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In 2014, I had a crush on a friend. He used to lead me on a ton, saying his dream girl had all the same traits I had . When I realized I had feelings I told him, and he laughed in my face. Humiliated,I stopped hooking up with him then discovered he gave me a (luckily curable) std. we had used condoms every time too, I’m not aware whether I was stealthed or not. I was furious with him, told him to go to hell. FOUR YEARS LATER he sends me a friend request. He had gotten fat (he used to be a super …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:38 PM
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He said he banished all alcohol from his house. I asked him ok when’s the last time you drank? He was like “I had a beer last night at the bar”🤦🏽‍♀️ made no indication he was seeking professional help Eta: he didn’t wanna wait 6 months for me to get back with him, I should clarify. So I told him, dude it’s your liver you’re destroying, you should stay sober for your health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:07 PM
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I dumped an ex because he had a drinking problem. 2 weeks later, he told me he was working on quitting. I said ok, let me know if you go a full 6 months sober. He said “I can’t wait that long” lmao I was never going to subject myself to sticking around with the hopes that maybe he’d control his drinking. Even if they ask us to stick around saying they’ll change, words mean nothing, only actions and time prove anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:45 PM
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I must’ve missed all that indoctrination for women about needing to be married with kids by 30. It was never a thing in my life. I was told the opposite: don’t get pregnant, finish school. Coming from a long line of teen moms, I’m pushing 30 now and still have no desire for marriage or kids. The idea of being tied to an ain’t shit man for life and coparenting if it doesn’t work out is my worst nightmare. I enjoy being single and pursuing my own interests. Not to say I don’t have men pushing me f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:02 PM
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When a guy’s friends make it a point to tell you how great he is, it’s like another form of love bombing. Why not let me take my time in getting to know him so can make that determination myself? Why rush and try to color my perception of him? Men who recruit their friends to speak highly of them to me are a red flag, same as love bombers. They’re skipping the time it takes to develop intimacy and know a person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 04:55 PM
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Yes!!! They only see the fun happy side of their friends, not the abusive side
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:10 PM
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Can we talk about the things men say when they’re drunk? I dated a guy who used to say the most batshit crazy things when drunk. Among the shit he’d say, he’d refer to our relationship as just a fling, (we were bf gf already)say he couldn’t trust women, that he felt one day I’d fuck him over, and told me to shut the fuck up when I asked if he was ok to drive after having had a drink. I always confronted him afterwards when he was sober and he’d say those things were just a joke, and he felt real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:48 PM
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It’s so deeply engrained in society. So much dating advice is to simply work through problems but a lot of people are fundamentally incompatible. No one ever said you had to stay with someone. I dated a man who was 💩 and his friends immediately tried to gang up on me to convince me to give him another chance, instead of just respecting my decision to leave him. No amount of trying to work through something will change someone who isn’t right for you. Either they’re compatible or not. It’s more t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 12:24 PM
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One guy I dated I tried to dump like 4 times but he always came back begging for another chance. When I finally ended it I was at my wits end. Blocked and deleted him on everything. A couple days later he used his roommates phone to contact me. Blocked that too. The same roommate would then write to me on ig asking to talk about my ex. I’d say no. They’d change topics then loop it back to my ex. Then get mad when I didn’t wanna talk about my ex. I suspected the roommate gave my ex his login info…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:03 PM
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I dealt with a guy who did #5. I’d been seeing him for a a very short time, and one summer night he invited some friends over. One female friend came over and their body language was telling: she would caress him, they’d hug for extended amounts of time, she’d ask to use his jacket when cold. I thought it strange. He also once went out of his way to move some furniture into her house. He used to say that’s just how he was with friends 🚩She’d post pics with him that were suggestive from before he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 04:00 PM
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He wants to watch porn during sex? Ok how bout you choose porn with hot muscular men with huge dicks? And he wants a threesome? Ok, suggest mmf, but the third is his hot friend. lol jk, discard the man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:25 PM
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People can literally leave in the middle of a dinner date too. It would be awkward to cut a date short at a restaurant or a walk date but at a restaurant there are people around and much less risk of danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:05 PM
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A guy I had been dating for maybe 3 months said if we were still together after a year I could move in with him. He talked about how his rent was fixed at about half of what I was paying for my rent, and I’d save so much money splitting with him. He eventually planned to buy the house he was renting. I said nope, I’ll never move into a man’s house and pay into his mortgage. Why put equity into his house especially if we break up, he keeps all that and I get nothing? Plus his house was shittier t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:38 PM
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Going 50/50 is discouraged indefinitely. When you’re just going on dates and not exclusive he has to be proving himself to you that he is willing to pay. With my bf, I never offered to pay for dinner. One time early on he suggested I pay for drinks since he had paid for parking when we were going to a concert. I said yea sure, but he wound up paying for me anyway. It’s important to establish the expectation as early as possible. And don’t buckle. My bf also asked if I’d split a meal with him. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 01:32 PM
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Was with my ex for 5 years on and off. Kept giving him chances because I wanted to believe potential. He moved into my apartment the day the pandemic started in the US. Didn’t get me anything for my birthday. Made threats disguised as jokes. Showed jealousy and competition about my career, expected all the emotional labor from me. (All these things existed throughout the whole relationship but I was a major pick me). I had been bored with him for a long time. I discovered fds during quarantine w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:30 PM
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👏🏽👏🏽yes!My boyfriend knew I needed a tire replaced but since I work full time and opposite schedule from him, he offered to take it to the shop while I was working to get my tires replaced. Saved me a trip and let me borrow his car for work. There are men out there who will want to make your life easier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:06 AM
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Good to know! I have one of those sucking type vibrators and they’re insanely good. the vibrating cockring I tried was more a traditional vibrator and didn’t even compare in terms of sensation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:54 AM
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What was your experiences with a vibrating cock ring? I tried it but found that it didn’t reach my clit at all unless I was cowgirl leaning forward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:24 PM
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Yea I was very open about my boundaries. I said straight up I won’t have sex unless in a committed relationship. I wasn’t in a rush, and if he wasn’t ok with it, I was more than ok to walk away. The guy I’m seeing is very respectful of boundaries. He was open about wanting a relationship from the beginning and I reminded myself to adhere to fds as best as I could. Pretty happy I have!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:35 PM
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Some guys are growers. I liked going out to a party, after a few dates grind on him to assess boner capability. Aka can he get one and secondarily size. I also looked at how he carried himself. Did he seem confident with himself? Did he seem insecure like he was trying to make up for something? I met a man who was a grower. Maybe 2” flaccid, over 6” erect. Sometimes it’s hard to suss until you actually see it. After a few dates and some making out, I legit just told my date to show me his dick b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:00 AM
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This was me with my ex except we were together 5 years at the time. I got him gifts and a fun get together activity with his closest friends. What did I get? Nothing. He said he didn’t know what to get me and laughed about it. One of the reasons I dumped his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:58 PM
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One of my exes had what they call a “beta” chin. Very weak chin projection on top of genetic propensity to gain fat in his neck/gullet. He also ate out all the time and put no effort in exercise. Nowadays he has a thick beard to hide it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:25 PM
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I did something like this for many years. When I was miserable and stuck in my last relationship I wrote down all the things I wanted, and often. I’d say, “I want a pretty boy who loves the same music, loves adventure and traveling, will dote over me, be trustworthy, affectionate, generous, outgoing, emotionally open, easy to talk to and resolve conflict/compromise and wants the same things and experiences out of life”. I believe the universe is always listening. Somehow over summer an acquainta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:33 PM
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It was a few hundred I think. It was like 2 years ago. My sessions got interrupted due to covid but I did maybe 9 sessions for Brazilian. It is permanent. Right now I do some touch up sessions every couple months but like 90% of the hair is gone and it’s great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:13 PM
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I got laser hair removal because pubic hair made me itchy. I was single at the time too. I didn’t like growing it out because despite my best hygiene I noticed a distinct smell that wasn’t there when I removed it. And if I had my period it was messier. I tried sugar waxing and epilating but sugar waxing gave me insane ingrowns and epilating was like torture. I’m happy I did laser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:10 PM
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I spent a good long time building my self confidence. Sure I know I have some flaws and I’m self aware to recognize that. So if someone makes a comment to gaslight me, I already have the confidence in myself to not fall for it. There’s one comment that always stuck out to me. If a dude tries to neg say “can you explain what you mean?” Or if they say something was a joke, ask them to explain why it’s funny. Being on fds has made me become very direct with men. Maybe a little too direct lol but it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:13 PM
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That is the perfect thing to say. A guy I was dating wanted to be exclusive after 3 dates. I said what you said and he continued to pursue and was consistent. When they really want you they’ll keep trying. You have to give him some positive reinforcement though so he knows you are interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:02 PM
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I feel like a guy who wants to know how you think ultimately wants to learn how to manipulate you, say just the right things to get in your head and such
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:06 PM
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I enjoy giving them in a LTR. My partners always reciprocated and I like seeing them squirm. It’s a huge turn on seeing someone I have feelings for feeling pleasure and vice versa. I’ve gotten wet from this lol. I’m very picky with hygiene and my non negotiable was always to shower before any sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 12:51 PM
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He’s a dentist. I can see x rays in the back. I went to dental schools and there were so many douches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:32 AM
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Best dick for me was between 6-7 inches. Not the girthiest I’d ever had but he was so good at foreplay I’d be super wet and he turned me on outside of the bedroom too. So I had physical and mental stimulation. He knew how to rub his body against mine to stimulate my clit and make me come. The most embarrassing thing is when a dick is too small and you’re like is it even in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:36 PM
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I think the hardest thing is determining when to allow them an opportunity to show they’ve changed. For example I was dating a guy who is very affectionate with everyone. He kissed his male friend’s neck one night when very drunk and I told him I wasn’t ok with it, the neck is very intimate and a place I’d only let my SO kiss. He had a history of fooling around with men so to me it felt like cheating. He wasn’t aware that I had such a boundary (we were in early stages of dating) apologized profu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:39 PM
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Agree!! Lately it just hasn’t been inspiring to come on here. I want content that inspires me about men giving women what we want. How to best maximize our dating game not just negative things all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 05:39 PM
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I was telling him a story about a guy I knew who’d been with men. I asked out of curiosity whether he’d ever been with a man. He said he wanted to be honest with me which I appreciate but I’m torn. When I comes to my health ultimately it matters. And it seems like he never would’ve volunteered that information if I’d never asked. ETA: I don’t want to judge him by his past since I wouldn’t want to be judged myself. However my main concern is how this history would play out in the present. It’s sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:11 PM
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Ladies I’m devastated. Guy I was seeing revealed to me he has been with men. He didn’t say when or what he did. I don’t care necessarily that he may be bi (he didn’t want to put a label on what he is), but I was more concerned about the fact that he wasn’t being forthright about what he’s done, which leads me to believe he thinks it’s bad enough that he doesn’t want to tell me, and the impact it could have on my health. It really sucks because he was adding a lot to my life and things were going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:59 PM
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Imagine as an fds woman having multiple hvm who all met different needs. This is fantasy of course, it’s hard even finding one hvm lol in reality there’s just scores of lvm and I couldn’t see a poly relationship benefiting anyone other than the man. And I’d feel shortchanged not giving my partner all of my attention and really getting to know them. Too hard when theres multiple people to juggle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:57 PM
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The left looks like cooper and billy from sex life lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:54 PM
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I know a guy who legit proposed raw sex and to just take plan b after. I said WTF!! How often are you having unprotected sex??? Do you know how much havoc plan b wreaks on a woman’s hormones? It’s not some pez candy you pop without consequence. Oh and this guy couldn’t stay hard in condoms. His reasoning? “I’m just not used to condoms” WTF. so yea there are men out there who legit don’t use condoms and expect women to take plan B. Also I slept with someon using a condom and he still gave me an s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:52 PM
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He was 100% complacent. I’d regularly go out of my way when he was sick bringing him food and medicine and expected the same but was left on my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:23 PM
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I came right out and asked my ex to get me tampons like 3 months into dating and he bought them for me. The same ex didn’t do shit for me when I was sick though, had to walk myself to the corner store for cold medicine at like 7am while he slept like a log.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:22 AM
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I saw that post cropped on the front page. Fds has taught me how to recognize a man trying to use us as a therapist. In the past I would’ve been inclined to prod and find out more but now I leave it alone. I don’t try to solve any man’s emotional problems and I suggest no one else try to either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:57 AM
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Men are petrified to come out and ask for a date. I agree they are scared of rejection. I had a couple male acquaintances who I’d know for a while that both would invite me out for dinner but not call it a date. Even if I’d be blunt and ask “is it a date or a friendly hang out?” They’d say I’m asking you out to dinner, but will still not utter the d word. At this point any guy who asked “may I take you on a date” would be a unicorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:43 PM
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I find this very interesting. I’m only getting back into the game but this is what I have so far. In the past I wouldn’t have sexually vetted at all, just jumped in the sack. I’m still trying to figure out the best approach but what I did when trying to sexually vet (with a man who was taking me on dates and establishing intent and putting in effort) included kissing (assess his breath/hygiene, are his lips soft, can he find a good rhythm with me), dancing together (again trying to see what his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:25 PM
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Did you end up blocking him? I’m curious if he’ll end up hitting you up in the future again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:41 PM
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How are you going to break it off? You’re still on the dating stage so ’m curious of the terminology you’ll use as I’m going through something similar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:58 PM
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It’s interesting in regards to edm. I’ve known guys more into dubstep who were so bro-y and hyper masculine. Progressive and Trance heads seemed to be kinder which makes sense because the music is gentler on the ears. I’m ok with recreational rolling or tripping once in a while, it’s something I used to do sparingly but if it’s consistent I’d have doubts about the guys emotional stability. I generally look for someone who likes the same music, I love that fellow feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:29 PM
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Ugh the way you described that vulnerable feeling was beautiful and actually reminds me of when I had that with my first bf. It was another level. Mindless, emotionless fucking doesn’t compare to making love when you feel so deeply for the other person. I’m celibate and won’t even consider sex until it’s with a man who’ll make me feel that elusive way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:49 PM
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Ever since I got off the pill I’ve had months where I’ll cramp for two weeks straight, so bad that they wake me up in the middle of the night! I can’t even imagine never having to deal with cramps and monthly bleeding, to me that sounds like life on easy mode 😩 my ex bought me tampons a few months in and had no qualms about it. If men can’t accept periods they have no rights to enjoy a woman. A man who cares during your period is a must
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:00 AM
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I’m amazed at how much my confidence has improved since joining FDS. I started reading here while still in my last relationship and then every single day once I dumped my lvx. I’ve spent over a year digging internally to figure out what I want and don’t want. I was seeing someone and adhering as best I could to fds principles. I knew my mindset had improved when I realized the Scrote was trying to guilt trip me and bait and switch, suddenly talking about me going 50/50 after he’d been doing so w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 10:12 AM
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Being introverted is a good thing. I am introverted but can be outgoing if I want. This guy I went on a couple dates with asked if my love language wasn’t touch, because he was already holding my hand butI wasn’t all over him. I was like my love language is all of them. The guy took offense to the fact that I didn’t wanna sleep over after only a month of dating. He interpreted it as him being unworthy when I said I need time to get comfortable. Scrotes like that don’t even give you time to devel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:35 PM
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First congrats! it’s not easy finding the courage to leave when you realize the relationship is a dead end regardless of time spent. I commend your strength. Fds was instrumental in my healing after I left my 5 year relationship last year. Digest every single thing in the handbook. I follow a few igs that have helped me so much such as imdatfeminist, lovingmeafterwe, nedratawwab, thebaberebellion, girlyouareaqueen. It’s important to be gracious with yourself. There will be painful moments and yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:34 AM
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She’s at the “I’m entertained by watching him Breathe” stage. Months down the line she won’t appreciate when dates stop and he’s asking her for mad emotional labor like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:59 AM
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Lmao this triggers me. My ex would do a few min of foreplay, jackhammer while I rubbed my own clit, I’d come, he came, then he ran to the bathroom and back to vidya. Nothing compares to a man who truly enjoys making love, like they’re not just going through the motions but enjoying every touch, kiss, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:12 AM
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Lol I was a massive pick me😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:28 PM
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I did regularly but he was more of a jackhammer type
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 08:44 PM
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I feel I have a refractory period after orgasm lol There was one time in 5 years my ex made me come twice within seconds (he finally found a rhythm with me aka rubbing my clit with his body during sex) and that was incredible. He never attempted to do it again even though I raved about it. I aspire to find a man who can do that regularly, I have hope.I’ll probably require a couple orgasms before penetrative sex just just to see how willing the man is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:01 PM
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I could never come first, always preferred to come at the same time, because if I come first I wouldn’t be horny enough to continue for my partner to finish. I suppose my ex wasn’t good enough at foreplay to put me back in the mood, but I always wondered how women could come once and keep going
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:56 PM
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Jfc. This is why looks aren’t all that it takes to be HV. Lesson to everyone, you really don’t know men especially if you’ve only interacted on social media. Always stay nearby in a populated area
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:32 PM
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Yea this was hard for me. On the one hand he treats me very well, and it’s only been like 3 dates so he’d have to continue being vetted. Sex and exclusivity came up. We had a talk about our goals. His 5 year plan is marriage and kids. I don’t want either. I told him so and he reneged saying well maybe he won’t want kids one day, that he’d sacrifice that to have a chance with me. I said no way, if you give up something you know you want you’ll only resent me because I won’t change my mind. I’m th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:15 PM
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THIS. In all my relationships 90% of what I did was with my bf. They still made time to see their friends and I’d get resentful because I got so caught up seeing my bf all the time that I never had a life with my own friends. I’ve found that men really try to monopolize all your time when you start dating them. It’s still so important to have your own plans to maintain your sense of self separate from the relationship should it ever end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:11 PM
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So I wanted to practice fds principles in dating. A friend of mine had been inviting me out to dinner/activities. I had a slight crush on him before so I said yes. We went out 3 times. He paid for everything, showed high effort and other good signs. I even got to vet him sexually just by making out and taking note of how he touched me and how I felt about it and he respected me when I said I didn’t wish to go further. We had a talk about our goals which didn’t match. As I’d gotten to know him I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:58 AM
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Thank you!💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:03 PM
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So I know a guy that I met through friends a couple years ago. I always saw him with this one woman so I assumed he was in a relationship in 2019. I didn’t see him again til this year when everyone started hanging out in a group. One day he invited me out in a group setting. After we all went out I noticed his ex came over at like 3am. I wasn’t entirely sure they dated and thought it interesting. So we hung out a month later and he said yea they dated a few years and broke up 2 years ago. Now th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:47 PM
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Yes absolutely! I was so used to the absolute less than bare minimum treatment from my ex that I thought all men were like that. It wasn’t until I started dating better men that I started to feel optimistic. There were men who wanted to take me out, make the rsvp, pay the tab and not guilt trip me about it, actually tell my I’m beautiful with no negging, ask engaging questions, remember everything I told them, want to see me again and plan ahead, take flattering pics of me (my ex never did this)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:52 PM
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Subtle mate guarding: when you go hang out with a guy friend and he posts a pic from the hangout of only you on his social media. To me this is digital mate guarding: “look at me hanging out with this woman”. When anyone sees men and women hangout together they automatically assume there’s something going on. Men may benefit from this two fold: getting other guys to back off of you especially if you have mutual friends/diminish competition, and raise his social status by posting that he hung out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:00 PM
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For me it was like a light switch went off. I’d been with my ex over 5 years and living together. One day he threatened me under the guise of a joke and put his hands around my throat during sex one day. I realized that before me was a man who would sooner threaten me and say haha lol jk bro, than be romantic with me. He called me an ugly slut “facetiously”, making me cry, also liked to pick at my body, and I knew he was resentful/ jealous about my career and favorable work life balance. That’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:04 AM
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🙋🏽‍♀️ I used to see it as a challenge to take a cold man and get him to open up emotionally. I literally did everything for my ex, went above and beyond way before I ever needed to, and this dude still couldn’t open up. The only time he did and showed any passion was when he was high. Told him why can’t you be this way sober? Some suspect he was on the spectrum. His mom made excuses for him saying he was never open with how he feels, as if I just needed to accept that’s how he was. Na. He was al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:27 PM
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Absolutely. Thanks for the reminder! I started focusing on my financial goals, looking into concerts and some potential solo trips. Feeling more myself again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:04 AM
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This week really tried me. Loneliness started to creep in. My best friend moved across country, as most of my other good friends have. I’ve got plenty of acquaintances but it’s really hard to connect when people are so busy. Despite meeting lots of new people there’s just such a lack of quality men. I remind myself to always shift the focus back to myself, lest I fall into old pick me habits. I also saw my ex unexpectedly out in public from afar and it really rattled me. Those old rose colored g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:27 PM
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Say all the men so far were underqualified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:32 PM
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I love hearing dating stories! Really enjoyed this episode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:22 PM
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There is nothing charming about that entire thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:35 PM
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I’d been feeling stagnant at my work lately. My director was suspended due to an investigation into her behavior. My supervisor told me that they’ll either fire her or bring her back, demoted. They asked if I was interested in becoming director, taking her position. (I work in a clinic). I expressed interest and it gives me so much energy to imagine being promoted! It would provide great experience in managing to put on my resume plus a higher paycheck. Fingers crossed!🤞🏽🤞🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:50 PM
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I had a guy pitch ideas to me twice that I said I’d like and neither time he followed through. It’s like they just want to know that we’d actually do something with them and then they never do it. It helps to see different examples of these interactions in the wild because this same scenario can present in so many different ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:48 PM
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You’re spot on. They really do creep up out of nowhere, get your attention then throw you on the back burner as if they’re not the ones who pursued us first. I pursued a fwb years ago and got burned so I use my mistakes of the past as guidance for now. I deleted his number, muted him and blocked him from seeing my social media. I feel so much calmer already lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:55 PM
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Lately I’ve been somewhat interested in a guy. We met a couple years ago but over the last year we’d been interacting a bit more over IG. he started inviting me out as covid restrictions lifted. I’ve seen him a couple times in a group setting. Slowly I’ve become interested in him. And I wanted to talk about the way men creep into our line of sight. He was never outright flirty. Mostly would write to me to discuss similar interests. He is a breath of fresh air because he has a lot of traits I wis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:03 PM
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I was on the other end of this. One of my male friends had invited me out for dinner and drinks. I have zero romantic interest in him so I asked if he meant it as a date. He said no of course not! The very next text I sent went green and we’re both iPhone users. It’s funny when men block us because we hurt their ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:54 AM
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Damn yo lol it helps to see these messages as they happen though. And I wouldn’t feel bad at all about delete and blocking after all those shenanigans lol Currently I have a guy who just asked me on a date. gonna see if he follows through with a specific time and place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:10 AM
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Thank you! I am enjoying it so far haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:56 PM
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A man I met a couple years back in the music scene started interacting with me more over IG late last year. I always thought he had s great personality but never really noticed him otherwise. He started building a rapport with me over social media especially after asking how my bf was and me telling him I was single since I broke up with him. Once covid limitations started lifting he began inviting me out. At first he wanted me to be his +1 to an event. I thought that to be forward as I didn’t k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:34 PM
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I was asked this by my ex when we met on OLD. Looking back it does seem to imply they think there’s something wrong with you if you seem to be their idea of a woman who’d be in a relationship. Back then I went into a self deprecating spiel. Nowadays if I were asked that I’d just say I haven’t met anyone I want to date seriously, because it’s true. There’s no shortage of men who’ve been vying for my attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:52 PM
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I keel over every time I see a post from a woman to her man like “thanks for putting up with me. “ GIRL. I can’t stand the self deprecation. It’s not endearing or anything it just screams insecure when men are usually the ones doing egregious things that WE put up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:14 PM
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Mine was a fwb who burned me years ago. As pissed as I was I tried to be friends with him after it happened. He ghosted. 4 years later he sent a fb friend request. Promptly blocked and deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:18 PM
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I hate when women self deprecate saying no one wants them. It’s so pick me and desperate. I’ve known women who wanted marriage as a guarantee that they’d never be abandoned even when their man was trash, wanting someone to commit over no one even if they end up on that one sub we all know. Weddings are probably the only magical part of marriage. Actual marriage is lots of work and I never understood why one would want it. I think people feel like there’s societal pressure to adhere to a timeline…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:24 PM
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Yes! I loved that movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:45 PM
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I like Cristina but I agree she’s definitely grooming. There was a video where she drives up to a strip club late at night and is stressing because she may have to park further and there’s no chaperone. That was the one time she expressed concern of the very real danger that comes with sex work. Other than that she really doesn’t communicate all the negatives very well so there’s scores of girls wanting to emulate her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:06 PM
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Shots fired!I dabbled in OLD twice because I was bored aka ignoring my needs and trying to find a quick fix by getting male attention. OLD wound up being just looking at ugly men with no stimulating conversation. OLD causes you to scrutinize yourself, like viewing yourself with a scrotey third person male gaze, guessing which combination of pics and words will attract a man who’s probably trash anyway. We have infinitely better ways to use our time. If we feel lonely we can find other avenues to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:53 PM
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The worst part is when your bf tries to make it sound like it’ll be so great. Then the reality is, it’s anything but. It was mostly work. Living alone is a dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:23 PM
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The part about what an illusion it is to live with your bf is so spot on. Omg. When I first lived with my ex there was a moment I was folding our laundry and had an epiphany like wtf am I doing? I’m doing chores for a man who never takes me on dates. I’ve been happily single and I can’t seem to find any desire to settle with a man again or even fuck them. Going on dates? Sure. But I love the life I’ve cultivated too much to allow a man the chance to impose on it. I love to see other women happy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:05 PM
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I’ve unfollowed so many meme pages due to this shit. The normalization of abuse and absolute dog shit standards. The comments drive me mad, scrotes like where she at and pickmes presenting themselves as punching bags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:07 PM
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Omg. I know a guy who’s a new father. He literally posted a pic of his newborn son with the shit emoji on top of his head. I was so insulted for that poor baby. Scrote using his newborn son for the lols and internet points. What an immature jackass. Seriously, most men aren’t cut out to be fathers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:20 AM
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Am Latina. J lo does get a lot of heat for her relationships. On the one hand why is she going after such men like Marc Anthony who was a known playboy just like arod. Our culture is very family oriented and there is a definite thing about being single that women don’t like. My job is like 90% Latino and most of the married or engaged women talk about how shitty their men are, how they do everything and their husbands are useless. It’s normal to have a few kids by your mid 20s. It seems pervasiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:18 AM
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The straws that broke the camels back for me were him threatening to put my head on the wall (it was an ill advised quote from a tv show that he said out of nowhere and tried to say it was all for lols bro!) and him putting his hands on my throat during sex and attempting to choke me, which he’d never done before. I had endured a lot of other things with him such as disrespect and laziness, but when I felt I wasn’t safe anymore, that he could potentially hurt me, I kicked his ass out of my apart…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:10 AM
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Going to a concert or festival can be lots of fun, Unfortunately the scrotes can ruin a good time. I don’t wanna be holed up never enjoying anything in life and unfortunately we have to protect ourselves if we do decide to enjoy live entertainment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:52 PM
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I finally dumped my ex for good thanks to fds 😆I love when other women see the light and dump their lvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:25 PM
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I went to a small event yesterday. Everything was great until the very end, some guy touches my hip as I’m trying to get through the crowd. I whip around and yell don’t touch me, and kept walking. I wasn’t about to give some scrote any more attention. He was clearly so starved for attention and disrespectful that he’d try and grab a woman because he can’t get me to look at him any other way. I did let the event planners know of the incident and they informed me earlier in the day another man wen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:51 PM
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Intimidatingly good looks lol I’d probably make seeing a man like this irl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:03 PM
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Yea I wasn’t sure if I should be blunt but I didn’t want us to keep hanging out and have him potentially develop feelings to only hurt him later since I’m not interested in dating him. I didn’t think it would be a big deal if he truly meant us to hang platonically, which I have no problem with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:10 PM
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Lmao yea my guy friend invited me to dinner and drinks. When I clarified we were going as friends he said he meant it as a hang out not “like that”. I said I was down to go but then he never followed up with the plans 🤣 and I wasn’t about to go prodding about it. I wound up making plans with a girlfriend instead ✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:42 PM
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These tiktoks give me life. Saved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:50 PM
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This is so important. Don’t do anything for a man that you’d resent if you were to break up. This helps me identify what my boundaries are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:47 PM
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Yup. Even if we’re blunt about wanting to be strictly friends that doesn’t stop them from lying about their intentions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:06 PM
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I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Men will rarely approach respectfully irl and develop a report with you to eventually ask you out on a proper date. They’re fearful of rejection which must sting twice as bad if the woman is super beautiful and takes care of herself. And with OLD they can easily become courageous and audacious because they’re protected by a screen. If a woman rejects them on OLD it’s not like they were dealt the blow irl. They can somewhat save face. Very few men irl w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:08 PM
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yesterday one of my guy friends asked if I was free next weekend for dinner and drinks at like 8-9pm We went out to eat once before and it felt totally platonic I debated myself whether or not to bluntly ask, or to just let it ride. But everyone around me said if I suspected something I should nip it in the bud. I didn’t want to assume anything so I came right out and asked if we were going as friends. To which he said yes, he didn’t mean it any other way. I suppose time will tell if he keeps wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:52 PM
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That lady is gorgeous and they’re throwing a hissy fit because she won’t entertain some cheap ass men. LOL so instead of being like “hmm I’ll offer some better dates” they wanna try to drag her down to their level. We’re literally giving men the blueprint on how to be better, high quality men and their response is to reeeee about it. Sounds like they’re triggered because they can’t provide what a beautiful woman like her is asking for. It’s nice when they snitch on themselves though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:54 PM
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Thanks for sharing! 1000% agree. My ex rushed past courtship. He didn’t woo me like at all, to the point where we had a fight where I said you aren’t wooing me after like 2 months together. We went on two dates then he relegated us to park walks, gym,and home cooking dates. I legit have a diary entry talking about how he seemed great on paper yet in practice he hadn’t developed any true emotional feelings. He hadn’t worked to get into a relationship with me but I was giving him so much (I was a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:45 PM
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Yea I used to think the same thing. the jig will be up when she’s like damn how come he never takes me anywhere fun? Can’t change a boring man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:00 PM
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Cheers! To freedom to do whatever the fuck you want!🥂🍰✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:53 AM
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My ex was the same!! It was always me saying I wanted to go to some cool destination, him saying oh me too, then never making one single solitary move to do so. Not getting a passport and never looking into any details to plan a trip. So I started going without him and he’d get jealous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:53 AM
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My gym rid the mask requirement. Since I’m fully vaccinated, I took it off for cardio only. I certainly felt naked and I’m tempted to keep wearing it just for the freedom it gives me and privacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:58 AM
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I love me some pretty boys 😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:52 PM
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Lmao! Love to see it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:39 PM
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When you’re first seeing a guy, don’t let him use the excuse that he was in a LTR before you as a reason to not get tested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:07 PM
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Same. I don’t watch porn, much less anal porn. So it let me know that he was probably watching it and fantasizing about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:34 PM
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Lmao! That perfectly describes my ex. On the outside and in public, attractive well groomed. At home, constantly farting on himself, disheveled hair, bad breath, couch creature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:50 PM
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Ha honestly staying single is bliss and posts like this reaffirm my desire to stay child and marriage free. My apartment is as clean as I want it. I never go to bed with my kitchen dirty. I pick up after myself. I can enjoy whatever I want and not worry about a bf shitting on the things I love or having to remind him to take care of himself. And no man thinking I can’t do x y z because I’m in a relationship. I’m so glad I realized this in my 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:13 PM
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I had a friend in high school that I often went to see movies with. Once we graduated I learned that he had a crush on me way back when. Eventually in college one night he texted me asking if we could be fwb. I flat out said no. He eventually stopped talking to me when he got a gf lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:49 PM
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I’ve been running into this predicament lately. One of my make friends took me out for a birthday dinner. Nothing fancy, considering we’re friends and it wasn’t a date, he still paid. Didn’t make a move on me or anything. Another guy shares a lot of my interests and recently said he’d like to hang out. I met him within a larger friend group so I basically said yea I’d love to hang out with the group. It’s always in the back of my mind that men will sort of tinker around you to test the waters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:59 AM
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How he talks about the future. Does he talk about all the benefits that he’d get from marrying you? Does he say you’ll be able to get HIM so many things with your money? Say he wants you to be his wife but won’t say he wants to be your husband? To me these indicate a very selfish gold digging man who won’t reciprocate and expect loads of perks from you without giving back, like he wants a sugar mama. When it comes to fun activities is he stringent in what he’ll do for fun? Aka only doing what he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:43 PM
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I used to ask my ex straight up what porn he watched. He would adamantly refuse to tell me. But he’d often use porn as justification for things I should let him do to me. For example, in trying to get me to do anal he said I’d love it because Latinas in porn love anal. (😒😒😒). I’m dubious if a man says he doesn’t watch porn or if he just isn’t telling you. They’ll snitch on themselves eventually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:32 PM
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He’s gonna drop her as soon as he finds his dream woman. I can feel it in my bones and he’ll have no qualms about providing for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:17 PM
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Didn’t they say if we treated men like a king they’d treat us like a queen? 🤔🤔Without her, he arguably wouldn’t have achieved what he did. He had a mommy bangmaid of almost a decade helping him save money by having her split bills 50/50. He doesn’t value her or her contributions at all. She needs to follow her gut and dump his selfish ass. She’s doing way too much for a dude not that invested in her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:38 PM
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My father used to watch porn when my brother and I were in the same room!!! I’d be playing some game on the computer with my brother then turn around and be like omgg wtf, I could see the TV reflection in the mirror. I happily cut that dude out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:18 PM
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My ex was a gamer but he also lifted. He was still a couch creature all the same even if he had muscle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:56 PM
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Depends on the severity of your case. If you have mild crowding you’ll have better symmetry of your smile most likely. But correcting an over/underbite will have a dramatic improvement in someone’s face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:53 AM
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The more women wake up, the less women they have at their disposal to exploit. If women collectively decide to want better from men, all men will have to improve themselves and they’re just not willing to do the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:01 PM
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Same. I’m not about to be hitting the gym 5x a week and dating a couch creature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:58 PM
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To this day young John Frusciante was the pinnacle talent +pretty boy looks to me. Arthur Nory is also handsome af seriously ladies look him up his smile is to die for😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:56 PM
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I ventured onto OLD to confirm if it was as bad as we all already knew. Tldr: it was. The men in my age range seem to reach a tipping point after they turn 30, it’s like they ride the fast track to premature aging. I value self care and there’s no way I’ll ever date a man who doesn’t take care of himself to the same extent I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:47 PM
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Didn’t know what penis papules were but looked it up and 😱😱😱 I’ve never encountered it but it’d be a definite turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:51 PM
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I’m looking to start investing this week, make some dr appointments, wash the loads of pollen off my car and other car maintenance, stick to my nutrition and exercise plan with bodybuilding, and possibly get some new stylish work attire since I will be full time again for the first time since covid hit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:39 PM
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Same! I love being pampered. I got laser hair removal on my armpits and Brazilian because I hated body hair ever since I hit puberty. Had nothing to do with porn or men. All men I was intimate with never cared if I was stubbly or hairy. I just love not having to itch from hair regrowth and being bikini ready. Men around my way prefer the plain Jane look which works perfectly because I prefer to be dolled up and make an effort, I don’t do it because I’m trying to attract them. It wouldn’t attract…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:25 PM
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Yes! Before Invisalign my jaw would shift to the left when I bit down. Now my bite is even and no more shifting. Fixing your teeth makes your face more harmonious and does wonders for your confidence! Enjoy the ride and take plenty of progress pics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:43 PM
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In my experience the first couple trays were a feeling of pressure and sharpness when I bit down. Like I couldn’t even chew all the way. For like 90% of the time I had no pain though. I kinda liked the feeling of pressure when I’d switch to a new tray. The last tray hurt similar to the first but ymmv
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:49 PM
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I finished Invisalign and feel fantastic. I’ve been glowing up in so many ways in the past year and a half. It may seem small or inconsequential but there was a time I didn’t indulge in girly interests despite loving them. My ex molded me into a female version of himself and the covert control totally changed me. Little by little once we broke up I started shedding the old ways he taught me to be, which didn’t serve me or my genuine interests at all. Its crazy just how much someone can influence…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:23 AM
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Lmao wow I was looking at my last relationship through an fds lense and had I known what I know now my ex never would’ve made it past OLD. in our first few conversations he brought up his ex unprovoked. I later found out he’d broken up with her mere weeks before we met on OLD, though I had confronted him back then about whether I was a rebound to which he denied. So many red flags just talking on OLD that I swept under the rug. even though he sent me the first message and asked for my fb at the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:19 PM
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I was very tempted this weekend to reach out to my ex because of the cat. I stayed with our cat because I thought it’d be best for him, instead of having him get readjusted to new living conditions. I also thought since I paid for him years ago when we adopted I should keep him. Lately I’ve been so busy that I haven’t had time to care for him properly and he’s driving me up the wall. This is exacerbated by the fact that he’s tracking litter everywhere, throwing up multiple times a week when my a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:59 PM
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My ex told me that his ex was too into her social media, that posting selfies was narcissistic and showed low self esteem. Even though he never outright said I shouldn’t post on social media I internalized the above and essentially disappeared online. I fell out of touch with many people. Nowadays I use social media to be social given pandemic, have reconnected with many people, and I’ll post a fucking selfie for my friends and family if want to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:08 PM
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Yea the bar is so fucking low for men as parents. the impression I get is men make the babies and that makes them a father in their eyes. They don’t do nearly as much as mother’s do. I’ve heard so many women from all walks of life and socioeconomic backgrounds married or not, lament the same thing: they work full time and do everything for their baby (feed, bathe, dr appointments, knowing things like allergies, meds, etc) to the point they feel like a single parent. The dad is fucking clueless. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:13 PM
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When I was dating my ex for 6 months he said we’d get engaged in like 2 years (we were still in college). He didn’t bring it up again until we’d been dating for 4 years, saying he’d want to propose the following spring. Spring came and went. We’d had lots of ups and downs and I was convinced he was staying with me out of convenience. He was such an lvm though and I had doubts about marrying him if he ever did propose and then finally dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:43 PM
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She is! @herspectivefeminist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:21 AM
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Omg I knew a girl who wrote a blurb just like this maybe 6 years ago. Her husband is a guy who was engaged, found out his fiancée cheated then they broke up. She met him maybe two months after he dumped his fiancée. This guy was 7 years older than her (she was 23) and moved her into his house after like 2 months of dating. They’re married now for almost 3 years, but last I checked he follows hella pages of nearly naked women on fb and he’s a cop. He’s also been super rude and sarcastic to her op…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:10 AM
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I remember being horny one time and telling my then bf about it except I was on my period. He said he didn’t care and wasn’t grossed out at all by it. He was close with his mom so I wonder if she exposed him to the reality of periods when he was young. Nevertheless was pretty cool to have a bf that wasn’t afraid to sail the Red Sea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:42 PM
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Thanks! And omg do it! The one I made came out so well! I used this recipe, highly recommend https://www.indulgewithmimi.com/fresh-strawberry-cream-japanese-cake-roll/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:11 AM
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Tysm!🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:41 PM
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It’s my birthday month and the first one I’ve had single in 6 years. I took a small trip with a friend where I got to check off multiple things on my bucket list, visited some nice places in the city and will be making myself a Japanese cake roll for my birthday. It’s amazing how much better my life is without my lvm ex who was a couch creature. I’ve been able to give myself such an amazing birthday month meanwhile he never even knew of one gift to get me. It got me thinking about how so many wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:07 PM
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one of my ex fwb said I had a “textbook pussy”. My ex said I was a unicorn which I thought was a good thing but then realized it’s because I was a pick me doormat that did everything he wanted and let him mold me into his dream woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:16 PM
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The first period after the vaccine was normal. Second one came a week early. Now I’m waiting for the third to start and it’s a week late. I’m not sure that it’s due to the vaccine because I quit the pill in December. I assume my cycle is still adjusting after being on the pill almost 6 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:51 AM
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I love looking good and have been trying to reconcile that against my distaste for the lvm gaze. When shopping for swimsuits I realized how pick me tendencies were still engrained in me. I questioned why I’d go for a skimpier two piece over a stylish and pretty one piece. I remember my ex painting one pieces as ugly. So I went ahead and got the pretty one pieces because they were flattering and fashionable. Pick meism can be so deeply engrained that we don’t even notice how it can influence our …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:53 PM
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The movie Knocked Up was on tv last night. Career woman gets pregnant by a loser guy after a ONS. I was just like uggghh the whole entire premise sucked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:04 AM
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Lmao! Block and delete gets under their skin so badly to the point he’d accept your insults to him if that meant he got attention. Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:02 PM
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This is the first time since I started dating in my late teens that I’ve been single and had no desire for sex. Back then I always kept at least one ex close by in case I wanted to hook up. I went off the pill after I broke up with my ex but my libido died even before that. Its been 5 months and shows no sign of returning. I wonder if its a combination of residual pill effects suppressing sex drive and the extent to which my ex turned me off. Nevertheless it makes being single easier when you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:51 PM
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I saw my ex at the grocery store yesterday. After almost five months of strict no contact it threw me for a loop. When I noticed it was him I promptly walked the other way. I felt the worst, most sickening feeling and needed to get away from there. I read that our fight or flight response can be activated when we see exes which explains my reaction. I know it takes a long time to heal from a LTR and I want to get to a place where I feel indifference towards him without any negative reactions. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:16 PM
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I broke up with my ex in October and he was out in November. We dated 5 years off and on. The day he moved out he texted me asking to let him know if he left anything and asking if we could have an arrangement where he’d get to see the cat (who stayed with me). I got home and numerous things of his including broken furniture and garbage were left behind. I was flabbergasted like clearly he left things. I never responded but simply blocked and deleted on everything imaginable. In one of our previ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:12 AM
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I love how badass you were to go to his house and dump him without any of that cOmMuniCation garbage or gaslighting! That shows a ton of strength especially in the way you held tightly to your resolve. Love to see it, love this energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:21 AM
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“Don’t be afraid to take up space “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:13 AM
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Hmmm I’ve watched Stephanie for years and I used to be a fan but not since all in. Idk that Jeff is high value. For example she bought him a machine to train his neck that cost thousands for his bday last year. He didn’t get her any gift nearly as expensive, not that the cost matters but she seemed to have invested more in him than he did for her. Also the fact they’ve been dating for 5 years and she seems to be a forever gf. They still have separate residences, visiting each other for months at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:00 PM
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Same!! I’m looking forward to it 😎😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:20 PM
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I am so guilty of this. With my ex pre fds he’d sometimes pull up porn hub when he wanted sex. He’d ask me to find a video. I never understood why he put the onus on me to find one. But he was always tight lipped about what porn he watched or whether he watched at all alone. He was also notoriously bad at foreplay: no flirting, no kissing at all, barely any touching. Just here’s some porn, let’s fuck. I think it was his lazy way or trying to get me horny because I was never aching to jump his bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:16 PM
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I relate so hard to this. Once when waiting for the train, a stranger tried to scam my ex out of a train ticket. I stepped in when I realized, telling me ex not to give the guy money, then I crossed the turnstile onto the train platform. The stranger started calling me a bitch from the other side of the turnstile and spit at me. My ex claimed to have not seen or heard it. (He was a few feet away). I cried and cried, because not only was I assaulted for trying to protect my weak ass ex, he didn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:42 PM
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Lmao on my bday during quarantine my ex made me a dry chocolate cake when I don’t even like chocolate cake. Didn’t know what to get me so I made him give me money. Fuckin hell it doesn’t take much to put some effort in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:12 AM
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For me yes. I had never really heard of libfem vs radfem. once I hit college libfem ideals were everywhere but I wasn’t aware of the term. I remember in 2010 all these movies about fwb came out (friends with benefits and no strings attached) and I was just starting college. It definitely influenced me to try fwb which had me stuck in these situationships. That then became full blown pickmeism because doing fwb wrecked my self esteem and made me question why no man wanted to date me. So I became …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:24 PM
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I was leaving the gym yesterday and noticed a guy behind me was sort of scurrying to catch up to me in the parking lot. I heard someone asking me a question about my work outs, I turned around and it was some guy. It was super out of nowhere and awkward, I was taken aback at how abrupt he was. When he saw I reached my car he told me to have a nice day. I suspect as it gets warmer guys will try shooting their shot more often. I wish men were capable of being only friends but we all know most men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:10 PM
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My ex would say “take off your pants” as deadpan as possible. No kisses, touching or even mental stimulation. That was his idea of foreplay 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:28 AM
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I have so many. Similar to yours, I had my wisdom teeth taken out. The very next day as my mouth is still bleeding and swollen he asks for a bj ( we were dating like a month at that point). The time I let him come in me before we were even exclusive (🤡🤡🤡🤡), when I let him use my graduation money as a gift to his friend for his wedding, all the times I didn’t break up with him when he kept mentioning his ex, negging me, or purposely trying to make me jealous by legit saying “that soccer player is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:24 AM
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They really expect women to internalize this and sabotage themselves into accepting lower salaries to placate men? Lololol if dude is insecure about his salary go back to school or get a better job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:02 PM
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I love to see fds in action. I’m not dating yet, but posts like this are very inspiring to me. Good for cutting that dude off. He probably would’ve been whack anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:53 PM
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Ooof so I went on the pill years ago because my periods were so heavy I was bleeding through a tampon and pad and leggings under my pants. I was also doing the fwb thing and didn’t want the risk of pregnancy with all the mediocre sex I was having😩 when I met my ex, the first night we hooked up, he had no condoms and when I said I was on the pill he was fine going forward with no condom. I highly advise against this, we weren’t even in a relationship yet and I didn’t even come. I was super pick m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:22 AM
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I was always cognizant of my clothing. When I was 8 my mom sent me to fetch something from the car. It was summer and I wore shorts. When I came in she told me to be careful when bending over because men are perverts. In my teens my mom really hammered the “men are perverts” in my brain, I couldn’t even wear a skirt. Now that I’m older, I think it’s a damned if you do or don’t. Women in burkas still get harassed. If I choose to dress nice I accept I may get more stares than usual. It’s a trade o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:34 PM
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This sounds so legit. Definitely will be tuning in!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:14 PM
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Omg....role model!! I love that she’s so content with herself and has a life full of hobbies that bring her joy. This is what I aspire to be. Definite inspo right there 💕✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:14 PM
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I have somewhat similar experience. I was in grad school when I met my ex. Eventually he went back to school to finish his bachelors. When we graduated and started careers I made 2.5x what he did. He definitely had a complex because all he talked about was catching up to me. He managed to get a couple promotions but still was nowhere near me. I never made a big deal about his salary. But one day he asked if I was ashamed of how much he made. I said no. We had a lot of problems but his salary was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:00 AM
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I love this dream 😍😍I read a meme that said something like “true soulmates are our girlfriends not the men we marry” and honestly that rings so true to me. Who else is gonna indulge in the finer things in life while they’re playing vidya?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:02 AM
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Birthdays are always a soft spot for me. First she did way too much for his birthday. The tenet of “treat as you want to be treated” is oftentimes ignored by men. She’s his girlfriend and she set a standard for his birthday. She went all out. If he had any sense of reciprocation he would’ve given her a remarkable birthday. Instead he did nothing and to add insult to injury wants her to use bday money her friends gave her to pay for it. Audacious. This dude is just dating her for the sake of it, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:19 PM
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I’m almost the same as you! Broke up 4 months ago and wanting to also be single at least another year. Skincare is fun to me, I like researching the different product types and the science behind it. It’s a lot of trial and error until you find what works for your skin. I got a glow facial before and my skin looked amazing after! Makeup is the same way. I’ve found that it takes a lot of trial and error just finding what colors and brands/formulas work best against your skin type and tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:45 PM
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Ah I watched another video on this topic. It was from the perspective of a woman who is a lawyer and looking into match making. At one point her family is berating her because she wants to be single. She’s a lawyer and has standards, she won’t settle for just anyone. And they’re putting pressure on her to have kids and be married because of how it would make them feel. Her father literally says she is dumb because she got educated and won’t just marry the first Joe Schmo that comes around. Here’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:37 PM
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I totally agree. Luckily I haven’t been craving dick or male attention. I’m 4 months out of a stifling 5 year relationship and I love my freedom. I’ve had time to cultivate the relationships with my female friends and family members, hobbies and love living life by my schedule, not someone else’s. I’m also so disillusioned with men based off my last relationship and it’ll be a good long time before I feel healed enough to even consider dating again. I can’t fathom having the energy to invest in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:34 AM
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Bebe rexha-baby I’m jealous. This song is pure steaming shit. Basically talking about how jealous she is when her dude is liking pics of other girls and how insecure she is, looking at his browsing history and wearing a waist trainer. How someone sat there and thought that was a bop is beyond me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:30 PM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I made the mistake of relenting in conflict. After the first time I was shut down when trying to voice my concerns, every subsequent time I’d let it go out of desperation to avoid “starting drama”. It starts a bad habit. You keep things bottled up because it’s so painful for the person you love to dismiss you, so you don’t even give them the opportunity to do that again. Eventually it gets so bad that you blow up and suddenly you’re the bad guy. Life does not exist in a vacuum. Conflict is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:57 AM
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I was talking to my brother who’s only 3 years younger than me the other day about choking. Like why would anyone ever want to not be able to breathe during sex? Why would you want to simulate a violent action as you’re doing the most intimate action with a woman? My ex tried it on me and there was nothing erotic about it and it was half the reason I dumped him. Why is choking during sex a thing when you could go to jail for choking someone any other time? Why wouldn’t you rather kiss her neck t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:58 PM
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I fed into the idea that I should give the conventionally unattractive guy a chance because hot guys were shallow. That was the idea going around at the time. We were seniors in high school. He courted me and I found him cute in his own way. He was 5’8” with what they’d call a beta chin, a little overweight, and average penis. I still dated him. But guess what? It didn’t take long for him to be flirting with girls behind my back and other shady activities. Less attractive men are just as capable…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:41 AM
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Yea you should never date if you have hang ups over your ex. I was single for about 2 years between boyfriends because I took the time to heal so I’d be ready to date someone new. When I met my second bf on OLD one of the first conversations was him talking about how much free time he had now that he didn’t have to be with his ex. I was like wtf this is so out of the blue, why would you mention her? I made it a point to never mention exes because I was over them, and I didn’t want to make anyone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:40 PM
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I’ve been lucky in that I’ve enjoyed being home for like 90% of quarantine in the US. I got to reconnect with so many hobbies I didn’t have time for before, and I still enjoy my home time. I go to work part time and go to the gym 4-5x a week. I’ve been doing Invisalign for about 3 months. I’m grateful for the masks so no one can see me with it. I got off the pill 3 months ago and just had my first gnarly break out, again grateful to be at home and wearing masks so it’s not seen by many. Sometime…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:20 AM
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This is so important. My ex always felt some type of way if I did anything without him. Consequently, as I was a pick me, I abandoned everything about my personal life to become his shadow, thinking I had to because it would keep him happy. Luckily I snapped out of it while still in the relationship and started doing small things on my own, seeing friends, taking kickbox classes, going to concerts with friends, catching flights pre covid, even things like trying lash extensions. If you find your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:58 AM
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“So many women would love to have a husband that treats you the way I do” That phrase right there is him trying to create a scarcity mindset in you. He’s making it seem like other men won’t even do that bare minimum action that he did. And he shouldn’t be throwing it in your face either, he should want to see you happy. His statement is total lie too. My ex went down on me then said men don’t really do that, that I should feel lucky. Little did he know that before him, men would beg me to go dow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:54 PM
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If women hit the wall at 30, the milf category wouldn’t exist. But they make a whole ass porn category dedicated to older women that are sexually arousing. Your assessment is totally accurate too. I’m not quite 30 yet but there’s definitely a switch from early 20s vs late 20s with dating at least for myself. Early 20s I was unsure of myself and really hadn’t learned what I liked and disliked in relationships as I was inexperienced. That made me prime to be “molded” which is just gross how men tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:56 AM
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The wild thing is, to answer her question, he clearly has no interest in making her come. Like none whatsoever. The precedent has already been set. She’s already agreed to pleasing him sexually with no orgasm for herself. If he wanted to he would have a long time ago. She can facilitate his orgasms to the point where she’s suffering with a sore throat after but he can’t diddle her clit? Come on. Dick is plentiful. she needs to ghost his selfish ass. She really thinks she’s asking too much when s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:28 PM
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Me👋🏼👋🏼 I’m still so fatigued from my last relationship. I couldn’t fathom mustering the energy to go on a date with all the pomp and circumstance involved. I’m very drawn to the FDS attitude of self improvement, setting standards and holding firmly to boundaries. It’s the freshest breath of air, like rewiring my brain to undo all the pick me damage of the past. The n/lvm posts just remind me I’m not missing out. I love being single 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:29 AM
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Don’t date a guy like this ever. My ex was exactly this way. And the attitude never changed even after he made a comfortable income. It makes you hesitant to ask for anything or suggest things for fun because money is an issue. If he’s too broke to date he shouldn’t be dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:17 AM
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I second that idea! Ever since I was little my mom has gotten my siblings and I candy and a stuffed animal for Valentine’s Day. Always put a smile on my face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:55 AM
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A big girthy dick is more visually appealing. I only ever met one man I’d say was gifted. An average or smaller dick will have you like “is it even in?” Like you can’t even feel it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:10 PM
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I literally used to tell him that. I’d say let me fuck your ass with a strap on first, it’s only fair. Suddenly he wasn’t into 50/50 and equality anymore. He never took me seriously and this was in my pick me days. All it ever did was stress me out thinking “omg I need to like anal or he’ll dump me”. Wasn’t true and it’s not even worth staying with a man who’s always gonna be lusting after an act you don’t want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:05 PM
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Awesome! I’m currently 1/3 through Invisalign. Can’t wait for the results 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:54 PM
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YES! Worst thing was my ex pressuring me for years for anal. His justification? “But you’re Latina! Latinas in porn love anal!” I told him that shit ain’t real. It’s a fantasy like you taking me out and spending money. 😒As early as a couple months into dating he was bringing up anal and was a total jackhammer who in 5 years only got me off a handful of times. Also I read a thread where a woman bought butt plugs to practice for anal because her fuck Buddy wanted it. HER FUCK BUDDY. Never mind tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:05 AM
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I can’t wait to see how many new members we get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:12 AM
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I love these field reports. They remind me why I don’t bother with old. I went on okc in 2019 for a couple months on and off. I wound up wasting a lot of time just swiping. It was like the more you see the same dude the more likely you are to be like ‘ughhh I guess I’ll give him a chance’ and that’s how standards fall. I did so much swiping that it’d start over with men I’d already swiped left on. It was a huge waste of time as so few even had attractive profiles and it really doesn’t help your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:41 PM
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Sorry you went through that. Something like that happened to me too. Back in college I was hanging with a guy I’d gone on a couple dates with. We had sex like twice but I really didn’t want to be intimate with him anymore or date, just be friends. He invited me to his place and the whole time it was awkward because I knew he wanted to hook up based on the vibe. I spent like 2 hours distracting him with YouTube until he decided to pin my down on his bed and try to kiss me. I looked at him deadpan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:57 PM
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It’s a legitimate fear feeling like you gave and sacrificed so much to then find out the truth about the man whether you’re married or not. Part of that is we can lose ourselves in relationships doing everything for them, a very pick me phenomenon. I’m not for marriage because it sounds too stifling in theory and I don’t ever want to be pigeon holed into staying with a man. To avoid that pitfall, I’m going to exercise my independence for the rest of my life. If I happen to meet a man I want to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:16 AM
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The crazy thing is I feel like most men would jump at the chance to have sex if it were offered to them, even if they did want a relationship. Like probably all the men on OLD would say yes to a hookup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:12 AM
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Ha I will never engage in fwb ever again. Seeing these things just confirm my stance. Haven’t done it since 2014 in college and definitely don’t miss the mind games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:30 AM
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In another sub there was a thread about dating during the pandemic. Dude literally said he pitches low effort walk/coffee dates off the bat to set that standard early on. We didn’t need confirmation but it just solidifies why we should never agree to cheap dates. Once you agree to it, that sets the tone and he will think you’re ok with walk dates like you’re a dog
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:26 PM
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I’ve been watching videos by “our rich life” on YouTube and they explain things in a way that makes sense. Also reading articles on nerdwallet in regards to investing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:12 PM
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There’s way too many memes sexual and deviant in nature that get thousands of likes. Memes definitely promote degrading sex and even if they’re a joke people see it and think it’s all the rage to be getting choked or any other depravity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:27 AM
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Your description was bang on. My ex was just as you described. Smart but hella boring and set in his ways. He loved how cheerful and refreshing I was. Back in those days I was very optimistic, free spirited and down for anything. As time went on I was essentially a supporting character in his life. I definitely became a shell of myself as well. Something such as sexuality and expressing myself through intimacy had been stripped from me by dating such a man who had no clue how to open up. I turne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:28 AM
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In 2019 I stumbled onto my ex’s old profile (pre-fds) I lol’d at the amount of pics he used that had me cropped out of them. I also scoffed at how he described himself as wanting someone with empathy (this guy had no empathy whatsoever) and was looking to go with the flow. What a joke. He also had underwear so old it was see through
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:46 PM
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I finally had the courage to pull the plug after my ex tried to choke me during sex and joked about putting my head on the wall. I was so disturbed for my safety that I ended it. That was the first time in 5 years he ever showed that side. The relationship had been dying for a while and it was hard for me to end it because I hate being the one who gets painted as the bad guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:15 AM
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Wanting to have sex with you means nothing. Wanting someone genuine to put effort into an actual date and taking care of you? That shit is so hard to come by. You can’t even mention going on dates to scrotes because of the knee jerk reaction of why they must spend money if there’s no sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:21 PM
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Also someone posted this video the other day and I think it might help! https://youtu.be/6dOZaXNuUUE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:39 PM
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The part about leveling up that op got wrong is where they include others giving a fuck. When we level up we do it for ourselves. You determine what leveling up means to you, and adhere to your standards for yourself not because you want some scrote to validate or notice you. Do it because it makes you feel good. It can be as simple as having great hygiene daily or include doing your hair and makeup with a cute outfit if that’s what you want. It all comes down to putting the effort into yourself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:36 PM
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Before I even started my career, my ex was practically frothing at the mouth imaging all the shit I could buy him with my money, nice house, etc. once I graduated. All fringe benefits for him. He even thought we should get a joint account eventually, meanwhile he was cheap as fuck. Any chance he had to use my money on something he did, like wanting me to use my graduation money for his friends wedding 😡so important to not give money to men, ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:16 AM
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I love peach scents as well! How are you liking this scent so far?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:14 PM
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HVM would want you to have a great career for your own independence. Financial independence is the bulwark against being trapped in a shitty relationship. Men feel in control when they make more, like they can call the shots on what you guys do, where you live, etc. when you have your own money, or even make more, they will feel emasculated and threatened if they see you doing better than them, true story. If you have money you have an out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:28 PM
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No one said he had to date a spoiled woman. He should just say he’s broke and keep it moving
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:17 PM
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They really do hold you back sometimes. My weekend routine with the ex was the same: sleep in, go to gym, supermarket, back to his place to watch tv all night or watch him play a game. I had no time for my family or friends. When we broke up (pre covid) I went on so many dates, went out with friends 2x a week, booked flights, it was amazing. I love being single because the freedom is refreshing, after you’ve been with a dude that just holds you back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:52 PM
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I mentioned wanting to get filler for my under eyes. My ex was adamantly against it. He thought filler, botox and all that were vain and superficial. I got it anyway and I enjoyed it. My makeup went on smoother. I didn’t do it for men, I did it for myself because I like to feel confident. One side of my face was obviously flatter than the other and it remedied that. That was a year ago and I haven’t gotten any touch ups because it kinda freaked me out having needles in my face lol I’m all for re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:02 PM
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I feel like my first relationship was the only one that felt kinky but not in a fucked up bdsm way. Since my first bf was my first experience for everything, we started with the basics like oral and missionary before naturally progressing. At one point we were long distance and did like a cyber masturbation on Skype. Had period sex, and he had no qualms about touching himself if I asked him to, because it was a turn on to me. I haven’t met another guy who was as fun. One ex straight up refused t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:35 AM
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When you start dating he might talk himself up to be more interesting than he actually is. I met my last ex on OLD. one thing I had in my Profile was I loved electric guitar. One of the first things he told me was he played guitar. Guess what? He hadn’t actually played in like 10 years. So in my head I’d created a fantasy that I met a guy who’d be playing guitar for me (super turn on) yet he actually forgot how to play guitar, which was the part he left out. He basically lied about something tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:44 PM
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My ex literally abandoned me in the subway because the train came and went. He was waiting in line to get a token like a dumbass when I gave him a token to avoid said line. When the train left without us he demanded the apartment keys to go home. I then went downtown alone. He messaged me apologizing for his temper tantrum then asked what he should make for dinner 😑He didn’t bother meeting me at the subway and as we live in a sketch area I was harassed by a man on the way home. He was waiting at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:20 PM
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Omg that’s horrible! Glad that you didn’t catch any stds from that pos. This just affirms why we don’t tell men what we want or are looking for. They’ll pander to that exact thing and lie by omission to get what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:09 AM
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My first boyfriend was great at gift giving. While he was wooing me, he painted me a rose on a small canvas for my 18th birthday that I have to this day. He also picked flowers from his moms garden as a bday bouquet and it was beautiful, I still remember the prettiest string of bleeding hearts. He always bought me these beautiful ornate bouquets just because. And for Christmas one year I gave him a list of things I wanted and he got the best version of everything I wanted. Like one thing was a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:00 AM
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I had a moment recently where I almost considered dating apps again if only to stave off covid boredom. But then I remembered what an actual cesspool it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:07 PM
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It is and in my pick me days I thought it was just something I had to do. that’s why fds is so important! It wasn’t until I found fds that I learned it was ok to say no to sex because fuck their feelings and I definitely told my ex’s low value ass NO. it felt amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:54 AM
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Nothing stopped my ex from wanting sex. He actually wanted a bj while my mouth was bloody and swollen after wisdom tooth removal. Another time I was recovering from a cold so bad I lost my voice and nearly coughed up my lungs and he still wanted sex. Couldn’t even wait til I was well or try to make sure I was healthy enough. It’s like we’re not even people, just fleshlights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:47 AM
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I used to have no qualms about ghosting or slow fade a decade ago. I really was raised to think men only wanted sex and as a result I was super picky in my late teens early 20s. Then Hollywood came along and I was fed the fwb lies. Remember the movies no strings attached and friends with benefits?? Yea they made whole ass movies trying to push that agenda and unfortunately it worked on me. Fwb or even fuck buddies shattered my self esteem and turned me into a pick me when in my teens I was more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:48 AM
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There’s needs to be an entire cultural shift where we stop giving men the benefit of the doubt in these scenarios. If it looks, walks and talks like a duck, it’s a mf duck! There’s no way around it. No amount of mental gymnastics will change the outcome that this man ain’t gonna commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:43 AM
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Can confirm. In my pick me days I clung to some traditional notions such as men should be provider and protector and women would be nurturers. I nurtured as hard as I could. But when the going got tough the man who I thought would protect me disappeared. For example I was assaulted in the subway and he was a mere few feet from me. Did nothing and said he didn’t see or hear it happen. Another time I was stranded in a shoddy part of town and needed a ride about 15 min from home with poor internet …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:06 PM
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Towards the end of my relationship my ex put his hands on my throat during sex. He had never done it before and never asked if it was ok. He had squeezed enough for it to be uncomfortable. In the moment I was like wtf. He was always very hush hush about his porn usage. I knew he watched but only when I was never around. We only lasted about 3 months after that before I dumped him. Sad they’d rather choke you than kiss your neck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:17 AM
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If this guy stays with her I guarantee he’ll try to slow fade out of paying for shit to see if she’ll pick up the financial slack. And I hope she kicks his cheap ass to the curb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:15 PM
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I relate to this. Moved in with my ex because we went to the same college, had been dating 1.5 years by then. About a month in I was folding our clothes and thought “omg I hate this”. It felt like I was married with all the chores and responsibility and none of the sweet benefits, like dates or being treated as anything other than a roommate. My relationship endured because of the lease as well. We separated after college and then were together living separate for about a year before we tried li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:27 PM
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It helps me to recognize when that little voice in the back of my head is trying to influence me. For example I body build. The best pic I ever took was of my back with no shirt on, flexed. I wanted to post it as I’m proud of my progress. I went back and forth debating whether I should, because I was so convinced by my ex that posting anything was bad especially of my body. I said fuck that and posted anyway. It’s hard at first, but when you hear that voice telling you not to, even if it’s somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:32 PM
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My ex was so controlling he convinced me I shouldn’t post selfies because only “insecure women” did that. Ever since I dumped him I make it a point to unabashedly post a pic when I look nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:22 AM
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I used to stonewall my ex for up to month at a time. Once it was because he dutch ovened me (because a piece of equipment he bought didn’t work) and he was pissed off about it. When we finally sat to talk he didn’t know why I had been so upset because apparently farting on your girlfriend isn’t disrespect to him. I aired out one of my grievances which was he doesn’t plan shit. Literally the next day he gives me his keyboard to go searching for rentals for the beach. Like bro I just told you I do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:02 PM
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“Go with the flow” aka “looking for someone to let me fuck with no expectations”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:00 PM
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Yes love that song!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:36 AM
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Once Iwas hanging with a male friend from college. We walked over an empty magnum wrapper on the street and he insinuated he was so big he’d need a magnum. (I knew he was a virgin) I was like 🙄 not even gonna entertain that. I’ve found you can’t bring up anything remotely sexual with a male friend. But sometimes they’ll just bring it up on their own to test the waters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:54 PM
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I’ve never faked an orgasm in my life. If the dude wasn’t doing it I told his ass straight up. Luckily I missed whatever indoctrination said women should appease men who are terrible in bed by faking it. OP should get a vibrator and quit worrying about babying these men who are masturbating into her. Or find a man who will give a damn to learn her body so she can come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:24 PM
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Same, sister! My ex was god awful at celebrating anything. Went on and on about how birthdays were meaningless and ol pick me went and tried to treat as I wanted to be treated. That meant years of planning fun shit for his birthday (ax throwing, go karts, zip lining) and what did he do for my birthday? Either nothing, a gift card, or making a shitty cake in a flavor I don’t even like. Lmao never again will I accept such poor consideration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:31 PM
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I’d love to see a satire FDS version of this😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:20 PM
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Fuckin hell this sentiment is spot on. When I was a pick me with my ex, I remember noticing how he was influencing me early on and saying to him “you’re molding me into who you want me to be”. 🤦🏽‍♀️ it wasn’t long before our relationship was essentially him living his life with me as his shadow. It revolves around his wants, needs, his likes, his family and friends. I lost myself entirely. I felt if I were to try and incorporate what I love, it would be met with resistance. I’d talk about the th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:57 AM
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Just more attempted normalization of cheating and mass movement to get women to lower their standards even more 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:34 PM
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I relate. I’m very picky. I love pretty boys (think young John Frusciante) and it just so happens when I find a man attractive irl he’s gay. I think the fact that gay men tend to put more attention into their looks than majority of straight men is what makes them attractive to me . I go to the gym often and very few actually have legit bodies (most are average gym goers) and of those with hot bodies, even less have handsome faces. I don’t think your standards are too high it’s just that the pick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:45 PM
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I have experience with this. In my last super pick me relationship, my ex was working a dead end job making minimum wage, living at home, quit college like halfway through when we met 🚩🚩🚩I certainly ascribed to the libfem equality shit and believing in potential. He paid for the first two dates, we became official and he didn’t take me on another date for over a year. He loved park and gym dates and cooking at home because “restaurant food isn’t even good”. He made me split groceries every singl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:50 AM
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Lol wow I guess he really felt seen by the person at the massage parlor who had sex with him. I’m sure it had nothing to do with the fact they were probably paid for it. Trashed a marriage and family for sex at a massage parlor. Just, wow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:50 PM
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My ex would work out every logistic when we went to show or festival that he chose and pester me to help him. But if it were something I wanted to do such as a dinner date I had to plan it all by myself with no input from him and he literally told me so. They put effort into what they care about. It just so happens men hate going on the kind of dates that we would love. As we’ve said before, if he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:39 PM
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That’s a good point. Even if we were on good terms with the family, we never know if they’re in cahoots with our ex to get contact to us. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:48 PM
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Oh man my life has been so much better. I was with my on off ex of 5 years. He moved in when the pandemic hit. I always had doubts but it wasn’t until fds that I had the courage to end it. His behavior got worse during covid, and I finally saw him for who he was and caught the ick. he was a “nice guy” so that type is always harder to get rid of. When I found fds my confidence increased. I redirected any attention I would’ve put into the relationship into myself. I became more selfish: focus on m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:39 PM
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Do I delete and block my ex’s family too? He wasn’t close to his mom at all, after 5 years I’d say I talked to her more than he did. Any queens have experience with this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:29 PM
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It’s the desperation for me. So desperate to have a man that you’d accept candy on your finger. You just know if a dude gave her a ring pop she’d act like she’s happy but be waiting for the real thing. Why would he marry her if it’s the thought that counts. Like “babe I gave you a ring pop you’re already wifey we don’t need papers or a wedding. it’s the thought that counts”. These women just don’t think highly of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:29 PM
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She hit the nail on the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:13 AM
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I used to always reserve my weekends for my ex in case he wanted to do something. He never did. We lived together and I was so sick of asking to go on a date and being told let’s go walk around downtown as if that’s a date. So I started going out without him. Like a puppy with his tail between his legs he said “you can go out with me too”. He had ample opportunity to go out with me. He literally just wanted to tag along without having to think or put effort. It didn’t make him want to plan dates…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:04 PM
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I was you. Seriously, he won’t change. He’ll behave at first. They always seem to respond to negativity to move their ass just enough to pull their fat from the fire. But once the heat has died down, it’s right back where you started. I lived 5 years of this. If you think he’d suddenly become the type of man to want to take you out spontaneously, he won’t. We project what we wish they were onto them, keeping a fantasy alive about one day. That is not who he is. He has shown you who he is; a man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:59 PM
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When you look back at that beautiful hopeful girl, don’t approach her with anger and disappointment. Have that conversation with your younger self but approach it with caring and forgiveness. Say it’s ok that we went through that, we can’t change the past and now you’re older but so much wiser. Say it as if you’re talking to your younger self. Forgive her, and offer comfort as in to say it’s ok because you didn’t know better, and we’ll never let it happen again, and you’ll protect yourself and k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:32 PM
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If they’ve been together for a while he should know her enough to be able to deduce at least one gift she might like. All it takes it paying attention and this guy is clearly buying things he wants to use. This is a sore topic for me. I love receiving gifts no matter how small. For my birthday this year, my ex didn’t get me anything. We’d been together 5 years at that point. I asked him 2 weeks before what he intended to do or get me and he just laughed like wait was I supposed to get something?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:44 PM
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I never fell into anything too kinky. I’m pro vanilla sex too. My first bf and I fooled around but didn’t have sex until over a year of dating. He was emotionally connected and at times it felt almost tantric. We also would orgasm at the same time and there was like a natural progression with sex. We’d start with traditional positions and then expand to incorporate something new as we explored each other. It felt more organic and genuine. It’s hard to ever get that from a fuck buddy, fwb and I i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:32 AM
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I was always afraid to ask for things or receive because at one point of another it would be used against me or thrown in my face. Like you, I’m very independent but trying to embrace my feminine energy more. I’ve been trying an experiment when it comes to doors. I’m a speed walker so if I approach a door and a man is as well usually I’d just hold it open for him. Lately I’ve been consciously slowing down and allowing them to open the door for me. I was a big pick me who always did everything fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:41 AM
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My ex used to love calling me bro and especially sloot when we started dating. Like wow ok call your gf a slut? Wtf! I was pick me so I was too afraid to speak up. That type of negging made me feel like he saw me as an actual bro and not a woman. It stripped me of feeling respected and feminine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:05 AM
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I agree. One of the biggest lessons I learned was to do everything I want even if it’s not with the person you’re dating. I made the mistake of relying on my LVM ex to do everything with me. He was controlling in an underhanded way. somehow I was made to feel guilty if I did anything without him. He was up my ass 24/7. He was also a petulant child about anything I wanted to do. If I got him to see my family or go out somewhere with me he’d be a sulking wet sack of a human just trudging along and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:55 PM
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It’s just a smear campaign and so nonsensical. Fds doesn’t advocate manipulative tactics to get what we want out of men. If the man doesn’t come correct the first time we cut him off and move on. We prioritize our own personal leveling up and being happy on our own so as not to fall for lvm/nvm shit, and certainly not breadcrumbing or being hot/cold to influence a guys behavior. Clearly this terrifies them. Imagine all women collectively shutting them down and raising our standards, they’d have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:49 AM
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One thing that sticks out to me is how you texted him like all day. I was reading “why men love bitches” and the idea is to make yourself somewhat scarce. Don’t bother with this guy cuz he’s just a pos, but just for future reference, the idea is to leave them wanting more. It also reinforces the idea that you be very involved in your own life:hobbies, friends, personal endeavors so that when you finally text them back it’s because you finally have the time to. That way you’re still prioritizing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:31 PM
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Lmfao I hope she didn’t tell him it’s dog food and then kicked him out when he was nice and full
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:02 PM
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Yea that’s like when my ex out of the blue said he wanted to mount my head on the wall but was totally jk because it was a quote from always Sunny. Then he had the audacity to try and make a disclaimer that if he says some weird shit I should just assume it’s an allusion to something. Fuckin psychopaths
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:59 PM
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This is a great point and something I’ll keep in mind if I ever start dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:57 PM
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This pisses me off something fierce. My ex had me give him a bj literally the day after wisdom teeth extraction while my mouth was still bloody. But he couldn’t get me pain meds when I asked him. She’s literally SICK and all he can think of is his dick. Not, “let me nurse you back to health” but “suck my dick for science” foh. Can’t get any more disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:56 PM
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Hmm in my own experience, I had been with my ex for 4 years when I started wanting a house in 2019. Was getting sick of renting, wasting money and all the rules I knew I didn’t want marriage (he mentioned wanting to get engaged to which I said I didn’t want to) but I did want a house. We had lived together before from 2016-2018 and I thought he was a decent roommate for doing the bare minimum. But then we moved in together again this year when corona hit and that convinced me that not only shoul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:47 AM
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Dude is such an asshole. He’s legit competing with his wife and feeling emasculated because she got a promotion. My ex was the same way. I made a little more than double what he made. One time I mentioned the salary of a couple people I know just to say how proud I was of them and he took so much offense. Saying I was making a dig at him and was I ashamed of his salary. I was like bro what lmao I really think men will see you as their competition and if you succeed more than they do they aren’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:52 AM
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Someone I know said she’d accept actual SHIT on her finger just so long as she knew her man was committed. she’s now married but instead of shit she wears a ring that she picked out and her husband got for her. I guess a ring does matter idk why they act like it doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:04 PM
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Her internal alarm is screeching but she’s putting it on silent. She’s waiting til she sees something egregious to prove her suspicions and not seem crazy. Hope she goes with her gut and gets out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:24 PM
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If he doesn’t want her to assume his height then why not just come out and say his height? lol he’s petrified of her reaction and it shows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:20 PM
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Lol we broke up last year for a brief time and seeing him at the gym back then gave me massive anxiety because I still believed in potential (🤮). This time though I’m totally at peace and seeing him there is more of a nuisance lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:58 PM
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My ex happens to go to the same gym as me. I purposely will walk the other way if I see him. I’m still no contact but it’s complicated by actually seeing him at the gym. I wouldn’t give him the time of day or bother being cordial. I wouldn’t want to give out any sign that could be construed as a welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:47 PM
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I feel you. I’ll tell you what I did. I started doing small things by myself in the daytime. I used to run errands down town every Saturday alone. As you learn your environment you learn how to lay low and what kind of people frequent these places. I’d purposely be frumpy with resting bitch face to deter attention and mace in my pocket if it was nighttime. (Hate that this is necessary but that’s the world we live in). With experience you can develop street smarts. I’m also constantly in contact …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:32 PM
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Old had its place for me when I was in college. I was super shy and men never hit on me. So my first dating app experience was okcupid in 2013. I met three men off there, only one became a relationship, one I just ended after 5 years on and off. I had a period of singledom last year and went on okc for the first time in 5 years. It changed a lot. And I’ve read it changed even more to where you have to pay for it? Yea I’m not about to do that. I used it last year to waste time, most men were supe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:08 PM
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I had a legit valentines date last year. I had met a guy at a nightclub who was pretty interesting and accomplished. A couple days before Valentine’s Day he asked if I had any plans and invited me out. He asked my favorite color as well. On the day of, I had intended to meet him at the restaurant but he showed up in his fancy jaguar to take me. He opened the door and we rode to the city with the top down and heat on. We got to the restaurant had dinner, he paid of course. Then we went and got de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:07 AM
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Spot on. When I first met my ex off old he took me on a restaurant date, a bar date, we had sex (before even being bf gf), then after we became official it was nothing but park walks, going to the gym, and the grocery store where he made me split half the groceries to then spend the weekend at his parents house. He preferred cooking at home to going to restaurants (yes he was broke living with his parents, college drop out with a dead end job). I was like ok so when are the fancy dates coming? H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:00 AM
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I went to festivals in groups and hated how one person always seemed to dictate who we saw an where we went. When I went to ultra last year alone and met up with people it was so much freer. The best thing about going to something like a concert alone is that you’re surrounded by people who share your interest. It’s automatically something to connect over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:48 PM
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I used to be the type that always waited for someone to come with me to do things I enjoyed. One night I said fuck it and went to a club to see a dj play. I met a woman there who then introduced me to an entire network of people who shared my musical tastes. I went from being petrified of going out alone to preferring it. I operate on my own schedule and you never know what interesting people you might meet. It’s very empowering and I recommend it to my shy people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:27 PM
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My newly single life has been going well 😁 it’s already been almost a month since my ex moved out. I have no qualms about being no contact. Fds was able to shatter the illusions I had about him. Unlike other break ups I’m not left anxious now or secretly wanting him to come back. The only downside is the only available gym nearby is one he goes to, I try to go super early to avoid crossing paths but it happened last weekend. He stayed out of my way and vice versa. I’d prefer not to ever see him,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:52 PM
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I hate this. It doesn’t work!! I know because I have 5 years of experience with my ex who I tried to teach by doing things for him that I wanted done for me. I used to write him love notes detailing how I felt about him. He said they made him feel amazing and maybe he should write one for me. Guess what? He didn’t until maybe a year later and while I might’ve given him 100 he gave me like less than 5. Another example if he was sick guess who gave up study time to go run to his house with medicin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:52 PM
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It sounds like insecurity and a desire to control you. My ex was like that. He’d make little comments about me wearing a dress or looking too nice. It was something I did for him but he made it seem like a bad thing. My ex was also a coward and would stand idly by when other men hit on me. So I think some men try to water us down in the hopes of reducing competition from other men, because if it were to happen they couldn’t hold their own in defending us, and of course controlling us so they fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:05 PM
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My ex acted tough in hypothetical situations. Since we went to school in the city I asked what would he do if some guy accosted me. He said he’d take the guy out. Then low and behold when the actual situation presented itself, I had to save myself. I didn’t want him to fight but damn at least acknowledge what’s happening and grab my hand to safety or something!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:42 PM
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Someone shared this the other day and it’s very relevant to your question! I’d encourage you to read through it https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B2DvhL9im5OxMmhrRG85NkJJTHM/view
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:02 PM
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They never take into account their role in killing our libido.like no dude I’m not gonna wanna fuck you when you sit there ripping ass so loud I can hear from the other room. Or when you’re being a lousy partner. It got to the point where I was dreading sex with my ex and finally told him NO. And my ex wondered why I didn’t initiate sex in like 3 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:14 PM
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Can confirm. My ex was cowardly. We were confronted by someone trying to scam him while in the city. I recognized it right away and tried to alert an authority while the scam artist started calling me bitch and spitting at me. My ex totally tuned the whole thing out and alleges he never heard the stranger yell at me or assault me meanwhile we were within like 5 feet of him. My ex also let a rando in the gym hit on me in front of him, not even stepping in to say back off or anything. I couldn’t r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:17 PM
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This guy is a coward. How can a married man sit by and not defend his wife when his friends are being jerk offs? He can’t be empathetic for one second and think of how she feels for HIS friends to be making disgusting comments towards her? Seriously? Hope she leaves him permanently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:08 PM
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One time I was in my ex’s bedroom and noticed a box under his bed. I was curious so I picked it up and he went panic mode because he didn’t want me to see what was in it. I conceded left the room and came back. He let me look inside and said “I didn’t want you to see the supplements I had or you’d think I was on steroids”. There was some old ass bottle of supplements in the box and other shit. I wouldn’t have cared if he’d done steroids in the past. I didn’t believe a word of it and to this day …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:25 PM
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I’m getting sick of women being so gaslit. Clearly she’s in a fucked up situation. So many posts all over Reddit where the woman questions if she has a right to feel the way she does. We really need to do better. And she needs to throw this man in the gutter where he belongs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:21 PM
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That has definitely crossed my mind. One of his long term friends works with people with mental health conditions and said he showed signs of aspergers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:05 AM
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Wowowow “because women are not facing actions that are not obviously abusive or coercive, they have difficulty recognizing them...why do so many women feel bad without being able to say why?” it’s hurtful how eye opening this is in retrospect as I see so many descriptions that fit my ex. To realize how toxic my relationship actually was, I honestly feel bad for my younger self for putting up with it. My ex was for all intents and purposes a “nice guy” to others. But I was always unhappy in the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:41 AM
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There are creeps at my gym too. This one dude in particular has to be like over 50, he’ll do something on a smith machine then hang on the bar as he stares at everyone for a good few minutes. The squat racks are directly across and more than once I’ve been sumo deadlifting directly across from him and feeling awkward af that my ass is in the air and this dude can stare freely. I only ever used to wear long shirts which covered my ass. I wear crop tops now and essentially tune out everyone around…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:09 AM
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Same. I think once we’re fed up with them we know for sure that there’s no facade they can sell us to weasel their way back in. This happened with my ex. Pre fds I kept believing in potential but I dumped him once I accepted he is who he is and that person actually grosses me out. There was nothing left for me to experience with him for him to prove himself to me and no loose ends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:46 PM
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I think it’s true for me. In my experience, any man I was sexually involved with always came back anywhere from a few days after breaking up to 6 months later. Back then I entertained them, sometimes getting involved again because I was bored, horny,or felt like we could work things out. I learned that I was the type to keep giving men chances until they absolutely made me sick. Even when I knew we wouldn’t work out it’s like I had to let it run past the expiration so I wouldn’t feel I compelled…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:14 PM
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OMG you’re yes I meant why men love bitches. Went and fixed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:19 PM
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“Why men love bitches” touches on this. Men love the chase. When you’ve had enough of them and send em to hell that triggers them to want to chase, it’s a challenge. In our mind, when we love someone we go all in for them. We don’t need to play games. But men are like animals in that they get bored if there’s no chase. I hate it and wish it wasn’t that way but that’s why it’s so easy for them to take us for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:36 PM
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Yes! I expanded my succulent collection this year. I totally fell in love with them and the way they can be stressed to different colors. They’re finicky so I spent a good while researching how to care for them and their soil, light and water requirements. Twas a lot of trial and error but they’re going strong 🙌🏽 it’s a great feeling of accomplishment when you figure them out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:27 AM
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Been there done that. From ex bfs to ex fwbs. In the past I wouldn’t block them, just unfriend. Time would pass, they hit me up. Most of the time they wanted sex, or to apologize and then get sex. I think when we’ve had time to ourselves after breaking up, our brains automatically reflect and remember either whatever positives there were or everything with rose colored glasses. We want to believe people would improve. But the reality is, they hardly ever do. I learned that men usually have ulter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:53 AM
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If women only fuck chads that would disqualify a majority of men. They get no sex if that happens. It benefits ugly men if women lower their standards. When I started dating I did the whole “give the average guy a chance if he has a good personality”. Guess what, he was just as awful in his own way, flirting with girls behind my back and suddenly feeling like he was superior because of it. Then I said fuck that I’m gonna date men I’m actually attracted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:15 PM
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I just started reading it and I legit feel attacked so often because the “nice girl” in the book was legit me lol it’s very eye opening and I’m definitely learning a whole lot and seeing where I went wrong in retrospect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:56 PM
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Fuckin hell I remember I downloaded tinder for about 5 minutes in 2014 and deleted it straight away. Tinder is a cesspool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:44 AM
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OMG I love pantry and stocking but this episode lmao couldn’t be more accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:15 AM
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He’s made it clear he doesn’t want to marry. I think she’s got a sunk cost fallacy going on. This dude feels so secure that she won’t ever leave even after outright saying he doesn’t want to get married (yet). That little stunt he pulled is grounds for breaking up IMO but tbh she should’ve left when she learned he didn’t care for marriage if it’s something she wants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:08 PM
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I used to always hype up my ex. One day I realized he never called me pretty, random men in my college campus told me more often than he did. He said “If I say it too much it’ll lose its effect!” I knew he used to call his ex pretty all the time because I saw the receipts (bad idea: never look up their exes and compare). I already felt inadequate because of that, I thought he genuinely didn’t think I was pretty. But I also knew he was insecure because I was smarter than him and on track to have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:47 PM
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Is she telepathic? How does she know what he thinks about? He can use the same ten seconds to clean after himself. Why can’t he think of how his sloppiness affects his partner? Really can’t stand this lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:42 PM
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Yes that’s the thing, they will tell you everything you want to hear until they get what they want from you. So in your case I wouldn’t give your ex the time of day. He walked away. He doesn’t get to have the luxury to pop into your life to disturb your peace at his convenience. Delete and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:27 AM
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Sure! So I broke up with my ex Jan 2019. I did the whole no contact thing. I dabbled in OLD where I saw his profile and as I was clicking through accidentally starred something (this was on okcupid). He contacted me (I didn’t have him blocked) the next day with long winded statements about how he’d changed, and all kinds of empty platitudes. He asked if I was seeing anybody and started saying all the things he liked about me. He was buttering me up. I hadn’t discovered fds at the time, so I stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:22 AM
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My ex called me two months after we broke up. Literally asked if I was seeing anyone because he wanted to get back together. This was last year. I gave him a chance and dumped him last month. Don’t give in. There’s a reason it didn’t work out the first time. He’s seeing you as an easy option because there’s an established history
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:57 AM
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I just started reading power of the pussy by Kara king and why men love bitches which were on the suggested reading list. I’m enjoying them both so far
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:37 PM
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I’m very happy with myself, dating is the last thing on my mind as I focus on constant self improvement. FDS gave me the encouragement to know that I wasn’t just crazy for thinking my relationship was inadequate. All I’d ever heard from my ex was how great our relationship was (for him). FDS confirmed that everything I thought was true, such as a man really doesn’t love you if he’s not putting in effort. So I ended the relationship, reclaimed my apartment and myself. When you go from being a pic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:35 PM
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Someone on another post who replied to a Scrote on OLD said she does so because it’s her own standard and her having courtesy. There’s definitely people here who aren’t following the handbook or cherry picking parts to follow, which I guess is to be expected when there’s a sudden influx of people to the ideology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:52 AM
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This especially applies to OLD interactions. Although sometimes funny, responding to lvm once you’re already established they are lvm is a waste of time. Too many people posting their responses when it should’ve been block, delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:10 AM
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If he doesn’t leave you he at the very least he will take you for granted. Source: was Barbara the builder with my ex😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:27 PM
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Here’s me sitting pretty with all my monies and living my life exactly as I want to. Unbothered 💁🏽‍♀️✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:29 PM
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You got this!💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:39 PM
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By just leaving. They don’t need to be beating you up for you to have a good reason to leave. Look my ex was by all means a decent person. Most wouldn’t say a bad thing about him. He had a lot of friends many of whom I knew. I have my own social circle though so I really couldn’t care less what his friends think. I was with him for 5 years because I didn’t think I had a good enough reason to leave. I was resentful towards him most of the time as he was so LVM and he never changed. When the relat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:49 PM
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“I love that you’re so chill” as he treats you like a doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:47 AM
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I actually think OPs idea is great. Back in college I had a fwb whose house I’d sleep over from time to time. His bathroom was disgusting. Like actual poo stuck to the toilet bowl. He’d blame his roommates. I also always carried wet wipes with me which I’m glad I did because they always ran out of tp. A little toiletry basket would be great because it shows they can think ahead to anticipate needs and have no problem providing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:57 PM
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I haven’t started it (2 days to go)but I’ve heard it can be really uncomfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:41 PM
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This has been my mindset since pandemic started. I’ve been bodybuilding for 5 years so when the gyms closed I went back to basics to relearn the fundamentals. I also started growing out my hair and trying to take better care or my hair and skin in general. I start Invisalign this week too! So besides the physical level up, I’ve also been focusing on my mindset and sticking to my integrity when it comes to making decisions. Going on dates is the last thing on my mind since I just got out of a rel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:50 AM
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I second this. I lived with my ex for two years in college, we broke up got back together then lived in my Apartment for 6 months before I broke up with him. It was absolute torture feeling like a prisoner in my own apartment. And he took his sweet time moving out, trying to take things that were mine and leaving his big busted furniture for me to throw out. I definitely learned my lesson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:22 PM
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This sub popped up as suggested when I hit explore from another sub. The name instantly intrigued me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:36 PM
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“I don’t know how to take pics!” They say when it’s literally just point and shoot. My ex never took pics of me but when he did they were humiliating. He got a kick out of it though 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:29 PM
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I realized this early into my last relationship. My ex told me that his ex would nag him all the time. It seemed sus to me, because why would a woman have to repeatedly ask to the point she becomes a nag? I soon found out. Dude was a lazy bump on a log. Then it made sense. She wasn’t a nag, he was just extremely low effort. Apparently his ex had a habit of stonewalling, which I did as well. I even told him I had that problem and any time we had a fight early on he dismissed me, knowing I already…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:30 PM
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OMG the two month mark! I broke up with my ex twice before and two months later exactly he’d hit me up! I’m wondering if there’s significance to two months now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:50 PM
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One time I got nearly black out drunk throwing up after I turned 21. I was friendly with my ex at the time and was in so much discomfort I called him at 2am. He had been at a camp with friends about an hour away but left and came to comfort me. He brought Alka seltzer and my favorite Snapple. I was very grateful that he’d leave his friends to come be with me while I sobered up. He was also the type who like to please sexually as in my pleasure was his pleasure. He remembered the little things I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 05:20 PM
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Thanks!💕 it was such a long time coming. We broke up like twice in the past so I already know how he works, like clockwork he’d hit me up after 2 months to the day we broke up looking for another chance. Not this time! He had weeks to gather his things and move out. In our relationship I was always the one that kept tabs on everything. Whatever he left is due to his own incompetence and not my responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:57 PM
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This reminds me of how I had nagged my ex for months to go out to dinner because he hadn’t taken me out in like 6 months. I was like OP where at first I was ok with cooking at home and my ex also said the same schpeal about restaruants. I was fed up though. My previous ex’s mom had hit me up, since we stayed close, and she wanted to catch up over dinner. I told my bf at the time and he flipped his shit. He was like “how would you feel if I went to dinner with my ex’s dad?” I said well why tf don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:51 PM
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Kickhimout update! I wrote this in last weeks thread but wanted to share here too. Yesterday my ex finally finished moving out. I was out running errands but he had texted me when he finished moving, where he left the keys and he asked if he could sometimes have the cat (We got a cat in 2017 due to a mouse problem. I chose the cat and paid the adoption fee and since it’s my apartment and I’m the one who’s taken him to the vet, it only made sense for me to keep the cat). He also said to let him k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:04 PM
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Yesterday my ex finally finished moving out. I was out running errands but he had texted me when he finished moving, where he left the keys and he asked if he could sometimes have the cat (We got a cat in 2017 due to a mouse problem. I chose the cat and paid the adoption fee and since it’s my apartment and I’m the one who’s taken him to the vet, it only made sense for me to keep the cat). He also said to let him know if he left anything. When I got home I was dismayed to see he’d left his big bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:19 PM
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OMGthe sleeze!! One time I hooked up with my ex who I still had feelings for. I saw he was messaging girls flirty messages as he sat next to me!! Then he says “I hope you don’t mean having sex meant we’d get back together”. I felt like pure trash. And then my other ex was so cheap, he tried to trade the deep fryer I bought him as a gift for my microwave. I was like NO. wtf buy your own microwave you cheap bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:01 PM
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Being chill won’t get you anywhere. It’ll make the man think ‘she’s so cool she’s fine with nothing, I never have to do anything.’ This is why vetting matters. After a week of meeting my ex I had sex with him. We’d only been on two dates, one at a restaurant, the second at a bar. After we got in the relationship, (he was like what do I want out of this and I said a relationship. And he said cool we want the same thing. He didn’t even come out and ask me to be his gf wtf). there were no more date…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 01:28 PM
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Ha I remember the day after my second date with my ex, I texted him and we went to the park to walk his dog. He wore sweats and a hoodie, I wore an actual outfit appropriate for March weather. (So many red flags). Then we pulled into his driveway. He asked “what do you want to do”. I was put on the spot and said “idk I just want to spend time with you”. He thought it was cute. I didn’t mean to imply at all that I wanted to stop going out for dates. But he seemed to take it that way. I assumed he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:09 AM
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Happened to my cousin too! Her father named name her after his ex gf. Not sure if my aunt knew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:54 PM
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Lmfao! Hearing it from the other side highlights how ridiculous ops bf is!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:48 PM
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I have no idea. The way he said it made it seem like he was bragging about dating a darker skinned person as if it were some sort of accomplishment (his social group is mostly white) and I was the first non white person he ever dated. When he would say I’m just American I was like, why is he trying to erase my ethnicity? I remember one time I tried to play Spanish music and he was like disgusted telling me to turn it off. It was so incredibly heart breaking esp since I love learning and embracin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:38 PM
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My ex is white and I’m Hispanic. He used to call me his black girlfriend because my skin is tan. He didn’t acknowledge my culture at all except for a Spanish word here and there. He also said I wasn’t Hispanic that I was american. It was weird, I don’t think he ever saw me as Hispanic. I’m weary of ever dating any man of a different background who won’t acknowledge or attempt to understand my culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:21 PM
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🤣🤣 I know women who are insanely territorial with their men. The one is married to a cop, dude is super rude, seems to have some little man complex, racist, looks like a bald pigeon, and any time the topic comes up she’s like “I wish they’d try me!” When it comes to her man. It’s like chill, no one wants your insufferable man, who sits there and likes smut fb pages for the whole world to see and actively tries to get people fired on fb if they don’t support police. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:56 PM
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First, being alone isn’t inherently bad. I feel that we’ve been conditioned to feel incomplete if there isn’t a man in our lives. If it feels lonely or scary especially in the age of corona, you have to reframe your mindset. Instead of feeling alone and bored, think about using this time wisely. How can you improve yourself to become better? If you met your dream man today would you feel confident enough as a HVW in multiple areas of life? You have the freedom to pursue any hobby, living on your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:14 AM
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If they’re a friend it’s an even bigger reason to make them get tested. You’d think being friends they’d put a little more value into protecting not only their health but yours. I hooked up with a “friend” who gave me an std. I’d known him for years. They’ll use the fact that your friends as a reason you should just trust them. There definitely feels like there’s a stigma asking men to get tested. Like it’s too much work for them 😒😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:27 PM
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Men use women as their personal assistant and for sex on command. My ex always had me do mundane tasks for him:remind him of what his haircut was, call his parents for him, pick out his clothes when shopping, find apartments, accompany him for every single stupid errand even if it was to pick up a pizza 3 min away. It was grating and I finally snapped back like I am NOT your personal assistant. I never asked him to do such emotional labor for me because I’m an adult. He’d say “but your memory is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:30 PM
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I’d like to know too. it had the opposite effect of whatever was intended. It didn’t make me want to prove myself to him. In fact it made me look at him sideways and not want to vie for his approval. I started caring less what he thought of me and prioritizing how I felt about myself. It got to the point where I got compliments from random men more than my own bf. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:32 AM
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This concept is so interesting. They want an attractive woman, but don’t want her to know or act like she’s attractive. They don’t want her to have the confidence that comes with knowing shes hot because that makes them insecure. It reminds them she could leave them and be with any other man, and get male attention that they’d have to compete with. My ex never told me I was pretty because “it would lose its effect” if he said it too much. He literally never said it. He also said I shouldn’t diet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:30 PM
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Here’s my first hand experience with a cheap ex: (for context he was in a dead end job, college drop out and really had no business dating). He made blanket statements that he doesn’t like going to restaurants because the food isn’t good (as if he’s been to every restaurant ever). Talked down any stereotypically female purchase that’s expensive such as purses. Made me split everything down the middle even $20 groceries. Made me use MY graduation money to pay for his half of his friend’s wedding …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:17 PM
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My ex didn’t have a romantic bone in his body. When we’d visit his parents his mom would say how his father hadn’t taken her out once during pandemic, all they ever did was go for walks. She was dying to go to the beach. They’ve been married 30 something years AND he’s like 10 years older than her. Turns out they never went even once this year. And then it clicked. I never saw my ex’s parents be affectionate to each other in my 5 years dating their son, verbally or physically. In typical boomer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:46 PM
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That’s awesome for you to have developed the confidence at such a young age! I didn’t even start dating until I was 18, I knew high school boys were just trying to get in my pants so I focused on my grades and paid them no mind. My first bf was at 18, and he wooed me properly. He set the bar very high. Never feel bad about your standards and prioritize your education. We all go through stages where we act like pick mes because we want male validation. But you never need male validation! All that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:47 AM
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Kickhimout2020 update! It’s been 3 weeks since I told me ex he needs to move out. He finally started moving things yesterday and said he’ll be totally out in a week once he finds someone to help him move his furniture and because he’s waiting for his new place to get internet and he’s WFH. I’m dreading whoever he brings to help him, most likely one of his friends and they’re all familiar with the on and offness of my relationship with him. I hate how this is being dragged out but at least my ex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:55 PM
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Same! In my mind, if a man I was dating told me what he needed I’d be like great, now I know exactly what to do to make you happy. But when I’d bring it up to my ex somehow it was an argument like he made me feel bad because he wasn’t meeting my needs. But like bro I told you exactly what to do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:27 PM
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When I was in high school and a virgin I’d watch porn to see sex looked like from the outside perspective. Like I knew where my vagina was just not how the parts went together. I had a crazy high libido in college and occasionally would seek out porn BUT it always felt futile because like all the content is disgusting. Idk how many times it’s always a fat, old out of shape man ramming into a woman who’s usually always better looking. I was so grossed out. I wanted to see real sex like emotional …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:27 PM
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I was the chill cool pick me girl once. Men love it, because while you’re bending over backwards to keep him happy, he’s absolved of even trying because he’s seen you have no standards that you will hold him to. If you’re too afraid to communicate your standards and needs, he ain’t the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:12 PM
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Yes. The pick me mindset would say a women is incomplete without a man and I think that’s a pervasive undertone of why people assume being single=unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:07 AM
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I’d also just say no. Coincidently, some of my happiest years were when I was single and really living life to its fullest, challenging myself, robust social life, high self esteem, lots of hobbies and interests and living on my own time not needing to consider a bf. Dating or not is someone’s personal choice that others seem to love giving input into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:27 AM
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It’s always funny to me how other people seem to derive entertainment or some sort of pleasure /satisfaction knowing you’re talking to someone or dating someone . Like “ah they’re tied down too, now I can sleep peacefully”. Whoever you do or don’t date has zero to do with them. When I was single and a guy was interested my coworkers kept pressuring me to go out with him. I wasn’t interested but they seemed to enjoy trying to push me into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:25 AM
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Yea I did the same thing. The worst thing was, I had experience with a man who could make me finish without my having to stimulate myself. I never had to because he knew how to rub his body against me during sex. I knew it was possible. The next dude though he didn’t know how to. I just broke up with my ex of 5 years who managed to make me come from sex only twice in like 5 years. The other times I had to stimulate myself during piv. If you think about it, imagine a man had to pull out and mastu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:21 PM
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Sadly I did ☠️ this is why being a pick me is so detrimental. I made so many excuses for the dude back thenc and stayed because I wanted to be in a relationship so badly instead of just accepting the truth in front of me. The times I tried to leave him he’d guilt trip me into staying. I dumped him twice and he would always hit me up after two months to rekindle things. This was pre fds btw and he hadn’t been blocked on everything which was the biggest mistake. And at the time I kept believing in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 03:31 AM
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YES! I saw the signs of the porn sickness rearing it’s ugly head towards the end. During sex out of nowhere he put his hands on my neck and started to squeeze to try and choke me I was like hey WTF!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:52 AM
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Omg let me regale you with a story from my pick me days with my ex. Ugh. It was 2015, I was desperate for a bf. First date was a restaurant. Second date was a bar a week later. I went to his place that night, we had sex but I couldn’t finish (stupid me I told him I was on the pill when he said he didn’t have condoms 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️) so then I gave him a bj to completion when I realized I wasn’t gonna be able to finish. It was so gross to have nut in my mouth but I was pretty desperate to pull ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:34 AM
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These dudes are really reaching. So ayesha decides to play with her look and be confident and suddenly she’s for the streets? Foh. These nvm are so insanely insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 11:23 PM
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Right! I was 10 when I read that flushing the toilet causes bacteria to spray into the air. I was so grossed out I made sure to shut the lid every time. A child can figure it out but grown men can’t?🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:10 AM
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Yea this isn’t normal for your partner to talk about their attraction to other women. Lvms who point out how hot other women are to their girlfriends do so to goad them into insecurity. These men are actually insecure with themselves and want to make the woman doubt herself so she’ll try harder to prove herself to him. Aka negging as others have said. The funny this is, if the op said to her bf how she found some actor hot and hunky or how much she loved her exes, he would have a conniption😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:37 PM
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Thanks! It really set the bar high, had I never experienced that I’d think sex could never be better than what I had with my 2nd crappy bf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:43 PM
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I was truly spoiled with my first bf. Since I had no metric to compare to, for all intents and purposes, sex was great. First he was very eager to please, affectionate, and loved to give oral which was a huge plus. During piv his body was always able to find a rhythm with mine to rub up against my clit so I never needed to stimulate myself during sex. That plus the emotional connection was intoxicating. My second bf though, he basically just jackhammered, wouldn’t make a peep (I thrive off heari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:29 PM
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On ig, a woman posted “was supposed to be getting married in 8 days, bought a house with my best friend instead!” She’s engaged but looks like she opted to get a house with her fiancé first instead of the wedding. Seemed sketch to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:22 PM
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Bare minimum to me would be things that a dude thinks he should get points for but are basic: know how to cook, clean, manage finances responsibly, have a career, home, car, know how to dress himself, good hygiene (washes his ass and brushes his teeth2x daily!), handles his own dr appointments (why do so many men ignore dr visits), similar life view, values and lifestyle, knows how to plan a date and follow through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:22 AM
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Changing yourself to be his perfect women and giving him everything does not guarantee that he will do the same for you. He will likely just take advantage and feel entitled. It doesn’t matter if he says he loves you, watch his actions. Similarly if he always says all the things he’d do with/for you, but it never comes to fruition, he’s most likely with you for convenience. Don’t stay with a man because you think he’ll be better one day. You wind up believing in an idea of the man, which clouds …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:17 AM
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Wow he’s so dedicated 😭One time I was super sick and nearly coughed my lungs out all night and lost my voice and my pos ex didn’t even offer to get me cough medicine or anything. Had to walk myself at 7am to the corner store for robittusin. then he says I should’ve asked him!! This isn’t about mind reading. You can literally hear and see me sick as a dog and if your first instinct isn’t “let me get my partner medicine” I don’t want him. I brought him food and medicine when he was sick the year b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:42 PM
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Hahaha that visual was great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:38 PM
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Yea and my director has openly stated she is not concerned about covid, showing zero empathy for those of us with kids or elderly relatives. My director isn’t well liked at all, by myself or the hygienists and everyone knows she’s rude and overly aggressive. I never have a problem with anyone at work, but she will purposely say things like this about the other providers I think in an attempt to sow enmity between everyone. Like a “if no one likes me they’re not gonna like you either”. She really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:36 PM
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About a month ago, I was getting ready to go to the gym. My ex was working from home and clearly very jealous that I’m technically part time and have more free time while he wfh full time. I made some off comment about how I like popcorn. Out of nowhere, he said “what If I took your head, and mounted it on wall above the tv?” The way he said it was so eerie and it vaguely reminded me of the always sunny episode where they go to therapy and Dennis says that to dee, but I didn’t remember that quot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:04 PM
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When I graduated from dental and got my first job, I was very insecure about my abilities. It was my first real job ever and unfortunately I didn’t know but I was entering an extremely toxic work environment. I was super taken advantage of. They paired me with the slowest assistant, and would purposely cram my schedule. My assistants would often disappear right when I was starting a procedure. I was constantly told to say something. I’m not one to stir conflict at work, I literally go to make mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:33 AM
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In my pick me past I’d get anxious about men judging me for wearing makeup. Nowadays idgaf about what anyone might think. I love the mix of art and beauty. It’s so fun to experiment with colors and see what works. With so much down time, I devour yt tutorials and practice. I love it for the moments I get to see myself like in the mirror at the gym, even if wearing a mask, if I put on some pretty eyeshadow I instantly feel happy to see it. I’m working on being more put together in general, it boo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:12 PM
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I’ve been watching hindash (makeup artist) on YouTube and getting really good pointers. I definitely prefer watching real muas as opposed to beauty gurus. I went to a Sephora that was in a beautiful area and the only one near me that carried the Armani luminous silk foundation. It was the nicest Sephora I’ve been to. Very happy with the color match. It legit melts into my skin Currently watching tutorials before playing with makeup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:03 PM
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I hate a lukewarm invite. Indicates they don’t really care if you’re there or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:51 PM
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I shared an apartment in college with my ex (don’t do it!). One night he invited his bros over. After they left, beer bottles and pizza boxes were left strewn about. My ex had left to go back home because he had work the next day and didn’t even help clean a thing. I was livid that not one of them offered to take their trash with them. I chewed out my ex for it. I literally cleaned the mess of like 4 grown men including my ex. It was so incredibly inconsiderate. I always clean after myself if I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:49 PM
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Lmao thank you! 💕💕 I instantly recognized it as such. dude has never done any such organizing ever. It was planted there for the reasons you said. But jokes on him, I was like good, gtfo. If I had just been kicked out there’s no way I’d want my ex knowing where I’m moving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:26 PM
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Kick him out update! Ive posted a few times about my LTR. I finally gained the courage to kick out my lvm bf of on/off 5 years. Sunday we had the talk, I laid everything out, of course he turned the discussion to himself, which I recognized immediately. This time though I didn’t feel the need to comfort him. Save that for a therapist. I explained that after 5 years he did not prove himself to me and we’re incompatible long term. He asked if he should move out and I said yes. He then spent hours …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:07 PM
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I love this. Thanks for articulating it. Only when I meet a man who I can trust in this way will I consider a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:44 PM
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Not a good look for her. I was so disappointed to see offsets goofy ass at her birthday. She doesn’t trust herself enough to walk away and she has so many young fans who are gonna see this and think it’s ok to keep taking the same man back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:26 PM
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One of my exes was super affectionate. After sex we’d cuddle, pillow talk etc. I was a big fan of that. My most recent ex was opposite, he’d get up immediately after sex, maybe 1 kiss, but always went straight to the bathroom then back to his computer. No cuddling or affection. Coincidently this dude couldn’t be open with his feelings unless he was on molly. I requested he be as open emotionally when he’s sober and he was incapable. Sex became so routine, every Saturday like clockwork, I’d be li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:18 PM
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They don’t get emotional labor. My ex had me remind him to pay his student loans, what his haircut looks like, had me pick out clothes for him, talk to his mom on his behalf, I literally said I am not your personal assistant or mom. I can set alarms in my own phone, dress myself, speak to my own parents so why couldn’t he? If I asked him to help me pick an outfit or hair style he’d just be a deer in the headlights like he had no opinion on the matter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:26 AM
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I don’t even see the purpose of a relationship anymore. I am super happy with my hobbies, social life, accomplishments and I love not having to consider a man before I make major decisions. It’s so freeing, especially after being with an lvm for 5 years. That relationship forced me to be super independent, to take myself out and treat myself since my ex didn’t do it. So after a while it was more like, what value does he bring to my life? I don’t care for his company or sex, and I get everything …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:15 AM
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How can anyone be so audacious with “show me their tiddies?” If you said that to a stranger irl you’d get back handed. If a woman put “show me your bank statement” or something similar to having money spent on her in her profile I can’t imagine the backlash. On the one hand at least these trash men show their colors from the gate. On the downside why oh why do they see dressing as a slob as something to brag about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:42 PM
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Every time a dude says his ex was a nag that’s a red flag to me. Like she probably asked something of him once and he never did it so she had to badger him until he would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:24 PM
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I totally agree! FDS has given me the courage to trust myself, redirect my energy to myself, improve my confidence and have integrity to break it off with an lvm bf of 5 years, and kick him out of MY apartment. I have learned so much, like don’t trust potential, “if he wanted to he would “, and knowing I’m not alone gives me strength to not fall back into pick me ways. I always find strength here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:57 PM
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lol anyone who takes offense to fds is triggered because lvm/nvm applies to them. I couldn’t care less what they say about fds because their opinions are worthless. Show me where fds advocates manipulating men into staying with us. We kick them to the curb as soon when we see it won’t work out. We try to become HVM in the process through accountability and leveling up. Yea I don’t see the comparison to red pill or incels but they can stay pressed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:52 PM
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In my pick me days I started dating a guy who turned out to be cheap as fuck. Split everything down the middle even $30 groceries right off the bat as he was a “come to my house and lets make dinner as a date” type. Also lived at home, college drop out with deadend job, while I was in graduate school and a couple years younger than him. He called me his dream woman (seriously I was a doormat) and yet he always made me pay half for everything. He also never took me on dates saying restaurant food…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:23 AM
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I completely cut off my older brother 7 years ago because he molested me as a child, and was an all around pessimistic asshole. I mean I haven’t seen or spoke to him. And I tell my family to not tell him a thing or post me if he’s friends with them. That’s how serious I am. Even if someone’s blood related that doesn’t mean they need to be in your life if they are a negative presence. There’ve been studies that show adverse birth outcomes when the father is 35+ so yea, men are susceptible to decl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:42 PM
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I work in the dental field and I can’t tell you how many times someone’s wife called in on behalf of her husband. He’d have some gnarly toothache and she’s say how she told him to go to the dentist and even made his appointments and he wouldn’t go. Not only will men just outright ignore their own health, they’ll have their wives make appts for them which they won’t even go to, then have the audacity to have their wife call the dentist for them like she’s their mommy. I can’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:07 PM
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This is so true it hurts !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:42 PM
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A few years ago my bf never told me I was pretty. I called him out on it and he said “it’ll lose its power if I say it all the time”. He literally never said it until I told him to. It made me question whether I was attractive or not. Another time he tried to say I shouldn’t cut(I bodybuild) because then I’d look better than him. Then there’s the time I wore a push up bikini top and he felt weird because people would be looking at my cleavage. I recognized it as him being controlling and did wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:40 PM
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What is the psychology of this? Are they just insecure and afraid of competition from other dudes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:28 PM
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Effort and working around circumstances is shows a lot about character when it comes to how limited things are with covid. Here’s an example: one guy dating for 3 years got his gf balloons, set up a whole table with a bday cloth, and got her presents that align with her interests for her bday in April when everything was in lockdown. Guy 2 in relationship for 5 years made gf a chocolate cake, (she doesn’t like chocolate cake), bday also in April during lockdown. Had no idea what to get her so go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:08 PM
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Fuckin hell. Just another reason not to divulge your past sex life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:32 PM
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Hahaha that reaction was perfect🌟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:05 PM
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When I was a pick me, my bf at the time brought up anal within the first three months dating. I said I’d never done it, he said he’d done it once. Because I was a supreme pick me, I started panicking because I thought I needed to want anal to please him, but was 1000% not interested. And he said “regular sex is like chicken, but anal is like steak and every so often it’s nice to have steak”. I told him he could have anal if I could peg him first 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:01 PM
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You know what’s hilarious though? Ask any man if they’d accept this if they were a woman for a day. Most will say they’d try to get the most out of a dude not settle for some lame shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:56 PM
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I like the Colgate whitening toothpaste! It comes in a red box. I also use a whitening mouthwash (crest 3D white)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:45 PM
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I have a skincare routine morning and night. I like to use whitening products for my teeth. I wash my hair every 3ish days and put argan oil in it because it’s fine but also frizzy and damaged from bleaching. I go to the gym 5days a week. I like to exfoliate when I shower and lather in cocoa butter lotion after. I also take a women’s multivitamin and biotin because my nails were super frail and broke all the time. My foot dr recommended a nail conditioner because my nails grew cracked and it’s h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:43 PM
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Never assume a guy is clean. Back in 2014 I had a friend who was a medic in the army. We had met in anatomy class in high school. Naturally I thought he cared about his health. Reconnected years later, he had just gotten out of a relationship. Flirted with me often. I rebuked his advances knowing it would ruin our friendship. He told me of how much sex he was having since getting out of a relationship, like even traveling 6 hours for it. Months later as we continued to hang out as friends I deve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:00 PM
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What’s bumble like as an app? Considering using it to find female friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:59 AM
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Right. So if the roles were reversed and she found out he had one night stands in college, he’d want her to forget about it and say it’s no big deal. It’s weird he seems to place value in his fiancée having been virgin-esque. As if her having had lots of sex in the past changes any of her qualities and who she is today. If he’s willing to trash their engagement because she lived her life in the past before even knowing him, good riddance. Just another reason women shouldn’t divulge their sexual …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:08 AM
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This happened to me too. I dated this guy for 2 months in college before calling it off. We kept running into each other. Eventually I was going through a dry spell and rather than seek someone new I hit him up. I detested this guy, but to this day he had the biggest dick I’d ever had (didnt know how to use it though, literally had to tel him don’t move while I bounced around like a pogo stick) and was fairly trustworthy in regards to his sexual health. I told him strictly sex, no more. I really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:57 AM
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This is something I need to instill in my brain. I can attest that treating them like a husband when you’re just a gf not only didn’t result in them improving their treatment of me, it left me hella resentful. I really thought if I proved myself to him, he’d be bending over backwards for me. Nah, it just fed the notion that he was the king and I wasn’t his queen, more like the joker just entertaining him and left hanging regularly. I suppose men who expect wifey behavior before actual marriage s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:57 PM
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Thank you 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:11 PM
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I want to be single. I’ve dumped my bf twice in the past two years. Each time he came back with the regular “I’ve changed and will do better” schpeal. Circumstances had improved so I thought maybe it will get better. I was a pick me when we started, let so many red flags go throughout the relationship. We met on OLD in 2015 and immediately he mentioned his ex. He asked what I was looking for. Since I’ve discovered fds ive learned how much I did wrong. I told him what I wanted (relationship since…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:53 PM
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I’m glad she was strong enough to leave his ass and not stick around to try and change him. She has her own money and career which is why it’s so important as women that we’re established on our own. It makes it so much easier to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:23 PM
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“You used up all your coupon and all you have left is me. But somehow I’m full of forgiveness I guess it’s meant to be” ugh I love no doubt and Gwen but I heard this song the other day and said wait a minute lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:12 PM
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I’m starting to think at one point men collectively decided to offer up the walk/park/coffee date as an alternative to avoiding this mythical gold digger and restaurant dates. It’s crazy how many of us think this is normal and I can see how when this is all we’re offered we become conditioned to accept it. It’s like an epidemic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:02 PM
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I have experience being the “nerds dream” type. You were spot on. The guy I dated would show a shallow interest in what I’d like to do or downright degrade it and never put action behind it. For example I’m Hispanic. One day I put Spanish music on the radio. He told me to change i. Instead of embracing my culture as I did his (he was Italian) I was extremely offended that he didn’t even try to listen. Everything was about him molding me into his perfect dream woman. Had me playing magic (didn’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:13 PM
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This dude is pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:59 AM
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This is what kills me. If I were a man I’d want to impress a potential partner by going to a nice restaurant, maybe somewhere neither has ever been. What’s fun about going to a coffee shop you’ve been to 1000x sipping measly coffee?You can talk at a restaurant as well but with actual amazing food and potential ambiance, dressing up for the occasion,etc. It seems like coffee date guy is the cheap type to just want you around as a bang maid so he’s not lonely. And next thing you know you’re downgr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:26 PM
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I find that it can be fun around the holidays to decorate in whatever theme it is and make it extra cozy. Comfy blanket, pillows, candles and lights. I like to have a few creative projects to do, maybe crafting or painting,which require a trip to Michael’s, and a playlist or movie playing in the background. Of course food as well like a favorite dessert. I like to reflect on my successes and practice gratitude, and imagine where I’d like my life to go. Something about dreaming about all the ways…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:13 AM
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LMFAO you hit the nail on the head!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:29 PM
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Sorry to say but he probably will never change. I dealt with this. In anniversaries and birthdays expecting something special, especially after being told how much he loved me. But guess what, it was me rsvp-ing to restaurants and having to even remind him that our anniversary was coming up. Beware the guys that make it conditional as in to say “I’ll do x when I have Y”. For example money. A man can put time and effort for an anniversary without dropping a fortune especially if he truly cares ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:26 PM
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I agree. You never know what someone’s insecurities are. I am the same, I try to bring attention to someone’s positive features, and I never understood why anyone, especially someone you’re dating, would make a negative comment about our appearance. I had one guy comment that gravity wouldn’t be nice to my boobs. Another liked to point out how “gross” my feet were, more than once, because growing up I was poor and couldn’t afford proper fitting shoes so now I have bunions. Yet he had actual hair…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:23 PM
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You really get to know someone, and yourself, when shit hits the fan. This year has done just that. As challenging as it has has been , I took the time to count my blessings first, then think of how best to make use of the time. I relearned the basics of weightlifting and diet in prep for if gyms ever opened back up, got heavy into succulents, started investing in ways to look better such as starting latisse and taking biotin, and really working in my mindset and things to look forward to. On th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:08 AM
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Lol I have a fun story. When I was in grad school, the subway, which was my transportation home, somehow caught on fire. The trains weren’t running and my phone had horrible signal to try and catch an Uber. I asked my bf at the time, if he could come pick me up since he was at our apartment. It was only a 15 min drive. He said “I don’t want to lose my parking spot”. I was floored and tbh shocked that despite knowing I was essentially stranded in a very unsafe sketchy area, he valued his parking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:14 AM
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My mom, grandma and essentially all the women who came before me in my family were teen moms who had to get their GEDs. They were all in abusive relationships with men who cheated. I was the only girl out of four. From a young age my mom drilled into my head to finish school, and once I got my period she essentially gave the “don’t have sex or you’ll die” and “boys only want one thing”speech. I basically ignored guys in high school and graduated with a4.1 gpa. Didn’t even date til 18 and my firs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:59 PM
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As a proud succulent mama I highly encourage starting a succulent collection! They’re so beautiful and there’re so many types. There’s a learning curve to caring for them but lemme tell you it’s addicting once you get started!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:29 PM
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I dated two self proclaimed atheists, one who was an “optimistic nihilist”. I don’t subscribe to any particular religion but I suppose you could say I’m spiritual, empathetic and in tune with my emotions. These atheist men loved to act like feelings are invalid. They only look at problems logically. Emotions aren’t always logical and if you get in a fight with them they shut you down because they refuse to see things from any perspective but their own. They weren’t in tune with their emotions at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:51 PM
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You have to truly believe there are parts of you that are amazing. For example, do you have a hobby you really excel at? Part of self love and confidence is cultivating those skills and hobbies. Set goals for yourself no matter how big or small, and once you achieve them not only does it foster a sense of independence but you feel confident knowing you get shit done and are proud of yourself regardless of what some insignificant scrote thinks. It also gives you something to redirect your attenti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:40 PM
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Thanks! at first it’s scary! But it’s really only because you’re so used to them. You’ll realize how much more you can do without them, things maybe you put off. I find that keeping busy with things that make me feel alive made it so much easier not to dwell on the past. Good luck!💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:35 PM
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Lmao that’s like when I begged my bf of almost 4 years to take me out on dates. I was upset at how he not only took me on zero dates(we’d probably gone on less than 5 real dates in almost 4 years of dating) but he made all the time in the world for his friends. He then told me I needed to diversify my happiness aka don’t rely on him to be happy. Hah ok then. Luckily , a male friend hit me up soon after asking if I wanted to do brunch. I wasn’t interested in the guy as anything more than friends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:37 PM
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I have always been more of a loner, when I got to college I was in a group of friends. One girl I got along really well with liked to act like she was our leader. We did things she wanted to do, and if one of us mentioned something different it had to be run past her first. Seeing as I’ve always been independent, this person sort of tried to take me under her wing and have me be her plus 1 to things. She loved to copy the things I did and eventually I realized what a user she was. There was a la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:23 PM
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“The red flags you ignore now will be the reason you leave in the end” damn that’s profound
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:47 PM
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Idk because nowadays you see beautiful women with absolute trolls. Maybe since ugly/usually undesirable men are procreating, it’s skewing evolution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:55 PM
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Yea I once read an article that said women are evolving to be more attractive while men are the same. When I’m at the gym I just admire how many pretty girls there are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:24 PM
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Keeping secrets to me implies withholding damaging information that would affect the relationship. So like cheating, a secret kid, addiction, something detrimental that is serious. Privacy to me would be something like, it’s no one’s business knowing how many men you’ve slept with. Having boundaries has to do with actions. For example if you absolutely know you don’t want anal yet your partner routinely tries to persuade you, hence trying to push your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:03 PM
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Yea it’s almost as if women can’t be well versed in anything 😏also, big ups for liking old manga/anime !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:09 AM
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Lmfao I love this post! Best dick I had was in my longest relationship. I’d been with 4 men before but with this one, I suppose he curved up in just the right way that I had the most intense orgasms, sometimes one right after the other! He was also moisturized with really good hygiene, trimmed or shaved his pubes (which tbh I don’t mind some hair, it’s good for friction on the clit), and his balls are taut. I dated one guy who was at least 6 inches but the biggest girth id ever had. His peen was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:22 AM
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Hahaha when I was in college living with my bf of 1.5 years, I made sure to clean the apartment top to bottom every Saturday while he was at work, so it’d be nice and clean when he arrived. He never noticed nor did I get any sort of accolade or even dates at all. 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:40 PM
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I mean, I think these women get excited at the idea of commitment. But when that rush wears off, and they’re wearing some dinky lil ring that everyone can see and they truly dislike, they’re gonna bottle up their true feelings and just deal with having a shit ring, and then end up on breakingmom venting about their man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:52 PM
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I’ve never regretting blocking, only regretted not blocking sooner. One guy years ago was a fwb who gave me an std. I blocked him on everything but fb, and Unfriended him. No lie five years later he sent me a fb request. I duly blocked him. Another guy was a fwb also years ago, who had actually blocked me after we had a falling out. One day his name popped up when I’d been searching someone with a similar name. I was going through a dry spell so I hit him up to see if he’d wanna hook up, we did,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:50 PM
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I know this man who’s been married 2 years. He always likes fb pages of models with big tits and ass in provocative poses. His wife has started posting more and more suggestive pics in her bikini as her fb profile. It makes me wonder if it’s retaliation for him constantly liking random women’s pages. He then told her to chill out with the pics she’s posting lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:42 AM
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Omggg when I started dating my second bf, he brought up anal in the first three months. I outright said no. I’d never done it before and had no interest. He’d keep bringing it up to piss me off. And he’d tell me he’d done it once before with someone else so in the back of my pick me mind, I wanted to want to do it to please him. I did end of trying it eventually, I blame porn for making it seem enticing, but it was so not pleasurable. He wouldnt even cuddle me after sex, why the hell would I do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:58 PM
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I remember back in high school my male friend always told me my standards were too high. I only started dating towards the end of senior year, I wasn’t gonna date just to date until one guy actually wooed me. We had the same science teacher, different periods, and he left a bouquet of flowers from his parents garden with the teacher, who gave them to me in front of everyone for my birthday. This guy even painted me a pretty rose that I have to this day. My first bf treated me so well and even th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:54 PM
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Agree, not my kind of humor at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:17 PM
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Nail on head. They want us to be the chill gf cool with everything they do (and get nothing of what we want in return). And when we bring this up they get personally offended as if they don’t try to mold us into their perfect woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:57 PM
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A few years ago When I was super depressed in grad school , I lived with my bare minimum bf. We fought all the time because he put zero effort into the relationship. He was the second biggest source of strife in my life after school. He legit told me “you can’t rely on me for your happiness” and “diversify your happiness” aka don’t expect him to do anything to make me happy. I was flabbergasted. It was at that moment I learned you cannot stop your life cuz of a dude. If anything you have to push…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:03 PM
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This songs a classic 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:13 PM
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I just somewhat got into bodysuits after not being into them. Lulus has some good bodysuits, they’re one of the online shops I consistently buy from
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:26 PM
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There are so many underhanded seemingly benign ways a man can strip you of confidence especially if you’re a woman with a bright future. For example, when I was a total pick me, I started dating a guy who quit college, worked a dead end job and lived at home. I was a first year dental student. Compared to the fuck boys before him he actually had conversations with me so I gave him a shot. He would comment all the things his ex did that he hated. For ex: taking selfies, being active on social med…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:25 PM
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Oh man. I felt for years that something was off. I knew I wasn’t happy as early as 2 months into my relationship, but was 1000% a pick me. I somehow was brainwashed into thinking I was wanting too much, that somehow I had to have NO EXPECTATIONS to be happy, and that I should just try harder at my relationship to make him happy, maybe then he’d reciprocate. It didn’t work. I realized I had issues with the same things that bothered me years before. The red flags never went away. I didn’t just bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:14 PM
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He will be on his best behavior knowing he has to be for you to give him a chance again. It doesn’t last. He would have had to do some real deep introspection to change as a person. If he had lvm traits before it’s unlikely they will have improved or he would have realized the error of his ways. Don’t let physical attraction blind you. He may be nice to look at but what does it matter if he doesn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:08 PM
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It’s totally ok to end friendships no matter how long they’ve been, if they’re a net negative for you. I had a friend, our bfs were friends which was how we met. Her and I really hit it off. I always responded to texts, hung out with her whatever she wanted to do, supported her little crafts sales, let her vent to me when she cheated on her bf and was wallowing in regret. When I needed her, as I went through my own breakup, she was nowhere to be found. Constantly made plans, then cancelled last …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:03 PM
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Be confident in yourself. If you’re smart and/or talented don’t shrink yourself to make others feel better. Don’t be afraid to speak up. Stay focused on what matters to YOU and your goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:10 PM
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That very man calling any of us incel, is the first man who would jump at the chance to bang us. Like they need to let that sink in. If we allowed them to, they absolutely would. Who’s the gatekeeper here??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:45 PM
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I have a great example of this: dated a man many years. For Valentine’s Day one year he made me chocolate covered nuts. He proclaimed to the high heavens he loved me. Every subsequent Valentine’s Day I got nothing. Broke up with him. My first Valentine’s Day single, this guy id met and hit it off with invited me out on Valentine’s Day. He showed up in his jaguar wearing my favorite color. He bought a huge bouquet of roses in my fave color. We rode top down to the city for dinner. He pulled out m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:42 PM
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Haha this reminds me one time years ago I had this fwb who got on my fucking nerves. But it had been a while since I hooked up with anyone and I was horny. Wanting to keep my number low, I reached out to him asking explicitly for sex, nothing more cuz as a person he was awful. When the deed was done he was up in arms about me just leaving without spending any sort of time with him. I was like...but that was the point!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:38 PM
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Lol they go through all these hoops, being fake as fuck, for what? Cuz they can’t get a woman to want to be with them without massive manipulation? Like all that effort trying to “mirror bitches” when that energy could be redirected towards positive self improvement. This shit is downright psychotic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:33 PM
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Comments I’ve gotten totally unprompted: “your nose is big” “gravity will not be kind to you” in reference to my boobs. “You have a small mouth” “you have gross alien feet” I have arthritic bunions from growing up wearing poorly fitting shoes. I was always one to point out positive features in my partners. Like I know if I made a point to express how overweight and how much of a beta chin my one ex had, he’d probably cry about it, but I’m not so inept to do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:16 PM
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Wow that guy actually put some creativity and effort into a gift?! It gives me some faith, would love to see more videos like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:36 PM
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I love this!!! But I can already hear the naysayers, some men saying that if women want this they should treat others as they want to be treated. I used to believe this, and believe some men just didn’t know how to do nice things like this. So I took it upon myself to try and teach by example. For a 30th bday I planned a surprise go karting night with his best buds. It took me two months and loads of anxiety to plan it. I also got him a fancy watch. Everyone had a great night. My bday was a few …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:36 PM
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I mean, if you’re in love with your gf/wife, wouldn’t you WANT to go above and beyond to see her happy? 🤔🤔🤔 like shouldn’t you have a partner that motivates you to outdo yourself? It’s like they get in relationships to be completely self serving just to have someone fill the void of gf (or whose void to fill pun intended). I think a man who won’t go out of his way for a woman truly doesn’t love her. I had a bf who was very romantic in many ways, even once coming to my side when I got nearly blac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:37 PM
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Being single is hella fun if you make the most of it. When I got out of an almost 4 year relationship, I hit the ground running. I hung out with friends I made when I used to go out clubbing but hadn’t seen due to my relationship. Within that friend group I met loads of other diverse people. We went to techno shows in Brooklyn over the weekend, staying out til 5am. Flew to Miami to go to ultra with them. Went to dinners during the week after work and just socialized. I also invested my newly fre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:21 PM
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You might be excited to see him as early relationships are pretty exciting due to novelty. But how do you feel about him as a person? I went through this. After a string of fuckboys, finally a guy actually put in effort to get to know me seriously. It was exciting as it was new and for once I felt valued. But then I got bored. But my boredom stemmed from the fact he wasn’t flirting with me. Stopped taking me on dates. Had no hobbies other than going to the gym and watching YouTube, even lied say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:58 PM
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Wow this is a fun question 😆I’m on the Aries/Taurus cusp but lean heavily towards Taurus and somehow seem to gravitate towards other earth signs. First bf was Virgo and we had amazing chemistry. He treated me super well, was a great romantic, and tbh set the bar very high in regards to planning dates, being very attentive to my pleasure, lots of attention and affection, the only downside was he couldn’t get his life together and liked to talk to women behind my back. Then these 2 other guys were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:51 AM
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The part about trips was described so succinctly! Nail on the head👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 it feels so good to let loose and be the sidekick for once when they plan something fun. Then you don’t have to worry about the logistics and things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:43 AM
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Agree, I knew an army fuckboy and he was the worst! Cheated on his long term gf, once he was single flirted with every female he knew including me, loved to brag about driving 6 hours to see a tinder date for sex only, and bagging milfs on Mother’s Day. Dirty dick for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:13 PM
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Lol I think scrotes get offended because they read about themselves in lvm/nvm posts, the shoe fits. Why else would they be bothered by women who want to sift through the sea of men to find one who will truly love her, take her on dates, and not just settle for less than bare minimum? Clearly those offended aren’t the type who will step up to take care of a woman and are probably horrible partners if they are even in relationships. Are they afraid of women suddenly not accepting their walks as d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:55 PM
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I was browsing one day when I saw this subreddit in the related subreddits. I was intrigued by the title and once I started reading the handbook I felt validated! Things started making sense when I thought back to my dating history. There wasn’t one incident in particular but a ton that had happened over years that made me realize I wasn’t crazy so I’ll mention some examples. I wasn’t crazy for being mad about not receiving anything on my bday other than a chocolate cake he made me (I don’t like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:05 PM
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lol you treat a man like a king before he’s treated you like a queen and all he’s gonna do is take, take, take. You can try to prove yourself to him and forgive his lack of reciprocation as “he just doesn’t know how” but spoiler alert, dude like this will never suddenly turn it on and give you everything you ever wanted. If the behavior isn’t there from the get go it’s probably never coming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:36 PM
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Yes Sesshomaru would def shower his wife in gifts ! I fell off anime for a while so I never had a harem of husbands but the idea intrigues me! But besides Inuyasha and Miroku I had crushes on Koga too, Ranma from Ranma 1/2 and of course tuxedo mask was probably the first one ever 😆😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:33 AM
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I love this question 😆 ever since I learned Inuyasha was getting a sequel I started rewatching. I was a diehard obsessed fan back in the day and its still a great series now. I had a project in 8th grade where we had to plan a whole entire wedding and choose someone to marry, real or fictional. I chose Miroku 😆 I loved his pervyness and he was so damn handsome with his blue eyes and earrings. I was 13 then and 28 now. Rewatching the series I can see Miroku has some questionable behavior but give…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:13 AM
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Me too!! I wonder if this is some sort of trend. Men flounder at something super simple then self deprecate to take the pressure off themself🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:12 AM
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I love this energy!✨✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:49 AM
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Lmao even with a months notice and multiple reminders somehow it slips their mind to rsvp. It’s clearly not a priority to them🤷🏽‍♀️ but if we remind too much suddenly we’re nagging! One time he said we should plan our anniversary dinner and I wound up doing the rsvp myself. Another time I mentioned a restaurant I wanted to go to for my bday TWO MONTHS in advance. He couldn’t figure out the rsvp so I did it myself, for my own bday lmao straight clown shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:43 PM
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Lmfao this reminds me of the time I was taken out to dinner finally after a year of begging. Naturally I was excited. Get to restaurant on a Saturday night and the place is poppin. “Have reservation?” Bf says no. “2 hour wait”. Standing there befuddled, I look at him like now what? He totally shut down. Had no back up plan whatsoever just a puss face on. I was like lmao should we get some pizza or something? I gotta eat. Wound up getting chicken Parm from local pizzeria and he didn’t even pay. 😂…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:05 PM
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I agree. I hate that some men will say you have to earn it or be like what do you do for me? When I was in grad school I shared an apartment with my bf. This is the worst idea don’t ever do it. I told him we were starting to feel like roommates because we never went on dates. I was super stressed about school and how he wasn’t affectionate or even trying. Money was an issue but one doesn’t have to look hard to find affordable things in the city. His idea of a date? Walk around the park. And it n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:58 PM
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Giving wifey type privileges to a man who put little effort into me. For example, early in the relationship, I started spending every single weekend with him, forgoing time with friends and family. He took me on two dates then nothing more for over a year even though I begged for dinner and threatened to go to dinner with my ex’s mom because fuckin hell at least she offered. All we ever did was work out, go to the supermarket where I always had to pay half for groceries (even if if only cost lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:28 PM
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Yes ladies, don’t do the fwb thing. Even if you only want him for sex don’t do it, even if he’s someone you’ve known for a while. In my early 20s before I was wise there was a guy who I kinda had a crush on and had met in high school. He flirted while in a LTR, but once he was single tried really hard to hook up with me. I always said no cuz he’d tell me how he’d drive 6 hours to hookup with a girl, or how he banged a milf on Mother’s Day. We hung out often in groups. I eventually developed a cr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:37 PM
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Lol dick is like the air, plentiful and women don’t have to try at all to get it. That’s a fact. Low/no value dick is super available unfortunately and all fds does is help us find the quality men and undo the brainwashing that we should settle for whatever we get, which is an idea that only benefits men. These dudes are salty about it. Note if they were quality men they wouldn’t be bothered🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 01:55 AM
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Am Hispanic can confirm the babying starts in infancy and continues through adulthood. It’s traditional. For example my mom kept me on a tight leash in my teens (couldn’t wear skirts or borrow the car to go to 7-11), and got my license late at 19 because she wouldn’t let me practice. Meanwhile my brother younger than me got his permit at 16, took the car whenever he wanted and had much more freedom. In my family all the women became moms in their teens and had to get GEDs while the men were supp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:58 PM
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I found this very disturbing. The fact that these men spied on women, most likely ogling their bodies in bikinis then mad that they’re expressing their opinions or god forbid having a personal life, makes me think they’re just mad these women would never fit their outdated view of what women should be. These men probably wish women were barefoot and pregnant with no power or opinions and not drs. There was no mention on men who post similarly on social media. How much more patriarchal can you ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:29 AM
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Love to see this! It’s definitely not talked about enough, I know so few people who participate in stock trading. No one seems to really know what it is or how to do it but this is something I want to learn and participate in once I pay down more student debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:17 AM
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There’s one thing I absolutely hate and it’s when men rely on gfs/wives to play mommy for them. I get emergency telehealth calls and I can’t tell you how many times a wife calls on the husbands behalf. It burns me up. Because I know men like this irl who are shitty lazy bfs/husbands who can’t even schedule a dr appointment without the woman’s help. So I’ll snarkily say “can your husband speak for himself?” And the husband speaks and as I ask questions about his emergency the wife is in the backg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:00 PM
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Why is she still wasting her time? Call his parents? Kick his ass out!!! He used their mutual savings that was for their WEDDING to buy a goddamn gaming system!! That is so utterly disrespectful. This man doesn’t give a fuck. He probably proposed because she pressured him. He couldn’t care less about getting married 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:18 AM
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Wow this is so on point it’s unbelievable. I have experience with this very thing. When a man constantly asks “what do you wanna do?” It puts the onus on you while negating him of any responsibility. Date night? “What do you wanna do?” Dinner? “What do you wanna do?” At the gym working out “what do you wanna do next?” Like for fucks sake man I’m not your mother!! Why must I decide everything? at that point it’s not even teamwork. It truly boggles my mind how some men function at all in society t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:43 PM
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My mom dated a cop and we lived with him for two years. Dude was a grade A asshole, very rude and condescending, treated his kids like stars whenever they came over for weekend visits and treated my siblings and I like garbage, even allowing his kids to disparage my mom, siblings and I, and when I’d speak up against it I’d get punished. Nowadays he’s in his 50s dating women in their 20s even offered my mom to be in group sex which she said hell no. I mentioned this in another friend but a woman …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:21 PM
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So she decided to stop seeing him and suddenly she’s psycho?? Wtf with the hyperbole. I agree though, any guy who says their ex was crazy automatically makes me think “what did you do to make her crazy?” I love the ones who say their ex nagged. In other words she repeated herself ad nauseum because the guy didn’t give a enough of a fuck to actually do whatever she was asking the first time 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:21 AM
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The woman had a history of eating disorder too. It’s unbelievably tone deaf as well for a married man to ogle naked women when he knows his wife had an ED and body image issues!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:04 PM
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I’ll never understand women allowing this. I knew a woman whose husband started following Facebook pages of half naked women for all the world to see, family and friends. And not just 1-2, like a good handful of pages. Guy was in his 30s. But everyone would say “he’s a man that’s what they do he’s just looking“. To me it’s disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 12:50 AM
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Lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:08 PM
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I read through the original post. That age gap though. I’ve seen it all the time and experienced it. Men/fwb treating you like a gf and the second you want to take it further with the title they pull the switch on you. If he were interested in her after all that time hanging, having intimate moments and not just sex, he’d definitely take initiative to ask her seriously on a date. Dudes in his 30s like come on. I feel this won’t end well for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:43 PM
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Lmao I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:30 PM
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This is the kind of guy who’d fart and belch in close range and think it hilarious. Probably has streaks in his underwear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:25 PM
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I’ve tried anal and was not into it. So much prep is involved and the actual feeling itself was odd. It wasn’t arousing to me in any way. I was pretty drunk too but tbh the sensation was no different from like rubbing the inside of your cheek. Totally not into it and wouldn’t do again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:07 AM
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I know tons of people who rail coke and other party drugs regularly, and they have legit careers. tbh they were the friendliest most accepting people I’d ever met. I don’t partake, I only drink socially and they’ve offered many times. I always decline. So it’s possible to be friends with people who take party drugs even if you don’t. I’d probably inquire a little more about the circumstances but if he has his shit together it’s probably fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:12 AM
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Yes he was so hot in devils advocate!😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:05 AM
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Haha when I was single and freshly out of a 3 year relationship,I lived it up. I finally had time for friends! I took off Fridays so I could stay out til 3am Thursday nights with friends going to techno shows. Went out to eat during the week, stayed at Airbnb’s over the weekend in the city and went to concerts lasting til 4am. Got eyelash extensions for the first time and met tons of people. Focused on how I wanted to glow up, where I wanted my life to go and put it into action. Being single was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:04 AM
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Keep living your life exactly as you want to. I’ve come to embrace the word selfish. You’re entitled to maximize your happiness and enjoy the fruits of your hard work. The smartest thing to do is invest in yourself and education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:20 PM
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I remember watching an interview with her a while back where she talked about anime she liked. I thought that was so fucking cool, it happened to be my favorite anime too. she’s a beautiful actress but there’s more to her and dudes couldn’t seem to fixate on anything other than how hot she was. Hope she gets her redemption. Fuck Michael bay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 03:54 PM
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I feel like what they really mean to say is that a man can only truly be happy if he has a wife. Why are they putting so much emphasis on women? What women should do to be happy? Why can’t they mind their own?? Why is it ok to baby men when women, from the time we’re little girls, have no choice but to mature quickly. I was 8 years old and my mom was already telling me to stay away from men if I’m wearing shorts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 02:24 PM
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Ah I’ve been guilty of this. My first bf and I texted constantly. I was at college and spent every other weekend with him. I tried to make time for friends too but when that puppy love is strong you get a sort of tunnel vision when all you want to do is see your partner. For me it turned into codependency, to the point I never hung out with my friends due to just becoming distant. When we broke up I was wrecked, single and lost friends. My subsequent relationships I learned to partition time bet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 05:38 AM
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It always blows my mind how a guy will hit you up months to years later. It happened with almost every guy I was involved with. One was a fwb who was a total asshole as much as I tried to be a friend to him. One day he pushed me too far and I just told him to fuck off. Then months later he reaches out saying he wanted to apologize for blowing off my friendship. Sure lol. Other guy waited FIVE YEARS to try and add me on fb. We had been friends in 2014, hooked up briefly, he gave me an std and I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:52 AM
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Being 18 is an exciting time. Your life is open ended and has so many possibilities. It’s loads more fun to have your time be yours. Meet lots of new people, grow into whatever you want to be, and do it all without a man holding you back. For a while I was also terrified of getting stds in college. So I went and bought some sex toys lol and filled my free time with tons of hobbies that made me happier than any guy could!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:20 PM
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Can contend a big dick =/= great sex. This one guy I dated was 6 feet tall and had the biggest dick I’ve ever seen. He was a virgin, and the night we hooked up it wasn’t great. I chalked it up to him being inexperienced. The more we hooked up the more he just jackhammered me into oblivion. Was not open to constructive criticism. I had to literally tell him DON’T MOVE so I could do my thing on his pogo stick. Other guy bragged about hooking up with so many girls and when I hooked up with him I ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:04 PM
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I come from a family of teen moms. My mom, grandma, aunts, all had their first kid in high school. Growing up, I dealt with every other weekend visits with dad and all the drama involved. I hated it. I haven’t had too many positive role models in terms of parenting so I never really wanted to have kids. I enjoy having my independence like if I wanted to leave my bf I wouldn’t have to think of a child. I’d hate to have a kid then put them through separation and custody issues. I actually love bab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:43 PM
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When I was in dental school I was amazed at how much the level of education didn’t matter in terms of the way men still played games with women, even people in the same school. Even my “big” an upperclassman assigned to help me, routinely flirted and propositioned me. Even after graduating dental school he hit me up after no speaking for two years as a booty call out of nowhere. The audacity. The younger guys in their 20s would make light of their conquests, but we had a fair number of older (li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:51 AM
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Lmfao!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:41 AM
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I love this, that you were able to set and stick to boundaries while being completely straight forward about your intentions. An lvm/nvm would’ve probably crumbled once you stated your terms. High quality men won’t be deterred by it, but will actively show up to do more for you. Amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 12:30 PM
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His teeth are just waiting to rot. You need to mechanically remove food and plaque not just swish. Guarantee one day he goes to the dentist as an emergency with pain due to his own negligence😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:08 PM
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I have had so many male “friends” randomly come out the gate with some flirtatious comment. One dude I learned was heavy into negging women and employing PUA tactics. Going so far as to demonstrate one day on a girl in the City, who swiftly rejected. He was also gross looking but had some sort of superiority complex. He did photography and was doing a project and asked if I’d volunteer. He came to my apartment, joked about me getting naked, to which I replied no as dead pan as possible. He was a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:32 PM
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We’re dating the exact type of guy! (Sorry for long post) Only difference is it’s been 5 years. He’s a really nice keep to himself dude. Has the same friend circle for a decade. Works, helps cook and clean and is hygienic. But don’t expect him to ever plan anything romantic. We started dating April 2015. He took me on two dates then nothing for a year. Not even kidding. All he wanted to do was gym, go to the park, go to his parents place where he lived and cuddle/ play games with an occasional f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 02:35 PM
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I agree! Some men are numbskulls when it comes to affection apparently. My first bf was amazing at it, physically and verbally. My second bf was absolutely shit. A month in we got in a fight because he wasn’t wooing me. At all. It was almost summer and he’d say things like I should be driving HIM to the beach (I was a broke student with no car). We went on two dates then all our time together was at his house, the gym or the park. It took 1.5 years for him to take me on a dinner date!! I legit h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:31 PM
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Omg this is so true!!! My on off bf of 5 years got me nothing for my first bday together (we’d been official for a few days but stupid me I’d let him creampie me already. He said he didn’t know me well enough to get me a gift, but somehow we’ll enough to fuck me raw and gifts are very important to me). I even called him out for it more than once and it turned into “I’m illogical”. My bday was in April and before corona, I mentioned wanting to try a new restaurant. He didn’t rsvp so I had to rsvp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:32 PM
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