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LibFem Logicpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:15 AM
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FDS HUMORpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:04 AM
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FDS HUMORpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:08 AM
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FDS MEMESpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:10 AM
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FDS MOVIES & TVpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:40 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:22 PM
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LEVEL UPpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:19 AM
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LIES MEN TELLpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:46 AM
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How-To High Valuepickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:08 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:57 AM
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PICKME CULTUREpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:12 AM
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STRATEGYpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:49 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:01 AM
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FDS HUMORpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:25 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:35 AM
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STRATEGYpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:03 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:04 AM
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STAY WOKEpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:37 AM
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LEVEL UPpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:35 AM
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LIES MEN TELLpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:28 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 05:26 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:33 AM
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NAH, SISpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:26 AM
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LIES MEN TELLpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:35 PM
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STAY WOKEpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:05 AM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶pickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:37 AM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶pickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:05 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:38 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:17 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶pickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:54 AM
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FDS HUMORpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:13 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨pickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:02 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:50 PM
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LIES MEN TELLpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:08 AM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶pickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:52 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTpickadaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:37 PM
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Sex is sacred to me and my partner. I don’t want him having that w someone else and I don’t want it w someone else. I feel this way about him cooking for another woman one-on-one and many other things. Sex is not a weird limit to me. I don’t truly believe men care to be non-monogamous when they have found a woman they consider ‘the one’. My life experience validates this again and again. I practice RA, and I don’t tell my partner what to do or not do. I just wouldn’t take seriously a man who did…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 05:26 AM
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👏
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 05:11 AM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 05:10 AM
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Aw thanks queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/22 03:06 AM
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Yeah. He’s particularly good at the facade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/22 12:46 AM
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Have you tried it in the app? It works very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/22 10:16 PM
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It is! It’s a blue icon called spaces after you search wix
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/22 12:53 AM
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🤍🤍 Are you using the Wix app yet?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/22 02:06 AM
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!!!!!! Go to the fds website, there are directions!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/22 05:39 AM
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Hiii 🤍🤍 It’s the app you need in order to use the website not on the web browser. It’s pretty nice. It’s not Reddit but it’s got it’s benefits too. Are you using the website?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/22 09:50 PM
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Can’t message you but while FDS is up, I hit follow so we can find a way to connect later on Wix or whatnot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/22 10:08 PM
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Ohhh, thank you! I can’t wait to hear back about the dating scene in your next locale!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:10 AM
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What’s COL? I’m from soflo originally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:30 PM
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This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:19 PM
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If he wants you, he’ll find a way to spend more time with you and show his interest. I’m dating a guy I met at work and I work in HR, the toughest department to cross those lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:18 PM
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You are so welcome, queen. Healing will expand in time - and so will clarity! 🤍🤍🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 02:40 PM
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100% good strategy to check for porn sickness. I don’t bother to remove hair at all anymore. It’a a pain, time intensive, and costly. A man who isn’t porn sick will cherish what’s real and natural - including pubic hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:13 PM
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Colby’s gf is Marylyn. I think the producers tried to paint her in a terrible light. She even seemed sloppy drunk for the first few episodes, while Colby seemed emotionally intelligent and thoughtful and committed. Colby is similarly alarming to me as it’s obvious he has been “cheating” on her in multiple ways throughout their relationship and gaslighting Madyln about it. I wouldn’t be surprised if she was abusing pills at some point to escape how crazy he made her feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:02 PM
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It’s time for us queens to relax into our thrones. 🫅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:31 AM
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They just can’t keep up their mask!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:21 PM
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SAME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:21 PM
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I don’t count green flags. He either interests me or bores me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:48 AM
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EXACTLY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:44 AM
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Is there more of this ruthless fact throwing?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:41 AM
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I’d lose interest. Three dates in? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:37 AM
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This makes me feel so much better, thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:48 PM
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Why are you making the reservations? Sorry to derail but I’m stuck on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:43 AM
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Oh, no, no, no - that’s babysitting a grown man. There is nothing “co” about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:35 AM
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THIS IS PURE FDS CONTENT. Yes. Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:34 AM
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Thanks for sharing this perspective. I appreciate expanding my understanding of women’s experiences to minority groups and different cultures. All I’ve heard about this subject is the violence (and uninformed commentary on jada’s “infidelity”) and I really appreciate the FDS lens. There’s a context to this violence just as there was context to the BLM protests through the pandemic — people resort to violence when they have to, when every other avenue has been exhausted and denied. Thanks for sha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 03:30 AM
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🥰 I love all of yours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:09 AM
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I’ll never forget how delusional men are, thinking that women in porn are enjoying it because they are “promiscuous”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:34 AM
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🥰 so happy for you, queen! Love to see fellow royalty treated as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:13 AM
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I can confirm all of these and they are great! I’ll add a few more: *genuine appreciation for the chance to resolve conflicts, discomfort, and misunderstandings *a feeling of safety about approaching any conflict with each other *openness about disappointment, sadness, fear, etc. rather than putting up emotional walls *immediate reflection and accountability that follows with his plan of action as to how to prevent reoccurring issues (without a need to be prompted on any of this) *not assuming t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:10 AM
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Queen, you save me on the regular!! 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:02 AM
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I started validating that what I think of everyone else is so much bigger than what people think of me. I decided that people judging me was a compliment and that must mean I’m a star in their show. I’m important and important people get criticized. I decided that enough people think I’m attractive/smart/funny/awesome/etc. so clearly people who don’t think that are deeply flawed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:18 AM
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Exactly!! We need to keep the patriarchal picture in mind at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:15 AM
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I don’t even believe in fair shares. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:50 PM
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You are so welcome! I have some privilege in my life to speak up so I do so. I know not every woman can. 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:49 PM
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Get to know him with your eyes open and you will likely find a slew of red flags. Most men are trash and a single HVM is rare. Remember that if you’ve already invested in his worthwhileness before he sees you as worthwhile, it will never be a strategic dating move even if he asks you out. Your fantasies take you too deep into a false connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:23 PM
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LOL. This is not a real problem in the U.S. the real problem is men only see women as bait for sex and talk to us to hit on us, not to engage socially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:47 PM
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This reminds me of a neighbor complaining to me in the mailroom about how his partner never gets the mail no matter how many times he asks her. I’m ruthless and asked him if there are things she wants him to do that he could take off her plate. He said, “a lot” and then I said maybe if he took more off her plate, she’d get the mail. Men love to play the victim and tell partial stories to support their victim narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:45 PM
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I agree. They love to claim mental illness as an excuse to deceive us from their laziness and selfishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:14 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:13 PM
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LOLOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:11 PM
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Men have privilege in society and therefor opportunity to be a lot more successful than us at a younger age. You can absolutely meet men your age or younger who blow your success out of the water. In fact, a man 10+ years older who’s at your level is BELOW your level in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:09 PM
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Men have privilege in society and therefor opportunity to be a lot more successful than us at a younger age. You can absolutely meet men your age or younger who blow your success out of the water. In fact, a man 10+ years older who’s at your level is BELOW your level in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:01 PM
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I had no idea about the damage from these multi-penetrative r*** scenes. I’m a new level of horrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 10:24 PM
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100% feel this. Why even compromise for a man? He can figure out how to make it work without inconveniencing me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:49 AM
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Vet, vet, vet! If he wants to come visit to take you on a 1-2 hr date without placing ANY burden on you, and you want to go - go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:13 AM
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THIS IS AWESOME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:33 PM
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Thank you for all of this information! I didn’t know how much research was out there, but I’m in passionate agreement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:03 AM
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Sometimes I feel like the only person I know irl who thinks this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:00 AM
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Whoa. Do you still have the link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:06 AM
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This won’t replace the abuses they direct at us. It will encourage the behavior and validate the entitlement they feel toward us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:04 AM
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I want an entire post on this subject.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 02:56 AM
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It’s the best opt-out button ever, realizing I don’t want to be picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:00 AM
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Right? There is NO coming back from this mask slippage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:14 PM
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I have been trying to follow the news on the situation but tbh, I just wish all my news was delivered through an FDS lens because this is the important stuff. Trust that you have so many valid things to share here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:54 PM
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Someone should try it out to see how reddit responds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:42 AM
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This is such important stuff to critique. Thank you for this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:59 AM
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I’m here to say, me too. And I’m the one suggesting it and in control of every second of it. Would be turned off if a guy asked for it, even though I like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:56 AM
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What is your ideal trip?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:51 PM
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LOL these men claiming they care about endocrine disrupters while primarily eating food out of plastic containers and drinking water straight from the sink. Acting like they care about their health. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:22 AM
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Same, I’m 1.5 years I think? It’s readily available too and I’m just like, “why?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:59 PM
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This is very important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:46 PM
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An important distinction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:43 AM
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👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:40 AM
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HAHAHAHA THEY THINK WE CAN’T HANDLE A YEAR WITHOUT SEX. Someone poll the group. Let’s see how many of us chose celibacy the last two years. 😂🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:38 AM
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Yeah I don’t think she’s an FDS rep but she’s getting there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 11:36 PM
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Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 11:35 PM
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I am here for the recommendation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:39 AM
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Warning: she’s definitely pornsick but she’s speaking a lot of FDS facts in this special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:41 AM
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YESSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:53 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:51 PM
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We literally ask for the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:35 PM
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Yeah, I feel like she has only told him a few times now. Maybe a hundred more will do it. /s 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:34 PM
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Was thinking it 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:20 AM
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This was such a great topic to bring up, thank you! I’ve been doing the same with “girls/women” but didn’t consider “guys”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:46 AM
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That’s a great response! You got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 03:59 AM
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This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:31 PM
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I don’t accept dates until I’ve been given the plan. What’s the offer? Do I even want to go on that date? Men, alone, do not bring enough to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:30 PM
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OUR STANDARDS ARE DERANGED?! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:54 PM
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I AM READY 🐝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:34 PM
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If only we could transmit messages to any woman, anywhere, anytime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:20 AM
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Wow, his idea is so unique. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:19 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:18 PM
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I’m here for these reality checks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:08 AM
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I just laugh when people ask me this. I’m confident in my choice to fly solo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:19 AM
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There are so many red flags starting at date 1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:14 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:11 AM
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How can you view someone’s follows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:45 AM
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😂👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:34 AM
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I ask instead: “why go out of my way to be attractive when men will sexual use me no matter what?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:26 AM
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QUEEN SHEEEEEEEEEET!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:23 AM
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😂😂👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:56 AM
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Throw the entire family out too, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:58 PM
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I don’t know how she thinks communicating is going to inspire this man to respect her. He’s using her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:57 PM
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They are negging. It’s a conspiracy to brainwash every woman she’s just not hot enough, thus has no real value to society, thus she shall bend herself over backwards to earn a crumb of attention from a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:03 PM
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WOW. This is exactly why I need FDS. It’s easy to forget how absolutely dangerous and depraved and entitled men really are. Thank you for putting all of this together for us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:13 AM
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This works for me. 10/10 recommend spreading FDS gently but directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:57 AM
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YESSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:55 AM
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Ooo, thanks for the rec, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:50 AM
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Wow, fuck. The pickmeism that leads women to this level of depravity. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:46 AM
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I’m here for the stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:43 AM
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Even if we request it, it would make an HVM uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:42 AM
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Oh goodness, I’m dying they are so spot-on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:51 AM
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All of these are so poignant! Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 03:27 PM
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This deserves an entire post, queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 04:01 AM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 04:00 AM
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Yeah. I’m totally buying that he CANT CONTROL whether or not he watches porn. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:59 AM
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This is why we have to actively work on dismantling the illusion of “materialistic, selfish, greedy” women. ASK FOR EVERYTHING AND THEN SOME, LADIES. Stop worrying what anyone thinks of you and collect your dues!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:56 AM
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I do know! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:53 AM
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Wow, every woman needs to read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:51 AM
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That’s so unfortunately true about our culture. It’s all sound bytes and click bait headlines. Everything has to be watered down. Though FDS proves some of us still appreciate lengthy discourse!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 01:44 AM
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They don’t even understand how vaginas work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:53 PM
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This!!! The burden has fallen solely on women to handle childcare and sacrifice their careers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:51 PM
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This definitely doesn’t align with what I know of her work - which is centered on embracing who you are and how you feel, owning all of it, taking those risks. It’s totally valid for you to have your perspective and I appreciate you taking the time to type out your response! There may be things i haven’t seen that would make me agree, so who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:11 AM
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Wow I want to hear her journey toward FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:27 AM
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Awww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:27 AM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:26 AM
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Wow I’m here for these stories… please!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:25 AM
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This is another reason why we shouldn’t explain it to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:23 AM
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Can you provide any examples of this? (Only if you want and don’t feel emotionally burdened by the ask) I know her work well and feel like there must be a misunderstanding of it to think it doesn’t apply to everyone and every moment of our lives outside of serious trauma contexts such as trafficking, DV, and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:17 PM
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May the word spread far and wide!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:04 AM
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This is absolutely beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:39 AM
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I have no words. Never forget what men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:19 AM
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Yeah, I’d take a house instead of a ring. My house. He can visit sometimes. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:54 AM
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Lab grown diamonds are basically identical to earth grown. It’s super interesting! I went on a research binge from this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:51 AM
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Great call out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:58 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:58 AM
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Right? I love how men try to gaslight us into thinking we are problematic because they did something THEY want to do, say it’s FOR US and then cannot believe we are unhappy with their selfish gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:57 AM
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I agree. And I just need every woman to know: don’t let a man use random facts to convince you you don’t deserve a valuable engagement ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:53 AM
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Had to look it up… Lab-grown holds no value. Eeep. He spent 20k on a worthless token? He’s definitely the idiot for not caring about her preferences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:34 AM
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Looks like I made a lot of people mad with this summary!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:55 PM
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It’s when a man makes plans for the future with you but never intends to enact the plans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 03:11 AM
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I’ll be the first to say I was so effing dumb about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 03:04 AM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 03:02 AM
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She called it “sex”. Things have changed so quickly, in just 15 or so years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:58 AM
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I was wondering about the timing too… I really want to have this conversation. It never seems safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:48 AM
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He proves our expectations are NOT AT ALL UNREALISTIC!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:47 AM
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A straw man argument that blew away the moment he typed it..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:04 PM
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Poshmark!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:59 AM
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I speak my truth and let the right women step forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:58 AM
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If you don’t like it? HAHAHA. That was his chance and he failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:41 AM
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Priceless!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:15 AM
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Definitely split off into a twisted timeline. Can we jump?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:28 AM
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Yesss loved this!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:08 AM
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Write it, please!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:52 AM
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YESSSSSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:51 AM
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😂🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:39 PM
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YUP!! Do men even have personalities of their own?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:38 PM
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I’m not attracted to it but with masks, I’m falsely attracted to guys before realizing… imaging kissing a beard with all that info about the feces and such… 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:37 PM
36

I can’t believe how normal it is for men to blame women…for getting murdered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:41 AM
475

Now I’m thinking I should tell men with any level of beard, “oh you must have forgotten to shave.” Their audacity is inspiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:40 AM
433

EVERYONE BUT HER KNOWS THAT HE AIN’T EVER PICKING HER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:23 AM
2

Thank you for sharing! It’s still a bit amusing. 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 03:57 AM
3

Does this happen with longer beards or do they soften like other body hair? I prefer clean cut men so I’ve never kissed a man with a beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:35 AM
32

Same! I love the female-centered news.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:18 AM
17

I do not have endo but am intrigued about this drama. Please gossip to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:12 AM
16

Yes, yes, yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:06 AM
8

Ugh this is so well-thought-out! 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:00 AM
3

I had to save this. So important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:59 AM
32

I love this, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:56 AM
151

Wow, the mirror thing completes your case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:55 AM
5

This post needs a trigger warning, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:54 PM
3

Same. That was a fun surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:54 PM
5

THIS This is why dating is fun This is how FDS ladies do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:49 PM
8

Yup! I know some SWers irl who make decent enough money to survive. They aren’t really doing “well” or on any upwards path. They would rather do SW than wait tables, which is fair, waiting tables is hard and humiliating. Those are their options. That’s how I know it’s not a choice even when they post memes to claim their job is empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:50 PM
2

Same!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:55 AM
10

What’s the reasoning behind complimenting style not beauty?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:54 AM
10

Whoa. This is enlightening. Please, please, write the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:52 AM
22

I had to screenshot that last paragraph because it was so fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:49 AM
27

It’s easy for a man to catfish…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:47 AM
64

We need to promote more of these stories from sex workers or ex-sex workers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:47 AM
4

YES. That makes me want to retrace some steps from the past… I do see how I was ignoring things, especially the inconsistency. I realize now that the least I get in an inconsistent situation is REALITY and also, no more inconsistency for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:53 PM
10

You’re not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:49 PM
30

This feels like a “pick me” move. We don’t go places irl to “make ourselves available to men”. We go places because we want to be there. Follow him if you like his content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:49 PM
16

He doesn’t want to marry you and he already decided that long ago. A man who wants this from you wouldn’t leave you wondering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 03:50 AM
19

You are 100% on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 03:44 AM
9

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:06 AM
14

One of mine was exactly that - that lady finally became single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:06 AM
62

Wait till they realize dick is abundant and low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:05 AM
62

I still adore men but I no longer respect them. Do they even have their own personalities and interests outside of porn and gaming?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:27 PM
56

I believe this man knows better and is just trying to add to the libfem sex posi manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:26 PM
225

Just going to add a comment that the only two men who ever left me, left me for a woman they were already emotionally investing in prior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:40 PM
343

Hahaha! “Women I’ve had sex with are unenthusiastic in bed. It must mean they are unskilled.” Yes. We’re all terrible in bed. Please leave us for the robots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:31 PM
23

🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 09:39 PM
67

She’s my inner spirit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 09:36 PM
26

I relate to having to use “less bad” fantasizing to get away from the pornographic version. I used a crush this last year. It’s easier to get over a falsified version of a crush than a lifetime of porn fantasies. 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:56 PM
209

You have to change the fantasies and be willing not to orgasm. There’s a withdrawal and it could take years to get to the other side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:23 AM
8

Leveling up. Growing as a human. Finding all the joy I can out of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:34 AM
35

I read and was like, “where’s the joke?” Before I saw your post title. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:47 AM
3

Glasses and more curly hair styles and odd color skin options (grey is cool!) I love these! Eye roll poses or smirks might be fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 04:55 AM
2

Thank you so much for sharing about your country in such detail! I find it fascinating to learn about how other people live! The US pays more to run our loan payback programs than it would cost to pay for college. It’s dumb. But I’m guessing there are a lot of downsides to socialism to the level you’ve seen in AUS. Certainly having a class-system for health care (though it exists in our US healthcare too) isn’t good. Fascinating read, thank you again!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 03:18 AM
4

Tell me more about this safety net! So fascinating. You make a great point that I am going to digest all night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:50 AM
6

Raise your expectations to a guy who would research wisely enough to find a restaurant even you would approve of. As a fellow foodie who has been deceived by good reviews, I’ve become an expert at predicting quality of food (or a hike!). If I visited you, I’d have a list and be asking if we could go here, there, and there. If I can and would, so can a man. And that’s a man that’s fit for your highness. You deserve someone who erases all this worry because he’s a grown man who knows how to resear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:42 AM
2

It’s possible if it’s your dream, know that - but I’ve seen videos in which women show the challenges/reality of van life so I wouldn’t want it to be my primary residence. Even this video is BS because she is FREEZING. You have to sleep in layers or in a 0* sleeping bag just to survive that temp in CO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:34 AM
3

So she acquires the food, cares for the home, and works…while he recreationally skis all day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:29 AM
3

More facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:25 AM
1

Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:25 AM
8

WOW. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:15 AM
5

You need to go through withdrawals from this just as you would if you were a porn user. If you’ve been using this for your entire masterbatory life, be patient. Seek out your innate sexuality in your mind. Understand you’ll get frustrated and have to give up without orgasms. This is still porn sicknesses and your brain will eventually start to recover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:53 AM
2

👑 JUST PUT IT ON, YOU ROYAL B*. We shall all bow to your greatness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:48 AM
16

WOW. Queen. I saved bits of this to share on my insta.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:40 AM
5

It’s seriously a right of passage here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:33 AM
6

Outta’ this world 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:03 AM
8

This is your intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:18 AM
22

Exactly. No one genuine would tell this story. They would simply ask reddit: “should you tell a woman you’re rejecting why you’re rejecting her?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:15 AM
14

You changed your little character! 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:08 AM
12

Ooo, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:05 AM
24

LOVE IT!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:40 AM
33

There’s a lot of fine print, isn’t there? Pure gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:53 AM
10

Thanks for the rec!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:46 AM
14

You’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:44 AM
9

It’s sooo good! I can’t wait for more episodes. I loved the book back when I was in school. The main character seems very FDS so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:42 AM
17

Thank you so much for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:40 AM
3

You are welcome. That crown is gleaming on your head!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:06 AM
3

And then when they don’t have an answer, we won’t react because I’m not a man’s free education service. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:06 AM
10

Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:01 AM
23

You didn’t come out of this date with excitement. You were annoyed. Why would you want to date a man who annoys and disappoints you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:00 AM
137

You know what FDS says? Men always accuse women of what they are. This time, it’s that we’re entitled. Yet…I can’t even pretend to have the audacity of a man. It’s my goals. Please, god, let me be more entitled to joy and freedom and power like men so easily do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:56 AM
80

Adding to my vetting strategies: what female character do you most empathize with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:42 AM
40

Tell. Me. More.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:41 AM
37

Ughhh you make me crave a good book that hasn’t been made. Even Katniss had this narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:41 AM
3

I agree! I feel liberated, wide-eyed, clear-headed and grounded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:53 AM
78

I’m checking these off as I go like a BINGO card.😂😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:35 AM
36

100% this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:35 AM
6

100% not satisfied with two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:22 PM
20

Seriously though - two orgasms for me is an appetizer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:21 PM
38

Same! I had no idea men did this on the regular. I love these posts to keep me on my toes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:14 PM
25

Same, same, same. I still adore them as a class of people I want to rub my loins against, but now I know — and can never unknow — the truth about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:52 AM
2

Aw, girl, thanks so much! This makes me remember why I loved posting. 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:09 AM
2

Girl, you don’t need to believe you deserve anything. Sure, I want you to grow in that regard, but it’s not a requirement. You just have to widen your eyes to the fact that men have the audacity to believe they are entitled to whatever they want. Queen, do you want it? Then find the inner male entitlement within and have the fucking audacity. There are literally no consequences to believing you should get what you want even if you don’t deserve it. Fun fact: men will apply to a job if they are 6…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:28 AM
111

The age gap should go the other way. We age better and need a young man to keep up with our sexual needs. 😂😂 (I’m slightly kidding because I’m simply not attracted to a man who is significantly younger than me.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:45 AM
4

Ready for some history on burlesque!! Thanks queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:35 PM
27

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:46 PM
35

A knife to our collective FDS heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:18 AM
259

She was probably still paying bills during the time she lived with him too so she has no money. Come to think of it, I bet he only wanted her to move in for the money. Men are gold diggers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:12 PM
3

Yes exactly! I would even say to him, “where are you right now?!” But I had no idea about porn sickness then so I wasn’t equipped with the fierce FDS knowledge I needed to SEE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:38 PM
3

For sure!! It’s a great post and it’s heartbreaking how many of these we all experience with men. 🤍🤍🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:37 PM
29

Great list! Can I suggest adding ejaculating too quickly no matter how much sex you have or how long you’ve been together? 9, 14, and 15 with one of my exes but he was otherwise incredibly generous and loving toward my body. I want to leave this note here in case other women don’t realize you don’t need the entire list to be with a porn sick man. I wish I knew about this stuff sooner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:35 PM
48

Seconding this. Men know what they want rather quickly. He already knows you’re not it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:07 AM
68

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:38 PM
190

Ignorance is NOT bliss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 10:57 PM
128

Undercooked loaves of bread 😂 love this and I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:17 AM
2

👏😂👏😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 03:43 AM
12

:/ Are you sure he doesn’t anymore? Why did he quit watching? What does he THINK of porn. Girl, I hope you find the strength to end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:06 AM
3

😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:40 PM
11

YES. We all inevitably do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:07 AM
73

You’re saving your LIFE, queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:41 AM
21

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:39 AM
145

He must not have agreed with you if you didn’t notice. Does your fiancé watch porn? Do you have any idea how he views sex work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:39 AM
123

And this is a moment in your life when you can save yourself or you can move forward with him and look back later wishing you didn’t waste your time. He’s telling you who he is. This only gets worse once married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:38 AM
89

What the heck have they been talking about for 11 years IS RIGHT! How do people convince themselves they know and love someone they literally don’t know at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:35 AM
25

This was an awesome critical analysis, thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:56 AM
93

I need these reminders every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:56 AM
2

Do you recommend the show?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:32 AM
5

👏👏👏👏 So happy to be back to this life-saving sub! Thank you, mods!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:39 PM
1

This breaks my heart. I wish I could help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/21 01:42 AM
2

I’m guessing men are downvoting you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/21 01:36 AM
1

Thank you !!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 01:26 AM
18

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:41 PM
41

The real problem is that I need to read more about how to please a man so he will stay with me and let me care for his basic needs. If only I could be better, he’d choose me over this! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:39 PM
30

“Hi, I’m a man who puts up with a minor oddity about the woman who puts up with ALL MY SHIIIT. I’m the prize, right?” No, sir, you are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:38 PM
2

🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:50 AM
35

Ughhh, thank you for educating me. I’m horrified. So mean. The cutie is cute just for being him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:50 AM
2

I can see a snippet of a relationship and instantly know if the man is an abuser. 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:26 PM
11

This is why I don’t want anyone to think I’m nice or sweet. Tell me I’m ruthless and you respect me for it; don’t tell me I’m nice. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:24 PM
5

Adding this to my list of expectations! Very relatable to what I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:23 PM
1

Whoa! Thanks for educating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:21 PM
2

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:16 PM
2

Will you summarize your findings after?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:15 PM
82

Omfg please tell me this isn’t true. I’m crying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:11 PM
86

I love the question: “can you do better?” I’m keeping that one readily available for most situations now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:04 PM
140

I just realized that if women really weren’t funny and men were so good at being funny then women wouldn’t have to say “I want a man who’s funny” for her dating list and men would say they wanted that more… 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:37 PM
13

I am a huge fan of comedy and struggle to truly love female comics due to their toxic pickme content (like I’m laughing and cringing at the same time). Thank you for making some recommendations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:56 AM
6

YASSS. Who else is looking forward to that moment when they say some thing FDS-minded Out in the wild and another woman gives you that look that tells you she’s your FDS sister?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:50 AM
20

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:47 PM
194

I just love how everything can just be described as a “fetish” these days rather than saying what is actually going on. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:43 PM
17

I’m so curious which parts of the handbook you disagree with, if you’re willing to share here or in a dm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:07 AM
28

This is awesome. Thank you for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:05 AM
18

Was scrolling to ensure someone said this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:01 AM
123

Triangulation 101.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:37 PM
32

All the newbies NEED to read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:36 PM
4

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:12 PM
23

You have inherent value as a woman, period. Doesn’t matter how great a guy seems. He also has to treat you well and contribute to your life. The fact that he’s successful in some life areas should only be another vetting expectation - does he make you feel secure, important, successful in your own right? How does he speak about himself and his own success? Does he recognize his areas for improvement? Etc etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:11 PM
22

😂 Common denominators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:24 AM
10

How can he think they have separate money if they’re married? He doesn’t care at all about what’s best for her. Don’t even get me started on how she sacrificed her career ladder to gestate, birth, and nurture FOUR children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:37 PM
40

Women are so damn beautiful. She looks like a fairy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:34 PM
24

You don’t have to invest in men the way men need to invest in you. This is a core tenant of FDS. Raise your standards and believe you are inherently worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:31 PM
8

I’ve done this before, just not with HVMs. 😂 I’m still a believer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:00 AM
23

😂😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:56 AM
38

SAME!!! I always thought something was wrong with me. Turns out it was men all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:35 PM
3

Thank youuuuu!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 01:49 AM
18

Such a great question! P.S. how do I sign up too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:56 PM
6

100% factual!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:30 PM
1

Ughhh, I feel this so deeply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:37 AM
1

Should I see the other Harley movies before this one or can I dive right in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:30 AM
22

This. It’s very pickme to think the only HVM you can get is one you don’t actually want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:00 AM
10

Gorgeous mentality!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:05 AM
176

It doesn’t have to be obvious how they are using you. Such an important point women miss because they assume guys would only use us for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 01:35 PM
135

He was triangulating both of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 10:51 PM
11

Aww! Please share your brains and let me reward you with more awards 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:33 PM
1

You’re right, I really need to prioritize my erection. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:09 AM
43

This needs an entire post. Wow. Just blew my mind with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:06 AM
16

My reframe of the first guy who writes in for advice, as a HVM instead: My wife is in serious pain during sex and doctors don’t listen to her. Instead of wondering how I can get her to fck me despite her pain, I’m using all my energy to reach out to our support networks and the internet for referrals to better doctors. I’m truly worried about her. It sucks for us both equally to not be able to have penetrative intercourse. We love one another. We are learning how to enjoy intimacy without penetr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:20 AM
4

Yesss, love Oscar Wilde! A true visionary!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:02 PM
6

Right? But there’s a fire comment above from a newbie about the 3 options if you don’t choose marriage. Still, marriage is a horrifying prospect to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:43 AM
47

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:53 AM
61

She thinks she’s clever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:52 AM
107

A common theme that “my girl was dry” because men think you can pay for consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:35 AM
62

Welcome to true enlightenment and intense joy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:48 PM
7

I as well see the revolution upon us, and I am spreading the message across the globe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:18 AM
10

So relatable! I LOVE talking about definitions and usage. I’ve not met many men who get as excited about words as I have. I’ve definitely had at least one bad fight because me and the guy disagreed about what a word means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:05 AM
21

This stuff hasn’t been discussed in FDS in awhile: recognizing that we can’t be equal because men play a different game than we play. I hope you write a post about it. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:02 AM
14

Do it for yourself! Do it for your fellow women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:01 AM
7

Beeeeeauuuutiful!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:58 AM
2

Why talk about it before you know if you want it with him? Vet. Learn. Get to know. Then you talk about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:55 AM
29

What are the signs he’s porn free? Tell us all!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:39 PM
4

I value this reaction so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:38 AM
7

This comment is 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:33 AM
6

Yes, and behavioral therapy especially will be helpful for you to work on the skill along with dismantling the internalized pickmeism. Nothing that anyone thinks matters as long as you stand by who you are and the choices you make. You CAN. Your ASD is an asset!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:24 AM
22

I LOVE the female character questions. And if the guy answers that he doesn’t like any of the female characters, I want an entire breakdown analysis of why he thinks that a man wrote that character and how the female characters are written without their own agency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:52 AM
3

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:49 AM
13

Why wait to unmask and properly vet? Be yourself from moment 1 and let the man who dares to love you actually love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:48 AM
47

“To me, there is no point in masking.” Hard agree. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:47 AM
3

They sure do have the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:43 AM
143

Reading this was like re-living my pickmeisha trauma of the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 04:03 AM
33

I can’t fathom how we, as a collective, have dated men who clearly didn’t like us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:42 AM
11

Curly girl understanding here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:04 PM
359

Wow, this is shameful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 01:58 PM
22

You made it official after one month and took an overnight trip? I have to check you on this. Superb boundary upholding about porn, nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:44 AM
6

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:26 AM
21

YES! I’ve been playing this game on OLD to see how men react to it (because I’m isolating in the pandemy) and I’m realizing how my pre-FDS self gave SO MUCH DAMN EFFORT. I also now disappear for two days after established convo to test how they handle their emotions - and most unmatch me! Men are so low effort yet cry about their bad luck on dating sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:14 AM
8

Yes!! I love going on adventures like urban walks around cute neighborhoods, visiting parks and nature destinations, checking out cute shops and art, walking around nurseries touching all the plants. I also love parties and events so I plan to take myself on those dates when it’s safe to do so again. I am loving dating myself so if a guy wants in on that time, he better have a LOT to offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:06 AM
1

Almost a total queen. Hopefully she leave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:50 AM
2

Yassssss! This gives me life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:49 AM
66

Right? They front like they could get sex easily single. Meanwhile any mistress they catch is meeting a man bettered by his wife and isn’t actually that man on his own. Speaking as an experienced mistress who sees the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:10 AM
76

They will never admit that they feel entitled to sex with their wives even though they do nothing to deserve it. Oh wait, no they tell on themselves constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:08 AM
78

Omgosh that’s a thing? How perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:07 AM
19

Pickme-esque. You can go with him to support him but you don’t help him. You observe and then see if he does better for your birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:26 AM
82

YUP. Porn has effectively normalized incest. 15 years ago, a man would be ashamed to admit it but now it’s page 1 of all the porn sites. Now it’s a “kink”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:53 AM
120

Glad this content is getting out there! Minor disappointment: no mention and connection to the use of pornography to keep women enslaved and how it perpetuates their sick mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:32 AM
6

Ugghhhmazing post, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:40 AM
36

My god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:49 AM
8

Whoa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:28 AM
10

How’s the whole book?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:22 AM
2

I BINGED THEM ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:19 AM
72

Terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:35 PM
1

^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:42 AM
1

Omg it was a typo! That is so funny! I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:42 AM
3

Yes please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 11:56 PM
28

I don’t want to nullify your overall point - but yes, sometimes bodies just don’t work together the way that they should. That being said, using FDS strategies to slowly ease into sexual activity over time would prevent a sexual incompatibility issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:45 PM
19

There are no medium value men. Please stop promoting the idea. Either a man adds value to your life or he doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:38 PM
295

These are the stories that remind me of why we all need FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:35 PM
66

So what I’m hearing from this is: Men should pay for dates The entire incel movement was built by pick up artistry telling them they have to be at least somewhat attractive in order to get women Walk away at the first neg or triangulation because that man is aiming for sex Thanks guys for validating the FDS movement and taking accountability for your problem, ba, ha, ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:59 PM
6

Ooo, thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:33 PM
7

How’s the rest of her content?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:04 AM
6

Such a queen! I hope she finds her fan base (us)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:59 AM
16

Wow. I am so disappointed in the pickings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:38 AM
1

Wow, I shouldn’t be surprised by this at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:54 PM
8

In your queendom, only you make the rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:18 AM
3

Well doesn’t this just explain some things…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:16 AM
20

Nah, sis. First of all, this is no one’s business. Second of all, own it. I don’t have an “astronomically” high amount of past lovers, but I do enjoy playing like I have. I tell any guy I’m sleeping with (who asks) that I’ve had sex with a 100 guys and they are 101. Nothing is different about me because of the number of lovers I’ve had and I don’t want anything to do with a man who wants to gaslight me into thinking it’s a problem. My biggest regrets are falling for LVMs and NVMs that broke my h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:59 AM
5

Does she get the $10 if he can’t get it up due to his porn addiction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:54 AM
13

I relate! I wasn’t so aware of how intelligent and calculating men really are. Praise be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:52 AM
11

Fuck to the yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:50 AM
30

FOR REAL. Men (in the US) like to play like their lives are so hard and they need to “rest” ALL THE TIME. And then they rest by obsessively playing video games that piss them off and/or cause them to avoid caring for their basic needs. It’s a total scam. They will do anything to convince us they desperately need their video games. Thanks, but I’ll take a real man instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:31 AM
104

This is the root of the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:20 AM
1

Once you break the spell around men being stupid, everything is going to open up for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:43 PM
283

Men aren’t daft. He knows. He just wanted props from people on the Internet for his bare minimum efforts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:27 PM
74

I think they always have told on themselves and I was just in denial/brainwashed/naive to notice. It seems so glaringly obvious now… 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:26 PM
18

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:20 PM
7

I feel so seen and trusted by you. I sincerely hope we find a way to meet irl someday. 💛 Yeah, this article was absolutely heartbreaking! I don’t realize just how BAD it is for young women until I see the direct stories or data like this. For example… The majority of men when I was in my teens and early 20s were disgusted by anal or would do it if the girl wanted to. Occasionally a guy was obsessed, or occasionally a guy was a rapist/abuser and used anal in a non consensual way. That wasn’t the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:10 PM
1

Omgosh she is SO FUNNY Thanks! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:20 AM
16

Autocorrect, oops! tok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:18 AM
36

It’s AMAZING. Please read it. They are fighting the good fight with great data. Trust me. Come back and tell me I’m right pleeeease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:05 AM
13

I have an IRL FDS friend that I am so, so grateful for!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:56 AM
18

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:52 AM
109

I am so grateful that this content is thriving on the Tok. Ladies, we are making a real shift in the world right now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:52 AM
43

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:49 AM
36

YES. Hard agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:48 AM
64

And they say women aren’t funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:14 AM
44

Yup! He admits it’s a challenging hike. He obviously knows the weather and the requirements of any significant hike. He gloats about his experience. This entire situation was a neg. Truly psychopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:11 AM
14

It was so relatable to my own life… 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:05 AM
7

I hope someone posts the link!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:05 AM
9

SAAAAAME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:27 AM
96

You make me want to write a post about living alone and why I never want to go back to living with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:07 AM
84

Talk and walk the tenants only, send memes and snippets…wait for the woman to get hungry for more, than intro her to the sub. It’s strategic; not gossip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:06 AM
53

3rding the theory! He wanted in your pants and already decided you weren’t the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:04 AM
88

This is beautiful. Can’t wait to see your future posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:02 AM
12

Great quote!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:32 PM
8

💛 you are such a wise woman these days, changing all of our lives with your cutthroat strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:52 AM
15

“He wasn’t that abusive though!” /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:23 AM
19

Ugh, thank you. I keep seeing this “medium value” BS. It’s a denial of looking at the holistic net payout. Is he great (HVM) or is he only sometimes great? (LVM)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:03 AM
5

Yes, yes, yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:02 AM
26

THANK YOU. This whole “medium” thing is pickmeism. He’s either adding value to your life or he’s lowering it. LVMs also add value while they lower it, that’s why we call them “low value” rather than none/negative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:02 AM
22

There are no medium value men. Either the cost-benefit analysis pays out high, or it doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:59 AM
233

If it happens to a man, it’s a wrong to be righted; if it happens to a woman, she’s at fault. Apply to all things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:57 AM
1

Thank you for sharing 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:54 AM
1

Wait till you go further into the show. This is one of my favorites to watch and yell at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:42 AM
8

There is no middleVM. Your suspicions about Raj are dead-on: no HVM would hang with these men. We can’t know the real Raj, but we can say with confidence that he, too, is LVM. I enjoyed your analysis. I liked the show long ago but was so annoyed by the characters for these reasons!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:41 AM
7

Queen advice! I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:34 AM
2

Thank you so much. My skin never seems to get hydrated in the dry climate I moved to a few years back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:29 AM
1

💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:32 PM
15

I just don’t let men sleep in my bed anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:21 PM
3

What kind of oil? Learning skin tricks here…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:20 PM
44

Wrap him in Saran Wrap and throw him away. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:19 PM
18

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:19 PM
37

I’ve been on both sides of this. I wish I hadn’t been told by all my friends in my teen years that I was a B——-. I KNEW those guys weren’t up to scuff but everyone made me feel so demanding. Thankful to find myself again with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:08 PM
19

As someone who worked in the domestic violence field for awhile — every time a man complained as the victim, it turned out he was actually the perpetrator of ongoing power and control tactics that eventually led to a woman attacking or defending herself violently because he pushed her into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:48 AM
8

LOL. Had to see where you were going with this, and when I did, it hurt so good. Yup. It’s like so painfully obvious how desperately I acted with men. I can’t even with my past self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:11 AM
6

That’s perfect. Literal perfection. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:40 AM
7

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:21 AM
20

I stopped watching porn with FDS so I’m probably going to be behind on the terms born from it. Hopefully someone keeps us up to date the way some stalk trp to educate us. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:07 AM
3

A war is inevitable. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:06 AM
11

I didn’t see any comments answering about how to hint about no food/drink dates. I don’t drink and I don’t eat at restaurants. Id love neat ideas on how to communicate this without doing the work of giving them ideas for dates. That’s their job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:14 PM
29

To my understanding, it’s not easy to break a rib, right? Like you can’t “accidentally” lean too hard on a healthy, young woman and break a rib, can you? But duh if he did it on accident, he’d have driven her to the ER and felt AWFUL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:08 PM
108

All I can think is he was turned on by “gaping” imagery. “Wide” is a whole new term for me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:06 PM
2

Exactly! Can’t think of a single time I had sex, orgasmed once, and thought “alright then, game over.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:02 PM
35

Lol because women call it “finishing” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:40 AM
11

Ala resistance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:38 AM
14

They are entitled to us, how can we refuse any of them?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:37 AM
87

Little do they know we can swear off any man who doesn’t meet our standards 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:15 PM
2

I’m okay with younger kids. As I see it, it’s their job and I’m not going to lower my own standards for dating so it doesn’t affect me. If they can show up for as I need them, then it doesn’t matter. I’m not going to step into a mommy-wife role. I don’t want to marry or cohabitate either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 03:45 AM
1

This should be the top comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:48 AM
1

😂😂 wow I didn’t know about that reputation. Hot or not, they’re still men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:53 AM
2

I love you as always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:44 PM
2

I am childfree. I am open to dating a man with a child but I won’t be helping raise them. I will, however, act like a child with them and befriend them. I have no desire to be anyone’s parent and have never been open to making babies. No thanks. Can’t wait for menopause. I agree with your concern about the use of the term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:43 PM
4

For anyone reading this who runs into a similar situation in the US: File an EEOC claim if HR doesn’t act. No cost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:06 PM
7

Omg too good 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:00 PM
1

Awwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:55 PM
3

I lived in DC a decade ago! Hot men everywhere but dating and friendship was so transient!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:55 PM
7

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:51 PM
4

Men are only interested in their own outcomes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:05 PM
2

Oh my gosh, this is so true. It’s infuriating how true it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:01 PM
2

RIGHT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:00 PM
3

“His mask is off now that you live together.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:00 PM
2

Ooo I didn’t know about that detail!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:57 PM
4

Your happiness above all else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:56 PM
1

This is such great advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:55 PM
2

🤣 I’m the friend! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:54 PM
36

F U U U U C K
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:00 AM
50

Getting the right toys for you. Allowing yourself space to make mistakes until you’re absolutely sure. Walking yourself through scenarios: If it’s good sex, how will you not fall for them? If they like you too, what position are you in to vet after having a flood of hormones? If it’s bad sex, was it worth it? Shift perspective: you’re not celibate; you’re waiting for the right suitor. Sex will come. I promise. Let the feelings be felt. The “need” for sex changes after long periods, and it shifts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:41 PM
1

😂💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:44 PM
86

The only thing he had besides audacity is great taste in women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:02 PM
4

Loved this show. I’m down for matchmaking and blind dating shows. Keeps me alert. 😂 I agree, Aparna was a baddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:15 AM
1

I don’t date men who play video games or watch porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:13 AM
5

I thought this was going to be a dissection of fry. I’m here for this. Love futurama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:11 AM
26

LOL I’m 37 and would not be cool with a man my age having a snap. No. It’s so unnecessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:05 AM
6

Ooof yes, I also didn’t find Ned to be the hero everyone claims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:02 AM
8

😂👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:01 AM
9

All of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:00 AM
14

LVM. There is no medium or middle value man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:58 AM
89

Yessssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:53 AM
2

Highly likely facts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:36 PM
5

Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:36 PM
8

It just furthers irl problems!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:35 PM
14

Such a beautiful comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:38 AM
65

This is such a TV pet peeve of mine! Who the heck is wearing stilettos on a scene? You’ve got to be prepared to run in that job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:35 AM
39

I’m just gonna’ go ahead and say: I couldn’t care any less about someone thinking I’m classist. Oh no! You told an oppressed class (woman) she’s too bourgeois! 😂 I am so worried!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:33 AM
35

I want the story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:28 AM
23

Don’t they all… 🙄😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:59 AM
6

US citizen and 100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:43 AM
15

Right? Why keep that trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:42 AM
31

Right? Men who support men like this are just as delusional and porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:38 AM
46

It’s wild how real this is. I had no idea until FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:37 AM
70

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE SCROTES IN THE BACK. This is outright pornsick. Men have no need to care where to damn ejaculate goes. They are just lucky they got to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:36 AM
112

Wahhh wahhh my entitlement bone hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:35 AM
7

Yup yup yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:33 AM
16

Kick that friendship to the curb. Queens don’t allow themselves to be used and a convenience to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:32 AM
46

EFFFF YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:29 AM
51

It’s beyond sad. She’s one of us. I hope she finds FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:27 AM
56

Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:27 AM
101

A “no exes” policy if you watch movies to see hot guys Oh my. The raging insecurity and entitlement of a man who can’t get a single girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:26 AM
2

Love you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:10 AM
5

Wow, yes - haven’t we all been treated this way at some point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:09 AM
2

Describe a man to me who isn’t low value and high value. Just because he’s not hurting you, doesn’t mean he’s not LVM status. Trust that he is until he proves otherwise because most are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:08 AM
109

😂 the thing women have been relegated to do for centuries, men are somehow more experienced at!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:36 PM
5

I also really just enjoy listening to them talk! I think some of my constructive feedback here would be that when there’s a guest on that the hosts still stay very engaged and share more of themselves than letting the guests just talk. I want more of a conversation and less of a guest host!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:24 AM
9

Yes! Let us “post wall” women write in about how men never stop harassing us and how cheap and easy dick is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:22 AM
8

We need a damn series!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:21 AM
48

Welcome to the other side of your life, dear. This is the much clearer, lighter side. Time to find yourself, show up as her, and let the right man find you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:20 AM
17

Prior to FDS, I stumbled upon “solo p⭕️ly” (if you want to research it) and realized I wasn’t broken and incapable of relationships, I just didn’t want them the way society presents them. I think the category is helpful for understanding more about what an autonomous life can look like — and then you can throw away the p⭕️ly part as that is not FDS-friendly). It blew my mind, as I laid beside my then-partner, annoyed by his very existence no matter how still, quiet and asleep he was, to learn I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:16 AM
13

Value isn’t about “goodness”. I think a re-reading of the handbook is necessary here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:26 PM
8

The man you described would take more from you than he could ever provide. The net value would be low or negative. There is no medium value man who needs to be taught skills on socializing and dating. He can get that help from a professional and become high valid enough for dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:26 PM
74

I’d love more talk about how women can engage in FDS who have no interest in cohabitating, marrying, or having children. Is it impossible to obtain long-term commitment from a man if I want to retain my autonomy? Help. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:24 PM
15

I love the third-to-last bullet here and I agree about the first. I generally want the hosts to expand FDS to those guests or at least assert positions. We aren’t just here to listen to their ideas but to understand how they fit into or go against FDS! I want guests to answer and react to FDS ideas. I understand Gail Dines doesn’t hang out on the sub but can we challenge her on our values? Like maybe she got lucky with her husband but since when do we agree to train a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:20 PM
20

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:10 PM
37

We must stop oppressing them! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:04 PM
106

So much brainwashing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:24 AM
90

Someone please pretend they’re a man and try this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:24 AM
21

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:11 AM
38

Yesssss Call 👏 it 👏 out 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:03 PM
51

This man did not like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:01 PM
10

Seconding that I love this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:57 PM
13

Queen advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:36 PM
24

Yes, I want to chime in that my bestest friend caught HSV-1 on her genitals from oral and that first year was the worst year of her life. Yes, it’s not deadly, but I’d be vetting beyond 3 months before taking that risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:35 PM
65

Who knows what kind of music she’d have chosen to make the last 10 years had she been free to decide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:33 PM
1

Hear, hear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:27 PM
2

Yes!!!!! Please!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:18 AM
2

Slaying with the absolute truth, my queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:08 AM
14

I’m trying to understand why she’s dating a man who nonchalantly undresses and wipes his balls IN THE KITCHEN. That’s bathroom-related behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:19 AM
5

Thank you for saying this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:13 AM
2

We are going to blow ourselves away by putting that shit behind us!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:16 AM
2

No problem. I’ll Google! The whole death grip being a historical reason for developing orgasm-on-face shots. It makes so much sense though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:37 PM
7

You’re welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:35 PM
2

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:02 AM
4

Thank you for validating my current strategy of fantasizing about my crush rather than engaging romantically with him irl (because I know he’s not good enough for me). I should write a post about it. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:01 AM
1

Thank you 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:00 AM
4

They try to undermine our reality at every turn! I praise FDS for letting women recognize their true and inherent value as a woman. Stop trying to brainwash me into thinking I’m not good enough to have whatever my heart so desires! Chatting with a female colleague of mine about a decade older than me. She’s got a Ph. D and she’s next in line to run the company. She keeps her mind and body fit, enjoys nature and yoga and travel. She’s raised two teen boys with her husband. She’s beautiful and [ad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:57 AM
84

I’ve been there so many damn times, just as I’ve tried to erase my own needs to stay with the wrong man. It’s all co-dependence, the inadequate boundaries that would normally uphold self vs. other. I think my greatest Pick Me Recovery challenge will be: walking away the moment I realize he’s wrong. 🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:48 AM
12

WHAAAT 😳😳😳 this changes everything I thought I knew. Is there more info/source on this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:06 AM
9

Well, hello, Moira. Please take all my gold in hopes you write more posts in the future. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:03 AM
232

Such a great distinction. When we need others to uphold our boundaries it’s because we’ve also conceded to the loss. “I can’t walk away from something wrong for me so you can make the wrong thing go away by changing what is essential to who you are at this point in your life?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:59 AM
68

Yeah, I mostly agree with you there. Any books or articles you recommend on solid object theory? I’m constantly thinking about this and didn’t know a name for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:38 AM
94

I’m reading that “Spinster” book someone on FDS mentioned and it makes me feel…nostalogic for my solo life, the one I’m currently living. It feels so good to be in a romance with myself. I like guys a lot, a lot — but imma need them to step up their game to compete with dating myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:37 AM
20

Your comments never disappoint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:22 AM
233

I doubt he’d respect her more. I think she’d learn quicker that he looks down on her and doesn’t actually like her. I agree with the rest of your message except the unspoken premise that men will treat you better if you stop being a pick me. We can’t fix LVMs and NVMs by fixing ourselves. We can find the strength and clarity to remove them and make space for a quality man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:10 AM
47

👏👏👏 yesssssssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:08 AM
224

I remember someone in FDS posted the stats of how often a woman posted and everyone agreed she wasn’t the asshole vs. how often a men posted and everyone agreed he was. The masses are like “girl, you’re being taken for a ride” and “boy, gtfo with that BS”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:07 AM
89

There’s a reason this is the top comment: it’s the only takeaway needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:05 AM
22

Great addition to the ongoing message! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:03 AM
389

They never want to believe we are just damn fine being single if the alternative is trash. Edit: Thank you for the award, whoever you are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:01 AM
14

So so important to add to the list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:06 AM
29

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:41 PM
14

Ooo curious too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:41 PM
101

This is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:40 PM
2

No judgment! I’ve been in similar places in my life. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:38 PM
10

Oh. Hello.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:14 AM
2

Exactly! It refers to a partial hard-on. No women talks about it as a “chub”. Ew. I’d either see him as erect or not, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:43 PM
3

I don’t know any woman who finds that attractive. You can either get a full election or you can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:42 PM
4

Men, FDS wholeheartedly supports you coming out of the closet. To help you during this transition, we’d like to take ourselves out of the competition for all the amazing men you want. You can have: the old, fat, unwashed, lazy, porn and video game addicted, narcissistic men you so dearly desire. They’re all yours!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:39 PM
15

PROUD AF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:25 PM
40

PROUD AF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:25 PM
9

I third this. My view is (to OP): ask yourself how you’d feel if you “trained” him to communicate really well soon after a conflict…and he left you to date a younger woman who gets the new and improved version of him. Was it worth it? Did your investment pay off? What exactly did he invest back into your personal development and was it in anyway fair? The answers are usually no. If he wants to change and grow, he should make the effort and seek out appropriate help, not burden you into getting t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:05 PM
6

Thank you, fellow queen! So many women are worried about finding a HVM and I’m over here like, that’s his job to find me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:02 PM
24

The problem is only that you’re not in situations where you meet men, then. Figure out what you love to do - hobbies, workshops/fun classes, fitness, volunteer work, politics, whatever. Dive into that stuff, enjoy your life, and you will meet men. Droves of them. If you don’t ever ever ever get asked out or flirted with, I’d be shocked. I’m not the kind of gal who strangers ask out. I only really get hit on once I’m around a guy. I don’t even recall getting hit on at bars in my 20s unless it was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:09 AM
13

Whoa, so true! “Man” jobs are super fun, engaging and rewarding! Meanwhile, we just do loads of laundry until we die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:04 AM
13

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:00 AM
54

I’m so glad you said this! I’m almost 40 and I’ve hardly ever been directly approached by men and formally asked out. Literally some teen came up to me at a plant nursery Sunday to say I was looking beautiful and then he ran away. 😂 But post-finding FDS, I see how men act around me. I see the ways in which they try to get my attention, and I notice what kind of attention. I catch them doing tiny things out of the ordinary that I would have excused before by thinking I’m not extraordinary beautif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:59 AM
12

Oh interesting. What kind of situations/environments are you in where you meet new men? And are you in the U.S.?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:54 AM
26

This is the spot on advice here. We literally can’t get guys to stop hitting on us even when we hate them. If a guy needs a signal from you before he gives you the signals or bravely asks you out, he’s always gonna’ need you to walk him through things - making it official, making life decisions together, saying I love you, etc. Relax and let the peacocks spread their feathers before you go out of your way to let him know you’re into him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:53 AM
26

I’ll add, drive him somewhere and see if he tries to tell you how to drive. I’ve also had men argue with me about driving laws even though I have the DMV manual for several states practically memorized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:35 PM
8

I feel empowered to know the truth about the majority of men, to recognize it was never me who was broken. I have all this time and energy back because I know it’s not my job to go make a boyfriend out of potential. A HVM will find and chase me. I’ll be busy working on all my dreams in the meantime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:33 PM
35

Thank you! I was so annoyed that she missed this. Like, woman, he has been using you for four months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:31 PM
8

I love how men need to find “sexual chemistry” on a first meeting and think it’s not there without physical intimacy. They don’t know how to flirt, banter, inquire, and enjoy a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:28 PM
3

They don’t admit incompetence or stupidity because it’s all feigned. They could easily read directions or Google, but they choose laziness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:23 PM
113

Fuck yes. Men have no standards and we need to stop worrying that we can’t meet them. We are all queens and they should be so lucky as to be honored by our presence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:04 AM
26

1,000,000%! These are fantasy relationships!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:10 PM
4

😂😂😂 But yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:03 PM
3

Of course! I was using that shorthand. 100% agree. I’m not even sure if I believe in “green flags”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:02 PM
2

I love this! I have a much better understanding of how EQ plays out now, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:02 PM
11

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 06:18 PM
8

They rely on us to be foolish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:57 PM
18

I want to hear so many of your stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:53 PM
5

Yes! Im not sure why women keep thinking since they can’t meet men elsewhere that OLD is a valid option. The men on old are not valid options and they don’t see us as human beings on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:49 PM
4

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:43 PM
8

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:31 PM
117

Holy smokes, the truth bombs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:59 PM
7

HAHAHAHAHA WOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:44 AM
37

I honestly don’t even believe it. Like you, I assume this is either a facade or temporary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:41 AM
7

I love this! I don’t want kids of my home and your green flag single dads would work well for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:39 AM
109

You had me at “living alone at 70” but even better that she’s got 3 guys to entertain her and then she sends them the eff home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:45 AM
2

Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:42 AM
24

Agree about these points! How do you suggest testing EQ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:38 PM
2

Omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:04 PM
4

YES QUEEN! Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:04 PM
9

And you can tell that a man made the meme because he knows nothing about clitoral anatomy. It’s such a projection of their own penis and the feeling they have about having to jack it off. 😂 My clit is never disappointed when we have a date night, just me and her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:31 AM
7

Feels, but I’m happy bc it means I can watch it! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:30 AM
10

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:12 AM
8

What are using to watch it? Just cable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:17 AM
10

WOW LOOKS SO GOOD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:17 AM
9

💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:45 PM
17

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:42 PM
238

Yeah, he was “confused” and his low self-esteem “clouded his judgment”. Sure. Because men are notoriously unable to make decisions and have to check their emotions, right society? They can’t have it both ways. Men, either admit you’re stupid and can’t handle your emotions, or admit you’re doing this shit on purpose. Or continue on as you may: we already figured it out here at FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:08 PM
2

💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:05 PM
5

WOW. Wow. But I’m not surprised. Im just never endedingly shocked men are allowed any rights in society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:24 PM
10

We would be so lucky just to get picked! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:23 PM
10

I feel like the overall theme in life is that men don’t care what women want; they only care what they want. My LVX, who lived with two of his filthy guy friends, also talked about wanting a female roommate for the same exact reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:22 PM
4

🤮🤮🤮 I don’t know if it’s possible for me to like men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:18 PM
5

Queen, I’ve been seeing so many comments of yours around! I love feeling like I’m making a new friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:16 PM
1

Right? Ain’t nobody here trying to get picked. They’re either grateful or get the fuck out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:15 PM
194

Ugh, back in the old days of Craigslist popularity in the US, we had tons of ads for free rent as long as the woman would sleep beside the guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:29 PM
96

🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:26 PM
20

You warned me with your title but I still had to experience the shared post title firsthand. I metaphorically spit out my coffee. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:24 PM
17

YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:22 PM
14

Young queen, I smile at this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:38 AM
7

Love every single point here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:37 AM
5

Career networks! Yes! I avoided all this due to anxiety and depression. I WISH I could have put my caterer and financial goes first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:37 AM
7

YES! I diary’d most of my life or wrote prose and I WISH I could remember my day to day life now. You know what? I’m going to start now. It’s never too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:35 AM
6

Omgosh yes, I forgot this on my list. $$$ is freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:34 AM
4

Almost 40, I would: focus hard on my studies, intern, and plan to get a career that would make me the most money (took me an extra decade to get where I could have gotten if I wasn’t wasting my time on men) work on myself and my habits (it takes SO LONG to have lasting positive change and I’m finally the person I always wanted to be) recognize I’m hot af as I am and stop distracting myself with superficial insecurities write something to publish learn acting and stand up comedy learn an instrume…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:32 AM
3

I saved this. It’s a gorgeous monologue I’d like to read aloud some day. I’ll come back and tell you about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:54 AM
20

They know what they want. They neg us to keep us in check. They have literally no real standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:53 AM
23

Men will literally bang trash. Society uses this type of messaging “your underwear must be attractive” to maintain control over us, distract us from our reckoning, burden and financially drain us. I’ve worn all types of undies in my life, I’m almost 40, and I’ve been around many a block. No guy has ever cared about my day-to-day underwear in any significant fashion. Do some enjoy a special occasion? Sure. Do some just have a particular affinity for lace? Sure. That’s no different than a man in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:51 AM
6

Love this! Redemption stories!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:42 AM
225

“You are not a redemption arc.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:23 AM
17

I hope it never ends. Keeps me grounded to remember my choices in life. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:20 AM
72

I 100% agree that we need to start normalizing being OK reacting to these things! We have suppressed our reasonable af emotions too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:18 AM
5

Amen, sister. We can’t win as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:13 PM
5

THAT is an idea worth gold. I’d love to understand why women choose to do this as a daily look. Standing up to the patriarchy doesn’t look like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:11 PM
5

Thank you for speaking up with me!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:08 PM
20

I’m going to leave that comment from now on, “great message, and wow such a pretty bot”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:05 PM
2

Agreed! Abuse, assault, domestic violence, conspiracy to commit murder/cause harm… let’s tack on every damn charge!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:04 PM
6

Maybe a post about the ways in which I got men to tell me the truth while they still smugly thought they were manipulating me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:03 PM
4

Omgosh can you imagine?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:01 PM
37

Right? She’s still gorgeous underneath all that I’m sure. I don’t understand why women want to completely erase their unique facial features - it seems to be the new fad and I can’t get behind it. It’s not the same as dazzling up your looks a bit with makeup. It’s a complete IRL filtering of your face to be a pornified version of what men want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:00 PM
43

Yeah, agreed it could be make up, fillers, or filters at this point. The feeling you have is known as “uncanny valley” that became familiar to us when animation started looking too real but not real enough. Maybe they will develop an extension of this term for people becoming less human… She’s still pretty, symmetrical, etc. but I am so put off by how many women are erasing themselves and to the extent. It screams “pick me” to such an extreme. Where are the normal lines on your face? Bits of col…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:58 PM
13

I agree! This is such important info.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:18 PM
2

😂 I can’t wait for you to use your crocodile excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:11 PM
104

I was thinking she’s following the new make up standards of erasing all imperfections in the skin. It really bugs me that this comes along with messages about dismantling the patriarchy but every time I speak up, someone starts arguing that I’m putting women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:48 PM
1

I’m wondering how you go from platonic dates to suddenly foreplay/any intimate contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:19 PM
3

Thank you for offering this. Let us know how we can help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:49 PM
73

Assault. Let’s call it assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:37 PM
3

💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:24 PM
10

I don’t think a guy has ever been able to give this to me. I really don’t. Guys have always given me reasons to want to gtfo of there. You know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:12 AM
3

Thank you for sharing this with me. I will listen to the episode this weekend!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:11 AM
33

QUEEN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:54 AM
4

💛😘💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:54 AM
13

Never found any help for this via therapy even though I’ve had great therapy experiences. It’s not a nice thing though - I’ve had a lot of lovely, nice boyfriends - it’s the combo of feeling safe and chemistry that doesn’t exist for me. I wonder if it’s truly a “me” problem or if it’s because I’ve never truly known a fully grown adult man. They’re all children. The ones who keep enough distance to make me feel unsafe are just hiding it from me longer. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:35 PM
33

Thank you 💛 I saved some lives along the way, but I couldn’t save ‘em all. The police, courts, families all sit in the patriarchal world — and it’s super hard for women to get out of these situations while being invalidated at every turn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:15 PM
18

I sadly have never experienced worthwhile sexual attraction while simultaneously having easy communication and peace. I’ve had slow build affairs but they were still full of breadcrumbs and not healthy so I wanted sex all the time. I’m staying solo until I find it, but I struggle to believe I will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:12 PM
4

Right? I mean I believe it’s out there but I’ve never had it. I’ve only had bored or ultra excited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:10 PM
22

How do you go from feeling that safety to suddenly needing to make out and tear clothing off each other? I spend lots of time wondering about this. Any safe relationship I’ve had bored my loins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:09 PM
17

💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:08 PM
52

I used to investigate domestic violence and this was a distinction tool I used to prove intention in court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:45 PM
14

Right? Like if this were true, porn would be all about enthusiastic consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:44 PM
11

It all leads back to the Deadbedroom Falsehood. Like, no, sorry, we don’t desire lazy, stinky, dirty, disrespectful, no value partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:43 PM
6

I got to the part about him thinking women are told our bodies are beautiful, and I had to stop. Nah, fool, we are told our bodies will never ever ever be beautiful enough and that men will use and fuck our bodies no matter what bc we aren’t human to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:42 PM
26

Ha, ha, same. I have a too-long list of shameful things I tolerated in men but a criminal record, a drug addiction, alcoholism, and kids they don’t actively raise have been red flags to me from day 1 of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:39 PM
14

I can’t wait to earn the directions to the secret lair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:22 PM
8

All of this is so valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:21 PM
108

I think we were on a thread about this together before! I have literally only had two men make awful comments about my body my entire life and I’ve never had a stereotypical body. My much thinner friends are deeply insecure and constantly worry about a pooch after eating and are the first to get plastic surgery. I had no idea until FDS that men target them. It explains so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:13 PM
22

What does chemistry feel like in a healthy relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:10 PM
1

Thanks for explaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:52 PM
1

Ooo, pick me, pick me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:45 PM
6

This is mind blowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:31 AM
9

I love this post idea. I have never wanted to make children, and I celebrate how close I am to menopause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:31 AM
4

That sounds fascinating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:21 AM
6

I want deets without reading myself. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:20 AM
9

And even then, there was a post yesterday about a girl finding her brother’s underwear in her room. I think the only true requisite is womanhood. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:19 AM
6

Thank you for sharing this! #educated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:15 AM
7

Same, great term!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:13 AM
19

Love this analysis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:13 AM
14

I think many men, not just tradcons, can’t resist the idea of a woman who doesn’t require anything from him but sex, who debases herself because she just “looooves” sex so much, who begs and yearns for his wee-wee… I think they can’t resist a place for them to be a version of who they wish they could be. And, because they don’t consider a whore a real human being worth care, they also don’t care what she knows or thinks of him. He can be himself in certain depraved and lazy ways. He can take and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:11 AM
33

It 👏 should 👏 be 👏 normal! 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:03 AM
5

Why funny?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:01 AM
37

I agree. I come here to remind myself why my value remains perpetually higher than literally any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:51 AM
22

^ this this this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:46 PM
18

It’s a real disease 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:46 PM
13

So true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:45 PM
24

So glad someone posted this. I was like “here you go, more proof men pretend to be women on Reddit.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:29 PM
2

That’s understandable! Still making imprints because you can’t help it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:31 AM
3

Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:30 AM
11

😂👏 I also want her to ask them what kind of things they do or don’t do that bother their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:26 AM
25

Holy fuckery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:35 AM
19

I can’t even imagine that sane man would respect another man for auctioning off his wife in such a depraved way. I bet at least one of the men in that group were seriously uncomfortable with the situation and didn’t speak up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:34 AM
4

I promise you that if we ever see an article that something happened to you in this way we will all come after him! Are you a sag? Because if so, hey girl hey me too 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:33 AM
37

He’s seriously asking you to dig your own grave. So creepy. I worry about him escalating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:27 PM
10

Thanks for leaving info on how to follow you! I’ve recently become smitten with you via the podcast. Totally makes sense to protect your mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:24 PM
6

Thanks for leaving info on how to follow you! I’ve recently become smitten with you via the podcast. Totally makes sense to protect your mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:24 PM
9

Thanks for leaving info on how to follow you! I’ve recently become smitten with you via the podcast. Totally makes sense to protect your mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:24 PM
6

Omfg 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:31 PM
10

Holy smokes, I’m so glad you saw that for what it was. Can’t imagine the abuses waiting for you down the line. I need these reminders every day of why I want to remain solo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:58 PM
67

100%! I wonder if someone will find the age gap confirmation in a comment and update us. And yeah, this didn’t just begin today. I wish that there was some thing we can campaign to start educating women better about those early signs. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:52 PM
96

He completely derailed her from her point and then twisted it to say she should be paid for sex. Except he’s the pimp and can sell that sex? I wish i could claim I’ve never been gaslit like this before by a man… ugh. I really hope she finds us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:50 PM
15

They do this with underwear too. They are so lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:24 PM
19

Interesting point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:22 PM
48

She didn’t mistakenly say it’s a job. She does all the work and never comes. She tried to stand up for herself and he found a way to remind her he sees her as his property. I…can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:20 PM
408

She didn’t mistakenly say it’s a job. She does all the work and never comes. She tried to stand up for herself and he found a way to remind her he sees her as his property. I…can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:18 PM
10

Facts!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:15 PM
60

You can’t replicate an entire mouth with a toy yet — but it’s very interesting and close. My orgasms feel like oral sex orgasms. I also have control over where and how I use the toy on my vulva so I’m able to experiment with perfecting the experience for myself. I tried to experiment with many guys who failed because they never wanted to be good. I didn’t even think I liked oral sex much until about age 35 because most guys don’t enjoy it enough to care about being good. The vibrations in it are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:52 AM
5

I just can’t believe he doesn’t want a woman’s plastic head lying around. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:27 AM
17

I think they even prefer it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:24 AM
18

Right? She’s right when she says she’s doing it to herself. She’s begging to be picked so hard she can’t stop to think about who she’s picking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:15 AM
7

Thank you for sharing! I feel weightless with men all the time now. They can carry their own BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:08 AM
3

This is why I know men aren’t stupid. He got it exactly how he wanted it every step of the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:04 AM
5

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:03 AM
10

He needed TWO DNA tests to believe her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:02 AM
11

This makes me giddy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:00 AM
6

I relate to your methods of leveling up! I’d love to know all of the ways that you treated yourself in case I don’t already have those crossed off on my list! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:58 AM
120

I’ll throw out the Ora 2 by Lelo for the closest to oral sex one can get with a toy. I never thought I’d get over my ex until I found this toy. Plus she’s the prettiest toy I’ve ever owned and far from phallic. One of the ways I chose to level up and put myself first! I’ll add that you’re 100% correct about quality of orgasms. I have at least 10 different types and there’s absolutely one that’s just “relief” and there are some that last several minutes and leave me unable to walk. #orgasmquality…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:54 AM
113

I would read an entire book written by you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:50 AM
3

QUEEEEEEN SHIT!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:33 AM
5

They did this to you on purpose, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:32 AM
28

This is relatable. I was so bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:27 AM
10

Yessss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:24 AM
10

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:27 PM
1

Thank you for the validation. I don’t ever want to derail a woman’s efforts but I can’t sit back and not call out the pickmeisms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:26 PM
17

It’s like they’re telling us they live to scam, they do it as men, and they’d do it way better than us if they were women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:30 PM
10

It’s horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:43 AM
155

This is such a delightful turn of events. Should out to our FDS women in China.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:37 AM
22

Jesus. I am so sorry, but so proud of you for your bravery. Take the evidence with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:32 PM
9

Took him months to even get mad about it, too. Like some queen FDS once said, “make it expensive to waste your time” - which he so clearly is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:30 PM
3

Learned so many things here! I’m a cat person so I don’t know too many dog facts. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:29 PM
9

Yeah, he somehow “saw a future with her” yet is just now realizing she’s rightfully obsessed with her pets and wants to give them the best lives? This is not new to him at all. I love how clearly I can see how men lie on Reddit thanks to FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:28 PM
13

I think you’re confusing “her inherent beauty” with “her efforts to fit the current beauty standard”. I have nothing against her being an absolutely gorgeous woman. You’re also confusing “following beauty standards” with “taking care of oneself” (by saying the only other option is for her to be unkempt). I think you can look deeper and critique this with more of an FDS eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:23 PM
1

This isn’t about looking nice. I highly doubt this is how she chooses to look for herself. This is exactly the makeup, hair, skin, and clothing of the current beauty standard. She’s screaming “pick me” over her message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:20 PM
1

That’s part of what bugs me, too: being a different version of yourself on camera vs. what’s good enough for you during the daytime at home. I get that making a video is in and of itself a performance, but I think the message is derailed by choosing to perform as the stereotypical beauty standards of the moment. She still wants to get picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:18 PM
11

I get a little annoyed that these women cater to literally every beauty standard in these videos. It’s hard for me to believe she’s not a pick me and that she lives for herself when she checks every box. I hate to put another woman down but...does this bother only me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:13 PM
5

It’s such a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:37 PM
29

Finally we are getting men to put in effort for our benefit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:11 AM
30

“Yes! Yes! Yes!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:09 AM
129

A whole 5 minutes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:08 AM
12

Facts! They will take convenience no matter what. They are lazy beyond my wildest dreams. They’ll take a convenient one night stand and they’ll take a convenient marriage. No differ HRV to them if the effort’s the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:07 AM
87

I also love the ones who say “and if you like X and Y, you’re my dream girl.” They’re asking us to jump up and down to be picked by them. Meanwhile, they’d bang you no matter what and that’s all their seeking there anyway no matter how much they try to pretend they want more...if everything was perfect...if you like good food and traveling. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:05 AM
4

Hit the nail on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:57 AM
4

You always get me with your fire comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:56 AM
3

I just wear what I would wear if I was on my own. In hot weather states, it’s usually a tshirt and undies. In cold weather states, it’s leggings and a crop top or tshirt. My goals every day are to be my authentic self. I’m horrified when I catch myself trying to please others over and above myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:54 AM
2

Thank you mods! I love hearing from you. I appreciate what you’ve built here 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:52 AM
5

Ohhhhhh. I see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:48 AM
5

Relatable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:46 AM
159

Oh yes, that edit sealed his coffin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:43 AM
1

Girl I must have missed your response! You know. You feel a certain way after you orgasm. It’s not delight. It might be relief but it isn’t light and healthy. How have you been?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:20 AM
16

Was this really written by a woman? Seems like propaganda to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:00 PM
13

Him and his brother 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:57 PM
6

I’ve had this book for over 15 years and have assessed every relationship and had many guests in my home so the same. It has never been wrong. It’s so scarily accurate that I don’t read it till after a break up because I don’t want to find out the problems from a book. That’s pre-FDS. I’ll probably just use this as a vetting tool now. Highly recommend the book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:03 AM
10

LMAO SO HARD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:57 AM
22

100%!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:40 PM
19

May FDS spread far and wide enough that women stop doing “house” work for men who don’t deserve it. They’ll find out real quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:30 PM
17

Yeah, he definitely has respect for her here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:29 PM
6

🥰 I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:28 PM
10

Guarantee she worked harder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:28 PM
84

Considering I’ve met too many adult men who don’t even know how often hand towels should be washed or how to chop an onion - it seems to be highly educated and qualified work too! (They are so lazy... all men)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:28 PM
8

HAHAHA 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:27 PM
10

I celebrate your growth away from that woman you used to be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:26 PM
799

I like how he says she doesn’t work “outside the home”. I want that to be the new normal when we talk about stay at home moms or bangmaids. Every last one of us recovering pickme’s were working, sometimes in a home that wasn’t even ours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:58 AM
18

Straight facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:29 AM
16

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:23 AM
5

I’d love to hear more about FDS in terms of your relationship. Would you consider writing more about how poly and FDS can work? Or maybe PMing me if that’s not allowed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:33 AM
83

And occasionally they use their interest in ONE special female artist as a way of performing wokeness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:06 AM
10

Added to my list, sounds incredible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:03 AM
2

Hmmmm interesting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:29 PM
23

Also curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:45 AM
38

It’s fascinating: your point about the assumption white men have to have a reason. World, wake up, they use their violence, or acceptance of other men’ s violence, to maintain power in society. They need to be given reasons not to hurt others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:41 AM
11

My ex was a great gym partner too. I still like the OP as more possible red flags to look out for but wanted to commiserate with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:38 AM
20

This is great news. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:34 AM
10

I needed this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:34 AM
9

My mom lives in The Villages. It’s a crazy place! I want to retire to a place like this for women only. Maybe FDS will eventually buy a commune... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:15 PM
6

He sure did tell on himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:08 PM
5

Such a good comparison! How can we get someone to start that on the Tok? “Married men, would you let another man penetrate your butt sensually for one billion dollars?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:08 PM
11

Thank you for doing this research for us! I want to learn but I think I’d vomit reading it first hand. Can’t wait to see the reviews!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:06 PM
15

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:05 PM
3

I hope it means women will end up driving media towards FDS tenants. I know that’s part of the FDS makers’ goals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:21 AM
4

I’m almost 40 and have moved around a lot so I have become adjusted to starting over. Find what hobbies you like and get out and do them. Be immediately vulnerable (not in a way that harms you, just be willing to share your weirdness) to strangers and see who sticks. Invite people to things and accept invitations. Ask questions and genuinely care to know people and share openly about your life (again in a way that’s safe for you). There are also great FB women’s groups that pop up in cities/stat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:29 PM
6

I’m not caught up and was dying to know, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:23 PM
49

I’m not caught up and now I’m wondering who she raped!!! Edit: found a spoiler below
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:22 PM
11

I highly relate to your experience. I’m not sure what it will take for me to move in with a man ever again. I don’t even know if it’s worth offering commitment to a man ever again. I don’t know how to reckon that with FDS in terms of needing a man to commit to me to prove himself so I’ll just not date. Doing just fine without them, perhaps exponentially better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:20 PM
10

I’m finding it more enjoyable because I’m interacting and thinking more while I watch. I missed so much that was right in front of my face...and I’m continually educating myself in prep for dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:17 PM
5

I’m doing this!! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:14 PM
9

I love this thread idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:13 PM
20

Men have told me this outright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:12 PM
39

SUPERHERO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:10 PM
10

Oh... oh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:08 AM
3

It makes me wanna cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:24 PM
1

Telllll her!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:21 PM
10

Yessss! Because women are not the reason that men abuse. Men are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:13 PM
14

Yeah, I definitely feel you there. It’s an ongoing problem I see with most women online. I’m like: WHY ARE YOU POSED LIKE THAT? WHY LINGERIE? WHYYYY? I do see her posting a lot of photos of her body not posed for the male gaze. But she’s not perfect, not free from the patriarchy. Maybe she will find FDS and level further up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:10 PM
6

😂👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:08 PM
3

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:33 AM
10

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:32 AM
16

And women who don’t realize that men really do think “pussy’s pussy” are chopping themselves up aimlessly. Them boys will bang a wart covered grapefruit with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:29 AM
10

For the good of society, we must shun them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:19 AM
32

Fact: men will bang literal trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:54 AM
67

There’s this idea that attractiveness has a social value. And yes, it does. It absolutely does. But it’s not the only social asset. Attractiveness may even be the cheapest one. It’s thrilling to recognize that resisting the beauty standards and embracing one’s self whole (true beauty, amiright?) has a stronger affect on people than anything. When growing out armpit hair started trending again recently, the repulsion was strong. The only thing I’ve ever gained with my own “beauty” is a free drink…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:54 AM
14

She’s so amazing. I definitely recommend her for feel good, uplifting, leveled follows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:44 AM
31

I love it! She talks a lot about how she’s soft, that there’s a softness to her. It’s a reframing away from the patriarchy — and I’m here for it. I don’t have a body like hers at all but she is a constant reminder to me of how beauty does not have limits and constraints and rules. It helps me look upon my body and find love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:43 AM
28

Yeah all her grams are about embracing what she enjoys about her body and trying to love herself as herself rather than within a specific framework. She’s a feel-good follow for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:18 AM
1

I relate to the idea that even the thought of sex flips a switch in my brain so it’s easy to “turn me on” in a basic way but it doesn’t mean I actually want to pursue what triggered the reaction! But on a research note - eye movements, direct arousal correlation? What? I would need HR, pulse, skin temp, and swelling down below at least. Right? I don’t understand the conclusion the study draws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:03 AM
8

This is so valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:01 PM
4

Fiercely disrupting!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:58 PM
20

This is what seems to get missed every time! Men are the problem. Ban men! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:57 PM
14

Love this added info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:55 PM
38

Does anyone else with a background in research methods and study design feel confused about the link between eye tracking and arousal? Id really like to see the study he worked on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:40 PM
1

👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:59 PM
62

Exactly. I love that they are admitting what FDS has uncovered. We cannot go back to thinking they are stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:57 PM
53

That’s the lesson. We have to stop underestimating them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:56 PM
23

Omfg you’re username 😂👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:22 AM
2

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:35 PM
4

Even if it could, these men are so deep in their porn addiction I doubt they’d stop long enough to heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:34 PM
1

I’ve literally never had a man hit my pelvic bone. How is that even possible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:33 PM
6

They’re all getting a similar curve in their penis and it cannot be explained by our anatomy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:32 PM
2

😂 I got it and that’s funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:32 PM
3

Try to go when he’s not there. Try to ignore him when he is there. Go to a different gym. Be honest with yourself about the classes and the way you feel. Ensure you feel centered in a class when he’s not around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:31 AM
4

It’s about de-centering men from your life. It’s not that you can’t join activities; it’s that you should join them because you like them. Men will come around. If you’re lucky, less will and you won’t have to wade through as much BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:29 AM
7

I need this comment to blow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:24 AM
5

Yessss! I feel safer, I have garage parking, better behaved neighbors, valet trash, location, feels nice driving around the area. I feel bougeeee and I like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:18 AM
12

WHERE IS THIS MAGICAL PLACE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:17 AM
81

I’ll add: a general lack of initiative but still interest and erections. I’d whine “I’m sooo horny” right beside an ex and he didn’t try. But if I said, “wanna do it?” He’d be naked and hard before I could blink. I had nooo idea PA was the reason until I found FDS. Erectile dysfunction at a young age. Premature ejaculation as the norm. He tells you it turns him on to do things that would hurt you or him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:13 PM
5

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:00 AM
19

Thanks for the info. I’m horrified, which is the norm for me now anytime we’re on the topic of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:58 AM
12

YESSSSS! I love the slew of men recognizing they need to quit porn! Men, this is the BARE MINIMUM to date us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:04 PM
1

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I hope she did it on purpose. Men do stuff like this all the time. And yet another man child who cares more about video games than real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:47 PM
5

Girrrrrl WELCOME! We are so glad you found us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:45 PM
5

She could probably get a recording of him admitting it since he’s already openly admitting to doing it on purpose with no remorse. I’ll just hope she sees our pleas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:44 PM
4

Seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:43 PM
3

Same question!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:40 PM
15

🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:36 PM
29

Yes, I agree that it’s not always a “mastermind” level tactic. I still think most of the time they are intentionally trying to “get their way”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:31 PM
65

Exactly. Why would men do horrible things? Because they can. Because it benefits them. Because they want to control the strongest force in humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:28 PM
52

Multiple posts just like that. But this is evidence it’s a guy because women come here, disagree, but keep indulging because there’s a repressed intuition that’s waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:27 PM
52

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:26 PM
30

These are the discussions I like to see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:25 PM
1

Yeah, there are parts I had to completely turn away. I’m excited to know there’s a sequel book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:39 AM
2

Adding all to my list! I watch the show and really want to experience her writing directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:11 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:11 PM
11

Yup! It also adds a dimension of brainwashing in which we women are led to believe we can only either be seen as attractive or interesting — but not both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:41 PM
24

Ooo is this from one of her books?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:22 PM
1

Yes they are both so damn hot and creative and intelligent! I’m not caught up to S5 yet but yeah I’ll just focus on Archie instead. 😂 so ridiculously good looking the three of them. I just imagine they’re all LVM irl though. They are men after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:03 AM
1

My career is massively pink collar - I’m an HR professional. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:01 AM
10

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:37 PM
12

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:32 PM
28

This is the reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:32 PM
50

Men: why are you making us wait for sex? FDS women: because of your BioLoGy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:32 PM
8

Ughhh yes. I’ll take one Archie and Jughead sandwich, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:29 PM
3

Should we try to collectively bombard her with messages “come to FDS on Reddit, we bow to your queen dom”?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:21 PM
3

I think that helps validate that I don’t need to dress up and smother make up to communicate my value nonverbally. It makes sense to focus on posture, stance, general attitude. I do this in my career but didn’t use to in dating (I’m not dating during the pandemic so I don’t know who new FDS me is in the dating world). I agree this would be a great post idea to help a lot of women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:19 PM
2

You are very right about that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:17 PM
2

What are the differences? I’d love to know more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:01 AM
1

Thank you for being brave and sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:59 AM
2

This brings back so many memories. 😳😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:58 AM
5

37 and omg the damage I did to my eyebrows making them so thin. I love keeping them bushy now! Viva la trends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:55 AM
3

Some black nail polish and black eyeliner would have been edgy. It would have been really unusual to see girls wearing a lot of visible make up in high-school (and I grew up in a wild party area, not any conservative place). There were still girls who wore foundation/concealer due to acne-prone skin but make up wasn’t really that good back then and there was always a clear delineation around the neck/chin area. Make up implied you were hiding bad skin and people didn’t want to admit to wearing i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:51 AM
2

I would love to read a whole post about how men respond toward black women and their hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:47 AM
2

Same sentiment, I’m sorry for the additional pressures you deal with on top of just being a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:46 AM
2

This is SO INTERESTING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:44 AM
5

I’ve been thinking a lot on this topic - how do I, as as someone who wears her natural skin and hair, and has sort of a “casual” look about me not signal to men that I’m sooo chill that I’ll put up with their bs? Would love your analysis. I enjoyed reading your comments here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:40 AM
6

I just want to hug you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:36 AM
4

Yessss! They seem like a handicap. Plus, it’s another thing that has to be “kept up”. I’m all for a special occasion dress-up, but I do not need fancy nails in my day-to-day office life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:36 AM
26

Yes queen! Start the crusade and I will be the first person in line to follow your leadership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:38 PM
25

A dream I didn’t know I had: living in a secure castle with my cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:36 PM
116

I love her and the host of the show has a laugh that just cannot be matched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:31 PM
10

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:07 PM
18

It’s all libfem brainwashing to be told you need to communicate bare minimum respect expectations. If it’s not something YOU would need explained, or most of your friends, why does a big strong smart ruler-of-all-things man need you to communicate it? Also trust your gut - if you FEEL that he should better, you’re right. All of us will tell you the many times we communicated until our hearts broke, and still men claimed they didn’t know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:03 PM
11

It makes me giddy to think of FDS spreading and so many of us opting out of the danger!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:00 PM
1

Yuppppp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:59 PM
9

It’s hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:57 PM
11

Yes, exactly! Drinks are not cheap but they more easily lead to a man convincing us to put out before we have a chance to vet so it’s totally fine for us to gold dig their wallets if it means they get sex. They are so transparently gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:42 PM
10

I thoroughly enjoyed it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:40 PM
36

He literally responded that most men are doing that. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:36 PM
82

I applaud her: a pickme who got picked. A success story about desperation and low self-esteem. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:35 PM
114

Female newscaster: she’s gone to far! She’s too cynical! Men are not trying to get you drunk and sleep with you! What a radical opinion! Male newscaster: are most men trying to get you drunk and sleep with you? Yes, but not all men! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:33 PM
45

As a woman who has also been deeply affected by porn, I want to say not to tip your hat. It’s just the bare minimum right thing to do when you recognize how awful it is and how it impacts your way of connecting with yourself and others. I quit after FDS opened my eyes. Period. Men do not have less willpower and ability than us. They aren’t special for going porn-free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:28 PM
2

Yes. That’s a really nuanced description! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:05 AM
36

The last two sentences killed me. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:04 AM
21

Omgosh I wish you both a future where you can truly shine, in whatever way that is...though let’s be honest, we’re all hoping you leave your husbands. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:02 AM
15

MEN ARE NOT DUMB! They do less work for more reward and you think they are the dumb ones?! 😂 Seriously. They are strategic and pretty brilliant. Do not be a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:57 PM
1

I look to porn to see men’s truths too - they created MILF and even GILF porn. Men say age and single parenthood makes women unattractive, then they make categories of that very thing to jerk off to. They tell on themselves so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:39 PM
6

It looks super weird like he’s holding her arms behind her back. I’d prefer to see men pose in a way that allows the woman to shine on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:08 PM
23

They will stop at nothing to brainwash us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:54 PM
240

Lol written by a man! I have never met a woman irl who thinks less attractive men are better in bed. Less attractive men are MORE disrespectful, MORE entitled, MORE bitter, and MORE full of themselves. We can even argue that a man who focuses on bettering his looks is the same man who focuses on trying to be better in bed. I have seen this to be true many times over. Can I get a hear, hear?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 03:48 PM
15

It’s disgusting. I love how men tell on themselves though. Lots of newbies worry about how to tell if a new guy watches porn. I’m like, trust me, they are so messed up they can’t hide it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:37 PM
37

I didn’t even realize I was getting screened out. Now that I know, I’m really grateful. My internalized beliefs about my body have been abuse enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:59 AM
234

And he’s obviously porn sick because he doesn’t compute how a woman who loses weight everywhere else wouldn’t maintain her ample breasts and booty. He thinks heavily sliced porn stars are natural.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:23 AM
87

Mostly chubby and same. My skinny female friends are also WAY MORE INSECURE about their bodies so I gotta’ wonder if it’s because they experienced ongoing abuse from men throughout their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:22 AM
2

Saaaame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:35 PM
1

Was wondering this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:35 PM
5

How do you read so many books a week? That’s amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:28 PM
4

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:26 PM
2

I think some men probably also want to watch it because they like to see women in pain? Especially pain that was initiated by a man’s actions. Right? Ugh. Imma have nightmares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:17 AM
83

“Men don’t have sexual selection skills at all.” A truer statement could not be made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:35 PM
42

But then you notice it’s a pattern on repeat and can’t deny anymore that this is how men really are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:33 PM
1

This horrifies me. Why would ANYONE want to watch that unless they had an irl relationship and attachment to the woman or oncoming child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:29 PM
6

Also I get enjoyable, mutually agreeable sex out of sex. I’m not selling myself, my pleasure, my needs, my comfort, and my desire; I’m embracing each.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:45 AM
5

Highly recommend if you can handle it. I want to read all her books now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:44 AM
25

This is too real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:34 PM
2

Thank you for sharing what you’ve seen on the inside! You’re like an FDS spy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:15 AM
2

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:02 AM
4

Same! I’m just hoping I run into CO gals here with post history that it’d be safe to meet one day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:12 PM
71

Why can’t you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:42 PM
197

12 year old virgin who somehow knows her labia so well she can pick it out on the Internet. Labia IKEA?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:44 PM
20

LOLOLOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:43 PM
115

They literally do. So brain damaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:42 PM
68

I was wondering what that meant other than alopecia?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:41 PM
40

YAS QUEEN! I don’t need anyone to tell me how to be an adult! I can Google or ask for advice from people at my own initiative. I take pride in building good habits and being a master of my own life. Most men wanna’ be children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:37 PM
10

Omg she’s amazing. I wish she was on IG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:23 AM
8

^ 💛💛💛💛💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:20 AM
3

Damnmmmmn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:17 AM
15

Tell me you’re ugly and small-dicked without telling me you’re ugly and small-dicked. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:16 AM
89

Nah, sis. Actually, most of us treated the men we dated like gods and took pride in being their “ride or die” because we were dumb enough to believe he’s “not like other men”. We woke up. We’ll be here waiting for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:13 AM
14

SPOT ON
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:11 PM
22

I think you’re trying to shine a light and deconstruct. There is literally only one reason a woman feels more powerful when she tries to fit a mold of “sexy” (per society rules) — and that is to be picked. We aren’t here to lift up pickmeishas; we are here to enlighten them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:06 AM
21

It has never been done before! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:04 AM
47

Appealing to the male gaze is what irks me. I can’t look at photos of most people on IG because it’s all male gaze unless it’s queer friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:01 AM
10

I wanna’ know more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:00 AM
53

It was such a wake-up call to recognize how many men I dated who were pornsick. I was so unaware of how it permeated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:26 PM
14

Great work here! Ugh, and can we talk about how men fail to go into the abstract? Who can only go so deep? I’ve never met the limits with my female friends, only men. What is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:46 AM
18

I love this comic! What a great remake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:57 AM
124

I had to award this. Priceless advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:49 AM
4

Thanks for the support!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:03 AM
4

Maybe there’s a possibility of a contract or something in place of whatever marriage benefits... It just doesn’t feel fitting to me but I can only hope it would if I dated a high effort man. Men seem so damn lazy to me. I also fear losing my identity in any way. It’s tough for me to wrap my head around — but I don’t want to let a guy “forever girlfriend” me so I probably won’t date until I figure this out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:16 AM
2

There’s a lot of resistance and unpacking around how something we like is actually about pickmeism! I feel like I’m releasing so much shame through FDS about the ways I contorted myself to be seen by a bunch of worthless boys and men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:12 AM
6

💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:11 AM
9

I’ve forever wondered what the heck people think love “means”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:18 PM
9

How long will you date before you believe it’s time for that time/money protection? I’m all down for the ceremonial piece (though mine would be highly nontraditional), but I really don’t ever want to marry. But with FDS, I wonder if I have to change my mind. I’m not dating at all right now so I’m only reflecting on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:16 PM
5

“And I don’t do that” Slam dunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:12 PM
13

I see this as a HV choice because you greatly benefited from changing it. Stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:11 PM
22

The surprise ending is that women don’t hit a wall and the never ending supply of possibilities is never ending. She’s got options, but I hope she stays single. A man has already held her back for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:09 PM
13

HEAR!! HEAR!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:07 PM
27

Ughhh they don’t explain why they got divorced! How is this glossed over?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:06 PM
16

And really, none of us have to be obligated to care. It’s the same lack of empathy we see in most-if-not-all men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:03 PM
11

I like you...a lot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:02 PM
33

Yeah, me too! “Irretrievably broken” points to cheating, porn addiction, something big and ongoing that she tried to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:01 PM
86

Also - ew to this idea that we have to be “good at” blow jobs and sex. I’m sad for an old me who took pride in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:07 PM
5

More beautiful sad true words couldn’t be written, queen. Our oppression is infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:38 AM
16

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:32 AM
3

Thanks for having this conversation. I think thinking this through out loud will help a lot of women who feel resistant to OPs post. I am constantly trying to deconstruct. I want to be free - and worrying about how I live up to “my” ideas of beauty and acceptability imprisons me. I’ve never met a woman who didn’t in some way worry about her looks. Women of all variations of beauty and performative femininity have expressed hatred of themselves. I watch my 65+ mom struggle, who has never grown ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:40 AM
7

The overall thing is: it’s okay no matter why you do it. It’s not hurting you to play dress up. It’s fun to play with makeup and clothes and such. But it’s vital to unpack the standards and ideas so you know where they come from. Things like, being “pretty” or “sexy”. It’s okay to want to be pretty and sexy — but it’s all rooted in an idea that a woman has to contort herself in order to become something she naturally is. As well, looks are not the focus of your value and yet society tells us sin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:53 PM
2

I was going to say this if you didn’t!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:22 PM
21

What made you decide on those beauty standards when you choose to do your make up a certain way? Just because no one is looking doesn’t mean it isn’t rooted in obtaining a patriarchal beauty standard. Does that make sense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:21 PM
60

It’s not harassment. It’s discrimination. And it should absolutely be reported to his manager and HR to put it on record. It’s one of those things that won’t effect change today but will affect things later if other women report. HR Professional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:15 PM
154

Exactly the question! My answer: I have my doubts. I’m almost 40 so I was a pre-teen when dial up porn was finally accessible. I grew up with boys who believed they had to try or at least manipulate the appearance of trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:29 PM
106

Why do men have to point out that a woman was a virgin when they met? Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:44 PM
51

I third!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:10 PM
6

Yessss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:20 AM
14

Relatable. I was in the kitchen across a kitchen island while we were arguing once and I picked up a knife. From that day forward, I “pulled a knife” on him. He never truly took any accountability for the ways in which he pushed me past my limits. He didn’t see the hour or day prior to me losing it. He felt as though he could cross my boundaries but that it didn’t excuse me eventually yelling. I think about times when I’d be staring right at him saying “hello? Please say something” when I desper…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:04 AM
19

I think it’s interesting that both of us had the same reaction to that information. Even when he was crying and wanting me back and didn’t really think I broke up with him, I would say to him, “why do you want me back, I thought I was abusing you? It would be so unhealthy of me to return to a relationship where I was abusing someone!” Our response to learning that we might be hurting someone was to get away from that situation because it’s unacceptable to hurt people. That just doesn’t seem like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:56 PM
27

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:26 PM
98

Ah, this post will blow up! Who hasn’t been here? One of my exes would: - not remember to brush his teeth - not remember to shower - forget dishes in the sink for days on end - not see garbage on the floor even if it was near his desk that he worked from remotely every day - never make plans for our weekends - not push for his career - not get haircuts for his booty length hair - not plan meals / grocery shop - not clean anything I didn’t already teach him to clean - not talk to people to make f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:36 PM
178

I agree 100%. Women are affected by the patriarchy and can have a dangerous misogynist view. It’s part of survival strategy to join up with those who hold power over you — think Serena in Handmaids Tale. I think a lot of the flags can be similar. You need real dates, vet vet vet. I have hung in LGBTQ+ circles my entire life and most of my lesbian friends move fast and hard. Just because it’s a woman doesn’t mean you’ll be safe from the chemical flood from sex. Just because it’s a woman doesn’t m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:56 PM
1

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:48 PM
46

👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:39 AM
11

This deserves its own post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:58 PM
65

😳 it’s so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:43 AM
46

Same feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:43 AM
22

WOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:40 AM
6

It’s me, it’s me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:57 PM
13

I love the example in Creativity! This is the kind of EQ I expect from a man going forward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:34 PM
62

Omg I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:32 PM
117

This! I’ve had so many men say “I don’t know anything about this, buuuutttt I think...” Or in response to my asking, “no, I’ve never researched this topic nor do I have direct experience with it” Yet they continue on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:30 PM
9

Right? Not sure how this video promotes the idea that she’s mature and he’s young at heart. He seems annoyed with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:46 PM
40

Queeeeeen sexuality mode activated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:41 PM
101

Were they even in a relationship outside his head? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:54 PM
47

Hi. I have a dear friend who suffered this through until her early thirties. We stopped being as close prior to it so I don’t know the whole story of her overcoming it. She invited me to an engagement party with her new guy, and she told me they were having sex...and I was like, “whoa we need to catch up” but life got in the way. I want to validate to you that as someone without this issue, I find it highly uncomfortable to insert things, including my fingers, into myself — and yet I love penetr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:15 AM
3

Yeah it’s hard to believe I’m the crazy one in my personal life when I hear so much crazy from normal people every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:03 PM
125

You say this so casually but I bet men would have invented better methods if it was their bodies. Ugh. You are so brave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:58 PM
76

I work in HR so I often don’t share my opinions until last. Men really do dig their own graves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:55 PM
45

LOL this is so legit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:55 PM
48

Yessss I wanna watch everything she’s ever done. Saving to watch later! Update: YOU CANNOT BE PRO-SEX AND PRO-PORN! I love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:54 PM
11

I freakin’ love PJ Harvey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:54 PM
32

You’re still doing a service by raising a child right! Please forgive yourself for the past. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:53 PM
31

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:52 PM
44

This is seriously so amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:51 PM
2

Yeah, it’s an interesting topic. I think my argument against the question as a measure for empathy is because my career isn’t just my job; it is based on philosophy and strategic thinking that permeates or stems from my beliefs. I can’t truly separate it out and provide an empathy-only answer because I have the experience in my field to see it in more ways than maybe someone outside my field. That being said, the question does ask for nuance so that might be important to assess in a partner... I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:31 PM
9

Wow. Thanks for sharing this. It’s startling. I’m in the US and I’d say the latter is usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:18 AM
28

Yupppp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:12 AM
5

Ooo, pick me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:11 AM
1

Damn, these are great questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:11 AM
2

Ooo, thanks for breaking this down. I absolutely believe output matters more than time. It’d be ideal if we automated the mundane and didn’t “need” time logged at all. I also don’t really think productivity should be a measure of success. It’s not fair that any of us 99% have to work the way we do. But how do we run businesses that require this and also pay someone the same for less work? In the example of “stress”, this is not really a static thing and would be incredibly hard to manage a busin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:07 AM
1

How do you incentivize people who max at 12 to actually work that? In a system that rewards people no matter how hard they work, people become jaded and resentful and begin lowering their own performance. I absolutely hate capitalism. We should automate the mundane and find ways to support people fully so they can create, learn, connect, educate, etc. That’s an ideal society to me. But it’s not real. In this reality, people learn that their “extra” contributions aren’t worth it rather fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:00 AM
1

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:56 AM
5

I appreciate that you broke down the question. I just don’t really agree that someone should be relieved of work due to their stress. I don’t see a connection between this specific question and my own level of empathy. I don’t agree with capitalism at all. However, if we are working within it, people should be paid based on what they produce. And if logging hours is part of what the job requires, they shouldn’t be excused simply from stress. My profession matters because my very career is built …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:54 AM
4

I can’t understand it philosophically though - should stress determine your work hours? Can you break this down for me as you understand it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:20 PM
2

This is what they do in the US too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:07 PM
11

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:06 PM
40

Exactly. What is this 43 year old even offering?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:06 PM
11

Seconding that truly adventurous people set up their life so they can travel AND maintain a home. Have jobs or serious financial security because anyone who travels a lot knows shit happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:05 PM
22

He’s expecting to stay at her home for free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:03 PM
5

It’s the same as men who constantly want to travel. They don’t want the responsibility of a home and strings. I personally LOVE the van and RV life! I’d love to get an RV someday and travel. My mom just started to do this at 65! The caveat is I still have a home. A place for my things. An address. Legally in the US you can’t stay in one place in a vehicle. It’s a crazy, daring way to live. If I was 20...sure! But at 43? How come you didn’t also invest in a home? Come on. Whatcha’ gonna’ do if yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:58 PM
9

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:41 PM
8

YESSSSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:39 PM
21

ANNNND a lot of anorexia is in response to the stress of becoming sexualized for your “curves”. The more “sexy” one thinks they appear, the more they want to erase that part of themselves. He’s basically confirming to her she’s not starting hard enough. Also a recovered/recovering ED survivor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:38 PM
17

As an HR professional, I don’t know if I agree... Can you explain further? Maybe I just don’t understand your question. A non-exempt worker has to work for their hours, regardless. An exempt worker should be paid for their work product and not their hours (though some circumstances require the hours).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:35 PM
14

Omg i feel sorry for her but also she’s funny af. Anna, you deserve better and you’re lying to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:41 PM
6

I just want to say that pickmeisha traits occur whether or not you’re in a relationship. It’s a constant striving to be picked, even by a guy who already “picked” you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:45 PM
36

Literally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:43 PM
12

You underestimate how much he will value himself and his needs over your safety. I hope you spend more time at FDS and come to your senses to leave as soon as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:41 PM
21

I hope he’s history now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:06 PM
5

TELL 👏 YOUR 👏 STORY 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:33 PM
10

I just love how ignorant men are about vaginas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:31 PM
9

Also shocked about this. I’m wondering if porn is changing younger generations habits so much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:31 PM
14

I think there’s an addictive element to screen time and a connection to the chemical process of orgasm after use. Is that not an addiction? Either way, I don’t date addicts. I don’t care what the poison is. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:22 PM
36

Like what about guys who cheat with an irl woman and don’t feel distressed until the woman finds out?! Her logic makes therapists look bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:20 PM
5

It’s true enlightenment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:14 AM
16

What if we secretly plot to gather at their concerts post COVID?! Where FDS messages on our bracelets or shirts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:26 AM
12

I’m so down for this drama! Tell me more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:24 AM
37

Whoa. I think you’re onto something here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:22 AM
18

I vote aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:21 AM
32

Don’t forget they can’t have orgasm-less, life-threatening sex with a handful of women any time they want. It’s really not fair! We women have it soooo easy! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:21 AM
37

This has been an eye-opening belief I’ve developed this year. Do I hate men? Who cares? I’m more worried about the women still defending them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:19 AM
13

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:18 AM
20

Queen. Just...queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:18 AM
11

Yessssssssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:17 AM
29

Such a good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:16 AM
3

This was a team effort to manifest! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:13 AM
30

They couldn’t possibly! We have a responsibility. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:25 PM
200

LOL They can’t stand the idea that our ultimate level up is deciding to date ourselves. Bye, men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:44 PM
5

It’s always a projection, isn’t it?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:42 PM
50

Sleeping around isn’t an identity! It’s a behavior you can choose or unchoose. Men just love to manipulate us into thinking sex ruins us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:39 PM
13

She is stunning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:38 PM
10

Imma listen to this on my way to work! Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:37 PM
8

Found it on US Amazon!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:36 PM
5

Added to my list!! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:35 PM
14

😂👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:44 PM
1

Reading that is a journey back to my teens. I literally walked around with my Gia novel and my journal, suicidal and self-destructive. She really was an idol for that era.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:22 PM
26

I can’t wait! Your post was fascinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:58 AM
1

I can’t relate to the specific example but I can go the “and I being the naive little pickmeisha I was trying not to judge him for it” I to my past self: 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:48 AM
3

HAHAHAHA 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:47 AM
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