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I do think that men are being oppressed nowadays. Abortion is murder and shouldn't be allowed except in extreme circumstances, in my opinion. At the very least the baby's father should have a say in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 12:56 AM
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My point is that women had practically no choices whereas their equal male counterparts might have had a few more (even if they didn't have many). We have so many choices nowadays though, I don't know why you think that we don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 06:02 PM
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I believe that women should have to sign up for the draft. I'm not opposed to that, I think it would be worth it. And honestly, I care less about right to vote than I do about right to work any job and whatnot. I'd hate to be a woman in the past and have so few choices for myself. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 05:54 PM
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I think that women should have to sign up for the draft. Id rather that than not vote. Also... it sounds like there were issues with both class and gender. Not one more than the other. I knew that women could do certain kinds of work, but why was most of the work we could do only stuff like working in a coal mine? Not that there's anything wrong with working class women doing the same shit that working class men do... but why couldn't wealthy women do what wealthy men did?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 02:41 PM
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Children are treated like their parent's property at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 01:57 PM
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All of those. Right to work is the most important to me but right to vote and own a bank account are as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 01:56 PM
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If you had a good argument you wouldn't be scared to try. Why not share it? You could at least respond to what I said. I hardly think that it's brainwashed to think that a man always being in control of our lives and being able to do things to us against our will... meant we were being treated like property.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 08:30 AM
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How were we NOT property? Marital rape being legal meant we were allowed to be treated as sexual objects by our husband. We weren't allowed many ways to make money so we most likely had to marry, depend on our husband and let him dictate our lives. Him or our family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 08:25 AM
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I will. Luckily there are lots of normal people that feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 08:13 AM
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The women's suffrage movement began a century before we won the right to vote. And I'm sure that there were women throughout all of history that didn't want to be a man's property for their entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 08:12 AM
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Objects shouldn't have rights. Good thing women are human beings and not objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 08:00 AM
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Men had more rights than women did throughout all of history (til recently). Just because men didn't have it great either doesn't mean much. Women were still treated as men's property, not allowed into most professions, not taken as seriously as men... for a long time. Sorry for not thinking that was a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 07:58 AM
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But some men want to take our rights away. I don't even consider myself feminist but some of the men on here make me feel like I should be at times lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 07:24 AM
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You know that semen can't live more than 5 days inside a woman, right? And only one individual sperm can fertilize an egg?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 07:23 AM
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We should never have been denied the rights in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 07:19 AM
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I remember all 5 of them. One of the guys I didn't have penetrative sex with (I only ever sucked his dick) so I didn't know whether to count it. I meant that I've fucked 4 guys, I've done sexual things with 5. I wish I could fuck around right now, this COVID19 situation and living with my parents sucks. Having an n of 15 wouldn't be something I'd be ashamed of so you can think what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:54 PM
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4 or 5 if BJs count
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:12 PM
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Than maybe fewer inhibitions, a higher tolerance for adapting to different people, and not placing intrinsic value on sex are things that can cause both high body count and higher rates of infidelity, right? My only point is that it's not necessarily a direct link (higher body count = unfaithful). I don't have a problem with people saying there's a connection, but we don't know that one LEADS to the other, that's all I'm saying. Sex has no intrinsic significance to me but love does, so no that d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 05:09 PM
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Do you know anything about statistics? You cannot assume a cause-effect relationship based on a correlation. There are other variables involved that could make BOTH high body count AND infidelity more likely. Think about it this way. Ice cream sales and murder rates both go up when it's warmer out. Ice cream sales don't cause murder. I think that you can value commitment and still fuck people in between relationships. Men do it and I wouldn't worry about being in a long term commitment with them…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 04:41 PM
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Correlations do not equal causation. Just because high body count is positively correlated with infidelity does not mean that high body count LEADS to infidelity/divorce. There may be another variable(s) that are leading to both.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 04:14 PM
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Because you don't know what impact the body count itself actually makes. Confounding variables muddle things. Maybe you aren't much better off with a virgin who isn't religious than with someone promiscuous. And most of these virgin religious women are going to want virgin religious men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 04:01 PM
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My n is only 4 but it would be higher if it weren't for circumstances right now. I dont know for sure what I'm gonna do once this is all over. But I would never lie about who I am or what I've done. I'm already ready to settle down if I meet the right guy and he wants me to. I'm not waiting for anything, just figure that I can have fun in the meantime. I find it interesting that infidelity has a genetic component. My mom cheated on my dad. She wasn't a good wife or mother to begin with... So I'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 07:39 AM
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Should also add that it took me a while to be comfortable with sex due to my religion. And at the point that I made this comment, I was comfortable having sex within a relationship because I thought that if you were serious about a guy, maybe God wouldnt judge it as harshly. And like I said I felt weird about still fucking my ex because of this but kept justifying it. Also, my first time was with a man I barely knew and he treated me poorly. My second time was with a man I loved and he treated m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 05:59 AM
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Two months ago. It changed when I hooked up with a stranger for the first time and enjoyed it. I'd kept hooking up with my ex for a while after we broke up... I didn't come to terms with the fact that this wasn't "taking sex seriously" for a while. I thought it was different since I already knew him and trusted him. But that was stupid. Eventually I felt like a slut for it and then I accepted that part of myself and here I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 05:53 AM
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Why is chastity important?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 04:29 AM
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The amount of people you've slept with
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 11:22 PM
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I would. There's nothing wrong with having female friends. As long as you have appropriate boundaries with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 11:10 PM
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Depends on where you live. I wouldn't consider it rape, my parents had a similar age gap when they met
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 07:22 PM
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18 isn't the age of consent in every state/country. It's 16 where I live so I see no issue with a 17 year old and a 25 year old. Though I'd say teachers still shouldnt be fucking students
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 07:20 PM
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Your problem is that you expect anything. Either accept what you can get or opt to stay single, but women aren't some prize to be handed to you. We are human beings with our own desires. It's unacceptable to believe that women need to remain chaste for you or that you're owed one of these women. It's alright to WANT one but we all have freedom over our own lives and that's it, so sometimes we won't get what we want and we have to accept that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 05:48 AM
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Why does society owe you anything? You aren't entitled to have children with a young woman if none want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 05:28 AM
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You can have a family and a job. Most people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 05:05 AM
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Isn't it still safe for women to have kids at 35? Just cutting it close. Definitely nice for guys that you can wait until your 40s if you want to though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 05:00 AM
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I think that it's better to regret not having children than to have children that you can't handle, though. There are way too many people who do the latter
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 04:52 AM
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Initiating the divorce doesn't mean that you were at fault for the divorce. My dad initiated my parents divorce because my mom cheated on him, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 04:31 AM
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Her comment explained that it depends on WHY he doesn't want to have rough sex. It's fine if he just doesn't enjoy it. The problem is the idea that there's something wrong with rough sex. We don't want guys to feel the need to try to protect us from things that we actually desire. For example, if a guy wanted to have rougher sex than I was comfortable with, I would say no. But it wouldnt be because I think he doesn't respect me and care for me. I just wouldnt enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 02:52 AM
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Eh, I dont want commitment from every guy I go after, sometimes I just want to have fun. I still dont go for the most attractive guy because I do care about the guy not being selfish in bed, but looks are going to be weighed a bit more heavily for something casual, because most of the other stuff doesnt matter much if I'm not imagining possibly spending my life with them. I dont think it's affected my standards overall, I feel like things are just more balanced for guys I could imagine LTRs with…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 02:28 AM
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Dont you think that's what the majority of women would eventually do rather than ending up alone? I assume that most of them either a) really arent attracted to any of their options or b) just arent into relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 02:16 AM
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Why would I do that? I purposefully don't go for the MOST attractive guy. But that doesn't mean I'll purposefully go for the least if I dont have to. I'll still consider the least attractive guy though, that's where personality and values come in and I could still end up liking him. But I mainly go for guys that are somewhere in the middle. Guys that I still consider to be in my league. I just don't date too far above my league because I dont want them to feel like they could do better and treat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 01:53 AM
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Neither Brad Pitt or Leo DiCaprio are attractive to me since I'm not into men that are my fathers age but I get the point. But I DO already do that. I care about a lot of things when it comes to relationships and even just casual stuff. So I don't always go for the best looking guy, I weigh a lot of things. The only way I'd choose being alone is if I really couldn't find a man that I was into who also wanted me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 01:41 AM
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They aren't but I thought that this comment thread was about some women needing to settle for ugly men. I'm always attracted to the men that I date or fuck and they've treated me well the vast majority of the time. So I don't think that it's impossible to find both at all. But I do think that treating us well isn't enough to cause attraction... so some women will choose to be alone if they can't find a man that they want who also wants them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 12:54 AM
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Because she isn't attracted to him. Why would I want to be with a guy I'm not attracted to? We like sex by the way, no need to talk about it as though it's so awful for a man to just fuck us. Love is great and I want a family someday, but I wouldn't try to force it if I couldn't find someone that I actually wanted to be with
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 12:33 AM
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How is raising the next generation NOT an important part of keeping civilization afloat and moving it forward?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 05:14 AM
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Come on. Most women want to get married and have children eventually. Can't do that without dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 11:50 PM
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And you think that women would just stop dating entirely? No, they'd have to get over it and adjust. I'm pretty sure there are countries where men paying for dates isnt the norm anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 11:47 PM
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My ex-boyfriend and I always split the bill. My dad was opposed to this while my mom defended it. I definitely don't expect to be paid for. If more men stopped paying on dates than more women would have to stop expecting it, splitting the bill just needs to become more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 11:05 PM
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If men don't want to approach or pay for dates, they don't have to. The expectation would go away if enough men stopped doing it. Nobody is entitled to date at all. But if men are going to plan dates and pay for us (sometimes even insisting on it)... why wouldnt we take advantage?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 10:53 PM
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More, the more that I think back on it. At the time, I was extremely apprehensive about dating and sex. I felt shy and awkward and knowing that he felt the same took the edge off. I was skittish back then and actually thought that I was asexual. His approach was pretty integral to getting to fuck me. He was the first man to make me want sex. His shyness wore off before we did the deed, but I wouldn't do it until we fell in love and he was always sweet and patient with me. I never fuck men who do…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 09:49 PM
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Not every husband will treat their wife well and if she's reliant on him and it'd be nearly impossible for her to leave... she could easily become his slave. Women don't want to take that risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 06:31 PM
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Why can't we have goals outside of raising a family? I want children, but my entire life doesn't need to revolve around that. And some women don't even want children. Or just don't want to spend all day long with them. My mom always said that she was happy that my dad stayed home raising us because she couldn't have done it, she was glad to go to work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 06:18 PM
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I want a committed partner eventually, but I can look for one while also having flings/FWBs occasionally. I'm not in a rush to get into a relationship right now and I date different guys for different purposes (some serious, some not). I wouldn't initiate a divorce because I believe that marriage is forever, your soul is tied to his in the eyes of God and anything a court says about it wont change that, so you should choose wisely. Women STILL have the freedom to be SAHMs. And in our society, me…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 05:34 PM
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Consensual casual sex isn't "being used". Women don't have to partake, there are still men looking for serious relationships (even some wanting traditional relationships) that they can opt for if they so choose. It isn't a shit deal at all, I plan on getting married and having a family and I can have a bit of fun while I'm looking. Even if I do end up unhappy, I'm an adult and can deal with the consequences of my actions. I wouldnt trade freedom for happiness Edit: I'd also rather be alone than …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 05:01 PM
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If a woman gets hurt having casual sex, that's her own fault. Some people can handle it, not everyone can. Some people attach additional meaning to it and end up disappointed. Sometimes the sex ends up being painful or unpleasant if he's bad/doesn't care. We could get pregnant. Etc. But the two people having sex are the ones who have to deal with those consequences, not anyone else, so it doesnt really matter
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 01:02 PM
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My mom cheated on my dad, I disagree with the premise that many people have ever thought highly of her for that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 02:28 AM
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Most young people aren't worried about getting it ourselves. We're worried about spreading it to other people who would be more at risk
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 02:20 AM
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Oh I only use OkC, I like it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 04:59 PM
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But you can still read the man's profile and chat with him a bit, can't you? See if you have anything in common and whether they might have a personality you click with? I don't select based solely on appearance when I'm using OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 04:34 PM
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I would vote for social services for men, I think you're underestimating the amount of women who would care if they knew the need for things like male shelters. We could share the funding or just increase funding (I bet a lot of the Left would actually support that)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 03:12 PM
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Many people don't have that kind of self-awareness. But at the same time, not everyone is looking for a serious relationship when they're young. Some of us just enjoy sex without expecting anything else to come from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 03:01 PM
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Well, in my state, my dad did have to prove that he was applying for jobs and/or do a volunteer work assignment in order to get some of our benefits so I'm not opposed to stuff like that for incentives.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 02:28 PM
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No, it didn't really affect that at all. I was still uncomfortable with sex at that point in my life but I knew I wanted to fuck him eventually... but I don't think that's because he was shy. It just made me more comfortable around him on our first few dates
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 02:15 PM
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There are as many men in cities as there are women so if these men are voting for higher taxes (or not voting) that's still on them. Very few people abuse the system. My mom taught children who wouldn't have eaten if they didn't get free breakfast and lunch at school. Even my conservative, suburban community had students like that. We even have a program in my city that collects donated goods to send home with children over weekends/breaks because it is necessary, even here. Every citizen who ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 01:12 PM
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I think it's cute when he's shy around me at first, my ex was and it amazed me that I could have that effect on someone. But I liked that he was actually pretty confident once that wore off
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 12:56 PM
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Not our fault if conservative men won't go out and vote, you have the freedom to do so. I'm pretty conservative too, I voted Republican in the last election and I may again because my views are mixed and I can't agree with one party. But welfare can help everyone, it helped my dad and it'd help you if you became unable to work. Most of the women that I know who support welfare have never actually had to use it and have jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 12:47 PM
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Because it makes sense for women to expect a man who is ~5 inches taller than her, due to the fact that men typically ARE ~5 inches taller than us
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 04:59 AM
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What does average mean to you? Is it not a comparison term?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 01:28 AM
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Isn't fat average in a lot of countries nowadays?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 01:17 AM
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LOL I've read plenty about this, don't act like there aren't plenty of articles about why male and female circumcision are different out there. But you can go on thinking you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 09:46 PM
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Plenty of articles state differently than yours apparently does. Why do you act like it's not possible that I've done any research into this ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 09:39 PM
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I'm not reading that long ass article, I told you I dont care much about this. Circumcised men still seem to USUALLY be able to enjoy sex whereas circumcised women are a lot less likely to. Big difference between sex being slightly less pleasurable vs always being painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 09:33 PM
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Female circumcision is more risky than male circumcision is. A LOT of men support male circumcision, I've never had a strong opinion about it but most of the men I've known who are circumcised are glad that they were and want to circumcise their sons. By all means, I wouldnt care if it got banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 09:10 PM
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As if men don't support circumcision too. If I ever have a son, I'll leave it up to his father.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 09:01 PM
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Men are generally taller than women. The average man is around 5'9" and the average woman is around 5'4". A 5'4" man is in the 3rd percentile for height compared to the 57th for women (https://www.gigacalculator.com/calculators/height-percentile-calculator.php) so how would they be the same value?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 07:16 PM
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My dad raised me to make better choices that I do. I just don't care enough about my well-being. Adults are responsible for their own actions, parents can only do so much
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 07:01 PM
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I could, but I know that I can trust my ex and that he knows how to please me in bed. I don't know that about strangers. I tried hooking up with another man recently, wanted to turn it into a FWB thing... and I got chlamydia. Fucking my ex just seems safer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 06:09 PM
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I'm glad you apparently know me so well But no, I dont
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 05:52 PM
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Well, yeah, but I can just look elsewhere for a guy who would be as committed to me as I want. And fuck my ex in the meantime. He's good in bed, knows how to please me from months of being together, and I trust him so it feels safer than fucking random guys, I dont know why that's hard to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 05:40 PM
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I just like to have sex with him. I wouldnt care what a guy does if we arent boyfriend/girlfriend yet, I think that we should both fuck whoever we like if we arent exclusive, but I respect that other people have their own boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 05:30 PM
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He was committed to me. I could have kept him longer if I'd been content with our relationship. I was the one who brought up the issues that we broke up over. We're too different and I'm not dumb enough to think he'd change for me. Honestly, I started seeing a man recently and I wanted him more than I've ever wanted anybody before, for sex and commitment and everything in between, and things were going well... and I probably fucked it up by getting chlamydia and scaring him off, but at least now…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 05:28 PM
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Why would I lie about it? We weren't compatible, our relationship didn't work, I wasn't happy by the end of it. We've been at this for months and we're both attempting to date again so I know we aren't getting back together. If anything, me fucking him without him having to do anything would be extremely counterproductive, if I wanted him back, wouldn't it? I beat myself up a lot about this, if I wanted to lie than I'd lie the other way around. I'd love to believe that I only fuck men that I wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 04:19 PM
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Women are into casual sex. It's something I've discovered about myself recently. I still fuck my ex and I'd never want to add romance back into that relationship. Sometimes I hope for more but sex can be fun in and of itself and I definitely wouldn't date every man I would fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 02:41 PM
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Nobody cares if you're okay with it, we live in a country with a democracy so we're going to go with whatever the majority wants. Just because you're okay with not caring about others, doesn't mean I am
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 01:45 PM
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Women are taxed too. If you don't like the taxes you're paying, you don't have to work such a high paying job. I plan on making my own money and so do most women, I'm sure I'll pay very high taxes if I become a doctor (my goal) and that's fine by me. I got grants for college but I know men who did too. I lived with my DAD growing up and we got all sorts of welfare benefits. So I support welfare for anyone who is in poverty, man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 01:28 PM
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Yep, nobody owes anybody anything. We can enjoy fucking for its own sake, and I'd rather be alone than with a man I'm not attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 03:51 AM
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Why should ugly men be able to pair up with beautiful women?? Just date ugly women, if ugly men deserve love than so do ugly women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 03:20 AM
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Why would he want to "attract" women who only want him out of desperation? Do men really want wives who will use them and pretend to like them? If you're so hopeless that you really can't attract someone with who you really are... is it not better to be alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 03:15 AM
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Idk Ive always thought that fucking a virgin woman seems unappealing (from my perspective anyways). My first few times were terrible, it was painful and I wouldnt be able to take it long enough for the man to finish. It didnt matter how careful or sweet the guy was about it, although that kind of stuff does help.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 04:41 AM
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I'm scared of catching it and spreading it to my parents. I'm also about to graduate college and don't want to fuck it up by missing weeks of class. I feel like there's more reason to be worried than just the risk of dying
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 11:56 PM
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My ex "choked" me once and I liked it but it was gentler than I thought it would be when he suggested it. Strangling, being spat on and being slapped sound awful, I wouldn't be into that. I like to be spanked though which I feel is extremely common.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 11:39 PM
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Yeah, it wouldn't bother me. I'm an anomaly since my dad was a SAHD so I'll take it a step further and say that if we could live on my income alone, I'd be fine with providing for him. I'm assuming most men wouldn't want that but I enjoyed the SAHD experience and I'd be happy if my children got to have it too, since I probably won't stay at home myself. But I'm assuming we'll both be contributing and I'd be happy with both of us contributing equally which is what it sounds like here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 11:27 PM
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I used to be attracted to one of my friends but he's gay so I got over it. He's always known and it's never been an issue, it took some time but I dealt with it on my own and we've been friends the entire time. I don't see why me being attracted to him wouldve negated the friendship at any point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 11:14 PM
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Why would I lie about this? It made sense for my dad to stay at home. My mom was the one with the better job, so he quit his. And he loved parenting much more than my mom. When my mom left, she didn't even like having us over for the two days of visitation at a time. Feels great for a 12 year old girl, believe me. Anyways, I'm not feminist and I do think that it's harder for men to get rights to their children than it is for women, and that's unfair. But I will argue against this notion that wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:28 PM
0

Do we? My low self esteem lives for praise and compliments
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:15 PM
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My dad was a SAHD, he got child custody in the divorce, and my mom paid him child support. Tell me again about how it never happens
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:13 PM
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I'll give head but I'm not doing anything that makes me uncomfortable. I'd probably puke if I tried to deep throat. Men havent seemed to have a problem so far. I pretend to enjoy giving head more than I actually do, I'm happy if he enjoys it and I do get some enjoyment from it, but it's mostly for him. I feel like most women do give head but I doubt that all of them were as into it as you think they are
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:08 PM
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Why would any man continue to fuck and stay committed to their wife for more than like 3 years if this was the case?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 03:19 AM
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Mine haven't changed since I started having sex, they've hung out for as long as I can remember. By your logic, sluts shouldn't be the only ones that this happens to either. If the amount of sex is what matters, not the amount of partners, why is being a slut relevant at all? Sleeping with one man 100 times and sleeping with 100 men 1 time is going to have the same result here
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 03:13 AM
1

I don't think we're that delusional. I think I'm a 5 and if anyone said I was higher than a 6-7 I'd think they were dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 11:46 PM
1

I've known that I wanted to be a mother since I was a little girl. I know that raising children won't be easy but I've never seen it as a chore. You really can't generalize how we feel about this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 10:44 PM
1

I don't think I'd judge a man if it truly seemed as though he'd turned his life around (unless he did something as awful as rape or murder or something). My dad got a felony when he was 19 and he was an amazing father. I don't mind if men judge me, honestly, I'll accept it if some men don't want me because of the things I've done, but I personally choose to believe that a person's past doesn't have to define them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 10:39 PM
3

If he loves me than why would he want me to engage in a sexual act that I hate? I wouldn't expect my husband to indulge my kinks, I want both of us to be comfortable in the bedroom. It's one thing to do something for your partner if you're neutral towards it. I dont particularly like giving blowjobs, but I act like I love it because it doesnt really bother me to give one. Anal just sounds painful and disgusting though and I dont know why my husband would be okay with me feeling like that during …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 05:27 AM
2

What? Why would I?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 05:15 AM
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I dont think that men have a problem with it. At least not anymore. But I didnt know how to get their attention. Shyness is a flaw when you're so shy that it prevents you from meeting people often, prevents you from going out or talking to the people around you. I feel invisible a lot. But I have realized over the years that I'm not completely invisible even when it feels like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 03:04 AM
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No but I've known girls who do get hit on all the time. So I felt like hot girls got all the attention. If men do apparently like me, I wish they'd randomly hit on me more often. But I dont "expect" it because I don't go out and hit on people either
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 02:28 AM
2

I get plenty of matches, I go on dates, I know that I'm not undesirable now
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 01:33 AM
4

I hardly ever attract men in real life, at least not enough that they'll do anything about it. And a lot of that is my fault. I think that shy, plain types like myself end up feeling ignored. I decided to try OLD and it's changed my perception of things, I haven't had issues with it as someone who doesn't consider herself particularly attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 12:31 AM
1

I dont believe in patriarchy or feminism but there is a difference between kinks and roleplaying in the bedroom and real life.
/r/AntiFeminists29/02/20 09:45 PM
1

I don't think a man is a pedophile if he didn't know her age. I thought the person who originally asked the question was talking about looking at girls who he knew were like 14 (which is wrong since having that knowledge should turn you off)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 11:32 PM
1

I'm a woman who doesnt masturbate much. For some reason I don't have much of a sex drive on my own but men can easily activate it. I do love having sex so I know I'm not asexual
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 11:12 PM
2

A 14 year old girl wants attention from her peers, not pedophiles. Wanting to look good has nothing to do with being sexually mature, but even if it does, nothing wrong with wanting to signal that to people who are her equal (other teens). Adult men shouldn't be into early teen girls, whether they're wearing tight clothes and makeup or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 10:57 PM
1

Why would I care if my male friend is attracted to me? I used to be attracted to one of my male friends before I realized he was gay. We're still friends and he's always known. Cant you be friends and be attracted to the person without being weird about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 10:07 PM
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There is no "should" or "shouldn't", people can't help what they're attracted to. Maybe those things "should" discount women too but that's on men if they want to start being more selective
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 09:35 PM
1

Probably not but it sounds exhausting worrying that much about your appearance all the time. I'm lazy, I like that men dont care as much
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 05:16 PM
1

I just go along with whatever the man wants to do. There's no reason that men should have to pay, women are as capable as men are of going out and making money nowadays. I don't hold it against men who dont pay for me on dates, my ex almost never did. But lately I've been dating again and the men usually pay. It's kind of nice and if they offer to do it I dont fight
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 04:38 PM
1

Men do not need to do all this. I'm a woman and don't even do all this. There's nothing wrong with a few zits or imperfect looking nails, jesus
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 04:00 PM
1

I feel like most women who slept around can still get a man to commit as long as they didnt get knocked up (and even then, sometimes). Less likely though, sure, and that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 02:33 PM
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It's not like we can't find a committed husband nowadays. Nobody has to sleep around without committment. I'd rather have the option to choose what I'd like to do. If I'm choosing to have casual sex, I'll accept the consequence of becoming a single mother if it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 01:55 PM
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It's his decision to "waste time and resources" on her or not. What's wrong with liking sex while also wanting a relationship eventually? Not every man has to be into it but if some are than why not go for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 01:41 PM
2

Why take the risk? I'd rather make my own money and my own decisions than trust someone else to take care of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 04:12 PM
1

I've done it early in a relationship. Cuddling is nice on its own
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 06:56 AM
1

How is saying that we want something serious "complaining"? Is it not best to specify what you're looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 12:05 AM
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Shouldn't my boyfriend/husband care if he's making me uncomfortable? I just want him to understand that it does make me uncomfortable, just like it would make him uncomfortable if I were to do the same thing. My husband could wear dresses if he wanted to. As long as he understood I wouldn't be attracted to him when he does. He can want to get pegged...I'm just not going to do it. It's the same with strip clubs. I suppose he can do what he wants, but he'll have to deal with it when I get upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 05:45 PM
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That's the point. If you wouldn't want us doing it, why should we be okay with you doing it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 04:42 PM
0

My political views are all over the place and I don't know what to consider myself. I think I lean conservative now. I was "woke" at one point but luckily I've snapped out of that. I dont think I'd date a man who was very liberal, and I never have (both my exes were very conservative, even the one from long ago).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 03:31 AM
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Where does it say that you're married as soon as you have sex? If so, why is it called "premarital sex"?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/20 05:26 PM
1

I hardly wanted to be with him for several months at the end of our relationship, I kept dragging it out because I didnt want to be alone (I also felt bad about having to dump him, though). That seems pretty messed up in retrospect. Another thing is that I can be hard to deal with, especially back then. I worry very easily (about things that normal people do not) and can be a hypochondriac. He'd have to listen to my overthinking a lot and I could dwell on one thing for days.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 07:03 AM
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Some 18 year olds are in high school so how is it wrong for them to want to date their classmates? There's little difference between a high school senior that happens to be 17 and a high school senior that happens to be 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 02:20 AM
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Neither of my ex-boyfriends were bad people. My first relationship wasn't great because he was too insecure and let it manifest in a lot of unhealthy ways (clinginess, jealousy, etc). He cared too much about me, like I was the center of his universe. But we were only 15 and I wasnt girlfriend of the year either. Second relationship was great until near the end. I ignored a lot of signs early on. He cared about me, he just could not seem to balance the rest of his life with dating me and would ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 12:58 AM
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Yeah it's a lurking variable since they have such different views on marriage/divorce than most people nowadays. Hardcore religious people don't divorce because they don't believe in it. They believe that once you marry someone you're married in the eyes of God for the rest of your life, unless adultery was involved, and it's wrong to try and act otherwise. I doubt that living together or not living together before marriage by itself makes that big of an impact
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:41 PM
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I haven't seen it happen often. That's why I ASKED whether it's common or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:23 PM
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Midwest USA. I'm aware that abuse happens and I've known someone who went through it, it's just never been something I've worried about because it doesn't feel very common to me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:14 PM
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Sorry that my life experiences have led me not to worry that I'll be abused. I'm aware it could happen and I've known someone that it happened to, it just seems relatively rare to me. My fucking bad
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:09 PM
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50/50, I guess? All of the following must be there in order for me to be/stay with a man: physical attraction, similar enough values, good enough personality for me to enjoy spending time with him and feel like he cares about me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:08 PM
1

Yeah people overexagerate way too much about us not liking one another
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:30 PM
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There is such a thing as too much but I don't know where I would draw the line. Just don't want someone who's slept around a ton. I do prefer someone with some experience but I'd be fine with a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:15 AM
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Chimp I guess, but I don't think it matters much if I'm going to be fucked either way. Is domestic abuse even that common? I've never really worried about it, I've only ever felt safer with a boyfriend (or any other man that I'm close with)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 10:09 PM
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Can't most men beat up and outrun most women anyways?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 09:45 PM
3

Fair enough. I am a young woman actually and think that 5'8 is more than tall enough (even in the abstract) but I know that's an exception
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 08:13 AM
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It depends. The sex I've had has ranged from feeling amazingly good to horribly painful. Based on these experiences, I dont want to try lots of dick. I like to find one dick to enjoy, a dick attached to someone I feel like I can trust
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 06:55 AM
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If it was the number 1 thing women look for than why would they compromise on it? Clearly some other factor(s) are more important
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 06:43 AM
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Probably. I do know young married people, though, enough that I don't think it's that rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 10:25 PM
2

Why is it funny
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:06 AM
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I'm sorry for replying anyways but will you forgive me for sharing where I come from too? Maybe my mom had something in common with yours, mine had an affair with a taller man and admitted that it was a factor. Ive never wanted to be anything like her... she didnt treat my dad well, nor me and my sister. I was brought up primarily by my dad, who I have a lot of respect for. I hope I'm as noble as I claim too, I don't want to believe we're all like my mom (or yours). Ok, bye
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:57 PM
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I know plenty of women married in their 20s though? I'm 22 and cant wait to settle down and start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:11 PM
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Attraction doesn't work like that for me, it isn't relative to anything. He's either physically attractive or he isn't. Beyond that there are way more important factors to consider for a meaningful relationship, I don't care about finding the hottest man. Average male height is 5'8" I'm pretty sure, I think the 6'0+ men are actually rare. So 5'6" is not a big deal. Hell, one of my exes was 5'1" and I got a lot of shit in social scenarios. It never bothered me and I never thought he was an "unatt…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 05:01 PM
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A 5'6" man is 4" taller than me. That is more than enough. Im sure I'm not the only woman who isn't a crazy height queen. And average men aren't doomed, ugly men probably are but average? Come on. I know what I'm into, short and average men can keep up the doom and gloom attitude if they want to though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:28 PM
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I'm not. It's not misleading if it's what I actually believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:11 PM
1

"Lost custody of your children" is literally part of the conditions given by the OP. It's not all about money, it's also about having rights to your children taken away as well
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:00 AM
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Not yet. But I can get to know them. Just like I would if I met a man anywhere else. No difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:51 AM
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OP is talking about a parent who wanted to share custody, it sounds like. You're right that you should not complain about child support if you didnt want custody, but it sounds like a case of someone who fought for custody and lost. Which would be pretty upsetting. Id want to provide for my children but I'd want to do more than just send child support checks, you know? Fathers deserve rights to their children as much as mothers do but courts too often dont see it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:42 AM
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If I lost custody than I must have been an awful mother, how would that even happen? I'm already aware that courts are biased against men. My mom paid child support and my dad had custody but only because my mom didnt want it. I don't know how to answer this question, it would obviously feel terrible
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:33 AM
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Why is OLD a fake solution? Men from OLD are part of my "real life" as soon as I meet them, and we can keep getting to know one another until we feel comfortable enough to take anything further
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:20 AM
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Alimony shouldn't be a thing anyways, at least not a permanent thing (maybe a few months tops). I'm not a fan of divorce at all (except when abuse and adultery are involved) but that's because I'm religious, don't think it should be outright outlawed though. Definitely think that sex in return for alimony is an interesting idea but alimony is a dumb thing to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:40 AM
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No, my friends can get with anybody that I'm not currently in an actual relationship with. I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:34 AM
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I'm shy and introverted. Pretty plain looking. Tell me how the men in real life would be any different than the ones on dating apps. Men on dating apps are still real men. Men who I meet in real life may want me solely for sex, just like the men online may. I'm in college and spend all my time on campus so I bet it's likely. The key is being careful. I won't sleep around, I'll select for men who I think that I could have a meaningful relationship with, whether on an app or in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:29 AM
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How are we supposed to find meaningful relationships? I started using OkCupid because I don't meet men often in real life. You can look for anything on there, some men want a meaningful relationship too. I've been on one date, he seemed like a good guy and we had a good time. I don't see how this is any different than if I'd met him in person, either way we're just two strangers getting to know one another
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:49 AM
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Once or twice a week isn't too much to ask at all. Unless something like sickness, injury, recent childbirth, etc is preventing it, I feel like once a week should be the bare minimum. But I'm young and not married so I dont know, the perfect amount of sex for me right now would be every other day
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:33 AM
2

Sometimes it makes more sense for one parent not to work, if that parent was doing work that didn't pay well and a lot of that income would basically be going towards daycare anyway (assuming children involved). From the lived experiences of my family and my relatives, it isn't that hard to survive on one income, but I guess it depends on where you live and what kind of life you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:12 PM
1

That's awful. But it doesn't represent all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:39 AM
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My dad is ~5'5" and clearly got laid. He dated in high school when he didn't have much money. It's harder for short men but why have such a defeatist attitude about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 02:08 AM
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I have a legitimate question. How do we choose a man who will definitely stick around? I try to be careful and I know that a lot of single mothers weren't being careful at all (like this one). But, in general, how do we know for sure? This is what I always wonder as I enjoy these posts but hope I never become a single mother myself
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/20 03:31 PM
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Yeah. It's entertaining and I agree with you guys more often than not, so why not?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/20 03:17 PM
3

Where are you getting these numbers from? A 5'2 female who weighs 110 pounds only has a BMI of 20.1. Which is great, but BMIs up to 25 aren't considered overweight.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/20 02:51 PM
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Anyone who isn't an idiot will be objective about some things, like not dating anyone who treats you poorly. I don't know, I try to be objective and this is just how I feel about this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:04 AM
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Objectively it is. Any woman who wants a man like Christian Grey can have fun with that. We aren't all that stupid, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 04:36 AM
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I had an ex-boyfriend commit suicide a few years back (years after we broke up) and I still feel bad about it. He used to say he'd do it if I left and I just thought it was to make me stay. And I'm sure that was part of it at the time, but I knew he seemed depressed. I should've taken it more seriously. If I could go back I'd still leave but I'd tell someone what he said to me. I don't think you're responsible for someone else's suicide just because you caused them heartbreak, responsible isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 04:04 AM
1

It's just as creepy when a rich, handsome man does it as when an ugly homeless man does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 03:27 AM
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What does rich and handsome have to do with it? Rich and handsome men can be creepy and I wouldnt want their attention either. And I've honestly only had one guy act like a creep to me in my entire life so it's not a huge problem for me, I usually like attention from men and wouldnt mind more of it. If a guy pays me a compliment I'll appreciate it, even if I'm not into him, you just have to have some subtlety
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 12:29 AM
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Yeah you're right. I don't care much about gender equality but if we're gonna have one thing (equal rights to work) than we should take the things that would logically go with that (equal ability to pay on a date)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:45 PM
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I guess $30 is just a lot of money to me as a college student. I feel bad about men spending that on me. I let men do whatever they want, some of them pay and some don't and I won't hold it against them either way. I feel like men paying is a dumb social practice that makes no sense with women having the ability to work now, however you are right that unless the practice goes away completely, men are probably better off paying
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:25 PM
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Sure, but what if you find a woman who really wants you? You don't sound as hopeless as you seem to think you are. And then you lead on some girl that was actually into you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:17 PM
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Men should stop paying for dates at all anyways. And it's not dishonest to actually change your mind about something, it is dishonest to pretend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:14 PM
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It's immoral. But I HAVE been sexually attracted to average looking, 5'6" men before so I reject your premise that EVERY woman would be using you. I also don't think that two wrongs make a right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 08:46 PM
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I wouldn't want attention from any man who says "show me your tits" to me straight off the bat. It's how the guy is acting, not how he looks. Normal flirting and even catcalling (if it's less vulgar) can be sweet though, I appreciate the attention from any man in those cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 04:09 PM
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Aren't average men your safest option if you get pregnant? You want someone who is going to stick around and the less options the guy has the better in that case
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:50 AM
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I don't think much about my life would change, my lifestyle and my career plans have nothing to do with attracting men. I would just have to accept having a lonelier life than I had hoped for and I'd probably adopt a child and some pets
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:00 AM
1

Depends. I'm not always authentic. I hold certain parts of myself back around certain people. Ive been one to try to blend in with a group. I've exaggerated a thing or two about myself to others. I'm not proud of this but it is what it is. I'm more authentic as you get to know me so I expect that from guys too. He just better be authentic about the more important things. My first boyfriend for example? Early on, he acted a lot more interested in things that I liked than he actually was and I fou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 02:47 AM
2

I do communicate it, my ex and I talked about it on our first date. I'm getting back into dating again and I'm a bit nervous about it! But it's something I'll be straightforward about
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 01:35 AM
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I don't want to become a single mother. I don't believe in abortion and don't take birth control pills so is it not a good idea to wait a little while before having sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 09:58 PM
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It wouldn't surprise me. I wouldn't care too much as long as he stayed faithful. I'll be happy enough if I have a loyal husband and a few children someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 09:56 PM
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What if she isn't imposing it as a rule but just takes a while to be ready to have sex? I like to get to know someone and know I can trust them, probably wouldnt wait 3 months but I've waited 2
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 09:35 PM
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No, you don't need any of those things to survive (at least not directly, they have increased our survival but I only consider true needs to be things that you will almost immediately die without like air, water and food). Better sanitation, nutrition and education are modern comforts that I'm glad we have, but they are not needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 09:30 PM
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Why say all women when the word most exists, though? It's misleading, why are people expected to know not to take your words literally?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 11:42 PM
3

I am aware that I probably won't go to Heaven, at least not if I died right now. I don't know what to consider myself anymore. I'll look at those verses.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/20 10:06 PM
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I think maybe she wants to adopt? It's poorly worded but adopting is the one option that would give her a child without her needing a man or to go through childbirth.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/20 06:36 PM
3

To be fair, Christianity to me just means that I believe in God, I believe the Bible, and I've been baptized. I do things that I know are sinful. I still consider myself a Christian, just not a good one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/20 06:27 PM
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He shouldn't want to cheat on me. You can think that someone would be fuckable if you were single without actually wanting to fuck them at this particular moment, can't you? Yes, I am talking about willpower and not thinking with your genitals. He should care about our relationship more than that. He should love and respect me more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 05:59 AM
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If I was currently in a monogamous relationship than of course I'd be upset if they slept with my SO. That would show that they dont care about me and MY wellbeing and I wont put up with that. I wouldnt care if they slept with an ex though or if they slept with a man who hadn't made things exclusive with me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:28 AM
2

I have good friends despite us being female so I disagree on that. I feel like it's rarer but it's not impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:22 AM
1

I mean, you can still find someone attractive even if they're objectively average
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:20 AM
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I'm sorry, I thought I should clarify since he thought I was a guy. Deleted my comments though and I'm sorry if I sounded disrespectful before
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/20 02:11 AM
1

I have a friend who is so picky that she'll eat a grand total of like 10 foods. I would not say she hates food because that would imply that she doesn't like to eat at all. But she loves some foods! She loves steak and salmon and noodles.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 02:06 AM
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It doesn't matter how talented he is in bed. As long as he isn't too attached to any weird kinks and we both care about pleasing one another, I dont see why we can't work together to make the sex better. My ex and I had to do that. I was inexperienced and the sex wasn't great for a while, but then it was amazing when we figured out what I liked. Penis size matters but I only wait for vaginal sex and not oral so I can figure that one out early on
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 01:50 AM
1

God that last sentence is calling me out
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 01:38 AM
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I dont think a man truly loves me if he wants to have sex with someone else (wanting to act on it, I'm aware he'll be attracted to other women). I think that sex is an important part of the emotional bond, sex is both emotional and physical for me. I just need to build up trust before I'm ready for sex. I need to feel reassured that there's a decent chance he'd support me if we ever got accidentally pregnant, I need to make sure we are compatible in other ways before we cloud our judgement by ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 01:31 AM
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Women are weaker than men yeah. But not so weak that we cant stand
/r/PussyPassDenied19/01/20 01:00 AM
3

What 22 year old sleeps 10 hours? Why does she assume that nobody except for mothers is busy and tired
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/20 11:30 PM
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Good for you! I'm sure your daughter appreciates and respects you or she will as she gets older. My dad had full custody of me and my sister and our life was much better for it
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/20 10:22 PM
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To be fair they probably wouldve gone after her for child support if she had a stable job. My mom paid child support. I'm not saying courts arent really biased though, your analogy wouldve been better if you compared a man and woman of similar financial/work status, because the courts would go after any man for child support but only really go after women if they make more than the kids father
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/20 10:09 PM
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Yeah there's also a chance she didnt want it (just speaking from personal experience, my mom liked the idea of being a mom but couldnt handle the actual responsibilities of it. She gave custody up even though she probably acted sad about not seeing us much). Which is also a red flag
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/20 09:56 PM
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I feel like you'd be unlikely to be below 3 if you dont wait til marriage even if you only fuck within an LTR. Like... I'm at 2 and I had casual sex one time and consider it a mistake that I wont repeat. But I'll go over two if my next relationship doesnt end in marriage. I am not trying to shame your boundaries/preferences, they are fair and you should look for whatever you want in a woman. I am only challenging the idea that having more than 3 partners means she runs around banging Chads
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/20 09:52 PM
1

Yeah it's true for me. Cooking is something they dont do much either though, we eat out a ton. There's a lot of things I need to learn/unlearn honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 07:09 PM
1

I'm a low n woman and I prefer low n men. Being with someone who had been with tons of women would make me feel insecure and it would show that we dont see sex the same way (it's a big deal for me)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:38 PM
1

I could've lost my virginity when I was 15-16, my ex-boyfriend wanted it, but I wasn't ready yet and waited til I was 20. I know women who still haven't had sex and they're attractive enough to have boyfriends, sometimes they're religious sometimes theyre just late bloomers. I dont think its THAT rare like I know it isn't common but I wouldnt say they're unicorns
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 06:34 PM
2

That's not good but whatever. If your baby mamas had relatively smooth birthing processes than I wasnt talking about them. The example someone linked earlier was about women with third/fourth degree tearing during childbirth
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 05:29 PM
1

Yes, some people have better impulse control than others
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 05:09 PM
1

Typically yeah. Depending on the complications that result, could be longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 04:13 PM
1

Go ahead and stop paying for things. I like waiting to have sex and think that's a good trade off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 04:12 PM
2

Anal doesn't appeal to me at all. It grosses me out and sounds painful. My ex had done it in the past and he told me that men like it since it's tighter
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 09:47 PM
1

I dislike feminism too. I don't understand how anyone could get so angry that they hate the entire opposite gender and not just the ones who actually hurt them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:39 PM
2

Not wanting to get married or have children isn't hateful. Believing that all women are awful and all the same is what is hateful
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:27 PM
1

Feminism and MGTOW are both problems in my opinion. We shouldn't hate each other like this. Some women are problems, some men are problems, but not all are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:23 PM
1

Somewhat. I still think that people should be actively involved in their childrens lives. I honestly think that's more important than money. Child support may be all he has to provide but I'll judge any parent who is okay with doing the bare minimum for their flesh and blood
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 03:52 AM
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You should be prepared to have a child if you have sex, that's the biological purpose of sex and everyone knows it. Unplanned or not doesn't matter, you take the risk and should assume responsibility for it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 03:22 AM
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Both parents have an obligation to their child the moment they conceive it. Neither should have the right to destroy it. Regardless, it doesn't matter what he wanted before the child was born, because they're here now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 03:10 AM
1

You can live comfortably on 50k-85k where I grew up, you can have a decent house in a nice suburb. Do you live in a huge city or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 03:04 AM
1

The obligation isn't to the child's mother, it's to the child who didn't choose to be born and will now have no male role model
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 02:53 AM
1

I matched one man and I'm just talking to him right now. I'm ignoring like 15 messages that I need to look through (from less than 24 hours). Plus a TON of likes that I keep getting notifications for but I can't see those unless they message me since I don't pay for the app which I'm mostly glad about because it'd be way too much
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 02:13 AM
1

I'm a woman LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:15 AM
1

I made an OkCupid account like I was told to do while I was having my pity party on New Years Eve and everyone was right I'm overwhelmed. I'm getting cold feet and debating whether I actually want to do this right now. Guess I can't complain about it anymore, no matter what I decide, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 11:04 PM
4

I don't mind the sex robots, but artificial wombs taking pregnancy away from biological women is something that bothers me. Even if I do other things with my life, raising a family (including carrying my own children) is the most important thing I'd like to experience. It's a more important role than housewife chores
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:21 PM
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Maternal (and paternal!) leave have benefits for the child, we don't just want it for ourselves. But I agree that alimony is unnecessary, should be temporary at most. Are people arguing that birth control pills should be free, is that what you're getting at? I don't think it should be free for all people but I'm fine with the current US system (it's free for people poor enough to get other healthcare for free). And yes, it is healthcare, women take birth control for reasons other than preventing…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 06:55 AM
3

It's doable. My family lived on one teacher's salary when I was young and my cousin is a SAHM right now (her husband is a trucker). I think both those jobs are MC. How expensive of an area do you live in because it's not that bad where I live
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:45 AM
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What if her parents were actually bad people? Just curious
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 06:58 AM
1

Most people are going to consider it a dick move. If it were my ex and my friend than I wouldnt care honestly. But I wouldnt risk losing your friend
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 12:35 AM
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I believe I'm a 5 and would be happy with a man who was a 5 or above, maybe some 4s. This is based on the charts I've seen, I don't think about people like this. As far as the specifics I dont have a ton of rigid requirements, I'll make exceptions if I like the package overall. Definitely no obese men though
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 10:28 PM
2

Assault would scare me a bit at first but Id wait to hear the whole story before judging. I saw you explain what it was for in the comments and I'd be fine with that. Drugs depends on what the drugs were and whether you're still doing/dealing them. This is just how I feel personally though, dont know about the general consensus
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 04:25 AM
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Not everyone cheats though so some people must mean it. I choose to believe that good people actually exist. If you actually care about the person you're dating then you wouldnt cheat, and if you dont care about the person you're dating then you should leave. That's my philosophy and I'll stick to it until I die, whether you believe me or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:27 PM
2

I'm nowhere near perfect but I know that I wouldnt cheat. I've made dumb decisions, but I wouldnt do something so hurtful to a man that I loved. You don't have to be perfect to have some basic morals and empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 11:06 PM
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Some women do have morals, you know. You think we'd all cheat or be disloyal? It's possible to resist temptation and think far enough ahead to not want to screw up whatever good thing you already have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 09:44 PM
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I do plan on joining OLD once I get back to school in a week. Dont know about Tinder though, I'm only looking for LTRs
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:28 PM
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Too liberal. Any use of drugs other than alcohol or weed. Obesity. Those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:02 PM
1

Men don't care about personality when it comes to relationships? I find that hard to believe. I'm sure I could get sex pretty easily, but I'm insecure about my ability to keep a man for an LTR/marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:34 PM
1

"You wouldn't want a man with you being his only option. Trust me, you have no idea what you want but men do" sounds like you were talking about me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:32 PM
1

I'm not fat
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:19 PM
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I was my first boyfriends only option, and I still wanted him. My second boyfriend committed fast and wasn't with anyone else while we were waiting to have sex. I didnt say that I need to be his only option, just that I dont want to be one of many. I dont want to be treated disposablely. We arent all the same, you dont know me as well as you think you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:18 PM
1

Interesting, makes sense. I'm usually in predominately white areas
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:05 PM
1

I'm not fat. Maybe unattractive though, but I always thought that not being fat made me average at least. I'm not shy because I'm unattractive though, I'm shy because I think I'll embarrass myself every time I open my mouth and I think I'll bore or annoy people. I struggle to make friends too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:00 PM
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I'm sure. I hardly interact with anyone at all. I know that it's partially my fault that guys arent giving me attention because of that, but it also makes me sure that I'm not ignoring anyone. I'm too shy for my own good. I am told that I look like a teenager, am still in college (one more semester) and live in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:41 AM
4

A 7.5/10 is still hot this post is about women who are 5s and below probably
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:30 AM
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I almost never get attention as a 22 year old woman either, it isn't just post-wall women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:28 AM
1

Does the average man have tons of options? Is what I want that unreasonable?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:15 AM
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This has been my experience for the most part. I don't get hit on often. However, of the few men who have, I wouldn't say most of them were old or abnormal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:38 AM
1

There's only a reason to get married if you're religious and believe that it's wrong not to. Otherwise, I don't see why anyone would feel the need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 03:57 AM
1

Why does almost everyone seem to think that way? If my ex boyfriend and one of my friends would be happy together, I would want them to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 03:42 AM
2

The Confederate flag isnt racist but some people think it is yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 03:29 AM
1

I try to avoid men who have tons of options. I'm not delusional enough to think I'd likely get commitment from someone like that, and I'd rather have someone who doesn't sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:24 AM
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I'm aware, but I don't have to oblige. A man who doesn't want to wait for sex doesn't have to keep dating me. It takes me a while to feel comfortable enough to have sex with a man, once I do he can give me dick anytime he likes. Some men are patient enough to wait, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:03 AM
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Cuddling, making out, oral (unless you count that as sex), having deeper conversations that you didn't want to have in public, and playing video games are things I've had a man over to do during the not fucking phase of a relationship. Sometimes you just wanna be alone together
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 02:33 AM
2

It takes me a while to be ready for sex and I'm not gonna wait a month or two to invite him over. My ex and I might have been an outlier, but I was glad I invited him over after our first date and we were able to have the discussion about waiting for sex. I'll do it again, it's nice to see how the guy reacts. He was quite sweet about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 02:26 AM
2

I like to be exclusive early on but I don't believe that every woman does. I'm odd when it comes to dating, I'd feel weird seeing multiple men and knowing that the men are seeing multiple women. I get the logic behind it, but I feel like I need to give each one their individual shot. I date men until I couldn't see them as someone that I would marry anymore. Probably not normal, or the most efficient way, though, and I'm gonna try to get over it and date like a normal person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 02:14 AM
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Well, I haven't been with a man for much longer than a year or lived with one, so take what I say with a grain of salt. But my first boyfriend changed a lot around the 5 month mark. He also became more honest and it turned out he had lied to me about some things. My second boyfriend didn't change so much, there were signs early on, but there was a noticeable shift around 6 months in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 01:57 AM
5

It's extremely important. I'd never be with a man that I didnt find sexually attractive. Though, more men fit that for me than seems to be the expectation around here
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 08:52 PM
3

Height isn't very important to me, but I know it is for a lot of women. I'd prefer the 5'9 man with a good face. I think that face is an important factor. But I also have unusual preferences and think that 5'9 is around the perfect height in general
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:29 PM
5

My best friend is gay so no, he doesn't want to fuck me. Also, why would it matter if a man wants to fuck me, as long as he isn't actively coming onto me and I'm not interested in acting on it, I don't see why that should ruin the hypothetical friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:10 PM
0

Some men are, some men aren't. I've experienced both.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:08 PM
0

They should. I lost mine when I was 20. I know several religious women that believe in waiting until marriage and are doing so (in their 20's). Just because it's rare doesn't mean it doesn't exist, aren't something like 3% of people virgins on their wedding day?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:43 PM
4

Yes. I don't care if my boyfriends have female friends. One of my best friends is a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:26 PM
2

I feel like a relationship is only healthy if you both trust one another. Both partners should have freedom. I'm sure hypocrisy is annoying, but when I'm with a man I don't care if he goes out with his friends or speaks to other girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 05:18 AM
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I've never assumed that a guy would pay. I let them if they insist but I don't care either way. Some women wouldn't go on a second date afterward, but I don't think most would protest paying their part.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 04:51 AM
2

I've never had anything too weird happen. I barely knew the first guy I had sex with and he kept saying he loved me. I already wasn't into it and that made it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 10:31 PM
1

I haven't been to a gym in a while but the one at my college is pretty equally split I'd say
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 08:10 PM
2

22F, average (?), looking for a LTR. I briefly used Tinder a few years back but haven't touched it since. I only ever swiped right on one guy and went on a date with him. I selected him because his profile was funny, said he was looking for a LTR, and I found him attractive. Things didn't click between us on the date but I quit the app for unrelated reasons (mainly, I was 19 and my parents would've freaked out about it). But I'm thinking of joining OLD again once I go back to school (probably no…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 07:43 PM
1

Men and women are only equal in terms of being equally important and deserving equal opportunities. I think most people understand that we aren't exactly the same and most men are stronger than most women
/r/PussyPassDenied05/01/20 08:30 AM
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It's only logical if she's only looking for sex. If she wants to date, she should read bios to see if the guys are compatible. And it's illogical to shoot above your league if you're looking for commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 07:27 AM
1

I hate the early stages of meeting people but it's worth it once you get close and comfortable with someone. I'm antisocial but when I was dating my ex, he was the one person it felt like I couldnt spend too much time with. It's just different, somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 07:13 AM
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If I like a guy than I don't care what my friends think, maybe the guy that my friends don't like is the one who is more compatible with me. Maybe the guy who can't buy me expensive things is sweeter, funnier or hotter. Status and money are low down on the list of things that are important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 06:46 AM
1

Believe me or not, but I had an STI (harmless, curable one thank God) back when I'd only been with one guy. It can happen to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 08:23 PM
1

Being against marriage is fine. It's the attitude behind it that I don't like (that all women are the same, all women will divorce rape you, etc). Marriage is important to some women, it's important to me, but it isn't important to every woman. You can find those women. But yes, can you blame most us for wanting to be married before having children? Not only is it the best option for us, but also for our children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 08:15 PM
2

We don't collectively agree on anything. I think that Trump is doing fine as a president and I prefer him to the Democrats at this point. I'm in the middle politically but agree that conservative guys are more attractive than liberal. But women have many different opinions. I know SJW women that are dating equally SJW men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 06:04 AM
1

I'll PM you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 03:24 AM
2

Sometime in middle school seemed average when I was young. I had my first "boyfriend" in 7th grade, though the most we ever did was hold hands so I don't really count it. My first real relationship was in 9th grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 02:47 AM
2

True. Good thing I dont wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 07:30 AM
5

We don't think they're gross. If I love a guy than I love his dick too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:56 AM
1

Not every woman wants meaningless hookups. Why can't people just be honest with each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:54 AM
2

Okay I'll try. I just dont know how to talk to people, how to start conversations. My ex always said he wished I'd talk more but I dont have much to say. You were right about your assumptions, literally all of them. I can smile more, I can make eye contact, maybe I'll find a personality. I don't wear makeup and dont think I will start doing it. How much do you think that hurts me? I dont know if I'm average but I'm not fat so i think I am?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 05:29 AM
1

Okay. Can I genuinely find a man who wants a family on there even though I'm kind of boring? I'm nervous about dating websites and social interactions in general
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 05:01 AM
1

Yeah. I live in Ohio
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:47 AM
1

I dont go outside often. I go to class, I walk home. I dont know many people, so what else am I gonna do? I used to go to the bars with friends every so often when I was a freshman but none of them wanna hang out anymore cuz I'm boring and cant maintain a friendship. No man has approached since November of last year. I dated that man till he dumped me. Nobody's approached since then
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:44 AM
1

22
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:37 AM
2

That's not helpful. I'm shy and men almost never talk to me. Almost nobody does. I hardly even have friends anymore. You don't know what I'm like. I dont even deserve men, so I get it. I'm not particularly interesting or pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:33 AM
2

How do I find them. I want commitment not only sex
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:26 AM
1

They can go ahead, I'm getting no action in real life. I'm drunk maybe I'll regret it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:26 AM
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Hiding some parts of yourself in a relationship doesnt require being a psychopath. Manipulative might not have been the best word though some men are like that, I'm sure they are not common. But being deceptive cannot be uncommon
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:25 AM
2

Guarantee not all of us have limitless options. Doesnt feel like it, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:20 AM
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A woman who comes back probably doesn't believe she can do better. Some of us have low self esteem, once we fall in love, we won't leave easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:16 AM
6

You don't think men can be manipulative/hide how they truly are sometimes?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:12 AM
1

Margaritas and rum (with pineapple juice)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 03:47 AM
1

I'm curious as to what was funny about my response
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 02:49 AM
2

I honestly don't remember. But I find this sub entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 02:18 AM
1

2 cocks, 3 if we count oral. Small tits, A cups. I think I have an outie pussy? I'm not answering that last question
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 02:15 AM
2

A lot of people seem to think they're entitled to more. I dont know
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:22 AM
3

Nobody is entitled to anything. You're entitled to not have other people physically harm you, you're entitled to whatever rights your country grants, that's about it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:05 AM
9

I unironically want this though I don't think all women do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 12:56 AM
3

I'd be upset. He shouldn't want to share me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:43 PM
2

Both terms are bad
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:39 PM
2

AMA
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:21 PM
3

I'm not speaking for all women, just saying I think different women have different reasons for doing things and not knowing what I want is something I see in myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 10:20 PM
5

Sometimes we change our minds. I don't say the opposite of what I want on purpose but I've done the food thing because I don't realize I want fries until they're right in front of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 09:49 PM
1

I was raised by a stay at home dad (and eventually single dad). It made sense for our family (my mom sure as hell wasn't going to do it but it's something they both wanted for me), I enjoyed it when I was young, and I respect my dad. I don't know if I'd be okay with my husband not working, though. On one hand I should want that for my children since I won't be staying home with them. Part of me wishes I could be a stay at home mom, though. But I have my reasons not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 09:40 AM
1

I went on a date with a 24 year old when I was 19. It felt weird, I didn't feel mature enough to be with him. My biggest age gap for a relationship was with a man in the year below me in college (about a year and three months younger). I socialize with other college students. I find a wider range of men attractive the older I get (I'm 22 now), men in their 20s are attractive to me but I feel embarrassed about still depending on my parents and not having a car when I think about dating non-colleg…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 09:10 AM
2

22F and I see it as a plus if a man doesn't use social media. I have social media accounts but I stopped posting on them a long time ago. Reddit is different in my mind due to the anonymity. I don't feel like broadcasting my life all over Facebook and Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:58 AM
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No but I don't think that most women have that high of a sex drive and it seems unrealistic to expect daily sex. Every other day can't be THAT bad, can it? Would blowjobs appease you sometimes?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:48 AM
1

How is 3-4x a week "pussy starved"? You guys are ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:30 AM
1

Not really. I'm religious so I believe that everything happens for a reason and that I'll end up with whoever I'm meant to be with. But I think that you can be compatible with many different people and most people won't find their perfect match (but that's okay).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:50 AM
1

Lying isn't the kind thing to do, even if a lot of women are too fragile to handle the truth. That's my perspective anyways, I'd rather men (and other women) be honest with me so I can fix the problem (or at least accept the consequences if I dont feel like fixing it).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 03:11 AM
1

I can find both attractive but rugby player physique is typically more attractive, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:45 AM
5

Not everyone wants to ride the cock carousel. There are more important things in life (including God, for some people, yes).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 05:26 PM
2

My most recent ex asked me to be his girlfriend after about a week. It was my third time seeing him since our first date. It's important to me because I'm insecure. I know I need to get over it, and I'm sure I'll have to wait longer in the future (he was my first adult relationship) but I dont like the idea of not being exclusive, even early on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 06:09 PM
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I appreciate all approaches but I know that's not a popular opinion. As long as it's not the middle of the night with nobody around and he isn't pushy if I reject him or some scenario that would actually be scary, it's flattering and I encourage it. He deserves to shoot his shot and see if he can find someone who will find him attractive, and I dont see why it bothers people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:32 AM
1

Everyone should be honest with their partners. I got pissed when I found out that one of my exes faked common interests with me and that wasnt even anything important. So no I don't think that it's okay to lie about your past
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:11 AM
1

I like to split the bill and think that should be the default. If one person wants to pay for the other than that's a nice thing to do but I dont think that it should be an expectation. If I agree to a date than I wanted to come spend time with the guy, he doesnt need to buy my meal. And I dont want him to expect something in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 07:15 AM
2

Yeah but why would anyone want that? The kid is going to be disadvantaged from the start if they dont have a dad. I'd rather not have kids at all than have them that way, as much as that idea depresses me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 07:01 AM
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Yeah I kind of wanted to see what she would say. I've seen it before I just think it's ridiculous. Something as important as dating shouldn't be dictated by what other people think about it. But I've never fit in in the first place, I'm pretty sure im not very attractive, so I guess that's why I dont care much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:43 AM
5

Aww, why do you care about being seen with him? He's a good guy AND good in bed AND wants to be more... sounds perfect to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:01 AM
0

Not in a relationship currently but when I am, I'm the more submissive one. I mean, there's some things I'll object to, but I'm usually happy to do what he asks. I'm more of a follower than a leader in all areas of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 03:16 AM
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Blowjobs are usually sexual but I dont see why they have to be. Theyre way less sexual than sex itself is for me. But that's fair, difference in opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 12:03 AM
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I just dont see how it would be ruining it. I always enjoy giving blowjobs and Ill enjoy them whether the guy asked for it or not. Fair enough I guess, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:08 PM
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I have social medias like Insta but I quit posting a long time ago because I just... don't care. My life isnt that interesting and I dont care about sharing it with everyone. You are right that most people do it, that's why I tried to get into it but I just couldnt
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:58 PM
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I'd say it's a good idea to bring it in case of emergency. I wouldnt use it while on a date, but I wouldnt not have it on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:27 PM
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I've never experienced that. My ex lasted much longer during sex than he did during blowjobs. Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:20 PM
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Not really. If you're into your boyfriend, why is giving a blowjob such a big deal? I'm a woman and I've genuinely never understood this. They're pretty quick and easy to give in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:49 PM
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I've never given a blowjob that took longer than a few minutes. Granted I haven't been with many men but still. It really takes that long usually?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:46 PM
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I'd ask him what he wants on it (or maybe not, because I'd probably know what he likes at that point... dont have a SO so this is hypothetical) and make it for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 05:26 PM
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Can younger men not be mature and want to have a family, though? I personally think age gap relationships are fine but I dont think that women cant find men their own age who want serious relationships too. I'm a college student and this is just my experience. I know that a lot of college guys are immature but they're not all bad
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 10:29 PM
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I'd feel like they're a gay man who is lying to themself and I obviously wouldnt be okay with that. Unless they're actually bisexual which would be fine normally but not if they're repressing half of it. I wouldnt be with a man who thought that being gay/bi was wrong anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 09:46 PM
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A lot of people just listen to music that is catchy and don't care what the lyrics are actually saying. I'm guilty of that sometimes. As long as it sounds good, I dont really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 05:51 PM
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I don't have a rule but I typically like men who are close to my age. I like being in the same place in life and not feeling embarrassed because I dont have my shit together yet and am still pretty reliant on family. I'm in college so college guys have been appealing, as long as they're the type who does want to get their shit together and we can work towards our goals together. Men around my age (20's) are also just physically more attractive to me in general
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 05:34 AM
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I don't think there's any time period where I'd rather be a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:33 PM
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I wear glasses because I cant stand putting anything near my eyes. I can't do eye makeup either and I can barely even put in eye drops. And I like having clear vision too much to give them up. I'm pretty sure that everybody who wears glasses has been told that they look better without them but those who still wear them probably just have their reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 06:01 PM
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F22 It doesnt happen often. The last time I was asked out was about a year ago (by my ex).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:24 PM
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It happens all the time where I live too (America). I knew tons of people growing up who had stepdads.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:47 AM
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I dont find myself in social settings much. I wish I got invited to parties or had anyone to go out to bars with. Thanks for the advice though! I'm in college so I'll have to see it works when I'm hanging out on campus because that's usually the only time I go anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:44 PM
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It isnt weird to just smile at random people? I'm also a socially awkward RBF chick
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:13 PM
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People always comment that I look like a teenager. It hasnt affected my life much yet. Maybe it contributes to why I dont get attention from guys too often.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:02 PM
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A few days. I was desperate to lose my virginity because I thought I was a loser for having not lost it yet. I was so miserable that neither of us finished and he just had to leave. That's the only time I've done something like that and I wouldnt do it again. The context is that we had a class together, he asked me to study with him, then asked me to hang out and have a walk with him, and I had sex with him afterwards. He wanted to date afterwards but I didnt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:38 PM
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If he was my husband than I'd stick around. I plan on having children and I wouldnt break our family apart. If he's just a boyfriend than we'd be breaking up real quick
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 07:22 PM
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What about religious women? I want to get married because I'd rather not have to keep living in sin (premarital sex) for my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:23 PM
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What about the child though? I'm not talking about the woman, I don't care about her. What about the children who ALSO have to suffer? That's my point, without welfare and child support it is children who will truly suffer
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:37 PM
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Wait, what about the children that a woman decides to give birth to anyway? Not being able to provide for them wont make every woman abort. And dont say we can just take them away because there probably arent enough good families out there who would take in all these children AND have enough money to do so without support from the government
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:14 PM
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I dont think that abortion should be legal but if that's your stance than okay, not in the mood to fight about abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:06 PM
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Equal, I think? I'm happy to give blowjobs and will give them without reciprocation. If I like a guy than I like pleasing him too, as long as we both have that attitude than I'm happy and everything doesnt need to be 1 for 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:02 PM
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Most of the things that you listed as being things that men have to give women are things that benefit children as well. That's the only reason I support stuff like CS/welfare, gotta think of the children that are born into the homes where those things are needed to help provide for them. Men wishing they could have sex doesnt really affect anyone else. What do you mean by "protection/jobs"? How are you legally obligated to offer that? The draft and affirmative action? I would agree that those s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 05:45 PM
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F/straight/early 20s. I would not date a trans man because I want children and need a man with a fully functioning penis
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:40 AM
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I've dated men who didnt mind that I never wear makeup. They would've preferred that I did, but it wasn't a big deal. What you said is probably perfectly ideal but I dont think that most people expect perfectly ideal, do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:11 AM
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Approximately one third. I'm a college student and this is based on the men I see on/around campus.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 12:41 AM
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There is no issue. Some people think that there is but I dont. I was just clarifying that. I prefer dating men my own age but I dont judge other people's preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 12:50 AM
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I dont think it's weird. I'm a woman and I was the one who brought up n count in my last relationship, and I wouldn't want to be with anyone who slept around a lot either. I'm surprised to find out that it isn't normal to ask about, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 10:26 PM
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I dont think that younger women dating older men is an issue but I dont think it's true that you cant find competent 20-24 year old men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 10:12 PM
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Yeah, but any man could do that, couldnt they? Arent short men still stronger than women, in general? I dont know, I've only met like two adult men that I felt like I could overpower in my entire life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 07:06 PM
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Children. Itd be hard to go without sex but ultimately raising a family is more important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 05:24 AM
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Being nice and not being a slut are basic conditions, but I dont think that being hot is. Also, any woman that falls out of love that easily (over something like depression) is just trash
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:55 PM
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Maybe but higher counts dont make me feel more sexually attracted. The most attracted I've ever been to anyone was with my ex (who had a low count). If anything higher counts make me feel insecure. Maybe if I actually liked casual sex I'd feel different. But I dont.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:32 PM
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You really believe that there are no women who dont run around thinking with their genitals? Im religious so I know several people who waited/are waiting till marriage and the women expect it from the men too. Those people clearly exist so there's another example of women caring about n count that you dont have to take my word on
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:22 PM
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Okay well what I do matches what I say so you still cant speak for every woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:11 PM
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I find it gross and if I cant see having a serious relationship with a guy than we wont be doing anything sexual. You cant speak for all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:57 PM
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It matters to me. I'm low n and want a man who is similar. Its preferable if he mostly had sex within relationships rather than sleeping around (though a small amount of that can be excused). If I'm taking sex seriously than I want him to too. I think less women care than men do probably, but I do think that more of us care than some guys seem to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 04:05 PM
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Men should be as entitled to honesty from women as women should be entitled to honesty from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:26 PM
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I wouldnt want to date a man who was dating other women. It's one of my hang-ups about how dating seems to work for most people, dating multiple people at one time bothers me. I dont do it with men, and I pretty much only date people if I can see it working out longterm, so I dont see the point of multiple at one time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:23 PM
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Those women are wrong too, everyone should be clear about their intentions and two wrongs dont make a right.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:19 PM
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No, it doesnt bother me. I feel bad when I have to reject guys and I do feel flattered. I dont get hit on a lot though so maybe that's why it's different for me. I hardly go to places that are designed for flirting so men flirting whenever is encouraged
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 07:39 PM
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I'd agree that it doesnt happen often but I'm one of those women so it resonated with me. I thought I was asexual until I met my ex. It can get confusing when you take until your 20s to develop a sex drive for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 10:32 PM
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I could do what I wanted to, but I wanted to do things WITH him and he wouldnt allow me to pay for us to do it together. That's what I meant. I wanted to go on dates that he couldnt afford that I would have paid for. And there are other ways for a man to impress me, he doesnt need to spend money in order to do so. Maybe it's my age too, I'm not gonna expect my fellow college student guys to spend money on me. Maybe if the guys were older with real jobs itd make more sense. I did go on a date wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 08:51 PM
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There's nothing wrong with going Dutch on dates. Why does that make him "not a good candidate"? I'm a woman and I dont care if men pay on dates or not, there's no reason for that to be the rule anymore. I'm fine with it when they do but if a guy is great otherwise, not paying on dates seems like such a dumb thing to reject him for. Doesnt mean I dont have boundaries. Honestly its more annoying when you date a man who HAS to pay for everything and you want to do certain things and cant...even tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:14 PM
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I've found school helpful. Sure, people can learn on their own, but I find that teachers generally make it easier. Almost none of my teachers have been useless for me, and I've never found school any more boring than education in general (if I'm bored learning it in school than I'd be bored trying to learn it on my own and if Id be interested enough to teach it to myself than I'll be interested learning about it in school). I'm sorry that you had such a bad experience with the education system, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:27 PM
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Yes I'm sure we'd all be doing great with no education whatsoever
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 02:11 AM
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Yes. I'm in college and I met my ex through a class we had together. I have friends who are dating/have dated guys they met in bars, in extracurriculars they did together, from friend groups, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 06:18 PM
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I don't see many people deny that looks matter. Just that they aren't the only important thing. Also, I'm a woman and I just want to jump to being steady and staying steady honestly. I've never really had multiple options at a time (not very social and don't really wanna use OLD). Not saying that people don't do it the way you laid out but maybe people just haven't had that experience in their own life, rather than being in denial about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 01:14 AM
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Hmm. Ok. Do men expect that usually? Just wondering because I cant personally imagine doing sex before dating and wanna know if I'm doomed. I dont have a lot of dating experience admittedly nor have I ever done OLD but I think I'm probably gonna have to eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 12:33 AM
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Height matters just not as much as some of you guys think it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 11:09 PM
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I didnt say that most of the girls that I know wait till marriage. I said that there's a wide spectrum of us. I know enough virgin women to not consider them all that rare but I've also known promiscuous women. And most women are probably somewhere in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 10:44 PM
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I live in the midwest USA, I doubt that's what you were imagining but it is pretty conservative where I grew up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 10:25 PM
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Okay. I didnt know I was that much of a minority because I see a lot of variety in my life and I know women who take sex even more serious than I do (waiting till marriage types) but I guess it's just my social circles
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 07:38 PM
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I mean, we're all different, I know women all over the spectrum when it comes to sex life. Some dont value trust or intimacy. I think that's short-sighted and I'd rather not put off something as important to me as becoming a mother is (I'm early 20s and already worried about kids LOL, I dont get how other women wait so long) but that's just my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 07:07 PM
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Every woman wants to be desired, not all of us want to be desired solely for sex. Not all of us like sex if there isnt trust or emotional intimacy involved. There's a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 06:44 PM
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I agree that most men arent abusers and itd be great if being a stay at home wife/mother was more valued in society nowadays. I do think the option to work is an overall good thing, though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 06:42 PM
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I'm just arguing that being desired doesnt benefit you much if you cant enjoy it. If a person hates casual sex, why would they see being desired for it as a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 05:56 PM
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I guess, but what good is it to have something that you dont want? I wish I could give my ability to have casual sex to some incel because I dont want it, I do feel bad for people who dont have the options
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 05:31 PM
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Yeah but isn't OLD mostly geared towards casual sex? I'm skeptical of OLD stats because yes, there are men out there that will have sex with practically anybody and women have it easier if they're into casual sex. I think that's more due to the men just wanting to have sex than them valuing her necessarily. Ugly women probably dont have many men wanting to wife them up, they often dont get treated that well, so they have to work hard in other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 04:58 PM
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Our lives are harder, yes, but is it not worth it? Having to be fully reliant on other people for your entire life is pretty risky. If their father and husbands were good people than I'm sure they were privileged, but if not than life would've been a nightmare, wouldnt it have been? Freedoms come at a cost, but isn't it worth it to have agency in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 04:24 PM
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I'm from midwestern America and would consider her average.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 05:27 AM
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I might INITIALLY be attracted to someone who looks like a man, but if I find out that they dont have the right genitalia, I'll lose the attraction. The fake penis (or lack of a penis) is going to turn me off as soon as I know about it. When I'm attracted to a man, I imagine having sex with him... with a penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 05:13 AM
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I cant speak for other women but I will answer the questions addressed to us as individuals. I try to be a free thinker when it comes to relationships. I dated a guy that other girls didnt pay attention to in high school. None of my friends liked him and I got a ridiculous amount of negative feedback about it, usually from other women. The negative feedback was warranted near the end of the relationship when we started to actually have issues but early on people were just being shallow. I did go…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 04:47 AM
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Fair but my counterpoint is that sex for a woman can be painful/uncomfortable, not just unsatisfying. I dont know if men experience anything like that? I still like sex but I have to trust the guy I'm doing it with. My one time doing casual sex the guy just didnt care... at all. And that's why I never did that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 03:59 AM
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How is this hard to understand. Maybe a trans man could fool me for a while, but that's because I'd be assuming he had a (real) penis. Once I found out otherwise, I'd lose my attraction. Why do you think that sexuality can only be based on one thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 12:53 AM
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It isn't our fault that men are so thirsty. Take it up with other men if you want the standards for women to be raised. Everybody is entitled to take advantage of whatever is available to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 12:32 AM
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No, I'm only attracted to adults with penises. I never said I'm just attracted to penises, but a penis is necessary for my attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 12:20 AM
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I wasn't. I thought pheromones were real but I looked it up and I guess I was wrong. Either way, I'll figure out their biological sex by the time we go to have sex, and the attraction is going to end if he has a fake penis
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 11:56 PM
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Dont we get that information from picking up on other people's pheromones?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 11:44 PM
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But not every woman looks good so how can you say that they all have value the minute they're born? Wouldnt the ugly women need to compete and achieve things too?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 09:13 PM
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It's not always the number of family that is the problem but yeah. I was speaking from experience because of my own family's situation when I was growing up. My parents didnt want me in daycare and my dad ended up quitting his job. We have family around here but they all (at the time) either worked themselves and couldnt do it or were not people my parents wanted me around. My dad did end up babysitting his brothers kid, it's a great option if you have a trustworthy family member who has the tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 08:58 PM
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I know some women my age that dont want kids, but I also know a lot more that do (and yeah usually they want 2 kids at most). I dont know the percentage, but a lot of the women (and men) that I know that dont want kids just dont like kids at all. They find kids annoying and they value their freedom, being able to do the things they want to do and spend money on what they want rather than having to give that time/money to a kid, mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 05:18 PM
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Not everyone has the option to have family watch the child. You can stay home, yes, but a lot of women dont want to do that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 04:54 PM
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I don't want to share my partner and if he wants to be with anyone else than I'm not interested. I dont feel that way when I'm in love. I dont want other men. So I want someone who feels the way I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 04:42 PM
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My ex did because I have hesitations about taking birth control so I've been off it for a while. Are most men that averse to wearing a condom?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 01:43 AM
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Yeah I just dont expect it. I've been with men who always paid for me and men who almost never did. I'll let them if they're adamant about it, I'm not one of those whose gonna fight about it, but I still think it's kind of archaic and unnecessary
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 08:32 PM
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Nobody should have the right to terminate the pregnancy (unless there are significant health risks for the mother, in which case it should be up to her), and both parents should be responsible for the child (either through custody or child support). Why punish your fetus for your mistakes? A baby is a possible consequence of sex, choose wisely and take responsibility for your decision. That's how I feel, anyways. So yeah I think he could keep the baby and be a single dad if he wanted (and the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 08:26 PM
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How is it equal to expect the man to pay for you? We can make our own money nowadays, there's no reason for the man to pay for you unless you have some sort of agreement where he's going to be the sole provider (or if it's a special occasion like a birthday)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 07:59 PM
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I dont know a ton about applying to law school but you have to do really well on the MCAT to be a competitive applicant, and there are many other factors in the application process. I scored higher than most people on my MCAT but I'm still worried about getting in. The average person who gets into medical school needs to score better than 70% of other MCAT test takers as well as have a 3.6+ GPA, lots of volunteering/research/leadership experience, and many other factors. I've got the academic st…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 07:32 PM
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That's your opinion, though. That was my only point. I think that someone who wants to cheat on you is going to cheat whether you control who they hang out with or not, and if I trust a man than I trust him to still be friends with his exes. If I didnt trust him than we wouldn't be in a relationship any more. An ex isn't necessarily a fall back option, you can still like someone as a person even if you didnt work out romantically
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 04:29 PM
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My parents wouldn't allow me to work in high school. Luckily they did give me spending money and allow me to hang out with my friends (though I had to depend on them for rides and whether they wanted to take me somewhere or not).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 01:20 PM
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Medicine doesnt guarantee you a job. It does if you can actually make it into professional school after undergrad, but the process of getting into medical school/PA school is ridiculously competitive. Just an FYI because I also thought that going into medicine was a fool-proof plan when I was younger but I'm nearing the bottleneck and am not sure what I'll do if I can't make it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 01:12 PM
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Maybe they feel like they'll be judged if they go places alone? I dont experience that personally but I get anxiety about making phone calls. For me it's because I have anxiety surrounding social interaction in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 01:02 PM
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Why? I dont care if a guy is still friends with his ex's, personally. I get if you're not comfortable with it but I dont see how it's disrespectful if two people can agree that they're both cool with it. I dont hate my ex even though we broke up, I dont think he could ever be dead to me. We just didnt work as a couple, doesn't mean I feel the need to cut him off completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 06:10 AM
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Nobody said pumping and dumping is as bad as cheating or rape. Sure pumping and dumping is consensual and legal, but a lot of women dont consider it a good or ideal thing to have happen. I think that's all the things listed are meant to have in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 05:45 AM
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I'd rather take my chances than end up in a relationship like that (business). And yeah, not every parent cares about their children so I'm sure that some would choose shitty men if they were desperate to marry her off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 04:53 AM
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Rich men can be good and interesting people, yes. Nobody said that being rich didnt help, just that actually being compatible with the person is important as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 04:46 AM
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I dated a guy who I didn't consider "beneath" me but everyone else seemed to. And his insecurity surrounding that was what made our relationship go downhill. The clinginess, jealousy and fakeness (he feigned common interests/beliefs with me) got to be way too much. We were young and I can forgive these things because they all stemmed from insecurity but I wished he could've just trusted that I really did like him. I know it's anecdotal but that was my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 08:11 AM
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Yes. I want to have children someday and I'm not interested in men who don't. I'd prefer to get married eventually as well because I'm religious and would rather not live in sin forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 07:37 AM
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What do men want us to bring to the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 05:42 AM
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A guy can provide both comfort and excitement. I need both personally
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 05:36 AM
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I'll call myself out here and say I'm an adult who cant cook. I know I need to learn how to so that I can cook for a family someday, but eating the way I do (frozen foods, eating out, etc) isn't something that bothers me as an individual so I just... haven't been motivated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 04:53 AM
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People are still responsible for their actions while drunk. If you really trust her, if she really loves you, she wouldn't cheat on you. Drinking lowers your inhibitions, but I dont think that it makes you do anything that you dont want to do deep down. I guess I dont speak for everyone, but I've been pretty trashed and never felt compelled to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 03:58 PM
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Well, I'm willing to make some sacrifices in my career for my family. I dont think I can have the best of both, I just think it's possible to have both. I dont think that work is empowering, but I do think that most people expect us to work nowadays. That has been my general experience with men. Maybe not always. I just see work as an adult responsibility that I'm expected to do now..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 06:59 AM
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I feel like I might be boring. I dont always have much to say, I'm pretty quiet in general. Sometimes I can hold conversations but it just depends, if the other person is leading it than I'll probably do fine. So yeah I've had some luck with guys but not a ton because of that (I think I look fine, but not good enough to offset everything else about me).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 06:46 AM
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What's a note mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 06:11 AM
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Yeah I'm aware of that stuff but thanks for the advice. I dont want to be a surgeon and dont care how much money I make (long as I can pay off my med school debt). Who knows if I'll even make it into med school, it's so competitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 05:20 AM
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Okay. Thank you, I feel very lost in life and appreciate any advice. I'm religious in the sense that I believe in God, I just dont really act like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 04:35 AM
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I have heard that. I'm already not a virgin so I'm sure I wont attract any men who would wait till marriage anymore, though. I mean, I already gave it up in the past, so I'm sure they'd expect it in our relationship, wouldn't they? I dont do casual sex but I dont know if I can avoid having sex in a relationship because I'm not worth that much anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 04:24 AM
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My husband will be head of the home for sure, I dont like to be a leader nor am I good at it. My cousin never went to college and she's a SAHM now and I do envy her. But I didnt realize this about myself until recently. I dont even have the skills to be a wife, all I've ever been expected to do was study and get good grades so I need to work on a lot of things that I've neglected. Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 04:05 AM
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Condoms arent always effective and I'm against abortion. It is murder in my opinion, I would keep any child that I get pregnant with and suffer the consequence. I dont like to lie. Its wrong. I want him to love me for who I really am.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 03:51 AM
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Sometimes I dont want equality. I'm fine with it though, like I said, it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 03:37 AM
1

Dont most, though? Fun sexy guy could pump and dump you and leave you with a bastard child. Plus, dont most men see high n-count as a minus when it comes to marriage? Maybe some fun sexy guys are good, but that's why I said that he needs to prove that he has more to offer before I'm giving anything up to him. I just think that hook-up culture and giving it up to men right away is short-sighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 03:33 AM
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I mean I dont really want to work outside the home when I really think about it but it feels like it's just expected of us. I haven't met many men in real life who want to be the sole provider, it's getting harder to live on one income, and I'd be letting down my entire family who helped me pay for college if I dont do something with my degree. So it is what it is. I dont know how many women actually want to work outside the home as much as we just see it as an adult thing that we have to do now
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 03:27 AM
1

Women dont need advice on how to obtain sex. That isn't the advice a woman would be looking for. Finding a relationship/securing commitment is a bit harder and might require advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 03:17 AM
1

Can we not work towards a career and find a husband/have children at the same time? I dont see why the two have to be mutually exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 02:38 AM
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I'm in my early 20s and sexy fun guys are a waste of time unless they're bringing more to the table (being the kind of guy I could see marrying/having children with). Raising a family is important to me and I dont understand why some women nowadays are so short-sighted about it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 02:23 AM
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R/niceguys doesn't bash men, just the ones who feel entitled to women just because they pretend to be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 04:13 PM
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Honestly, yeah. Women staying with men who treat them poorly is pretty stupid. We decide what we're willing to put up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 04:02 PM
6

Have you seen some of the things that they say about women over on their subreddit? They may not associate with us but they sure hate us a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 03:21 PM
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Eh, I thought that expecting other people to accommodate your feelings is what makes you a snowflake, not having the feelings in and of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 03:14 PM
1

What's the light switch effect?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 03:11 PM
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Why isn't it okay? If they can get guys to buy them things, and that's who they wanna date, who cares? It's on the guy if they decide to do all that stuff for her. People are allowed to have whatever standards they want, even if those standards are superficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 02:04 PM
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I had a crush on one of my guy friends when I was younger. He knew about it and wasnt weird about it. I got over it, and we're still friends. People keep friends around because they genuinely enjoy your company and being interested in someone romantically/sexually doesn't negate your friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 12:48 PM
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Isn't spending time with her and texting her part of the companionship part? It's cool if you dont want that but I dont see it as that demanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 03:39 AM
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Exhibit A is just about perfect. There's nothing wrong with exhibit B, but I usually like men who are closer in age to me. Maybe I won't care so much once I'm out of college. I don't think that there's anything wrong with age gaps and 10 years isn't that bad. There's nothing wrong with exhibit C either, but I definitely wasnt ready for children when I was 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 09:09 PM
0

Why would I care what the average woman thinks? The right thing to do is often the less popular option. If I get pregnant, it isn't my place to decide whether that life is meant to be or not. Only God should decide that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 01:35 PM
1

Nobody should agree with murder. Which is what abortion essentially is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 12:47 PM
2

Well, not everybody wants to fuck a guy right away. I've given blowjobs way before I was ready to have sex. Blowjobs really arent a big deal to a lot of women, but PIV is. It's part of making him stay interested, not all of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 05:58 PM
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Some women are afraid that you could be one of those violent men, because we can never know for sure. I think we all know that you probably aren't, as most men aren't, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 04:05 PM
1

Satisfying a man sexually is something that needs to be done if he's someone you'd like to keep around, is it typically not? So it isn't much different than walking that pet. If it's a guy that she never wants to see again than sure, you'd be right, but that isn't always what the situation is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 04:01 PM
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Not important at all. My friends hated my high school boyfriend. My more recent ex and I never even met most of one another's friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:15 PM
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I wouldn't say "no problem". I don't meet people often or put myself out there much, so finding a date isn't that easy. I don't attract men that often, or if I do than I don't know. I'm not good at communicating attraction myself. I know it's easier to be like this as a woman than as a man, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 11:15 AM
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Yeah. I'm not good with socializing and have been called socially awkward (by friends, family, people I went to school with, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 01:12 AM
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My dad was a SAHD for a while because it made sense for our family and I'd never describe him as lazy. He was always doing something, did pretty much all the childcare, housework, yardwork, errands, etc. I thought it was nice to grow up with my dad around, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 11:24 PM
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I don't like having sex with strangers and I know other women who don't. We're all in at least one of these categories: a) religious or b) nerdy (think DnD, video games, anime, etc) or c) shy/introverted. I don't know if that will help or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 04:59 AM
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Im a hypocrite because Im not that funny myself but I probably wouldnt
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 01:29 AM
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Yeah. If anything I felt like adults were trying to push us into STEM when I was younger
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 05:15 PM
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61% feminine and 0% masculine apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:34 PM
3

The likelihood of being raped is low. That's why people don't avoid it as much as they could. Everybody takes risks in life. Car crashes can be traumatizing but I don't always wear a seatbelt because I don't think it'll happen to me. Human beings are dumb like that, sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:20 PM
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You're stealing sex from someone who didn't consent to it. Besides, the point isn't that stealing and rape are the same, the point is that they're both crimes. Really, rape is worse than stealing in many cases, because rape is traumatizing and may affect that person for the rest of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:56 PM
0

Yeah I dated a 5'1" man and he was really insecure. I really liked him in the beginning but it got to be too much. It wasnt even the insecurity itself that bothered me but the things that stemmed from it (jealousy, clinginess, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:49 PM
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A crime is still a crime even if you put yourself in the situation. It's still a crime if someone robs you when you left your doors unlocked. Was it smart of you? No. Should you lock your doors to protect yourself and your things? Yes. Did the robber still do something wrong? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:35 PM
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5'1". I was happy at the beginning of the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:32 PM
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I think the point is just that attractive men don't always treat women like shit, not that it never happens. But he probably treats her well at least some of the time in order for her to stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:19 PM
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I was under the impression that everyone who isn't Red or Black is Blue, making the majority of people Blue (and not really a cohesive group). I don't think that being blue pilled necessarily means that you think that looks don't matter at all, but less than other pills do yeah. Honestly Ive been wondering the same thing though, I'm really not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 06:03 PM
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Yeah I'm in college so most men I meet aren't financially stable yet. My household was single income while my parents were still married (mom was the one working though, flipped script) and we did fine honestly. My cousin is a SAHM, does homeschooling and everything. It's definitely doable, even if it's gotten harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 09:13 PM
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Yeah Ive met several who seem to think that being a housewife is lazy and the woman should have a job (and will say so) though. Ive gotten the impression that most men expect us to contribute financially now that we can
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:43 PM
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I havent met many men who are looking for a SAHM/housewife. It does sound nice, but Id rather not depend on someone else for my livelihood, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 08:32 PM
1

Im not in a relationship but I dont care if a guy is bisexual. We arent having a threesome though, Im very monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:43 PM
1

What about breech babies?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:42 PM
2

I'm sad when bad things happen in the world and I wish they wouldn't. Is that an extreme reaction? I thought it was normal, that's all caring really means to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:45 PM
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I think we have different definitions for what caring about something means... I literally said earlier that you don't need to try to stop it from happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:35 PM
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If you don't already care about it because it's a horrific thing that should never happen to anyone... I don't know what to tell you. Think about how you'd like it if it happened to you. If you wouldn't want to have it happen to you, why wouldn't you want it to stop happening to others as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:26 PM
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Didnt say it's your issue or that you need to do anything to solve it or anything but how can you not care at least a little? I just thought most people have at least a little empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:13 PM
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Why wouldnt you? I would care if you got raped. I just don't want anything bad to happen to anyone, ever, and I think that we should all care about each other as fellow human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:08 PM
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It depends on what the mental illness is but I'm pretty open to it in general. I have my own issues too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:54 PM
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Yeah nobody needs to be shamed in my opinion. It's better to be a virgin to be a slut in my opinion but I dont care about anyones sex life unless Im trying to date them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:10 PM
2

yes, it's impossible to both enjoy sex and have self control
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:04 AM
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I'm a woman, your reply reads like you might not realize that. I'm 22 and it's important to me to raise a family, I'm not interested in modern hook-up culture, but maybe that's true for those who are. I'm definitely not going to wait until 30 to find marriage, that is very short-sighted indeed. I think it's important to find someone who I'm attracted to lookwise who is also a good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:41 AM
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Looks and personality both matter. Raising children isn't just about health and vitality, it's also about finding someone who you can trust to help you raise a family and be a good father. I also want to enjoy spending time with a man who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, which means that a compatible personality matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 01:50 AM
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I think that over 10 is high. I'm 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 01:31 AM
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No, someone groping me isn't something they need to die for. And I'd rather my man not get in trouble with the law. Being protective and willing to defend me is attractive, being that over the top about it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 01:16 AM
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Either is fine but I prefer being in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 11:03 PM
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I don't consider it harassment but I don't like it either. I don't want that kind of compliment, most women don't, and it won't get you anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 08:29 PM
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I'll suggest something if I think of it, but I'm not really a fresh and exciting person myself and I don't expect much from guys either. Grabbing some food and/or staying in 95% of the time is fine. So I can't really speak for the women who do have high expectations but I'd assume it's pretty simple, they don't make the effort because they don't have to
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:51 AM
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I've never done anal and I'm not sure if I ever will. I don't see myself being comfortable with it anytime soon. Even if I do end up changing my mind, I think I'd only be cool with doing it every once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:21 AM
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Age: early 20s Ethnic: White Location: midwest USA I'm currently a student, I make a bit of money from tutoring but I don't know how much it'll add up to and it's definitely not going to be much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:42 AM
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I'm happy to be with a man who is 5'7", that's still tall to me. I don't care about his job as long as he has one and isn't planning to work at McDonald's his whole life or something. But most jobs will do. I do prefer guys my age though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:08 AM
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If I love and respect someone, I don't want to hurt them like that by cheating. And I dont want to ruin what I already have
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:02 PM
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I'm 22. I do require commitment before having sex with someone, though I did try hooking up with a man once and regretted it. I don't have a crush on any of my male friends anymore, and most of those crushes never went anywhere. I'm still friends with one of the guys, he's gay so I got over it. I'm still friends with one my exes but not too close.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:27 PM
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I know that duty sex isn't genuine desire, if that ever happened I'd still want to keep him happy and at least pretend to desire it. I think with more than my vagina when it comes to relationships and being treated well is always going to be a priority. And the fact that women aren't attracted to EVERY guy who is caring towards them doesn't mean that a guy can't be both attractive and caring. I've almost always been the one to develop crushes on my male friends, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:16 PM
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I'm not red or black, so I'm pretty sure that makes me blue by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:59 PM
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My physical standards aren't that extreme. I don't have a type and definitely find more than 20% of men attractive. I wouldn't even want to date the top 20% of men, I know I'm not good enough to keep a man like that. Probably around half of men are attractive. I'm only hovering around the 50th percentile myself, who am I to be picky? I don't think those women with ridiculously high standards are the ones being realistic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:51 PM
1

It's even more meaningless if it's with Chad, because the chance he'll commit to you is even lower than with a normal guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:39 PM
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The majority of men aren't ugly. Some of you are, but it's not more than half of you. Why do you insist that I must be lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:37 PM
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A man would never end up in DB with me. I'd put out at least once a week if he wanted it, I see it as part of my job as a girlfriend/wife. There are more important things in life than my sex life. Plus, a man can do both. My ex (I didn't break up with him, if you wanted to say something about him being an ex) was someone I could trust and lean on emotionally, and he was amazing in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:31 PM
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Rape was still prosecuted prior to 1973, calm down
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 06:35 AM
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Women already accuse men of rape and ruin their lives. Let's stop allowing men's lives to be ruined over claims that can't be proven while we're at it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 04:55 AM
1

We talked about male and female anatomy and periods. Maybe stages of pregnancy? No talk about sex except for them showing us pictures of STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 04:26 AM
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If you didn't want to carry it, you should've thought about that before you lied down to have sex with him. Everyone will die, but nobody should have the right to determine when or how for you. Abortion is the same as all other murder to me and you won't change my mind. Nobody disagrees that we shouldn't murder a born person to end their suffering yet somehow it's okay when it's the unborn
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 04:19 AM
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As if men never want the aborted child. I was raised by a single dad, single parenthood isn't ideal but it's better than ending an innocent human life. Go ahead and fine my income. I'm a supporter of welfare and I'd be happy to pay more in order to let more children live.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:52 AM
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This isn't conservatism though, only the extreme end of it. I grew up in a conservative area in the Midwest and I did grow up in a church that held those types of views, but I haven't met many other people who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:45 AM
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Babies shouldn't be killed just because their mother can't deal with the consequence of her actions. The mom doesn't have to drop them into a dumpster, there are legal ways of giving up a child that you've given birth to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:35 AM
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I don't think the issue is that people change as much as it's that people pretend to be something that they aren't sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:22 AM
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lol no I can say from experience that this isn't true. a guy who tries to make it good for me every time is amazing, i don't know why anyone would accept less.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:08 AM
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I'd rather he be the more dominant one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:40 AM
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not being allowed to kill our babies (even the unborn ones) should come back
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 02:26 AM
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No you didn't do anything wrong. Don't apologize for trying to help someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:35 AM
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I'd be fine with it. I'm a Christian and feel that waiting til marriage is the right thing to do. I'm not the greatest Christian, though, it's not gonna be my idea to actually do it, but if he wants to put his foot down and say we gotta stop living in sin til we get married...that's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:26 AM
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Okay, thanks for the advice
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:06 AM
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Thanks. I don't use Tinder or any online dating websites but I've thought about it since I have trouble meeting people in real life (I don't go out much and I don't have great social skills).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:51 PM
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I'm in college and all I do right now is tutor people and hope I can get into med school
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:24 PM
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Yes. https://external-preview.redd.it/9zUyLq2WUFY96rCakPwphW_Vmz8Yy0O9ttM7qByqfk0.png?auto=webp&s=f79be5d6d881585712c055a6e5187f791bfe011c
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:18 PM
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I looked up some of those attractiveness charts and I'd say everyone 5 or higher looks good to me, the 4s are a maybe but probably not. I want them taller than me (I'm 5'2 so this isn't a big deal) and not fat, a bit chubby is probably okay (I'm not overweight so I don't think this is unfair either).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 11:10 PM
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Yeah, I've never understood that. Being with a Chad sounds stressful. I do wanna be with someone I'm attracted to, but not someone so attractive that I feel like they could do better than me and worry that they'll realize that one day. I don't know what non-Stacies are expecting from going after Chads. Funny, nice, and trustworthy are good traits because that's someone you could have a good future and a family with. Nice and trustworthy seem like they should be the bare minimum that anyone shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 10:44 PM
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That's fair if that's what you've seen. I've spent a lot of my life single (though I don't complain about it, my fault mostly), and I don't want to fuck men who I don't trust either, Chads or not. And I tend to just see everything from my point of view (or close friends points of view) too often, probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 09:49 PM
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Not every woman wants meaningless sex though. I think that most women know that men are really thirsty, I think most women who complain about that kind of stuff actually want relationships, not just sex. Unless Im wrong? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 09:11 PM
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I suppose that's often true. I wouldnt want to be in a relationship with any man who didnt give me a fair amount of attention, even if he was hot, though. Shouldnt you want to pay attention to someone if you love them? Flowers and gifts are sweet but I don't think they should be expected
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:43 PM
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Being too distant
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 06:38 PM
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Most women arent that tall, 125 pounds is still healthy for most women. Though it's true if you're 5'8+ you should weigh more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 06:07 PM
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How many women actually claim that looks don't matter? Both looks and personality matter to normal people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:48 PM
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I want children but honestly, I believe that people should take it more seriously when they decide to try for a child. Some people aren't cut out for parenting and it's for the best that they don't feel the need to have children just for social obligation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:47 PM
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Close. 5'2
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:18 AM
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What are we being "shitty" about? Having standards? Women do have the upperhand in the SMP, but why would we care/want to change that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 12:52 AM
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5'9 is still tall to me. But Id assume it helps that Justin is famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 12:38 AM
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Nah we should ban abortion and both parents should take responsibility for their offspring
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:37 PM
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Ive had sex where I wanted to say no before. I know it wasnt rape. I wasnt afraid of him, Im just a doormat and couldnt bring myself to say anything. I wouldnt mind these chaperones, might help with loneliness too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:21 PM
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Yes. It isn't the most important thing, but I couldn't date a guy who I thought was dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 06:44 PM
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Ive confessed feelings three times. I dated one of the guys for a few months but I dont really count it since it was middle school. The other two were rejections. Ive had one guy ask me out after having a crush on me and I dated him. When I was younger (high school) I dated a guy who I had prematurely rejected when I suspected he had a crush on me (which I was right about) but I ended up changing my mind and developing feelings (and confessing those). A friend of a friend had a crush on me once …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 05:46 PM
1

It's no less gross than sucking dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 09:13 PM
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No. Him enjoying it is a motivator but it's not enough, why would I want to be with a guy who doesnt care about me enough to at least try to make me orgasm too? I understand if I dont orgasm all the time, I dont expect that, but come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 09:09 PM
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Yeah my mom's a teacher and you're right about all of that (I think she makes decent pay though). I just regret going into medicine sometimes and dont know what I should have done with my life instead (Im also not sure what Ill do when I probably cant even make it into med school)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 03:36 PM
1

Why not? I kind of wish I'd gone into teaching, itd be a lot easier for raising a family than what I did go into
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 03:07 PM
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How does a woman know whether a man will pump and dump her (or just be not a good partner overall)? Genuine question, it's never happened to me but sometimes people turn out to be different than they seemed in the beginning
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 09:54 PM
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He actually left me. I'd use a current boyfriend for an example if I had one but it's only been a few weeks. I don't mind listening to most people if I care about them, but I did feel like it was different with this guy. I can get bored listening to my friends or family sometimes, but I dont think I ever got bored talking to him. Even when he'd go on to some tangent and then apologize for it. We did have similar interests, though we both had plenty of interests we didnt share as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 01:50 AM
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Well, most people aren't as introverted as you are. It's important to find someone you're compatible with. Some women out there may feel the way you do or feel similarly enough to be happy in a relationship with you. But most human beings, even fellow introverts, value communication on some level. And they need someone who gives them what they need in that department.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 09:29 AM
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My ex boyfriend could talk my ear off about things I wouldnt have cared about otherwise but I still cared about what he had to say simply because it was him saying it. Thanks for your perspective, though it makes me a little sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 09:13 AM
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I'm not saying you should create a pretend persona. I don't want to be told what I want to hear, I just want someone that I enjoy spending time with (and him enjoy spend time with me too). Someone whose funny with at least some common interests. If we're going to live together and spend the rest of our lives together, he should be someone Id be friends with even if we werent having sex. That's how I think about relationships. Nobody needs to fake it, the man who is compatible with me won't have …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 08:53 AM
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I think you should be able to make time to talk every day, even if just for a short phone call or a few texts. Seeing each other at least once a week is preferable to me, I can deal with seeing each other less often depending on the circumstances but I'm not happy if it becomes a regular occurance and I feel like I'm just being put on the backburner (I know this from experience now).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 11:52 PM
1

It wasn't until college for me but I was sheltered and Ive always looked way younger than I actually am. It doesnt happen often to me which I am grateful for. It makes me so sad reading how young some of you started experiencing it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 11:30 PM
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It isn't unreasonable to want to talk to your partner. I doubt any woman wants to be with a man who would prefer them to be mute. If you really love someone how can you not care what they have to say
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 11:19 PM
9

You really think that men don't go after superficial qualities as well? Dedication, loyalty and perseverance are important, but none of that matters if there's no physical attraction and you can't have fun together. How can you be with someone you don't like to spend time with?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 11:13 PM
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I'm not saying there's anything wrong with not wanting to marry high n count women, that's your perogative, but I think it's a bit of a stretch to suggest that they're incapable of monogamy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 10:59 PM
4

The problem is that we don't know that our husbands will always love us, treat us well and be around to provide for us and our children. Being a SAHM (or SAHD) sounds nice but Ive seen it not work out too many times. Not that I havent seen it work well too. At least while you're working you're making your own money so you have at least some level of independence and ability to make it on your own if you have to, even if nobody is fully independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 04:44 PM
0

My cousin is a SAHM to her young children. She and her husband (a trucker, I think?) own a house in a decent area. There are still women doing it. Is it really that expensive where you live? Because it's not too bad out here in the midwest USA (in my experience). Some dependency is good, I'm not one of those women obsessed with independence, but I don't want to be fully dependent on someone else either. What if my husband dies or gets seriously injured and can't provide anymore? What if he turns…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 04:22 PM
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It isn't that hard to live off of one salary. You don't need to have millions of dollars. My family did it (on a teacher's salary) and we did fine. Anyone who wants to be a SAHM/SAHD can make it work if they make a few sacrifices. And maybe being a SAHM would be nice, but Id rather not be fully dependent on someone else like that and I'm glad I have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 12:31 PM
2

I have a low n-count so I don't mind talking about it. I'd never lie about it, even if it was high, though. There's nothing wrong with a man caring about n-count. If mine is too much for someone, than I'm not the woman for them. You shouldnt lie about something like that, you need to find someone who likes you for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 03:23 AM
2

I think it's biological because mowing a lawn is still more physically draining than washing dishes. I don't know, I've always thought that Id much rather keep the more "feminine" chores than take on the more "masculine" ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 05:48 AM
1

Yeah, but the 20% of children with a SAHP are better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 12:08 AM
4

Both parents should be held accountable for having a child. My mom paid my dad child support after she walked away and I do feel like we deserved that, it was the least she could do. I feel the same about all single parent situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 07:47 PM
2

Not everyone wants to murder their child in order to avoid responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 05:10 PM
2

True but I've done the avoiding eye contact thing because I didn't want to have to deal with rejecting guys, not because I thought itd end badly I just dont want to do it. I'm just shy/not much backbone though, dont know about other girls
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 01:32 AM
1

They're completely connected for me. I genuinely thought I was asexual before I dated my ex. My desire for non-sexual and sexual physical intimacy was probably equal while I was with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 01:25 AM
3

Sex without attachments sucks. Tried it once, would never do it again. It isnt unrealistic. And 5 relationships seems to be within a normal range to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 12:51 AM
2

I guess what you say would apply to a lot of dads who dont see their kids (or hardly do) but my dad had full custody (my mom didnt want it, she had visitation rights) and he was a good parent. They're out there. He never dated again, though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 12:43 AM
1

You asked why we do these irresponsible things and I'm telling you why. We're going to do what we want and we aren't going to change our behavior over something that probably won't happen. I invited him over because I wanted to spend more time with him. I wanted to cuddle and make out. Sex is a serious thing for me, my ex-boyfriend would have had to wait months to come over to my place if he couldn't come til I wanted to have sex. I don't care about "universal signals". I actually liked him more…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 12:32 PM
2

Not being a pushover doesn't make you an asshole, though. Yes, men shouldn't be pushovers, but that doesn't mean they can't still be good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 09:17 PM
1

44, 50, 50, 56
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 09:03 PM
1

That's a lot of assumptions there. I've never been drunk without someone who I trusted around. I think I usually dress pretty modestly (but if I wanted to dress slutty, I wouldnt stop myself over the slight chance that a guy could rape me) and I avoid being out alone after dark unless I have no other choice (no car, late classes). But I have brought a man home after the first date (not to have sex). I don't think that it isn't risky, I just don't care. Maybe I am stupid, but maybe it's worth it …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 08:17 PM
1

Most men won't rape us and sometimes we're willing to take the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 04:51 PM
1

Optimal: 2-3x a week. Minimal: Once a week. I just got out of a relationship with a guy who wasn't making much time for me and after a week of not seeing him Id start to feel unsatisfied in general (once every two weeks was pretty much the breaking point).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 01:34 PM
1

I want children so I wouldn't be okay with that, but women who don't shouldn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 12:35 PM
4

If I say that I want an SO who is interesting, I just mean someone that I like to spend time with and talk to. Someone who isnt boring, is funny, has something in common with me, etc. It's vague but I dont think it's bogus.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 12:33 AM
1

Ive given men the wrong idea by accident before. Im fine with making out early on but I need time to be comfortable enough to have sex with a person. The one time I kissed a guy in a club, he got pushy for me to leave with him so I rejected him. But Id have given him my number and gone on a date with him if he hadnt acted the way he did. There'll always be women who think that there are a lot more steps between making out and going back to your place than you do, not sure what you can do about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 11:47 PM
1

Most men dont want a SAHM nowadays, at least in my experience. Why would we stop doing something that is generally encouraged and expected of us?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 03:57 PM
1

I thought they didnt start increasing until like age 27. There's no reason we need to have children at age 20
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 03:07 PM
3

The first guy. I can make my own money, I want to be with someone I'm actually attracted to. Im not all that social, my few friends dont care that much about who I date
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 02:13 PM
2

Sorry, I'm glad you're doing what's right for you and your baby right now. I saw in another comment that you were afraid of weighing more than 100 pounds (which is healthy and still thin) and that made me worry about you in general, not just during your pregnancy. I dont know what it's like to have an eating disorder and I dont know if people usually overcome them, but I hope you can because you shouldnt have to worry about your weight that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:50 PM
2

A BMI below 18.5 is not healthy. You're underweight. I understand wanting to keep your partner happy, it's a good attitude in general. But you shouldn't have to be an unhealthy weight in order to do that. It's not good for you or your baby
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 08:41 PM
1

Im not saying it isnt rare but I doubt that NO woman has ever done it. Part of the reason I would sacrifice myself for others is because I dont think very highly of myself, really. Many people deserve to live more than I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 06:34 PM
1

And you think you know what I want? I am a woman, we dont all want the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 06:29 PM
1

Dominance is attractive but not feeling cared for is not. Go on and assume we're all lying for not agreeing with you, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:41 PM
1

You can be attracted to multiple different things. And yeah some people tend to exclude some of the things that matter to them, but that doesnt mean that being smart, funny, sweet, etc arent important on top of the other qualities. Like, I wouldnt date my boyfriend if I didnt find him physically attractive but I wouldnt date him if I didnt like his personality either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:35 PM
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Since when do we not like receiving flowers or being told that we're loved? We aren't attracted to anyone solely for their personality, people do lie when they downplay other important factors like physical attraction, but a lot of things matter to us. I wouldnt be with my boyfriend if I hated his personality. Whatever though, guess I must be delusional, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:26 PM
2

I had sex with a guy too quickly once. I wasnt used, he wasnt even the one who broke things off and even if he had Id still only blame myself, but it didnt feel good. I attach a lot of significance to sex and it felt wrong to give it up to someone who barely knew anything about me. I want to be wanted for more than that, I care more about commitment and love than I do sex I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 01:14 PM
2

I dont care that much about arguing this. I know that I would protect my friends with my life if I had to, but you wont believe that and that's fine, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 07:43 AM
1

It's internal attraction. Older men typically aren't attractive to me, physically or otherwise. We're in different life stages and probably wouldn't have much in common. And yeah, I do like lower n-counts. I didnt mind staying single for a while til I found what I wanted. Wealth just isn't something I care much about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 07:22 AM
2

How do you know that we're incapable of feeling something similar? How do you know that we would never sacrifice ourselves for others that we love? You are not a woman and you do not know what every woman feels
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 03:10 AM
1

All of my friends and I are dating men around our own age. I went on a date with a guy(editted this because it wasnt really "dating" which is how I worded it before) who was 5 years older than me once and even that felt like too much of a gap to me, personally. I guess I'm not the most mature either but I do only date seriously. I'm shy, barely go out and do anything, and my relationship still pretty much fell into my lap. I was single for a long time, I wouldnt say it was easy, but I couldve pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 07:41 PM
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Yeah but a lot of younger guys aren't immature fuckboys. We do like to date men our own age (at least in my circles of early 20s women) and it doesnt seem that hard to find one worth settling down with someday
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 07:23 PM
1

In my culture, marrying at 26 would be normal. 30 is when it would begin to be considered late. You should talk to her about this and let her make her own decision about whether she's okay with waiting that long or not
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:58 PM
1

That isn't always true. You don't know what we would or wouldn't do for one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:46 PM
1

Yeah, nobody is entitled to anything from anyone else. Even now, in a relationship, I don't feel like my boyfriend owes me more than what he wants to give. And you especially arent owed anything from strangers (and yeah I spent a lot of my life single and not getting attention from guys often)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/19 05:47 PM
1

I have a low n-count and agree with OP. I do believe in love and finding one person to build a life with. I just don't believe that you'll ever find this perfect "dream" partner. You have to accept that you'll probably never find prince charming but you can find someone compatible with you and accept them as a flawed human being. I think you're reading way too much into this post, unless I'm interpretting it wrong it just seems like common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 05:11 AM
1

Your life's work can impact a lot of people, maybe even society as a whole. Healthcare workers, scientists, teachers, etc...they're all important.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 03:50 AM
1

Is it that uncommon for people to talk about? My boyfriend and I shared ours with one another and talked about how we felt about sex early on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 05:53 PM
8

You're going to wind up in jail someday with that kind of mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 03:25 PM
10

Your wife can still refuse sex. Having sex with someone who is unwilling is rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 02:41 PM
2

It's about not wanting to have to be reliant on someone else. Working may suck but having your own livelihood is worth it to a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 07:40 PM
1

Yes, I asked him and told him mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 06:39 AM
2

But Im not just talking about interest, Im talking about men actually making a move, flirting with you, etc. Some girls get that a lot, some dont.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 03:04 AM
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The difference isnt the amount of guys who would hypothetically be interested. Im sure most single guys wouldnt have said no if I had walked up offering sex back when I was single. I think the difference is the amount of guys that actually go out of their way to show interest. I feel like, in my experience, the Stacy's get a lot more than 20% more attention and guys actually pursuing them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 02:08 AM
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I dont know the real definition so that's what I thought it was. All women can attract attention but some attract more than others. Enough men are thirsty but surely there are still women who are 10s and 6s? But yeah, some of us who arent hot could get more attention if we wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 01:39 AM
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When an old group of friends and I used to go out to bars or clubs, there was one girl in our group that always had tons of guys hitting on her. She'd get most of the attention anywhere we went. Ive always imagined that she's probably what a "Stacy" is. And that us "Becky's" are just the girls who aren't gorgeous, don't get tons of attention - even though almost all girls still get some.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 01:28 AM
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I've known other girls/women who appreciated their fathers but you are right that it is rare. And it is depressing. Even I wasn't a great daughter during my teen years, I had a few years where I didnt act like I appreciated him much. But luckily we've always remained close. And my mom wasnt really around much so maybe my upbringing was just weird and that affected things
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 09:07 PM
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I love my dad, he's done everything he could to give my sister and I the best life possible and I wouldn't be where I am today without him always pushing and encouraging me. He's intelligent and I appreciate his advice on things. There, you've seen it once.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 12:58 AM
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2, including current guy. I just assumed that he must be good if I'm always enjoying it and wanting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 04:50 AM
1

I would understand if a man was afraid to approach nowadays but I dont think that it's made many men stop. I'm in a relationship now and my boyfriend was the one who approached me. I never felt a need to approach men myself when I was single.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 09:37 PM
2

Aw that's how my boyfriend approached our relationship and I really appreciated it, I wish you luck if you're still trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 08:30 PM
2

He doesnt need to sleep with a ton of women to get good at it. 2 plus me worked for my boyfriend 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 08:16 PM
2

I'm a short woman, have a short father and it's been the opposite in my experience. I dont care much about height and honestly prefer average height to anything else. It might just be me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 07:59 PM
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Anyone who can "choose" their sexuality must be bi. If sexuality was just a lifestyle than gay people wouldnt exist in countries where they can actually be punished with death, because who wouldnt choose to be straight in that situation? But gay people exist all over the world despite the struggles and dangers they may face for it. How do you explain that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 11:28 PM
2

I prefer going dutch. It's what my boyfriend and I typically do and I couldnt care less what he did with the bill in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 03:29 AM
2

I've tried casual sex. I just didn't like it. Sex with my boyfriend, though? Very interested in that. Even if we did wait a bit. I am religious but I'm not the waiting til marriage type, I have different reasons for wanting to wait. There is a LOT to consider when it comes to sex, especially for a woman. Pregnancy is always a risk with sex (and children need a good father), so do you trust him to raise that child with you? I just think that it takes a lot of trust to have sex with a man and be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 11:05 PM
3

Some people wait all the way until marriage. You don't think that those people are ever sexually attracted to one another? It's possible to take sex seriously and decide to hold off on it for a certain amount of time, even if you both want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 08:15 PM
1

I'm not arguing that it's okay for women to reward this behavior, but what can we do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 08:23 PM
12

It's possible to want to wait to have sex but still be interested sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 07:31 PM
1

You should still do the right thing even if you are being encouraged not to. Your actions are still your responsibility no matter what. This applies to both men and women. It's like how you said that women should own up to how much sex they've had and not try to blame men for it. People who sexually harass (not always men) are the ones in control of their behavior and the ones who need to take the blame for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 07:22 PM
4

Sending dick pics to random women or groping random women does make you a bad person. It's sexual harassment. Doesn't matter if some women want it. Some don't. So you shouldn't do that kind of stuff if she hasn't expressed interest. I do think that it's crazy to actually want to be treated like a sexual object.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 05:25 PM
0

Im aware that some women would like it, I just think that those women are crazy. If you want to believe that I'm lying than whatever, I cant change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 03:32 PM
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Catcalling is disrespectful no matter who it comes from. It makes anyone unattractive in my book, even if it was some celebrity. And catcalling is just frustrating but unsolicited dick pics and groping? Even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 02:29 PM
2

Who cares if he wants to have sex? She can just say no again if he ends up wrongly assuming.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 09:35 PM
5

Why would I have not invited guys over just because a small minority of guys are bad people? If I think it's worth it than I'll risk it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 08:47 PM
4

I dont do that anymore, I have a boyfriend but I invited him over on our first date and all we did was make out. We waited a while to have sex so it's not like I was just never gonna have him over.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 08:28 PM
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I invited my boyfriend over after our first date. I just wanted to spend more time with him really. I was aware that maybe he'd take it the wrong way but he didnt. I would've just said no if he had, it's not a big deal. We ended up waiting a while and we had that talk on that first night
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 08:18 PM
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To hang out, talk, play video games, whatever you want to do. There's lots of reasons to have a guy over that dont involve having sex. She even informs them that they arent going to be having sex, the guy can just leave if that's all he wants from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 08:06 PM
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Abortion is disgusting and shouldnt be legal. Adoption isnt great either because you dont know how those people will treat your baby (but it's understandable if both parents really cant handle a child). I do agree that some women need to be more careful about who they give it up to. But a child doesnt deserve to be punished for the circumstances of their conception. Both parents should take responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 05:23 PM
1

Abortion should absolutely be banned, nobody should be able to opt out of anything. It's still your child that you helped create and they dont deserve to be punished just because of the messed up circumstances of their birth/the relationship between their parents/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 05:00 PM
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Not everyone likes casual sex and relationships are about a lot more than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 04:13 PM
4

Being cautious around someone that you dont know isnt comparable to pulling someone over. People should be treated equally legally but why should anyone be obligated to immediately trust you in a social situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 12:53 AM
1

I actually have pretty bad anxiety so I do fear a lot of irrational things. I dont know how valid my views on this are because Im not completely normal. But I think that worrying about natural distasters would probably be considered more irrational since there isnt really anything you can do about it. You can move, but if you move to an area with no earthquakes there'll probably be tornadoes or hurricanes or something else. I never thought a tornado would hit my area, yet one did. They're unavoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 12:44 AM
4

We dont think that you would rape us. Any guy could be a threat but we know that there's a low likelihood that you as an individual are (because the vast majority of guys arent). It's just the risk that's scary, if we dont know you than there's no way to know how upstanding you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 09:54 PM
4

Yeah Im a woman and Ive been more pressured to wear makeup by other women than by men honestly. Most guys Ive met are pretty indifferent about it.
/r/AntiFeminists16/08/19 03:27 PM
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They're technically right. I dont agree with PC culture but freedom of speech only protects you from the government punishing you for what you say. You cant go to jail for it. But you can still get fired or shamed publically or whatever.
/r/AntiFeminists16/08/19 03:09 PM
1

Yes, people (especially men) are judged if they live at home beyond college. I dont think there's anything wrong with living at home, personally. My parents have always encouraged me to
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 05:47 AM
1

I dont want to call you names and I dont think that being a SAHM is oppression. I might not want to be a SAHM but your points are fair. I'm aware that my boyfriend and I arent equal. He's still the more dominant one even if we both want to work. And I still want to take care of my family someday, I still want to make time with my children and teach them. What agenda are the Marxists trying to achieve, do you think? Why do they want to brainwash our children to be gender confused?
/r/AntiFeminists16/08/19 04:24 AM
1

Ive known gay men where I honestly couldnt tell. I had a crush on one of them back when I thought he liked girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 01:24 AM
2

Ive never done anything for a rando that I wouldnt for my bf and Ive never disagreed that women who enjoyed the position in the past should enjoy it with their boyfriends too. My boyfriend could have me almost any way he likes if itd make him happy honestly, but I prefer certain things and he tends to stick to what he knows I like 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 12:06 AM
1

That's fair but why? I respect your opinion but I dont feel like Im less capable of working than a man is and, because of that, I feel like I shouldnt expect him to bear the whole financial burden for our family. I know that men and women have differences but I dont think that theyre so wide that we need traditional roles. Thats just my opinion though, trad relationships are cool for those who want them and Im just curious about your view
/r/AntiFeminists15/08/19 11:52 PM
1

What kind of government would you support? Ive never met anyone who wasnt pro democracy or pro socialism/communism. I dont see how itd be fair for women to have no say in how society runs just because you dont agree with how women typically vote. Its not like plenty of women dont work and pay taxes too and I doubt that many are actually voting based on appearance.
/r/AntiFeminists15/08/19 10:38 PM
5

How can the average guy be a 3? I thought 5 literally meant average or am I wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 10:16 PM
1

But gay guys can still be masculine. Nobody's sexuality is blatantly obvious, really. Some gay guys are pretty obvious about it but honestly unless a guy is super feminine I dont think you can assume much about their sexuality one way or the other. Unless men can tell that kind of stuff better than I can as a woman, I dont really know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 08:28 PM
0

I agree that it was a bad comparison but why is it gross to be pursued by a gay man? How does it insult your masculinity? As long as they arent pushy about it when Im not interested in anything I dont mind anyone having the hots for me, whether its a man or another woman, personally... Ive still been flattered when other women have been into me, same with when guys that I wasnt interested in were, I just dont see why itd be different
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 07:11 PM
4

Oh yeah I dont disagree that there shouldnt be things that youd do while hooking up but not in a relationship. Im just talking about people who dont like certain positions if dont feel as connected/intimate (and never have), when I said "hookup sex" and "relationship sex" I was thinking more of the stereotypes of what each one might entail.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 06:39 PM
3

Is it bad for her to not like hookup sex if she never did that kind of stuff in her past? What if shed be fine with doing it but prefers the relationship sex? Im just curious about your opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 05:25 PM
2

I wouldnt do anything right now (and have no idea for sure of what Id do in the future) since my boyfriend and I are both young. If we were older and I had this ability Id want to see how he feels too in order to decide how/if to use it. I think Id probably want to go back to the age I am right now (early 20s).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 07:35 AM
1

My boyfriend is a lot like the first guy described (same height, not as skinny but not much heavier). Hes still strong, he still makes me feel small and protected. Small guys just need to find smaller girls
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 09:52 PM
1

I dont know about other women but I prefer the first guy. 5'7 isnt even short.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 09:49 PM
1

There's nothing that I want from a man who would sleep with another woman while in a relationship with me. I dont share.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 09:30 PM
1

Sluts are just as bad as players are and men are justified in avoiding them too if theyd like. Even if she can get financial help, it's still going to suck for her children if she has them with some player who wont be a good father to them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 09:25 PM
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Marrying a man who can be both is ideal but becoming a single mother is a terrible idea. We need to do what's best for our children and purposefully having children that wont have a good father figure is NOT it. I have sympathy for some single mothers and wouldnt shame them but it is not something that should be praised either. If you have to choose (and you want a family), the good relationship/family material attributes are the most important.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 09:06 PM
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Most people having herpes is just more of a reason not to have casual sex. It isnt less gross just because it's common. I had one of those STIs that went away easily and I still wouldnt ever want to deal with that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 08:41 PM
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Maybe it isnt about destroying his relationship or his life, but about trying to protect the woman that he's with now. Ever think of that? You cant run from your past, any woman that he's with has a right to know what he's capable of.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 08:07 PM
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Slapping a woman isnt insignificant. Id want to know if my boyfriend had been violent in a relationship in the past. Unless she was violent first, there is no excuse for that. Most men dont slap women, but of the men who DO there are plenty who were in the wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 08:01 PM
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Lol whatever. Why wouldnt she want to please you if you're pleasing her? Dont MAKE her do anything but find a way that you can both enjoy things. I do like to return the favor since Im treated well (both inside and outside the bedroom) in my relationship (which, by the way, does not require all that stuff you listed). It isnt bad advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 05:49 PM
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Id had sex one time (casual, kind of a hook-up type situation that I regretted afterwards).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 04:11 PM
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My mans sexual history would bother me if he had been with a lot women before me. I like that he's experienced but his count is low.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 10:54 PM
1

We have different views of both subservience and what the word unquestioning means in this context. The way that I perceive it, a man who is obeying his wife unquestioningly would always do what she wants. What you are describing is a man who typically does what she wants but wont always do so, correct? When I refer to "questioning" it isnt just about whether he is questioning her about what she wants or not, it's about whether he stops to question what he wants and prioritize himself and his ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 09:47 PM
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Mind and body are supposed to be in alignment when we have sex and they usually are closely tied. They can become detached during a situation like rape but that's why these women often have trauma afterwards, because their minds were not in alignment with what was happening physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 07:56 PM
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Fair. I was just going by the dictionary definition of subservience (willing to obey unquestioningly) which person B isnt doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 06:35 PM
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Do women actually want subservience? I feel like thatd just make me lose respect
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 04:25 PM
1

I used to like a guy who didnt like me back and we're still good friends, I dont know why so many think it's impossible. I just got over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 03:29 PM
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Why cant you be friends with someone you have feelings for? Ive done it, I got over it and stopped wanting them a long time ago but I did at one point and Im glad we didnt stop being friends over it personally
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 03:19 PM
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Being aroused or having an orgasm doesnt mean that they enjoyed it. That's just a physical reaction, your genitals can respond to things without you actually liking it. If they really liked it than they wouldnt need a therapist afterwards. Wanting it has to be psychological as well as physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 11:04 PM
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It's no different no matter what word I use. I do know that. They are zygotes, embryos, fetuses...and those are ALL still lives. I just say baby because so many tend to dehumanize the lives of zygotes, embryos, fetuses, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 02:14 PM
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You can still get a woman pregnant even if you got snipped, it's just rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 06:04 AM
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Its the babys body too. Nobody should have a right to an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 01:00 AM
1

People say that? I grew up around a lot of the 'being gay is wrong' mentality but Ive never seen anyone who felt that homosexuality wasn't real. They dont believe the romantic part, they simply see it as lust, and they believe that this lust is something that a person can get past. But they dont deny that some level of attraction exists, even if it's just sexual and temporary in their minds. I did just remember some of the dumb things Ive heard people say about lesbians and I have seen people cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 10:49 AM
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Interesting assumption. I dont use my phone while Im driving either because it could be unsafe
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 08:19 PM
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For me personally, I believe that the vast majority of men arent a threat. But the possibility is still there, is still scary, and I understand why many women dont want to take chances. It doesnt really have to do with it being likely to happen or anything, I dont think that it is likely to happen at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 08:01 PM
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It doesnt matter that it's rare. We dont know which men are threats and which arent, so many women arent going to risk it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 07:44 PM
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I dont think that men are actually attracted to women because they are professionals per se but I do think that most men expect us to pull our weight financially nowadays and Ive felt encouraged by pretty much every man Ive ever met to pursue my career goals. Not liberal and not surrounded by many by the way. I dont know if you were trying to say that men dont want professionals at all or just that they dont care much if you are one or not, Id agree with the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 02:24 AM
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You arent wrong but Ive known girls who wouldnt see anything wrong with that story and would think that any guy who was bothered by it was some awful misogynist. Super feminist types.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 04:13 AM
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But the person you're replying to never said that. Does anyone who isnt just sleeping around actually choose a partner solely for sex? Id say that a man who makes a decent wage and is satisfying in the bedroom is better than a wealthy man who doesnt, and that's all that she was saying either I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 04:09 AM
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Why cant we make decisions based on multiple things? Being responsible, being a man who will be there for his family, and being good at sex arent mutually exclusive qualities. Not wanting to deal with terrible sex for the rest of your life doesnt mean that you make bad decisions, we can look for multiple things in a man. Id even agree with you that casual sex and abortions are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 11:49 PM
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So start drafting us. Id rather get drafted and have the right to vote than not have it. Men can be SAHDs too, Ive known of a few.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 05:54 AM
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People dont usually cry because they want to cry, it just happens. Wanting to work doesnt mean that we want to be men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 05:44 AM
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I think that you should be serious about someone and see them as someone who would make a good parent (because every time you have sex that risk is there). Love and sex are still connected for me, but I havent waited for marriage. I used to feel like something was wrong with me and I should be having my "hoe phase" or whatever, so I guess that says something about our culture surrounding sex. But I realized that there's actually more people like me than I had thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 03:12 AM
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I agree that children need to be social but I dont think that it makes introversion completely avoidable. I wish it did. I had friends growing up, played a sport and did extracurriculars, Ive even done the bars and the parties on occasion. Yet Im still introverted and not always great at talking to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 02:04 AM
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How is treating the person you're dating like they're replaceable not an asshole move? For women or men? I could never imagine treating my boyfriend like that or him treating me like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 09:18 PM
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Nobody likes being treated like shit, some people will tolerate it for various reasons. Sometimes they dont think that they deserve (or could get) better. Maybe they grew up in a broken home and dont know what a healthy relationship looks like. Sometimes they're just attached to the person who may not have always treated them like shit. Sometimes they think that staying with the person is worth it for some other reason (they have other attractive qualities that take more of a priority). It's sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 09:07 PM
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Some of us do want men with low n-counts, though. Not wanting a guy who has gone through a bunch of sluts doesnt mean wanting a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 02:17 AM
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Either a 0 or a 1
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 06:00 AM
2

Oh yeah, it used to bother me because I figured something was wrong with me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 12:17 AM
1

Assuming that I wasnt in a relationship (I am), I still dont find either of them that attractive. First of all, they're both old enough to have fathered me, and I've never understood how girls are into men THAT old 😂 but even if you had chosen younger examples, Ive honestly never been turned on by anyone outside of my relationship. It's just not enough for a guy to just be attractive if there's no real feelings there. So I have to say I wouldnt unless I change as a person for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 11:44 PM
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Im just basing things off of myself, I dont speak for every woman. I dont like meaningless sex, dont care who the guy is. If wanting to find the guy you're actually gonna spend your whole life with and be able to raise a family with is looking for a provider than sure, but I plan on pulling my own weight too so I dont really see it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 11:12 PM
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Id say that most women dont actually want to watch gay sex but its not that uncommon for young ones to read/write about it in fanfiction. I'm not gonna go watch gay porn but Ive read a fair share of it. Im a bit older than your daughter. Maybe my friends and I were just odd though but there's a good amount out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 06:18 AM
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Depends on the girl. Not all of us even like casual sex. And it isnt like the guy will necessarily date her just because the girl got emotionally attached after casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 05:33 AM
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I hope you're alright too, I'm sorry that you were treated like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 08:49 PM
1

Murdering a child in the womb is never the responsible thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 07:19 PM
1

Yeah I barely use either of them anyways. The FB chat feature is nice for talking to friends who it's hard to talk to otherwise (cant text) but Im sure we could figure something out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 05:36 PM
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Yeah, I'm from the midwest. I am shy and kind of clueless socially at times, but Ive figured some things out. I'm definitely more for taking things slow, my boyfriend and I did discuss sex before we did it but not that awkwardly haha. More like discussing waiting in advance and then affirming that we were ready when it did happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 02:48 AM
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A rapist is different than a normal guy who wants to have sex. I just thought normal guys would be more upfront. I really thought that a guy who said he just wanted to talk a bit more probably did want to do that. I guess I was aware that anything could be a possibility but I wasnt expecting it. We had been on a sort-of date but I figured that people talk about sex first, even if you were on a date. But sometimes they just start going for it and I was just surprised is all
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 10:55 PM
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I mean, I was pretty caught off guard the first time I let a guy come back to my room and he wanted to have sex instead of just hang out like he'd said. Not every woman is aware of stuff like that being a possibility
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 09:57 PM
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You dont think that a woman could actually be unaware? Not everyone is good at picking up on things like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 09:51 PM
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It takes more than just thinking a guy is good looking for some of us to be attracted to a guy. Physical attraction and sexual attraction are not the exact same thing, some people do need an emotional connection in order to feel sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 09:13 PM
1

Yeah I was feet first and was a C. Coming out feet first can be dangerous
/r/AntiFeminists22/07/19 02:53 AM
1

I honestly forget what I've said over there, I thought I got banned after saying that it's misogynistic to assume that almost all women are bad people/golddiggers/want to screw you over/whatever mgtows think of us. Which isnt name-calling, it's just a fact. What else did I say that was so awful?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 12:45 AM
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On r/MGTOW you arent allowed to disagree with their views on women at all and I felt like I got banned pretty unnecessarily. I feel like some of the manosphere is fine and some of it is...eh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 12:22 AM
1

As if all anti-feminists are male
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 12:13 AM
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I editted my post a little because I always second guess the way I word things. I think that what's important is the last part. Guys can try it all they want, they can hope to get a relationship with a girl that they're friends with, but they shouldnt expect that it will necessarily work out. I feel like itd be better if the guys could just be up front about it? Like I wasnt bothered by the fact that my ex liked me, I was still cool being friends until I decided I wanted more. So maybe being upf…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 10:54 PM
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I did basically say that to a guy once, that wed only ever be friends. We'd recently become friends, I could tell he liked me and I didnt want to lead him on. And funnily enough I took it back a few weeks later and we dated for a while. Learned that you can never really say never on those types of things, but guys still shouldnt assume that friendship will lead to something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 10:38 PM
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Yeah friends first can work but shouldnt be an expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 10:30 PM
1

I disagree because I cant be turned on by a guy who doesnt make me feel secure but maybe it's just me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 10:08 PM
1

Ah okay. Doesnt the female orgasm help the sperm be more likely to get where it needs to go, though? I feel like ive heard that somewhere but I dont know for sure.
/r/MensRights21/07/19 01:26 AM
1

Seemed like you were suggesting it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 12:03 AM
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I typically don't. Women who do wear that kind of clothing regularly would just prefer to carry a purse than use bigger pockets. I used to be really anti purses but someone gifted me one the other day and it's actually kind of nice.
/r/MensRights20/07/19 11:00 PM
1

Yes. That still doesnt make me like slutty men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 09:02 PM
1

I would feel the same about a guy who had slept around. Good luck, you shouldnt lower your standards, but I dont understand how guys can sleep around when they know how disgusted theyd be with a woman who did the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:45 PM
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They are. Anyone can have whatever standards they want, but many of them are hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:36 PM
1

Life isnt just about sex. A man who has a family doesnt have less than a man who has lots of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:16 PM
1

An insistence on paying doesnt mean that she isnt interested in you. If anything it means that she likes you more, does it not? Ive never paid the entire bill, but I like going dutch with my boyfriend because I like spending time with him and dont need him to spend money on me. Id get the whole bill if needed/it was a special occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 07:56 PM
1

Most people aren't having sex with the intention of breeding all the time. Both partners should try to make the sex mutually beneficial for one another if they're having sex for fun.
/r/MensRights20/07/19 05:43 PM
1

Why shouldn't both partners want to please one another?
/r/MensRights20/07/19 05:37 PM
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Yeah I didnt have any sexual interests while I was single, not just the act of sex. For me emotional attachment is a big part of sexual attraction and dirty videos from a rando just werent going to do much.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 04:56 PM
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Our pockets can hardly even hold our phones and wallets sometimes. Some of our clothing doesnt even have pockets. So some women carry purses. And then they can carry other things that they might not need all the time, but are nice to have just in case.
/r/MensRights20/07/19 04:40 PM
1

This is old but this my perspective if you still want it. I love sex, but only with the right guy. I didnt care about sex for the longest time but I love having it with my boyfriend. So yeah I think we're just more selective?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 12:39 PM
1

Women are more aesthetically pleasing to look at than men typically are, but most of us are still attracted to dick and not pussy. It isn't that hard to understand. And most women do still find at least some men physically attractive even if we are varying amounts of picky about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 05:51 AM
1

Nah. I wish I was confident in social situations without booze 😂 probably means you're less boring than the rest of us, so good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 02:20 AM
1

I dont care what my boyfriend drinks. He does tend to go for the manlier drinks but it doesnt matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:56 AM
1

It's rape if the person is incapable of saying no or resisting, is it not? It's still a crime if someone steals your wallet while you're unconscious too. Should you have protected yourself more? Yes. Did the person who did it to you still commit a crime? Still yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:32 AM
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Idk, Im low count and I like that my boyfriend is too. Just means he took sex seriously and it was nice. I think that everyone should have whatever preferences they want because someone will probably fit it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:12 AM
1

In 4th grade they taught us about puberty (seperated genders) and in health class in 9th grade they taught us about STDs and showed us some pictures of male and female anatomy. I missed whatever sex ed got taught in 7th grade because I forgot to get the form signed. I dont even remember touching on reproduction but that was probably 7th grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 12:34 AM
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Yeah. If I cant see marrying/having children with a guy, than what's the point? Thats how I think about it, anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:38 AM
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(Female) If I was married than I'd endure it for as long as it went on for. There isnt much I could do other than hope we could work through it, divorce goes against my beliefs and I would never cheat or anything like that. But Id feel both sexually frustrated and insecure about my attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:29 AM
1

Not sure when it started but I'm a woman born in the late 90's and my parents were both a bit protective and scared of anything happening to me. I didn't actually have Internet access until I was 10 though and still spent time outside and with others, I just usually had to be supervised. My parents had had very unsupervised childhoods themselves. The furthest I could walk alone was on my street. As I got older most of my socialization outside of school was through extracurriculars and Ive defini…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 10:36 PM
1

I enjoy sex. But I also never have complaints about my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:58 PM
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Id hate to only be wanted for sex. Why would anyone want that to be their only option?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:28 PM
1

I doubt most adults disagree with that. It just sounded like you were shaming that guy for the way that he used to feel, when it's pretty normal for 12 year old boys to be like that (in my experience). It's normal for children that age to want to pursue one another, so their parents have to give them boundaries. But parents dont always know what their children are doing. So that can be difficult. All I'm saying is that this guy wasn't really in the wrong for trying to pursue girls his age, thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 01:03 PM
1

I never said that children should be having sex. Its up to their parents to prevent them from having that opportunity. Im just saying that its ridiculous to expect them not to have those urges and not to act on them if given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 12:55 PM
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The baby isnt her body. Women shouldnt be given the "option" to have their child or not (other than adoption I guess, but I wouldnt trust anyone else to raise a child of mine) and two wrongs dont make a right. Both partners should take responsibility after conceiving a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 06:07 AM
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Except the child isnt her body. If you have sex and make a baby, than its your responsibility. Both the woman and the man. I know that this isnt how it always works but it's how it should work, two wrongs dont make a right
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 06:04 AM
1

I mean, when you say something that ridiculous I can't help but comment on it. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 05:57 AM
2

How are we supposed to control whether a LTR fails or not? Nobody can control that, upper hand or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 05:37 AM
1

What? Im a girl and I was into boys when I was 12. Theres nothing wrong with pursuing people your own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 04:21 AM
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I dont care about equality. I mean, I think that equal rights are good but other than that I dont care. We dont have to do anything that we dont want to do, and neither do men. If you dont like to do the pursuing than dont, but women dont have to want you if you wont pursue them. I was single for a long time because I just didnt care that much honestly. Eventually my boyfriend approached me and Im lucky that he did because I (obviously) ended up really liking him, but I didnt mind being single (…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 01:19 AM
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Ive never had a job (outside of volunteer work) but I dont think that it would bother me. I met my boyfriend at school and Im incredibly lucky to have met him. If Id have been working and met him there than I wouldnt have wanted that opportunity to have been passed up just because of the circumstances, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 12:59 AM
1

Why is it weird to define your interactions early on? My boyfriend and I made it clear early on that we were both looking for something serious. We were official/exclusive after like a week of dating. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want and not liking casual dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 12:09 AM
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It really doesn't. I'm glad my boyfriend and I talked about it before we had sex for the first time and he made sure that I was ready. I thought that it was sweet. He doesnt have to ask now but I dont mind it if he checks in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 11:14 PM
1

Plenty of us do crave sex itself, though. Id rather have sex with my boyfriend than masturbate. Both are nice, but using a toy doesnt come close to the feeling of having the man that you love inside of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 10:34 PM
1

Not often. Ive only been catcalled a few times. Catcalls annoy me and I find the men to be disrespectful, but I dont care. Ive never experienced anything that bad really.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 07:53 PM
1

I dont know about the numbers but I believe that most men would help rather than harm. That has been my experience with life. There are also a lot of guys who will do neither. But I dont believe that most guys are threats (though the fact that every guy is a possible threat can be scary at times).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 07:37 PM
3

Attractiveness doesnt make a person more likely to be a bad person. Guys can be attractive and still treat you well; average and ugly guys can be jerks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 07:25 PM
1

It makes sense to me. A single dad is also going to put his kids first, especially at the beginning of a relationship. So that part seems fair enough
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/07/19 06:20 PM
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I wouldnt say that catcalling is harassment, its just annoying. I dont know what guys expect to get from it, its always just made guys seem disrespectful to me. Looks are fine though, and so are genuine compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 05:27 PM
1

Im 21 and dont do the dating around thing either. My boyfriend and I made things official and exclusive pretty fast because neither of us were interested in seeing anyone else once we went out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 04:21 PM
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I love PIV sex. Even if my boyfriend agreed to do other things to me without it, Id still hate it if I didnt get to have him inside of me. Your posts always crack me up, I dont know how you can actually believe that no women enjoy sex
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 04:00 PM
1

Some of the things that you listed are attractive to me on some level, some arent. Im in a relationship and feel like my boyfriend is a good example of being a good guy but also having a backbone and a sense of humor. He listens to everything that I say but can be honest with me and tell me no. We dont have any real turbulence/drama but he can understand sarcasm/teasing and dish it back. He has shown that he understands/cares when Im upset about things and he is happy to please me. And Im very h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 03:24 PM
1

Some women do. Ive never understood it, Im glad that my boyfriend wasnt with many girls before me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 03:58 AM
1

I'm a woman. I've never desired sex outside of a relationship. I have to feel comfortable with someone in order to want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:40 AM
1

My boyfriend and I have been dating for months and we always pay for our own food. All the dates we've had have been great. Its a dumb social norm for men to be expected to pay for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 01:52 AM
1

I mean, I waste enough of my time that I can't judge how my boyfriend wastes his. I enjoy some video games myself. I just don't see why hobbies need to be productive, if it's something you have fun doing than why not? As long as you keep up with responsibilities
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 10:21 AM
1

I'm not her but nope. My boyfriend's a good looking guy but he still had to wait awhile so that we knew we actually loved one another before we took the sex step. I wouldnt have stayed if he only wanted me for sex, and I know he wants me for more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:59 AM
2

We think that they're cute (non-serious answer) and that the idea of creating new life and then getting to help/watch them grow is fulfilling (serious answer). I dont care what it does to my body, itll be worth it. If you actually wanted an answer 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:25 AM
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Eh, I take sex pretty seriously but not seriously enough to wait for marriage. Id never want to stop being attractive for my boyfriend though. Assuming we make it all the way, Im still gonna love him and watch my figure for him and I dont feel like I have to be a virgin on our wedding night in order for me to do that. But I do think that sleeping around shouldnt be as encouraged as it is, just for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:05 AM
1

Not all women want your money. Another unfair assumption.
/r/MGTOW29/06/19 05:14 PM
0

See, you're comparing women to a disease. You're proving my point.
/r/MGTOW28/06/19 03:14 PM
1

A lot of you guys seem to. Theres nothing wrong with being single and wanting to live your own life. MGTOW is a good concept. But 90% of the time, all I see from MGTOW is whining about women. Its the same reason I dont like feminists.
/r/MGTOW28/06/19 02:35 AM
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Who wont admit it? Crazy feminists? I wouldnt want a man with no backbone. My boyfriend can say no to me. He has a life outside of me. Its a good thing.
/r/MGTOW28/06/19 01:39 AM
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What? You're only a misogynist if you actually mistreat women or feel that we are inferior. Most women dont think this way. Its good for men to have a backbone and boundaries.
/r/MGTOW28/06/19 01:34 AM
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Im not talking about just me either, just using my self as an example. Theres more women who would agree with me than you think. You were acting like no straight women would oppose a hot creep, which is untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 03:38 PM
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Yeah because no woman could possibly have an opinion that deviates from the norm or care about the man shes with (and want him to save his money for himself), right? 🙄 Believe whatever you want to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 03:36 PM
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Not all straight women will excuse bad behavior, even from an attractive man. I dont care how attractive a man is; stalking, abuse etc is something I would never tolerate. It shouldnt be tolerated by anyone and anyone with standards is gonna think that way. I wouldnt love my boyfriend if he didnt care about me and make me feel safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 10:53 AM
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He can get away with anything with some women, maybe. He'll get called out for being a creep when he acts like a creep towards the wrong woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 10:44 AM
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Im just saying that we arent all that stupid, even if many are. Some of us do have standards about how we want to be treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 10:20 AM
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I was just saying it in general. I dont know why guys always bring up those girls when we say that no means no. Just because some girls are idiots doesnt mean that some of us dont want to be taken seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 10:18 AM
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Foreplay is still part of the act of sex. Nobody ever specified PIV sex, that isnt the only thing that counts as sex. Cunnilingus is literally called "oral sex". I do like PIV sex with my boyfriend as well, for the record, Id still have sex even if we didnt do anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 09:28 AM
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Trust me, we do enjoy sex. Youve never been with a woman who actually enjoyed it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 08:52 AM
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As a woman, I dont know how attractive Im considered but I dont think its fair for a man to be expected to pay. It would make me feel bad. I like paying for myself and being able to order whatever I want without guilt
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 08:41 AM
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How are you supposed to be in a relationship with someone you consider to be ugly? Relationships have a sexual and a romantic side to them, looks do matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 08:37 AM
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Its true for some women but you can find women who arent into casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 08:07 AM
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I didnt do it on purpose but Ive seen my boyfriend cry. It didnt make me lose respect, I dont think theres anything wrong with men crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:40 AM
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Why would you want a girl like that? Girls who arent idiots dont play hard to get
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:23 AM
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I hate Fifty Shades. Stalking and abuse are still wrong even if you are good looking or rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:19 AM
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Id be less satisfied. My boyfriend asked me out and Im so glad he worked up that courage. I could never do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:12 AM
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My boyfriend and I waited a while to have sex. We talked about it beforehand and he made sure that I was ready when we did do it. I liked that, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:09 AM
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Not everything that you do needs to have a purpose. It feels better to cry than to hold the emotions in, so why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 06:27 AM
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Never said it could. But I cant be sexually attracted to a man who I dont have an emotional connection to. It factors in, for some girls more than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 06:22 AM
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Individual attraction is subjective. Just because you're less attractive from an objective standpoint doesnt mean that your wife sees it that way. The emotional connection factors into sexual attraction pretty heavily for some of us (not saying that physical attraction isnt part of it too but again, its all subjective)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 06:02 AM
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And any honest woman will tell you the same thing. You have to be physically attracted to someone to give them a chance, all the other stuff starts to factor in later. The OP is comparing what the majority of men say to what the majority of women say.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 05:47 AM
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I know Im probably gonna get downvoted to hell for being on here but I honestly prefer just paying for my own food. Its a dumb as hell concept that men have to pay when we have equal rights now. I cant be the only woman that feels that way.
/r/MGTOW21/06/19 01:52 AM
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This is even funnier as someone who knows about the medical school application process because its actually way harder to get in as a white applicant than any other race other than asian. The gap between the average accepted stats (MCAT, GPA) for different races due to affirmative action is huge. The majority of black applicants will make it into medical school and the majority of white and asian applicants wont. Props to this person for staying strong despite awful circumstances and achieving t…
/r/AntiFeminists13/06/19 02:19 PM
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You can be anti feminist without rejecting every wave of it. Modern feminism is trash, so Im against the movement now. Hence anti feminist. But earning the right to vote and work were good, we just should have stopped after that.
/r/AntiFeminists13/06/19 05:37 AM
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