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My reply is always 'I don't have time to suffer fools' or "I don't waste my time on men who know better' and walk away. It's surprisingly effective at shocking them into silence. ETA; It's also the honest truth. I do not waste my precious little free time on shit men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 08:44 PM
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Honestly is there anything they wouldn't fuck? Asking seriously here .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:33 PM
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Dubious pleasure. Resist away my dear! His little rant does not merit a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 02:31 PM
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Block him EVERYWHERE. It is not your responsibility to worry about what he will do to himself, only to protect yourself from what he might try to do to you. DO NOT sympathize with him. He is a grown-ass man. He needs to take care of his mental health himself. He is using it as an excuse to be a horrible person, and any response to him from this point is just rewarding & enabling him. Do what you must to protect yourself. But do not allow him to suck you back in. In this situation, being kind and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 06:00 PM
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In my experience these kinds of men surround themselves with similar people. Why care what they think? They would have found a reason to treat you horribly no matter what, simply because they are very likely horrible people too. People must earn your regard and respect before you care what they think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 05:52 PM
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You owe him nothing. Block & delete. Don't bother with a text in a few days, a week, or ever again. Don't give him a chance to suck you back in. You've made your point. As for him going after other guys you might date, I think it's time you let yourself be single for a good long while. Level up, work on your life to the point you are happy with it. WITHOUT some dude mucking it up. We're here for you. We love you and we're rooting for your success. Be safe, be careful, be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 05:27 PM
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The block party one does that for me. I've been caught around the office singing 'blockity block, block, block'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 08:33 PM
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I feel like each of us has to learn this lesson, that engaging just isn't worth it. "You can't argue with insanity. You can stare at it, gaping and incredulous, but arguing with it is futile." - Richelle E. Goodrich
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 08:20 PM
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Oh yeah, it's so easy to lie online. I've had a guy I was arguing with (way back when) tell me he was happily married, but when I went to his comment history it was all about how he couldn't ever get the 'hot girl' he wanted. Like, why even try dude? Honestly that was when I realized all of them are pathetic liars and not to bother because they are never arguing in good faith.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 04:41 PM
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I have yet to meet anyone willing to do the poly crap that wasn't batshit crazy. Men or women. I have this theory that the only ones willing to entertain it are the ones in desperate need of a decent therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 04:27 PM
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learned how to treat their SOs or women they're interested in Bold of you to think they're capable of growth. REALLY bold of you to think they'd have a woman willing to stand them for long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 04:24 PM
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Yep. Compliance will get you killed! Be loud, be an unattractive target, embarrass him! Make him think twice about pulling that shit again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 03:43 PM
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No exchange of bodily fluids until I have verifiable std/sti panel results in front of me! If he whines and moans then I have my answer and it's time to drop him. Any man worth his salt will be doing the same to protect his health as fervently as I do mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 01:30 PM
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Stomp the hell put of his instep or 'accidentally' knee him in the balls as you squirm away. Then walk away as he's doubled over in pain. I'd probably just scream and make the biggest damn fuss possible to embarrass the fuck out of him. Including making sure EVERYONE within screeching distance knew I said no and he still tried it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 07:38 AM
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Really agree. If you want children and aren't going to have them yourself, adopt. So many children growing up in the system, and they are planning to pay some poor woman to go through the risk for her instead of giving one of those children already here a chance at a better life. CHILDREN ARE A PRIVELEGE. We should worry way more about the ones that are already here than the ones that are still hypothetical. I am currently childfree. But if I ever decide that I want to be a mother, I will be ado…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 12:48 AM
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YES. I had a situation at work where if I hadn't been part of the admin team, listened to my gut, and started researching, I would have been stuck with a convicted violent rapist on my glass team. The case details were truly sickening. When my boss (who is a very tall man with a bit of color in his past, no way was I going to be in a room alone with that filth) confronted him about it, he answered 'I was just giving that girl a ride home and since she was underage her parents freaked out'. TF. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 01:43 PM
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I once commented somewhere that I wanted a man who 'moisturized and wore sunscreen daily' as one of my minimum standards. I literally got a response of 'you know sunscreen is bad for some black skin types' and I was like WTF?! I have never heard that daily sunscreen wasn't recommended as basic protection against skin cancer for anyone regardless of skin type or race ..... Any excuse to avoid doing the bare minimum. Even when it's a total bullshit excuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:34 PM
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I sew hidden pockets to the inside of all my coats and jackets (since I always have one) and just carry the necessities (bank card/cash, license, key fob, chapstick or lipstick, & sunglasses). Very rarely do I need much else in my purse. Very rarely do I go anywhere without a jacket or coat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:47 PM
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Earning your flair I see. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:55 PM
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And this is why I don't carry a purse. Pockets FTW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 03:34 PM
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My momma always said don't feed the strays unless you want them to stick around. She was not talking about dogs and cats .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:19 PM
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HE HAS A MULLET. That's all I needed to see to nope out of his BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 07:47 PM
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Yet when we have this same mindset they scream GoLdDiGgEr!! More projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:43 PM
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Oh come on, OvErReAcTiNg MuCh? MuSt Be ThAt TiMe Of ThE mOnTh .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:32 AM
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I get emails like this IN MY WORK OUTLOOK. On a computer that's never even been logged into facebook because I'm not a moron. They use language like 'I have all your naughty videos and I'll send them to your friends & colleagues' well first off this computer doesn't even have a webcam and we are not allowed to use any USB cables outside of keyboard/mouse so ...... I forward them to the rest of the office and we all ridicule it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 02:48 PM
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It is not your responsibility to 'assist' him through a tough time, he's a grown-ass man. That is where you messed up. These men appealing to our better nature is how they claw back in to use you even more than they have. Give yourself grace yes, but accept that you fucked up and let it keep you from repeating the mistake again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:44 PM
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Continuing to engage with a man like this in any way is offering him validation for his bad behavior. A HVW is done with a man the first time the mask slips. You've already shown the LTR what she needs to know. Now it's up to her to act on it. You do not have the clout or experience to bring this man down. It's long past time for you to walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:32 PM
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BLOCK AND DELETE. Honey, it's time to drop this circus clown. NOW AND FOREVER. How much more will you let him put you through? Time to re-read the handbook and get pissed enough to take it to heart and enforce the fuck out of your boundaries. Going to his command would only work if you were underage. That culture is absolute bro code for the most part, they'd probably even be complicit in covering it up. Fool you once, shame on him. Fool you twice, shame on you. He ain't gonna change and he's pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:19 PM
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When I think about it, I make more working on my side hustle for an hour ... Why would I waste that time just for a free meal? Not to mention the hour & supplies it takes to get ready and get there for the date. Oh hell no. I'll order in my own meal thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:50 PM
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The only thing that would make it worth going back would be regaining my youth while keeping the wisdom of 'been there, survived that'. If I was as capable as I am now in my 30s with the energy, mutant healing powers, and iron constitution I had in my 20s? Damn .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 08:10 PM
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Imagine all the productive things he could be doing with his time ..... Not bashing video games, I have been known to indulge in them myself, but they're momentary entertainment not a lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:23 PM
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Oh but don't you know that's supposed to be the end-all be-all redirect for an argument where a scrote is losing and he knows it? The correct way to respond is to twitter with fear and apologize for being a horrible human being, then break your back trying to prove to that scrote you aren't a misandrist demon from hell determined to suck all the joy out of his life?! /s for those that need it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 07:36 PM
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Sounds like he's mad she's being smart enough to protect herself from him when the time comes where she's the most vulnerable 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:24 PM
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Sean's thoughts on my job and why he can do it better even though he can't even change the code on his safe with the instruction manual .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:33 PM
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Shoes don't stretch, and men won't change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:25 PM
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Talking about horses like men talk about crypto is guaranteed to make his eyes glaze and his brain spaz. I use this tactic often. Only time it doesn't work is when he's a horsemen already, but then we actually have something in common and true horsemen are so very rare it's not normally a danger lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 05:11 AM
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You aren't wrong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 11:42 PM
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Talk about pornsick ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:27 PM
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replace 'selfish' with 'abusive' and you're spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:26 PM
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I wait until they ask, then I tell them straight up. When they ask "Why [did the marriage end]?" I answer "He cheated. Cheaters won't change so I ended it." I mean, the nvm-ex did way more to me than that, the cheating was merely the last straw that gave me solid proof to give the courts - but giving out that info before a man is thoroughly vetted and proven will not serve my interests like a short and simple 'I yeeted him the first time he showed me he was garbage' does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 07:24 PM
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Oh boy, if you believe that man have I got a gorgeous bridge to sell you ......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:12 PM
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Sex work is not work. At best its indentured servitude. Engaging in sex work absolutely ruins your chances of a real job somewhere down the line, and even if you manage to get one without your past being revealed you will live in fear of the day someone there finds it. Don't confuse the privileged mouthpieces men and sex posi -at-all-costs libfem agenda likes to shove in your face with 'sex work is work!' It's all bullshit designed to draw vulnerable women in and trap them like a disgusting mlm …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:14 AM
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My first thought when I saw 'currently making 200k' was that this was written by a man or someone else with a vested interest in tricking vulnerable women into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:02 AM
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Holy age gap .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 08:05 PM
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Depends on how early he shows his warts, but I have walked out after 2 bites of bread, after salads (or appetizers) and halfway through my steak. You are not obligated to finish the meal if the company is offensive. Most of the time I say I'm going to the restroom and just never come back. Sometimes I tell them to their face that I'm done with it. Depends on the vibe I get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:07 PM
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The egg does not chase the sperm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:10 PM
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This is why we're so careful with our personal information. If he never knew/cannot find your workplace, home address, or phone number then you don't have much to worry about. The majority of men are lazy/cheap as fuck. If they can't find your info from a couple minutes worth of googling they likely aren't going to keep going, or go to the extent of hiring a PI to find you just to harass you. There are outliers who go completely unhinged but that's why we block/delete at the FIRST sign of a red …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:35 PM
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The most powerful position you have in any deal (business or personal) is to just walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:29 PM
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Are you me? Moved across the fucking continent where the new (ex) husband proceeded to slowly turn the beautiful life we had planned for into a waking nightmare. I spent 7 years trying to make it happen in spite of him, then one day I got tired, gave up, and dumped his ass. Moved back home, slapped him with a divorce, and once I was free of him I started to really work on my own situation. Life is pretty damn good when some NVM/LVM isn't sucking the joy out of it with their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:21 PM
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Exactly. I got a comment (it's hidden) about this being dangerously close to victim blaming, but we need to operate in the world we live in instead of the one that we want or we're just opening ourselves up to harsh consequences. The reality is that I meant that to be a sarcastic criticism. but when I got it typed out I realized it's exactly what men would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 06:54 PM
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That's not what I meant. I realize y'all tend to get irritated when there isn't a 'go do X because that's a favored hobby of HVM and you're guaranteed to find one' advice, but what I meant was de-center men from your life and go live it. Isn't that one of the core values of this sub? To be happy whether or not you have an HVM in your life? I have stopped searching for my HVM. Doesn't mean I'm not open to the possibility of one should I find him. But I'm not going to waste me time sifting through…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 06:48 PM
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Leo here and it totally annoyed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:15 PM
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Free the nipple .... for whom? It ain't for women. Yeah bras are uncomfortable but so it letting the gals bounce around and swing free (at least for me). I mean, men already use short skirts as a reason to justify rape. Why don't we just run around naked and invite them to it? That's what I see happening when I think about this. I was being facetious to make a point, but damn if it didn't seem far too possible once I had it written.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 09:53 PM
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You're very welcome! Also while you're changing your locks, replace the little screws in the strike plates with 3" structural screws. That way your doors are a lot harder to break into. I second having your camera ready as well as other persons with you on the day you move out, I would not put it past him to show up and cause problems so you're going to need backup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 10:19 PM
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Hypothetical for me too as I am not dating nor do I have any plans to change that soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:49 PM
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Honestly, without knowing details that I'm not gonna ask for (like your location) the best I can give you is what I would do in your situation. First, leave all the crap he's asking for. You can replace them with better, and shit you actually like that doesn't remind you of him. Get a lawyer to write you a 'cease & desist' letter dated for the day you move out, send it to him via certified mail that day and leave a copy at the old place where he will find it. Set up cameras at your new place, re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:38 PM
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Best way to meet HVM? Live your life. Go do things with other people. Make HV friends who might know other HV people (men or women). All of the HV people I've met have been either through work or a hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:26 PM
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I've never harassed a scrote, but I have given some who decided to harass me the business after. I always regretted wasting that time and energy. It's never worth it. These men do not argue in good faith. They are looking to waste your time and cause you any type of negativity they can, because it's the only power they hold over you and they know that. This is why block and delete is so important. The absolute worst thing you can do to them is not respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:17 PM
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Safe bet that anytime a guy says something that confuses you in this manner, it's his way of fishing for sex while maintaining his own innocence. That way if you call him on it he WaS jUsT jOkInG or GeEz OvErReAcTiNg MuCh? Schroedingers Douchebag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:11 PM
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Fast way to disappoint him lol. 100% of the time when a guy uses that emoji it's about sex. Honestly he'd likely double down so that you 'caught his meaning'. Because that's all he's after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:51 PM
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Remember ladies, this type of man (or something as equally horrid and pathetic) are what parodies, seethes, and rants about this sub. Don't waste your time one them. Just block & delete, they are so desperate that any attention paid to them is a plus, no matter the context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:37 PM
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At 30 I just lost my filter. Honestly, life has become better as a result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:32 PM
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I have woken up with violence in mind the last two days. I think it's the full moon. People keep coming at me with bullshit IRL and that's just fueling it. I'm staying away from those subs because I'm not going to get sucked into their shit, which is exactly what they want. They know they're full of shit, they just don't care, they want to wallow in their wrongness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:50 PM
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Agreed. Supreme ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:06 PM
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There's text in the reddit cares message that tells you how to turn them off. I think it's replying stop or something, been so long since I did it I can't remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:37 PM
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Well in their minds, those young women in their 20s who want kids are supposed to settle down with the 40+ men who are done sowing their wild oats and now ready for the family life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:33 PM
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If you have an old camera phone that still works laying around, you can set it up with Alfred app to be a remote viewer. You can choose to let it notify you whenever it detects motion and it keeps the videos for 30 days, you have the option to send them to storage for longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:12 PM
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Had that happen to me when I flashed my wedding ring. "I'm married" his response "So?". I pulled a face and ignored him until he went away. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:35 PM
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Good little guardian kitty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:52 PM
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Never seen that movie, but I'd definitely save my cat over the morons who decided not to follow my sound advice. Just nature sorting itself out, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:19 PM
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Hilarious that he got caught, but still insane that he did it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:10 PM
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These men out here creating entire stories in their head about women that want nothing to do with them. It's delusional and downright terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:53 PM
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I'm seeing the brain leeches from Futurama but as dicks ...... it's scarily accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:43 AM
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Dude I was in charge of briefly. He already hated that I was his superior's superior, and they apparently had been talking about my lack of love life (by choice but they never seem to catch that part). Why he felt I needed to know or even cared was beyond me. He didn't last long after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:42 AM
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I have never met an MGTOW that was actually going his own way ..... they were all absolutely desperate for any attention I would give them. I actually had one that once he told me that I just shrugged my shoulders and started to walk away who grabbed my arm trying to make me stay so he could monologue at me and make me argue with him. Never have I wanted so much to punch a guy in the balls. It's all an act, a 'please let me manipulate you into breaking your back to change my mind' game, and they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:00 PM
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Yes, I used to get this too. Another vetting strategy. It's insane how many want to put you on the defensive like it's a felony to protect your information from men who might mean you harm ..... 🙄 If you use the Google voice and they insist on calling it to ring you, don't let it go to voicemail, pick up the call even if they're standing right there. Then once you're out of their range you can abandon it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:51 PM
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I use a Google voice number set up for specifically that reason. You can abandon and create a new one as needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:27 PM
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Yeah these days I drink so rarely that I can't hold mine AT ALL. It messes me up so much more with the weird digestive issues I have. Half a bottle of champagne in and the drawl gets way slower, lol. I live in a state with draconian DUI laws (not that I'm complaining!) and since I need to maintain a CDL for both my day job and the family business, I'd rather not risk it for even one drink. Plus, I find being a tee-totaler on dates is a great way to vet. I give them the opportunity to surprise me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:15 PM
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You've just given me the words to express how I feel when I think about dating. Up till now it's just been to pull a face and say 'no thanks', this is far more eloquent. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:31 PM
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I don't drink at all on dates. When they ask why, I'll say I'm driving myself home. Sets the expectation that I will be going home sober and alone early :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:49 PM
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6' tall here. Us tall sisters still won't touch him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:46 PM
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Right? This is why I will not mess with any man below 6' 3". I could really care less how tall a guy is as long as he didn't try to make it my problem. But experience has taught me those men do not exist. I have plenty of options other than the height-fishers/napoleons. Why would I waste my time on someone I know is going to have a complex right off the bat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:43 PM
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I have a frenched rack of lamb ordered, my champagne was bought last week, and chocolates on the way. I'm going to take a nice long bath, slip into my least sexy sweats and oversize tee, crack a new book, and gorge myself on deliciousness. I'm looking forward to it more than I have ever looked forward to sex, and I don't even have to shave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:05 PM
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Them: "Why (more often it's how) are you still single?" Me: "Men are too much drama." I have yet to get anything back but agreement (form women) or a shocked silent stare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:27 PM
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I just look at them and say "I'm a woman, aren't I? Of course I'm a feminist. But I don't agree with the current discourse known as liberal feminism, it's downright harmful." Then watch them implode trying to figure out how best to categorize me in their head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:23 PM
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Right?! Like, no thanks. I am tempered steel, honed to a sharp edge by the necessity of surviving. Now you want me to throw all that hard-earned strength away to attract some useless man? NO FUCKING THANKS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:55 PM
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Joshua, Jared, James, Joseph ..... Just from my experience lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 04:02 PM
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Thought we already referred to it as PIED? (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:11 PM
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Wasp spray is pretty debilitating when used on the face, and it has a 10' to 20' range and powerful spray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:04 PM
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I've done this once before. Guy wouldn't move so I just put it in gear and started going. I was in a loaded dually truck so it was a pretty satisfying yelp he let out when his toes got caught by the rear tires. He got gone fast after that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:00 PM
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That's happened to me multiple times. Usually within the first couple hours. Reason #1,159,754 that I'm not on OLD anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:55 PM
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I've had a guy try that on me too! I waited until his glass was empty and then poured mine into his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:55 PM
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We can refuse to accept it as an alternative to saying 'pedophile'. We can outright refuse to keep allowing this slide into even more degenerate societal norms to suck us in. We can be loud, be unforgiving, absolutely unmoveable in our refusal to change the severity of the label. Some things should be shameful, no matter how sex posi our society becomes. The buck stops with you. The fact that FDS and radfem beliefs are growing exponentially gives me hope for the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:30 PM
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I get a lot of this too, they think you'll not perceive them as a threat when just the fact they're asking is a red flag ........ I always look at them with the eyebrow of WTF fully raised and ask "do you think I'm dumb enough to give you personal info?". Shuts them up real fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:20 PM
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Yep (also notice how even the worst of the worst admits that good men spend money on their women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:19 PM
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Never tell a man the details of where you live or work. Do not allow them to pick you up or take you home. NEVER go to his house or a hotel. Do not let him take you to a second location that was not agreed upon beforehand. No spontaneous changes to the date itinerary, it makes it harder to track you down if you disappear. Don't use a fingerprint unlock feature on your phone, set a pattern instead. That way it can't be unlocked while you're asleep/unconscious and used to track your location (Ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:56 PM
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I snorted tea at 'rantifesto'. Y'all never fail to make me giggle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:11 PM
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Hence the prevalence of shitty men on OLD. Such a wide net .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:04 PM
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Unfortunately with this approach you're still using male validation as a source for your self-worth. Not healthy. I like to channel my negative emotions into something positive. I usually make something cool (last time I hit a funk like this I designed and built a kitchen hydroponic tower for cooking herbs ...... YMMV). Makes me think to myself, 'yeah you're pretty rad Spittens, just look at this'. Works every time, and I have a new neat thing to show for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:00 PM
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I see, and thank you for explaining it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:47 PM
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Yes, no tone, no inflection, just absolute calm and refusal to engage. Be the duck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:43 PM
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So, I might be a bit too bloodthirsty and showing my conservative (real conservative, not right-wing mania) roots here, but I believe the death penalty is justified in cases where a child was abused (be it sexual or otherwise). Don't just put them in jail (the easy way out), to be a drain on taxpayers and someday released back into society to perpetuate their abuse (because I don't believe these men can be rehabilitated). Mods feel free to delete this if y'all think it's too controversial. I jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:21 PM
40

I was also raised in the south, and it depends on the context for me. Men I do not know very well that call me 'sweetie' 'baby' 'honey' or the like are getting the razor blade stare until they squirm and then they are told very firmly to use my name. It's a red flag to me, and I will keep my eye on that guy until I can either permanently remove him or myself from the situation. I get darlin' a lot from guys, and I hate it. Unless it's my family or a very good friend, the only way I will say that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:35 PM
12

Me either. Been 2 years, I do not miss it one bit. Never going back. It was a cesspool then, and I figure it's only gotten worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:04 PM
31

Reason # 1,159,753 to ditch OLD altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:48 PM
90

I must have been in the recon scout group. It's been over 2 years since I began my boycott.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:29 PM
5

Nope! I usually have a glass or two on the weekends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 05:44 PM
13

It's a continuation of the 'action figures' stage of being a child for them. Except now they're grown-ass men playing with them. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:33 AM
25

Karma's a real bitch ain't it? Dude found out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:23 AM
221

My dad said he knew in the first date. Most of the men in my family (there's only been 2 divorces on my dad's side and one was mine) say they knew within the first couple weeks, even if they didn't consciously think it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:46 PM
83

Pfft, I make double that an hour, and that's about the time it takes to get ready for a date. I have had the good fortune to never experience this, but if I ever do, I know how I'm gonna handle it ....... ETA; By invoicing him for the time of mine he wasted, including prep & travel time. No offsetting the cost of food either, because in my industry meals are considered a networking expense to the party that proffered the invitation. Phew, these men be so cheap and low-class!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:36 PM
3

Wow, count the red flags there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:44 PM
4

That's why I gave up the apps years ago. I never could find a guy I wanted to date. Never even heard of Raya .... that's how long it's been lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:42 PM
3

I'm 6' tall. I work with a guy who is 6'7". He towers over me. This dude says he is 6' 8", then the woman standing next to him is what, 6'6"? Come on dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:43 PM
55

I spent more than $1,400 just replacing my old couch that I could never get the ex's BO smell out of ... this man is worthless. Toss him to the curb with the rest of the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:35 AM
6

I call it monopoly money ...... drives them bonkers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:28 AM
2

Or hot sauce 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:26 AM
68

Not all of them, just the ones who are terribly insecure about it and use it as an excuse for being an asshole (so like 90% of them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:00 PM
252

Why is that person still your friend if she's passing your number out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 02:01 PM
79

Men who don't take my food restrictions seriously. I eat nearly vegan for a reason, and it has nothing to do with preferences or some moral obligation I feel, and everything to do with keeping me out of the surgery theater. So many men want to argue with me about how serious my issues are, and I ain't having that. Instant ick if he tries to order for me. Usually it's shellfish too, which I am allergic to, then I have to navigate 'correcting' his assumption without coming off as a bitch, even tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:51 PM
116

I put the old 65" in storage (it's going to be the break room TV in our new shop) and splurged on a 101" projector system with surround sound. The screen rolls down from the ceiling when you push a button on the remote, and it's not nearly as intrusive as a huge black screen is. I'm gonna build a little trap door for it to hide in the fancy trim of the fireplace surround in my house I'm currently building 😁 Tbh, I mostly just use it for music playlists or as an oversize computer screen for my ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:30 PM
2

This is why I do not watch TV anymore. Or go on social media (aside from FB marketplace and here). It's all noise and it's not worth my time/engagement. Especially the shows that idolize men that got away with being horrible humans for so long, even making a documentary about them adds to their notoriety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:33 PM
7

This is me. Found it late 2018 and lurked for a long time, right after I ended my last pitiful situationship and decided to take a nice long break from dating to work on my life. Haven't looked back. If I happen to have a suspected HVM dropped into my bubble while I'm living my life (ski trip upcoming, woooo!) then I'll make some time to figure him out, but otherwise, nope. Not chasing more disappointment and drama, men are largely a waste of my valuable and limited time on this earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:15 PM
5

This is the one aspect of cOmMuNiCaTe that I do agree with. People are not mind readers. And even if you are very perceptive it can take some time for one person to learn to recognize when another is dropping hints (I am very bad at this!). So if it's important it doesn't need to be subtle hints, but a direct ask. Otherwise you'll be disappointed. \**That being said cOmMuNiCaTe is at large a stalling tactic used by men to put off dealing with the consequences of their own bad behavior. So I am o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:40 PM
10

This, the peace is blissful. They can scream into the void and I never see a word of it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:24 PM
151

He entered the room, shirtless with his pecs and 8 pack glistening from sweat. I watched his muscles flex as he placed the saddle back on the rack and straightened the stirrups. Then he turned to me, clean-shaven and strong jaw clenched with excitement. I watched the bulge in his jeans grow as he told me in a slow drawl "I'll do the dishes again this evening". I went faint with lust .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:00 PM
15

I can forgive and forget if it never happens again and he is truly remorseful for being a bad human being. The thing is, when these men say 'please forgive me' they're really saying 'I know I did you wrong but I don't care enough to change, so you have to accept this bad behavior from me with a smile from now on'. They want us to forgive and keep forgiving even after they revert back to being a shit human being, otherwise we're nagging harpies who never let the past die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:22 PM
84

Are you just getting into OLD (or back into after a loooooong break)? I would say this is the vast, vast majority of men on any app, from tinder to the allegedly more relationship oriented ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:13 AM
30

This is my unofficial theme song according to my friends/family lol. Mind you, I grew up around men who are impressive from marine corp pathfinder to a nasa engineer. It takes a lot to impress me. Usually not being a complete ass of a man can do it, but even at that the average man is painfully inept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:10 AM
26

So ..... sex mining? 🤣 I'm seeing a wall of mining rigs except they aren't mining crypto, they're swiping on profiles. Wow. Scrotes will put effort into anything but becoming someone worthy of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:55 PM
42

Well they already do that, but ones that will do it automatically? I see that coming. More reasons OLD is a dumpster fire and no woman who values her time should be using any app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:47 PM
254

Lust at first sight exists. Love at first sight does not. Love needs trust to grow, and trust can only be gained over time and consistency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:53 PM
33

It's not an unreasonable fear. I was conned by a psycho who acted right long enough to get me married to him and moved far enough away from my family/friends (aka support base and reality checks) that he thought I was trapped and could let the mask slip. There were signs while we were dating/engaged, but they were small and anytime I would call him out on them he would straighten up and it didn't happen again. 1.5 years of dating, 1 year engagement, about 9 months of marriage before the abuse st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:43 PM
132

SO they have auto-swipers now? Good grief. All I can think of is Barney Stinson's Cold-Call something-thousand from HIMYM. I mean, if a guy is willing to stoop that low just to get a date then there really isn't much that can be done for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:49 PM
4

Kings provide entire palaces and lifestyles for their women .... even if she was only to be his mistress he was expected to maintain her in style. These men out here calling themselves kings when they can't even afford to move out of mom's basement ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 08:38 PM
12

That whole paragraph reads like it was the inspiration for TLC's No Scrubs 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 04:48 AM
53

Meh, I do like strong. But it ain't enough. I have fought off wild beasts on my own. I can build whatever is needed to shelter myself, and I can feed myself off the land if it becomes necessary. I do not need a man for anything but companionship. That being said, I ain't looking for a pet I have to take care of. He needs to be an equal partner in all our undertakings, from keeping a home to standing strong at my back helping me fend off that aforementioned pack of wolves trying to get to my hors…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:09 PM
96

He hated that there was something which gave her pride, which he couldn't take away, so he did his damndest to make it a negative experience. Only someone with absolute contempt would sink that low. The secret to an amazing sandwich is in the sauces. I would make a spicy guacamole and spread it on thick. Dijon honey Mustard, thousand island, cheddar & bacon or roasted garlic mayonnaise all from scratch. Thick sliced bread toasted and warm, whole leaf lettuce and tomatoes & onions from my garden.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 10:49 PM
159

This hits home. I love to cook. I used to make my ex husband lunch sandwiches (his favorites) for work. I took pride in them. Bread baked from scratch, my own recipes for sauces, the works. They looked like something from a nice restaurant. Most of the time that beautiful sandwich would come home untouched. He wouldn't eat them the next day either, because by then they would be soggy. So I stopped making them for him, and he had the audacity to say that I wasn't taking care of him anymore. Well …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 09:31 PM
124

Only men who live on the internet obsessed with hating women feel this way. IMHO, this is probably the most important part of this rant. The demographic of men using this site are not an accurate representation of the general population. They are decidedly not HVM either, just from their obsessive need to mistreat/use/exploit/argue with us. If you aren't a woman then you don't belong here. End of story. Those men that insist they do despite knowing this isn't a space for them and knowing they ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:49 PM
34

This is too polite for most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:52 PM
23

My dad has a beard. I've never seen him without it .... I know for certain how nasty they can get just in the course of one meal. No way am I smooching that, I use to hate it when we were kids and he'd just trimmed it but went in for the cheek smooch anyway and it scratched me so bad my skin turned red. Not to mention beards remind me of my dad, no way do I want to get intimate with a man with that foremost in my mind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:58 PM
110

There is no way in the deepest depths of delusion he could think that he really was 6'8". I mean come on you insecure little mustfume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:54 PM
218

I lost my composure at 'the dark knight should be a musical'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:00 AM
26

I just live my life. Places to go, things to do. I'll find one somewhere, I hope. I'm the meantime de-center men from your life. Get off OLD especially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:28 PM
94

Nothing but low value/no-value men on OLD anyway, other than to practice blocking and deleting I don't know why any of y'all bother with that noise anymore. You will not find your HVM on a dating app. It's the most low effort means there is, of course it attracts those who only.put in low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:59 AM
17

“You can't argue with insanity. You can stare at it, gaping and incredulous, but arguing with it is futile.” - Richelle E. Goodrich Do not engage is the best way to deal with these useless men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:29 PM
107

OR .... just block them all completely. Notifications, DM's, messages ..... turn it ALL off. Nothing makes these bottom-dwellers angrier than knowing they cannot waste even a second of your time with their idiocy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:06 PM
95

When criticizing my ex-husband, his response would be so over-the-top and so wearying - we're talking he would disappear for days because in his words 'nothing he ever did was good enough for me' spoilers; that's because he did nothing - it was his way of punishing me for not putting up and shutting up. It was a calculated method to wear me down to the point that I would rather just do everything myself than deal with the fallout of saying something to him. I'm embarrassed to say it took me way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:06 PM
20

I think I am sensitive and caring but I don't let anyone fuck with me I'm a massive abusive asshole who gets turned on by a woman crying, I have a huge tough-guy alpha-male complex, I will pretend to care about your feelings for as long as it takes to get into your pants (better be less than 3 dates, though, or I'll call you a prude).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:50 PM
38

'Round here it's 'I'm in finance' and then when I press for more details (because I know they're full of shit) they hem and haw. Don't really pay attention beyond that, and it's been a couple years since I bothered with OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:46 PM
71

Ah yes, the old 'Tour-guide fuck-buddy' ploy. Either that's what they're looking for, or they're pretending to be looking for that so there won't be any long-term expectations when they have to go back to the wife & kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:38 PM
60

I'm on the jobsite. I'm decidedly not looking my sexiest (by design, I ain't encouraging anything!) and the amount of male attention I am getting is still staggering. If I was so inclined, I could point at any one of these scrotes and get laid in 5 mins. But I wouldn't touch any of these low-value fucks with a 39.5' pole and they all know it. My goal is not sex. I am not the least bit interested in a man who can only offer me dick. It's projection. The vast majority of men are incapable of seein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:17 PM
273

It is NOT about sex for a lot of women. We just wanna be treated like human beings instead of holes and maids. Louder for all of Reddit to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:09 PM
169

I'll take peace and solitude over abuse any day. No dick is worth putting up with scrotery. ETA; Also, just because I'm single does not mean I'm lonely. Quite the opposite!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:12 AM
1

Well that's why the organization was a splurge lol. I agree, that stuff is too damn expensive for the cheap plastic it mostly is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:04 AM
22

I upgraded my entire sewing room! I have inherited a sewing/embroidery machine easily worth 10k + and decided it was time to upgrade the rest of my setup. Splurged on some furniture upgrades & organization for that area too. Also bought myself a new set of tires for the vette and a special label printer to make my side hustle a bit easier/faster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:39 PM
75

Once again, after what I've been through trying to date men, single life is the good life ......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:08 AM
1

Was making sure this was here before I suggested it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 08:54 PM
150

This is why I limit my media time to bathroom breaks and lunch breaks (when I don't have a book to read). This includes social media, news, etc. I cannot remember the last time I turned on my TV. There's not much on that I'm interested in watching anyway. Books, hobbies, self-care is my escape. Life is much better when you severely limit and vet the hell out of your media consumption. Doomscrolling is absolutely a thing, and when I catch myself getting annoyed or angry about something I see I kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:33 PM
6

This is abuse. He knows exactly what he's doing, and that you can do way better, so he threatens you to 'keep you in line' by keeping your anxiety and stress to a point where you are in survival mode and cannot imagine a way out. Get yourself together and leave him asap. Even if you're sleeping on a friend's couch, life will be better once he's out of it completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 06:40 PM
24

They really have no clue! It's all projection. I've been out and about helping my dad finish christmas shopping for the women in my family (I am The Keeper of The Lists) today and I've been hit on 5 times already since 10 am. Not a lick of makeup, hair is in my normal utility braid, dressed like I'm headed to the horse barn (because that's where I was when he picked me up). I probably smell like horse too, I can't tell with my stuffed up nose. Now if I was a man repeller why would any man be try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 09:58 PM
9

Very normal. Just lock down all your messages & DM's. Turn off all notifications, etc. This is how I did it after I was still getting email notifications from scrotes being triggered by me, now they're just screaming into the void. They're not worth even a millisecond of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 09:23 PM
42

Flashing back to the time my ex-husband nearly burned the house down trying to make box Mac n' Cheese because I was still too groggy from surgery anesthesia......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 12:03 PM
1

This is one of the myriad reasons I specifically look for men taller than me, they rarely fetishize my height. Sir, I am not a mountain/tree/ladder to be conquered by you ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:23 PM
49

He put jalapeños & Tabasco on everything. I MEAN EVERYTHING, for EVERY MEAL, AND SOAKED HIS PLATE. Tabasco on cornbread & biscuits, even with super salty smokehouse ham. On his steak, in marinara sauce, even once tossed some in my (already infamously delicious, might I add, it's my most requested holiday contribution) potato soup. It was like he couldn't eat anything without it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not hating on either, they have their place and can be amazing flavorings. But I don't want it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:46 AM
203

Men who stare at any particular part of my anatomy. Men who don't listen to the first no. Men who let their pants sag. Men who look like their mom dresses them. Men who put jalapeños or hot sauce on everything. Men who litter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:52 PM
39

After what I've been through trying to date men, single forever is the good life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:42 PM
53

Awww, of course he deleted it once he realized how much of a clown he made himself. Anybody know how to manage the wayback machine willing to post it so we can let it live on in all it's ridiculous manosphere glory?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:21 PM
90

They don't even have to poop in a box. I taught mine to use the toilet. He has better aim than all of the men I've dated. If that doesn't light a fire under a lvm's ass to realize that a cat is better trained and less trouble than him, nothing will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:15 PM
9

Yep. Luckily I saw it coming long ago with a different man and took steps to protect myself then. Haven't regretted my decision for a nano-second!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:53 AM
21

Darlin' how quickly his tone about-faced after he realized it was an empty threat should've given him a broken neck! I was screenshotting his meltdown and sharing it with my two HVW besties real-time, it was prime champagne and popcorn entertainment. Then once we got bored it was block & delete, no worries. This ain't my first rodeo, I just enjoy the hilarity of when the clown realizes he done messed up and tries to dig himself out. On a more serious note, tubal ligation was 100% best thing I've…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:54 PM
59

I'm STAUNCHLY childfree too, and very open about it. The sheer number of men who think that they'll be the one to change my mind is staggering. Spoiler alert; had my tubes tied years ago. I never tell them this until it's appropriate, I just say I'm against having kids and watch them blow up. It's a great way to vet those that think of you as an incubator for their sAcReD lEgAcY. Had one guy who I dated for a few months (we never slept together, I was waiting for the other shoe to drop) who near…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:16 PM
80

Preface by saying I'm from a southern tiny town, so old timey Mayberry style politeness is ingrained in me, just like yes ma'am and no sir. Men should open doors for their dates at the very least. It shows that they're doing their utmost to make you feel welcome and wanted in their space. Not only that, but men know we romanticize and love these little thoughtful mannerisms and actions. I mean, you see it portrayed as basic nice guy (no TM) 101 in the media. When they flat out refuse to do them,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:03 PM
13

Ah yes, the old 'hope you have a sense of humor' (aka can't get mad at me making fun of you constantly) setup neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:02 PM
11

I've seen 'looking for a unicorn'. /vomit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:00 PM
36

This is the kind of shit my ex-husband would pull constantly. No telling how many things I cared about or were sentimental over that he gleefully destroyed. Living alone is so much better than letting a man who isn't HVM into your space, for any reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:36 PM
92

I don't think it's too far off in the future. We already have the Gulabi gang in India. Stuff like this makes me seriously consider disappearing some fuckers too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:29 AM
145

10 years and I've heard it's been bargained down to 3 that he'll actually serve. Absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:02 AM
20

It's a lot easier than most people think to train yourself to respond to a different name as if it's your own. I trained myself to respond to a fake name by using it as my moniker in an online game I used to play that used an in-game discord style fleet organization and comms system. Now, since I no longer play that game (nor do I intend to ever return to it), I use it as my alternate for when I don't want to give out my real name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:14 PM
30

American here, and I'm routinely embarrassed by the absolute garbage that our general populace thinks is highly entertaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:39 PM
13

And not an ounce of self-awareness was found that day ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:46 PM
27

I mean, same thing different time lengths. Give a man an inch and he'll take a mile.. When my ex used to have friends over for 'Friday Night Fun' where they'd game or watch sports or do some dumb shit, some of those losers would stick around until Monday fucking morning and they had to go home to change clothes before work. It got to the point where I wouldn't let anyone stay over anymore because I'd be picking up after them all fucking weekend. And they had the audacity to say I was too bitchy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:25 AM
3

Trust me, reliving that has me like to revisit my lunch, except in reverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:09 AM
8

My exact response (after the aneurysm passed) was 'lucky for you there isn't enough alcohol, drugs, and money in creation for me to touch you'. He was not pleased. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ They don't pay me the big bucks to suffer fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:08 AM
18

I totally get what you're saying. It's like a whole different side of them that they should have used while dating you (narcissitic overtones and parasitic hoover attempts aside) yet waited until you were gone to remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:00 PM
5

Right? Where I am in the southern US we've had one night where the temps dipped below freezing and it was a big deal. As of right now it's sunny and balmy outside. Guess I just can't imagine weather where a picnic would be out of the question even for low effort scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 09:06 PM
63

I'm tall too (and quite muscular). Nothing makes my skin crawl like a smaller dude glossing on about my height. Had one little skinny guy I used to work with tell me once 'I bet you could break me in half' with stars in his eyes. Pardon me while I go lose my lunch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:14 PM
33

There's three reasons I have chosen not to date until at least the pandemic is over ; 1) MEN IN GENERAL ARE DESPERATELY THIRSTY. And they've used this time to dig themselves into foxholes on the scummiest corners on the internet (RP tactics, porn sites). They've taken this shit to heart and with renewed vigor due to their desperation. 2) I can't think of a date scenario where we could be safe, even with the lifted (and quite frankly, those that remain are largely ignored) restrictions in my area…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:45 PM
118

Aside from the obvious narcissistic "I, me, my" focus on his wants, anybody else getting a subtle fetishization/madonna-whore complex vibe from this shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:32 PM
48

Phew girl ...... Let me list the red flags; 10 year age gap ('nuff said) Long-distance (so he can cheat easily) Golddigging (got excited and brought up his own - self-inflicted, might I add - debt sob story, and then baiting you with the 'I can't scrounge up the money to come see you') Run sis. Block & Delete. Your gut feeling is telling you what's up, that's all you need to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:29 PM
53

I feel you. Same with people who never make attempts to learn anything new, or actively pretend to be dumber than they are to get out of shit. I just can't fathom it! Like, how can they live with themselves? Also, the office bored me after the first episode, but the meme are endemic so I know all the high points lol. Now any guy who mentions it within the first 24 hrs or has it in his profile is an instant nope from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:02 AM
4

Oh but don't you know, that is literally eugenics! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:32 PM
6

Seconding the turbie twists! I got given one for christmas several years ago and I love it. I twist my hair up in it after my shower and about 30 mins later it'll be 85% dry. I have very fine, very thick, wavy hair down to my butt and I won't ever touch it with heat tools anymore, so during the winter this is a lifesaver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:25 PM
48

I sometimes wonder if that isn't the point. I mean, all this 'bad' publicity does is bring more members to us, every time they do it. You'd think by now if the aim truly was to disparage and attack, they'd have figured that out ........... or at least stop reeeeeee-ing so publicly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:03 PM
4

Never pull out a weapon that you aren't 10000% confident in using. This is why I advocate for people who buy firearms to immediately get their carry permit, because it requires classes and training. Not only that, but heaven forbid you should ever get dragged into court for defending yourself with said firearm, it shows that you are responsible and understood the laws and risks before you took action. This is also why I wear a lapel cam, so that I will have video evidence to back up my defense c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 08:58 PM
16

The psychopath narcissist abuser I married and consequently divorced was an animal lover. He was always bringing home more pets and dumping them on me when he got tired of them. Now if a man gleefully talks about wanting a bunch of pets or a farm (usually after finding out I was raised on one so I know how to keep one running - i.e. by doing most of the work for them) it's a red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:44 PM
12

This! You can abandon it when needed, change it to a different one. Don't link it to any accounts like Facebook, etc. Just use it for dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 08:44 PM
19

This queen spitting truth right and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:08 PM
50

I can't breathe. This is so ridiculous. What in the hell did he think you would respond to that nonsense with? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:05 PM
58

Yep, I get that secondhand anxiety for about a second, then the red starts creeping around the edges of my vision and I find myself moving towards them before I realize I'm doing it. The scrotes are always livid, and I end up with a new gal pal who realizes it's okay to embarrass the fuck out of these sleazy pedos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:59 AM
79

Yes! Right there with you. I am 35 and I had no idea life could be this good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:49 AM
278

Yes. Especially the brunette who was spitting truth about the men who want that wide-eyed admiration but don't want to be worthy of it. As for the whole 'older women are just jealous of younger girls trope' .......HEEEEEEELLLLLL NOOOOOOOO .......... that's your cope baby. Absolute bullshit. Young girls are broke, constantly mistreated, and have to deal with these fucking pervert pedophile men. Thank all the gods that I don't have to deal with that bullshit anymore! It's gross, even to those youn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:48 PM
337

Realizing that it was men who were causing all the drama, heartache, stress, and bullshit in my life. Once I decided not to put with or waste time on bullshit from men, I started making huge strides towards accomplishing my dreams. My stress went down, my health improved drastically, and my bank account started a huge uphill trend. It's been over two years and this is the healthiest, fittest, happiest, most financially stable I've ever been. The longer I ignore men in my personal life the better…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:50 PM
96

Cause they know you can do better, they hope you 'like them enough' to go along with the shit deal, and it pisses them off when you're too smart to fall for it. You know, cause women need men to be happy, and even a shit man is better than none. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:21 PM
47

Single is better than slave! This needs to be on every damn billboard, t-shirt, bus, and TV commercial break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:39 PM
11

I've been told that I give off a 'take no shit and leave no incriminating evidence' vibe. I embrace it. Seriously though, I've been a victim. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:23 AM
12

People always referred to my danes as horses. Like, nah, I have actual horses too. They're not even close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:03 AM
14

Chihuahuas are the napoleon of the dog world. Major little dog syndrome. I worked at a vet clinic for a while when I lived on the west coast to help out a friend. We treated Chihuahuas as if they were aggressive whether they seemed or not because you never knew what would set them off ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 10:31 PM
14

Honestly, I don't even want to try and see where they're coming from. It's gross, I have no idea why it's a thing, I can only surmise it's like a dog wanting to run off with your dirty socks/undies because it smells like you, except with a darker more disturbing ulterior motive. That's as far as I'm willing to push my brain through the ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:26 PM
30

It's disgusting, and I do not understand it. Even with the hottest guy I've ever dated/known I have never once had the urge to sniff his dirty undies ...... Apparently I have more class and dignity than the majority of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 08:58 PM
9

7 years ago for me on FB, and I only have instagram for the business. It's insane how much time we waste scrolling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:43 PM
29

Yes, and dogs are well known to have protective instincts towards their humans, and predators are always gonna go after the easiest mark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:25 PM
24

The only dog that's ever bitten me was a dachsund. Those things are mean little shits. The guy who owned him was a total weirdo mind you, but I've never had a dog bite me for any reason until I went to tell that guy his cows were out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:24 PM
41

No need to pay me, I'd be happy to do it knowing I was keeping another lass safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:11 PM
27

Mailing lists under a male name/surname - also sign up for any free publications that are traditionally manly ..... Car & Driver, Mens Health, etc. We get a lot of those at my work (because mostly men work here) and I always take them home and distribute them to my single gal friends when the new issue arrives. They just toss them on a table in view somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:05 PM
59

This is why when I get moved into the house I'm building I'm getting another big, black Great Dane. People used to cross the street to avoid me and my 2 Danes when I walked them on the sidewalks, and they weren't particularly impressive specimens and were obviously friendly. My family thinks I'm nuts for wanting such a big dog. I need a sweetheart who sounds like he'll take your head off when you ring my doorbell. ETA; Both my great danes were terrified of my 10 lb cat. They knew evil genius whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:59 PM
132

I moved this last time because I suspected that the maintenance guy (who lived in the unit right behind mine) was entering my house unannounced. He had a camera pointed right at the window of my second bedroom (which coincidentally happened to be the only movable mount camera in the entire complex), and when I complained and showed pictures of it being pointed right at the window they downplayed me and gaslighted me to hell and back. So, I set up hidden cameras and caught him, and got him fired …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:55 PM
3

Can we please stop using the oxy-moron 'ethical non-monogamy'? There is no such thing. Just like the pedophiles trying to shift their shameful classification, these people are polygamists. Plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:21 AM
3

Seconding this. I used to wear a full face of makeup everyday to work, then the pandemic hit and I had to wear masks on the jobsite and the entire lower half of my face would rub off in the first couple hours. I just stopped wearing makeup a few days after the mandates hit, and NOT ONE OF THE MEN at my job (I work in construction, there's only two women in the entire company) even noticed. About 3 weeks later I got a compliment when one of them happened to catch me in my office that I looked wel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:54 PM
19

This. They know already, they just don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:54 PM
4

Anytime I have to have a profile picture of some kind, I use a random picture of cartoon characters. Not even a cartoon I watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:39 PM
30

Sadly, you ain't wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 10:54 PM
118

Yes. It's just shit men piggy-backing off woke culture and trying to shape it to excuse their evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:02 PM
90

You explained it perfectly. It is attempts at grooming society to accept it. Dangerous behavior is dangerous. I don't care what degrees men want to assign to it to explain away their culpability. I will never accept it, and I'm forever going to respond 'oh you mean a pedophile?' Whenever someone uses this fake-woke bullshit 'minor-attracted'. What's next, 'violence-attracted persons'? Oh wait we call them murderers/rapists/abusers, like it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:46 PM
81

Agreed. It shouldn't even be a discussion. Thoughts lead to action. It's evident enough in all other violence categories, and I for one will never allow them to use wordplay to diminish the threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:01 PM
21

My Face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:37 PM
9

Ow. Hot coffee through the nose. This is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 12:53 PM
5

That's not a go-kart .... that's a dune buggy and they're fun as hell. Been eyeing the one we have here in the junkyard for a couple years but I just don't have the time to bring it back to life right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 04:01 AM
31

That is absolutely the trashiest thing one can do. I have cut those off a truck or two back in the day .... walk softly and carry the biggest bolt cutters you can buy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:20 PM
21

/Writhes uncomfortably in dually work truck It's a work truck and meant to be oversized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:59 PM
25

Hey now, no hating on muscle cars ...... My purple 1969 Stingray is pretty loud. But I don't screech off meaning to make noise with the radio turned up to DEAFNESS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:57 PM
1

The tinder sub (why that shows up in my feed from time to time I wish I knew) is worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:20 PM
52

Wishful thinking. They'll just blame it on our unwillingness to act like said porn models and be tortured, abused, degraded, broken ..... The majority of men are incapable of seeing past the end of their own dicks. Until porn and sex work are nonexistent and they are forced to rewire their brains it's not going to get better. Even then the majority will resist it, all to get the dopamine flowing again. It's a drug, one that has been allowed to run rampant for far too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:45 PM
3

This. While cutting back is a great when you're trying to get back on your feet, increasing your income is way better and way more sustainable in the long run. Increasing your passive income is the best way, because it's passive, which means you don't have to spend a lot of time on it. I also juggle multiple side hustles (one of which brings in an additional 120k a year, and I spend maybe an hour a day on it), others are seasonal but take advantage of the special skills I have. I read somewhere …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:21 AM
30

Scrotacity, because it's a whole 'nother level of audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:57 PM
159

I agree. Whenever anyone responds to me 'oh you're demisexual' or in that vein I always roll my eyes and say 'no, that's just normal and healthy. No need for a label'. I don't feel I explained what I meant well enough - because exasperation - when I said that the word is tossed around like it's aberrant, but I feel the 'naming' of it is an attempt to bring it to the same level as a fetish, and I ain't having that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:17 PM
202

He wants to hit you, but knows he can't, so he hits the table. Threatening behavior. 100% nonstarter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:48 PM
12

In my experience, "Open-minded" is what the men around here use to describe that. "Adventurous" usually means they want women to tag along with whatever totally-his-thing-dubiously-fun activity he wants to subject you to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 08:10 PM
20

The bar is so low, it long since melted away in the core of the earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:50 AM
397

"No drama please" = I have tons of it in my own life because I gleefully cause it. "Please be fit and healthy" = I do the bare minimum for my dad bod but expect you to look like a supermodel NO MATTER WHAT. ETA; "Adventurous" = Be up for my low effort park walk/hike dates where I get to joke about pushing you off a cliff to see how much shit you'll take. If you refuse I'll call you boring or paranoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:39 PM
33

Oh yes, this hellsite does everything it can to keep FDS's dangerous philosophy from becoming mainstream. Meanwhile over on the TRPincelMGTOW forums they fantasize about going on killing sprees and trade tips about effective forms of abuse. Totally normal for Reddit, the internet's megaphone for shifty men. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 01:00 PM
9

Honestly, the men who want you to be scared like that are too lazy and dumb as a whole to put that much work into it. Just don't share any personal details or pics and you'll be fine. The odd outlier will try and threaten you, but turn off DM's and messages and you'll be find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:53 PM
31

Those fish/dead deer pics are ENDEMIC around here. My mom & dad (fyi .... I was raised by survivalists) said the pics with the fish & trophies were the men's attempt to show that they were capable of 'providing'. >.> Well Dad taught me how to do that myself when I was 6 ...... why would I trade disappointing sex and additional home life burdens when I could just go get my own damn deer/fish? And probably a lot faster to boot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:37 PM
56

Until now? Hell, most men still have no idea women even have a gaze that differs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:20 PM
299

Can confirm it's not worth it. Have a gorgeous young friend who was struggling with the FOMO in relation to OLD. I downloaded one of the apps I tried long ago and reactivated it so I could show her what she was 'missing'. She agreed to swipe for 15 mins and see what I was talking about. Well, 75% of the guys in our area we swiped left on in the 15 mins we used it were still there from 2 years ago. In 15 solid mins of swiping we did not find a single guy that was acceptable. ACCEPTABLE, not datea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:56 PM
19

The wolf you feed is the one that becomes strongest. Feed your best self and starve your worst one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 08:29 PM
1

Did you mean him asking the question or me asking the question? Cause I don't stoop to that level even if he does. He got really pissed at my laughing. I don't know what else happened because that's when I walked out on him. I imagine he paid for our sweet teas and left soon after I did, cause the young man waiter (this is a family owned restaurant, and like I said, they know my family quite well) didn't say anything about it next time I saw him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:49 PM
1

I didn't. Any man who thinks it's appropriate to ask that under any circumstances, I'm not interested in anything he has to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:02 PM
18

WHAT?! DO I even want to know his 'logic' (and I say that with the most sarcasm and disbelief that I can muster) behind this? Did he not jack off for like 10 years longer than the average? I mean, they think that gives them magic sperm powers anyway so .... I get the bullshit of 'but I feel 30, age is just a number' (still bullshit but okay, you can be an immature twit). HOW CAN YOU BE BIOLOGICALLY YOUNGER THAN YOUR REAL AGE?! Does not compute ..... /static and circuit frying noises
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:43 PM
4

No, because then the dog would just be put down for being a good boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:13 PM
7

“wELL hOw dO yOu kNoW yOu dOnT LiKe mEn iF yOu nEvEr hAd oNe?” Dude's giving a pretty spot-on example of why right there ......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:10 PM
6

This. You'll need to research your state/local laws on self defense and firearm possession. My state is constitutional carry, and I open carry everywhere. Always make sure you get a carry permit, it shows that you've taken classes and are a 'responsible' gun owner with regards to following the law etc. In this particular scenario, after the second time he'd ignored my no, I'd have put my hand on my gun and gotten loud (this is when the majority of these pissants realize they've messed with the w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:58 PM
2

Maybe the old timey ones (black powder), but these days mass produced firearms are extremely safe. You're more likely to need to clear a jammed round than it is to explode on you. I've done black powder a lot in the past (my family does living history). That stuff is way more dangerous than modern firearms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:44 PM
4

I second u/SupremeDearLeader. It's not enough to own a gun, you must be trained to use it, and when to use it. Otherwise it's just as dangerous as you think it is. But then, owning power tools is dangerous too. A gun is just a tool for you to level the playing field a bit. No matter how strong I get, no matter how fast, no matter how smart I try to be, being able to drop an attacker before he gets within grabbing range of me is still a better plan than any other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:39 PM
3

This. All I have to do is assume the stance and move my coattails back to where they can see I'm armed. They always shut the hell up and scurry off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:35 PM
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It usually comes up before we get to the date part, and that's when I know to block & delete. Had it happen to me once on a date. I laughed so hard I nearly spit my drink all over him, the young man waiter clearing the booth behind ours laughed (they know me pretty well at this particular restaurant, my family have been weekly regulars for about 30 years there), and I grabbed my stuff and left, still laughing. In my case I literally built the table (woodworking is one of my hobbies). The real qu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:58 PM
7

I don't try and get back at them, but when they set themselves up for it like this, my smart ass cannot resist smacking them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:31 PM
43

Vehicles are made hella flimsy these days (especially sedans), those panels are so thin they might as well be aluminum foil. And those shopping carts are tougher than you'd think, with the full weight of this asshole behind it? I believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:55 PM
13

The best reply would have been 'you're right, I deserve much better than you/this' and an immediate removal of the tumor scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:54 PM
24

Yes. My NVM ex was in the military. The whole culture is rife with abuse, cheating, and 'bro' culture. It's so bad that they heavily push HPV vaccines and regular STD panels for the wives even when they think their husband is being faithful .... ask me how I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:50 PM
9

OSB that's been left out in the rain a few years .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:32 PM
2

Certain areas of my body I cannot shave without getting a rash worthy of a medical study, no amount of before/during/after care has ever made a difference. So I just trim them. Underarms I keep trimmed with a pair of clippers, and I'm allergic to commercial deodorant ingredients so I use a salt stick. My legs are one of the areas I can shave and be okay (still irritated but it goes away in a few hours) but since I wear pants for everything but sleeping and showering I just don't. Nobody in my ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:02 PM
4

I wear sports bras style bras, or go braless at home. I have large b/small c cups and for some stuff it's uncomfortable to let them flop. I only ever wear an underwire bra if I'm getting really dressed up because they're so uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 03:55 PM
89

I mean, I haven't shaved my legs in like 6 months anyway, so nothing really changes for me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:11 PM
406

I say we start our own "No Shave November' and refuse to shave our body hair. Separate the men from the boys with a little leg hair :) ETA; Seconding OP that the little boys on here really are triggered. They really think we care about what they have to say 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:03 PM
69

Seconding this. I once read that out intuition, that 'gut feeling' is our subconscious picking up on all the tiny little things our conscious brain hasn't strung together yet. Mine has never been wrong, even when I've refused to listen to it. Now it's one of my biggest indicators when it comes to dealing with people. Nowadays (since I'm not dating) I use it most in business transactions. It still has never led me wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 09:48 PM
2

I glow more now that I'm happy and celibate than I ever did when I was getting dick (because it came with abuse!). They're just projecting. That 'glow' is the sweat from the extra speed they're putting on running from the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:47 PM
2

In the time-honored manner as befitting to virgin edge-lords .... He's dead Jim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:42 PM
27

The bar long since melted away in the core of the earth. We're here trying to forge a new one with the remains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 06:55 PM
16

I haven't figured out how I can change it to have a 'This is Spittens, leave a message' yet. I need too, just haven't sat down to do it. If they're demanding to call it to make sure it actually rings you just pick up before it goes to voicemail, and then let them fume when they hear it later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 06:07 PM
6

I cannot watch horror movies for this reason. I get twinges and start crying to see others so mistreated, and animals being mistreated? Oh I go into a rage. I believe that violent TV and horror/gore in general is desensitizing us to the pain a suffering of others, so that our natural empathy cannot kick in like it should when living things are suffering in real life. It's not that I'm sensitive either. I have so many old scars physical and mental ....... I figured out I was a tough cookie when t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:11 PM
247

Since this is most men's strategy for the entire relationship ...... Forcing us to make the first move so they can tailor and manipulate us from the get-go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:56 PM
80

This is where a google number comes in really handy. It still rings your phone as if it's your real number (never let it go to voicemail, the VM message will say 'this google subscriber is not available) but then you can abandon & create a new one in a few minutes. This is how I operate in general life. The only people who have my real number is my immediate family and my two bosses. Everyone else gets the google number (personal contacts) or my work phone number (for work contacts).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:30 PM
6

At the time couldn't decide if that was the better option over armor plates for a coat lining. Against needles and small knives (as well as generally protective) that would be the most overall coverage, so I think Kevlar would be the way to go. I'm totally going to test this out when I get my sewing room finished and make another version of my favorite long coat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 08:59 PM
6

'Can't beat them so might as well join them' is such a self-deprecating and harmful mindset. Why allow yourself to fall to such a level? When you could continue to climb upwards and be even happier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:16 PM
31

It warms my heart and brings a smile to my face whenever I see FDS-ish behavior in the wild. I believe that it's started infiltrating the mainstream media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:11 PM
67

Yes, don't go looking. I found mine by accident too one day and lord was it ever a mistake. Couple laughs, mostly just supreme cringe. Now I use a google voice number so that once I abandon it, their pathetic attempts truly are lost to the void.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:03 PM
59

This has me wondering how hard it would be to sew armor plates or a kevlar based lining into all my walking out coats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:00 PM
14

If you have old camera phones lying around, Alfred is an app you can download and use that old camera as a security camera. You can set up multiple ones and alerts, it automatically records events and saves them for 30 days, and you can download or share recorded events and see the live feeds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:56 PM
24

Most states in the US require landlords to give a 24 hr minimum notice for them to enter unless it is an emergency, and they still have to make every attempt to contact you before they actually enter the property in emergency situations (we're talking water gushing out from the threshold types of emergencies, they need to have plausible evidence or official personnel backup). IIRC it's also illegal for a landlord to write in any clause that tries to negate or circumvent these protections. This d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:38 PM
2

Thankyou! My goal in life is to be the absolutely happy, independent woman I wish I had had in my life for the youngsters in my family. Horses included 😁 I'll know the right mount when I find it. I really don't care what particular breed or color, as long as I'd feel right putting my precious cargo on it's back. I've got a bit of time to find it. In the meantime we've got plenty of basics to work on with a longline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:01 AM
2

I don't waste my time with people who argue in bad faith.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:45 PM
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Yep, you dodged a 50 caliber shot right there. Funny how they always tell on themselves the minute we don't just fall into line with their plans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:06 PM
2

Yeah, you're crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:27 AM
14

Ponies in general are just evil. Ask me how I know ....... /shudders And the smaller they are the more concentrated that evil is. My 8 year old niece has been hinting at wanting a pony of her own for christmas. Of course as the horsey person in the family it will live in my stable and be my responsibility. Right now we're doing basic lessons on my gelding but he's a bit too specialized (and big) for her, he's a dressage horse and she wants to be a cowgirl (I was raised on rodeo horses, she's see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:02 AM
14

Yep. I've worked with 'difficult' stallions before that most people would consider unsafe to handle. Unfortunately you have to consider that this large, strong, hormone-addled-and-therefore-stupid animal could seriously hurt themselves, you, or others if they're allowed to continue behaving that way, and sometimes a swift pop in the chest to regain their full attention is the only viable strategy. Also, a horse's skin is like 6 times thicker than a human's, so it takes 6 times the force before t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:43 AM
8

Oh god, why is it always the red mare that's so ornery? Must be genetically linked to that color ...... ETA; Didn't mean for this to come off as stereotyping. In my vast experience, there really is a chestnut mare trope for a reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:35 AM
2

Third grade? I don't really remember the first time because I've been hearing it all my life, but this is the first time it hit me that it was absolute bullshit. The first time I can remember is when this kid 2 grades older than me was sitting in the bleachers above me waiting for the bus, and he wouldn't quit pulling my hair (like yanking my head back pulling, not just tugging) so I smacked his hand away and told him LOUDLY to stop. He kicked me in the face as a response. I don't really remembe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:24 AM
2

I'm stupid laughing with tears at 'root of all fuckery'. It is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:10 AM
19

I toilet trained my old oriental shorthair years ago. Best thing I ever did. But BOY DID HE FIGHT ME ON IT >.> Cats can be trained, it just takes a lot more patience and creativity than horses and dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:47 AM
5

Riding horses is not exploitation. Do you also consider people who keep dogs and cats as pets to be exploiting them? I notice you didn't answer u/Sister_cat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:35 AM
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Yes, to all of this. Equestrian sports are considered some of the most dangerous sports, up there with bull riding and car racing. Let's not forget, it was a horse that paralyzed Superman (Christopher Reeves). And he was an experienced rider! Horses pick up on the subtlest of cues. They read tone of voice, body language, and react with lightning speed and dangerous force. Horses after all are herd animals, and prey animals, first and foremost. They are wired a certain way (one of the few times t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:26 AM
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He showed you who he was and then he got angry because he knew you'd found him out. If he's okay with defending/keeping his bud's secret then I guarantee he's expecting this buddy to reciprocate for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:27 PM
23

Yep, generally when you pay they allow you to set more requirements/dealbreakers, hide your profile when needed, etc. It's been several years since I tried any of them so that may have changed. Research the ones you plan to use first to find out what does what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 07:39 PM
168

Girl, all of this. I'm 35, and I've been celibate (voluntarily) for over 2 years. On the rare occasions I do find a man I can be attracted to they pull some stupid shit and I realize they're only in it for sex or a bang-mommy-maid and then my fledgling molecule of interest is dead in the water. The thing men will never understand is that sex is not our end-goal. Full stop. Honestly, I've never been happier, healthier, or more at peace than when I stopped actively trying to date and started being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 07:35 PM
42

What a cope. Die mad scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:13 PM
16

Laura Roslin was about as high value as it gets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:52 PM
19

The fact that she feels like she lost yet is referring to her obviously happy friend as a psycopath just shows how bitter she is over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:33 PM
124

"Weird is a good thing" so that I can use that to neg you ceaselessly about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:54 AM
189

Honey, take it from me .... you shouldn't even be looking at men with anything but nope right now. You are in an incredibly vulnerable state and lvm/nvm can sense that. Your focus right now should be setting some, clear, undeniable boundaries. You shouldn't even be acknowledging your ex, much less letting him use your home as a place to crash. You need to get mad. Mad enough that you enforce your boundaries, mad enough to cut the abusive shit out of your life entirely and never look back. You ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:41 PM
29

Innocent question my ass. I'll keep this one at the bottom of a pit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:16 PM
86

I don't wear rings often because I'd be constantly taking them off to work with my hands. He can buy us a vacation home in the Alps instead :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:18 PM
45

Oh god, I used a southern colloquial version of this earlier today in regards to one of my NVM field techs complaining that his girlfriend didn't want him to move out of his mom's house into her apartment. They've been dating like a month by my recollection ..... Apparently she told him that it was way too soon to even consider (good for her!). Oh you can bet I ripped into him with no mercy. Currently trying to figure out how to contact his girlfriend for an intervention without it being traced …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:14 PM
7

My dad is the only other person I trust with my tools. He actually takes care of them, while other people will destroy them and then say it wasn't them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:38 PM
3

Your gut was telling you what was up, and you were gaslighting yourself into downplaying his neon red flags and concentrating on the only, TINY, green one. You needed a kick in the rear. There are lots of times when a swift reality check is the most appropriate form of support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:26 PM
68

Break it off. The fact that he self-proclaims he has issues with empathy is enough to nope out. If he has to work to have basic empathy for anyone, he's a psychopath. All of his remaining red flags support that hypothesis too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:19 PM
170

My dad always told me that I couldn't rely on 'some useless boy' to save me, and he trained me well to fix just about anything so I would never have to. My dad saw the state of things early on and made sure his daughters could survive it, and were smart enough to avoid getting into situations where we were vulnerable. I am very grateful to him for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:41 PM
374

Day 2 at my current employment. One of the company fleet trucks wouldn't start. The guys come in and are arguing with the service manager what the issue is, I tell them sounds like the battery is dead, I'd be happy to give them a jump from my jeep. They look at me like I have 2 heads and ignore me. I keep a toolbox in the back of my jeep with anything I might need to fix common issues, including a battery charger and jumper cables. While they're still arguing, I grab the spare key out of the cab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:41 PM
2

Well with the double or triple chins lurking under that beard of course he has a passion for food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:09 AM
4

/Writhes uncomfortably in Amazon seller ... Of course, I only use it as a side hustle at this time. But I'm rather proud of it. Men just use it to potential-signal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:08 AM
94

It does. Got a beard fisher at my work, that's his go-to expression for everything. Other than the dead eyed porn stare, of course. He also has a mullet, and a 5'8" chubby toddler body but constantly hates on me about being too muscular and serious. Go fuck yourself, Ed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:02 AM
10

The opposite of beggars can't be choosers sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:40 PM
9

*Desert Eagles. Sorry, that made my brain spaz out. Proud 2A citizen here, and I am embarrassed this moron includes himself in our ranks. He probably calls a magazine a 'clip'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:39 PM
47

I'm a size US 12 and I currently weigh about 160 at 6' (1.82m) tall. Every bit of me is muscle except the boobs. Dude is delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:33 PM
83

From the horse's mouth y'all. Sex work was never, and will never be empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:50 PM
95

Which is why I refuse to comply. Kicker is, even when I'm dressed in clothes which are not attractive by anybody's definition (I would think work overalls and an old t shirt & boots would qualify) I still get hit on all the time. It's all bullshit standards designed to keep us chasing the unattainable ideal. Spend money, spend time, be too exhausted to think for yourself and ask questions. Dress how you like and ignore the rest of the noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:33 PM
192

Not just men's brains, society as a whole is being degraded by this shit. They started with the men because men are so easily led by their penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:53 PM
427

Creepy and fucked up. There was one point when I was about 20 that one of my dad's business acquaintances referred to me as his 'hot young wife' (within earshot of me). After my dad realized the dude was talking about me, he corrected him with extreme prejudice and was grossed out by the situation. The whole 'daddy daughter sibling step-something' porn fetish is entirely gross and immoral. Just another way society is being conditioned to tolerate ever more depraved evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:47 PM
12

Solid man by our side? Fuck off with this nonsense. Yeah, that's like finding a unicorn (the real kind with the magic horn on its forehead). The reason we'd rather do literally anything else is because no man we date is solid. Fix your own issues before trying to act like you got a clue about anyone else's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:56 PM
16

I don't ever click on the 'other discussions' because I don't care (lol), but where there's a pattern my neuro-divergent brain will pick it out lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 04:34 PM
46

Projection. They're unfit, pale, gross so they just cannot imagine that we are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 04:31 PM
32

I notice this too. Whenever I see 'other discussions' it's always only stuff that can be skewed by their warped mindset. Just goes to show that they aren't arguing in good faith. EVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 04:30 PM
91

Pick him up from school and then you party? How old is this poor kid? Do y'all even get homework done? Pizza for dinner every night, right? Poor kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:52 PM
21

I was raised in a southern Baptist family, if there's one thing all of us are good at it's cooking and eating. Hell, I can whip up perfect fluffy catshead biscuits while drunk off my ass. I love to cook and I love to cook for people who appreciate good food. But I have learned to never mention that I can cook, or to downplay it when they ask. It inevitably turns into the chore I am expected to do because I'm sO mUcH bEtTeR aT iT. Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:41 PM
3

Glad to be of service! 😁 Romanticide is the first song in my workout playlist, so yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:30 PM
6

Pretty much the whole Wacken 2013 concert is a permanent fixture in any playlist of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:34 AM
15

What I listen to depends on what mood I'm in, but I'll listen to just about anything that isn't incredibly offensive or bad (looking at you, pop & rap >.>). My playlists tend to bounce all over the place. One that always makes me think of this sub is Nightwish - Yours is an Empty Hope . The lyrics (even if you aren't into metal) are very relevant to this sub and the lead singer is a badass valkyrie with insane talent. Probably my favorite band of all time. They have so many epic songs that speak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:28 AM
163

Scrote: "So what do you bring to the table?" Me: "I built the damn table as well as the house around it (literally, woodworking is one of my hobbies), sooo the real question is what makes you worthy of a seat at it?" Then block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:21 PM
203

'Much older Mike' sent me ..... 🤣 They really think we can't tell they're trying to get past our age filters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:53 PM
27

No. A gun alone is just a weapon, a tool. It is not enough just to have one. You need to learn how to use it, to train yourself to safely use it just like any other weapon. They will have take my guns from my lifeless hands, and run through a hail of bullets to get close enough to me to do so. No matter how hard I work at getting strong, fast, smart with my self defense .... being able to drop an attacker before he ever gets within grabbing range of me is still a better strategy than anything el…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:40 PM
91

No ma'am I do not. I open carry. In my state, it's constitutional carry and they are pretty ravenous about defending that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:04 PM
247

Yes. Better to be judged by twelve than carried by six.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:24 PM
98

I would post this shit on twitter too, just to shame him. What is this, a 5th grade behavior chart but with sex instead of a gold star? FUCK THIS NOISE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:55 PM
353

How do we let ourselves get trained to think like this? Porn has ruined society. I don't think women will ever manage to recover fully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:09 PM
3

Same. Ditched them years ago, the peace is wonderful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:02 PM
10

No. The answer is always block & delete. Engaging even in a negative way just wastes your time & energy, reminds you of your negative feelings, and validates him. Silence & indifference hurts them more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:30 PM
31

I doubt they really existed, it was all a ploy to manipulate you. If he was getting it anywhere else, why would he be coming back other than to enjoy hurting you more? Either way, there's your answer. Change your number, then set up a google voice # to use & ditch and only give your real number to folks who can be trusted not to give the new number to him. Everyone else gets the google voice number, abandon & create a new one when you feel like it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:27 PM
27

Classic love-bombing technique. Usually when a guy tries to suggest an unreasonably long date or attempts to stretch a date out like this, it's to create a sense of intimacy and move the relationship along faster as a result.
/r/askFDS23/09/21 03:24 PM
22

The one and only time I have ever fought a war with a man was when my ex-husband started bad-mouthing me to the entire county once I forced him to sign the divorce papers (he had refused to sign up to that point, claiming he wanted to 'work things out' but really just trying to gain time to steal whatever he could from me). And it wasn't really a war, more like me dropping a nuclear warhead on him with the truth and alienating him from his family who finally realized what a manipulative piece of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:50 PM
23

In the most innocent voice you can muster, with a matching expression ask them 'explain to me why that's funny?' And watch them flounder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:19 PM
373

This one. I used to think that maybe if I could find the right example, the right comparison, the right phrasing, that they might finally understand. The reality is, there is no magic moment where they'll finally get it, because they don't want to. End of discussion. I apply a lot of this to life in general now. No more endlessly explaining, no more wasting my energy trying. Now when men ask why I'm shrugging them off I just counter with 'there's no argument I can make that will get past your un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:25 PM
13

I'm right here with you. I'd like to date (current plague notwithstanding) but I just can't get past all the red flags potential suitors will proudly wave in the first few seconds. I end up absolutely disgusted with them by the time they get around to asking me out, and of course I turn them down with no mercy as a result. It's gotten to the point that when I see a guy looking for the opportunity to 'shoot his shot' I gtfo immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:18 PM
182

Most people here have an account they only use for FDS, and they keep their main for the rest of reddit for this reason. It's just easier than having to deal with the bullshit from men doing their damndest to doxx us in any way possible. I mean, there's a reason we haven't been banned ; WE AREN'T A HATE SUB (as much as they like to claim we are, lol). But Reddit is 75% male and most of those are a certain type of male .... AKA the ones that know we wouldn't touch them if we were drowning and the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:01 PM
21

Change your number. Once you do, set up Google voice numbers that you can abandon at any time and NEVER give out your real number. I started doing this when I suddenly got a lot of bill collectors calling looking for my ex husband. The peace after is absolutely worth the hassle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:44 PM
39

First it was parasols. Then it was hatpins. Many scathing reviews were publish in the papers by men who were irritated at being bumped and poked by the parasols on public transportation. I have carried a parasol (I used to volunteer at a living history site). It's really not hard to keep a parasol from being a nuisance, so it really makes me wonder what exactly these men were doing to warrant such constant and targeted abuse? 🤔 Then later on in the edwardian era hatpins were used. I have some or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:31 PM
13

The egg does not chase the sperm. You need to read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:26 AM
80

Hypothetical as I'm not looking for a partner, but absolutely keeping mine. My family is fairly well-known and respected as master tradesmen in my area, and I often bypass the inevitable 'you're a woman you can't possibly know what you're talking about' bullshit once they find out who my dad & grandad are (yes we're that notorious lol). Also my initials are pretty and I would have to replace all my lovely monogrammed things if I took some dude's last name 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:32 AM
1

That was exactly the image I got!! BrB gonna go watch some eyebleach something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:31 PM
7

Do or do not, there is no 'looking into getting into'. Bullshit stalling tactic to make it seem like he's doing something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 07:03 PM
262

Ew. Back before I swore off OLD for the rest of time, I had a guy message me who put his age as 39, but HAD to be 60+. I politely told him that I was not interested and that I did not appreciate his obvious disrespect of my age preference, (aka I caught him manipulating the age filter so he should stop trying that). He was polite, but had the gall to ask if he could watch me with another man since I was not interested. Once the brain aneurysm passed, I nearly broke my phone trying to hit the blo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:21 PM
171

When he killed my dog and tried to say it was my fault. I've heard through the grapevine he still blames it on me, even though it was entirely his stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:45 PM
94

No, no no no. NO. Never take nudes. It is faaaaaaar too easy for them to be stolen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:32 AM
12

So, reiterating that I work in construction lol. Because of my knowledge and background, I CAN ALWAYS TELL when they're lying. Door slabs are generally 6'8" tall (exceptions are few and super expensive). Countertops both kitchen & bath are 3' tall. The vast majority of men who post the rote bathroom selfie don't realize their surroundings will give away the lie lol. Call them out on it before you meet! See how they try to explain away the disparity. Just don't tell them what tipped you off to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:48 PM
40

I usually just tell them what my job is, and that do they really think I'd have managed the amount of time in it (or to make as much as I do at said job) without knowing how to properly use a measuring tape? Not to mention I was raised by a contractor, I could do fractions in my head by the time they taught them in school! Just scrotes grasping at any excuse to keep up the facade after they've been caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:36 PM
110

Funny story .... I work in construction. I always have a tape measure handy, usually in my bag or on my hip. I have used it to settle these debates. I've even had shorties try to tell me the tape measure was wrong ... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:52 PM
54

The cognitive dissonance about it is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:48 PM
165

It won't weed them out. I'm 6' tall barefoot, and I constantly got the guys who are 5'9" trying to bullshit me about their height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:22 PM
15

I would say the majority based on this poll, but it's early yet. Of course they're going to try and explain away the empirical evidence by saying WeLl SoMe Of Us MuSt Be LyInG. Pfft, bitch please ..... why would I? Why would the majority of us? Just go cry in the corner at your wrongness scrotes. We don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:51 PM
43

If he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:28 PM
1

Don't engage them. Just report and let the mods take care of it. He was trying to slide into here like all the LVM do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:20 PM
97

All LVM like to think that no matter how much they screwed you over they still have a chance. Even if they were the one that ended it, you're still on their 'roster' for easy sex. They will circle back years down the road trying to slide into your life again. That's why block & delete is so important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 02:52 PM
39

Oh any guy who likes Adam Sandler beyond just a 'meh he's funny I guess' is definitely on my nope list lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:02 PM
3

Yep. I purposely mix up the details on stuff I comment where it won't matter much. I catch flack for it sometimes but I think it's important to add this; You don't owe anyone an explanation for any discrepancy. In fact, if they're hellbent on getting you to clarify the details then they're likely looking for something to use against you, hoping you'll slip up and let the truth out. Don't give them anything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:36 PM
146

It's when you're the most vulnerable to their manipulation. You know you aren't looking your best, you're sick, worried, anxious .... thus easier prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:34 PM
70

Oh it was absolutely premeditated. Also, I noticed that not only are they shouting the tired old trope of CoMmUnIcAtE bEtTeR they're also trying to pick apart and doubt her original refusal. There was even one guy that said consent is a moving target. What in the blazes of hell is this ridiculous shit?! Like, ok, here's what that argument sounds like to me (beyond rapey and disrespectful as fuck, obviously); So a few years ago the guy I was dating wanted to murder me. I told him no, I would neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:09 PM
287

Any time someone tries to justify putting a stipulation of 'can't say no' then your alarm bells should be going off and you should refuse to engage with that person forevermore. There is NOTHING I cannot say no to. When a man puts that condition on shit, he is 100% trying to manipulate me into something he ALREADY KNOWS I won't be okay with. Frankly, if the roles were reversed I'd be totally on his side, but I've never met the woman that would pull a stunt of this magnitude of bullshittery. I've…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:10 PM
147

And don't go limp after one orgasm, or have PIED, or disease, or haven't been properly cleaned, won't sweat all over us or want to choke us ..... At this point the majority of men truly are detrimental to a good life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:53 PM
237

All the way off .... Yep. Saw a tall nicely dressed hunk in the grocery store last week. He gave me that 'I'm wondering what you look like naked' smile (y'all know the one 🙄). After that, my fledgling molecule of interest was dead in the water. She's absolutely right. We don't even want the D anymore. It's not worth it. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:35 PM
34

Mental health issues, bad childhood, whatever caused your issues ok ..... still doesn't excuse being a horrible person. Everything is a choice, and this guy chooses to idolize the joker. What does that say about him? NOTHING GOOD. And that woman who tried to tell you to be nice is ENABLING HIS TERRIBLE CHOICES. Any man that idolizes the joker is an instant HELL NOPE for me, and like the bull in the pasture, I will keep my eye on him at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:48 PM
32

It really does depend on the situation. Sometimes I just give them that tilt of the head and the face that either says huh? or why are you such a idiot? for just a bit longer than is comfortable. Then shake my head and walk away. But when they are directly insulting/negging my abilities or intellect, I make sure to respond in such a way that makes them look like the dumbest little idiot for setting themselves up for it. Most of the time if I get a response at all its a half-hearted 'bitch' as I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:38 PM
65

I get this too, and my response is always to turn it back around on them. Then when they start floundering walk away with a roll of the eyes. “Oh wow listen to you talking like you’re about to take the SAT, use smaller words.” So you're admitting you have a limited vocabulary and can't keep up? “Maybe if you didn’t spend all your time with your nose in a book you’d have a better understanding of how real people function.” Maybe if you read more you'd be better equipped for intelligent conversati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:16 PM
161

'Let your boyfriend do it so he can feel useful' 'you'll never find a man with that attitude' 'you need a man to show you how to do it properly' 'you should borrow your dad's it's better' (the one he thought was better was my saw) 'women don't have steady enough hands to do that right' (this last one was especially infuriating considering I've been welding since I was 11 and hold licensures 🙄). Probably the thing that annoys me most right now is that anytime I talk about the house I'm building (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:32 PM
253

The crying and smear campaigns from unworthy men merely justifies our existence. Keep it up dudes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:39 PM
5

This is gonna be stuck in my head for hours now. 🎶 Blockity block block block ... block blockity block 🎵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:22 AM
15

hold them to the standards that you hold yourself to This right here is so important. This is what the scrotes can't wrap their minds around. They want the high standards girl but then can't muster the intelligence to think maybe they should hold themselves to that standard first, because otherwise she won't waste her time on them. Never settle. Always hold out for a man who consistently proves he is high value in all ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:34 PM
86

When my nephew was 15 his bedroom was better than this. And no, it wasn't his mom nagging that managed it ..... He made his bed every morning and washed his own sheets because he liked being clean and 15 year old boys can STINK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:44 PM
58

I mean, she isn't wrong about not being able to trust him. Broke beyond repair, there is no fix. Time to throw the whole man out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:04 PM
44

Those are boxsprings maybe? Why they're against the wall instead of beneath the mattress like they're supposed to be I couldn't tell you. I mean, the mattress isn't even laying flat ... Either way this ain't a flex, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:01 PM
19

So hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:44 PM
65

Same. I could never sleep beside my NVM ex husband. After the divorce, I started sleeping like a baby. Your gut always knows what's up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:58 PM
94

/Salute Keepin' that crown shiny darlin. Love to see it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:53 PM
275

Lame attempt at dressing up a coffee date with extra words. Hard pass. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:50 PM
56

"The Isla Vista shooter made clear in his manifesto that he wanted to make women afraid" We've been afraid since the dawn of time. Stuff like this is just driving us away even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:33 PM
119

And they wonder why we want NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM. The bar is lower than hell at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:56 PM
30

How about just not send them at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:01 PM
11

Set them outside the door with a sign that says 'free flowers' then block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:47 PM
83

'Only fat chicks won't send nudes'. Fuck off Ryan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:41 PM
34

Oh god. I spit tea all over my screen at the rodent carcass simile. So accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:22 PM
2

Wifi was invented by actress Hedy Lamarr. Computer science was built by women. Radia Perlman developed the algorithm behind Spanning Tree Protocol. Grace Hopper was instrumental in moving from binary to english standardized computer languages, helped program the Harvard Mark I computer, coined the word 'bug' for an error, and invented the first compiler. In 1852 Ada Lovelace developed algorithms for computers, which didn't exist yet. The Long Cycle-Life Nickel-Hydrogen Battery was invented by Ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:51 AM
11

Men are supposed to get prostate exams more times than I have sex a year on average. Bad math and worse assumptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:36 PM
8

I just use plain 'ol olive oil as my base. Brown sugar (white works in a pinch) and a few drops of peppermint essential oil or a dash of ground cinnamon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:07 PM
13

Actual real sheep maybe, they're adorable and earn their keep in wool. The average porn addicted, useless, selfish, LVM/NVM man-sheep though? Nope. They deserve to be completely ignored at every opportunity until they feel exactly how useless they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 12:32 AM
81

You're absolutely right. My dad once told me that boys like to tease and be mean to girls in their class because any female reaction is attention paid to them, and good. So now I ignore men/boys completely. They are sheep and I am a lion. I have no reason to pay any attention to their pathetic bleating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:45 PM
285

I'm always the tallest woman at weddings, wearing heels means I tower over the masses. After the 5th consecutive catch at family weddings, I was banned from the bouquet toss. 🤣 I just liked the pretty flowers for my nightstand, I have no intentions of getting married ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:50 PM
43

Test #1 Reply; "Well that must be a recent development of yours, like today recent. Hope it works out for you, looks like you really need it!" Then block & delete. Test #2 Reply; "Yeah if you want to dissappear on me for a month go ahead. In fact, just dissappear forever and make things easier on yourself." And then block & delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:06 AM
15

This is what I wear swimming. If I'm not careful on sunny days, I go from so pale I reflect to crispy peeling red. There is no in between stage 😅. So I cover up as much skin as possible and just fake tan so I don't glow in the moonlight like an alien.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:13 PM
17

Um, the teeth? 😁🧛🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:57 PM
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Yeah I've had exes (almost all of them come to think of it)ask me to do the sexy costume thing for Halloween and I always just laughed at them. I have a walk in closet STUFFED with historically accurate or movie accurate costumes I spent a lot of time and money on, why on earth would I wear a cheap mass produced acetate piece of crap just to please him? Hard pass. I am not comfortable going outside my house in anything akin to lingerie. Always have been, always will be. Incidentally this year I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:47 PM
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Yes! I get this too. I recently had some 60ish year old scrote (he was a deacon at the church we were working on) tell me 'that's the most un-feminine thing I've ever heard' when I curtly replied to his nosy (😒🙄) questions about my personal life while I was on site. I then told him that maybe he should mind his own business and let me get back to doing my job. He complained that I was rude to my boss, who got the full story from me, then laughed at the old scrote and told him he didn't pay me to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:12 PM
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Did you try hot process or cold process? I've used melt and pour for embeds when I need a clear or translucent look but the majority of what I do is cold process. I started out when I was a kid and we did living history weekends at a local place. The good 'ol tallow and ash soaps lol. I still use them for laundry stain sticks! Waaaay too drying for skin though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:54 PM
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Ooooooh I can impart some serious knowledge here! I have been making soaps and other bath products as a hobby for ages, I have a ton of recipes I can share! I mostly use all natural ingredients for myself as I have super sensitive skin, but I have played around with less organically derived ingredients from time to time. To add to the laneige lip care routine ( that's my go to 😁), you can make a simple scrub with olive oil (or any carrier oil you prefer), ground cinnamon, and sugar. The Cinnamon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:40 PM
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Hoop skirts are fun. Don't like some scrote getting a bit too close? THWAP!! Smash that spring steel right into his shins with a twitch of the hips 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:26 PM
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Do it! We need more women owned businesses. If you're in the US, depending on what sector you can actually get certified as a woman-owned (aka disadvantaged) business. There are perks that make it totally worth it. You got this honey, just take it one problem at a time and crush it like I know you can!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:20 PM
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Which one of y'all wrote that? 🤩😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:06 PM
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Yep, very common. This gave me flashbacks to the demands emails my nv-ex sent me. Like, almost the exact wording of 'all or nothing, no arguing'. I responded with a big fat NO instead of entertaining him any longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:17 PM
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This. I hate sitting still to watch TV. Unless I have something to keep my hands occupied (embroidery, my phone) and my mind engaged I will fall asleep. My ex used to do this all the time. Either he wanted me to sit for an entire season of whatever show he was subjecting me with, or he wanted me to sit and watch him game. No thanks. It's torture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:01 PM
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This. You have to out-bravado them. LVM/NVM do not know how to handle a woman that acts like this, and most are afraid of situations (and women!) they perceive they can't control. I move like a predator. Head up, shoulders back, confidence at max level. Walk with long purposeful strides, not too fast but you have somewhere to be and no time for their nonsense. Most will scramble out of my way, those that don't I will ram with all of my 6' tall 160ish lbs of trained muscle, then pull a face like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:45 AM
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I use this as a vetting tool. Most guys take my most honest answer "I haven't found a man that can match my energy yet" the wrong (ie: sexual) way. I always mean, one that can match my intelligence, heart, kindness, generosity, and drive. None of which has to do with libido. But if he immediately goes to sex as that answer, then I know where his head is at and I can block & delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:22 PM
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NOTHING GOOD EVER HAPPENS IN A VAN. Your instincts were spot on and SHAME on your mother for dismissing your fears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:40 PM
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Like the bull in the pasture, we know. Just because he isn't actively acting out and being dangerous, you know he could at any moment because women can see him tracking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:22 PM
2

Sadly it's not my most horrific first date story ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:57 PM
20

Never seen this one before but I love it. The Lothario with the "chivalrous hand-kiss" had me rolling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:33 PM
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The only episode where fry isn't the definition of an LVM is the one where he has those parasites that basically act like the serum given to Captain America. Even then he barely manages to break out of the lvm mold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:30 PM
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Ergh. I have so many stories like this from my nvm ex-husband. He was useless and I have always been the super handy one (raised by a contractor, I know how to fix anything lol). The event that sticks out most in my mind was when Iwe bought the house I flipped out on the west coast. It was a distressed property. We got moved in and got 1 good shower out of the water heater. When I woke up it was leaking all over the garage. So, time to replace it. What should have been a 2 hour job (including th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:53 PM
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This is the blood drop I use the most, simply because I don't even have to plan it, it will just happen! Usually on the first date, always by the third. I dress to drive the point home too, platform boots or heels. I tower over the masses like some glorious warrior goddess of old, and it brings out the worst in lvm/nvm almost immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:14 PM
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Yeah that's why I refuse to date short men anymore. The very definition of insanity is repeating patterns while expecting a different outcome, and I am not insane lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:51 PM
10

Seriously, where's the armor? Morons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:26 PM
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Wear that label with pride. Amazons are badass queens. Any guy that tries to use it against me, well I beam and make sure they know it's not a neg lol (my family has called me that since I was in college and they say it with absolute pride). It's kinda hilarious how men are either dumbfounded or pissed off when they realize it's backfired on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:19 PM
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It's been over 2 years since it happened. I've already replaced all those tools with newer better versions, and that's just pocket change to me so it would be worth it to never hear from him or any of his worthless friends again. I did consider sending my small army of burly redneck male family members after him, but meh. Too much trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:03 PM
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Oh man, I got one of those friday. "This is Sean, got a new phone, who is this?" When I told him the only thing he had to say to me was where he was meeting me to give me my money (he stole $1100 worth of tools from me by ghosting after I let him borrow them) he suddenly claimed he had been in an accident and couldn't remember anything. 🙄 I can smell your bullshit over the fucking wifi, Sean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:09 PM
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Mmmm, nice 6'6"+ man with a 8"+ girthy dick .... come to Spittens ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:00 PM
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Yeah I would never entertain the idea of augmentation surgery for myself, so I won't expect it of them. But to mention it at all .... jeez. I once had a guy ask if I would be willing to get breast implants - I asked if he would be willing to get penis implants first, which of course went over like a lead balloon. I just laughed at him and left the table. This was the FIRST DATE. Such double standards. How do they even keep their massive overinflated egos in with all that audacity?! 🙄🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:57 PM
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What irks me the most is the double standard. "REEEEEEEEEEEEE bUt I cAn'T cHaNgE mY hEiGhT" well dumbass what makes you think I can? 🙄 Yet somehow we're supposed to bend over backwards for them. Fuck that noise. I'll only date tall men or nothing at all. The shorties have ruined it for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:25 PM
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Me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:40 PM
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I'm 6' tall. In heels I'm at minimum 6'2", oftentimes greater. I will not date a man less than 6'3" and I prefer closer to 6'6" or 6'7". The shorties can kiss my ass. I've dated short men, without exception they have turned my being so tall into a huge problem, when I could have cared less. If insecure men try to ask me to dress differently or such bullshit they always try to pull, now I just shrug and say 'your being tiny is not my problem'. They haaaaate it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:54 PM
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Oh yeah, promises that they can't keep. That shit only works on men lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 07:05 PM
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I'm 34 and they're still too old looking for me. Yeah they look good for their age, but not good enough to pull a woman less than 45.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 05:09 PM
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This is why we don't date broke men. They are leeches and will milk our kind hearts for everything they can get. Never let a man know how well off you are, he will only see you as his easy ride after you do. Been through this many times. They find out who my family are or what I make and start with the sob stories. Now I'm a stonehearted bitch who could care less what their reasons are. The answer is always nope, pay for your own shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:29 PM
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This times a billion. They're always looking for the cheap and lazy way out, yet expect that to yield the best results. It doesn't. You get what you work for. That's just life, and they already have a leg up on us gals because they're male and the world is designed to bolster men. Much as I hate comparing myself/women in general to an object, since op already made the comparison I'm going to continue with the simile .... I am a fucking Lamborghini. You have to be invited for a chance to test dri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:42 PM
5

IKR?! It probably would do that though...Men are easy to glitch when they're that low energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:33 PM
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Either that or it'd be like the cat that glitches out when a sticker is put on its forehead. I'm still giggling at both mental images.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:56 PM
23

Yes. Strong women exude a confidence and energy that lvm/nvm avoid because they know a strong woman will not entertain their dumbfuckery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:42 PM
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I just got sick of it one day really. I got followed walking through a mall by some rando going 'hey pretty lady! Why won't you talk to me?!' when I said no thanks to him politely the first time. At first I ignored him, then I got fed up, turned around and went 'NO' in the you about to be in deep shit voice like I was training a dog. He kind of stammered then tried to start again to which I said NO even louder, and this time with the knife hand off to the side. He turned red when people stopped …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:45 PM
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I used to avoid conflict. I was scared of calling even more attention to myself. One day I realized that I'm taller, faster, and a hell of a lot smarter than these mofos. So now my aim is to embarrass them. To make them uncomfortable, even afraid. That way the next time they get the urge to pull this shit maybe they'll think twice and not. Standing up for yourself creates a pattern and a habit. Practice it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:05 PM
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No is a complete sentence. If they're still asking after the first no, your answer should be "I already said no. That answer will not change." and walk away. If you can't walk away stare at them like you want to rip their head off. If it's obvious why they're refusing to accept the no, then I call them out on it. "I said no, why are you so insistent on coercing me?" Usually just the use of the word coerce makes them back down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:42 PM
54

Of course he's going to try and profit from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:52 PM
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Do they think they’re the first clown I crossed paths with? This. Like, dude, your game is not new, I know it, and it isn't going to work on me. You are not brilliant, original, or any other fake edgy cool words they use to describe their tactics as if they were edgy and new. The only good thing is that now younger and younger girls are wiseing up. They will not be able to pull this shit much longer, cause this generation will make sure to pass on our knowledge, and the next is already shaping u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:44 PM
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People really think that 'a relationship' is the ultimate goal. Like, no, a good relationship is a goal. Otherwise you really are better off single. As has been said many times and continues to be true, I'd rather be single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:39 PM
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What do you want to bet he's the one who has nowhere to go, if that part is even true? He's probably just trying to cheat and explains her presence that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:52 PM
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I prefer it tbh. Let's me weed out the napoleons and liars early on. I can always tell when they're lying about their height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:32 PM
56

Uses capitalization so very wrong, and 'ruff' not 'rough'. Yeah that's enough to make me nope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:27 PM
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You're here now, you've figured it out, and you want to make a change. The hardest part is dealt with! You've absolutely got this, and if you start to feel overwhelmed or lost we are here for you. This sub is the most supportive place for women I have ever found on this hellsite, and all of us here truly want to see you succeed. Now is the time not to dwell on who you were, but to contemplate who you want to be, and how to best go about achieving that. The working on yourself part gets easier an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:58 AM
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And who is the biggest perpetrator of violence against men? It sure as hell ain't women. The overlap here is that men are the largest perpetrators of violence, period, towards any sex. That alone should make you realize you're full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 10:01 PM
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FYI you can opt out of those for the future. Then they can only bug you that way once!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:32 PM
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I read somewhere that instinct/gut feelings are just all the subtle, tiny red flags we haven't picked up on being strung into a glaring red garland by our subconscious. If you're uncomfortable, it's for a good reason. Never brush it aside or gaslight yourself into ignoring it because it's not a good enough reason to nope out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:27 AM
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Yep, it's one of the reasons I bring up my sport early on. Lvm/nvm avoid equestrians in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:06 PM
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Just the Spittens take, but evenings and weekends are when I do my (lucrative) side hustles. To take the time out for a date and he expects me to go 50/50, well he's already cost me too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:54 PM
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Lol. My dad is obsessed with glock for that reason. My absolute fave sidearm to date is my Springfield XD Mod 2 service model. That gun just works for me. Fits my hands and I can get amazingly tight groupings with it. Taurus is basically a Beretta but with a different name, and they are lovely hunks 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:04 PM
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Same. I deleted all and any social media accounts I had (including linkedin) when my lvm-ex started his blitz campaign against me. Never felt the need to restart any of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:51 PM
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Seconded, Taurus is my second fave brand for sidearms😁 I've got both the Judge 45 Colt 6.5" barrel model and a 1911 45 ACP. Love them both 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:49 PM
6

Mine is Josh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:09 PM
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God yes. They will sexualize ANYTHING and that's a huge part of their problem. It's an absolute turnoff to me when they sexualize something that has absolutely no sexual context until they try to make it so. This guy alluded to the fact that because my stallion is black (um it's the breed standard dude) that must mean I am only interested in what I assume is a porn category 🙄 I walked out on him before drinks got to our table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:47 PM
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That sounds like an absolute nightmare to try and navigate. My condolences ma'am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:45 PM
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Thank you! He's a sweetheart. I originally intended to train him through the levels and then put him out to stud as there are so few good friesian studs in my area, but I'm getting older and I just don't have the time to show him as much as I should, so I've been thinking about either selling or gelding him. However, there is the fact that I can use "I trained and regularly boss around a half-ton stallion, do you really think you will be a problem to me for long?" to intimidate the guys that try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:30 PM
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No guys that take my being an equestrian (specifically, my owning a stallion) to a sexual place, under any circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:54 PM
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That sounds like an awesome project. I'd be excited to hear your plans for revamping! Working with earth and growing stuff is so very grounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:33 PM
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It's really not hard if you have a steady hand. I bet there's plenty of YouTube videos that could help get you started too. Just be careful, working with that high voltage is not exactly foolproof! My dad taught me when I was 11 and wouldn't stop bugging him while he was working (I was that kid that preferred overalls and learning about engines to dressing up and tea parties). So he taught me a bunch of skills to help him out in the shop and it's come in super handy for getting these ideas I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:30 PM
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Wonderful, how is yours? I spent this am in the shop welding up a frame for the new hydroponic tower I'm putting in my kitchen, and now I'm shopping for heirloom seeds to fill it up. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:19 PM
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hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahhahahahahaha Let them LARP like they can do something about it, meanwhile they'll squabble over the stupidest details and never manage a functioning command structure. It will never amount to anything because they might have to actually DO something besides seethe and jack off in front of a computer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:10 PM
8

My favorite is a carabiner large enough to fit over my knuckles. Emergency brass knuckles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:10 PM
5

This. It's projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:33 PM
24

If it does not spark joy, let it spark the fire ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:40 PM
13

I love Sherrilyn Kenyon, and I am happy to support her. One of my favorite books of all time is in the League. My mom is an avid romance reader 😅 and she recently passed on the first book of Lynsay Sand's Argeneau vampires series. I'm only a few chapters in, but so far nothing truly problematic other than a massive age-gap premise (like, several centuries age-gap) and I'm really enjoying the more sci-fi than occult lore of the vampire race. The male protagonists seem really high value although t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:29 PM
2

It is. I'm sure I get all kinds of hate, based on the minimal stuff that makes it through, but I've got my everything locked down and my notifications to where I won't even see a fraction of it. They truly are just useless farts in the wind at this point. I'm loving it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:23 PM
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AAAAND you can opt out of future ones so even then they can only annoy you that way once .........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:07 PM
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Right? So weak .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:10 PM
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I love black. My personal style could best be called minimalist rocker/goth. Back when I was last dating it was winter, and I always wore my favorite bespoke long black coat. My oldest nephew says I look like I'm planning to fight crime when I wear it. In a way, I am preparing to do battle when headed to a date. Best to be dressed for it, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:36 PM
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Yeah, any person that thinks she/he can talk to me like that and remain a part of my life is got another thought coming, real damn fast. For a man to treat me like this, oh hell no. His shit would be out on the sidewalk and the locks would be changed within an hour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:18 PM
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So calm up until the REPRESSED ANGER AND NOT GIVING A SHIT. Damn straight honey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:12 PM
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The disrespect hit me almost immediately too. I couldn't finish the video because of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:09 PM
2

Hey I would absolutely love an FDS party on my farm. We could all wear our crowns/tiaras while shooting zombie character targets on the range and then sip champagne around the bonfire while the whipporwils sing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:21 PM
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I had a guy try this on me once back in my pickme days. I bit him. Snapped both top and bottom teeth together like I was biting off grass. He pushed me away so hard I hit the wall and my head left a dent. I got dressed and left while he was still moaning on the floor. But he had to have stitches so I consider that enough revenge, and I heard from a mutual friend that he couldn't get fully hard for months after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:51 PM
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Probably picked up on his dangerous energy (as creatures do if you pay enough attention) and preferred her over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:43 PM
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I'm in. I've got plenty of MOLLE gear to pass out :) Now I have an idea for a MOLLE champagne flute holder ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:35 PM
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I hate beards with a bloodred passion. I hate knowing that part of whatever he's eaten/drunk/touched/passed through/drooled on and so in is still in there, and I especially hate how damn scratchy they are. Not to mention, beards make me think of my dad. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:33 PM
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A halfway competent therapist would have urged her to leave her abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:17 PM
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Well, seeing as I've never had any peen that I would prefer to really good fried chicken (or any good food for that matter) ....... 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:13 PM
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Very true, but just the thought of doing all that work to get ready for a date, the vetting, the continuous suspicion, the eminent threat of disappointment or worse, always always always on my guard even when I've done everything right ..... Just no. I'm not going to actively invite something I see as a stressor into my life until I feel I can navigate without it pushing me further into a negative mindset. Men are majority low-value, and I just don't have the patience or energy to sift through t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:29 AM
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If you ever come to the south, Church's Chicken or a Rafferty's has the best damn chicken you'll ever eat. Other than my Memama's, that is. If anyone wants a real southern honey glazed biscuit recipe, they're super easy to make and I'm willing to share. Just don't ever substitute the lard in the recipe. EVER. It makes all the difference. Fluffy white biscuits straight from the oven with melting butter and honey is the food of the gods imho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:19 AM
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This is great. While I'm not totally averse to the idea of dating again, the thought alone exhausts me, to the point that I just know I'm not ready to deal with it yet. I hope someday that it won't but I've learned to never say never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:45 AM
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Y'all have obviously never had really good chicken. Every Popeyes I've ever been too the chicken has been dry as the Sahara and tough as hickory. Might as well go to KFC. Now Church's Chicken, that's real southern fried chicken. And those honey glazed biscuits are heaven on earth .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:42 AM
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Probably more satisfying and less risky-icky dick available locally at that. I mean, if this guy is so desperate he needs a freaking plane ticket to buy/guilt his way into some pussy what does that say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:37 PM
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They're infiltrating the less 'kinky' subs as an attempt to normalise it. It's still abuse, surprise or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:57 PM
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This. I always use my initials and I use 'man-speak' when I polish my resume. No passive voice, no glossing over my achievements, using somewhat aggressive verbs and adjectives (YMMV, but I'm in a very niche construction trade so the aggression is necessary). Most employers are shocked I'm a woman when I answer the phone call. I know my current employer was lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:27 PM
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Happy Birthday! I hope it's a wonderful one for you! Things I wish I could tell 20 year old Spittens; Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Have your financial safety nets in place asap. Potential is meaningless until it's acted on. Don't waste your time on it. Invest in your health NOW, both mental and physical. It will save you a lot of pain and suffering in the future. Don't be scared to make mistakes. Smaller mistakes now when you're young and healthy are so much easier to bounce back fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:27 PM
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I needed to hear this today. Reminds me of a quote from an episode of Frasier; It may be an unwise man who doesn't learn from his own mistakes, but it's an absolute idiot who doesn't learn from others'. I'm so bad about this. I have a tendency to need to fall on my ass before I learn, and I am trying to get out of that habit. The sharing of experiences (most of them almost universal!) is what I consider the most important aspect of this sub. Not just because it helps us members learn and recogni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:28 PM
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It's not too bad. I had mine done at age 26, 6 months after a miscarriage and serious medical issues resulting from it. The worst part of the surgery was the trainee medic (military hospital) that couldn't get the IV needle in my vein after 3 tries. The rest of it was a breeze, and I had complications that cropped up during that prevented the also planned full ablation. I was somewhat sore the day after, but a few tylenol and taking it easy over the weekend made sure I was back to work on Monday…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:05 PM
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Amen. I always hate the 'but you're so much better at ____' argument. We're not talking about specialized license-able skills here, like brain surgery. We're talking about BASIC FUNCTIONS. And they are making excuses and purposely fucking it up. Personally, I get the ick whenever a man tries to make excuses for being a lazy bum or pass the buck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:39 PM
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Unfortunately there aren't a lot of those around. Not to mention they usually prefer shorter women too. That being said the highest value man I've known outside of my family was 6'9" (not because of his height, because of his good heart and kind nature). Dude had serious big dick energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:25 PM
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You are stronger than you think. You can absolutely do this. When you feel fear or overwhelming weakness, remember why. Your future will be so much better, this is the first big step towards that. Don't let anyone sway you! Just be safe and cut both of those people out completely. We are here for you, and we are all pulling for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:58 PM
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Apparently, without me, he is nothing. He should have thought about that before entertaining other women. The gaslighting game is indeed strong with this one. OP, congrats on seeing through his bullshit and staying strong. Once you're on the other side of this, you will be happy you did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:41 PM
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Basically allowing a fake 'insecurity' to show (or even a real one that you're no longer bothered about) to see what they do with the info. LVM/NVM will not be able to resist immediately weaponizing it against you, and there's your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:55 PM
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Lol. The clinic software literally had a red flag beside the pet/owner name when we labeled them as such ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:47 PM
11

I love to sew. It's very zen. I make a lot of clothes for myself and tailor the ones I buy (buy one size larger than you need if you're going to try this) to fit better. I also like to embroider while I watch TV or listen to audiobooks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:07 AM
15

Well damn. Never mind then, I take it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:20 PM
61

A lioness does not bother herself with the lurking vultures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:30 PM
2

From what I've heard he's a total HVM too. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:01 PM
1

Not at the moment. I'm building a house which will have a 2 car garage, and the shop (500 ft up the driveway from my house lol) is where my truck lives when I'm not using it. My jeep lives in the covered parking assigned to me at my apartment, and my vette is currently living in my folks' garage until I get my house finished enough for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:51 PM
12

They use it because we are too kind for our own good, so it works. I too have let this coerce me in the past. Now I just laugh at them and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:42 PM
84

While I agree sex is a natural drive, it is most definitely NOT a need. Men like to say this to excuse their addiction to porn or bad behavior trying to guilt/coerce women into sex. If sex was a need, monks, nuns, incels, and asexuals would not exist. They'd die. As it is, they generally live longer than the rest of us (maybe not incels since they seem determined to be unhealthy in mind and body which will kill them off sooner). Any guy who uses sEx Is A nEeD is a dickhead who shouldn't be indul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:15 PM
13

I love building things, making things, fixing things. No it's not for everyone. I was raised knowing how to do this stuff, but I think more important is the desire to figure it out instead of continuing to deal with the problem or just paying for it. The more I figure out how to do X, the more accomplished and capable I feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:03 PM
38

Nope it does not come close. I took mine to the dealer when it was under warranty (and thus the work was free) but my own work is much better quality than what I could even pay someone to do. I've found 1 mechanic I felt I could trust and he's always completely booked so 🤷🏼‍♀️ But I've been working on and restoring autos since I can remember, and I like doing it. I do all the housework and all my own maintenance on 3 vehicles and its not such a demand on my spare time .... this dude's just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:31 PM
8

Same. I can't help but roll my eyes so hard I could give myself a headache when I hear the term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:20 PM
114

I make more than that and I maintain my own vehicle, including changing my own oil. The peace of mind knowing that it was done correctly instead of half-assed by some dude who's just looking to do the minimum for a paycheck is why. I've had men put brakes on wrong and didn't find out until it became a problem and I ended up having to replace my rotors. Now, I just do it myself because I've had so many bad experiences. That being said, car maintenance is generally only an hour or two a month unle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:47 PM
23

There is no such thing as ethically non-monogamous. The phrase is almost an oxymoron. Yes, it's the new name for cheaters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:35 PM
40

Most equipment based industries (earth-moving, trucking, welders/fabricators, etc.) prefer women employees because they are less likely to take risks, and easier on machinery in general. Data backs this up, as women's auto insurance rates are lower than men's. Women take care of stuff. Men do not, unless they will have to pay to replace or fix it. The fact that hiring a woman helps the diversity demographics is only seen as a positive side effect in the industries I have experience in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:22 PM
149

My favorite reply to that is 98% of men. Then I throw out the facts and statistics about men's violence towards women AND other men, for which I always get harangued for proof, which I provide ad nauseum. I will never give up though, because these are the same men who tell me 'you are too independent and picky' without my asking. The same ones who complain that I won't settle for their half-assed selves yet tell me how they envy me in the next breath. The real issue is, they know already. They a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:23 PM
46

Sadness/grief does not excuse being a misogynistic asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:32 PM
8

No access to a woman's emotional, physical, or sexual labor. For any reason. They'll be crying human rights violations within 5 mins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:44 PM
3

I just started my second one this month. Yay hormones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:37 PM
7

I just reported a sex offender to my state's registration dept because the info on his page was outdated compared to what I received in the application. I'm sure they're looking for him :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:56 PM
74

I don't need a piece of tape, being 6' tall in flats means it's easy to spot the liars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:47 PM
189

Yep. When a man compliments me my first thought is 'What are you after? >.>' When a woman compliments me I feel giddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:25 PM
42

And he'll gaslight her to hell and back when she notices that he's doing it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:51 PM
15

It's for this reason that I kinda think our super fans sub should not exist. Why even give them 1 second of fame there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:48 PM
12

I'm prepared. My state just passed open constitutional carry laws. Not that I allowed that to deter me before, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:16 PM
46

Yep. You'd think they'd leave you alone simply because you're not looking your best. I went to the farm today in ratty overalls, work boots, and a loose muscle tank top (it's already in the 80s here, I live in the south). I put new tires and brakes on my Jeep today, and since it was on the lift already I changed my oil too. So, I was covered in grease, brake dust, and the black rubber dust you get off new tires as well as general grit from working in the shop. No makeup, brows could use a wax, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:25 AM
11

Lol. I feel like an actual physical inability to see certain colors is an acceptable excuse. For the rest of men though? They're just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:03 AM
20

I've known a few men who were pretty good at picking colors. They were definitely a minority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:04 PM
25

Since we're playing Build A Man: 6'3"+ (taller is definitely better, I'm that tall in heels. My ideal is around 6'7"). Reasonably fit and strong rather than cut. I'm very strong and I like a guy that can pick me up and run with me to bed without getting winded or throwing his back out. I've dated an Olympic heavy lifting qualifier and he was about right with the level of strength lol. Clean shaven and well kept hair. No buzzcuts or bald men, I want to be able to play with his hair. Any color is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:38 PM
28

Yes, one of the young men I worked with was red-green colorblind. He was good muscle though lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:40 PM
111

Actually, one of my first jobs was working at a paint counter in a big box store. This was definitely a thing. Men always chose several shades darker or brighter of whatever they truly needed, and many would come back hating it (or their wives would send them back lol). It got to the point where out store had to stop accepting returns of tinted paint. I think because men aren't conditioned to have 'style', to see the variances and care that it's just right, they bumble through looking for that w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:04 PM
48

I meant why would I risk sex (and it's myriad possible consequences) with some random man (buying the cow) when I most likely wouldn't orgasm (the meat & milk) which is the only reason to have sex imho. Otherwise I can get less whiny snuggles from my cat lol. I'll pass. He's going to have to prove he can make me orgasm reliably before I'll let him get his dick wet. I think that's fair 🤷🏼‍♀️ considering no man has given me one before, I've either pretended to get it over with (back in my pickme d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:44 PM
207

And men wonder why we aren't interested in sex and relationships anymore. Why buy the cow if you can't get meat or milk out of it? ETA; already 3 hidden comments. Scrotes gonna be big mad about this one 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:15 PM
77

Yep you dodged a bullet. Any guy who thinks this way will never treat you equitably in a business relationship, and you will have to fight to keep it professional too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:01 PM
7

Haven't seen either of those for reasons. But yes, the eyes. He's an excellent actor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:55 PM
30

Yes! I was watching shadow and bone last night and grumbling about how he just had to be the bad guy. They even put him on a gorgeous black friesian! Grrrr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:51 PM
4

Oh man, this was too funny. Good for you! Even when men look as good as this they are rarely worth it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:33 PM
9

That jawline and those eyes 🤩😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:20 PM
9

YES although I'd want at least 1 cat too. And a dog. Possibly some sheep and definitely some chickens. I'd have an amazing gorgeous stable full of beautiful horses that I would spend all day grooming and then they'd go roll in the dirt (you know, as they do EVERY TIME).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:12 AM
19

This woman not his age is both smart enough and grossed out enough to stay far, far away from him. I actually caught flack from the guys in my office for being rude! Excuse me, but any of them see that he started it? This is my workplace. Not a singles bar. Needless to say they are staying far away from me after I shut that shit down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:25 PM
133

A LITERAL FORT to keep the vampire men at bay. Absolute queen energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:18 PM
70

I'm 34. It's lunch here and I have been flirted with twice since I got to the office an hour ago. First was the guy delivering my sandwich, the second was some rando who yelled 'hey cutie' as he passed through the office (I have no idea who he was, but he was 55+ and all of 5'6"). I glared at both until they were obviously uncomfortable and shut up. This does not count getting catcalled and stared at on the jobsite this am. I'm so fucking sick of men and their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:41 PM
10

Any company that uses (expensive) equipment prefers women operators because they take better care of and are easier on the equipment, as well as the reasons you mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:03 PM
30

Even as a side hustle, literally ANYTHING makes better money than OnlyFans. Like, working a part-time minimum-wage job makes better money. You absolutely should. Let's reach as many of these young girls as we can before they make such a stupid decision! Problem I see (mind you I have no idea how only fans works, never used it or researched it more than what's been mentioned here) is that mostly men will see it because those are the users. Unless content creators also do 'research'? Edited becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:28 AM
112

Well, my dad owns a small trucking company and he will ask me to fill in whenever he's not able to do one of these runs, usually about 1-2 each month. They're never more than 2 days worth of time on the road. But I've been operating trucks & heavy equipment since I was a kid and I got my CDL the day I turned 21. I do a lot of other stuff that makes good money too, this is just what I did this weekend. I also do fab work, construction salvage and resale, and sell on Amazon. Since I'm not even try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:00 AM
214

Strippers counting ones? That is absolutely NOT a flex. Just this weekend I made $2400 cash running a load of specialty lumber up to the Chicago area. Took me one 18 hour day lol. And I did it in my yoga pants and tennis shoes, belting out opera and chatting on the phone with my mom the whole damn time. I didn't have to strip or let some gross scrote(s) touch or look at my fine self for it. Maybe I should start a tiktok or YouTube channel detailing all the ways a driven gal can make money that w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:36 AM
22

Damn girl you got a 401k to match that hot body? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:51 PM
24

'Don't engage' is powerful. It keeps you from wasting your time, energy, and peace, and keeps them from deriving satisfaction from your struggles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:42 PM
6

Yep, they're called Warlanders and they are amazing. Friesians and Andalusian are my breeds of choice. I ride dressage so I love the gaits and intelligence, not to mention how insanely gorgeous both breeds are. I have an affinity for the baroque look lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:15 PM
8

Yep! I love draft horses. Men do not compare at all imho. Horses are actually useful while still expensive to keep. Sticking with the men are horses imagery ... give me a friesian. Refined but still muscular and strong, athletic, beautiful eyes and face, very intelligent and sweet, and incredible hair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:09 PM
1

I feel like he was literally written to be the rote incel lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:28 PM
18

Which is ridiculous, because Clydesdales are actually quite refined for draft horses. If he wanted to say he was muscular, he needed to compare himself to a quarter horse or a brabant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:50 PM
29

Not even that. When I had roommates, we were far more generous with each other than most of these cheap scrotes were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:21 PM
2

This man neither cares for you nor wants you happy. You need to break all ties with him, asap. All he wants is the ability to say 'see? I manipulated her into letting me come back?' Even if just to himself. Textbook narcissistic abuse. Let yourself get furious at him. Block. Delete. Move on with your life. That is all he deserves from you. Silence and indifference. You are strong enough to do what is necessary to protect yourself from the abuse, no matter how you may doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:29 PM
191

Alpha male? That just means he'll resort to violence if he doesn't get his way. Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:24 PM
32

I choked on my lunch. This is so accurate it hurts ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:18 PM
87

FISCALLY FIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:44 PM
20

I know a 37 year old guy who looks ancient ..... I would have thought he was in his late 40s at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:58 PM
388

The 'using a man for free drinks/dinner' is such a bullshit trope. Even when I was a broke college student having to put up with an old scrote's bullshit just wasn't worth it. Ok, so he could spoil me .... but what is he going to want in return? Demeaning sex where he wants me to call him daddy? Trying to groom me into being his bangmommymaid? I can spoil myself thanks. Even as an 18-25 year old I just laughed at them and told them they were far too old for me. They hate hearing that lol. They l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:29 PM
12

She and I would get along GREAT. ETA: there is only two acceptable answers to 'things my boyfriend doesn't let me do' and that's 'pay for dinner' and 'think I'm not good enough for anyone'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:03 PM
2

She couldn't, because she's literally like 12 in the books ... so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:55 PM
15

You should just turn off your DM's. They literally cannot resist trying their damnedest to get through to us, even knowing it's an empty hope. Let them scream into the void while you float above unbothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:14 PM
17

My cat is toilet trained. He has better aim than any of the men I have ever lived with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:57 PM
4

Ugh, that's the worst. Like, totally a revenge move. What a dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:35 PM
7

I took it from the box I found it in and stuck it in the cleaning supplies cabinet until he left. He would never look for it there lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:17 PM
16

Hello fellow BSG gal! My nvx tried to take my 'so say we all' coffee mug when I kicked him out. Why do they think they can steal and get away with it?! He never even used it, it was just a revenge move because he knew it was my fave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:04 PM
83

A folding camp chair or an ugly-as-sin lazy boy recliner ..... 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:47 PM
6

This is the correct response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:57 PM
12

I did not enjoy the outlander book series. The show was marginally better. I still won't watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:49 PM
7

I lurk on WGTOW all the time. I'm just not ready to fully make that leap yet. Every day that I get catcalled or propositioned in the grocery store or stared down at work by a guy I wouldn't touch with a 39 1/2' pole I get closer though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:36 PM
40

Ugh, and the two together is just 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:01 PM
36

It did hurt. Painful gas and upset stomach lol. But that was a breeze compared to waking up realizing how badly I stunk. Thank goodness I'm single and sleep alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:57 PM
15

Video game. Think Diablo but more rainbow-y. It's basically group up, spam attacks, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:48 PM
152

I normally eat VERY healthy. No dairy, no sugar, no processed foods or grains. I ate taco bell for the first time in years on Saturday because it was my nephew's birthday and that's what he wanted (we could have gone to the steakhouse but noooooooo ..... whatever). Ladies, I woke up the next morning smelling it ON MY SKIN. I always take a shower before bed so it was wafting out of my pores. Now imagine if every meal was like that. That's how a scrote smells. YUCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:40 PM
4

Tasty package 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:33 PM
10

Yes! I'm not a fan of long hair on men either and with out the long greasy looking locks I would jump his bones in a heartbeat .... DAMN SON
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:05 PM
41

Was waiting for this. With the short hair he is so delicious .... I would absolutely climb him like a scratching post .... ETA; So much better with the short hair because he looks so much more wholesome and less 'I will drag you to the depths of despair with my troubled past'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:52 PM
25

Never used tinder myself, but I've seen friends of mine swiping through tinder and I have never seen any guy this remotely well put together or well cared for. Holy crap. I didn't think they existed like this in the wild. Just for clarification, he's totally not my type. But I can still appreciate how beautiful and well kept he is! Damn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:39 PM
24

Very true. Right now, my mom is the only person that was still pushing for me to at least try to date, and also pushing me to 'do something with your hair'. She complained about being worried I was going to end up alone at our mother's day dinner, to which I pulled up the extensive file of screenshots I had taken during my month long stint of OLD before I decided to take a break. I think what she saw shocked her enough to realize my sanity and safety was more important than a date. My mom hates …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:01 PM
23

Pick-me shit ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:36 PM
22

Funny part is, I've let my hair go natural. Completely. It's had nothing but a couple trims since early 2020 and I've just about grown out all my highlighted streaks. My mom haaaates it lol. So I guess I really am done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:31 PM
73

Amen. There is a peace and serenity in being able to go home (to your beautifully decorated and clean home) and just know you won't have to deal with anyone else unless you want to. I decided to take a break from dating almost 2 years ago now and frankly, I don't think I'll ever go back. The thought of trying to date just fills me with dread and anxiety, and I actively work to remove those triggers from my life. Why on earth would I chase such a huge one? So I'm done too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:04 PM
2

Having gone through this with my nvx, yes. I had to relearn how to listen to my gut, and that I was not just being crazy and defensive, I had a right to be hurt and angry. My perceptions are not flawed and they are usually dead on when something is off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:46 PM
44

Preferably a male one so his lizard brain doesn't try to shoot his shot anyway ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:54 PM
109

'I don't really watch it' means I watch it all the time when I'm horny & bored but think that it's sporadic enough not to mess with my head. I will still defend my depravity to the death ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:40 PM
24

Or jacking up his 20 year old truck to the point it can't even go offroad or pull a trailer ..... I live in hillbilly central lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:26 PM
14

Lol, agreed. Almost as if the experience of post secondary education opens your eyes and forces you to think outside your own limited circle ... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:24 PM
66

School of Hard Knocks = I piss away every paycheck I get and do the absolute minimum needed to survive but will constantly bitch and moan about how broke I am. Please be fit and healthy = I either am a fitness nut who will drag you relentlessly if you gain an ounce on your period or I do the bare minimum and expect a model to fall all over me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:17 PM
7

White woman here, and this is how I'd handle this. My dad would never entertain this kind of dumbfuckery. The family farm is 1200+ acres of woodland out in deliverance style country, and we have instant access to lots of heavy earth-moving equipment there. The body would never be found.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:54 PM
53

Not only death by a thousand cuts, it will make you start to doubt yourself, your reactions, question your own gut feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:55 PM
49

Show them the ass end of a raw roaster chicken lol. Most guys probably wouldn't notice the difference 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:05 PM
37

Frankly, if you care about your privacy and network security any 'smart' technology should not be in your house. Google the story of how a Vegas casino's network got hacked through an unsecured wireless aquarium temp monitor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:06 PM
25

Yep. This is why I have fingerprint passcodes & 2 step verification set up for all my devices (also helps with the padawans that quickly figure out touchscreens lol). l. HiddenEye on my android and pin numbers set up for my personal computers. My passwords always include random item numbers I remember from when I worked retail as a broke college student. It's just more projection by these scrotes. "I'm hiding shit on my phone so she has to have something on hers that I can use against her!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:03 PM
5

I was meaning a formal degree or accredited certs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:03 PM
415

And they think our vetting process is horrifying ...... My God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:01 PM
40

If you're able to balance a checkbook you can be a bookkeeper, and any odd situations can be googled or discussed with the client and their CPA. I did this 15 years ago to help pay for college, and I still keep my own business's books and my dad's business's books as well. It's not hard, just time consuming (and there's ways to help minimalize that part too).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:40 PM
16

You'll probably need to build a network and offer some references. A lot of bookkeeping is just straight data entry and clerk duties, for which they're looking for someone without certs so they can pay a cheaper rate (not that you should undersell yourself).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:39 PM
21

I don't know what the cost would be for a bookkeeper, but I have professional liability insurance because I am a notary public. It costs me $50 each year, and I'm covered for damages up to $1 million.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:34 PM
11

Is it butterflies or dread? Are you nervous/anxious or just excited? For instance, when I travel I get the excited butterflies in my chest and I can't sleep, but it's a positive source. When I think about dating, the food in my stomach curdles and becomes this uncomfortable mini panic attack tension that could be mistaken for butterflies (these are just my personal feelings, as an example). If the source of those feelings is positive, then you know. Your gut is never wrong, you just have to lear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:45 PM
31

There's an old Chinese curse "May your life be interesting". Interesting meaning drama. Give me steady, dependable, or reliable any day. I create my own adventures, and everyday life gives us more than enough anxiety and stress to make it not so boring lol. The original versions of all the fairy tales are dark and depressing as hell. They were meant to convey wisdom or drive home a certain moral, and we've lost sight of that in the 'Disney princess' fairy tale culture of the last 50 years. I thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:20 PM
63

I feel you darling. I've been in the same mindset for about 2 years. Got bullied into a date by a friend back in December, he was a love bomber who suggested we move in together on week 2. YIKES. These days, I pour all my extra emotion, frustration, and love into my own life and my relationships with friends/family. It's a lot more rewarding. At this point, the universe is literally going to have to drop a HVM in my lap in my own living room for me to start contemplating a relationship again. I'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:53 AM
106

The worst part is I can totally see it not being one. This is reddit, after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:55 AM
16

More proof that cats are better than men 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:33 AM
12

They think our vetting is manipulation and lying, when it's really about figuring out the shit they are lying to us about before it can hurt us. Projection, all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:30 AM
4

Oh man, this scene right here is still the start of some of my most pleasant (roflmao) dreams. I am absolutely here for the ripped af viking look. ESPECIALLY when they don't have the tacky tattoos and the hair is clean and cared for ..... 😗🤌 But then I've always been a sucker for a good guy in armor. I grew up surrounded by seriously strong & capable men, so that's what I equate with manliness. My dad is basically The Mountain without the murderous psycho tendencies. He can use his hands as a sl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:28 AM
21

Same. While I'm not praising on Christian Bale, he does psychotic intensity WELL whether he is the villian or the hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:45 PM
21

Yep. They eat this stuff then want sympathy and babying because they feel crappy, and I'm all "Nah you did this to yourself dude". Pisses them off to no end!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:38 PM
40

Men who think it's a challenge. These are the same men who will eat a ghost pepper and think it funny when their friends do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:37 PM
6

My mom teaches 3rd grade. She has caught kids in the bathroom having sex. You can't tell me that isn't due to the influence of porn and pornification of the media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:39 PM
2

In grade school I mostly wore boys jeans because it was so hard to find any inseam past 32" (I really need a 35" or 36", longer if I'm wearing any kind of heel). In highschool it was the era of low rise jeans and no matter what when I bent over all you could see was crack. Nope .... so I refused to wear them. I started wearing jeans that I ordered from cruel girl and wrangler (I've always been an equestrian but those were the ones that were available to me). I still love those brands, if you loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:33 PM
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I have never received the dreaded dick pic lol. I have though, received a full frontal nude pic of some random napoleon. The pic made him look hung, but it was because it was a normal sized dick on a 5'5" guy. I told him that I wasn't impressed by a tiny dick on an even tinier guy, then blocked him. Never again ladies. Just say no to OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:01 PM
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I think the simple fact that we're not trying to diminish ourselves, as most women are trained from birth to do, makes us come across this way. If you think about it, we're always being told to take up less space. Physical space - Lose weight, cross your legs like a lady, etc. Mental space - Be quiet, don't make demands, be 'ladylike', etc. The sheer audacity of a woman who does not conform is offensive to them, and they don't know how to deal with her, so she's intimidating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:33 PM
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I used to hate being so tall, now I love being able to see over the crowds (My trip to Korea was quite comical!). I shot up to 6' when I was about 14 and I've been the tallest woman on both sides of my family (and the second tallest in my entire home county) since then. Honestly, the only bad part about being tall is finding clothes that fit and dealing with the napoleons while dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:27 PM
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I'm fine with being replaced by technology. I mean, if we didn't need men to reproduce anymore life could go on without them entirely ..... oh wait 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:52 PM
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Right? Military grade is the cheapest shit they can manage because that's how the military operates. I have seen the contracts, I have worked on the equipment, I have repaired the shittiness lol. Military grade just means they slapped some desert or digital camo on it to make it look tactical. Still cheap, now it's just ugly too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:01 PM
2

learning how to lower my expectations so I wasn't disappointed with his effort How can anyone hear that not feel like a total failure as a human being? Not just men (though in my experience the majority of them act that way) if I heard anyone say that about me I would have stepped my game right up. Just more proof that men and this whole mindset are 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:38 PM
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Same. But it gets easier the less care you take with scraping them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:06 PM
20

I'm 6' tall, obviously fit, and more capable and competent than most men that are supposed to be professionals. Add to that my work boots, the pistol that lives on my hip, and the razor-blade-stare the field leads tell me I have and apparently I can be downright frightening. I'm really a very sweet and kind person, they just never see it because my job is to make sure they are doing theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:05 PM
28

I wish. Mostly they still want me but just neg and argue to try and get me to lower my standards. Nope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:02 PM
10

I love 'direct'. My old CEO once referred to me as 'astoundingly direct' after I had pissed off an owner who was trying to get around the freaking fire marshall with a codes violation and I straight up told him no we wouldn't be doing that and that it was illegal. He was not happy with my response, and immediately ran to the CEO pissed off about it, who laughed at him and said 'well she wasn't wrong' and then told him no too. 'Direct' to me just means I'm not wasting my time telling you what you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:00 PM
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Yep, I get this one too. Like, I thought this was just common sense? I mean, when I was younger they DRILLED this stuff into us, now it doesn't apply? Riiiiiiiight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:54 PM
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When he said that, I hope your response was 'Good, so we agree to $( u/aocwannabe's number)?" Use it to your advantage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:47 PM
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I got called that the other day when I was checking the work of a plumber at my mom's new house cause dad couldn't be there to do it. He tried to tell me I didn't know what I was talking about with the venting of a gas water heater so I rattled the code off almost verbatim and told him to fix it. He was not happy lol. Later found out he had told my dad I was intimidating and didn't want to work on my house when it got to that stage because I would be impossible to please. My dad took great joy a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:29 PM
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Intimidating. Controlling (I get this one at work A LOT, my job title is literally Controller ..... ).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:20 PM
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I have to keep re-blocking some of them when they use new google numbers to try and get past my initial (or second, or third ....) block. Like, take the hint dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:39 PM
194

From Frasier! Yep, this is how I see marriage and motherhood, and why I have now chosen to opt out of both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:29 PM
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'I never said that' 'You're twisting my words' 'Learn to take a joke' 'Do I need to find you a therapist?'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:25 PM
29

As my mom would say, just because everybody was walking into a burning building doesn't mean you should too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:27 PM
11

I have a crown and a necklace/earrings set that all match. Bought it as a costume for my oldest niece's art project where I posed all made up as a golden queen. I love to wear the crown as a headband when I'm getting ready in the am, it's a not-so-subtle daily reminder of who I am and who I aspire to be. Wear your crowns with pride ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:38 AM
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BROWN tax. Not blue, but the color of 💩 INTERESTING HISTORICAL SIDE NOTE; Up until the 1940s or so pink was considered a masculine color because it was the watered down color of red, which is the color of blood. Blue was a feminine color because it was considered calming and peaceful. But brown just fits scrotes these days 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:36 PM
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When you see it while scrolling, hit the three little gray dots in the upper right hand corner of the ad. You'll get the option to report there. I also usually block the posting account after it's been reported as an added measure for my own sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:07 AM
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Also, if they do this you can opt out of it for the future. Had it done to me. I will bet my entire year's salary on the fact that my mental health is in better shape than the incel who sent that bot after me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:28 AM
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Anytime I see an onlyfans ad I report it for harassment. Because that's what it is. False promises, grooming, and harassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:47 PM
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Very true. A true sociopath will seek revenge and make your life harder. This is just one way to escalate so that you can be done faster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:46 PM
58

I snorted my tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:20 PM
226

"No, you're going to act like the grown man you are supposed to be and do it right because I am not your mom and I don't get paid to be your maid. So get to it or we're done." And then watch him get red in the face and try to argue his way out of it. Then kick him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:01 PM
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There wouldn't be anyone in that sub lol. I don't know a single woman who CAN'T get laid if that was what she was after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:15 PM
2

Age 34 and I'm there with you. I just chose to remove myself from the pool. There's better things in life than swimming with garbage lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:39 PM
2

If you do get a weighted blanket, go for lighter rather than heavier at least at first. I have a 15 lb weighted blanket and when I try to sleep under it I wake up sore and tired (probably from fighting with it all night 😂).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:37 PM
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Cracker barrel has the best stuff. I worked there briefly during college and I have all the recipes, I often make the coca cola cake. Most of my Memama's recipes are better lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:16 PM
2

Cracker Barrel is comfort food for me. I was raised in the south and this is the only restaurant that gets chicken and dumplings somewhat right lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:02 PM
20

You can get a makeup grade mica and add it to the cream for way cheaper. I make soaps as a hobby so I always have cosmetic grade mica lying around and I've done this to various body lotions & creams. It takes like 1/2 tsp in most containers to see an effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:46 PM
2

I always found it meh at best. My nv-ex loved it and would make me sit and watch with him which is the only reason I know it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:36 PM
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Men are so used to bulldozing over everyone with their wants and needs (roflmao) and preferences that any time someone disagrees with them they either attempt to discredit or deflect, or just straight up take themselves out of the equation so they won't have to deal with it. There's an American Dad* episode where Francine thinks they're going to couples therapy to work out issues but in reality Stan is just getting his buddy to hypnotize her out of whatever work he needs to do on the relationshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:00 PM
28

Yep. I CoMmUnIcAtE once. Maybe twice if it's something stupid like 'please don't leave the shower curtain all bunched up'. If after that they're still exhibiting said bad behavior, I have my answer and we're done. I have no patience left for this kind of crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:15 PM
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I dont need instructions on how to adult or be a good human This. If someone I care about tells me that something I do bugs them, I'm gonna change it. It's not rocket science unless you're trying to pull some underhanded shit and avoid responsibility (like most men are). CoMmUnIcAtIoN only works when the party at the other end cares enough to listen and is willing to make some changes. Otherwise it's an empty gesture and a stalling tactic. The fact that it's touted as the end-all-be-all of relat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:02 PM
20

I laugh at their impotent rage. And that's all it is, impotent. We are exactly what they want yet can't have, so like all scrotes when they're rejected 'you're fat and ugly anyway' is a coping mechanism. They just aren't man enough to handle it so they must try to devalue us to help soften the blow to their overinflated egos. They want to scream at me that no-body wants me, that just because I'm here I must be undesirable? Well the rest of their gender that I have the misfortune to interact with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:05 AM
13

Thirding the big body pillow mentioned by others. I have one, I nicknamed it the strangle pillow because I usually wake up with it in a half Nelson. That and a nice warm comforter and I sleep like a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:21 PM
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This was me. Once the divorce was over I decided to stop taking all medications and focus on my health through proper diet and fitness. Guess what? Turns out I don't get depressed when some idiot isn't treating me terribly. Who'dathunkit? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:49 PM
65

"Bitch" = You recognized my negging for what it was and instead of trying to downplay the situation you had an entirely justified blowup and made me look bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:26 PM
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Honey, its time to get out. I have zero filter left, so this is probably going to sound harsher than I mean it. I apologize in advance. They have no right at all to make this decision for you or to 'take matters into their own hands'. I don't care what culture, nationality, or religion you hail from, it's never been right and you need to remove yourself from the situation. You need to get to a place where you can survive without them (your own legally rented living situation, your own insurance,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:18 PM
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It's really easy, truly. Cats are clean creatures by nature. You just have to make sure there are not any other options available to do their business in while they are being trained, and then keep an eye on them once you start to give them freedom to prevent accidents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:38 PM
2

If your cat is already litterbox trained it's fairly easy. Some cats just won't take to it though. They are too stubborn, but I am pretty stubborn too! My cat was 11 years old at the time, but I have heard the younger they are the easier it is to train them. I bought this kit and then used it per the instructions with a flushable pine litter. DO NOT FLUSH CLAY OR SAND LITTER. It will clog your pipes and you'll be calling a plumber. I made sure that there were no bath mats/rugs, boxes, or covered…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:08 PM
8

I can't remember the last time I shaved my legs honestly. I'm not dating, it's winter here and I pretty much only wear pants outside the house, and my cat doesn't seem to mind my fuzzy legs when I run around my house in shorts cleaning so I say fuck it. I only ever shave the pits if I'm going to wear something sleeveless (which I can't remember the last time that happened either). Men can be fuzzy and consider it natural, so I don't see why I have to shave to be considered beautiful. But then it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:51 PM
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I shut mine when it's flushing but my cat is toilet trained so I have to leave the lid open afterwards. He still has better aim than all the men I've ever had the misfortune to live with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:33 PM
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Living alone is glorious. Whether we're talking about LVM/NVM or roommates. Honestly, even if I do find a HVM it's gonna take me a long time to agree to let him in my house for any length of time. My home is my sanctuary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:30 PM
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Ugh. So much nope in one screenshot ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:37 AM
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Yes, it's because they know that if they bring you low enough you'll feel trapped and they can keep you under their thumb indefinitely. Which is the goal. I was in the same place 4 years ago. Funny how the NVX is still a broke ass NCO and it only took me 4 years to get dug out of the financial hole he tried to bury me in and start making some serious money. If a man truly cares for you he will be excited about the possibilities and helping you succeed and grow. No man is worth your future. Espec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:26 AM
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What in the pickme bowels of hell did I just read?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:08 PM
24

Same. When I try to shave or wax my skin breaks out so badly that it's just not worth it. Not amount of hacks or before/during/after care has ever helped. I have a pair of clippers I use to trim the bush down fairly short right before I'm due for my period and then I will pluck the few strays at my bikini line if it's the right season. Other than that he's gonna have to learn to deal lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:03 PM
58

I never let my tank get below 1/4. And if I'm going to be driving somewhere where I might not be able to get gas for a while I make DAMN SURE there's a couple full spare tanks in the back. I have no desire to be stranded somewhere because of lack of planning. Spontaneity be damned ..... My NVX was not allowed to drive my Jeep. I refused to put him on the title nor would I put him on my insurance as a driver for either of my vehicles after he totaled the first car and then wanted to borrow mine "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:54 PM
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Throwing his muddy greasy laundry in with your delicates and ruining it. Scratching your beautiful hardwood floors. Demanding unhealthy food and since you don't want to cook 2 meals, you eat it. And then he makes fun of you if you put on weight from eating the stuff he wanted to eat. Running all the gas out of your tank and not filling it back up. Using WAY too much of whatever face products you own thinking it will help get rid of that blemish faster. Picking his scabs in bed and blood spotting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:31 PM
1

Insert famous meme of 'head up, shoulders back, think murder, and then walk'. Men respond to bravado. Most will respect it, some are challenged by it. Think murder and walk works for me the best. Helps that I am tall and already tower over most people. Add thick soled boots or power heels to that and I can part them like the red sea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:08 PM
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This is a standard tactic men I see at the grocery store use to get in my way so I'll have to acknowledge them, and I hate it. I've switched to carrying a basket and just going more often because it's easier to traverse the aisles without a buggy. Also easier to speed-walk away from those that still try it, just pull a Chiyo and sneak into a tight spot they won't be able to maneuver with a buggy and disappear ......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:17 PM
13

My experiences working in HR have completely convinced me that I am absolutely sane. HR is either exasperating or entertaining. Lots of times both lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:07 PM
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Considering there's already 2 hidden comments I'd imagine they are lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:59 PM
10

When you move in, replace the screws in all the door strike plates with 3 inch long (or whatever measurement your location uses, but long as possible) structural screws. This makes it a lot harder for your doors to be kicked in, since those screws will go all the way through and attach the strike plate to the frame instead of just the jamb facing. Check all your window locks and see if you can open any first floor or accessible ones from the outside. Set up motion detection cameras at every ingr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:43 PM
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Or request that all the locks be rekeyed/replaced when you move in and that way you can know how many copies there are floating around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:36 PM
50

Any 'what's your opinion on ______ issue?' Then just sit and let them talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:05 PM
19

Right? Total bad-ass 'take none of your shit' vibes. Lovely to behold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:34 PM
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These are giving me goth-y supervillian vibes and I want them ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:23 PM
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I'm in the USA so for me, it's texting. Anyone who needs to communicate with me has either my personal number or my work number. I understand that this may not be the best solution for other countries. However in this context, it's definitely something to seriously consider before allowing them access to your personal phone number in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:33 AM
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My issue with whatsapp is that it allows the person on the other end to see a phone number. Not a problem if you're only using it for family, but I've had a scrote use my number he got off there and is still trying to reach me 4 years later. ETA; Honestly, I just don't use any of those apps anymore. I barely have social media, and I am strict about keeping my face off the net. Because of shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:47 PM
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It's a messaging app. Avoid at all costs. Any guy who's using kik is looking for sexting and nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:01 PM
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Well done and drenched in sauce is not a steak, that's cardboard in sauce. A good steak needs no sauce. I was raised on an Angus farm. I'm a beef snob, and anything over medium rare is dog food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:59 PM
21

And Whatsapp ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:48 PM
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Anything to do with Snapchat other than 'I don't have it'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:55 PM
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Oooooh we're gonna need a whole tote full of popcorn for those ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:28 AM
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The last time a guy did this to me I jumped, screamed, and threw my (metal, I never can make a plastic one survive more than a week lol) clipboard at his car. Some kid across the street caught the whole thing on video. The cop that responded just laughed at him when he tried to make me pay for his cracked windshield, and said that the dude was lucky he wasn't going to arrest him for reckless driving and endangering a pedestrian. I wish he would have. When I was younger and working in the family …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:25 AM
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Yep. But as another wise queen has said, 'let fools be fools'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:10 AM
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Right?! Best dick I ever got was plastic. Men can absolutely compete, they just don't want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:52 PM
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If you're ready, capable, and willing, go for it. While being a single mom will likely be hard, it won't be nearly as hard as being a mom while married to a nvm/lvm. Also, the only male influences you should allow in your child's life should be high value. Any that aren't should be immediately removed, and used as teaching opportunities on what not to do/be. So then you are truly making the best choice for yourself and your future child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:39 PM
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Terrifying, sick, disgusting, and utterly insane. And men have the gall to shout at us that we're overreacting and NoT aLl MeN when we see shit like this every day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:36 PM
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I don't know about you ladies, but I would rather rub lye crystals in my eyes than read another idiot scrote's half-assed and uninformed opinion of us. They never read more than the surface scratch and base their entire belief system about us off that. They're like 🤏 close to actually figuring us out, but don't have the mental capacity (or empathy) to actually make that leap. This whole sub is how to weed out the bad and only give our energy the good. That includes, but isn't limited to, men. Mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:26 PM
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Men's rooms are always absolutely disgusting. I've had the misfortune of using them in emergencies ( 6 year old neice had to go, there was a long line for the women's and it was single restrooms with lockable doors not partitions so I thought it would be okay). Oh boy, the second we stepped in the smell of urine was an assault. I ended up holding her hands so she could hover and we waited to wash our hands in the ladies room because we did not want to touch anything. Yet the ladies rooms are so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:29 PM
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Or period lack of .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:23 PM
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They made her a villian on purpose. Much like Cruella Deville and Meryl Streep's character from The Devil Wears Prada.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:31 PM
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And the wineglasses?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:11 PM
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This is no conspiracy theory. It's absolutely the truth. And OLD makes it just too easy for them to 'spray and pray' in order to not put in any effort. There's always a girl they're willing to settle for that's willing to settle for them. No, it's probably not the girl they want, but they would rather complain and misbehave than put in any effort whatsoever. None of this will change until women collectively leave the apps and demand better treatment. Until then, HVM will be as 🦄 and best found o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:46 PM
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19 years? Yikes! Congrats on seeing that so early and for having the strength to get out. Squash the inner pickme. She has good intentions but will net you nothing but pain and suffering in return. Time to become the queen you were always meant to be. We're here for you and we're all cheering for you darlin!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:49 PM
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Yet 'WoMeN aRe GoLdIgGeRs' It's all projection. Every last shitty smelly bit of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:40 PM
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You know it! We've all been there, otherwise we wouldn't be here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:12 PM
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Yes I know it's all about avoiding any kind of responsibility for their actions or self reflection on how they aren't quite as much of a victim as they like to think. 🙄 I just can't fathom how anyone this lazy and ignorant can live with themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:53 PM
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I hate any argument that compares us to animals as an argument to excuse their bad behavior. Why would anyone be so proud of their lack of self-awareness, control, intelligence, etc? Ugh. All that argument says to me is I'm less evolved than whatever creature I'm using as an example. And I'm not having it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:25 PM
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Not a stretch at all. I imagine my health will proffer similar results when I get to that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:00 PM
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Block and delete. This scrote is not worth wasting any more time or energy on. He called you a bitch. That alone should be enough for you to be done with him. It doesn't matter that he's an addict. He needs to sort that shit out. You can't, and shouldn't, do it for him. ETA; Longterm friendship or not, he's obviously still just trying to keep you in rotation for possible future sex/support, even if you know that isn't going to happen and you've told him, he sees your resistance to cutting him ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:38 PM
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Petition to add 'the ick' to the handbook. It can apply to so many more situations. Such as that first date when he goes on a rant about the age of consent and you just want to put distance between you and that toxic waste .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:34 PM
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I dream of this. In another year or so my side hustle should be making enough money that I can quit my day job (construction office, I'm surrounded by nvm/lvm and usually the only woman there) and just do my side hustle from home. My interaction with the general public and men in general, discounting the men in my family, will drop to almost zero. I can't wait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:57 PM
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I'm hearing a slightly different version of this song .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:53 PM
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God, what is with the cheaters and poly men? Oh, and 'ethically non-monogamous' is an oxymoron .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:24 PM
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Back when I was on bumble, I got 50+ matches in the first 15 minutes before I figured out how to set my preferences. Once I got my dealbreakers set, it was crickets. I like that they aren't displayed if they don't meet your basic requirements (for me it was 6'+, non-smoker, and doesn't want kids - really don't think that's asking for the moon 🤷🏼‍♀️), but I hate that NONE of the men within 50 miles of me could meet them lol. I have much better luck in person, but I'm also oblivious because I'm so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:22 PM
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Same. I refuse to date men shorter than me because they (WITHOUT EXCEPTION) have tried to make the fact that I'm so tall my issue when I could care less. The very definition of insanity is to repeat actions expecting a different outcome, now I refuse to date any guy shorter than 6'3". The napoleons/faarquads have ruined it for all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:09 PM
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Oh I knew he had to be a shortie, simply from the use of that name. I say ok napoleon when they get pissy about me refusing to baby them when they're short and have a bad attitude about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:01 PM
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Congrats on seeing through the bullshit and asserting your boundaries. It's always a ploy to see if they can trick you back into giving them whatever they are now not getting from a different woman. Sex, emotional labor, physical labor, money .... it's never because they changed or they want closure. That's why block and delete is soooooo important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:49 PM
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Lord Faarquad 🤣 ☠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:46 PM
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And once again, it's women's responsibility to carry these nvm/lvm. /s They can't be bothered to make an effort, so you shouldn't be bothered to reciprocate in any way. Not your time, not your energy, and certainly not your money. My mother told me when I was a teenager that the life I wanted was on the other side of all that stuff I didn't want to do (college). She was absolutely right. Life is effort. You can either do it or you can rot. Let these men rot and put that energy to better use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:22 PM
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Was looking for this. Probably the healthiest relationship she had. I always hoped she would end up with him, he saw her for who she was and loved it. Then she had to go and settle for the lvm. Of course 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:03 PM
4

I get that a lot. I was a painter to put myself through college, and when guys find out they always ask. I tell them my rate per hour plus materials (it's always a bit higher than market rate) It has always stopped that shit in its tracks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:31 PM
24

Your gut is telling you what's what here. You find it weird and creepy, there is no reason to second guess. Time to block and delete. I know it seems like a less harmless kink or fetish, but in the end all fetishes and kinks are based in a morality that is okay with being very deviant and even reveling in it. Seems too short a leap to make to zoophilia and possibly even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:43 PM
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Lol that was the image I got too. DIE MAD has become my somewhat classier replacement for the traditional 'fuck you'. Ya know, since I don't want to be cruel and give some poor scrote the impossible hope of being fucked in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:31 PM
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1) Love your disclaimer. 2) Most 'great men' have neglected or outright abused another on their way to 'greatness'. Just like the men who used a woman's lack of rights and labor to enable them to spend all their time and energy on attaining their 'greatness' or outright stole a woman's work because she had little or no ability to fight him on it. Yes they accomplished something. No they aren't good people because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:10 PM
42

Oh, well that would explain it. I have watched approximately 30 secs of any Kardashian show, and that was more than enough to realize I wasn't interested in it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:53 PM
68

It's the body of a man who does the absolute bare minimum but expects a perfect woman to fall all over him. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:46 PM
98

Maybe I'm out of the loop, I don't know who that is. Even if he was just a normal guy on the street I would avoid him because of the hat and sagging shorts .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:05 PM
86

“enjoy being single/alone”. Don't threaten me with a good time ..... 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:17 PM
54

Words are worthless. Never trust a man's word until he's proven he keeps it, consistently and always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:18 PM
206

Can we report it? I'm not going to visit because 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:08 PM
51

Yep. Even in progressive states if a woman wants to get her tubes tied (I went through that) or have a hysterectomy for anything less than immediate life threatening conditions she has to jump through a bunch of bullshit hoops and can still get denied by the provider. I went through 6 doctors before I found one that was willing to perform the surgery, and I still had to get my (ex)husband on board because I had not had any kids and I was only 25. Didn't matter that I had medical issues that woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:50 PM
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And if any HVM is there for whatever reason he won't be for very long. He'll either get snatched up immediately or realize how awful it is and delete his profile. Either way the odds are too low to waste your time on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:49 PM
4

When this happens I just leave. When they get pissy and ask why, I say 'You're a pedophile and I want nothing more to do with you' and walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:55 PM
3

Hey, I'm up for reviving such traditions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:11 PM
12

They get it from squinting at video games for too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:20 PM
8

My ex husband was gleeful when he made me uncomfortable. I learned to grey rock him early on in the relationship because if he saw that something embarrased me or made me uncomfortable he would double down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:08 PM
21

So evocative. I love this. You write beautifully OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:06 PM
14

As a born and raised southern woman you'd be amazed at how many men I've come across think that I'm automatically a tradwife type because of this stereotype. Then it's always suprised pikachu face when I laugh at them and sarcastically ask if they make 7 figures so that I can stay home and be the 'tradwife'. Spoiler: they never want to. Can't have it both ways boys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:50 PM
8

So my mind can't wrap around this. Is his dick so tiny and thin that it fits in a nostril? Are her nostrils so cavernous that she could fit a normal sized dick? Is this just some weird new sex act I've missed because I haven't dated in so long? Don't answer, I'd prefer to keep my innocence. I just thought it was funny that after the WTF?! that's where my mind went .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:47 PM
46

Also, nothing bugs a scrote worse than when he's invisible to a woman. They CRAVE some sort of reaction (i.e. validation). My dad used to tell me that the reason boys are often mean to girls in grade school is that any reaction is good, whether positive or negative. It's when they can't get under your skin that they start to freak out and meanwhile, you're putting whatever energy you would have used to argue with them or try and make them see your side to much better use. In the end, they just d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:41 AM
3

His name is MauMau, he's an oriental shorthair though. He kind of sounds like the 'whiskey' version of their voice lol. Definitely chatty and opinionated, loudest when he wants food or I'm trimming his claws. It's hilarious because I can hold a conversation with him. I swear he understands me. My family refers to him as my familiar, and my vet loves him because he's such a sweetheart and so very intelligent. He's also 'handsy' and I've only ever seen raccoons use their paws in such a manner. I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:27 PM
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No, don't cultivate that attitude. It's best to figure them out as early on as possible and not put yourself at risk. You're already their worst nightmare by not allowing them to take advantage of you, and by attempting to 'teach them a lesson' or be their worst nightmare you've still allowed them to take up your headspace in a negative way. Just block, delete, and move on. Not being able to push your buttons in any way will drive them even more nuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:48 PM
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Honestly, the 'ask and let him spill' tactic works for more than just finding out about his porn habit. Keep your expression neutral but interested, answer any questions put to you with as little info as possible, and just let them hang themselves. It will drive them nuts when you don't gush, and they will continue to dig the hole deeper looking to get a reaction out of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:47 PM
47

diggle your piggle 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:16 PM
3

Or you can toilet train a cat too. It's the best thing I ever did with Mau.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:04 PM
21

My Mau likes to sit on my face and yowl if my alarm clock rings and I don't get out of bed. He has a very unique voice so it's effective lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:02 PM
1

Pepper spray would be effective. Imagine getting that on sensitive genital skin ...... 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:26 PM
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You will not find a HVM online. Mythical needle in a haystack, and even a magnet won't help you out. I firmly believe that dating apps have contributed largely to the rise of liberal feminism and the subsequent decline of male behavior. Dating apps make it just too easy for them to be assholes and waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:43 PM
9

An apology without changed behavior is worth nothing. This. Never trust a man's word until he's proven he keeps it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:15 PM
27

Hope the address you gave him to send the shoes was not your home address! Men that pull this shit will always escalate when you don't respond favorably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:57 PM
21

What's funniest about these men to me is that when I was a teenager and worked in a vet clinic (my cousin owns one) the tiny dogs were the ones we always muzzled. It was so rare for a med-normal sized dog to need one, but the tiny dogs were always sooo aggressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:48 AM
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When a guy says this I immediately think 'oh, who says you can keep up with me?!' and next him. Most of them can't, all of them are saying this to skew their so-common-it's-trope lvm/nvm traits to seem more interesting, more important, more unique, or more driven than they really are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:14 PM
3

I could absolutely make this happen like, TODAY. I'm at work and all the men I work with seem to be in a mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:28 PM
2

I do more vetting than they did before an applicant can even submit the application ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:23 PM
2

I would love a code please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:22 PM
2

A lot of barns will let you trade work for lessons. That's how I started in dressage when I was a kid (I was raised on rodeo horses). Also, some universities have equestrian programs you could participate in, or large animal rescues that are looking for help. Might not be able to ride with a rescue but you'll learn a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:00 PM
2

Find a stable in your area that gives lessons 😁 horses are a special kind of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:32 PM
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I have used this voice at work, in the round pen, and with children. Its quite effective. It also helps when your body language helps back up the command (from working with horses). These days I treat men like I do a particularly unruly colt. I boss them around until they realize who's alpha mare and submit. Doesn't hurt that I'm taller than the majority of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:54 AM
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Hornet spray can be just as effective as a good bear strength pepper spray. 10'-15' range and as painfully affecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:45 AM
2

Where I hail from we never spoke that way. We definitely have a manner of speaking different from the rest of the country, but the only time I've ever heard people speaking like that is when they're poking fun at the southern accent. Young or old, educated or not. That being said, the further away from the bigger cities you get the thicker the accents will get. Especially where I live right now, between the military base and proximity to Nashville, you can always tell who's from here and who isn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:43 AM
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Hornet spray would come in pretty handy there ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:38 AM
44

Ugh, yes. They reach, I panic and move away (because a guy touching me without my permission is a trigger) and then they get all hurt and defensive about it. It's an act to cover up that they got caught. I hate coed gyms for this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:54 PM
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This is why I quit going to gyms period. The unabashed staring, and the dudes that use ' being helpful' as an excuse to touch me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:37 PM
12

I have never, in my life, heard a southern woman use 'I do declare'. In fact, I think the only time I've ever heard it spoken was Yosemite Sam ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:34 PM
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Born and raised in the south. That accent is fake as hell. My accent gets pretty damn thick when I'm tired or tipsy. I still don't sound like that 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:31 PM
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The thing is, you're not really missing out. Do you buy a lottery ticket every day thinking you're missing out on that 302.5 million odd of winning the jackpot? Nope. Your time and energy is much better spent elsewhere, plus your odds are way better too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:30 PM
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Back when I was trying the apps, I had multiple guys tell me they upgraded just to say hi to me. I'm not saying I believed them, but just goes to show if he wanted to he would. Rudeness is an instant nope for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:13 PM
9

Any man that gets violent, small or large acts, is either using it to intimidate or barely controlling his urge to inflict violence. Either scenario is an immediate nope for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:11 PM
2

Oh, was it the boy on the bike scene?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:56 PM
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YES. My mom taught me this when I was 18. We were at a steakhouse, this cute dude kept looking at me from across the way. I remember her saying 'just catch his eye, smile, and hold it a few seconds'. WITHIN 30 SECONDS he was at the table saying hi. Any man that complains that women aren't aggressive enough, aren't 'shooting their shot' either is completely oblivious or wants his risky, NSA, responsibility-less pussy delivered to him on a silver platter. Both should be nexted. ETA; also, pretty s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:53 PM
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No, they need free, NSA, zero-responsibility sex. So no prostitutes and none of their friends, because then they'd either have to pay up or ruin their relationship with their friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:42 PM
11

This is one of the big reasons most music I listen to is instrumental. What media/music/art you consume is your choice, and I choose to stay far away from most media in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:19 PM
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I am sure someone will be able to say this far more eloquently than I do here. I think it might be best to draw a hard boundary with them about this. Tell them exactly what you said above, that you don't feel they have your best interests at heart, that a marriage/relationship is more than just a breathing legal man, and so they need to stop or you will cut contact entirely. You will have to mean it, and prepare yourself for the likelihood that you will have to follow through with your threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:47 PM
20

I've tried that and it rarely works for me. Most of the time they will just put themselves in my way so that I have to acknowledge them. I once had some dude I got stuck beside on a plane pull the headphones off my head even after I said 'no thank you, I want to read my book'. I got him kicked off the flight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:42 PM
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Yep. I have zero mercy for men and consider it fair game to do all I can to figure out what lie they're telling from the get-go. Doesn't help that I can just see when they're bullshitting me because I know this stuff. I mean, if a guy with a bathroom mirror selfie barely has thigh showing above the counter and he tells me he's 6' or over I instantly know he's full of shit. No camera angle is gonna hide that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:52 PM
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Hey, I work in construction and have for most of my life. Might as well use those skills in other areas of my life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:21 PM
3

Absolutely. I still have anxiety but it only centers around men and dating relationships (one of the many reasons I abstain). But one I dropped my nvm ex, my depression was gone. I was excited about being alive again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:19 PM
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Also, look at their surroundings. Furniture measurements, counters, heck even door knobs and chair rails all have standard installation heights that can be used to see if they "measure up" (pun absolutely intended) I one time counted the bricks in the wall behind this dude to find out he was about 4" shorter than he put in his bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:16 PM
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Life will be so much better on the other side. Once he's out you can breath a sigh of relief and live in peace again. You've already got the hard part dealt with!🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:28 PM
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Their brains, their hearts, their very souls are empty. I feel like men like this are created by Evil to try and keep women from becoming the vibrant, powerful beings they're meant to be. They can't be fixed. You just have to learn to recognize and avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:26 AM
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Even if pets aren't an option, houseplants! They're great listeners, they contribute oxygen and pull CO2 out of your air, and I believe that plants give off a positive natural energy that is healing to the mind, body, and soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:58 PM
7

I just have this mental image of pulling some little corked glass bottle of glitter out of my pocket, pouring into my hand, saying 'begone scrote' and then blowing it onto him. POOF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:50 PM
6

Please do. I've used the phrase "Links or it didn't happen"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:45 PM
7

So glitter is not only awesome but a good scrote deterrent? \makes a mental note to start carrying a bottle of glitter everywhere.*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:43 PM
13

It's easier to play along and try to think that you're somehow beating the game than face the reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:51 PM
15

No such thing as bad publicity when you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:00 PM
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Willfully incompetent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:58 PM
20

Quality > Quantity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:56 PM
23

We gained like 200 new subs overnight. If anything, I'll say the silver lining is free publicity and an influx of new members ready to help change the world. Net positive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:53 PM
7

Hold your nose and venture into any of the male-centric “dating” subs on this website OMG, that is exactly how I see those subs. We all know which ones (all of them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:50 PM
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I mean, with the existence of sperm banks and the rising number of women choosing to go that route I think unless men straighten up that will be the norm in a few decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:30 PM
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As well as if any govt with a naval presence decided they wanted to, they would just blockade us and starve us into submission, or bomb us with escape paths blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:27 PM
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This is why every woman should have weapons and be well trained to use them. Some kind of martial arts training should be considered necessary as well. Most importantly, we would teach every resident how to be an unattractive target. The men that wish to pull such crap are looking for easy targets. They don't want to deal with a woman who makes them put in more than the minimal effort. I mean, a saturday or sunday afternoon spent at the range practicing whatever self-defense is preferred with a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:20 PM
24

The killbots are live and you're not on the whitelist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:59 PM
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When they start doing this, I start doing it back. It's hilarious to watch them realize you're pulling the same shit. Pizza or tacos? Would you prefer a skinny woman who doesn't shave at all or a chubby one who does? Would you prefer to be deepthroated by a massive dick or pegged by one? You HAVE to choose! Edited because apparently autocorrect doesn't like the word dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:52 PM
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I'm in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:30 PM
7

Very true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:14 PM
26

Shouldn't matter. Still bad journalism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:54 PM
2

most of male dating problems are self-inflicted mixed in with lack of self-aware AMEN.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 06:55 PM
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Me either. Even with tape tricks or shadow shields they end up looking weird. I've given up entirely. So jealous of ladies that can make them look good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:44 PM
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I can only imagine how mad they get lol. One day I'd love to see stats on just how many downvotes there are to all the upvotes, and the percentage of those that are members or not. I like to think that even though there are scrotes out there attacking everything we say en masse, FDS ladies still manage to come out on the positive side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:41 PM
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What else would you expect from a publication titled after an entire specially tasked police force? I mean, the word alone should imply a negative connotation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:19 PM
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This whole 'article' reeks of 'but what about the poor men who can't continue to be human garbage now that women are wiseing up?! Don't be smart, see how bad smart women are it's horrible!!' And I think my eyes are gonna roll right out of my head 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:16 PM
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there’s nothing but horny, unemployed, and unruly men loitering the apps Yep. Quite frankly, this was the case before covid as well. OLD is just a cesspit of the lowest value men who rely on the quantity approach. I think most men cycle through the apps in a rotation. Most women stick with one, so they don't discover that the men that are active always have multiple possibilities ready to go on another app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:06 PM
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modern men are also confused, undermined and suffering emotionally.” Well duh. Their entire mental health has revolved around their bad behavior being excused because they're men, or on being able to find some poor woman to act as their therapist. I also noticed they gave a way more word space and details to the ex-FDS quote than the extremely generalized and taken out-of-context bits from the FDS adherents. Bad journalism, all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:00 PM
1

My dad does this too. He gets flustered and will sit there sulking. It's kinda hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:34 PM
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My oriental shorthair greets me at the door with his characteristic enthusiastic 'MAUUUUUUUUUU' and will not let me pass until he gets ear scritches. He's old and grumpy, but the biggest snugglebug and such a lover. He likes to lay across the back of my computer chair while I'm working and will reach a paw down to check that I'm still there when he's asleep. I've never had a cat that was such a people person before, and I love him to death. He picked me so I guess he knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:16 PM
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If I ever get the urge to do OLD again this is what I'm putting in my bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:10 PM
5

Nope not baking lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:25 AM
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I invested in a side hustle that has netted me an extra $7400 USD in the last 30 days, about 50k total so far after startup expenses were factored in. It just keeps growing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:22 AM
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I'm of the opinion that any relationship where there is constant strife should not be a relationship. Period. It's not healthy for any of the involved parties. My parents have been together for 35 years. In my entire childhood, I can only recall 2 actual fights they had. I lived at home until I went to college at 16. They argued, but it was always civil, respectful, and they would make sure we kids knew it was just an argument and that they still loved us and each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:53 PM
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historically, I’ve been way more depleted than completed in relationships Amen sister. Which is why I haven't dated for 2 years and won't be dating for the foreseeable future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:13 PM
2

same, banned even though I can't remember ever commenting there. Frankly I don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:11 PM
4

Never teach a man how to treat you. Demand respectful treatment from the beginning or drop his loser ass. If he's worthy he will respect your boundaries and treat you with respect. If he's unworthy he will whine, complain, coerce, threaten, and cajole until you shove your foot up his ass kicking him to the curb. Protect yourself by NEVER allowing any disrespect of any kind. When you give an inch, they will try to take a mile. Never give any man the benefit of the doubt, and never teach him anyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:45 PM
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OMG the whining is the worst. When that starts it kills any and all attraction I had for him lol. Definitely time to dump them and move on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:03 AM
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Depends on the moves. I mean, we all know for men the goal is sex. Very few are motivated by other concerns and even then it's still one of their top 3 motivations in any relationship. I will give them a bit of my time (and even then I limit it) and pleasant company but that's it until we both agree to be exclusive and get tested. I usually let them bring it up first, or if they don't then I move on. Some will try to bypass this by suggesting exclusivity way too soon. Big red flag. The fairly in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:16 AM
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That is super personal and will vary with each person or situation. For me, it depends on how comfortable they make me. If they consistently show me respect even when I refuse them I'm more likely to allow physical intimacy sooner. If they get pushy or have attitude about it then I'm done. My boundaries are non-negotiable, and any man who can't respect that doesn't deserve my time and energy. Also, my gut always tells me what's up. Even when I can't put my finger on why, I listen to that feeling…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:05 AM
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It's been a while since I dated, and I always had the 3 months rule before we did anything more sexual than a hug, hand holding, or a bit of kissing. For him to see me naked and vulnerable, well most men don't even make it that far. Last relationship I had that lasted more than a few dates it took 8 months before I let him get my pants off, and he still didn't get my undies off or his dick anywhere near wet for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:22 PM
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And on today's episode of men are trash .... "Oh I don't like her as a person but she's hot and the sex is great so how do I keep getting it without staying in the relationship?" Hope this woman laughs at him then leaves him when he pulls this shit on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:34 PM
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I deleted everything from mine because my abusive nv-ex was using it to stalk me and then harass me. So now I don't have any social media that can be traced back to me. Honestly, life is better without it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:38 PM
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CEO at 'Nunya' 'School of hard knocks' here means 'I piss away every paycheck I get, make terrible life decisions, and have zero motivation to do anymore than the minimum required to survive' Oh hell nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:01 PM
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LinkedIn is usually one of the first places I check, but I don't have one to be stalked on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:58 PM
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Same. I got a banned message yesterday. Haven't visited that sub in months lol. I removed it from my feed because it was just so awful. I figured it was because I am here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:57 PM
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Nope. We ain't got the time for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:43 PM
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We had PCS'ed to a new base, and I stayed behind for a couple months to sell the house (coincidentally living apart was always the best months of my marriage ...) Got to the new location, started meeting his unit. One guy told me after a few weeks 'you're nothing like I thought you'd be. He [the nvm-ex] made us think you were a cruel bitch but you're really nice.' Made me realize that the problem might not be me, but the ex. Also, this is the same guy that told me the ex was cheating on me with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:40 AM
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I always hated that. It's so obvious its abusive and toxic relationship to her, and he just laps it up while she suffers. I always thought the Joker was disgusting and an asshole of the highest order. I HATE that people still romanticize it, and any guy who waxes poetic about the Joker & Harley's relationship I light into with a vengeance. It really clicked why I found the Jared Leto portrayal of the Joker so off-putting when I found a pic buried in an old phone of my abusive nvm-ex, and the cre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:10 PM
12

Oh god, I once came across a dude who called himself a 'viking shaman'. He looked exactly like you would think he looked. Shirtless and flabby gut, barely any definition in the arms, viking-esque tattoos everywhere and long greasy hair that looked like he might wash it only when his braids got so greasy they fell out. Totally gross. He super-liked me. All I could do was gag and then laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:33 PM
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'Repaid me with utter deceit' Well what the fuck do you think GETTING ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT WHILE YOU WERE MARRIED WAS TO HER? I have zero sympathy for this idot. He's an abuser with a holier than thou complex and deserves every bad thing coming to him, including that well deserved slap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:58 PM
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Almost everything Bear McCreary does is great. Especially the long version with the Cylon intro? That screaming guitar raises the hair on my neck every time I hear it. I also like the Rachel Hawnt cover of Queen - Show Must Go On almost better than the original.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:41 AM
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Well, I am a huge geek (not a gamer) so my preferences run to the odd at times. Music - Two Steps from Hell - Epic music in general. Specific songs I'd recommend are Skyworld, United We Stand/Divided We Fall, and Chase the Light (that one is my current alarm clock). I also love the Battlestar Galactica soundtrack. The bear McCreary version of All Along the Watchtower is imho the best cover of that song ever. The London Philharmonic version of the Mass Effect 3 score Suicide Mission is beautiful …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:28 PM
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I haven't listened to the radio or watched TV in 15 years. I have never listened to a single song by most of the 'popular' artists in media right now. I curate my own content and I am much happier that way. When someone forces me to listen to their brand of 'good' music or TV I am usually very disappointed. I don't like TV or movies for a lot of the reasons you outlined. When a something gets raved about by the general populace, I just know I'm not going to enjoy it. There are very few exception…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:38 PM
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Sounds like they're trying to see if you're one of those that lets her leg hair grow when she gets comfortable or still shaves regularly. Any guy that says body hair is unhygienic I immediately say 'then why do you still have it? Ew you must stink to high heaven!' Most of the time they're too dumbfounded to come up with a nasty reply. ETA Also, time to block them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:30 AM
2

It's even worse around here. Some of the best crappie, bass, and catfish fishing, turkey, duck, whitetail, and coon hunting is in my hometown, so any OLD site consists of all the I WILL FEED MYSELF BY KILLING CREATURES WITH MY OWN TWO HANDS crowd. I mean, I hunt and fish, but it's a 'my freezer is empty and the kroger shelves are bare' thing. I do not understand this obsession with trophy hunting and fishing. Only good thing that comes out of it are the duck poppers one of my coworkers makes and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:05 AM
1

Yep. My dad grew up with the manager of the local one, and he's always asking if he can hire me because none of his employees know shit, nor do they care to learn. They're just there for the paycheck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:34 PM
6

Same. It's like when I refuse to acknowledge them they follow me and wait for a chance to jump me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:55 PM
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OMG. I'm crying. This is hilarious. But I can tell it was written by a woman. Punctuation exists ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:53 PM
3

YES. Heck yes. GIVE ME A SIMP. Only kind of man I will date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:46 PM
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SHOP ONLINE. I know you can't do this for everything, but you can avoid a lot of this by shopping online and doing pickup or delivery. Also, google sketchup is free (download the 2017 version before they made it cloud based and annoying) which can help you build and visualize your project, then you can print out cut lists and make a better materials list. My dream house is currently built in sketchup and I love being able to futz around with it. I get this too. I've worked in construction my ent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:59 PM
1

Hey stop hating on baby coons gals, that's the highest value nd cutest creature in the pic. I had a pet racoon when I was little. My Labrador found a nest of them, and since he was a trained retriever he brought me one of the babies. The little thing was fine but covered in dog drool so I knew there was no way his momma would take him back. I raised him and reintroduced him. He was freaking adorable and an incredible pickpocket kleptomaniac. He would perch on people shoulders and play with their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:58 AM
2

That is one of the reasons I could never live in europe. No weapons, no stand your ground laws, and no ability to find those skeletons men try to keep hidden. I don't know how any of you ladies sleep over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:03 PM
1

Great danes are sweethearts, but big-scary enough to scare off most shady characters. I would walk my 2 great danes and people would jaywalk across the street to avoid them, even though tails were wagging and they were obviously well trained. They were absolute sweethearts, but if someone showed up to my door unannounced they would act like they were going to take that person's head off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:21 PM
3

Find a self defense group. Train to react under stress and redirect your instincts. It could save your life, and it's great exercise and a confidence builder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:18 PM
1

Find someone in your area who reloads or a group that reloads. Gun clubs and forums are a good place to start, look for ones with women if possible (there will usually be more men than women but if the club has women that are active it's worth a try). Reloaded ammo will be more expensive, but harder to track and more available when shortages & legislation make it difficult to obtain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:16 PM
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You are not paranoid, you are smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:11 PM
2

AND THROUGH A CLOSED FENCE GATE. No excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:11 PM
3

A retired USMC Pathfinder is who trained me to use a pistol under stress. You're in good hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:10 PM
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Which is why we're using the 'official' excuse of his restrictions to deny him the job, which is fair. I don't know if the employee friend knows the full gory extent of the crime. He's not the type to go look it up, and we've already seen that the felon is willing to lie about it. But that's one of the reasons I carry my pistol even at the office, there have been situations where we've fired someone and he's made some threats and needed to be escorted from the premises. One good thing about my l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:03 PM
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This is why I posted this and felt it was important that ladies realize it doesn't have to be someone you're dating. It could be the guy down the hall in your apartment complex, the janitor at your workplace, or even the guy that always tries to be helpful at the gym. Forewarned is forearmed. Like the bull in the pasture, once you realize just how dangerous it is to turn your back to him you won't ever make that mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:51 PM
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I agree. There are certain crimes that I feel the death penalty is justified, and that the safest method to move forward is to remove those that commit such horrifying acts from society permanently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:30 PM
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We are commercial only, so no working in people's homes. He would not be allowed to perform work in a school or hospital, and I know 3 of our GC's that would refuse to allow him on the jobsite at all. That being said you're right. In the residential sector, things aren't nearly as controlled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:52 PM
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Very true. We do regularly hire felons, but again, there is a line to be drawn. That's why the owner likes to conduct all interviews himself so that he can decide if they are 'reformed' or not worth the trouble. For me, any violent crime is an instant no - no matter what it was. The owner has yet to disagree with me. The 'official' excuse we're using to deny this man employment is that he would have too many restrictions on his ability to perform the work. He cannot leave the state, he cannot wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:41 AM
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Oh, there was absolutely a reason for the violent classification to be added. That poor girl went through a lot more than just the rape and sodomy. At the time it happened it was considered the most heinous crime that had ever been committed in that county, and it was amazing she survived it. I lost my appetite reading the court docs, and I'm always hungry. I would absolutely be willing to assist with a guide, but I feel it would be much better as a group effort. I am by no means an expert on th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:12 AM
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Oh I'm sure he spent all 30 years in prison convincing himself that he did nothing wrong and he was just being kind to a pretty young girl 🤢🤮 Having dealt with some seriously evil people in my life it's amazing how they are able to compartmentalize and change their inner narrative to justify their actions and appear as 'not such a bad person' even if only to themselves. It's disgusting, depraved, and utterly insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:39 AM
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I am very lucky to work for some truly wonderful people. I'm part of the admin team and when we're confronted with situations where there's gray area or ambiguity I often hear stuff like 'what is the right thing to do here?' from one or more of the team. That alone makes the other BS that happens on a daily basis (like my auburn haired asshole lvm nemesis) worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:33 AM
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I'm lucky to live in a castle doctrine state. Here, if someone is trespassing in your home or vehicle you are within your rights to shoot them. I go for gut shots. Easier target, excruciatingly painful, slow, and they have a chance of surviving if they don't lose too much blood so it can't be called unnecessary force by the responding officers. So, yell out 'STOP OR I'LL SHOOT' while taking aim and then if they take one more step pull the trigger. I am absolutely not above crying my eyes out in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:52 AM
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Glad to be of service 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:57 PM
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I have a 'strangle pillow' body pillow. I find that I sleep better on my side when my back is aligned, and throwing a leg over that at night helps keep my bad hip from seizing up and getting sore. I call it my strangle pillow because I usually wake up with it in a full nelson...... It's grey. Not because I like grey men, but because IT MATCHES MY COLOR SCHEME. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:31 PM
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YES. Train yourself how to use it under lots of situations, and especially in stressful ones. A gun will do you no good if you can't get the safety off in time to use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:53 PM
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OMG, I would have been reaching for my pistol and screaming loud enough to shatter glass. WTF thinks he can just intrude into someone's home like that?! Good grief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:46 PM
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In every domesticated species I can think of, an intact male is considered more dangerous and more difficult to work with. I ride horses. I own both a gelding (castrated male) and a stallion (intact male). I do not own any mares yet because I'm not willing to risk any accidental pregnancies, so my stallion has not been bred yet (friesian, we're responsible with our breeding programs and they usually need to prove themselves through performance before we start breeding them). My gelding is an enj…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:55 PM
7

Instant pots are great for ribs, baked potatoes, soups, anything really. I've even used mine for cooking down fruit compotes for jams, but I mostly use it for making large batches of bone broth and other meal prep stuff. My air fryer gets more daily use. Both I love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:31 AM
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I make 'healthy' fried chicken and potatoes in it since it crisps it all perfectly without actually using oil. I love my air fryer, and my instant pot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:40 AM
12

Yes! King size here, I'm tall and need the extra couple inches of length a king size offers over a Cali king. My bed is a wondrous cloud of comfort cotton, and down, and I can sleep starfished in the center without having to deal with someone else taking up the room. The one man that's slept in my current bed (my oldest nephew, he house sits for me while I'm traveling - I have yet to bring any man I date home) always remarks at how comfortable my bed is. He's in college and while he has cleanlin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:36 AM
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The biggest part of my desire for the new is that misogyny is so ubiquitous that no matter what, we could never truly remove it. So yeah, I agree that a do-over is the best chance. Sometimes you have to throw the whole mess out and start from scratch. Not to mention, space exploration!!! Also, for the person (likely a male lurker) who was concerned and sent the 'here to help you through something painful' mod after me, roflmao. Thanks 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:03 PM
13

I like the idea of finding a new planet to colonize our way 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:41 PM
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What the actual fuck. This person needs to go to jail. Immediately. There's written evidence. If men can use our texts to them to excuse a rape, then we can use this kind of thing to throw someone in jail for fraud and exploitation. I know this saying is so cliche, but I don't want to live on this planet anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:38 PM
6

I mean, why do they flip off the camera? Like, is that really what you want to put out there? But then I remember this is men we're talking about ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:15 PM
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Not to make light of this utter disgusting depravity, but over her dead body is the only chance this neckbeard would ever have had with a beauty like her. Men like this should be swiftly removed from society with absolute prejudice. The most fitting end would be for him to experience what he did to her but alive and squealing like the disgusting porcine animal he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:01 PM
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I get this all the time. I'm just under 6 foot tall, very svelte, and men are always saying 'you're so beautiful, if only you weren't so tall' yet when I'm like 'I want a guy I can at least look in the eye' I'm a shallow bitch. No thank you sir. Go on with your idiot self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:48 PM
51

Seriously, he should be ashamed. This is how I talk to my 3 year old nephew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:39 PM
6

Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:48 PM
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Any man who was in a dom-sub relationship and enjoyed it is an instant fuck no for me. I don't care which role he played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:59 PM
6

7 here. Just because they commit doesn't mean they're worthy of your commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:16 PM
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Men used to understand that romance was part of the process, whether they enjoyed it or not it was one of the 'costs' of getting sex that was unavoidable. These days they just want to skip it altogether. Nope, and yes it's gross. Just go languish in your nasty man-nest with your porn and tissues and leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:51 PM
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They don't see women as humans, just reflections on them. That's why when they have daughters they panic, because THEY KNOW they aren't up to scratch, and their daughter's choices will show the world that. He's even going on about how big the fetus's dick is in the beginning 🙄 sir leave the sonogram reading to the professionals, you obviously don't know shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:41 PM
4

Put it into a few random scam sites. He'll be too busy with his phone to think about you then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:34 PM
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The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it. This part is absolutely right. Except that when a woman walks away, she's not going to be negotiating anymore. She's done, for good. Take that to heart ladies. It is your right to walk away from any deal that is bad for you, be it a car that you're not sold on, or a man that's trying to mistreat you. Walk away, and don't look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:25 PM
6

I won't watch a horror movie for any reason. Last time a guy tried to take me to one I walked out 10 mins into it. Too much negativity taking up my headspace, and I refuse to let myself become inured to pain and suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:36 AM
1

He looks like he belongs on that starship from Wall-E ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:29 AM
13

Not just an east coast phenom, 'car guys' are everywhere. I'm in the south, and here we have 'the pickup man'. He's spent $70k on an older body style pickup jacking it up to the point it can't even go offroad or pull a trailer, then complains he's broke and treats his truck better than he would his girlfriend. Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:53 PM
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This is kinda my dream life. I'm like one step away from wgtow. 'And the males, well they get to play outside FLING!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:12 PM
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For men to start using it all women would have to leave all the other apps en masse, which would take a lot of time and may never happen.There will also always be pickmes who will just go where the men go. The majority of men aren't looking to be vetted to the degree we wish for. They enjoy the anonymity and freedom to be assholes and abusers/users they get with the current dating apps, and the ability to keep starting over once one woman figures it out and dumps them or they get what they want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:42 PM
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It's one of the reasons I left fb for good, and I've very strictly vetted my few remaining social media accounts. I came across a pornographic gif that some friends of my (ex)husband were sharing back and forth as if it weren't a big deal. I reported it, nothing happened. So I was done. This was in 2012.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:25 PM
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I've actually had an idea to do something like this, or to create a game called 'red flag bingo' where we can play with caricatures of all the ridiculousness we've come across but I don't have the time! Not to mention it would likely get a lot of pushback for not being male friendly 🙄 or politically correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:19 PM
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Amen. That saying that guys have about women that goes along those lines? Bullshit. And they know it. Just another way to place their faults on women instead of owning them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:43 PM
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I usually have a tape measure handy, either in my bag, on my belt, or in my vehicle because I work in construction. Any man who tries this shit on me I offer to go get the tape and have a third party measure us both. That combined with the 'you're lying and I know it' stare usually shuts him up real damn fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:44 PM
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I work in construction so I get a lot of really sexist and inappropriate comments and consider them opportunities to put some lvm in their place. The blank stare until they get uncomfortable, then a very serious "Explain to me how that's funny" said in a deadly voice from a woman with the power to get them fired or kicked off the jobsite (which usually means fired by their employer afterwards), man they stammer and scatter like the roaches they are. I revel in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:40 PM
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Add the ability to automatically block users by keywords and this is my dream too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:18 PM
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As if he wouldn't turn around, pout, and demand degrading and abusive sex when his birthday rolled around ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:07 PM
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I'm sorry, I have none for you. Maybe someone else has a positive story? In basic training the goal of the drill sargeant is to break them. So that they can build them back up to serve the military needs. In fact, a few of the NCO's my ex used to hang out with would joke 'if the army wanted me to have a wife they would issue me one' and honestly, I believe it. As an ex-military wife, that life is HARD and the army does not try to make it any easier at all. I also believe it attracts those who ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:00 PM
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I feel like the army attracts sociopathic men. I was married to one for 7 years, and I grew up around one of the largest army bases in the US. I can safely say that throughout all the military branches, all the guys I've met/dated/known, I know 1 truly HVM who was air force only to get his college paid for. Uniforms are cute but they hide some serious scrotiness so beware ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:12 PM
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And on today's episode of men are trash .... ETA; NoT aLl MeN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:26 PM
2

Yes! Here and a few other select subs (catering to my interests) are all I pay attention to. Everywhere else I feel like my intellect is leaking out of my ears when I read it. Same with TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:54 PM
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Ugh. My NVX was military. His uniforms had 12 pockets each. He was always leaving sharpies and pens in them and blaming me for missing it when I checked his pockets. Never again. NTA as they say, it's his fault for trying to put the responsibility on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:19 AM
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It just sounds so dismissive (there's a better word but I'm too tired to think of it atm) of what he did. Like they're trying to make it seem like he's 'not such a bad guy this is just an unfortunate accident' and that really makes me see some red.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:59 AM
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When in another person's house I always clean up after myself. If it's my family or a good friend I'll help them clean but we both have to be working. When they quit or take a break I do the same. Exceptions are if they need the help, like just had surgery or a death/birth in the family and have bigger things to worry about. A man? Fuck no. If he fed me a decent meal that he cooked I will help with the clean up but I ain't touching anything else. So many men think that because I have OCD tendenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:35 PM
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It's a red flag to me too. Football (and basketball, and baseball ....) is really just a glorified game of fetch, and those that do it professionally usually have extreme narcissism at the least. Just nope. Not interested. ETA Does anyone else get a bid rabid at the 'alleged' in the title?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:01 PM
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I've actually sent pics of some project I've finished when they ask me what I'm up to (I always scrub the exif data and I never post pics that can doxx me on social media) and they immediately launch into a wow do that for me/make me one/some other iteration of "you have a lot of skills I can use for free". I always reply with Sure, here's my hourly rate for _____ and I can fit you in on this date. It shuts the conversation down immediately. I have never had a man agree to pay me for the work he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:29 PM
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Atheist and anti-porn here. I'm one of the women giving my extra coins to the anti-porn groups lol. The industry being fought ALWAYS is the Goliath, while the anti-whatever group is always the David. Men who pull this can go jump in a vat of shit, cause that's where they belong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:00 AM
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I haven't gotten to watch the vid all the way through yet, but I just couldn't resist allowing my disgust with the series out. The prince was the highest value male character in the entire story, and not because he was a prince. He treated her well, gave wonderful gifts, wanted a loving family, brought her along to a boxing match of all things (absolutely not a 'proper female pursuit' of the era they wish to portray), and then he bowed out gracefully when Daphne rejected his proposal. Truly high…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:26 PM
21

Ugh, this series irritated me so much. Between the historical inaccuracy, smutty style, and the horrible non-FDS content. I actually turned it off when Daphne refused the prince for the Duke. Done with that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:40 PM
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Mirrored sunglasses are what I carry, no matter the weather! No ability to see through them ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:04 AM
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After I was sure my NVX got served with divorce papers, I created an OLD profile. This was years ago pre-FDS and I had been told it was a great way to meet someone. Obviously I know better now. Welp, he found me. Because I blocked him on his real account, he created a separate one just to catfish me. But he still wasn't able to fake it for more than a few hours. I'm convinced that every man tries OLD, but only the worst of the worst stick with it because they're able to hide so much at first. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:44 PM
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HR exists to protect the company, not the employee. Never trust that they won't try to screw you over to cover their own asses. ETA OP should absolutely still take this as high as she can. I meant my comment to be more of a warning to make sure she covers her bases and expects general fuckery because they obviously do not have her interests (or even her safety) in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:06 PM
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Keep looking. I was 25 when I got my tubes tied but I went though 6 doctors before I found one who would take me seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:50 PM
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I'm very tall and while I like a nice girthy one, it's all about the foreplay and how he uses it. That being said, no man has ever given me an orgasm, regardless of size. It's all about how they use it, and since none of the men I've been with were interested in doing more than the bare minimum for me sex has been unremarkable regardless of size. I also get a lot of 'size kings' thinking that the second they mention they're above average I'll be itching to jump their bones. I do not understand i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:00 PM
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This is absolutely abusive. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture you know. If any of the men I deign to date snore, he's getting treated for it or he's sleeping at his own damn place until he does. I already have enough trouble getting quality sleep, and I am not going to let some man make it harder. Lack of sleep or poor sleep affects so much in a person's life .... hell no to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:44 PM
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Same. I prefer and I am definitely more attracted to taller guys, mostly because of the difference in way I've been treated by both. I've dated one short guy who didn't creep me out about how much taller I was than him (I'm 5' 11 7/8") and he still gave off serious little man syndrome vibes. The rest of them all either openly hated the fact that I was so much taller or they more subtly negged me and tried to use it against me. The highest value man I've ever known was 6' 9". Serious big dick ene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:41 PM
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I have been to hooters once in my life (back in college before I knew what it was) and never again. I can name 10 restaurants off the top of my head that make better wings. Any time a guy says he likes that place for the food, you can safely label him as a liar and a gaslighter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:18 PM
14

If you think $60 is a big deal to me then you don't deserve me ever ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:18 PM
3

This, but also look out for men using you for your familial connections. My male family members are pretty well known in my area as specialty contractors & master tradesmen. I stopped dating guys from my home county because they're never interested in me, they're just looking for an 'in'. I have a lot of stories about my dad teaching these young men some skills, helping them get an interview or job at a great workplace with benefits, and then they're gone. Others looked at me and saw hunting opp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:48 PM
6

A hairbrush. For Christmas. Not even a really nice paul frieda or whatever the snazzy brand is these days. This was a walmart brush. I don't even remember if he got me anything else, that christmas was so unremarkable. This was from my nvm ex-husband. On our first Christmas as a married couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:55 PM
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A duck dynasty beard is a huge turnoff to me. So far there have been no exceptions. Clean cut and well cared for is the way to go. There's one guy I've ever met who's beard actually makes him more attractive. I work with this dude and he regularly tells me he looks forward to the day I quit because he hates that I won't accept his half assed attempts at his job and I return his paperwork to him with red ink pen notes all over it. He's maybe 5' 8", overweight by about 50 lbs, covered in tattoos, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:40 PM
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Me either. I can barely sit through a movie lol, and I can only be on my computer for more than a couple hours if I'm using my sit/stand desk. Otherwise my back and hips start aching. I have no idea how anyone can do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:14 AM
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The only video games that I play anymore are the sims 3 (I love my rainbow unicorn family!) And sometimes I'll fire up Eve and pick a fight if I need to blow off some steam. Frankly, the most use my console gets is my nephews/nieces playing minecraft or Knack on it. I barely touch it anymore. Books are much better forms of escapism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:46 PM
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7 years with my (ex)husband and he decides he wants an open/poly relationship. Sends me this long sob story email (he was deployed at the time) ending with a list of 'demands' for him to be happy, and that if I truly loved him I would comply. His wording. When they make this decision they are showing you how little you truly mean to them. Consider it a blessing. Because as painful as it is now, it will be worse later when he's wasted even more of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:02 AM
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My best friend is Canadian. I visit him often. Canada is a beautiful place, and not just in the mountains or the usual touristy places. I do love to travel, but I always thought you should sweep your own doorstep before going somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:26 PM
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At this time no. The only moissanite ring I've bought myself was custom work from an etsy seller who retired a couple years ago and does not take commissions anymore. The most visible site is brilliant earth, but I've never bought from them so I cannot give a personal recommendation. They have some gorgeous designs and a 'ring builder' you can play with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:44 PM
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Interpreting what we read? You mean this gut feeling that's telling me to throw up all over your cheap ass knock off suit so the obvious predator you are will be disgusted and go away? Yeah, I'm allergic to bullshit. Can't help it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:53 PM
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Way back when I was on OLD I sometimes put up a pic of me at the range. It was a good candid pic of me analyzing my (admittedly tight 😁 ) groupings. Three of my pistols are visible lol. My dad is the one who took it, and always wanted me to use it. He said 'so they would know you're armed and a damn good shot'. I have no idea if it deterred some of the men looking for a vulnerable woman, but it was a great convo starter for some men. 'Oh I see you have a Springfield _____, how do you like it?' '…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:27 PM
14

I don't know what the deal is with tacos, but I see it freaking everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:28 AM
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I came across one guy who said he deliberately didn't put his real birthday in but it was within 6 months of the birthday he told me was his real one. He was also a cybersecurity professional so I didn't question it but I did keep a close eye on him after. He turned out to be a lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:02 AM
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'School of hard knocks' is southern US slang for 'I can't make a good life decision ever'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:00 AM
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No pics showing a face, but shirtless pics from the neck down centered on the you know what area, or ones where he's wearing pants but is grabbing it through them to 'showcase his size'. Pics where his house is obviously an outdated dump, filthy, or dark (I once saw one where the guy had hung a towel over a window ..... ) Any mention of 'looking for my queen' 'looking for my ride or die chick' or any other ridiculous trope designed to suggest loyalty and respect without reciprocation to a woman.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:54 AM
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Or Sam's club if you don't have a Costco near you. Also, not to crush anyone's dreams or hate on anyone who prefers real diamonds, but the acquisition of them is ..... problematic. Precious stone mining is largely unregulated, resulting in high rates of pollution and believe it or not, human rights violations such as forced labor and violence. I will only buy a diamond that can be verified as ethically obtained. If you want a sparkly white rock look into moissanite. They're lab created, more pri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:44 AM
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Is that what you'd like to hear? Scrote be telling on himself ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:32 AM
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Right? Except our porn is pretty innocent and wholesome. Throws the difference in our mindset and the mindset of our fans into pretty sharp relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:50 AM
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AND HE WAS DOING THE DISHES. Probably without being asked. This, right here, THIS is my freaking wet dream. Effort and trust? Sign me the fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:43 AM
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At least they get paid for it .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:27 PM
11

If pantone named a color 'red flag' this would be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:59 PM
18

What have men not tried to mansplain to me? Gah .. Historical costuming - this is probably the most hilarious one. I don't call myself an expert, but I've been sewing/wearing different era costumes for most of my life, as well as cataloguing and studying extant articles for our local museum for the last 20 years. I like for my personal garb to be as historically accurate as possible. This scrote butted into a convo I was having with another WOMAN on a discord sub-channel (I used to play EVE and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:51 PM
5

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:16 AM
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I would say add a couple folding saw horses, a square, a skilsaw or jigsaw, and a random orbital sander or mouse style palm sander and you're set for just about any small-med home project. I recommend ryobi brand, not too expensive and I've had some of my ryobi tools going on 15 years and they still get it done. For car repairs, add a socket set (find out if your vehicle uses metric or imperial before you buy), a DC emergency air pump that you can keep in your car, and some slime tire sealant wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:43 AM
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Or the plastic bull testicles hanging from the hitch mount .....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:21 AM
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The problem is now guys think its acceptable to copy them. Just Ew. I'm fine with beards. But they need to be well kept. Otherwise I might as well let my leg hair grow out because that's about the same 'aesthetic' imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:08 PM
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Ah. Well that makes me happier, but only marginally. Sorry, I don't normally watch TV. So I haven't bothered to know the backstory of anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:00 PM
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Good grief this is like every man where I live. And all my people wonder why I'm not dating .... On a side note, I'm at my sister's house right now and they're watching duck dynasty. How is the world did those ratty ass men end up with such beautiful women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:16 PM
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Probably a Ford hater. Why I never understood, Fords are the most reliable truck you can get. My HVM dad is the one who taught me about engines, and we have Ford trucks on the farm that were manufactured before I was born 34 years ago and are still running strong ... My dad always said he wanted me to know how to fix stuff "so you won't have to depend on some no-count man to take care of it". My dad knew what was up long before I was of an age to date! So if anyone's got a beef with me knowing h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:48 AM
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I've got 2 '04 grand cherokees and a '96 cherokee in my family that are all still running fine. The '96 has over 300k miles on it and me/my nephew put it on a rock crawler suspension 4 years ago, that baby will go anywhere. He drives the white '04 to school every day (at least every day they are in seasion) and it has over 200k miles on it. Only ever had to replace the starter on it, no other issues in the 15 years I've owned it. The black '04 is my camping/offroad/vacation ride, and still the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:36 AM
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YAAAAASSSSS! Cheers from another jeep gal and congrats on an amazing dream being realized. Just FYI, jeeps are the best SUVs. That 3.6 v6 engine is nigh immortal if you keep up with the maintenance. My first Jeep is now 17 years old and still runs with no issues no matter how long it sits (as long as I remember to unhook the battery cables if it's going to sit for more than a week!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:17 AM
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I am most likely being too generous! Some of the manipulative shit that men have tried to pull on me reminded me of high school antics, and many others never got out of their fratboy phase. Hence the distinction. Either way I don't consider them mature functioning adults and react to them as such, which usually means rolling my eyes, laughing, and walking away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:44 PM
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I used to get bullied a lot in grade school, and I was a sensitive kid. My mom used to say that the reaction is why they did it, and that if I was to 'grey rock' them (first time I ever heard that term!) they would quit because they didn't know how to deal with me after that. Well, the next day I went to school and did precisely that. 2 days later, the bullies were leaving me alone for the most part! I have this theory that LVM/NVM men never grow up out of where they peaked intelligence/emotions…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:55 PM
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Absolutely junk food and likely riddled with parasites. No thanks ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:40 PM
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You're right, I probably should have clarified that for the non horsey ladies here. I mean, it solves so many behavioral issues!!! I own both a gelding and a stallion. I can relax and enjoy a ride on my gelding. With my stallion, I am always on high alert paying attention to where his head is at. He's a lot bigger too so I have to use more muscle/energy to manage him. Dogs and cats are much the same. Tomcats mark everywhere. Stud dogs are ruled by their hormones ... Intact male anything is alway…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:03 PM
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I once saw a t-shirt/barn sign that said 'I am an equestrian. I wield pitchforks and whips. I have the nerve to get back on a half ton or more animal after it throws me into the dirt. YOU will not be a problem.' Now I just look at men like I would a colt that really needs gelding but the owner wants a stallion for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:02 PM
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This needs to be the top voted comment here. This is how you manage this issue. Hats off to you ma'am!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:17 PM
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You can use Malwarebytes for a free scan for malware programs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:05 PM
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More like "I couldn't find a fault I could use to neg you off the bat so I ran you through the analyzer knowing it would'. Also, "I do it for everybody" .....? No no dum dum, you do it to all the girls you think are attractive as a way to devalue them. Don't try to sell stuff like the government does, they hate competition. Dudes are idiots ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:59 PM
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My mama always said, don't you start it, but you damn well better finish it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:06 AM
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Adam Sandler, any of the jackass clan, Joe Rogan, Ron white, Larry the cable guy, Rick Sanchez, the joker .... The full list can be found in your nearest lvm/nvm 's movie collection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:42 AM
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go full Kevin McCallister I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:07 AM
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I do this too. I call them trip hazards. Usually something that you can't see or avoid until its too late, and that will make a loud enough noise to wake me from a sound sleep. You'd be amazed how loud a galvanized garbage bin can be when it gets suddenly moved across the floor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:16 PM
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Not even potential mothers, that adds some humanity to us. Incubators and childcare is how I think those men see women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:33 PM
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I always turn it around on them. If they want anal sex, then I should get to peg them with the same ferocity and glee that they have about hurting me. If they complain, I go 'hey you wanted 50/50 right? Well that means I get to abuse you if you want to abuse me.' For the vast majority of men that's pretty final and they're gone lol (Says a lot about their reasons for wanting anal in the first place imho, even though men are built for it and women are not). I've had one who didn't react with imme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:25 PM
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When I had my tubes tied for medical reasons, I had to go through like 6 doctors before I found one who would consider it at all seeing as I was 25 and didn't have any children already. It didn't matter that to get pregnant and carry to term would be life threatening for me. Not surprisingly, a woman doctor was the one that was like 'Yep, let's take care of this now.' But I still had to get my (ex)husband's permission. Don't you know he drug the decision out and tortured me with it for weeks and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:23 AM
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Honestly I don't find MOST comedians funny for this reason either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:57 PM
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as if I just informed them they have am incurable illness. Well, they kinda do .... Not incurable, they just aren't willing to cure it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:52 PM
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Common door locks are surprisingly easy to pick. I work at a company that does doors & security hardware. Part of my job is 'breaking in' to buildings we don't have keys to or that the keys got snapped off in the lock, etc. Some doors if improperly installed or maintained I can open with a credit/gift card, a flat head screwdriver, or a stiff piece of cardboard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:28 PM
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No, I'm in the US :( . Here if I happen to find a tall/long I usually buy a couple pairs, and it's almost always like old navy or target, never the really cute jeans/slacks I would love to wear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:00 PM
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A lot of times they KNOW they're lying. The whole, wow you must really be taller! thing is to protect them from admitting the lie, and seeing if they can abuse your good nature from the start. Don't fall for it. Just toss the whole man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:29 PM
11

YES! I have that same issue. Tops with modest necklines, sleeves long enough, and don't ride up my back to the ozone when I sit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:24 PM
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Amen! I'm 5' 11" (on a good hair day). I can wear anywhere from a 9.5 to an 11 depending on the shoes. Shoe and clothes shopping sucks. I can never find the cute shoes in my size, jeans are NEVER long enough, and cute tops are close to crop tops on me. I've decided that once I'm done with scaling up my side hustle again I'm going to start a clothing line specifically for tall women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:41 PM
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Can we make this a thing? I'd love to see yellow, orange, red tags on the lv and nv men ..... I mean we tie ribbons to horses tails to let other riders know 'hey, this mare will kick' and put 'aggressive, do not pet' collars and vests on dogs. Seems like a fantastic idea to do it with men ......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:26 AM
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Nope. I am there too. Part of FDS is finding your peace with being single instead of lowering your expectations just to maintain a relationship. I mean, it would be nice to find a hvm but at this point the opposite is so prevalent it would be like finding a real life unicorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:31 AM
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That's the twist that men (and those that cater to them) insist on pushing. It's empowering and kinky when it serves men. But when it serves women it's degrading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:33 PM
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Yup. The tile work excuse is just that, an excuse. Don't believe it. Always trust your gut. You not being able to look at him the same is your gut telling you whats up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:00 AM
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34 (but I feel like all my experience should count as 60 to 80) here and while I like to think I had some FDS worthy traits to begin with, it all clicked for me when I found this sub. I quit trying to date at the beginning of the year before covid hit, and frankly I've been much happier since. FDS has helped me identify patterns from my dating past that still bug me, explain them so I can move on and hopefully recognize the signs a lot sooner if I ever start dating again. FDS ladies all rock! Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:26 PM
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they really do think we're all stupid and desperate It's called projection. They assume we're stupid and desperate because that's what prompts them to pull shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:28 AM
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Had a guy who was selling his house talking to me earlier this year. He found out I was a painter in another life (I out myself through college that way). Wanted to feed me dinner in exchange for helping him paint. Ghosted that dude really damn quick. We hadn't even been on our first date yet! I've had to really edit the amount of work I let people bum off me because they're my 'friend'. The pandemic has made it so much easier lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:06 PM
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Well, this is the dude who decided one deployment that he was suddenly pagan and wanted an open marriage. They will take advantage of your trust if you give them a chance. I just never give them a chance. Now if they start asking for nudes its an instant block and delete. That should just be common knowledge we teach to all girls with sex ed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:43 PM
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Never, Ever, EVER send a guy nudes. EVER! My (at the time) HUSBAND took photos of me while nude and asleep. MY HUSBAND. I only found out because he showed them to all his friends, and one of those friends told me because he was a decent guy. When I got mad (like went to a hotel for a week to get away from him mad) his response was 'I don't know why you're so mad, they all thought you were hot'. So I should just magically be okay because they all liked what they saw? FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:17 PM
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The owner (and a few of the PMs too) at the door company I work for is a duck hunter. His wife basically runs the company, raises their special needs son, and keeps their life together the whole of duck season. She's always so stressed out about doing it all alone while he basically only comes home to reload supplies and sleep. They think I'm too picky for saying I refuse to be a hunting/golf/sports widow and that it's only a season. Yet its the same way with turkey season, deer season, etc. Whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:30 AM
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The ONLY TIME I have ever gone a day without 2 showers (I usually shower in the am after my workout and in the PM before bed) is when I went camping for a week in Jasper. I still washed myself head to toe in GLACIAL RUNOFF every day. That water was FREEZING COLD. But I still did it. There is no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:44 PM
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This is so timely. Blocked a LVM who was putting zero effort into our conversations this am. He had no children, was really tall and a CPA so career wise on the same level as me. That's really rare for this area. But you know what killed it? The lack of effort. Not wasting my time anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:18 PM
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Of course he does. To do otherwise would be tantamount to admitting he was the abuser and he cannot allow that. My ex still refers to me as 'the toxic one' on FB (we went to the same high-school so some of my friends are his friends as well). So glad I refused to touch him after I found out he was rampantly cheating on me. He wouldn't get tested either, and made fun of me for getting tested and then moving out a week later. Joke's on him, he caught some nasty STD while he was catting around in K…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:06 PM
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He'll think you're entertained but you are completely bored out of your mind This was my NVM ex to a tee. He actually thought I would be content to sit there and watch him play his Xbox for hours. Got mad at me for reading a book while he did this, so I left and he got madder. Now, any guy who labels himself a gamer is an automatic pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:37 PM
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This! I grew up with survival experts & ex-military on a nearly self sufficient farm. Not only can I keep myself & my family fed but I know how to keep our presence hidden from the rest of the world. I'll grab my weapons, supplies, and my horses and disappear into the deep dark woods with my family. Let the psychos fight it out while I build a water wheel powered electric system and play cards with the neices & nephews. To the caves!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:12 PM
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Oh hell no. Warlords keep harems and abuse women. I'll survive quite well on my own with out some psychopath nvm out there attracting attention and needing me to come save his stupid ass when he goes off half cocked and pisses an ACTUAL warlord off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:46 PM
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Exactly! Never settle for someone who will drag you down. Look for someone who will help you level up! Girl just keep working on you and your future. That's all it takes to level up to your queen status. You're already on your way!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 02:10 PM
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No, I have never seen a father put in more work than a mother either. Not even close. And what they do, they complain about constantly or expect some gold star reward for just acting like the adult they're supposed to be. I don't need a unicorn, nor am I expecting one. I am simply looking for a man who isn't a neurotic toxic misogynistic vampiric mess. Hell, if it was mythical creatures I was after my Andalusian gelding is silver gray, I could go tape a horn to the browband of his bridle and qui…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 03:37 AM
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Berating you while he was apologizing is a prime example of him using his own faults and failures against you. If he was truly contrite and wanted to change he wouldn't have done that. No. He told you what you wanted to hear but seasoned it with his own 'flavor' of abuse. He is incapable of seeing what is wrong with how he acts, so he will never truly change. He is only doing what he must in order to trap you again. Do not take him back. This cycle of him promising to be better then slowly slipp…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 03:09 AM
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Lol I'm not worried about. The handbook tells us how to deal with such characters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:06 PM
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Aw. I feel left out he hasn't dm'ed me yet. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:58 PM
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Not old lol. But I do have some dough. 'The wall' only exists for men. They claim that we hit it, when in reality we take care of ourselves far better and far longer than men even begin to and thus look attractive for longer. The exceptions to this are the women who get broken down by awful men and children early, so to compensate for the extra workload they give up self-care routines. Can't have one without the other! I so rarely see a man over 30 who couldn't be improved somehow. Most of them …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:45 PM
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The bar for the 'average man' is so low these days that even the minimum is seen as a stellar achievement for them. Men still find a way to dig under it too. Is it entitlement to not want to settle for the bare minimum? Especially when you males seem to think you all deserve to bat miles out of your league? Nope. I for one am absolutely sick of the obvious double standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:38 PM
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Amen. I settled in my 20s for a man who was 'not terrible' but it turned out he was putting up an act in order to lock me down before he allowed his true abusive nature to show. The lack of relationship (not even marriage!) material men is something I see a lot. I fully support any young woman who doesn't want to waste her youth chasing after unworthy men. Unless you want children there really is no reason at all to put up with these subpar males. Even then sperm banks exist and are a much less …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:33 PM
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Amen. Those are men. They act like adults, treat people with respect, and don't treat women as sub-human until they decide they want to fuck her, or after she refuses to let them fuck her. The vast majority of men I have seen on reddit period (not just this sub) are whiny little boys with complexes trying to 'reason' their complexes into something else. I mean, it's so obvious and they're fooling no-one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:25 AM
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Actually, I'm there more for the sisterhood and support/education of other like-minded women. Something that all high value people, regardless of gender, need and appreciate and provide. I am a queen. Don't have to larp when its your daily life lol. As for independently wealthy, I'm not going to waste my time proving anything to you. You've already proven you aren't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 07:55 PM
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I suppose you would like to think that no man is stupid enough to try and convince me those are good ideas. I know and have experienced many men trying to convince me otherwise. Attempting to convince me to let them mooch off me, in exchange for sex. Hah! Like I can't take better care of my sexual needs than limp dick pornsick Mr. Scrotastic who can't even keep wipe his ass correctly or cook something that doesn't come in a box. They find out what I do and how much I make and they see dollar sig…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 07:43 PM
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We absolutely do need a strategy. To weed out the low value men who try to trick us into thinking they're high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 07:28 PM
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Not bitterness but experience. I also said I have yet to meet the man who puts as much work into his kids as their mother. I've heard of such mythical creatures .... never met one. Even my own dad, who I would argue is otherwise a very high value man. My experience is that if you allow them, men will drain you dry. Emotionally, physically, financially, even convince you to sacrifice your health and well being for their opinions and wants. Which is total bullshit. Yet when a woman puts her foot d…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 03:31 PM
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Amen sister. I mean, the only one that didn't make me roll my eyes was the cheesy smores pick up line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:23 AM
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Honestly, no. Just avoid all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 02:38 AM
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and nobody wants them anyway. Men are idiots who will screw anything that gives them half a chance, and very few won't jump at the chance for a risky bareback screw because mUh PeNiS. You just totally outed yourself as a subpar male trying to sound intellectual and rationalize his own failures with women on this post. I get chased down and told I'm beautiful on an almost daily basis. I get shamed for choosing not to procreate on a regular basis too because any children I produced (and I quote ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 01:44 AM
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Plenty of Fish. This was pre-FDS and it's a proven cesspool of the lowest NVM. It was suggested to me by several of the guys I work with. I think they were more interested in seeing what a woman's experience would be than helping me find a decent guy to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:16 AM
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Oh man, where to start. Here's a few of the most memorable ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:47 AM
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Oh hell no. I think it's safe to say at that point I'm already 100% done with a guy like this. Back when I was on OLD (before I found this sub) I had a similar experience and the guy was very much not pleased with my response lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:05 AM
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Historical reenactor here. Civil War reenactments are a huge thing in these parts. I started wearing corsets at a young age, often for a week at a time. I still sew and wear corsets for events (in normal non-pandemic years at least). I would take a properly fitted, not tight laced corset over a bra any day. Excellent lift and accentuation, and they do amazing things for the posture and tummy. Plus the support both chest and back is amazing, and no straps digging into my shoulders! I'm currently …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:50 AM
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6' tall on a good hair day here, I feel you too! Even my family negs me about my height at times. I'm the tallest woman in my entire family, both sides. In heels I'm a good 6'3" and tower over the masses like some giant Amazon woman lol. I just stay away from short men. I have yet to meet one that didn't try and make it my problem. Strangely though I have tiny hands. I've never had a guy comment about how my hands make his dick look. I didn't realize it was a thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 05:46 PM
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Oooh kimbers are nice. My current sidearm is a Springfield xd mod 2. I love that gun. Fits my hands wonderfully and its very accurate. I've run thousands of rounds of both the cheap stuff and the expensive stuff through it and never had a single jam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:35 AM
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Southern born and bred here. I've been hunting and shooting since I was old enough to point a rifle. Gun control is a joke. Criminals will always find a way, its the good law-abiding people who will have no access and thus no defense as a result. Having lived alone for so long, they will have to pry my guns out of my cold dead hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:28 AM
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I have 6 pistols concealed all over my apartment, and I sleep with my favorite 9mm the nightstand. I conceal carry for this reason. It's so worth it. Some tips coming from personal experience and training; Move your knife to your nightstand or somewhere easily accessible while you sleep or are home relaxing. I work for a company that does doors & hardware and it's stupid easy to pick locks if you know what you're doing, and a knife you can't get to immediately is just another weapon for the intr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:10 PM
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Ha. This. Not only do I just roll my eyes when I see/hear this, I KNOW they will be utterly useless if the crap ever does truly hit the fan. Whenever a man I'm considering dating mentions the 'end of the world' or the 'apocalypse' they always say it in a half joking manner. What they really mean is they are hoping for half a reason to let their inner violence out with no consequences. Avoid like the plague. In the event of an apocalypse, they will not be an asset, but a huge liability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:38 PM
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Agreed. The only man I've ever known that holds other men accountable is my HVM dad. Allowing them to push your boundaries from the start just sets you up for mistreatment throughout the relationship. Maybe if I found a way to liken it to pegging them on the 3rd date ... but honestly I don't want to open up that can of worms. If a man shows no respect for your boundaries them kick him to the curb. He is a child trying to figure out how much he can get away with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:34 PM
4

leave him to wallow in his own crapulence. I adore this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:41 PM
5

Just leave. Go look fabulous at the bar of the nearest nice restaurant. You'll probably attract the next one lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:39 PM
39

I replied yesterday on a comment about the '3 date rule' and how it was absolute bull that a woman should allow a man access to her body on the third date. Like, on the third date I'm still deciding if you're worth taking a shower and putting a bra on for dude. 3 months is a more reasonable expectation, 6 months is far more likely. I was attacked so hard by men who were so desperate to protect their unfettered access to our bodies. I actually got comments like 'well if that's what you feel then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:32 PM
1

And this is why I am currently building my own home, and letting my HVM dad 'supervise'. It started with the concrete truck driver who tried to ask where my husband was when I was getting the foundations poured. Then it was the amish framers (which that's a whole different bad attitude) who didn't want to deal with a woman. The only good man that I've hired on this job was the electrician, who is a retired master and good friends with my dad. Everyone else has been frustrating as hell. I show up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:23 PM
2

The best plug and go solution is Alfred. It's free to use for the base program. All you need is a phone that still works and a charger. For the plug and go solution. I'm currently trying to find an old phone that I can do a write up with pics on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:13 PM
3

Agreed, don't even acknowledge them. However small, it's still a victory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:15 PM
5

This. Absolutely this. 100% this. Your own company is the best company there is. After a bit, you'll start to find the solitude comforting and peaceful. You should only allow a man to break that peace if he contributes to your well-being in a meaningful manner, consistently. Anything else is a waste of time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:41 PM
2

The best plug and go solution is Alfred. It's free to use for the base program. All you need is a phone that still works and a charger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:04 PM
32

Thank you for the support, but I prefer not to think of it. I only brought it up because I wanted u/nowheyrose to know she was absolutely right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:59 PM
31

No. I felt it was better to cut any and all ties at the time. I didn't ever want to see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:13 PM
63

I'm over it (mostly). But never again. And please, everyone reading, do not let yourself get trapped in a situation with a man like that. I was lucky to get out when I did. Others might not be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:11 PM
4

Yeah I know, it's a 'you're just so pathetic' sad that you almost have to smile at because, well, they did it to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:10 PM
90

My abusive ex killed my beautiful, sweet dog. 'Look what you made me do!' was his response when he realized what he'd done. I was gone the next chance I got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:36 PM
95

It's not. He was using the 'calm down it's just a prank' to gaslight her and try to get out of the consequences of his bad behavior. Its classic abuser deflection. Push the boundaries and then back off and claim a joke to make it seem like the other person is overreacting. Men who do this are really saying 'this is what I'd like to do to you if I wasn't afraid of the consequences'. Eventually they'll feel so secure that there aren't consequences and escalate their violence to the intended target…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:30 PM
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When a man starts abusing things you own/care for, especially living things, it's a precursor to his abuse of YOU. Do not forgive him. Kick him out of your life. Don't look back. He doesn't deserve you. ETA: Thank you kind anonymous redditor for the award.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:35 PM
26

My ex wanted me to play WoW as a healer because they needed one for the raid group. About a week in I created a warlock just for fun and turns out I was damn good at playing that. I remember my NVM ex got SO MAD when I repeatedly beat him in duels no matter what class he played ..... He stopped talking to me for several days because 'he didn't even know who I was anymore'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:40 PM
36

It's so sad how much they enjoy invading our spaces. Really drives home how it's really all about the power and control they have over women (or lack thereof that is so frustrating to them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:20 PM
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