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You could report him for that. That’s falsification of data which compromises the integrity of his work (and potentially future studies if they use his findings).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 05:18 PM
189

Love that you brought this up. They casually ignore the fact that most violent crimes are committed by men, and in the event that it’s a woman they fixated on that outlier example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 05:17 PM
28

Don’t tell them anything. If they’re rude enough to say you’re awkward, just claim you haven’t done it in a while and your skills are rusty. But also, a guy that values you would overlook your experience so it’s a red flag if he calls you awkward. Overall, just fake it til you make it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 06:42 PM
148

Nah, make his ass wait. That’s just more male propaganda to brainwash you into a pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 12:16 PM
212

Good quality post! Especially because of the pandemic many of us have become complacent and lack the drive to leave our homes. It’s a great reminder to get out and put all that theory into practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 01:53 AM
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Cultivate your relationships with friends and family. Having a pet helps too. Loneliness is real and there’s nothing shameful about being lonely. On the bright side at least you don’t have to deal with a scrote. Loneliness isn’t exclusive to being single… There are plenty of women in relationships who are lonely on-top living with the headache of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:59 PM
25

The small ones can still touch the bowl. Either way it grosses me out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:15 PM
129

Tbh I think it’s gross unless you’re in an exclusive relationship. People these days are promiscuous, so I gag at wondering WHO ELSE his dick was in… especially when they brag about stuff like anal. I’m suppose to just put that in my mouth? No thanks. And generally speaking most guys have poor hygiene. Sometimes when they sit on the toilet their dicks touch toilet bowl water. Who knows if they cleaned it after 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:44 AM
127

This is such a good point. Why should we condone something that’s seen as an insult?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:39 AM
277

^ this is also how I perceived it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 11:56 PM
5

A good reminder that just because a man has sex with you, doesn’t mean he likes you. They will literally screw anything. I hope that lizard is ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:22 PM
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The fact that this sounds like some FDS parody, yet it’s REAL 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ It’s proof that these men don’t respect you if you allow them easy access to sex. In fact, they think you’re stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:26 PM
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It sound icky. IMO it carries the connotation that the daughter is like an object to be traded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 04:46 PM
166

He’s bad at basic social norms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:52 AM
15

I applaud the fact that she’s in such great shape for her age. Very few people are able to achieve that. I would probably style myself differently though. There’s a difference between looking good for your age, and not trying to look your age. I feel like she’s styled herself as a 20-something year old, and it’s obviously not believable which portrays the wrong message. She’d look more “graceful” (her words) styled differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 05:00 PM
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We’re in the same boat, I really feel you on this. I don’t bother anymore because I know it leads to disappointment. There’s more happiness to be found focusing on other things you actually have control over!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:47 PM
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Yep, myself and plenty of friends feel this way. Don’t beat yourself up for it. Dateable men are hard to come by, so if you do come across one he’s probably taken. Classic supply and demand issue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:39 PM
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From my experience they tend to be calm, laid back and confident with nothing to prove. Men are obsessed with their ducks, so the ones who have big ducks feel like they’ve already won in life, while the ones who don’t are oozing with insecurity and hatred because they feel like they’ve been shortchanged. Hence small ducked men have the urge to prove themselves and overcompensate with toxic behaviours. I also saw a comment about hand size here, and while there’s no scientific proof I feel like th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 12:29 PM
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Definitely. I’m extremely selective— or as others call me “picky”. Many men have liked me but I didn’t like them back, and of course the ones I do like are usually gay or taken. I’ve learned to accept that many variables are beyond my control, so I prefer to focus on things I do have control over (career, friendships, exercise etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 09:23 PM
85

Nah… most men age like bananas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 01:05 AM
21

Agreed! I love to exercise and won’t stop for a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:02 AM
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So according to this you’re damned if you do workout, and damned if you don’t (because apparently “natural state” women are undesirable). I’m good being alone. Don’t have to worry about any of this nonsense 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:09 PM
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Personally it’s a no for me. Most of the people I’ve met have used these drugs as gateway drugs which leads to heavier things like heroin. I’ve also found that we’re just incompatible in general because we don’t share the same values. I knew a guy who smokes and drinks a shitload whenever he’s stressed, while I exercise or take myself to the spa…. when I told him I’d rather be healthy he said he’s here for a good time and not a long time 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:17 PM
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You’re right. It’s so much cheaper and stress free living this way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:42 PM
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Nope! You certainly don’t. FDS gave me a lightbulb moment when I realized this. Women are conditioned to be nice and accommodating, while most men don’t give a shit. They also apply this perspective to women— this is why our kindness is frequently mistaken for flirting. MEN are only kind to women they want to fyuck. Once I realized this I started operating like a man and it’s been going great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 11:55 PM
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The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. If this sub has taught me one thing, it’s that it’s better to remain single than be with the wrong person. Try not to become disillusioned, this is an easy way to end up settling. Also, this is a good exercise: for all your friends who are paired up, would you REALLY want to be with their partners? Try imagining dating one. I can almost guarantee you wouldn’t want anything to do with most of them. It’s just the idea of being in a relationship tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 09:28 PM
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I’ve always seen the silent treatment as hypocritical— they constantly urge us to communicate, but don’t do the same 🙄 If a guy give you this treatment, run! Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:53 PM
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Great post! I remember arguing about this many years ago in school. I casually mentioned that I don’t feel safe walking alone at night— especially as a woman, and a bunch of scrotes chimed in that they feel scared too and it’s no different for them. They were adamant it’s equally as dangerous for men, and it was 4 of them against me so I gave up arguing. Men will never understand what it’s like to live your life in constant fear of being raped or murdered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 02:19 AM
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Do the opposite and tell him to fuck off ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 06:39 PM
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I agree with you. You’ll notice they never say “it adds variety” if they’re on the receiving end—even though they’re the ones who it’s pleasurable for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:22 AM
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I agree with you. From my experience these simple men will are actually lazy and will label anything you do as “over the top”, “dramatic” or “too much”. Basically they’ll gaslight you into submission and force you to diminish yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:08 AM
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The catch is once you’re blue in the face from coMmUniCatIng, you’ll then be labeled as a nagging b*+ch. It’s a system designed for you to fail. The solution? Walk away, don’t engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:07 PM
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Another reason not to give an explanation is so he can’t fake his character. A lot of men will ask about your opinions/preferences so they can mold themselves to get what they want. Scrotes are pro chameleons 🦎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:53 PM
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I’m not saying this to be facetious, I’m actually serious: get a dog. Even a cat. Animals can bring so much joy into your life without the hassle of the cons of a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:34 PM
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LVM want women to date men they’re not attracted to, then complain when they end up in a dead bedroom situation. No shit Sherlock, what did you expect? 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:47 PM
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Don’t listen to her OP. You put yourself in danger and at high risk of contracting STDs by having sex in less than 2 months. Think of it this way, if you aren’t exclusive and the person you’re seeing is also having sex with other people your exposure rate drastically increases. Here is a chart of sexual exposure: https://images.app.goo.gl/amQLkLDgWA5picTLA Mind you, that’s under the assumption you’ve had the same number of sexual partners. If someone is promiscuous your exposure rate continues t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 07:04 PM
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I laughed out loud at your comment because yes! It’s true 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 01:51 PM
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I feel like these are the secrets they don’t want us knowing about 🙊 Anytime someone hassles me for being single I remind them that relationships come with a ton of unnecessary stress and responsibility primarily for women. It usually shuts them up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:37 AM
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The name change is a huge turn off. If he had some weird unpronounceable name that was hurting his job prospects or w/e I could understand. But to purposely name yourself after a Greek god….🤨???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:28 AM
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Stress has been proven to age you. The crease that was in your forehead: you may not have realized it, but there’s a good chance you were frowning frequently. A toxic relationship can also increase cortisol, which leads to additional aging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:49 PM
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The bar doesn’t even exist anymore 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:56 PM
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I think this picture was taken out of context. I recall seeing it on antiwork, and it’s more to do with anti-capitalism (not being a tradwife). IMO this relates to family, especially children. Career is definitely important, but you should have work-life balance and never neglect your family over a job that may easily replace you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:31 AM
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This comment though 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 07:22 PM
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Translation: I want to date a doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:01 AM
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Fuck this guy. You made some great points. One thing I’d like to add: isn’t it ironic he couldn’t afford her gifts (he got her a damn TOOTHBRUSH), yet he wants to pressure her into having a CHILD?! If he can’t afford presents how the hell can he afford a kid. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:12 AM
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I’m sick of hearing this. Do you notice how the narrative flips to benefit men? For example, they’re fine with masculine energy when paying on dates, but not in other aspects of the relationship like decision making or sex. I’d also argue that modern men aren’t masculine enough. If women aren’t independent we’d get slaughtered in modern society— who will pay our bills, or provide shelter over our heads? Men condemn us for stepping up and being independent, but at the same time most would never p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:08 AM
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I think this is a situation where you have to do what makes you happy. Personally I would continue to groom myself, wear makeup, and dress up in a world where men don’t exist. I take pride in my appearance and derive self satisfaction from it, so I don’t believe these things exist solely for the male gaze. Women also enjoy looking at other women regardless of their sexuality—whether it’s to admire their style or killer cleavage lol. We are the real “visual creatures”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:25 AM
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”You can't even have a conversation that makes sense because they say the opposite to things you say.” This is a good point. To piggyback, they tend to disagree with everything you say— it’s almost like a neg to make you question your sanity. Eventually you’ll be walking on eggshells overthinking anything (and I mean anything) you say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:27 AM
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LOL I laughed out loud at that. I could totally picture him in a horned cap cursing a baby 😂 It was a learning experience though. If you ever encounter a man who condemns you like that take note, because the trash is taking itself out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:58 AM
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I’ve also had this used on me! But to kick it up a notch he said, “You’ll NEVER be happy”. In retrospect this was huge projection on his part, because I know he’s miserable with his life. You’re also correct to say it distracts from the issue at hand. It’s a toxic gaslighting method of shifting the blame onto you. Instead of fixing the problem, they’d rather you change your mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:44 AM
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Don’t forget “wash your ass”…or is that asking for too much? 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:40 AM
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IMO 10 years is too much of an age gap. You’re still in your early 20s—it’s not like you’re 29 about to enter your 30s. I would call it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:58 PM
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Another commenter found the post. I also wanted to say it was mentioned on a recent FDS podcast featuring Lundy Bandcroft!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:15 AM
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Wow, that’s what I thought! They’re delusional 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:14 PM
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What do the blue checkmarks represent in the women’s starter pack? Is that suppose to mean messages left on read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:03 PM
130

The term coomer gives me such ick 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:46 PM
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Kind of creepy they’d want to have sex with someone who acts like their mother….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 02:03 PM
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LMAO 3 in 1 shampoo. Maybe this where they got the idea from 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 02:02 PM
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Ain’t that the truth 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:14 AM
125

This is fucked. I bet if the roles were reversed and it was a woman who pegged him they’d all be sympathizing that what she did is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:04 AM
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Some people are also more “high engagement” in relationships, whether it be friendships or romantically. What I mean by that is they prefer to have lots of communication. It can be in person or texting. And there’s nothing wrong with that! However, low value people will weaponize this against you and say you’re clingy. There was a LVM I used to date who said I was annoying for sending him memes or little jokes about my day. He called me clingy and desperate and this really pissed me off because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:18 PM
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Thank you. This is not the advice we want to hear, but it’s the advice we need. I’d argue it’s even a subtle form of gaslighting. You feel like something is off, but can’t quite prove it. If you express it to others (it feels tense texting him, something ain’t right etc) many will say you’re crazy or overthinking. But usually, your gut instinct is right. There are signs and patterns our subconscious may pick up on that we don’t. Nip it in the bud before it snowballs into a bigger issue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:10 PM
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Nah, LVM are just creatures who hibernate.… /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 03:12 PM
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I meant in regards to hookups. Ideally he should want to do both, talk and get to know you AND meet up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:43 PM
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They would just run from it, like they run from all of their other problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:31 PM
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Simple: they don’t care. They aren’t affected by a potential pregnancy, and would do a hit and run. When it comes to STDs, they’re at lower risk. They are also dismissive of health problems in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:52 PM
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This actually makes so much sense… 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:50 PM
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The first guy going hot and cold is all too familiar. If a man has no interest in talking and only wants to meet, it means he has no desire in getting to know you. Indeed, he only wants to get laid 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:32 PM
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These are some great points. I know it’s cliche to bring up this actor, but in comparison Brad Pitt faired better in this regard. You can see that his bone structure is more solid than Leo’s: https://www.hellomagazine.com/imagenes/healthandbeauty/hair/20210426111826/brad-pitt-rocks-ponytail-2021-oscars/0-540-15/brad-pitt-solo-t.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 03:44 PM
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This is even weirder when you consider that he’s now dating Kim’s sister Kourtney…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 02:26 PM
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Oh my god! Good grief. I really need to read this book, there are too many men I know who pull this shit. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 02:24 PM
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This has always baffled me. Men expect us to be prim and proper— dressed to the hilt, hair and makeup done, heck the standard even extends to our personal possessions and how we decorate our homes. I had a man tell me not to buy black furniture because “it’s not feminine”. AND YET, we’re suppose to drop these standards when it comes to men?! Sorry John, you’re not aesthetic enough to be part of my life 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 02:15 AM
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The funny thing is, if her hypothetical son had a hypothetical daughter they wouldn’t accept her with that nose. Illogical double standard much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 06:10 AM
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Diamonds get too much hate. As long as they are ethically sourced, there’s no problem with wanting one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:02 PM
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Reading that gave me the ick. If I sense the slightest bit of that crap I block & delete 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:52 PM
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”I love sex” In other news, water is wet. Not sure why men feel the need to point this out on their profile. If anything it’s a turn off, because he seems like the type to pester you for sex then call it off once you don’t do it ten times a day. At that point he’ll tell you “but I told you I like sex” then use it as an excuse to either cheat or breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:52 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:55 PM
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HELL NO. Their debt— a MAN’s debt— is NOT your problem. Spend that money on someone better like yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:05 PM
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If I were to guess it probably comes down to attraction. Most men hardly take care of themselves, heck some don’t even want to wash their ass. Finding a guy you’re attracted to becomes such a rarity that you’re willing to tolerate shit because you fear you won’t find someone else. Many women also think personality traits and behaviours are more malleable than looks, so they believe they can “change him”. It’s amazing how blinded you can be when you’re attracted to someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:32 PM
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I also hate how these posts start off with the woman saying “I love him so much”, “he’s the greatest boyfriend I’ve ever had”. CLEARLY not. They’re either deep in denial, or bracing themselves for the shitstorm that will ensue because they know the sub will side with the man. I’ve stopped reading those subs because at this point it’s predictable, and I don’t need my blood pressure unnecessarily rising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:17 PM
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….She dodged a bullet and potentially a lifetime of wearing adult diapers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:11 PM
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This is good advice and honestly something I struggle with. Not related to dating, but growing up among LV male family members and my pickme mom I was always expected to go out of my way and extend kindness to them. Whenever family would visit my mom would scrub the house from top to bottom, but if we went to theirs they DEFINITELY would not do the same. I pointed this out to her and she said it didn’t matter, she would always do what’s “right”. My dad or any of the males in the family would nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:57 PM
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Sorry to hear you have to deal with that. I hope the restrictions ease up soon in your area so you can get some space. To answer your question though, no I haven’t. In fact, I’ve had the opposite experience. I’ve been single this entire pandemic and my eyes have been opened wide to the flaws of men. I am far less tolerant/forgiving of their ways now, and have zero desire to date. Being alone has been peaceful. There’s a certain tranquility that comes from being at ease with yourself and I don’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 06:48 PM
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This is a great point. To loop back to the psychopath example I think people forget that it’s ok to inquire why they’re like that, but that does not mean it’s ok. There’s a huge distinction between understanding something and accepting it— and that’s where modern society seems to be failing. Understanding the why is great because it provides information to find a solution. Similarly, this concept applies to other issues such as BDSM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:20 PM
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Probably not. High value people are scarce in today’s society. However, I do believe that overall women are kinder. It is also A LOT easier to find an attractive woman than an attractive man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:07 PM
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^ THIS!! Seriously. I’ve adopted a new decision making process where I quickly think: would a man do this? If the answer is no, then don’t. Obviously there are exceptions to this rule, but I mean in general when it comes to socializing, work etc. A big reason I started doing this is because of when I realized most men are only nice to women they want to fuck. So by their logic: if you are nice, you probably want to fuck. ABSOLUTELY NOT. Us women are socialized from birth to be kind and this caus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 08:55 PM
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Great advice. Whenever this topic comes up I frequently see stories where women are loved by those around them, with the exception of one scrote— and of course this is usually the guy she’s interested in. The important thing to realize is if everyone else likes you with the exception of ONE person, it’s usually them that’s the problem. Don’t fall into the trap of trying to prove your worth, because that’s exactly what they want to bruise your self esteem. Let go and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:32 PM
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Gen z is savage and I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:57 PM
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I never understood why people want to waste spend so much on a one day event. I’d rather do something more practical like use it as a down payment on a property, or spoil myself with a nice vacation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:46 PM
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No. Not happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:25 PM
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I hateeee this. They’re a bunch of hypocritical fucks because it proves they only want the best looking, most conventionally attractive woman they can get. Meanwhile if a woman has standards they lose their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:18 PM
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They’re basically toddlers in overgrown bodies. Not a good combination when they decide to throw a temper tantrum and can overpower most of the female population 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:55 PM
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Oh my god LOL. They really do tell on themselves 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:54 PM
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^ yes to all of this. u/whiskey_and_oreos gave an amazingly accurate description of all the reasons to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:51 PM
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Definitely. No matter what women do we are the problem…. Even when we’re leaving them alone minding our own business!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:35 PM
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”Are women too comfortable being alone?” They’re finally waking up to realize that it’s our peace and sanity they’re competing with— and they’re losing the battle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:00 PM
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What is this horseshit? Tickling or kissing her is not a pragmatic solution and does not solve any problems. Just more supporting evidence demonstrating how toxic and manipulative LVM are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:56 PM
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Yasss! Love this guy. Definitely check out his tiktok if you haven’t already: lukas___pukas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:00 PM
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I hate this shit. I was talking to a guy on Tinder and he got frustrated because I wouldn’t allow the conversation to steer into sex, and he flipped out at me: “you’re acting like a CHILD, people have sex when they’re in adult relationships.” Wrong. Sex is reserved for a mutually exclusive loving relationship with a man you trust. Not some random ass scrote stranger. Deleted his ass 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:43 AM
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It’s funny that if you flip the script (men shouldn’t date a woman who is mentally ill or financially unstable) NO ONE would bat an eye. They’re just angry we’ve established standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 02:54 AM
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Martyr syndrome essentially. I had witnessed so many couples where the woman puts up with so much crap because “she must truly love him”. …Yeah, no. Not happening. FDS has taught me that if he doesn’t bring joy and fulfilment into your life you dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:47 PM
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“She just wants my money”… pfft. Like he has any to begin with. A lot of them straight up have nothing to offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 12:04 AM
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I bet he also expects a 10/10, and doesn’t understand the effort or requirements that goes into maintaining such an appearance— a basic, functional shower for example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:54 PM
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I agree. I know a woman with major co-dependency issues who constantly refers to herself/her husband as “we”. For example, on her Facebook account she won’t leave a comment like “I love this”, it would be “we love this!”. She also has to include her husband/kids in all her display pictures or anything she posts. Meanwhile her husband doesn’t do any of this! I’ve noticed this is common for plenty of couples. Don’t ever let your identity sink to such levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 01:44 AM
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Oh my god. 90% of my experiences with OLD were like this. They’d insult my interests then proceed to tell me what they like so I’d tell them that’s shit, then delete them 😂 Scrotes love to test the waters early. Why would you start a relationship by insulting someone? It sets the tone for the disaster to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:32 PM
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Here ya go, more eye bleach: https://i.pinimg.com/originals/a4/0e/cc/a40ecce95a827d8f0b9afaf2eed11480.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:30 AM
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This is so clever. He’ll think “gReaT!! SHes kiNky TOo!!” Little does his dumbass know… 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:23 AM
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Those are all pretty nasty, but IMO choking/breath play is the one to be most wary of because if he decides to start playing out his fantasy it could be the most harmful (if not fatal..). She needs to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:21 AM
252

Sex is a scam for women. When you consider the orgasm gap, and how we also have the burden of birth control and potential pregnancy wtf is the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:32 AM
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JP’s views align with FDS for once. What I find interesting is that he’s basically telling men the advice women are told, and they clearly don’t like it. Whenever a woman can’t find a man she is told she’s the problem, and she needs to change—whether it’s through dieting, makeup, plastic surgery, etc etc whatever it takes we’re suppose to do. Meanwhile, the second you tell a man this he looses his shit. Good for JP letting them know they’re the issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:28 AM
12

“Peaceful Slavery”…. an oxymoron because there’s no peace in being a slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:09 PM
53

Ughhhh yes. The second we say this we are labeled as shallow superficial b itches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:57 PM
14

What a disgusting scrote. I love her logic. The only thing I’d like to add is try to avoid married men like the plague. Society is unforgiving towards women, even if you become innocently implicated (e.g seen alone with him) it’s usually the woman who is demonized. If a married man asks you to go somewhere alone or without his wife, be on guard! This one seems to have tricked her since they were colleagues, and she did the right thing to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:12 PM
49

Toxic people feed off of attention whether it’s positive or negative. To a LVM negative attention is still a reward. The solution? Be indifferent: IGNORE him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:05 PM
214

Yet another reason why I won’t have kids. The thought that a man can impregnate you then say he hates your body after is infuriating. Like umm.. hello? You did this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:03 PM
122

Ew. Yet another reason not to get married and have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:55 AM
41

He actually spent time on those idiotic Google forms rather than learning how to drive* If he can’t even drive he has no place dating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 12:45 PM
1

This is true. You hardly ever see male secretaries, and the funny thing is at my place the only men they hire for this role are gay. I’m surprised my company hasn’t been called out for this yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 12:41 PM
57

It’s a trap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:42 PM
120

I swear there is a scrote handbook that advises them to exploit their “sick relative” for sympathy. I’ve heard of countless stories where men use their “sick relative” as an excuse for cheating, anger issues, and just any shitty behaviour really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:04 AM
3

…..sHe shUd haVe cOOooOomMniicAtEd!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:35 PM
5

At first I read that as a “paper clip” and thought you were savage as hell 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:35 AM
177

Thanks for sharing. That article is a lot to process, but it’s a good read. Once again we aren’t the problem…. It’s them. At this point I feel like there’s too many things beyond our control that I can’t even be bothered. At least when you focus on yourself, whether it’s your career, education etc you have better control over your destiny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:23 AM
26

It’s funny how he lacks the tiniest bit of self awareness. He comes across as whiny, angry and bitter. What woman would want to be around that? No wonder his 1st marriage failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 07:11 PM
45

Humans and dinosaurs did not co-exist at the same time. They died about 65 million years before we came on the scene 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 07:10 PM
4

Exactly! Scrotes are toxic, they would prefer to drag you down rather than uplift themselves. I’m so glad I found FDS, the second I sense an ounce of that shit I’m out the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:01 PM
7

Interesting. Can you expand on this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:56 PM
23

From your link: “She should not have ended up with a man she can’t fully trust” BINGO. Imagine the shit show their relationship will be further down the line. If it started off with him LYING, what else is he capable of?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:46 PM
44

Oh god, I hated this movie. It’s the classic “give the ugly guy a chance” trope, mixed with a twist where the ugly guy also catfished her—but no one holds him accountable for that, and it ends up being the woman’s fault in the end. Did you notice how he gaslit her when he said she fell in love with his personality (EVEN THOUGH he was using a fake picture?!). It implies she’s suppose to feel guilty for being superficial, she only liked him because he was using the other guy’s picture. Meanwhile h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:02 PM
16

Great post. It’s not until I discovered FDS that I began to question, why is it the societal default for women to be submissive? But when you consider that we live in a patriarchal world, it was systematically constructed to keep women under their control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 02:55 PM
36

If all goes well the next post from him will be “AITA for my wife filing for a divorce?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 02:48 PM
37

I had to do a double take because I thought this was a troll. This woman has been gaslit into oblivion. Grieving is NOT a linear process. Most people would not be able to process the death of someone close to them within three days, let alone function properly at a social event. It boils my blood reading this because I’ve encountered so many men with the same mentality, and I can almost guarantee if the roles were reversed he would expect his bangmaid mommy to cater to him for weeks, AND if she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 02:46 PM
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You know, I think it’s important to add that it says more about them than it does about you. I’ve seen this happen to drop dead gorgeous girls, it does not mean you’re ugly and not worth the effort. Scrotes out there are playing a numbers game, and they will shoot their shot at anything with two legs and a pulse. It’s also part of their game to destroy your self esteem. Block and delete, ignore or just forgo OLD altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:49 PM
35

I truly don’t understand how they’re ok being so filthy. It’s unacceptable to walk around with shit in your buttcrack or on your clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:16 PM
77

Earlier today I saw a post where a guy told his gf that sometimes his dick touches toilet bowl water when he sits on the toilet. He was complaining that she stopped giving him blowjobs after that, and a good majority of the comments were saying she’s immature and probably has OCD 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:06 PM
296

One word: CoMmUniCaTe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:04 PM
139

…. This is a very good observation 😯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:44 AM
143

And this is why you never tell a man how much you make, or what you have in savings/inheritance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:55 AM
68

The bar is so low, it’s lower than a scrote’s saggy old ballsack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:07 AM
77

Yes! I relate to this on so many levels. I can’t understand why they don’t see us as anything but sex objects. I would love to have extra friends, but it’s not enough for them. It’s frustrating. It’s almost like they throw a temper tantrum because they can’t fuck us. Your trick is clever. I’ve done it and most of the time it works, but once in a while you get a jerk who starts demanding more… at that point you cut him off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:25 PM
390

“Looking for my future wife” - I’m not actually, but if you believe that it’s easier to play you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:20 PM
491

This post is on point. There have been so many times a guy has chased after me, and when I made it absolutely clear I’m not interested their behaviour flips 180 degrees. “You’re hot” turns into “you’re a bi tch” or “you ain’t all that anyway”…. umm ok. You’re the one who came after me in the first place 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 04:56 PM
35

Men are out there having more cleavage than us 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 04:23 PM
83

Aka he lacks the ability to empathize unless something directly affects him. Men should be thinking like this regardless of if they have a wife or daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 11:55 PM
21

^ this pisses me off to no end. Why is it men are allowed to express anger and dissatisfaction, but the second we display an ounce of that we are labeled as negative, miserable b!tches? Meanwhile the treatment they receive is usually no where near as bad as us. We actually have a reason to be unhappy, I refuse to fake a smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:48 PM
10

All of this screams Ed from 90 Day Fiancé. He was the stereotypical scrote who chased after a foreign woman to worship him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:45 PM
14

That sounds AWFUL 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:42 PM
43

If her preference is not to have a bald and short man then it’s a red flag for her. Personally I’m short myself, so I could do short. But not bald 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:56 PM
68

I think they do initially, but even the most beautiful and successful women have been cheated on and disrespected. Just look at what happened to Beyonce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:19 PM
19

Yeah ok. That’s until he meets a woman who used to do this “profession” and he has an issue with how many d#icks she’s taken. Men like this only approve of something if it benefits them, they don’t think about the bigger picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:18 PM
48

They’re triggered as hell in that comment section 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:52 PM
243

Also beware of men who list things you do for them. When they say things like: because she cooks for me, she does my laundry, she books all my appointments etc. Huge red flag 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:04 AM
407

And they say we’re the toxic ones? He just outed himself as a potential rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:22 PM
30

This is so clever, thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:26 PM
135

I also noticed the frequent mentioning of “love languages”. Rolled my eyes so much I stopped reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:59 AM
18

You know, I wasn’t even considering socioeconomic status when I wrote that. It was more that he’s obsessed with his car and thought it would impress her. Unless she’s a car guru and into that herself I think it was not in good taste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:51 PM
50

I actually laughed out loud…. Everything about this screams trashy 😂 Very low effort on his part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:19 PM
10

Men really need to take note from this guy. The amount of compliments he’s getting despite having that mullet speaks loads!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 03:24 AM
191

Wowww I thought this was a joke where someone erased the original caption 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 07:19 PM
41

I think it’s important to question why you want one. If I were to guess it’s because you’ve been indoctrinated by both society and your parents from a young age to believe you need one. Have you ever asked your parents why they think this? And more importantly, what do you want? You shouldn’t pursue a man just because society tells you so. Something else to consider is relationships are glorified far from their reality. There’s a reason divorce rates are skyrocketing, while birthrates are plumme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:59 PM
130

Wrong. I’m like a brick wall and hardly catch feelings until I’m absolutely sure about the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:00 PM
88

Was sitting across from him and he gave me this intense, rapey stare. It made me feel like I was prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:11 PM
161

LOL omg the imagery I imagined while reading this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:09 PM
28

I can see how this makes sense. I hope it doesn’t apply to them, but if it does…. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:35 AM
85

Oh god. Can you expand on this? I know quite a few men who have eye contact issues but I wasn’t expecting this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:26 AM
109

Lmao what the fuck, I actually laughed reading this. Sounds like it would make a great movie plot. This guy needs to grow a pair and stop caring what other people think. It’s also not fair to his current gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 04:48 AM
5

I love how this guy frequently pops up on this sub. He is legendary… for all the wrong reasons 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 04:31 AM
137

This is nightmare fuel. Plus given the fact that some men can fake ENTIRE RELATIONSHIPS, how are we suppose to know if they genuinely love us? I’m baffled at this point 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:04 AM
79

That’s crazy. It’s almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy… he hated himself so much he got you to hate him too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:59 AM
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If a guy is insecure about his height: run. I’ve liked both tall and short men, and what I’ve noticed is the short ones who are insecure about their height are perpetually angry. Even if you are ok with it they will find a way to make it a problem. I knew one short guy (5’5-ish) who was hella cute, but permanently pissed and I just could not with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:28 AM
14

I was low key hoping the dog would attack him at the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:20 PM
20

Awww, us having to shave every square inch of our bodies and maintained a freshly waxed booty hole is no where near as hard as that! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:46 PM
8

Wow, this makes so much sense! Yet most men won’t do this because mUh dICk and they want to bang as many woman as possible 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:34 PM
45

You’re right! This is a good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:05 AM
118

Wtf kind of advice is this? He basically encourages starting a relationship off on a toxic path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:17 AM
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Oddly enough, I feel good about it! So many people try to shame me for not being interested in marriage, but realities like this really help to solidify my opinion. I’ve witnessed too many marriages like this: the man marries the woman out of convenience, she becomes his slave which leads to her “letting herself go”, then his eyes wander on other woman. How is this appealing? I’m sure most of them would be devastated to know their man “settled” because they couldn’t get what they actually wanted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:56 AM
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He is ridiculous. I’m not one for fairytale wedding stuff, but when it comes to a ring that is for life. Just for fun, let’s do some math. Let’s say a ring costs $8,000 and assume they somehow last “til death do us part”. Estimating they live until ~90, that’s about 60 years together. 8000/60 = 134. He would only be paying $134 a year for that ring. I’m sure he spends more on some porn and video game addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:34 AM
68

^ this 10000%!!! LVM don’t see things the way we do. Once you realize this it becomes crystal clear how making this assumption can royally fuck you over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 07:55 PM
4

Screenshotted your comment because this is the reminder I needed! It’s great advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:27 PM
26

Yikes, he sounds horrific and I’m sorry you went through that! My hunch is that a lot of them are like this guy who bulldoze their way through life, bullying people to get what they want. Along the way they perfect the art and learn manipulation techniques to keep getting their way. I hope you can get your revenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 01:23 AM
13

Exactly, so the less we care the less power they have! Our feelings and self worth are not a toy to play with, and we shouldn’t engage with people who think otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:47 PM
145

I grey rock them as soon as the topic veers to anything relating to dating/sex/relationships, then steer the convo back to work 👩‍💻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:56 PM
122

Yep.. word of caution to anyone who dates a doctor, there’s a huge chance he’s a narcissist. Narcs are fuelled by the prestige society places on this profession. Of course, not all doctors are jerks, but you have to be very careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:48 PM
25

Neither of those situations are appealing…. Not trying to sound dramatic, but reasons like this contribute to me just avoiding men all together! Theyre too complicated and stressful to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:32 PM
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He just seems….. trashy. Their relationship is also very flashy for two adults and comes across as immature. Plus when people constantly post pictures of their relationship it makes me wonder why they’re so desperate to portray themselves in a certain way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 08:48 PM
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Very good points. If it happens once, it’s more than likely to happen again… and it’s also not your job to correct the behaviour. At that point take the high road and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 07:25 PM
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I have another basic tip to throw in… always give your friends/family an idea of where you’ll be, especially if you’re doing something out of the ordinary(i.e hiking on a new mountain trail). Even better if you mention it in writing like a text so there is a solid evidence trail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 07:22 PM
63

I definitely find this to be true within relationships. Men hardly ever date/marry women who bruise their ego. However, I noticed the opposite when they’re chasing you. If he can’t gauge your interest it’s a threat to his ego and drives him mad… but once he knows he has you it’s a slippery slope where you risk getting hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 07:17 PM
78

“Men know women better”— yet they claim we’re complicated, mysterious and can’t figure us out? They need to pick a side and stick with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:07 PM
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I feel like most of the times I’ve been in this situation my intuitive, GUT feeling was right. A good example is when you feel like he’s talking to other women and there’s probably evidence on his phone. People will tell you you’re “insecure” and to “tRuST hIm”. Nah. Every time I went ahead and investigated it confirmed my suspicions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:40 AM
7

Agreed. At that point the relationship is usually fundamentally flawed, and this goes beyond a p@rn issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:33 PM
63

They’re always so damn angry too. Blowing their fuse at the tiniest thing 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:38 PM
45

That’s a lot of words for: I’m butthurt and in deep denial. No other reason she’d be so deeply offended and feel the need to write an essay to a stranger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:49 PM
121

What the actual fuck. Now I understand what they mean when they say common sense isn’t so common. The advice there is complete trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:17 PM
20

Agreed! I hate the trope that “women don’t know what they want”. Not true at all. A lot of us know exactly what we want, and I believe this throws people off. When society dictates that you should be unsure and accept shit way below your standards people shame you for it. They’ll tell you you’re a gold digger, materialistic, shallow blah blah blah. Stick to your guns and carry on, you’ll be glad you did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 07:43 PM
19

Interesting, I keep seeing this book being mentioned! Would you be willing to share a short summary, or a few tips we can use?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 05:16 AM
18

Can confirm. Neverrr tell them you have low expectations. They will literally see it as a game of limbo: how low can I go?🤹🏻‍♂️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:16 AM
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Never rush things! I’m SO glad I didn’t end up with any of the men I was interested in in my early 20s. Sometimes it can be a blessing in disguise that things didn’t work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:09 AM
7

This is great advice, especially for people who want kids. It’s funny how we aren’t taught this insight—Sure, you may be soooo “in love” with your bad boy boyfriend, but 10 years down the line those same traits might make you and your children’s lives hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:33 PM
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The only married women I know who haven’t fallen victim to this are the ones that enforce boundaries and don’t praise men for doing the bare minimum. As an example of what I mean, these women never praise their man for “babysitting” the kids, because that’s his role as a PARENT. Dividing chores, housework and child care provides them with time to maintain their identities and social lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:53 PM
54

Ohhhh yes. This is very true. A lot of them are motivated by the thought that the “mistress” is creeping their profile, so they passively aggressively throw in the title of wife. It’s a cope… doesn’t change the fact their man is cheating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:49 PM
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And let’s not forget their profile pictures that MUST include their husband, and/or little Jayden and Mason 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 10:15 AM
7

They definitely do realize they’re being a dick. My biggest lightbulb moment when it came to cOmMunIcAtIon was that you hardly ever need to communicate with a friend, or anyone else who truly cares about you. Think about it: we might get into small disagreements with friends, but rarely do we explode to the point where we do with scrotes. It’s doubtful you’ve ever had to send your friend paragraphs and paragraphs of text. Usually telling them something once or twice is enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:41 AM
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RIGHT? These men are too damn spoiled, she shouldn’t even bat an eye at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:14 AM
71

I know exactly what you mean… they intentionally do something that’s either wrong or inappropriate, but it’s subtle enough that if you call them out on it you seem like crazy or wrong one. It’s best to try and avoid them at all costs and limit your interactions as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 09:29 PM
8

From my experience short men are perpetually angry, even though I am perfectly fine with them not being tall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:43 PM
122

I would have “forgot” his name too. If his name is Jeff, I would call him names like “Jim” or “Joe”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:03 PM
44

“In my experience, men only use communicating […] To play dense. To gaslight. And oftentimes to make you out to be crazy. I’ve even had men demand an explanation from me only to make me out to be crazy and overinvested when I give one. “ Oh my god. Truer words have never been spoken. THIS RIGHT HERE!!! Every fucking time they wanted to “cOmMunIcaTe” my words were used against me (or worse they’d interpret it as the exact opposite of whatever I said) and I was labeled as crazy. The best thing you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:39 PM
29

Mine did the same!! He told me “people think I’m hot, but hate me once they get to know me”. Erm GEE, I wonder why?? These were giant red flags in our face, but we refused to listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 08:52 PM
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I wish someone had told me this when I was young and dumb. A LVM literally said “why do you want me? You can do so much better. Stop wasting your time and look for a rich or more educated guy”. 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 08:38 PM
22

I can also relate to this. From my experience men these days are VERY effeminate. They just aren’t pulling their weight… women are becoming more educated and getting better jobs, while men sit around and do nothing. You just need to hold out until you find one that doesn’t play the role of a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:35 PM
18

It’s hard to say… I think this problem was worse for me when I approached men— probably because these guys naturally take the passive, feminine role and I was doing the dominant masculine role of approaching. Do you approach these men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:24 PM
89

I heard some advice before and over the years I’ve observed it generally holds true: the faster a relationship starts, the faster it ends. When you dive into things impulsively you tend to overlook critical components that will come back to bite you in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:16 PM
28

That’s sad if they’re seeking validation. If I don’t feel chemistry it’s a waste of my time and I end things… It’s also a waste of their time. No one should be on a pointless rotation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:11 PM
51

Completely relate to this, there’s just no winning. With these guys a huge red flag is actually what attracts us to them in the first place: their clean, well groomed appearance and polite manners. Everyone knows gay guys generally take better care of their appearance, and the closeted ones are no different. I’m not sure why they pretend to like women, and for the Bi ones they’re very deceptive… at least be upfront about it than trying to hide it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:09 PM
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Same! I’m baffled as to how some women have a rotation of men when I can’t even find ONE I like. And when you do find this guy he either has undercover scrote issues, is taken, gay or married 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:58 PM
18

One of my old managers used to be a bartender and he would sneak whisky into his office 😂 He just wasn’t cut out for a “professional” job. Eventually he got fired for stealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:40 PM
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Thank you for making this! I’m not sure if it’s my comment you were referring to— I did inquire if it could be analyzed, but for whatever reason it got a bunch of downvotes (scrotes?) so I deleted it. Anyway, great solid list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:38 PM
67

I don’t need someone who can’t wipe his ass by my side. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 02:57 AM
139

She needs to report this because if it happened to her chances are it has happened to others (and they might have been too scared to report it). She also needs to be smart on how she reports it because unfortunately men like this are usually highly protected or can pull strings. It would help if she has an much concrete evidence as possible. I’m not sure about the rules and regulations of where she is, but for where I am there is a college of physicians it can be reported to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:21 PM
17

It doesn’t sit right with me. Pickmes want to be picked, but what if I want to do the choosing? It also makes me feel like prey to be sought out by a man. Nonetheless I know not to chase, so guess I’ll be single for a while!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:50 PM
11

Gaslighting! He wants you to believe that if he never fought with any of his exes, then it must mean you’re the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:07 PM
53

Agreed. It hurts when what you want doesn’t choose you. I’m also lowkey disappointed that men are the ones who get to do the choosing. I never like the guys who choose me. At this rate I choose to remain single, at least I have the power to choose the cat I want lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:47 PM
8

This is also strange to me. It takes forever to find someone I like…idk if men are like that, so it leads me to believe they just date whoever if they can drop someone in an instant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:29 PM
22

Especially when most women already do these things without thinking, why can’t men be the same?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:04 AM
100

Your comment hit me right in the feels… I just don’t understand how you can give your heart to some men, and they treat it like a joke. It’s so cruel 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:00 AM
36

“Just a shower thought-- why do we place more value on gifts given to us by romantic partners than the ones we give ourselves” This is interesting. I’ve always figured it’s because we live in a society where people value money, so if a person goes out of their way to buy you a gift, by extension it means they value you. It also means you’re important enough to be on their mind and put in the effort. Overarching all of these points it means this person cares about you, which loops back into what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:53 AM
494

He seems like the kind of guy to flip in an instant after rejection. Him: “Hey sexy, wanna Netflix and chill?” You: “No wtf.” Him: “FACK YOU. YOU’RE AN UGLY B#TCH ANYWAY” You: *blocks *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 01:53 AM
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This is tough. I have to admit, I’ve never found a quick fix for this. It takes time to process and accept whatever your situation is. For me it has always helped to frame it as: “it’s better I found out now rather than later”. Knowing it won’t work is just another step towards your true destiny and saves time in the long run. I also think we deserve a partner who appreciates our affection. This is a little harder to process, because you may think “I love this guy, why can’t he love me back?” or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 04:15 AM
94

Yes to all of this. The biggest manwh0r3 I knew had the smallest dick. Coincidence? I think not. And let me tell you this man was OBSESSED with his dick. He would share dick pics to multiple girls at once on Snapchat, do weird angle tricks to make it seem bigger and get superrrr offended anytime someone made a small penis joke. One memory that stands out is when he got offended that people were making fun of a picture of a random guy from a nude parade with a small dick. He tried to convince us …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:30 AM
59

So today I learned I’m “4b”, glad there’s a term for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:01 PM
60

Wow, when I first saw it I thought it was a FDS joke… didn’t realize people are posting this as a pickme humblebrag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:11 PM
170

Yeah something about this story doesn’t seem right, info is definitely missing. I don’t want to sound too graphic, but it’s likely they did extreme and forceful things to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:36 AM
102

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:55 PM
5

Yep, this guy was a master manipulator. Whenever I expressed my concerns about anything he would throw it back on me by minimizing my problems, or saying I was the one at fault. Interestingly there were little clues that gave me insight into how cunning he was. Particularly, whenever he wanted something (say at work) he told me he would ask favours by framing them in a way where if the other person helps they think they benefit from it! Made me wonder what tricks he was using on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:24 PM
8

You are so right, this would have been an amazing response! But back then I wasn’t as clever, all I knew was something didn’t feel right. Thankfully FDS has me prepared if there’s a next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 01:58 PM
37

This reminds me of a man who told me “you’ll never be happy”. Idk if anyone else has been told this, but when I reflect on it I believe I was gaslit… I would tell him what my wants or desires were and he’d do the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:23 AM
15

Pay special attention to those who have brian laundrie demeanours— they tend to stay calm while you have an “emotional outburst” (which is actually a perfectly justifiable reaction to how they’re treating you). These types are very dangerous. Case in point: the police bought his act and it costed Gabby her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:33 PM
145

“Where’s Baldo”…..🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:29 PM
245

1.5 TB?!! How does he even have time to watch all that 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:56 AM
47

There’s a theory which suggests that. Sublimation is the transference of sexual urges into more productive activities. Scroll down for “sexual sublimation”: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sublimation_(psychology)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:39 AM
150

I have to admit this sub made me feel the same. I wish I could find it, there was a post that really resonated with me. It said something along the lines of most sexual acts are men dominating women. They see sex as something done TO us, not a mutual transaction. Something else to consider: why are so many insults what men want us to do? For example, “suck my d#ck”. They want head, but then insult us for it. Same with “wh#re”…. They want sex, but then we’re degraded for giving it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:30 AM
562

Oh my god. How have I never noticed this?! That’s such good advice!! Every pickme should be aware of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:14 AM
251

Because she’s not a gold digger like those other girls…. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:27 PM
22

Their love language is manipulation 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 12:37 PM
34

That is amazing. It should be an image in the handbook 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:01 AM
189

This has never worked for me. Plus why would you want a man that lacks the initiative? It sets the tone for the entire relationship where you’ll be doing the heavy lifting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:44 PM
65

Ooooffff apply ice to the burn! She also struck a really great point that women leave them because they weren’t good company to begin with. We all have that ex who thinks playing video games is more fun than leaving the house and doing things, it’s stuff like that which builds up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:36 PM
19

There are far too many clowns on OLD, which is why I don’t use it anymore 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:59 PM
165

She needs to understand….. a man will fuck ANYTHING. Someone needs to tell her about the guy that fucked a McChicken 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:43 PM
55

Orrr they stick together and are miserable af. Bonus points if it’s “for the kids”… the resentment is real with those ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:34 PM
365

Reading this through a FDS lens there’s so many painfully obvious red flags. There is no playing “hard to get” after sleeping with him. She needs to block and delete and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:06 PM
435

Ughhh how can they make jokes about this?! The depravity is real. Also, slightly off topic but this picture is a GREAT example of why you shouldn’t believe everything you see on social media. Looking at this you’d think they’re a loving couple where she’s the cute, bubbly gf and he’s a dorky looking “nice guy”. Fuck no. He’s a MURDERER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 03:32 AM
67

Are you me? I think you’re me lol Anyway, I think it’s because you’re secure and confident with yourself. You don’t seek cheap male validation because you don’t need it, and you also realize it’s better to be alone than with some subpar man you don’t like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:46 AM
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I agree, it can go either way which is why it’s also important to vet your friends. Generally if someone is confident and secure with themselves you won’t have these issues. However, I have come across some AWFUL backstabbers in my life. I noticed a lot of them are miserable with their own lives, so instead of uplifting themselves they’d prefer to drag you down into their shit. Avoid people like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:59 PM
4

Interesting! I haven’t heard this advice either, but it makes so much sense 😯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:53 AM
75

They spend enough time looking at their wrinkled, hairy ballsacks that they know no one else wants to see that 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:58 PM
87

Exactly! And don’t fall for the excuse that he’s “shy”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:02 PM
528

If he wanted to, HE WOULD HAVE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:01 PM
157

This is pretty fucked. I imagine a lot of these men married women their own age. The woman probably thought she did everything right, “I dated my college sweetheart, got married, had kids etc.” Only for these men to turn around and do shady shit behind their backs. I feel like there’s no hope, will prob get a cat instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:57 PM
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”Amazing how he calls himself honest twice while sneaking behind his wife's back” He’s doing mental gymnastics with backflips and shit to justify his behaviour 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:43 PM
9

Omggg 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:37 PM
51

I felt this comment in my bones. Very well said, you hit the nail on the head! There are tons of narcs I’ve dealt with who have acted this was to a tee—particularly two supervisors and an ex. In retrospect it makes me angry they knew what they were doing, while I innocently tried to cOmMunIcATe my emotions. Never again. The best thing to do is play them at their own game by grey rocking. I’m glad this platform exists so we can share valuable knowledge and prevent other women from having to deal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:54 AM
125

It’s a new red flag to watch out for. Since it’s becoming so common I wouldn’t be surprised if it originated from some red pill or PUA theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:31 AM
339

They’re both ugly as fuck with weirdly shaped heads. I’ve noticed that a lot of these narc men have the same demeanour: calm and smug. I guess they’ve observed that being emotional lessens your credibility, so they’ve adapted this manipulative way of controlling situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:06 AM
20

He looks like Gollum. That poor girl was cute, she could have done better 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:55 PM
26

Yep! Well said. It’s futile teaching men because they don’t care. Why would they change a system that benefits them? In fact, it might even backfire such that they’ll tweak their methods to be more sly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:43 PM
53

It happens to the best of us… what’s important is you learn from this experience to prevent it from happening again. So don’t be too hard on yourself. Just view it as a lesson to learn from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:41 PM
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She’s spitting facts. When you re-watch a lot of these Disney movies the “villainous” women actually had good advice, but they were painted as evil unwanted spinsters. They also gave them hideous makeup and masculine features 😒 Just look at this: https://img.playbuzz.com/image/upload/ar_1.5,c_crop/v1572115351/ya2uzvf30mdok8jplhrx.png
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:12 PM
59

I think that becomes a conflict between biology and logic. Some women (not all) do feel a biological urge to have children. Personally I haven’t, but many of my friends see a baby and go nuts. Anyway, the problem is society does not align with biology and our environment is not conducive to child rearing. It’s dangerous, expensive and unhealthy considering all the factors that are required to successfully raise a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:57 PM
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Yeah… unfortunately I agree with this. In my pickmes days I lusted after different guys for years, and when I was interested in them NO ONE ELSE would catch my eye (even though I wasn’t even with them). I could not imagine a man doing the same. More so, they tell on themselves. If they tell you “it’s in their biology”, that’s a warning they won’t just commit to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:41 PM
53

Something else worth mentioning: the article says that goon drank 24 bottles of better before doing this. Stay away from men who are obsessed with drinking! There is no reason anyone should be drinking that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:40 PM
144

To add to that, a lot of the times a woman commits a horrific crime she usually has a history of abuse… by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:30 AM
13

“Haha, it was just a joke.” “I was only joking lol” “Lol calm down, I’m joking” These mfs are the worst 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:16 AM
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Don’t forget the constant warnings about your biological clock. If you do want kids they take extreme pity because “motherhood is our purpose”, but if you don’t want any you’re automatically an evil witch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:13 AM
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What’s the deal with these women whose identities are tied to their husband? The irony is you hardly ever hear the husband saying “mY wIFe” this, “mY wIfE” that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:11 AM
239

Holy fucking shit. I regret reading that— to anyone else who does proceed with caution. That poor girl. Rest her soul, I hope she is at peace now. Those monsters should be locked away and left to rot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:07 AM
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Acceptance. As the song goes “You can’t always get what you want”… and you just need to accept that. I also think this desire is kicked into overdrive since we perceive it as possible. For example, you wouldn’t be hung up on not winning the lottery—simply because your mind accepts the fact there’s a very slim chance it will happen. But with love, we perceive it as attainable. So you need to adopt the same mindset as you do with winning the lottery, and just accept that it might not happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 04:01 AM
2

You’re right, they’ve existed for a while but this one is novel because it’s a thicker gel that you apply with an applicator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 11:24 PM
19

I think so lol there was a loooong list of possible side effects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:45 AM
52

I saw an ad for something new called Phexxi, basically a gel that kills sperm. It’s a step in the right direction, EXCEPT it costs $250 for 12 applications. Fucking unacceptable. Something like that should be available at the drugstore for $20 max.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 11:12 PM
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Even if they looked like the couple on the left I still wouldn’t be interested. You just know that fuckboy in the robe is a massive manipulator who destroys her self esteem 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:15 PM
51

This makes sense. They treat us like objects and most (sane) people don’t talk to objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:15 PM
100

When they do this they’re looking for an ego boost. They love knowing they can still manipulate you and have options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:45 PM
306

Notice how many of them fell in love at first sight without getting to know the princess? Well the underlying message is you’re valued for your looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:41 PM
114

”not get any cellulite, or have it removed through surgery.” Most scrotes I’ve come across are against surgery. They expect you to be naturally perfect. Literally no winning with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:29 PM
77

This is so true… In fact you hear the opposite advice given to men: “Kevin doesn’t like to vacuum or wash the dishes? Well Kevin should find a woman who loves him for who he is and doesn’t care about those things. If she loves him she’ll do it herself.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:18 PM
122

You just know this guy is also looking for a “traditional and submissive” wife and he’ll claim he can’t find that in the West.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:27 AM
22

Sometimes I browse their stuff to gain insight on what to avoid, anyway I saw a post once that addressed this. The answer is as scrotey as it gets: once she “hits the wall” with kids you create an open relationship so you can have mistresses and affairs on the side. A woman’s purpose is to have kids, and if she can’t tend to your sexual needs anymore it’s your right as a man to have it fulfilled elsewhere. Sign us the fuck up right? Sounds like such an amazing deal! …… /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 10:05 PM
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This is good advice and I actually think it applies to any term he labels himself with. I know a man that jokingly says he’s a “big baby”, well he might as well be one since his wife does all the chores around the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 05:56 AM
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I know that’s why I put “side note”, just to caution women in case they actually do feel the need to explain!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:29 AM
17

Side note: The second a guy asks this, walk away. You would never need to explain your worth to a man who truly wants you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:03 AM
77

Because men get their panties stuck in a bunch when women have preferences. Why do they become so butthurt? Either they can’t meet those standards, or they don’t want to put in the effort to achieve it. So instead, they beat us down to lower our standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:01 PM
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I’ve experienced this… I think one of the biggest factors is they’re scared you’ll tempt their man to cheat. As insulting as it sounds they project their insecurities onto you that you’ll be a homewrecker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:57 AM
26

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 10:44 PM
2

I’m so sorry you went through that. I truly hope you’ve healed and are doing better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:46 AM
12

I’m not sure as to why (who knows what was going on in his depraved head), but yes through the centre. It went viral a few years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:37 AM
7

The aussies too?? What terrible traits do they have?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:34 AM
66

If you ever need a reminder of this just remember the guy who fucked a McChicken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:49 AM
16

I cracked up reading this 😂 Good job, it’s a great checklist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:38 AM
25

I think it’s the latter… I feel the same way. Men have become beyond incompetent, so if we don’t pickup the slack things won’t get done right. It’s also sad that they associate masculinity with being a dick. Their perception is off because that’s actually toxic masculinity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:49 PM
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Yep I agree and believe it’s true: successfully applying your femininity appeals to masculine energy. But this is also where things become murky… studies have shown that testosterone levels have been declining in men over the past few decades- which really explains a lot. I hardly come across masculine men these days…there’s tons of soy boys everywhere. Despite the fact I look feminine, I feel masculine compared to them. For example, I’m more successful, or intelligent than them and it’s a huge …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:19 AM
12

A gross scrote I’m not interested in did this to me recently. I was laughing my ass off because he was trying so hard to “neg” me, but knowing what I know now it’s hilarious to think of men who do this. Instead of improving themselves, they’d rather beat you down their level— which exemplifies what pieces of shit they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:28 PM
21

Oh my god… this is such an amazing revelation. Another commenter pointed out it only happened to her when she didn’t care about the situation, which is the same for me (a scrote chasing me). Otherwise no one begs us because we’re decent human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:29 PM
78

It would be hilarious if we could check his phone and see all the other girls he has sent this to 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:27 PM
26

It’s not normal because you risk others being able to see you… Unless you own a giant lot of land with no one else around I’d say it’s abnormal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:25 PM
28

Wow, this is handbook material! I have not liked a post this much in a while. Definitely saving and screenshotting a lot of the comments for future reference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:22 PM
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That last paragraph… I noticed when you try to help some of these girls they lash out because they think you’re attacking them. I think it’s a defence mechanism because they don’t want to hear the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:09 PM
78

This makes a lot of sense. In general: people value money, so if a person spends money on you that means you’re important to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:53 PM
142

Women who want to get married aspire to have the picturesque ideal marriage— the kind where you truly keep the promise “til death do us part”. …But the reality is it’s extremely rare. As you’ve correctly pointed out a lot of marriages end in divorce, or couples stay miserably married. No one goes into marriage thinking it will go to shit, love blinds them into thinking it won’t happen to them. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to get married, however women need to be realistic an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:55 PM
43

He is a low value man squared… LVM²
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 01:59 PM
27

So many of us have been fed this lie. The truth is it’s far, FARR from a romantic fairytale. If they do come back it’s usually for an ego boost or cause no one else wants their ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:54 PM
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I think things will become worse before they get better. We’re at an interesting turning point: for the first time in history men are not just entitled to having a woman. It’s no longer a right, but a privilege. Women have become independent, which makes men optional. Men will finally need to prove their worth— which is a tough pill to swallow, and I believe their resistance to this is what will worsen the situation. Heck we’re already seeing it. All of the mass shootings and incel hate crimes, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:59 PM
11

Lmaoo which one of you hurt this scrote so bad? He is triggered to the max 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:26 PM
12

If the average woman is using words he can’t understand, perhaps he needs a dictionary more than a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:37 AM
585

Because they’re cheap and don’t want to pay. They want to use and discard you for free. Fuck that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:35 AM
17

I see what you did there making the d lowercase. Clever 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:29 AM
99

“You’re too high maintenance.” “You need to lower your standards.” “I was just joking” / “You can’t take a joke.” “You need to calm down, it’s not a big deal.” (After he did some ridiculous shit) “Send nudes.” “You sound crazy.” “Have fun with your cats when you become a spinster.” (Lmao OK! Cats are better than a scrote)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:11 PM
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This comment tho. THANK YOU! The hypocrisy is real, they expect to be desired without putting any effort into it. Meanwhile they want a 10/10 woman, and god forbid she has one hair out of place because then she’s a sloppy b itch who needs to work on herself and doesn’t deserve the “privilege” of having a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:05 PM
53

Yep. It’s disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:18 PM
28

It’s weird how they ALL sound the same. Do they read some scrotey handbook? 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:13 PM
53

Wow. How much does she hate herself and see herself as a lesser being to have to post this? Unbelievable. Also the god comment threw me off. If she was actually religious she’d know the bible preaches there is only one god 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:14 PM
140

Cognitive dissonance… she’s trying to make herself believe she’s happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:12 PM
119

This is such a good point. When I first heard the news I was confused… how could this possibly be a good move for them when their platform is 99% sex work? It’s similar to the downfall of Tumblr. Butttt after hearing the real reason, it makes sense. It’s never about protecting the rights and dignity of women, no! It’s about greed and money 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:38 AM
388

He should be stripped of his medical licence and thrown in jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:00 PM
61

This is so true. Post after post we advocate to “block and delete”. That’s far from causing harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:54 AM
20

Exactly. This has never made sense to me. The ring is suppose to last for life and longer than his PC, so it’s logical to buy a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:47 AM
28

As an adult it’s a waste of time. Unless you’re in a professional competition where you win a prize ($$$) there’s no point and your time could be spent more productively. I suppose you could argue it’s a form of entertainment which provides enjoyment similar to watching tv or movies, but gamers almost always have an addition where is becomes pathological. If something affects your daily ability to function it’s a problem, this then spills over into your relationships (as we all know).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:13 PM
19

Omggg. The revelations are strong with this, it explains so much! 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:58 PM
28

What if you just think the person is attractive but don’t pursue it? There are men I feel this way about, but with FDS I know it isn’t going anywhere unless they pursue me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:29 PM
97

They need to stop glamorizing this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:26 PM
8

This never works. Explaining either leads to them arguing with you to prove a point, or stroking their ego—they get satisfaction from pushing your buttons. Best to block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:55 AM
17

Oh wow… YIKES. That never crossed my mind, but when you put it like that it’s even more disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:03 PM
65

His face says it all, why would you want to be with someone who is so disgruntle to be around you? I also feel like this trope has been rammed down out throats. It’s so common on tv and sitcoms where the husband is miserable and the wife is all rainbows and sunshine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:36 PM
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Omg yes. Skyrocketing housing prices coincide with when it became normalized for woman to work (from about 1960/70s onwards). The idea was housing should cost more if there’s two incomes… which completely fucked society over. It’s ignorant to assume that everyone will get married and have dual incomes. I definitely think there’s truth to your theory about keeping prices high to enforce marriage/cohabitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:48 PM
5

Yeppp. It’s more productive channeling my energy into other things. Can’t be bothered wasting it with dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:18 PM
21

Correction: ex-friend* I was sick of being criticized for my boundaries, so I dropped this person. They loved to play limbo with their standards, basically how low could they go? I prefer company who uplifts me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:16 PM
3

This would be a great phrase to put on a doormat lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:57 PM
33

Is it the shrimp emoji 🍤 ? It’s definitely that emoji 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:54 PM
48

It’s scary how well this describes what so many of us have encountered…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 12:55 AM
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I feel like packing up and moving to Mars after reading this. Great post but horrible reality. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:13 PM
74

Well spoken and very true. I hardly bring up FDS in person in fear of backlash, but to my pleasant surprise I heard a group of women at work discussing what sounded eerily similar to our principles. I’m not sure if they know about FDS, but even if they don’t it shows our values are spreading 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:30 PM
96

I came here to say this lol A lot of the time men will choose the woman they perceive as low maintenance or easy going, simply because they’re low effort! Then when they have a mid life crisis they’ll try to cheat with the women they’re actually into 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:54 PM
14

I’m gonna throw one in here: he’s taken… or worse, married. Neverrrr approach these types. If he’s awful it will be his excuse to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:04 PM
2

FDS’s stance on BC is that it’s fine to take it if medically necessary, however it’s absurd and selfish if a man expects you to take it solely for “raw” sex. The risks are not worth the reward (which is usually dismal sex at best).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:01 AM
15

Agreed, and loving your sassiness 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:51 PM
24

This makes me so angry. They always use the excuse that women are the ones who get pregnant so it should be their responsibility…. However, they fail to acknowledge WHO MADE HER PREGNANT. It takes two to tango, and that second party should have more options than just condoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:50 PM
22

I hate this. A lot of the time I’ll flip the script and ask “don’t you want better?”. Most of them respond with some variation of “I’m too much”. Well okay, I’ll continue “being too much”, while they go about their miserable lives 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:44 PM
34

You’re right…. us women need to stop shortchanging ourselves 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:41 PM
78

The trash took itself out 🤡 It’s nice knowing up front to swipe left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:58 AM
54

I actually gagged reading this 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:45 PM
10

Hairline slowly receding while his belly rapidly expands 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:05 AM
69

It’s even more fucked up when you consider that a lot of these women are on birth control experiencing nasty side effects, AND they aren’t even enjoying themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:58 AM
573

I love how he also printed her post, shows her he is attentive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:43 AM
52

Because boys will be boys….. /s 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:12 AM
20

I’ve never liked Adam Levine either… always bothered by the fact he only dates models, while he himself isn’t attractive. Seriously, where are his lips? He has zero lips 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:10 AM
36

Ah I see. Yeah agreed, if you don’t want to waste time it’s best to be direct. You could do this within a few weeks to a month of meeting. I would wait until there’s a good opportunity to bring it up (maybe you see a playboy ad or see some sexually suggestive social media post). When you do ask use the dumb fox method— basically play stupid and don’t be judgemental because you’re trying to gain as much info as possible. If he feels safe he will share more. You also don’t have to ask outright, yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:17 PM
86

Omg yes. This has always bothered me so much. The fact that they hurl it as an insult “Suck my d*ck”, insinuates it’s a degrading act. SO WHY WOULD I WANT TO DO THAT?! I’m convinced that in doing so they see you as a lesser being. This is also why men don’t want a woman with a “high body count”, because they feel she’s been defiled too many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:09 PM
67

This is why it’s important to vet. While you can’t tell for certain, sometimes there are clues that give it away: does he constantly make crude jokes? Does he make references to p 0rn? How does he speak of other women? Try to use your best discretion and follow your instinct, usually you’ll be right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:04 PM
3

Love this. It would also make an awesome sitcom 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:01 AM
13

LOL I laughed out loud at this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:56 AM
450

Sooo by this logic if someone attacked his friend (even a male friend) there’s no point in saving them because they wont get sex? Got it. Don’t have human decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:34 AM
15

“If you owned what you got”…. Love how he blames it on her. The problem is you JARED 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:19 PM
10

He told on himself by asking if you’re clingy…. This basically translates to him admitting that he will not be there to meet your needs. You dodged a bullet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:03 PM
14

Pretty much! Their grooming process starts so subtly, and you don’t realize what’s happening until you’re knee deep in shit. The one silver lining is that after experiencing this I’m able to spot the behaviour early on. I hope other women can do the same and don’t have to go through it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:38 AM
47

He started gaslighting me and putting me down. At first I thought maybe he was right, but then I picked up on the fact that I wasn’t getting this response from other people. For example, I came up with a creative design for a project once and everyone loved it— except for him. He thought it was “dumb”. Situations like this would constantly happen. I also noticed his disposition towards others was just negative in general. It seems like he has low self esteem because he always has to find somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:45 AM
11

He has no excuse either being a celebrity with money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:32 PM
15

I agree with you. After reading a few comments on here it also comes down to ambition. If a man is born into money, but has no ambition he will lack proper values and work ethic. Meanwhile the poor man with better character may succeed because things weren’t always handed to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:30 PM
111

You’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t… so fuck it. Do whatever you want!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:25 PM
86

Hate it. Very rarely does a man game for 1-2 hours. It’s always something excessive like 6+. Plus once you get to a certain age time becomes limited and it can be spent more productively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:38 AM
21

This is the only man who comes close: https://www.military.com/veteran-jobs/former-navy-seal-harvard-doctor-be-first-korean-american-space.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:26 AM
2

Why the fuck are we expected to bend over backwards, and literally twist ourselves into another dimension, when they wouldn’t do the same?! Yeah no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:23 AM
7

Honestly ^ this. I try to browse this sub at least 5-10 mins everyday to stay aware and up to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:05 AM
20

Agreed. I realized this in my early 20s. I think when you’re in school LVM still have to respect certain boundaries, e.g you’re classmates, so the environment is more controlled. That’s not to say they still won’t try, but man. After I graduated it’s like the floodgates opened and all these “friends” would hit on me left right and centre. Now I befriend mostly women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:59 AM
30

Lmaooo truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:54 AM
28

Wow I missed the second part, but it’s crazy those suspicious were confirmed without seeing it: she was the placeholder gf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:20 PM
157

Asides from the contract, she’s been a girlfriend for 5 years and estimates they’ll get married sometime within the next 5 years? Aka she’s ok being a forever girlfriend for 10 years? She needs to dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:35 PM
6

Not sure, I’ve never been able to join it either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:57 AM
21

A lot of the time this is an unhealthy coping mechanism and a reflection of how someone feels about them-self. So for example, if they have low self esteem and you’re kind to them, they’ll think there’s something wrong with you. To conform with their beliefs, they’ll tear you down to make you see how awful they truly are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:56 PM
68

I hate these mothers. They think it’s cute to mollycoddle and enable their scrote sons, but it really comes across as pathetic and desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:50 PM
121

More like the one woman they’re interested in. Men can find hundreds of women attractive, but that doesn’t mean they’re attracted to you. So yes, they’ll have sex with any attractive woman who asks him out, but a real, reciprocated relationship is reserved for the girl who actually caught his eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:48 PM
50

Definitely think you’re onto something, there is always at least one brother 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:44 PM
24

Me!! 🙋‍♀️ I can only imagine the shit you’ve been through. Those guys are straight up awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:43 PM
59

Girl same. I tell them alcohol is a carcinogen that also ages you… the usual response is that I need to lighten up. I can’t help that I don’t want wrinkles and cancer 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:44 PM
8

No broke dusty men who ask you to split everything 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:36 AM
559

The worst are ugly men who insist they need a beautiful women to have kids with. Why the fuck should she dilute her genes and have kids with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:53 AM
98

I empathize with you. I can still think of situations and feel my blood pressure rise, or a pit in my stomach. But then I realize… why would I want this person if they make me feel like shit? It’s very easy to have tunnel vision and ruminate over something. But in the meantime you’re wasting valuable time and energy, and potentially missing out on something that could actually make your life better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:30 PM
57

Truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:26 PM
5

I interpreted this as her answer to us women for “what we bring to the table”. I would never answer a man if he asked that question… in fact, the second he asks run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:11 PM
66

This is all basic level shit that most women don’t need a reminder to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:05 PM
1

Probably got stoned for posting a selfie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:00 PM
3

OMG the irony. This is gold 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:38 PM
31

Admittedly I still suffer from this, but recently I came to the realization that the times in my life when I have been the most successful is when I don’t have a crush! It seems I redirected that energy into self improvement, whereas when I didn’t it was reserved for some scrotey scrote (because yes, they always end up being scrotes).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:53 PM
48

Your post reminded me of an absolutely useless man we have at work. He has mastered the art of making it seem like he’s working. His trick is to triangulate his tasks (i.e agree to doing something, then have someone else do it and claim it as his own) or simply call in sick. Somehow everyone is aware except management, and we can’t call him out on it because they don’t like that behaviour. 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:49 PM
63

Yea, because that’s gay. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:44 PM
38

Yes this angers me so much. There’s been a handful of bald men who hit on me and I’ve explicitly told them: I don’t like bald men. They all responded with baldness being sexy and masculine and that I must like girly men. 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:17 PM
26

I’ve started deleting them to avoid the cringe 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:14 PM
12

The same way human males are getting away with it…. Thankfully us human women are smarter than this bird and can try to change things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:58 PM
8

Who is the first guy??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:24 PM
53

They operate on a different metric system where 1 inch = 6 inches 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:28 PM
84

I’m actually glad that you’re ok! You’re kind, but you took a chance. I probably would have gotten help from within the supermarket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:27 PM
287

Why is she so proud? The more she advertises this the more scrubs she’ll attract.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:25 PM
22

Most wouldn’t. These LVM believe the world owes them everything, while they give nothing in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:19 PM
16

Whoa, that is wild. Is this actually a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:17 PM
33

Agreed. Alcohol isn’t the only contributing factor, but it is a major one. It’s also considered a carcinogen, so that’s a double whammy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:16 PM
27

Just when you thought their effort couldn’t get lower 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:14 PM
14

A lot of these LVM think it’s edgy and cool to have dark traits, almost as if it’s hypermasculine and we should be impressed by it. Pickmes might be fooled, but we know better that it’s a sign to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:12 PM
34

This reminds me of my neighbour… the other day there was a BBQ and an older woman was reminiscing on the past. My married scrote neighbour and his wife and their friend were listening to this woman, and his friend chimed in that the scrote was just a baby when all these stories happened. The scrote piped up and said “I’m still a baby!”, everyone laughed but it dawned on me that yes he is… his wife does EVERYTHING around the house, so he might as well be a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:09 PM
167

Wholeheartedly agree with this, very clever of you to notice. The men at my work only define themselves in terms of their career. I have never heard them say they’re a husband/father, with the exception of when other men tease them for having to “babysit” their kids— which in itself implies it’s a lesser role.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:01 AM
9

I heard if he always covers his crutch in photos (like hands crossed over it) he has a small dick. It means he’s subconsciously trying to hide it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:13 AM
3

The guy I’m thinking of has a big butt and is fit, butttt he’s short with small-ish hands and a medium nose. Maybe he has an average dick lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:09 AM
8

Tbh I prefer cuddles with my cat. Lots of affection without the headache of a scrote 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:13 PM
79

Money (financial woes) is a major contributor to a majority of divorces. Don’t get married if a man can’t provide financial stability. Life isn’t like a Disney movie where “love conquers all”. No. Money is important, end of story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:10 PM
40

Yeppp. And if does pick you it sets the tone for the entire relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:13 PM
5

Definitely agree. It comes back to human nature where women are more selective with mates, so I’m convinced that most women would only sleep with men they’re truly interested in. Meanwhile modern society is pushing this hookup culture narrative 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:17 PM
14

That’s ridiculous. In my opinion “demisexuality” is the norm, but because of how warped society has become they’re treating it as some sort of anomaly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:07 PM
30

Same! It believe it highlights the biological differences between men and women. Women seek the best mate, and so once we find them they are attractive to us and we desire them. Also remember most men are not mate material—it’s quality over quantity for us. Men on the other hand have far more attractive women to choose from, so it makes sense that they’d want to sleep with all of them. The takeaway is never assume a man thinks like a woman, you’ll be greatly disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:00 PM
41

I second this. Always been incomprehensible to me how you could sleep with someone you have no feelings for…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:57 PM
24

Agreed, and it shows they aren’t serious about you. For them dating is still a numbers game where they choose quantity over quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:27 AM
42

They might be asking you out indirectly and you aren’t noticing it— I’ve noticed this a lot lately. Their new method is to do it subtly: “would you like to go for a walk?” “Let’s grab a coffee”. I don’t condone this. To me it’s low effort and lazy, but it seems that’s the new way they ask you out. Best to hold off until you find a guy who puts in real effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:25 AM
12

Oh my…🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:43 PM
152

Wowwww. What a piece of shit. Instead of comforting you his pEnIS needs were more important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:20 PM
5

I’m ok being alone if the alternative is dating trash. Far more peaceful and stress free by myself ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:56 PM
48

I think another good takeaway message is: you can’t make someone like you. Both men and women like to think the opposite sex is mysterious, and if we discover some sort of trick we can infatuate them into liking us— sorry but it ain’t true. Put it into another perspective, it’s like saying a scrote you hate read a bunch of dating advice and tried to make you like him. It almost never works. The only exception might be familiarity breeding liking, which is a known psychological concept where we (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:55 PM
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That’s interesting…. My guess would be in their pea sized brains they think you pass the “wifey” test (since other men want you), but you’re also a challenge because you declined them. And since men looove challenges they’d be all over that 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:42 PM
19

This is going to sound like a joke, but basically men who are the opposite of my exes. If I sense the tiniest whiff of a trait a LV ex had I’m outta there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:34 AM
62

This is so true, most men are too proud to ask for help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:31 AM
3

I think “invisible contracts” commonly manifest as failed expectations, with the misconception that you’d receive something for doing good. In your example with the older woman, she expected social reciprocity for training you. With men they bait women who they know want relationships. You can be as sweet as pie and cater to their every needs, LV ones will sense this desperation and use the shit out of you. The take away message is you can’t expect anything from anyone. If you’re in the position…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:58 PM
23

Cue my ex who truly believes the tables have turned and now white men are being discriminated against…. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:49 PM
12

Agreed, you’re onto something here. My theory is if someone has done enough research to label themselves as an “empath”, they’ve also researched common psychological lingo/theories. Now there’s nothing wrong with studying psychology, but these individuals tend to be attention seeking and pathological in nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:51 AM
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I find this hilarious. I’ve never been into these men since they seem to lack basic grooming and hygiene (long ass beards, don’t shower, or presumably wash their ass). But now that I reflect on the ones I know, they definitely use the hippie guise to deflect from taking responsibility in their life. Unemployment and smoking weed all day as the path to “spirituality” and “finding the true meaning of life” is really just a cover up for a lack of ambition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:16 PM
99

Gross. He’s like an animal that finds a new mate every mating season.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:56 PM
14

It definitely happens! I’m glad FDS has taught me it’s NOT normal. Pre-FDS I assumed that’s just how men are— nope nope nope. Only LV trashy ones. And yes, once I discovered all this about him I became completely turned off. Dodged a major bullet 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:24 PM
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Story time: I had a scrote brag to me that during his “peak” Tinder days he’d go on multiple dates per day. The highlight of that experience was when he quote: “fucked one girl raw, then had another come over less than an hour later and sucked his dick without washing it”. He said he felt bad for the second girl, but was too proud to stop it. I felt SO nauseated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:21 PM
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I like this idea! It’s almost like a research project for your relationship, because you can draw better conclusions by collecting a large sample size of data. Will also help you discover any trends/patterns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:13 PM
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Oh this happens all the time, but oddly enough it’s usually the men who are fuming. I saw a post about a man whose wife got breast implants, and he was pissed at all the new found attention she was getting. It didn’t cross her mind that she could upgrade him, but it certainly crossed his because deep down he knows SHE could do better. Whenever this happens cue the abusive gaslighting and manipulation techniques men use to keep women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:06 PM
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We all deserve more than a scrote who doesn’t wash his ass ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:22 PM
30

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:05 PM
67

Love this! Especially with work from home becoming more popular, this should be the new norm. It always bothered me that so many living spaces (houses, condos etc) are built with a stingy mentality— eff that. I want spare rooms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:16 AM
9

I swear communication only works with other women. Lately I’ve been noticing that every interaction with a man either ends in conflict, or him trying to mansplain something to me. Meanwhile with women, we actually converse to share ideas or resolve issues. Realizing this I keep my conversations with men short and to the point. If it isn’t getting anywhere best to switch to “action” and abort the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:40 PM
59

If you can’t afford $2.50, you have no business dating 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:21 AM
22

Oh god. So sorry! I’m exhausted and didn’t read that properly 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:18 PM
7

I wonder if a pet would help? Could you get a dog or cat to cuddle instead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:41 PM
13

My advice is… you do you. Forget what the naysayers say, because at the end of the day you’re the one who has to live your life. Another thing to consider is people loveee to bash your choices when they know they can’t do better themselves. Pickmes will secretly envy your choices (e.g man with a full head of hair) but tear you down because they couldn’t achieve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:39 PM
16

Yep, I’ve experienced this. I’m frequently told my standards are too high and I need to lower my expectations. But here’s the strange part, I tend to get a negative response when I’m direct about my thoughts. Meanwhile people admire my way of doing things or the way I carry myself, but when I provide an explanation they start attacking me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:21 PM
93

Their depravity truly knows no limits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:15 PM
43

Agreed. It’s also dangerous in more than one sense, even if he’s the sweetest most loving HVM what if a tragic accident happens? We should always prepare for the unexpected and worse case scenario.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:56 PM
55

Presumably once a man takes everything from her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:09 AM
18

I love this response 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:04 AM
19

I tried to use this excuse and a scrote asked me if I’m sure I’m not gay 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:01 AM
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Here’s the irony… at 16 he is most likely a horndog looking for some place to stick it. I can bet he expects this poor girl to put out, while he won’t even pay for a movie ticket. Let’s not forget the additional risk of teenage pregnancy and how they’ll expect her to go on BC to satisfy his needs. Pickme mom doesn’t consider all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:31 PM
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I like the way you think, there is definitely truth to this. Hot air also travels faster than old air, so those shit molecules are coating everything 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:44 PM
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I’m sorry you had to deal with such an insensitive ex! That’s all very true. Men love to beat you down or gaslight until they get their way. I think FDS has taught us there’s one situation where was can win: walking away. We don’t need them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:39 PM
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”Or they just want to talk about themselves all day and rarely ask you anything about yourself.” That’s another great point! There’s no reciprocation because they lack self awareness AND they’re looking for an ego boost. They don’t care about you or your day, instead they expect you to listen and either be impressed or serve as a sounding board. And no, they don’t care to get to know you either. If there’s one thing FDS has taught me, men loooove to project their idea of what they want you to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:34 PM
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And the common denominator is men being creeps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:54 AM
60

This is a great question… I think since men have more respect for other men, they’d be more likely to equally divide the responsibilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:51 AM
132

Omg yes! I’ve also noticed this. Every time I try to be friends with a man he twists the conversation into some sexual shit. Talking about baseball? “Ohhh you like balls”. Talking about cooking? “You like thick sausages? ;)” maybe these aren’t the best examples, but you get the idea! They only want to “connect” if it involves sex. I find interacting with my female friends MUCH more fulfilling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:46 AM
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Agreed. So many men were my “friend” until they realized I wasn’t sexually interested. After that they were nowhere to be found.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:35 PM
19

My guess would be humiliation… they don’t like feeling humiliated because it’s an insult to their manhood. Everything for them revolves around their peen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:36 PM
2

Scrote expectations of a relationship: 💩+ 💃 Yet they will still make 💃feel like shit and drag her down to his level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:14 PM
51

I felt this comment in my bones. I’ve been fucked over too many times for this…. NEVER again. I think we are better off expressing our love to friends/family/pets who deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:52 AM
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I always do this! A few months ago I crossed paths with a girl who was walking down the street with two creepy looking guys eyeing her. The area was somewhat deserted, so I approached her pretending to know her and asked if I could walk with her until we reached the end of the block where there was more people. She was happy I offered! I cringe thinking about how those two scrotes were looking at her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:35 PM
48

“Hoboscrotes” love it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:32 AM
15

This is true. I guess a better question to have asked is where do you find men who are givers? I live in a popular metropolitan city (don’t want to name it for safety reasons) where almost man is a Feminina. It’s crazy...they all want a woman to baby and mollycoddle them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:37 PM
21

Thank you. I agree with this, which is part of the reason I’m not dating. I know I can provide for myself and meet my own standards. If a guy doesn’t meet my expectations (most don’t) I’m not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:54 PM
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Do you have any practical advice on how to get the man to be the giver? I agree our job should be to sit back and relax, but whenever I try this it doesn’t work. They don’t do shit for me, and if they do it’s usually half assed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:23 PM
5

Ooooff 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:33 PM
36

The comment section here is wild. Lists almost every profession... should we just not date men? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:24 PM
25

^ this. Those that get ahead usually do it at the expense of others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:23 PM
28

Doctors are extremely sly and cunning. They’re good at faking being normal, and easily hide behind the identity of their MD but watch out. They should not be trusted. Almost every doctor I’ve met was egotistical, manipulative, and deceptive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:19 PM
389

I am so sorry you’re going through this. He sounds like pure scum. Cut your loses— At least you know now, and you can make your plans to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:51 PM
46

I agree with this. I’d prefer a guy who texts too much vs one who doesn’t. But there’s also a difference between healthy texting vs clingy, controlling and desperate. If a guy likes to send memes, funny things throughout his day or inquire about my day, that’s fine. On the other hand, if he’s blowing up my phone asking where I am, and sending question marks that shit is unhealthy and imma block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:35 PM
104

Can confirm LVM stress the fuck out of you. You’re constantly ruminating over every little detail of the relationshit, which causes unnecessary stress/anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:19 PM
17

^ this right here. It’s infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:29 AM
41

Real shit. After discovering FDS I’ve analyzed the couples I know, and it overwhelmingly appears the men married because they want a caretaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:24 AM
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LMAO dead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:17 AM
71

“Toxic ex” more like the ex he gaslit into believing she’s crazy 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:28 AM
52

LVM will be out in hoards this summer, avoid OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:26 AM
5

IMO you were too kind to give him an explanation— he didn’t deserve one, and probably felt some satisfaction getting you riled up. Next time block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:25 AM
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You still need to be cautious of the “decent ones”. I’ve seen countless stories where a man hooked up early, only to feel like he missed out. To take it to the next level of scrotation, he’ll suggest an open relationship. This usually ends in disaster because the woman will find countless partners, while he finds none and throws a pathetic fit about how he regrets it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:55 AM
16

What does “TC” mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:34 PM
204

That’s a good point. They created those standards and then complain it’s too expensive to maintain.... wtf do they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:21 PM
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This show makes me cringe. I noticed most of the time the best way to gauge if the relationship will work is if the woman is more attractive than the man. It’s pretty telling actually. Many of the women have the ability to develop feelings, but if the man isn’t interested “at first sight” the relationship is doomed for disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:13 PM
70

Truth! These outside the box perspectives are 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:07 PM
141

I loved this explanation! It’s completely logical: a few minutes of pleasure is not worth the risk of permanent damage to that area. And to further that, it’s a reflection of how these scrotes lack empathy....if they truly cared they wouldn’t want to hurt the one they claim to love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:20 AM
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Here’s an article about its origins: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/ryanhatesthis/a-video-of-a-guy-banging-a-mcchicken-sandwich-trended-and-ev
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:09 AM
188

The only thing peaking is their hairline when it starts to recede.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:31 AM
132

LV men logic: I want a fun woman to binge drink beer and party with me every weekend. Also LV men: women who drink hit the wall at 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:28 AM
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The comments here are spot on about them being adrenaline junkies and risk takers. Something else I’ve noticed is they tend to treat their girlfriends like men. If you’re the type that likes to be pampered (hair and nails done etc) they see you as a spoiled princess. Not my cup of tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:05 PM
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This was interesting to read, thanks for posting. I’ve always been bothered by the connotation of a “pickme”. No doubt I agree with it in the context of this sub, and you should avoid those behaviours. But when you dive deeper into the semantics it implies the man gets the privilege of choosing a woman. This bothers me because why can’t I do the choosing? Why the hell does he get that privilege? I’ve never been keen on the men who approach me, I want to be the one picking. I should also note thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:00 PM
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Lmaoooo I think it will be funny to rewatch this with a FDS mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:54 PM
672

beCaUse oF mAlE piLl sIde eFfEctS lIkE heAdacHe!!1!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:42 PM
62

God. I am not surprised. From McChickens to bottles, they’ll fuck ANYTHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:22 PM
229

He should go fuck a ketchup bottle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:07 PM
7

He’s a cutie ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:06 PM
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You’re definitely onto something. In my social circle I’ve noticed the women in relationships have dimmed themselves down. They hardly ever have an opinion on things (unless it’s the same as their man’s), and they’ve given up most of their hobbies/interests. Men seem to like dull, agreeable women. And if you aren’t dull they’ll bring you down until you are. My hunch is it’s a blow to their ego if you seem superior to them, with the only exception being looks because they want to show you off as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:08 PM
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That’s a whole lot of unnecessary words for: I’m a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:07 PM
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It’s not even comparable! Having sex has serious risks. Meanwhile emotional, romantic, intellectual etc compatibility are all valuable for determining if you’ll stay together long term and should be determined in the early stages of the relationship before you’re hooked with kids or a marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:29 PM
25

The only thing I find appealing about marriage is having a second income for stability and security. But even that’s not guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:28 PM
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Anyone eager to display their relationship is usually overcompensating and projecting a false image of what it actually is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:20 PM
16

Congratulations, you live with someone statistically likely to be a leading cause of your death This comment made my morning 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:18 PM
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He mentions Reddit. OK I realize it sounds like a double standard since we’re all on here, but every man I have met IRL who admits to using Reddit has been a red pilled misogynist. I suspect they mostly use it for p0r n, and brushing up on their PUA/red pilled philosophies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:42 AM
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You’re justified to feel that way. I think the fundamental principle behind any exchange (gifts, support, love, friendship) is the effort and how much they care. I can understand if someone has financial hardship and can’t reciprocate a monetary gift, in that case this person can at least be there for you. Simple things like asking how your day was, or if there’s anything they can do for you. I agree it’s nice to receive a gift in return, but at this point I’ve given up. I used to be quite gener…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:37 AM
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Wow I completely empathize with you. I did exactly the same by extending kindness, buying gifts and offering support only to receive absolutely nothing in return. And like you, the disappointment stems from the lack of concern from others. It’s not that you’re expecting to get something, but rather to see how they wouldn’t do the same. From now on I put myself first. It’s best not to reciprocate until people prove themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:18 PM
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Insightful post, it’s quite sad. I’m all for personal improvement whether it’s leveling up your personality or looks (within limitation, some of these surgeries are excessive). It should also be done for your own self satisfaction and not to impress others. I think it’s best to be well rounded. If someone chooses to go for the IG baddie look, they will be much more novel if they also put the same effort into building their character because that’s what their competition is neglecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:15 PM
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What a disappointment. In North America we believe Aussies are hot, guess not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:05 PM
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Yep! I believe they did it for validation: “hey look at us! We can be cool too”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:03 PM
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This is surprising, never would have guessed. Always looked at them as a more progressive country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:40 PM
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A scrote once told me it’s “gay” for men to wear sunscreen. So much ignorance 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:14 PM
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Crying at this because I noticed the same thing 😂 We had a table of outcasts who would make out for the entire lunch break, everyone would cringe but they thought they were “cool”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:40 PM
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-Taller than me -Proportionate with a lean/fit body -No balding or receding hairline -Minimal body hair and no beard. Stubble is the most I’ll accept, but I will have to see him clean shaven first for a good view of his chin/jawline. -No unibrow -Well groomed with good hygiene -Full lips and nice teeth -Nice nose -Clean skin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:32 PM
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I’m in a similar position, I wish I could offer helpful advice but I’m stumped myself! To make matters worse men flat out tell me I seem like my standards are too high, and I look too expensive. That alone deters them from proceeding with a relationship 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:07 PM
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Because they only want them when they’re “young and fresh”. Women are literally seen as objects, and once they’re worn out it’s time to toss and get a new one. Interestingly, I had read a post on a men’s form where a bunch of them agreed they would never do certain acts with a girlfriend because they don’t want to “damage” her. I thought it was insightful they would think of the long term consequences with someone they love, which confirms they see women in porn as objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:07 PM
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I’d also like to point out that sometimes this accounts for why some women will be shocked when a guy chose another woman over her. We’ve all seen this situation before where a woman who appears to be the total package is tossed aside, and the scrote chooses someone else who appears to be of lesser value. When this happens it’s less about her, and more about the scrote. Chances are the scrote feels more comfortable with this woman because he felt like he earned her. With the HMW he may have perc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:00 PM
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Precisely. I’m sick of going out on a limb for scrotes who would never do the same. Never again 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:30 PM
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You dump them, which is great. But pickmes don’t. In OP’s post that woman is trying to find ways to accommodate it by being more open minded.... unfortunately many LV cheating men maintain their LT relationships because the woman just learns to deal with it. Even the advice she’s getting is garbage (e.g therapy). It’s awful how she’s gaslit to accept that behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:02 PM
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I think one of the best pieces of advice I got from this sub is: men will look down on you for chasing them. They see you as desperate, and it’s even worse if he’s ugly, because then he’ll question wtf if wrong with you for wanting him. Likewise if you go 50/50 he won’t feel like he’s earned you. Men don’t value things they haven’t worked for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:58 PM
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A scrote told me this too! He said “You’ll regret it when you’re older”..... no. However, I’m sure he regrets contracting herpes 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:19 AM
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Very few women can successfully work a few years in that industry and make enough to retire for life. Unfortunately many young women are tricked into creating an Only Fans account with the false promise of making thousands per month, only to be disappointed when they barely make $100. Realistically it’s not a long term career, and it’s hardly profitable unless you can make the top percentile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:36 PM
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“To sleep with someone else” ... 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:39 AM
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“My boyfriend has two partners. Should I be his third?” ....wait, this doesn’t make sense. If that’s HER boyfriend shouldn’t she be one of the two partners? Not the third? But anyway, if she’s in the horrible position to ask this she might as well be the “third”. He clearly doesn’t give a fuck about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:41 PM
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Many white North American men have this idea that just because they’re white they’re attractive. And for years people of colour have been deluded into believing this misconception. The worst is when they think a butt ugly white man is handsome just because he’s tall— I’m sorry, no. There are far more important characteristics that go into determining attractiveness and high quality traits in a partner than just being tall/white.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:03 PM
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I find most men with a high one brag about it. You can also tell indirectly by the number of hookups or past relationships he mentions. The dumb fox method works well for this, play dumb and non judgmental, and he’ll spill everything you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:37 PM
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That’s an excellent point, great insight into their character. You don’t “sow your oats” a hundred times without deception and a lack of integrity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:14 PM
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There will be mould everywhere with piles of trash and dirty laundry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:06 AM
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For this reason I’m only interested in men with a “low body count”. I said what I said, not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:05 AM
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You’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. When I spoke up I got labeled as paranoid, overreacting, needing to chill yadayadayada. Now I don’t say shit, and apparently I’m mean 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:03 AM
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In addition to these great answers, pay attention his vocabulary. For example, if he says something like “hardc0re” a lot, or even his reaction when he sees that word. Also how he makes jokes. Like if he sees a pie and makes a lame “cr3ampie” joke. These are subtle giveaways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:10 AM
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Lol I also interpreted it like that! And tbh I think it’s a thing, so many men have hunch backs and poor posture these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:13 AM
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I felt this comment in my soul. Be extremely cautious when it comes to LV intellects! They are extremely cunning and devious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:03 PM
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I think you’re onto something. Ironically most men treat me better when I treat them like shit. It’s not something I’m proud of, but rather a phenomenon I’ve noticed over the years. Whenever I’m nice to a guy he takes it for granted, but treat him like shit and he goes overboard trying to get my approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:59 PM
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-if it didn’t come with the potential risk of pregnancy which can literally destroy your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:43 PM
11

“Stone cold bitch” because I wouldn’t sleep with him. Meanwhile he wouldn’t initiate a relationship so.... 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:39 PM
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Whenever I question if I should marry and have kids, I pop over to that sub and instantly change my mind 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:48 PM
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Y’all can do this experiment yourself: If you have Tinder set your age range to early 30s, and swipe for a while with your preference on men. Once your eyes begin to bleed, flip it to women and you’ll be shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:27 PM
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I find the term “ethnic bump” interesting. I understand there are differences between noses of varying ethnicities, but overall Caucasians tend to have larger noses with bumps. When it comes to rhinoplasty people have this misconception that the conventionally attractive button nose is exclusive to whites—but that’s not the case. I’ve seen plenty of blacks, asians etc with cute noses. In fact, from an evolutionary perspective Caucasian noses evolved to be bigger to warm the cold air in their cli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:35 PM
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Be mindful of their language, the words they use come across as cold and negative. They also try to appear dominant, and have a controlling tone. Another good tip is if he says he uses Reddit, that’s usually a dead giveaway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:43 AM
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This is the comment I was looking for. If he invested more in his ex-wife and that didn’t work out, imagine how this relationship will end when he already set the standards low. She should run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:47 PM
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Honestly... it’s his loss. You sound really sweet and endearing. I bet you would have put your all into cultivating a relationship if he had reciprocated. In this case you need to cut your loses and move on. It’s great you’re self-aware enough to realize what went wrong, because now you can correct it. Never fall in love with the fantasy of a man— focus on what actually exists. If a guy likes you it will be obvious, and there’s no need to chase him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:07 AM
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I believe they are mutually exclusive: “Love does not conquer all” - IMO this applies to circumstances beyond our control: e.g sickness, accidents, unforeseen financial hardships etc. A man can be truly madly in love with you, but roadblocked for reasons beyond his control. “If he wanted to he would have”- we know this is fundamental and absolutely necessary for a healthily functioning relationship. Men will move mountains for women they love. Without it don’t even bother with that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:05 AM
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This comment really resonated with me. Truth 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:39 AM
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I’m sorry you’ve experienced that. If it’s any condolence to you, those women sound like shitty people and you don’t need that in your life. You seem smart, rationale minded and far more empathetic than them! I’d argue the principles of FDS don’t apply exclusively to men—they can be used in all aspects of life. It’s a lifestyle. If someone mistreats you, male or female, it’s a reflection of themselves. The same principles of respect apply to women, and if they’ve shown they don’t respect you, yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:32 AM
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I don’t think most women willingly enter these relationships, and for the ones that do they’ve been brainwashed by the current shitty culture which has normalized BDSM. Definitely agree it’s not natural for men to want to see their partner in pain. This is something more women should be made aware of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:23 AM
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“SHe hiT mE fiRsT! i gOoGlEd iT fOr seLf dEfEnCe”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:10 AM
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I’ve noticed this statement becoming increasingly popular. Whenever I speak to a man and he has no reasonable explanation or satisfaction to give, he’ll brush off the situation by saying “It is what it is”. It’s very annoying, I hope this trend dies soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:20 PM
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This was disgusting to read. How delusional and out of touch with reality are these men that they could possibly think this is attractive?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:15 PM
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“The first thing every single woman has to do before even considering the idea of dating is to get completely comfortable with being single, even forever. “ ..... I’ve done this and I love it. Dating seems unappealing at this point 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:49 PM
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Lol I guess my ex is the exception to this rule. He had a very deep voice..... and a very small peen 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:29 AM
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No— what is the point in risking a potential pregnancy and contracting STDs if you can’t even climax? If he can’t make himself useful then bye boy 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:31 AM
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Also noticed this! They never put “husband” in their profile either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:53 AM
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There was a recent study indicating too much emphasis is placed on mothers contributing to a child’s autism. New research suggests fathers are also to blame due to multiple factors such as genetics, environment, lifestyle etc. Interestingly enough we know that fertility rates in men have declined over the past few decades, meanwhile autism has risen. I think that study has some truth to it. I wonder if lifestyle choices (alcohol, sedentary, having kids later etc) are a confound here, yet we neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:08 PM
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Tbh I’m surprised she had the audacity to label herself as “attractive” ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:54 PM
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I agree, but how does this work once you’re in a relationship? It seems like you’ll never be able to win, because once you slip up and let your guard down he’ll lose interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:54 PM
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Yes, it’s true. This is exactly what my LV ex told me. He said I was beautiful and all that, but I was “desperate” since I pursued him. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:51 PM
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I’m sorry, what. She let her dog lick her?! And among everything else her boyfriend is now practicing this abuse outside of the bedroom. This woman needs to leave him and get serious help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:00 PM
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Not being sarcastic: you will be far happier living alone with your dog than settling for a LVM. I would hold out until you find a man who meets your standards, and if you don’t find him that’s OK. Settling will be dead weight which drags you down, you don’t need that in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:19 AM
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What is your weight/body type like? Have you ever had plastic surgery or cosmetic procedures?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:19 AM
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Thanks for sharing, this is a great list. I’d like to add the way they speak and interact with you usually feels over the top and scripted. It just doesn’t seem natural, and you can tell something is off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:03 PM
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“Most marriages are awful” There’s a multitude of reasons for this, but I believe a strong driving force is the pressure society places on women to get married by 30 (which is enforced by the lies of our “biological clock” and “hitting the wall”). This leads us to lower our standards and neglect proper vetting strategies, a lot of women will settle. The end result is tying the knot with a LVM in a marriage that will inevitably end in divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:49 PM
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Congrats on finding us! There’s a wealth of knowledge to be found in this sub. It’s funny how many women say the same thing... it’s almost like all the men we’ve dated have read the same dating tips (presumably their own SDS- Scrote Dating Strategy 😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:20 PM
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FDS supports marriage under the condition that you marry a HVM who adds value to your life. If a man possesses any of the aforementioned traits you listed he’s low/zero value and not worth marrying. FDS also acknowledges that you may never find a HVM, so it advocates staying single rather than lowering your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:17 PM
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That’s too brazen... I doubt he is married, but it is still a red flag even if he isn’t because it shows insight into his crass character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:54 PM
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I laughed out loud at this. They always post that caption after a shitty day 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:13 PM
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LVM will always find a way to twist your words or focus on the most insignificant point in an argument 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:50 PM
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Lol this is the second time this scrote has been posted. Little does he know he’s famous 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:43 PM
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^ this x1000000!! I’ve noticed for a large majority of men their hUmoR is derived from crass sexual jokes. In fact, this was part of the reason I quit online dating. It became repetitive and predictable that if they sent me a meme it was some crappy sexual joke. Meanwhile, when my girls friends joke around they encompass a wide range of topics. Now I’m not going to extremes to say all men aren’t funny, because I do know some who are. However, the difference is those guys rarely make trashy sexua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:49 PM
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Yep. It’s an endless cycle of: “If there’s a problem, you should communicate”..... woman cOmMuNiCaTes..... “Stop nagging at your boyfriend”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:15 PM
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Where I’m from they all want to be Jamaican, and are hella disappointed when it comes back as Indian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:13 PM
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Girl same! My ex was so good at painting himself as the victim that I genuinely believed he went after “bad girls”, and hence all his exes were “crazy”. That couldn’t be farther from the truth! The real problem was his lying cheating ass. He would gaslight his exes and when they (appropriately) reacted he would label them as crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:11 PM
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IMO it depends on the context. I know plenty of people who ended up far more successful in fields that are not related to their degree. If a job only requires a high school diploma and it’s superior to my current one in terms of salary, benefits and working conditions then I don’t see an issue taking it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:20 PM
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^ thisssss. How the fuck do you not brush your teeth?! If he can’t even do the most basic of tasks for himself, imagine how he’ll treat you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:01 AM
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That was painful to read— wtf does he do for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:59 AM
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You dodged a major bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:08 PM
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I agree. I also think he looks younger in the before. The after looks good too, but I think he was fine before— certainly didn’t look like the jawless scrotes we joke about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:20 PM
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Agreed. As we’ve learned from this sub, LV men are almost never willing to change themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:24 PM
8

Yep, that’s exactly it. In college I knew a scrote who kept suggesting I move out because it would be easier to bring men over 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:22 PM
23

Good catch! Clever observation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:13 PM
14

He has amazing lips!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:09 PM
238

The final Pickme boss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:10 PM
33

This is a great mindset, and ironically I feel like men already think like this. Women on the other hand are programmed not to, because society trains us to be selfless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:09 PM
1

Just want to point out she’s super good looking, so if you ever think it’s because you’re not “pretty” enough that’s not true. Scrotes will scrote anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:08 PM
60

There’s also a hint of racism: ever notice how the woman is usually lighter than the man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:49 PM
87

Living with one is like living with a farm animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:27 AM
7

He would definitely claim it’s a “hArmlEsS kInK”. Meanwhile if you asked him to do it on himself it’s a violation to the highest degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:38 PM
5

I’d like to be able to comment there as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:19 AM
42

This guy is a disgusting piece of shit. The more I read the worse it gets. I read another text where he wanted her to slit her wrists and use the blood as lube 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:07 AM
24

Personally I haven’t had much luck with online dating. A HVM is already hard to find, but even more so online. IMO most HVM get snapped up easily in real life, they don’t need dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:35 PM
182

How come advice targeted at women always involves us changing ourselves or catering to a man?! Nah, scrotes should be the ones instructed on how to be desirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:58 AM
7

Ouuu this is good advice. Even though they are “joking” there is usually some truth to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:38 PM
39

Same, never seen it here but I have seen it elsewhere. It’s a common male misconception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:21 PM
128

I’m a longtime FDS member, and have never heard of point 8 (the 6/6/6 rule) being advocated here. Interesting to see how these lies perpetuate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:08 PM
37

Stay away!!! He’s probably festering with diseases. Guarantee he has at least herpes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:09 AM
40

That’s exactly it. See how quickly a scrote would communicate if you wanted to create a schedule for having anal. They know, they just don’t care!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:07 AM
29

Lmao that was such an accurate description of a typical question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:03 AM
327

Other subs always blame the woman, or dismiss her concerns when the man is clearly in the wrong and tell her to “cOmMuNiCaTe”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:42 PM
16

I’m so sorry to hear that. He may have been “beautiful” on the outside, but he’s a monster on the inside. I hope karma gets him and are doing better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:59 PM
117

Scientific proof not to engage in anal: “The findings support the assessment of anal intercourse as a factor contributing to fecal incontinence in adults, especially among men.” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5231615/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:03 AM
98

That is terrifying. Even more so to hear that they are underage, and already being coerced into that crap. I hope they can recover and don’t face a lifetime of incontinence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:54 AM
175

They “lasted” because women had no other choice! 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:26 PM
6

Nope! I agree with you, it’s perfectly logical to want genetic testing given the circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:59 AM
11

2020 was a rough year, but it taught me that it’s better to be alone than with a scrote. Women who are paired up with LVM and have kids really got the raw end of the deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:26 PM
8

This sounds like the ultimate LVM fantasy, and eerily similar to Dirty John. Will definitely take a look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:03 AM
24

These are great points. I agree that for a lot of them it’s so deeply embedded in their behaviour it’s second nature to them. Scary when you think about it....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:41 PM
99

I would replace smart with selfish and manipulative. A lot of them are dumb as fuck, but successfully leech off women preying on their empathetic, nurturing nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:00 PM
8

Thanks girl! Now I’m curious, what issues do engineers have? Also disappointed to hear that because I had considered pursuing them 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:29 AM
26

I’m not the person you asked, but based on my field I can confirm almost all doctors have a god complex and surgeons are the worst. We had a king douchebag surgeon who slept with every young nurse in his department. Yes, you read that correctly. Stay far away from doctors/surgeons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:02 AM
8

I completely agree. I remember in school many of the popular “hot” guys would have hideous facial features. Ultimately it came down to them being tall. IMO height is irrelevant as long as he’s taller than me. Their face is top priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:27 PM
5

I needed to hear this 🙋‍♀️ Not ashamed, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:19 PM
5

Yes, well said. Definitely looks like something cold and calculative is going on in his mind while he maintains a calm composure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:12 PM
17

Unfortunately society puts doctors on a pedestal. Isn’t it weird how they’re the only profession that gets awarded with the title “Dr”? Meanwhile, there’s plenty of other professionals who study hard in school (physicists, engineers, pharmacists etc) that don’t get anywhere near the same level of respect OR pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:05 PM
12

He looks like a stereotypical douchebag. People say he’s attractive, but I personally don’t see it. His features are cold and mean looking, especially those thin lips and dead eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:55 PM
22

I took a look at that sub, and tbh if you sort the posts by “Top Posts of all time” it’s more or less objectively attractive bodies with the most upvotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:46 AM
16

Thanks. Seems like a case of good or bad, attention is attention. Useful to know to avoid this trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:27 PM
46

Can someone please explain why we assume “someone finally loves me”, when in fact they don’t?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:10 PM
24

I can relate to her in the sense of feeling more dominant. IMO this usually happens when you’re the one putting in more effort/ chasing a man. Unfortunately this happens a lot with men you like, and it’s impossible to make them like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:02 AM
61

Yes and no. Attractive privilege does exist in life, however when it comes to dating and relationships nothing is guaranteed with men. I have seen plenty of attractive women treated like shit. Generally speaking, men are nice when they believe there’s a possibility to fuck. But also keep in mind, most don’t want to put in the effort. So to relate back to this example, many LV men would view changing a tire as too much effort for their end goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:57 PM
37

I came here to say this, you beat me to it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:53 PM
58

On the flip side, they never showcase the negative side to women who are shacked up with a man. All you need to do is visit a certain sub (you all know the one where moms post) to see being a spinster isn’t so bad. That sub cements my decision not to have kids or maybe even marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:34 PM
87

....I felt my blood boil reading this. It’s so true. 90% of the couples I know are exactly like this. It gives me no incentive to be in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:29 PM
82

I think you’re onto something about the body language. Personally my profile picture is mine and I don’t like sharing it with someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:42 PM
2

Even before FDS I’ve always avoided men with “high body counts”. They’re more likely to have STDs and cheat... nothing appealing about that 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:52 PM
13

I bet his REAL problem is he can’t find a “smart woman” who is 10 years younger, looks like a blow up doll, and bends over backwards to his every need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:41 PM
17

Sadly agree. There aren’t enough HVM for every woman to have one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:34 PM
55

”Men’s sexual desirability peaks at 50” I’m sorry— WHAT?! More like their delusions peak at 50. From an evolutionary perspective this does not make sense. Without modern technology and medical advancements 50 would be near the end of a man’s lifespan. And let’s not forget the decrease in their sperm quality. Biggest load of horseshit I’ve heard yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:30 PM
21

Sounds like a vampire who wants to suck the youth out of young girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:26 PM
108

IMO HVM exist, but they are far and few between. Realistically there aren’t enough HVM go around. With that being said, I’m not going to settle for a LVM. I view being alone as neutral, while settling for a LVM would put me at a deficient that detracts from the quality of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:23 PM
28

Asides from Hooters being trash, this is not a bad idea. Other eateries should implement a system like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:15 AM
71

I’m also allowed to dump your ass 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:03 PM
15

You’ve made a good point: why are women expected to learn child rearing skills while men aren’t? So sick of seeing them get the “dad pass”. The other thing that pisses me off is they’ll also claim we’re born with maternal instinct just magically knowing how to do these things— and if we don’t then we better learn! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:12 AM
166

Yep. Men will gaslight you until you need a straight jacket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:21 AM
31

She’s gorgeous too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:53 PM
6

Can you expand on this? What sort of signals give him away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:22 PM
14

Who are these two? Do they have a YouTube channel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:17 PM
55

I wouldn’t give them the benefit of the doubt to say you don’t know how else to say it. Instead, I would tell them, “I’ve explained this in multiple ways, but YOU don’t understand what I’m saying.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:42 PM
20

I gag thinking about putting something that hangs in a toilet bowel into my mouth 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:34 PM
11

Avoid men, cancel them 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:31 PM
9

Completely agree, I don’t need that headache in my life. Dating is off putting, and creates unnecessary stress. I’m much happier when I’m not worrying about all the crap it entails. I’d also like to add, most of the time when you think you’ve found a HVM, it’s actually a LV scrote in disguise 🥸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:30 PM
45

You can cut a tree or a scrote, nice multipurpose gift ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:20 PM
28

This is disturbing to think about. Never let a scrote downplay your concerns or manipulate you into doing something you don’t want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:32 PM
24

Exactly what I thought 😂 Are pickmes that desperate for a man that they don’t see these things?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:31 PM
10

Congrats on the nose job! You do you, do what makes you happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:29 PM
15

I’ve also noticed this. Contrary to what scrotes may think, my daydreams never involve a 6’3 “Chad”. Instead I think about a fancy car, nice home, established career etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:27 PM
6

It’s also about their ego. Why should he try to be better when he already believes he’s the best?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:02 AM
3

“iM oBjEcTifIeD” - says the sex that literally treats women like objects and dirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:00 AM
5

I’m sad to hear that. Butterflies always meant attraction for me....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:52 PM
20

Can you expand on this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:47 AM
4

Exactly, a highly toxic manipulation tactic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:40 PM
9

It’s because they want to normalize these cheating behaviours. If they shame someone for snooping then it makes it less likely that they’d be caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:58 PM
30

Gucci belt also helps to deter scrotes who think you’re hIgH maIntEnAncE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:18 PM
28

When I first saw that I thought it was a photoshopped joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:21 AM
8

^ THIS! 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:24 AM
10

Google pictures of Ted Bundy: https://s.abcnews.com/images/US/ted-bundy-1-ap-er-190213_hpMain_1x1_992.jpg There’s just something about his eyes that are off putting. Even though he’s smiling his eyes have an unusually intense and fixated gaze— which to me indicates an ulterior motive, and insight to the evil he’s actually thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:37 AM
38

You’ve got some great answers on here. The one thing I’ll add is I think it’s an unfair trope that once again gives the man the privilege of choosing who he wants. I believe that if a man knows a woman “is the one” within a short timeframe of meeting her, then he’s undoubtedly basing this off of superficial aspects. It takes us women months to vet, and even if we saw a guy we were instantly lovestruck by chances are we wouldn’t get him— so why give men this privilege? Perpetuating this idea caus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:27 AM
9

Most of the time they don’t even read what’s on here and jump to conclusions. I recently saw a post where an angry LVM believes FDS promotes cheating 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:59 AM
42

We need to expand on number 7, it’s a real thing. I went on a date with a guy once and I’ll never forget his creepy stare. He looked at me like I was prey, it sent shivers down my spine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:52 AM
6

Choosing a high quality sperm donor from a catalogue has become increasingly enticing after seeing the hoards of LV men dating has to offer. It may sound superficial, but I like the idea of choosing all the features I want for a child. I don’t want low quality sperm with balding genes and weak jawlines 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:47 AM
12

I came here to say the same thing 😂 She looks like a doll!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:38 AM
23

Question: what about couples who have dated for a few years (3-10) and then got married? I know a few like this in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:36 AM
3

Thank you for sharing! It’s gorgeous, I hope you enjoy it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:48 PM
6

That’s such a lovely ring! I’m tempted to ask where it’s from... I kind of want one 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:57 PM
15

I don’t want to list my profession here, so I’ll say something a bit different. A man mansplained me on online dating: “when a woman only uses headshots it means she’s fat.” ...Meanwhile this scrote was balding and hid his weak jawline with a beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:56 PM
52

Thank you. I thought I was the only one who didn’t find most male athletes attractive. Sure they might have good bodies, but they are almost never facially attractive. And as you’ve pointed out, it’s usually men who swoon over them, not women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:31 PM
39

Agreed, good post. I think the overarching message is money affects your quality of life, and if a man has no money it’s usually reflective of his poor traits (work ethic, values, intelligence etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:49 PM
112

I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s shocking to see the amount of stories on here where a woman bends over backwards for a man, and the gift he gives in return is shit. They truly have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:07 PM
22

I’m exactly the same. Almost every guy I’ve been attracted to people have questioned if he’s gay or bi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:46 PM
40

Lol funny comment. I can totally relate, when you finally find one you’re in disbelief!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:44 PM
3

What kind of fuckery is this? 🤦 If he gets this worked up over something as stupid as a plate, imagine how he deals with other shit in life. She should divorce him ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:37 PM
30

This comment though 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:22 PM
57

I think this should be taught to girls from young. Many of us innocently make this assumption as this is how most women think, so we wrongfully attribute the same to men. It would save plenty of girls from unnecessary stress and heartache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:10 PM
7

I had a tinder match who would write paragraphs about himself, then give 1 word responses regarding anything to do with me. He then became disappointed when I didn’t want to meet....🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:16 AM
51

HWM don’t want someone who is desperate— in fact, this rule is universal. Think about all the desperate men who’ve chased after you, wasn’t it off putting? It shows a lack of boundaries and self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:12 AM
31

Agreed, any man with a name 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:42 PM
113

Throw the whole man away. I wonder if he’d even bother to wipe his ass if she didn’t replace the toilet paper...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:39 PM
6

...I think I’ll stay single forever thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:53 PM
23

Also Reddit: YTA. You shouldn’t expect a gift just because you gave one you gold digging b!+*h.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:10 PM
18

If I were to hazard a guess they a) lack an abundance mindset and b) have fallen victim to the sunk cost fallacy. With point a) I can sympathize because we know good men are hard to come by. However, these women are often NOT with HVM. Instead, they believe these men are “good enough” and they can possibly change, or look past their flaws... ...which brings me to point b) sunk cost fallacy. When you’ve invested so much time and energy into something it becomes harder, and harder to leave. You th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:07 PM
30

Wow this is such a good point! Manipulative men are slightly smarter to have picked up on this, will definitely be on the lookout for it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:03 PM
4

Exactly. I’ve been in so many situations where I can’t believe how a man has treated me. If the roles were reversed I would feel guilty and shameful— yet the man felt absolutely nothing and brushed it off. Or worse, they turned the tables and said “YouRe oVeR rEaCtinG!” or “cRazY”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:29 PM
41

Exactly. It’s hard for us to fathom since women have (MUCH) higher empathy, but men simply do.not.care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:06 PM
9

..... throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:03 PM
24

I’m sorry that happened to you. Hearing these stories makes me so angry. Scrotes gladly accept lavish gifts then turn around and have no shame by either getting you nothing, or some piece of trash gift. Best thing to do is get them NOTHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:33 PM
23

I cracked up reading this. As awful as it is, you’ve summed them up well! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:05 PM
8

After reading this: mind = blown 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:34 AM
30

Just cancel men in general 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:31 AM
30

LVM fail to understand it’s the thought that counts. Buying your girl coffee, picking up an extra bag of milk, getting her dinner after a long day... small low effort things that show you care!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:18 AM
74

You forgot to add the man is always labeled “NTA”, while the woman is most definitely “YTA” 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:42 PM
17

I agree with you. I’m baffled at how many people have children when they can’t afford them. Not only that, but YOUR quality of life suffers too. Money buys the comfort and stability to take care of both you and them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:04 AM
2

This comment though 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:59 AM
14

Yep. So many men would try to take the change, then be shocked when you don’t hand it to them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:42 PM
60

Saw this a lot when I worked retail. A secret game I played was to always make it a point to hand the woman the change, scrotes didn’t like this very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:51 PM
51

My theory is that things keep getting worse, and as a result Pickmes need to find more ways to stand out. It’s an endless cycle...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:43 PM
152

Not going to lie, this show was bomb. New York (Tiffany) was so entertaining😂 But yes, Flavor Flav was 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:39 PM
50

“If not, it’s probably another man.” .... I’ve seen this before. Luckily my friend didn’t care too much and laughed it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:10 PM
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Or the risk to benefit ratio. Women have so much more to lose, it’s not something to be taken lightly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:34 PM
2

It starts from young with Disney brainwashing. We are taught to find a prince, marry and live happily ever after. Meanwhile, boys are told to chase their dreams: become a doctor, lawyer, engineer etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:11 PM
19

You are right... Love don’t pay the bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:08 PM
4

Definitely agree. It is too risky and time consuming for everyone to know all the details of your life. I only do this with my two lifelong childhood friends, otherwise keep it surface level with others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:06 PM
12

I saw a similar post and the comments had lots of alternatives: hug your pets, hug your friends, hug your mom. Sending more time cultivating these relationships is far better than investing in a scrote. Other options are a weighted blanket and body pillow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:32 PM
45

A good rule of thumb, flip the advice around: if someone told this shit to a man they likely wouldn’t tolerate it. So if a man won’t listen, there’s no reason for you to either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:29 PM
8

I agree with you. I need chemistry to even consider dating a man. HOWEVER! Chemistry is the bare minimum. If this man doesn’t fit my criteria of having high value traits, then no amount of chemistry or physical attraction will make it happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:25 PM
9

In real life I feel like you have to test the waters. I never go all out with my opinions, instead I drop a few subtle ones and see how women react. If they seem to agree I’ll go more in-depth, but if it’s clear they flat out disagree I don’t push it— those are usually pickmes who can’t be saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:22 PM
34

It’s insane that comment is downvoted. I would rather be safe than sorry.... and the irony is if anything DID happen to her she’d be blamed for going to his house 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:20 PM
11

I agree. If a man berates OP for being guarded he’s probably angry she isn’t easy to manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:15 PM
7

Congrats! Your meal looks incredibly tasty 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:13 PM
30

“And have YOU met any man that doesn’t constantly gaslight women?” Nope. If any of y’all find this mythical man please let us know 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:12 PM
31

I’m in favor of public castration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:27 PM
68

For sure. They contribute by enabling the scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:25 PM
203

Pickmes like her are the worst. They always become excessively passive aggressive and use profanities while you calmly try to explain things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:21 PM
10

I’d like to add that if a woman does “hit the wall” at 30, it’s usually because of an abusive LV scrote that knocked her up and also wants a bangmaid/mommy. So as a result, she has no time to care for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:16 PM
28

Agreed, this is sad. At 19 she should be focusing on her studies, and not be distracted by this sick, abusive scrote. He is definitely contributing to her anxiety and she needs to drop him ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:12 PM
26

I remember feeling this way in the late 90s and early 2000s. I admired Paris Hilton’s height and wished to grow as tall as her. Well I’m fully grown now at 5’2, and it’s safe to say that didn’t happen. I also remember my girl friends wanting to be tall. Fast forward to present day and culture has changed. Most girls want to be short. I strongly believe this was due to the influx of early 2000s songs using “shorty”. The mentality shifted from wanting to be tall and model like, to a tiny dainty “s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:01 PM
6

At first I thought he was going to jokingly say “yes, I’d eat you out”.... not full blown cannibalism 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:18 PM
9

Scrotes reaching new lows where they can’t even think for themselves 🤦‍♀️ Meanwhile, we don’t need an algorithm to see their balding heads, beer guts and weak jawlines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:25 AM
4

I tell them I’m looking for someone I’m compatible with and I’ll know it when I see it. This way they can’t fake it and pretend to be something they’re not because they have nothing to work with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:41 PM
2

Honestly.... he was really good looking. I’m extremely picky when it comes to physical attraction—if men can be, why can’t women? I got over him when he let himself go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:38 PM
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It’s funny how common this “what if” is with men, however they lose their shit when a woman posts it. It’s as if men are the only ones allowed to experience FOMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:59 PM
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^ this 10000000%. Here’s a great analogy: women pursing men is equivalent to being offered pizza. Let’s say you love deluxe pizza, but someone offers you cheese pizza. Even though you don’t love cheese pizza, pizza is pizza so you probably won’t refuse it! Same concept applies when a LVM is approached by a woman he isn’t crazy about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:09 AM
89

This is true. I hope he gets played by a young woman he thinks is dumb, and she swindles him for all she can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:21 PM
43

Most LVM love the ego boost of knowing you’ll take them back. This is why we block and delete 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:47 PM
34

Because it’s always a Josh. Josh is the quintessential fuckboy 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:46 PM
50

This is equivalent to falling in love with the idea of someone, rather than who they actually are. It’s a slippery slope, so try not to idealize your crush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:43 PM
14

Not me, but my friend’s ex was MIA for a few days and wouldn’t answer texts or phone calls. He suddenly reemerged with the excuse that his “toddler cousin died”, and became very hostile towards my friend for asking about his whereabouts. He claimed she needed to have more sensitivity since he was struggling to deal with the death of a child. .... we later learned that he had no toddler cousin. It was a giant lie to cover up that he was cheating and staying over at the other woman’s place 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:20 PM
9

Add spermicide to this list as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:31 AM
15

“Treated like a stained Goodwill sweater” 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:41 AM
27

^ this 100000%. We live in the year 2020, the reality is life is tough. It’s OK not to be smiley and happy all the time. A man who seeks these traits in a woman wants someone who is blissfully ignorant and oblivious to his manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:25 PM
14

I think I see your point: you want to normalize custody not automatically going to the woman? I can rationalize with this because for many men custody translates to responsibility, so they walk away scotch free. So yes, I agree there should be more balance with custody (provided the man isn’t abusive and can properly take care of the children).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:29 PM
25

We’re also conditioned not to fight back. Society and work subdues us into becoming obedient cogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:44 AM
21

Would have taken him more seriously if he didn’t use “females”. Otherwise he does make a point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:41 AM
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Fucking gross. The first thing that popped into my mind was rob a bank/ some get rich quickly scheme.... meanwhile they think with their penis 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:39 AM
104

^ this. He doesn’t want a woman who can think for herself because she wouldn’t be easy to manipulate. OP dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:36 AM
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Crying 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:56 AM
53

Exactly. It’s not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:44 AM
109

Reading this makes me want to be sterilized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:46 AM
176

It irritates me how women are burdened with the huge disadvantage of pregnancy. Unless you want a child, be extremely cautious of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:19 AM
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Nope— I don’t think it makes you weak or lacking in self esteem for wanting a romantic relationship. It’s completely understandable if this is something you desire in life. Most people do... I do myself! However, the issue is it’s not easy to find. Even under normal circumstances you’re forced to fish through a sea of LVM, and now compounded with COVID it’s near impossible. My advice would be to proceed with caution. I think since you want a relationship so much it leaves you vulnerable and more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:41 AM
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What if you tried focusing more on your friendships for the moment to reduce your loneliness? I can relate to you in the sense that I prefer to meet guys organically, but with the pandemic it just ain’t happening. Instead I’ve put dating on the back burner, and chose to focus on my friends instead. I’ve found this has helped immensely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:28 AM
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The audacity is strong with this one 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:18 AM
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LMAO love the sassiness 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:27 AM
17

I had a pickme friend who would only date divorced men. She claimed they were house broken, as in already “trained”. The problem was they also came with a shit ton of baggage! So I think the answer to this question is not clear cut. It depends on the individual circumstances. But generally speaking if he has kids and pays alimony it’s an automatic no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:21 AM
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.... that’s such a good point 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:51 PM
4

Thanks, this was insightful. You brought up two excellent points that HVM are rare in all age groups, and by definition they have their shit together despite their age. It’s sad. I just want someone who isn’t immature and doesn’t waste their life playing video games... is that too much to ask for? 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:34 AM
49

OMG. This scrote should be thankful to whoever approaches his ass 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:42 AM
17

I find that they tend to be vague and go quiet. They’ll also try to deflect and change the topic. Also, pay attention to body language. It’s common that they’ll either become really fidgety or closed off (like crossed arms).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:39 AM
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This is so true. Try it yourself. Think about any guy you’ve ever had a crush on... would you want to piss in his mouth? No! This guy clearly has issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:33 AM
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I feel similarly to you. After some self analysis I discovered the problem is most men our age are too damn immature. It’s difficult finding one that has his shit together and doesn’t play video games all day 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:31 AM
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This is nightmare fuel. Never would have guessed some countries age of consent is 14 in this day and age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:30 AM
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Honestly it’s bitter sweet. I like to think of it like this: before we were fed shit and pretended to like it. We lied and said it tasted like chocolate. Now we straight up refuse to eat the shit 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:34 PM
3

Amazing! This list is compiled very well, bless you for making it ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:29 PM
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Agreed. This stupid cliche is the reason we got dragged through the mud by our exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:22 PM
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Agreed. I also think this explains why animal species look so refined compared to humans—natural selection is allowed to naturally run its course. In nature the balding hairy fat man with horrible features would never father kids, but in human society the patriarchy facilitates it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:28 PM
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If you don’t feel safe enough to say this you shouldn’t be having sex with that guy to begin with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:19 PM
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I’m puzzled... what exactly does he have to offer other than audacity? 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:17 PM
8

Sounds like his ex had the right idea and this pickmeisha is undoing all her hard work. Men and women will never be equal—women will always be at a biological disadvantage since men are bigger, stronger, and can’t get pregnant. To make matters worse men are generally paid more, and they do far less housework and child rearing activities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:12 PM
2

But yet they tell us, “yOu sHoulD apProAch mEn”. The 1.2k upvotes says otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:34 AM
3

An actual photo of all our LV exes bundled into one 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:32 AM
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I remember this being taught back when I was in high school and thought the same thing! Sex is not a need. Unlike food and water you can live without it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:52 AM
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Hell to the no. Dig as deep as you can. If you were buying a house you’d inspect every crack and corner—same should apply to a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:58 PM
1

How about people who met before 25 and then married after 25? Would they fall into the same category?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:41 PM
3

Thank you for posting that— very interesting with lots of valuable points!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:30 PM
18

I generally agree with this, but are there acceptable exceptions to this rule? Like what about couples who met in school and didn’t propose until years later? If a man proposes after 3 years does it mean you’re more likely to have an unhappy marriage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:20 AM
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”The rare grand price in the scenario is an orgasm” Key word: RARE! In contrast there are a host of serious, yet common consequences: STDs, potential pregnancy, risk of your safety, potential social stigmas etc. It’s similar to those drug commercial disclaimers with a long list of serious side effects. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:41 PM
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Agreed. People make time for what’s important to them. When a man tells you he’s “busy”, it means he creates time to low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:44 PM
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And yet women are the illogical ones 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:42 PM
33

Exactly! It’s literally the opposite. We vet for men who want us, and avoid the ones we’d need to manipulate to act proper. At the end of the day you can’t change a person. So the fact you’d need to manipulate a man means it’s doomed from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:41 PM
2

I laughed out loud at this! “Don’t touch this specimen feature”, that’s too funny 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:54 PM
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Agreed, but I can bet LVM would go on a man hunt to rip these billboards down. Anytime this topic comes up on Reddit men accuse women who want a man their equal or greater of being a gold digger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:14 AM
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I feel you on this. Looking good isn’t only for attracting men—nor is it limited to superficial things such as fake nails or lashes. Taking care of yourself will inevitably make you look and feel better. Eating healthy and exercising will maintain a healthy weight, and improve the quality of your skin. Basic grooming, such trimming your hair and manicuring your nails, keep you looking neat and clean. Society cares about our appearance, yes. However, our appearance and the way we carry ourselves …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:07 AM
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When you “put yourself out there” you attract crap, and then the same people will turn around and say to focus less on dating and wait for the right person 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:31 PM
3

This should be pinned! Good job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:28 AM
3

Curious, what other advice does that dating coach give? What are their tips to “magnetize” a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:08 AM
21

I agree with this. “Thank you” is the bare minimum because it takes zero effort to say. It must be followed by an action because the action is what takes effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:04 PM
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Agreed! They look older and have far more wrinkles than their man. It’s even worse when they have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:12 AM
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FYI I don’t know of any girls who fell for their “trick” back in the day of posting an ab pic in a dirty gym mirror. Men who do this come across as dumb and sleazy. Bonus points if they were stupid enough not to include their face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:05 PM
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Ngl I laughed at this 😂 I bet they think FDS is full of Spectres
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:51 AM
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Jokes aside I think there’s some truth to it. Less stress means less breakouts and wrinkles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:45 AM
9

I read about that! It’s terrifying because it’s yet another example of something you can’t prepare for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:59 PM
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But sometimes these men are wolves in sheep’s clothing... they don’t show their true colors until it’s too late. Even if you’re married you can still end up a single mom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:51 PM
8

THE RATTY UNDERWEAR 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:46 PM
6

Well it was better in the end. I can’t believe I ever wanted that 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:46 PM
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FDS does have an article which states “fucking ain’t a fair act”, so I agree that women face more disadvantages. Howeverrr, men don’t get off scratch free. They also face the risks of increased STDS and a child out of wedlock. Personally I would not want a man whose goals were to bed excessive amounts of women because it means his values would not align with mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:44 PM
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No toilet paper in the washroom, yet a full roll by the MacBook 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:13 AM
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I’m crying 😂😂😂 It’s weird how alike these guys are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:25 PM
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Lmaooo one of the best ones yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:07 PM
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I love that she knows all of the official FDS terminology That’s such a good point! She’s probably been reading this sub but is deep in denial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:00 PM
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That’s such a good comprehensive description, and it was painful to read because the truth hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:47 PM
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I’m somewhat like you. I can usually tell the first time meeting a guy if I find him attractive or not. In situations where a guy has grown on me, he still would have passed my initial test. However, if I meet a guy and flat out think he’s disgusting it’s never going to happen. There must be some initial form of attraction. Your example of men rating a woman 5/10 and claiming “pussy is pussy” is exactly why women shouldn’t approach men. Men are opportunistic and will fuck whatever they can get u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:23 AM
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Lmao I agree with this. A wedding only lasts a day, but the ring is for life. Splurge on what matters 💁‍♀️💎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:48 PM
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I agree it’s a good counter argument. If they bring up any of that crap you can say, so why do you expect me to endure that? Needless to say you then block and delete 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:47 PM
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It depends what I’m feeling insecure about. Personally I’m a go getter. If I feel like I’m getting out of shape, go exercise. If I feel like I’m slacking, I stop being lazy. If surgery will make me feel better, start saving up. Basically I do what needs to be done. It also helps to not compare yourself to other people. Focusing on other people is energy wasted that could be directed to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:56 PM
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These same LVMs expect you to drive half way across the country to meet them, and then have sex within minutes of meeting. The bar is HELLA low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:01 PM
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I have no desire for a wedding. The people in my social circle spend thousands on weddings (50-100k+) and I think it’s ridiculous. That could be a down payment on a property or a new car. Personally I’d rather have a paperwork wedding and a lavish honeymoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:57 PM
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I feel like this is a new term we can coin 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:55 PM
34

Lmao this is hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:39 PM
11

Thank you for posting this. I feel exactly like you. Sometimes I feel down about it, but then when I see posts like this it makes me feel better and comforted that my feelings are justified. There’s nothing wrong with us, it’s society that’s gone crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:16 PM
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You’re asking too much! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:03 AM
6

I agree with this. SOMETIMES you can tell something is up based on their eyes alone— similar to how weed makes the eyes red, and cocaine dilates the pupils. However, most of the time it’s a combination of all their features. Ted Bundy is a good example: https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/c/cc/Ted_Bundy_headshot.jpg He has cold, dead eyes with a piercing maniac stare, but also notice the smugness in his face. He has a subtle smirk with a one sided upturn. It’s almost like his face is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:00 PM
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This shows they have stunted development, and lack empathy as well as the ability to take the perspective of others. “Muh dIcK” is the most important thing to them, so it must also be the most important to women 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:25 PM
11

Ohhh this is such a good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:10 PM
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How is being a fuck doll a privilege? I don’t care to risk catching STDs, and ruin my body with the side effects of birth control and potential pregnancy just to fuck a “Chad”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:39 PM
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Ironically it can work oppositely for women. I had a male friend in school—not someone I would date, but I enjoyed his company and we did spend a lot of time together. Later on when I met more people they all said the same thing: I thought he was your boyfriend, and was shocked because I wouldn’t have thought he was your type. Literally everyone thought we were dating and questioned why I would choose him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:36 PM
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^ this! I find it strange how their anatomy benefits from anal, yet they refused to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:48 PM
49

Also forgot anal 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:10 PM
15

A Dirty John LVM. For those of you who haven’t watched the series, he’s a con-artist psychopath who faked entire identities to multiple women conning them out of whatever he wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:46 AM
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Hahahah he’s also messaged me. This guy has been around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:43 AM
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sHe’s eMptY iNtErnAlLy I can’t tell if he means this in the metaphorical or literal sense. I have read pseudo-scrote science that states men are “givers” and women are “receivers”, and in order to feel fulfilled women need dick 😒 Either way it is bullshit. Men hate independent women because they are harder to manipulate, and it’s one less reason to need a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:40 AM
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Oh my god. What a load of shit. I can’t decide which article was worse—actually probably this one. Stress causes adverse reactions period. It has nothing to do with mAsCuLine or fEminIne energy. It seems like another attempt to discourage women from seeking higher paying jobs and trapping them to be dependent on a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:28 AM
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https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/society-is-creating-a-new-crop-of-alpha-women-who-are-unable-to-love ^ Here is the trash article if anyone’s interested. Brace yourselves, it’s full of crap. I also found it funny she mentioned this: “If my husband chose me, obviously he likes that about me.” Spoken like a true pickme 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:58 PM
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This is an amazing post, it should be pinned. You’ve made excellent points and analogies. ***Edit: The posts by this user are insane. Check her other posts. There is a WEALTH of valuable knowledge 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:39 PM
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You are nothing to me* Fixed it 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:52 PM
11

What a butt hurt scrote 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:41 PM
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”I’m hot but I’m not like a supermodel” IMO you shouldn’t have lowballed yourself like that! Anyway, he’s an idiot. I would have told him if he doesn’t believe those are your pictures it’s his loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:58 PM
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Ah I see. That’s a good point about society creating humility in women. Men are never told to humble themselves, so why are we? And then when you do know you’re attractive you’re gaslit to believe you aren’t!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:46 AM
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Ehh I don’t know. I agree with you 50%. I’ve seen some gorgeous women that were torn down by LVM, and brainwashed to believe they aren’t good looking. I think the notion that attractive women know they’re attractive is true if they haven’t been abused by a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:12 AM
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Thank you for posting this! I’ve always said the same thing, yet when I bring it up IRL all I hear is: aRe yOu sUre yOurE noT LEsBiaN????? NO. I’m most definitely straight—unfortunately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:50 PM
21

Also came here to say this. Lately there’s been so many videos of gorgeous girls putting up with low value shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:26 PM
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beCAuSe tHey’Re vIsUaL cREaTuRes /s They want something to jerk off to, and an ego boost from the zero effort it takes and control of knowing you’ll send them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:20 PM
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I was going to say this but you beat me to it. No matter how much he hurt you never admit it. Men aren’t like women to feel guilty—instead it’s an ego boost because it shows he has control over you. The healthier thing to do is channel that hurt into something else: go exercise, read a book, bake, hang out with friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:55 AM
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Side note: puts things into perspective when a woman this gorgeous still has to deal with low value shit. You can be 10/10 and scrotes will still be scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:30 AM
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Truth! This is a phd level analysis 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:15 PM
6

Where’s he going to put them all to live? A cardboard box? 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:39 PM
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I love how his pic backfired, all of us are more interested in the girl and her outfit rather than him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:42 AM
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Lmao this comment was the first thing that popped into my head. Saves us women from doing it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:39 AM
25

Zoomed in on his face, he really does look like a goblin 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:34 AM
8

Again, we relate lol I’m middle class and university educated with a stable job.... yet for whatever reason I attract hoards of scrotes who rarely have post-secondary education, a job (or a shit one) and most of the time can’t even drive. What gives?! The funny thing is although being called high maintenance or looking like a gold digger is suppose to be an insult, it’s also an underhanded compliment. So yes it confirms we are attractive and desirable, the issue is finding a guy high value enoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:32 AM
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She needs to be educated so she has a decent job he can mooch off of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:30 PM
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Never again. Not wasting my precious beauty sleep for scrotes 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:26 PM
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Fuck him. He obv has nothing better to do with his time. Also I saw that trend. Ironically a lot of the aces look younger and good for their age. Must be from avoiding all the bullshit that comes along with dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:25 PM
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Wow. You are so similar to me. I don’t have the answers to your questions, but I just wanted to say I share the same sentiments of seeing other women treat men like crap and still being chased by them. Meanwhile men tell me garbage like my standards are “too high”, and I “look like a high maintenance gold digging bitch”..... 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:23 PM
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Oddly enough I don’t want kids, but if I did I’d prefer a girl. The idea of having a son terrifies me because there’s a high probability he’ll turn into a scrote. I’ve seen wonderful people raise shit sons. In today’s world it’s almost impossible to protect them from the influences such as porn and toxic culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:28 PM
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I remember reading that story. It was absolutely heartbreaking what they did to that poor primate :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:20 AM
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“You’re a bit different from the other women on here” Aka you’re not falling for my shit, you’re harder to manipulate 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:18 AM
23

Lmao I was expecting to see a witty clapback but the block was even better 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:15 AM
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“As a guy I feel like my value comes from supporting you, providing for you.” Bingo. The reason it’s stings so much is because men subconsciously know this is their role. Cognitive dissonance ensues when they try to deny this, and the scrote becomes salty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:06 AM
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They can stay the fuck away from that field please and thank you. They have so many other jobs to choose from where they aren’t stigmatized, so cry me a river. Also most perpetrators of rape/sexual assault against children are MEN, so why not try to prevent a problem before it happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:33 PM
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I laughed out loud at your creep comment 😂 I’m also scared of coming across as a gay woman trying to do a pickup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:37 PM
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I hate this! It’s a bullshit excuse because they fail to acknowledge women never agreed to this shit in the first place. We were forced into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:08 PM
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Love is blind, sometimes people are so deep into these relationships they can’t tell right from wrong. It’s even worse when gaslighting is involved. Another aspect to consider is denial, it’s hard to accept the truth when you don’t want it to be true...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:36 PM
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No, I wouldn’t say that’s gaslighting since they didn’t deny it. But it’s still abusive since they dismiss your concerns over something that’s clearly wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:51 PM
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If you want a good example of gaslighting watch Dirty John: Betty Broderick story on Netflix. A basic summary is Betty supported her narcissistic asshole husband through both med and law school, only for him to turn around and cheat and tell Betty she’s crazy for imagining an affair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:27 PM
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I think it’s a grey area. I have Facebook and Instagram but hardly ever post. I mostly use it to follow pages related to my hobbies/interests. Personally I would prefer a guy who is like myself with a limited social media presence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:33 PM
23

Crying at the ideal boyfriend 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:23 PM
10

Yeah, I feel bad the other poster thinks there may be something wrong with her. I bet the real problem is all the HVM in her area have already been paired up 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:04 AM
19

Hey no, I disagree with what you last said! There’s probably nothing wrong with you. I’m convinced there’s an abundance of high quality women in the dating pool when compared to men. It just isn’t possible for all of us to have a good man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:17 AM
7

Been there, done that. From my experience guys who are obsessed with moms tend to have Peter Pan syndrome (Aka they’re a man child). These scrotes fetishize moms because they want a mommy to take care of them. Huge red flag, avoid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:17 PM
75

Also came here to say this. Just look at that fuckboy face 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:09 PM
36

Angry little things I swear they are the human equivalent to chihuahuas 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:26 PM
24

It’s like limbo... how low can it go?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:22 PM
72

I’m dying to see if he gives an update with his experiment. I can bet he will “confirm” his gf prefers tall men, and it will be a scrote fest where they tell him to dump her 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:21 PM
126

You should read his post history, it’s pathetic. He talks about being a lonely incel, clearly he’s bitter and has an unjust hatred towards women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:22 PM
35

But for real... in this day and age of spell check you have no excuse to be a shit speller
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:25 AM
3

.....what the actual fuck. That’s downright terrifying. Question: what’s the solution?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:29 PM
18

Crying 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:23 PM
153

Hard pass, swipe left fast. If he was actually invested in his “baby” he would make that the priority instead of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:53 PM
75

I read that biologically it’s to do with them having greater muscle mass and higher metabolisms. The thing is, the standard office temperature is dated and sexist. It was designed for the average sized middle aged man who wore a suit to work. These days hardly any men wear suits and half the population is female. It’s definitely a concept that needs updating. In regards to home life I’ve observed a sense of entitlement. Men feel like they deserve to have their way 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:49 PM
10

This needs to be said louder: YOU CAN’T CHANGE A PERSON
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:24 PM
8

Good point. If BEYONCE was cheated on, it can happen to anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:09 PM
7

^ This x 1000000. I’m willing to bet if she engaged in those things in her younger years it’s quite possible she wouldn’t be who she is today. As you’ve said the problem is dealing with the aftermath—the hurt, regret, depression etc. it’s draining and takes it’s toll on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:45 PM
10

No your standards aren’t too high. I work in a similar environment, and my logic is if their wives can have husbands like that there’s no reason why I can’t. Unfortunately a lot of it comes down to luck. As you mentioned, many of them met in college and are already paired up. You could try meeting their friends or going to networking events to meet people from other companies at a similar level (once COVID clears up Ofc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:38 PM
12

If you do all these things men have no reason to change. Their logic is “Damn. I can get away with all this shit and she still does everything for me. I ain’t changing.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:15 PM
8

^ second this response. It’s short, simple and to the point. You don’t need to explain yourself anymore than that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:44 PM
15

In a nutshell a Peter Pan is a man child. It’s a scrote who refuses to grow up and handle adult responsibilities. They typically live at home with their parents, while mummy does all their cooking and cleaning. Some have jobs while others don’t, but for the ones who are employed it’s usually a dead end job— think part time retail or something a teenager would do. The also failed to develop both emotionally and mentally— and hence are developmentally stunted. Avoid at all costs as they make terri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:39 PM
84

There’s even less of an excuse when you consider that weight loss is typically easier for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:05 AM
25

I love how he frames “nice responsible accountant” as a bad thing. You mean a guy who treats you right and has a stable income is the wrong choice??!! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:00 AM
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I know you ladies say to block and delete, but this is the kind of prick who needs to be taught a lesson. It would be so tempting to trick him into meeting, meanwhile trick another scrote into meeting at the same time and location. Tell them both to wear something conspicuous like red and boom! They meet each other 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:56 AM
10

Amazing! So happy for you. I feel like if FDS had a maslow's hierarchy of needs this would be one of the finals steps. It’s such a difficult thing to overcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:07 PM
49

It’s her pickmeisha badge of honor 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:36 AM
19

Post title is so true! I’d rather befriend you ladies than meet scrotes from Tinder 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:09 PM
14

Grey rock means to purposely be boring so people lose interest in you. It’s a clever technique
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:36 PM
8

I like the idea of that post, but if I’m being honest I’m a bit confused on how to use it in different contexts. I know in dating you can simply block and delete the scrote. However, what about work, friendships, business etc? For example, sometimes at work you do need to stand your ground and argue, so how do you do that with this principle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:33 PM
4

Couldn’t help but notice she has great teeth too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:44 AM
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I’m also guilty of that, and it yielded horrible results. It is -terrible- advice. Men don’t value what they haven’t earned, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:17 PM
8

When I pressed his pic to show the full picture it revealed he’s bald .... 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:07 PM
20

That’s an interesting theory about excessive screen time and sedentary lifestyles at important developmental stages.... honestly think you’re onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:26 PM
12

Agreed! It’s because the world has always told them they’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:52 AM
8

This is my biggest struggle too. I’m never interested in any of the guys that approach me, so I always try to make myself apparent to the ones I do want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:17 AM
11

Yeah that’s weird. Either delete the comment and block, or tell him to fuck off and block. Either way... block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:05 PM
3

Ew I can relate, this is exactly what I mean! And then they get pissed when you don’t allow that sort of stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:16 AM
20

In other words black women are hated for standing up for themselves. Men would prefer them to be doormats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:36 PM
11

Absolutely, except I’m not sexually attracted to them. I’m straight, but get along better with women. My female friendships are so much more meaningful than the ones I have with men. Most men just pretend to be my friend, then become disinterested when they realize I don’t want to hookup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:34 PM
6

I like this response 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 11:47 PM
31

Omg! This makes so much sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 11:42 PM
10

Some obscure video game soundtrack he thinks is cool because it’s not mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 11:27 PM
15

Tbh I think it’s normal. I’ve seen many similar posts and I myself feel the same—I’m seldom attracted to men, and when I do find one I like he’s always off limits (gay, taken etc). I truly believe there is a shortage of high quality men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:33 AM
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I feel like this list is TOO specific. These are probably traits about a specific girl or all the girls he’s had crushes on, but they’ve all rejected him so he thinks by finding someone else that replicates these criteria he’ll be into them. The thing is most of these are superficial, and not indicative that you’d be a good match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:29 AM
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^ this 100000% If you don’t match their energy you could end up in a one sided relationship where you do all the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:27 PM
47

You know what’s sad, funny and concerning? That this guy has nothing better to do with his time 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:39 PM
24

...I thought you were going to say he’s gay lol But yeah college dropout that still lives with his parents is a huge no. If he dropped out and successfully pursued another avenue that’s fine. But he dropped out, and did nothing. Geez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:01 PM
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I think it’s a catch 22 situation. There might be some truth to it, but I agree with you it’s not a compliment. Instead he’s taking a different approach to manipulate her. He acknowledges she’s onto his shit, so he gives an underhanded compliment with the hopes she’ll lower her guard and chase after him. Scrote thinks he’s smart, but he’s still a ballsack 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:24 PM
6

Agreed! Men don’t seem to understand the seriousness and potential complications that come along with pregnancy. It is literally a life changing event— and usually because of “mUh dIcKkk”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:32 PM
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That’s hilarious! It’s also very insightful because if your partner who is male can agree those traits traits are unattractive it means men KNOW, but choose to ignore/dismiss it. I believe it comes back to being low effort. They’d rather force women into accept them instead of making the effort to change themselves. Notice how none of those traits would be acceptable on a women, yet somehow we’re suppose to accept it??! The hypocrisy is real 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:30 PM
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The thing that got me the most about that post is where it said we got stretch marks from the kids THEY wanted us to have, and wrinkles from the smiling THEY told us to do. It presents a paradox where the expectations placed on women are the very ones that lead to consequences men don’t like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:26 AM
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Pretty much. I scrolled through that post and it’s a bunch of shit like “I like fat balding big nosed hairy men”, and the guys who fit those criteria are like “oMg i fEEl sO mUch bEtTeR aBouT mYselF” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:18 AM
13

Interesting, thank you. I think I’ll give it a read!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:57 AM
16

I feel like this is really relevant with the female empowerment movements in the last decade or so. It’s crazy how many men are emasculated by women just trying to hold their own and be independent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:52 AM
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Is the info in this book applicable to men you aren’t dating? I’m wondering if it would help navigate the LV turd men I work with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:49 AM
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“her grandma gave her that advice probably because gma knew she was marrying a fucking loser.” ^ this. 99.9999% of the time an outsider can easily spot the flaws in your relationship. The saying “love is blind” exists for a reason, it literally blind-sights you to your partner’s flaws. If your friends/loved ones notice negative traits in your man, take note because they’re usually onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:30 AM
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I think you’re perfectly justified in feeling that way. The way men stare can be downright disgusting and degrading. Another poster commented that it’s equivalent to feeling like prey and I agree. It baffles me how these men have such primitive minds constantly fixated on sex. And then they act like we should take it as a compliment that they want to stick their dicks in us. Well no. It’s insulting actually. Dick comes with risk- STDs, pregnancy, even DEATH. They can take their dicks and fuck of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:15 PM
13

Nah, I have better things to do 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:53 AM
11

I busted out laughing at this on the bus. Thanks for the laugh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:28 PM
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Based off that list I would say: look good, smell good, hold a job. Those directly benefit me the most 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:11 AM
7

It’s 2020, literally everyone is glued to their phone—especially during this pandemic. If he wanted to reply, he would have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:27 AM
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I see what you’re saying and agree that some female doctors can be very difficult. The thing is, I think they’re less likely to enjoy (aka derive sexual satisfaction) out of examining/treating us. With straight men it’s biologically engrained in them to be attracted to the female body, there’s no way they can override that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:38 AM
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What the actual fuck. This is why I prefer female doctors. I don’t care what they say, at the end of the day a man is a man— you cannot convince me they don’t feel anything in these positions, or the thought hasn’t crossed their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:26 AM
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This comment x 1000000 These men feel entitled and have been put on a pedestal their whole lives. It’s just another example of how rich =/= high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:02 AM
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The worst are men who ignore you the second you get into a relationship. They were never your friend to begin with 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:20 PM
14

I agree with you. I think this would be a sweet gesture a month or two after they’re officially together— but to do it before commitment the guy probably has “expectations” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:34 PM
9

No wonder they say “love is blind”. It truly is after reading these comments and reflecting on my own experiences... very terrifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:08 PM
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He also wants a “low maintenance” incubator for his spawn Fuck that 🤮 I’ll continue being high maintenance and enjoying my self respect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:29 PM
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This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Something else I’ve noticed is that men equate plastic surgery with the fake look they see in porn. These days most people want to look natural—I’ve seen women with implants where I couldn’t even tell had them. Most men aren’t aware of this, and think all implants/surgery looks fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:52 PM
2

The trash took itself out with this one 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:28 PM
2

Thank you! Everything about this comment is 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:46 PM
3

Omg TIL.... that is crazy! Had I of know I probably wouldn’t have made the suggestion. I thought it was innocuous, but it seems like an entirely different nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:28 PM
12

Would you consider dating an asexual man? I feel like most men want frequent sex, and if you have a low libido it will be very annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:32 AM
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It’s true— most time we miss the idea of them. All they are is a face to project our ideals to, and confirmation bias rejects any of their behaviors that deviate from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:16 AM
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I’m not sure tbh. I’d hope it peaked and we’re moving towards a healthier culture, however every time I log on Reddit there’s some ridiculous post like “i cAnT sTOp hAviNg sEx oN tHe fIrSt dAtE” that gets a million upvotes and people justifying the behavior. Ideally FDS starts a movement to stop this sort of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:10 AM
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He probably thinks he’s being cool and edgy, because women want a “bad boy”. Couldn’t be farther from the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:04 AM
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Not the OP, but I find it gross that if a man is dating multiple women he’s probably banging them—so there’s no way I’m going to put that dick in my mouth. Most men don’t even get STD checks. Plus they love to say “why would I eat a woman out if she’s been with multiple men?” Wellllll it goes both ways 🙄 Also, I knew a LVM who bragged about hooking up with two women in one day. He claimed he fucked the first one, and then the second one came over and sucked his dick after. He was so proud, it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:59 PM
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“After I get my chance”... actually he already blew his chance. Goodbye 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:53 PM
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This happened to me too! I’m shocked by the audacity 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:24 PM
9

Sigh, wish I could help you but I can’t. On the bright side you don’t have LVM baggage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:13 PM
7

You make a good point. Most of us don’t even have time for ourselves, how the heck would you have time to date 3 guys?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:26 PM
14

”Men don’t even court women anymore.” ^ this is so true. I don’t understand how anyone gets into relationships. I refuse to chase, but no guy pursues me sooo how does this work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:25 PM
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”I’m very picky on looks so finding a guy i really like, is once in a 3-4 year happening” I also have this problem. It’s the reason why I’m perpetually single because the guy I find always ends up being taken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:48 PM
12

You and me both. It NEVER goes well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:49 PM
16

For reals. FDS has me questioning if I even want one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:48 PM
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As deep as possible. And don’t feel guilty about it. We research most major decisions in life— buying a property, deciding which school to go to, investments, savings etc. Why should it be any different when choosing a partner? Especially if you want a life partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:25 AM
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I think men still view work as a “man’s domain”, and it especially bothers them if we’re successful because then we’re a threat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:31 AM
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Listen 👏 to 👏 what 👏 men 👏 say SERIOUSLY. They talk and drop clues. This is a prime example. Needless to say, if he says this RUN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:59 PM
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Yeppppp. Men literally give no fucks about your achievements. It’s all about looks and who will be the best trophy wife. It’s similar to how they say men aren’t flocking to date Oprah Winfrey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:56 PM
4

I laughed out loud at this! Seriously what is it with techies and drugs?! It’s like they compete to be the biggest addict 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:04 AM
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Oh my god. She needs to leave ASAP, that is NOT normal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:56 PM
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Most men have hobbit looking feet— no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:54 PM
6

Exactly, I empathize with you because I have the same problem surrounding trust issues and letting them “win”. Pregnancy is no joke— it can be traumatic and life changing for women, meanwhile men can simply walk away unscathed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:45 PM
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The only reason would be if YOU want a kid. The reality is most men view it as an act of dominance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:21 PM
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Gross. I’ve always suspected this and it’s one of the reason I never want kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:12 AM
12

Good job!! I hope your friends will see the light and take example from you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:11 AM
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Thank you for this! Every couple I know posts cutesy pictures on Instagram, meanwhile their personal life is a trainwreck. I think it’s normal to desire companionship since humans are social creatures, but the problem is society places relationships on such a high pedestal that people resort to desperate measures to get it. Instead of taking their time to date and build proper relationships they settle/tolerate shit just for the sake of saying they have someone. If FDS has taught me anything, it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:07 AM
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Wow, crazy. I wonder how she’d react if she took her boyfriend to the beach 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:56 PM
5

As a general rule in men, because of testosterone, hair on the head is inversely proportional to body hair. This means if they’re bald they’ll likely have a lot of body hair, and vice versa. It especially applies to white men for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:45 PM
7

I laughed that you used the term “positive reinforcement” because it took me back to my school days learning about Pavlovian conditioning with dogs.... but it’s true! They literally have to be trained like dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:34 PM
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If you can truly use a man for sex they HATE it. They’re so used to women getting clingy and attached that it actually flips the tables. I’ve never done it, but I know a friend who does and guys get furious when she says she wants nothing more to do with them. They always end up chasing her. But I caution you it has to be genuine— the second you catch feelings it’s game over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:06 PM
7

I am extremely disagreeable...... all makes sense now. No man is gonna use me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:24 PM
7

I loled at your comment... but truth be told you’re probably right 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:48 PM
25

I genuinely like eating alone. You can sit in peace and savor your food
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:10 PM
38

YES. I have yet to meet a man that reciprocates the same amount of emotional investment, AND all my friends share the same sentiments. It’s more than just chance if a group of women unanimously agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:33 AM
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I knew a guy that moved across the country to be with a girl. That girl’s father was dying of cancer and paid for all their expenses. He then cheated on that girl with another girl and called the first girl crazy. Next he cheated on the girl he cheated with and claimed she seduced him to cheat in the first place cause “she’s a slut”...🤦‍♀️ Fast forward to today and he gained a shitload of weight and no woman wants him. I’d say that’s fair karma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:29 AM
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You sound sweet and I don’t want to hurt your feelings but..... no. FDS advises against this. You cannot change a guy, instead you vet them. This man is unlikely to change his dynamic with you because he sees you as hookup material. If he wanted to date you, he would have. Move on and find someone who’ll actually appreciate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:25 AM
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”Men marry women for other reasons (she’s nice, she’s a good cook, she cleans up after everyone else, she can produce mini-mes). .... FUCK THAT SHIT. Why would any sane woman essentially agree to being a slave? Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:44 PM
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The irony when a professional recommends FDS yet LVM label it as “toxic”. Proof is in the pie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:36 PM
2

He seems exhausting to be around....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:31 AM
16

1:1000* Fixed it for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 10:21 PM
5

I think so too. This screams politically correct to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:00 PM
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I think it teaches women to chase and quite frankly I’m fed up. FDS has shown us over and over again that chasing doesn’t work. Men are opportunistic in the sense that maybe they’ll agree to a relationship if you chase them, but really it’s just for free sex and an ego boost. They’ll drop you the second a girl they actually like comes around. Besides it’s not within our biology— Men are suppose to be the hunters. They value what they earn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:59 PM
9

That sounds awful. She married him pretending to be something she’s not....I wouldn’t be surprised if their marriage ends in a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:38 PM
23

I have the same issue but I’m not sure I have an answer. From my experience men don’t like this.... I’ve observed that they like quiet women who let the man take the lead in conversations. The second you know more than them it’s a turn off. It leaves you with the dilemma: do I silence myself and pretend to be something I’m not? Or stay true to yourself and inadvertently stay single? Currently I choose the latter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:22 PM
20

Meanwhile LVM knock you up, drive you insane and in ridiculous debt 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:50 PM
21

The fact he laughed at your emoji means he thinks it’s a joke. Next time tell him to fuck off and block/delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:23 PM
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Yes. Dead bedrooms dispels the myth of, “the grass is greener on the other side”. Looking at that sub is like peering over the fence and seeing the grass is burnt and dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:01 PM
1

LOL this is gold 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:16 PM
31

.....this is actually so helpful. It seems simple and self explanatory, but after years of reading cosmo crap and bullshit dating advice women think they have to jump hoops to get a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:13 PM
28

What the actual fuck. Reading that makes me wish I was gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:48 PM
23

Yes!! Everything about this comment is so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:54 AM
3

That’s a good point about repressing who you actually are— And even if you aren’t it means you’re tolerating a lot of bullshit. I guess the moral of the story is to find a HVM you can be yourself with, and who accepts that -shocker- women can be angry too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:28 PM
3

Interesting it didn’t yield better results...With no gain at least this way you stay true to yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 10:36 PM
7

Hmm never thought about it like that. I also wonder if the grass really is greener on the other side. Some women may appear happy but it’s possible their men have trained them to be like that, otherwise they suffer consequences or fear losing the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:22 PM
16

I also feel like this. And unfortunately I noticed that most of the women in relationships are the happy go lucky, “never angry” kind. It sucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:01 PM
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I HATE these types of men. The fact they don’t think about you other than when you post a pic means they don’t give a shit. You know what their thought process is? You post a pic and they think mUh dIck! Pee pee gets hard so they send a message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:59 PM
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Omg thank you for this! I’ve noticed the exact same thing. The second you express anger you’re one of the following: (1)cRaZy, (2) bLoWinG iT oUt oF pRopOrtIon, (3) oVerReaCting. Basically you’re not allowed to feel any emotion other than happiness. It’s fucking annoying to deal with especially when us women usually get the short end of the stick with everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:55 PM
27

Wow I felt horrible reading that. This poor woman must have suffered so much. May she Rest In Peace :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:04 PM
67

This has always baffled my mind. How do you date a guy you’re not attracted to? If I don’t feel sparks and butterflies it’s a no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:08 AM
9

It’s a lie. There is no “friend”. It’s downright disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:08 PM
5

He changed his mind because mUh dIcK...Aka he realized he can get free sex and an ego boost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 02:37 PM
18

I agree with your points that most men aren’t looking for commitment and they’re also broke. Dating can be very, very stressful as well as distracting. My opinion is that it’s better to focus on your studies— that will have a higher return on investment. That being said, I have seen people who marry their “college sweetheart”, but they’re usually the exception to the rule. On top of that many of these couples end up unhappy later on because they outgrow each other. The person you are in college …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 02:34 PM
27

I bursted out laughing reading this 😂 It’s even funnier if you imagine a “nice guy” you rejected signing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 01:11 PM
75

I read a comment on here about a girl who had a FWB and she was under the impression that they were actually friends. So one day she invited him to watch her get a tattoo done and his response was no because they aren’t that type of friend. I was SHOCKED. Thankfully this girl said she saw the light and cut ties and never got involved in a FWB shit again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:46 PM
25

I agree with this. If a man ruins my body having kids I expect him to pay for any cosmetic procedures to get it back to where it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:01 PM
26

Yeah I don’t get this. IMO facial features are much more important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:58 PM
5

Sorry if it triggered you! It just goes to show how similar and sleazy they all are. I hope by spreading the word it spares other girls of getting involved in that shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:42 PM
69

They have low self esteem and are seeking validation. It’s especially bad for the younger ones who haven’t learned yet that most men will sweet talk and fuck anything. I’ve seen guys beg for nudes by buttering them up, saying stuff like, “Wow! You have the most perfect body, I need to see more of it ;)” only to go behind their backs and share the nudes with their friends making fun of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:56 PM
57

Oh lord. What has dating come to? The level of disrespect is unreal— he has everything to take and nothing to give. I also question what he thinks she’d gain out of this? STDS, Dick, headache and stress? No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:51 PM
2

I lasered mine and never looked back. I was exceptionally hairy though, pale skin and dark hair, and I didn’t do it to please men. When I see other girls with wispy hair I think it’s fine, but mine was straight up like a gorilla. Edit: not understanding the downvotes. This sub is suppose to empower the choices women make. I don’t like body hair on myself plain and simple. Girls who are blessed with minimal body hair never had this issue and don’t have to think about it. I also wouldn’t date a ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:24 PM
3

Lol good catch. There’s so much irony in that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:20 PM
1

Next will be 2 minutes 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:15 PM
13

That’s terrible. This sub is far from toxic, it’s empowered numerous women and allowed them to see the light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:38 PM
9

Sorry, I’m out of the loop. Did something happen recently where we nearly got banned?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:38 PM
7

Hard pass on Mr. Buttchin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:49 AM
29

Yep. It might take a day. A month. Or a year. But they alwaysssss do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:36 PM
17

Why do these men have kids? I’m a woman who doesn’t want any for many reasons, insights into the responsibility it entails being one of them. Why can’t these men think the same?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:06 PM
7

These women are ruining it for the rest of us. YES. Thank you. I wish they’d realize this because they’re screwing both teams over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:39 AM
8

These comments are cracking me up. Lurkers are extremely judgmental and conceive wild ideas of us. I had one assume I was a “fat black b*tch”. So not only was he racist and sexist, but weightist too! I am slim and white, so take what they say with a grain of salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:36 AM
5

I think we might have been dating the same guy. Mine fits this description to a tee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:19 PM
1

My friend’s ex did something similar: in every Tinder pic he wore sunglasses. Scrotes are such clowns 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:18 PM
29

This is so true. If they didn’t like big boobs the implant industry wouldn’t be booming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:10 PM
3

Lol he live with roommates, so I doubt he could hide that. My friend is convinced that one day we’ll see him on the news for murder 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:09 AM
8

I like the way you think 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:25 PM
18

I think it matters because old habits die hard. Generally speaking no “manwhore”, no hookers, one night stands, FWBS, or extreme kinks/fetishes. I knew a guy that was into bloodletting. He was covered in scars and even had blood all over his sheets, I noped the fuck outta there so fast. Men like that will never be satisfied with “vanilla”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:19 PM
40

A scrote who lied about having a 4.0 GPA and pursing a PhD. It was actually 1.8 and he was still flip flopping between majors to attain his bachelors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:14 PM
13

It’s more about the effort rather than the cost. If he’s in dire straits but can thoughtfully plan something (a homemade gift, a date with a picnic and nice walk or whatever) it shows he cares about you. Even when it comes to money the same rule applies. For example, a $100 gift from a guy making a 30k salary shows he probably cares more than the guy making 100k who gives the same gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 12:12 PM
5

Oh geez. That didn’t even cross my mind but I think you’re right. What an awful jerk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:31 AM
20

Why do men automatically assume we want “👶🏻 “ and “💍 ”??! Especially with a scrote like that?! Also he can especially fuck off for not liking dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:23 PM
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