Conversation skills

lapancakes · 2018-02-23T01:25:53+00:00

Totally doable and way easier than you think, but you will have to confront things that you don't want to deal with because your body thinks they're scary. They're not actually scary, and you need to prove that to yourself.

Drastically change the amount of time you invest into video games. Think of your time as a resource - you invest it into video games so you get good at games. That's easy and safe. Now think about investing that time into figuring out your social anxiety. That sounds hard and dangerous. But until you make this transition that deep inside you know that you will make, you will keep getting better at video games. You know how to focus on something, apply the same tactics that you do for games to being in the world and learning about how people socialize.
Make a routine where you spend some amount of time each day dedicated to taking action. This means going somewhere and being around people. Reading about techniques and conversation skills doesn't count. Make it 10 minutes a day. Make it an hour a day. Just make it something doable and never skip a day.
Start by just going to a public place and sitting on a bench and observing people. Make up a story about what their life is like. A lot of conversational smalltalk is just making observations - if you make them interesting observations then you get people interested in you.
Walk down the sidewalk and say hi to people who pass by. Most people will be surprised by this - don't take it personally if they don't say hi back. The point is for you to prove to yourself that it's more or less safe to be social.
Walk down the sidewalk and put your hand out as if expecting a high five when someone is about 20ft in front of you. You will be surprised how many people give you a high five if you give them enough time to react (20ft). Try to smile as you do this.
Work on your posture, voice projection, and eye contact. I have a few exercises you can do for those but the first steps are for you to start putting in the time and work into this by going out and being in social environments, those exercises may get you 90% of the way there.
Good luck. Where from btw?

jeremyjack33 · 2018-02-23T06:17:58+00:00

Cut your game time down and replace it with news, documentaries, movies, and books. When you get done watching a movie, reading a segment in a book, or reading the news, reflect on it and form an opinion on it. Go somewhere by yourself and speak your opinion for a whole minute out loud.

Grifos · 2018-02-23T04:09:58+00:00

When people are having a conversation does your inner monologue comment? Conversation is literally just turning your inner-monologue into spoken words. If you can speak in your head you can speak outloud. Obviously you say things in your head that you would never say outloud, this is called restraint, but for the most part just start talking without thinking exactly what you're going to say, just let your spoken words flow like your inner monologue does. idk if this is helpful given your position but give it a try if you're so worried you can even keep conversation with your friends.

hawkanz · 2018-02-23T15:32:17+00:00

This is my take on video games.

Look I play rocket league and fortnite about 30% of the time. I was addicted to rocket league and I thought to myself. "In two years will this count for anything??" I realized that video games are pretty points in the long run.

Me being good at video games will never impress a woman. In fact it's usually a turn off because they figure that's all you do.

So maybe look into some other hobbies like juggling, hollahooping, and spinning poi. All of these things count potentially start conversation.

Video games simply wont.

TL;DR

If you got 10th presitige in CoD 4 who does anyone actually care anymore?? With hundreds of hours logged..

Maintain bro I deal with GAD also.

Title	Conversation skills
Author	Tettei
Upvotes	16
Comments	24
Date	February 23, 2018 12:28 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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