I know we’re all familiar with LVM who act in creepy, boundary-pushing or flat out disturbing behavior and try to brand it as them “being romantic”. The cause for this itself is a whole discourse on its own (including p*rn, romantic movies with toxic plots, bad social circles, etc) that I am not getting into here - I just wanted to share a snapshot of my experience with one such LVM.

I left him a year ago, June 2020. After blocking him everywhere he emailed me saying, “I buried a ring for you in the desert… maybe you’ll come back and we can go dig it up together”. 😳 alone in the desert with a mentally ill person AND a shovel? No thank you.

Cut to a few days ago. His email address is set to go directly to spam, making it so I only have to see any messages from him as I clean out my email. Got a message from him, and decided I’d glance through to see what insanity I had escaped from this time.

Highlights include:

• “if you didn’t want to talk to me you would block me”. Yeah, you’re blocked everywhere except email (I couldn’t find a way to do anything but mark him as spam, so if anyone knows a better method please share!)

• “I have some of your photos and some poems I stole before that. You can have them back because they’ve served their purpose.” I have yet to come up with an explanation for this that isn’t gross or disturbing. Needless to say I will NOT be reclaiming those items.

There’s not really a big message to this post, I just wanted to share some kinda funny, mostly creepy experiences from being with an LVM.

Bonus: I saw his email the day I got my copy of “The Gift of Fear” in the mail, which I found pretty amusing.

Edit note: had to fix my bullet points because I’m on mobile