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I would argue that "men care about men" in dating advice; if they did they would care to encourage men to better themselves so they have a better chance at finding a long term mate. Ever wonder why the phrase goes "every MAN for himself"?? Because that is how they see it. They compete with each other constantly for female attention and view other males as threats to their (non-existent) territories. This type of garbage advice to women from men is for the sole benefit of this 1 man. If women sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 04:54 PM
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This article is sad and infuriating. Not once did the author self-reflect nor encourage in his audience of cut-offs to ask "WHY might this person have cut me off?" For every instance of someone not speaking to me any more, either neutral or negative I can point to various reasons why they would believe it's in their best interest not to. Does it mean I agree? No. Does it also mean people have free will and are allowed to choose to leave? Yes. For myself I have left friends and also had friends l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 03:33 PM
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Awww, dogs are the sweetest. Glad you have each other ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 04:42 AM
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Congrats! And also, sorry for your loss. Moving forward, growing up, leveling up, choosing better for ourselves is often a mix of emotions, doesn't mean it wasn't the right move. Sounds like you are reflecting and letting yourself feel, good on you for that. Maybe you should celebrate? Maybe you need to throw something out? Maybe you need to burn a piece of paper with all your fears on it? Whatever it is, make the symbolism yours and meaningful to you. You deserve to remember difficult choices f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 02:50 PM
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Every morning, my dad gets up at 5am, turns the bath on, makes a pot of coffee, pours a cup for himself, putters around the house, turns the bath off, and brings a fresh cup of coffee into the bedroom. Why? So his wife can wake up to a nice cup of coffee and a ready bath. ☕️ My dad is one of the best men I know 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 10:55 PM
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The hilarious inversion of this is that if I were a man I would be THRILLED to date women, and excited to treat them right. Why? Because it's ridiculously easy to do and has a huge ROI - even if I didn't want to have sex with them, treating women as people produces genuine friendship, women look out for people and make great friends and caregivers. And if I wanted kids? Awesome! Imagine you can be a parent without any risk to your physical health. What a bargain! Alas, I'm straight af and I date…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:39 PM
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Yes. And it would "reward" the lurkers for commenting horrible things and give them a challenge. I much prefer to never have to see them...as if they don't exist...or matter at all :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 09:02 PM
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Strong women intimidate boys and EXCITE men. - saw this quote somewhere and never forgot it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 08:57 PM
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Appreciate this!! I started skipping reading the screenshots bc they usually just upset me and would go straight to the comments instead. This is one of the few places on the entire internet i feel safe posting as a woman and sharing my own opinions about being one, thanks for protecting it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 05:30 AM
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I really don't think they get it. Years ago I had a male friend "Dan" (we dated briefly, tried to be friends, didn't work, I ended things)- who would regularly complain about how hard it is to get MATCHES - not dates, just the match itself. He was also the type to swipe right on everyone and delete the app to reset the algorithm or whatever. Still, maybe he'd have 2-3 matches at most, 1 would go out with him. I'm not on OLD atm, but while back (pre-FDS) I paid for premium to see the queue in rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 05:23 AM
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"Mediocre into the sunset" hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:26 PM
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Yes, Queen! I can tell just from how you write that you are a happy, confident, honest person and that rocks! For my own post-breakup Level Up journey I have: - successfully gone NC w ex for 10months, plan on buying myself a 1yr NC anniversary gift :) - deleted OLD 2 months ago and haven't looked back since, goal is 1yr off OLD - gotten promoted at work, got a 10k raise - traveled to 3 different countries and lived in cool int'l city for 3 months My relationships have also improved - I had a fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:18 PM
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Yes any Apple device which you sign into your Apple ID on will have a connect to your iMessages. I believe the default is that signing into your Apple ID on a new device starts the sync though you could certainly sign in and disable all messaging permissions. Then you would not be able to receive texts or FaceTime calls from your iPad🤓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 10:55 PM
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Ugh not cool, Apple! I believe if you want to have your texts on your mac and block contacts there as well then you'd need to sync all your contacts with Mac - basically your block list is part of your Contacts and if want all devices to get the memo you have to sync Contacts across devices. Or you could individually block the number again from your Mac but you'd have to recognize the number in digit form.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 10:53 PM
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Yes I had the same reaction! Couldn't put my finger on it so glad you said something. Feels like being in 3rd grade writing "Mrs. HVM" in your notebook over and over instead of doing your damn homework.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:28 PM
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Dear god, just no. When is an adult tickling another adult never NOT sexual?? Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 10:05 PM
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This is a really good metaphor! If you've only ever eaten flavor-blasted MSG-bomb Doritos then yeah, an apple is gonna taste like nothing. [no shade on Doritos which are delicious, but they're not food]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 07:06 PM
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Aww, sis, I feel you. Something that has really helped me heal is the phrase "there was nothing you could have done differently" as in "I didn't know any better, now I can choose differently." There is also nothing you could have done to make HIM treat you differently. If it wasn't you, he would have found a different 23yo to use, your paths just happened to cross at that time. And finally, I know it seems like he's treating this new woman like XYZ and you wish you could have had XYZ treatment f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 06:56 PM
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+1 to this! Though unsure if this is available in the UK. One thing to note is that if you're using a target date fund make sure it is INDEX not mutual - both exist and have different value props. Additionally - I recommend visiting the personal finance sub bc they have a great chart that visually breaks down steps of financial wellness goals, also a chart for "windfall events" which sounds like something you might be interested in. Personally I'd love to see more financial wellness posts from F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:28 PM
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If they are visual creatures then why aren't they maintaining rigid beauty standards and keeping up intense pride in their physical appearances? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 04:38 PM
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So true! They're SO mad the women they DON'T EVEN WANT have standards 😂 why do they even care?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:18 AM
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Omg something just clicked: men think women are witches bc as soon as we leave their lives fall apart - amazing how they cannot connect that we are the magical beings who hold everything together and should be treated with such reverence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:33 PM
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Report, block, delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:32 PM
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// .. many people think a man is a necessity-like housing. Yes, if you can’t afford the house you want right now, you’ll have to rent an apartment, move in with your parents, somehow remedy the situation because you have to have shelter. And that’s why people encourage women to settle because they think men are like shelter. But they aren’t. // ^ you know? I think it's true that once-upon-a-time having a man did =/= shelter. And only in the last few centuries has that changed. It makes sense tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:29 PM
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Dealing with any LV people in general, is exhausting! Vetting the people you let into your life saves you time, energy, money and sanity in the long run. I agree that if you are JUST starting out on boundaries/vetting it may feel lije a shift, that's because it IS. As women we have been conditioned to give our energies to every one and thing, pulling back those tendrils takes work - but it is a finite amount of pruning! Then suddenly one day you will wake up and realize the only stress is your l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:22 PM
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Ladies PLEASE watch the Tinder Swindler on Netflix. This story reminds me of the tactics and direction that guy used. OP - sounds like you learned a valuable lesson, good! Glad you are safe and I also agree a little money so you can safely let someone exit is always worth the cost/benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:46 PM
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I needed to hear this today! Had an amazing connection over the weekend, with the promise of dinner yesterday. Then he "had to work late" but didn't reschedule, and also had time to update his OLD profile during his grueling workday. My gut recognized f-boy behavior before my mind would accept it. I filtered through all the emotions: rationalizing, excusing, anger, sadness, grief, acceptance. Today I am still bummed, but I also feel grateful he gave me a reminder to trust my instinct. It's okay …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 06:47 PM
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I have ONE male friend. And the only reason I trust him is because we have had extensive conversations early on in our friendship about impulse feelings and we BOTH decided we would never cross that line. Now he's like a brother to me and I am grateful for his friendship. But truthfully I think he is grateful for my friendship and would never do anything to jeopardize it. So it works! But it is RARE. And I don't talk to him like my girl bffs. We share hopes/dreams/fears but I don't care to discu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:13 AM
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Bonus points if the woman is somehow dismembered and/or faceless! Pay attention to all the headless/limbless female forms out there (perfume bottles, tjmaxx art, candles, etc) and it becomes obvious how much we are not seen as full people but pretty dismembered objects. The show Flight Attendant (*spoiler) captured this - when she goes into the dead guy's apartment and sees all his art is disembodied females (plus vintage p0rn collection and dead polar bear) she figures out he was a sick manbaby…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 03:18 PM
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Tbh a lot of them don't even like p*ssy! They just want a wet hot pocket for their peens - they could do so well on Grindr! No idea why they don't just turn to other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:47 PM
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Oh yes that reminds me I got a pandemic "check in" email too at the beginning! It was after we had a terrible falling out, I asked for space, which of course he ignored, and I said I no longer wished to be friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:12 AM
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The showstopper for me was "I'm just trying to figure out how to get back in your life" 😅 like dude, YOU broke up with ME leave me alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:55 AM
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Omg same, sis! We should compare emails. I bet they're all similar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:47 PM
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The little fencing emojis 😂😂😂 I will never see these the same again!! Why are all these comments such gold star storytelling??? We have fun over here. Hilarious. 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:00 AM
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I have mixed feelings about this approach and think it should be used sparingly and very strategically. I have found there's also value in just doing something yourself well and seeing what the reactions are: men who respect women will react appropriately and men who don't will have some hissy fit and/or "wow you're so X for a girl" moment. And then you'll know who you're working with. That's for a professional setting though where it advances my career to be seen as capable and smart. There are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:36 AM
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No joke one time I gave an ex of mine a garbage can and bunch of other cleaning supplies as an xmas gift. I think he was offended lol but I was like what?? Your garbage can is disgusting and broken and you've been saying you need a new one. This was years ago way before FDS but maybe I was on my Queen sh*t before I even knew it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:18 PM
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Watch the new House of Gucci movie for a real life example!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:09 PM
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I know! Seriously! Like if they want to become fathers so bad go do it! I personally would love to see a man put the effort into having a kid via compensated/contracted surrogate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:18 AM
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Accepting the logic that he "deserves to breed" why does he need a wife to do it? If continuing his genes at ALL COSTS is the most important thing what's stopping this high-achieving upstanding individual from buying an egg from his ideal woman, paying a surrogate and becoming a single father? Said it himself that $80k is enough to raise a family on, so do it! Imagine if men went out of their way to become financially responsible single fathers, with their super duper superior genes, seriously w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:17 PM
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I had a hard time watching this show because I wanted Annie to figure it out faster!! It's funny and well-made. I'm not sure the handbook says "don't date if you're X sized"... I think the guidance is more like "if you feel insecure about your body, work on that insecurity before entering dating bc LVM will use it against you." Either way, I hope you know you are beautiful and kind and probably thoughtful and good at your job too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:48 PM
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Exactly this. If someone offered you a plate or steaming sht you'd immediately reject it. Yellow/orange flags are just teaspoons of sht in an otherwise normal-looking meal. We've been conditioned to eat sh*t little by little our entire lives. How is this okay? Reject every last bit of it. Apologies for the crudeness but 1 tsp of sht is still sht.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:53 PM
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Same here! It's like #3 in the attraction scale second only to looks/behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:55 AM
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Big agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:30 PM
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PSA - I'm not sure that deleting the OLD app actually removes your profile. I have heard of OLD companies keeping women's ghost profiles around to lure men in. Ugh. Delete all your pics first or replace with something benign. Then delete your account, usually hidden in settings. THEN delete the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:14 PM
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Glad you enjoyed! Wow sis you are blowing my mind here I was thinking about a small piece of jewelry when really I deserve an ocean view getaway!! Hell yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:40 PM
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Haha I HATED this movie and turned it off after 10min. Literally the whole movie's premise is: a woman who uses herself as bait for shitty men to get paid a mediocre salary. Why the f*ck would I want to emphasize with that character?? Then yeah the movie just got more and more stupid. I skipped to the end and was like "of course" this is so dumb. Women written by a man. Can you imagine the inverse film?? Hot guy just looking for love gets catfished by ugly homely woman and falls in love with her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:42 PM
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Friday, Durham University sparked a backlash when it was revealed the establishment was offering training sessions to support students involved in sex work. The one-hour sessions, organised by the Durham Students Union (DSU) and led by external trainers, comprise two levels and offer an understanding of the challenges and obstacles that student sex workers might struggle to overcome when wishing to seek support. However, many people took issue with the concept, with Michelle Donelan, the ministe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:39 AM
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Girl as a former pickme I'm ashamed to say I have bragged about that. I learned pretty quickly though that it does not impress anyone except, and only gave LVM who wanted to use me a green light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:32 PM
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Came here to say this! Would you ever tell a female friend who you want to get to know better she's "worth it"?? No! That's insane transactional judgment to say aloud. That person either is or isn't worth it for you and if they are there's no need to say it, you show it. I've had similar tactics used when asking for a dinner date they'll say "oh let's have drinks first and if you're worth it dinner after." It's a setup. You have to then keep proving yourself to then indefinitely bc they've annou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:39 PM
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PSA!! If a stranger grabs your hair from behind you should NOT pull away - rather go with the momentum of their pull and whip an elbow or flat hand around to strike them in the throat. Maintaining balance by taking a step back toward them is KEY. This allows you to get in close and attack all soft spots (eyes, nose, throat, nuts). Look up Krava Maga hair pull defense for more info! It is 100% a form of assault and you should know the options to defend yourself if it happens to you. Stay safe out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 08:53 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear you're going through that, I've been dealing with something similar and it majorly sucks! What's even worse is that I don't WANT to just go "get under someone to get over him." That feels so cheap and shallow and like a diss on my former relationship which I thought would be my last relationship. All I can say is keep going. It gets better. But SO slowly. And let yourself have bad days where you are a mess and need to go to bed by 9pm. Block his number, delete any sign of hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:44 PM
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Great reminder! I was just celebrating my short run this morning - in 45° weather no less!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 07:03 PM
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Hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 07:01 PM
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Micro expressions are KEY. A few months ago I was re-watching a video of my LVX and me from what I considered (at that time) the height of our romance. It was a 30s video and it said SO much. My face was adoring, smiling, happy, looking at him with love. His face was glued to his phone, annoyed, contempt, like he was tolerating my presence. Said oceans about our entire dynamic! All media now deleted FYI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:06 PM
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HAHAHA brilliant. Is President Obama bffs with his ex??? No. And you bet your sweet tits certain news channels would be all over that sauce if he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:52 PM
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I think you may want to reconsider what you really share with these friends. And keep in mind it's okay to want different friendships as you grow and change. Doesn't mean these people are ill-intended. Perhaps you just have different paths and you're approaching the fork in the road. I recently tried out Bumble BFF and met a lovely woman who I thought "yes she's awesome!" We hung out a few times, and I genuinely enjoy our time together BUT I've begun to notice she projects a lot of insecurity th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:37 AM
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Your analysis is spot-on imo. I always felt weird about the idea of having a "type" i.e. blondes/brunettes - like really? That's all it takes for you to like them? The color of their hair? I think it is a sad projection on men's part; they do not build empathy for themselves and their own nuance so they cannot comprehend complex personalities separate from physical traits (looks) in women. Instead the order of operations is Very Physical Trait™ -> triggers previous experience of love with this t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:32 PM
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Good for you for trusting your instincts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:35 AM
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Buy her some flowers for being a shining example and just bc she deserves them! 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 10:42 PM
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Trust your instincts. My LVX was passive and preferred everyone to "just chill" instead ever taking a stand. I finally saw my suspicions of "would he ever be able to protect me in an emergency?" come true when we went camping for 4 days in the wilderness. The weather turned on us and we got caught in a snow storm 12mi from our trailhead, and 2mi from camp. The temp dropped from 60s to 10a with hail and sleet. I immediately went into protector mode and he did not. I found where we would make camp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 10:25 PM
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"Oops, so sorry ma'am the mug just jumped off the shelf and onto the floor where it broke into a hundred pieces..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:22 AM
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Thank you for the gray out! Much appreciated. 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 08:39 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻 if he wanted to, he would!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:05 PM
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WILD CONCEPT ALERT: women serving themselves first 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 12:09 PM
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I felt the similarly! This is the only space on the internet I feel safe saying I'm a woman. Because of the rules and the work the mods do. Thank you ladies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 12:00 PM
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I feel similarly! I live in a Big Liberal City that won't even let me get pepper spray delivered from Amazon bc it's considered a weapon (??) it's clearly for self-defense and it's not like knives and black market guns don't exist here. At least the non-liberals want me to have a way to protect myself. But then again, not from unwanted pregnancy. Lose/lose. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:03 PM
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They really have no sense of irony😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:53 PM
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"I'm so insecure and worry I will never be happy" - my LVX 4yrs ago and the moment I should have listened! Live and learn ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:37 AM
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Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:16 PM
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Mmmmm mm! I prefer straight butter on a toasted pumpkin muffin myself. But I support cream cheese frosting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:20 AM
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Ooo you've just inspired me to make pumpkins muffins for my girlfriends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:40 PM
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Next on LinkedIn Learning Exclusive: So Your Ex Is Stalking You On Our Professional Website? Block That Weenie. The End. Seriously welcome to the club! It's not very hard to get into unfortunately. My NVX 20+ year age gap did this to me as well. And they know you can see them "viewing your profile" because it gives them notice when people look at them as well. So it's 100% intentional and it's a weird power play of "you see me looking at you? What are you gonna do about it??" Yuck. Maybe their s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:46 AM
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Thank you! I am definitely better on the other side. And better today than yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:14 AM
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Seriously what's with the poor sleep schedule?? Now that I look back 5/6 of my LVXs had terrible inconsistent sleep patterns. I guess I don't have a problem w it except that they wanted to drag me down too by making me stay up late w them. Anyone else had this? Now that I think about it they just never wanted to be alone before bed with themselves probably. Babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:36 AM
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Awww. I'm so glad I posted too! I really needed to hear these words from strangers, this thread prompted a very big awareness for me of how my anger was coming from little me who was hurt that big me didn't protect her better. But how could she have? She didn't know any better. Hang in there stranger, it will be okay. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:22 AM
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Yes. My X hated cleaning up from dinner before bed and always said "I'll do it in the morning" (spoiler alert: guess who cleaned up in the morning??) - and waking up to a clean kitchen with spotless counters has been a monumental joy. Every morning that past me gave current me with gift of a clean kitchen to wake up to is a beautiful win for all of queen-kind. It's actually amazing how much overlap there is between things my X disliked doing and self-care; going to bed early, exercise, making th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:26 AM
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Great practical advice, thank you! I might track down a rage room instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:20 AM
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That's true. Because of the relationship I did get to do things travel, adventure, etc I wouldn't have done otherwise. Now I know how much I need to be near nature and am planning a move to a different part of the country in a few months. It does help to know I didn't get nothing, that I'm not so terrible at bargaining after all. I am learning. Maybe that's part of the pain too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:19 AM
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Thank you I will look up that meditation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:15 AM
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Thank you so much. It's so much harder to give myself to feel the anger and the sadness than to just say "whatever it's over." Yes it's over but I never want to let someone like that that close to me ever again. I stopped OLD a month and change ago bc it was too triggering to be dealing with men at all. I feel I'm rebuilding myself slowly, not into the woman I was before but into a new being and part of that process is grieving the old me who didn't know any better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:10 AM
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Wow the grief spiral page was very helpful for me! Thank you so much for sharing! 🦋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 07:50 PM
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Maybe we should do a poll here to see how many women have dated men who threatened to self-harm if they broke up and what the result was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 07:20 PM
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"I use antlers in all of my decorating" is the best line for a male lead to sing in a musical, ever written imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:44 AM
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Right. The whole idea of consent is that it must be freely and enthusiastically given. If you buy it, it's not being given to you. And the opposite of giving is taking soooo.... you do the math.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:15 PM
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Call you Elsa 'cause you an ICE QUEEN ❄️👑🧊 👏🏻👏🏻 great job, responding in stone face is not easy and I know my adrenaline would have been all over the place in the scenario. Highly recommend watching Hacks on HBO - there is a GREAT scene where the older woman comedian main character calmly annihilates an idiot douchebro comedian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:37 PM
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My all time favorite meme response to "gO mAkE ME a sAnDWitCh" is "go build me a house."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:35 PM
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This is exactly what happened to the "Dingo ate my baby" mother - they (authorities) didn't believe her because she wasn't emotional enough. And she was publicly shamed for being too stoic. ?!?? I don't have a solution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:33 PM
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Thanks for the ample TW! I didn't read this but sending you good vibes and a big internet hug anyway. ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:31 PM
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I second dining alone! Especially recommend a 9 course tasting menu solo with the wine pairing. It's an incredible experience and so easy to enjoy solo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:48 PM
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I found it and it's awful so if you're gonna go there just know major TW. It's ' women are things ' which is just so blatantly misogynistic I don't even know how they are allowed on here. I don't think you can report a sub as a whole but I tried. Gross and sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:56 PM
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I hear you. I was reading the joke as the couple on the right always being the type to say they live such an "aLtErNAtIve liFesTyLe" and yet you can see 'em coming from a mile away it's so obvious that it's become norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:46 AM
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I think it would be a lot more interesting to say you're 5'1" and show up as a towering giant to the dudes who clearly thought they were gonna pull one over on you... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 08:03 PM
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I have a theory about moms who raise (intentionally or not) LVM: I think they spoiled them in an attempt to gain the love and affection their LV husbands never gave them. They essentially raise the boy to be the husband they believe they deserve, which is someone who at least "loves" them for all the mommy-ing they do for them, as opposed to the current thankless partner. This also keeps the boys dependent on mommy to cook/clean/laundry so she will always have a role even if husband up and leave…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:54 PM
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Exactly! There's a reason they're not showing/telling you how much you mean to them and or how much they value you: they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:36 PM
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LMAOOO - Ok Stupid (subtext: let's see how long she puts up with these idiots) I'm dyyyinggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:05 PM
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Hi there. I've struggled with this as well. From my own understanding I've come to accept that avoidant tendencies are familiar to me (based on upbringing and lack of emotional bond with my mother) and so the behavior of avoiding and/or sending mixed signals to me = this person likes/loves me I just need to try harder to get them to show it "in their own way." I'm curious if this resonates with you? I am currently healing from infatuation tendencies and taking a more neutral approach of "let's w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:35 PM
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"Bleach or Baby? How to Tell the Difference Between Wipes and Why You Need Both (Shocking! We know.)"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:52 PM
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"What ARE Coasters And How to Use Them!" Edit: replace "coasters" with bed frames, hand soap, curtains, top sheets, etc and you've got content for DAYS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:10 PM
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With Helpful Weekly Columns Like: "How to Cook Not Chicken Fingers!" And "Shampoo? Conditioner? What's The Deal??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:01 PM
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I have never understood that before! You are so right. They're not bothering the little elderly lady walking by that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:30 PM
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Yes. Be an Ice Queen for your own SAFETY. Sorry you had to deal with that obvious pedo who was clearly hoping you were 15 so he could creep on you even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:29 PM
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Okay ngl this makes me feel a bit better about Sleeping Beauty always being my favorite Disney princess! As a child anyway. I also liked that she had fairy god aunties looking out for her and seemed to enjoy living a quiet life in the woods with her bird friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:42 PM
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Dude, same. I couldn't get past that line "so I'm an ambience girl" because girl, if you were you wouldn't have slept with him, and if you were and he did that to you without consent then this is a VERY different sketch and definitely not my humor. I get the joke and appreciate it being shared here...but the bar is too low. Some might say it's in hell. Moral of this sketch: don't ever be that girl having that convo with that LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:37 PM
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Omg let's do it. We can call it Metropolitan Magazine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:45 PM
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I'm having an epiphany...what if we started a Cosmopolitan magazine for young men?? Can you imagine the cover: a beautiful 17yo boy, with headlines "8 ways to use your tongue better!" "6 foods that will keep you toned!" "These men are going on a porn diet, here's why you should too!" ... and the outrage it would spark 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:21 PM
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Listen to your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:38 PM
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Yeah gonna go out on a limb and guess the joy of self-respect is not included in the 35 either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:38 PM
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You beat me to it!! I saw this earlier and thought it belonged here as well, 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:06 AM
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This is extremely disturbing and totally changes how I perceive Rhye's music now. In what world is a 33yo asking for a 16yo's number okay?? Let alone the start of a consensual relationship?? It breaks my heart that after everything she went though now she has to be brave again and face this sick toad in the public arena and re-live every horrible memory. Fck these fcking sickos!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:09 AM
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Yeah that was the fake line for me as well... since when has pron ever been equated to bringing happiness? No one says that, not even men 😂 if anything they'd say it's a "pYsHiCaL nEed."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:32 PM
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I think he missed the 50-Shades plot line where the guy was a smoking hot billionaire who financially supported every move his gf made and gave her a successful publishing company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:08 PM
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Yes, it genuinely would, but the operating word there is "work." My understanding (which I'll admit is a broad stroke to draw) is that these men, and men as a whole are neither happy nor fulfilled, hence the 2/3 higher suicide rates in men compared to women. I am not sure what it would take for the average man to find spiritual/emotional fulfillment but I very much suspect that pron/sx work is the deadest wrong place to go looking for it. Alas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:48 PM
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Damn, this butthead sucks! Run away, sis! Run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:48 AM
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Of all the things that weren't, this wasn't the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:30 PM
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When did no punctuation become the goal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:31 PM
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My two bffs are married to HVM, for sake of the question I'll mention bff1 met hers on OLD. I think it was 100% luck, she was on there for <6months, and neither of them were originally from the area so they were both looking to meet new ppl. I don't think she used any bikini pics, just cute ones where she was dressed well. I also use OLD and had a far-away bikini pic on there until recently. Something just clicked for me that I don't need to prove to these random men that I'm hot in a bikini, I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:24 PM
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Not just that... I can vividly remember the moment I should have left, and didn't. For every single one of them. It's wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:01 PM
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I don't get it. Can you explain? Thx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:15 AM
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Not disagreeing with the overall sentiment here but- couldn't % that be because there are more men at sea on average (with naval crews, shipping containers etc.)? Or is this stat purely cruise ships/civilian vessels? Just wondering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:58 AM
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Fwiw I'd love to hear your 50yo wisdom on dating, relationships, and how you've seen society's views and your own change with them over time! Be well, sis :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:55 PM
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Brb making a new acct to go complain loudly about FDS in the boys locker room subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:49 PM
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I don't think knowing how it ends is that big of a deterrent to enjoying the film tbh! The direction is amazing, creative, trippy, intense and enthralling (in addition to killer music choice) - I think it's worth viewing as a directorial debut for an "Oscar-level" movie with equally amazing performances. Enjoy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:41 PM
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"You really think you're better/smarter than me, don't you"- no dummy, I KNOW I'm better/smarter than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:10 PM
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Sis, first of all, proud of you you deserve a big hug and a personal pizza and a bottle of wine. Secondly, this sounds like textbook antisocial disorder behavior. The deliberate coldness is the flag for me, after his ed. And not responding to you when you tried to make him feel better the next day with kind words/actions. It's a straight up game to punish you for the shame he felt, so he wants you to feel the same shame. Fwiw, I briefly dated a similar guy, maybe 2 months and after he asked me t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:23 AM
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Tbh most of that sub makes me happy I'm not in a relationship; if it's so bad you need anonymous strangers to confirm it I think the relationship is too far gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:19 PM
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Agreed. So far FDS has been the only place on Reddit I feel comfortable enough to actually engage via posts/comments as a woman. I've been a lurker for about 6yrs and never wanted to get too involved in any subs bc I didn't feel safe really. About 2months ago I found FDS and I'm like - well that was worth the wait!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:51 PM
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I realized how truly HV my father is! I see so many excellent traits in him, the way he cooks for his wife, he has his hobbies and supports her hobbies, he is generous, kind, funny, so responsible and he loves his life. I'm happy to know that my dad was able to re-marry a HVW post divorce with my mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:03 PM
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"It's a cake made of SHIT" made me laugh SO hard! Hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:49 AM
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How about a Saturday morning breakfast date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:30 AM
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Tl;dr - she's one of the wives in Handmaid's Tale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:37 PM
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Second this. Doesn't matter what you wear or even look like though it sounds like the tattoos are the excuse they use. Yesterday on my after work walk to a park in my borough while with airpods blatantly talking on the phone as I'm walking down the sidewalk probably 6 scrotes tried to stop me and get me to talk to them. More than one waved their hand directly in my face like "hey, HEY" I just look straight ahead and ignore them. While carrying my keychain pepper spray :) The other day I was walk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:25 PM
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Go for it! I think you will love it 💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:32 PM
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Yep. Welcome to the world. I developed a mild hunch in middle/high school in futile attempt to make my chest stick out less. There is nothing you can do about people (men) sexualizing you without your consent. But you can control who you spend your time with. Don't hang out with creeps just because they're Good Guys tm, or part of a larger friend group. If those people make you uncomfortable they are NOT your friends. In general I feel a friend group is a red flag if I find out that everyone has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:03 PM
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Thank you! This gives me ideas of where to go next w my $!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:51 PM
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It's honestly so comforting right? To know that I can grow more deeply into myself, body, and soul. Like wow, I love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:59 PM
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And dirty dishes left in the sink with the promise of "I'll do it later babe" !!! Ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:58 PM
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Omg I just got flair I could cry!! Sending all the sisterly, queenly love I can! Take care of yourself you are beautiful and worth it 👑🥰🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:57 PM
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This 💯!! And what's even better? When you do find those HVW bffs you know they will show up for you no matter what! And it is a joy to show up for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:13 PM
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I relate to this so deeply, OP! I noticed 2 similar transitions in myself in the last year-ish, one with body and one with my home. Home- I have a beautiful little apartment with an antique rug, healthy happy plants, curated art, nice linens, candles etc. recently I've noticed I don't want any strangers in my home, it feels so personal, I only want my trusted friends over in my space. I think the external care for my living space has translated into internal care for my body, and higher standard…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:07 PM
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Amazing and welcome queens! May I have some flair please? Thanks for doing the Holy Lady's work 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:59 PM
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Chiming in to add: a HVM will not ask you for career/work advice i.e. "I hate my job what should I do instead?" This "wahh fix me!" attitude is a LVM indicator and no matter how MUCH sound career/financial advice you give them as soon as they are better off they will leave you. This was my experience w my LVX - I helped him navigate constant work stress and taught him to set more healthy boundaries with his supervisors, and coached him to set expectations w his work partner on projects. And none…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:16 PM
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Beautiful stone and congrats sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:55 PM
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Exactly. They are literally taking action from a place of "I'm not a worthwhile human therefore I must employ manipulation tactic XYZ." It's honestly sad and I can only imagine the self-loathing present in this mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:54 PM
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Lmaooooo "scamming people" as if that's not exactly what he was asking for with butthole gummies 😂 the lord works in mysterious ways, god bless 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:24 AM
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One vetting strategy for finding a self-defense/martial arts space run by HVM is to check if they have women's-only classes/seminars. Ime men well-versed in self-defense KNOW that men are the biggest threat to women's safety and want to encourage formerly abused women to build strength in a safe-space, ie a place where they can practice self-defense with only female instructors. In those seminars every time the question was asked "raise your hand if you or someone you know has been sexually assa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:30 PM
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I'm sorry you had that experience. I believe this culture stems from the top, if the founder/coach is an insecure man he will train his students from that place and vice versa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:12 PM
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Suggestion to make stickers for purchase on FDS website? Proceeds could go to funding the pod!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:49 PM
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This reminds me of once (years ago) my LVX asked me to come to his bday party, I said what time should I be there he said "chill bbq in the afternoon come whenever" I was like okay cool be there at 4 after work. I show up at 4 and he straight up (tries to anyway) ignore me. I said why would you do that? He responds "my friend said I should be mean to you since you were late to my party." ??? Honestly I was confused. Now I realize he was just trying to neg me into sticking around and unfortunatel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:51 PM
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Whoa. This is a new term for me but perfectly describes my LVX and his mom's relationship. I always tried to tell him "you're the 'man' in her life." One time she blatantly asked me to see pics of him naked and got mad when I said no. Tried to play it off like "don't you want me as his mother to be proud of how big he is??" EW. I had to block her too after the breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:01 PM
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I love this; the females are the arbiters of evolution. Time to change the course of evolution ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:40 PM
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Aye aye, captains! My question - how do I get flair so I can start commenting/contributing? Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:43 PM
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