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DISCUSSIONlightcobaltblue/r/RedPillWives14/06/21 05:43 PM
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What you really should do is what you want!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 05:56 PM
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I love it. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:57 AM
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I don't know a lot about these types of cultures and haven't experienced them myself. The only thing that I feel like might be useful is to learn how to manipulate the decision makers in the family (probably mostly men). Manipulating, influencing, however you want to call it... It's a desperate measure though, I understand that. And it might not work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:13 PM
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I feel bad for her as well. To find yourself in a situation like that as a 18 year old very young woman... Something went wrong that was not her fault. I hope she wakes up one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:13 AM
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Yes, I agree, she definitely needs to direct all this love towards herself and her child only, maybe also family and pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 06:16 PM
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Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:06 PM
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Why do you let others dictate what you do? You could just not discuss it with them. Move in silence! It's not other's people's business who you choose to date and sleep with. Apparently you even get dates who meet your standards. Honestly, why settle? If you wouldn't get dates with men you find desirable, that's a different story. But even then, the answer wouldn't be "date someone you don't like", but to be an even better version of yourself to attract better men, if it's also something you wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:43 AM
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Because I haven't really read it anywhere else here: stroke yourself also in a non-sexual way, with or outside of masturbation. It might seem ridiculous at first, but I think it helps to give yourself some love through physical touch and make masturbation also feel more loving. If I touch myself only in a sexual way, I can almost feel violated. When I think back when I had a ridiculously high sex drive some years ago, I was also really stressed out. Nowadays I'm a lot more relaxed and my sex dri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:27 AM
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Very interesting topic. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and sources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 06:19 AM
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What if it doesn't really matter if we're closer to chimps or bonobos? We're human. We could be something different. Also, I wonder what has been here in Europe at least before Christianity. I agree that Christianity is a patriarchal system but in order to enforce it in Europe they had to burn "witches" for example (in the later stages). That means that women in fact had a lot of power that had to be taken away to enforce Christianity. I also read somewhere in this sub or on reddit that the best…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 10:46 AM
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If you feel there was something there, then that's probably true. I believe our intuition can pick up on certain things. Even if a girl just feels that her own father desires her sexually, I mean how fucked up is that?! I feel for you, it can be hard when you first start seeing this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:40 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. At 27 right now, for the first time in therapy my therapist clearly defines what happened to me as abuse although my father never touched me in that way as far as I know at least (something might have happened in my early childhood that I don't remember). I just got looks from him, nothing more, that made me feel very uncomfortable. Even quite recently when talking to my therapist I blamed myself for dressing a certain way at 15 and 16, saying I just didn't know a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:02 AM
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That's pretty sad. :/ A lot of this wouldn't happen without alcohol or with much less of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:27 AM
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I experienced this with two exes. I agree with you ladies, it's a huge sign of disrespect. One of them was cruel in different ways, the other just couldn't care about other people a lot in a somewhat less malicious way. I recommend walking away from those people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:40 AM
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I would just think he is not interested and move on. 🤷 Also would think he is a loser for going out with a woman he is not even interested in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:20 AM
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Yeah probably I wouldn't react at all because it's not my name there is no pressure to greet back. At best I would be confused, at worst (for the guy) wouldn't react at all because I would question if he is even looking at me when there are so many other people there you know. What a weird tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:10 AM
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Luckily that's something that would absolutely not work on me. Yes, I would be somewhat confused maybe, if I even recognized that this man meant to talk to me but I would just think something's wrong with him and ignore probably. Maybe I would even say hello out of social pressure but think to myself "weird". I don't react to this stuff a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:04 AM
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What a piece of trash, literally negative value male. Don't ever go back to him for your own sake! You can do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 07:34 AM
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I just here to say that your feelings are valid and I would be hurt by a man checking out other women, especially right in front of me. And I think there's nothing wrong with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 06:24 AM
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Maybe he could sense she wasn't into him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:10 PM
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Well I would assume that most guys at 19 don't want anything serious, maybe he respected you too much to start something casual. Maybe he saw you more as "wife material". Still LV behavior probably but possibly an explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:09 PM
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Thank you for sharing! I'm looking forward to something similar once I'm ready. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 09:47 AM
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Yes, that's really true. I have a mother like this and I thought I made progress by going 50/50 with guys and being "sex positive", following a more "feminist" approach. Eventually my relationships became abusive and the cycle repeated itself. Still struggling to overcome this but I'm well under way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:50 PM
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I interpret it as he needs to do stuff for me or "serve" me in a way and I let him. Men need to be useful and then appreciated for it. When I try to be useful I tend to feel used and there is no amount of appreciating that helps with this bitter feeling... In practice, I would tell him my desires and he would have to fulfill most of them. I think that's probably the way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:38 PM
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Interesting! I can believe that. I also read some of Bancroft's book and he does say therapy for abusive men is essentially useless and can make the situation worse sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:59 PM
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I think the same. I also don't believe that is the way men feel emotional intimacy, or at least not the only way like the woman in the video is saying. Interestingly, my therapist said something very similar once. That's probably what they're teaching in psychology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:33 PM
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Having a good gyno is worth so much! And maybe the guy kind of deserved to being spoken to in that way :D who knows what made her speak to him that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:25 AM
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I'm glad FDS is back! I missed this community and I look forward to the changes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:19 AM
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I didn't know Red Pill said that. To me it's sexually attractive because then I feel safe and taken care of. It's means he has everything under control.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/21 05:01 AM
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I see others here criticizing the negativity and I get that. Maybe it has to change. But for me personally, it seems to be helpful. Because although I left my ex for good about two months ago and I know it was the right decision I sometimes find myself thinking about something positive about him and begin to miss him. And then I read in the sub and I come across a lot of behaviour from men that's really unacceptable and he displayed almost all of it. It helps me to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:37 PM
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Today I was at a gynecologist appointment and was pleasantly surprised how well she treated me, very patient, friendly and not rushed at all. It was the first gynecologist where I felt good in 5 years. Overall a good day. I just wish I had someone to share this with. I'm sharing it here for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:11 PM
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I'm 27 and I think I'm not entirely done with realizing it. That's why I plan not to date or even be in close contact with men until I have really high self esteem and strong boundaries. I agree with some others here, I wish I learned that at 21! Maybe I would already be married to a really good man and have a child by now. Or at the very least I would have had so much peace the last few years... 21 is so incredibly young. You can still do anything you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 07:19 AM
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I agree, too many red flags. The empathy problem and that he walks too fast for you to keep up with him shows that he is not very considerate... It reminded me of really bad exes. Block and delete and don't explain yourself so that he lacks knowledge to fool the next woman better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:45 PM
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I'm so glad she left him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:28 AM
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Thank you for sharing. That or even something worse might have been my future if I stayed with my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:56 PM
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Thank you for your comment. It gives me something to think about. The post actually, too. Somehow I let myself be influenced by Jordan Peterson. I'm overthinking this now. This might change my life for the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:29 PM
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Wow... Another reminder to not ask men out. If they truly want you, they will come to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:54 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:41 AM
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Those are great tips, thank you! I think I'm probably going to try to go to a class for a hobby that interests me or something like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:16 PM
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Crazy! My ex wanted me to go to hospitals with him, too. One time even in the middle of the night. That was especially difficult because I'm afraid of being outside at night. It never occurred to me that some women go through similar things with their bfs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:10 PM
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My last ex was always in pain, too. Interesting that you ladies had kind of a similar experience... He would always whine to me about pain but also everything else. He would go to hospitals so that they could check him every couple weeks or at least months but there was never anything found. Sometimes they would even refuse treatment because they already knew him. And then after all this whining he had something real happen to him. Kidney stones. He was in the hospital for treatment. It's suppos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:03 PM
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Girl, same. I've never gotten flowers from a man and I'm 27, almost 28. I must say though I never really knew I wanted them until quite recently when my brothers got me flowers (probably inspired by my mother but still). Let's get ourselves our own flowers for now! And one day a man will come along that will gift flowers on the regular. :) Also, I had the same experience with men wanting only sex from me and nothing more quite often. And I think it's because I've come across as low value because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:02 AM
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Anyone here tried to find girlfriends over bumble? I'm very isolated and think about how to find friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 09:26 PM
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YES! I'm thinking about doing the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:41 PM
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Yes, I understand that. I even think about if I would want to have sex only after marriage. I know FDS probably advises against it and I would want to know if his dick is big enough and if he has any ED issues and treats me good sexually. But I'm also afraid I guess to bond again and be so vulnerable before I know he is FULLY committed and not like half way committed in a LTR... Maybe when I'm more healed, I will see things differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:12 PM
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Yeah, maybe it was misunderstood. I just meant I personally don't want to wait that long. Do you mean by six month boat you're 6 months into a relationship at the moment? If I'm being honest I'm just theoretically thinking what would be right for me and how to date. I'm not ready yet and won't be for a while. And I haven't had a great relationship ever because of my low self esteem probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:56 PM
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Funny how you say two years without an engagement is too much. That's what I was thinking too but got downvoted for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:35 PM
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I couldn't find anything on marriage in the handbook right now, but I admit I haven't read all of it yet... But I get it, most here just think 2 years is very reasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:48 PM
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Are people mad that I'm not ready to wait around 2 years for a proposal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:27 PM
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Yes, definitely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:22 AM
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I mean it's cute but 2 years? That would be too much for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:08 AM
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That's just manipulation on their part. The past months before I broke up with him it felt like he was dangling this marriage carrot before my eyes. He would say he almost asked me but there was too much stress in our relationship (he would also often say that I'm the problem basically). I finally realized that marrying him doesn't do much for me. I'd rather be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:00 AM
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Yes, so true! That's what I'm thinking about at the moment. I really feel like a LTR is a scam if you want to get married. I don't see what benefits I get from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:43 AM
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Honestly? Jealousy is probably the best explanation to this bizarre behavior. I was wondering what was going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:18 AM
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Yes, that must be what my ex did. He basically wrote me to say how much I hurt him and that he wanted to tell me that he wanted to marry me. What am I supposed to do with that information? It's over, it doesn't matter. And it hurts me, too, but I keep it mostly to myself because what are people going to do about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:32 PM
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Yes, so true. I'm in the same boat. It can be impossible for some women to not grow up as a pick me. But as others said, we're here now. ❤️ We will be better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 05:06 AM
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That's good to know that if someone brings up porn (even in a negative way) early on, it's a red flag... It makes sense. My naive brain would maybe take it as a green flag. Yeah, I'm not dating yet. Better that way. Also, words don't actually mean anything. We have to look at their actions. I think I'm getting better at not taking words too seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 05:01 AM
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I think FDS is very useful because it makes you see the bad about men but if we're consuming a lot of negativity, it can make us feel unsafe and that is not the right mindset to be into sex... I think at a certain point it's important to move on and let this negativity go. Comsume more positive and uplifting stuff, but also learn from the past and watch out. I hope there is a way to not repeat mistakes but also feel safe again. Also.. I think it is very normal to not be into sex or only sex with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 05:53 AM
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I feel for her. I could have written this some years ago. He sounds narcissistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:09 AM
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Yeah, it makes sense to me that a man wrote this after some of you pointed it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:50 PM
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Being a pick me is stressful. I know from experience. That must be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:11 PM
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Why does she seem so angry though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:03 PM
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Lol. I actually had to laugh at this. It would be cute if it was coming from a kid. That's what a normal relationship should look like...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:24 PM
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I'm sorry if it sounded a bit harsh. I guess I was imagining myself listening to some dude's story about his ex and got a little angry, haha. I've been through that a couple of times. They would tell me how crazy their ex was. Not long after that they would tell me I was crazy. I'm glad it still kinda worked out for you though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:14 PM
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Why are you guys even talking about exes? I did the same in the past. But now it would be a red flag. I don't care hearing about anyone's exes. Those things should be dealt with before a new relationship. But in this case it might be for the better. I say trust your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:48 PM
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I'm an INFP and I think I sometimes tend to see the good even in bad people or very low value males... I have this childish magical thinking like somehow a man without a formal education could provide for a family if he really wanted to... All he needs is love, right? And I also don't need money, I can eat and wear "love"... (I'm being sarcastic and making a little fun of my thinking.) I was too understanding of men that hadn't their shit together. But at a certain point enough is enough. I suff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:16 PM
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Wow, that's interesting :D didn't expect it to be mostly NTs and NFs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:24 PM
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He's disgusting and she's naive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:14 AM
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Yes, I think we all wish we knew sooner! We can't change it now. At least we know now. I'm glad you were able to stop smoking just like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:30 PM
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I will never see a male as a friend again, ex or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:16 PM
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That's interesting, thank you for sharing! I am really thinking about getting it. It is said that just talking about trauma can retraumatize you, so EMDR is probably more helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 01:39 PM
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You're very welcome! It can be hard sometimes but we will make it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:16 PM
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More about my first sentence: I say to myself I am safe now, I don't really have any problems. I'm free. I try to see every good thing that I do have and be thankful. And then I imagine that I will meet a good man one day. But I also know I don't necessarily need that because happiness comes from within. I know that with or without a (good) man, I can be happy and unhappy. I have to find this happiness within me first. Also, I started simple breathing meditation. Even 5 minutes make a difference…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:33 AM
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I try to be more in the present and focus on a better future. I will also probably try to process this stuff in therapy. The one I'm doing is based on depth psychology. It's hard to tell my therapist though because I feel so ashamed that those things happened. If you're always thinking about specific events, maybe even EMDR would help? I don't know much about it but may try it if it doesn't get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:18 AM
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I agree so much. We don't have to be exactly equal to be of equal value. I desire a man who is very different from me in certain regards because men and women ARE different. I love FDS for seeing differences in men and women and calling fake equality out. So many people nowadays try to hold women to the same standards as men and that is just not how biology works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:59 AM
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Yes, so true. I can't recommend it either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 08:39 PM
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I did the same from a young age. It was the messaging all around me that we don't have to conform to any gender roles. Unfortunately it didn't work well for me ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:23 PM
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Maybe because of your comment about asking guys out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:43 PM
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I think you did great! It's a good strategy to lean back and just listen, I love how you just asked calmly and didn't even judge openly. They tell on themselves without even knowing and can't trick the next woman. And he reacted like a jerk when you said you don't want a second date. Reminds me of my ex with all those question marks. I hated those so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:15 AM
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Yes, I'm so glad! I think that's exactly what you need! To focus on yourself and your wants and needs. I also think there's a good chance his energy towards you will change as well as a result.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/21 05:29 PM
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I can't really know but my guess would be it's not a coincidence. Maybe the way to tell the difference is to ask if those men are investing their time, energy and money into you and for a while. I would think that's the way to know if they like you/us and then it would be natural to also like them after a while?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:39 PM
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I understand where you're coming from but I also wonder if said attraction or "chemistry" is even that important? As you said, you felt very attracted to your LVM ex. I suspect this kind of attraction is actually trauma related. I myself felt most attracted to the guys who abused me most. Have you ever made a list of what you want in a partner? It sounds like he might check all your boxes. Of course don't think he's a HVM for sure in a short amount of time, it takes a lot of vetting to be sure. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:34 PM
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Well, nevermind I read in one of your comments you read The Surrendered Wife multiple times. Maybe another approach would be better then. I wish you the best.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/21 06:33 AM
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I'm sorry to read this. I can only imagine how hard it must be. Are you familiar with Laura Doyle's books? If you want to try to fix it, her advice might help you. I can't really know if that is the right path for you and your life. Separation might be the best option, at least for now. I don't know. It sounds like it would be best to focus on yourself and your self care. It's not about him. What do you actually want, what feels good to you? I also think it might be not as hopeless as it seems. …
/r/RedPillWives06/09/21 06:28 AM
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Ok, I see :) yeah that's something I could try thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:50 PM
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I'm almost at one month. I relapsed multiple times, too. Don't beat yourself up about it. It's hard to change but possible. Sometimes I think I needed to relapse in order to finally make it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 08:19 AM
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Yes it's really sickening. I'm sure your genitals are perfectly fine as they are! We're just living in a sick world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:41 AM
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Last year I grew out my body hair, too, and loved it. I would like to grow out my pubic hair again, but I have a problem: You know the feeling if you ever don't shower for 2-3 days (maybe because of depression or something else) and it feels really uncomfortable and almost hurts? If I shave my pubic hair, it's okay not to shower for 2 days sometimes, but when I have a full grown bush, that feeling is there sometimes after 12 hours not showering and definitely 24 hours. It gets uncomfortable afte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:33 AM
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Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:19 PM
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My ex used to smoke occasionally and I couldn't stand the smell. I physically couldn't be near him, no sex or cuddles and kisses. That motivated him to never smoke before we saw each other. So I agree, being clear with your boundaries will maybe help.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/21 06:56 PM
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Sounds like a horrible situation. If you're a man's priority, he shouldn't act this way. Coincedentally, I still have following tab open: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ_rnnwq7Rg (I planned on listening to it soon, already listened to it once or twice.) Maybe you can cause a shift in your relationship dynamic if you learn to be in your feminine energy and embody it. Masculine men will want to provide for you then. As for specific advice, I would not move in with him. You're allowed to change …
/r/RedPillWives08/08/21 07:51 AM
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No, I would rather have someone who is "lower value" then. Less money for example and better values.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 05:10 PM
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Even if you're not Christian, your worth doesn't lie in your tablecloth!
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 01:21 PM
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I feel like that's good advice. I'm not OP but I'll try that as I have a similar problem sometimes. "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 01:15 PM
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Yes, hello fellow Laura Doyle follower. I second this advice.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 02:07 PM
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I agree, expressing your desires is very important. Not in a negging way of course but maybe just say "I know we had agreed on waiting a bit longer but I just have this strong desire to have a baby soon. It would be so wonderful." (Or something like that, English is not my first language.) Say it once in an inspiring way and then let it go and trust his leadership. Not controlling, just wishing. He may say no at first but he may also change his mind soon because men want to make us happy. Btw La…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 02:00 PM
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The only thing I'm judging is others judging me for it. And telling young women they can still have kids at 40. That may not be the case for everyone. That being said, I probably was overly sensitive on that day, highly triggered. I'm working on that. :)
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 09:15 AM
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Some women may not be able to conceive at 40 or even 35. That's just the reality. Risks are going up, too. Most women can maybe have their children late but not all.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 09:12 AM
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Yes, I guess it depends on how you pursue independence.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 09:06 AM
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I'm sure you will find the right guy. :) 26 is still young! I appreciate your comment.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 09:04 AM
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Yes, exactly it's the PLANNING to have kids at 40 or even late 30s that irks me so much. So many risks for you and your baby and for what? Money? I don't judge if it just happens or women just didn't know earlier and decide to have their babies late or something didn't work out or or... It's just healthier to have kids younger. And I feel just exactly the same way about everything you said about career being plan B and only being interested in your bf proposing. I can't even motivate myself to w…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 08:25 AM
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You have figured it out earlier than me then. :) I was still so confused at 24 and trying hard to finish my degree as if my life depended on it. At least I knew I wanted to be a mother by that time. My only real ambition in life is being a good wife and mother. And honestly I feel like that is the right thing for a healthy society. Children need their mother at home, I will feel much happier that way and there are plenty of men who don't mind.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 08:13 AM
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I agree with you. I pursued my degree before I knew I want to be a mother and homemaker. If I had known it before I probably wouldn't have stressed myself studying for a formal degree. It was kind of painful and took me quite a long time.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 05:29 PM
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Honestly, I feel like you're doing a lot. :) Do you think you could do even more and be still happy or even happier that way? Would you like to do more or do you feel pressured to do so? The problem might be that you can't give yourself permission to be taken care of by your husband and just enjoy your life free from all the work stress. Or you might have a desire to pursue something else other than homemaking, to have a specific purpose. I don't know what that could be in your case. Maybe you w…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 07:39 AM
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It seems like I need some therapy unfortunately but thanks for your advice anyways. :)
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 05:43 AM
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Yes exactly... Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 05:41 AM
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Thank you for your perspective. It seems like it's exactly mine. :D I will check your series out! <3
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 05:40 AM
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You're right after the last session I'm considering to find another therapist. Thank you for your reply and the award. :) There might be other things she is suggesting that are bad. My bf also noticed that we sometimes fight more after therapy. Thank you also for your perspective as a SAHM. Honestly it lets me feel a little more at peace. And while it may be a good idea theoretically to be "independent", I feel like it's just not possible if I will be fortunate enough to maybe have 4 or 5 kids. …
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 05:37 AM
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I have a bachelor's degree and worked a little on the side when I was studying. You're right I shouldn't get caught up in it. Thank you for your reply.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/21 08:36 PM
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Yeah, I feel like I need to find a way to maybe work on my own terms. If I even want to. I said to her I feel like she's judging me for not wanting a job. Then she answered what her opinions are. But you're probably right her opinions don't really matter. They're based on her own experiences anyway. She told me she had a child on her own or something like that, with very little support it seems. And you're also right about that Jane Doe woman. Why do I care? I shouldn't care. I was triggered mys…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/21 08:27 PM
1

I'm not a wife over 40 but I would say your soul and energy are valuable no matter how old you are. Men are attracted to feminine energy. I also believe you can look pretty good even when you get older if you care for yourself properly and that's important, too. Having fun together, shared experiences, being an uplifting companion - all valuable things.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/21 05:53 PM
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What a piece of sh... Makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:21 AM
5

Yeah, thanks for the link. Interesting. I heard it before but didn't know much about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:53 PM
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Yeah, after I thought a bit about it, I got that it was more the dependence part that got downvoted and I also see that most women on here are probably just looking out for each other. However it's not possible to have kids and not depend on anyone. You always depend on your social network (husband, friends or/and family), medical system, your job or the state. There are varying degrees to it of course. I guess I will choose the dependance that I like best. I appreciate your thoughts and wishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:48 PM
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Honestly... after getting some replies the barefoot thing especially has a real dark undertone. Does not plan on leaving the house, trapped, very low maintenance...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:10 PM
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Yeah I see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:39 PM
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Yeah okay that makes sense... She's trapped! I had the thought that maybe she feels safe or that's the story but simply not planning on leaving the house makes sense, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:38 PM
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What is it about being barefoot? I don't get it. I mean I saw that expression multiple times somewhere "pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen" and I get pregnant and kitchen but why barefoot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:21 PM
1

Scary af... I kinda hope it's not real, that's Thriller material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:15 PM
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Does anyone else also hate when men comment on how long you take in the bathroom like showering, shaving, doing hair and makeup? I'm feeling a bit bitter at the moment thinking about comments of exes. I don't want to experience it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:14 AM
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I appreciate you looking out for other women and their kids. I will think it through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:33 AM
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I don't have to have a reason to want however many children I want. I won't pick any man to do this. If I don't find one that is good enough for what I plan, I may get 1-2 children from a sperm donor on my own and to go back to work a few years after. But I don't plan on going back to work after having 4 kids. You're right, I would be out of the workforce for AT LEAST 9 years but honestly probably even more and I think at that point it wouldn't be fair to have to go back to work. Raising childre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:04 AM
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Lol ok. Downvoted because I want kids. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:48 AM
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Kids are the reason I want to get married and am somewhat more traditionally minded. I want 4-5 children actually and that is my own wish. And I want to be there for them pretty much full time until they are maybe like 3 at least. That will make me financially dependent on my future husband but I can still keep emotionally independent. He will know I will leave if he messes up. We have a good welfare system where I live so I'm not really worried about money. I will be fine. (And there's also chi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:07 PM
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Yeah there's nothing you can really do.. I know I didn't really care what my friends would say about exes and I sometimes even got angry. Sounds like she's kinda codependent or something. (I don't mean it in a mean way, I myself am still recovering from it.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:31 PM
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Wow... Just wow. Let him pick the doll then if it's so great, haha. What a weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:21 AM
32

I love this. Thanks for the reminder. We have so much worth as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:04 AM
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That's really sad. I want children really bad and wouldn't consider such a man anymore because of that. Sounds like she could have at least one child completely on her own. She is not only providing for herself but also her husband. She could use that same money for a child from a sperm bank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:53 AM
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Haha "women on FDS hate sex workers because we hate poor people" right, that's the reason, certainly. We don't hate sex workers at all. I have a lot of compassion for them and what they're going through. I can hate men who think it's okay just to use women like that (their "customers") but certainly not the victims. You can't argue they do it by choice because very many are forced or have some type of trauma early on that leads them to this "choice".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:44 PM
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So that's what has always happened to me... You put it well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:10 AM
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Honestly, hurts to read this. I guess I'm triggered from previous experiences, but also feel for the woman in the story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:26 AM
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I'm glad that time in your life is over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:28 AM
32

Sounds like hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:15 AM
2

Orgasming from giving oral to men! I'm curious now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:32 PM
97

I'm also thankful for FDS and feel safe here because no men are allowed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:30 AM
3

I will! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:26 AM
5

Hopefully haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:52 AM
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That's interesting. But I think most women don't really get pleasure from penetration alone! I have a different experience. I crave penetration when I'm aroused and can also orgasm from penetration alone. It happened at least once before. Not often though, not more than five times in my life if I had to guess. I guess it's rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:14 AM
3

That's right! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:45 AM
6

Haha :D true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:44 AM
5

They are beautiful :) absolutely love them One day I'll do the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:42 AM
5

I love this so much! You're rocking that crown!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:39 AM
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After I commented I read somewhere here that anyone with an account that's under 30 days old gets labelled as throwaway. That's why I don't mind that much. Just the rules here. Great that it's changed your life already! Mine, too. It's not entirely easy. My life revolved around my ex so much. I guess I've been a pickme all my life. But I'm looking forward to being content all by myself, in many ways I already am, and being treated with much respect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:44 PM
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Haha love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:02 PM
3

We're all living in a FAIRY TAIL :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:07 PM
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I believe you! I'm looking forward to slowly looking more beautiful. I already have so much more peace, only a few weeks after my break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:55 PM
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They feel emasculated when someone tries to help. It basically means "you can't do it" to them. In my experience it's better to acknowledge their struggle and tell them you trust them to solve the problem. But yes, their ego is fragile. Some men may not feel angry but maybe just bad and powerless... Some are maybe not as affected by this, I don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:36 PM
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Haha maybe I need something like that in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:07 AM
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I wish younger me would have known this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:56 PM
12

Haha, true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:36 AM
3

Thanks for posting this. I am once again reminded why I left my ex. I began to forget again. Btw does this happen to any of you, too? I really forget the bad stuff sometimes, maybe that's trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:57 PM
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Honestly I do the same thing. Anytime I think maybe my ex wasn't so bad, I come here and I remember. It can be hard to always remember really bad stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:26 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Some of them are monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:18 PM
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Omg I never even thought about googling how they look. Almost all of them really are repulsive! And thanks for the eye bleach afterwards lol that made it better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:47 AM
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I'd rather be a single mom. Honestly thought about just getting some sperm from a bank. Could be a happier life. If I don't find a good man in the next few years, it's plan B!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:26 PM
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I would say believe you're worth more effort, have higher standards and forgive yourself. You did the best you could do. At least you lost only a few months, altough I understand it is and feels still like a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:05 PM
63

This is so bad, just so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:01 PM
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They really do see us as objects. That's why it seems irrelevant to them that porn harms women. Doesn't even cross their mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:14 AM
12

Me too, haha. I looked up the expression on urban dictionary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:16 PM
7

I'm starting to just laugh at them lmao. Being jealous of women is so weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:15 AM
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I'm sorry you went through this. It's true, it's not your fault. Honestly, it even looks abusive to me what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:31 AM
8

It was a wild ride indeed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:37 PM
4

This comment surprised me so much. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:37 PM
7

Yeah lol made me laugh, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:31 PM
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I just listened to the trailer and OMG you guys are so professional! Haha, I didn't know all of this is a thing! Looking forward to listen to all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:12 PM
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made me laugh :]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:07 PM
4

I believe I did the same thing over a year ago. I was so hurt that I wrote "never again" a few times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:04 AM
2

The title made me chuckle a bit, thank you. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:43 AM
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I'm a FDS Newbie and after reading in this sub and doing some thinking, me and my bf of 1,5 years seperated yesterday. Just last week he asked me to buy him cleaning supplies for around 40 euros although he makes more money than me. It just shows you what kind of a man he is and it's just one little example. I deserve better. ​ I wasn't really active on reddit before and I made this account to socialize with like-minded women. It would be cool if I'm not labelled as a Throwaway Account! I don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:12 PM
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