locused Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	AMA including opinions regarding meditation		locused	/r/seduction	10/02/15 07:14 PM

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1	Multiple Girlfriends Be honest or break up wth them. You seeking "maximum benefit" is really fucked up. These are human beings that would likely be devastated if they found out what a pile of scum you are. Get some ethics. Grow up.	/r/seduction	28/01/17 04:30 PM
5	Too annoyed with people to even care about dating. Some advice? Quite honestly, you have to recognize that you're not as well-adjusted as you imagine. It's one thing to claim that you're happy and confident, but that isn't the same as saying that you're in the right headspace to be dating (or be in the social sphere). I think cultivation of compassion and genuine interest in the subjectivities of others is ideal for you. Cultivation of actual care for those you're interacting with is integral for dating and making new connections. Branch out your interests. …	/r/seduction	28/01/17 04:25 PM
2	I look young, and I get awkward when girls bring it up Dude. Just associate with people that aren't assholes and berate you for appearing young. You don't have to deal with that.	/r/seduction	23/12/16 05:35 AM
4	Random politically incorrect truths I've noticed after years of doing and observing night game. Day game seems more genuine to me...because it's more organic. Day game seems like a more straightforward integration of useful concepts into one's own daily life, typically with less sleaziness. At least that's how I view day game.	/r/seduction	11/11/16 05:44 AM
0	Fuck these repetitive click bait articles. Let's talk about actionable DRILLS we can do to chip away at our sticking points. Totally agree that it is important to go out and talk to women if you're not really confident enough to do it without practice. But I've noticed in my own experience that in my own pursuit of self-improvement I've become most confident because I'm improving myself. Not because I practice. Like I said, maybe I'm just built differently and this was somewhat inevitable for me, but I think patience in this matter is integral.	/r/seduction	30/10/16 06:12 PM
8	Fuck these repetitive click bait articles. Let's talk about actionable DRILLS we can do to chip away at our sticking points. Perhaps you and I are two different beasts, but I think many people may gain something from a viewpoint that isn't about getting beyond 'sticking points'. The ideas put forth by Mark Manson in Models are really moreover what I'm a proponent of. Essentially building your own personal life and interests to the point where it isn't a sort of game to have sticking points. Where it's a more genuine and vulnerable encounter.	/r/seduction	29/10/16 09:58 PM
2	80% of my approaches don't last over a minute. How do I open better? Good call. Here's a talk I was actually listening to last night which reflects this perfectly: https://youtu.be/v4jBd4fArfQ	/r/seduction	27/10/16 04:54 PM
2	80% of my approaches don't last over a minute. How do I open better? Totally. I think that it's useful to get involved in clubs (like sports, games, not club-clubs) or whatever else. I just started a martial art and it's fantastic and I'm excited to actually pursue something for its own sake. Also, just being in classes helps you open up your social circle in a more wholesome (and thereby lasting) manner. Tinder, etc. dating apps feel a bit seedy in the way that I used to use them... but I'm actually of the opinion that having such a huge emphasis on romance/sex …	/r/seduction	27/10/16 04:09 AM
3	80% of my approaches don't last over a minute. How do I open better? Yeah. I think Tyler from RSD has some spiritual maturation to accomplish, if anything. On a realistic level, its oftentimes just a lack of interest on behalf of the other person (they have their own lives which are involving only a sliver of you) and they want to get on with their day. Unless you're valuable to them and can make that apparent in the one minute you have you won't get anywhere. And that's fine. The context of an 'approach' is so limited and estranged from the entirety of many peop…	/r/seduction	27/10/16 01:45 AM
1	How do you become really polarizing? Honestly, it's a felt thing. I really think keeping your encounter casual (and if you're saying something like she's beautiful it may be tough) is dependent upon your tone and how you pace things. Social interaction can never be easily broken down into a formula. It is necessarily intuition based. How old are you, and you can give a range if you want, because that might be helpful for giving some advice. I'm 22 and have spent four or five years building my skills in this way. Went from strugglin…	/r/seduction	20/10/16 05:35 PM
1	Losing hope in "Pick Up Programs" Honestly, I find that staying in my milieu is useful... Many people say "get out of your comfort zone," (which I agree with) but I interpreted that as needing to go to a club or somewhere that I'd otherwise not be inclined to go. I find that you can make a lot of progress by interacting with more like-minded people. Seduction doesn't have to be an uphill battle, and if you're interacting with people that you genuinely mesh with it will work out to both your benefit. Join a club, take some classe…	/r/seduction	20/10/16 03:38 PM
1	The Most Crucial Advice I Can Give You After Working On Myself For 3 Years One integral part of pickup I missed when I first started reading this (and I was reading some seedy shit, so maybe that's why)...& that's: Pickup doesn't have to be an uphill battle. It can be enjoyable and entertaining. It can even be fulfilling if you're looking for a relationship and find someone that you really get along with.	/r/seduction	20/10/16 03:27 PM
2	How do you become really polarizing? Move the conversation (which involves body language) in a more intimate direction. However, do this within a reasonable frame. Intuit when it would be appropriate to add indication of your sexual/romantic interest (which can be as overt or subtle as you are interested in...again, you are the one polarizing) and act accordingly. However, don't miss opportunities to indicate your interest, otherwise you're missing the point of polarization.	/r/seduction	20/10/16 03:24 PM
8	NEVER give a girl an easy out 100% this. I've been with quite a few women and I find that the process is just terrible if the mutual connection isn't there. I feel like a scumbag if I'm being shallow and pursuing a chick if I can tell she's not comfortable or that we have extremely divergent ideals.	/r/seduction	05/10/16 04:33 PM
1	Can't turn internalized game off after getting a girlfriend. Girlfriend extremely jealous. If anything you should stop doing this in front of your girlfriend for the sake of her emotions. You (ostensibly) care about her, right?	/r/seduction	29/05/16 10:18 PM
1	Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction? From your limited view, sure. That's an extremely myopic and limiting view.	/r/seduction	22/04/16 07:22 PM
0	Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction? How is this board "business?" This is a public forum for the discussion of seduction, and it's self-directed. Some people are making money from it, but they are also releasing information for free. Cut out the condescension. You are asking questions that indicate you haven't any more, or even have less, experience than I do.	/r/seduction	22/04/16 06:42 PM
1	Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction? Are we talking about business here buddy? No. Get your Machiavellian bullshit out of here.	/r/seduction	22/04/16 06:28 PM
1	Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction? I'm saying that because you sound like a paranoid adolescent.	/r/seduction	22/04/16 06:11 PM
4	NEVER assume she is taken unless SHE says she is! Or just assume they're her brother. Even if they have entirely different skin tones, it'll be humorous.	/r/seduction	22/04/16 03:40 PM
0	Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction? How old are you? 17? 16?	/r/seduction	22/04/16 03:33 PM
1	Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction? You bring up a good point. Getting down into the specifics of moment to moment seduction is not entirely the focus of this. And if you understand why that is, it makes a whole lot more sense. Once you are into the person you are trying seduce's sphere it becomes less about "manipulation," and more of just steady progression toward that sexual interaction. I'd imagine that if you are interested in the actual act of seduction you may be in better luck first defining what that means to you (making …	/r/seduction	21/04/16 07:20 PM
1	I've been in a relationship for two years and just now realize I have no idea how to date or hookup. Mind answering some of my questions? You don't have to keep it up. You can just be yourself and express the level of energy you're feeling. It comes and goes, but in a surfing analogy, riding the waves as they come is far better than forcing yourself to stand on flat ocean. Both you and she will feel more at ease.	/r/seduction	19/04/16 06:32 AM
3	I've been in a relationship for two years and just now realize I have no idea how to date or hookup. Mind answering some of my questions? Start slow, don't force a spin and a kiss. Feel it out. Most of dating is moving toward further levels of physicality and intimacy at appropriate times.	/r/seduction	18/04/16 05:01 PM
0	What to say when girl on my bed says, "I don't netflix and chill?" She was expressing the fact that she isn't interested in just fooling around. I'd imagine she wants something genuine and meaningful, not just a hookup.	/r/seduction	13/04/16 04:38 PM
3	Where has this community gone from the beginning? Read a book about something fascinating, let's say the psychology of influence. It will be interesting because it's novel. Read another. Then another. The third, even if it is as critically acclaimed as the first, will seem stale. You know the basics. The next step isn't simply reading for the sake of collecting knowledge. The next step would be integrating the skill of persuasion into your own life and for your own goals.	/r/seduction	16/03/16 08:51 PM
2	Killing my AA methodically, Part 1 Nicely done. Continual submersion in social environment will likely allow for you to learn the skills necessary to maintain this. There may be a sort of a honeymoon phase buzz here, so don't be disheartened when you fall out of this 'state.' This is a taste of how it can feel with ample practice or simply being in the right mindset!	/r/seduction	01/03/16 12:25 PM
2	Talking to women..ugh To find conversation interesting you need to cultivate being interested. Genuine care as to what a person is saying is integral. The view that you're simply enduring it for sex is inimical to actually forming a bond. There is a term in social psychology, "connect talk," for what we typically consider to simply be small talk. I find this distinction important, as it illustrates the role of this sort of conversation. However, finding yourself limited to this range of conversation leads me to belie…	/r/seduction	01/03/16 12:04 PM
3	Just realized I have no game. I believe drinking while on your pills may cause liver damage. Certainly not worth it.	/r/seduction	28/02/16 04:46 PM
0	How to escalate with this girl? Lick her ears when she isn't looking	/r/seduction	04/02/16 06:38 PM
1	Tinder: Been using it for months, 0 matches. The link is in the comment thread. I responded to another person with the video he says it in. He is extremely active on his YouTube channel. You'd likely get a reply if you asked.	/r/seduction	01/02/16 03:55 AM
1	Tinder: Been using it for months, 0 matches. He's fantastic. I'd recommend finishing them. This guy is one of the best lecturers I've run across for psychology. I download his lectures to MP3 and put them on my phone for drives. I used to take notes on his lecture, for the first 7 or 8. I can send you my notes if you want.	/r/seduction	31/01/16 09:03 PM
6	Tinder: Been using it for months, 0 matches. http://youtu.be/UgRaLmCOwYU this is a lecture where he goes into some of the Big 5 personality traits citing gender differences in each	/r/seduction	31/01/16 06:06 PM
186	Tinder: Been using it for months, 0 matches. Jordan Peterson, a psychologist at the University of Toronto, cited a study wherein it was found that a whopping 85% of males on an online dating site were rated as being 'below average' by female participants.	/r/seduction	31/01/16 09:19 AM
5	Just been cheated on. Need some advice from you guys Vulnerability is integral to growth. This is a lesson to be more selective in those he becomes vulnerable to, not to become reclusive and closed off.	/r/seduction	07/01/16 04:52 AM
1	Just broke up with gf.. It's unreal how differently things change Great. Dependence is not.	/r/seduction	07/01/16 01:23 AM
1	Just broke up with gf.. It's unreal how differently things change Dependence is not a stage of grievance. He appears to be eschewing a natural emotional reaction to this.	/r/seduction	07/01/16 01:10 AM
1	20M Need pointers going up to girls at a bar and holding conversation Become more interesting. Read books, watch lectures, watch films.	/r/seduction	07/01/16 12:41 AM
2	To those who read No More Mr. Nice Guy This is bigger than seduction. Much. I've gotten beyond it though. For me, being able to adequately interact with the opposite sex is moreover a side effect of living a quality life. If you have no direction, drive, unique interests, or solid career you will likely never get to that place without even more effort than is worthwhile. What's the sake of picking up women, aside from the short-term pleasure, if you haven't a life to return to that makes you feel fulfilled? Shouldn't a life partner o…	/r/seduction	06/01/16 07:02 PM
2	[FR} "36 Questions" What is the link to the article?	/r/TheRedPill	16/01/15 01:14 PM
2	My approach with honesty and unlearning what I had learned (Mark Manson trigger warning). That's definitely on her end then. Your philosophy on it all is the best way to go, you gave it what you could and there's no sake in expending unnecessary energy stressing about it.	/r/seduction	09/12/14 02:42 AM
2	My approach with honesty and unlearning what I had learned (Mark Manson trigger warning). What ended up happening?	/r/seduction	08/12/14 02:48 AM
6	The "non negotiables". Or preventing a bachelor from becoming a pig Meditation. At least 10 minutes every day. The effects on my self-awareness and cognitive function are profound. It makes it easier to hone in on my own goals and block out the extraneous. I practice mindfulness meditation, also called vipassana meditation. It involves sitting in an alert posture (you can be in a chair or leaning against something, doesn't have to be cross-legged) and begins with focusing on your breath. Once you focus on your breath begin shifting attention to other areas of yo…	/r/TheRedPill	07/12/14 03:49 AM