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| 63 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.Good for you on setting boundaries. Your forum, your rules. It's quite simple. Feminism is a leftist philosophy, and the main issue I've had with the left in my decade long activism is that the left constantly wants to vilify other left subgroups. No wonder why people become jaded and leave. Any place that can help women as a class should be protected. I disagree immensely with some of the stuff I see on this forum, but I just...don't engage. Or if I really wanted to, I would make my own forum. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 08:31 PM |
| 19 | I'm Dating a (so far) HVMAw this is lovely, thanks for sharing esp all the details around green flags. It's helpful to read and internalize what good treatment looks like. I hope he continues to treat you well and I hope you continue to level up queen!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 06:04 PM |
| 11 | This is Lilith from the FDS Podcast. I'm deleting my Reddit account because I'm tired of misogyny and harassment on Reddit.Girl I will miss you so much. Your posts and comments were always the best, I named myself in part after you. I'll carry your torch as long as I can 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:52 PM |
| 33 | 🚩 RED FLAGS 🚩 Career edition 🤭😳 (psychopath edition 🥲🧛♂️)Can confirm the neuro part. I dated a neurosurgeon specializing in brain tumors for a bit and he confirmed that the spine guys were the worst of the lot because it's very lucrative for not that much effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 02:23 AM |
| 22 | Nah you can be mean to men and still find a HVM who gets why you're mean lolI love this story! Thanks for sharing. I too can confirm that if you're a little mean to men, they tend to like you more, or at least they try harder to gain your approval. Win win in my book. I have no need for them in my life so even if my meanness turns them off, fucking GOOD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:06 AM |
| 30 | My rant about the "mental health awareness" crowd on social mediaEverything you write is on point Lilith. There's plenty of studies that correlate victim mentality to dark triad traits. These studies also distinguish between recovering from trauma from victim mentality. I routinely advise my friends to stop participating in these internet mental health groups. If you really want to recover, you take that journey on your own with professionals. Social media just enables identifying as your mental illness, which only worsens mental illness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 107 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.I would go even farther and just say don't compliment men unless they truly are doing something above and beyond. I've had instances where a "friend" was complaining how he wouldn't be able to climb the corporate ladder as fast as good looking people, and I told him to stop being ridiculous because by objective standards he is good looking, and he 100% took that as me saying I find him hot and wanted to fuck lol. Or "friends" who think that because I say they have potential and can do cool thing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 07:40 PM |
| 5 | Probably a repost but fuck that 'friendzone' bullshit. A good friend is worth more than a good SOOh wow. Schizophrenia does develop in men during their 20s so the timing is right. Yeah I was thinking he might have relapsed again or was otherwise messed up re: health. I don't spare him much thought anymore though, as it should be. All the women I know, and I include myself, are always working on ourselves. I've been in therapy for a decade, and getting better every year. We aren't out here bitterly projecting onto whichever poor man happens to be closest to us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 11:08 PM |
| 5 | Probably a repost but fuck that 'friendzone' bullshit. A good friend is worth more than a good SOSo this was way before FDS, so I did message him back telling him exactly why he sucked, but I did block him on everything so I actually don't know if he has tried to contact me since 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 10:29 PM |
| 33 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.I'm so with this message. Though at the same time, I would love to reclaim "being redpilled", since The Matrix was made by the Wachowski sisters who revolutionized the movie industry with an anti capitalist scifi film starring the HVM Keanu Reeves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 10:27 PM |
| 60 | Probably a repost but fuck that 'friendzone' bullshit. A good friend is worth more than a good SOThis is always the part that astounds me, the sheer projection of their feelings onto us. One guy literally wrote a whole essay to me about how I was subconsciously in love with him, that he was soooo generous and patient with me and my "problems",and that he didn't want to be lead on anymore. He cited all these things that I apparently did, it was amazing to see how he twisted every interaction we ever had into this delusional fantasy. Meanwhile our only interaction was a group lunch every now … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 10:13 PM |
| 8 | A primer of sorts on understanding and healing from sexual violenceWow, this is really good. I've read a lot of essays, books and literature about sexual violence and this is outstanding. Highly recommended resource. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:00 PM |
| 28 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outGotcha thanks for clarifying. It's often a WIP to get rid of any internalized misogyny so was curious if I said anything that was devaluing women. I agree with you, there's nothing that women do or not do to make men respect us. Fundamentally it's up to the man to see women as people first, people with dreams and ambitions and sadness just like them. To the vast majority of men, we're just an accessory to their more important male lives 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 10:00 PM |
| 15 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outSorry, I missed the part where I've internalized male opinions, or discussed our respectability in competing for their respect? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:49 PM |
| 57 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outYep, it's the last time I listen to what men say they want and instead look at only what they do. Men will also say they want a smart beautiful high earning woman, but it's a rare man who will genuinely care for that woman, especially if she is smarter, better looking, and earns more money than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:46 PM |
| 355 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outI had done a little experiment with OLD to test this out (prior to pandemic). Every time I either messaged a man first or asked him out, I struck out. I literally went 0 out of 10 or 15 over the course of two or so months. He would stop replying to me, agree to a date but then never confirm, or agree to a date and then less than 24 hrs in advance try to change it. They were dropped immediately. Meanwhile in the same time period, I went on 10 dates. 8 men and two women. The men all messaged me fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:45 PM |
| 41 | We need to draw a line between oppression that is based on the extraction of cheap labor vs. other types of "oppression"I read it here, which cites the same Post article https://news.yahoo.com/blm-official-calls-investigation-founder-114017918.html The Brown family is seeking payment from BLM, claiming their foundation saw no payment from them. In any case, to me it's irrelevant whether or not she bought the homes with funds literally appropriated from the BLM nonprofit. She, like other capitalists, saw an opportunity to personally profit from an opportune marketing moment, whether through speaker engagement fees… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:53 AM |
| 2 | We need to draw a line between oppression that is based on the extraction of cheap labor vs. other types of "oppression"Done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:30 AM |
| 110 | We need to draw a line between oppression that is based on the extraction of cheap labor vs. other types of "oppression"Lilith, I totally named myself in part after you. You nailed it again. I'm also an old school leftist (Marxist, anarchist, social libertarianism, what have you). I believe in universal programs and solidarity across the same class lines, alongside true class traitors, to disrupt and create change. The post modern left is a total disgrace, allowing idiotic identity politics and corporate astroturfing to proliferate. Black lives matter but the organization Black Lives Matter is just another market… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:08 AM |
| 115 | I'm sick of men always trying to shoot their shot with EVERY woman they interact withYeah, exactly. Men treat women at work as their own personal playground. I only needed to work a year in tech to understand fully why so many women leave tech in droves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:41 PM |
| 215 | I'm sick of men always trying to shoot their shot with EVERY woman they interact withLike many other women, I also experience this. I work at a tech company so the ratio of men to women is imbalanced to begin with. Can't tell you the number of times some man who also works at the company will come up to talk, and then invite me to lunch at the cafeteria, and then invariably asks to go out for happy hour or lunch outside work, add me on various social media, on and on and on...half of them are married/partnered to boot, yet they comment on how much they like my appearance, feel e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:21 PM |
| 106 | High Value Dates OnlyThis is such a great story and definitely a HV characteristic. It shows empathy and generosity, two very important traits in business and life. 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 03:21 AM |
| 142 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindAgreed. I mean, it might be real in the sense that men are so damn emotionally unintelligent that they depend on "post nut clarity" to get in tune with how they really feel...and how they feel is that they wanna play the field and conquer as many women as possible so of COURSE you're worthless to him after you "gave it up" already | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:52 AM |
| 511 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindLove these types of posts. I too can share/back some insights due to having a decent number of male acquaintances who we catch up as a group from time to time. My most recent example is an acquaintance who can easily masquerade as a HVM: he is fit, very intelligent, pulls in 3-400K per year, owns his own home. Liberal/cares about gender inequality. In the presence of his friends however, he drops how he really feels about his current girlfriend. When we asked him how she was, he didn't say anyth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 12:43 AM |
| 35 | 1985 Harvard Law Review Article Regarding PornMacKinnon is the OG for real. If I remember correctly, she's one of the women who made sure that mass r@pe perpetrated by conquering soldiers was classified as a war crime. True bamf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 10:26 AM |
| 43 | Rape is just entertainment for them 🙄All r*pe scenes from every movie ever made are cut and put onto porn sites. Enough said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 122 | Can we talk about entitlement in dating for a sec?I can confirm this as a bi woman too. When I dated women living in Silicon Valley, the women were top notch - extremely accomplished, well dressed, great personalities, good looking. I stopped dating them because I realized I had more baggage to work on and it wasn't fair to bring so much avoidant attachment issues and trauma into a relationship. I was their intellectual, financial, looks match but I knew I still wasn't fair to them. Pity that the vast majority of men don't do this. In fact the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:35 AM |
| 4 | Amazing that the men who love me tell me not to date and stay away from men.The three things that stood out to me were: Invisibility. This is what I described happening to my close friend. Fat people are often ignored. Some fat women even say that their weight is somewhat of a relief because they become more invisible in the eyes of men. Roxanne Gay wrote in her book Hunger that putting on a ton of weight was a protective shield after her deeply traumatic r*pe Assumption of bad character. People assume that if someone is fat, they must not take care of themselves and co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:38 PM |
| 31 | Amazing that the men who love me tell me not to date and stay away from men.Well that's the thing with statistics. They describe overall trends but the experience of the individual can vary considerably. Maybe you and I are both 7/8/9 out of 10s which is enough to get the bulk of vicious harassment. Maybe as the other women said, you fit a certain type (some porn fetish category no doubt...) that invites more harassment. Certain men go way harder for women with alt styles, tattoos etc bc in their scrote minds, those women also like alt cultures such as BDSM more. Anothe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:53 AM |
| 5 | "Negging" menThis is the way. Totally used to write out reasons for why I cannot date/be friends/fuck them. Now I just laugh to myself and block+delete. I quit OLD entirely now too but for awhile OLD was great practice for block+delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 11:30 PM |
| 57 | Amazing that the men who love me tell me not to date and stay away from men.Given the choice I'd obviously choose to be more beautiful of course. Beauty confers value, and if you realize you are very valuable the quicker you are to gaining confidence, self esteem etc. 100% there is a halo effect where if you're attractive, people assume your work is also better. The problem of course is that beauty is the only thing women are prized for, so they attract higher volumes of LVM/NVM. The 10/10 I know are strong women, but the amount of abuse and r*pe that they've told me ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 11:06 PM |
| 146 | Amazing that the men who love me tell me not to date and stay away from men.The context too was interesting. I was talking about my mixed feelings of awe/envy towards my knock out female friends. Like I'm pretty, but I have some 10/10 gorgeous (and very accomplished to boot) female friends who turn heads whenever they walk into a room. My bro jumps in and says there's basically nothing to be jealous of because the men who salivate over women publicly like that are scum, and that these women deal with far more shitty men trying to conquer them as prizes. Pretty proud of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:51 PM |
| 239 | Amazing that the men who love me tell me not to date and stay away from men.Yep, my brother has always been a naturally empathetic person and came to feminist conclusions without having read feminist literature on his own. Whenever the subject of female oppression comes up, he emphatically agrees with me. The other day he said that beauty privilege really only applies to men since beautiful women end up getting more harassment and hostility. He's always telling me that what men say and think about women in male spaces is fucking awful, and advises me to stay away from m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:03 PM |
| 5 | BEAUTY - Do you think it is worth it for women to pursue it?Completely valid concern. I guess where I stand now is that I don't shape my behavior around men anymore. LVM gonna LVM no matter what you look like, so might as well be the version of yourself that *you * like best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 11:55 PM |
| 20 | BEAUTY - Do you think it is worth it for women to pursue it?Girl, this is what I've been stewing on too for the past year or so. I'm the same as you - pretty (I used to model in high school), smart (I've worked a six fig tech job since I graduated college with a full ride scholarship), and also bisexual. I've enjoyed dating women a lot so don't feel any need for a man. I used to hate all kinds of beauty routines and was very much a tomboy with short hair up until high school. Didn't learn makeup until college and I'm only just starting to learn how to dr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:08 PM |
| 3 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastThis is both heartwarming and hilarious! You go magpies, all you HVMs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:15 PM |
| 9 | The podcast has only 1 episode so far and we're already in the top 5% of podcasts. Let's see if we can get into the top 1% 🙌 New episode dropping tomorrow!I listened to it, great first episode. Each of the speakers were so well spoken too! One takeaway I had: having children with L/NVM allows the scrote to not only provide nothing, but to steal resources away from his own children. Quite an eye opening way of looking at the issue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 11:18 PM |
| 10 | I am dating again and I want to share my feelings with you allBi woman, here for all of this lovely energy! I also relate deeply to your post. Dating women is way better than dating men on average. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 10:59 PM |
| 5 | Why you should look out for red flags.Queen of block and delete 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 6 | Why you should look out for red flags."You seem innocent sexually." That's a favorite of scrotes. They say that so you feel like rising up to the challenge of proving yourself S3x P0siTive and FUN to him. Even without other red flags (married, racial fetishes, and what the hell is a wickr?), throw the whole man away when he so much as tries to neg you sexually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 05:30 PM |
| 39 | Reminder: FDS is about a specific way to date. It's not for everybody. Totally cool if this is not your cup of tea, just move on. We are not going to change our beliefs to accommodate misogyny.Right on. I've been lurking for awhile on FDS (found it because some other sub was bashing FDS lmao), and initially I was put off by some of the rules i.e. men should pay for the date because I'm a FeMiNist But then I reflected on my own dating experiences and found that anytime I tried to ask the man out or offer 50/50, the relationship would sour. And I was leaving out such an easy test for a personality trait that I desire, which is generosity. It struck me that a man who won't even pay for a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 08:35 PM |
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