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| 6 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itMy ex bf literally told me he "wasn't the vacationing type of guy" Four months post breakup: Ex bf goes on vacation half way across the country to meet up with random gamer acquaintances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:00 AM |
| 9 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.\feels like an abandoned, exposed fish on a wooden plank looking for some support/comfort** | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:14 AM |
| 6 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.We were each other 'firsts' so I thought I needed to teach him how to treat me better. I advised him to do something different but he returned to his normal behavior pattern. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:13 AM |
| 166 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.I dated a gamer guy for two years. He excelled at his actuarial career, making over $85,000 in his first year out of undergrad but he treated me like a side option. As he advanced in his career, he showed very little incentive to move our relationship forward even though he spent thousands on his gaming system. The moment he finished climaxing, he immediately put on his clothes and walk over to play video games... leaving me on the bed. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 06:33 PM |
| 23 | Hesitant to get involved with men, but anxious about dying a virginYou feel bad now since you're "missing out" but you will look back at the freedom you've had. | /r/askFDS | 13/02/21 12:48 AM |
| 4 | Young and in a 5 year relationship, feeling like I'm at a crossroads. Any advice?Time to break up and find yourself an actual husband. | /r/askFDS | 01/02/21 01:11 AM |
| 88 | It finally hit me, I’m 26 and feel like time is running out. Does anyone else feel anxious about aging?I'm 25 and I see that men don't prioritize family. I will do my own thing. If you start taking charge of relationships, the guy will take the backseat and do minimal effort. | /r/askFDS | 29/01/21 06:52 PM |
| 45 | "Etiquette" your social media profileDon't post body pics. | /r/askFDS | 20/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 66 | Say no to easy men 👀NBA Youngboy Now Reportedly Has Seven Children At 21 Link: https://allhiphop.com/news/nba-youngboy-and-yaya-mayweather-parents-of-a-baby-boy/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 11:04 AM |
| 6 | When scrotes you met five minutes ago try calling you wifey/babe and then play it off as just a jokeGuy: "... badydoll." Me: "... butter pumpkin." True Story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:34 AM |
| 36 | My (29f) boyfriend (32m) is too comfortable, how do I reverse it?Men who love you would be excited to go the extra mile. Lil dude treating this lady like a free buffet. :( | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 02:50 AM |
| 115 | My (29f) boyfriend (32m) is too comfortable, how do I reverse it?If you've been dating long enough and he hasn't shown initiative to move the relationship forward, he isn't thinking about your future. Men who love you will put into consideration your future. | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 02:32 AM |
| 6 | Please no more pampering menGuy #2 sounds like a narcissist. He gives you a backhand compliment while thinking he is the God of women. You dodged a bullet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:32 AM |
| 3 | Please no more pampering men:'( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:30 AM |
| 19 | Please no more pampering menThank you. I appreciate this comment. :) I placed so much effort into my last relationship but my subconscious mind was hurting as to how "supposedly clueless" he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:34 AM |
| 137 | Please no more pampering menDon't feel bad, I've made similar mistakes with my ex. 1.) One month of dating my now ex bf, I surprised him with a $80 Brooks Brothers tie, nicely decorated card, etc. for 1 month of dating. He looked at me confused. 2.) I randomly surprised my ex with food from his favorite BBQ joint. I did this right after I worked a 7 hour shift and drove it to his house. 3.) I surprised my now ex-bf with a heart shaped steak. I cooked it and all. He told me that he "didn't know that bf's get their gf's thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 11:33 PM |
| -2 | Advice for a college girlI'm bilingual. The rest of the world doesn't have to bow down to American English. | /r/askFDS | 27/12/20 12:19 AM |
| 0 | Advice for a college girlDafaq? Are you seriously that triggered over a minor detail? I use that term interchangeably in my vocabulary. | /r/askFDS | 27/12/20 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Advice for a college girlAs a recent university graduate, I avoided unnecessary drama by not dating that many guys. Most of these BOYS are nowhere near self-sacrificing as you. I actually saw a college student cry about her baby but nothing about her baby daddy leaving his child. Focus on your education, even if you date females, things can get messy. | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 09:07 PM |
| 19 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂Just shy of the second anniversary, my now-ex bf started talking about divorce and prenups. He also said that he "didn't truly invest in the relationship." FFS, I may have been in love with him but my subconscious shook me woke. I truly don't believe it takes guys that long to figure out of she is the one. You don't want to get stuck being a forever gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 12:05 PM |
| 19 | Video games are very much a red flagMy ex bf was very successful in his career (actuary in insurance industry) but once he arrives home, video games took precedence. He spent thousands of USD on his video gaming system (built a computer from scratch, loved virtual reality things) but never wanted to go on an affordable vacation with me. He first said that he "wasn't the vacationing type of guy" but then the excuse shifted toward my parents. Once I broke up with him, he went on vacation to Boston to meet up with video game buddies.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 11:57 PM |
| 6 | What are your dealbreakers?Plays video games | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 11:40 PM |
| 9 | Broke men being afraid of gold diggers is so funny to me😂THIS 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:32 AM |
| 26 | Broke men being afraid of gold diggers is so funny to me😂When I started to date my now-ex bf, we were walking in the park and he randomly brought up "social climbers." I've never heard of that term in my life. He was testing the waters to see if I was one. If I were a social climber, I wouldn't be spending my time with a guy who plays video games and is socially awkward. FFS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Men don't have any sort of taste or preference.Reminds me of the main character from The Wolf of Wall Street. The dude married and had children with an actual "natural looking" woman. She supported him when he was at his lowest. Once the dude was raking in the money and status, he goes after the high maintenance model. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:50 PM |
| 10 | Why do men think photos of them posing beside luxury cars that don’t belong to them is attractive.Money talks, wealth whispers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Should you tell the guy your dating and your future partner your body count?Steve Harvey said it best "your maximum number is three!" | /r/askFDS | 21/12/20 11:40 PM |
| 65 | Do you regret losing your virginity? Do you suggest someone wait or not?Most men aren't good in bed anyways. | /r/askFDS | 19/12/20 11:07 PM |
| 13 | I’ve never been in a relationship, am I too picky? Am I doing something wrong?Focus on your education. You will regret spending your time in college while in a relationship. Most guys nowadays don't comprehend "self sacrifice." You have so much opportunity for personal advancement. | /r/askFDS | 18/12/20 04:54 PM |
| 46 | How to attract men I actually likeThose shy, gamer types have a crush on anyone with a vagina. They're so addicted to porn that it hinders social interactions. | /r/askFDS | 17/12/20 10:39 AM |
| 64 | Prenups??Ex bf started bringing up prenups. He then started to neglect the relationship. I broke up with him a month later. He was more prepared for divorce than marriage. | /r/askFDS | 17/12/20 02:45 AM |
| 9 | My husband of 3 weeks now, said he wished he married his x instead of me.You deserve a man who loves you, not someone who settled because you came at the right time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:36 PM |
| 11 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!Throw the net, see what fish he gets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 12:37 PM |
| 50 | Men are really weird 🤨My dad actually told me to be careful of wealthy/greedy guys because they may use the "you only married me because of my money" excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 8 | NEVER ask a guy out!This 100 times over!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:08 PM |
| 6 | For those you were married, what made you stop feeling that you want to have sex with your ex-husband?He would just get up and leave after sex, no cuddling. My ex bf to a T! He would immediately get up, put on his clothes, leave the room, and play video games on his computer. I thought I was the crazy one wanting pillow talk. Whichever woman marries this guy will either be even more complacent than me or robotic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:53 AM |
| 9 | What are some strategies and tactics to put off intimacy for as long as possible?THIS 100%. It seems as though night time turns on his animal instincts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 12:47 AM |
| 15 | The forever-gf trapI dated a guy for almost two years and he had the balls to tell me that he "didn't take the relationship that seriously." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 02:11 AM |
| 41 | OLD -- are there ever guys "out of our league"? Tips for self empowerment?When dating a HVM, do not act entitled to him because you're an educated woman. Most guys do not care about your education level as long as you are able to match his level of conversations. We have a lot of single, highly educated and successful women out here. | /r/askFDS | 04/12/20 10:59 AM |
| 32 | Never trust a man who calls himself a feminist.On my first date with my now ex bf, he used feminism as a way to avoid paying for my dinner. It's obvious that he learned this tactic online. I dated this guy for almost two years and right before our second anniversary he told me that he "really didn't take the relationship seriously" because my parents didn't like him. I literally gave all my energy to make the relationship work but he was just cruising by. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:53 AM |
| 45 | Dating a gamer is never the move.I dated a gamer guy for almost two years. All he cared about was making money during his day career and playing video games at night. I'm convinced that he didn't truly love me. He loved his gaming life. I couldn't imagine him being there for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 04:41 PM |
| 128 | NOTHING will “keep a man”, and it’s not your job!Ex bf started to act like I needed to be more successful in terms of career for him to give me the kind of love I deserved. Dude was looking for a roommate to share finances with, not a wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 01:54 AM |
| 32 | “I can’t stick my dick in your master’s degree”When I started to date my now ex-bf, he worked as an actuary making $60K \a year right out of undergrad. He told me that he'd never date another female actuary because of competition. A year later, his salary went up to $80K a year and I reminded him what he told me a year ago. He proceeded to gaslight me and said that he'd be okay with dating a female actuary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 07:05 PM |
| 16 | When men act clueless it’s because they want you to chase HIMMy ex bf, who was a 23 year old American at the time, "didn't know" that bf's get their gf's things for Valentine's Day. You shouldn't have to explain this to someone. It's literally ingrained in you from elementary school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 06:51 PM |
| 22 | Selfish LVM and gifts100% agree. Ex NVM bf somehow didn't know that you should get your gf a gift for Valentine's Day. He acted pretty self centered in the bedroom. The moment he was done, he would put his clothes on and play video games in another room. Before I realized it, I was on the bed giving myself pillow talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:04 AM |
| 77 | Why are mothers such Pickmes for their sons?I'm pretty sure my ex bf got advice from his mom to be really stingey whenever it came to me. When someone has that power over you, you are easier to manipulate. I think she was helping him get laid while protecting her daughter from the same fate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:00 AM |
| 17 | Sis knows the 🚩sYour long-term partner reminds me of my ex-bf! I met him right after he graduated from undergrad and one year later, his salary was $80K+ as an actuary. Dude wanted me to pay half even though I was making minimum wage. Red flags I ignored: Him mentioning that I should pay 50/50 on the first date Him not being compassionate towards my family situation During a walking date, he shifted the conversation towards "social climbers." I never heard of that term before. Now I know. Criticized me during o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 39 | So many men do this there's a name for it now. WokefishingOn the first date with my now ex bf, he insisted that I should pay for my own food because that's what feminism entails. My ex bf used feminism as an excuse to pursue his financial selfishness. The dude didn't know that bfs should get their gfs something for Valentine's Day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:38 AM |
| 6 | Almost married a LVM and I miss him, can y’all knock some sense into me?Oral is a form of sex. He could've given you a disease! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:58 PM |
| 42 | My abusive NVM ex and his perfect girlfriend are the best lesson I ever receivedThank you for sharing. May your wisdom light the way for others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 09:30 PM |
| 53 | You deserve to be cherished! If he wanted to, be would.My ex bf posted more pictures of his cats in Insta than me.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:48 AM |
| 55 | A Nigerian prince says he rented out an entire NYC restaurant for his first date with his now-wife, who had no idea he was a royalHahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 12:12 AM |
| 5 | Forever GF Anthem ( fools gold by Amy Winehouse )Truth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 6 | What to do as the forever girlfriendDelete and Block. He is pocket-lint. | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 12:38 PM |
| 8 | What to do as the forever girlfriendHe fed you B.S. for years but once you pulled back the curtains, the Wizard of Oz told you this. Wow. The dude is mid-20's but he wants to live life like he's 18. Mark my words, he may not settle down until he is 40. He may string more women along and maybe even cheat on his wife. Surgeons don't have a good reputation for lifelong commitment. | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 11:17 AM |
| 4 | What to do as the forever girlfriendAny guy who doesn't want to marry you until his life dreams are fulfilled is probably just enjoying your company until he feels like he has enough status to "upgrade." | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 11:13 AM |
| 2 | Confronting BF on Settling Downsomeone who doesn't want to marry you until his life dreams are fulfilled is probably just enjoying your company until he feels like he has enough status to "upgrade." THIS | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 02:29 AM |
| 11 | What to do as the forever girlfriendBe careful about those medical school guys. They'll stick with a lady all through residency, dump her, and quickly get married to another woman. You shouldn't have to convince a man to marry you. Leave. | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 02:21 AM |
| 2 | How generous is a HVM supposed to be?Your ex-fiance reminds me of my ex bf. The dude acted like he didn't know that getting his gf something for Valentine's Day was a thing. My ex was an actuary who made $80,000+ one year after university graduation. Even though I was making minimum wage, he still wanted me to contribute financially to our meals. The longer we dated, he treated me more like a roommate than a potential wife. A HVM in love will move mountains for the woman he loves. There are men who cross oceans so their families ca… | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 02:18 AM |
| 108 | How do I become completely emotionally unavailable towards guys?From what I heard, but have yet to try, is to keep guys on rotation. Do not focus only on one guy but on many. If one does not meet your expectation, drop him like he's a gameshow participant. | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 02:05 AM |
| 17 | No 50/50 birthdayBreakup! I bet he will conveniently forget about what to do on Valentine's Day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Being called a gold diggerAND he was playing video games at the time! I dated a gamer guy for almost two years and he always made excuses as to why we couldn't go on an actual vacation. First it was that he "wasn't the vacationing type" then it was my parents. Months after I broke up with him, he went on vacation to meet up with some gamer friends in Boston. I will never date a gamer guy again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:07 AM |
| 1 | LVM Actuary in Health Insurance IndustryIn the midwest, you can get a mansion easily for $500K. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:19 PM |
| 1 | LVM Actuary in Health Insurance IndustryI live in the midwest. This is impressive money for the cost of living. Anything above $70K is living good for an individual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:18 PM |
| 407 | Cardi B Says She Left Offset Because She Didn't Want to “Wait Until He Cheated on Me Again”Lesson: Men will still cheat on successful women. It's the man having issues, not the woman (in this case). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 01:56 PM |
| 38 | Obsession with asian women/Yellow fever and LVMMy best friend's aunt is ethnically from South Korea. She was cheated on by her white husband while she was pregnant and contracted an incurable STI. After 18 years of marriage, they divorced. The guy literally went to the Philippines and got himself a mail order wife HALF his age. Plot twist: She married a caring lawyer. Now she goes on vacations on a monthly basis and he treats her like a queen. | /r/askFDS | 17/09/20 11:51 PM |
| 43 | FrOm ThE pAsT...best father of the yearLow IQ and EQ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:02 PM |
| 4 | If you're not married, you are SINGLE. Point blank.THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 10:14 AM |
| 82 | If you're not married, you are SINGLE. Point blank.Marriage is an agreement that isn't easily undone. Anything else can end within minutes; hence, isn't stable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:54 AM |
| 22 | I know I could be a HVW but I do not believe it deep down. Looking for advice and reassuranceMost men do not care how intelligent you are or what job you have. What you are working on is for your own independence and security. When you do find someone, do not take the leader role in the relationship. If he doesn't put effort into you, you don't try harder. Freely walk away. Most men are self-interested. If he can get by with treating you like trash, he will continue. Do not spend money on him and do not give him your body. It's better to be alone than be with someone who truly doesn't v… | /r/askFDS | 12/09/20 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Ambitious, High Achieving MenThank you for the clarification. I should've been more clear: He is only half Dutch and his mother and father grew up in the United States. Not spending money on unnecessary things is smart. Unfortunately, I started to see selfishness in him. My intuition was telling me: "If you become homeless, he will break up with you." I had some family issues at home and wanted his emotional support. He didn't show any indication that he wants to make my life better. I ended up being "the man" of the relati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:05 PM |
| 10 | Ambitious, High Achieving MenMy ex is an actuary for a health insurance company. One year after college, his yearly salary rose over $80,000. His gifts to me didn't increase in value. In fact, he started to use his Dutch ancestry to justify his "frugal lifestyle." This is all funny now because he lives in the most expensive zip code and spent over $1000 to build his own computer. He didn't flinch about buying the expensive water bowl for his two cats either. He wasn't the "vacationing type of guy" when we dated but he went … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 11:44 PM |
| 11 | Do NOT Date A Broke man!Cheap scrote said he "wasn't the vacationing type of guy." Two months after I break up with him, scrote goes on a vacation across the United States to meet up with gamer friends in Boston. He walked around with his buddies around Boston. This triggered me because he acted like he was tired of going to places with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:29 PM |
| 20 | Do NOT Date A Broke man!Ladies, don't assume a man with means will be generous towards you. My ex bf had a $80,000 salary 1 year out of university and he still acted broke towards me. I was making a minimum wage salary and he wanted me to pay for $8 ice cream so it shows that I was "making contributions to the relationship." For comparison, I made about $8 per hour (after taxes) while he made over $30 (after taxes). He believed this was right because of feminism. Meanwhile, his mother and sister (self proclaimed femini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:15 PM |
| 8 | She bought her fiancé a house and he wouldn't move with her, nor would he look for a better-paying job... this is why a proposal doesn't necessarily mean a happy endingIs it just me but what's wrong with these guys in their early-20's?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:47 AM |
| 20 | Dumped him because he didn't get me a b-day giftduring Valentine’s Day, 🗑 him. 100%. My LVM ex was making bank but he was "too busy/tired" to get me something for our first Valentine's Day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 10:34 PM |
| 6 | Breonna Taylor, another promising young woman tragically lost because of LVMThis happened in my city.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:20 AM |
| 163 | New rule: you aren't my husband? No sex.I'm a 25 year old female and I reached this conclusion real quick. I can sense sexual energy from men so I use it to my advantage in non-sexual ways. "Can you help me with my master's degree application?" "Does this resume look okay?" "Where can I do new things around town?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:09 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, is this the "50-50" or actually fair?You can't change him. He'll discard you when issues arise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Why 50-50 men make undesirable partners: The hidden ugliness of the 'equality' mindsetYep. She had a conversation with her mother about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:58 PM |
| 3 | This snaggle toothed little bitchThe dude looks like The Matchmaker and Yao but has the confidence of Li Shang. GTFO. \Mulan reference** | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 02:20 AM |
| 59 | Why 50-50 men make undesirable partners: The hidden ugliness of the 'equality' mindsetBack in undergrad, I dated a 50-50 mindset guy. I never told him I was a feminist or anything, he just assumed. I sat in my Chinese Contributions class and we watched The Joy Luck Club. There was this one female character dealing with a 50-50 boyfriend and she wasn't happy. He kept tabs on literally everything. I kid you not, I sat in that room and realized this was my bf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:56 AM |
| 66 | My daughter is 16 and hasn't started dating yet. Is the FDS handbook right for her at this age?From all of the things she has probably heard in school, she is ready for the handbook. I'm a 24F and I remember hearing guys in 4th grade talk about mature content. Your daughter is ready. | /r/askFDS | 28/08/20 11:22 PM |
| 11 | Does anyone else find that they’re at their best when a man is not in their life?Introducing a man into your life should add value, not make it worse. You're right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:50 PM |
| 10 | Caption was “just bc p*rn is normal for boys of our age doesn’t mean its good for you”. I’ve never seen men speak up against this, Im having hope for improvement for the next generation (sorry if the flair is wrong)What is E.D.? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 10:31 PM |
| 13 | What are the little red flags you look back on and realize you should have paid more attention to?I had family issues at home. I straight up told him about it our second time dating just so he knew what I had to deal with. Instead of being compassionate, he said "If you don't tell your dad that we're dating, I will break up with you." Feeling pressured, I told my dad despite my mom telling me not to. Literal hell broke loose in the household and I stayed at a friend's house for over a month. My ex thought I was "lying" to him so that's why he made the ultimatum. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 12:35 AM |
| 56 | Any stories about how toxic exes are doing years after?It's been a year and a half since I ended the relationship. The guy was literally in love with his actuarial career and video games. He is still in love with his career and video games. He streams on Twitch every night. No classy woman would take a Twitch streamer seriously.... regardless of his income. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:23 PM |
| 4 | Rich men can still be LV. It isn’t all about money, it’s a disgusting mindset too.Can confirm. OP did say that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:49 PM |
| 7 | My Husband Makes $975,000 and Won't Let Me Stay Home! (Instead, waste money on childcare. Which is expensive in Canada)This guy treats his wife like an employee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:45 PM |
| 43 | "Why do you want to get married? It's just a piece of paper"Never allow a man to waste your time. Please don't become a "forever girlfriend." He'll break up with you after 8+ years of dating but then marry the next lady after 6+ months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:25 AM |
| 2 | In the past, men took responsibility and settled down earlier. What made them change?THIS 100%. I've felt like it was wrong to give yourself so freely. The minds of many have been trained for short term gratification rather than long-term prediction. | /r/askFDS | 18/08/20 06:25 PM |
| 3 | In the past, men took responsibility and settled down earlier. What made them change?You sound like a porn addict who has low emotional intelligence. I bet you think prostitution is okay. I'm glad that no female is in a relationship with you. | /r/askFDS | 16/08/20 08:21 PM |
| 6 | Favorite ways to shut down unwanted male attention?THIS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:23 AM |
| 10 | Why do guys get back with their ex?You probably caught his attention but then someone else did the same so he pulled away from you. You don't need this type of guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 05:04 PM |
| 2 | STUDY: Most men do not consider living together with you being committed or the same thing as wanting a futureMake up a b.s. email. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 01:08 PM |
| 3 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?His work ethic. He took great pride in being serious about his job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 01:12 AM |
| 5 | STUDY: Most men do not consider living together with you being committed or the same thing as wanting a futureYou need to add that to Urban Dictionary! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Dumping a guy I like because we want different things out of life.My parents started some drama but he used it against me. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:37 PM |
| 19 | Dumping a guy I like because we want different things out of life.It was almost our 2nd year of dating and he said "I haven't been as invested in the relationship bc of your parents." My jaw dropped. I invested almost everything in the relationship. A month later, I broke up with him. He doesn't respect my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:13 PM |
| 19 | WAP- The Hypersexualization of Black WomenThe video sucks and the music isn't that catchy to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:22 AM |
| 3 | In the past, men took responsibility and settled down earlier. What made them change?I think you've hit the nail on the head! | /r/askFDS | 10/08/20 03:15 AM |
| 17 | In the past, men took responsibility and settled down earlier. What made them change?Sex positive =/= sex irresponsible. The older I become, the more crazier it sounds to give everything away for free. | /r/askFDS | 09/08/20 11:29 PM |
| 16 | In the past, men took responsibility and settled down earlier. What made them change?THIS. | /r/askFDS | 09/08/20 09:17 PM |
| 23 | He just wants someone he can abuse (Original post from another sub)15. Must have a decent job 16. Must do everything I say What? You want a worker and a maid? This lady is going to be exhausted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:15 AM |
| 2 | This is why we should never play housewife (especially besides a job)LVM nowadays want an added income worker and a maid all in one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 03:50 AM |
| 16 | She has sex every single day with her husband for 10 years. He still cheated.I feel like society should start teaching women on how to screen men. It's difficult for people to quit habits so if I notice a guy who has had contact with so many women, I tell myself that I won't be his last. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:02 PM |
| 18 | Found this gem on TinderPERIODT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:45 PM |
| 6 | What country do you think has the least scrotes and why?I'm interested in this discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 12:03 AM |
| 3 | Dating is for finding the right person, not to find someone to hang out with all the time and be his "girlfriend" for years and years while he has made no real commitment.Same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:13 PM |
| 4 | Dating is for finding the right person, not to find someone to hang out with all the time and be his "girlfriend" for years and years while he has made no real commitment.Almost everything in life is a risk. Always make sure you have community connections wherever you go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:12 PM |
| 6 | Dating is for finding the right person, not to find someone to hang out with all the time and be his "girlfriend" for years and years while he has made no real commitment.Foolish men. :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:22 PM |
| 5 | Dating is for finding the right person, not to find someone to hang out with all the time and be his "girlfriend" for years and years while he has made no real commitment.THIS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:21 PM |
| 2 | YOUNG COLLEGE GIRL NEEDING ADVICE: How to start dating (never had a real thing before) without falling into PickMe traps?Be cautious, med school guys can have an inflated ego. They may do the bare minimum bc they know many women are attracted to male doctors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 11:09 PM |
| 4 | YOUNG COLLEGE GIRL NEEDING ADVICE: How to start dating (never had a real thing before) without falling into PickMe traps?24F here. Just because you treat them fairly, doesn't mean they'll reciprocate. Almost every relationship will start off good... that's what hooks every woman in. Most guys in their early 20's date to get laid, not to be in a longterm relationship with a woman. Guys MAY start getting serious by their senior year of university. A man who is truly in love with a woman will go out of his way and won't take years to propose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 11:07 PM |
| 24 | This group has made me realize how HV my husband is.There is hope in this world. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:28 AM |
| 25 | Marriage timeline - am I ridiculous ?This guy values his time more than yours. He wants wifey privileges without dealing with its consequences. Toughen up. Leave this guy. You deserve to be happy and have a family (if you want that). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Break up after 5 years bc of no proposal?It kind of sucks because he is doing very well in his career. When I first met him, he started his career out of college in an insurance company with a starting salary over $60K a year. As he continued dating me, his salary went up an additional $10K. It really upset me that he made career plans years in advance but it seemed like he didn't know where we'd be in 6 months. It was all an excuse so he could enjoy himself. He never wanted to go on vacation with me but he did so months post breakup f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 09:49 PM |
| 5 | Break up after 5 years bc of no proposal?Sounds like my very educated ex bf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 02:57 PM |
| 12 | Break up after 5 years bc of no proposal?THIS. In my last relationship, the second dating anniversary was coming up and he pulled the "I wasn't fully invested in you because x,y,z." That shit woke me up real quick and I broke up with him a month later. Ladies, men know what they're doing! They act dumb while using their intelligence for personal gain (career advancement, hobbies, etc.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 02:56 PM |
| 5 | Break up after 5 years bc of no proposal?There are men in this world who will cross an entire ocean in order for their refugee families to have a better quality of life. He doesn't seem to have his relationship priorities straight. She can find better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 02:50 PM |
| 9 | Must be under 5’5, fit, submissive, and stepmother to 4.A man with kids slid into my DM's on Facebook. He claimed that he thought I was beautiful since the day he met me (we met years ago in high school and he didn't seem interested). I snooped his facebook and I saw his post from a year ago claiming how much he loved the mother of his children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 05:51 PM |
| 6 | Dating in college - a waste of time?At the time, my bf graduated from undergrad with a degree in actuarial sciences. His starting salary was at least $60K a year. As we continued dating in the 2 years, his salary went up to at least $75K a year. He was reluctant in buying me a $9 grey cat plush. He also expected me to sometimes pay (I was making $9 an hour compared to his $25+ an hour.) He spent over $1K on building a computer but never went out of his way to surprise me with flowers. There were some good moments but it seems like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 11:28 PM |
| 8 | Types of LVM you meet in higher educationInvites you so can watch him play video games all night and makes a pass at you and kicks you out after sex. Invites you again the next day. Why does it seem like gamer guys are clones? My ex did the. same. exact. thing. I truly loved him but I found it strange that as soon as sex was done, he put on his clothes and went DIRECTLY to his computer to play video games. I didn't even have the time to realize he left the room. The porn that he watched growing up most likely rewired his brain. He sees… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 10:31 PM |
| 23 | When looking for a partner, men is encouraged to aim high and questioned when he settles, while women is "advised" to settle and criticized when she aims high. What the fuck is this bullshit.I agree. There are men on this Earth who'd cross an entire ocean so their refugee families could live better lives while these privileged guys don't even bother to surprise you with flowers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 03:24 AM |
| 43 | In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.This was the problem for many women and families BEFORE the pandemic. Now it's exacerbated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 03:51 PM |
| 18 | Sleeping 😴 I’ve noticed a key difference between HVM and LVM is that HVM care about your sleep. Anyone else?My LVM ex didn't even want me to sleep on the same bed as him because "I made the bed too hot." Meanwhile, he slept with 2 cats nearby him every night. Cats have a higher body temperature than humans. LVM will treat you like a fuk-buddy, not a wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Breaking the Silence - The Women of BosniaYou're welcome. There's power in truth. Queens support each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:25 PM |
| 6 | Breaking the Silence - The Women of BosniaIt's important to raise awareness so others would know. This could help other women and possibly save someone's life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 11:56 AM |
| 3 | Oh but if a woman said this, it’ll be gOld diGgiNg🙄 A reminder to be unashamed in what you want ladies, these men aren’t ashamed.'murica always has to be the exception. Not only are we not flattening the curve, it's going vertical like '1' in "we're #1!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 04:48 AM |
| 3 | Career-Oriented MenImagine going to school all those years and you still don't have financial common sense. *laughing* It's better to make less money but have a more peaceful life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Career-Oriented Men:'( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:05 PM |
| 4 | Career-Oriented MenPublic health student said that med students are notoriously bad with money. They'll buy a BMW before even receiving their medical degree. After graduation, they buy the biggest house even though they'll almost never be home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:03 PM |
| 4 | Career-Oriented MenMy ex started doing something like this and then the relationship went down the drain. Being compassionate, I went along with it bc I was raised on the value of hard work and sacrifice. The only difference with your comment is that even after 1.5 years of dating, he didn't like the idea of me staying over at his apartment for 2 days. I truly believe now that he was selfish. All that hard work was for himself. He spoiled and paid attention to his cats more than me. It's so strange for me to say t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:01 PM |
| 47 | Bye then.That amount of emojis have dropped my IQ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 07:40 PM |
| 4 | Career-Oriented MenEither he is addicted to work or he is using work to hide his selfish tendencies. The second option sounds more viable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 07:38 PM |
| 6 | Career-Oriented MenGood idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:52 PM |
| 15 | Career-Oriented MenIt makes me wonder that if men do this to their wives, is it truly love? The need to dominate is a dark characteristic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:52 PM |
| 22 | Career-Oriented MenYou're right. What I noticed is that men who haven't endured true hardship in their lives have an entitled perspective on the world. There are men who have nothing but are willing to cross oceans so that their refugee families could live a better life. On the other spectrum, we have men who grew up with silver spoons in their mouths and these types throw a hissy fit when asked for emotional support. Just look at Gloria Vanderbilt's life. She dated super posh men but the man who truly won her hea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:46 PM |
| 3 | NVM doesn‘t even try...I'mma have to wear a bullet proof vest over my lady parts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 02:26 PM |
| 29 | Never ever ever beg someone to stay. This concept has been romanticized in the media, but it's toxic to your soul and mind. You teach other people how to treat you, so treat yourself with love, respect, and dignity.My ex of 8 years Wow. 8 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:01 PM |
| 4 | I just dropped himIf you want to get married, don’t commit til he expresses interest in marriage and put a time limit on how long you’ll wait for him to propose. That way you can weed out all the “let’s just see where it goes” clowns SO. TRUE. Please don't become a "forever girlfriend." A guy will brag a woman for 8+ years but then marry the next woman after 6 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 01:20 AM |
| 1 | "I thought you were beautiful since the day I met you" lineNot military but this is good to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:57 PM |
| 98 | The day before our first date! He’s been asking me out for weeks and now he reveals himself!!Find a shrek photo and send it to him. Tell him that's you with makeup on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 09:17 PM |
| 38 | When a man wants you, he’ll let you knowTHIS! #QUEENMODE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Ex went on VacationThat sounds like something my ex would say and do. From my perspective, he probably knew how much that meant but wanted to show that you couldn't "control him." It sounds like he ended up taking control of the pace of the relationship. So often, we give benefit of the doubt bc we treat others the wya we wanted to be treated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 09:32 PM |
| 11 | Ex went on VacationI didn't add this detail in but he said that us going on vacation meant that our relationship was heading towards "the next step." He knew how important vacations were but he said it in such a way that it seemed like I wasn't a prize. Gosh, it's so repulsive to think about now. How can you say this to your gf?!? :'( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 10:08 PM |
| 61 | LVM with 200k salary wants his gf to pay to sleepover; I hope she dumps his assIf he treats her like this now, just imagine how he'll treat his family down the road. This dude will spend thousands on useless hobbies at the expense of lifelong partnership. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 09:10 PM |
| 12 | Husband cheats on wife after she spends 10+ years taking care of him and paying off his debts. Stay away from LVMHe's the type of dude who would try to find evidence as to why prenups are justified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 12:46 PM |
| 7 | Last week I went on a date with a 26 y/o man who said he never wants to get married so that other married men will be jealous of him 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️^THIS^^^ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 11:48 PM |
| 10 | Having kids with HVM’sI'd say be careful because some ppl value their belongings more than another human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 02:32 PM |
| 6 | Relationship Advice in Evolutionary BiologyHomo sapiens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 11:07 PM |
| 94 | Nobody hates LVM more them HVM... NOBODYIt's almost as if the way someone perceives another person tells a lot about themselves. It's always the rich dudes who tell a hardworking woman that she's a "social climber" while he lives off of his family's privilege. She wanted to be with you because she's a decent person, you tried to add on a selfish purpose. She will walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 03:45 PM |
| 25 | Are most LVM in America?? Thinking about leaving this country for good.My family is originally from Bosnia but I grew up in the states. I've been wondering the same thing! When my parents were dating during the Bosnian War, my dad still found ways to treat my mom and never asked for her to pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 04:50 PM |
| 26 | “ period stuff freaks me out” Disgusting. This is why you shouldn’t get into a fwb situation with a man, some men really don’t deserve sexThis further shows that a college education doesn't necessarily mean a guy will be classy or respectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 12:13 AM |
| 9 | “Plenty of fish in the sea” there’s also waste in the seaBy the year 2050, there'll be more plastic than fish in our oceans. I already see a ton of plastic around me. TBH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 11:52 PM |
| 8 | Gamer GuysMost gamers do not simply play video games like drinking a small glass of fine wine. It's more of a Netflix binge right before finals week type of addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 11:49 PM |
| 3 | Experiences With Selfish Men?My ex currently works as an actuary (people who calculate risks for insurance companies). It's impossible for someone to keep track of everything so he prioritized his career and his gaming life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 07:13 PM |
| 12 | Gamer GuysThank you for sharing! My ex, who was an avid gamer, also loved drinking energy drinks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 07:10 PM |
| 4 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self?It doesn't take a man 2 years for him to realize you're wife material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 06:38 PM |
| 14 | Experiences With Selfish Men?I dated an actuary for almost 2 years: 1.) He wanted me to sleep on the couch because I "made the room too hot." Naïvely, I agreed. He allowed his 2 cats to sleep on his queen sized bed even though cats have a higher body temperature than humans. 2.) Told me that he "wasn't the vacationing type." A few months after I broke up with him, he went on vacation halfway across the country to meet up with guy friends. 3.) Claimed that he was "frugal" when doing things for me but splurged over $1K on com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 05:28 PM |
| 19 | We need a sub called "Am I With An Asshole".I agree! My ex seemed more in love with his games than with me. Be careful of gamer men who also hold down a job. This means he'll prioritize his career and his addiction before you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:19 PM |
| 10 | We need a sub called "Am I With An Asshole".I don't mean to throw shade but what the heck is up with these gamers? My ex seemed to be more in love with this games than with me. Dang. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:17 PM |
| 35 | LVM thought he could get away with a $6 engagement ring from Amazon. His fiancee found out when she was going to resize it at a jewelry store otherwise she would've been fooled.I had this happen to me. My ex was making $65K+ per year and acted like surprising me with a $20 gift was a pain for him. He gladly spent over $1K to build a computer for better video game capabilities but told me that he "wasn't the vacationing type." Months after our breakup, he decided to go on a vacation halfway across the country to meet up with his buddies. I know for a fact that he wouldn't have done this for me. Another thing I also figured out: He tended to treat me better when his pare… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:06 AM |
| 5 | This woman learnt that men will date/make out with her if she asks them out *shocking*My ex made the same claim in the beginning of the relationship. I saw how well his father treated his mother and I started to wake up that my ex didn't give a crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 12:55 AM |
| 32 | Wife does all of the house work and childcare alone on top of a full-time job. Husband makes almost 4x more than she does but he insists on splitting the housing costs evenly. He railroaded her into living in a more expensive location and now she can’t save money.ATTENTION, LADIES WHO NEED TO HEAR THIS: Money alone does not make a man high value. Rich men can be just as low value as broke ass couch creatures, if not more so as they have the means to do what they like and can use money as a form of control/abuse. I agree 100%. I fell in love with a... should I say.... boy from an upper-middle class family. He acted like the opportunities given to him were earned. He seemed happy with living on his own. He claimed a decently sized apartment and queen sized… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 12:51 AM |
| 3 | If he wants to hold off on sex and being intimate until “love”, pay extra attention to potential red flags elsewhere. Clickbait title: you’ll never guess why I’m telling you this...I am too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 03:47 AM |
| 4 | If he wants to hold off on sex and being intimate until “love”, pay extra attention to potential red flags elsewhere. Clickbait title: you’ll never guess why I’m telling you this...I know this is off topic but are you from the Balkans? I'm getting independent, successful Albanian woman vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 03:34 AM |
| 5 | What is a random red flag that holds true? Let’s discuss patterns we’ve observed 👑👇🏽Men who play video games more than once a week are also probably addicted to porn, live in squalor, are overweight, and are misogynist. Video games, as popular as they are, are NOT a healthy hobby; they are a virtual timesuck and anyone I've known who has been into them is also an unproductive lump of a person. I agree with this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 03:30 AM |
| 43 | Men will tell you EXACTLY what they are up to if you just pay attentionI second this! Steve Harvey referenced a study which showed that it takes an average of 6 months for a guy to decide if he wants to marry the woman. We have dudes out here stringing women along for 10 years! omg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 01:22 AM |
| 5 | Stop Smiling So MuchMy family is from Eastern Europe and I'm glad that I quickly learned to not smile. I may be approached less but I do feel like people bother me less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 11:33 PM |
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