but it’s just what’s best in my opinion. It’s not good for your vaginal pH to skip a condom. I take birth control pills but I also have severe acid reflux. I shouldn’t have to be terrified I’m pregnant if I eat something that doesn’t sit right with me and I throw u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:56 AM |
| 15 | This ZV Canadian politician put his ineptitude on blast for the entire world to see.I also work those kinds of shifts and sometimes at the end I feel dirty/greasy/sweaty and disconnected from my home when I get home? So I’m happy to run out the trash or clean the litter box because I’m already dirty if that makes sense? Once I do a couple little chores I feel more connected to my home and can relax knowing they’re done | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:51 AM |
| 91 | To those raised by guardians in an age gap relationship, what did you observe?My stepdad is 8 years older than my mom. Although, there’s an age gap, they met in extremely similar life stages- Both were recently divorced and had full custody of their daughters (me, age 5) (my step sister, age 6). Both of them had obtained full custody because their ex’s had mental health issues that prevented them from being adequate parents. The ex’s (my dad and my step sister’s mom) had supervised visits with their respective children. Because he was older, he was finished with law schoo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:03 AM |
| 39 | This ZV Canadian politician put his ineptitude on blast for the entire world to see.I brush the snow off my man’s car. He doesn’t ask, but I do it because he can’t stand the cold and I’m struggling with some sort of imbalance that has caused me to feel overheated nearly every day for the last few years (all my blood work comes back normal, we can’t figure it out). It may just be a metabolic thing because I have a lot of muscle and it didn’t happen until I had gotten seriously into bodybuilding. I’m always hanging out on the balcony if it’s above 10 degrees because it feels nice… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 11:00 PM |
| 68 | A “predictable response” from a redditor. My concern about men preying on young girls is definitely just jealousy 🙄If a man knew me as a baby, watched me grow, then had sexual feelings for me as an adult I’d be absolutely sickened. This man KNOWS there’s nothing to be jealous of here…. If someone watched his daughter grow up then wanted her in a sexual way he’d never stand for it. He knows. Literally I feel lowkey weird having a glass of wine with my little sister sometimes because she’ll always be a baby in my mind!! I can’t wrap my head around the way these men think😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:56 PM |
| 9 | FDS haikus for your entertainment and viewing pleasure🤢 Fat, bald, and picky 🤢 😵💫 How delusional and silly! 😵💫 ♥️ We do not want them ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:51 PM |
| 10 | FDS haikus for your entertainment and viewing pleasureAHAHAHAHAHAH 😫😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:38 PM |
| 14 | R*pe by deception is seen as normal by men in the comments.If he suggests sex without a condom, I’d say it’s not even deceitful. If you’re a man, every time you have sex you consent to the possibility of making a human. You have no control over whether or not the woman you’re sleeping with takes hormonal birth control pills correctly. You can’t make her take plan B if she doesn’t want to. You can’t force her to terminate her pregnancy just because it’s your sperm. You do, however have the right to get a vasectomy and the right to wear a condom properly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 04:37 PM |
| 19 | Red Flag: Men with feminine voices.Wow, never thought of this but now I’m realizing my worst ex’s had feminine voices. They were the ones who acted like bratty toddlers when things didn’t go their way. (I adore toddlers and get upset how little patience people seem to have with with them because their behavior is developmentally appropriate… but it’s a very different story for man in his 20’s.) They had an “if I can’t have it no one will!” attitude and tried to tarnish my reputation after the relationship ended. They purposely tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 08:44 PM |
| 148 | R*pe by deception is seen as normal by men in the comments.This makes no sense. It would make much more sense to travel to a different area, pretend you’re just looking for sex, obtain the sperm, then block the guy. Just give him like a number from google plus so it’s not your actual one and don’t give out your full name. Still a horrible, horrible idea, and exposes you to diseases but at least he won’t be able to try to scam visitation afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else want a long-term partner, but also doesn’t want to live with them?I’ve always felt like this but have known for a long time that living on my own is not a realistic goal given how much money I make and how expensive the area I live in is. So I’m living with a man and since we have our own separate bathrooms and bedrooms, I like it. It’s nice to have someone to care for my cat and spend time with her when I’m not home. My bathroom is literally so pretty, peaceful, feels like an oasis and always smells nice. He knows to stay out of it and if he does happen to us… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:48 PM |
| 273 | Only a scrote takes it personallyI wonder if he’s actually Autistic. I’ve noticed neurodivergent men (men on the spectrum in particular) seem to be more accepting and accommodating to the safety measures women need to take when dating. I feel like it’s because most people on the spectrum spend more time thinking logically and take more things at face value (and less time thinking about social cues and deeper implications of people’s words/actions). So these men are more able to see the practical side of these precautions rather… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 08:35 AM |
| 58 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyYea and the teens are like 28 and they have no clue 💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 03:52 AM |
| 369 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyMen love to talk about the wall women hit at 30 while searching “MILF” on porn sites and jerking off to women 40+ every day 😂🥲🥲🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 07:52 PM |
| 44 | How do you like your eggs: A vetting strategyI’ve had this with the coffee too!! It doesn’t matter if it’s regular or iced, I only like black unflavored coffee. Men always try to add a little of this or a little of that and tell me to “just try it” but it always ruins it for me. It would have been easier to just give me the simple plan coffee I asked for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 07:07 AM |
| 14 | Having a baby via sperm donorIf you use a sperm donor, you’ll never have to worry about losing time with your child due to divorce and custody battles. That’s a huge pro, in my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 04:40 AM |
| 13 | Dating During This Omicron PhaseThis conflicts with other advice you’ve received, but I’m sharing my thoughts anyway (so you can make a decision seeing as many sides as possible.) I would not like it if a man made this choice for me… It seems way too paternal? Especially for a man who’s only been on one date with you. I don’t know how to word it exactly, but I’d feel like he sees himself as strong and resistant enough to work in a hospital, but thinks I’m so fragile that I shouldn’t even be going out to dinner. I can choose to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Queens, what are your plans for NYE?I’m going to spend the holiday at my parent’s house with my sisters. My one sister moved across the country so I haven’t seen her in years. Her original plan was to visit us yesterday then spend NYE with her friend, but her friend fell ill (she’s fine) and I’ll get to spend more time with her! I’m bringing my cat over so she can meet her :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:07 PM |
| 11 | 8 Signs of a Low Value ManThis video spared me an argument 😂 My man marched back into Kohl’s because they didn’t stack his discounts after saying they would. He was respectful and polite about it…. but I still found it mortifying that he wanted his additional $2.32 off of a golf polo that badly. Guess I’m not gonna bring it up again because passively letting things happen to you is a LV trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:29 AM |
| 14 | Vet Rigorously Not Just For Present You but Especially For Future YouIf you want children, you’re vetting rigorously for them as well as your future self. Can he admit that he’s wrong and apologize to a child? Does he care about meeting their higher level needs and not just then basic ones like food and shelter? Does he make them feel like a burden, or does he express to them that he is delighted they are part of his life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:18 AM |
| 54 | date men who think like thisWhen I was practicing therapy, I had a client who had two children and an ex husband with a very serious drug problem. His brother was also an addict and died due to same drug he was abusing. He was just in a horrible, horrible place. This woman would still go with the kids to get cards and gifts for their father for holidays and special days and mail them to him when he was at treatment (that was the only time he’d have an accessible address). She would bake his favorite things with her childre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:04 AM |
| 16 | Advice on finances?Welcome back! And congratulations on achieving those financial milestones! ♥️ But, love there’s absolutely no reason to let anyone know how much money you’ve saved. It’s not going to just “come out” if you don’t let it. You need to be discreet about your savings in order to protect them. Accounts like a Roth IRA are a great option because you’re not able to access that money until later in life and you don’t need to pay taxes on it until then. Standard bank accounts hardly give you interest, so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:47 AM |
| 2 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔Wonderfully said ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:20 PM |
| 17 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagI think the issues that men raised by single mothers have are largely due to the father who left. I used to work under the supervision of a woman who was an attachment therapist, and she said when you hate a parent, you hate part of yourself. Her goal was to get people to feel neutral towards parents they hated. It really messes with your self concept and self esteem if a parent leaves, especially if it’s the same-sex parent. It’s a rejection on the deepest level. Women who become mothers don’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 02:49 PM |
| 5 | Have any of you ever dated a widower? What was the experience like? Would you advise against it?I agree with this. There should be a couple of pictures of her. (Especially if they had children.) If there are 0 pictures, I would feel like he’s trying to erase her. If I passed, would the house also look like I was never there? He should at least honor her memory. If there’s a bunch of pictures I’d find that unsettling. At best, it shows he couldn’t find healthy closure and move on. At worst, he’s triangulating you with her and doesn’t want you to forget it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:03 AM |
| 19 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔1000% agree. We’ve got men willing to BIKE just to spend an hour with us out here… so miss us with that come to my city BS 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:51 PM |
| 17 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔I agree that you shouldn’t wait around for anyone like that. At first I was skeptical of him for that, too. I encouraged her to keep her options open, which she did but didn’t find anyone worth going on a date with. But they’re both quite young (21.5 and 22) so I respect his decision to prioritize his career, buckle down and do what needs to be done. He told her the academy is only like 14 weeks and he didn’t want to be distracted because missing information could become a life or death matter (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:48 PM |
| 27 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔Love this for you and especially love your outlook on the situation. We need to stop calling basic, loving treatment “above and beyond”. I’m sure he goes above and beyond for you in other ways, but this example isn’t that- it’s simply a man in love who wants to spend time with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:37 PM |
| 26 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔I know 🥲 I asked him for help moving some things into my new apartment a few months ago and he had a broken finger but never mentioned it. 99% of guys would have been happy to have a valid excuse to opt out. I would have never known if my sister didn’t tell me. I pray that he keeps this up… she’s such a sweetheart and has had bad luck in life and deserves this so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:34 PM |
| 355 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔If he wanted to make you his girlfriend, he would. Regardless of how busy his life is. My younger sister went on 2-3 dates with a guy right before he was scheduled to go to the academy for work. He was waking up at 3:30am daily, getting home late, doing grueling physical tasks, not eating enough (he needed to lose a little weight for the job). Every day he came home he ate and passed out. The weekends were for resting and recovering but he’d still manage to find a couple hours to take her to din… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 03:09 PM |
| 162 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭Our sex robots are already here. They’re called vibrators. They’ve already proven themselves to outperform men and they’re highly accessible and affordable to the majority of women. Hopefully their sex robots will come soon and be just as satisfying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 08:42 AM |
| 9 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭He’s saying the women dress nice, smell good and look good…. I doubt that even 1 of those 3 things is true for him yet he still has the entailment to complain 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 08:39 AM |
| 18 | How does FDS apply to lesbian relationships?I think you got some great advice, and you’ll know more about how to handle things as time goes on. If you start a family, will you alternate having children? Or is one woman going to be the one taking time away from her career and enduring those emotional and physical risks? If so, the woman who doesn’t plan on going through pregnancy should take the greater financial burden. If you’re a high value woman who vets and picks another high-value woman, I think that a fair division of labor and reso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 08:12 AM |
| 51 | Rejecting men is harder on women than menYou just don’t understand the eMotiiOnaL tOlL it takes on a man 🤪🎻🎻🙃🎻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/21 12:59 AM |
| 4 | Man in a hetero relationship doesn't do housework -> solution = "get a cleaner!!!!"Yep 10000%. My step dad hired a maid for our family after my sister was born. He had to commute to his corporate job (leaving the house at 5:30am, getting back around 8:00pm). He had long days (and would wake up throughout the night to feed the baby too) so he just didn’t have the time/energy to clean to the extent that he wanted to (my mom is extreme about keeping the house clean). He got paid pretty well, even still some things (mostly his things) needed to be sacrificed to afford the maid. He… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/21 12:53 AM |
| 75 | Man in a hetero relationship doesn't do housework -> solution = "get a cleaner!!!!"If you can easily afford it, I think there’s nothing wrong with hiring a cleaner. You’re still delegating the work to another woman, but it’s her job. If a guy is respectful to a cleaner and tips generously I see that as a green flag. If he cares about how the cleaner looks, that’s a big red flag. If money is tight, it’s different. I think hiring a cleaner is disrespectful if a man can’t comfortably afford dinners and flowers and things of that nature. Their extra money went towards a cleaner be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:58 PM |
| 88 | 'Body count': Do people count and what even matters?I have a “body count” of 4 (I consider penetrative sex to be “sex”) and I’m 28. I’m honestly proud of that because if we stop giving men sex easily society would improve and I feel like I did my tiny little part in that. I don’t ever judge woman’s numbers because I feel if a woman has a big number she was probably victimized (like maybe she had unhealthy thought patterns, mental illness, low self esteem, abusive men, felt unsafe saying no) and hurt/used by a lot of people… but if a man has a hig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 02:40 PM |
| 1 | This woman is a QUEEN. So many people were telling her off for having standards, more so women than men. The pickmes came out in force telling poor OP to give poor hairy nostrils a chance. Pickmes are their own worst enemies, giving chances to low effort, low value men.Ewww what a psycho lol. But you can’t comment this without sharing the grade you were given… did you get an A? 👀📚💯🦵✏️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:08 AM |
| 7 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbabyI wouldn’t want to adopt a puppy (or kitten) for that reason... I’m only willing to put that kind of work in for a human child. I literally wouldn’t be able to deal with the fact that if I’m not home every 2-3 hours to let that puppy out, they’re stuck holding their bladder/bowls. It would add so much stress to my life knowing my animal is uncomfortable because I stayed late at work or got stuck in traffic. I adopted an adult cat who’s kittens were quickly adopted but no one expressed interest i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:02 AM |
| 42 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbabyShe’s burnt out from caring for human children and now she’s tasked with caring for an animal she’s super allergic to. Home is where you’re supposed to feel comfortable. I don’t want my eyes to be all watery and my skin to be itchy in the one place I’m supposed to be able to relax completely. Brining an animal that impacted her physical health home was the issue and not the puppy himself. Her crappy bf brought the dog home, but the dog is still the one causing her symptoms so I can see why she’d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 08:26 AM |
| 39 | FDS stance on men having sex toys?Very well said and I completely agree. A man owning a flesh light that’s just like a solid colored tube with an opening doesn’t bother me. But if it’s looks like an actual disembodied vagina I really don’t like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 08:08 AM |
| 124 | This woman is a QUEEN. So many people were telling her off for having standards, more so women than men. The pickmes came out in force telling poor OP to give poor hairy nostrils a chance. Pickmes are their own worst enemies, giving chances to low effort, low value men.Yet they think that if a woman showed up to a date with hair coming out of her nose, it would be totally acceptable for a guy to walk away 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 08:02 AM |
| 8 | If it’s true it’s sad :(Maybe he has a dog and uses that V05 shampoo to give them a bath? That’s the only way I can think to justify that bottle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 06:19 PM |
| 6 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)EWWW ahahaha now that you’ve said it I’ll never be able to unsee it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 08:55 AM |
| 104 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)The beards hide a lot… Show us those jowls boyyyyyy 👀 🧔♀️ (I just realized there is a girl emoji with a beard?!) Edit: thank you for the silver 🥰♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:59 PM |
| 114 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)No way he’s 28!!! My pale, freckled, 29-year-old boyfriend who has spent lots of time in the sun and doesn’t care about aging or skin care (uses a daily cleanser and a facial moisturizer as needed) only has a verrrry faint line in the middle of his forehead that’s about an inch long. He’s only a year and a half other than me and people think he’s significantly older than me all the time. And he’s got just one teeny line! This is a big fat lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:55 PM |
| 6 | Weirdest experience I've ever had at the doctorOk so I know I already commented… but this post has been rolling around in my brain and now I‘ve become angry that he was like c’monn it’s kidssss to you. Given his position, he knows that you’re risking your body, mental health and potentially your life for kids. It’s a very serious thing. And he’s out here saying c’monn just like someone would be like c’monn try the cupcakes I made or c’monn just stay for one beer 😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Weirdest experience I've ever had at the doctorThis is a good tip! My GYN asks me if I feel like chatting. (He is a man, but he was my mom’s doctor for over 25 years. My mom said he’s always been excellent and she is absolutely ruthless so I trust her word.) He likes astrology, I prefer some kind of distraction and like to hear about astrology 🤷♀️ If you’re a medical professional talking about something irrelevant, it needs to be for the sole benefit of the patient. If it isn’t, you’re being unprofessional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:31 PM |
| 10 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?Second this! I don’t have allergies but boyfriend is allergic to most animals. He had moderate allergies when we took our cat home 7 months ago and his allergies are gone now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:08 AM |
| 4 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?If my cat doesn’t like someone, I feel like I have absolutely no right to hold that against them. I got her as an adult and she’s from outside so she has socialization issues (I won’t be able to get another pet during her lifetime). She sat in a shelter for months after all her kittens were adopted. No one called about her or filled out her application. People asked to see her once they were already at the shelter, but she rarely came out of her cage and if she did she didn’t like being touched.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:04 AM |
| 31 | Weirdest experience I've ever had at the doctorI just can’t give him the benefit of the doubt. I feel like he knows exactly what he’s doing and said the weird thing possible that he can say that he won’t get in trouble for | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:40 AM |
| 73 | Weirdest experience I've ever had at the doctorIf your early physical development was relevant to the screening, it should have discussed it with more tact. I’m not a doctor, but so much breasts is just a sexual and odd thing to say? Saying a significant amount of breast tissue or something like would have been much better. Words matter. When you’re in the medical field, you need to choose your words carefully and you’re taught how to. To finish his education, he can’t be that dumb. I truly believe he knew the proper language and just didn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:32 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?My step dad has quite literally stepped up and been my dad for the last 25 years (and all my nuclear family has his last name) so if I was going to change my name, I would definitely take that one. I wouldn’t feel right changing it to anything else. But I never changed my name to match my family’s for legal reasons. My bio-dad had to pay child support until 18. Due to the prenup he signed he had to make a 50% contribution for my education up through age 24. I took my first steps on my tip-toes a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:32 AM |
| 31 | Van life with a grown up child! Any ladies jealous yet?Imagine being so much of a Pick-me that you happily agree to live without a toilet for three years… and then when your man finally gets you a toilet, you rejoice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 04:27 PM |
| 9 | How to get guys to plan dates when they are the one traveling to you?I just tell them the restaurant I’d like to eat at. I can be a picky eater and I prefer to decide where we eat. I feel like he still plans the date when he makes the reservations and picks me up at a set time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:02 AM |
| 3 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂Mhmmm 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:21 PM |
| 27 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂EWWW. He told you all you needed to know… he will have sex with the youngest girls he’s allowed to. (And I say girls because they are not women yet). He knows he’s wrong for sleeping with someone 30 hears younger them him. Just because it’s legal doesn’t mean it’s right… If the “legal age” was 15, he’d probably be fine with that too. How weird that he was inviting you into a conversation about her age?? I can see him bragging to other men, but he has to know a woman wouldn’t admire him for that.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 07:09 AM |
| 26 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂How romantic… scrubbing up moldy jizz crust and doo doo splatter from the shower 🤢 I know that gleam you’re referring to and I hate hate hate it. An 11 year old child is justttt old enough to be left alone for some time. Maybe she wanted to leave him a long time ago and was waiting until the child had a little independence because she knew the responsibility of his care would fall on her. I’d also find that divorce sus. Just because a man is making respectable choices as a parent doesn’t make hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:21 AM |
| 48 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂This isn’t talked about enough. It’s not “cute” or an “accident” to put the wrong age on your profile. People set age ranges for a reason. They set them because those are the ages they are comfortable dating. I love the way you worded it and I’m definitely going to reuse it- but they are 1000% blasting through explicitly set boundaries I remember when I first got to college at 18, I met a guy in one of my classes who was a little older than me and was interested in me. He took me out on a few da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:04 AM |
| 29 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂I don’t think the 21 year old son living at home is a bad thing….I see that as more of a green flag than a red flag. A lot of men mistakenly think that parenting ends when the child is 18 or when they don’t have to pay child support anymore. But when you’re a parent you’re a parent for life. I like that he didn’t kick his son out to live alone and appeal to women more by having his own place. The money the son is saving on rent can be used to pay for school, save up for a down payment or somethi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:44 AM |
| 15 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?I’ll be changing mine because I’m estranged from my dad’s entire side of the family, so I haven’t spoken to anyone with my last name in years. I want a family and I like the idea of us all sharing a name. My children deserve a last name that has its roots in love. I’m sure they’ll accomplish great things (even if they’re just alive and happy I’d be proud) and my estranged family does not deserve any credit for anything they do. It would be nice to have my last name be something meaningful that c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:34 PM |
| 61 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?YESSS EWWW i hate seeing a married couple’s name written out like this 🤢 Can we do away with that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:29 PM |
| 12 | Tired seeing sports on the television at restaurants.This makes me think of the time I asked for the VS fashion show to be put on one TV at a gym (kinda toxic thinking at the time because I thought I’d be more motivated to lose weight if i watched the models). There were a ton of TV’s and it seemed like no one was really watching any of them anyway... But once the fashion show came on guys got upset! Talking about how no one cares about the stupid fashion show and asking why it’s on. Their entitlement to have their sports on literally every TV ove… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:05 AM |
| 28 | Don’t Panic, Have a PlanIt seems like doctors put up as many barriers as possible to deny women this procedure. My half sister (different mom) ran into so much trouble trying to get this done and had to visit multiple doctors to find one willing (even though she lives in a high-income, liberal state.) She’s 29 years old and exceptionally smart, making tons of money in a male-dominated math-related field (don’t wanna give specifics for privacy reasons). It’s actually disgusting how much nonsense she had to go through to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 07:33 PM |
| 73 | This is considered a success? Guy never initiates giving oral sex, only wants to receive, then presses his junk against her mouth, she needs to keep asking for him to go down on her and he laughs at her and calls her demanding WTFAgreed, this has to be a man. I’ve seen how people eat at buffets… they greedily shovel food into their mouths, trying to make sure they get their money’s worth. They don’t take the time to appreciate what’s on their plate because the next plate is ready for them and requires virtually no effort to attain. They’re always wondering if they picked the best things, and don’t feel satisfied until they’ve tried a little bit of everything that appeals to them. There’s absolutely nothing graceful or se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 14 | Misogyny is normalised because it only effects womenDon’t beat yourself up over it because it’s such a weird word to come to terms with. On one hand I don’t want to use it or hear it. I wish it would just go away. On the other hand, I don’t want to fear it or give it any power. I know it’s never going to go away, so in order to live with it I can’t let the fear of being labeled a b***h to stop me from doing anything ever, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem. It seems like I’ll decide on firm boundaries for things, be proud of them, n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 02:44 PM |
| 11 | Negging her when she was SICK + embarrassing her in front of friends. At least* commenters got it rightHe might have a fetish and enjoy being seen walking around with them 🤪🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:47 AM |
| 48 | Negging her when she was SICK + embarrassing her in front of friends. At least* commenters got it rightAlso, adult diapers are expensive! Even the cheapest pack is like $15. He probably got the diapers at like a grocery store or superstore. For the same amount of money spent and miles driven he could have gotten her a simple bouquet of flowers, icecream and cookies, some cheese and crackers, snacks, drinks, a cute pair of comfy PJ pants, or even just some aspirin… just to name a few things. He really just chose violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:42 AM |
| 416 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!I bet he could find a woman to share his van with if he asked a homeless woman if she’d like to live in the van with him. It’s warmer and safer than the streets. But you know he hasn’t done that because he wants a woman to live like she’s homeless but not look like it. It’s not one in a trillion. It’s one in zero because he’s asking for something impossible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:34 PM |
| 131 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!Same! I could live like that if something terrible happened and I had to… but it’s not something I would ever want for myself. He’s painting this to be a matter of vanity or frivolousness- but it’s far from it. Living that way requires countless sacrifices that are unreasonable to ask a human to take. Hobbies like sewing, embroidery and painting bring so much enrichment and satisfaction to my life. There’s no space for a machine, skeins, canvas, paints, measuring tools, reference photos or thing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:30 PM |
| 7 | Information to withhold initiallyI withhold as much as I can for as long as I can. When I date, my energy is focused on getting information I want from them and seeing if I like them (No use worrying about if they like me because I really don’t want to convince them. If someone is on the fence with me, I don’t want them to pursue me). The more someone knows about you, the easier it is for them to customize what they say to you and tell you what you want to hear. I won’t touch topics like mental health, physical health, family t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:55 AM |
| 109 | Cautionary TaleImagine being an ugly 61 year old man telling a beautiful woman (who’s a decade younger than you) that you might be ready to move in with her…. 9 years from now. The fact that he thought it was acceptable to even vocalize this blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:43 AM |
| 6 | Just a friendly reminder that men will date and marry women they don’t like.That’s exactly it. She is quite pretty, and he worries if she starts living that truth she’ll leave him for someone more deserving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 02:23 AM |
| 8 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?☠️☠️☠️ I’m imaging this bottom-of-the-barrel man negging one of the world’s most famous models and chuckling to myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:57 PM |
| 18 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?She wears a size 10 shoe… is he gonna neg her too? Lmaooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:55 PM |
| 9 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.I’m sorry you ended up in a similar situation. It’s an awful feeling when you’re looking for some actual friendship and realize people were just taking advantage of you. At the time I didn’t realize that Pick-Me’s aren’t just annoying, but actually damaging and often even dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:30 AM |
| 83 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.Yepppp. In college/shortly after I dated a man for 3 years. He was very outgoing and well liked. This was a while ago (like 7ish years ago) and I was more shy at the time, hadn’t heard of FDS, didn’t have many friends and was longing for female friends in particular. (I didn’t need this sub to know to be skeptical of “male friends” lol.) He had a lot of women who were just outside his social circle, who were like friends of friends and they invited me to things and tried to get to know me and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡LMAOOO for real. Even though I know I’m doing the right thing, I still feel like a jerk for measuring my cats food every day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:18 PM |
| 25 | A hearty thank you to this communityThrowing this out there: As a server and bartender, I find the solo female customers to be delightful and I’m glad whenever one sits in my section. They always seem to be pleasant, polite, patient and generous. I know some people feel awkward doing it, but I wish everyone was comfortable dining solo because it’s a nice experience everyone deserves to try at least a few times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:28 PM |
| 26 | Do not date men who are “separated”.I agree with you completely. My mom and dad (step dad, but like he’s my real dad) were both divorced before they were married to each other. Even though my dad is a wonderful HV man, he was undoubtedly damaged by his first marriage. All HV people will be damaged by divorce because they enter a marriage believing it will be forever. Finding out that isn’t true is always difficult and damaging. Trigger Warning: su***de His first wife was very mentally ill and non medication compliant. She attempte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:07 PM |
| 27 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡Who’s ever really killed anything with kindness? I hear this all the time, but I’ve never seen an example of where it held true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:57 PM |
| 92 | Do not date men who are “separated”.Being a younger woman who’s never been married, I wouldn’t even be interested in men who are fully divorced. I haven’t experienced marriage, so things would be unbalanced if I was dating someone who had that hit that life milestone (even if we were the same age). My faith is also important to me and I do believe marriage is “sacred”. (By sacred, I don’t necessarily mean permanent- If a man is watching porn, cheating, causing any kind of physical or psychological harm to you or your children, the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:53 PM |
| 10 | women - vet, vet, vet! because you don't want to be married and with children to a man that thinks like this! motherhood penalty & fatherhood bonus exist! inquire about their thoughts on the labour force and what they think are the sources of wage inequality!Pretty sure I lose one egg per character I read on that sub 😵💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:42 PM |
| 20 | FDS when you're down on your looksYour comment made me think back to this picture | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:35 AM |
| 12 | Let’s count the red flags together!He’s extremely whiney and sounds like he’s annoying… but I do believe she should have said thank you. Unless your date did/said something to sour the experience, you really should be thanking anyone who pays for your food and drinks. Saying thank you doesn’t imply you want another date, it just means you appreciate the one they just paid for. Romantic incompatibility isn’t an excuse to throw class and manners out the window. (If you have even a teeny inkling your safety is at risk, then yeet man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 08:23 PM |
| 48 | This just happened to me. I don’t know why I’m surprised!!I used to play this game! I also got unwanted messages after uploading a selfie as a profile picture. I quickly took down my picture and replaced it with a picture of something random (can’t remember if it was food or a Pokémon). I remember feeling stupid for uploading a picture of myself (even though I was just smiling and normally clothed), like I brought it upon myself. Pretty sure I was like 19 or so? My first thought was to replace my picture with a cat or a flower, but because those things… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:15 AM |
| 16 | Why do they keep normalizing this gross behaviour????Why does the text imply that because she is in her late 20’s she no longer needs a dad?! I’m in my late 20’s and I’d be shattered if I lost one of my parents. I’m not married yet. I haven’t had kids yet. My mom is in her 50’s my dad is in his 60’s. I have so many more memories to make with my parents. (Unless, God Forbid, a terrible emergency happens). If you want to be a parent again in your 60’s, you need to adopt an older child. It’s selfish to try to have a newborn in your 60’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 12:33 AM |
| 42 | Professor's controversial interview defending 'minor-attracted persons' prompts statement from schoolThe book title Minor-Attracted People and Their Pursuit of Dignity is an oxymoron. You can’t be attracted to minors and have dignity unless you’re a minor yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 12:25 AM |
| 42 | Stop making excuses for abusersThis is very true. I used to counsel children who were abused, and it was not uncommon for these small children to turn around and abuse even smaller children. It’s so so heartbreaking, but it’s not an excuse. One of the boys I worked with pulled his pants down at recess and asked a little girl if she wanted to “suck it”. Everyone was appalled and even though my heart broke for that little boy, it also broke for the little girl and he had to be held accountable in some way so that it didn’t happ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 8 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.Yes yes yes! You need to assert yourself as someone who demands to be treated well to be treated well in this world. People will only treat you as well as they have to. It’s rare for Pick me’s to be treated well because they aren’t firm and abusers detect this and then push their boundaries in whatever way that suits them. Unfortunately, he completely dragged her through the mud and now she is in an unfortunate situation with her newborn baby. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. Everyone blooms, matu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 07:01 AM |
| 26 | The importance of lying about your disfunctional familyThat’s exactly how I feel. I just don’t feel the need to let anyone in to that extent. It doesn’t help me and it doesn’t improve the relationship. Oversharing and total trust are romanticized for literally no reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 03:21 AM |
| 74 | The importance of lying about your disfunctional familyYes yes yes. I grew up with my mom, step dad and 3 sisters. My biological dad was in and out of my life and his mental illness is just too intense for me to want to have a relationship with him. My step dad has always been my dad. All my Take Your Child to Work Days were spent eating cheese and cracker spreads and getting free company merchandise in his office. (Oh, except for the one time my bio dad insisted he have the chance to do it one year… and took me to an old building full of asbestos 😷… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:58 PM |
| 76 | The importance of lying about your disfunctional familyUnnatural is the perfect word for it. Vulnerability without established trust is completely unnatural. We don’t see that with any animal species because if there was an animal like that, they’d die out quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:40 PM |
| 31 | I know a pickme had to swipe right on him. 🤮He also might have the drum roll on the Maury show as he nervously waits to see if he’s fathered additional children | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 06:40 AM |
| 167 | Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement?Sounds like he decided he wanted a relationship when he realized he couldn’t afford rent in the Upper East Side. Then, once he lived with her a bit he saw she would take care of his daughter. He realized he was 40 and that is a gorgeous woman in her early 30’s. This isn’t love. This is convenient for him. There’s nothing inspiring or cute here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 06:36 AM |
| 40 | The "Feminine Energy" Pick-MeThat’s how it was in my nuclear family when I lived at home. My mom was the leader and my dad was the protector and I felt like the family had such a healthy dynamic. My mom was a SAMH and my dad worked in the city. Whenever they had choices to make about the family, they’d sit down, talk it out together, but ultimately my dad would want my mom to decide what they’d do. Once she picked, he was the protector and enforcer and would back her up 100%. They didn’t have equal roles, but they knew they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:11 PM |
| 67 | Finally ready to date again thanks to FDS!!So happy you got rid of him, are feeling better and found us here 😊 The other subs aren’t helpful because most of the posts and replies are coming from men. They think that because you can get sex from apps, you should be happy because that’s what they want. They can’t step back and see that not everyone has the same wants and desires they do. (I’m quite interested in that post on poly-vegal theory you’re considering writing, too!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Men and their innate habit of dating youngHate surrogacy in general, hate it even more for them…. Kenny has a bunch of adult children and Armando has a child of his own too!The desire to pass on the seed is stupid, yet they’ve already passed it on and aren’t satisifed. At 58, Kenny has no buisness having an infant. He should consider his age and if he really, desperately wants more kids, he should be adopting children that’s are at least 9 or so. If it were me at his age, I’d want siblings so they can have each other when I die. If they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 11:57 PM |
| 38 | LV partners who ask to see us in VERY specific lingerieI have a $3.29 sheer polka dot lingerie set from the Dollar General (great deal- it included both a thong and a panty bottom.) My man has no idea where it’s from, but he would bend over backwards to see me in it. It’s paid for itself hundreds of times over 🤐 These men don’t know a damn thing about lingerie. Don’t waste chunks of your money on their pleasure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 06:35 PM |
| 32 | Does anyone have a pickme family member that is always in a dilemma with men? How do you handle them?Did this family member just come back from 8 month vacation?… because there’s so much to unpack here. Why does she think paying 50/50 for dates is something married people do? Why does the restraining order allow them to hang out, but only at her house? It’s her responsibility to Uber him to their dates? What???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 06:24 PM |
| 98 | Men and their innate habit of dating youngVery true. I’m gonna take this as my opportunity to see if there are any 90 Day Fiance fans here- Does anyone have any thoughts on the relationship between Kenny (58) and Armando (32)? They’re quite popular among fans, yet there’s something about those two together that doesn’t quite sit right with me and I can’t put my finger on it…. 🤔 (When things don’t sit right with me I like to explore them here because usually someone says something that prompts major insight for me then I understand why i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:36 AM |
| 3 | Judging women for loving animalsThere’s definitely forced servitude in my relationship with my cat, but she’s the only one who gets away with it 🤐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyI’m into the tarot as well… it’s funny how guys will poke fun at it, but jump for the chance to have a reading done 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever noticed that older women NEVER manipulate younger guys for personal gain? While men do it daily...Agree with this. I only know one woman who dated a much younger guy. My best friend (28) had a casual thing with a much younger guy (19) and their relationship was very maternal. (She knew it was going no where, but she enjoyed his company and he made her feel safe. She can play around with anyone she wants.. she doesn’t need any one’s money.) She bought him a phone because he didn’t have one and let him stay at her place because he had no where else to go. They’d have sex… and then later that n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:05 AM |
| 13 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.If I knew I was gonna get rid of him, I wouldn’t be embarrassed at all. But that’s me personally- I have a reputation for being silly, enjoying pranks and being a bit eccentric. I used to do a program where I taught teens about safe sex practices. I didn’t think they were understanding how HPV is actually very serious and I was getting really frustrated…. So I invited the character General Genital Wartz. I dressed in full camo, with fake warts glued to my face and marched around all day spewing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Why Beer is Actually the Ultimate Women's Drink (hint: Witches!!)We are enjoying it! Thank you!🍻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 36 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.This whole post had sad-energy, but I kinda liked this idea. If I was planning to dump a guy, before I did it I would consider showing up to like his thing (work party, family dinner, favorite dive bar, etc.) in the sharpie and bleach dress. I’d enjoy telling everyone he ruined my dress, but never seems to ruin his own clothes and didn’t replace it. So they can see his true nature for themselves. Then when I dump him, people won’t be blindsided by it. They’ll have seen at least one reason for me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:47 AM |
| 104 | The manosphere line that men hit their peak in their late 30s and 40s is a biological lie - male fertility begins to decline once the man is over the age of 34.Yeah, no thanks on those two 🤮 I want a young, eager handsome man to make a life with. I don’t want some jaded and perverted older man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:41 AM |
| 362 | The manosphere line that men hit their peak in their late 30s and 40s is a biological lie - male fertility begins to decline once the man is over the age of 34.I don’t care if the researchers discover that the sperm ages like fine wine…. As a woman in my 20’s I am simply not interested in men in their late 30’s and 40’s 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:36 AM |
| 6 | Why Beer is Actually the Ultimate Women's Drink (hint: Witches!!)Gotta drink a beer and chill with my cat tonight after reading this 🐱🍺 Would be better if I had a black cat (wondering if there’s a way black cats became associated with witches) but this one has some black patches so close enough 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 03:02 PM |
| 15 | Is it a red flag if he kisses you on the first date without asking first?It’s okay if they don’t verbally ask for consent, but they should be aware that I may not want them to kiss me. So, they should move slowly and cautiously if they’re going in for a kiss on a first date because they don’t know my comfort level. If they lean in for the kiss slowly, then pause, smirk and give that little bit of eye contact that’s just fine because I was made aware that he’s going in for a kiss and it gives me the chance to opt out before anything happens. That’s what my boyfriend d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:39 AM |
| 16 | Help. I just got banned from other subreddits if you participate in this one. My comment was not offensive at all nor was I applying FDS strategies. I call bullshit but I guess I'll make a throwaway.Don’t worry about them. They don’t wanna be saved in that sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:18 AM |
| 18 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.This is probably the revenge fantasy of some loser who’s dream girl rejected him. Think about it…. How would he get the cum into the pastry? It’s too thick to go by syringe. He would have had to break open the pastry, extract some of the existing filling and replace it. Pastries are delicate I think he would have smashed it all up trying to do this. Also, if this happened to an actual woman I don’t think she would be like oh hehe I happened to eat my BF’s cum in a pop tart 💞🙊👀🤐💖🙈 (Also: If someo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:35 PM |
| 115 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...I don’t see homeless people too often because I’m in a country area. However, my interactions with homeless women have all been very non threatening. I had a homeless woman who was definitely on some kind of drugs that sped up her CNS and/or had severe mental health issues tell me I was “stealing clothes out of her wardrobe” because we had the same style. I passed a homeless woman who was sitting on the ground and playing a hand game with her daughter at night. We made eye contact and they smili… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:58 AM |
| 80 | When is enough enough? It’s time for women to boycott these apps.I wish they had this option too. It makes me worry for the safety of female drivers. The rider would need to confirm their identity as female on the app and maybe do a Face ID to unlock the feature and the driver would have to as well. We have the technology to do those things, they should already be happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:25 AM |
| 24 | The "huh?"You’re welcome boo 😗 But literally lmao. I say Huh? quite a bit at work (bartending) and most of the time it’s because I want them to say it again so other people can hear how shitty they sound, jump in to the convo and drag them ☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:02 AM |
| 211 | The "huh?"YES. This is a big red flag that needs more attention. They want you to say your words again because they want you to dissect them, scrutinize them, and doubt them. Two important men in my life can’t hear well. My boyfriend has some premature hearing loss that’s genetic and my grandpa can’t hear well because he’s old. When they don’t hear me, they say things like - Sorry, can you say that again? One more time. I didn’t hear you, dear. These statements put the responsibility on their ears; Their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 07:29 PM |
| 11 | Apologizing for or sympathizing with "cancelled" woman-abusers is big time Pick Me behaviour - From Vanity Fair: 'Dakota Johnson Calls Cancel Culture "Such a Downer"I agree that cancel culture can get out of hand because people forget that a key part of being being culturally competent/aware is realizing when you’ve done something wrong and taking steps to do better. However, the mistakes you make should be genuine mistakes and not malicious choices. (Hint: If you know in your heart in that moment you’re doing a bad thing, then what you’re making is a malicious choice and not a genuine mistake.) An example of a genuine mistake would be a White person who ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 07:07 PM |
| 26 | Waiting tables tonightI waitress and bartend in a sports bar too, always this ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 09:03 PM |
| 43 | I love my friend, but she’s a pickmeisha.A woman’s touch isn’t supposed to refer to a woman‘s hands being used for cleaning 🙄 It used to refer to a place that is already tidy, but needs a little something extra to be a home. “The woman’s touch” would be adding some paintings or little pieces of decor that men may not have an eye for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 11:37 PM |
| 8 | LVM hero Dave Portnoy revealed for being an extremely predatory, hateful, psychotic freak who lures teenage girls to his place for violent, humiliating sexcan’t access the full article :( can you please add it in text? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 11:33 PM |
| 25 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!Grandma Mode says the individual who probably hasn’t learned a new skill or made any efforts to improve himself in years🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:29 AM |
| 17 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.Makes me think because I have definitely had interactions with men like the one described. They’re few and far between and they are just fleeting moments. It’s human nature to feel flattered when someone who is attractive and takes care of themselves goes out of their way to compliment you and make your day a little easier (paying for the thing she was already getting). He made it clear he was on their way and didn’t pressure her to chat. Plus it was in a gym so it was a pretty public place peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:14 AM |
| 303 | Stop having sex with men who can’t master vanilla.Fully agree with this. I think that anyone who is mentally healthy should want the sex they start with a new partner to be vanilla. It shows that they want the other person to be comfortable. Sex with a new person can be uncomfortable and when you start throwing unconventional things into the mix, the likelihood that your partner will be uncomfortable increases. Satisfying vanilla sex sends the message “you are all I need for a positive sexual experience” to both people having sex because they’r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Role of a therapistI’m licensed as a therapist and I never gave “advice” because I know I’m only getting one side of the story. As much as I trust that client and they seem rational, I need to be grounded in the fact that I’m only getting one side because I could end up validating things that aren’t in their best interest. The example that comes to mind is one involving my aunt. She struggles a lot with her mental health and is in and out of treatment centers. For several years, she worked at a restaurant owned by… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 06:07 PM |
| 244 | This is how a HVM should reactI like this so much because it’s an example of a man protecting a woman emotionally. Societally, way too much emphasis is placed on the ability to physically protect, but in this day and age emotional protection is more widely used and valuable. His wife is upset, so he settings this boundary (uninviting them) to keep her safe emotionally and protect her happiness. By doing this, he’s taking the not-so-fun role of “bad cop” (aka the boundary setter) and acting as shield for her from her family m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesI’m not sure how I feel about this one. I’m friends with my high school boyfriend, but we never had sex so feelings never deepened romantically. I’m good friends with my most recent ex and reach out occasionally with random questions (usually fitness related) but my mom swears he’s gay and she’s usually on point when she suspects things. I think it can be an okay friendship if they never had sex (but that’s rare for people now), if they were so young it wasn’t a real relationship or if someone c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:46 PM |
| 266 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.She took home the gold metal in mental acrobatics! And broke the record for the vertical bar toss…. Sending it 891 meters below Hell! An inspiration to Pick-Me’s everywhere ✨✨✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:29 PM |
| 9 | Woman posts this pro-male post on a popular subreddit. Despite this, the comments are full of misogyny regardless. This is why being a pick me doesn't work!Maybe don’t act like an animal if you don’t want to be treated like an animal? But that might be insulating to animals because even dogs wipe their paws after they go and cats cover their buisness with litter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:15 AM |
| 41 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)This sub definitely tests the patience of the mods way more than any other 😬 appreciate you all 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 01:43 PM |
| 1 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Guess it’s technically not a lie because he doesn’t love her at all, so it’s not like he’s able to love her less 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 01:37 PM |
| 189 | We should work together to ensure that signs like this are posted in bars and restaurants across the country.As a bartender, I don’t like this. Not only does this put way too much responsibility the women being harassed, it will force other women into the role of protecting them. In the US, about 60% of bartenders are women and about 40% of bartenders are men. What about the bartender after she walks you to your car? She has to take the walk back alone. After she calls the police? She has to continue to work while a creep boils with anger at her over the police being called on him. Bar tenders are not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:01 AM |
| 230 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Just thinking about how absolutely no one would like it if someone tweeted As soon as I can afford a husky, my mutt is going back to the shelter.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Love this. Louder for the scrotes in the back.Hey that’s not true! His blood pressure isn’t the only thing that’s increasing… so is his waist size 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 08:06 AM |
| 20 | A weird form of negging, but I can’t quite put a finger on what I should call itI would have responded with… Who doesn’t want to be loved and protected in *any** relationship?* I’m genuinely curious what his answer would be. If you want to be unloved and live on the edge, you need to delete bumble immediately and go to therapy. I consider myself a mentally healthy person and I expect love and appropriate protection from everyone I care about. All of my family and all my friends love and protect me, and I love and protect them. Protection comes in many forms and it’s more th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 06:44 AM |
| 8 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?Commented earlier with some thoughts, but now I have more lol. The only vetting strategy I can think of is to get a challenging pet when you are married and living together. They may mimic some of the stressors and changes children would bring into the home. Here are my suggestions: Feral/Semi-Feral or Shadow Cats: You may be their very favorite person, but you will still never be able to scoop them up and hold them. Over time they may decide to hang out on the other side of the couch while you’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 06:23 AM |
| 26 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?There’s no photos of him, but it doesn’t matter because anyone who acts like this is fucking ugly regardless of how they look. He knows she is insecure about her postpartum hair and he knows that he left her no time to style her hair by whisking her out the door right after her appointment. He didn’t try to surprise her with a nice dinner… he ambushed her by leaving her no time to get ready and no advance notice of the plans. He wanted her to feel insecure and ugly and he knows exactly what he d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 05:36 AM |
| 34 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”^ This. If I won the lottery, I would fund a study where we find 1,000 women who say they love causal sex. There would be lots of screening questions so the women wouldn’t know the aim of the study. We’d provide them with proper therapy for a year, and then revisit their feelings on the topic. It would be double-blind so the therapists would not be aware of the study either. They would be from various schools of thought, they’d just be vetted for their competency treating in treating trauma, add… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 07:08 PM |
| 28 | Men who only pursue you romantically after your “glow up”I think what you experienced is all too common (it could be fixing a lazy eye, getting a nose job, growing their hair out, losing weight, getting braces, or any other correction of a perceived flaw that does it.) I had to wear corrective headgear and have jaw surgery, which was a painful process. The results were jaw dropping (lol) and it changed the look of my entire face. It’s crazy how just a little thing that is “off” can make people see an entire face as not “pretty”. People react to me so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 06:53 PM |
| 59 | Be careful out there ladies: Comments under a tic tok about most dangerous people you’ve met- man kills wife, justifies it claiming infidelity. Men need to hold one another accountable, not justify violence and in this case murder.what could have been a moment in the past will now define his entire existence Wow. Never thought of it that way but so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 06:26 PM |
| 36 | How do I set boundaries in the situation?Thank you for taking the time to write this. This is wonderful and feels like handbook material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:25 PM |
| 30 | What would you do when you want your ex to delete nudes you sent them?There’s nothing you can do about them now. With the sophistication that deep-fakes have now, I wouldn’t even worry about the photos because you can always deny that they are yours. Just learn from your mistake and don’t do it again. To everyone else: if you have sent nudes to a man, regardless of how solid the relationship seems, I personally think you should go through his phone while he’s asleep and delete them. If he asks where they went say you asked him to delete them while you were drinkin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 10:04 PM |
| 6 | Strangulation BIGGEST indicator of risk of DV murder. ...(but if he has an erection while doing it we can't talk about it because that would be kInK ShAmiNgI work at a bar and we have a guy who gets off on being a pay pig come through. He’ll ask me to pick a random customer or couple, tell them they won a giveaway and can order as much food and alcohol as they want for X amount of time. I’ll encourage them to get the fancy liquor, or expensive crab legs. Then he starts talking about how he has no food at home and is gonna starve all week and can’t pay for this or that… but with a smile on his face? He gets off to the idea of his own financial ruin.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 09:58 PM |
| 14 | If you stay at home and look after the children, never undersell your contribution. Woman makes a joke video about her husband stressing whilst she thinks about coffee, comments blast her calling her a lazy leech gold diggers. Men think birthing and looking children and the home is not “real” workIt’s literally not though. Like there’s nothing innate about one single person taking care of an infants needs entirely on their own. It’s natural for multiple people in a family, community, tribe, whatever group to share childcare responsibilities. Pretty sure it’s even like that in a lot of animal communities too…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 06:28 PM |
| 0 | Why staying in a toxic relationship makes you NV (lower than LV) when you have childrenI agree. If you leave children in that kind of situation, you are worse than the man. We can ramble on and on about equality all we want, but at the end of the day… we are not equal. We know that if mom doesn’t care for the kids, they probably aren’t getting cared for. We all know men who think nothing of letting babies sit in dirty diapers and leaving small children unattended. It’s not fair, but it’s how it is. When you bring a child into the world, there’s a good chance you’ll be required to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 05:44 PM |
| 8 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.I feel like maybe a HVM might throw out the idea of a hike date if they’ve encountered too many Pick-Me’s who have told them dinner is too “formal” or “awkward”. But if that’s the case once you suggest dinner he should be all over it. I also think that’s an unlikely scenario | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Would you give your phone number to a guy before meeting for the first time?They made me give an address right after I got the license to practice and my home was the only one I had because I wasn’t working in the field yet so that’s how it ended up public. If you don’t have a place to work before having the license (which a lot of people don’t) you’re stuck giving a personal address. PO Boxes were not allowed :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:12 AM |
| 8 | Religious FDSI’m Christian but I chose to interpret some things my own way and only go to churches that are more modern in their interpretations. Modern Christian churches accept divorce if your husband is a cheater, threatening you, or watching porn. Even if you initiate the divorce, he is the one who is responsible for ruining the marriage because he didn’t hold up his end of the promise. When you make vows to someone, it’s assumed you won’t do those things. Modern churches also prioritize healthy marriage… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 05:37 PM |
| 6 | He cheated because he “liked me too much” 🥺🥺🥺🥺You wouldn’t keep a vase that was so cracked it leaked water. You wouldn’t keep a plastic ruler that warped and no longer measures correctly. You wouldn’t keep a button that snapped in half. So why even think about keeping this man? If something is so broken that it can’t do it’s intended job, it has no place in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 05:14 PM |
| 13 | Would you give your phone number to a guy before meeting for the first time?I am very, very hesitant to give out my number. When you google my number my entire home address, my work address and a bunch of info comes up. I have called the sites and there’s nothing I can do about it because there’s some law in my state that because I was working with children and licensed to treat I wasn’t allowed to keep my address private. Makes absolutely no sense and makes me very uncomfortable. This is part of why I don’t practice anymore- it infuriates me that a therapist can’t keep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 04:59 PM |
| 6 | Pre-nupsHope for the best… but always plan for the worst. I’m not yet married, but I live with my boyfriend (which is a decision I thought long and hard about. I realized it was my best option, even if we do break up because he pays 80% of our rent and for most of my other expenses. This area we live in and our living situation are my safest option and allow me to save up the most money.) We adopted a cat together. The shelter asked us if we wanted to register her microchip. My boyfriend said because sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 08:13 AM |
| 42 | My Mother: The Hero of the DayA young girl who needs to work a minimum wage job shouldn’t even have to think about the threat of unwanted physical contact from men. All these old men complain about how the “kids aren’t working” and “nobody wants to work”….. then they go and make it uncomfortable to be a cashier at a grocery store 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:19 AM |
| 11 | We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.The tactic I use for when I see my cat sink her claws into the couch, then stop and think about it ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:14 AM |
| 15 | Woman’s date goes berserk over “National Dog Mom Day”Don’t tell people where you live 😩 People will ask in casual conversation, so pick a complex kinda near yours and tell people that’s where you live. My apartment complex gave us stickers to put on our cars to show we live there and are allowed to park there… There’s tons of extra spots and they have my car on file. Why should I risk my safety to display that? Anyone who sees me get out of my car at any place can easily follow me home with that thing on my car! I also refuse to leave things in my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:09 AM |
| 5 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Annnnd that’s why they like you. A polite, distanced greeting followed by giving them space is the best way to interact with a cat you don’t know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:52 AM |
| 3 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Aww I love to hear this 🥰 I’m so happy she was able to find you! Animals with trauma were not treated fairly or kindly by people… so you can’t expect them to be able to be wonderfully fair and kind. They need a lot more love poured into them before they’re able to give it back. I have no idea what happened to this cat in the two years she lived outside before I found her. If she was abused, it was more likely to be men doing it 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:50 AM |
| 8 | How to vet if a man is pornsickNo, he doesn’t and it’s definitely not a fetish. He was a single guy who wanted an image of an attractive woman in his mind before jerking off. If you’re not creative (he is very analytical and doesn’t have a vivid imagination) that image in your mind needs some kind of beginning source. When you’re not dating anyone IRL, you’re opposed to porn and you’re opposed to using social media to jerk off to people you know… you’re likely to get the inspiration for that fantasy image from regular media (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:45 AM |
| 2 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"If that’s your plan I don’t think you have anything to worry about :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:57 AM |
| 90 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Being entirely honest, if the tables were turned and he begged me for an animal I wasn’t really fond of, we bring them home, they makes me itchy af and they’re mean to me… I don’t think I would have handled it with as much grace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:54 AM |
| 14 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"My mom had my sister at 38 and she’s a great mom :) If you are going into parenting later than others, you just have to be extra diligent about the decisions you make regarding your long-term health but you can still be a wonderful parent. If I were you I’d date men my age or younger. Men don’t live as long as women and many don’t age as well. If you adopt a child and not a baby, it would essentially be like having a baby in your late 30’s. The baby stage is exhausting and the lack of sleep is s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:50 AM |
| 11 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"My 70 year old grandparents played with me when I was 10… and then they returned me to my parents and took nice, long naps. But when you’re the parent, you don’t have that luxury. You need to get up and take care of and play with that child day after day after day… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"This made me snort 😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:41 AM |
| 9 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Same, honestly going into JoAnn’s Fabrics has become therapeutic for me 😂 It’s filled with older women and they are all so sweet and encouraging. Sometimes they make me believe in myself a little too much and I end up taking home sewing patterns that I can’t even begin to understand hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:11 AM |
| 16 | How to vet if a man is pornsickOh wow they had a flair, I didn’t think it was a man 👀👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:09 AM |
| 182 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!My cat was mean to my boyfriend when we first got her. He said that when I wasn’t looking, she would hiss and spread out all her claws and put them near his face. I believed him.. but at the same time I almost didn’t because I had never heard her hiss. I witnessed this from around the corner and was shocked because she looked fucking evil. He did nothing to deserve poor treatment from our cat. He was kind enough to let me get her (despite having allergies) and spent all night with his little too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:03 AM |
| 20 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Cats are my favorite animal. I’m completely obsessed with my cat. I have to be in like the 99th percentile for extroversion. I know a bunch about the hopes and dreams of the guy who pumps my gas. I can describe the childhood trauma and bullying the guy at the liquor store I go to endured. I know way too much about the grandson of the woman who cuts my fabric at the craft store. I can tell you all about how the receptionist at my apartment complex found her soulmate at Home Depot and began believ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:45 AM |
| 75 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Cats don’t like people who intrude on their personal space… I’m going to assume that because they make your eyes water, you’re not all up in their face when you meet them. Because you don’t do that, they take it as a sign that you are someone with respect their space and boundaries, so they and are drawn to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:34 AM |
| 24 | The Baby Trap ScamMy mom claims that all she wanted her whole life was to be a mom and have daughters. She has 3 who she’s all very close with. She started out married to a LVM (had me) and then met my HV stepdad and had my two sisters. My stepdad has a successful career and has always given my mom full access to their money, without questioning her spending. Of course the money is not endless, so she makes mindful decisions, which he trusts her judgement on. In his heart, he believes the money he makes is theirs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:29 AM |
| 35 | How to vet if a man is pornsickWhen you ask a person a baiting/leading question about something they’re not doing/involved in, you have to accept the very likely possibility that they will give an off-the-wall answer because you’re asking them to come up with an answer to something they have no answer to. He’s definitely never gotten off in a Walmart parking lot (that bougie mf had never been to a Walmart before we met😩) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 03:30 AM |
| 46 | How to vet if a man is pornsickI tried to bait my boyfriend with the what porn do you watch? question and got the stupidest answer. He said no NSFW stuff or videos, just like leggings. When I inquired more he said he jerks off the fitness models in leggings on the Gymshark website when he’s single. I learned he doesn’t support the porn industry in any way, that he isn’t being turned on by anything abnormal and that anyone in pain/looking unhappy is a turn off to him. It was an honest answer I respected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 12:11 AM |
| 2 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.That whole thing sounds so gross and toxic and I am very thankful to not have been sucked in. When it first aired I was 11… My parents were pretty big on taking your time growing up and valuing childhood (which I’m really thankful for). So at 11 I was either playing on the floor with Poly Pockets or watching cartoons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:31 PM |
| 21 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Yes :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:27 PM |
| 575 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Sandy Cheeks -Award Winning Scientist (Invented a shrink-machine and a teleporter) -Financially Independent -Owns (and built) her own tree dome -Exceptionally fit (excels in karate, winner of the Goo Lagoon Anchor Toss) -Travels wherever she wants -Priorities her beauty sleep/ hibernation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:25 AM |
| 42 | A joint Facebook account won’t stop him from cheatingEven if you just decide to rest or relax, it still way better to spend that energy on yourself. These cheating prevention strategies are so silly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:20 PM |
| 42 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?Blowjob free since 2019 over here 🙌 I just don’t like the physical experience of them. I have a small mouth, a really really short tongue, and I’ve had jaw surgery so it locks up and is painful from time to time. I’ve only ever done it in a committed relationship in the past. I liked the idea of it, and maybe liked the act for the first 90 seconds but then wanted to move on. Regardless of how clean we keep them, our mouths have a lot of nasty bacteria. I don’t want someone’s mouth bacteria on my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 01:49 PM |
| 137 | What are your best tips for letting go of the IDEA you have a person?I struggled with this a lot in the past too, so I’ll share my experience- I went on a date with a guy who felt so perfect. We had the same faith, are both into natural bodybuilding, and both from farm towns and like those kinds of things. I just had this fantasy in my head of us working out, traveling to bodybuilding shows together and cheering each other on from the audience. We could go to church and pray together before bed. We’d spend lots of time outside, maybe even raise quails. I loved th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:39 AM |
| 44 | A HVM will WANT to plan a wedding with you a LVM will check outI get it, most men don’t really see a difference between cobalt blue and navy blue, and a lot of flowers look the same to them… but how are you not excited about anything?! They should at least have opinions on the food they’ll be eating and the music they’ll be dancing to. Come on. I’m not even married and I don’t have children… but if I happen to have a son I already know what song I want for the mother-son dance at his wedding (wish it didn’t say boy so many times in the song because it’s bea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:17 AM |
| 2 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.I’ve never watched that show but I saw the clip and HAHAHAHAHAH eewwww. I hate it 😩 When was that even popular? I’m 27 and it feels like the show was way before my time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:13 AM |
| 2 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.Yesss you should do it! Birds can stand on the rim. You can comfortably fit a hamster in there. I see your icon is a ferret, you could stage a nice picture of a ferret with that mug…. 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:09 AM |
| 69 | Talk to your ex’s exYes yes yes. If you have a chance to talk to your partner’s ex, take it. Even if you have no inkling that he is abusive, just do it. If he is really is a HVM, there isn’t anything anyone can say to make you think differently of him. I never met any of my boyfriend’s ex, but the way he talks about his most recent ex sparked a little curiosity for me. He makes it seem like she’s nice, with a few things in common with me, but got impatient with his anxiety and liked to party more than he was comfor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:04 AM |
| 6 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.Thank you! We have no way of knowing who purchased the mug, sooo there is a possibility I’m right 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:03 AM |
| 12 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.Stoppppp they fit in a mug?! 😭😭😩😩😩 I wouldn’t know, I’ve never held or even felt one. (After wanting a kitten my whole life, I’m finally in the position to give a cat a forever home. A lonely mama cat stole my heart instead) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:59 AM |
| 188 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.Plot Twist: This mug belongs to an animal shelter. They place adoptable small pets in it to be photographed for their website. (Hey, a girl can dream….) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 11:02 PM |
| 7 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….Agree. And I never heard that term before, but I like micro cheating better than emotional affair | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:54 PM |
| 5 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….Hope you are enjoying your well deserved retirement from the Therapist-Bestie role 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:54 PM |
| 38 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….There is no good answer to those questions. You gush about it, they want him more. You complain about it they will tell him how you’re “talking shit about him”. You’re indifferent to it, they feel entitled to take him from you because they’ll “care more” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:51 PM |
| 30 | So I just discovered what demisexuality isI’m in my late 20’s, I’ve never had sex outside of a relationship and I’ve never even been able to understand the temptation to do so. I know I am the textbook example of “Demisexual”…. But I’ve always thought it was the stupidest word and it turned me off SO MUCH and I couldn’t put my finger on why. THANK YOU for articulating this. Posts and comments like this are why I frequent this sub so much. I now see I hate it because it puts the beliefs of porn-sick men as the default. I can go out into … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:54 PM |
| 56 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….I learned this the hard way too ugh. It’s always a no from me too. If a guy with a woman BFF isn’t waiting to have sex with her…. Then you can pretty much guarantee that he is using her as a free therapist (just as bad but different) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:46 PM |
| 401 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….Ever visit a thrift shop, go through the rack of clothes, glance at a shirt… then see another person going through the rack and pick up that shirt only to realize that shirt is cute why didn’t I pick it up? I ask because that’s human nature. When other people want things, we ascribe value to them. You’d be lying to me if you told me you didn’t want to run and grab that shirt for yourself the second that other person puts it down. IF he decides to behave for a few weeks and appear to treat you we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:41 PM |
| 57 | having and defining your own standards is a great first step, but keep going!!! don't stop there.YES YES YES about tall men! I was confused at myself when I met my 5’9 boyfriend and didn’t feel any negative feelings about his height- How could he be cute at 5’9?? It was like a glitch in the matrix. He never lied about his height, complained about his height, showed bitterness, or made any weird comments about other men’s hight. Being 5’9 wasn’t the unattractive thing… the lying, complaining, sour attitudes and negging other men was what made so many guys ugly. As I’ve gotten older, my heel … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:38 PM |
| 0 | Yeeeeeesh I'm over male therapistsI’ll be entirely honest I didn’t really think this one through all the way (and I still didn’t because it’s complicated) and I don’t know exactly where I stand with this…. but my takeaway point is that the unique needs of people with severe disabilities should not be used as a doorway into “prostitution is okay” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:09 PM |
| 6 | Yeeeeeesh I'm over male therapistsThe example of the paraplegic man bothers me for a few reasons- 1) People who are paraplegic or have other similar disabilities make up a teeny portion of men who seek out sex workers. 2) People with severe disabilities who simply want to experience orgasm are far from an accurate representation of the “average” client a sex worker deals with. Many people coming to a sex worker have access to safe, regular sex and are paying someone because they want something else. Something extreme, painful, m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:57 AM |
| 16 | Rewriting Misogynistic Song LyricsI kinda wanna throw my phone across the room ’Cause all I see are girls too good to be true It just isn’t fair, the men don’t compare Wish I didn't care… I know they don’t pick up the slack But I don’t have that deadweight on my back Cause I let it go Unbalanced-mental-load is killing us slowly I think, we think too much ’Bout things that men should be I'm so sick of these scrotes Who’d rather be, rather be Sowing their shitty oats But infidelity, infidelity Won’t be followin' me (he-he-he, he-h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:54 AM |
| 42 | Rewriting Misogynistic Song LyricsOoooh I’ve been waiting for this question!!!! I love this song but I modify it when I sing it in my car. You think I'm gonna spend your cash (I will) Even if you were broke My love costs everything Think I wanna drive your Benz (I do) If I wanna floss I’m coming through Even if you were broke My love costs *e v e r y t h i n g*** 🎶🎵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:35 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?This is something that has come up in conversation with my boyfriend before and I think we’re going to put our own little twist on it. I like single round large stones. Given his salary, our ages, and our goals, I think 10k-15k is appropriate to spend on a ring. Anymore would feel wasteful because we are in our late 20’s and need to save for a home and other things. There’s beautiful, sizable diamonds that I’d be so proud to wear and will last a lifetime in that price range. As per his request, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Never forget that many men live like this 🙊🧼🧹I like the irony of couch creatures hahaha it’s my fav flair | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 12:05 AM |
| 6 | Never forget that many men live like this 🙊🧼🧹They’re not even couch creatures there’s no couch 😩😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:36 PM |
| 21 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh together• Was chubby when we met (approx 220 pounds) and became obese (over 315 pounds) over the course of the relationship 🍩🍔🍭 • Wouldn’t stop smoking blunts, despite having asthma. Laughed at me when I only smoked from my bubbler and laughed at me when I did lung exercise to keep my lungs healthy (I occasionally smoke recreationally and just want to be careful) Went on to develop a chronic lung condition after being told by his doctor multiple times he was at risk for this condition 💨🫁 • Knew I dreame… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:32 PM |
| 24 | Cause of death: the audacity 😉 Share a story of a time a scrote either mansplained something you’re an expert in or made a hilarious statement like below. I’ll go first in comments!It doesn’t matter what it is, men love to act like they know more. Even after working at a sports bar forever, they try to tell me we have things that are not (and never have been) on our menu. They ask for sauces and items that were temporary and limited and I tell them we only carry that from June-August and we stopped all together in 2019 or we have a supply chain issue and no set date for X to return. Last we had it was December…. But they’ll call the manager over and ask for them anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:17 PM |
| 11 | What are your thoughts on all-girls schools?I didn’t think of girls being more confident in math and sports because of no boys being around… but that makes perfect sense. I always sought out a boy to help me when I struggled in math (internalized misogyny). Imagine if I would have asked girls for their help instead… sad those girls missed out on getting that extra confidence in their ability and I missed out on seeing girls who were competent in math. I also never really tried in gym class because the boys went so hard and there was no wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:12 PM |
| 7 | if a pacarana can lather his butt, pits, and balls then so can your bfImagine putting on a bathrobe and not drying yourself first? What? Is he a lizard person? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 01:36 AM |
| 4 | WOC be careful fetishization is real....My ex boyfriend’s hometown friends did this so bad that he refused to let any of them meet me. (I’m White and he is Black). They wanted to know what he did to score a White girl with a pretty face and a not fat body. They congratulated him on getting a “PAWG”. They made gross comments about me wanting to get gang-banged. He was a high value man and tried his best to shield me from it (he never hung out with these friends, they were just like childhood friends that texted occasionally and said th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 11:30 PM |
| 7 | WOC be careful fetishization is real....YES! I’ve had non-white men ask me if “everything was pink”….. No, everything is greenish-yellow because I’m about to throw up everywhere from that disgusting question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 11:09 PM |
| 8 | Men created the nuclear family and that's what destroyed society.This comment is excellent and one of my all time favorites. Although it’s very serious… I’m crying at the pug-loving teacher description. It’s sooo true but I’ve never realized it before. I’ve had several of those pug-loving teachers before and they’re always wonderful. They usually have a cute little assortment of colored paper clips and take the time to put stickers on tests. Even though the kids are too old to admit they’re excited about a sticker… getting one low key makes them smile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 11:01 PM |
| 96 | If someone tells you that men are picky show them this!Hey, at least he’s fully vaccinated! 😩🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:35 AM |
| 221 | If someone tells you that men are picky show them this!You’re gonna have to rock-paper-scissors me to use that first guy. I have a lot of sewing to catch up on, and I can’t find my pin cushion….🧷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:34 AM |
| 49 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:Maybe if they actually brought anything to the table, more men could rank above pets. My cat gnawed open the kitchen vent (nest inside) and put a dead baby bird on a plate I had left on the table. It wasn’t much, but she at least brought something to the table. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:38 AM |
| 18 | FDS is and will always remain a dating sub first and foremost. Any suggestions to rename the sub or redirect its focus will be removed and offending users bannedMen have literally ruined the word female for me to the point where I hate it. I don’t even call my cat a female cat…. I say she’s a girl cat. (I guess she’s technically a woman, since she is an adult who’s even had children. But she acts like such a giant baby that girl cat seems more fitting) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 10:31 PM |
| 159 | The straw that broke the camels back for me, and what has turned me angry and bitter against men is not only the abuse they've subjected me to, but the fact that I'm 28 years old and no man has never even gifted me a bouquet.100k a year?! And no flowers after hints were dropped?! Glad you got rid of him because I think he literally hated you. I wish young girls would see that what these men do is no reflection of your worth. They are really out here not caring enough about their real girlfriends to buy her flowers, yet caring enough about OnlyFans girls to buy her Coochie Gummies 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:33 AM |
| 8 | If you are confused about his intentions, read this. These are the words of men, describing how they behave when they love and respect their woman. Don't accept any excuses, ever!I’m staying with my grandparents this weekend, and just a few hours ago I heard them calling each other “old lady” and “old man” 🥺 My great grandparents on my grandpa’s side used to do it too before they passed and it melted my heart. I can still here her voice saying Where are you, old man?! 😩🥲 They were married over 75 years and my grandparents are coming up on their 50th. You don’t get to call your wife “old lady” unless you actually grew old together and she calls you “old man” in return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:25 AM |
| 23 | Just because you are both HV doesn't mean you will be compatible.I needed to read this today ♥️ Sometimes I feel guilty that I broke up with my last boyfriend because he didn’t deserve to be dumped. He didn’t have a jealous bone in his body and genuinely cheered me on through every accomplishment, even if they were things he didn’t accomplish himself. His job didn’t pay that well, but he’d never dream of letting me pay for anything. He chatted up every senior citizen he could because they don’t always get to talk to people. He was so kind to my family and sti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:11 AM |
| 12 | MYTH: Marriage is NOT hard. The media should stop glamorizing their abusive relationship.Money worries, child care responsibilities, pet care, housework and cooking put stress on married couples. But life is what’s hard, the marriage isn’t. You can tackle those tasks together, they’re still tough tasks and things may still be hard, but marriage makes them easier because you have a partner. They don’t have to worry about any of those things that normal married couples worry about. There’s no reason their marriage should be hard unless someone is abusive or they are deeply incompatibl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:40 AM |
| 73 | You don’t need to have experience to know he will suck in bedExcellent point about coming during foreplay. If a guy accidentally cums during foreplay, I don’t think it’s the end of the world. It’s all about how he handles it. Toss him if he leaves after he come. But if he keeps making out and puts in the effort for you to finish too, I don’t think it should be held against him. I think that’s only a red flag if it becomes a pattern. Guys who aren’t porn sick and have a healthy sexuality can get very aroused by normal things, like just making out or feelin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:35 AM |
| 24 | Women who like women, approach them in a totally different way than men. Plus they are sexy in a different wayDon’t lose hope ♥️ If men keep doing what they’re doing, it’s only a matter of time before you stop being attracted to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:21 AM |
| 21 | Women who like women, approach them in a totally different way than men. Plus they are sexy in a different wayIf I go from work to the gym (which I do because once I stop home… I’m home for good lol) I sometimes end up with lashes at the gym. They’re so hard to get off without soaking in warm water and then in make up remover 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:18 AM |
| 33 | It’s easy to be generous with people you love.What do you mean?? Going Dutch is a perfect date 😍 I’d love if a man treated me to authentic Dutch cuisine! I could go for some kibbeling…. 😋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:11 AM |
| 83 | The straw that broke the camels back for me, and what has turned me angry and bitter against men is not only the abuse they've subjected me to, but the fact that I'm 28 years old and no man has never even gifted me a bouquet.I’m sorry, that makes me sad for you too :( you can get a really pretty bouquet at the grocery store for less than $20. I don’t understand why they aren’t a more common gift. You should have a nice little day/do something for yourself (even if it’s just a workout, tea and a book, or binging a show you like) and then go get yourself some pretty flowers. Then when you look at them you can be reminded of the nice day you had. You don’t need a man to enjoy flowers. I won’t be getting any flowers eit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:15 AM |
| 3 | This dude is SHOCKED his wife is mad about him wanting to miss a wedding for a football game that he isn’t even going to!! Thankfully he gets roasted in the comments.Just go with Tito | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:03 AM |
| 6 | "unapologetically advocate for life"There’s one group of people who you can confirm “recognize the dignity of humanity from the moment of conception” and that’s….. 🥁 🥁🥁 teenagers who kept their unplanned pregnancies! What good does data driven research do? If they really cared about this cause they’d give it to someone who’s actually out there in the trenches (which would be a teenage mother). But you know that’s not who it’s going to go to. These pro-life people stop caring about these babies and women the moment the umbilical co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 03:58 AM |
| 20 | Sis needs helpThey just like novelty. His new partner is probably better than her in some ways. And she is probably better than the new partner in some ways. The new partner is just that…. new | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 03:51 AM |
| 13 | When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guysI feel like most younger men are at least pretending to be mature. Most single order men have totally embraced the fact that they are man babies 🤢 I’d love a cute bald baby… but not like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 03:46 AM |
| 281 | And y’all are still using OLD?Me swiping through Pinterest looking for something I can actually make | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 03:43 AM |
| 20 | When are women ready to admit LTR don't mean shit? It's not soft marriage.Why do so many White scrotes have an obsession with Black man’s genitals? For men that claim to be straight, they really spend an awful lot of time thinking about other guy’s junk.They claim that if a woman experiences a sizable ~ bLaCk DiicK~ she’ll never be able to be faithful to someone with a smaller penis 🙄But I think they know they don’t really believe that. They don’t want to admit to themselves that they’re deeply racist and think if a woman sleeps with a Black man she’s contaminated in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:45 AM |
| 20 | Excuse me?I tried a tiny bit once because I wanted to “be the baby too” 😫I was six lol. It was disgusting and I was immediately over it. There’s no way he actually likes it? I don’t believe it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 05:25 AM |
| 17 | Suicidal threats and threatening self harm, and staying because you are worried about your partner doing the unthinkable.Thank you for sharing this. I think this comment alone shows a great deal of self-awareness, accountability and consideration of how others may interpret your actions. Having to manage BPD is so tough. Don’t be too hard on yourself; People who are truly manipulative don’t seek to be more self-aware or accountable like you do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 04:59 AM |
| 24 | A case study on why we don’t ask men on dates! Found on a thread about a woman asking for a man’s number.I wasn’t gonna crush him. I’m more of a trampler/stomper/squisher kinda gal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:57 PM |
| 37 | Saw this on insta today. How cool is this? I've never taken Bcp's for the same reason that they fuck around with your hormones. Same for the morning after pill.Not to be crude, but women can literally rip from their vagina to their rectum giving birth. If we’re so weak and we can do that, why can’t they take a knife to the nuts? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:56 PM |
| 37 | Saw this on insta today. How cool is this? I've never taken Bcp's for the same reason that they fuck around with your hormones. Same for the morning after pill.This is why I will never allow a man to finish inside me unless he is my husband and I want a baby. No exceptions. This is a key bargaining chip we have and we should never give up. I don’t care if you take birth control- it’s not 100% effective. If you get sick and throw up, or even have diarrhea, the accuracy drops because the Pill doesn’t stay in your system long enough. And don’t get me started on what happens to accuracy if you miss a Pill. Even if you take it perfect, just because you’re 9… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 5 | Stop calling women girls!Me too, I’m waiting for the day. I’m gonna play dumb af if anyone does try to correct me- Uhh, youre not a lady? So that makes you a boy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:36 PM |
| 15 | Stop calling women girls!I work at a bar and when it’s slow and theres not enough drinks to mix, I like to stir the pot by referring to the adult men as “boys”. We need some more boys to come in here! There’s only 5 boys at the bar. Where did the boys with the open tab go? What do you boys want to drink? Etc No one’s corrected me yet, but I hope it makes someone stop and think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:05 PM |
| 14 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.My boyfriend loves fashion, and I always feel guilty that he’s usually dressed better than me…. But for what??? There’s so many raggedy, unkempt men with meticulously put together women and I’m sure less than 1% of them feel bad about it so why should I? (I am presentable and pretty in a simple way when we go out. He pays attention to up and coming brands and what’s in this season). I’m done feeling bad about it. Thanks :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:49 PM |
| 17 | 27 year old scrote with ED and porn sickness 🤢 and she’s the one who’s insecure and worrying about what she’s doing wrong! 🤦🏻♀️Men who don’t watch porn don’t have this problem. I can’t believe it when I hear so many of my friends saying their boyfriends can’t get an erection. (And most of my friends are in their early 20’s. My boyfriend and I are in our late 20’s). At just shy of 30, there has never been a single incident where he couldn’t get it up. Even if we’ve had too much wine, he still gets it up and it works fine. We might bonk heads or squish each other by accident, but his dick still works. He gets erections im… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:27 AM |
| 2 | Gabby PetitoEWWWW. I bet that man had never applied sun screen or moisturizer in his life. Guess it’s for the best… he won’t need to waste his commissary money on them 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:17 AM |
| 5 | LVM don't just hate women. They hate HVM too.This is why I don’t consider it a red flag if a man has no friends. (Provided he has healthy and loving relationships with at least a few family members, is able to fit in at work and be seen as professional and polite, is respectful to the people we encounter (severs, customer service on the phone, my friends, strangers, etc.) and has had friends at some point in his life.) I think a lot of high-value men realize that they are too different from their high-school and college friends to continue… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:13 AM |
| 7 | One of many reasons we are against BDSM.This this this this this!!! Let the records show that under no circumstance do I want to be strangled, hit, burned, bound or harmed under any way. That is something I would never ask for or agree to. Send your friends articles about why BDSM is a problem not a kink. If you’re kissing-and-telling with your friends, find a way to mention that you don’t do rough sex and you are not open to it. Leave as much concrete evidence that should anything like that happen it is not an accident. The court see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:54 AM |
| 98 | One of many reasons we are against BDSM.Those boys are going to be like 10 and 11 when he gets out. The man who killed their mother is going to be out of jail before they even hit puberty. The loss of their mother is going to affect two innocent little boys for many, many years to come. And he just gets locked up for a tiny fraction of their childhood??? How are they supposed to feel safe in the world?? They know their mother is gone, but her killer is going to be free loooong before they can fully grasp and process what happened and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 07:20 AM |
| 202 | Be careful about helping "disabled" men!(potential trigger warning!)Always this. Even if he wasn’t pretending, it doesn’t matter. A man doesn’t need to be able bodied to hurt you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:03 AM |
| 3 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I think it’s soo personal and it really depends on your situation. However, I will be changing mine. I like the way it sounds, I like that you can tell my heritage from the name, I like that I don’t know anyone else with it… but it doesn’t mean anything to me. It means nothing to me because my last name is my biological dad’s and I have nothing to do with him. My mom, real dad (step dad is my real dad) and sisters all have a different last name than me. We kept mine the same as my biodad’s becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Making more than your SOYou’re welcome ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 5 | Making more than your SODon’t be silly- You shouldn’t feel like you’d like to be okay with it! In a world that encourages women to “ride or die” for losers and build them up (despite it being detrimental to ourselves) it takes courage to admit that you’re not okay with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:22 PM |
| 7 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesPlus, a guy who would try to engage in hanky panky with you at his parents house is weird. Where are the boundaries? Where’s the respect for you (because surely that’s embarrassing?) Being willing to do that is a flaming red flag 🚩🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 09:18 PM |
| 2 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?Anyone who sends a bad pun is someone I don’t mind, so I think it’s a good way to help remove more immature boys from your matches. & Yesss you may get some freak with a nurse fetish, a teacher fetish, etc. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 09:14 PM |
| 250 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesI think there’s definitely a big difference between living with a mature roommate and living in a dirty frat house. If two men are able to divide cleaning, cooking and other responsibilities fairly and maintain a space that they take pride in, I see that as a green flag. Even if you are a man, it’s still not particularly safe to live alone so I wouldn’t fault anyone for not being comfortable living alone. I also come from an area that’s very expensive to live in and there’s random parts of town … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 05:37 AM |
| 85 | From pickme to picky: This sub has made me fall in love with being single!I want From PickMe to Picky to be a flair sooo bad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 12:26 AM |
| 5 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?I like yours! My very favorite thing you wrote is don’t list your standards on your profile because it will attract the attention of bitter men who do not meet them. Couldn’t be truer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:35 AM |
| 41 | Pressure to take hormonal birth controlWish we would talk about the unfair burden of contraception on women more often!!!!! I take the Pill and I use condoms. Correctly Every time. From start to finish. When I am married and finished having children, my husband can decide to have a vasectomy if he would like regular, unprotected sex. Until then….it’s simply not an option 🤷♀️ I take the Pill for me. I’m aware it comes with risks, and I grew so sick of waking up every day, looking in the mirror and seeing a face full of acne that I am… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:30 AM |
| 2 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?Thank you! I try to write them when I have enough thoughts on an issue :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:15 AM |
| 11 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?You’re welcome 😊 I have had success with this method! I was not having any luck with online dating, so I sat down and thought about who exactly I was swiping right and left on and why. I ended up swiping right on a man I wouldn’t have normally swiped on. He was handsome, had a Master’s, a good career… but his profile showed pictures of him in several other counties and it was clear that that he was well traveled. I’m not worldly at all. Before I became more mindful and deliberate with my swiping… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:04 AM |
| 3 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?I have it on my profile too :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 01:57 AM |
| 14 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktardCame here to laugh at the idea of men thinking they’re doing something by withholding sex. I saw you did it first, but hahahahahahahahahahahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:43 AM |
| 4 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?I wrote an article on this subject and posted it here a few months ago :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:40 AM |
| 198 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptMore than one pillow and it isn’t yellow hahahahahahahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:19 PM |
| 63 | Help I’ve Become Absurdly Hot Since I Got Married and Now I Want to Dump The Only Woman Who Ever Wanted to Fuck Me So I Can Become The Porn Star Of My DreamsThe way you typed out the tragic backstory has me wheezing 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:59 PM |
| 33 | Where is the lie, tho?That cat looks like it’s seen some things | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:52 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about video games?I did it 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 14 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮Depends on the game! Games like Animal Crossing and PokemonGo have really friendly communities. Games that are destructive or violent often have the most toxic and gross cultures. And sadly they are the most popular for guys :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:55 PM |
| 41 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮It makes me sad that you got exposed to that ugly, dark culture as a young girl :/ Blegh, I’m sorry that happened. But I really like how you put it… they don’t have room in their hearts for a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:52 PM |
| 18 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮If you see two monitors (and his job didn’t give them to him- my boyfriend doesn’t play computer games but his job send him two screens to work more efficiently)…..RUN!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:51 PM |
| 21 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮Thank you! I feel way too hypocritical saying all guys who game are trash… knowing I’ve got a night stand full of video games 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:47 PM |
| 11 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮If you’re a well-rounded person (like your sister) it’s fine to have it be one of your many hobbies. She sounds a lot like me except replace cooking with sewing. Me and my boyfriend have a running joke that women don’t belong in the kitchen because every time I try to cook it’s a disaster so he handles all our cooking 🥘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:46 PM |
| 15 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮I definitely follow the handbook. I didn’t say “gamer”. I said person who plays video games. A gamer is someone who’s favorite thing in life is gaming. They base their identity on the games they play and they spends an excessive amount of time and money on games. They are couch creatures that we don’t want. I am a person who plays video games…but I wouldn’t call myself a gamer. I also don’t consider myself to be low value. It’s not like as soon as you purchase a console, you become a “gamer.” Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:42 PM |
| 42 | How do you feel about video games?It’s situational for me. I personally really enjoy games. For the last 15 years, I’ve always owned at least one handheld console (gameboy color, advance,DS, 3DS, PSP, gameboy micro, etc) and these days I just play the switch and the micro. I’ve had 2 partners (one past and one current) I consider to be good men. Both were not gamers at all and started playing a little after meeting me. I got my previous boyfriend really into PokémonGo. I’m a max level player and it was fun to exercise together, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 04:37 PM |
| 36 | YA’LL I AM SO PISSED I just listened to the podcast on “communication” and found this post. The literal first comment has me steaming mad.If you start reading after the if not: then it’s actually a good comment 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 05:02 PM |
| 49 | LVM coworkers ranted(?) to me and I'm sad for the women in their livesThe most useful thing I learned in graduate school (I studied to be a therapist) was the chapter about boundaries. More specifically, the section about how to cut people off when they are talking. I don’t practice anymore because it was taking a huge emotional toll on me and hardly paying anything. Don’t feel even the slightest bit bad cutting these inappropriate conversations off. They are expecting you to do serious emotional labor for absolutely nothing in exchange; They are entirely in the w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 04:56 PM |
| 6 | Stop internalizing men’s cruelty/inability to treat you wellIt’ll pass. And he’ll prob suffer when you least expect it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 02:13 AM |
| 43 | I live next door to a scroteI feel your pain. I live next to Pick-Me who added a scrote to her lease. They get in the stupidest fights all the time. She kicks him out. He waits in the parking lot. She calls him screaming. He goes inside and listens. Then she services his peepee. They have loud sex. The fighting continues. He leaves. She calls him. It’s nonstop. We just paid $3,500 to break the lease because we can’t take it anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:18 PM |
| 16 | Stop internalizing men’s cruelty/inability to treat you wellI don’t care if my toxic exes are happy, sad, indifferent or with someone else now. Caring even a smidge gives them something of mine that they don’t deserve. With that being said, they probably aren’t happy 😋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:59 PM |
| 98 | Dude makes 6x more and refuses to adjust the 50/50 budgetI’m in the process of moving and I didn’t realize how expensive it is. The sturdy boxes, the tape guns and refills, the bubble wrap (is $20 a roll and it doesn’t last that long), cost of renting truck, paying people to help, taking days off work to pack and more. Making $12 an hour she’s have to save for WEEKS to be able to afford to even move out…. And that’s not even considering the rent she will need to pay at her next place!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:55 PM |
| 4 | He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡It’d be one thing if he still regular pictures with an ex (I know I do) but a sex tape?! That should be deleted. If he respects her, he would delete it on the off-chance his phone is ever hacked, gone through and because the relationship is over. If he does not respect her, he would keep it because he likes having that power over someone. If he does not respect you both, he’d keep it to jerk off too. If he has this on his phone, you already lost. It’s just a matter of how bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 08:44 PM |
| 14 | OLD in one picI feel this, I don’t go crazy for it either. I can’t ever come from it and it’s just kinda frustrating. I have totally omitted oral from my sex life (giving and receiving) and things have been much better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:00 PM |
| 17 | WOC, what modified/additional rules do you have to avoid men with race/culture fetishes?Number 9 has me thinking…. It seems like I have run into a lot of closeted men saying inappropriate things about Black women’s natural hair, wigs, weaves or extensions 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Here’s a small compilation of TikTok comments from women waiting for a ring- never settle your standards for a LVM.Agreed. To not give that safety to the mother of your children is massively disrespectful and a huge slap in the face. My man is lucky I allow him access to my poorly behaved cat with no ring… can’t imagine allowing my children to see a man who hasn’t given me a ring | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 07:33 PM |
| 15 | Starting to Regret Getting TattooedAnd the same goes for having any boobs at all, a scalp that is (or isn’t) capable of growing hair, and a pair of legs 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:14 PM |
| 17 | Starting to Regret Getting TattooedIf you like how your tattoos look then don’t have any regret because these men will sexualize anything and everything. You are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t🤷♀️ The other day I just had a man sexualize me for not having tattoos. He asked if I had them, I said no. He really liked that I didn’t have any and told me not to get any so that I would “stay pure” 🤢 In that moment, I wished I had even just a tiny tattoo. Remember that feeling like something is wrong with you when men act like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:08 PM |
| 975 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sSomeone else cooked the food and set out plates and silverware…. But he couldn’t get up and put that food on the plate provided? Am I understanding this correctly??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:59 PM |
| 76 | I’m so tired of hearing that women are “lucky” because we get free drinks at bars or get into nightclubs for free.Also, it’s not like you can take your free drink and walk away. Most guys feel entitled to your company as long as you are still drinking the drink they bought. (Or even for the rest of the night because they spent money on you) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:33 PM |
| 12 | TW: rape - OP doesn't KNOW WHAT TO DO and feels KINDA uncomfortable when her bf openly talks about her being his slave!! RUN!!!! THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!!!! I can't believe my eyes reading this post!!!What do I do?! Is there anything to do other than RUN!? There’s only one reasonable question for her to ask Reddit after he said that and it’s What shoes will give me the greatest speed advantage? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:01 PM |
| 49 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueCame here to say the same thing. If a man is treating you badly it’s more likely you’re the one who’s out of his league (not the other way around). LVM who date women who they see as “out of their league” will pull every and any trick they can to keep that woman down because they know once she realizes her worth, she’s outta there 💃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 03:56 PM |
| 17 | For The Lurkers And FDS Members Who Wonder Why Men Are Banned Here....If a man is genuinely supportive and kind, he’d understand that not every space is meant for him and he wouldn’t feel the need to share his opinions here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:06 PM |
| 34 | What in the pick me depths of hell?I always just thought she was botched.WhAt??? Why didn’t he just get some cats if he loved them? Why did he try to make his wife turn into a cat? Am I missing something???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 07:33 PM |
| 20 | Tired of getting ads for cheap engagement rings and society telling me I have to lower my standards for essentially costume jewelryIf those are the rings that are being handed out, I’d rather be single! These Pick Mes act like having a man is the ultimate prize and don’t see that no man is better than a crappy one. My boyfriend is passionate about horology and over the years has been building a beautiful watch collection. If he bought me a $200 Pandora ring (while owning watches that cost 10 or 15 times as much)…. That would be a massive red flag. Telling me I’m shallow for not accepting a $200 ring from him would be one of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:48 PM |
| 28 | The narcissistic LVM stare. Has anyone else noticed this while vetting in person?I have no patience for this stupid stare anymore. I just give them dirty looks right back. They started it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:38 PM |
| 313 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!Mhmmm this isn’t my first time watching the circus 🎪👀🍿 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:36 PM |
| 86 | Tired of getting ads for cheap engagement rings and society telling me I have to lower my standards for essentially costume jewelryI hate how when you express that you want a decent ring you’re accused of being this vapid, shallow person. I know when I get married and we’re starting our lives together there’s going to be a lot of important things we need to spend money on. I’m 27 with no wedding in sight (just not ready) but by the time I get married I’d like to start trying for a baby within a year or two and that’s expensive. But if a man has a good job, spending 2 months salary or maybe even a little less (like around $1… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:35 PM |
| 844 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!Doubt he deactivated. He probably blocked her, her best friends and swapped his username 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:24 PM |
| 23 | Old as dirt scrote tries to hit on much younger (and richer) woman at gym. She acts like a Queen 👑I watched this like 3 times I love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:43 PM |
| 166 | The “Menstrual Cycle of Abuse” 😂😂😂That’s heartbreaking… I am so sorry that happened to you. Glad you’re rid of that trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:39 PM |
| 22 | FDS position on lube?I always use condoms (which are drying) but I’ve never even thought about lube until lately. I went on a birth control because I was getting horrible acne around the time of my period each month, but it’s made it a lot harder to get wet. I care way more about my skin than I care about sex (even though the relationship I’m in is great… sex lasts a few minutes my face is always there lol). Foreplay is not even enjoyable to me anymore because I’m so stressed I won’t get physically turned on enough … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:01 AM |
| 272 | I feel like more of our message is getting out there!!The kinda family where they all borrow each other’s giant shoes and all 10 of them fit inside a tiny car 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 06:45 AM |
| 64 | A TERRORIST murdered five people in the UK. Women should learn a lesson. (Context in comments)This post is really saying to women If one of y’all would have volunteered as tribune and serviced this man’s peepee… this could have been prevented. Shame on you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 10 | Even my mom who’s never heard of FDS is 100% FDSYep yep yep same here absolutely. Example: My first boyfriend bought us Joe Rogan tickets and took me out to dinner for our anniversary. I thought I was doing things right because he made a reservation and paid for it all…. But it was a Pick-Me thing of me to just sit there, pretend to laugh at Joe’s dumb ass and act like I wasn’t offended by his opinions. These days I wouldn’t sit though it, I would simply walk out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:09 AM |
| 392 | A TERRORIST murdered five people in the UK. Women should learn a lesson. (Context in comments)If he would have had a girlfriend he would have hurt her too. This is such BS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 11:15 PM |
| 44 | Even my mom who’s never heard of FDS is 100% FDSMy mom is like this too! My dad was trash and she was having none of it. She remarried 20 years ago to a man who treats her like an absolute queen and we all adore him so much. When I came across FDS none of it seemed radical to me at all cause it was what my mom had been telling me all along. How lucky are we! 🍀❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:18 PM |
| 7 | This card at the store made me think of y’all…Sorry to retrumatize you 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:23 PM |
| 28 | This card at the store made me think of y’all…Uh, wrong! An OnlyFans girl was giving away free butthole gummies and a ton of guys were enthusiastic about getting picked!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:57 PM |
| 11 | This card at the store made me think of y’all…Lmaoooo 😂& Birthday. Inside it said something about all the stars competing for your wishes to come true. (Which is cute and makes me feel a lil bad that I exploited the card here haha) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:55 PM |
| 136 | This card at the store made me think of y’all…Wedding venue is the backyard with the grass you cut yourself lmaoooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:10 AM |
| 34 | This card at the store made me think of y’all…💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:34 PM |
| 1 | New moms get less sleep and it's linked to aging... what do you think? They only studied women, but where are the dads helping out?I genuinely want to know how women deal with these unhelpful and ungrateful men without losing it? I’m moody enough as it is without the hormonal roller coaster that is pregnancy/postpartum. Whoever I marry better wake up and help me or I will literally smash a shit filled diaper in their face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Today's 👀 moment (can you spot the 🚩?)Doubtful. Last I heard from him, he was posting on Instagram around Valentine’s Day to warn other “kings” that pussy is not a present and that he expects lavish Valentine’s Day gifts from whoever he’s dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Reminder:Faith has helped me with this concept a lot. God didn’t send me to the Earth to heal people and love them regardless of their sins, that’s Jesus’s job 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:09 PM |
| 2 | When men talk about "the wall", they are inadvertently admitting that women are oppressed.If women hit The Wall at 30, then why are mature, MILF and stepmom some of the most popular searched porn categories year after year? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Pay attention to signs of mother-son enmeshmentI got through a few episodes but it was sickening and I stopped 🤢 I’m back to my murder documentaries now lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:02 PM |
| 1 | What's the most insane thing you've heard from a pickme friend?Good for them then. They saved those other girls from losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:58 PM |
| 6 | Today's 👀 moment (can you spot the 🚩?)So true. I went on a date with a guy who described himself as “not fit but average”and the restaurant he had chosen was closed. I suggested we walk to another one a few blocks away and he literally looked like a soldier who had been marching hundreds of miles in the war…. his Apple Watch even went off let him know he broke a physical activity record ☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:57 PM |
| 9 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.The fact that he dug in the trash for a mystery object and unwrapped it shows me he’s not actually worried about touching something unsanitary in the trash. He just wanted to embarrass and control her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:47 PM |
| 5 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…I needed to read this today… I was at the shelter because I wanted to learn about the foster program for cats and those dogs all looked so freaking sad :( I’m glad you could make one happy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 09:14 PM |
| 7 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…For real hahah her boundaries are set in stone… You violate them, and you will be bitten | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 09:05 PM |
| 4 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…I really wish my girl would cuddle- I’m begging for scraps of serotonin out here. She doesn’t bother my boyfriend one bit…. I think she sees him as our roommate hahah. She’ll wake me up throughout the night and bites me 20 times a day. But she never bites him and if I’m gone she sleeps though the night like a little angel. Guess that’s how she shows her love 😵💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 58 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…Hahahahaha of course! Money doesn’t matter as long as the ~ lOvE ~ is there 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:03 AM |
| 22 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…Thank you 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:45 AM |
| 14 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…Thank you ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:45 AM |
| 75 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…Yesss she has so much sass and unapologetic female energy. I love the vibes she brings to my home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:45 AM |
| 57 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesIf a guy proposes a low effort date, do not give him the opportunity to propose a better date!!!! He already has shown you his true colors. He has already demonstrated he is comfortable giving you the minimum… Your minimum just so happens to be better than a coffee date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:42 AM |
| 36 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesUGH this one is the absolute worst. Walking your dog is an errand. These guys tend to be the kind who dote over the dog and don’t give a shit about you. Like, they’ll pay a $500 vet bill without batting an eye but won’t pick up tampons or aspirin from the store for you. What’s less romantic about watching a guy pick up poop in a plastic bag? (Well, I supposed leaving it behind for the next person, but still…..) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:38 AM |
| 358 | Single fathers will date women for free child care. Don’t let a man dictate which car you buy because they don’t want their child in it. This woman needs to 🏃♀️If it was a single mom… “You deserve whatever car you want King” 🤴🤴🤴 “It’s your money dude” 🥴🥴🥴 “Break up with her she’s psycho” 😵💫😵💫😵💫 “Who cares it’s not your kid”😠😠😠 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:36 AM |
| 93 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.Save your tears boo, this is probably a loser fantasy that never happened 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:39 AM |
| 164 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.Those two disorders cannot be diagnosed simultaneously. Insurance won’t allow it. It’s absolutely possible for a patient to be starving themselves and also bingeing and purging… but you’d just call that an eating disorder. Probably EDNOS (Eating disorder not otherwise specified). If you wanted to stick with the anorexia or bulimia diagnosis, you would chose whatever one is causing the client greater damage to their body and mind and use that as the diagnostic label. From working with individuals… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:37 AM |
| 67 | Honest question: have you ever met a man who has fully examined his relationship to patriarchy?I’m also a White woman, and I’ve spent a lot of time thinking and learning about privilege. (The main reason I picked my graduate program was because it was known for its cultural competency. We really had to dive deep into how we benefit from our race… And it’s the kind of thing you can always keep swimming in because the ways are infinite.) Privilege does not exist inside of a vacuum. As a woman who lives in the Patriarchy, I am not just a woman. I’m also able-bodied, not overweight, young, so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:01 PM |
| 12 | You can learn a lot about a guy via his social media profileWow… you summed up my dislike for him beautifully. I always fumble a bit with words when asked to describe why I do not like him. Thanks, I’m actually gonna quote this now. He’s into debating sensitive issues and pretends it’s a sin when people get emotional about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:12 PM |
| 24 | You can learn a lot about a guy via his social media profileI’m just thinking about the time my first boyfriend got us tickets to see Joe Rogan for our two year anniversary……. 🤡 🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 21 | You can learn a lot about a guy via his social media profileLast point is very, very good and not talked about enough. We talk a lot about the mama’s boys and the men that are terrible towards their families…. but family closeness is a spectrum. There’s a lot in between those two that are healthy and normal. There’s nothing inherently wrong about wanting to be closer to family and see them on a regular basis or wanting to have more distance from them. I have social media and my family leaves cutesy comments. We are close and we enjoy game nights with win… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 2 | When Asks her husband to go Shopping, this is what requires *facepalm*A dog could do this with the pictures alone and not even need a map 🐕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Women are crazy because they’re people?This was straight garbage. My only thought after reading is it sure would be nice to have a pancake right now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:11 PM |
| 8 | Red flag I recently picked up and wanted to shareExpectations are the cornerstone of any adult relationship. In a good one, your expectation is that they will keep doing what they’re doing. Even if you’re a PickMe, you probably have expectations that he’ll change. It’s only safe to have no expectations from your children because you truly don’t know who you’ll get when you decide to have a child. You decide to have a child for the sake of having a child. Children need your protection and they learn from the things they do to you that are “bad”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 07:45 PM |
| 21 | This is terrible advice and will just come off as a manipulation tactic. Just block and delete.She’s not a PickMe…. She’s a SelectMe 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:06 PM |
| 25 | Scrote sexually fantasizes about maid of honor DURING HIS OWN WEDDINGI spit my drink out at “king. go tell her!” 💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:01 PM |
| 24 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsI’m a very attractive woman who gets approached by men nonstop. I’m also very much in love with a man who’s only a smidge taller than me. He exercises, eats well, has perfect teeth, nicely styled hair, always smells amazing, and takes pride in his carefully curated wardrobe and interesting watch collection. He also acts right. Plans and pays for thoughtful dates, didn’t even think about asking me for sex before he was my boyfriend, and a year later still always opens the car door for me even if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:33 PM |
| 2 | No, an abuser does not "lose control." He is perfectly in control of his faculties when he is abusing women. He knows exactly what he's doing. The first time an incident like this happens, walk away, block and delete, and never look back.Feeling literal rage and having it overflow to where I needed a physical outlet for it used to be a problem for me. It’s an awful feeling when the anger is rapidly growing inside you… it has to leave your body somehow or you feel like all your teeth with crumble if you clench your jaw any tighter. It feels like it’s tearing through you on its way out. (I’ve never hurt a living being; I’ve only broken things) When you genuinely lose it, your own stuff gets destroyed too, and sometimes even your f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:36 PM |
| 61 | Scrote Translation: I’m going to wait for other men to work and erode your standards first, then swoop in and take advantage of you ;)If you hate romance so much and just want to split bills and leave each other alone…. then just live with one of your guys? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:31 PM |
| 8 | I can’t evenThese are the same moms who think that any woman who allows their son to make his own dinner or do his own laundry is abusing him 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:19 AM |
| 39 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?HAHAHAHAHAHA. My boyfriend’s sister and her wife used a sperm donor. They looked at several before making their selection. All of men they’d considered were all under 30 years old, above 6 feet tall, had Ivy League degrees, and no history of alcoholism, substance abuse or mental health issues in their family. All. The. Donors. That was their bare minimum. They also started looking into things like artistic ability, volunteer work, personality traits. These men are straight up delusional thinking… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:25 PM |
| 9 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationThank you, true! Saving a huge portion of my income is definitely the maximum benefit scenario for me because even if the relationship goes south, he’ll be stuck footing the bill because on paper he makes more than quadruple I make 💸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:06 AM |
| 48 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationYes definitely :) Because it’s a mostly cash job, he has no much idea how much I’m making or saving. I get 4-5 days there a week but since I bartend and waitress there I can pick up any shift. Management prefers you to get the “best available option” when you are getting someone to cover a shift (have never called out in my nearly 5 years of being there, clean meticulously, follow all the rules and am able to deal with even our worst customers gracefully) so whenever another day opens I’m usuall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:50 AM |
| 18 | The level of pick me that is expected of you of you if you're a black womanI hate how Black women are expected to be Barb the Builders for Black men…. Yet it’s expected that the men they built move on to women of other races once they’re established 🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:19 AM |
| 33 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationI was bit a few years ago and now I’m done interacting with dogs. I wasn’t even petting it or looking at it. It came out of the shadows and bit me as hard as it could for no reason. I didn’t even know they had a dog until I was in horrible pain and looked down at it biting my leg. I didn’t really like them much before… but that really confirmed the dislike for me. But even if I were to get over my feelings about dogs, I still can’t live with one because my very small, rude cat would start a figh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:13 AM |
| 100 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationEven with a Master’s degree and working full time… I can’t afford to live in even the crappiest studio in my state. I have no problem living at home, but my family is moving hours away and I don’t want to uproot myself and go. I never saw myself living with a man before marriage, but I am out of options. I have no female friends I could live with. There’s a significant issue that would make it impossible for me (smoking indoors, has random loser men over, owns a dog, (everyone judges me so hard … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:24 PM |
| 30 | I’m so sick of hearing “don’t undermine your value” in terms of having sex. Stop talking about “value” and “worth” when it comes to women and sex. This isn’t a market.This hymen thing is so dumb. I can remember when mine broke. I was a middle schooler, at the gymnastics gym. I didn’t “lose” anything, but I did I gain quite a few good things that day. I gained more knowledge about my body. I gained the ability to use a tampon comfortably. I gained the chance to never miss out on swimming because of my period. It was definitely uncomfortable when it broke, but I gained the ability to (a decade later) have sex for the first time without discomfort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:16 PM |
| 126 | im so sick of men saying they're viewed as "success objects" and comparing it to how women are viewed as sex objects.The man on the cover of Forbes can get richer and richer, thus getting more powerful. There’s no limit to his success. People admire him out in the open. To keep the success coming, all he needs to do is keep working. Forbes might even put him on the cover again in 10 years. The woman on the cover of Playboy will age, as all humans do, thus getting less desirable in the eyes of men. People “admire” her in the privacy of their bedrooms. There is a time limit to her “success” and she knows it. To … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:04 PM |
| 4 | This is what 50/50 should meanThank you ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:30 PM |
| 11 | "WoMeN WeRe hAPpY JuSt In ThE 1950's WhEn ThEy WeRe MoThErS AnD WiVeS"One of my great grandmothers passed away when I was about 15 (my great grandfather died very shortly before) and they were so very happy together. Before she met my great grandfather, she was dirt poor and working long hours in a sewing factory. My great grandfather started his own trucking buisness moving tar and oil, was very successful and acquired lots of farm land. She went from not being able to afford to eat three meals a day to being part of one of the first groups of women to join Weigh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 01:39 PM |
| 31 | Women that join men to bitch about or laugh at other women, are bottom barrel.A dumb weirdo lol. I think because he frequently saw me at the gym where I don’t wear make up, he assumed frequently seeing me with no make up means I don’t wear it 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 07:16 AM |
| 156 | No she did not! 🤣 Bow down to the Queen!I felt like The Grinch. It was exhilarating 💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:57 AM |
| 84 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾Good for you! 👑 If he’s gonna chug drinks and burp in front of you like an animal and not even take you on a real date…. Why would he possibly deserve an explanation for not being contacted again? He knows better, you don’t need to tell him. He doesn’t deserve another second of your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:09 AM |
| 46 | Women that join men to bitch about or laugh at other women, are bottom barrel.🥺🥺🥺 That is so sweet. Literally nothing in the world compares to a mother’s love. (Guess what’s why so many men desperately search for women who will be their replacement mommies lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:02 AM |
| 37 | This is what 50/50 should meanThat’s how it goes down in our house… but jokes aside, it feels fair! (1) The cooking thing is pretty unique to us. He cooks all the meals because I accidentally made a pizza with lemon Pledge dusting spray instead of Pam cooking spray 😵💫 It tasted off, but I was starving so I ate it only to realize what I had done after it was gone. Thank God I was fine. In terms of worrying him… it was the absolute worst thing I could have done because he had anxiety about chemicals and food safety prior to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:50 AM |
| 4 | This poor pregnant woman’s LV BF broke it off with her because she wanted a NURSERY for their baby instead of his RAP STUDIO!!! She then asks if SHE was selfish! At least people are saying she’s better off without him.Imagine someone going through pregnancy to bring your child into the world, and you suggest that baby lives in the closet. Is he in the closet too?? He seems like he hates women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:24 AM |
| 122 | This is what 50/50 should meanHe buys our food and cooks our meals… I rinse the dishes off. He pays our rent and utilities… I pay the $25 cat rent. I tie the trash bag up….he pulls it out, walks it to the dumpster and puts a new bag in. 50/50 ☺️😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:20 AM |
| 109 | Women that join men to bitch about or laugh at other women, are bottom barrel.Some guy at the gym told me he liked how I didn’t wear make up, thinking I’d enjoy the “compliment”…… I’m really into skin care, so I wash it off before the gym or hit the gym before I do my makeup. But, I fucking love make up. I’m on a first name basis with the manager of my favorite make up store and she actually texts my phone directly when they have a sale (it’s a small business lol). I would never go to work without full face make up. The place I serve at requires full face make up (employe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:11 AM |
| 37 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.If a man “hates modern dating culture” it better be because he keeps planning exquisite first dates and running into Pick-me’s who don’t appreciate the efforts. Unless you wanna complain about how your date didn’t show up to the table you reserved at the winery and you had to drink your ice wine all alone, I don’t wanna hear it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:03 AM |
| 35 | Books where the woman is applauded for her growth in accepting a LVM make me SO angryLVM somehow have their own propaganda everywhere you look. The Now that I’ve *settled** I can finally be happy! If you lower your standards like I did, you too can be this happy!* is so played out and stupid. We deserve way better and I’m surprised this trash is still considered entertainment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Obviously this isn’t the right place for this, but it kinda does relate to dating so hope the mods will let it stay up.It’s very depressing that that’s the kind of sex education I got at the graduate level. Yuck yuck yuck 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 01:56 AM |
| 1 | The sort of fantasies you CHOOSE to develop say alot about you.You’re welcome ☺️ & thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:24 PM |
| 3 | Journalists are a special kind of vulturesIf anything about her was exposed shed lose her mind. She was one of the most hypocritical people I’ve ever met. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:23 PM |
| 3 | Obviously this isn’t the right place for this, but it kinda does relate to dating so hope the mods will let it stay up.That’s how I feel about it, to be honest. I hate to say it, but a lot of clinicians who specialize in sex are… kinda weird. People who specialize in attachment, trauma, EMDR, neurofeedback, family therapy and other related fields are more likely to be helpful overall. Human sexuality was a joke of a course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:22 PM |
| 5 | Obviously this isn’t the right place for this, but it kinda does relate to dating so hope the mods will let it stay up.It’s definitely something a licensed therapist could help you work though. (You don’t need a sex therapist, specifically. Just a therapist who is able to work with trauma and sex related issues. You should see that on their website. Or you can call and ask what issues they’re predominantly working with. Honestly I don’t even know any sex therapists. I live in a state that didn’t require sex therapy courses or education towards my licensure. My grad program didn’t offer it- just “human sexuality”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:25 PM |
| 8 | The sort of fantasies you CHOOSE to develop say alot about you.It’s taken me a while to come to terms with, but I think I am genuinely asexual. I love romance, but I just mean like flowers and dinners and quality time together. Even though I’m dating a man who’s very handsome (with hygiene that’s actually better than mine… he can’t leave the house if he doesn’t floss in the am and can’t sleep if he doesn’t do it at night lolol), smart, generous and kind (we live together and he pays all the rent and bills so I can build my savings. I just buy my clothes, ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:53 PM |
| 12 | The sort of fantasies you CHOOSE to develop say alot about you.When you put it that way, it makes a lot of sense to me. I’m probably not any saner than anyone, but I’ve always rejected roles that come with power that feels inappropriate. I’ll only accept a position of power over someone if it’s to nurture, guide and work alongside with. I used to work with children and they’d always make positive remarks about how I didn’t “treat them like kids” and my coworkers would say that as well but I never quite grasped what I was doing to make them feel that way 🤷♀… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:30 PM |
| 23 | The sort of fantasies you CHOOSE to develop say alot about you.Wholeheartedly agree with this. Even if you remove the sexual aspect of it, what you consume and chose to engage with develops your fantasies. I’m always looking at cats available for adoption and apartments for rent. You wanna know what my last dream I remember having was? I moved into a new apartment and it was beautiful. I hear a meoooow and turn around but it’s not my cat. It’s a big, beautiful torbie boy and my tiny calico girl runs off to play with him (I often worry she is lonely). My pho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:14 PM |
| 10 | The sort of fantasies you CHOOSE to develop say alot about you.This prompted a mini-existential crisis for me… am I an empty container because I’m asexual? 😵💫 lolol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:07 PM |
| 21 | Journalists are a special kind of vulturesMe either. It’s creepy and weird. She was literally like if you do something that puts you in the public eye, you don’t have the right to hide! the people have the right to see! this is aMeRiiCAh and a complete libfem. She was the worst, most controlling friend I’ve ever had and I deeply regret not standing up for myself at the time and not ending the friendship myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:43 PM |
| 52 | Journalists are a special kind of vulturesAgree with you. My college roommate was a journalist and she thought that the general public had the right to know absolutely everything about everyone. No respect for the privacy of victims, family members who were in no way involved, or anyone. Unsurprisingly, she was a huge Pick-Me and has had the same boyfriend for 10+ years now….. no ring in sight! 😵💫🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:37 PM |
| 39 | Male fragility means that a picture of a small sausage in a South Korean ad makes men there feel bad about the size of their genitals. So the answer is getting back at feminists by playing cancel culture towards the supposed companies they work for. (You can't make this shit up!)Can’t access the article :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:54 AM |
| 17 | Obviously this isn’t the right place for this, but it kinda does relate to dating so hope the mods will let it stay up.I’ll add this (even though these girls were rude to me and literally bullied me in grad school). Even though these clinicians would give unreliable guidance when it comes to sex and dating, they were often otherwise helpful. (Good at helping people overcome grief, cope with depression, manage anxiety, etc). If you feel this therapist has been very helpful to you up until this point and you’ve developed a lot of rapport, you may not need to drop her if you don’t want to. It’s ok to leave a piece … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:04 AM |
| 67 | Obviously this isn’t the right place for this, but it kinda does relate to dating so hope the mods will let it stay up.I’m licensed as a therapist and even if I thought a client had impossibly high standards for a partner, I would never suggest they lower them. Our goal would be for them to build themselves up enough to the point where they’d be good (and hopefully great!) if that person never came along. (My graduate program had a lot of Pick-me loser girls in it so I’m not surprised you wound up with a Pick-me clinician.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:53 AM |
| 18 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatWe make $4 an hour. It just went up (it used to be $3). BUT, I’ve never seen that $4 an hour. Every two weeks I get a blank check because Social security, Medicaid, state taxes, income tax, etc get taken out of it. So the majority of servers in the US are entirely depending on your tips. I imagine she and her boyfriend know but just don’t care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:34 AM |
| 77 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatAt my restaurant, we get written up if your table walks out. One write-up = a reduction in how many shifts you’re given each week. This could continue indefinitely. Sadly, many of my coworkers have chosen to use their own money to cover the cost of a walk-outs because they don’t want to tell management, get written up and be given less days. I’m approaching 5 years at this restaurant and no one has ever successfully walked out on me. I’ve chased people through the parking lot, I’ve stood in fron… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:05 AM |
| 34 | Vetting Strategy: What is He Saying About Simone Biles?I work as a waitress and a few days ago I served a man with Autism who is really into the Olympics. He asked if I knew who Simone Biles is and mentioned he’s a fan. We started talking about how even though the Olympics were great, there was a lot of stress that comes along with it. He said he is sad that people don’t follow rules (by people he was referring to the doctor that assaulted the gymnasts). He said ”that’s why you keep your hands to yourself! unless it’s your girlfriend or your wife an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:22 PM |
| 81 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatAgree haha her videos have the same energy as the selfies you take when you don’t like how your hair cut/color came out and you’re trying to convince yourself it’s cute | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:34 PM |
| 29 | I'm a blunt woman. If a man asks me out anywhere I say "Sure! But I'm not paying!"There’s only 3 that I can think of. One of those 3 was high value, but definitely needed more time to move forward in life (even though he was drowning in student debt, he’d never let me pay for a date. He unexpectedly lost his dad and ended up being responsible for staying with his grandmother). One (who I’m not counting) seemed high value for 3 years. Waited a little over a year for sex without complaining. Paid for everything. Planned thoughtful dates and trips. Loyal. Family values. But he e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:24 AM |
| 38 | Article: Has The Sex Positivity Movement Peaked?I pray you are right and that it’s never any more popular than it is now. It’s a refreshing to even here women critiquing it because it used to be taboo to speak out against it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:12 AM |
| 22 | I'm a blunt woman. If a man asks me out anywhere I say "Sure! But I'm not paying!"It was over the span of years (from 19-26). It was rough, but I did it because the reality of online dating is you need to go on a lot of dates if you want to have even semi-decent odds of finding a HVM. Not only that, but he has to be a HVM that you want to get to know (and who wants to get to know you) and you have to make a good impression on one another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:07 AM |
| 108 | Why we don't date downNo point in dating down. They won’t be thankful, just bitter. They’ll be forever insecure and spend their life trying to drag you down to their level so that you aren’t dating down anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:15 AM |
| 109 | Article: Has The Sex Positivity Movement Peaked?I don’t like the word “peaked” because it implies that it was a good thing at some point. Nonetheless, I’m happy to see this. I’m all for kink shaming. If you can’t orgasm (or if your orgasm is not as good) without choking someone, thinking of school girls or seeing your partner in pain… then you should be ashamed and you need help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 01:13 AM |
| 23 | I'm a blunt woman. If a man asks me out anywhere I say "Sure! But I'm not paying!"Yes, I’ve always done this too! I think it’s really helpful and weeds out a lot. I’ve only ever slept with serious boyfriends (who I’ve dragged through the dirt before they were given the privilege of sex with me lolol). Unfortunately, for a select few stupid men this goes in one ear and out the other!! They think they’re sPeCiAl and will get sexual contact even though they were explicitly told they were not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:11 AM |
| 125 | I'm a blunt woman. If a man asks me out anywhere I say "Sure! But I'm not paying!"Mostly agree with this. I’ve been on at least 100 first dates. I’ve never been suckered into paying for a man’s meal. However, there have been times (less than 5) where I insisted on paying my own way because I was worried for my safety (some of these men are so bitter and angry and it feels like they’ll attack if they pay for some damn chicken tenders without getting a blow job in return). If the situation has bad vibes and you feel he may lash out because he’s “owed something” it’s worth it to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 11:56 PM |
| 6 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..He also follows all kinds of sexy Instagram girls and likes their pictures… even though she’s told him it makes her uncomfortable and that it’s embarrassing because mutual friends can see his likes. There’s nothing I can do about it and I absolutely hate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 11:27 PM |
| 6 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..These men are so undeserving of children it actually makes my blood boil | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 11:22 PM |
| 12 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaIt’s such a common trap to fall into because we all want to bond and make connections. Good thing you realized to avoid it now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:36 PM |
| 13 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..Yep. And they’ll probably never put flowers on that grave or visit it. They don’t care at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:35 PM |
| 19 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..1000000%. The prize for a pie eating contest is more pie. If you let people walk on you…. All you get is flatter and smaller and it’s easier for more people to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:34 PM |
| 23 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..It also makes me so sad because we aren’t just waitresses at like AppleBee’s… we work at Hooters. And even though she’s a married adult who has been trying for this child… people are still completely rude about the situation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:32 PM |
| 23 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..Women don’t ever say I’m mean to them. Children always tell me how I’m so nice and how they love playing with me and (and we know they don’t lie). The only people who think I’m mean are people who want to bulldoze through my healthy boundaries (and people who let others smash their theirs). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:29 PM |
| 28 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaI like that strategy because the unfortunate reality is that if you go on dates with a couple people who are in your clubs/hobby circle….they’ll likely start talking about it (and maybe even making up stories) 🙄 If HVM see you went out with a couple LVM they may not make the decision to get to know you. (Not that a HVM would hold this against you if he found out after he had already went out with you or started developing an interest in you. But like, if all he knows about you is your name, you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 02:49 AM |
| 144 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..Do it. Be more open about you feel. I am, and I just got called mean today (for the 265195973th time). I was talking to my heavily pregnant co-worker (we are waitresses). She can’t bend over to scoop the ice, can’t lift the bus tubs, the smells of the food are making her sick. And today she told me she feels bad because when she takes maternity leave her husband will have to support her?? I went off about why she should not feel bad at all. I said he should feel bad, because he asked her to carr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 12:54 AM |
| 197 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaMen who push you to overshare (or who are overly interested in you oversharing) should be kicked to the curb immediately. These men love to try to convince you they are “deep” and they complain about “small talk” like they’re above it. But there’s nothing wrong with small talk and safe topics when you’re just getting to know someone. If finding out my favorite animals, colors and food bores you, but finding out my insecurities, regrets and fears interests you… then what does that say about you? … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 12:43 AM |
| 37 | You shouldn’t be cultivating a HVMI understand the desire because I love to nurture things too, but there are so many better ways to express that need to nurture. There’s all kinds of kids out there who need mentors. There’s all kinds of animals out there who need temporary care or forever homes. There’s litter all over the place (the earth is alive and needs to be nurtured by us). Out of all the things in this beautiful world you could nurture, why waste it on a grown man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 12:32 AM |
| 46 | Why it always seemed like that one mean friend always gets the best boyfriend…Thanks for all the recognition guys ☺️ I was lowkey so proud after I thought of that one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 12:24 AM |
| 108 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughThis is why I always took cash on dates. So if he tried this, I could give him the exact amount I ate in cash. And I’d directly hand the server my cash tip so he didn’t pocket it and put it towards his meal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:08 PM |
| 1286 | Why it always seemed like that one mean friend always gets the best boyfriend…Nice guys may finish last, but nice girls don’t finish at all lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 74 | Making excuses for men not approaching me (if he wanted to, he would).If you catch a guy looking at you (and he’s someone you’re interested in talking to) a little smile is more than enough of an invitation for him to open a conversation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:48 PM |
| 437 | You shouldn’t be cultivating a HVMThere’s 3 situations where you should be teaching a male how to be high-value: (1) you birthed him (2) you adopted him or (3) you acquired legal guardianship of him some other way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:41 PM |
| 30 | You ever get genuinely upset at the amount of effort guys put into themselves?It’s the bE hOnESt, iM uGlY aReNt I? for me. For once, I think you should do what the man says! Be honest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:07 AM |
| 6 | Date ideas that don't revolve around food but where he still pays something?Escape rooms are a totally underrated way to vet a man. I went to one with my boyfriend and I thought I had the brightest idea on how to get us out. I shared it with him and he cooperated (we started looking for letters in these little bottles, I was writing it out on the white board)…. But once it was all laid out my idea was clearly wrong. We ran out of time and had to be let out. He then explained the way it was actually supposed to go down. I asked him why did you let us go with my dumb idea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:02 PM |
| 20 | Big kids v Man childYou mean Instagram models don’t want to take pictures in the basement covered in Dorito crumbs??? The lighting coming from the X-box is even better than it is at golden hour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 10:48 PM |
| 23 | Raising high value sonsThis had a lot of good points, but one stood out most to me because I haven’t realized it before: We call men who know how to communicate in a clear and healthy way “laidback” and “easy going”. Because for them to do so isn’t the norm. Wow. Edit: Thinking about how people calling my stepdad “laidback” never felt quite right to me. He’s great, but laidback isn’t word I’d use to describe him. He’s always doing work… even when theres no work to be done (doing things like creating spreadsheets of wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 10:45 PM |
| 4 | Glorifying toxic codependent pick-me relationships under the disguise of "Twin Flames"Twin flaming piles of shit 😭😭😭 I’m gonna start using that one hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 07:26 PM |
| 47 | I learned quickly that if I have to chase you, I don’t want you anymore.There’s 2 categories of living beings I’m willing to chase after and play games with- children and cats. Only willing to do it because they genuinely love me, but don’t know better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:01 PM |
| 4 | I am dying, girls.I’d say these men are animals, but that’s not even accurate…. The semi-feral cat I adopted has never gotten a booger or bodily fluid in the bed and she’s literally a fucking wild animal with a brain that weighs less an an ounce! Please stop lowering the bar. I’m begging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 05:34 AM |
| 142 | Doctors are performing pelvic exams on anaesthetised women without consent. If you’re going into surgery you need to explicitly state you don’t want one. Stay safe out there.Any time you expose the cervix to a foreign object, your health is at risk because you could introduce new bacteria to a sensitive region of the body. Yes this is invasive and embarrassing, but it could also be increasing our risk for illnesses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:28 AM |
| 128 | Doctors are performing pelvic exams on anaesthetised women without consent. If you’re going into surgery you need to explicitly state you don’t want one. Stay safe out there.What a shame… we can’t even feel safe in places that are designed for the purpose of keeping us alive and safe. I’m so sorry that happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:25 AM |
| 72 | Glorifying toxic codependent pick-me relationships under the disguise of "Twin Flames"I want a guided meditation where we focus on water and we can ask the universe to put all these twin flames out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:22 AM |
| 4 | Enjoy 😂My cat was found outside, begging for food with her 4 kids. No father to be found. She was plump with a shiny coat, but her kittens were skinny and ungroomed. I need Lana to come mentor her hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itIt’s such a scam that we have so few options. My boyfriend and I use a condom correctly every time we have sex (without him complaining because if he even so much voiced the smallest complaint about using a condom I would dump him)… but still, as someone who wouldn’t be ok with having an abortion, I feel like I have to take the Pill. It sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:55 AM |
| 10 | Just a FDS appreciate post. Thank you mods for doing an amazing job creating a safe space for women on reddit. Every other female centric sub is crawling with losers playing whataboutisms like this guy here. Looked through his post history, he follows degrading holes, r*pe fantasies, and worst.When scrotes start this kind of nonsense, I like it to go the exact opposite way they intended. (They bash FDS, more women come here.) So I just wanna throw this PSA out there for that purpose…. If you like reproductive jewelry, you can also get breast milk jewelry! I just learned this the other day. You send them a little bit of your milk and they make it into a hard white stone. Usually they add little gold flakes or florals to the white stone and it’s super pretty. (You wouldn’t know it’s bre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:29 PM |
| 16 | 😕Mhmm. He definitely would have found an “emergency” bill or card in his phone case if it came down to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:05 PM |
| 123 | 😕Sad her birthday was ruined, but she didn’t need to pay his way. She should have spoken up and there should have been 2 bills. You don’t ever need to be “polite” and pay a scrote’s bill. He ate it, payment for it is his problem. (Side Note: I do take note of what the scrote ate and add 20% of his meal to my tip because I don’t trust them to tip. So if I see he had a $20 meal I’ll put an extra $5 on my tip line) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:42 AM |
| 5 | Character over ChemistryAgree with this. I’m open to giving character a chance to develop chemistry as well. Sometimes sparks don’t fly in the beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:36 AM |
| 132 | I loathe to sound vulgar but #toomanymen see dating apps as free prostitution websites…without any of the stigma of seeking out a prostitute. 🤭 Thank you FDS for helping me delete the dating app I was trying.If you chose to online date, you need to be ferociously selective. Men who really want to get to know you will be few and far between. They will respond with thought out replies, won’t make sexual comments and within the first week of talking they will propose a well planned date. They know they’re up against many other men and they know they need to impress you to stand out and be taken seriously by you. Understand there are very few men who really went to get to know you. Of those few men, the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:16 PM |
| 188 | It’s amazing when they out themselves, men really are self-aware wolvesHe wants someone who has more confidence in him than they have in themselves... Toxic & gross 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:11 PM |
| 93 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.I think a lot of older men know better. They know dating is a chance to get to know a woman.…. but they play stupid because it benefits them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 07:03 PM |
| 68 | I feel like a lot of outsiders say we do not care about Mental health.The reality is that no one with an untreated mental illness (that they aren’t working on) should be seeking out people to date. On this sub we tell each other to abstain from dating until our mental health is in a good place far more than we talk about avoiding men with mental health issues! I’ve never heard someone say a man can’t be high value if he is living with a mental illness. I comment about my boyfriend here a bit, and he’s a HVM with mental illness. He struggles with OCD (Very severe O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 06:17 PM |
| 295 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.The purpose of dating has been twisted by men who want to get everything and give nothing in return. The actual concept of dating (to go out together, as a little trial run as a couple, to see if you work) isn’t understood by most young men these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 05:33 PM |
| 169 | I am so glad I didn't get marriedYou’ll make it through this, November will come and go before you know it. It’s never too late, but I’m happy for you that you realized how much better you deserve before you ended up marrying him and before investing even more of your time in him. Anyone who is okay with their girlfriend working full-time and over-time while they only work part-time is a pathetic partner. 50/50 is trash. That is NOT good enough. It seems like you were doing 80/20! That sounds like Hell. Get excited! Now that yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:36 PM |
| 64 | They really don't see a difference between rape and infidelityHe was definitely turned on by it. There’s no way he loved or cared about her. I’m thinking of the people I love and care about (my mom, my dad, my sisters, my friends, my grandparents, etc.) and God forbid but if something happened to them…. I wouldn’t want to hear the details! Id just want to know they’re okay and how I could help. If they wanted to talk to me about that, I’d put my feelings aside and listen to them so they were supported and heard. Still, it would be hard for me. No one wants… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:27 PM |
| 14 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.This dude just wanted to let the internet know he’s 6’2 and 240lbs. He doesn’t feel sad for anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:21 PM |
| 2 | To the women here who are childfree: how do you define “childfree”?Too many people saying child-free when they mean childless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:00 PM |
| 27 | You Can Learn Lot From Their Behavior at the GymI hate to be part of the problem… but seeing so many men do this has me cleaning the machine before I use it rather than after. I only clean machines after if I see a woman eyeing them up or if it’s a machine mostly women use (like the adductor and hip thruster). (But I also wouldn’t leave sweat marks behind and would clean it regardless if it looked unclean. Guess most men don’t have that decency) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Why does stuff like this always go viral? It’s just encouraging more women to accept less and “adjust” themselves to tolerate bs !! 😤😐My boyfriend’s therapist told him this advice in relation to his parents. They were not there for him growing up, and now want to be in his life as an adult. He doesn’t expect them to support him, so anything kind they do is a surprise. When they let him down, he isn’t as hurt because he didn’t expect them to be there. This has really helped him a lot. However, I don’t think this is appropriate advice for every situation. You can’t go and choose new parents, siblings, children, etc., so you eith… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:39 PM |
| 219 | Living rent free in his head: A guy I criticized YEARS ago turned his life around because of a comment I made.Men have completely ruined the term dad-bod. At first, a dad-bod was a body that was strong and in reasonably good shape (no gut, but no six pack either). The perfect example that comes to mind is the pictures when the former President Obama was on the beach. He clearly works out and takes care of himself, but he has children, a wife and a career so he’s not a gym bro/Hollister model. Dad-bod was supposed to reference everyday, attractive men who had bodies that were attainable, realistic and we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:31 PM |
| 23 | Toxic femininity. What's your take on this?There’s no such thing as toxic femininity. (Just like there’s no racism against white people. Yes, there can be hatred and discrimination, but no racism because they’re a majority group). All the behaviors I see in the comments (mothers putting their sons above everything, telling other women they deserve less, catering to LVM, having children without marriage, etc) are very toxic. There can be toxic women, behaviors and beliefs…but not femininity because real femininity is never toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:47 PM |
| 204 | Kink community showing their true face. This is why kinkshaming is importantImagine an ad saying Traumatized Following a Car Addict? Fast-track your healing with our car pile up simulator! People would realize it’s an inappropriate, terrible idea. But they don’t see that here because the kink community will defend its stupid beliefs no matter what. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 06:47 PM |
| 48 | Why are all female halloween costumes sexual??THANK YOU! this bothers me so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 06:41 PM |
| 89 | To the women here who are childfree: how do you define “childfree”?I always thought child-free meant you had no children and wanted no children. I have no children (and will not until marrying a HVM) but I hope to have them one day so I’ve never described myself as child-free | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:53 AM |
| 17 | You are allowed to eat.I once had a man ask me if I wanted a take-away box while I was still eating the meal. He literally asked mid-bite because he thought that I had eaten enough! ☠️ If it’s so hard for these men to spend money on a dinner, you’d think they’d be happy you finished the meal? But they aren’t. They’re impossible to please because they’re miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:34 PM |
| 33 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookThis is pathetic and gross. What’s stopping him from eating some fruit or cereal for breakfast??? Some of these men are really out here treating their bodies like dumpsters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:22 PM |
| 146 | "Under the skin of OnlyFans"--BBCinvestigation reveals that the abuse goes deeper than we knewIt’s weird to me that they say that because for the majority of women, it isn’t financially transformative. Very few women make that kind of money on the site…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:18 PM |
| 12 | Women don't have it better at any ageAgreed 100%. It blows my mind when I hear women saying they’re trying for a baby with their boyfriend…. Like huh??? Why would you choose to give a man a child who hasn’t even given you a ring? You’re putting your health at risk (and putting your life on hold for 9 months)…. But he can’t cough up few months salary for you? What would make someone want to do that?? My plan is to have a baby after a few years of a healthy marriage. However, I have to acknowledge that my decision to have sex before … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:15 PM |
| 44 | Women don't have it better at any ageI live in an apartment and the “couple” (using quotations because their relationship is so stupid and inappropriate I don’t want to acknowledge them as a couple) has a huge age gap. She looks to be in her early/mid-20’s and he’s not a day younger than 40. We’ve never spoken with them directly, but hear them fighting through the walls daily, and it’s often about commitment and children! They have frequent pregnancy “scares” that turn to screaming matches. She wants a family and he regularly shout… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:52 PM |
| 143 | When he says "You're so insecure"...Even if you completely remove the sexual aspect of this, the just because I look doesn’t mean I’ll touch is only a half truth. It’s basic human nature. I’m thinking of the last couple things I’ve enjoyed looking at (the dessert tray at a restaurant, my cat, a fuzzy caterpillar, soft petals on a flower, big waxy leaves on a house plant) and I wanted to touch them all. However, society has rules and expectations, so I couldn’t touch them for various reasons. Some of those things I’m not allowed to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Your preference of not dating single fathers, is valid.There are some horrible Pick-Me stepmoms out there... I used to have one! I no longer have a relationship with my bio-dad, but a woman he dated when I was a child was fucking evil. She made really out-of-line, negative comments about my body when I was just a chubby kid. She never missed the chance to mention she weighed less and I remember several instances where she tried on my clothes to show how baggy they were on her! I know it’s one of the most pathetic things I’ll ever seen in my life… a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:27 PM |
| 4 | Four Statistics on Living Together Before MarriageThis is really thought provoking material and it’s making me worry I’m making a mistake☹️ I’m 27, I live at home and I’m about to move into a place with my boyfriend (who just turned 29 a few days ago). I was planning on staying home longer and thought I’d have more time to plan because my family planned on building a new house before moving. Sadly, there’s a ton of warehouses being built in my town, so my family’s home is losing value rapidly. They’re going to live in a run-down farm house on t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:26 PM |
| 100 | Your preference of not dating single fathers, is valid.It’s also funny how when stepmoms set boundaries and rules (a VERY essential part of child rearing) they’re paired with this evil stepmother archetype…. But when a step dad does the same thing he’s the dad who stepped up and viewed as some kind of saint for helping with another man’s kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Filter questionsSide note: I’ve found that a lot of quality men in the 25-30 age range may not have a life full of friendship. A lot of their friends aren’t that accessible, considering this age range is generally after college and friends scatter. If he has relocated for a job, then there’s a good chance he many have no local friends. I see this as a potential good thing because he’s willing to put aside his comfort for an opportunity for professional development and financial stability. When men level up, the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:36 AM |
| 2 | "You need to forgive!"I am more forgiving with children, the elderly, people with special needs and my pet only and that’s it. And they get that extra kindness because they likely do not know “exactly what they’re doing” (Children aren’t yet developed and can’t grasp certain concepts, the elderly have declining cognition which impacts their decision making and personality, people with special needs have varying degrees of understanding what is and isn’t acceptable, and I don’t know what happened to the cat before I g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:59 AM |
| 3 | As someone who’s writing a story that young girls and women are likely to read, what are some helpful lessons/themes I can integrate?.Piggybacking off this… I want to authentic moments in female friendships that have absolutely nothing to do with men. I wanna see women trying DIYs and laughing at the outcomes. I wanna see them watching old movies on the couch- not because they’re heartbroken or sick of men, because that’s what they want to do. Stop giving me the message that the “best” plan is with a man and that movies on the couch with your best friend is a backup plan. I wanna see them on wacky road trips together. In an ed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:29 AM |
| 40 | Oh honey no, HE'S the a**hole...!!!!! Instant dumping offenceWhat level of Hell is that?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:43 AM |
| 13 | You should always be careful about the men that have access to your kidsThis makes me so fucking angry. I can’t wrap my head around how sick you have to be to do this. He learned about this substance, located it at his work, took the substance from his work, waited for the kids to stay over, put it in the cereal, served it to the children, watched them consume it and then waited. There were a lot of chances along the way for him to change his mind and do the right thing, but he didn’t. The child would have likely lived longer than him so he should get a year for eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 02:09 PM |
| 106 | Why exes circle back aka “the phenomena of the circling penises”YES YES YES! It is a huge insult!!! Pick-Mes see this as such a compliment and say things like: ohh he always finds his way back to me, he just can’t stay away, no one he meets compares to me, we’re twin flames, etc But you’re not twin flames…. He sees you like the can of soup in the back of the cupboard. He doesn’t really want it, but if he’s really hungry it’s easy food. He doesn’t value it, but he doesn’t throw it away in case he can’t afford/find something better to eat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 01:52 PM |
| 3 | How to reject men without fear of violence?I’ve been saying Come on man.... with a disappointed look on my face and it seems to work well. I like it because it’s not outright rude, and it never elicits an aggressive response for me. However, it’s not particularly polite either. Somewhere deep in there they know they shouldn’t be doing what they’re doing and I think this response sometimes taps into that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 11:45 PM |
| 30 | OLD Red Flag Words & PhrasesMUST BE INTO FITNESS ^ This one is sooo underrated as a red flag!!!! My sister swiped on a guy with this on his page. She’s an engineer and has literally everything going for her. Like many women, she struggles with her weight at times and gained a little bit. The scrote she was dating was sure to let her know it through subtle and blatant negging. This translates into: I expect you to work way harder on your body than I do on mine. I’ll let you know I’m dissatisfied with any changes in your bod… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 01:36 PM |
| 5 | The increasing number of men such as him scare meI thought there was research that said the female orgasm was a response the body developed to train the pelvic floor muscles? And it’s important to do so because they don’t really get activated through any daily activities yet they’re the main muscles needed to push out a baby. Before we had medical interventions, if a woman’s pelvic floor muscles were too underused and weak that she couldn’t push her baby out, there was a good chance they’d both die. Women who are comfortable activating their p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:23 PM |
| 24 | Ladies, stop giving HIS house free renovations with YOUR moneyWomen are actually paying for home renovations for boyfriends??? I picked up a few free pieces of furniture off the Buy Nothing Facebook Group for my boyfriend and I wondered if even that was too much 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:35 AM |
| 31 | Why are scrotes allowed to steal women's photos to makeup shame?Reported the video as hateful content because he stole women’s images, put them on blast and the comments are filled with hate for them. But also...... this is such a lie. Go through a man’s internet history and I can guarantee he’s jerking it to women who have at least six of these seven- (1) lash extensions/fake lashes (2) acrylic/otherwise fake nails (3) natural looking spray tans to hide skin flaws (4) contouring body make up (5) lip/other fillers (6) breast/other implants (7) full face make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 01:05 PM |
| 95 | Second self aware man I've seen in that thread. And all the angry scrotes downvoted himEven the grossest women I know are cleaner than the average man. Like they regularly brush their teeth and wash their ass at least ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 02:47 AM |
| 10 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!You ever go to a restaurant and they put down a bread basket and you don’t want to consume an entire piece but you really really want some bread...so you rip off a little and eat it? Has that little bit ever been satisfying enough to make you not want more? No, because now you have a better idea how the bread tastes. And, you already had some, so what’s the harm in having the rest of the piece? I don’t mean to make light of the situation with this analogy, but these women who look young and are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 12:45 PM |
| 112 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkGood advice... but proceed with caution because a man who doesn’t watch porn may feel pressured to think up an answer when you ask a question in a way that lets him know you are assuming he watches it. I did this to my boyfriend (who doesn’t watch porn) and his answer was leggings. When I tried to get him to elaborate he said yea leggings, you know like those videos where women have leggings on and then they go home from the gym or whatever, take them off, and have sex. When I pressed the matter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 04:40 AM |
| 91 | Not only is it totally not listening to her but he’s also a complete Neanderthal and the women in the comments saying “he’s just being comfortable/My BF does that too lolz” make me sad that so many women settle for this. 🤮This made me spit my drink out lmaooo he literally looks like an unkept animal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 05:05 PM |
| 8 | Delete the dating apps. Start developing friendships with HV women. They are the the ones that are going to be there when things get tough. They will give you the comfort, compassion, and love that you need. Things that most men are incapable of, even if you’ve been married to him for decadesThis makes me think of that one show My Five Wives when the one wife had a serious cancer scare. The other four women plotted and while she was at an appointment they rushed over to her house and started deep cleaning, rounding up her and her children’s dirty clothes to wash, and whipping up meals she and her children liked. Of course it was their idea and the husband was no where to be found. All he could do was be like “omg babe I’m sorry” and give her some puppydog eyes. So useless. That show… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 05:02 PM |
| 213 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menMen who say women only like me for my wallet deserve no sympathy. When you don’t work on developing anything besides your wallet, you can’t be surprised when you only have your wallet to bring to the table 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:36 PM |
| 79 | Lmao so basically I have to pay for both of us or you will LITERALLY run away, potentially get caught and sent to jail for committing a crime (theft)? ‘I got a feeling’ I would prefer to do almost anything, including cleaning my cat’s litter, rather than go on a date with you...thieving POSAs a server, I pay close attention to men who seem scrotey because I’d be the one responsible for paying for their dining and dashing. A restaurant can make a server pay for the dine and dash as long as that server still makes $7.25 an hour after paying for it. This isn’t okay because I do not show up at work for $7.25 an hour... I work really hard, provide exceptional service and typically leave with about 22% of my total sales in cash tips (even after tip outs). On a “meh” day I make about $15… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:30 PM |
| 34 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"I’m sorry but I’m so mad that THEY THINK WE ARE WITHHOLDING SEX AS A “GAME”. WE 👏ARE 👏NOT 👏 HAVING 👏 SEX 👏BECAUSE 👏 WE👏 ARE 👏NOT👏COMFORTABLE! It’s not a game. It’s our actual lives at risk. It takes me several months to be comfortable enough with a man to put myself in a position as vulnerable as sex. I need to be very sure of a man’s character before I get in bed because you never know what could happen. He could have a “kink” he pulls out of no where and I could end up strangled, dead and with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 08:53 AM |
| 9 | To young women browsing this sub: For the love of Venus, PLEASE don't waste your sexual exploration focusing on a man's pleasure.There isn’t any way to test for it in men. But fortunately, if a man gets HPV, his body will create the necessary antibodies and fight off the infection in 1-2 years (except in rare cases). I’d say your best bet is to always, always use condoms during sex. Even if you’re in a committed relationship, use them anyway. If you hate them... suck it up and at least use them religiously for the first two years you’re having sex with a man so you don’t put yourself at risk. My personal plan is to contin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:58 AM |
| 57 | To young women browsing this sub: For the love of Venus, PLEASE don't waste your sexual exploration focusing on a man's pleasure.I’d like to add to this too- While your pleasure deserves to be prioritized, please be exceptionally careful about who you let go down on you. I know many of the songs now are about guys going down on girls and that’s “empowering” but it’s not a game or something to be taken lightly. The walls of the vagina are very thin, delicate skin and they’re a mucous membrane. That kind of organ is so incredibly vulnerable to diseases- the unfortunate reality is that it is a lot easier for a woman to get a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 08:29 PM |
| 40 | Men think that it's WOMEN'S fault they're addicted to porn 🙄Gosh, we are all so selfish for not volunteering as human flesh lights. We should really be ashamed of ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 08:19 PM |
| 20 | Just had this DM'd to me. LVM can be found with degrees too.I actually get furious when men ignore the women who actually like them while crying about “nobody wanting them”. Someone absolutely did want you!!!..... but I guess without a big butt, tiny waist, huge boobs and perfect skin she’s a “nobody” 🥴🥴🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:25 PM |
| 8 | Just had this DM'd to me. LVM can be found with degrees too.I’m an exceptionally non-judgmental person when it comes to other’s looks. Despite being very attractive, most of the men I dated were conventionally “ugly”. It was a combination of me believing ugly guys make better partners and me truly not caring if someone was ugly (as long as they wore clean, appropriate clothes and practiced good hygiene). The partner I have now is the kindest, most gentle and generous soul I’ve ever dated... and he happens to be the best looking by far. I was actually afr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:21 PM |
| 72 | 😳🤢🤮😡 (At least most of the comments are on point 🙌🏼).Agreed. This has to be a fetish writer. Wedgie fetishes are also a thing soo I think this is a combination deal #TwoForTuesday | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:11 PM |
| 3 | If they experienced a fraction of what women go through, they would never accept "50/50"For real.... I really want kids and going on Breaking Mom is terrifying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:17 PM |
| 3 | If they experienced a fraction of what women go through, they would never accept "50/50"I’ve saying you mean ball-sack? whenever someone says pussy. People usually look confused but then I explain it as a pussy is equipped with tons of muscles and can push a whole human out, but a ball-sack has no muscles in it and can’t even withstand one small blow. I’m really hoping it catches on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:16 PM |
| 28 | Why do some men feel entitled to aim way out of their league?Dick liberation fantasy ☠️☠️☠️☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 02:38 PM |
| 13 | 50/50 is a scam!!I’m so thankful for the hormones I’m pumping myself with because for once I don’t have bad acne (knocks on wood). But I take these Pills for me and my health. Just because I’m on the Pill and take it perfectly doesn’t mean anyone gets to finish in me-it’s bad for your vaginal pH and it’s gross. Ladies on the Pill, it’s your personal buisness that you take it. I keep that knowledge from men because it is their responsibility to use a common correctly each time. Just because you’re responsible doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 05:53 PM |
| 9 | On a question about why old men hit on 13-18 year olds. I am absolutely disgusted and frightened.At 18, I had many stretch marks.... probably because I was a child who was growing. At 27, they’ve faded to white or have disappeared, but every stretch mark was more prominent at 18 than it is now. I didn’t care about my posture at that point in my life. For a highschool kid, back problems seem soo far away. I was slumped over studying for school all the time, hunched over playing Pokémon, and I was shy and insecure. I didn’t feel comfortable making an effort to carry myself well and with pride… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 05:44 PM |
| 14 | Languages of Love on BumbleI feel like physical touch means the same thing to men and women. It’s a healthy mix of simple gestures of physical affection and passionate, loving sex. Unfortunately, LVM like to claim their love language is physical touch.... while only being interested in sex (without it even being respectful or loving) and not being able to enjoy other forms of physical affection. Those men aren’t displaying a love language at all because theres no love. They’re not in love or moving towards being in love. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:02 PM |
| 5 | These guys are around us, ladies.I’ve never done it, but what about that vaginal steaming thing? I saw it on TV, you like sit over this warm pot of herbs and stuff. It looked really relaxing. Probs the closest thing out there to a hooha exorcism | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:41 PM |
| 32 | These guys are around us, ladies.^ that’s what I was trying to say but couldn’t think of the word. It’s extremely spiritual for me. I refuse to have someone’s negative energy inside me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 12:09 AM |
| 133 | These guys are around us, ladies.Men really think that we’re trying to get something out of them or punish them by “withholding” sex? Sex is SERIOUS and has physical and emotional consequences. I wont ever have sex with someone who doesn’t commit to me first and give me the time I need because I’m not comfortable. It’s literally a scary, unappealing thought but they can’t grasp that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:53 PM |
| 11 | Basic economics - Dick pics are not desirable and not in demandWhat the fuck, through Facebook?! I’ve only ever received unsolicited one too... I was 18, in college and had little sexual experience at the time (I gave a boyfriend a handjob, but it was dark so I didn’t get a very good look at it). The pic was through Snapchat from some weird guy in one of my classes. He used flash, had a dirty floor as the backdrop, his nails were filthy and his pubes looked like steel wool- it was a hideous picture. I was smoking weed at the moment I opened it and started b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Would you consider her a pickme ? I feel like I understand her message but it seems like she’s using this for validation given the men in her comments...Dinner is more expensive than lunch, snacks often cost more than tickets, and a suit is wayyy more expensive than most shoes. Why does she have to do something bigger than he does every time? Does she feel like she’s not worth these gestures and must go above and beyond to keep him? If my man pays for lunch, I’ll leave the tip. If my man pays for movie tickets, I’ll smuggle the grocery-store snacks in my oversized handbag for us. If he buys me a pair of shoes, I’ll say thank you. If he’s having … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:41 PM |
| 10 | I wonder what that means about the rest of them...^ THIS. Teens are older children. Teens are not younger adults.... because they are not adults. Makes no sense why society equates teens with adults | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:26 PM |
| 106 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.It makes my blood boil thinking of families who made arrangements to get to My Little Pony events for their children, only to get there and see a bunch of low-life perverts in heat.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:48 PM |
| 37 | Basic economics - Dick pics are not desirable and not in demandThey send them because they get off on knowing they made you look at their penis, regardless of whether or not you wanted to see it. They KNOW we don’t like them and that’s the point. They do this in the hopes that you will be uncomfortable when you open the image. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsScrew that lolllll absolutely not worth it. Glad you’re done with it... it’s not normal and shouldn’t be seen as such. Men who don’t watch porn (and are under the age of 45 and healthy) literally aren’t like that. They get rock hard just if you like, bend over to pick something off the floor or if you put your hand on their leg because that’s how nature designed them to be. If men from the past needed all this to get hard, we wouldn’t be here because there would be no reproduction. This behavior… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:16 PM |
| 31 | “It was just a joke!”Sometimes you happen to make a bad joke by accident or say a joke that doesn’t land. In those cases of course you want to tell the other person you were just joking BUT you also have to take responsibility for it. There’s a HUGE difference between someone saying ”it’s just a joke! you’re overreacting!” and saying it’s just a joke... I didn’t want to hurt you and I didn’t think it through before I said it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:49 AM |
| 51 | We need to talk about Non-consensual BDSMIt’s okay to take a step back from sex, for as long as you need it. Even if the relationship was healthy, I take long pauses between partners too. I think that should be more normalized. I’m glad you’re able to do that and start to heal. I hope more women realize these things aren’t okay as well. Why would a man who loves you want to see you in pain? Why would a man who cherishes you want to be rough with you? Why would a man who connects with you emotionally want to call you degrading things? W… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:40 AM |
| 81 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsAlsoooo a vibrator doesn’t go soft in the middle of you using it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:31 AM |
| 32 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveI hate this message from men too because it’s untrue. Men claim they want women to look past appearance and give ugly men a chance, but that is a LIE because they disrespect and intimidate ugly men who date beautiful women. Objectively, I know I am a very attractive woman and I was in a serious relationship with a man who was considered far below average by most standards. He was short, patchy beard, never had braces and slightly overweight than we started dating. Due to health issues, he gained… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 04:54 AM |
| 13 | NVM runs over jogger and kills her. His first thought? Take her into a field and sexually abuse her dead body. Men ALWAYS think with their dick....ALWAYS!Sorry to hear about the squirrel :/ A few summers ago I was boating and a leaf bug flew at me. I got scared and swatted it, it fell to the floor of the boat... where I stepped on it by accident and killed it. I think of it every time I get on a boat. How can you hit a human with a car and then get back in your car like everything is okay??? I wouldn’t even be able to look at a car without losing it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:41 AM |
| 65 | This is so wholesome, it momentarily melted my ice-cold heart 🥰This is what cherishing someone looks like. They’re a beautiful couple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:27 AM |
| 3 | if a man uses the term “simp”, cut him off. men lose it when they see a woman genuinely being loved.Honestly don’t know who Russell Wilson is, but I definitely know Ciara. Her music videos are iconic and I still watch them. I think what Russell said is sweet. When someone actually loves another person, they can’t help but cherish them because they understand how precious and irreplaceable they are. The guy who commented has major Fellas, is it gay to love a woman? energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 11:34 PM |
| 180 | The contempt some of these men have for their wives is EVIL.Reading this made me feel sick. This woman is living a real life nightmare. She cried about him not “looking happy”?... that makes me think that he begrudgingly went to the dinner and pouted the whole time just so he could punish her for “making him” spend money and give effort. And him acting this way made her feel his unhappiness was her fault and triggered insecurities (her stomach) she has. He’s ruined these meals on purpose so he can be like see, we don’t have fun at dinners- we shouldn’t g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:25 PM |
| 103 | The Myth That Older Men Are Better In Bed 🤢I know, it’s so unfortunate :( These men have ruined themselves with porn. FOUR OUT OF FIVE of men between the ages of 18 and 35 report having used porn within the last week. And of course everyone doesn’t report. It’s so many of them. No one can tell me that’s not linked to all of this ED and other sexual issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:21 PM |
| 207 | The Myth That Older Men Are Better In Bed 🤢This is very true. I’d rather a young dumb man who’s excited by a pair of boobs or an exposed butt cheek then some porn-sick dinosaur who’s “seen it all” and now can’t get it up unless you’re in lingerie, an inverted pretzel position and BDSM restraints 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 10:24 PM |
| 60 | Why FDS is Crucial if Motherhood is a GoalThis is great. My boyfriend is 28... and the youngest in his small family. Meanwhile, I’m the oldest of my siblings and have always been around babies. I learned how to change a diaper in the 2nd grade, he hasn’t had the opportunity yet. He seems lovely and wants children, but I know he lacks the experience to say that and mean it. I really wish we could find a baby to “borrow” for a week so he can see how it really is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 06:43 PM |
| 7 | Insecure men will always find a pickme so they can feel better about their non-existent effortsFlowers, cards and chocolates aren’t even radical things to want. You can get literally all of those things for $50 (or way less if you don’t go for quality). Even if a women doesn’t like a lot of typical Valentine’s Day things, a man who loves her will still try to make her day special. I requested no flowers (they die too fast), no gifts (it’s too close to my bday and xmas and i have way too much stuff) and no chocolate (it messes with my skin). However, I like dinners and I like love letters.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:04 PM |
| 19 | Solid advice from life pro tips.Needed to see this like 5 years ago.... I was in college and in one of my classes got assigned a partner project with a man who was definitely “off”. The teacher knew something was up with this man and probably put us together because I’m “nice” ugh. This man took being assigned as my partner for class as us having an actual connection/friendship and would repeatedly email me after the project was over. Based off small things I had said... like articles about bands he knew I listened to. Nothing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:32 PM |
| 19 | He forced her to buy him a PS5 for Christmas, but claims that SHE'S the materialistic one! Nah, sis. If you see this... take your PS5 and leave him!When he says equal value he means the items he got her were originally priced around $100 but we’re 70% off... So he actually spent like $150. Ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Tennessee Bill Would Allow Men the Right to 'Veto' Abortions...That’s what I’ve been doing, thank you ♥️ I just wish I could find a church or a group or something that feels right and doesn’t pull any judgmental nonsense. But if/when it’s supposed to happen I’m sure it will | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 08:07 PM |
| 7 | Tennessee Bill Would Allow Men the Right to 'Veto' Abortions...I 100% agree with you that Jesus was sent to take the burdens of all our sins and has paid the price for everything we’ve all ever done. & We’ve all sinned in multiple ways. & God expects that of us because we’re human. My feelings about abortion are so conflicted and I know I didn’t get proper information about the subject. I attended public school in a really rural area and received religious education through a separate (Catholic) program. I feel like the education I got through the program w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 27 | Tennessee Bill Would Allow Men the Right to 'Veto' Abortions...I used to date a Christian man who was morally against abortion. Due to massive debt and serious responsibilities of being the sole caretaker for an elderly relative, he wasn’t ready for children. Before we had sex, he’d ask if I had forgotten any birth control pills or if I had taken any more than 2 hours late. If the Pills weren’t taken perfectly, he wasn’t comfortable having sex. No pouting or whining, just no sex and that was that. He would wear a condom every single time, for the full durat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:39 PM |
| 20 | Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc.Yea I didn’t think of it like this but this is such a good point. AND this estimate is assuming he has a min wage job... OP’s guy has nice cars and other things so I’m assuming his job is way better than that. This is probably 1 or 2 days of work for him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 12:29 AM |
| 2 | What in the holy pickmeisha gaslit denial is this horror show that I am reading???As soon as I see “I’m not dumping my boyfriend” I just stop reading because there’s no saving them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:44 PM |
| 14 | We hAvE MirRorZ noW! *gasp*The reality is that pretty much every women can get a new man by snapping their fingers. Even the majority of conventionally unattractive women still have more options and romantic interests than most average men. Any secure man accepts this as a reality of dating a woman. Fortunately, the numbers of women who know this are growing and growing. Less desirable men are literally scared of women in general getting confident because it means we won’t settle for them. They’d literally rather push us … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:38 PM |
| 152 | It amazes me how men have been creating the demand for sex work while simultaneously reproving women who supply it throughout history. Make it make sense!!Men who sexualize fetuses don’t deserve to have (or be near) children | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:19 PM |
| 7 | Violence against women is a-ok so long as a dude gets an erection from it!!1! 🤪Your username is so fitting rn haha love it. But yea it is so gross and I openly stand for kink shaming because anyone who’s sexual preferences makes wholesome events unsafe for SMALL CHILDREN should be ASHAMED. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 12:57 PM |
| 15 | Violence against women is a-ok so long as a dude gets an erection from it!!1! 🤪It’s also actually really sad because events, shows, movies relating to My Little Pony have been totally ruined for kids and families. They’ve become completely overrun by these men who are disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 04:42 AM |
| 70 | LVM/NVM LogicIt’s always about “single moms”.... not the dads who left. And it’s always about “teen pregnancy”...... not the men who impregnated them (and I say MEN because often it isn’t other teens getting these teenagers pregnant) They literally use their hatred of the women who stepping up for the kids in these difficult situations as a distraction for their own unaccountably. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 04:05 PM |
| 4 | Why Guys Dump Girls They DigFrom the times you chastise us for leaving a wet towel on the bed to those nights you rip through a pint of fudge ripple without stopping to breathe, we file each incident in a mental folder labeled Evidence She'll Change for the Worse This is one of the most disgusting sentences I’ve ever fucking read | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Just gonna leave this little gem here 💎Watching this didn’t sit right with me. He was clapping? She looked even more beaten down when the judge was talking? Thanks for perfectly summing up the negative energy I felt while watching this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:41 PM |
| 7 | "Car guys" are lvmmaking their car look even more greasy Lmaoooooo I’m weak ☠️☠️☠️ But as an East Coast girl I totally feel that. I stay far away from any of those bullshit car shows too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:30 PM |
| 3 | This, ladies, why we don’t trust men and keep vetting until we are sure that he actually sees women as humanbeings instead of objects^ THIS. Theres something deeply, deeply wrong with men see sexual assault as part of someone’s sexual history. Can’t put into words exactly what it is but it’s so scary to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:21 PM |
| 1 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:I won’t be able to do a job in my field pregnant either. It’s unsafe with the kind of clients I have. I’m really not sure what work I could do while pregnant. But I wouldn’t get pregnant if I knew I didn’t have the savings to not work during that time (in case of bed rest or health issues) or if I didn’t secure a job that would be able to be done while pregnant. What I’ve studied for is unfortunately a service job too (and it’s a small buisness setting). Ugh. I’m definitely going to need another… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:17 PM |
| 1 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:I’ve definitely spent a long time single. I usually take about a year between sexual partners/relationships and have only had a few. My mental health is just bad unfortunately. It’s gotten a lot better, but at my worst I wasn’t getting out of bed, wasn’t talking to anyone, had no friends and cried for hours every single day. Only crying for a few hours each week is a big improvement for me. But I agree, I need to evaluate my future if it was just me. It’s looking pretty bad :/ I live at home and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:04 PM |
| 5 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:Ugh I love that. The alarm clock is amazing 😭Little old couples are so cute. I have one guy who’s widowed (I think he isn’t quite all there) and he’s shown me the same pictures of his grandkids and late wife multiple times and each time I’m like “Omgggg she’s beautiful” and “ahhh they’re so precious” like it’s the first time I’ve seen them 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:21 AM |
| 1 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:I’m 27 but I absolutely have a ton of growing up to do, no doubt about that. The cost of living near me is so high that I’ve unfortunately not been able to experience much independence. I’ve tried moving out with girlfriends but there’s always been an issue (like smoking in the house, sketchy friends) so I’ve never gone through with it. My number one goal in life is a happy family. I never knew what career I wanted, so I studied psychology and child development thinking I’d use the knowledge for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:43 AM |
| 1 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:That statement sat a little weird with me too? But I’ve been having horrible break outs and haven’t been able to use make up and he hasn’t said a word. I think he was just trying to make me feel better by saying my body wasn’t what attracted him because I cry about my body multiple times a week but like my facial features | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:37 AM |
| 3 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:He’s been more supportive of the job than past boyfriends, but I do see where they’re coming from with concerns because they share the same worries as my parents (my safety). The clients I’ve worked with before have been super unpredictable... like one literally cut my ponytail and that was extremely traumatic for me. I don’t like myself and my hair seems to be my one feature I always like. My boyfriend is suggesting I enroll in programs about hospitality, since I like restaurants so much. He wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:35 AM |
| 6 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:I’d still have everything. I’ve refused to move in with him because there’s only one bathroom and I’m petty and need my own. I have savings that are private. Even though I love him, I was taught to always have savings that are private. I’m learning about stocks and starting to invest. I definitely wouldn’t get married or have a child until I’m comfortable with my own financial security. It’s just so disheartening that I’m not going to be able to gain that security through the career I’ve studied… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:31 AM |
| 6 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:I feel that. The customers make me so happy. The cooks are lovely too. The coworkers are the best. In general, I love food and restaurants so much. I love the look on peoples faces when you bring their food. I love the little old people who come to just drink coffee and chit chat day after day. And the families that bring their kids back to see me because I drew something on the balloon one time and the kid won’t stop talking about it lol. It’s simple, but it just makes me happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:28 AM |
| 5 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:Unfortunately I am serious. I hate my career because I realized I won’t be able to sustain myself until at least 4 years from now. Its a process to get licensed fully (and there’s minimum years spent in the field requirements) and I thought that with the provisional license I could make a life for myself.... but I really can’t (at least not where I live. The cost of living is sky high). It’s more “honorable” than being a waitress, but less money, worse hours and much more stress. Honestly I’m on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:25 AM |
| 19 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:Wondering.... Do you think that HV men are only attracted to women with solid career paths? That point made me contemplate my own relationship. I have a degree, but have been struggling in my field and am a lot happier as a waitress. I took a job in my field (that hasn’t started yet) because I know my parents want me in my field, I want to make them happy and I spent a lot of time on the degree. Its not what I want and I cry about regretting my career path all the time. My career path is not luc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:20 PM |
| 42 | I don’t even know what to say.I hope she means they were early childhood friends who knew each other for 20 years then fell in love..... otherwise this is trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 11:11 PM |
| 22 | Oh.....oh no.......I can’t understand how he sees this as 50/50 when he knows that she’s putting double the time in to pay the same amount. This man doesn’t love her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 02:45 PM |
| 5 | Has the FDS-mindset ruined (some) music for anyone else?I know the appeal of the song! You can use the lyrics to study for the entrance exam for Clown School 🏫🤡📚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:42 PM |
| 36 | 18 year old radfem standing up against sugar baby culture and the exploitation of minors. Proud of my generationThought they called them “Splenda Daddies” ☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:33 PM |
| 2 | imagine wanting to expand your family with your husband and he says this shit to you...Not that it matters, but she wasn’t even big pregnant 😭😭😭 Where does the ungratefulness stop? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:49 PM |
| 7 | LVM hobbies only exist for instant self-gratification or attention.My hobbies are expansive too :) Bodybuilding has been a big one for me. Being on-stage with mothers and even grandmothers who’s commitment to health and fitness has paid off so incredibly it’s impossible not to be inspired by them. I got into sewing during the pandemic when masks were hard to come by. So I’ve been enjoying making my little projects on the machine (even tho I’m not really good yet). Animal Crossing is a hobby for me too, even though it’s a video game. It’s just relaxing and nice … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:45 PM |
| 9 | Dont politely laugh for a man, if he's not funnyYes, this sums it up perfectly! Even though the joke isn’t funny, I still wouldn’t call it a fake laugh? The affection I have for the joke-teller makes the laugh genuine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:34 PM |
| 115 | LVM wanting other men to participate in their LVM behavior. Disgusting.They actually think they’re the ones who are being “cheated” when the woman carrying their child doesn’t look like she used to. They think they “deserve” to cheat when their pregnant wives can’t have sex with them, even tho they’re the reason for it. The entitlement is off the charts 📈📈📈🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:30 PM |
| 191 | So-called "petty" deal breakersI used to do this and have since let go of the idea of dating someone who matches my fitness (I’m very into fitness) because that was leading me to very vain men who’d much rather spend an evening in the gym than with me. All I ask is that they make an effort with fitness and exercise occasionally for their well-being. My boyfriend doesn’t have a ton of muscles or visit the gym. His main form of exercise is jogging solo during the spring/summer or walking a few miles in the park with me... which… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:23 PM |
| 12 | Dont politely laugh for a man, if he's not funnyI’m sure he still feels your gratitude and is looking down on you and smiling ❤️ I can’t even imagine that kind of pain, I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 03:53 PM |
| 239 | Dont politely laugh for a man, if he's not funnyI agree with never fake laughing for men.... but one exception and that’s for my stepdad. He’s the epitome of a HVM, finding me and my mom during the worst of times and has provided a wonderful life for us. If he wants to tell the same lame joke multiple times, I’ll laugh. His intentions with the joke are pure- he actually cares about me, is making the joke to make me happy and in his mind it’s funny. LVM never have pure intentions. Even jokes they make are for reasons- to neg you, plant seeds o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:02 AM |
| 4 | Men who want kidsYea and their dumb assess don’t even think to put a towel under the babies feet in the bouncy so that they can be flat-footed while in it. [Not doing so can lead to issues with dorsiflexion and ankle mobility, which happened to me likely because my LV dad just left me in one for ages while he fixed his cars]. Oh, and not changing said baby can lead to UTIs and infections. So not only is their idea of “caring for a baby” unhelpful, it’s straight up detrimental 🥴🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Men who want kidsAt this point in time, my boyfriend seems to be HV and also wants a family. (His previous relationship ended because his last girlfriend didn’t want children, so he didn’t see a future with her and accepted a job offer far away from her ended the relationship) He’s got a Master’s and a good career, but is still working hard to get promoted because children are so expensive. We’ve discussed how the cost of childcare is so high and that my job isn’t paying well so that it would just make sense for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 23 | The audacity is off the charts👏REPRODUCTIVE 👏 COERCION 👏 IS 👏 A 👏 FORM 👏 OF 👏 ABUSE 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 04:25 PM |
| 154 | I swear most men aged 20-30 are power obssesed and it's creepy.But like... they wouldn’t even succeed in societal collapse. They’d be so concerned with looting and raping and they’d end up killing each other while women worked together to secure food and shelter to keep them and their children safe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 04:13 AM |
| 7 | Just because women have more access to sex doesn't mean they have more access to SEXUAL PLEASUREI don’t think that’s necessarily true. Beta Billy is willing to like sprain his neck going down on the women he’s into so it’s easier to climax with him than some random hot man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/21 02:53 AM |
| 21 | Just because women have more access to sex doesn't mean they have more access to SEXUAL PLEASUREAre they enjoying the casual sex or what’s associated with it? I feel like my friends who have causal sex enjoy the attention, stories and drama of it. Or they even enjoy something as trivial/external as going to that man’s house and smoking his weed, drinking his alcohol or eating his snacks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/21 02:51 AM |
| 15 | Just because women have more access to sex doesn't mean they have more access to SEXUAL PLEASUREI don’t agree that someone needs to have casual sex to understand it’s a bad idea. I’m a 27 year old women who’s never had causal sex and never will. It goes against my personal values, but it also comes with risks like sexual violence or unwanted pregnancy, which I’ve never been down to experiment with. (May be worth noting I am religious and abortion also goes against my personal values) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/21 02:49 AM |
| 1 | CMV: AWALT is just female evolutionary biologyI see definitely see why AWALT is comforting to men. And I agree that it’s virtually impossible to change the mind of someone who subscribes to AWALT....And that it’s totally impossible to change their mind if you’ve just met them. But as someone who really wants a “perfect” family and a provider-type man, I just don’t see how you could branch swing once that is accomplished? (Not saying families that aren’t like this aren’t perfect, but when I say perfect family, to me that means one where the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 06:19 PM |
| 1 | It's not that men are afraid of commitment, it's that we don't want to commit to you CMVThey were 100% made explicitly aware, but I think you’re on point with the later assumption. I do have friends who also say this....but then end up sleeping with the guy? so I can see why men would be confused after those kinds of experiences and think I wasn’t actually committed to that. lol I say exactly what I mean (and literally never seem to understand sarcasm) so it throws me off then I tell someone exactly what I mean and they try to interpret it another way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Women, are you confident and charismatic?I very strongly prefer confidence. I want a man who knows his value so he can actually believe he is very special to me and be secure in the relationship. It’s sad, but people who don’t know their worth start making me question their worth too. Charisma is whatever. I don’t think my boyfriend has much charisma and I don’t care. He’s definitely confident, but introverted. I wouldn’t say he’s charismatic because he doesn’t make people gravitate towards him, influence them or impress them with his … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 1 | If women are just as horny as men, why don't women pay for 10/10 chad male prostitutes?Many women don’t orgasm from sex when it’s outside of some kind of ongoing relationship with a partner who’s taken time to learn their body. Sex also comes with a lot more risks for women (more likely to get an STI due to thin vaginal membranes, unwanted pregnancy, sexual violence, etc.) so it’s not worth it for them to pay for a male prostitute. For a fraction of the price, they can buy a vibrator that will give them better and safer orgasms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 04:46 AM |
| 2 | It's not that men are afraid of commitment, it's that we don't want to commit to you CMVDo you think that men are not afraid of commitment....but actually unsure of whether they want commitment or not? This confuses me because the way men in my life have acted makes no sense. I have a firm stance against sex outside of committed relationships and I’m very upfront about that in the beginning so no one wastes their time. However, I’ve had many men pursue me, put effort into planning things, spend money on our dates, while getting no sex/sexual favors and then refuse to commit? This m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 04:32 AM |
| 2 | CMV: AWALT is just female evolutionary biologyWomen will be attracted to the top mate they can find, just as men will be attracted to the top mate they can find. All women are like that. All men are like that. But I many women do not entertain the “best man available for sexual acts” and then move to the “best provider available” later in life. There are certainly some women like that, but there are many who reject the idea of causal sex in order to find the best provider. As a woman, I’ve never had to partake in casual sex to know that I h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 04:11 AM |
| 14 | Men can impregnate multiple women at the same time, while women can only have 1 pregnancy ~every 10 months. Stop unwanted pregnancies at it's source!Even though I take my birth control with perfect accuracy (which despite the side effects I’d still do if I was single because it’s the only thing that’s been able to get rid of 95% of my acne and I tried a lot of things) and I’ve made all my partners get tested and have always refused to sleep with any person who isn’t committed to me in a relationship...... I still make them wear a condom every single time. It’s just a matter of principle- If I have to take responsibility for protection agains… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Genetic counseling before having childrenThank you for writing this. I want children so badly and I am going to take this advice to heart and get tested beforehand. I have a sister with Tourette’s and while she’s an adult doing great now her childhood with TS was sooo rough. (There’s a lot of misconceptions about TS out there. Some children with Tourette’s lose a lot of symptoms after they spike due to hormones fluxing during puberty and with medication the tics aren’t noticeable to others in adulthood). My mom’s husband was always abl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 29 | Yes. We don't owe men anything.Well.... dildos never go soft in the middle of you using them sooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:31 AM |
| 12 | “Have you tried communicating?”^ THIS! I’ve worked with children with dual diagnosis (a mental health condition and developmental disability) and they repeatedly grasp concepts that fully-developed neurotypical men do not grasp. Definitely the one about cleaning your own puddles, but many more too. Such as... If you want to touch someone, you need to ask first. If someone doesn’t want a hug, then you don’t get to give them a hug. If someone doesn’t want to talk, they don’t have to talk to you. If you did something that made s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 07:02 PM |
| 28 | This is what porn and pedo culture does...When I typed “school boy” the second thing on my Google images was a weird adult man in only suspenders and boxers looking creepily into the camera 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 07:07 AM |
| 11 | Im still in highschool, but I wish I could restart and live it differently myself. I watch anime and I don't have pedophilic tendencies. Stop excuses scrotes (the reply )Can also confirm... I didn’t have sex until I was mostly finished college and I don’t have any inappropriate desires for young boys. I’m 27 and even college guys seem like babies to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 47 | “Have you tried communicating?”I don’t understand why they all have to piss on the floor like animals...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.I was about to say same .....but then I realized if it was around 37 years ago I wouldn’t have been born because my mom was way better then my NV uninvolved father 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:05 PM |
| 5 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.Yessssss I’ve been seeing a bunch of did he pick you yet? comments on Instagram and it makes me heart sing 🎵🎶 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:31 PM |
| 16 | This is nice but if you’re on a date at Hooters it’s already not going well.I’ve been a Hooters Girl for 4 years and seeing couples on dates here makes me sad. (Unless it’s a former Hooter Girl and her man/family coming back for nostalgic purposes.) If I come to drop the check at a table and the man is in the bathroom, I wait until he’s back so I can hand it directly to him.... but often, the women will still be the one who ends up handing me her card or cash from her wallet. It’s not much, but it’s all I can do 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 04:35 PM |
| 5 | Woman asks rel_advice whether she has the right to be mad at her bf for not telling her that he has been with prostitutes before dating her. The answers will not deceive you. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢If he was truly ashamed and sorry, he would have gotten tested after sleeping with the sex workers, vowed to never do it again and then not mentioned this to his partner. Now it’s her issue to bear too. I’m not advocating for lying, but you have to think..... why are you telling someone something? Because they need to know? Or because you need them to tell you it’s okay to relieve your guilt? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:33 AM |
| 19 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍There’s like a g next to the iced tea... not that this makes it okay but that was the first thing I noticed hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:29 AM |
| 9 | Scrote is mad in the comments 😂LMAO my parents got me almost the exact same ring for my first communion. They also got me some “fun” things because as a small child I didn’t care much about jewelry. A man better not propose to me by spending less than my parents did for my communion..... (all of the stuff combined was definitely under $200) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:35 PM |
| 64 | If most men had to suck dick, they’d quit. And yet LVMs are out here demanding hour long unreciprocated head 🤡My New Year’s Resolution is to make 2021 a blow job free year! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 07:23 AM |
| 5 | Wholesome high value behaviour from men that should be more the normSo unrelated but sharing this anyway- I used to take accutane too but had to go off because of side effects :/ I ended up on ortho tetracycline after my GYN told me it was the only FDA approved birth control pill specifically used to treat acne. I don’t know why this isn’t more well known?Besides accutane, that’s the only thing that’s ever worked for me and I’ve been on everything for my acne | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:38 AM |
| 12 | Peak pickme reiterating "men right, women crazy"No | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:32 AM |
| 8 | Tired of my 3 male roommates thinking that I’m their maid so I left them a note. They all texted me very butthurt saying “who is this directed at?” This is the attitude men have towards women; that women should clean up after them.YES. Just because I enjoy it clean doesn’t mean I want to clean up after others 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:13 AM |
| 6 | First comes sex, then maybe commitmentI think that anyone who gets their heartbroken over casual sex is responsible for that because they engaged in that behavior. It would be nice if people were clear with their intentions, but they don’t have to be because by agreeing to have causal sex you’re saying you’re okay with it. I think that putting effort into dating someone then not having it work out affects both people. Unfortunately, men more financially so. But people change their minds mid- way through and we all have to endure tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/21 05:49 AM |
| 3 | First comes sex, then maybe commitmentI don’t see how it could harm men? But I’m also saying this from my POV and I’m thinking of the men who feel used from casual sex. I’ve heard men complain that women they date claim they’re “not sure if they want a boyfriend” and these women string them along indefinitely. Most people (male or female) don’t go for sexual partners who are “easy”. So I think that there’s a lot of relationship-minded men who are also getting heart broken by hookup-minded women. I think that young men who just want … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/21 05:24 AM |
| 5 | First comes sex, then maybe commitmentI think that everyone, male or female, needs to be taught to be upfront with their intentions and to hold true to their boundaries. That is the way to prevent the most heart break. Putting women in categories such as “women I like just enough for sex” and “women I actually like enough to pursue” is harmful and unnecessary. Sometimes in life, people just want casual sex. Sometimes people want relationships. It’s more about being on the same page then sorting out which women are “good enough” to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/21 04:30 AM |
| 19 | Tired of NVM posts.Let's hear your queen ish!I finished my Master’s in Clinical Mental Health over a year ago... but working in private practice was a really bad experience that made me regret the whole degree (no opportunity for health insurance, boss that would leave the country for weeks and not contact me despite me needing help due to being a new therapist, low pay, the low pay came late, clients constantly no-showing, coming to sessions late, ridiculous amounts of paperwork that shouldn’t have been mine because the practice refused t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 05:56 PM |
| 10 | So disheartening to see posts like these...gotta remind myself that Reddit is especially misogynistic and not reflective of all men, but like. holy shitMen really make fun of cosmetology, but then only jerk off to women with full-face professional air brush make up, perfectly styled and dyed hair, and fresh acrylic nails. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:12 PM |
| 11 | In case you ladies were in need of a good laughter on this lovely Sunday morningI’d rather lose a finger tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 04:12 PM |
| 33 | simp = guy with basic respect for womenI don’t understand what the meaning of this word has become? My 16-year-old sister told me my boyfriend “simps” for me and it’s “so sweet” and she won’t date anyone who doesn’t “simp” for her? I’m proud she’s got the right idea behind this sentiment.... but what? It seems like younger generations are using this word as a compliment? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 04:08 PM |
| 100 | Women are objectifying him as “potential boyfriend”, how dare they (and exxtra comment about FWB)Work, family background and education are perfectly normal first date questions.... especially if you are hoping for a relationship that’s serious. These questions help someone determine if the person they’re on the date with has similar goals, values and expectations. What does he want to be asked?... What’s your favorite color? How do you like your eggs made? If you were an animal, what would you be? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:17 AM |
| 47 | If he's not interested in your pleasure, don't stick around.Even if you’re at the age where you use a walker, it’s never too late to run from a NVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Do you mostly date men who you are viscerally and immediately sexually attracted to on a gut level or do you date a wide range of men and “give guys a chance”?If I look at a guy and he takes care of himself well, I’ll give him a chance even if there’s no sparks. Lol but tbh for me there’s never any sparks and there’s never any immediate chemistry for me either. (I’ve just never felt that and I’ve never had casual sex for religious reasons but mostly that I just can’t get into someone until I’m really comfortable with them). I didn’t think my current partner was “sexy” or “hot” on our first date. But I could see he wore nice khakis, a collared shirt th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 03:24 PM |
| 15 | Four Questions to Level Up & Break Out of Pickme ConditioningThis is great! I’m saving these for any adult (or teenage) female clients I get | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:48 PM |
| 9 | Prenup StrategyIf you aren’t the one with the wealth, is it best to not bring up a prenup if he doesn’t? My partner makes significantly more than me. In an ideal situation, I have a family with him and I see myself as a stay at home mom because he knows he can support us both. Would a prenup protect only him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:22 AM |
| 4 | The audacity! Be my carer while I wither away and put aside all our money for my mistressYes I do too:( she realized she shouldn’t have posted it. She signed everything “kind regards, her name” and seemed like an older person just not aware of all the ramifications of posting online | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:44 PM |
| 16 | The audacity! Be my carer while I wither away and put aside all our money for my mistressI think this needs to be taken down.... I Googled the title because I wanted to read the comments. The search leads back to an archived version of this post. The woman who was the OP removed the post because she realized it was not in her best interest to have that out there while she was sorting out her legal issue. This subreddit comes under attack a lot so I think that having it up could cause a potential backlash for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:54 PM |
| 94 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?I have my Bachelor’s in Psychology with a concentration in Behavioral Neuroscience and my Master’s is in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. My primary focus is working with children. Men loooove to tell me what is and is not developmentally appropriate for children... despite having no education on the topic, having no children of their own, and not having participated in childcare in any form. (Side note: I do really value the opinions of parents that I work with because I think that “normal” i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Scrotes mad at us on Reddit when they see pictures of us buying our own cars/ rings etc. Mad at us if we require a man to provide. Mad at us anyway. I love this sub but maybe we should discuss less random NVM/incels opinions as they are literally nobodys.Yeah my mom told me they were scrapey and uncomfortable and that the non applicator were easy to used so i never used the cardboard ones. Thankful to have such a HVW whos life goal it was to be a mother in my life. I wish they were the standard too! Glad you found your way tho :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Scrotes mad at us on Reddit when they see pictures of us buying our own cars/ rings etc. Mad at us if we require a man to provide. Mad at us anyway. I love this sub but maybe we should discuss less random NVM/incels opinions as they are literally nobodys.Yupppp. And non-applicator all the way! That’s the kind I learned with, and the kind I stuck with. Better to know your body and help the environment 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 11:56 PM |
| 6 | Scrotes mad at us on Reddit when they see pictures of us buying our own cars/ rings etc. Mad at us if we require a man to provide. Mad at us anyway. I love this sub but maybe we should discuss less random NVM/incels opinions as they are literally nobodys.I feel this. They’ll always find a way to make it into the discussion and a way to make it about them. We shouldn’t shape any of our actions around the potential impact on their behavior because that’s not our responsibility. All our actions should be shaped around building ourselves and others up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 11:47 PM |
| 14 | My personal checklist of must have qualities and dealbreakers. One red flag and he is out. Thought I’d share for anyone who needs inspiration to make their own 😄 excuse the messy handwritingI think this checklist is good and fair. I really like that it focuses on character traits while leaving room for appropriate “flaws” that can be worked through. Made me think of my own boyfriend who fits the list... but isn’t perfect. (His personal hygiene is on point, but having grown up with a mother who didn’t clean and always having maid service he’s currently learning how to clean a home and keep it clean). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:27 PM |
| 22 | Marriage KoUNseLInG is a waste of money unless it Post Divorce CounselingYes I agree! Counseling is really only helpful for small issues in an otherwise good relationship or for navigating issues that result due to one (or both) partner’s mental health conditions. I used to date a man who’s “depression” caused him to forget our dates, anniversaries and my birthday. That’s unacceptable and I shouldn’t have tried to fix that. My current partner is caring and involved, but due to his food related OCD we aren’t able to cook together (he just cooks and I eat it). The effo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 04:44 AM |
| 4 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?I’ll be honest I wouldn’t date a cop. I know there’s good cops out there but there’s too many bad and too many who are okay with standing by all the bad soo that makes them bad too. And now especially they’re looking even worse with all the racial violence and prejudice going on. So now people are racist and hiding it really well because the culture is shifting to make that unacceptable in the force. While that’s good, it makes it a harder to spot people who are ignorant. I just don’t trust the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:19 PM |
| 9 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?Yes I agree about that too! I feel like all the fire fighters I’ve met have been wonderful selfless people. It’s funny because a lot of jobs we associate with success have a lot of LVM and a lot of the ones we don’t think of when we think of traditional success have a lot of HVM. Like I feel like sanitation workers tend to have good work ethic, are down to earth and generous. They make enough money for a decent living and get benefits and often have evenings off to spend with family. I feel like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 07:31 AM |
| 63 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?YES THEY DO! I work as a psychotherapist for children and also as a waitress. I used to have that I was a mental health therapist on my OLD profile because I worked hard to get the Master’s and it was the more impressive of my two jobs sooo I thought it would attract HVM 🤦♀️ Boy, was I wrong... Men would literally open conversations with their mental health problems, symptoms, diagnosis, and stories about when they were in therapy. Or they’d try to diagnose their ex’s in my DMs (gross). I took … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 10:48 PM |
| 13 | This is why you don’t pick litter from Tinder. They are literally untrained dogs from the streets.So happy that comment about him not deserving praise has a ton of likes..... if it had 2.2k downvotes all hope would be lost | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:13 AM |
| 6 | If you’re dating a HVM right now and you don’t live together, how much do you all communicate?Vaguely lol I did my Masters in Clinical Mental Health and am practicing with only a few telemedicine clients now. The pay for the work is unfortunately low and a full case load of clients has been too much of a mental strain. So most days I’m waitressing (either day shifts or night shifts). I’m much happier day-to-day but overall really anxious about my career path | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:58 PM |
| 5 | If you’re dating a HVM right now and you don’t live together, how much do you all communicate?As much as I’d like, to be honest. But that isn’t all that much. He sends some kind of text every morning (could be a good morning, or other times it’s a hello and a continued thought from something we had been talking about). I answer and then let him know what’s up for the day and he does the same. Like if he has meetings, or if I’m working a day/night shift or we get any schedule updates we share them. If we’re both busy, we don’t talk a whole lot because I find that so overwhelming on top of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:52 PM |
| 37 | This one speaks for itself...Agreed. Rereading the last line women better get this equality thing in the bag is what makes me think he’s LV because he’s asserting that it’s up to women to make this stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:20 PM |
| 43 | This one speaks for itself...You can’t tell from this passage, but I wonder if the guy writing this is HV or LV. This seems to be laced with some self-awareness? But is there a hint of personal accountability? A pinch of desire to change? I don’t know. I’ve heard HV men complain about other men before, saying they can’t confide in other men because they respond with things like “dude let’s go out and get you laid tonight you’ll forget about her” instead of offering a listening ear and empathy. Is this a man frustrated with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 03:58 PM |
| 6 | Leave the guy who doesn't care that you are suffering seems pretty obviousSurprised this is on Advice and not AITA. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:39 AM |
| 13 | I have no words... Hope she will leave and get him arrested.It’s not ”your phone your rights”.... How stupid can he be to actually think he can have whatever he wants on his phone?!?!? 😭😭😭 I can have whatever I want on my phone, but that’s only because I’m not a porn-sick pervert. If things like naked pictures you took of people without their knowledge, revenge porn, up skirt pictures, child porn and things of that nature are the things you want on your phone..... then I pray you don’t get to have whatever you want on your phone without facing legal cons… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 02:31 AM |
| 0 | I knew I was going to get attacked for saying this, but I had to. I hope she takes my advice.Aw thank you ☺️ & Oh I totally did message her haha I didn’t want my message lost in the shuffle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:09 AM |
| 3 | So this woman I follow blurs her mans face. I thought they were married... turns out they aren’t so now that changes my perception of why she feels the need to do this. She says she does this because “people are weird”. What are your thoughts?Her make up is immaculate, every hair in place and it looks like she’s wearing silk..... He has ripped pants, a patchwork tee shirt and sneakers ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:08 AM |
| 14 | I knew I was going to get attacked for saying this, but I had to. I hope she takes my advice.I know :( I feel really defeated. I hate it here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:20 PM |
| 4 | Scrote is absolutely mad as his ex gf is highly successful, and (probably) earns more than him. Tries to console himselfDoes he really think he’s better just because he’s got fucking hair? 😭😭😭😭😭 The way I see it, men are sundaes and hair is the cherry. I guess it’s nice, but I’ll devour a sundae if it doesn’t have a cherry. If the employee forgets my cherry, I don’t care enough to walk up to the counter to ask for it. If my friend really likes cherries, she can have the one on my sundae. And once I taste really good ice-cream, I’ve totally forgotten about the cherry at that point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:57 PM |
| 3 | AITA Keeps Getting Worse, Shows Stark Reality of How Common Toxic Masculinity Isdamn I would have kept her and took off without the husband because I have baby fever and don’t want to go through the horror of pregnancy lolllll but seriously this is a horrible situation, wildly unfair to her because she has no obligation to care for this child. I understand why she’d feel guilty, but that guilt is truly not her cross to bear. she’s done way more than enough for the child, giving up a year and a career is such a sacrifice. it’s just heartbreaking that that little baby is gett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:11 PM |
| 26 | obese entitled scrote thinks he deserves better than his gf despite being a LVMIf her stomach was small, he’d want someone with a flat stomach. If her stomach was flat, he’d want someone with visible abs. If she had visible abs, he’d want someone with lower ab veins too. And if she had visible abs with veins, he’d want someone who also had that and a waist that measured a little smaller. There is NO winning with these kind of UNGRATEFUL scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:06 PM |
| 39 | No other so called "job's" SELLING POINT is sadism, degradation, sexualized/fetishized abuse/torture and dehumanization of women and girls.Agreed- Literally beyond unacceptable and doesn’t happen in any service industry. (Probably not particularly HV of me) but I’ve worked at a Hooters for 4 years... which is literally a sexualized restaurant and even there, if a man were to come in there and verbalize a title of a “standard” porn video, he’d be thrown out immediately and the police would be called. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 08:46 PM |
| 12 | Story about a HVM ruined by a scrote.Consider it done. The term soul-digger has been added to my vocabulary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:59 AM |
| 13 | Just another movie normalizing grooming and age gaps 🤢There’s literally nothing romantic or comical about a full-grown year old man raping a child with cancer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 03:03 PM |
| 13 | Created a post about hair loss, received a hate message from a FDS scroteWish there was a setting where I could make it so only people on this sub can PM me lollll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:07 AM |
| 17 | An appreciation meme for all the relentless work that FDS mods do to keep unwanted comments from such people at bay. You're the real MVP.Love and appreciate you Mod Team 💖 This is my fav sub and I check it every day when I wake up (and before bed) (and it’s my bathroom reading material) (and my coffee reading material) and as much as I’m on here I literally never see trash comments. You guys are so on top of things. Thank you for so ferociously protecting this space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 4 | I got you, babe.Wowww that’s actually brilliant. I’m definitely going to steal that and be yelling “bye love you!” when I leave if no one is there. It’s wild how we have to be so on-guard and quick-witted just to safely exist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:08 PM |
| 3 | I got you, babe.Me too! I want to be like “I provide unconditional support to all women” sooo bad...but honestly I can’t because PickMes are so dangerous. This opened my eyes to how dangerous girls like that can be. I’m not saying it was her job to save me, butttt if my friend wasn’t a PickMe, I wouldn’t have ended up in that scenario. I don’t know how they think like that either. It’s seriously fucked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:05 PM |
| 8 | I got you, babe.I’m so afraid they’re gonna get stuck to my eye or burn my eyes. Eyes really weird me out. Like if someone is like “do I have something in my eye” and they like pull the eye skin down I wanna throw up. It’s a fiasco for me to even go to the eye doctor in general lol. But honestly, thanks because it is good advice and that’s gonna be my New Years resolution. To get daily contacts and try them out. I always set small(ish) New Years goals and was trying to figure out what to do this year and now I’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 12:23 AM |
| 12 | This article made me mad and is fuelling pick me culture ‘Why the pandemic will make women more promiscuous’One time at the beach, I saw about 20 pigeons all try to stick their head into a single-serving bag of Doritos at once to get the crumbs at the bottom. This article brings that image to mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 14 | Women and the emotional labor we face during the holidays.Ughhh I feel this so hard. It’s bringing back a memory of an awful gift I got a few years ago sooo I guess I’ll share it and add to your point about how many men put so little thought into this- The year is 2014, and it’s Christmas Eve. At the time, I was really struggling with my weight and mental health. I hated how all my clothes fit. I hated my body so much I cried about it every day and felt like I couldn’t get my weight down. I really wasn’t that big, just a bit overweight, but mental heal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 11:41 PM |
| 7 | Any tall girls/not stereotypically feminine girls here? Do you think it’s harder to date if you’re one/both of these things?I’m not one, but one of my best friends is very career oriented, a little over six feet tall and she’s not traditionally girly (doesn’t do make up, wear dresses or any blouses. She looks nice but pretty much always wears like sweaters, tee shirts, jeans or slacks). It’s been a lot harder for her to date (from my own observations and from her flat out telling me this). There’s not all that many men taller than her. She keeps running into men who are happy to be shorter than her.... but they have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 11:20 PM |
| 7 | Men aren't heroes for doing their parenting role.No, I didn’t know that but it’s wonderful news! (although I agree 2020 is so late to finally take maternal mental health seriously. it should have been studied a long time ago) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 11:04 PM |
| 32 | Men aren't heroes for doing their parenting role.ME TOO. Do people not realize that women with mental health conditions STRUGGLE through pregnancy without their medications for the sake of their baby? Many of these women are extremely high risk for severe post pregnancy depression and need to go back on their medication right away. A baby fed formula has a much greater advantage in life than a baby who’s mother commits suicide shortly after the birth. Side note: I was fed breast milk for a really long time and still turned out to have pretty b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 07:11 PM |
| 184 | Men aren't heroes for doing their parenting role.Ugh don’t get me started. My pet peeve is when men get soOooO much praise for simply shaking up a jar of formula and feeding it to a baby in a bottle. So caring! He’s holding the baby! What a good dad! Women carry around what is essentially heavy sacks full of baby food (breasts with breast milk) 24/7 then have to deal with the constant pain and soreness of that and the discomfort of pumping or breast feeding. Does anyone tell them good job? Not really, they’re told to cover up. Oh, and if she w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:50 PM |
| 35 | I got you, babe.don’t get why men think that’s funny. We actually fear being kidnapped. They get so pressed when we don’t put our blind trust in them. If we put our blind trust in them like they’d like, horrible things would happen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:42 PM |
| 9 | I got you, babe.My mom used to put those kidnapping/murder shows on TV to make me “aware” when I was a teenager and I’d always complain about them. As I got older, I kinda started to like them? (well mostly I like spending time with my mom and that’s what she likes to watch). But as much as I hate how these tragedies are made into entrainment, it is helpful to see what these women did that caused them to survive and what things that they didn’t think to do that resulted in them not being able to escape the horr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:39 PM |
| 27 | I got you, babe.It was a very disturbing wake up call. I always bring my glasses in my purse now because if I use Uber I must be able to read the plate, see the type of car and match the drivers face to the picture. I guess Uber is good, but I miss the days where cab drivers were a thing. I used to go out in the same area all the time, so I’d literally text the cab driver I’d always use to ask if he was working and let him know where I’d be and an approx pick up time. He had a big van cab, so we could always fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:33 PM |
| 23 | I got you, babe.Thank you! I watch a lot of Dateline and 20/20 style shows, so I’ve often thought of what I’d do in a situation like that. I figured that people like him usually have major problems relating to others and always take, but can’t ever give. So the best thing to do was to stay calm and make him feel like I was doing him a favor. I kept telling myself I wasn’t asking him for anything, I was offering him something (which was the opportunity to escape without being charged for kidnapping or assault). … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:24 PM |
| 88 | I got you, babe.Very valid point. & If you plan on using Uber again, please read my comment on this thread because I was literally in a situation where I thought it was safe because the “Uber driver” knew my name unprompted....but he was actually a man from the bar I rejected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:55 AM |
| 173 | I got you, babe.Can sadly confirm this Pre-pandemic (when Uber was fairly new) I met a man at a night club. I introduced myself by first name, like I always do when I meet someone. He bought me a beer (which I felt safe with because the bartender handed it to me directly). After a few minutes, I realize I’m not interested. (I thought he was about my age, but there was actually a significant age gap I was not comfortable with). I politely let him know I’d be rejoining with my friend and that while I enjoyed the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:50 AM |
| 18 | Need to rant about NVM and therapyI’ve taken a step back from the field, and taken an unrelated waitressing job due to my own own mental health, but reading this breaks my heart. What a bad therapist. I really am ashamed that some of these people are my colleagues. One of our most important jobs is to help the client learn that’s it’s okay to have boundaries, and they should be respected. (Before you realized he was total garbage) You wanted a committed relationship with this man. You set this healthy boundary that you didn’t wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:01 PM |
| 3 | So many gems from unpopular opinions today. This person just sounds lazy, or they want someone who's easier to control. Notice how it's women in their past? 🤔 Red flags all over the place.This makes me want to reevaluate myself on my quest to be a HV woman because I’ve said this sentiment about men before 😞 I don’t specifically seek out men without a lot of family ties, and I don’t want my family to “absorb” someone (whatever that means)....but I’ve honestly preferred to date men who didn’t have super big or super close families. I think it stems from growing up with divorced parents and being forced to spend some holidays and being forced to spend some family gatherings with my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 03:46 PM |
| 7 | You hate to see it. Black men degrading their own kind.I agree with this. I’m not comfortable dating anyone who’s got a very clear “type”. Like, if all your ex’s are 5’3 redheads with green eyes, small breasts, athletic builds and freckles...I feel like you don’t really like because of who they are as people? It’s just too much of a coincidence to happen over and over. It seems like they were sought out because they match the specific physical traits you’ve idealized. And that’s very much not the foundation of a healthy relationship. I’ve always ref… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 08:27 AM |
| 3 | Straight men shouldn't be OBGYNs- what are your thoughts?I feel more comfortable having a male OBGYN. The one I have has got an attitude of ”well, I’ve clearly got no idea what this feels like sooo if you’re in any pain whatsoever let me know- I’ll listen and stop immediately” and has verbalized that. He has been my mom’s OBGYN for many years and delivered my sister. Out of curiosity, I asked him why he wanted to be an OBGYN. He said he wanted to be a specialist, but didn’t know what to specialize in. He felt it was a good idea because being an OBGYN … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 08:17 AM |
| 24 | You hate to see it. Black men degrading their own kind.This honestly makes no sense to me... There’s a lot to unpack and some of it I’ll never be able to totally understand or fully grasp as a White woman. But I feel like I keep seeing these men who shame Black women turn around and date White women who are just as “fat”? I pray that we can all start completely ignoring men who talk about women in this way. It doesn’t matter if they’re talking about “fat” women and you’re not “fat”. It doesn’t matter if they’re talking about Black women and you’re n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:24 PM |
| 13 | No means NO! Even in a relationship!I just spit my drink out reading this 🥲🥲🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:08 PM |
| 55 | 44yo GROWN ASS adult CRIES over GFs sexual past. This is sending me 😂This is why you never tell them your number. If it’s low and they’re happy, that’s a bad sign. If it’s high and they’re upset, that’s a bad sign. If they really want to know, that’s a bad sign. There is no winning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:03 PM |
| 19 | The absolute state of r/twoxchromosonesGuess this is my reminder make sure to chew extra carefully because I don’t give head and if it were me in that situation I’d choke and die | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:01 PM |
| 38 | Being a woman in today’s day and age is SO depressing... men will always stick up for their kind no matter what kind of stupid shit is in question. Women are either wrong or equally to blame- Remember ladies it’s rarely ever the man’s fault.That one made me furious too. Not to mention, he put the baby’s bassinet in the living room and let her scream as he ignored her and continued to game (likely turning up the volume to drown out the crying). They’re small and they can’t talk, but babies are PEOPLE. What kind of human being let’s another person (who’s depending on them) scream in discomfort for hours on end? Would he do that to an elderly person? A person with a disability? Probably. Oh, and it’s also dangerous because she could h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:16 PM |
| 87 | Redditor makes an argument for not reporting rape. I can’t help but wonder how many of these upvoters are male...It was hard for one day- the day it happened??? That makes me feel like this passage was written by a man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 01:59 AM |
| 4 | Husband brings home new gf to meet his 14 year old daughter 3 WEEKS after his wife’s deathMy heart breaks for this child..... :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:17 PM |
| 31 | You can look up the npr article. I read this and now want to pack up and move to another planet, bye 🤮Wow. I work as a sever and this happened to me yesterday. Yesterday was far from the first time it’s happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:15 PM |
| 22 | I see you suggesting a park date? Blocked. Oh I'm not like other girls? Damn right, blocked.YESSSS. you literally described it perfectly. their discomfort as they make feeble attempts at watering down their misogyny is one of my favorite things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 07:25 PM |
| 9 | how abso effing disgusting is this? bad enough that a scrote would do this, let alone WOMEN blaming the victim!!! I'm beside myself! thankfully there are others who are just as outraged as I am.It’d be one thing if he did something a little strange in the bedroom (like put her toe in his mouth or trying to set the mood with weird music) thinking she’d like it. Then I could genuinely believe it was an innocent miscommunication of desires and this advice could apply. No one has ever been hurt from having a toe in their mouth or hearing a song they didn’t like. That would warrant better “communication.” But this is very different, he put his hands on her neck and strangled her. That’s vio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:31 PM |
| 106 | I see you suggesting a park date? Blocked. Oh I'm not like other girls? Damn right, blocked.For real lollll. I don’t have the mental energy to explain why telling me I’m noT LiikE tHe oThEr GuRlzZs is not a compliment in any way, shape or form. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:10 PM |
| 35 | Men will do anything to make women feel insecure. (Context in the comments)The way she took that deep breath made me feel like she’s just preparing to be dissatisfied with this fool behind the camera yet again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:27 AM |
| 66 | Porn is ruining sex for women. So many men can't f*** properly 🤢. What's the point of being with a man that can't even please you in bed !?!Porn is so fucking toxic. Even though my Pickmeisha days are long behind me, I still feel like I’m recovering from being exposed to porn. Having a partner who doesn’t feel comfortable receiving blow jobs and can’t understand the “point” of anal with a women (he thinks it makes sense only for gay men since women have vaginas actually intended for penetration- when we’re enthusiastic about it) feels “boring” to me sometimes. Porn is literal filth and impacts our psyche so deeply that even with a t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:24 AM |
| 55 | How to deal with exes that won't leave you aloneYou can also explain to the police what’s happening and ask the police to do a “wellness check” on the person. They’ll go there and tell the person to knock it off or else they’ll get the restraining order. (Putting this out there because sometimes a restraining feels like too big of a step or “too much” for the situation at hand. It is just a piece of paper unfortunately, so you need to think of the implications of it. Example: Since it also impacts guy’s careers, that may anger an abuser and p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:15 AM |
| 132 | 100% AGREED!! Older men dating 18 year olds SHOULD NOT be legal!If a man is delighting in the fact that a teen is “barely legal” it means they’d like if the teen wasn’t “legal” yet....but that is the closest they’ll get, so they take it 🤢🤮 It’s literally no different than when I’m on a diet and I sub out butter for margarine. I’d like the actual butter, but its not acceptable for me to have. So, I guess I’ll take the margarine since I can “barely” notice the difference....Yet, the desire for the actual butter is still there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:07 AM |
| 179 | there is so much wrong I don’t know where to startFor real! Hope he enjoys a matching colored tuxedo. Black ones are only for pure men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:29 AM |
| 3 | Yes, Virginia, HVM exist..." as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy"I get so annoyed with performative posts because it’s like usually something small and the bare minimum.... like a boyfriend surprising their girlfriend by showing up at her house with candy/flowers or canned soup if she’s sick. But I like this one because buying a house is a huge deal. Even if it is a bit performative, it’s okay because he surely worked hard to give her the house, he may want to watch this happen again and he deserves to savor this moment too. This is a video that their future … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 02:41 PM |
| 24 | What do HVW want out of a relationship?FDS definitely doesn’t suggest that most (especially not all!) of your support comes from your partner. That is a recipe for disaster...even if your partner is wonderful. Having one person be your entire emotional support system simply isn’t healthy for either of you. It’s a huge burden on another person, knowing you’re pretty much the only one they’ve got. It also creates an unhealthy power dynamic because if they chose to leave, they will yank all your emotional support out from under you. Eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:36 PM |
| 11 | The Holidays are Coming: You dont need to buy him a Gift or show up with himI agree with this wholeheartedly! Men who don’t buy things like towels, oven mits and new socks absolutely need to learn to buy those things. If a man sees basic household items as a “waste of money” that is an indicator of a potentially huge problem. I’m wondering, what’s the general consensus on going to their family holidays if they’re not taking away from your own? I’m in a committed relationship with a man who appears to be HV at this point but it’s still too early to tell. He’s hoping I’ll… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:43 PM |
| 56 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?I literally hate to read (unless it’s a magazine or something else with color, pictures and short blocks of text) and I was able to make it through the handbook. But I think it would be so cool if the book was made into a podcast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:58 PM |
| 12 | It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.It will be a cold day in Hell the day I sleep with a man who hasn’t put a label on the relationship. Never have, never will. They don’t deserve it, and I truly believe the world will be a better place when we do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:59 AM |
| 3 | My friends roommate met up with us after 2 dates yesterday..a coffee date and and a park date.💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:27 PM |
| 51 | My friends roommate met up with us after 2 dates yesterday..a coffee date and and a park date.Good. You don’t have the patience to because you value yourself enough to realize you shouldn’t have patience for those who give you that kind of disrespect. If a man first suggests a walk date and you have to steer him towards a dinner date...it’s a horrible sign. Even if he plans a super nice dinner date after that, it means absolutely nothing if you steered him because his actions show you he was perfectly happy trying to get you to go out with him using the least amount of effort possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:25 AM |
| 14 | Negative reviews of FDS on YouTubeAgreed! I don’t think age gaps are always inherently terrible. What’s terrible is when there’s a power imbalance due to a couple’s stage of life and how much time on earth each of them has had to accumulate experiences, learn lessons and learn about themselves. When that happens, it’s wrong because one person (the younger person) can’t truly make informed decisions because they lack the life experience that would guide sound and sure decisions. Example: Let’s say a man is 47. He’s been to colleg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 06:22 AM |
| 154 | We need more mothers like this10000% Agreed! If this man truly believed the camera will keep the child safe, then he would not be defending the idea of the camera in the room- He’d be defending the idea of the camera in general. & He would be perfectly fine putting them at the entrances/exits of the home. This is absolutely disturbing. Abusers can lay low for years. I commend this mom for making the tough but also best choice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:48 PM |
| 12 | Be careful out here ladiesI agree, men take a very long time to get better. And many take the knowledge they’ve learned in therapy and use it to twist their victims even more 🥴Therapy just makes some of them seem “woke” on the surface and enables them to abuse more. I think if a man says he’s been to therapy, you really need to examine why that is. Depending on what went down, it could be a good sign of a man who’s self-aware or a bad sign of a LVM. The man I date now told me he benefited from therapy, and he decided to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 04:37 PM |
| 39 | Before there was FDS, there was this website - it was hugely helpful to me, hope it can help someone else”Unfortunately, most men never left the tit." is the most hilarious quote because it’s literally true 🥴🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:55 AM |
| 1 | I read asktrp for almost a year to gather insight on how LVMs mind workI have to say my last boyfriend was a huge gym rat (it related to his jobs as a coach, manager of a supplement store, sales person of exercise equipment, and casket carrier because he was paid the salary of 2 men for that). Ultimately we didn’t work out (distance, a huge chunk of student debt, and family/career obligations pulled us separate ways) but I have to say he was very secure in himself, a damn hard worker, and a truly high value person. I think men who are fit can be more secure in them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 03:04 PM |
| 3 | I read asktrp for almost a year to gather insight on how LVMs mind workOh lord, I forgot about the special kind of incel that gets in shape then feels entitled to a sugar mama. Of course the “sugar mamas” they feel entitled too are beautiful, successful and have maintained very fit physiques for many years. These women have an incredible amount to offer... and they think that the six pack they’ve got is going to appeal to them 😭😂 They usually subscribe hard to the myth of “the wall”.... only to realize these sugar mamas they’re chasing have not hit the wall because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 02:58 PM |
| 13 | online dating...Honestly no, it’s not worth it for you because you’re stuck in a catch-22. What about bumble friend (or other groups if you want to connect with people)? Is that still around? At a low point in my life, I made a bumble friend account and I met a lovely girl I still keep in touch with today. We grab lunch or drinks once in a while and are able to give each other objective advice since we met online and don’t share mutual friends. I just wouldn’t recommend men on bumble friend because they don’t a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:17 PM |
| 33 | I read asktrp for almost a year to gather insight on how LVMs mind workI have to disagree with you about the gym. I feel like TRP guys are generally not in good physical health. Usually they have poorly taken care of bodies and their physique reflects this. I think from reading TRP you got the impression that they’re active in the gym, but really they only like to post about lifting on Reddit and don’t actually do much of it. They tend to be the kind of guys who have no competitions or events on the horizon (and no tangible physique goals)... yet they have been ong… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 34 | online dating...Honestly, I’m gonna say it’s just not worth it for you yet :/ I feel like before 25, literally all the men haven’t matured enough to be dateable. At 25 many still suck. It seems to take them until their late 20’s mature emotionally and get themselves set up and steady in life (some never get there, regardless of age). However, you’re in a tough spot because guys your own age aren’t ready and guys in their mid and late 20’s who are comfortable dating an 18 year olds are predatory and weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:06 PM |
| 24 | Will the gold christen country girls please stand up? Poor Jamie needs someone to drive him around and pay his meals. OMG ladies I am dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣Come on guys... he’s just looking for someone to spin time with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:08 AM |
| 20 | What’s the worst pick-me song of all time?I never really thought about it like that, but you’re totally right. It’s the “not like the other girls” theme of the song that makes me the most annoyed. She really thinks she’s unique for wearing sneakers and tee shirts 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 03:11 AM |
| 8 | That's how scrotes see women. They really think that the worst thing that a woman can experience, is not being considered fckable by some crusty, pathetic male.For real. This makes me sick. If a man thought my body was ugly, it wouldn’t damage my self-esteem one bit. If a man raped me it would absolutely destroy my self-esteem and entire life. That’s how most women feel.... They really don’t get it though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 04:36 PM |
| 110 | What’s the worst pick-me song of all time?You Belong with Me by Taylor Swift 🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 04:08 PM |
| 2 | A Low Value Man Walks Into a Museum… | Why You Shouldn't Give a Shit About What Men Think of Your ClothesIt’s crazy how body type impacts how “modestly” you’ll be perceived. I have an AA cup breast, and the same garments my friends can wear on a night out to look sexy are appropriate office attire on me. It sucks how women are fighting an uphill battle against objectification due to their body type (well, we’re all fighting that uphill battle. The hill is just steeper for some of us) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:06 PM |
| 2 | A Church Girl's RantUnrelated side note, I’m a Christian woman who solely sought out Christian men for a long time. I kept striking out. I actually dated two closeted gay men... their communities were just so strict that they were taught its more important to maintain your reputation than to be yourself. I am sad for them, but also angry at them because the cheating put me at a huge risk and I thank God I didn’t catch anything from that. The HVM I’m vetting (I understand that may be confusing language but I still s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:59 PM |
| 3 | My worst date...Better rethink that.... There’s a National coin shortage! (Only teasing 😅) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:46 PM |
| 5 | "Do you have any ideas?" Yes: LEAVE HIM!Men get off on anal because women don’t like the act. Here’s how I know this- I had anal sex before I had vaginal sex. I wasn’t pressured into it. Due to my religious upbringing, it was my idea. It was with my first boyfriend who was HV but not the right guy for me, and who I had been dating for over a year. We wanted to have sex, but didn’t want to lose our ~viiRgiiNiitY- I know FDS is anti-anal because it is generally uncomfortable, make women feel degraded, poses a lot of risks for us and isn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:42 PM |
| 13 | I can't even, at this point. Scrotes are letting their children sexualize women. LVM dads will raise LVM sons. Let's stop blaming the moms.I agree. This behavior is taught. I think that the father maybe does this and he may be copying him. However, there’s a good chance this kid was looking at something like those little children’s prizes you get after a dental cleaning, or was just thinking of something unrelated and looking off in that direction. He may have that look on his face because he’s got no cavities or was told he’s good at flossing. But then his parents misinterpret the situation like “oH yOuRe cHecKiiNg hEr aSs oUt heE… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 29 | Female hypergamy is a lie. The reality of the "80/20 rule" is that 80% of women are quite literally equal in value to the top 20% of men. This is why we are seeing so many single high value women, and single low value men.I definitely agree with this. I have a lot of issues with my self-esteem and have struggled with my weight.... but still, I know that none of the men I’ve dated are as handsome as I am pretty. And I mean this for every point in my life, even when I was a bit overweight. I’ve observed this in all my friends too. They are all prettier than their boyfriends are hot. The women that are just “Plain Janes” put much more effort in and bring much more to the table than the men who are just “Average Joes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Is this a neg??Hmm, something about this text makes me a bit uncomfortable....but I can’t put my finger on what exactly it is? Having ptosis corrected can really change the look of someone’s face and with your mouth and nose covered it’s way harder to identify a person when you can really only see their eyes (and now their eyes are different). But still, I just don’t think he really needed to say this. Without more context or knowing the guy, I can’t tell if this is genuine confusion about something that’s cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:56 PM |
| 6 | The damaging myth of the 'Alpha Male'That really surprised me that he tried to take it back! I didn’t expect that. Thought he’d just keep running with it. Ugh It does absolutely suck how it became so popular culturally though :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 10:34 PM |
| 16 | The damaging myth of the 'Alpha Male'It probably was disproven a while ago, but I didn’t know that 😅 Definitely an interesting video for those of us who haven’t gotten up to speed yet Now I have something to say next time Billy Bob Joe says he’s the aLPhA. Because I had no idea how to respond to that before (besides an eye roll) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 05:49 PM |
| 9 | Scrotes really love being up on women's business“The Awakened Man” should just go back to sleep lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 04:15 PM |
| 15 | "New in town"I’m with a man who’s “new in town” but he genuinely appears to be HV (at least at this point). He seems to keep in touch with friends, but through FT and they’re all down South. But his “new in town” translated to “I’d like a girlfriend I can explore this town with and with family and fiends I can get to know”. His apartment is clean and nice, but actually reflects someone who’s just moved in. And his profile didn’t say “new in town” ... he told me he was new to the area after several dates. I t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 06:53 PM |
| 43 | Toronto van attack: 'Incel' killer Minassian pleads not criminally responsibleLiterally. This “excuse” is such horse shit and beyond unfair to people on the spectrum | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:33 AM |
| 14 | Poor woman, awful husbandUnrelated, but I feel like this may offer a glimmer of hope. My HVM step-father married my mother who already head children. He never once shamed her for having a body that reflected childbirth. When she was done having children, he happily offered to pay to fix some of the changes her body had endured (because they made her unhappy. I remember her hating these things, like a c-section skin flap, since I was a little girl). He took care of us while she recovered. He’s always called her OSG and B… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 03:01 PM |
| 66 | Poor woman, awful husbandReading this woman’s post actually made me cry, and I couldn’t put into words why.... but right here you perfectly articulated how I was feeling. Its so devastating because there’s literally nothing she could say that would equal the level of betrayal he’s done to her. She sacrificed for him and is being brought down for it. He really expected her to bear his children and not change a bit? The entitlement and sheer lack of gratitude are fucking nauseating. Please please please I hope you posted … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:56 PM |
| 133 | I’m so tired of seeing men trying to control how women dressAs if a woman couldn’t be a tattoo artist 😩 the misogyny runs so deep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 02:27 AM |
| 42 | “I don’t text much” = setup for low expectations!I don’t totally agree with this. Some HVM actually don’t text much or use social media and will let you know that. However, they’ll be different when it comes to you. I date a HVM man who “doesn’t text much”... but he responds to my texts in a very timely manner (outside of a few work meetings) because they’re from me. Yeah he’s not particularly interested in his phone, but because he’s very interested in me he’s happy to get my texts and respond to them. Even if a man isn’t a tech guy, how much… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 01:57 PM |
| 178 | Please STOP doing this.When men behind me do this, I throw elbows. Hard. Then I say ”Oh my gosh you startled me!” (Note: I don’t say sorry. Just that they startled me). & I absolutely love this because there’s literally nothing they can do about it. Lol like what are they gonna do? Call the police? The cops aren’t going to help you if touch someone without their consent and they happen to have a simple knee-jerk reaction. I like to think that I’ve stopped at least one scrote from doing it again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:48 PM |
| 17 | Anyone else notice this?1000%. My mother was a single mom. She found a man who loved her child (me) like his own and was an amazing father to me and the two children they had together. He worked extremely hard to support all of us because my mom wanted to be a stay at home mom and be involved in raising us. He’s always maintained that being a SAHM is a real job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:28 PM |
| 7 | Most Likely Not.For the first time, I’m in a relationship with someone and not feeling like I’m “disrupted” down there...The man I’m with has been diagnosed with OCD that centers around cleanliness. He has various compulsions, but the main ones are where he washes his hands, brushes his teeth, and showers in excess. He’s been to therapy and worked on it a lot. He was motivated to seek help before we met because he really wants a family and a relationship (he understands that children are so messy and in order t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:18 PM |
| 12 | Stop trying to find love during a pandemic 🧚♀️^ I agree with you 100%. If you vet properly you may find a HVM. There are outdoor activities. There’s all kinds of outdoor dining (and indoor if you’re comfortable). Things are opening in different ways and being made safer- there’s some stuff to do. If a man really wants you, he’ll put the effort in to make it feel like your dates are special, despite the pandemic. I met a guy from an app during the pandemic, he was able to make us outdoor dining reservations within a few days of chatting. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 09:02 AM |
| 69 | My grandpa has alzheimer's and the only person he recognizes is my grandma❤️It sounds like they have beautiful, true and life-long love. That is such a blessing. When someone has Alzheimer’s, the first things they forget are things that are less important. As it progresses, the individual forgets things with greater and greater significance. It’s so moving how him only remembering her is literally a brain-based representation of how deeply his love for her goes. His brain recognizes that it’s under attack, and it’s choosing to protect memories of who she is. Him lovin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 08:26 AM |
| 1 | Can't even be free in the fitbit app...smdh. All the comments were women agreeing and thanking her for saying what needs to be said.Yepppp. Every platform. I’ve had them slide into my messages in Yelp 😐 They’re at least offering dinner dates to places that I’ve given 5 stars to.... but still it’s so not the place to do that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 06:07 PM |
| 5 | Why do guys on first dates ask “can you cook?”I hate this question. My boyfriend asked if I could cook on our first date.... I definitely didn’t like that because I’ve been asked it by a lot of LVM. When I asked more about it, I learned that he struggles with OCD (which used to be severe, but is much better after years of therapy and putting effort into personal growth.) However, he still struggles with eating things others have cooked because one of the things he fears is that chemicals have accidentally gotten into food. He was anxious th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 20 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyYes I agree! If you want to do it, that’s your call. It doesn’t make you a better or worse person. I just know that I personally don’t like it. I’m really easily grossed out with a variety of tastes, textures and smells. I’ve also had jaw surgery and giving head gets very uncomfortable very fast. It just doesn’t feel good to me, physically or mentally, so I don’t wanna do it. And on the same token, I don’t expect my partner to go down on me. He’s also particular about tastes, textures and smells… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 26 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyI agree with you. Men were so bitter about this! More so than the women. I guess jealous that no one wants to pay to take them on a trip (or because they can’t afford a trip). And women were jealous because they put immense effort into men without receiving much back. Like out here, doing sexual acts they don’t enjoy, and not even getting a “reward”. Those women I feel sad for. I try to show them the light, but I can’t lead them to it. They’ve gotta save themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 08:03 PM |
| 210 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyI can’t describe the relief I felt when I met a partner who said he’d never want a blow job and didn’t understand the point of them. He said, ”Why would a woman actually enjoy that? You have the parts to have sex properly, which both people can enjoy...so just have sex?” And that statement makes so much sense! But sadly it’s such an unusual thing to hear from a man. After we had been together for only several weeks, he booked a 7-day vacation for us (the hotel, rental car, flights, reservations,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:41 PM |
| 4 | List of men with jobs to avoid. Please bear in mind that women in these jobs could be fine, as we are socially conditioned to continuously work on self-improvement, whereas men are not. I’ll start the list in comments, please contribute.A lot of electricians I know seem to be high value men. The job requires hard work, but doesn’t come with the glory or ego boost some other jobs do (those jobs often attract men who are desperate to be recognized and rewarded). It also requires a good amount of physical health. Many men who are weak and feeble are deeply bitter about this and they take it out on you. An electrician can comfortably support a family with their career, and many do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Marriageit's actually not even remotely fair to put a woman in a situation where she is too busy taking care of the household / children to further her career, put a man in a situation where he can further his career, then break up the family and say hey, you're each on your own now. ^ This I agree with very much. I consider myself to be a traditional woman. I really want a family, and its important to me to give my kids and husband the most joyful life I can. I want to take care of a household. I want … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/10/20 10:21 PM |
| 7 | Men find new ways to astound and disappointment me every single dayYes. My weak female fingers can only make sandwiches, they aren’t strong enough to move a heavy switch 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Why do they act like this is only a male issue? Especially since women are being pressured to make the first move nowadays. I guess being pressured to be confident is no longer a problem if women are the ones being pressured. Reddit really only cares about men.As someone who’s struggled with depression this rubs me the wrong way. No, I couldn’t just “cheer up” but it was still my responsibility to manage my depression. I did it by putting in the work. I went to a therapist and sorted myself out, even when appt times were inconvenient and even when I knew the session would likely upset me. I got help reaching out to people because the depression made my thinking so jumbled and distorted I couldn’t even compose a text to ask a friend to lunch without fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:36 AM |
| 8 | What do you think of the phrase "she's not yours, it's just your turn?"I wouldn’t. I think when men say oh she’s not mine it’s just my turn they’re often the kind of men who stop putting effort into a partnership once it becomes long term. If someone was taking me for granted/taking advantage of me/ ignoring me/ not taking care of our family then yeah, it will be someone else’s “turn”. But if you continue to treat me right, your “turn” will only be over once I’m dead | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 13 | What do you think of the phrase "she's not yours, it's just your turn?"I think this phrase is so stupid and it’s incorrect. If I can tell a man truly loves me and treats me right (he puts effort into being the best version of himself, he puts effort into our relationship, supports me, is patient, kind, trustworthy, affectionate, generous and makes an effort to understand me) then he’ll become the hottest person to me. Even if he’s balding, a little out of shape, or just generally not what others consider hot, I don’t care. There are no physical traits or material i… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/20 10:41 PM |
| 64 | Men find new ways to astound and disappointment me every single dayIf a guy just “clicked the lights off and went to bed” while we were arguing, there’s a 0% chance of me “getting my ass up and coming to the bed”. That’s not what a women with self esteem or self respect does. I’d drive myself straight home and spend the night seriously contemplating that relationship. (And if I lived with him, then I’d drive myself to my parents house, friend’s house or a hotel). He’s asking what happens after the cartoon man lays the blanket on her?.... as if something bad is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:17 PM |
| 12 | Does anyone notice this happens to them a lot?Men who know they’re repulsive and have nothing to offer approach women like they’ve got nothing to lose because they literally do not have anything to lose. They have no pride, no shame, no self-respect and no morals. They’re expecting you to reject them and make them upset. So when you do, they get aggressive and/or derogatory towards you because they wanna take you down with them. [Some] people with no self-esteem lovvveeee trying to rip it away from others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:27 PM |
| 50 | "A garbage collector? Give him a bar of Irish Spring and marry him."Whoever wrote this post should be embarrassed. I’m wondering why they feel the need to degrade and devalue tradesmen and women at the same time. I feel like this was written by someone too stupid to succeed at a trade, too physically weak to be a garbage man (which isn’t even a bad job, it’s a salaried position with good benefits) and too worthless to capture any women’s interest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:55 AM |
| 5 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDdoes this one work? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:08 PM |
| 14 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDOk, so I think you’re 100% right in thinking that the vast majority of men are unsuitable because they literally aren’t suitable. You cant get guys to propose more exciting and effortful dates.....but you can find the kind of guys who want to propose exciting and effortful dates. I don’t know what your profile is, but there’s ways you can be strategic when you create your page that will help deter a good chunk of the LVM (although some will always slip through the cracks). On my page I wrote a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:33 PM |
| 19 | I HAVE NO WORDS.🤢🤢🤢🤮 you made me spit my water out at the gym HAHAHAHAHAHAHA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:03 PM |
| 59 | I HAVE NO WORDS.The cons against them are “exaggerated and gut reactions”? To wear diapers when you don’t have a medical need to is horrible for the environment. I don’t think lack of sustainability is a “gut reaction”, it’s a quantifiable problem.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 08:29 PM |
| 22 | Booked an appointment to take my IUD out. However,the only gynecologist available for this month is a man. I plan to wait longer for a woman because I'm not comfortable with the idea of man removing it. Am I the only one that questions why a man would want to be a gynecologist in the 1st place?I have a male GYN who’s phenomenal. I’ll be devastated if he retires. He was my mom’s OB/GYN for many years (still is) and he actually delivered my sister. I feel like some men are truly family-oriented and may just like that kind of medicine. Birth and pregnancy are exciting and happy times for many people so I think that makes the field appealing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 08:53 PM |
| 11 | LVM who get themselves blockedYou absolutely don’t need a photo for that. I was just saying how reading other woman’s comments made me realize how naive my thinking is about this situation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:54 PM |
| 3 | LVM who get themselves blockedWhen I read that I thought “Oh, he probably wants to see how close to college age they are” and “Hm he’s wondering if they’re old enough to entertain themselves for a few hours because he doesn’t wanna deal with little kids”...... but it could be much more sinister :( disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Is having a Snapchat a red flag?🚩Simply having an account is okay with me. It’s not a red flag as long as he’s not asking me to use it to have disappearing conversations with him or send inappropriate pictures. Just like occasional selfies, scenery or things he cooked are nice. I found Snapchat to be a green flag in my relationship when I just realized that my boyfriend has a Snapchat score of like 300 and I’m his only friend. I (26) I asked my BF (28) if he has Snapchat, and when he didn’t he quickly created an account so he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 07:55 PM |
| 38 | Formerly diagnosed but treated clamydia^ This! And if the tests show that it’s no where in your body and you’re unable to pass it on, you’re not obligated to tell anyone. You don’t need to feel blacklisted because of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 04:04 PM |
| 9 | Don’t Let Men Dictate Your Life DecisionsHonestly I think you’re right about this! I’d consider my stepdad one of the most HVM I know. He came into my mom’s life when she was poor, going through a divorce, dealing with threats from my very mentally ill LV biological father. He took off work (as an attorney) to safely escort her to and from court when my dad would follow her, came to help restore the power when my dad cut cords, got food for me when my mom couldn’t afford it (or when my bio dad took it because he’s a sick man who steals… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:32 PM |
| 25 | STIs. How to avoid?Be careful because people can forge papers. To be totally sure, I think it’s best to get tested together. Even without health insurance (my last partner didn’t have health insurance) you can go to Planned Parenthood and get tested together and it’s not very expensive. If you don’t want to do that, I’d have him call his clinic and have them give results over the phone as you listen in. There’s usually all this “press 2 for this” “press 1 for that” “please hold” kind of stuff going on when you cal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 01:44 PM |
| 45 | BlowjobsI feel infantilized when given two options like that. Like that’s literally what I do to children because it makes them feel like they have some degree of control in situations when they don’t. (Example: you need a child to drink so you ask “do you want to drink water or juice?” Not drinking isn’t really an option) Don’t present two options to me like I’m a child. It’s icky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:52 PM |
| 187 | BlowjobsAggressive blow jobs are a hard “no” for me too and I also give rules. Unless you are nicely moving my hair out of my eyes or playing with my hair, don’t touch my fucking head or that’s where your blow job ends. And I let guys know I don’t do the whole spit or swallow thing because I think that it tastes disgusting and I don’t want sperm in my body. Plan on somewhere else to come before I start. If you’re getting a blow job from me in the first place, it means you’re in a relationship with me an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Second dateI wouldn’t say I’m pushing past the need for thrills, it’s more about understanding why these LVM provide so many of us with thrills in the first place. A typical LVM will have you on a variable ratio reinforcement schedule (it doesn’t matter what you do for him, you don’t know when he’ll do something that will make you happy, it’s random.) When you play the lottery, you’re on a variable ratio schedule because you never know what you’ll get. A HVM will have you on a continuous reinforcement sche… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:19 AM |
| 64 | Local man can't handle the fact his girlfriend is smarter than himWhen I saw it started with “Salutations” I knew immediately I was going to be reading the words of a fake intellectual lollllllll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:16 AM |
| 14 | Second dateHope I don’t get hate for this one, but I’m going to say something that contradicts a lot of comments I see here.... I’ve found that most HVM are a little bit “boring” at the start and I have never felt a “spark” towards a man. If you’re used to dating LVM, a reliable HVM can seem boring because you expect them to show up on time and they do. Unlike bad boys who have a strong possibility of now showing up, so then you’re thrilled when they actually do (aka the bare minimum). HVM don’t play games… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:43 PM |
| 99 | How long should I date him before moving on?He’s been like this for 7 months?! Your relationship should have been defined months ago. I find that when people are scared of titles, it’s just showing the surface tip of large emotional issues that are below the surface. & Why is he talking about you being his “wife” when he’s too scared to call you his girlfriend? That sounds like a completely empty promise to me. I think that to have put up with no title for this long means you have empathized too much. That’s how LVM impact us when we fall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:51 PM |
| 78 | FEMINIST PORN DOESN’T EXIST and RULE 34 is a LIE. FIGHT ME LibFems and Scrotes!!I’ve seen a lot of porn where the guy’s face is 100% cropped out the entire time (which NEVER is the case with women who are in pornographic videos). So don’t forget that some of these guys are literally so ugly we don’t include their heads in the shot and only get from the shoulders down 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:28 AM |
| 37 | A small appreciation post for the hvm in my lifeI’m so happy your brother was able to work to become a respectful young man, especially considering all the things he had to overcome to get there. More young men need to realize what a slippery slope watching porn is. Kudos to your brother for recognizing that watching porn is unacceptable because many men never do and society continues to insist it’s “normal”. It’s unacceptable because if you had genuine respect for women, you wouldn’t have any desire to watch it. Seeing women as people and wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:22 AM |
| 37 | why are they acting like I got bullied for my question..Honestly, he’s right about one thing- it is fucking audacious to not know where the clit is. Many of us are full grown women in our late twenties and beyond, so we are interacting with full grown men. They should be able to find it. Women are bombarded with tips on how to please men, and if they cared even a tiny bit about our pleasure they’d be able to locate that one simple thing that’s literally visible to the naked eye.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 01:23 PM |
| 3 | FDS Affirming and Life Changing Information. Ladies, this video confirms scientifically that EVERYTHING FDS preaches Is RIGHT, AND Straight From The Horses Mouth! The Scary Truth Is Most Men Do Not Even Know Who THEY Are Which Is Why We Must Watch Their Actions. Watch And LEARN XOXOI can agree to do away with vibrators (if I’m heading towards a relationship) because I can see how they can be detrimental because then you can’t orgasm from your hand anymore (at least that was my experience when I used them frequently. After a few weeks of not using them things went back to normal). However, I think self-stimulation with your hands shouldn’t harm your sex life. Men have bigger and stronger hands than us, and sometimes they’re playing games pressing those buttons so fast and m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 07:31 PM |
| 222 | Got banned from r/datingoverthirty due to inviting women to FDS via PMSome people don’t wanna be saved. They’d rather keep paying for tickets to the clown show 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Friend with guy problems won’t listen to meYou’re welcome :) | /r/askFDS | 21/09/20 05:57 PM |
| 10 | Friend with guy problems won’t listen to me“I feel like we’ve been over this many times, and I have no other things to say about this. I’d appreciate if you didn’t bring it up anymore because i feel like I’m beating a dead horse” “I feel like I’ve given you advice on this, and when you totally disregard it I feel frustrated. I don’t think we’ll ever see eye to eye on what you should do about this guy so I think we should stop discussing it because it’s emotionally draining for me” “Hey, I love you and this is hard for me to say but I’m g… | /r/askFDS | 21/09/20 05:43 PM |
| 6 | FDS Affirming and Life Changing Information. Ladies, this video confirms scientifically that EVERYTHING FDS preaches Is RIGHT, AND Straight From The Horses Mouth! The Scary Truth Is Most Men Do Not Even Know Who THEY Are Which Is Why We Must Watch Their Actions. Watch And LEARN XOXOYeah, I thought that was a bit strange as well... I don’t feel like I have any blocked sexual energy just cause my arm pits are ticklish? They’re just like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:50 PM |
| 3 | FDS Affirming and Life Changing Information. Ladies, this video confirms scientifically that EVERYTHING FDS preaches Is RIGHT, AND Straight From The Horses Mouth! The Scary Truth Is Most Men Do Not Even Know Who THEY Are Which Is Why We Must Watch Their Actions. Watch And LEARN XOXOHe was trying to differentiate between clitoral and g-spot but I just don’t know about it. I feel like if I can’t give myself a g-spot orgasm no one else is gonna do it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:43 PM |
| 7 | FDS Affirming and Life Changing Information. Ladies, this video confirms scientifically that EVERYTHING FDS preaches Is RIGHT, AND Straight From The Horses Mouth! The Scary Truth Is Most Men Do Not Even Know Who THEY Are Which Is Why We Must Watch Their Actions. Watch And LEARN XOXOUgh no :( this is his only video I’ve ever seen. I really liked and agreed with the whole thing.... up until he started dissing clitoral orgasms. He said that in excess they’re bad, but really how many women have a problem with excessive masturbation? I feel like it’s very very few | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:26 PM |
| 10 | looks like she agreed to a walk date and the LVM implies the dog is mad when she is there. imagine settling then being made a joke of online. DON'T do walk dates!Annoyed at how many rewards this bullshit has | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:23 PM |
| 12 | FDS Affirming and Life Changing Information. Ladies, this video confirms scientifically that EVERYTHING FDS preaches Is RIGHT, AND Straight From The Horses Mouth! The Scary Truth Is Most Men Do Not Even Know Who THEY Are Which Is Why We Must Watch Their Actions. Watch And LEARN XOXOI thought so too? I feel like self-stimulation for women (as long as it’s not accompanied by porn) has a lot of benefits. Hope this isn’t a TMI, but I genuinely feel as though it’s made me less bloated and aided in digestion at times | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:22 PM |
| 12 | FDS Affirming and Life Changing Information. Ladies, this video confirms scientifically that EVERYTHING FDS preaches Is RIGHT, AND Straight From The Horses Mouth! The Scary Truth Is Most Men Do Not Even Know Who THEY Are Which Is Why We Must Watch Their Actions. Watch And LEARN XOXOI already made a comment here, but this video was long and covered a lot, so I feel this should be it’s own comment because it feels so unrelated. What did you ladies think of him saying clitoral orgasms can weaken the kidneys and cause water retention and weight gain? I don’t believe in porn, but I do believe in self-stimulation and I thought that was beneficial (because there’s muscles down there and I know self-stimulation works them. I always figured that I’d need those muscles to push out a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:06 PM |
| 30 | FDS Affirming and Life Changing Information. Ladies, this video confirms scientifically that EVERYTHING FDS preaches Is RIGHT, AND Straight From The Horses Mouth! The Scary Truth Is Most Men Do Not Even Know Who THEY Are Which Is Why We Must Watch Their Actions. Watch And LEARN XOXOI intended on watching just a little bit of this, but I actually watched it all the way through because it was so interesting! He makes a lot of great points- my favorite was the way in which he suggests women refuse sex. This suggestion is what I’ve always done and has always worked really well for me. (He suggests that you say you are very attracted to him and would like to have sex...maybe you even say that you’re looking forward to it. But you can’t now because it brings up too much for you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:00 PM |
| 8 | Friend with guy problems won’t listen to meI agree with this advice. Keep in mind you’re only able to control your own actions, not hers. You have given her fine advice, however she’s not blocking him and letting him annoy her it’s because there’s something she’s getting out of it. She may like the attention, validation or the drama. However, you are not obligated to keep listening to her talk about this anymore. All you can do in this situation is tell her not to talk about this in your presence. Tell her she’s already shared her though… | /r/askFDS | 21/09/20 02:44 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with men that compete with you?How do I deal with men who compete with me?..... I do not. LVM are great at disguising themselves as HVM when you first meet them. A LVM may still be accomplished in his career and have things going for him that make him attractive to you. But remember that being a LVM or HVM isn’t entirely about what you accomplish or don’t accomplish- it’s also about your mindset and the way you see the world. I think men who get competitive like that are actually LVM pretending to be HVM. A man who’s truly co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:52 AM |
| 9 | 'You're different then other girls/women'When guys tell you you’re “not like other girls” ask them what they mean by that. Don’t look happy, smile or say thanks because that it not a compliment. Look genuinely confused. Then see what he follows it up with. Or, say “Why wouldn’t I want to be like other girls?” and wait for his reply. Not knowing how to compliment a women without putting other women down is LOW VALUE behavior 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Are these signs of a LVM or am I overreacting?You’re welcome 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Are these signs of a LVM or am I overreacting?Just block! Even replying is just a waste of energy on him. He’s gonna try to backtrack if you reply. He’s already shown his true colors. Next :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Are these signs of a LVM or am I overreacting?Not acceptable. It’s a FIRST date. This is his chance to make a good impression or risk losing you forever, so he should be trying to impress you. I think he’s negging you for wanting a dinner date by calling it “the whole traditional thing”. It’s not a whole thing it’s literally a meal. It sounds like he thinks a dinner date is a burden or chore? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:32 PM |
| 15 | Taste in men changing. Has anyone experienced this? Before I liked bad boys, because I confused my instincts telling me something was off, for butterflies and excitement. I knew these men were no good for me. Now I am more attracted to men, I before would deem "boring".I’m also dating with the intent of finding someone who I can spend my life with and start a family with. As my intentions changed (looking for a husband not a boyfriend) I’ve found my taste in men to be changing too. I wouldn’t say I lowered my standards... but I’ve revised some of my looks-based requirements. I’ve gotten more inclusive in terms of body type. I used to only like very muscular guys who competed in bodybuilding events like I do. But now I’ve expanded this to include most athletic … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:27 PM |
| 31 | What about STI tests?I noticed that was missing from the handbook as well! I personally would not have sex with someone unless I am 100% sure they don’t have an STI. I feel like papers can be easily forged and people lie, so to be totally sure, I tell partners that if we’re going to have sex then we’ll be getting tested together. I found this to go over pretty well. Unfortunately, I didn’t ask this of my first boyfriend because we were each other’s first and had been together for over a year when we finally had sex.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:13 PM |
| 20 | I thought I married a HVM, but not 2 months in and red flags are starting to show.I don’t know what to tell you to do or not do.... but if this was my situation I’d leave him. Life happens. Sometimes you have less time to workout. Sometimes you may need to take medications that impact your metabolism. It’s possibly you’ll have children and your body will change permanently. You could be a victim of a crime or in an accident (God forbid). I know that being with a man like that would keep me on edge and feeling like I was walking on egg shells constantly. Like many women, my we… | /r/askFDS | 16/09/20 01:25 PM |
| 22 | Are men actually bad at texting or is this just an excuse?You’ve been on three dates together- so he’s had enough time to forge a meaningful connection with you, yet things are still new. When things are new and have the potential to develop into more, both parties can’t get enough of each other. That passion is part of what inspires people to commit to one another. It sounds like you think of him often and wish you could text more. But sadly, it seems as though he thinks of you less often and wishes you could text less (based off him leaving you on re… | /r/askFDS | 16/09/20 01:16 PM |
| 2 | Calling all FDS experts! We need your help over at r/AskFDS to help answer personal relationship questions.Does being approved mean you get a flair on that sub? Because I commented advice on a posted and didn’t have a flair | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:50 AM |
| 7 | acceptable covid-proof dates?Thanks! So far I’ve been liking how he plans things. If he keeps it up this might work out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:49 AM |
| 5 | Calling all FDS experts! We need your help over at r/AskFDS to help answer personal relationship questions.It’s not letting me post on r/AskFDS. Can I request approval here? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:21 AM |
| 17 | acceptable covid-proof dates?Things have been getting better in my area. I recently started going on dates with a man who seems to be HV. We’ve been going golfing, outdoor dining, outdoor art exhibits/sculpture grounds, and hiking (like nice trails you have to pay to get on) and shopping outdoor markets together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:15 AM |
| 38 | Subtle negs- watch out for themIt’s funny how these “Red Pill” types hate the idea of women riding the “c*k carousel”..... but also hate women following Female Dating Strategy! Women who follow FDS are not on that wretched imaginary carousel, so why don’t you love that about us? 🥴 As a women who’s serious about FDS, I have never had casual sex. I’m in my late 20’s and have only slept with 3 men (all serious boyfriends that I vetted as well as I could). *And you know what? Men literally do not like that!!! They ask if I have i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:35 AM |
| 2 | This 24 year old dude who casually announced to me that he has a girlfriend in another country and pressured me into things. It’s a lot to read, sorry, but I had to share with somebody. I’m appalled. Blocked.The show “My Five Wives” is a really interesting one if you’re looking to better understand polygamist families. Men don’t take additional wives unless they can provide for them. The women are all a strong support network for one another, and everything in the family is done through meetings and voting (and the women outnumber then men because there’s only one husband). Like when the husband wanted to get a tattoo, all his wives had to be okay with it. I think it works for people of certain reli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:09 AM |
| 46 | If your man knows the names of pornstars, he’s pornsickBack in my Pick-Me times I used to think this was a good thing. I was like “oh he knows her name so I thought he actually sees her as a humanbeing” 🤡 But no. If he knows their names it means he’s porn sick, this is not a good trait in any way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:51 PM |
| 11 | This 24 year old dude who casually announced to me that he has a girlfriend in another country and pressured me into things. It’s a lot to read, sorry, but I had to share with somebody. I’m appalled. Blocked.I am against polygamy, however I am educated on the subject (because for my work I need to be) and it’s clear from reading this that this man doesn’t even understand the most basic things about polygamy! Polygamist understand that jealously can and will make it’s way into relationships and all parties need to navigate this together. Managing jealousy and resentment is a part of poly relationships that never goes away. To suggest that these multiple relationships don’t bring jealousy shows this m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:47 PM |
| 186 | Never make a man go to therapy or attend relationship counseling with you. They will only do the bare minimum needed to get you to stay. It’s a waste of time and money. Work on the assumption they will never change.I’m a therapist myself and I don’t work with couples. There’s just something about couples counseling that doesn’t sit well with me. I think it’s the emphasis on communication that makes me so uncomfortable. Because a lot of the things women are encouraged to “communicate” are things the men should (and often do) already know. It’s just that the issues are things the women communicated multiple times but the man didn’t realize that they were so important to her that she’d consider leaving. ONLY … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:37 PM |
| 15 | only 1st OLD dates that have ever gone anywhere for me have been dinner datesHonestly, suggesting a coffee date has always been a giant turn off for me. I never went on one and couldn’t understand why it ground my gears so much until I came across FDS. Maybe it’s just me but if like someone I knew saw me on a first date that was a coffee date I’d be humiliated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:11 PM |
| 39 | only 1st OLD dates that have ever gone anywhere for me have been dinner datesI totally agree! If a man hasn’t planned something nice, I’m not going. A man should see a first date as his initial chance to impress you - that mentality is often present in men who plan nice dates. A man should not see a first date as your chance to impress him - that mentality is often present in men who plan low effort activities. They plan low effort things because if you don’t impress them it’s easy and cheap for them to bail. Later today, I’m going on a first date who I’ve met through OL… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 02:37 PM |
| 14 | Let’s talk about more CODES on OLDIt stands for Black Lives Matter! But when I see it on a dating profile it just doesn’t feel quite right. It feels like something they say just to try to seem more empathetic towards Black women and have a chance with them in bed. But these men haven’t been listening to Black women and their stories or contributing towards the movement in any way. If they did it would show. They’re just fetishizing them and being problematic, I don’t think they really care. And honestly to suggest a coffee date … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 03:30 PM |
| 14 | Let’s talk about more CODES on OLDJust looking to see where things go= I will dangle the relationship carrot for as long as you’re willing to tolerate it 6’0= I have good genetics, so I deserve sex now! Let’s grab coffee= I go on many unsuccessful dates so I am planning a coffee “date” so i only have to spend $2.99 and can leave after 15 minutes if you’re not what I thought you’d be BLM= Maybe if I include this, Black women will want to fuck me! Love all races= I’m trying to fuck one women of every race so I can say I’ve “tried … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 03:17 PM |
| 24 | Should I wait or?I’m 26 now but was a virgin when I was over 21. Honestly just follow the handbook and wait to sleep with a man until he has been properly vetted. Just because someone is willing to make the experience comfortable for you doesn’t make them great. That’s the bare minimum | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 05:19 PM |
| 14 | Required to drive Y’all around? No inappropriate touching (slapping butt) in public?If he knows you get stress and anxiety from driving certain areas, yet he asks you to drive in those areas I would not say that is a HVM. If a committed relationship isn’t established, then I’d say none is appropriate. If you’ve established that makes you uncomfortable, then none is appropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:55 PM |
| 86 | Saw this on another threadI wish people feared their sons being pedophiles, rapist or abusers more than they feared their daughters developing a healthy sexuality of their own as they become of age | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:43 PM |
| 8 | Hints in his apartment that he is high value?I like to see a hanging calendar or a planner of some sorts. I’m also keen on crosses on the wall or religious items. Trophies or ribbons of some sort. Exercise equipment that looks like it’s been used recently. I don’t like seeing condoms out in the open. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 07:29 PM |
| 123 | Caption was “just bc p*rn is normal for boys of our age doesn’t mean its good for you”. I’ve never seen men speak up against this, Im having hope for improvement for the next generation (sorry if the flair is wrong)I rarely say this, but I’m gonna..... This is some king shit 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 07:23 PM |
| 63 | Because why admit that you were wrong if you can always gaslight instead 🤷♀️I’m sorry you got upset | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:45 PM |
| 71 | He THOUGHT he was doing somethingNo single guys in their late 20’s! If you were a catch, your college sweetheart would be with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Dummy Wants Us To All Make Her Same Sexual Mistakes by 30. But seriously, why does every single female sex columnist sound vapid, attention seeking, and like her self esteem is too cripplingly low to be doing this job?9. Have a one-night stand, then spill all of your secrets to him or her afterward, but never, ever call them again.* This is horrendous. Why put yourself through this? Why put another person through this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 04:13 PM |
| 31 | Need some advice: met a gentleman who turned out to be a pervert. Not sure if I’m handling this right.Block him. You think he’s a pervert because he’s demonstrated to you that he is a pervert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:12 AM |
| 11 | Thoughts?Women are the prize. Even the very best men are not prizes because the highest value men are the prize winners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 03:13 AM |
| 50 | Actual r/wholesomememesI’ve always hated reading, but I was born brunette with an AA cup. Wonder what would have happened if I liked reading.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:21 PM |
| 25 | A High Value WomanFor me, I feel like men have noticed my value because two things- physical attractiveness and the lack of sex I was having. I’m 26 now and have had 3 partners (all committed relationships with men who I loved who took me seriously). I didn’t have sex until after my 21st birthday. When an attractive woman (especially from a small town or a community where everyone knows everyone) sleeps with absolutely nobody, word of that gets somehow around. This was something most people knew about me in high … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:35 PM |
| 4 | “I usually paid on the first dates because I was the one asking them out. That simple.” - another pickme in the commentsWow I never thought about it being unsettling about guys wanting to get you to an unfamiliar area. Just never thought of it that way, but you’re so right I recently argued with a man that I wasn’t comfortable driving Philly for our third date (narrow streets, aggressive drivers, very congested roads, parallel parking, I get lost there) and this resulted in me blocking him. I was thinking maybe I over-reacted but it’s about more than just effort. It’s about safety too. Thanks for that piece of in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 06:54 PM |
| 9 | “I usually paid on the first dates because I was the one asking them out. That simple.” - another pickme in the commentsI always have men pay for me, but I wait until I’m comfortable for them to drive me. Having my food paid for doesn’t put me in danger-Getting in the car with someone can put me in danger. I live in a small town with a couple cute restaurants so I suggest they travel to my town. That way I’m in control of how I get around, but still don’t have to drive much. If they aren’t willing to come to me, then that’s okay because it helps me weed out people who won’t put effort in | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:32 PM |
| 26 | Psychologist gaslights woman for asking her girlfriend to delete her dating app (:After Stephanie asked Would you be open to deleting the app? the “psychologist” stopped the video and started talking about how we shouldn’t make demands. That was a really gross moment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 10:29 PM |
| 2 | How I Deliberately Revamped my OLD Profile to Attract HVM and Deter LVM (Example Profile and Rational Included)I like that I message first! Not because I like to make the first move, just because on apps I get flooded with messages from men I don’t want. And I have trouble keeping the ones I may want from the ones I don’t. I feel like it’s easier to organize myself on this app. Also by making the opener it gives them less opportunities to open with gross statements | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:53 PM |
| 39 | LVM on CMB with 1 Pic trying to call me fat. Thank goodness I am well trained in FDS.Ask him for his calves measurements | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:33 AM |
| 5 | Told him I'm spending the day at the beachThank you for saying that. No ones ever said anything like that to me and it’s appreciated. Thankfully, I did take a picture in a full robe holding my trophy and medal and you can see the heels peeking out( and I’m clearly spray tanned) so I have that one to use with OLD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:59 AM |
| 62 | Told him I'm spending the day at the beachMy all time favorite thing to wear is a bikini. I compete in women’s bodybuilding shows in the bikini division, and it’s taken so much mental and physical work to get here that being in a bikini and feeling good is something with really deep meaning to me. HOWEVER, I do not post any bikini pictures on any dating apps! These scrotes truly cannot handle bikini pictures. Posting front facing, fully clothed, smiling pictures only has been what gets me the most potential HVM matches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:55 PM |
| 123 | My Wife's autistic friend wont make eye contact me or laugh at my jokes, how can I get my Wife to stop having friends? I want my house back.Wow the lack of support here makes me sick because it’s so hard to make friends as an adult woman. It’s even harder to make friends as an adult woman on the spectrum. They’re both lucky to have found each other as friends. Ive read posts from so many women (both on and off the spectrum) who don’t have friends to get lunch and do things with and I’ve been one of those women at one point in my life. it absolutely sucks. I had a HVM partner at the time and he probably would have paid for me to have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:48 PM |
| 11 | The last two sentences... I wish I could unreadWhy’s he want a third when he’s not even involved with the two you’ve got?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 08:25 PM |
| 31 | Pick me begging for male approval and validation with a post about why she thinks it’s wrong to call out men for being the trash they are, with a heavy heaping of male ass-kisseryIt’s men’s own faults for dying sooner. They drive more recklessly, abuse alcohol and drugs at higher rates, engage in more physically risky behaviors and generally take worse care of their bodies and minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 02:22 PM |
| 8 | What to do?Block him. He doesn’t see you as a person. He sees you as a vending machine and he’s wondering how many quarters he needs to put in before he gets a prize. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:41 PM |
| 13 | Just no!Way to treat your king! That would pair amazing with some cover girl mascara flakes 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:38 PM |
| 3 | When men ask about your pet peeve? How would you answerI usually say something vague that alludes to something bigger. (One of) my pet peeve is guys who’s entire personality revolves around their dog(s). But saying that is kind of savage. So I say something like, “I don’t like when people share a bed with their pets and go around covered in animal hair” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Why do people think that FDS means that we hate men?F*l? I think that’s an interesting term because incels get no advances from the opposite sex, but “f**ls” are out here fighting off advances left and right....? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:35 AM |
| 27 | My god. For once I’d love to see it the other way around. Imagine a man posting about how it irritates him as to how much men over exaggerate their ‘problems’ and how much they hate women. It would never get near this many upvotes and would never get an award.Yeah, men do get raped too. Wanna know who rapes them? Mostly it’s other fucking men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:31 AM |
| 15 | My god. For once I’d love to see it the other way around. Imagine a man posting about how it irritates him as to how much men over exaggerate their ‘problems’ and how much they hate women. It would never get near this many upvotes and would never get an award.I use “As a women” as a sentence starter sometimes. Like... As a woman, I don’t feel safe doing that. As a woman, I’ve had to work three times as hard to achieve that.Etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:29 AM |
| 10 | Anxiety over reputation as pickmeishaIt’s okay, really. You did what you thought was right at the time. And now you know better and won’t do it again. It may feel complicated due to your anxiety, but really it’s as simple as that. I promise. I know how it feels to have a lot of love in your heart, and then to feel stupid when you realize you were giving it to someone who didn’t deserve it or give it back. It absolutely sucks. It’s a terrible emotional burn. As you wait for a HVM, find something else worthy to dump your love into if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:25 AM |
| 4 | Can you imagine coming home to that? Why would you want a guy who seems pissed of 24/7I’d like to believe that even the most damaged pickmeisha wouldn’t stoop this low. Imagine having so little pride and so little self respect that you reach out this man saying, ”hiii I’m not a st! I’m not here to play games OuO” 🤮🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 19 | Pick Me Of The Decade Got Me Banned From Dating Over 30 For Putting Her In Her Place After She Came At Me & Lied About Having A Boyfriend When I advised A Recently Pumped & Dumped OP Woman To Withhold Sex Until Commitment If That Is What She Wanted-5th Similar Type Of Post On The Sub This WeekSad! Hope she experiences a mental shift before it’s too late. I keep women like these in my prayers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:52 AM |
| 14 | Would you simply block a guy like this?I personally try to go on dates very early on because I like to get a feel for the person early. I don’t like to text men, it feels like a waste of my time and an interruption of my daily life. So for your future dating endeavors, I don’t think that’s a red flag. The way I see it, if a man is down to drive to my town and pay for our date after knowing me for just a little bit, I like that level of enthusiasm. Personally, I kind of hold a double standard about the ex thing. I will ask a man early… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:50 AM |
| 51 | “I don’t have a child”So he’s telling you because he’s just a father and not a dad, you should be ok with him having a child. GROSS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:38 AM |
| 63 | Pick Me Of The Decade Got Me Banned From Dating Over 30 For Putting Her In Her Place After She Came At Me & Lied About Having A Boyfriend When I advised A Recently Pumped & Dumped OP Woman To Withhold Sex Until Commitment If That Is What She Wanted-5th Similar Type Of Post On The Sub This WeekThis woman’s logic is gross and reeks of lack of self control. Sex is kind of like eating. Yeah, sex is great. Eating is great. But, when I don’t take the time to look at what’s in my food and make sure it’s something high-quality that belongs in my body...I’m going to feel like shit when it’s done and it will have mental and physical consequences. When you tell someone to just do something because it feels good now you’re disrespecting both their future self and their inner self. (This food ana… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:36 AM |
| 8 | Giving and receiving through self-respectYES! Agree with this. It’s almost like in the animal kingdom. A lioness moves through the forest a lot more calmly than a rabbit does. When you respect yourself, you don’t feel on edge and people sense that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 07:34 PM |
| 30 | What are some random things you filter out early on OLD?Guys who say they “don’t like going out to eat” but then offer no alternative high-effort date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:35 PM |
| 2 | “I hate small talk” = I hate putting in the effort required to have authentic emotional intimacy. So, rather than earning your trust, I intend on acting annoyed by your walls/boundaries and prying into your psyche because I feel entitled to your immediate trust.You feel like that cause that’s what it is 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 03:29 PM |
| 3 | “I hate small talk” = I hate putting in the effort required to have authentic emotional intimacy. So, rather than earning your trust, I intend on acting annoyed by your walls/boundaries and prying into your psyche because I feel entitled to your immediate trust.The only thing that interested me out of this was science. Death? No thanks. Sex? Extra no thanks. But science could work. You wanna hear about how crows can recall faces and pass that information through generations? Or how certain species of ants capture and enslave other bugs? That could work. But I agree with you! If you like those topics so much where are all your buddies who do also?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 03:21 PM |
| 40 | Married pick me mom friend said the part above the original post...no wonder she’s settling for her LVM husband🤢If these pick-mes really love cleaning, why are they only doing it for LVM? I’m a very disorganized woman, but they never offer to clean any of my things? 🤔🤔🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:29 AM |
| 56 | Sisters, know that pedophiles are everywhere. Protect yourselves, your sisters, your daughters. Unsurprisingly, there is #notallmen commentary on the thread.WOW. This is absolutely gross.... but not incorrect. Thanks for this look into the male psyche that I didn’t want to see 🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 03:43 AM |
| 21 | “I hate small talk” = I hate putting in the effort required to have authentic emotional intimacy. So, rather than earning your trust, I intend on acting annoyed by your walls/boundaries and prying into your psyche because I feel entitled to your immediate trust.I feel that. The kind of small talk you have to do when doing administrative work isn’t that fun. It’s like super-safe, as non controversial as possible, and you can’t be yourself. There’s definitely something in between work-style small talk and spilling your guts out. Like medium talk, where you don’t have to say your deep shit, but you can also open up enough to be like “hey, I don’t really understand soccer/have kids. Would you mind talking about something else?” if that makes sense | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 02:10 AM |
| 6 | Found this gem floating around Facebook.All I’ve got is #27. Take it or leave it 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:51 AM |
| 8 | I think it's time to get psychological help buddy!How is making someone fear for their life harmless fun? I’m sure if a much larger man followed him around like this he wouldn’t find it funny at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:34 AM |
| 76 | “I hate small talk” = I hate putting in the effort required to have authentic emotional intimacy. So, rather than earning your trust, I intend on acting annoyed by your walls/boundaries and prying into your psyche because I feel entitled to your immediate trust.These comments make me feel so much better. I feel like a crazy person for snapping at all these men who claim to just want to get to know me. But that’s not what they’re doing. At least it doesn’t feel like it/feel good. Their “efforts” just make me angry. Over and over. It feels like they’re trying to get in my head...And that’s because they are. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:20 AM |
| 124 | Good luck with thatHe looks like the kind of guy who would steal your child’s snack pack gummies on his way out the door 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:38 AM |
| 71 | Never, and I mean NEVER, allow a man to disrespect your body like this.I’m always bothered when I hear people calling periods “shark week” or similar euphemisms. Call it what it is- a period, menstruation, vaginal bleeding. I hate that these terms are “too gross” for the sensitive male ear so instead this natural bodily process gets called comical/cutesy names. Annoying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:30 AM |
| 7 | 1. Lawyer who can’t properly use grammar 2. A real king. I have no words 🤮 3. Classic “I’m a 3/10 but I only accept 9s and 10s” 4. Fucking criminalThis comment has me fucking wheezing 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Female PhD candidate is a club dancer at night because she does not get paid enough as a graduate student, another woman calls this empowering...This hits close to home- I’m pursing further education after finishing my Master’s and I’m a sex worker. If you’re not (and have never been) in a position where you’ve had to do sex work, you don’t get to say whether it’s empowering or not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Husband demands sexual favors in exchange for cleaning up after himself and raising his own childI have no words for this. Just heart breaking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:33 AM |
| 106 | this porn sicko wants everyone to know he controls her, she's worried he will leave her if she doesn't obey.Tell him you’re comfortable wearing a Louis Vuitton or Hermès collar. Get it and immediately leave him (Place collar on your favorite pet, if applicable) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:32 AM |
| -2 | I made a video about tradwives/redpillwomen but l don’t think people realize it’s a joke??Apologize if i should know this already, but do you have Tourette’s? Asking because my sister does (and she’s obsessed with TikTok and I’m trying to steer her away from Pickmeishism) so you’d be a cool person for me to share with her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:29 AM |
| 78 | Reminder before you send!Also, I know a girl (me) who still has her old phone, and uses it to physically record the screen of the new phone when she wants to save things 🙃 So you may think the guy didn’t screenshot or anything, but he could be doing what I do. Ladies please don’t send anything to a man on Snapchat if you’re not okay with it getting out publicly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:26 AM |
| 11 | Husband ignores wife’s efforts to do all his favourite things for V-day...because she didn’t have sex with him. Consider what man you’re busting a gut for. LVM have only one thing on their mind.I don’t know this woman, but I want to cry for her. I don’t want to put blame on the woman here because it’s not her fault.... but I truly do think that if after all this she’s questioning her value she needs to see a therapist. And this is coming from a therapist (who’s also been a client at some points in my life, so I don’t have any negative beliefs about anyone who needs mental health care.) “I wonder if I’m not good enough” simply isn’t a thought someone with adequate self-worth or mental h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Please stay woke about the current Male mental health debate- manipulative low value men WILL use this to their advantageOh my God this is fucking SICKENING.... I’m a mental health professional, but I’ve never worked for a hotline and I don’t know much about their services. I had no idea this was happening. Definitely going to share this with male colleagues (even though I don’t have many of them) and see if perhaps they’d want to volunteer for these hotlines | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 01:45 PM |
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