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| 5 | What happened here? | Lieutenant_ColdCall | /r/askMRP | 04/05/20 11:08 PM |
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| 1 | Frame in serious life situationsThe idea simplified is ‘be attractive don’t be unattractive.’ So if something serious is happening like a dog bite, an attractive response would be to stay calm and help lead / maintain control in helping to resolve the situation. Unattractive would be to give into weak emotions and ask your girl ‘what should we do’ or freak out/get rattled. | /r/askMRP | 19/10/23 08:31 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with irreconcilable differences of opinion on very serious issues“It’s my body.” “And when shit hits the fan, it’s my problem. There are better options that get the same outcome. You’re not doing it.” “Yes I am, blah blah blah.” STFU Hold frame. A few days later . . . “Baby, I’ve been thinking about our conversation the other day. I know you don’t like it but listen to me, I want to still do the (thing that endangers our child).” “I understand. You want to do it because of x, right?” “Right.” “What are the possible implications of the procedure?” “Blah blah b… | /r/askMRP | 15/05/20 01:12 PM |
| 1 | What happened here?Holy shit. Thanks for this. I never thought of it from her perspective like that | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 07:23 PM |
| 5 | What happened here?Shut the fuck up. Post in OYS. Take your beatings and kill the ego. Will do. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 12:07 PM |
| 2 | What happened here?Not happening. This post will remain & you’ll be seeing me in OYS weekly. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 12:06 PM |
| 1 | What happened here?Holding frame is when you don't unintentionally let another person's emotional state change your current emotional state. If I'm happy and someone walks past me and says 'get out of my way'. Holding frame would be me being 100% in control and decisive over my response. Losing frame would be letting my emotional reaction dictate what I do in the situation. Holding frame is conscious and responsive. Losing frame is unconscious and reactionary. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 05:13 AM |
| 2 | What happened here?Cheers, I appreciate the response. I've read most of Mark Manson, great author, especially his talk on vulnerability. Here's what I don't get. If I want her to do what I like and want to punish when she doesn't follow protocol . . . How do I do that without complaining? (essentially breaking frame) I know withdrawing attention is recommended, but it doesn't make sense to use it for everything. Example: I want her to send me a picture of her ass while I'm away at work each day. Day 1 she sends it… | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 04:40 AM |
| -4 | What happened here?Buy a mirror. It’s cheaper than an internet connection | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 02:47 AM |
| -1 | What happened here?I prefer a little higher up. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 02:18 AM |
| -1 | What happened here?Tell me something I don't know. This story could only be worse if I was a eunuch. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 01:52 AM |
| -8 | What happened here?Ask MRP is all about keeping our cool, not being angry, and holding a positive frame. Why would I take advice from you when you can't even keep your cool on an internet forum? | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 01:51 AM |
| -2 | What happened here?Sounds good | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 01:50 AM |
| 1 | What happened here?I see what you mean. The cause of the fight was actually the mistakes I'd previously made and the complaining I did about her not picking up her phone in the supermarket. All of those little mistakes put her in a bad mood which she then used the budgeting exercise to express. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 01:41 AM |
| -2 | What happened here?This is exactly what we do every time. It's what allows us to travel, buy whatever we want, invest more into our businesses. It works. Some guys would probably be too scared from the backlash/judgement to even try set up a behaviour like this. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 01:28 AM |
| 0 | What happened here?Fair comment. I want to improve my own behaviours, but yeah the result was same as if I'd done everything correctly --except for the time wasted/invested in the problem | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 01:21 AM |
| 2 | What happened here?Makes sense. What can I focus on doing instead? I'm doing my best to STFU at the moment. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/20 12:38 AM |
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