Where is the lie, tho?

BasieSkanks · 2021-09-11T07:19:46+00:00

I wanted to add that there is nothing wrong with how the woman on the right looks. It's a common theme with poly/couples looking for third that the woman is way more attractive than the man, hence why she is often used as the bait.

Phenotypic_Clusterfk · 2021-09-10T20:05:51+00:00

"Looking for a third!"

mothboon · 2021-09-10T21:17:46+00:00

Ewwww I just had a flashback to when I went out with my work friends one night to a gross bar and I went to dance with one of my girl friends on the dance floor, and there was a couple watching me the whole night and I swear the 'wife' pointed at me and said 'her' and then he nodded and the wife got up and started to dance near me.. she just kept getting closer and closer.. and I told my gf from work, "hey I think I'm going to go home..". I knew exactly what was being conjured, and I wanted no part of it.

Omg it was creepy. Their sleazy stares from that night still haunt me 🤢

Novemberinthechair · 2021-09-10T21:44:21+00:00

On the left it looks like he's carrying a blowup doll around.

sweetnsaltyanxiety · 2021-09-10T20:55:35+00:00

In the darkest depths of my pick me days, I let an ex talk me into ‘swinging’ and I can 10000% confirm that’s what 99% of those people look like. My vagina would dry up and zip itself shut when they’d approach us.

PollyannaPenny · 2021-09-10T20:00:39+00:00

And this is why nerd conventions aren't fun anymore...

joliet_jane_blues · 2021-09-10T20:47:32+00:00

The expression on the cat

xsweaterxweatherx · 2021-09-10T20:56:37+00:00

Had a college friend-of-a-friend offer me up for a threesome with the couple on the right 🤢 I have no idea why he thought this was appropriate

soytitties · 2021-09-11T03:59:16+00:00

I had a couple like this hit on me when I was WORKING…

I was working in cosmetics retail so idk if they actually wanted to hook up or were getting off on hitting on someone who is forced to be nice? I got away cause I did not want to find out.

They were like stroking each other whilst doing it - I remember they made the creepiest comments about my skin being smooth and soft, how I smelt good etc

I just about ran to hide in the back room to get away from it.

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-09-10T20:20:22+00:00

🤣 its every poly couple ever! Chris Fleming said it best

__kamikaze__ · 2021-09-10T20:15:57+00:00

Even if they looked like the couple on the left I still wouldn’t be interested.

You just know that fuckboy in the robe is a massive manipulator who destroys her self esteem 🤷‍♀️

spicyspa · 2021-09-11T01:31:25+00:00

An ex lvm who was middle-aged and used to be obese was invited to an orgy years before I met him. He was disappointed to find that everyone there was obese . . . like him. Ha.

purasangria · 2021-09-10T20:46:54+00:00

It's true, the kinky people are usually the grossest. Why is that?

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-09-11T01:26:18+00:00

Circling back to our Burning Man conversation… 🤣💀

blackmetalbetty · 2021-09-10T21:21:13+00:00

Lmao It's never who you want to be polyamorous who's polyamorous!🎶🎶

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-09-11T01:38:16+00:00

These creepy ass men get these ideas about threesomes or poly relationships from porn where an ugly man like Ron Jeremy is going around having sex with unlimited quantities of hot, young women. They soon cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality and begin to think that they, too, can have countless women lined up to screw them. Fortunately most of these "poly" people are also super pornsick so it's easy to just block and delete these weirdos.

lhcm_ · 2021-09-10T20:20:38+00:00

Right is every ‘couple looking for a third’ on OLD

LittleSnackPack58 · 2021-09-10T23:40:02+00:00

Back when my husband was 16 and worked at a fast food joint, he worked with an older guy that had 3somes with quite a few women. He was 300lbs and hideous looking and so were the women he hooked up with. He showed everyone pics (nobody wanted to see, they were blind sided) and it was basically 3 dumpy trolls all fucking each other. He even had bigger tits than them. No one congratulated him and everyone was grossed out. So now when I read 3some stories on reddit I assume it's either made up or it's nobody you'd want to see naked.

catlady4u · 2021-09-10T20:10:59+00:00

A couple of years ago when I on OLD, a poly scrote hit me up. What an ugly mfer, I felt like telling him he was lucky to have found one women who could look past his gross appearance, he was pushing his luck with two. But I said no thanks and blocked him.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-09-10T21:19:43+00:00

It's so true. I knew the guy on the right.

Spittens · 2021-09-10T20:21:53+00:00

Ew. Back before I swore off OLD for the rest of time, I had a guy message me who put his age as 39, but HAD to be 60+. I politely told him that I was not interested and that I did not appreciate his obvious disrespect of my age preference, (aka I caught him manipulating the age filter so he should stop trying that). He was polite, but had the gall to ask if he could watch me with another man since I was not interested. Once the brain aneurysm passed, I nearly broke my phone trying to hit the block button.

Ethically non-monogamous is just gross. Sleazy way of saying he's openly the community dick.

Fuck that noise.

imarriedmybookshelf · 2021-09-11T02:35:00+00:00

When someone says threesome i always imagine the 2nd pic. And sometimes when on OLD back then i didnt have to scroll down to the bio to see they were looking for a third 😖😖😖

shelballama · 2021-09-10T20:43:37+00:00

The teeth and steam punk hat/goggles of the dude made me laugh 😂

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-09-10T22:58:24+00:00

I am so glad FDS exists and I can finally voice my distaste for polyamory which I think is a huge scam in a patriarchal society and serves mainly men. The amount of poly men on OLD who I can’t even understand how they even got one woman let alone wanting another…seeing these scrotes always filled me with “wtf”. They are ungrateful and greedy. It’s sad that high value attractive women have to swim through so much crap just to find even one high quality man but these weirdos somehow want a harem of women? Yeah no.

MissWestSeattle · 2021-09-10T20:54:47+00:00

Not wrong at all the people who have approached me in the past to be their 3rd looked like ghouls. And the way they brought it up was so creepy, having the woman lead the conversation before her even creepier male partner swung in after a few minutes.

Enby-Adams · 2021-09-10T19:52:29+00:00

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OvarianSynthesizer · 2021-09-11T03:58:38+00:00

There’s a song that goes “it’s never who you want to be polyamorous who’s actually polyamorous” and that graphic hits it dead-on.

QueensJuju · 2021-09-11T01:42:08+00:00

I dated a scrote deeply entrenched in the polyamorous/Burning Man community. It's full of some of the most broken, dysfunctional, ugly, drug addicted people in costume I've ever met (and I adore Mardi Gras, so that's really saying something).

He was acutely aware that I didn't look like them, was proud, and I got TONS of attention because of it. I was young and worked out multiple times a week, well groomed, extremely clean. That was rare in the scene, so I was fawned over. And I was just like...if this is what y'all want why aren't you putting in the effort too? Pretending like you like patchouli ass and dad bods and neon pacifiers. I never gave in, I actually got a reputation for being "aggressive" and "mean" in my refusals 😂 He would warn couples not to proposition me. We'd be at a completely non-sexual show or party and within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, the woman is asking me to have sex with her and her partner. Get fucking bent, I don't like being harassed for sex by strangers when they're men, and it doesn't make it any better when it's a dude pimping out his insecure Pickme. Gross gross drama, all those people are.

Efflights6 · 2021-09-10T21:09:16+00:00

I know a poly couple that looks EXACTLY like that 🤣.

Wild_Artio · 2021-09-10T23:02:44+00:00

That mushroom shirt and witch skirt though hahahaha. The accuracy is so on point with our current zeitgeist, I’m dying.

arnezuara · 2021-09-10T20:03:03+00:00

Men who want to fuck a lot of women are STD-ridden, wannabe manipulative rapists with a plethora of insecurities (surprise).

Avoid them like fire.

electroloop · 2021-09-10T19:55:59+00:00

Very very few people (approximately 0) who are ENM are attractive. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Pure clownery.

riricide · 2021-09-11T00:19:22+00:00

This is so true lol. Everytime I saw a "poly" or "third" or "unicorn" hunter profile it was the fugliest looking people you could imagine.

witchy2628 · 2021-09-10T21:18:22+00:00

Leave me and my blue hair out of this 😂

spicyspa · 2021-09-11T03:30:03+00:00

Cat, "...gulp..."

IsabellaGalavant · 2021-09-11T16:37:22+00:00

It's NEVER the people you'd want to see naked that want to BE naked.

BamBamBaggins · 2021-09-11T00:49:59+00:00

This married girl at work that likes to joke that I’m her work wife one day was like “you should come over.” My first thought was sex cult and looking for a third 😅

Gambit12345 · 2021-09-10T19:54:20+00:00

The left looks like cooper and billy from sex life lol

randomgirl34861 · 2021-09-10T22:52:38+00:00

That cat looks like it’s seen some things

fknbtch · 2021-09-11T02:10:58+00:00

this reminds me of that woman on tiktok who says she "lets her husband have her mom". then she made some other ones of him, her and all her swinger friends kissing in a pool trying to create this whole, you wish this was you vibe, and it's like no thanks, i'm not into sub7s with STIs.

SkyWanderluster · 2021-09-10T20:17:05+00:00

Unrelated but is there a new rule about posting images? It doesn't show for me anymore so I thought they had temporarly blocked it

garcyp · 2021-09-10T23:10:15+00:00

He's too thin.

frostedgemstone · 2021-09-11T11:39:15+00:00

I was just having a discussion about this the other day with my friends. We were talking about how this is always predatory because of the unavoidable power imbalance that occurs. Think of it, ESTABLISHED couples (people who trust, know, are familiar with each other) are looking for a LONE stranger, of course a female one. The couple gets to have an advantage of their rapport and the fact they have an alliance, their third will be the ‘other.’ Besides the obvious safety issues, the ‘unicorn’ is treated as a disposable thing.

jkklfdasfhj · 2021-09-10T21:16:07+00:00

It's the accuracy for me.

karabnp · 2021-09-10T21:50:21+00:00

The accuracy.🤣😭 This has killed me for the day.

dallyan · 2021-09-11T00:33:51+00:00

“Happily married.” Then bitch why you on here?

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-09-10T22:11:05+00:00

All I can say is, the couple on the right better not be having that “threesome” with the cat. Poor critter.

Drpyroxene · 2021-09-10T21:25:26+00:00

There was no need to take a jab at cats in this comic 🙄

HumanAdhesiveness360 · 2021-09-11T03:12:48+00:00

Dead

mitzislippers · 2021-09-10T22:45:43+00:00

esp on tinder when i used to be on it yuck….

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-09-11T16:47:11+00:00

Lmao this reminds me of how in high school all the gross kids were having the most sex. They’d constantly swap partners, make out in the hall. They’d try to hug you because you politely smiled at them.

There were never rumors or inappropriate behavior by the attractive kids.

makemesmileboi · 2021-09-10T20:19:23+00:00

Lmfao! 😂 so true!😂 😂 😂

PetuniaXo · 2021-09-11T03:28:20+00:00

I'm not going to lie; I'm somewhere in between both of these groups when it comes to style/aesthetic lol...closer to the ones on the right 😄 and I know a lot of other people with this style, too. A large percentage of them do engage in low value antics 😆 but some would surprise you.

I'm not offended by the post...quite the opposite. I laughed. It's mostly true. Either way the poly lifestyle is terribly problematic, manipulative, and sometimes exploitative. I'm just thinking out loud. Just wanted to point out not everyone finds people like the cat lady/mushroom dude unattractive (I prefer my men w/o steampunk hats, though 😆). They do look interesting and they have the potential to be hot (I know it's a personal preference/subjective) if they're the type who has decent hygiene/takes care of themselves and if their personalities aren't totally creepy and off putting...unfortunately, that's usually not the case with the poly couples looking for a unicorn.

I know many quirky, nerdy, and/or eccentric people. I think there is a sweet spot where people are unique enough to be interesting but when it gets toooo weird, there are usually a lot of low value lifestyle choices being made. A lot of basic looking/acting people are low value too though... even male model looking men are often sh*t, too.

..I guess because it's considered an alternative lifestyle it attracts more alternative people. I'm starting to see more poly people like the couple on the left, than before, though...maybe because all those things are becoming more mainstream, now (though still considered unconventional to most). There are some generic looking f***boys looking for poly relationships, too. .

ComedyCaviar · 2021-09-10T20:41:39+00:00

Hahahhaha so true

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InjuryOnly4775 · 2021-09-11T08:04:24+00:00

Hahaha! This is so true.

spicyspa · 2021-09-13T00:03:52+00:00

I was walking downtown yesterday and saw a couple who looked nearly identical to the couple on the right minus the cat. Those types think they're so original but since they all shop at the same hipster stores they tend to be indistinguishable from each other.

adultpioneer · 2021-09-11T00:32:47+00:00

I resent the way the “actual” poly woman is depicted in this comic. She clearly has a curated fashion aesthetic, is witchy, loves cats, wears bows in her hair and is rocking a GD Peter Pan collar. (Very similar to my own style snd I am so very not poly so maybe I’m taking it personally lol.) It comes off as very sexist in that it’s making a point to drag in all the old sexist standbys, i.e., witches, cats, colorfully dyed hair etc.

The dude on the other hand is a straight up clown who probably thinks his “steampunk” hat is...fashion? I do not know. It is not cohesive with anything else regarding his appearance.

Yes I’m being nit picky because I truly have a passion for fashion and I know for a fact that the majority of self loving women take a lot of care in presenting themselves aesthetically as a way of self expression, in whatever way that it appeals for themselves.

I am not disagreeing at all tho with the fact that every poly couple I’ve ever seen irl does have some kind of “alternative” look, but it’s usually so dumpy and half-assed.

TheDecadentTradition · 2021-09-11T00:31:24+00:00

Oh my god. I just had a flashback. I was 18/19, and a former friend who became pregnant in high school was dating this gross dude. (We grew apart because she wouldn’t stop indiscriminately fucking weirdos, and I wasn’t even sexually active. It wasn’t for purity reasons, I just didn’t want to have sex yet, let alone with gross, abusive weirdos.) They were belligerently arguing, so she left her son in the care of my addicted, dysregulated sister. (Great idea, right? Not.) Feeling for the kid, I stayed home to make sure he was safe and that there was a legal driver if there was an emergency because my sister had her license revoked. They promised to pay my sister/me, but they ended up taking us to Hooters. I missed work for this, so I thought I would at least get free food. The guy got all gross when the waitress said “What could I do for you?”. He then went on and on about how he always wanted to have sex with another redhead (The guy and I both had red hair). He “joked” about how we could have a threesome right there in front of her, and she sat there and tolerated it. I got the fuck out of there. I’m much more assertive now, and I know how to call DCS.

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-10-03T18:38:25+00:00

people who do FwB: expectations vs. reality

Title	Where is the lie, tho?
Author	BasieSkanks
Upvotes	4653
Comments	180
Date	September 10, 2021 7:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/pls9yt/where_is_the_lie_tho/
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