| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | How to get rid of this school girl crushI discovered her videos recently. She’s great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 04:32 AM |
| 106 | How to get rid of this school girl crushThe word you are looking for is limerance and I invite you to google it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 05:16 AM |
| 39 | A man wrote a book for women on how to text men to get them to not be absolute trash. I just… what?Do I have to put on the clown costume while reading the book or do I put it on later when texting the circus? 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 10:25 AM |
| 7 | A recent post here got me thinking… who are women you look up to? In media, history, or even fictional characters?Second that. Have always been fascinated by the character when I was watching the movies as a young adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:27 AM |
| 66 | Scrote Bingos from the red flagsTo add: „I’m easy going and chill” “I mean, yeah of course I’m watching porn. I’m a guy!” [stonewalls you after a fight] [activates traumabonding] [starres at younger women] “Wyd?” “I prefer completely shaved women” “It’s not you it’s me” “I’m not ready yet” Edit: a Bot wanted to remove this post because I sound like a male. Haha, must have been very close to reality then. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 09:07 AM |
| 24 | As a Ukrainian living in USA, here is how most of my dates used to go for the past 10 yearsHahaha. I’m an expat as well. European in the Pacifics. And I’ve heard so much of that crap too just for my country. It’s mind blowing that cooking and wanting to have a visa via partnership is desirable for female expats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 03:14 AM |
| 20 | Fantasising about fictional menThe word you might be after is LIMERANCE. It will leave you feeling empty and alone. Even on a fictional character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:32 AM |
| 73 | “I Am Just A Simple Man”Another expression for “simple man” is: “I’m easy going”. Run. Grab your legs and run, darl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 03:55 AM |
| 9 | Why are women so much more content to be forever alone than men?I’m not terrified of dying alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:42 AM |
| 75 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profileMale, 48, 420 is my secret belief and income (although illegal where I live). But hey, without a real job, I have more time to work on my abs and hang out at the beach to have things under control there. I’m a passionate hypocritical about everything that doesn’t benefit me and do only what is good for me. Except talking about feelings, I don’t do that. When I’m upset, I won’t communicate but rather start a fight and put the blame on you to have an excuse to walk/drive/cycle/surf away from you. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:58 AM |
| 41 | Trigger warning for exes of porn addictsSo much of this. The creepy vibes you get reading his posts are the distorted thoughts of an addict. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:58 AM |
| 2 | Is "The Tinder Swindler" what happens to women who vastly over estimate thier SMV?*masturbating I really enjoyed reading your “masterbating” and it kind of falls into its own place. Thanks for the giggle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 11:57 PM |
| 7 | Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father?I second that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 10:57 AM |
| 9 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.I once had a bf and he told me to which Facebook photos of mine he would have wanked off to, before we were dating. I was shocked. They were btw normal photos. Normal. And on some photos there were other guys on it. His comment: I just save the photo and cut others out. Like wtf? I’m now careful what I upload. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:05 AM |
| 9 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?Yes, taken back two exes. Ugh! Learnings: - I wish I’d left sooner. - they did not change. They manipulated better. - I found myself hurting more once broken up again. I assume because of the added trauma bonding and push and pull - I find no contact helps tremendously to stay course. Once broken up, stay broken up. - review friendships after break up. Common friends might be hard to deal with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:35 AM |
| 22 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutI’m so glad you finally invited Lundy Bancroft and he came along for the podcast. Well done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:11 PM |
| 35 | STRATEGY: How to Emotionally DetachWell written, short and precise. I encourage to read Don’t Call That Man from Rhonda Findling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 09:15 AM |
| 9 | I thought this was a joke but it’s real and disgusting.If there’s ever an AI robot invasion of this planet then because the robots are female and had enough of the misogynistic shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 03:40 AM |
| 65 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Substance abuse in any form. Never date a substance abuser even if you’re one too. Hard to spot sometimes but there a subtle signs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 10:46 PM |
| 38 | Spoiling men financially is always a mistakeLove it! Well said. On the same note, white woman here, I spend $200 for colour and hair cut, roughly every second month. I started using moon cup and after getting used to it, I can’t imagine ever going back to tampons. Maybe something for you to look into? My cramps are weirdly less using the moon cup. Can you just imagine living in a reversed world, where women need to have short hair and men need to have long beautiful hair? Every day women can wear sort of the same but men, oh no no, they m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:50 AM |
| 112 | Spoiling men financially is always a mistakeI am not willing to “spoil” my partner financially when my time is not compensated for the same work equally. Also, I am paying pink tax. AND have to cater for (more) cosmetic products/make-up, clothes, and quiet frankly wanting to cook healthier costs money too. Education costs money. The expectation towards a women how to dress and look affects the budget massively. If I work in a corporate world I have a dress code to follow. If I work outdoors I need hard yakka clothes, which are surprise su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:52 AM |
| 11 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearHow’s about female level up strategy reddit sub? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 08:58 AM |
| 34 | How I went from side character to main character in less than a yearCongratulations Queen! Well done, and well deserved. I love the “go where you’re celebrated”. I have been in your spot probably four years ago and remember the feeling. One of my core wounds I have not worked through enough combined with simply not knowing about abusive relationships brought me unfortunately into one. Today, I am building myself up again and reading your post reminded me of the time before the abuse and loosened boundaries. Thanks for sharing, what a good reminder of how wonderf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:53 PM |
| 34 | How to deal with the "Hey beautiful, thinking about you, Can we talk? " text that toxic scrotes send. It's a trap!I’d use the very last word of the whole paragraph as a reply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 08:36 AM |
| 26 | Never answer this question. Ever!They’ll always do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 04:25 AM |
| 81 | How about noWhile “your” man earns more than you, doesn’t have to pay the pink tax and is after deals to save money inviting you. “Hey look, I found these vouchers to buy one lunch sandwich, get one free! Take me out for a steak dinner now!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 08:30 PM |
| 23 | Making more than your SOIdeally, he makes the same. Even more important to me is however how he spends his money. Is he financially stable? Is he throwing out his money at any opportunity? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:09 AM |
| 66 | The real reason your ex left and came back months laterAnd he is coming back, because he felt cozy in the nest you made him. Indeed, he told you you were complaining and nagging, he left you on read, he physically left you on the spot, he ignored you, his things were a priority not your well-being, he kind of put effort into it, but not really. No one changes deep patterns in a short period of time. Choose wisely IF you want to take him back regardless of who broke up. If you take him back, you’ll see that in 6 months down the road latest if not bef… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 60 | Why do males think it's okay to rank women?Put that ranking in a box and throw it in the ocean. Their standards don’t matter. Their rankings don’t matter. It’s yet another degrading way of the patriarchal world to undermine a women’s self worth by judging her appearance. Never forget: beauty fades but dumb stays forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 02:16 AM |
| 9 | Leveling up this weekI changed my car battery, one light bulb and prepped my suv for camping. Yuss! Never fixed that sort of stuff by myself! I’ll get my bike fixed this week (taking care of my assets) to go on a three-day mtb cross country adventure on my own in a National park as my birthday gift next month (super scared but so excited). I am writing an inventory list of my short comings/fears. Am brutally honest with myself. Argh, that’s going to be a tough one. I installed an irrigation system in my garden (it’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Anthem for the ladies that are getting over lvms Sherbet Sunset - Little Simz. It's happy/sad hopeful but still painful.As a bitter remedy I recommend “women who love to much” by Robin Norwood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:22 PM |
| 44 | Rewatching Parks & Rec for the first time in years and WOWWW Chris Pratt's Andy is low-value af 😳Same with ‘new girl’. Watched it a few years back, liked it and just rebinged it again recently. What on earth??? So much drama, complications, LVM behaviour. Not all was bad but enough to make you cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 08:18 PM |
| 89 | Beware of this type of men. It's one of many abusive types mentioned in Lundy's book, but I see this specific type very often lately, especially on social media.Story time: I was once dating an abusive man. I lived on my own. When I moved to a new house my friends helped me packing things. My abusive ex was there too and dropped his usual comments. I’ve heard them so many times, and didn’t think anything of them, so shattered and belittled and abused was I already. And I allowed these comments without consequences. The relationship lasted for another week after the move and I finally freed myself from this abuse. One of my friends who helped me moving, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 88 | Stumbled across this… 😷Yip, looks like south Australia or New Zealand boys. Absofuckinglutly disgusting. 110% nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 08:21 AM |
| 26 | too trueIt is so so important to know when to walk your fine ass away from a men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:27 AM |
| 64 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsUgh, same. Let me guess, when you’ve tried to tell him and call him out on his bs, he blamed you for nagging and being needy. And the classic: ‘what’s your problem woman? I texted you! You always have something to complain about. Everything I do is never good enough for you!’ Blah blah blah. Yeah, whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:35 PM |
| 14 | TraumaFirst of all, you’re not alone in this. I feel sorry to hear where you are, I hug you! You’ve done amazing already to spot and kinda define your trauma. Well done! That’s the very first step. I’m proud of you. What I’ve ready in your post was: the trauma makes me anxious, the trauma makes me xyz. The trauma does not define you. You are not the trauma(noticed how I didn’t say YOUR trauma). Everyone experiences traumatic experience in their life but a trauma does not define who you are and the tra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:01 AM |
| 24 | Why I Stayed Single in College and Why You Should Too37 and I full heartily agree on this one. I dated but nothing serious as I prioritised my studies. Still pays off to this day. I can pay my bills, I am independent, I have an educated head on my neck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 02:56 AM |
| 132 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for lessSuch a great reminder, thanks for posting. Someone wrote the other day here: if he thinks you are too much, suggest him to go and find less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:21 AM |
| 27 | I seriously question when men on Reddit say they've been in an abusive relationship with a womanLundy Bancroft and Terry Real were not an eye opener to me but explained what I was not able to describe in words and confirmed my gut feelings. Two names worth googling for. They both have excellent podcasts out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:05 AM |
| 43 | Love and Dating after FDSAlain de Botton on Love is a great video on YouTube that I encourage you to watch. I hear you on “not wanting to falling in love” anymore after educating yourself about the concept of LVMs. I full heartily believe in love but not in romantic love as described and dictated by our patriarchy society. I believe in feeling love for my family, my friends, my pet, even for my partner, feeing love for myself but it’s a different love than codependent, suffering (aka romantic) love. LVMs or LVWs are a w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 12:45 AM |
| 24 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureI was binge watching friends the other day and ugh, as much as I love the show, I couldn’t stand some patriarchy crap anymore in this show. Same with Ally McBeal and New Girl. Makes me wonder what kind of shows I grew up with and how much I have soaked up some of the believes and behaviours. What I enjoyed though is Parks and Recreation. A bit different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 03:34 AM |
| 15 | this is the wayThis is the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:38 AM |
| 27 | If your partner does this, RUN in the opposite direction. This is abuse and a power play.I experienced exactly the same on bike rides. As I pointed his behaviour out, I said clearly he is more than welcome to go in his own preferred pace but not with me. I am slower and if his “enjoyment” is more important than my company, he can do it on his own or with someone else. And that’s fine with me. Don’t ask me though to join. Also, I won’t ask for shitty company either. Same goes btw for friends too. You meet to do an activity together, team up and set the pace to the weakest and slowest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 08:09 PM |
| 8 | Where to start...She can do for other reasons obviously what the first did: leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 08:32 AM |
| 5 | Reminder lovely ladies! Know your worth🌸Know your worth AND add tax. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:31 PM |
| 175 | NopeDOn’T bE so HaRD on HiM, He iS GOinG THrouGH a rOUgh TimE. He nEEds YOur SuPPort anD UNderSTanDIng. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:06 AM |
| 18 | Nice guys are just... 🤢“Just because you’re not a bad guy, doesn’t mean you’re a good one.” This. ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:53 AM |
| 13 | Circle the LieCompensation for other lacking parts. Might be personality, critical thinking, education, soul,...you choose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:48 AM |
| 9 | The lows you stoop to to get picked.What in the pickmeisha’s f*ck did I just read??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:50 AM |
| 246 | When he thinks he's worth 3 minutes of orgasmless sex 🥴 :After I buy myself a plate of spaghetti in their presence. Ahhw. Gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 11:12 PM |
| 14 | I am disgusted.I join you, hahahaha! Community dick is added to my Vocabulary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 04:21 AM |
| 16 | This within i split secondAnd it keeps swinging - periodically, back and forth, and back and forth and way too late you realise it’s a repetitive pattern of the same ol‘ push and pull. You can’t stop watching, you can’t disengage, you know it will swing - thank god - from the right to the left. You observe. The ticking sound drives you mad. Why can’t I let go? The ticking sound becomes noise. You cry a lot. It keeps swinging. You decide to close your eyes. You still hear it ticking. You open your eyes. You see the pedal.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?The title cracked me up!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:54 AM |
| 20 | What would you do if there were no men around for 24hrs?I guess the thought is more philosophical if there are no „evil“ men around. Meaning the ones who don’t accept or respect and violate personal boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 09:00 AM |
| 8 | I have decided to date myself, & Thursday nights are date nights!Yes, doing the same. Embrace it! It’s awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:58 AM |
| 23 | YesNo offence but there are less problems attached to a dildo that to a penis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:57 AM |
| 10 | Life will test you the minute you decide to be a HVW.My shampoo actually stopped working and I couldn’t agree more to the rest of your post. You grow with the tests life is throwing at you. And you will come out stronger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:34 AM |
| 35 | Inside the LVM brainI listened to a Podcast the other day and Terry Real talked about patriarchy in relationships. His point: women reach the point in a relationship where they just had enough. And this is usually the critical point where a man either wakes up and breaks the cycle of ingrained patriarchy learned over generations (hard work on themselves) or they keep on living in their comfort patriarchy bubble and go for the next women. Interesting podcast. But man, does that make me leave hopeless for many men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:00 AM |
| 10 | This is the kind of attitude we need to have👏🏼👸🏻Same for me with my lovely, warm, affectionate and playful cat. Got her 3 months ago from a shelter and we both are getting on so well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:03 AM |
| 23 | New Zealand passes legislation granting domestic violence leave!https://www.employment.govt.nz/leave-and-holidays/domestic-violence-leave/ For more information follow the link. When we went into lockdown in New Zealand during COVID outbreak earlier this year, we had to stay home for 6 weeks. Only supermarkets and petrol stations were open. No one was allowed to leave town and use your car, unless for good reasons (food shopping, emergency, kids drop off). My thoughts went to all the homes where domestic violence was present and am thankful for the law. This … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 11:43 PM |
| 6 | On an article where they asked men to describe their dream girl, this scrote described his ideal sex dollBahahaha! Can you be more disillusioned? To add: cooks my favourite meal for me (especially on my PlayStation nights with my bros) and is not fuzzy about cleaning. Needs to be independent and makes her own money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 03:49 AM |
| 208 | Unconventional red flagsAnother red flag: When he promises to change for you. This is not working on a relationship, this is short term adjusting. The motivation to change needs to come from within a person and change takes time, practise, effort. He is going to change for you? He sure will change back to the old one BECAUSE of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:46 AM |
| 29 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.Pure gold! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:33 AM |
| 11 | What I have achieved since the break up vs my LVM exWell done, Queen! I was in a very similar situation like you (I’ve read your other posts) and am proud of myself of what has happened in only a month. I finally adopted a cat from the shelter focused on work, made progress I tried archery for the first time (what a powerful and yet elegant sport) signed up again for a pottery course in the wheel bought my very first SUV to go travelling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:03 AM |
| 5 | FDS approved movie recommendations?Yes to this movie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 03:35 AM |
| 8 | Your boundaries should be nonnegotiableSame here. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Daily Reminder to take ZERO shit from men. Every second you spend on LVM Bullshit is blocking your blessings! Your Time and Health are the only irreplaceable things in the Universe, guard it like your life and happiness depends on it, because it does!Same here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 10:15 AM |
| 33 | Girl, if some video games cost more than the ring, you are getting P L A Y E DI’ve read somewhere that the idea of wedding rings stems back from the old days. If something is happening to the husband and he is getting killed, the wedding ring(s) can be exchanged for its value aka are getting sold. This will help the widow to survive the time until she is getting remarried. Not sure if true. In this case she could definitely get three take aways for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:40 AM |
| 12 | Am I right to skip this date tomorrow?That. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:34 AM |
| 2 | What it is about women-only spaces that energize me and calm me at the same time? I've come to believe that it's finally feeling heard by someone who understands. I want a lifetime membership to this gym!Confident yes, arrogant or hostile is a deal breaker. Arrogance and hostility are rooted in insecurity. I believe a gym for women is specifically made for not feeling insecure as of getting judged. Maybe this is where my English falls flat, but I expect from a gym for women that there is no attitude of hostility towards other women in order to get the attention of a man - there are no men around them anyway in a women’s gym. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 10:37 PM |
| 37 | What it is about women-only spaces that energize me and calm me at the same time? I've come to believe that it's finally feeling heard by someone who understands. I want a lifetime membership to this gym!I was going to one back in the days in Europe. It was okayish to be honest. After a while it turned from a women are going to the gym comfortably into a nightmare of instagram chicks. No offence against the appearance but the behaviour of some young women turned me off. Too much off a “I’m the hottest chick”-attitude. What a shame though. I enjoyed the real authentic ladies in the beginning. Doesn’t mean every ladies gym will be like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 07:08 AM |
| 5 | Universal Hot Girl Matrix found on Match.comWhat makes me laugh, every time I see a similar graph to this one, is the fact that LVM never (!) put themselves into the equation. A man defines “crazy” behaviour often as a woman setting boundaries or unfortunately reactions to the hurtful crap men come along with. The crazy axis can be seen as setting healthy boundaries, not putting up with LVMs BS anymore. Mathematically speaking: where is their starting point on the y-axis to judge a woman? I propose that the more LVM traits a man has the h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 02:22 AM |
| 3 | Why the moment you remind a taken man, who has been hitting on you, that he has a girlfriend, he immediately becomes hostile?Experienced the same. Some men tend to get hostile. I find it quiet hard to work with married man who hit on you and after being reminded about their wive or GF, the work relationship turns into custard. It worked for me to stay professional in the workplace and stay on topic. Talking about work related topics only for some months. Keeping private topics to a bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 12:58 AM |
| 12 | This has to be one of my biggest pet peeves. Do not allow a man to make himself feel superior by explaining your business to you. This is a form of negging to catch you off guard and make you doubt yourself. You know what's up, so put him in his place.I had random man explaining me how I was supposed to use the brakes leavers on my mtb while I just came down a track and had a rest. I didn’t even ask. I simply had a rest. Didn’t tell him that I bleeded my brakes earlier, installed the leavers in a way (after a year of trying) that they work great and that I actually was not even remotely interested in him mansplaining it to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 11:39 PM |
| 40 | Sharing this for the queens who need to read this as much as I do. 💛So very, very true. Be honest with yourself. When you have a gut feeling something is off, it is off. Don’t craft excuses in your head for his lack of effort in seeing you. He doesn’t make the effort to see you = he doesn’t want to/you’re too easy to play/you’re not worth it in his eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 10:32 AM |
| 9 | What do countries with the best coronavirus reponses have in common? Women leaders - MyJoyOnline.comI admire their decisiveness and kind way of running a country. Kudos to all of them! It’s hard to make your way up in a male dominated political world. Angela Merkel (phd in physics) and Jacinda Arden (pregnant while running for prime minister elections at 37) have incredible back ground stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 10:17 AM |
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