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I think and I have always thought Rihanna is giving the ultimate cool girl vibes. The one who lives off validation off men, and will even throw fellow sisters under the bus for some male acceptance. I don't get it. Luckily I don't need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/22 12:59 PM
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Apart from the every day things, I can recall several things my fiancé has done during our time together. On our third date, we went for a drive with our motorbikes and at some point my license plate fell off, as the plate holder had broken. We drove to his work place that was nearby and he casually found some random items and tools in their office to build me a new, temporary plate holder for the bike. He also had to disassemble the back part of my motorbike to replace the plate holder but he d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 10:48 AM
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The funniest part is, if you count the times you came as the only times you've had sex, you've pretty much never had sex. Because men don't care about your orgasm. Imagine if men had sex and didn't ever have enough time to come. Imagine if female orgasm was necessary for reproduction... My previous boyfriends and other men have gotten an orgasm every single time. I can make myself orgasm in two minutes. Yet it is only my fiancé, who takes the time to have me come first every time. I can't even i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 06:49 AM
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My ex also future faked me and fake proposed to me with no intention to actually marry me or start a family with me. But there were so many signs I chose to ignore, and wasted three years of my life in this relationship. He wasn't a man of his words in any other way, why would he actually build a life with me either? But nevertheless, I was still a victim of his sociopathic behavior and learnt my lesson. But still, I sometime worry about the women he abuses after me. So many broken minds and hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:04 PM
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Well yes, but that was over 100 years ago, and it was not even Soviet Russia back then, also we have no ties in the Russian language, hardly any similarities in the culture, and basically thanks to them we have the compulsory military service even now. These scrotes were born during the times when Finland had nothing in common with Russia, so I have a hard time understanding where they get their shit from. This was over a century ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:56 AM
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I can only imagine! I'm from Finland and we haven't even ever been a Soviet country but they still ask, if we're part of Russia. You can't make this shit up. The dumbness is cringy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:16 AM
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Male 27yo, airline pilot (you don't have to ask us what we do, we will fking tell!) Looking for a bangmaid who allows me all the freedom in the world while sitting at home serving my life's purposes. You should still earn your own money, so you can lend me all of it. Stop leeching on me though! Just in case, you're a wh*re because you're a woman. Remember that. I'm tall, handsome and dark. Extremely Pro-Putin, Krim belongs to Russia. I hate everything that is different from me. If you cross me, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:50 AM
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I think the best thing I've actually noticed, that being with my fiancé has actually given me fine lines around my eye corners, "laugh wrinkles" - something I never had before. We've had such a great time together and we have so much fun. I also noticed also the fine groove from between my eyebrows isn't there anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:28 AM
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I would be offended if someone offered me a promise ring. But then again, I'm getting married in August. Also megalulz at the PickMe Queen who crossposted this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:11 AM
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Lol. Even if you delete the app, after about two weeks of inactivity your profile stops showing up in ppl's feed. But if it keeps showing up to people, it means he logs in regularly and uses the profile. Lies men tell...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:01 PM
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And the only true HVM and HV couple of the show was Phyllis and Bob Vance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:38 AM
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Probably also something wrong with him if he can't keep a baby momma around 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:53 PM
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My nvx had a kid yet resented single moms and wouldn't ever date one. He would barely take care of his own kid. He also future faked me yet later wanted me to give up my wishes of a family together, because he already had a kid and he hates kids. So that's single dads in a nut shell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 12:50 PM
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Happens every fking time. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:53 AM
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The issue is, they usually refuse to act upon the advice, and will rather just have someone listening to their crap time after time. They think FDS is too strict, yet cry about low effort men even for decades. I think there is a point where people are beyond the help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:44 PM
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Nobody has said they're better than someone else. However I do believe I'm better than someone who resorts to calling me a slt and a whre after I've simply sent them screenshots. I do believe also it's definitely NOT worth the trouble helping a bottomless well, who is just there to use you as emotional dumpster, just wants your empathy but refuses to work on themselves, and keeps on doing the same mistakes expecting a different outcome - all while using someone elses strength, mental capacity an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:39 PM
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I had a very good friend of 7 years, who actually ghosted me because of some guy he was casually dating. She had been engaged three times, had cheated on every boyfriend she had and year after year picked out a worse guy than the one before. We were supposed to spent the new years 2019 together and she completely ghosted me a few hours beforehand just to go "drive around" with some super toxic guy who would sl*t shame her for having boyfriends before him or going out with a girl best friend. Aft…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 08:03 AM
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"Tell her directly you would like to see her again" Lol. They really think they are something, don't they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:24 AM
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It's difficult, ngl. I can relate a lot with the impact on every aspect of my life. My mother has some severe narcissistic traits and my entire life until I moved out, was me and my father walking on egg shells around her. She was and still is violent, has anger management issues and is very controlling. She also loves to use her power to see how much she can get away with and has made me apologize to her in the most absurd situations, which included her using raw violence against me (because of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:16 AM
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He had been with his girlfriend for 9 years at that point, and they own a house and pets together. So he's a LVM stringing his forever girlfriend alone without a proposal or other aspects of commitment. ​ Then he told me he had broken up with his girlfriend. Then.. they got back together. He called me to tell me he regretted breaking up with her, and he's terribly sorry for keeping me in the loop on their relationship status before truly figuring it out. So he's stringing her along and now you t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:05 AM
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I want to contribute with some obvious green flags I noticed when I met my fiancé. I have dated a lot, and can tell most men have offered me the opposite from day one - poor dates, 50/50, not wanting commitment, negative input on family life, vagueness... He was NEVER wishy-washy about commitment and marriage. He asked my opinion about having children on our second date. Within a month, he said he would like to be exclusive whenever I'm ready. He was courting me from day one, planning fun and in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:47 AM
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This, a thousand times. I have no regrets in treating people well. Only regrets I have is using my mental capacity, empathy and altruism on people who weren't able to appreciate anything good in their lives in the first place. It takes time to regain those assets, and it always leaves a mark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:58 AM
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These men also will eventually punch some woman in the face. My ex didn't punch me in the face purely because it was illegal. He is an airline pilot and a criminal record would end his career. So he learned to assault me without leaving really marks. One time he pushed me to the ground so that I fell on my hand and my finger got dislocated. Guess who drove me to the hospital while calling me with the worst slurs, threatening me and then sat next to me at the doctors office so I wouldn't say anyt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:07 AM
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Hyyyyi vittu, scrotes will always be scrotes. I hope the only feeling this brings up is a slight touch of amusement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:56 PM
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Also he thinks he can dangle girls around for years as forever girlfriends, while the truth is he will become a 40-year-old bald chubby scrote with an ED who ends up alone in his stinky studio apartment and calls women wh*res on OF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 07:19 AM
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Sounds awfully familiar 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 06:14 PM
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The sheer depravity. Absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 04:18 PM
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Honestly and sadly, I don't know. Depends where you are, I guess. If he shows up, I would try to call a male friend, family member or the police. But in my country the police is very soft and probably wouldn't come if there's no restraining order and they don't hand restraining orders out very easily. What I did was move away and make my address and contact details secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:23 AM
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I seriously warn you, they can and sometimes will show up to your house. That's why I have a data disclosure prohibition - so my NVM wouldn't find out where I live now. He used to show up to my door uninvited, hover around the apartment building, and when I wasn't home he would shove flowers into the mailbox. And when he knew where I worked, he would send me flowers to work. Like "I'm sorry you ended up in the hospital after I beat you up only because you provoked me, take some flowers".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:47 AM
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Yep, block and delete is the way to go. Sometimes I just forget, that there are people desperate enough to come after me after 13 years and I never thought I should've blocked them. I mean, how do they not realise how pathetic they are?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:06 AM
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Haha, preach sis! I mean, I can totally relate - I know I'm great too. I give all my love, when I fall in love. I'm great company, I'm educated, my finances are good and I'm pretty hot too (I literally do modelling). I would miss me too, ffs. And I happen to know the problem wasn't me. My ex also tried to set up a wedding date and future fake me with a family AFTER our breakup. But as you said, you don't find it flattering. Me neither. I know I'm just one of the many possible supplies, I just ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:03 AM
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I threw up a little in my mouth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:13 AM
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Loool his surprised pikachu face when you didn't actually fall for his bullsh*t. It's almost degrading how stupid they think we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:58 AM
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Yeah I just shrug this off by citing the statistic that in my country only 1% of childfree +40yo men get their first child. So with a 99% chance they won't be finding a bang maid to have kids with anymore. And the main reason if women are mainly looking for men of their own age, so there goes the whole silver fox delusion. It's pathetic really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:26 AM
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Now that you say it, true. But I think it's just because she's still very young. In the last season most of those charasteristics are already pretty mild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 09:36 PM
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I think pretty much all women in Sex and the City, as well as in Grey's Anatomy, are huge pickmes. And their men are low value. Even intelligent, talented, bright minds like Christina seemed to thrive off men's validation in Grey's Anatomy. And the rest are just sleeping around like no tomorrow, in both shows. I would say the female doctors in House are better represented as HV. Gabrielle Solis lives purely off her husband's income and slept with a minor. Pretty looks isn't everything - a HVW al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:06 AM
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This is absolutely accurate. My fiance and I are getting married next autumn and he is just as excited about planning the wedding as I am. He has created an excel spreadsheet to keep up with the budgeting (which I'm not very good at lol) and created Pinterest boards for inspirational photos. And yes, most men only see 16 colors etc, but he also suggested our wedding colours and is now planning accessories and deco according to that. Not to mention, his family is eagerly involved in helping with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 10:56 AM
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Also it's a false ideal, as our country has a very supportive welfare system which doesn't really encourage to work - studies show a majority of these refugees stay or end up unemployed, as they find out it's easier to do nothing than work for minimum wage and learn our difficult language. The most appalling thing is that these people are mostly men. I have a female refugee friend who is highly educated and has bought her own apartment, and she told me her brother won't pay off his debt and quic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:34 PM
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I'm super happy this is a safe place to say this out loud. Our society in my country is drenched in libfem clownery, who can only yell out loud rEfUgEeS wElCoMe but can't and won't explain or even comment the fact our rape statistics are showing off a massive percentage of immigrant rapists. And the number has gone drastically up since 2015 when we had a huge refugee wave in our country. All young men, who left their families, women and children behind. There is no need for empathy or tolerance …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:14 AM
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What in the name of clownery is this? 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:14 AM
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Men go for much younger women either because they're too low value for women of their own age or because it's easier to manipulate and less effort is required for much younger women. Or both. Not to mention pedos. Don't put yourself down because of some 🤢man🤢.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 08:55 AM
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Not even clownery but the whole fking circus 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:13 PM
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Yes. When I was in the military I heard guys who used to work in those repair shops tell everything about the habit of searching a girl's nudes when they left a phone at the shop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:47 AM
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A HVM definitely makes your every day life better with small things. Grand gestures are better saved for special occasions. It shows genuine care and affection to remember your partner in daily life with the little things. For example, yesterday I had a bad day at work, and we had to visit my place to pick up some items (we are currently stuck with two apartments that are on the other sides of our city). We drove over, and when we left I forgot my phone there and noticed this at home. My fiancé …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:30 AM
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My ex told me right in the beginning "I like to manipulate people" while he was love bombing the s*it out of me. Three long years and a massive PTSD later I left him for good (it was our 4th breakup).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 05:46 AM
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It's foolish to repeatedly bang your head against a wall and expect a different outcome every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 01:03 PM
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I just wish I could drill into women's heads that if he wanted to, he would. After FDS I have started to see my peers in a whole different view, and realised 90% of my friends have been or still are true pickmes. It's very frustrating to see your 30-something year old friends and acquaintances complain about their situationships and men giving them mixed signals - crying over some uneducated, unemployed or old crusty scrote who doesn't have anything to offer to anyone besides empty promises. Men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:06 AM
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Ughh, this guy was probably dropped on his head right after labour as a baby, and now this girl is trying to rationalize this erratic, completely absurd and OBVIOUSLY mentally disabled behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:01 AM
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This. My ex bought me a ring worth a few hundred € and was cheating and abusing me the whole time, and wouldn't set a date with me even after a year of engagement. He future-faked me with a cheap ring he saw in the nearest jewelry shop display. Eventually I dumped him and pawned both our rings. My current fiancé got me a ring worth a few thousand € and the one I have right now isn't even the final one, because he wanted to have it custom made rose gold for me. So he went to another city to see o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:38 AM
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Be happy you ONLY wasted three years on this clown. Could've been five, could've been a decade. From now on you will be happier, I promise. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 12:33 PM
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It just makes me chuckle to think about all the sizzling mad scrotes posting their BS here thinking it affects our minds and attitudes 😂 if anything, it just enforces the FDS mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:13 AM
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Congratulations queen! I've also been told the same thing several times by low value men. They just weren't good enough for me, that's it. Got proposed 1,5 weeks ago with the exact ring I wanted by a wonderful man. LVM can stay mad ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:08 AM
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Around a year ago we were on one of our first dates, and as we are both motorbikers, we rode our bikes near a sea shore. We decided to park our bikes and walk a bit. We found a nice cliff and sat down to watch the sunset. Then we kissed for the first time. On our anniversary we drove there again as a "tradition" and he had set up roses and a blanket with the help of his best friend on the same cliff. There he proposed to me, and his friend was hiding in the bushes (😂) taking photos. After saying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:43 AM
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Totally agree on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:33 PM
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Definitely. It led me to FDS and realising my worth. Thanks and hope you too! ♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:15 PM
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Omg I also believed this many years ago. It led me to a traumatizing relationship with a narcissistic sociopath. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 08:41 AM
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Hell yes. I went through the same, as my ex abused me and also raped me. There just simply are things that are not forgivable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:25 AM
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Preach it sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:23 AM
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It's just one of the many reasons why I think religions are all just the cancer of our society. All of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:32 PM
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I'm glad it's over for you and yes, they never deserve your forgiveness. This is also an important reminder that PickMes don't just suck as friends and family members, they can actually be dangerous to their peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:29 PM
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Exactly. I love this. 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:26 PM
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Exactly. After being assaulted, cheated on and mentally abused for years, never. I will never forget, so I will never forgive. It was a crappy life lesson, is all. And I'm continuing on with my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:25 PM
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My boyfriend also works long days, 10-12 hour days outside of home, yet he's the better (and more motivated as well) cook of us, not only prepares snacks for us but also serves them in a pretty way (like, if I tell I want an apple, he will take the apple and make apple roses out of it), buys me goodies and occasionally on weekends prepares three or four course meals for us, sometimes for our friends too. He also took my friend and me to a highly popular, special sushi place where you need a rese…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:35 PM
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Omfg. I also remember when I found my ex's secret Kik account, he had some actual 15-year-olds as contacts there, just a bunch of teenagers and obviously for some dirty talk as it was a secret account and Kik doesn't save conversations once you log out. So in addition to being a psychopath he was a pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:37 AM
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My ex is a pilot and I was surprised not to find this on the list. I have seen pilots on other psycho lists though. They're the worst. Basically my ex cheated on me constantly, was a pathological liar, abused me physically and mentally and used me for my money and support. As a thank you I got PTSD from that relationship and one crooked finger. And most of his colleagues are exactly the same. As well as are other pilots I know of. I also hear the same story from my stewardess friends. I really h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:20 AM
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My standards are quite traditional - I want a white or rose gold diamong ring in the halo style. And I want to be proposed in some special place for us, something special that is arranged for me and us. The ideal timeframe would be around one year of dating. My ex proposed to me on a f*cking car trip to my friend's wedding, and basically just shoved the very basic retail chain ring into my palm saying "well here's the ring, you know I wanna be with you". And that was it. Thank god I got rid of h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:46 AM
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Ainakin ne ovat erittäin harvassa ja yleensä vähintään jonkinlainen sekoitus, kuten tuo minun puoliksi eestiläinen yksisarvinen 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:32 PM
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Always makes me feel warm and happy to see a fellow Finn here. Cheers/kippis to that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:34 PM
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He's so genuine 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:29 PM
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Well. Obviously I hoped people would understand the LVM indicator here is that despite him being clearly obese, he's degrading overweight girls, ie. double standards. I was wrong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:07 AM
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In Finland we have laws protecting people living together - after a certain amount of time you will be seen by law as married people, and therefore if you break up eg. after a decade of living together, you will be receiving the same financial protection as you woulf after a divorce. Same applies if your partner dies while you live together. It's a fairly new law, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:28 AM
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As a Finn, it's hard to vet sometimes according to FDS principles. Especially the living together part is difficult, and due to our weather conditions especially during the pandemic, date ideas are pretty hard to come up with - even I can admit I would have a hard time to come up with quality date ideas most of the time. The intimacy part is also almost impossible here. The culture is perfect for libfems and men take advantage of that. I however refuse to settle for 50/50 and being a plate. My c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:18 AM
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I have decided to do this already, it is my primary choice although I am in a relationship. So far my bf has shown HVM traits and I'm very happy with him, but obviously you never know how things go and therefore I have already decided I will have a child of my own in the end with the help of a donor. I will absolutely not have kids with a deadbeat guy. I will rather do it alone. I have already decided to do it in the next three years. I can totally support myself and a child. If all goes well, i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:47 AM
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This is true. I have been future faked with children and marriage for years and if it wasn't was LVMen who bluntly lie to your face just to feed off your money and love, I would already have a child or two. I was literally lied to for years and even proposed to, until I was 29 and the actual marriage and children should've happened. But no. The society still blames me as a 30-year-old woman with a career and my own home for not having kids. They should blame the manchildren of today, thinking th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:19 AM
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Omg the minute I saw this post I thought about the poop crumb guy and thought gosh, a new member to their poop club. Seriously, how can someone live like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:25 AM
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I would never even have met him. He pestered and guilt tripped me to go out on a date with him, even though I had caught a bad flu on my precious weekend off in army. But I went, and fell for the love bombing. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:13 AM
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So true. And showing off your breasts in the internet and accepting buttsecks to support his kink is not empowering. They won't think of you as some empowered unicorn. To them, at that point, you're just another wh*re.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:18 AM
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I absolutely am terrified of men now that they've started lifting off the restrictions in my country. For months these predators have been collecting their sexual frustration and hatred towards women and now they can unleash it finally. Last week they opened the bars for working hours and as soon as I left my home office on the first day of the opening to get some groceries, I got cat called by some construction workers sitting on a pub terrace. FIRST DAY. When I went to buy some damn milk from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:04 AM
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I love watching Megan and MGK together. They love each other openly, they have their own thing going on. And the way he talks about her publicly is incredible. True HV talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:05 PM
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Well at least they truly tell on themselves :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:43 AM
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It's called PROJECTION PROJECTION PROJECTION!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:24 AM
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Omfg what a fking scrote. How is this even remotely crossing their minds??! I mean how can someone have the audacity??? My ex also showed up at my door after he cheated on me with some PickMe and proposed. The sheer audacity...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:02 AM
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I dated since I was 17 and it took me arounz 12 years to learn my self worth. I gave too much time to LVMen. I have a friend who waited and was single until she was 30 and then married the love of her life, he proposed to her around 6 months of their dating. There is no point wasting time on useless relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:00 PM
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When I read posts like these, I worry it's my ex women are writing about. This is text book behavior from him and also everyone else could see through his bulls*it except me. He also "went to therapy" but it's just a way to manipulate women, to put on a show. I'm glad you helped her and I hope she really stays strong with her decision. Next he will show up to her door or to her work place with flowers, telling her about his eternal love and promising her the moon and the stars. It's the worst, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:51 AM
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Lol yep. One guy I went on a date couple of times went on and on about his divorce for hours straight. Didn't ask me once anything, just talked about himself and his divorce and how his awful ex just left for someone else and how cruel it was. As if he didn't do anything to provoke her to leave just two years after their wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:56 AM
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For me it was the men complaining about the draft. As a woman living in a country where military service is obligatory for men (alongside civilian service for 12 months, or getting house arrested for 4 months) I get to hear it a lot. I served 12 months voluntarily as hundreds of women do every year. And oh boy did I get to hear all the clichés about women being too weak for the military service, about us being a burden to men, about us belonging in the kitchen and about us "having it easy in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:20 AM
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Wow, I'm so sorry. I can totally relate to the feeling you must have experienced when seeing the video. And especially the feelings after that when something reminds you of the other girl. I only saw their sexting, he claimed they didn't do anything and she refused to tell me what happened. Well, this too has taugh us a lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:55 PM
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When my ex cheated on me with a girl who had peroxide blonde hair, hair and lash extensions and fake nails, I became so insecure with being the solar opposite of the girl that I actually bleached my naturally dark brown hair. I was super self conscious for not looking like the stereotypical "bimbo" girl. It sounds so stupid now, and the bleaching totally destroyed my hair, now two years later I'm slowly growing my own hair back. And of course after I bleached my hair for him, he started collecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:03 AM
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"Believe me when I tell you, that all the bad feelings will slowly fade out. One day you’ll find yourself so happy, so relieved. You will not miss him anymore, and you’ll see him as he is, a bullet - not dodged, but healed. The scars will heal, too. Although your character, personality and strength - will remain." Yes. To anyone who is reading it now and thinking "but it's so hard to leave!" well, I'm there now. The bad feelings have faded away and I no longer feel sad when talking about the pas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:28 AM
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It's comfortable, yet I feel strong love for him. It's safe around him. I feel loved and cared for. I feel like I don't need to walk on egg shells. Every time I have fears or doubts thanks to trauma from my past relationship, he proves me wrong. Every single time. In the beginning you question yourself, your ability to judge everything and you expect the worst always. But he proves your fears and worries are unnecessary, each time. I went to therapy as well to fix my crooked thinking, didn't tel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:04 AM
37

Imagine living off men's attention and approval. Just imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:34 AM
12

Ahhh yeeessss, it's the certified PickMe™ claiming poor men just simply can't offer you the bare minimum and decent human treatment without you communicating it clearly first. I hope she truly enjoys her life being a doormat to an entitled little mommy's boy. However, I choose not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:06 AM
9

They will truly come up with ANY excuse for themselves to feel better and to be able to dodge the responsibility of their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:19 AM
3

Hahaha don't they just love that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:06 PM
10

I've taken my knitting hobby to a whole new level, and I also took up my modelling hobby again. My ex would at least start a huge fight, sometimes get a revenge on me by cheating or even beat me up if I tried to set up a photoshoot - and these photographers were professionals, taking wonderful pictures with good taste and no nudes. I can also work out now without any worries, my ex was always blaming me for "ogling at body builders" if I went to the gym, while he was sitting at home, eating pizz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:03 AM
3

Been there. He wanted to make you feel inferior and bad about yourself so you wouldn't have suddenly developed a self esteem and dumped him once you realise what an abusive POS he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:54 PM
84

Women invest in themselves and keep on going the constant development. Men keep blaming everyone else for their shortcomings until their death beds. I was bullied in school for a decade and I grew up in a violent household. I literally was the ugly duckling in school, and pretty much the only one with some Asian background in a school full of blue eyed blondes. But I became a beauty pageant winner, grew my self esteem and got a big circle of friends outside from school. What's their excuse???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:14 AM
4

I tried OKC and didn't like it. Here in Finland it's full of refugees and immigrants from third world countries trying to find a girl to marry in order to get a residence permit, and the rest are usually mentally/physically handicapped men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:18 AM
21

This I will never understand. When I asked politely the numerous girls my ex cheated me with about what was going on because my NVX would straight up deny everything, I was never mad at the girls. Still, most of them had some kind of an idea about who my ex fiancé was in a relationship with yet didn't bother to tell me about the things he was doing behind my back, and most of them even blocked me for asking. Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:40 AM
3

Be happy it's fking over. Imagine the possibilities you have now in life! You can do anything you enjoy! You don't have to be afraid of him anymore! No more walking on egg shells! This is the time to start loving yourself and appreciate the small things in life. Having the bed all to yourself in the morning, rays of sun, cleaning the house while playing your favorite songs, taking bomb selfies... Anything that makes you feel alive and better! I have literally been there. It's hard at first. I wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:03 AM
27

I also get followers from here, last one was some ugly potato looking scrote who bashes women on other subs. Thank god I have disabled messages from strangers, so I don't receive anything they try to write me. And I ban them immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:49 AM
2

Offtopic, but high five to my fellow Finn! Torille jne :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:05 AM
4

Definitely. Trying to define how we feel, by never being genuine. But as these people are completely hollow, they have nothing, they don't have authenticity or personality. So they try to adjust to please us at first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:42 AM
7

I guess these people are sent to us to teach us a lesson. We learned the hard way, but at least we learned. Some people spend their whole lives in the pickme zone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:40 AM
4

It is unfortunately so true. My mother was and is a control freak with anger management issues and violent character. We are now in OK terms in life, but generally she was very demanding of me, nothing I ever did was good enough thus I became an over achiever, and she would regularly beat me up whenever I didn't bring home straight A's from school - or for any reason she just felt good about on that specific moment. I was also terribly bullied in school for a decade. So I ended up settling for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:47 AM
78

My thoughts exactly. This is illegal in my country....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:11 AM
8

Yes. I had a best friend of 7 years ghost me because of a NVM. I spent an entire new years eve alone because she stopped returning my texts to be with that loser guy on new years. We fell out of "friendship" that night and never spoke again because she never apologized or returned to me in any sort of way. Two months later she broke up with the guy and is now living together with some older ugly dude who pays for her stuff. She has cheated on every boyfriend she ever had and has been engaged thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:37 PM
3

Haha indeed. But there was nothing he wouldn't blame on me. When he was cheating, it was because of something I did. When he hit me, it was my fault. When he called me with awful slurs, I deserved it. Classic narc, avoiding all responsibility while purposely making your life a living hell. They know what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:12 PM
25

My LVX wrote a 16-page letter promising me everything he dragged me on with for years (marriage, kids, etc) 😂😂😂 Like I would have had kids or marry a violent psycho like him at that point. I was 99999999% done. Later he assaulted me and when I called the cops, he begged me on his knees crying "think about my career, you're ruining it!" Hahaha. These are the kind of men we're avoiding and getting over, not minor mistakes or obstacles in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:32 PM
81

"Tell me you have a short dick without telling me you have a short dick"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:42 PM
2

I have a bachelor's degree in CS. Degrees are not too important to me, it doesn't have to be university level but obviously some. More important is to have ambitions and interests in life, and a career that works out well for him, whatever it is. I've met more scrotes with M.Sc than plumbers. For example, my ex was a pilot and a trainwreck in handling money. He has a crippling student debt of 120k€ and anything he gets as a first officer, he spends. He still owes me money and stole most of my be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:40 PM
10

Lol!!!! This is super accurate. When I dumped my ex after years of cheating and both mental and physical abuse, he sat in the shower with his clothes on for hours scratching his wrists with a dull razor. He wasn't even bleeding. At that point I couldn't have cared less, after some hours I just told him I really need to use the shower so he should probably find another place to sulk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:54 AM
47

They will literally soon blame us for the holocaust and apartheid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:33 AM
56

It's appalling really. My ex had an ED at 23-24. I eventually even found blue pills in his pocket, which he definitely wasn't using with me as he regularly turned me down and never made the first move to have sex with me. But apparently not even the other girls he was cheating on me with would cure his limp dick and porn sickness. At 23!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:54 AM
27

After a lying, cheating abuser I'm so happy to be in a relationship like this. Also my reaction to him asking me to add my fingerprint to his phone was exactly like in the video 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:52 AM
2

I pawned mine (and his) and got a few hundred € from them. Spent all of the money on drinks and partying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:18 AM
11

What a lovely ring. I'm happy you got away from him. Also did you date the same guy as I did? He dislocated my finger, and I had to get it fixed at the hospital. Hooray for scrote free life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:25 AM
2

This has been a theme this new years, as my NVM abusive violent cheater ex hit me up with a "Happy new year, hope it's better than 2020" message. I had blocked him everywhere except accidentally in one social media channel, and that's where he contacted me. Instant block. The audacity :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:11 AM
10

My ex hid our relationship and me for three years and he was cheating me online constantly. I found out about soooo many girls and they didn't have the slightest idea I existed. That's why I wouldn't date a guy who refuses to post me because "I never post anything!!!11" yet scrolls through social medias 247.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:31 AM
6

I really like Grey's Anatomy, but what icks me is that ALL the women are huge pickmes and ALL the men are really LVM/NVM. All of them. Can't come up with a single good one. Not even Christina or any of the seemingly smartest and strongest characters on the show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:49 AM
11

I feel triggered :DD I fell for this trap with my cheating NVM ex. He had just got caught from cheating for the third time and he pulled the "BUT I WAS GONNA PROPOSE AND I HAVE THIS RING ALREADY" card. And yeaaaah I stayed for another 2 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:13 AM
20

It is definitely the little things, of course grand gestures can be expected sometimes but the fact someone thinks of our happiness and wellbeing consistently every day IMO is the most important making a HVM. Anyone can do a "grand gesture" once in six months and then just sit on their arse for the rest of the days and moan "why you always nagging and demanding too much, remember I did that one thing last summer!!!111" when you tell them you would like small gestures of love and attention daily.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:54 AM
6

Woooooord. Why are these losers such baby mouths?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:31 AM
2

Couldn't relate more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 09:12 AM
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Yes, I was a little bit confused by this sudden contact by a scrote as it has been a global pandemic for almost a year now and face to face contacts have been down to zero, so I didn't really know how to react at first, I just tried to get out of the situation asap. Then went to see my actual boyfriend :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:40 AM
30

OMG this reminds me of a ridiculous experience I had a couple of days ago. I was visiting a music instrument shop (with a mask on) and when I had paid for my things and went back to my car, some scrote who was probably around 2/5 ran after me and told me I have beautiful eyes and he wanted to talk to me. Then he proceeded to asking me if I could just show the rest of my face for him to see if the rest of my face is as pretty as my eyes. At this point I was a bit shocked and just quickly showed m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:24 AM
66

Haha indeed. I once asked my ex what would he do if I got raped, and he told me with a straight face that he would be wondering what I did to seduce the rapist that way. Obviously he raped me not too long after that, as I was "asking for it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:58 AM
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It's from AITA: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/k8u666/aita_for_convincing_my_girlfriend_not_to_wear_a/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:58 AM
30

Also prepare for him to come crawling back with apologies and blaming YOU for breaking up the relationship and family. You need to harden yourself up for it, because it's utter bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:41 AM
31

Wow this hit deep. My ex used these exact explanations when he raped me and cheated on me for years. And he got away so easily, even the police in my country said one time when he assaulted me that "it's his word against yours". Men ain't shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:11 AM
8

I really want to contribute as it is my 30th birthday today. 29th birthday: Left my NVM ex two weeks earlier. Still living in the same apartment abroad. I went overnight to a 5* spa hotel alone in a strange city to celebrate. Ordered food from room service, sat in a sauna, chilled at the pool, slept in a king size bed, got a birthday cake at the hotel breakfast, took pretty selfies at the hotel balcony. Next day I went home, my ex was waiting there, called me with all the worst names a girl can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:56 AM
4

Happy birthday! It's my 30th bday today as well :) To FDS and happy years to come! Cheers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:33 AM
10

"You're just a pathetic cat lady working in tech support, I'm an actual pilot and can get anyone I want!!!" I actually work as a software dev, get paid well, I OWN a house and have a nice motorbike and yes, a lovely 11-year-old cat, I've had her since she was a baby. ♥ I look and feel great too, no humblebrag, I've actually won beauty pageants. He's a fairly new pilot with a crippling loan to cover his school debt and suffering from lay-offs because of the corona virus, living in a country he ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:34 AM
35

Probably by rape, as it's still pretty much legal in most developing countries. Or illegal, but nobody gives a damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:09 AM
8

When I was living in a foreign country with my ex, an ambulance driver told me the exact same thing when we broke up - that day my ex assaulted me for the last time in my life (that's why the police and an ambulance arrived). None of them spoke English very well and I wasn't very fluent in their language, but after they threw my ex out and I was left alone in the apartment with one of the police officers, he told me "Don't take him back. He will do it again. You're not a little girl anymore." Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:07 AM
14

Honey, it doesn't matter if he has issues or is deployed somewhere. It was his choice to join the army and it doesn't excuse what he is doing to you. Remember, he is doing it because he chooses to. He knows it hurts you, he just doesn't care. HE CHOOSES TO HURT YOU because you allow it to happen. Hell, my best friend and I joined the army and she was deployed twice. Still, no one else is responsible for our mental health or happiness but ourselves. My ex said these kinds of things (as your NVM) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:20 AM
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This is exactly how it's supposed to be. My bf bought me last Friday a beautiful bouquet of flowers and a Ferrero Collection advent calendar, just because. Also when I bought my apartment he got me champagne, two designer champagne glasses and lots of pink flowers. He always looks for ways to make me happy, he says he just loves to see me smile. Never gonna settle for less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:20 PM
39

I just bought my own house, I have a well paying steady job, I'm a corporal, I drive a motorcycle and I'm really fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:05 AM
6

Have to agree. My ex didn't give two shits about me being sick, or even in general when I was down or sad about something. When I was with him, I was sick a lot too - probably had something to do with the major stress he was giving me during all those abusive years. My current partner almost cancelled his work day (he can't work remotely like I can) and insisted on driving me to the hospital when I cut my finger while cutting an apple. I had to tell him it was really okay, even though the cut wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:37 AM
39

The most ridiculous part is, we're both from the same country in Europe with same ethnicity, he just called me a stingy jew because in his opinion I was being cheap wanting my 3k back :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:59 AM
8

This absolutely baffles me everytime. I served voluntarily 12 months in the military, but men have an obligatory military service in our country, and oh boy did I get to hear everything about being in the army "voluntarily" and being "less strong" and "a female" and "only looking to get laid" in the middle of the boys game. I literally volunteered to fight your battles if Russia decides to invade our country again. I would literally command an infantry group that would be one of the first ones t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:20 AM
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Exactly this, sis. My ex hated gold diggers, called a lot of women wh*res and sl*ts and any woman who was with a well-off man was a gold digger. Then he borrowed 3000€ from me and called me a stingy jew when he had to repay. He still owes me 1000€ and has no intention to pay back, he lives in a different country so it's easy for him to avoid the responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:08 AM
1

I feel ashamed being from the same country as her. Pickmeisha Supreme. Ew ew ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:01 AM
27

Given the amount of toxic shit it's full of these days, I've been contemplating the same. Probably should go ahead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 09:07 AM
5

Sis, same. After my ex cheated on me multiple times, pickmeisha me wanted to forgive him even while he was giving explanations such as "I'm afraid to hurt you again" and "What if I don't know how to stop?" And I had to explain to him like to a little child, why it's not okay to cheat and how he can stop it. As if he didn't know, he just wanted to humiliate me by playing dumb. Of course he knew what he was doing and how much he was hurting me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:54 AM
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Guys be like "I know a spot" and take you to the lowest point of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:21 AM
8

Yep giiiirl, been there done that. He was hiding all of his side chicks on Facebook, Instagram and secret Snapchat and Kik accounts. That's why he never posted stuff about me online, he had hidden our relationship status on Facebook, and he wouldn't introduce me to anyone. Nahhhhh, girl. You know exactly what's going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:59 AM
19

Haha! It's like a story of my ex. He said he's not violent or abusive towards women, as he never hit me with a fist in the face. He did, however, strangle me, kick me, throw me to the ground, pull my hair, grab me and shove me and even rape me. But it doesn't matter, because he's not an abuser. He doesn't hit anyone! With a fist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:52 AM
4

I love you :DDDDD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:02 AM
9

It's just appalling. When I was working in Spain I was literally told to "smile more" at work, I work in software development pretty independently without any customer contact so it's just ridiculous my (middle aged male) boss even had the audacity to ask this. Especially while the same was never asked my male colleagues, who literally even slept in meetings. He was even a bit offended, when I asked how does smiling more have any concern on my work and talent. These fking douchebags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:41 AM
4

Yaaasssss sis. I started growing a bunch of grey hair on my temples last year, when I broke up with my NVM ex and he still tormented me daily and even beat me up once right after our breakup. Never f*king again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 09:31 AM
11

Congratulations! I wish you all the best! A year ago I finally finished my Pickmeisha™ years: I dumped my LVM ex, with whom I moved to another country and who constantly cheated and abused me in all possible ways. This year I moved back to my home country, got a nice well paying job, and even though 2020 has been a real shitshow for me (my motorbike was stolen and destroyed in June, and a few weeks back my rental apartment was broken into), I just bought my first own home that has one bedroom an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:25 AM
6

My opinion is, rather go to a clinic and have a child alone, than with a shitty dude. If you really want children, you shouldn't deny it from yourself because of shitty men. Otherwise, they win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:50 AM
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Hi, By quick Googling I found this, but I wasn't too eager to read it fully through: https://fra.europa.eu/sites/default/files/fra_uploads/fra-2014-vaw-survey-main-results-apr14_en.pdf Here's the news about our country, while Denmark has been the number one: https://yle.fi/uutiset/osasto/news/finland_is_eus_second_most_violent_country_for_women/7120601
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:27 AM
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Go Finland :D Unfortunately we're still in the Top 3 of most violent countries for women in the European Union, so I hope that will be sorted out soon as well. One of the main reasons is probably the lack of convictions for violence against women. You can rape and beat someone several times, and get only a couple of years of probation time for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:58 AM
6

Yesss they are like a bottomless well, it doesn't matter how much effort, love and affection you pour in, they always require more, they are dead and empty inside and rather than working on themselves, they just wait until someone shows up and fills the void for them. When the woman is done they just search for another one, willing to do some charity work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:27 AM
20

Thank you sis. Fortunately now we're stronger and smarter towards the future. You can't win with a narc, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:50 AM
76

I have exactly the same experience. The girl's scream triggered me really bad, it's hard to keep my tears back now because I remember how absolutely insane I went eg. when I caught my ex cheating and he would just tell me with a straight face I'm imagining everything, making stuff up, and even if he cheated on me, it was my fault anyway for being such a terrible bitch. I remember how I screamed my lungs out (never in my life have I acted like that besides with him) and threw stuff around like a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:39 AM
31

Just watched this yesterday on Netflix and thought exactly the same. Also gave me shivers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:28 AM
59

In my country it's considered a rape. There have been some cases like these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:28 AM
6

Yep. I have never been dumped, even though I was unhappy and even the men were, in the end, seemingly unhappy. They would cheat on me, abuse me, rape me, beat me up, call me with horrible names, not wanting to spend time with me and also withhold sex, but they would NEVER leave me. And they were devastated, when I finally just said out loud we should break up. For months after the break up, all of them cry after our torrid relationships. I just don't understand, but luckily these days, after dis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:35 AM
372

Also men hardly ever actually leave a relationship. They just make it impossible for the woman to stay in it, and then the actual break up is left for the woman to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:52 PM
19

Yeah no. I lived in a bit dodgy neighborhood and my motorbike was stolen in summer, junkies were swarming around the yard and last weekend my (rental) home was broken into and my work laptop got stolen. My bf said that maybe I could move into his house while I'm searching for mine to buy. I had a strict policy of not moving in with a man before there's a ring on my finger and wedding date is set, and at first I said straight up no, but I just couldn't stay in my apartment anymore. The police has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:26 AM
19

Yep definitely. Should have listened to my mom, she's from a Soviet country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:04 PM
28

Nah, he was a Russian who moved to our home country Finland as a kid. His profession forced him to move abroad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:43 AM
82

I did this partially for a man. I wanted to move abroad for a long time, but because of my NVM narcissistic psycho violent ex, I left a well paying job, a lovely home, my family and friends, grabbed my cat and moved from northern Europe to Spain. My salary dropped 25%, quality of living and life in general dropped significantly, in my new city locals were hateful towards expats and I missed my friends and family. I postponed buying my own apartment _3 years_ because I couldn't buy one without hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:29 AM
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FDS helped me to get away from a man, who constantly cheated on me, manipulated and hurt me mentally every day and beat me to the point I had dislocated fingers. FDS taught me self respect, self care and love, FDS taught me to take no bullshit and act the queen I am. FDS led me to become the best version of myself. FDS taught me to weed out crappy men ruthlessly. Also thanks to FDS I think I have now met a man of my worth, a man who makes me happy in every way, is supportive and loving, has goal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:39 AM
2

It's different in my country, officers are academic students and usually highly intelligent. Names of the graduates are public as are their thesis etc. Non-commissioned officers are a different thing, as no education is required from them. But you are correct about most of the special forces officers and soldiers having often severe issues and for example a total lack of social intelligence with women and male friends outside their career paths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:34 AM
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Yeah, I was dating a handsome special forces army officer in the summer, he was turning 31 and hadn't had a proper relationship during his entire life. Only short flings and things like that. He insisted it wasn't up to him, he just hadn't met anyone suitable. However, as much as he showed HVM traits in the first weeks, the truth came out pretty quickly. I visited his house, and it was dirty, he tried to turn the visit into sex despite of him promising to cook us some dinner, and I saw another g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:42 AM
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Ugh the pedophile got triggered :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:19 AM
8

Loool so familiar. "You hit me!" "Yeah but I didn't hit you in the face so I'm not a wife beater, and besides you pushed me back so we're even" "I guess I just can't be a good man to you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:16 AM
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This happened to me as well. I've opened up about it before, but basically he would torment me for three years with cheating, compulsive lying, mental and physical abuse and even with a rape. But he would never leave me, although he always threatened to leave. When I tried to leave, he cried on his knees begging me to stay. On the fifth time, when I actually left, he continued it for over for months, until I actually told him I don't love him anymore and we will never be anything again, I have n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:42 AM
8

Jesus fking christ. Is he sending pics from a concentration camp?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:15 AM
14

This made me puke in my mouth a little bit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:35 AM
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I'm from Finland and men are definitely not like you described here. But then again, northern Europeans are very different from eg. Baltic men. My ex was a Russian though, and he was the worst person (not just out of all men, I mean out of all people!) I have known during my entire life. In the beginning there was intense love bombing, and after I fell for that I witnessed narcissistic sociopathic behaviour for three years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:29 PM
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It's good she actually showed her true colors to you. I had a similar situation once in my pickme stage of life, when one of my best friends (F31) of six years was in an even worse pickme situation. We were trying to support each other and level up, but she ended up ghosting me on new years 2018 for a NVM who was controlling and jealous, and never let her go out with girlfriends. As I sat home alone on a new years eve because of her last minute ghosting, she was spending her new years with this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:55 AM
12

This is more accurate 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:24 AM
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I've had many, but this one from 2014 still baffles me everytime I think of it. Like half an hour into the conversation the guy asked me do I give out anal sex. I wasn't even sure how to react at that moment. He also bragged about how he got excused from our defense forces (we have a mandatory military service for men, and I served voluntarily like some women do) for being "according to the doctor, too crazy to go there." After not too long I decided to leave, and he sent me angry Facebook messa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:45 PM
24

Hahahha I can relate. This week had a date with a guy who I went for an ice cream with, and he just bought himself a bottle of water from the ice cream stand and didn't ask me if I wanted anything. Wtf 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:51 PM
16

Yep, because it's super fun to play a step mom to a child that you don't know and experience the drama between the baby daddy and pickmeisha mommy for years. Been there, done that. These men almost never want a single mom for a girlfriend either, which just further proofs the double standards men love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:33 AM
99

Ughhh. I just today went out with a guy who had conveniently forgotten to tell me before the date he has a four-year-old daughter (and how he never went to high school and also didn't finish his only vocational school degree).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:30 PM
7

I wish I could say it louder: THIS!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:23 PM
22

Yep. I have realised I have no reason to feel jealous or sad about all my friends having a LTR or a marriage, because all of their boyfriends and husbands are the kind of men I would never look at for more than one second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:41 AM
3

I have a feeling these types of people don't work. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:02 PM
31

Ughhh this kind of thing happened to me on Friday too. I was about to leave the house all glammed up when the scrote cancels our first date because he wants to go swimming (apparently not with me). He also promised to make it up to me on our next date. I told him no thank you, enjoy swimming and blocked him. He was ugly anyway. Never give ugly a chance 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:20 AM
66

I ditched a seemingly HVM a couple of weeks ago. He seemed smart, had a good job and a high education, was extroverted and treated me with food and goodies, always picked me up for dates. But then I checked his instagram (he started following me). He was following almost 800 profiles, of which at least half were half naked instagram models and influencers and he kept actively liking photos of butts, tits and so on. After a few days the explore-section of my instagram app was full of the photos t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:11 AM
27

Men are basically cockroaches, maybe they're projecting again 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 09:41 PM
9

Yes. My ex went so far he would physically assault me went he thought some man was showing interest towards me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:37 AM
6

I am dying at the comments section. I love FDS so much, thank you sisters for existing 😂😂😂❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:30 AM
10

Phil Dunphy from Modern Family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:18 AM
29

This made my year 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:16 AM
21

Hahahahh this sounds veeeeery familiar. Exactly like my ex, and how we broke up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:55 AM
12

I've had a positive outcome from that. And the others were neutral, just didn't get an answer/the recipient probably never read my message. When my scrote ex cheated I wish even just one of the girls he cheated on me with would have told me. But nahh, they were pickmeisha supremes, they knew who I was but they were too busy getting attention from my ex, who had a veeeery fancy profession but nothing else to offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:16 PM
28

Same, girl, same. 16 hours of videogames through the night, while I was doing EVERYTHING and also working 40h per week. Came home to an empty fridge and dirty house, oh and also the internet connection was mine to handle and set up so that he could happily play WoW every day and scold me for wanting relationship things in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:03 PM
107

Also most men aren't even handy these days. I have yet to meet a man of my generation who can drill a fucking hole in the wall. Who can fix my computer and motorbike. Who can install a freaking dishwasher, paint a wall, or even wipe their butts. Well, luckily I can fix my own damn computer and I can take the motorbike to a shop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:50 AM
30

Tell his new gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:17 AM
2

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:25 AM
6

This is very true! And the more disgusting way he brings it up, the harder pass we can give 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 02:51 PM
16

Oh I waited until that. And then I unmatched him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:50 AM
48

Yes, it's very flattering to be seen and treated like a fleshlight ever since from like his third sentence. Ughhh, all men have is audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:00 AM
31

It was basically a long paragraph about where he works and how it is a startup company with loads of prospect but the project is classified (read: won't get paid in the end, no future, no salary).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:55 AM
26

Yep. Just commented and then unmatched. Should've just unmatched right away, but I couldn't help my urge to roast him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:08 AM
21

And like any NVM, only bullshit about how THEY feel awful and THEY have depression and hard feelings. What I don't understand if men know their actions hurt other people, women and THEMSELVES too, why do they keep acting this way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:26 PM
15

Hhahah been there too. It's absolutely hilarious. All the coldness, arrogance, laughing at my tears and unhappiness, and threats to dump me were suddenly replaced with months of begging me to return to him, promising me a wedding and children (although we WERE engaged for 2 years, but I wasn't allowed to plan or even bring up the topic of setting a wedding date during that time, talking about promise rings...) and crying to me about how I was the love of his life. Well, ofc I was, it would be he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 05:57 AM
3

Of course you were not equal and could never have been, he was 30 years older. Old enough to be your father. Imagine yourself being 45yo, and having a 15yo boyfriend. It's sick, and it's never possible to be equal. And it's good that you realised it's gross and nowhere near normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:28 AM
129

"He'S a VeRy PrIvAtE pERsOn"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:00 PM
21

Always happy to hear stories like this with scrote getting dumped. Big up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:34 AM
17

Happens most of the time, unless they go absolutely nuts. I remember especially this one guy who suddenly kissed me very "violently" on a second date without warning. I went home and later he asked me out again very eagerly, to which I responded I'm not really feeling it with him, there is no chemistry, and guess what he answered? That I probably didn't feel a spark, because HE didn't feel a spark and it must have projected from his feelings to mine :D It sounds even more moronic now that I'm wr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:18 AM
6

Ughh been there done that, except it was an "engagement ring" but he refused to talk about wedding, let alone set a date 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:53 PM
5

So true. And when you gently turn them down, they go absolutely nuts. Latest example, a couple of days ago I turned down a 35yo Tinder man who had been chatting with me, and his message bombing was constant, even when I wasn't able to answer him he would constantly send me meaningless blabber. He would stay on Whatsapp for long periods of time to see if I wrote him an answer, because usually I saw him online and my messages would get a read receipt right away - even after hours of not being able…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:54 AM
11

Hahah I feel you sis. My ex beat me and cheated on me, used mental violence on me almost daily and threatened to leave me whenever I brought up any negative feelings. Then I left him and moved 3500km away. Corona came, but I found a new job with 25% more salary, a lovely quiet apartment with a backyard and an affordable rent. I have grown men chasing me from every corner. NVM ex got laid off for unknown period of time, probably for a very long time. He is unable to get a new job, because he has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:27 AM
31

I served in the army and fuck I got tired of this attitude. We have mandatory service for men in our country, women can volunteer. "We're oppressed because for us this is mandatory unlike for you women!!!!" Also: "Why are you women coming here with your inferior physique and strength!!!! Go back to kitchen, I'm sure you're here just to get laid!!!! "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:38 PM
68

Also a long way to tell everyone he can't find the clitoris.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:00 AM
3

Yes, it definitely brings us the one of the best qualities in life in the world, but in dating it's awful. Men offer nothing and in exchange they expect everything. No wonder we have such a low birth rate and cities are full of single people. And although we have such strong equality, our country is still in the top 3 of most dangerous countries for a women to live in the EU. Men here are generally reserved, love their alcohol, and after a few drinks they start beating up and killing their wives…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:12 PM
8

Yes, nowadays I wouldn't. I haven't dated since I broke up from a horrible relationship last December, and now it's not even really possible to have proper dates. Also in my country very few men do anything nice for women, because it's one of the epicentres of "absolute equality" and men take advantage of not having to do "manly" stuff where as more and more women run basically everything, have babies alone and build their careers. I will rather be single forever than settle anymore, I deserve t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:05 PM
44

I am 29 and never been taken on a date like this. Only low effort, cheap restaurants where we split the bill and I take the bus. I have settled for so little 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:55 AM
8

I feel triggered 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:50 AM
58

If there was a dictionary with the word scrote in it, I think his picture would be there next to the word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:13 PM
17

:DDDDDDDDdddd ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:35 PM
512

"BuT iF I wAnTeD tO PaY a WoMaN tO sPeNd TiMe WiTh Me I WoUlD jUsT HiRe A hOoKeR"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:33 AM
57

Yup gotta love it. My ex forced me to remove all my pics from social medias, that would show even the least bit of skin - or even the shape of my body in normal clothing. All while he was sexting behind my back to LVWs who had no education or personality, and loved to show off tits and butts on their instagram and snapchat daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 10:28 AM
58

I consider calling women bitches and having lousy grammar also red flags, so the joke's on him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 09:55 AM
5

I feel you sis 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:10 PM
39

I work in tech and on the left is something I'm way too used to hearing and seeing. It's judt baffling everytime, how delusional they can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:42 AM
35

So is this what they call a Man Child™?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:38 AM
4

Ughh I want to report his profile with the sole reason of "we don't need this shit in the internet"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:18 AM
14

Yes ofc I do. No need to be rude to me either. I meant the first question obviously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:07 PM
17

Probably he would have. But as I would see it, a high value woman also keeps it classy instead of being super rude towards a seemingly nice question, and rather just ignores these types of inquiries. However this guy was a douche obviously, in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:03 PM
36

I honestly also don't think there was anything wrong with his question. But ofc that doesn't make up the fact he revealed his scroteness at the secobd question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:51 PM
33

It's actually hilarious to see it happen. First they are soooo above you telling you they don't give a f if you break up, they can find anyone they want and he doesn't even care anymore. Then when they realise the woman isn't crying over them and finds new company fairly fast, they start to panic. "HoW dArE sHe?!!!???!!" 😢😢😢🥺🥺🥺🥺 Then you get to hear aaaaaall the crap about how they will change I pRoMiSe!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:46 AM
13

Craayyyy crayyy. That's so ridiculous you could make a comedy show about it. But I know it's very emotionally draining in the moment it's happening. My ex didn't try to commit a fake suicide, but he did sit dramatically moping around for weeks (we had to stay in the same apartment for a couple of months after the breakup, because we lived abroad and had nowhere else to go) scratching his wrists with a razor blade. Sometimes I would come from work and he would be sitting in the shower moping arou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:19 PM
48

I was in a relationship before, where I caught my ex sexting other girls and "just looking" at Tinder. He, however, beat me up in the middle of the street at night, because we were returning from a nightclub where some strange man touched my back a little while I was on the dance floor, and I didn't punch him in the face - my ex saw this and it was too much for him. He actually thought I should have punched a random man in the face for half accidentally touching my back at a night club. Because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:56 PM
4

Could be useful, can't do it myself 😬 Edit: done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 12:58 PM
5

I don't know, but I reported it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 12:56 PM
49

My ex, who had severe narcissistic traits and was a definition of a NVM, was a love bomber in the beginning. What I noticed was that when I asked him to respect my boundaries and take it down a step, he would scold me for not trusting him immediately and not appreciating his hard work because "he respects women and is not like some others." So he would not respect me saying no and pushed me into committing with him. Very soon after that he got caught from cheating and that was the first time in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:49 PM
12

This kind of hit me hard in a sore spot. My ex cheated on me with multiple women and it's only been a few months since our breakup. After the cheating I stayed with him and tried to forgive him. I asked him if he thought she was more beautiful than I was. I asked him if he thought she was prettier than me. And he refused to answer. He would just say after a pause "You are the prettiest" and I asked him over and over again "but do you think I am prettier than HER?" And he refused to answer again …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:20 PM
18

I'm currently single, but in the kind of relationship that I'm looking for, my ideal man wouldn't go to huge party trips. I want an adult man, not a party animal. Of course everyone needs a night off every now and then, but 10 days with "the boys"? We all know what that means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 07:12 PM
12

Lol I lived in Barcelona and it's got a huge cocaine problem, it's known to be a party destination with coffee shops and pot sold everywhere, and the prostitute scene is, well, abundant. Girls travel there often to see all the famous sights and to enjoy the Catalan food, and guys travel there to get smashed and find other single tourist girls. Also, ten days? There is always a party in Bcn, all day every day every night. Except now that there is a curfew and everything is closed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:56 PM
20

I would let him go just for asking money from me, he's not showing even the effort of wanting to be exclusive with you but already wants to use you for your money. I promise you will never see that money again if you give him any. And he will never respect you after that. Nobody wants a leech in their life, especially a male one. Oh the audacity 😂 I would just say that I usuallt don't lend money to anyone, sorry no exceptions. If he wants to argue after that, just tell him to piss off and block …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:54 PM
43

Giving your money to him isn't a healthy way of proving that you like him. I would never again borrow money to a boyfriend, as my ex currently still owes me hundreds of €. Maybe when you have a solid marriage and you're sure of him in every aspect, you could help him with a reasonable amount and a real reason. A HVM doesn't feel comfortable taking money from a woman. You can tell him that you never lend any money to people. If he questions this or gets mad, you know you need to dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:33 PM
5

Ughhh yes, I got my first dick pics and nudes when I was 12, from a 30-something years old guy, he also knew very well I was 12.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:31 PM
65

How thoughtful of him to think you would like to see photos of pasty jell-o man. I'm sure you couldn't survive without this view.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:02 PM
20

I'm pretty on the inside and outside I have a degree in tech and a great job, also lots of savings I have the best friends in the whole world I'm a corporal too I drive a motorbike I always get shit done Speak six languages I'm enteraining and fun to be around Ahhh this feels good. We're not allowed to love ourselves out loud much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 11:29 PM
6

Oh my god I truly hope it's just a bad troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:23 PM
8

Actually a very accurate observation. My NVM was glorifying me about not being a "shallow bimbo and like the other girls". I had hobbies, a good job, a uni degree and loads of savings. I'm also pretty, in the natural way. I didn't spend money on stupid things. I was a good choice to bring home and ofc approved by his mother. He said I was wife material and that he wanted to marry me. Then he cheated on me with a small town beautician, with peroxide blonde hair, fake nails, fake lashes and no edu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:34 PM
33

Also it's highly likely you get cheated on with the baby mama, as they often tend to not be over the relationship just like the daddy, and their only issues were probably the problems of baby years etc. Been there done that, never god damn again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 11:19 PM
16

Yup same in Finland. Also our country is the second most dangerous country for women in the EU. A very small % of rapes end in imprisonment, while a vast majority get only probation. If you're a first timer, you only do half of the time. And every three years, you're a first timer again. So you can rape someone every three years and only get a year or two of parole, and you will do only half of that year or two of parole anyway. It's fucking unbelievable. But god forbid if you don't pay taxes fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:10 PM
2

Been there, done that. Also the last point is very true, once they start making money they will blame you for having to pay you back some debts. If they start making more money, they won't help you as you did. They won't support you in bad situations like you did. And they will probably upgrade, or start pushing you away when they start finally making money, as was said in the article. It's super hurtful and inhumane. I will never go for that again. Why should I give without ever getting back an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:37 AM
7

And I can't even get a text back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:51 AM
5

Definitely, but unfortunately my country isn't appealing to smart educated men from other cultures, as it is to refugees and people seeking easy welfare in exchange of doing nothing, and also extreme islamists. So it's really difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:58 PM
17

This thread is making me cry, I honestly have never met anyone like the men in the comments section. I have sometimes heard of them, but these men are not usually originally from my home countey. I live in a country of generally Low Value Men, and it seems to be a cultural thing of not putting any effort into a relationship with a woman. In fact, women have mostly taken the role of a man in family, careers and relationships. Men just drag along, like children, they don't put any effort into anyt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:14 AM
5

This is very much true. During me pickmeisha-times my ex had hidden our relationship status on Facebook so only I could see it, and guess why? Because he was cheating on me with multiple LVW. I will never fall for this again, I found out about the hiding before the cheating and his excuse was "all the necessary people know about us anyway". Obviously it wasn't necessary for the side chicks to know about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:44 PM
1

Who does this beer belly LVM think he is anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:21 AM
5

I live in a country where being a single mother has been made quite convenient, and as I'm 29, I have already decided to have a child of my own within a few years - with or without a man. I have money, a steady job and family and friends, and I will rather go to a sperm clinic and have a child alone than with a mediocre, semi ok man. I don't want to be an unhappy mother, it's my biggest nightmare and I honestly don't expect to find a man good enough to share the parenthood with me and actually s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:16 PM
4

PREACH! And yes, a lot of people already have children the older we get, but we need to look out especially for the very young men who already have small children without marriage or a serious relationship. Let's be honest, it's marginal that this person is a HVM if this has happened at young age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:33 AM
2

Thanks for your lovely comment 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:29 PM
13

Yup, that sounds familiar. And obviously the continuous cheating was my fault too, mostly because I was salty and having a hard time trusting him for cheating on me before. Oh how I was I'd been smarter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:14 PM
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