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4

This is textbook porn. How can people still defend porn when it creates scripts for rape like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:59 AM
4

So he’s asking you to change how you look, in order to please him? Please remind him that if he wanted a woman with body hair who doesn’t wear makeup or flats, that he should have dated a woman like that in the first place. You’re not Mrs potato head. He doesn’t just get to change everything about your appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:32 PM
7

They always bleat about “what about men who get raped???” Like it’s not men doing the majority of that raping too. Men get murdered more, BY OTHER MEN. Male victims are victims of other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:19 PM
4

The fact that he’s brought anal up more than once tells you a lot. This is why I don’t think I could be with a guy who even asks once. Too risky that he’ll badger you or “slip it in” and the fact that he finds it hot at all is a turn-off. Thinking anal is a “little thing” and “for him” shows some real selfish porn addict mindsets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:12 PM
7

Guessing it’s a fetish he wants you to play out for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:03 PM
106

They legit forget we are human and when they get a reminder that we are, it grosses them out lmao. I don’t like seeing shit on or near me, which is one of the many reasons I don’t stick my fingers up any asses or let anyone do it to me. Radical, apparently. Hope men try this new extreme kink of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:05 AM
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The amount of times I’ve read sex workers on reddit trying to fool themselves is insane. Insisting their clients are all normal, good people. “My first client was cheating on his wife with prostitutes and he was so sweet, loved to talk and cuddle :)” ok sis so he’s a cheater at best. Sex work is dangerous. The ones who enjoy it are fooling themselves or they aren’t deep enough in it yet. A “job” where men dehumanise and objectify you is never going to be safe or empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:33 AM
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Literally my first boyfriend at 16. He moved away and we tried long distance. My dad would drive me 75 miles to see this little goblin who would play COD at full volume while I tried to do schoolwork. When I asked if he could turn it down or if we could do something else he’d shrug and say “just watch me play and do your homework Sunday night when you get home”. When I said I couldn’t keep visiting him cos I needed to focus on school he threw a tantrum and ghosted me 😂 baby couldn’t have his awk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:28 AM
22

Girl why are you with this LVM? Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 11:32 PM
11

He didn’t slam into her. It’s clear from her symptoms he actually penetrated her. That takes pre-meditation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:20 PM
59

Honestly at this point I’m thinking of running the first time a guy requests anal. Yeah, he might respect my “no” and never ask again but look how often they pressure and rape (aka accidentally slip it in) women. Is it worth the risk? Knowing you don’t want it seems half the fun to them. And if I think anal is gross and humiliating why would I want to be with a guy who thinks it’s hot and is just suppressing the urge now? No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:18 PM
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It’s a pornsick habit for sure and they rarely care that it’s actually uncomfortable for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:16 PM
4

Can you imagineeeee a woman making this post with a list of the actual things women go through? Or trying to excuse shitty behaviour like this? Men like this refuse to be loved. They’re victims. Loving these men means sacrificing and draining yourself to hold them up because they never want to work on their low self esteem; just have a sexy mommy figure who will hold them up until her back breaks. Then he cries to the next one about how betrayed he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:19 AM
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I’m worried this lawyer will help him trick her into putting the money into a joint account so he can steal the half he thinks he’s entitled to. In fact from the “not joining accounts any more” comment I’m worried she already has...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:04 AM
14

Is it any wonder she “screams” at him to look after his own kids? I doubt she’s really screaming but she must be exasperated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:50 AM
37

He whined in an edit that she totally gets a break - by soaking her swollen feet in her “stupid foot bath”. He thinks basic self care and pain relief is the same as vegetating in front of a video game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:13 AM
5

Didn’t even need to, he spills it all in his insane replies on the thread 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:01 PM
8

Of course he has ADHD that he’s treating poorly along with (likely also poorly treated) mommy issues. Dudes a mess and he won’t do anything about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:46 PM
11

The lightheaded way they suggest that it’s ok and “just part of the fun!” to literally stretch yourself out and permanently harm yourself is just....🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:01 PM
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They all have this fantasy where they’re sooooo charming and hot and attractive that the prostitute they contact falls in love/lust and fucks him daily for feee. And he’ll think in this dream scenario that he’s doing her a favour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:56 PM
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Men on Reddit love to cry about not getting compliments, forgetting that women giving compliments to men is a great way for women to get stalked and harassed. Learn to be normal human beings if y’all want compliments from women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:48 PM
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Well yeah...that’s my point. The guy was so delusional he couldn’t understand why I didn’t love it and think it was cute/romantic etc. Either way he was an idiot with no respect for boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:29 PM
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The guy I was with seemed to genuinely think he was cute and doing what guys are supposed to do. He seemed shocked that I just wanted him to stop, like i should love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:06 PM
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Men like this are really nauseating. Where do they get the impression that women like this? A guy I settled hard for in my early 20s really thought he was cute pulling this shit after sex once. After he finally finished (with his hand, since he was deathgripped) I got my unsatisfied ass up to go pee and he thought he was real cute grabbing me by the arm and pulling me back to bed, whining “nooooo” and trying to cuddle me. Dude was too big and I couldn’t fight him off so I put up with it for a fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:43 PM
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You should’ve read the handbook and rules before joining this sub. We are about self improvement and empowerment, not enabling poor behaviour. This girl won’t listen to a doctor, what do you think we can do for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:29 AM
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OP definitely either looks blown out or the gyno felt a concerning change in muscle tone while examining her. Or obvious tearing and scar tissue. I’d assume OP did get this info but left it out of the post so she can continue to insist it’s possible to fulfil her and her bf’s porn fantasies safely. One of her replies is literally just “you can do it safely!!” I want to feel bad for OP because she’s clearly brainwashed and pornsick but then I think of all the other women that ladies like OP hurt.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:19 AM
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Men: women can get sex from anyone, in an instant! Stop complaining about ‘the right guy’ and go enjoy all the sex you can get. Men when a woman gets beaten or killed by a guy she was dating: see? Women just choose poor quality men. Why aren’t women being more picky and waiting for the right guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:15 AM
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I feel like I’ve read this story several times before, word for word, because this is always how it works out lmao. Karma for pushing boundaries and getting caught up in their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:27 AM
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I’ll never forget the sinking feeling in my heart when I realised a (now ex, obviously) bf wasn’t going to finish any time soon because he had deathgripped himself into oblivion and couldn’t cum. Pair it with the bizarre, painful (for me, not him) porn moves he copied and that was a very long encounter. He bragged about how long he lasted lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:14 PM
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Men: bully, beg and pressure women into sex. These same men: lmao why do women starfish? My gf makes no effort at all, she’s terrible at sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:11 PM
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You should. Part of getting a HVM is becoming a HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:59 PM
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Good lord. I’d post this as a main comment so she’ll see it. You’re right, OP has a lot of growing to do. It isn’t ok to smash someone’s belongings out of spite or cheat out of spite. This is not HVW behaviour at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:41 AM
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Literally all the comments in the OP are about her physical appearance. Why am I even surprised any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:37 AM
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“I know it’s inappropriate” and yet he does it anyway. They’re aware of how disrespectful they are, they just don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:34 AM
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5.5k upvotes. These people are sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:40 AM
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I hate that if a female police head was saying this, it wouldn’t get taken as seriously. I hate that men get taken more seriously but I’m glad this one is at least speaking out and using his privilege to reach more people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:32 AM
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“I’m gonna do this all by myself! But my wife needs to hold my hand and answer a constant barrage of questions I could work out for myself/look up. All me! I did this all by myself!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:28 PM
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I had an inkling from the language that he’d bullied her into anal (don’t they all?) so asked her and he did indeed bully her into anal. Scumbag, I hope he rots. Last I read she had seen the light and dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:55 PM
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I’ve read plenty of times where dudes tell their gf they hate being rejected and wish she’d initiate more. So she initiates and he turns her down because he wants her to “know how it feels”. Letting their own spiteful mindsets ruin him literally getting what he asked for. Either that or they’re not in the mood and they turn her down but don’t understand why she’s upset when she wasn’t allowed to be not in the mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:22 PM
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Make it your goal to be the kind of person who doesn’t have to make these jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:58 PM
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Of course PH sent one of their staff into the Reddit thread to discount these claims. Thankfully some people didn’t fall for the typical “relatable” social media rep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:30 PM
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Hilarious that they think we’re deliberately playing hard to get for their benefit when we’re actually just upholding standards for our own benefit. Maybe they should stop seeing “no” as “convince me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 06:10 PM
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I refuse to believe they don’t re-offend. At the very least they WANT to do it again. They just try to hide it more through abuse and manipulation and violence. Lock them up forever or get rid of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 06:03 PM
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They have zero emotional intelligence. They’ll tell you to get over it or bluntly talk down to you about how you should ‘fix’ the situation. The fix is often totally socially unacceptable but they don’t realise it because they’re so used to getting a pass or having someone else clean up after their faux pas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 10:57 AM
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It’s really not. In one scenario she’s popping down to the corner shop to buy groceries (which is still permitted), likely on foot. In another he is leaving his house, travelling further and risking more in terms of passing a virus on or catching it. Walking down my road alone to the shop isn’t the same as someone having to come from further away to leave it on my doorstep. Everyone is having to go to their corner shops right now for supplies. Whilst I would usually expect a guy to go out and bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 10:11 PM
1

Because travelling for non essential things is a bad idea. Driving/public transport to get wine for her is unwise when he could be coming from further away. He could have vulnerable people with him that he shouldn’t risk taking it back to. Safer for her to pop down the road to her corner shop herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:31 PM
7

FINALLY! These animals appealed their death sentences so much. Waste of time, should’ve put a bullet in them straight after the first trial. What they did to her was horrific
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:17 PM
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Let’s wait until they agree that marriage is not a licence to have sex whenever you want it/rape your wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:38 PM
6

So he’s broke, obese, living at home...what exactly does he have to offer???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:26 PM
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I’m so glad you brought up asexuality! I think a lot of women who use the ace label are often women-leaning-bi/gay women struggling with compulsory heterosexuality, or simply bi/het women who are so disillusioned with dating/the majority of men that they conclude “if I don’t want to jump into bed with every man I meet on the first date, I must just lack sexual attraction.” There are legit aces out there who will always identify as ace and absolutely lack sexual attraction. But I think a lot of u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:59 AM
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Nope. Being normal and wanting normal human connection is not a specific sexuality. Every self-described demi person I know goes through a rollercoaster of identifying as ace, demi etc until someone points out that they’re just a normal member of a social species. We’ve got to stop telling women they’re abnormal or fringe if they don’t want meaningless sex and nothing more, and the demi label is doing just that. That fact that if often gets lumped into LGBT definitions in my circle is extra infu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:48 AM
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They act like they’re safe and could never harm you because they’re so nerdy and inexperienced and gentle. But in reality they will still whine, push, manipulate and quite happily start hurting you to get their way. Then in public they go back to being a whiny little worm that couldn’t hurt a fly, and everyone doubts your story. I was assaulted by one too and everyone is so quick to defend them because “he could never do that!” Don’t get mad at yourself. They’re exploiting our desire to be loved…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:29 AM
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It’s a real red flag for softboys and some of the most unattractive, aggressive, dangerous, abusive men I’ve encountered were softboys. They’re to be avoided like the plague even if you’re not into traditionally masculine men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:26 PM
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“Cuddle” is such a wormy, softboy term now. They’re always using it to pretend they’re gentlemen with feeeeeelings who don’t just want to have sex. Then the moment they’re clinging to you like a baby, you’ve got a dick pressed into your hip and a hand trying to go down your pants. Worms, all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:47 PM
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Yeah for sure. I think it’s because the morning BJ is generally a phenomena of “suck him off and that’s it”. No reciprocation or lovemaking, just how men like it. I figure most men would beg for it but claim they could never go down on her in the morning because “you haven’t showered first” etc. The notion of waking someone up with oral/sex is wild to me. I haven’t consented yet, get your hands off me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:07 PM
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Spitting right back in his face and leaving is queen shit. I’m so sorry you had that happen to you, but I’m glad you were able to get out immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:57 AM
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The fact that she’s upset and not justifying it to herself is a good thing. I hope she runs a mile. The morning blowjob is so pickme that I worry she won’t see the light though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:54 AM
10

Getting up and leaving will always upset them the most. They’ll tel everyone you “stormed off over nothing”. My only fear is if you’re not in public, that he stops you from leaving physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:51 AM
44

Hold you down Very tired of this pornsick rapey language being mainstream. If you’re having to hold me down, it’s because you’re raping me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:45 AM
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LVM: why won’t women give me a chance?! I’m better than her boyfriend. Can’t we at least be friends? Or is her ego so huge she thinks I’m a threat to her and her stupid boyfriend? Same LVM when he hooks a pickme: why are you friends with a man? That seems really inappropriate, what if he hits on you? I don’t care what you say, it’s super inappropriate to have a Male friend, I don’t trust you to have a Male friend. They’re so close to admitting the truth. Of course the danger and untrustworthines…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:40 AM
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Exactly! They forget we aren’t all in the gutter with our morals like they are. It’s not the main reason but you also shouldn’t ever give men ammo against you. That guy who was begging you to cheat with him will be threatening to tell your boyfriend/the world the moment you say no to something or try to end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:36 AM
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And yet when women say “I have a boyfriend” they’ll throw a fit and beg her to cheat with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:20 PM
9

In my experience staff don’t have to time to notice, care or try peeling stickers off. They may not even be looking at the back of the door because they’ve got to get in, clean the toilet and get out. And if they have no clue what MGTOW means, they’re not gonna be as outraged as any decent person who knows about it will be. I’ve been in tons of toilets with stickers and graffiti all over the toilet stalls. But I’ve also been the one to stand there scraping stickers off or covering them up when t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:11 AM
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I love how he’s acting like you’re personally out there spraying prostitutes with water to stop them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:05 AM
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Ask yourself this out loud and come to your senses, girl. Re-read the handbook. You’ve had one low-effort “date” with him and now you’re going to his house alone??? Alone with a guy who is continually pushing your boundary and seemingly arguing with you for following your parents’ very sound advice. He called them bad parents over this!! No. No you should not do this. Red flags all over. Up your standards. This man is far from a HVM. You’re better off being disliked by him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:56 PM
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Having the whole bed to myself. I think a requirement in my marital home will be a Superking bed so we can both have space 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:45 PM
19

One minute they insist straight men are inherently sexually violent then they’re pissing themselves over the suggestion that men are dangerous to women. Pick one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:24 AM
14

There’s a reason women who love women have their own separate term for it (Lesbian) rather than just relying on the term previously used for men (gay). Female love is different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:18 AM
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Aren’t men the ones more likely to cheat? Once they get the wife pregnant and she’s not an available hole 24/7 because she’s too busy growing another human, a lot of them go find a new fling. It’s literally a cliche joke that men get lap dances on their stag party. What utter projection this paternity/infidelity fear is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:51 PM
11

Their ball sweat is a source of pride and comedy. Endless jokes about how their sweaty balls stick to their leg or how they get swampy down there, but a perfectly clean and healthy pussy is gRoSs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:49 PM
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Her whole pride is vested in being a “fix it” person instead of a “end it” person. If I stupidly pour sand into my cake mix, there’s no fixing it no matter how much sugar or egg or flour I add. It’s a fucking nasty sandy gritty cake. I throw the mix away away and start again while making better choices. She needs to learn that you’re not inherently better at relationships because you “tough it out” and try to “fix” something broken beyond repair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:47 PM
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What kind of adult man can’t marry the woman he wants? I get cultures but this guy clearly doesn’t live in a Hindu country and no one would resent him for choosing the woman he loves over the parents who judge her solely on previous diet. Is he unable to function without mommy and daddy? Why care about the approval and conditional love of parents who are so cruel? He let himself get bullied into marrying someone else because he is a weak LVM. She needs to grow without him and not going to the we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:40 PM
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I swear they just make these bitter profiles so when they inevitably get zero matches, they can claim women were put off by the “harsh truth” and are indeed “snakes” etc. Like they’re engineering their own failure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:44 PM
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I’m 100% with you. Men are surplus and they’re always complaining that it’s easy for us to get dates yet doing nothing to improve themselves to stand out from the crowd. These pornsick men need to stay away from women and not reproduce or try to have sex with women unless they can somehow perform a downright magical 180 and become healthy non-addicts who aren’t bad or dangerous at sex. Which we both know is not happening. Enough of us have dealt with bad, painful and dangerous sex with them in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:39 PM
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I should’ve linked it in my comment, silly me! It’s behind a paywall but someone posted it on the sub with a comment containing the article: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f1lkyg/exposed_the_new_breed_of_sex_addicts_who_dont/fh722pq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Note the mention of sweat and unexpected smells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:10 PM
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For real. I always feel like I write it in a weird/non poetic way but if you’re attracted to someone you should love how they smell - and not just the genitals. Everyone’s whole body has its own signature smell and I want to love my partner in that sense too - and be loved in that sense. Like waking up on a warm morning and the bed smells like you both, or you kiss the top of their head and you linger to enjoy the smell of their skin and hair. Or the old cliche of loving how their t shirt/hoodie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:55 AM
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I’ve seen this in a legit article about porn addicts. They complain about how real life partners have a smell, body hair etc. They’re totally disconnected from reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:31 AM
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I’d bet real money she doesn’t even smell bad. A clean, healthy vagina/labia will have a normal odour - some stronger than others but still. Just like clean and healthy dick/balls can have an odour. Women have been so constantly picked at about this that even when defending themselves they’ll say they smell bad down there. I don’t see men getting berated or developing anxiety over their smell down there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:26 AM
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Same dudes who learn to wash because their gf took “sexy showers” with them to teach them to bathe. You should be washing of your own accord and you don’t deserve praise or sex prizes for doing the bare minimum!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:20 PM
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That sub has turned into an affirmation hub. It’s just people who are obviously correct, making up a friend who tooootally “told me I was being an asshole”, posting so the majority can tell them they’re not the asshole and totally justified. No change made. Majority of the pickmes that post there with obvious asshole boyfriends only want to vent. They won’t woman up and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:18 AM
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The drunk mouth thinks what the sober mind thinks. Can’t imagine why he conveniently made out with a platonic friend of two years 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:13 AM
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To a normal adult, this is just...mild, welcome enthusiasm. If someone is excited to see what I have in mind/have planned I’d take it as a compliment! The mildest non-pressure causes LVM to crack. The fact that he also immediately puts it on you/guilt trips you over the “pressure” is so gross too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:07 PM
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Any talk of love languages in the context of a man’s “need” for sex is ridiculous. Sex is not a love language!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:42 PM
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I think its definitely too big. Maybe we need special days for the low effort content? Like images/memes only on a Monday for “meme monday” or rant posts only on a certain day etc? It won’t help with the uptick in pickme comments and content from women who blatantly haven’t read the handbook but that’s what the report button is for thankfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:42 PM
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Dying happy surrounded by friends, having lived a life lengthened and enriched by the lack of a Male partner. How awful 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:15 AM
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How on earth would the sex (and act that should please both parties) be better if one party gets his dick sucked while the other one hates it? I don’t mind BJs (with the right, “vanilla” man) but generally guys can’t settle for it. They’re obsessed with having it constantly (like being woken up by it???), or getting violent by fucking your face and choking you. They spoil it for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:40 PM
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In the end we’re expected to settle for small dicks and bad sex. If we actually suggested in earnest that a guy was too small for us we’d be torn to shreds. Meanwhile men are very comfortable earnestly declaring how loose women are if they have multiple partners, how ugly saggy boobs look (but also how ugly small ones are. What do y’all want??). And if it kills their attraction they’re fine to walk, they’ll be affirmed that their standards/tastes/attraction is okay. But poor men :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:35 PM
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You can laugh at yourself but the big takeaway here is that you learned from your mistakes. Sometimes we need to latch onto some memory of embarrassing pickme behaviour to remind us not to go back to that behaviour. I know you can do better, you know you can do better. Look back at this in a while and laugh because you’re doing better ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:44 PM
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And every day they start crying about the women who are attracted to “tall” men, vicariously living through some nasty zinger to a woman in a screenshot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:23 AM
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I fully agree with this. The fantasy of love, intimacy and sex that you build up in your head and fall for, is often not what you actually get. It’s important not to fall for that fantasy and let your standards slip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:04 PM
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I SINCERELY doubt that it was just the jeans that caused the breakup. It was likely the straw that broke the camel’s back. It’s more likely that he some lazy, unkempt, dirty dude who gets asked to dress appropriately once for an important date, and when he fails, she gives up. Good on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:34 PM
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17 years old. Almost an adult in my country. He knew exactly what he was doing and the damage he would do to this little girl both physically and mentally. Anally raping a child, getting her pregnant after raping her so many times, and then all three act ignorant and let her struggle through birth in a goddamn bathtub. Her body is physically affected for life no doubt and I daren’t think of her mind. All three of them need to be buried. This girl deserves so much better and I hope she gets it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:07 AM
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Yep, I’m a U.K. gal. And you’re right. In my early 20s I was always going out for coffee or drinks for dates a lot because they’re, culturally, super accepted as first dates. And it really does surprise people when I say that I don’t find them to be appropriate first dates. I do think our culture and American culture is a bit different and you can plan around it accordingly. Drinking dates are easier to turn down, personally, by just saying I’m not a drinker. I do drink, but a first date doesn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:47 PM
32

Porn really is a training video for rapists huh? They really think this is acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:01 PM
18

I struggle with this partly because drinking and going to the pub is a biiiiiig thing in my country. First dates in Wetherspoons seem to be all everyone does in my circles. BUT there are some lovely little pubs with high quality food around me, so there’s no reason for me to not be taken out for a decent meal. Drinks down the pub are for catching up/blowing off steam with mates or for a casual mini-date with my long term partner/husband on a sunny Sunday afternoon after we’ve been out for a walk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:58 PM
40

I really can’t imagine a scenario in which it’s sexy to tell a man that you go down on him regularly but he never feels the need to reciprocate, so you’d like him to start. Asking for it in that situation just highlights the lack of consideration from him. A HVM would take the initiative to reciprocate in the first place. I’d be walking away from a selfish partner before I had to sit down and even consider trying to flutter my eyelashes and ask him to please consider my enjoyment for once. Askin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:59 PM
109

I hate that advice is always “just tell them!”. There’s nothing sexy about having to ask for basic reciprocity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:27 PM
44

“He had a right to see his son!” Given that the stress he caused likely caused his son’s death in the womb, maybe he fucking didn’t. When men murder their living children through violence or neglect, society doesn’t whine that they still have the right to go to the funeral. This man killed his son before he was even born. Let this woman mourn in peace, boys. She did nothing wrong and I hope she can heal with time. She deserves better than this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:09 AM
45

Lack of desperation is so vital! Especially later on in relationships too. I think of all the guys I’ve laid in bed or cuddled up on the couch with in my younger years, enjoying some comfy intimacy, only for the boner to pop up and hands to start wandering. HVM will be able to lay physically close to you and experience intimacy without turning into panting, humping dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:06 PM
42

Very specific compliments. Any idiot can say “you look lovely today”. It’s nice and well-meant from friends, colleagues etc and in passing it would be enjoyed from a partner. I think it would be quite touching to get a “you look lovely today” while I’m just chilling out eating breakfast without having made effort in my appearance yet. I think thats a bare minimum in relationships. But the real quality is in the specifics. Little efforts or interests that they notice and compliment. I do it with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:03 PM
17

That’s “fair enough” was the written form of a tail between the legs lmao. Good on you for not letting him waste your time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:44 PM
71

“Men are very often sexually repressed” HAHAHA! Good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:02 PM
14

Poor wording on my part. You’re right, he isn’t HV at all. I’m still growing out of language that leaves room for Male egos I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:44 PM
13

Love it when they try to neg out the door. Red flags before you’ve even browsed the whole profile!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:28 PM
13

He “didn’t look into the sub that deep” but still felt the need to message you with a weak intervention. Sad. You’re with a better man than him and he’s scared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:54 PM
52

Yeah I would expect a HVM to find this sort of pickme behaviour unattractive. Not sure he is He isn’t HV given his apparent fetishisation of the tattoos but her behaviour is still pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:51 PM
8

They’re always so bitter about it, why would anyone date you when your profile has that bitterness? If you hate that your height “matters” stop bringing attention to it dude lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:56 AM
21

What is the pro trump one? I’m subscribed to a few and would prefer to stay away from that one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:51 PM
83

The lack of manners! If you want two cake pops that’s fine, but come back with three so your date has one too. It’s not about being entitled to someone else’s deserts. It’s the lack of basic manners in helping yourself to something in front of another person without offering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:47 PM
23

They’re fooling themselves if they think that most men care when we tell them what we want. How many of us have asked LVM for oral sex or foreplay in the past, only to be met with excuses and whining? They don’t care. They don’t want to get us in the mood or do things that we enjoy, so telling them our needs and wants is pointless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:39 AM
21

“I freeze up at failure” is such a shit excuse. They always want to act the victim like they have some complex special anxiety that makes it hard to do anything for anyone ever. She literally gave him instructions on what to get him. It was impossible to fail. If he’s so scared of failure why doesn’t he make a damn effort to avoid it? If you have an ACTUAL medical issue that makes remembering important things hard, why not get diagnosed and treated? Set a goddamn reminder on your phone like a bi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:27 AM
18

They don’t see women as humans who want to be desired via “vanilla” sex. We’re objects to be owned and used in kinky violent porn-mimicking sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:10 PM
26

Don’t forget that Valentine’s Day is penis day, but they’ve also invented a “steak and blowjob day” because Valentine’s Day is all about women 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:33 PM
25

The kicker is that apparently he claims that receiving gifts is his love language. So he’s happy to accept these gifts from her but ALSO expects obligation sex. Because his penis :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:31 PM
11

Yep! So many rapists have made it impossible to take that chance and risk it. Wanting it at all is such a huge turnoff for me too and it really doesn’t get respected. It’s weird because if you said that your new boyfriend asked if he could shit and piss on you, a lot of people even in “sex positive” spaces would acknowledge that it’s ok to find it to be a dealbreaker. Yet when it’s anal that you respectfully express to be a dealbreaker, you just need to “keep trying” with the “right guy”. Turnof…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:30 PM
19

Yep! These pickmes are happy to risk hemorrhoids, fissures, prolapse or incontinence for a supposed orgasm and the unhealthy emotional fulfilment from “pleasing their men”. They hurt themselves and other women who don’t want to go through this stuff but then have to suffer idiot, selfish men who demand we ruin our bodies for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:05 PM
25

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/f439jr/im_really_hurt_but_maybe_i_shouldnt_be/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Poor woman deleted and from some of the comments, I don’t blame her. Favourite scumbag comment, claiming she’s selfish for making him his favourite foods. Of course it wasn’t enough. He wanted sex. You gave him cake. You can’t be pissed at someone for not liking the gifts (dinner and cake) that you really made for yourself. Your properties are so in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:30 PM
28

Yes! Every time I se advice encouraging women to “take sexy showers” with dirty men or “show him how sexy you find it when he does [chore] so he feels like a man” I fully roll my eyes. Sex is not a reward for poor or bare-minimum behaviour. Like children who demand a cookie for eating all their vegetables, they eventually turn their “rewards” into even more entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:24 PM
32

It’s one of those things that seems to have become so expected and commonplace. I hate it, and even asking for it is a dealbreaker for me. I can’t be attracted to guys who would even want sex that’s painful, dangerous and potentially injurious (especially long term), requiring EVEN MORE labour from me than sex already requires via prep, and is still potentially a very dirty event even with all the prep. Sure, the guy might respect my boundary/hard “no” and never ask for it again, might not ever …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:01 PM
34

I spent my Valentine’s Day baking treats for me and my friends to enjoy that night and I received far more appreciation, love and fulfilment from these female friends than this woman did from her husband. I’m happier single than this woman. Doesn’t bode well for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:46 PM
28

“Sex is my love language and my wife only gives me sex twice a week, how do I explain to her that she’s emotionally neglecting and abusing me? :(“
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:42 PM
21

wants a guy who won’t put others down puts other women down in the same paragraph. Honey...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:15 PM
3

We know why. He’s a shit man and, frankly, a shit person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:36 AM
22

She needs to get his confession in writing then report it to the police and then get divorced. Fucking hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:57 PM
23

I’m guessing he a) forgot to book anywhere and the seafood place was the only one he could get a table at or b) he fully forgot her allergy. Or both :’) Edit: somehow I forgot option C: he just didn’t care. Which we all know is very, very likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:53 PM
17

Note how it’s her suffering from the lack of money. She can barely afford to buy herself/her kids basic hygiene items but I’ll bet he isn’t going without.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:39 PM
21

Same brand of scum as the men who leave wives after they’ve lost their breasts to cancer. Looks/attraction are important but if after 3 years your attraction still hinges this much on looks, you’re incapable of love. I’ll bet the burbs aren’t even that life/appearance changing. I feel like he would’ve mentioned if it was her face etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:45 AM
40

Men only seem to pipe up about equality when it comes to “I want to be able to punch women”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:44 PM
36

So he wants the benefits of exclusivity without actually asking for it/making the effort? Good on her, if he hasn’t locked it down why wait for him? He clearly didn’t even make a strong/early enough move to take her out for valentines given that someone already asked her out. Edit: also, if you “ask me if I want to do something” for Valentine’s Day, you’re already bottom of the list. What a noncommittal ask-out. I’m so tired of guys doing to bare minimum so the woman will make all the effort to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:24 PM
38

These men are amazed their partners have body hair, sweat or that sex has a smell. Because they forget that women are human. Men are hairy, sweaty and their wank marathons certainly stink, but they somehow forget that women are just as human as they are. How liberating for women 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:35 PM
66

The pressure we all feel to settle for men we aren’t attracted to is unreal. I’ve settled for ugly men and even “not ugly” men who just weren’t my type and it always ends badly. Learning that you’re allowed to have standards is so comforting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:29 PM
85

Thank god you found out before you slept with him. Sex with porn addicts is disappointing at best and painful/dangerous at worst. I’m sorry that you invested time in him though. Focus on yourself and remember you did good by yourself. You maintained your boundary and standards and didn’t settle for a man like him. Future you will be soooo glad you found out and got the fuck out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:28 PM
11

Wait, what’s the difference? Both refer to adult Male humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:23 PM
90

“But men are killed more often than women!!!” Yeah, by men. Men are still the more violent ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:39 PM
50

For sure. The men who are broke/unsuccessful and still trying to date are usually broke and unsuccessful for a reason. Getting fired from jobs (often for violence or aggressive behaviour), zero motivation or interest in developing life skills etc. The men who are broke and unsuccessful but doing something about it/working hard to fix it aren’t out there dating yet because they’re putting all their effort into being better. Edit: to add, there’s a frustratingly shitty guy in my workplace. I can’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:14 PM
37

They want a woman to pay her way/half of the meal but also detest a woman who earns as much (or more) as them. They want us to earn less but pay in the same as them. Then they have the audacity to act like they’re the victims of money hungry witches. You’re the only hellbent on benefitting financially from dates, Joseph!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:09 PM
15

And yet she’s still married to the cheating worm. I have no intention of being like Beyoncé.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:22 AM
39

Yeah, at date 5 there’ll be nothing but desperate and slimy pressure if even the nicest guy knows you’re a “5 date girl”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:17 PM
36

How many do a poor job of changing the diapers so they can shrug it off as the wife’s job because “she does a better job than me anyway ha ha”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:49 PM
39

It’s so vile how many of them prioritise sex over the healing time for their wives. Then shame her for the way pregnancy and birth changed her body. Do they really not care that she literally risked her life and permanently changed herself to grow and birth another person??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:47 PM
49

Excellent example: two x. It’s been overrun with men for years now and they’ll bombard you if you speak up about the shitty men in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:55 AM
12

A woman I no longer associate with was a huge pickme over this. She had IBS and bragged about how she gave her bf anal more than vaginal, how they only needed a bit of spit and no lube etc. She really thought she was the dream girl, told me it’s not a big deal to do for guys. No doubt he reinforced that. I can only imagine what issues she’s dealing with after years of dry anal sex to please some subpar man. Glad I never fell for the lie she was selling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:54 AM
10

The appeal really is in hurting, injuring and humiliating us. If it wasn’t, they’d be happy with pussy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:50 AM
40

I’m not convinced they’re capable of developing enthusiastic love for women. They don’t really see us as equals/people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:02 PM
54

That sub is toxic. The way one of those commenters wrote about a colleague’s genitals is horrific. Zero respect for women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:27 AM
11

Gotta love a dude who thinks fucking you IS the foreplay 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:40 PM
3

Shit like this has LVM wildly overestimating their looks. And when so many of these goblins with zero hygiene or personal care skills chase you, it’s very easy to start doubting your own value and think that these trolls are all you’re worth. Places like this sub are vital to remind women we are worth more. Empowerment and encouragement to better ourselves is so much better than being dragged down into the pit of low self esteem that LVM want us in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:14 PM
73

subservient, yet still respected and loved by a man. Hahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:42 PM
20

So she has a piss fetish, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:58 PM
48

Gotta love how he thinks he’s being a gentleman by saying that if a girl wasn’t comfortable/said no, he’d “ask a few more times then back off”. How nice of you to try and pressure/bother her into sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:06 PM
3

He looks like Randy from Trailer Park Boys with a less bulbous gut lmfao. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:04 PM
9

He really compared her wish to get an IUD with his wish sodomise her lmfao. What a warped man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:20 PM
30

Aren’t those monsters STILL fighting their death sentences too? Put those dogs down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:01 PM
7

The audacity of him to say those things and then get annoyed at her for it hurting her libido. What the fuck did he think was gonna happen? Overgrown toddler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:27 PM
15

I dated a guy who told me all about his crazy ex girlfriend. I was too naive to see through it so I believed his ex had been unfair to him. Then he raped me and when I finally broke it off and told him that what he’d done was rape, I became the crazy ex. Men who have a crazy ex are telling you that they have at least one confirmed victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:41 PM
3

This is on par with those posts that complain about a boyfriend who doesn’t wash, and the girlfriend is told by places like reddit to “take sexy showers with him ;)” to encourage and “teach” him to bathe. Fuck off, the man should be washing on his own goddamn accord and doesn’t deserve shower sex to enable his childish behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:21 PM
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