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33yrs old and started taking action at 28, the difference that made the difference was that I finally realized that women deeply WANT powerful and sexual men, and that fulfilling that role and GOING FOR IT full commitment-no-apologies was eventually going to get me what I wanted. ps: you're a handsome mofo, I wouldn't say you look 18 at all - figure out your style and own it!
/r/seduction20/03/18 02:46 AM
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The fact that you got laid once doesn't magically give you the keys to her dungeon, so to speak :) By texting a few times a day, you're telegraphing to her that you really really really really want to have sex again, the fact that you already slept together is irrelevant
/r/seduction02/03/18 08:03 PM
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Yo, to some degree, I can relate to the way your brain thinks, you seem very verbally oriented and high analytical. For example, you seem to have remembered your conversation in great detail. I wanna ask, do you have the same recollection about what her body language, eyes, and facial expressions were doing during your conversation? My hunch is that you should focus on picking up the non-verbal cues people send you - the next time you hang out with some people, focus on just how they're sitting,…
/r/seduction01/03/18 07:20 PM
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I disagree, if you're obviously nervous then calling it out is the best way to put everyone (including you) at ease. Well done on doing the approach despite being nervous and not wanting to do it. Was it worth it now that you have her number and are texting?
/r/seduction28/02/18 08:31 PM
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Could you dm me a link to your coaching site?
/r/seduction28/02/18 08:28 PM
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Question for you, how did you break the pattern of the romantic frame?
/r/seduction28/02/18 12:49 AM
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Daygame
/r/seduction26/02/18 01:06 AM
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Don't wait 2-3 weeks to make a move. I take it you're talking about your immediate social circle? Like, in college maybe? If every woman you approach says she's taken, then it's something to do with your approach or the energy you give off. Those are really specific examples - try to do some social exercises so that you can do a cold approach. Walk down the street saying hi to people for a few minutes, or just sitting on a bench and observe people. It might sound like a dumb thing to do but you'…
/r/seduction25/02/18 07:01 AM
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First is to find a way to drop the mindset that not being white is going to stop you. I don't know the college sorority culture but I would gather a bet that girls might not care if you're in a frat or not. One book that gave me massive insights into the dynamic between men and women is called Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, can't recommend it enough - you might even find that it answers all of your questions..
/r/seduction25/02/18 06:57 AM
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I don't know if it was any one step that did it, but I suppose that prioritizing to push myself to have a wide range of experiences with women helped me to understand better about what women are after and that I can give that to them. So maybe the one over-arching pattern is that I've always had a curiosity to learn about women and people - it strikes me that the RSD guys aren't necessarily into that part as much as the sex part
/r/seduction24/02/18 11:01 PM
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Another thought I had while writing the above is: I used to not have it in me at ALL to do the RSD high energy stuff, but now that I have more confidence, this high energy "RSD" stuff that I was always afraid of is coming through on its own - weird
/r/seduction24/02/18 09:54 PM
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Been in a similar boat as you, quality women tend not to tolerate bs, for me it has always been something close to this "models" style, it brings in smart quality women who play by decent human rules and can control their emotions better and know what they're after
/r/seduction24/02/18 08:22 PM
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Definitely go out alone, and make the mission of the night to amuse yourself instead of trying to get laid
/r/seduction24/02/18 07:40 AM
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She ain't gonna be making any first moves, that's on you. If you're nervous about it then I suggest you make out for a bit and get some slow physical contact going, both of you will relax. How old?
/r/seduction24/02/18 07:35 AM
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I really don't know what to say, it really depends on the core reason behind having those experiences that only you can answer for yourself, and you might not even know them consciously. The way I see it: on the one hand, it sounds like you have an amazing girl for 4 years and things seem to be working out.. so maybe it's wise to compromise on the ONS stuff and stay in your relationship - at the end of the day you'll find that those sexual exploits might be somewhat hollow and you'll probably wa…
/r/seduction24/02/18 07:30 AM
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If there's something else to say then send a second message with the next piece, don't put two sentences into a single message, and send the second message right away, like this one right here haha
/r/seduction24/02/18 03:10 AM
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I agree, another way to keep the text flowing in the readers head is not to use multiple sentences, like in this post the text thread just seems to keep floating on and it seems like a single thought, so ya I'm free on sat at 9pm, come over then
/r/seduction24/02/18 03:09 AM
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No I don't, do you have any suggestions? Feel free to pm me
/r/seduction24/02/18 02:08 AM
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This is exactly on point. On its own, cold reading is just a parlor trick I agree. But most of the time I use these observed patterns just as entry points into a conversation, I'm only using them to show interest in building rapport. Btw I'm curious, how would you define "connection", or what should be there for connection to exist?
/r/seduction24/02/18 01:05 AM
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I'm with you, hard to find a good community of intermediate guys. Where you located? Canada here.
/r/seduction24/02/18 12:23 AM
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Okay this is a super important question, but I want to ask you a few questions first. How much did you date before the relationship? What do you think attracts you to having those cabo experiences? Is the sex in your relationship lacking, or is there another issue in the relationship that bothers you? It's not a simple answer and this is something I struggle with as well so I want to know more about your situation before writing anything.
/r/seduction24/02/18 12:15 AM
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Do you overthink when you're hanging out with your friends? Probably not. So what it is about a girl that makes you overthink? It might be that you don't have many options/leads so you try to not blow this one shot you have with a new girl you like. (correct me if I'm wrong on this, that's just what it was like for me) If you feel like you're trying too hard with the texting, then you're probably trying too hard. :) Let her message you - most of the time girls are just screening guys based on ho…
/r/seduction24/02/18 12:09 AM
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I completely relate to everything you wrote: I used to think I could NEVER sleep with someone before 2-3 dates and I would also obsess that if I didn't go fast enough or perform well enough on the first time then the girls would leave. My first thought is, do you watch porn or masturbate often? Practical advice: call it out. If you feel weird about sleeping with someone, then say "hey listen, I need to know someone a little bit longer before having sex, lets just lie in bed together" or "hey we'…
/r/seduction24/02/18 12:01 AM
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Oh yeah and being ripped is a good advantage to have but it won't be enough to keep a quality girl. Hey you're 18 so most of the girls are gonna be flocking to you like a moth to a flame so use your body to your advantage while you can but don't rest on your laurels and keep developing your intellect, character, and mindsets.
/r/seduction23/02/18 11:46 PM
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Those mindsets will change as your behavior with women changes (guys lucky to have girls, etc). You will literally prove to your mind that the beliefs it holds about women are false, you just need to give your brain plenty of evidence that it's seeing the world the wrong way. In the last week, how many approaches have you done? If you're noticing a pattern that women are nervous around you, then it's probably because you make them nervous. Maybe you give them too much eye contact (been guilty of…
/r/seduction23/02/18 11:44 PM
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Great advice. I would second that you do something that involves your body. From personal experience, rock climbing / bouldering is a fantastic transition from video games and usually has a really solid community behind it. Martial arts is also very good for this - I got bored after 9 years of climbing and now replaced it with jiu jitsu - also a good community of people.
/r/seduction23/02/18 11:30 PM
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You'll have to talk to the girl at some point though, right? Being nervous about it is fine, most people are nervous when talking to strangers. Do you get nervous when you talk to someone that you know really well?
/r/seduction23/02/18 09:16 AM
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That was the mindsets, now for the details. You mentioned the arm (elbow, wrist, upper arm, shoulder), side of her waist, lower back, knee or lower thigh when seated (perhaps under the table when seated next to each other or at the bar).. honestly, it's pointless to list them, your body will tell you where to touch her. Practice noticing this point of hesitation in your body, your body is telling you to touch her but you're stopping it by over thinking. Just do the touch and look at the response…
/r/seduction23/02/18 09:14 AM
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Yeah there's the whole metoo hysteria going on - I think it is being way out of proportion. As long as you are not steamrolling ahead when she is giving clear "no" signals you should be fine. The mindset you should have is this: you and her are on the same team and BOTH of you want to escalate things physically. It's not that it's something you have to do TO her, but with her. Usually she will give you openings and opportunities to escalate and it's up to you to recognize them and do the escalat…
/r/seduction23/02/18 09:06 AM
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Uni/college is the perfect time to get it sorted, don't put it off! I was about 20 when I socialized myself. How about your online time? Is it a lot?
/r/seduction23/02/18 08:56 AM
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What action are you going to take?
/r/seduction23/02/18 08:22 AM
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Fair enough, that's a hard place to start from but it's less difficult to overcome than you think - like anything you want to improve, you need a strategy. First, how much time do you spend online? If you're relying on getting the feelings of social connection from online then you have to get offline more than you are online and suffer through what feels like an online social drought - but then again the socialization from online isn't fulfilling that need anyway - so force yourself to socialize…
/r/seduction23/02/18 08:19 AM
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Which question do you have for me, sorry but I like specific questions because it's better to get concrete than to stay vague :)
/r/seduction23/02/18 08:01 AM
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What do you mean when you say "escalate".. in what way are you trying to escalate? Touch? Eye contact? Innuendo? In my experience, women show their interest by giving you a window in which they invite you to escalate in some manner, I totally agree that missing this window (or not even being aware of it) can ruin the "flow" of the interaction -- like it feels as if there's a kink in something that should be really natural, kind of like that?
/r/seduction23/02/18 07:57 AM
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Four questions?
/r/seduction23/02/18 07:52 AM
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Thanks. Making observations about people (even if you don't use them in conversation) is extremely important to notice patterns in people. This makes conversation even easier because you rely on your subconscious patterns to guide where you can take the conversational topic, hope that makes sense?
/r/seduction23/02/18 07:14 AM
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I don't know the safety situation in Brazil (I'm sure it varies) but you will probably be okay to walk down the street saying hello or waving to people :) The point of these is to show your mind that it doesn't need to be as anxious as it is around people. Don't pay much attention to the "gad" label, I've never even heard of it before and had to look it up. And hey, it's fine if you have some anxiety, but don't get attached to that label - you might be surprised how quickly you will get over the…
/r/seduction23/02/18 02:46 AM
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What do you think it is about this girl in particular that has made you feel this way?
/r/seduction23/02/18 02:41 AM
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It's okay to fall in love and then fall out of love. Just don't get stuck being with someone because you're afraid to hurt them by leaving, although it sounds like you know you have options so that helps with not getting stuck. Also wanna point out that these feelings might fade away after a few weeks or a few months, depends on how deep you go with it - oxytocin is a hell of a drug and everyone's an addict. Have you felt like this about anyone else before?
/r/seduction23/02/18 02:04 AM
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Totally doable and way easier than you think, but you will have to confront things that you don't want to deal with because your body thinks they're scary. They're not actually scary, and you need to prove that to yourself. Drastically change the amount of time you invest into video games. Think of your time as a resource - you invest it into video games so you get good at games. That's easy and safe. Now think about investing that time into figuring out your social anxiety. That sounds hard and…
/r/seduction23/02/18 01:25 AM
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Advice from an older dog, don't be afraid to fall for a girl, you will learn way more about women and what you ultimately want from a medium/long relationship than from many emotionless hookups. Just make sure you don't fall in all the way: never compromise your values or your self-esteem for the sake of being in the relationship.
/r/seduction23/02/18 01:07 AM
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