TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

little_sparrow152 Archive

View 1 post and 69 comments by little_sparrow152 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
228

DISCUSSIONlittle_sparrow152/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:49 PM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
6

"I thought this was due to porn addiction but I haven't watched porn in more than 40 days and this didn't change" Bad news, everyone, if it turns out that you CAN'T fully reverse all the ways your addiction messed up your body and brain in under two months, you're obviously not addicted, it's that something is fundamentally wrong with you... /s Good for him for having made that connection on his own, but oh boy, I'm somewhat torn between face-palming really, really hard, and pitying him because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:36 PM
86

"I and our beautiful kids won't stress you" ...Yeah, because that "our kids" scenario is not going to happen in the first place... Also, love the implication that OP will only stay "stress-free" IF she's a "good mom", whatever that may mean to that scrote. As if stress was somehow deserved if she didn't fulfill his expectations for mommy-bangmaids... ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:47 PM
1

Ah, sorry, I'll edit it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:13 PM
160

I feel it's especially worrying given that a large part of her audience is teenage girls who absolutely idolize her... it's not Billie Eilish's fault she was groomed and pressured to participate in mainstream "empowerment", but right now, her relationship is setting an absolutely awful example for all those very influencable young girls. There's no way this relationship will end well... I feel so sorry for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:46 PM
1

A little late, but thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:44 PM
5

I think OP wanted to say that it's not the enjoyment of either of those movies automatically disqualifying someone as a potential partner (although it might be for some peopl), but more about being wary of a potential partner's media consumption in general. WHat kind of things people like tends to be able to give you a good guess about what their personality is like. We all have guilty pleasures, but his or her faves all being somewhat misogynistic, excessively violent, racist or otherwise probl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:52 PM
11

It's (as far as i can tell just like thothers on the list) not about it being a bad movie. It's about the type of people the theme and general plot attract. People usually like what they can identify with. And given that the plot of "Joker", if I remember it right, is pretty much the "misunderstood social outcast cracking under the pressure of a society that despises him for what's beyond his control, turning to extreme violence to get revenge on those he believes wronged him and then just carry…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:42 PM
13

Remember the FDS principles: actions speak louder than words. Obviously his actions, but yours as well. True communication - at least the one you want to pay attention to - lies in actions, and if you want to make yourself understood, use that to your advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:36 PM
196

As ridiculous as it sounds: when you're a woman in immediate danger, especially from a sigificant other, YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT rely on the authorities to protect you. It's sad, but ultimately true. Never rely on men or any male-run organizations (which includes pretty much every governmental institution in about every country) to save you from another man, because you WILL be let down and might end up even worse than before. If you need help, get it from another woman, or explicitly pro-women or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:51 PM
21

They really go around proclaiming practises "safe" on the grounds of "no immediate/extraordinarily high danger of (unwanted) permanent physical injuries", only, and sometimes not even that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:39 PM
1

When I first read the title, I thought the age gap was actually acceptable there for once... But if you actually look at their ages and especially age difference when they started dating?? Red flag, red flag, red flag. Eighteen is ALWAYS a suspicious age for a woman's relationship to start with any just SLIGHTLY older man. Chances are always that they're only with you because you're the youngest they could get at the time, or might have been waiting for you to turn "legal" all along...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:31 PM
48

?. Analyze them critically Should you struggle to get your feelings back in the backseat, I was told that it can help to start actively looking for LVM criteria. If you can't get your mind off that crush, you might as well spend your time actively learning from them. How is their relationship with their family? Their hygiene? What kind of jokes do they make? How do they talk about women, especially when there are none in the room? Who do they follow on social media? What are their friends like? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:09 AM
6

I wholeheartedly agree. It's just so awful to see especially young girls be sucked into the whole "everyone and everything is beautiful, and it's morally terribly wrong to say otherwise", because it's so insincere. Especially because those very same girls, are often conditioned into believing they were ugly, and thus inherently worthless EITHER WAY. The body positivity movement as it is right, as I see it, only does a LOT of gaslighting on the vulnerable, and way too little solid change. It's su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:35 PM
6

That does sounds unsettlingly like pickme feminism, you're right... thanks a lot for the explanation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:18 PM
10

From the bottom of my heart, I'm so sorry you had to go through such awful things. No one deserves to be treated like this, especially not from someone supposed to love and cherish them. However, I don't think you were pathetic at all, no matter what happened. You did the best you could back then, and there was no way you could have known back then what you know now. It's not your fault you were abused and cheated on. You tried your best to be the perfect wife, and that's not pathetic, this is h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:40 PM
4

"Orwellian feminism"? I did read 1984, but I don't quie get what you mean here. Would you care to elaborate a bit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:30 PM
11

let alone that ORIGINALLY, body positivity was not coined for obese people at all. As far as I'm aware, it started off as something for visibly physically disabled people and/or people with permanent remains of massive injury (think scars, burns, missing body parts, etc.), as those people oftenly suffer serious social consequences and discrimination. (Especially women, as we tend to get conditioned into thinking that our worth is directly tied to our physical attractiveness). Sadly, I don't reme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:28 PM
6

I have a feeling that his "fluctuating comments" are literally just him wanting to mold his wife into fitting the impossible body type that he's into (I'm thinking "skinny hourglass" or whatever the code word for "tiny waist, super skinny, but giant boobs and butt" is). She noted that when her weight gain was chest and hip area, he was totally into it, and that he only started nagging her when naturally, the "undesirable" areas followed. If she mentions to have been literally underweight before …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:08 PM
41

The age gap and his word choice when he tried to "correct" her ("girls") really only confirm that this guy is pornsick beyond repair. Like... he doesn't only see his fantasies as reflection of reality (obviously thinks that the GF is the weird one, when it's the other way around), he also gets upset with HER for HIS brain being so deep-fried by porn that he can't even imagine some words as anything but sexual anymore. Take notes, everyone, this is a wonderful example of how badly repeated condit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:34 PM
3

Exactly. The "dynamic" he's showing with his words and actions is just like what he describes to his girlfriend. No one can tell me this guy doesn't absolutely want - no, more like, expect - his girlfriend to cater to that fantasy as well eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:20 PM
22

"that's what girls call their bfs"... why does this sounds so oddly like he thinks of it as a common, regular pet name thing? Like, as something that's somehow MORE common as it's use as a way to call your dad? You know, as the literal "Dad" in the word suggests? I don't even want to imagine the brain acrobatics required to end up genuinely believing that to the extent where you think you should "correct" your girlfriend about it... Not even to mention the extremely strange word choice "girls" (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:51 AM
35

"Be consistent" aka "I got neither the time nor effort to try and understand anything you do, feel or think and expect you to be on demand available, always, unless I don't want to"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:35 AM
131

...Or she just knows very well of the dangers of pregnancy and how stressful children are? Like... raising kids? In this economy?? I think the fuck not. Also, note how he says "babies" not "children". I'm betting that this dude doesn't plan on doing any actual parenting himself and/or is absolutely not prepared to spend any time with his children after they get older than ten... let alone dealing with a daughter. I hope that person is just trolling...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:49 AM
51

What's a queen without her king? Well, how about "historically acknowledged, and statistically a great ruler".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:25 PM
138

She... forced herself throughout the entire, awful date, to be "enthusiastic" and listen to this inconsiderate douchebag, despite having absolutely no interest whatsoever... And that she managed to do that is what makes that date "great" in her eyes... oh girl, where do I even start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:37 PM
118

Well, if he finds this statement unattractive, one would guess it's serving it's purpose like intended...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:14 PM
213

"Are you on your period or what?" (Just typing that out made me annoyed) "But you have to consider other people's opinions!" "How can you even know that?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:41 PM
10

I honestly never thought about the feminism aspect behind name changes. That's super interesting though... and kind of sad to know that all my ancestresses, down to my mum, never had a name to pass on to me. But well, just one more reason to keep my name, if I ever get married. I already planned on keeping it for aesthetic reasons anyway. Also I figured that when I make a career, I'd rather not make it under someone else's family name. I think it would be just wrong to give my name away, as I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:37 PM
1

Yeah, the negativity seemed sketchy to me too, I was just surprised with the harshness of the conclusions from his demands. You're right, there is a ton of audacity in there that I was totally oblivious to. I'm still pretty new to FDS, so thanks for the lesson, I appreciate it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:05 PM
2

Ahhh, I see. With the location context, that makes a lot more sense. I'm from an urban part of Europe, so in my environment this sort of profile would just filter out unpleasant niches. Now that I read it again, I realize that all his points seem quasi tailored to filter out that "rural america" stereotype. Marriage, Church, Guns, Country music... oh hell, I'm sorry. The guy is a textbook scrote, you're right. I just didn't see it right away without the social context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:55 PM
14

Uh. what? I'm sorry, but somehow, I'm really missing the point on why you concluded the things you did from this profile. That wedding pictures part really seems quite sketchy (his social circle isn't married yet, he's most likely not interested in getting married either, and he does NOT say that explicitly, but leave you to figure it out, red flag), but I don't see what it is in that point that goes against having friends. Collecting guns might be a nice hobby, but I also wouldn't want to have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:57 PM
40

I think every (former) pickme on here can relate to this to some point. Before I realized that I was aromantic, social pressure let to me having a lot of similar fantasies. Particularly about that enemies-to-lovers trope (I know, I know). Nice in fiction, AWFUL in reality, with an 80% abuse chance. I think the key to winning the fight against them is ultimately to realize how silly they are, and to go on a long journey to figure out why exactly you have this fantasy. If you know how and why it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:07 AM
10

This taboo around negativity on wlw relationships was one of the major reasons I asked, actually. I got to say, that I've seen my fair share of awful women/girls in my life too, wlw and not, and - although that's none of my business, of course - feel a little worried for any "new" wlw coming into the community with just those "no men, so everything is perfectly fine" mindset. So I just pretty much wanted to check whether or not I really had a reason to be worried, or if wlw is really as strangel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:49 AM
25

Please do post, I'd love to hear your further insights!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:11 PM
16

Yeah, of course! I perhaps should have worded it to be more explicitly related to taing the approaching role in dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:06 PM
146

I think most men who supposedly love when girls ask them out just want the self esteem booster of "oh my god! Girls think I'm attractive!!", and not to actualy date the woman asking them out. Be it because they don't think she's "hot enough", they don't want commitment, or because they (as so, so many dudes do) think that agency, especially in romantic context, is "unfeminine". I also found that a lot of men deeply internalized the idea that a woman asking a man out is "embarassing" and a sign o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:57 AM
42

It's this strange sort of despairingly low self-esteem somehow still combined with a fuckton of entitlement... it's always awful to see how their ego seemingly explodes in size upon even the TINIEST bit of positive reaction. You give an incel an inch, and he'll try and take the whole mile home...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:32 AM
3

EVERYTHING of this is so... ew. LIke, noooo, I totally don't want sex, but also no commitment at all, just be available whenever I want you to, alright? Basically, I want attention on demand (maybe a free therapist and some eye candy too), and don't you think I'll be giving any of it back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:25 AM
2

That's a lot of words to say "hey, how DARE you to not blindly agree to whatever i say! Your wishes and needs should be MY wishes and needs! Shame on you!" Like... what a way expose how incapable of any sort of conflict or consideration you are. If he's like this, RUN! If he can't even deal with you wanting a different date, how will he react if you disagree bout big things? How will he react if you eventually turn out to have different opinions, and different interests?? Sociopath is pretty on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:07 AM
6

I mildly disagree. Wanting to feel a romantic connection to the person you'll spend a major part of your life with sounds pretty reasonable in my opinion. Safety and provision are the backbone of a healthy relationship, that's true, but they won't give you physical affection, kind words, or comfort when you're having a particularly difficult day. People do tend to like to have a partner they can kiss, and netflix and chill with a person you love sounds fine too. Money and care are in no way suff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:42 PM
33

Emotionally/mentally immature moms are the worst. Mine is like that as well, and - even though I love her dearly - realizing that your mom is not fit to be a rolemodel for you is quite a hard pill to swallow, especially when you're still a child/teenager. She's recently set her mind to actually improve her life and stop being a people pleasing pickmeisha she is, but the more she tries, the more I realize that she's actually really emotionally abusive herself. She's just so deep in the victim min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:25 PM
19

I sort of agree with the woman in the tweet. As long as it's not the only gifts you ever get, for me, it's the thought that counts. I don't expect a partner to spends a ton of money on gifts for me every month, if it's just something cute and personal from time to time. Flowers aren't terribly expensive, and I love roses, so I'd love to receive some too. But if the guy only gets them after he messed up & thinks he'll get an instead forgiven-and-forgotten and demand, then boy, do i have some bad …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:55 AM
64

Personally, I'm not too much a fan of big weddings and prefer simple jewellery, but I even if both are absolutely on the same page with this, there should be effort put into both proposal and wedding. I would much rather prefer a modest, semi-expensive ring from ethical material over some overpriced flashy diamond that's not my style. But either way, there should be something personal and thoughtful about it. Before getting married, I expect my partner to know me well enough to know what I like,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:17 PM
257

Actually, any guy who dislikes cats is an instant out from me. Cats are independent and they take no shit, so if you have a problem with them, how is it gonna be with me? Same with any guy who claims that cats are "creepy" or "mean". It's just that they're cautious and deal accordingly with people who touch them when they don't want or in a way they dislike. If cats hate you, you probably gave them a reason. If you're calm around them and leave them alone, they'll generally be nice to you. Cats …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:00 PM
28

I also have a twin brother who was coddled for his ADHD so hard (despite me also having it), and I relate to you so much. It's not that all neurodivergent men are bad, but they're usually very, very likely to have zero self-reflection and a raging amount of red flags piling up from issues they don't fix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:22 AM
11

I don't think that neurodivergence itself is a LV criteria per se, but if untreated, it can become a quasi bottomless pit of red flags. The VAST mojority of ND guys I ever got to know were incredibly unaware of their issues. Completely dependant on mum or girlfriend, failing classes, disorganized to the point of LOSING THEIR PAYCHECK, in one case also prone to violent emotional outbursts... but not even one actually saw those things as problematic. If you don't put any effort in improving your c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:50 AM
70

I have a pretty similar story, i saw FDS listed in a "most toxic communities on reddit according to you" list from a minor online magazine. The reasoning with FDS was basically "oh, they might have came from a good place, but they're just some big incel platform that hates men with no reason", and I got curious because in the comments, a bunch of people dragged FDS especially, MUCH more than all those incel subs listed. So I checked it out, and found... nothing. I was so confused, thinking I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:04 PM
15

Oh boy, I feel bad for laughing about the last line. Somewhat fascinating that "functioning brain and dick" is already a criteria that rules out the massive part of male population. The bar really is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:17 PM
7

Yes, the essence of ROMANCE is uncertainty. But the essense of LOVE is safety, and there are so, so many kinds of love. Romance fades, love stays, and obviously it's not romance that is suited fo a Queen. In my humble personal opinion, even men should learn the difference between those two. It may save a lot of time and trouble, and if you can tell, it's not hard to debunk the terrible dating advice out there (terrible, because even though it works short term aka romance, it's so damn toxic for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:06 PM
3

It's just awful what a male-dominated and misogynystic field of work politics still are. I can't imagine a guy my age having to make a masterplan to ensure that no one will wreck his career before it even starts... As a woman, you really need to learn to always be one step ahead if you want to make it anywhere. I surely can't prevent some idiot sending me dick pics, but I'll make sure I'm prepared for when the time comes. Thanks for your support, I'll definetely look into those stories. It's hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:10 PM
2

This awful fake smile at the end... It's amazing how much effort these women put in dumbing themselves down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:31 PM
18

The same with her voice. I really have trouble believing that this high, breathy, childlike pitch is in any way her natural way of speaking. She even made breaks between every few words, like someone flustered would. Also, the vocabulary. It sounds EXACTLY what you'd expect if you gave a young child a list to memorize as a definition. It sounds so strangely unnatural, with some "difficult" words, but seemingly random, very simple structure. It might be a coincidence, but given how strategic the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:29 PM
5

I plan to have a career in politics ever since I was a kid, I straightup can't affort some scrote and all that risks that come with dating one to ruin my life. I feel like I did the maths on romance, and once FDS helped me see that "ending up alone" is actually not as bad, decided that it's just not worth the trouble to pursue something I never wanted in the first place. Same with sex. In my personal opinion, the (small) possibility of an orgasm and fulfilling social expectancies just doesn't ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:59 AM
149

A month ago, my super LV brother (we're teens) came into my room and out of nowhere proclaimed that Adam Sandler was his favorite actor. I was so confused because I only vaguely knew what type of movies he did and disliked the few I watched, and he didn't really give any more explanation than "I think all his films are great!". (Why did I even ask...) But with your explanation, no wonder he loves those movies, they reaffirm exactly what he already believes, and he probably projects onto the main…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:36 AM
11

His reasoning is... that he thinks they sound... bad? What the hell, no, they don't. It might not be everyone's cup of tea, but hitting it off with "I'm a professional, so let me passive-aggressively dictate your taste in music" is just so wrong on SO many levels. Also, randomly hinting that they might be doing propaganda for "shady labels"? Really? While using the SAME video to promote his OWN artists because "they are so cute" and one of them is POC only? What does this have to do with the qua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:36 PM
28

I'm on the aromantic spectrum (before you say anything, I joined FDS for the mindset shift and to get the pickme brainwashing out of my head, not to find a dude), so this is probably a bit different from me to everybody else, but personally I think that crushes are - most of the time - only straightup dangerous to women. I've seen very strong female friends lose their shit over the lowest value dudes out there and go full pickme just because they were still attached to that "oH cRuShEs aRe sO rO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:20 PM
12

Well, the style advice she gives is quite useful most of the time, but I can't necessarily say I agree with all parts of her attitude. I really have an issue with how rule-y and elitist a lot of her content is. Nothing against a woman who knows her worth, and she knows her business, but sometimes it does sound a little bit like "be exactly like this or no one in right mind will ever respect you". I think her advice is best taken with a grain of salt: take what you think is useful and what fits w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:56 PM
3

I don't remember where exactly I read it, but I recently found an article that said that multiple really famous male authors (I didn't know them, so I didn't bother remembering the names) from pre-computer era actually had their wives type out the ENTIRE finished manuscript on typewriters, and some even asked them about editing. TWO out of five actually mentioned and thanked their wife in the first few pages. Two. The rest just didn't even bother to acknowledge their work. It really made me wond…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:32 PM
12

Oh yes. I saw it everywhere. They kept saying how it was so great that the Queen still always seeked his "approval" before important acts. She's the Queen! She doesn't NEED approval! He had opinions, yeah, obviously, but it's not like he was some great kind of patriarch who still always had a veto or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:19 PM
3

The whole media portrayal of his death in general seems so strange to me. I'm not even British, and still, the media where I live is seemingly tripping over themselves to report how textbook-romance-y his relationship with the Queen was. The articles say that she developed a crush on 18-year-old Philip at 13, and kept it for YEARS until she got to meet him again, and how this was SOMEHOW a really romantic and desirable thing. They literally mention in a small side sentence each - if at all - tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:17 PM
27

How about Circe? She's a witch and minor goddess from greek mythology. She had her own island, and one day, the ship of the famous hero Odysseus was lured on the island by her singing. But because they were disrepectful as hell to her to her after she offered them food , she slipped a potion in it to turn most of the crew into swine. She's generally portrayed as a villain, I wonder why... /s I think that would be a good hint at both the venus fly traps nature, and also to FDS in some way? It's m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:39 PM
7

This guy is probably either an idiot who fears that a future date/partner could find his post and think he's cheap/that he'll get shit from redditors for being cheap. Or he's one of those who have actually bought into what those scrotes say when they try to justify why they don't wanna pay (because it demonstrates that she's "modern", "independent" etc.), and then still wants to feel super manly and like a generous person when he pays ANYWAY, shining knight he is. Also possible that he's a REAL …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:59 PM
3

What the genuine... I think I'm still giving scrotes way too much credit. This is something I NEVER thought possible. How do they even think this would play out? "Oh, honey, please, that's the wrong one... ah, nevermind, do anything you'd like to me <3" or what?! How does MORE THAN HALF of the people who answered have experienced this? I'm at loss for words. Queens, NEVER let someone who'd fail a middle school sex ed test (on purpose or not) ANYWHERE near your private parts. If he can't even fin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:07 PM
4

Is there any way to watch it online yet? I'm from Europe, and where I live all the cinemas are closed due to a certain virus... I watched an amazing (and women-made/FDS-aligned) analysis of it by The Take on YouTube a while ago, and it really made me want to watch it with my family (especially my scrote brother)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:29 AM
7

Ahhh, I get it. Thanks a lot, I was starting to question if I was too empathetic. I wonder if we could we turn the offer to pay into a vetting strategy. Like, innocently offer to pay BEFORE ordering, and if he takes up on it when he was the one who asked for a date walk out right away? If it's done before anything is ordered, it would probably save a lot of time, trouble, and eventually, money by sorting out the cheapskates before they even jump into action... A HV reaction would be, in that cas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:20 AM
32

Honestly? I don't know if this is against the rules to say, but I think with most things he actually has a point. The "offer to pay" part is silly, yeah, because it really just shows that he wants to show off how "generous" he is. But I can actually understand the dressed up, proper language, on time and off the phone parts. If I was a guy, I'd probably expect it too, because it shows effort and some sort of class. He's a dude, and I sort of get that he can't know that we would very much like to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:40 AM
24

I actually had a conversation about this with a (former) friend who is a self-titled "cool girl". I said that I don't get it and think it's super harmful. Friend was like "oh but romantic stuff is so boring, you're such a prude". Proceed to say that she'd love degradation from a boyfriend even out of bed, saying it would make her feel "safe and loved". We were in high school. Same girl once said she'd prefer a dude texting her in the morning "what's up, stupid/bitch/bimbo" over a cute pet name o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:57 PM
12

Oh yes. Like, kind, super respectful, socially a dreamboat, intelligent and educated, f*cking confirmed by the queen to be be a good person, compatible with her child wishes... and she galdly signs up for this dude who obviously doesn't respect her at all, because of... a - from what she knows at that time, not necessarily reciprocated - crush on him? What kind of message is that supposed to send? Why can't the fake dating trope ever turn out to be a purely platonc thing that actually doesn't ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:02 AM
55

Hell yes. I used to love Bridgerton, but they portayed Eloise so terribly, and when Daphne rejected the Prince over this... broody, obviously not interested dude who was also lowkey mean to her all the time and opposed all her wishes for her future... I wanted to flip a table and go right inside the TV to teach her proper dating priorities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:47 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter