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| 133 | Rebuilding after trauma | LEVEL UP | goldspotzingthing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 11:15 PM |
| 72 | Marriage and divorce records | STRATEGY | goldspotzingthing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:03 AM |
| 14 | Recovery | MINDSET SHIFT | goldspotzingthing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Keeping home safe from ex | WHOLESOME CONTENT | goldspotzingthing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 08:24 AM |
| 1 | How | QUEEN SH*T | goldspotzingthing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 07:12 AM |
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| 1 | What Are The Signs Of Porn-Sick Men?The more I read this thread, the more enraged I am getting. Why was this information never told to us or known to us years ago? Is porn sickness such a recent thing? The information revealed here should be an integral part of the women's whisper network, hell loudspeaker network. I only I had know this back then, it would have saved me much grief and sorrow and the stigma of not being arousing enough. JFC | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 06:05 PM |
| 1 | What Are The Signs Of Porn-Sick Men?Porn has desensitized him to sexual violence, no normal man would want to hit the person he loves. Its heartbreaking to even read this sentence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 05:34 AM |
| 1 | What Are The Signs Of Porn-Sick Men?Don't even get me started on these "feminist" men. They are the wolves in sheep's clothing. I'd rather have the on-your-face dumb wit Lotharios than these polished educated men in front of whom feminist women kneel to service. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 05:23 AM |
| 1 | What Are The Signs Of Porn-Sick Men?Putting their finger inside your mouth while getting frisky even though actual sex might not happen at that moment. Strangulating your throat without permission or asking if you enjoy such acts. Hitting their dick on your vulva as they pause to harden themselves during sex. Pulling your hair regardless of whether you enjoy such rough sex or not. Spitting on you during sex. Expecting you to take their load on your face because you love them soooooo much, you see. Essentially, a sexual partner who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 11:12 PM |
| 1 | They know.I came to realize men thrive on destroying what they know they can’t keep. I never thought of this but now that you spell it out, a lot of things are starting to make sense. This point should go on the Handbook along with "if he wanted to, he would." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.I recommend all women to get down on the streets and protest. Such legislation requires a long term solution which is a total revocation of such conservative laws. Stockpiling contraceptions and abortion pills (very dangerous to women's health if taken without medical attention and advice) will work for 3? 4? years max until the said medicine's expiry date. This battle is not just for us. It is also for our daughters and their daughters. It is for the women and girls of tomorrow too. I know that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 07:50 PM |
| 18 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.How much will you stockpile? Medicines have expiry dates. These are short term solutions. It is a nightmare to get a prescription passed through by the PCP and then the insurance co. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 06:12 AM |
| 26 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.But we shouldn't have to resort to methods that can cause excessive bleeding, septic, or even death. This country is bizarre. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 06:10 AM |
| 42 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.I see where you are coming from. But this is exactly what the conservatives want too from women-- moral, upright behavior which essentially means no sex outside of marriage. This is a medical manifestation of pure Catholicism and the regression of other orthodox religions. Men still get to have free sex with multiple partners. The point is not whether sex outside marriage or sex with multiple partners is good or bad for women. The point is about having the option to indulge in sexual pleasure wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.I wonder whether even if one had the resources to go to a state where abortion is legal, they can get an abortion done without a referral from their PCP? In other words, can you get an abortion done anywhere in the US without your PCP's approval? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 06:02 AM |
| 32 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.Sadly this is true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 05:59 AM |
| 17 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childI stopped reading after "spiritually married for 2 years." Woman, get the FUCK OUT. Don't be so silly. Jesus Christ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 11:29 PM |
| 1 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himSorry, this is just not correct. Men who can come across as gentle and suave and decent, can be wife beaters at their home. This is based on actual observation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 08:25 AM |
| 43 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?I don't subscribe to the 'pet test.' I know someone who raped a woman. He was great with both pet cats and dogs. Animals respond according to their individual temperament and to how people treat them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:37 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about a man opening up and telling you he goes to therapy on the second date?What is he going to therapy for? Much will depend on the answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Found out a man I went on 2 dates with with was married (and not divorced 4 years as he said) by searching public records online! Here's how to do it.Yes, tell her but the stamp on the envelope will reveal where the letter is being sent from. That information can be easily traced back to the woman sender. If she confronts him and shows him the envelope, he can guess who sent it. There has to either be a way to circumvent the stamp OR another method of sending the message to the wife without being caught/revealed. All sorts of men walk this planet. So watch your back too. The wife/girl friend MUST know though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:46 PM |
| 5 | After hearing about savanna talking about long ass paragraph copy paste messages on the podcastThe moment a prospective date writes, "your so beautiful," he is kicked off with no further chance. You bring your poor education on the table, off you go, | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:12 PM |
| 85 | Gabby Petito's case; Police bodycam footage shows how Brian made Gabby seem hysterical while he played it off coolMost likely they are doing it to their wives and partners. This is male language. So remarkably relatable to any woman who has been in a domestic violence situation. Gabby could have been anyone of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 05:35 PM |
| 263 | Can we talk about Leonardo DiCaprio?Here's the thing. How he treats Kate Winslet is not how he treats his girlfriends. Men like him are not looking for a partner or lover. They are looking for a 'tight pussy.' A woman his age is 'old' by his standards. Most would already have one marriage, kids, a stable career, money, and wisdom. They won't be in awe of him. If men like DeCaprio wanted a partner that they would want to marry then they would have been dating an entirely different corpus of women, someone like Winslet. The women ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:20 AM |
| 8 | Normalize narcing. Women deserve to know who they’re married to.Can't they trace using the IP address? Is it possible to track down where the Instagram message is coming from? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:18 AM |
| 23 | Normalize narcing. Women deserve to know who they’re married to.Thank you for sharing this. Revealing one's identity can sometimes be dangerous. What would you suggest is a good strategy to disclose the information without revealing my identity because the said man can become dangerous to either of us (she and me)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:49 AM |
| 34 | Normalize narcing. Women deserve to know who they’re married to.OMG! I need to do this too. How did you do it without revealing your identity? Or in a way that she could not trace the information back to you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:35 AM |
| 10 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sjerkass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:47 AM |
| 47 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!I had to Google him. DO NOT go to his YouTube channel and give him views. I had a good mind of checking his content but then realized that every hit adds to his revenue. The description here itself makes him sound repulsive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:38 PM |
| 26 | workplace dynamicsThe two are different. A sexist comment, especially if repeated, must be encountered. Otherwise silence makes it okay. Women of the previous generation remained silent at such behaviour, or had to, which is why it has percolated for us to suffer. Look at the new generation of female employees in Cuomo's case. They spoke up and got his ass kicked out. This had to stop. Someone called a female colleague a bitch. No one did anything about it. Say that to me and I will raise a storm. It won't end ot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:17 PM |
| 3 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?The woman having to fight back is not a pre-requisite to an act being labeled rape in the US. In other words, it is still rape even if the woman did not fight back. This is primarily because of the "fight-flight and freeze" response. That's my understanding of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:33 PM |
| 9 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?The grooming part is so real. Even men who outwardly have a likable 'charming' persona will groom vulnerable women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:35 AM |
| 5 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?Your last point sounds scary as hell. How did you run away from that situation being so vulnerable yourself? Did he not try to confine you to the room? For real, what are the possible strategies to get out of a situation where the woman's phone might be in a different room and they are confined nude in another room? I am horrified by this anecdote. Kudos to you for being able to get out of them without injuries. I am stunned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:32 AM |
| 2 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?Yep. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:18 AM |
| 5 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?It can't get any more authentic than the NIH: "Conclusions: The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists." https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:18 AM |
| 12 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?Isn't non-consensual choking during sex considered sexual assault? Any legal experts who can verify? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:12 AM |
| 3 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?I never thought about it until this post. Now it makes sense though. Finger in the mouth and having the woman suck or lick it mimics oral sex. It gives a visual imagery of how her mouth would look if she were working on another part of his body. It is common now that I think about it, although I never registered it before today. Sickening minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:09 AM |
| 6 | Rebuilding after traumamaladaptive coping strategies Could you please elaborate on what you mean here. Some bad coping strategies could be alcohol and drugs. What else did you have in mind? Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:42 AM |
| 4 | Rebuilding after traumaThank you so much. This will help a lot of people here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:41 AM |
| 8 | Rebuilding after traumaWhat changes do you notice? Please share if you find it comfortable doing so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:40 AM |
| 5 | Rebuilding after traumaHow long have you been doing EMDR and what changes do you notice? Please share if you find it comfortable doing so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:32 AM |
| 17 | Rebuilding after traumaI send you all gratitude and affection for taking time to respond to me and help me out. I am going for therapy too and EMDR (which has made a noticeable difference), But sometimes I am not sure if the therapy is going the right direction. It has been a few years since I have been going and sometimes I wonder whether this is a permanent arrangement. Is there ever going to be an end to therapy and EMDR? I bleed $$ on therapy and yet I don't think I have recovered. My therapist listens carefully a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:31 AM |
| 28 | Rebuilding after traumaI can't believe what just happened. Someone sent me a DM here calling me an "incel" for this post. The post has already received several down votes while I was reading the responses from FDS members. What's wrong with people?! Who are these creatures? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:59 AM |
| 5 | Rebuilding after traumaThank you. Can you recommend which books and podcasts in particular helped? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a houseYou are correct. What does one do in small town America where realtors of color don't even exist? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 10:36 PM |
| 77 | Don't give a single fuck about men attempting to fuck up your mind so they can fuck you. Konmari the cheap Scrotties. Make them pay up and work hard for the priviledge of being with you 💅Spending money on you is indeed the bare minimum. HOWEVER, to think that because he is spending money on you, he is interested is not necessarily true. I know of more than one man who showers money on to the women he is 'dating' or on the waitresses (think 100% of the alcohol tab as the tip at every visit) at the bar just so to get her in his bed. Men will go to extreme lengths to bone you and then kick you out of their lives. Let him pay (if he cannot then he's not worth it anyway) but don't us… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:37 PM |
| 1 | This reminds me of the slug storyWhy is this woman still with this man? Does love have to numb one's intellect and sense so much that she cannot see the obvious? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 04:06 AM |
| 37 | What the frog just came across my timelineI see where you are coming from. I don't know what her situation was but here's my take. Buying condoms in the US for a woman is easy-peasy. No one bats an eyelid. However, if I were to buy condoms at a store in my country, I would have had it. Buying condoms is a man's job there. Yup, go figure. Perhaps she purchased them in the US to avoid the hassle of going to a local store in South America. Or perhaps they/she have a preference for a particular brand and variety. It's easy to carry your own… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 08:45 PM |
| 6 | Why you should avoid moving abroad for a guyMoving abroad for a guy is super risky. You're giving up your job, family, Just this sentence is good enough to not move abroad especially if you have no support system or family in the new country. NEVER do that. Never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:14 AM |
| 85 | "empowerment" is such an empty wordThe person inflicting the violence exercises the power. Having someone strip at one's command gives them power. They are not empowered though. Most women who put themselves in such a situation sexually have problems with self-esteem, are codependent, lack self-worth, and are deprived of love. I once met a woman who was so isolated and neglected by her family that she sought attention outside the home. She believed that having sex with any man who wanted it from her were the only moments when she… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 02:29 AM |
| 66 | To my younger selfAbsolutely. The message is valuable but to believe that derogatory words are words of endearment or 'cool' is cringeworthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:44 PM |
| 126 | Like Most Women in Their Late 30s, Britney Spears Has Received a Halfhearted Apology From Her Terrible High School BoyfriendThis one enrages me to no end. Reading this on a day when the man who said "grab them by their pussy" has been acquitted makes me despair. Yet again, another man damages a woman (in Timerlake's case women's) careers and lives, but ends up thriving. It's the same pattern with rapists, wife beaters, sexual predators, fathers who deny their daughters wealth, safety, and careers. All thrive but the women seldom comes out of the experience unscarred. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:07 AM |
| 160 | "A Medieval Device for a Medieval Act" [Truly sad it got to the point of a Queen inventing this though] OldieButGoodieThere is an easy way out for the rapist though. All he has to do is insert his finger to find the device and pull it out. Many women imagine that they will be Joan of Arcs in a situation of impending rape, except that in an actual situation many women can be incapacitated due to physical violence, rape drugs, or freeze & shock. There should be a method where such information (of the Rapex) is circulated among women alone, and not men. If rapists know of a device, they will come prepared. Most pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 06:25 AM |
| 2 | The liesCan you share the research or article where you read this? I have been looking for such studies. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:57 AM |
| 6 | I think this is relevant for a lot of things guys do. Don't be fooled by guys who pretend to be something they're not. Just because they give the impression that they're one thing, don't automatically believe it.but also you see them supporting each other in their mediocrity and being favored. Amen sister. Nothing could be truer. Sickening mofos | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:23 AM |
| 22 | No words...He's choking and lifting her up. Why is she even with this guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 04:07 AM |
| 3 | A friend suggested FWB. Cut him off?Your answer lies right here: "I was offended and left." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 09:38 AM |
| 8 | I feel traumatizedYou mentioned that you met him at a conference. Does he work at a university? Send him an email explicitly stating that you feel uncomfortable with his advances. If he doesn't stop then send the messages he sends you on dating sites to his boss. You must know his name, right? It's easy to find his official email id. Email him there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 09:42 PM |
| 4 | Update to the post about 23F who was strangled unconscious during sex by her the 35M BDSM loving boyfriend. SHOCKER: He’s an abusive POS!Thank you for this information! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 07:31 PM |
| 15 | Update to the post about 23F who was strangled unconscious during sex by her the 35M BDSM loving boyfriend. SHOCKER: He’s an abusive POS!I remember the woman I talked to telling me that choking is a felony and an attempt to murder. Thank you so much for that information. Is choking during sex (without prior agreement/consent between partners) also considered a felony? Is this true for all states in the US? Can someone tell me where I can read more about this? Thank you so much. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 05:06 PM |
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