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NAH, SISanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:31 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021anxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:00 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:19 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:48 AM
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LEVEL UPanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:58 PM
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LIES MEN TELLanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:24 PM
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NAH, SISanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:31 AM
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#JustLVMThingsanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:48 PM
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NAH, SISanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:51 AM
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PICKME CULTUREanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:42 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:55 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 07:40 PM
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FDS MEMESanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:18 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:46 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:52 PM
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NAH, SISanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:05 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:18 PM
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DISCUSSIONanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:35 PM
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#KickHimOut2020anxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:28 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 12:25 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:54 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:05 AM
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REMINDER 👑anxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:48 AM
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LEVEL UPanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:33 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:20 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:30 AM
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TRIGGER WARNINGanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:30 PM
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STRATEGYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:31 AM
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STRATEGYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:15 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!anxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:07 PM
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anxious-american/r/MGTOW229/06/21 06:50 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:52 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYanxious-american/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:53 PM
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When I was with my abusive ex, we kept breaking up and getting back together. My friend kept getting mad at me for it, and eventually I stopped asking for support and was just abused alone. I got out of it eventually, and obviously we shouldn't encourage women to go back to shitty men, but being there for the girls who are hurt by them is a valuable thing. I wish I had a friend who empowered me instead of getting mad at me at that time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:10 PM
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What hormone, cortisol?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:45 AM
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I guess I'll go apologize to the guys who yelled that I had a nice ass when I was 16 for being mad at them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:55 PM
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Porn you can find very easily, but the idea of getting to see a woman who doesn't want to be seen... That they will pay for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 01:55 AM
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He makes it sound like every guy ever is into fisting and it'll be impossible to find a man who isn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:48 PM
17

Man's so poor he can't afford punctuation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:48 AM
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Okay. Yeah that's really what the whole debate gets down to in my opinion. I don't care what women do otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:20 PM
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I don't believe that's where our disagreement lies, I think it's more in whether or not we both acknowledge the humanity of the fetus. If they're human and alive, then you have to justify why it's okay to end a human life for someone else's sake. This justification has to be behind the pro-choice argument for it to make sense. At the end of the day, what it really comes down to is, are the unborn people? If they're not, you can abort them. If they are...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:31 PM
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Firstly, thank you for talking about things and being kind, I can respect that. What you said is generally good advice, I may practice that in other areas of my life. Are you referring to my belief that the unborn have human DNA and are growing (therefore alive)? I believe that from what knowledge I have of human development, and the fact that their DNA is unique and separate from the mother means that the unborn child is a different human being, so that is why I believe in their right to life. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:04 PM
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Actually I would! I'm still in college right now, but I'm excited to take in/adopt as many kids as I am able to once I can afford it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:39 PM
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Obviously, but the idea of a child dying bothers me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:36 PM
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Because I believe that fetuses are growing, therefore they are alive, and they have human DNA, therefore they are human life. So I don't believe in abortion except when medically necessary. Yet, I'm still for helping women, so I'm in favor of welfare policies that help mothers, I donate to pregnancy centers, and I'm going to adopt when I'm older. I don't think you have to choose between caring about women and caring about unborn children, I think you can advocate for both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:20 AM
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Am I the only girl here that's pro-life 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:53 AM
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One time I had a flashback and told my boyfriend about it. He came over later with $17 worth of snacks. Men who care will show it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 01:25 AM
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One thing I do is ask myself where in my body I feel the feeling. When you're anxious your chest gets tight, and they call gut feelings by that name because they are felt in your gut. This isn't foolproof, but it's definitely helped me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:56 AM
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They can heal from it if they want to put in the work... But most are too wrapped up in their depravity to care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:28 AM
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Sometimes stigma is good... This slope is way too slippery to put one foot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:27 AM
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Plus you actually cum lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:39 PM
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Tatwoos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:46 AM
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"It doesn't make me love my current girlfriend any less" You don't love your girl at all, the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:22 AM
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She says their marriage was great before now, I don't really believe that; I'm willing to bet there were red flags she didn't notice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:55 AM
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I didn't sleep with my partner for several months at first, vetted instead. He's my fiance now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 05:40 AM
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This! Great men protect their women, and it's so much more attractive too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:49 AM
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Please report him!! His supervisor needs to smack him a new one. I told my therapist I wasn't okay with porn, and even though I'm pretty sure she disagrees, she said that it's okay for me to have that boundary. If you don't like porn, the therapist's opinion is irrelevant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:03 AM
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My boyfriend and I's first date was a walk in a graveyard... Although, granted, neither of us intended on becoming serious back then 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:56 AM
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I didn't think this was so bad (under the condition that they keep their finances separate so he doesn't get a cent of her money either), until I saw that his parents gifted the $25k to him AND his wife... And he wants to just keep it all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:08 PM
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Number 4 does not have a healthy sexuality if he can't be with one girl lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:01 AM
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Good for you!! Look how much fun you're having without him ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:20 PM
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VERY interesting how right after he says (since this 100% reads like it was written by a man) "cheating involves another person," he says "porn isn't cheating"... It's telling into how they view porn stars as objects and not people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 11:54 PM
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She might be stuck in a cycle of abuse, or stays due to self esteem issues. When I was in an abusive relationship, I knew he was a dick, but I was so desperate for someone to love me that I put up with it. Eventually, I stayed because I thought it was my fault everything was going wrong (he gaslit me to that point). I haven't been on your side of this, but I've been on the other one, so I guess I'd like to point out that the question of "why is she with him" can get very complicated. It's okay t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:13 PM
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THE TRUTH BEHIND THIS ONE Once when I was a teenager, for my mother's birthday, I asked a bunch of people who knew her to give me a couple of compliments about her, so I could compile them on a word document and give it to her (her love language is words of affirmation). Everyone said such kind words except for my dad, who only complimented her on what she did for him... Coincidentally, he's also a LVM and overall bad husband. My ex once told me he didn't have female friends... Coincidentally, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:42 AM
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Yeah, the fact that he stopped when she pulled out her phone is telling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:27 PM
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I had to reread part of this to try to find what the unforgivable mistake was... Still didn't find anything unforgivable So this man can look through your phone all he likes, but you looking at his device once is unacceptable? Such bullshit. You can do so much better than him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:18 PM
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If this guy will spend thousands of dollars to feel superior, what other lengths would he go to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:31 AM
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Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:29 PM
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I live in the American south and dated a Canadian once... My opinion: It's hard to really get to know someone over the internet. In real life you can see if he tips the waiter, how angry he gets with traffic, just generally how he reacts to problems in real time. You can get a feel for how he treats people that aren't you, and how well he keeps his cool when frustrations arise throughout the day. But when you know someone online, you only get to see the version of themselves they've crafted for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:32 PM
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Office jobs aren't THAT bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:27 AM
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"Girls only dislike being catcalled because of feminism. Back in the day they used to like it, my grandpa and some of his friends told me so." "Have you tried asking any older women how they feel about it?" "I don't need to do that"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:34 AM
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Even on Snapchat!! There are apps that allow you to screenshot without notifying the other person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:24 AM
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What's the guy's name? Curious to see a news article and read the story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:59 AM
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I had a crush on a 40 year old man at 21 for this reason 😬 (That never went anywhere thankfully)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:55 PM
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I ended my engagement over text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:11 AM
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My abusive NVM ex gaslit me into thinking I wasn't allowed to tell my friends what happened between us. He would shame me SO MUCH for telling my friends abiut the abuse.... I think he didn't want to have other people telling me to leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 11:54 PM
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I was once friends with my ex. And by "friends," I mean I downgraded him from "fiance" to "guy I'm talking to." You'll never see this person the same way, platonic friendship would be difficult if not impossible. I only have one ex so I'm jist going off of my experience, but I really don't think it's worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:20 AM
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Oh HELL no. My HVM would never
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:24 PM
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I work in mental health 40+ hours a week... We care. Also, I don't think it's fair to say that someone with mental health issues shouldn't date, plenty of struggling people can still handle a relationship. But personally I would require him to be in therapy, because it's not attractive when a man doesn't work to fix the problems in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:03 AM
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I'm so sorry your father was one of them, I hate how pedophilia is making a slow creep towards acceptance in our society. Maybe you could adopt? Then you can have children without creating new ones, since they exist anyways- And some children are in the foster care system because of pedos, but you could be the one to show them they're worth so much more than what happened to them ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:28 PM
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He's not even trading well, if you have an unrealized loss on a stock, don't pull out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:22 PM
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My boyfriend and I do this, but that's because we're already long-term
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:10 PM
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This is getting fast food and not having a table to eat it at
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:09 PM
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If all men are fuckboys or celibate, who are we settling down with instead of them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:14 PM
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Nahh girl be the bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:32 PM
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A lot of these are red flags for trauma, but yes let's shame her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:03 AM
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...And he doesn't believe in holidays!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:19 PM
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I met him at work; but it was kind of a by chance thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:52 AM
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"I would walk alone at night, you mice are just paranoid."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:34 PM
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Donate the toothpaste and abandon the man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:17 AM
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The gay panic defense is horseshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:47 PM
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"Hey, want to meet me alone in the middle of the desert with a shovel?" YIKES what the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:43 AM
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Rapists will say anything to pull the wool over their own damn eyes... I say their own because no one believes this shit but them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:23 AM
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This made me tear up. So proud of you and happy for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:45 PM
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Sweetheart, I'm not a prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:03 AM
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My boyfriend has started saying he wants to marry me at about 5-6 months in 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:11 AM
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My ex claimed he's been "falsely accused". He was CONVICTED of rape, and is a serial sexual offender. He's hurt me and at least 3 other women. Men who claim "false accusations" often do this not because the woman lied, but because they're trying to silence the truth about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:21 PM
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We hate the industry and what it does to you all and what it does to women in general. ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:29 PM
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I am so happy for you! Your experience with this can help you be an even better social worker, because you know how your future clients feel, and maybe you can help them escape the industry too. Proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:28 PM
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I'm 👏 so 👏 proud 👏 of 👏 you 👏 Escaping a bad relationship can be super hard, and you're doing it anyway. Good for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:17 PM
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Wouldn't this be considered child pornography?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:29 PM
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These... Are really good points. You could make your own post based on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:06 PM
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I charge a price of lots of love and serious commitment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:01 PM
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I showed this to my boyfriend and he said it's pretty accurate (He and I are talking about marriage, for the record 😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:01 AM
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"I'm sorry I'm not enough for you." "That's okay, I forgive you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:26 AM
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I see the newbie tag on your post! And congratulations for getting out of that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:47 PM
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If only I were this clever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:30 PM
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This might not be a result of liberal feminism- He soubds like he might be a gaslighter? She's afraid of him guilt tripping her, and is acting as though she thinks she's the one in the wrong... It's possible this is the result of him gaslighting her into thinking this is normal, and she must not dare question it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:59 PM
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I made my partner wait months to have sex, and he's objectively hot 🤷‍♀️ so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:29 PM
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Our couple's therapist called my abusive ex OUT and kinda yelled at him... "You're telling me all these reasons why she HAS to __, but can't you give me any reasons why she would WANT to __?" "Haven't you ever thought about HER feelings?" Gold star for her. That was about the best I could have hoped for in couple's therapy, but my ex didn't want to do therapy after that. If the therapist isn't well-informed enough about abuse, couple's therapy will make things worse. If the therapist is a good o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:52 PM
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When I insisted to my ex (over video chat through our laptops) that I was going to hang out with a guy friend of mine because he didn't have the right to tell me not to, he punched his laptop screen so hard it came off. 🙃 He later defended that action by saying "it's normal for men to break things when they're mad"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:57 PM
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I hate it when men complain about how "she's always saying she has a headache and will never sleep with me." First of all, she doesn't owe you shit. Second of all, maybe there's a reason she doesn't want to have sex with you... Be a nicer human being and that might change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:17 AM
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Pleaaaase
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:58 PM
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Not necessarily. I don't ask for those texts because I know the other person will very likely make it home safe, but I still care about them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:54 AM
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Even if it was "willing," this sounds like it would be a form of self-harm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:53 AM
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So, to "prevent sexual crimes" he wants a brothel full of women he can rape at any time... Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:02 AM
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I (21F) had a crush on a guy 20 years older than me once. That was about the time I got out of an abusive relationship though, and I came to my senses not long after that lmao. Sometimes it's desperation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:58 AM
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Maybe they meant "tske responsibility for forgiving your partner"? That's the only reasonable explanation I can think of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:19 AM
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This pisses me off. This kid might grow up thinking he's allowed to be sexually aggressive, and if women don't like it, then they should have stopped him. She's raising him to be abusive, I-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:11 AM
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Wait where are these located??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:43 PM
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Also, are we really going to pretend rapists wouldn't steal our phones and sign for us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:28 AM
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This would be necessary not if men had a problem with assaulting, but if women had a problem with lying. Edit: I feel like he's running off of the assumption that it's women making the SA rate so high
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:27 AM
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I had depression while engaged to my abusive ex. Now it's just PTSD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:26 AM
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If a teacher forced my daughter to show her vulva to her class I would raise some real fuckin hell...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:41 PM
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Your mom was in charge of raising you, your wife is not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:38 AM
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I work with teenage boys at my job, and sometimes I can see that they have traditionally attractive traits. When these kids are 25 I might think they're cute. But bloody hell, not now! They're so immature and you can tell how young they are just by looking at them, I just... They might have gone through puberty, but it's not right to be attracted to them. Spend ten minutes with one of these kids and you'll realize just how young they really are. If women can work with teenage boys without being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:57 PM
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This picture is making me consider dumping my boyfriend lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:04 AM
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Okay, so -He's degrading everything you do that isn't "perfect" -Holding you to an unreasonable standard -Disregards your emotional needs -Gaslights you about how you feel That sounds terrible, I'd be crying too. You don't need that in your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:48 PM
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What song is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:22 PM
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I'm a BDSM brat, and I think you might be right. I didn't get enough attention as a child, but at least being kinky would get me a "caretaker"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:09 AM
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Ohh... Is that why my ex pressured me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:46 AM
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I hope she buys a cute dress to dump him in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:14 AM
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Truth Hurts by Lizzo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:29 AM
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Off topic, but please eat three meals a day, it's good for you ❤️ (still turn down lunch dates tho)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:17 AM
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Color me unsurprised, really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:31 AM
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This would be great to send to an ex right before blocking him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:48 AM
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Good for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:54 AM
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"I like you, but I just really wish I could sleep with other women"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:29 AM
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I'm dead lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:45 PM
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"Oh, she's just playing hard to get..." No, motherfucker, I AM hard to get. Step it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:44 PM
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Lmao yeah, honestly I'm into guys who lead; but if I'm cooking and cleaning, he's paying my rent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:02 AM
2

This is really pretty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:56 AM
6

Wait, who's the girl?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:17 PM
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"I don't do friends" So, in other words... "Women aren't worth talking to unless they're willing to have sex with me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 10:53 AM
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This killed me lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:31 PM
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KICK 👏 HIM 👏 TO 👏 THE 👏 CURB 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:27 AM
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A guy being that much older than you is a deal breaker to a lot of women, definite red flag that he didn't tell you. Also, what app were you using? I might get it too lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:25 AM
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I'm 21 and I'm grateful for this sub, sometimes I feel like I need to make myself so men approve of me, but then I come here and realize I'm the only one I need to approve of me ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:17 AM
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I know I'm seeing this late, but I am so happy for you!!!!! Like this post makes me want to give you a hug lmao, you don't have to put up with anything!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:57 PM
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What The fuck What The FUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:00 AM
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He got mad at me and rubbed his hand all over my mouth after he picked at dried dog shit without disinfecting after. Boooooyyyyyy if a man tried that on me now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:26 PM
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Men shouldn't be allowed in politics. Too emotional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:02 AM
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That's beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 07:19 AM
9

Separate y'all's bank accounts, he'll get a job then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:06 AM
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I admire this girl's patience... I wouldn't have been that nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:17 PM
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I'd be friends with you too, but you probably don't live in Asheville unfortunately Yeah, God values women just as much as he does men. When he formed Eve, he didn't make a domestic slave. He made a PERSON, and the fall is the only reason why his followers forget this. I'm sorry you've had such a terrible experience with that church, but I hope God helps you find a better one that takes the word more seriously ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:12 PM
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Right?! Like I could name so many verses that would call these dudes out... The Bible straight up says "be willing to die for your wives," and they're misogynists anyways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:05 AM
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Physical responses =/= wanting it. If I shoved a piece of bread into your mouth, you would salivate. That's not because you were hungry, but because that's something your mouth automatically does when there's food in it... And I can't say you asked for me to do that just because your mouth made spit; that part was involuntary. Other parts... Same thing. It doesn't invalidate your experience at all ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:25 AM
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That last sentence is condescending as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:53 AM
13

This is less about her being a pick me and more about him being a dick, this guy sounds awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:06 PM
11

...........What happened to consent, dude?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:20 AM
21

I've been talking to a guy who's always at work and is preparing a large property to sell, basically all by himself. He's very busy, but he'll still text me every night until he starts to pass out with his phone in his hand, and manages to hang out at least once a week if he's able to. "If he wanted to, he would!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:53 PM
28

This is just like my grandma! "You want to buy this car...? But it's so expensive. Do you have a job?" "Nope." "Then how will you pay?" "With a check."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:59 PM
31

I wish I had seen this MONTHS ago. My ex did this, then tried to convince me I needed to do various things he wanted in order to not be "abusive" anymore in an attempt to manipulate me. He would say I was the cause of ALL of our fights, ALL of them. If I tried to leave, then at best, I was an abuser who couldn't live in the mess she'd made and was too lazy to help fix the man she destroyed... At best I was abusive and abandoned him. At worst, depending on how upset he was, I could be a murderer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:13 AM
1

Oof, you're right; totally phrased that wrong. That dude would be a douchebag, the post was meant to say to go for the guy that YOU think is too good for you, because you don't know that he thinks the same. Edited to reflect this, thank you for pointing it out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:36 AM
79

My job here is done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:04 PM
21

It's definitely possible that this could be a reason for that compliment, but what if a guy genuinely wanted to say a girl was nice...? How would a HVM do it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:13 AM
5

Me after breaking off my abusive engagement at twenty years old. I might have time for bullshit because I'm still young, but boy, I do N O T have the patience. Been there done that. Either be a good man who doesn't need to change or get the fuck out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:27 AM
6

Bold of you to assume I won't still be horny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:49 PM
8

Women who do sleep around are not worth less in any way. But this has me laughing because I'm waiting until marriage for religious reasons 😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:39 AM
22

Unlike those women who sleep around, I love God. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:37 AM
109

That one's even worse to be honest. Like at least my ex had a really cute plan to propose under a waterfall before he got pissed. Yours put NO effort into that. Glad he's your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:48 AM
3

I'm a North Carolinian too. Haven't done any dating in my own state though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:45 AM
7

I'm Southern, but my ex is west coast. Can confirm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:40 AM
467

When I was proposed to, my fiancé got mad at me about something right before... So he slapped the ring into my hand and said, "HERE, just TAKE it!" and stormed away. ... I broke off the engagement over Messenger 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:28 AM
96

This is adorable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:25 AM
18

Anal alone, as far as I know, cannot easily give a female an orgasm. The gspot is in the vagina, and the clitoris is outside of the body. Anal stimulation all by itself ain't gonna get a girl off. ...Also, no discomfort? At all? Ever? How tiny must the dude's dick be? DEFINITELY written by a man (who doesn't understand female anatomy)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:18 AM
29

I'd already broken off an abusive engagement at 20... Now at 21, I have no patience for bullshit like the girl in her 30s. Either you're a king fit for a queen and will pursue me as such (asking me on dates instead of saying you want to "hang out," actively looking for marriage instead of stagnant relationships), or you can get out. Because who wants to deal with a boy's mind games anymore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:35 AM
0

I would consider giving this girl the benefit of the doubt here. She said she's only 20... It's a bit old for it, but maybe she's still naive about certain realities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:09 AM
1

I needed this, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:33 AM
3

Maybe you can tell him you didn't feel the spark/chemistry so you don't have to say anything about his physical appearance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:04 AM
10

He wants to avoid potential issues? If there haven't been any issues already, there aren't going to be 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:22 AM
1

Just call me out by name, why don't you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:37 AM
4

Side rant here, but I hate the way Lori Alexander portrays what a Christian marriage is supposed to look like. Husbands are called to do SO MUCH MORE than wives, but from her posts, you'd imagine a girl would be required to obey a controlling rapist with a smile, because it isn't her place to do anything about it. Husbands are called to be some real HVM towards their wives, and wives are supposed to go with it. I don't want to explain eeeeeverything the Bible says about marriage in this comment,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:50 AM
6

Can a wife change her husband? No. But it is up to other men to teach him how to be a good husband. The Bible calls for husbands to "love their wives like Christ loves the Church, and gave himself up for her." Men are supposed to put their all into loving their wives. To forego controlling her and instead make sure she has everything she needs, put her first, to really CHERISH her- to the point of giving up their lives if necessary. It's not like it would be some kind of sin for women to tell ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:42 AM
1

You make good points, but I'm still stuck on the fact that these men need space to heal and express their emotions and all that, but they don't need to see therapists?! "This person who has a Master's in Psychology and has been practicing for ten years hasn't done much for me... I'm going to obligate women in general to help me instead!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:54 PM
1

I think he's made the first step on a very long road. If he said this to his ex, that could be a trick to get her back, but he said it to strangers... I don't know what he would stand to gain with his statements here. And if you read the very bottom of the last pic, it looks like he's really asking how to take responsibility, because he doesn't know what to do now. It's possible he'd start trying to be better and give up, of course. But I think he's waiting to learn more about how to fix himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:38 PM
5

"I really like your face, it's weird how it makes me want to get to know you" Just say she's cute...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:53 PM
3

Oh oops. Didn't see the other one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:53 PM
3

Yeah basically... There's a disturbing amount of commenters who are like "well it's not the roommate's fault she can't pay rent..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:51 PM
1

"I can't charm women into having sex with me, so I guilt them into it instead!" Lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:47 AM
7

This is disgusting. I can only hope she also got arrested for obstruction of justice, and that the kids are with a capable caregiver now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:23 PM
3

Okay, this has a great message and all, but "The tree took courses online and got her certification in small business management" killed me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:46 AM
3

When I did really leave, he said he wanted to kill himself because I didn't want to talk it out with him first. I called the police in his area, and they didn't even take him because he said he was just making threats to get my attention. I confronted him, and then he said that he told the cops what he told the cops, and he told me what he told me, but he didn't lie to me... As though I could just take his word for it now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:04 AM
4

Note I wanted to add, but didn't want to make the post too long: He's still trying to get me into couples' counseling to work everything out (made a new email to contact me), but whether his attempt was sincere or not, you don't... You don't come back from that. He told me he "wanted me to see it." He wanted to make someone that he KNEW would be crushed watch him commit suicide, or at least pretend to try. He either staged it so I would know to obey when he says ”do ___ or I'll want to kill myse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:43 PM
15

My ex keeps wanting to have the last conversation with me... I think he's wanting to use that as a reason to convince me that I was the abusive one and I should go back :l no thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:39 PM
6

What did i just read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:37 AM
2

Saying you're a divorced felon is probably not the best lead-in, my guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:56 PM
6

One way to check is if he says he's been "falsely accused" of past abuse. My ex said this, and I believed him for a long time. He's been "falsely" accused of rape three times 🙃 ALWAYS check with the woman who accused him. I cannot stress that enough. Even if he says she's some kind of sociopath. ASK HER. It's not impossible that she lied... But she probably didn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:20 AM
5

My ex told me to communicate more all the time. Now granted, I actually did have a problem with not always telling him when something bothered me... Because I knew he didn't listen. I could communicate well, but it's not going to matter if he doesn't care enough about how I feel to do anything about it. Sometimes there's not even a point in communicating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:15 AM
4

Yep! Like if I'm looking in the mirror I'll compliment myself in my head, but when I'm with friends, I'll tell them how they look good instead. Then everyone gets appreciated 🙂 The ball of light analogy you gave reminds me of something from the Bible regarding how us Christians are meant to be lights too (slightly different meaning in context, but same concept): Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. Matthew 5:15 ESV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:35 PM
12

I think this is considered rape in my state... "Have sex with me, or someone you love will be hurt"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:21 PM
4

HELL YES BITCH. Quitting substances can be tough, and exercising because of the lockdown is a great way to use the time. You're improving more and more, forget what men think- your opinion matters most!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:14 PM
3

Oh fun. I used to base my worth on others (still kind of do unfortunately), and that led to diagnosed social anxiety :)))) Those were some of the worst years of my life. But we're worth something because we're people, and to be a person means to have value! We might be worse at everything, but we still matter, because worth isn't about comparison. I've done a lot of learning on that myself, and it has been SO freeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:12 PM
12

Wow. It's really refreshing to see other women who don't want porn in their relationships either. I've never liked it myself, but don't usually hear about other girls who think it's bad for reasons that aren't stated as purely religious. Honestly, the concept of watching porn in a relationship is pretty disturbing. There are several things wrong with porn in general, but even with humanely produced porn, I just... I can only imagine being with a man who has a regular habit of touching himself to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 10:48 PM
2

P R E A C H
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:33 AM
16

I love this man so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:09 AM
2

Can you imagine if I did though 😂 pushing aside old fish and rotting produce to get a box of cereal with a strange man is my favorite nighttime activity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:01 PM
1

No, but I do have a phone. That's really good to know too, thank you for the advice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:58 PM
2

I never considered going with him, I was just wondering if he had bad intentions or was too oblivious to realize how he came off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:50 PM
8

My dream date includes a nice sewer swim and painting canvases with feces. I will settle for nothing less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:47 PM
0

I'm not sure charities will take expired food even though it's good because of the technicality, but I don't have enough experience with food banks and such to know for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:15 PM
4

Thank you for the recommendation! I think I'll check that out; I definitely have trouble trusting my instincts. Like I'll get a gut feeling that something is wrong but not really believe it enough to act. The libraries around here are starting to open up, maybe they'll have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:11 PM
0

I'm not; we were in a grocery store for this conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:08 PM
1

Unfortunately Dumpster Man is real, and so is my trust of strangers I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:44 AM
5

Noted. Maybe I'll avoid him from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:37 AM
-4

Oh, not in a million years. I'm just not sure how much benefit of the doubt to give his request.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:35 AM
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