Upon recommendation from my fellow FDSers, I've been reading Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?" This particular passage, explaining how young men can become abusers, really resonated deeply with me. Although I'm fortunate that I haven't experienced a physically abusive relationship, I still notice this kind of entitled attitude pervading today's young men when it comes to dating/sex. It smacks heavily of inceldom and MTGOW to me.

From a combination of different cultural influences, [the growing boy] develops an image of his future, which he carries within him. He pictures a woman who is beautiful, alluring, and focused entirely on meeting his needs--one who has no needs of her own that might require sacrifice or effort on his part. She will belong to him and cater to him, and he will be free to disrespect her when he sees fit.

In his mind this picture may illustrate the word partner, but a more accurate word for the image he is developing might be servant.

When this boy gets involved in actual--as opposed to imagined--dating, especially as he reaches an age where his relationships become more serious, his childhood fantasy life collides with the real-life young woman he is seeing. She defies him on occasion. She has other people in her life who are important to her rather than making him her exclusive focus. She demands from time to time that he take an interest in her as a person. She doesn't always accept his opinions as accurate and superior to hers. She may even attempt at some point to break up with him, as if she were not his personal possession. The boy doesn't believe that he is demanding anything unreasonable; he seeks only what he considers his due. In fact, our young man feels like he gives his girlfriend more freedom than a lot of other guys do[...] and he becomes increasingly frustrated, erratice, and coercive as he tries to regain control over his partner. His first sexual experiences are likely to be a result of his pressuring a girl steadily until she gives in, so that sexual coercion becomes one of his earliest relationship habits. He may even start to appear mentally ill[...] but in fact his behavior is largely logical and rational, given what his key social influences have led him to believe.

Above all, he feels that his rights are the ones being denied--which is precisely the attitude of almost all of my clients when they begin my program. The abusive man feels cheated, ripped off, and wronged, because his sense of entitlement is so badly distorting his perceptions of right and wrong.
- Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That?" (p. 485-6)