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Oh wow, you sound just like me. We are basically living the same life right now, lol. I am also turning 26 this year, never dated, trying to lose weight, and very socially awkward. Unfortunately, I don't have any advice or anything to ease your anxiety as I am also feeling the same worries as you, but I will tell you that you're not alone. I'm sure there are probably lots of people like us who are entering the dating market "late" and are nervous or worried about the prospects. All I can say is …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 11:16 AM
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I think, like a lot of these terms and labels, "girl's girl" definitely has some value. To me, a girl's girl is just a woman who supports other women and is loyal to her girl friends and family. An example would be the kind of girl who'll lend you a tampon in the bathroom even if you're complete strangers or the girl who refuses to flirt with her friend's crush out of loyalty and consideration. These examples seem rather "obvious" and "common," but that's because I think a lot of women are girl'…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/25 08:07 PM
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Yes, it definitely is. I'm sure there are plenty of couples who have adventurous or exciting sex lives while still maintaining their values. Unfortunately, it doesn't appear that this guy is doing that, though. And what I was really trying to get at is that it will be very hard for you to partake in his sexual interests without compromising your own values that you have illustrated here. If what he's doing makes you uncomfortable, there is a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/24 03:19 PM
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He's telling you what he wants/values very plainly. He likes freaky sex and wants more of it. That makes you uncomfortable and is unlikely to change unless you compromise your own values. To some, he's a red flag. To others, you're just not compatible. Either way, I personally don't see this relationship transforming into something better/great for either if you. You fundamentally are looking for different things. What concerns me most is that he seems to be testing your boundaries by bringing u…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/24 01:11 PM
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Doing my nails. I don't do anything special with them. I usually just use drugstore press-on nails (don't judge, they're cheaper than a salon lol), but just the act of it makes me feel prettier and more feminine. Plus it's just fun to pick out the nails I want lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 09:10 PM
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Yeah, I keep reading news stories about Rising vigilante bills and increase in demonic attacks. I do my best so my man doesn't have any extra stress on top of that. 🥺🥺
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/23 05:39 PM
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We're still friends. Had a conversation with her about everything and why this bothers me. She said she understands and apologized for "being difficult." She hasn't made a comment about men since. Her younger brother just got engaged about a week ago and I'm wondering if that was a compounding reason for this behavior ("my younger Sibling is going to get married before me" kind of thing). She never gave me an explanation for her comments, so I'm still not sure where all this is coming from.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 01:03 PM
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Maybe just ask him why he wants to stay connected. Like, gently ask out of curiosity. The deleted Instagram could be a good sign, but it also could be him over-compensating, though the chances are slim. Ultimately, No one but him knows his feelings towards her, platonic or otherwise. You just have to trust him at his word.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/23 01:43 PM
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This sounds like a very unhealthy dynamic. Whether he's purposely negging you or doesn't realize what he's doing, this spells doom for your relationship. Honestly, it sounds like he's insecure and probably not ready for a relationship, serious or casual. If I were in your shoes, I'd honestly break up. If you don't want to do that yet, you can try to talk to him about it. I'd try to explain that your different people who can work together if you try, but that he needs to respect your feelings and…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 02:51 PM
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I'm going to a Barbie party and will either be disco barbie or emo barbie lol
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 10:46 AM
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I'm not married, but from what I've observed from the marriages I've witnessed, it depends. I wouldn't say most marriages become this way, but it is always a possibility. That being said, most of the long-term marriages/relationships I've seen have lasted and are still (at least somewhat) in love with each other. The few marriages that ended were due to other reasons/issues. So, in my experience, no most marriages don't end up this way, but that's just my experience/observations.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 10:33 PM
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As much as I really hope that's not the case it's entirely possible. We had always planned to be in each other's lives forever, whether that be staying close or just checking in now and then. Like I said before, we have had our disagreements and have differing opinions/beliefs on certain topics, but they've never really caused conflict in our friendship. I'm hoping to utilize these tools and tips you guys are giving me and, God willing, this will not break our friendship. The strangest part is t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 04:47 AM
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Hm, that's actually something I didn't think about. I guess I'm just used to her and my other friends phrasing it as a "joke" and saying that I'm being too serious about her "jokes." In reality, however, if I knew a guy who made these kinds of "jokes" about women, I wouldn't want to be around him. I guess this really gives a perspective I should have already considered.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 04:41 AM
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I think that's the hardest part is seeing how this is affecting them. My friend actually ended a friendship with a mutual guy friend that we have both known for years over a situation that happened in high school. Mind you, she didn't do this until last year. I tried picking her brain about the reasoning, but she just said that he's a bad guy and left it at that. I really don't know where this is coming from as she has not had many (or any) terrible experiences with men that I know of. I really …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 04:16 AM
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Honestly, I am a follower in most of my relationships in general, family or friend. I find it generally hard to make friends, so I only have a few very close ones, this one being the closest. I really don't want to risk losing my truest friendship over something so seemingly trivial, but you're right, this can't continue as is. It's hard to just not hang out in public or pull from conversations as she's the only friend I really hang out with. Plus, my other friends just inadvertently encourage h…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 03:53 AM
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Personally, I would be more concerned about how he is speaking about this to your sons. What message exactly is he trying to send them? If it's "beauty isn't everything," maybe he should phrase it a different way. It doesn't sound like he's critiquing you. It appears that he just doesn't care for heavy makeup and contour on women, which is fine. If you contour a lot, maybe consider a change to your makeup routine. I don't think this has anything to do with your femininity or lack thereof.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 02:55 AM
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Aww, he was excited for your food. That's great!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 12:26 AM
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I've known a few fboys in my life and, in my experience, they'll chase women who are attractive but lack confidence. There's that stereotype of the over confident ahole with the vapid or self-conscious hot girl. I've never seen them with less attractive women (otherwise they probably would have come after me, ew). But that's just how fboys work. Most men don't think or date that way.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:29 PM
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I have 0 relationship experience, but I have always swore to myself that cheating is 100% a deal-breaker. I know that every situation is different and there might be some nuance, but I have seen several relationships (I'm talking marriages that were at least a decade or two long) be absolutely destroyed by infidelity. The few relationships that "made it work" are either miserable for both parties or full of doubt and mistrust. Once again, I know that I don't really have a leg to stand on as I do…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 06:15 AM
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Wow, you sound exactly like me. I don't have much advice to share as I'm going through the same thing, but I still day that taking some time to do something you love every week can definitely help self-esteem. Also, taking a break from dating or just shifting your mindset to focus on something else is also helpful. This is really all I have to help. Just know that you're not alone and there are probably more people in a similar position than you think.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 12:26 PM
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From what I've gathered in your replies to others and what some commenters are saying is in your post history, I think this guy is definitely bad news. He definitely sounds controlling. You said in another comment that you were just grabbing coffee with friends and he didn't want you to go. Unless those friends are really bad influences, I don't understand why that would be a problem to him. You also said you've been together for 2 months and he proposed to you in that time. It seems that he is …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 01:05 PM
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Considering he asked you to Pick out the clothes, I think you're OK to do so. If yous still feel uncomfortable or nervous about it, you can choose a few different items/outfits and present them to him so that he can choose which one he'd rather wear. That way you make a suggestion while he still makes the final decision.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 02:59 PM
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If he says stuff like this often, he's an asshole. That's not the kind of guy you want to be with. Men and women need to have enough control over their emotions to not lash out on others. That's not a RP philosophy, it just being an adult. I would really reconsider the relationship and where it may be going if he is treating you like this on a regular basis. If he isn't getting it together, you might want to get out before he ties you down more.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 04:40 AM
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The fact that you feel the need to ask this over and over again makes it pretty clear. You are acting as though the marriage is inevitable, but it's not. You obviously have reservations about this guy (and for good reason), so maybe instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice, you should take a moment and ask yourself if you TRULY want this. Personally, I would not marry him. He has a track record of failed marriages, was a cheater, saying one thing while doing another, and he's rushi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 03:52 PM
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Thanks for sharing your experience. I have a nasty habit of just jumping into things with both feet, so I've decided to not do that with relationships. But sometimes I wonder if I'm doing too much and if I should put myself out there. I'm glad you and your husband met and made it work.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 11:35 PM
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That's very insightful and kinda the opposite of what I've been hearing. I haven't had a chance to really enjoy my 20s due to certain circumstances, and I guess I forgot that the single life can have its positives. I'll definitely try to keep a more positive outlook on this period of my life. Thanks for your insight!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 10:59 PM
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Wow, thank you for sharing your story. It does put things in better perspective for me. What's something that kept you motivated during that time?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 10:04 PM
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I think The Wall is subjective. I'm only 23, but I know a lot of "older" women. My mom is nearly 50 and I think she's beautiful. My dad (obviously) agrees, but I have also heard other men comment on my mom's looks and how she is attractive. On the flip side, I've met 30-somethings who are already aging poorly. I think it mostly boils down to lifestyle, environment, and genetics. People who live a harder or more rambunctious lifestyle tend to not age well, while people who take care of themselves…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 02:33 PM
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I did skip part of the conversation about marriage and kids. She didn't take us everywhere 24/7. There were times where she and my dad went on getaways just the two of them. Those weren't often, but they definitely had time to themselves. Especially as we got older and started doing things on our own. Her and my dad always put us first and agreed that we would be a priority for both of them. She told me that my dad was a very close second and she would show him as much love as she did us. She ju…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 03:19 PM
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Thank you for the insight. I have been working on losing the weight, but I suspect I will need professional help with that too as I have a nasty binge habit. I finally made an appointment with my doctor to discuss therapy, so here's hoping that works well. I know these things are hard and I'm not afraid of them, I just worry how others perceive me because of them. Weightloss is definitely my priority atm, so once I see the fruits of that labor I hope the other things get easier to achieve as wel…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 02:39 PM
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I'm glad I'm not alone in this. I also have gone to a few meet up events, but I stopped because I get so shy and nervous around strangers and no one talked to me lol. I might try again just because it seems like the best way for me to meet people.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 04:34 AM
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I'm glad I'm not the only one. I'm glad this sub and other RP communist exist, because I feel like I'd feel so much worse if I never found this lol.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 03:20 AM
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Thanks for the tips. I tried online dating in the past, but I had several bad experiences and I haven't gone back. I also already live in a city, but I probably should go out more tbh
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 11:36 PM
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I really hope you're right, man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 10:43 PM
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Wow, you're first paragraph is essentially what I've been worrying about. I appreciate the message. I wonder, what environments do you wish you would've put yourself in when you were my age?
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 10:03 PM
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Finishing up school, working full-time, & losing weight. I don't really have time for hobbies anymore but I used to love playing piano and drawing. I guess I have some value since I do have a decent job, but I just feel like I'm lacking in so many areas and, because I'm not where others my age are, I'm failing somehow, if that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 09:55 PM
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My mom taught me the spray bottle hack. Lay your clothes out flat and spray, then flip over and spray the other side. Then you pick it up and shake it really hard until most of the excess water comes off and let it dry, and boom, wrinkles gone. Obviously it doesn't work on all items, like dress shirts, but if you have a wrinkled skirt or t-shirt, it works in a pinch.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 11:34 AM
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Ah yes, the "feminine wiles" debate. Personally, I do think that there are definitely men out there that will do anything for a pretty woman or the woman they love, but it's definitely not ALL men. It just depends on the man and the woman I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 10:29 PM
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You're probably right
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:07 PM
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In my experience, mainly with Tinder & Bumble, 90% of the people there were looking for hookups & 5% were bots. It may be because of the area I live in or the age range, I'm not sure. My friends don't use dating apps themselves so the only one they recommended me was Tinder. I'm going to look into OK Cupid because some of the replies recommend that. Ideally, I agree that apps are good for filtering and connecting, I just haven't had an experience to back that up lol.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:07 PM
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Yes, thank you! I definitely was thinking the 3rd type when I typed this. I am religious so I'll look into that and the gyms. Thank you for the input
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:02 PM
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I never thought about the gym. That makes a lot of sense lol. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:01 PM
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I will do my best
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:50 AM
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Thank you. I will definitely contemplate that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:49 AM
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That's a great idea. I'll definitely try looking into groups to join. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:37 AM
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Wow, that's terrible. Yeah, RP is definitely not the right term I was looking for. I guess I meant a group like this one for guys. I hope you found someone way better.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:18 AM
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I don't think I've tried that one, so I'll look into it. Thanks for the recommendation
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:17 AM
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That's a good strategy. I probably made a mistake in choosing guys in my immediate age range. Thank you for the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:16 AM
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Yes, I guess I didn't mean RP, but an adjacent kind of group to this one. Thank you for your input.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:13 AM
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Thank you. I guess RP isn't what I meant. Idk what the equivalent for this kind of community would be for men. But thank you for the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:12 AM
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mainstream MGTOW channels are progressively becoming more and more black pill. As a woman who occasionally dips into MGTOW content, I agree. I used to watch some MGTOW/red pill men on YouTube just to hear their opinions (& also because I didn't see any women covering those topics), and I always thought they were interesting. Sometimes I even agreed with their points. Lately, however, I'm noticing that a lot of these channels are spewing more of the black pill rhetoric and that is disappointing &…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 06:47 AM
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