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well it would be difficult to call it a pump and dump if she doesn't have any reason to treat you any different. If you want it to be more, should probably have thay conversation, but it seems like she's not all that interested in a committed relationship if she's treating you like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:36 PM
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Are you guys officially dating or...?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:26 PM
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yea then I get what you mean. I have some female friends who fall on both sides. Some who are clearly more interested in being "one of the guys", and then the ones who do it because they genuinely have a passion for it. There's a notable difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 07:42 PM
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well politics, watching sports, and posting on social media are the main ones that I really dislike. The other ones are just stuff that ime, I tend to not be very attracted to the men who engage in those kinds of hobbies. This is with the idea that it's a hobby they are notably passionate about. eg. idc if a guy likes to dress fashionably, that's actually a plus, but I don't like it if it's one of his hobbies. And for painting and writing and stuff, there are just certain types of people who ten…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 07:35 PM
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what would be considered masculine hobbies? And would it possible for a woman to "pass the test" and seem to genuinely like it for what it is rather than as a way to "not be like other girls"? If they did would that make a difference for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 07:27 PM
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Politics (I like a man who's aware, but if he won't shut up about it, it's far too stressful). Watching sports. Partying/clubbing/drinking, etc. The arts, such as painting, dance, poetry, writing, etc. It doesn't usually do any favours in terms of my interest levels. It depends how they engage in them tho. Like the type of subject matter and the kind of dance. Specifically acting, fashion, or if they're engaging a lot in having a social media presence, the types of personalities that go along wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 06:57 PM
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I'm anticipating the fall of western society
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 12:25 AM
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I want children. I of course would love to have children of my own, but part of me is also at odds with bringing children into this world. I would be willing to adopt children if I didn't have any of my own. If I had my own biological children as well as adopted, I'd be to worried about developing a bias that would be detrimental to the adopted child.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 12:21 AM
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Boo Boo Cat approves as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 08:13 PM
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mmm. Not totally. I should have handled myself better than I did, but I know what that kind of extreme pain does to people. My partner had also said some extremely hurtful things that were very uncharacteristic of him. Maybe I've just had enough time to process it and understand myself tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 06:06 AM
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Yes. I said some horribly awful things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:48 AM
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As a religious person, I kindly disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:47 AM
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Religious reasons. I accept his reasons why, I'm just not handling it as well as I thought I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:42 AM
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My partner is currently practicing abstinence. I appreciate what he's doing and wish I could exhibit the levels of self-control he's capable of, but the lack of sex or even just sexual interactions between us is wearing on me mentally more than I expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:33 AM
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I can definitely see Vanessa being an attractive name. To me it comes across as more of a mature kind of beauty tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:31 AM
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Enid? I've never heard of that name before but it actually sounds pretty to me. I do get how more old fashioned names tend to sound 'uglier' as people associate them with older people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:29 AM
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definitely 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:28 AM
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Excluding the meme names in this community, Stacy, Chad, etc., what kind of names 'sound' attractive to you. Like if you heard that someone had that name, you would assume they're good looking. Also the opposite. What kinds of names 'sound' ugly to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:19 AM
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I'm not keen on rating, but Sterling is the most attractive to me. Pichel is also appealing but mainly just because he looks the friendliest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:58 AM
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Australian is pretty attractive. I've always liked the Australian accent a lot. Which is funny because I find a British accent annoying. Regardless of personal preference tho, having an accent will always help you stick out from the crowd which is usually a good thing as long as you have other positive traits to go with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:55 AM
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yes, because I was obviously the one making these proposals 🙄 It should have not had rape exceptions from the start. Regardless, it's understandable why they did it that way. It's a lot easier to introduce changes slowly. It's a political strategy to make change bit by bit. eg. In my country I probably wouldn't start by totally outlawing abortions even if that is what I believe would be morally correct. It would be completely rejected in a country where previously abortions were legal all the wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 10:32 PM
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Yea. The problem is kids being killed. The taking of innocent life is never a solution, not even in situations like rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:34 PM
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idk too much about other animals. like for some animals, just the sex process is incredibly painful. In terms of the fall, the entire world fell. Including the animals and nature. Men have still been extremely affected as well. I still think the benefits of being able to experience creating and nurturing life within you far outweigh period and the pain of childbirth. If that weren't the case, no woman would have more than one kid of their own volition.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:56 PM
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Children are an incredible gift. Being able to create life within oneself is a privilege, not a curse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:27 PM
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Other than the gender bias, it could be because the second paragraph comes across as abrasive. Like the boundaries themselves are reasonable, but the way you elaborate in the second paragraph can come across critical of women I suppose. I don't really think it is of course. I think both men and women, when maintaining a very close friendship with a member of the opposite sex, there will always be that dynamic where one is just waiting for an opportunity to sabatoge or make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:16 PM
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Begin here
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:08 AM
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So how does this system work? Do you have to re-mark every time she takes a shower? Or is it like a one and done?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:08 AM
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lol my comment basically had the exact same boundaries stated and not a word. There's really nothing wrong with asserting yourself and what you're comfortable with. That's what women are told to do all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:01 AM
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girls will too lol. but sooner or later people come to realize the things they've overlooked or are missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:44 AM
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Hey that's true lol. plus I've got a lot of gay friends. There aren't any in my city but might make a fun ending to a day trip into one of the larger nearby cities. idk how much my gay friends are into that scene tho, they mostly like to chill at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:18 AM
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I agree. I was just contemplating the idea of if that would even be possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:14 AM
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I agree but I really wish it wasn't that way. I absolutely love dancing and find it to be one of the funnest and freeing things, especially in a high energy environment with a large crowd. But clubs have basically been off limits for me from the moment I've been of legal age, for this exact reason (well first it was covid, now it's because I'm in a relationship)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:00 AM
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I agree. I in no way mean people should be discontent if their partner isn't perfect, but if I think of every single thing I've fantasized about in a male partner, I genuinely don't think a person like that could exist. I'm still head over heels for my partner of course and am more than happy to be with him, but he's only human and has his own distinct personality that of course doesn't align with absolutely everything I could ever wish for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:55 AM
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So there's nothing about him that isn't ideal or anything you wish he could be more of in some way? I'm not trying to suggest people are discontent with their partners, it just really is somewhat difficult to believe that you could find a person that embodies every single thing you could ever want in a partner. No gaps or missing pieces. It's fantastic if you have though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:50 AM
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Really? So there's not a single thing he does that isn't ideal, or something missing you would like?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:33 AM
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What percent of people actually end up with everything they've ever wanted in a partner. Down to the last letter. I'm thinking more specifically personality-wise here. I'm sure plenty of people can find someone they will genuinely enjoy spending the rest of their life with, but it must be very rare, if not impossible to find Mr/Mrs. Everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:12 AM
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I have a few friends who have dyed their hair some funky colours, blue included, and they all have varying political stances.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:50 AM
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for ltr, a lot of people do care. Not all of course. But it's definitely not a non-issue for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:28 AM
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I wouldn't know cuz I've never been man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 12:16 AM
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take it slow and ask them when they come to mind. If there's anything important that would make a big difference to you personally and your willingness to stay with her, I'd tackle those ones first.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:53 PM
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considering I generally don't like superhero movies or violent films, I think it was pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:32 PM
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Just because someone has changed their approach to dating over a bad break-up doesn't mean they're consumed by trauma. It's perfectly normal to try things in life, see that it didn't work out, and then change directions and tactics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:14 PM
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oh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:01 PM
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Just because I don't have casual sex doesn't mean I have trauma
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:00 PM
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no. women are females and men are males. Whoopie
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:38 PM
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Actually an interesting fact is that gender birth ratios are actually slightly skewed in favour of men, especially in specific ethnic and cultural groups. My country has no laws regulating abortions, so if you're the kind of person who really just wants a son to carry forward the legacy, there's no need to carry a girl to term. There are some laws that try to prevent this by not allowing you to know what gender the baby is until the window for abortion has passed. But in a country with no laws s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:36 PM
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women of course will only give birth to females in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:28 PM
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oh weird. I did delete mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:15 PM
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I removed it myself lol cuz there was no context
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:10 PM
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I did cheat (not like physically sexually, but it was a betrayal nonetheless), I didn't get caught. I outed myself immediately afterwards. I suppose it's hard to gauge how many cheaters haven't been caught cuz... well... they haven't been caught. A lot of people I'm friends with have cheated or caught their partner cheating tho. My close friend sent nudes to another guy while in her relationship and he "forwarded" them to our entire friend group. My other friend was cheated on by her bf and caug…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:38 AM
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I mean I suppose. Is your friend group very small?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:40 AM
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I only hang out with my friends once every month or so. Just went to a movie and dinner with them last Sunday and am still recovering. I'll never understand people who go out out all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:35 AM
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I can't remember 100% because it was a while ago. I had a long time crush on this guy back in high school. He would flirt with me a lot so I thought he was interested. When he finally found out I liked him he bullied me about it every time I saw him. He'd make jokes about my appearance, personality and intelligence (honestly pathetic seeing that he later dropped out of highschool). It wasn't the end of the world and I've heard he's doing okay for himself now, which I'm glad for. Sounds like he's…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:58 PM
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lmao go him
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:19 PM
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that pic is a bit too extreme for my tastes, but high and defined cheekbones are traditionally considered attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:47 PM
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like shit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 06:02 AM
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I have this toxic trait of believing that as long a man is a woman’s main man, and getting all the benefits, a few chads she fucks here and there shouldn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 12:01 AM
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well yea. Same with factors such as height and income to a degree. There are plenty of ways to help yourself live up to the standards you want to hold, such as moving, increasing your own value, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:39 PM
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Been on the receiving end.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:38 PM
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One Piece 100%!!!!!! My absolute favourite!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:34 PM
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At this point, I'd be surprised to meet someone who doesn't have daddy issues. I don't think I have a single friend (not even gender specific) that doesn't have some kind of complication in their relationship with their father. Some more severe than others obv, but issues nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:33 PM
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I would judge it based on how much success they are having in finding potential partners who fit the bill and they actually have a chance with. If they can find Absolutely no person who fills their standards and actually is interested in them romantically, their standards are probably unreasonably high for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:30 PM
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idk tbh. I really value honesty, but that would hurt so bad. I wouldn't leave them if they told me given the context, but it would be very difficult to get over. I think I still would value that they wanted to be honest with me but the fact that it took fifteen years hurts a lot on top of just what they did. I would rather not know, but I would understand if they really needed to come clean after all that time. I wouldn't know fully how I'd react unless I was in that situation tho, perhaps I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 11:51 PM
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😊😊 damn, compliments from other women hit different tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 10:20 PM
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disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 09:42 PM
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yea, I know it isn't something personal towards me, it was just because he was so into it when we first got together, it dying off so suddenly was hard to deal with. Also I'm very high libido, so it does cause some conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 09:07 PM
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nah I like it up here
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 09:00 PM
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damn. That stings. My bf has recently been really distant sexually as well, so I totally get how the guy feels. Hard not to take it personally when they used to be all over you and suddenly stop seemingly without a legitimate reason. At least my bf didn't have a hoe phase before me, but in a situation like this, that's just the icing on the cake for making a man (or person in general) feel unwanted sexually
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 08:29 PM
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Northern women are colder.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 08:23 PM
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Well, slightly different than last time. I think I've gotten worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:57 PM
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Chinese
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:57 PM
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Moderate/conservative, no pill, but if I really must, purple/red.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:52 PM
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nah. I go to the chiro regularly and it does wonders for aches and pains. Totally helped me recover from a twisted hip. My mother also took me there when I was infant because I would cry in pain every time she picked me up. Took me to the chiro and after one adjustment, never happened again.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:08 PM
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that's all it takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:18 PM
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Yup, ears. I just got them done a month ago lol. There weren't super strict rules, my dad was just very vocal about what he did and didn't like. He literally told my bro that if he grew a man bun, he'd cut it off in his sleep (Ik my dad was mostly joking about that one, but I still wonder sometimes. He didn't like us girls getting short boy haircuts (not that we ever tried to) and we definitely weren't allowed to dye our hair. He doesn't approve of tattoos or piercings of any kind. My mom couldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:09 PM
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This reminds me of my dad. He looked heartbroken when I got my ears pierced lol. You best believe if I get a tattoo it's gonna be somewhere I can hid it easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:58 PM
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that cannot possibly be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:56 PM
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not married yet. Just in a ltr. I haven't had guys proposition me tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:07 PM
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nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:04 PM
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nah. my bf thinks it's weird that I talk about sex with my friends. He's technically religious, but his friends definitely don't hold any reservations because of it. He just told me guys don't rlly talk about that stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:02 PM
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I'd go for it. Like not full on so you don't risk anything. But like, go for a kiss or smthn first. So if she genuinely doesn't want it, you at least didn't do anything that would make her rlly upset or feel invaded. I just can't see a woman being that touchy with a man without being somewhat interested. Plus women like it when men make the first move, so she might just be testing the waters to see if you're man enough to actually take the plunge, Even if she wasn't all that interested before, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:55 PM
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"the good black guy" slaps another man in public. lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:40 PM
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yea I get that. My family has always been harsh with one another, but tbh I prefer if they're gonna say anything, to say it to my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:31 PM
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idk. I don't have much issue with bald men. but iT's gotta be smthn that happens naturally to women cuz balding is natural for men. edit. sorry. opposite of bald chick is also hard to pinpoint. It's gotta be the guy actively doing smthn to his appearance that makes him significantly less attractive. i can't think of smthn rn tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:30 PM
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no. bald is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:28 PM
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Oh that's some of the worst kind of hurt. I used to sleep-in a lot when I was younger and walls are thin, so I could always hear them talking in the kitchen in the morning. Have since moved to a basement room so the problem is less frequent, but it does really hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:27 PM
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I remember someone posting a similar study here that broke down the study groups a bit differently. It showed that there were more straight men with very low n-counts, and more straight men with extremely high n counts (40-50+ or smthn like that). Whereas for straight women, there were less extremely low n-counts and less extremely high ones, most hovered at a moderate amount. I wish I could link the study, cuz otherwise this doesn't matter too much, but basically if you average it all out, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:21 PM
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Fair enough. Can't argue with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 03:49 AM
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we could just say neither too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 03:48 AM
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women are bad and men are bad
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 03:39 AM
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I've been there 😮‍💨 Had a couple of those moments. Been recently re-adding a few I've been missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:56 AM
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Lots of crafting. videogames. Drawing. playing instruments. baking. I enjoy learning new skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:20 PM
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1) water. Maybe a glass of milk if I'm feeling bold. 2) Chilling with my man while he plays games. Going on a date tmrw. Gonna get homework done too, crochet a bit, game a bit. The usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:33 AM
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I suppose I function very different from you. I've heard of the term "Maximizer" before, but mainly in conjunction with the term "satisficer". Basically the "that's good enough" mindset. I somewhat understand the flow state as I achieve that often with my hobbies. I just would feel exhausted if I had to challenge myself that way in my career as well. I'm sort of picking my battles. In a career, I mostly am a satisficer, I just want something that works. I suppose I'm always aiming for the "relax…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:01 AM
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It's a mix. I love laid-back men, but I also want a guy who will step up to the plate when he needs to. I also like him to be passionate about what he does. If it's too extreme, it becomes like the absolute biggest turn-off for me tho. Best way to explain it, I like a guy who will put his best effort in but doesn't get pissy when he loses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:16 AM
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Yea. I have no problem with other people cussing and I've never really noticed anyone feel uncomfortable around me because I don't. It just feels unnatural coming from my lips so I refrain from doing it. Although despite me not swearing, I don't generally give off a "clean" impression lol. I'm polite and all that, but I realize the way I dress and carry myself generally puts guys at ease anyways. That's probably why I never notice men hesitating to let loose around me haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:13 AM
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I've never really understood the need to shoot for the best. I'm way over-qualified for my college and program. I just picked something that seemed easy and payed well enough for me to be comfortable. I don't understand why I need the best when average will do me just fine. I consider my man to be absolutely everything I want, but it wasn't like I sifted through a bunch of men to find the right one. By all means, my bf is an average joe in most categories, but after falling in love with him and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:03 AM
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true. I don't like when it doesn't add anything to what the person is saying. If they're going to use a curse for emphasis, it should at least be something worth emphasizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 03:30 AM
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lol yea. I have the same thoughts. I don't care at all when my bf is cursing non-stop during a bad match or smthn, but when it comes to certain subject matter I feel more "ick" about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 03:21 AM
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Yea. Cursing every other sentence and talking about vulgar subject matter, as opposed to using swear words in particular contexts and for emphasis. It probably makes a difference in how much it's going to affect attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 03:19 AM
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Yea, I'm sure the majority of men don't care (or can't afford to care) since the majority of women do swear. I was just curious if my man was an anomaly in that way, or if there are other men who feel similarly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 03:13 AM
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I'm 20 and certainly still feel like a teenager. I'm still dependent on my parents, so that's a major reason why. I find it hard to consider myself an adult when I have little to none real adult responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 03:11 AM
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Q4M: I'm maybe a bit out of touch with current culture surrounding this topic, but does a woman cursing or using vulgar language affect your attraction to her at all? Barring my interactions with randos online and certain intimate activities, I never swear or curse. My partner has always told me he likes it about me as he thinks it makes me more feminine. Idk if that's just a him thing or if other men feel like it makes a difference as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 02:59 AM
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I don't know a lot of guys who hate cats tbh. But I agree, cat men get a +2. My man's got two adorable furry friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:21 PM
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yea. I think it's a difference between being comfortable without saying things and feeling understood, and legitimately fearing saying anything. My partner has a lot of trauma from his childhood and teenage years that I honestly have no idea the extent of or what actually happened. But I'd never pressure him to share if he wasn't comfortable, it just would pain me to know that his reason for keeping it to himself was a lack of trust for me or because he's scared of me (that's not his reason for …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:04 PM
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What makes it different for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:17 PM
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fair enough lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:14 PM
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Lmao. interesting answer. I'm assuming you wouldn't be as into it if it was affecting how much she was having sex with you tho, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:07 PM
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True. If my man had a gay affair I would definitely feel betrayed. But maybe a bit less hurt than if it was with a woman. But it is still cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:54 PM
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yea. It does make sense. Like you can't really offer to her what a woman has, so it's not like she's just trading you out for a better version.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:52 PM
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I would too if it were role reversal. But do you think it would hurt just as much as if she did it with a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:46 PM
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Interesting. Why would it not hurt for you versus if it were with a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:46 PM
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Q4M: Would it make a difference for you if your girl cheated on you with another woman versus a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:42 PM
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Before my bf and I were dating I had someone ask if we were cousins and everyone says we look alike. I even did those gender bend filters on myself and it looked a lot like my bf. We look very similar in a way because I have very dark hair and eyes, and usually have a pretty good tan going on. But my siblings look nothing like him at all. They all have much lighter features than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:30 PM
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my bf's got stretch marks. From his tummy from covid gut and on his back from a huge growth spurt. Idc at all. If anything it helps me feel a bit more secure about mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:23 PM
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my SO would be more important. Of course a compliment coming from anyone is a great mood boost, but only my man gives me flutters lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:00 PM
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My partner is a lot more important to me than some random people, or even friends and family. For one: I don't go out much and I certainly don't try to put myself online, so I'm never really getting compliments from other people. Compliments from my mother don't hit the same. Compliments from friends is genuinely really awesome, but also not the most common occurrence. And even with that, it's far more special to receive compliments from the love of my life. He's the one I want to be attractive …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:51 PM
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😳 You may be right
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:41 AM
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Wrong. My best friend is head-over-heels for an objectively unattractive man. Just hung out with her today and she's obsessed as ever, over 3 years into the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 06:10 AM
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Personally, if I can tell a man is purposely trying to filter himself to be more PC, that's more of a turn-off than if he makes jokes I'd find distasteful. There aren't many jokes I do find distasteful other than one's were I can tell there's genuine malice. eg. a racist joke coming from a guy who just likes shock humor/dark humor versus a racist joke coming from an actual racist (Many would argue if you make a racist joke at all, you're immediately racist. I'm inclined to disagree but I don't w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:11 AM
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From what I've seen, you don't seem uber religious to me. No offense lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 01:49 AM
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idk. I'm enjoying my life pretty good rn.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 01:48 AM
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lmao doesn't that defeat the purpose of it. It's supposed to be for modesty and so men won't be a distraction for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:45 AM
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fuck why did this make me cry 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:24 AM
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Idk, I think I'd be pretty upset to find out my mother/father is living a double life. Even if the kids somehow never find out, whatever happened to living with integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:02 AM
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Red flag: your man doesn't put trackers on your phone and stalk you everywhere you go to ✨make sure you're safe✨
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:54 AM
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coke
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:38 AM
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No. I'm not a huge fan of em. Aba, from Aba & Preach.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:34 AM
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Lol probably shoulda linked that article in the original comment. I suppose so then. My dad and the couple others I know are probably just on the lucky side lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 08:59 AM
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Idk. My dad's 55 and he looks pretty great for his age. Full head of hair, no grey, minimal wrinkles, very active and fit. It's Really just luck of the draw for a lot of people. Also very thin people tend to age faster I find. She aged very unfortunately. Also she chose a very unflattering hairstyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 07:38 AM
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Yea. For the most part I just find them annoying. I've got some other peeps I watch that provide an alternative perspective to mainstream opinions that I enjoy tho. Fresh and Fit just irritate me tbh lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 07:12 AM
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I saw some bits and pieces because one of my fave YouTubers was a guest. Then they had some drama. I don't think highly of the fresh and fit guys, but I suppose I have a bias. They seem very performative.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 07:07 AM
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0%
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:45 AM
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They probably would approach a short ugly guy dancing. What they're wrong about is it generally doesn't mean the woman finds him attractive or as a romantic prospect. It's just cuz they want a fun dance. I've approached plenty of guys I'm not attracted to and asked to dance, because that's just what I do at dances and makes things more lively. They're wrong to tell men it means women are genuinely interested in them tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:19 AM
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I wouldn't say it's all that matters, but it's certainly important. Definitely moreso than how fun you are to dance with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:11 AM
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tbh I've danced with all kinds of guys at dance functions. I used to participate in an annual swing dance in my town, I'd be playing in the band for a bit of the night, and dance for the rest. The funnest guys to dance with were the one's who just didn't give a shit. In those environments everyone dances with everyone. My favourite dancing partner was this guy who was absolutely wild. He was a very odd guy and not super attractive to me, but it sure made for a fun night. caveat is that in these …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:08 AM
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I usually never assume someone is flirting with me. I used to have very low self confidence, and that mixed with a history of rejection, has made me always assume any man who talks to me is not flirting. I would agree with you for most women. If you're talking to any woman in a casual manner, especially joking around or teasing, most will perceive it as flirting. I told my boyfriend this because he loves to tease people and joke around a lot. I see how girls react to it cuz he's a good looking a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:07 AM
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yayyyy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:48 AM
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Teenagers have the most fun lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:01 AM
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What kind of NPC's. I wanna be a shopkeeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 02:47 AM
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My sister just realized one of her co-workers is related to us. Sometimes the world can be pretty small.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 02:45 AM
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yea. It's peaceful
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 02:39 AM
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cute!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 02:34 AM
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yea. I wanna get my eating habits under control better. I'm not that bad because I don't tend to keep a lot of junk food in the house, but if it's there I have a hard time ignoring it. Got any tips?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:39 AM
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yea. Communication is extremely important. If your partner can't get a handle on it, it might be best breaking it off earlier before you get too attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:22 AM
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I want to reach that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:21 AM
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Guns scare me. I don't like to touch them or be near them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:15 AM
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I have a friend who's boyfriend is like this. She's constantly coming to me for advice for their relationship. He ignores her texts a lot and will go through phases of never wanting to be around her. Recently he told her that he never misses her when they're apart. He's not a genuinely bad guy, I just don't think he's mentally well enough to maintain their relationship. She pulls a lot of the slack and is extremely patient with him, but she struggles a lot because of it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:08 AM
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I mean generally me and my friends are pretty open about that stuff. I just don't hang around a ton of partiers or women who have casual sex. I definitely know a lot of women who are more sexually active, but I know just as many, most likely more who simply aren't interested. It's not abnormal to only have 1 or 2 different relationships before settling down. Women who do that aren't usually in the same social circles as those who are open to casual sex tho. Neither is abnormal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:22 AM
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Yea. I know very few women close to 10. I'm young tho. But I have lots of friends in their mid-twenties too, and I know for sure they'd only be at around 2 or 3. Of course I do have a few friends with wickedly high n-counts, but they're definitely the minority. Could just be my social circles, but low n-count women aren't unicorns and they definitely aren't difficult to find. They're just easily overlooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:11 AM
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Depends a lot on location. In my city, low n-count would probably be more the norm. In a bigger city with more of a night life, I could see things being very different. I'm in a fairly conservative area too. Most girls I knew back in high school and now in college are just working on their career or trying to find a good man to settle down with. The women who are inclined to that lifestyle are just trying to get out of this town as fast as possible lol. I have a very diverse collection of friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:01 AM
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lmao actually tho. My dad's already got money set aside for mine
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:08 AM
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Kill Taylor, fuck Ariana, marry Selena.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 11:43 PM
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y'know ur prolly kinda right. Personally I flirt with my gf's all the time (never to the extent ur talking bout here, I don't go to clubs tho) even when it's just a girl's night or sum. But I could see myself getting a little more extreme for male attention if I ever went to a club or smthn like that. I am highly motivated by male validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:40 AM
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Can you give me examples of something that is always right or always wrong? Deception/lies are always wrong. Stealing is always wrong. Murder is always wrong. Adultery is always wrong. There are some issues that may cause pause and I may not have an immediate answer, or may have a hard time finding an answer to, but I believe there always is one. Not that every actions is subject to morality, but if someone commits a wrong action, no nuance about the situation will make it "less wrong", in my op…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:36 PM
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I have a very strict moral code, mostly because I have a religion and a set of guidelines to follow. There is no nuance in my view of morality. It's either right, wrong or completely amoral, it's just complicated situations that cause us to have difficulty determining which. Morality is meaningless without any reference point, which most people don't have. Otherwise you're just stumbling around in the dark trying to ascribe meaning to actions arbitrarily. These are my beliefs about it anyways. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:43 PM
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I'm currently dating one of my long time close friend's exes. I didn't ask he and I didn't tell her about till about 4 months into dating when I happened to run into her at the mall (I keep in touch with my friends very infrequently). They'd been broken up for around 3 years at that point and she was already in a new ltr. The break up wasn't exactly good, but they remained friendly over the years. It took him a while to get over her, whereas she was the one to initiate the break up. In my specif…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 12:45 PM
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tell me about it 😮‍💨
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:46 AM
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I'm a straight girl and I can affirm we're gay af
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:13 AM
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get bitches
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:31 AM
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that would be kinda fun tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 11:14 PM
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I know quite a few women who believe in UFO's too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 10:05 PM
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I use a different one every day
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 09:51 PM
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eh. I think it would be a bit weird at first but I'd get used to it. My brother started dating one of my jazz band mates that I was decent friends with, and that wasn't so bad. It might be a bit more annoying if it was a best friend, but I'd get used to it. If they're happy, who am I to whine about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 09:34 PM
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a small percentage, but I have a bias
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:47 PM
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I simped for a couple years, held his hand on a movie night, and then we did the tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:23 PM
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100% men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:48 PM
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Yea. She's definitely gorgeous in the second pic, but in a bit of a scary way. I prefer friendlier faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:22 PM
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I agree. I think she looks cuter in the before pic, but I'm more into cute girls rather than sexy anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:06 PM
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yea. I realize that more now that I've been on this sub for a while. Initially joining, I just thought people were out of their minds lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 07:25 PM
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yea tbh I think that's part of why I felt like trp is so out of touch with reality. I live in a tiny city in a conservative rural area, and the dating scene looks nothing like what I see described here. I'm sure maybe that a lot of these dating issues are a lot more prominent in more urban areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 07:22 PM
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lol he's just saying what he's into. It's not that deep. Women have lots of preferences about men as well. It's not a crime to find certain features attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:50 PM
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Once a week. is minimum. dead bedroom after a month or so. I prefer sex at least once a day or more, but my man is low libido. We've been dangerously close to dead bedroom before.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:08 PM
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No, but that's yummy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:05 PM
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religion
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:45 AM
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lmao okay 🤣 I sure know a ton of chads then including my bf. Most men I know are chads I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:54 PM
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I think this sub has simultaneously made me more blue and red pilled because of all the shit takes I see on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:49 PM
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So does a chad need chad qualities or does he just need bitches?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:47 PM
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because those ickle girls don't know any better
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:37 PM
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Already making preparations. I really tried my best, but I guess it's just in my nature as a woman to be awful. It can't be helped I suppose 😮‍💨 edit: /s before I get more concerned messages from reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:28 PM
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ohkay. I admit I'm just psychotic and narcissistic and my love for my partner is fabricated to account for my greed. I'm so sorry I exist. Men are just so much better and genuine people, and I realize now that it's my shitty behaviour that turned them into bad people, and they aren't actually responsible for any of their actions. I'm gonna go off myself now cuz I clearly only can bring pain and suffering to this world and I'm aware enough to realize that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:24 PM
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I don't really understand how reading a fiction book can be any better than playing a videogame. A lot of the games I play have stories. They're literally just books but better. Maybe you struggle with an addiction or something, but most people do play games for entertainment and derive joy from them. I view my gaming the exact same way as I view my other hobbies. My crocheting, knitting, art, piano, violin, etc. It's all just something meant to bring joy to my life and nothing more, just like v…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:49 PM
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I don't see how it's bad unless you're addicted. A lot of the games are essentially as useful as reading a fiction novel. It's a hobby. If it relieves stress and brings joy, I wouldn't call it a bad habit. It's also great for socializing. My bf has way closer connections with his friends than I do, solely because of his gaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:36 PM
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lmao I saw that discussion 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:07 AM
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😊 definitely feel blessed for my locks haha
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:16 AM
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My man says his favourite feature about me is my hair. Got naturally wavy/curly hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:10 AM
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Same. I've watched it quite a few times and end up bawling every time lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 12:46 AM
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If you're open minded to anime, A Silent Voice gets me crying every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 12:45 AM
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I don't like to put my location on the internet, but I sincerely doubt you'd know what it is if I told you lol. Population is just a bit over 100, 000 surrounded by farmland
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 12:42 AM
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Sometimes it just has to do with style too. Lots of hairstyles can hide receding hairlines. Beards and facial hair can either improve or worsen looks depending on the guy. Good skincare is great. Sometimes picking a niche style can make up for not great looks either. For example, piercings can make really add interest and lots of girl like that, but it can just as easily push women away. Of course working out and shaping your body helps a lot. Especially if you have a round face. Other than that…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 12:39 AM
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like 10-15 minutes to get to the downtown. My city is tiny tho and has hardly anything worthwhile to go do unless you've already got a lot of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 12:31 AM
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My boyfriend being good looking and tall were the initial attractors. Him having a sense of humor, being charismatic and confident made me want to actually start something with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 12:25 AM
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Asked my man this. His answer: "Wheels because of Hot Wheels." I was originally gonna say doors, but this has changed my mind thus far.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 09:50 PM
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I think it kinda works the opposite way. Like I really want kids, but if for some reason that wasn't an option for me or it just didn't end up happening, I'd 100% be getting a lot of pets. So kinda like, women who don't have kids, are more likely to have pets, rather than the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 09:43 PM
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damn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:37 PM
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everyone's violent
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:14 PM
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everyone's manipulative
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:10 PM
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He either is rich af or there's smthn fishy going on. I've never spent more than 100 on a dinner with my current ltr. I would be pretty freaked out and feel guilty af if he took me to a place where the bill would come out that big. Tho I'd probably be relieved he was paying for it too, cuz that's just too much imo. For a first date and arguably any date at all imo (maybe I'm just stingy but it' show I feel lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:07 AM
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Oh noooo. How sad! my bf is cheating on me cuz of his animalistic tendencies to fuck every woman in sight. I'm still gonna dump his ass for it, especially if he tells me, "my instincts made me do it!"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:00 AM
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Yea. I meet most potential partners through social events, school, work, mutuals, etc. So the concept of going on a date as a first meetup is a bit foreign to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 08:02 AM
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well I've never been asked on a first date by a guy so... I do take out my friends and boyfriend a lot. It's been a while since I've been on a first date tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 08:00 AM
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I don't really see how one date is an investment 😅 I probably date in a very different way than you though, so maybe it's not comparable. If I'm at a point where I'm taking a guy on a date, I'm already very interested and invested. Even if after the first date things don't go too well, I'll still be willing to pay as a thank you for their time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 07:59 AM
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If I was the one who asked a guy out, I'm 100% paying for all of it. I do the same when I take my friends out on dates. Whoever's idea it was can pay imo. But I'm not gonna fuss if a guy doesn't pay for a date he's taking me on, I'll always have my wallet ready. I'd just just find it odd. Like why ask me on a date and then make me pay?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 07:48 AM
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I think when most people talk about it, their refering to the fluttery (I'd call it lustful) initial romance people feel for one another in a relationship. The rose-coloured glasses a lot of people are looking through at the start of a relationship. Essentially the infatuation stage. At least that's what I'm refering to. I suppose some people would call a spark simply being very compatible with one another right off the bat. In that case, I would say it's a benefit, but yet again not a requireme…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:12 AM
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lol why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:02 AM
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Yea. I definitely agree, and it's understandable why. In our modern culture, both skinny chicks and curvaceous chicks have had their time to shine. Legitimately chubby girls have not and most likely never will(unless we count the toxic body positivity movement largely led by other women. Even large girls can clearly tell it's all a farce).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:58 PM
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Yea. My fam was very against the hoe shit. Almost to a fault. But with a mix of their ultra-traditionalism and a society culture that very much isn't, I managed to find a healthy balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:50 PM
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Ah alright. Yea I was gonna say any size of woman can deal with deep insecurities about their body, but if we're talking legitimately overweight chick, it is a lot more likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:48 PM
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ah. maybe I shoulda got in on that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:47 PM
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fam. Y'know, if you want a traditional guy, be a traditional woman. That kinda thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:41 PM
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Has that already started?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:38 PM
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I wasn't taught that men want traditional women. I was taught that the men I would have a more successful marriage with, were more into traditional women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:37 PM
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When you say bigger builds, do you mean like just an average body type, or actually got a lil chub?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:36 PM
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True. I took a family and relationships course at my college a year or so ago, and almost every other class my prof would rant about how hollywood ruined people's expectations for marriage and love. I definitely agree that our modern culture's view of romantic love is a huge cause to a lot of these dating struggles and relationship issues people are dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:25 PM
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True. But I find both to be nice, as long as you aren't using that spark as your foundation. Eg. my current partner and I certainly had a spark when getting together and it was a really wonderful experience, but I had to be mindful to not build my entire relationship around it. But I agree, I even sometimes look back at the beginning of my relationship and compare what I have now to it, which always leaves me feeling a bit empty. Sometimes it's better to build off of stability, and let the joys …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:21 PM
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Yea. I've always listened to my mother for relationship advice and she had always told me "You don't need the most amazing person in the world to have a happy marriage, you just need someone you would enjoy living with for the rest of your life."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:17 PM
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Totally. That's why I'm not saying sparks don't matter at all. I consider it a bit of a head start, not a requirement for a happy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 09:15 PM
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yes. Hair conditioner is 10 times better than any shaving cream I've ever used.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:28 PM
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I shave lol. I like hairy men and hairless females. Gotta have em hairy to get both.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:27 PM
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eh. I've interacted with some pretty decent rp guys on here. Certainly not any worse than some of the crazy women on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:22 PM
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nah. My hairy bloodline will go on
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:20 PM
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I like hairy men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:18 PM
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You can tell their personality, hobbies, humour, etc. just by looking at them? I have a fairly pretty friend who is dating a guy that is most definitely lookswise not her match. But he's a genuinely awesome guy if you take the time to get to know him. I crushed on him a little before they got together tbh. But just looking at him or being newly acquainted with him, you wouldn.t be able to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:01 PM
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I don't really think of men while getting off, and if I do, I definitely think of him. Regardless, I'm not policing his thoughts. We just both set boundaries about looking at other men and women as fap material.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:28 PM
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I think it depends on the question being asked. Are they asking women "what kinds of things make you attracted to a man?", or "what kinds of things must a man have for you to consider them as a partner?". If it's the second question, I agree it's ridiculously high standards. But if it's the first question, it's essentially asking a woman to describe an imaginary ideal man. So of course it's a ton of hard to achieve positive characteristics, because no one is going to deny that's attractive. It w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:39 PM
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I wouldn't have a problem with it. If I were single and getting older, and trying to find a a life mate, all I really need is someone I can live with and comfortably raise children with. A spark is nice and all, but it always fades. If I choose to commit myself to a partner I'm sure I could foster a bond and a relationship that matters. Generally most of my strongest attraction comes from a close emotional bond as well, so I'm not worried about unenthusiastic sex. Imo, love is a choice to make. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:28 PM
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I can't really think of a situation where jerking off to other women isn't unfaithful, but whatever. Whatever works for your relationship. I don't treat it the same as cheating, but I still consider it unfaithful. I'm forgiving about it, of course. I'm not gonna throw him out for watching porn. I just let him know I don't appreciate it. My partner feels the exact same way. I never once had to ask him to stop watching porn. When we started dating and we had a conversation about it, he expressed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:13 PM
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My bf turned down other women and also doesn't watch porn. which is my ideal. He views porn the same way as me. We're exclusive to each other, that includes as fap material. It's just what works for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 01:35 AM
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So you both put in the same amount of effort. Imo, the effort people actually put into their partners says a lot about how much they actually care for their partners. You're basically admitting that he only cares about you as much as you do about him, and then saying not very much. If you want him to feel more for you, why don't you put more effort into being worth more than a consolation prize. I had to win my partner over by being the best possible option for him. If anything you're just exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 01:19 AM
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He married you. Doesn't that communicate his feelings towards you clearly enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 01:10 AM
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uhh. well my bf 100% could've landed some pretty hot women before we began dating and he turned them down. I never had to ask him to not watch porn cuz he felt the same about the topic as I do. I wouldn't do the same, I don't need anyone else than my partner. He's the most attractive person to me. And no, I haven't fucked those types of guys (unless I count my bf lol). I have a body count of 1 lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:42 AM
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nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:33 AM
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yup. I'd be fine with just my man's attention. But if I didn't have any man at all in my life giving me sexual/romantic attention, it would take a lot for me to adjust.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:32 AM
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If he's unhappy with our arrangement of sexual exclusivity and can't survive without other women, our values clearly don't align and he clearly doesn't respect the commitment he made to me. That feels to me like a legitimate reason to end a relationship. Maybe you're better suited to an open relationship, but I'm not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:30 AM
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no it's cuz I'm insecure and jealous
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:27 AM
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yoo that's mee. Yea I'm insecure. Obv he's not gonna be having sex with those women, but it hurts to know he's looking at other women to get himself off instead of me. To me it's comparable to those men that get upset that women fucked hotter men than them in their youth. obv they aren't currently competing against those hotter younger men, but they still don't want to deal with the thought that they're being settled for. I don't want my bf to be seeking out and fapping to women that aren't me c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:27 AM
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then he can break up with me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:15 AM
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Getting hard is one thing. Seeking it out and jerking off to it is another. I don't expect my boyfriend to never find other women attractive, but I expect him to have basic self control. It's not just a womanly point of view. I never had to ask my bf to not watch porn, it was a no brainer. If he wants something to jerk off to I'll gladly send him something to use. He doesn't need to be looking at other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:05 AM
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it's not the same extent as literally having sex with another woman, but yea. It is cheating imo. My bf feels the same way. If I was sexting other guys and getting off to looking at other men, that would bother my bf too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 11:40 PM
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none of it. I understand giving in and watching porn every once in a while, but if he's making no effort to stop or doesn't see a problem with it, I'm not there for it. If he's interacting with the women at all that's an immediate deal breaker. If he pays money at all, that's a big problem for me too. I generally consider porn unfaithful. If it's something like hentai, it's more just a disappointment, but won't upset me as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 11:25 PM
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Porn isn't okay. I'm more forgiving of it than if he was actually interacting with the women, but he's still looking at other women's naked bodies. It's a no from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 11:07 PM
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yes. Cuz teenage boys are dumb as shit and will totally peep on girls solely cuz they saw it in a movie one time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 10:57 PM
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Exactly this. I've always thought of it like school grade. 50% is barely passing (but still a pass), 60% is low, 70% is decent, 80% is good, 90% is exceptional, 100% is perfect. Anything under 50% is a fail. That's why I've always found these number scales a bit dumb, because not everyone thinks about it the same way. To me, a 7 is average. But not everyone thinks of it that way, so it becomes confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:15 PM
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tbh I rate most average people 7. I've realized from my time on this sub that people tend to rate things very differently than me. What most people consider a 5 on this sub, I've always thought of as a 7. I think I view it like school grades where 70% is just like a decent grade, 50% is barely passing and 100% is perfect. I've realized people think differently and now I can't really take number ratings all that serious because even if someone says "7", using another person's rating scale, they m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:09 PM
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yea I'd go for the older guy. Assuming everything else is the same. It makes the most sense to me. If this hypothetical situation actually happened, where I had organically had the opportunity to be with either guy, and both men fulfilled everything (or enough of) I want in a partner personality/values wise, I would go for the older one. It seems like a no brainer to me. The only downside I can see is that he would die earlier than me. Now currently, I'm dating a 19 year-old guy who works fast f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:41 PM
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true gender equality means you would drop kick a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:28 PM
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they might have big tits, but that's not what they're famous for
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:26 AM
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Thighs. But if I gotta follow the options, it's tits. Small ones tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:24 AM
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That's great that you'd be able to understand, but some people wouldn't be able to handle it. Do the woman's feelings matter to you at all in a relationship? Someone getting into a relationship unaware that drug use or addiction has been a part of a person's life is deceptive. I understand why someone would feel embarrassed and want to keep it secret to protect themself, but they still have to acknowledge the harm they're causing to their partner by doing that. I don't know if in the original co…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:48 PM
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That's really rough. I'm sorry you had to experience all that. Both the abuse and the invalidation and mockery from women, especially after they were the ones to ask you to open up. It's all so shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:52 AM
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That's such a tough situation. I see both sides of it. I mean I can't say how I would react if my bf disclosed he'd relapsed and had kept it secret for 6 months. I'd probably feel very betrayed and unsure how to navigate things. If my partner is going to be doing drugs and cutting himself all without telling me, I honestly can't say how I would deal with that. But for you, someone who just wants to be supported, loved, and treated like an equal, I can see how it would really hurt for her to star…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:24 AM
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What is your idea of the perfect or near perfect relationship? I don't think I could describe an absolutely perfect relationship simply. But I guess something comfortable. Having someone I know has my back no matter what. Someone to hold me accountable and to grow with me. My current relationship is perfect for me. I certainly wouldn't want to be with anyone else. My partner motivates me to be a better person which means a lot. What is it that initially drew you to your partner? He's really good…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:01 AM
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lmao why?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:11 AM
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not much. It's just that some girls care about it and some don't. It's not a matter of compassion, it's a matter of expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 03:16 AM
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No one's saying that cuz it's unrelated. My compassion doesn't have anything to do with my attraction. It doesn't make me less attracted or more attracted. I feel awful about all the shit my man has been put through and I always comfort and support him when he needs my help or a shoulder to cry on. It had literally no affect on my attraction towards someone. No feeling compassion doesn't make me attracted to a person. It has nothing to do with that. It's not like when I feel sorry for a friend I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 03:06 AM
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Compassion and attraction aren't opposites. they aren't really related at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:58 AM
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sounds like they're trying to tell me I'm so idiotic and there's nothing I can do about it cuz I was born this way. Does not come across as racially motivated to me at all. more just making fun of my family. This is personal not general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 10:05 PM
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It certainly did set him apart from the rest 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:36 PM
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He asked me if I liked Ted Bundy lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:29 PM
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Found a trp man in the wild today. had a fun convo with him. I think he's still new and figuring it all out tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:01 PM
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Cancel male empowerment!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:57 PM
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I'm not on any meds and I don't think I have apnea. My mom has it and I've talked to her about and she doesn't think it fits. I should eventually see a professional about it sometime tho because my sleep is fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:56 PM
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might visit one eventually. broke rn tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:47 PM
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to an extent. If you were going to do it anyways, not as much. If you are genuinely a good honest worker and aren't doing so to earn any good graces, maybe not. But if you are motivated to work hard in order to shift the perception of your employer, your hard work is yet another way to manipulate your employers perception of you. Neither is wrong. Even a very good worker will benefit from learning how to be persuasive with his words and how he presents himself as well as with his actions tho. Ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:26 PM
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it's still persuasion. it's just more ethical. You're still manipulating the way people see you, you're just doing it in an ethical way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:17 PM
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You're not understanding what I'm saying. Anything you do as a human being that is motivated by the desire to change how those around you perceive you and interact with you is a form of manipulation. What works with men is different than what works with women, but we're all still using persuasion to our benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:14 PM
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I guarantee you, everyone still uses manipulation tactics. manipulation is simply behaving in a certain way to get what you want. If that means being a competent person to achieve respect, it's still a persuasion tactic. Manipulation isn't always a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:09 PM
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toddlers are manipulative af. They suck at it cuz we can see right through it, but they'll do anything they can to get that extra cookie, not have to clean up their mess, stay up later, control your attention. We don't lose that going into adulthood, we just learn to control it and be empathetic to others. We also learn to hide it better. It's second nature to interact in a way that will yield the best results for oneself. If I want a specific job, I'm going to do everything I can to persuade my…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:06 PM
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As soon as people are sentient they're trying to manipulate people. Have you ever interacted with a toddler?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:57 PM
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It's in everyone's nature to manipulate. We all want what we want and will do what it takes to get it. Some people have more limits than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:43 PM
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Good advice. I'll start making some changes in my eating then. Think I'm gonna cut pop first. I don't drink much as is, so it's good place to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:30 PM
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damn veggies and activities. Gotta work on that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:27 PM
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I don't drink coffee and still have sleep issues lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:24 PM
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but the sun feels so niceee
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:24 PM
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I feel like tanning is one of those things I just can't give up lol even if it destroys my skin
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:03 PM
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well I don't drink or smoke. I've heard about that too. Trying to up my water.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:02 PM
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yea. tbh I think cutting down on sugar would help a lot for me. It's all common sense I just need the willpower 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:00 PM
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skin-care advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:57 PM
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This is so true. the different friend vibes are real
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:08 PM
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I've always had more girl friends than guy friends. I find it difficult to be friends with men without catching feels and making things awkward af. Was always like that from when I was young. Hung out with women, gay guys, and taken guys cuz I wouldn't start developing feelings for unavailable men. I'm a horny mf tho so I eventually started crushing a bit on my female friends too, but not enough to make it awkward. I'm horribly awkward around men usually, so I've always stuck to females. Been ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:07 PM
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No you're on the right track
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:00 AM
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Be very hot and the dates will come to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:47 AM
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I'm a taller than average women who rejects shorter men and that is solely cuz I'm insecure af.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:25 PM
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I'm just saying if a guy who's ugly as shit rejects a woman who genuinely loves him solely because she's not in denial about how he looks, he's an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:24 PM
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smthn like that. but they'd need to stop making the test such a money grab.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:50 PM
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not an age ban. But at a certain point you should be required to recertify your license regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:47 PM
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There is no such thing as a loving strong relationship without genuine sexual attraction and consistent sex I agree it's important, but whether or not my man and I are having sex doesn't determine whether we love each other or not. If that were the case, I'd have split quite a while ago. If sex is the only thing keeping your relationship together, I can't see that relationship lasting very long. Regardless, someone admitting that their partner's looks is not initially what piqued their interest,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:42 PM
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I really don't think my bf would break up with me over anything I've said here. Lots of times if I said anything similar to that, it's to point out that even if he may not be 100% conventionally attractive, I still find him hot as shit. (tho tbh my man is quite conventionally attractive as well). Regardless, for some people, holding out for that one girl who finds them hot as shit is unrealistic. Sometimes that one girl literally doesn't exist. If you're naturally butt ugly, are you really gonna…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:21 PM
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some people aren't attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:13 PM
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Things like figure skating, gymnastics, dance, tennis, etc. are pretty popular among women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:15 AM
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darn. shoulda known. regardless hipster Stalin is verrry attractive. Real stalin is meh. don't like the moustache
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:06 PM
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no. Young Stalin is hot af tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:03 PM
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Objectively unattractive people have no hope online. I don't believe ugly guys can't get girls (although it definitely limits your options by a landslide), but you're definitely not going to get any in a system where women judge men at a glance. If that glance ain't pretty or at the very least interesting, they'll be moving on quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:17 AM
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School. I pursued fo sho
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:54 PM
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With a stranger, I'd be willing to pay for whatever I got out of it (eg. I would be willing to pay for my own meal, my own ride, my own ticket, etc.). I wouldn't refuse to also pay for my date, but I wouldn't initially offer (unless it was relatively cheap like a coffee or smthn). If I had the money, I would spend a lot on my partner. I can't really put a number on how much, but as long as it doesn't ruin me financially, I would definitely be willing to take my partner out. My bf tends to always…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 10:44 AM
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Yea. It's unfortunate, but it's better to not be with those kinds of people anyways. You'd always feel inadequate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:43 AM
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I don't know how common it is, but it definitely happens. Probably more so with people with deep insecurities. My sister is exactly like this. Her boyfriend is quite good-looking, but he's extremely eccentric. I can't count how many times my sister has asked me for reassurance about her boyfriend. Whether I like him, whether I think he's weird or not, whether she should break up with him, etc.. She's constantly agonizing over how people will perceive him and by extension her. I personally think …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:29 AM
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develop both. good looks makes it easier to land an attractive partner, having a good personality makes it easier to land a great person and a great relationship. I suppose it depends what you're looking for, but developing yourself as a person on top of superficiality is always a good idea, not even just for romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:18 PM
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I mean, I wouldn't hook up with them. As long as they don't lead me on for ages, I wouldn't be upset with them. I tend to be upfront. If I'm spending a lot of time with a guy and a relationship feels like the natural direction, I would probably be up front and tell them I'm only looking for a ltr. I don't see letting someone know you're only looking for something casual as anything different. Maybe bring it up a bit more tactfully tho lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:39 PM
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casual sex is just a transaction. It has no meaning beyond two people (or more) using others for their own benefit. I see no difference between that and prostitution/paid sex and sexual acts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:24 PM
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See, when they said weird, I was thinking more btw that song was a bop
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:56 PM
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Tall, dark hair and eyes, tanned skin tone, stocky/full figure. Bonus for some tasteful tatts and piercings. Love the stereotypical bad boy persona, but looking for a sweetie who doesn't actually do bad boy stuff lol. Nice hands. Likes cats. Plays videogames.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:37 PM
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My bf's a prize to me and I sure hope I'm a prize to him. Nothing else matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:21 PM
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no
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:19 PM
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Does that average take age into account? I don't know many overweight, especially not obese, women my age (late teens - early twenties). I'm sure for older women that average would make a lot more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:54 AM
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I believe it's possible. In most situations I would say the cheater doesn't love their partner. Cheating is most likely to happen in a loveless relationship. But even in a loving relationship, we all make selfish decisions that hurt our partners. Cheating is by far one of the worst things you can do to hurt a partner, but I still think it can happen even when you do truly love your partner. I'm by no means trying to justify cheating. But I don't think just because someone cheats, it means they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:44 AM
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Ah yea, I get that. Especially if it were family or smthn would make things a lot weirder lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:24 PM
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If she has slept with anyone I know personally, like if she used to smash my best friend even if it was casually, I'm not tryna wife her, no judgement but just can't do it. Curious about this one. What's the reasoning here. No judgement coming from me either, just curious. Currently dating one of my close friend's exes so it piqued my interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:15 PM
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I think men and women are more prone to land in these categories but it's definitely not exclusive. I've been around both types of friends as a woman. I tend to be very blunt and more focused on productivity. That hasn't been very beneficial for some of my female friendships in life, so I've gotten more picky about who I keep as close friends. I do have close female friendships now that I'm able to give constructive criticism and do what I can to help them. On the flip side, I do consider the ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:44 PM
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lmfao. Love how you assume I'm fat cuz I have self esteem issues. Of course that's the only reason a girl could hate herself 🙄 stfu please and don't make assumptions
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 01:40 PM
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They didn't give any stats. They just said some shit so I did too. I don't think the majority of men my age are unattractive. Even men I know irl who are unattractive still manage to find partners. I don't think I would have an issue if I was born as my exact equal as a male. Even then, I don't have a problem being single either. Dating is the least of my concerns if I was born a man. Any self esteem issues I'd have from rejection I've already experienced living as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 01:24 PM
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The question was asking women, so I answered lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 01:18 PM
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I don't do OLD, but this seems like a good idea. Maybe it's just me, but getting to know someone over text is a painfully awkward experience. I do much better putting my best foot forward irl, I'm sure a lot of men are the same way. It feels fucking cringe to use this terminology, but in an environment where men are the "hunters" and women are the "prey", the last thing a man wants to do is send a text that can be extremely easily misinterpreted. A lot of women are already picking apart every bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:57 PM
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Honestly it depends on the situations. Lot's of the instances of cheating I've seen with friends and whatnot have been very interconnected. Such as the woman cheating with her SO's best friend or what not. If it were practically a complete stranger, such as with a PUA situation, I would probably be less upset at the affair partner and focus most of my hurt at my own partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:10 PM
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If dating were simply an exchange of resources, I'd be separated from my partner long ago. Dating can be whatever the individuals involved choose to make it. Maybe for you it's simply a transaction. It certainly means a lot more to me tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:59 AM
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Being 100% honest, I think less of a man who uses prostitutes and less of women who are prostitutes (obv unless they were forced into the lifestyle in some way). Sex shouldn't be treated as a commodity in my personal opinion. Practically speaking, I'm not gonna get up in people's business about it. It wholly doesn't effect me, so I'm definitely not going to be one to whine about it. But I definitely wouldn't consider dating someone who was willing to pay for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:43 AM
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No. I have no issues being female.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:37 AM
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ur talking to a religious person here 😅 I agree. Without some standard, such as in religion, morality is kind of a joke argument. Everyone's still going to have things that feel icky or "wrong" to them tho. Usually based on the idea they wouldn't like having it done to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 05:05 PM
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Your post implies all men who care are the latter. Not to mention, if someone likes the game and being competitive, I don't see why they shouldn't be allowed to do that. I'm certainly not interested in it, but I'm 100% in favour of personal freedom. If that's how guys want to be, let it be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:33 PM
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Interesting perspective. I just know if my man cheated on me with a woman who was aware he wasn't (shouldn't have been) available, I'd be upset and hurt by both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:26 PM
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I agree. My bf would definitely have had an issue if I had a huge n-count or very promiscuous behaviour before we started dating. Cuz he was looking for long-term commitment. I felt exactly the same way. OP is making a lot of assumptions about the kind of guys who care about n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:22 PM
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But why then try to police and alter other's sexual habits Funny that you mention this considering your post 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:18 PM
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?? why would I not help my partner out? He's not a genie I can't expect him to just "increase compatibility" if he has no idea which direction to go. I like ropes lol, my partners not gonna just clue into that without me saying something unless he happens to have the same interest. That's just one example. Things go a lot faster if you just talk about it. I ask my partner all the time about what turns him on, what he likes, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:00 PM
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no problem 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:49 PM
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i think there's a difference between not being interested in a certain race for purely visual reasons (eg. similar to being really into blondes or liking pale skin). versus not being into a certain race due to internal biases one holds against them. I think it can be difficult to differentiate or know oneself enough to realize whether you're one or another. It's possible tho, so you're right that I don't think every girl who is not into black guys (as an example. any race for that matter) is imm…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:47 PM
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No reddit isn't full of Christians. I said I'm a Christian lmao. How am I supposed to know why other women think the way they do? I have a very distinct reason for my values and how I view the world. I never said everyone else is Christian too. Last time I mentioned my faith here I got in shit for it anyways, so this definitely isn't a Christian dominated sub. This sub draws a certain kind if group. Most likely the women who fulfill all of the ideas trp has about women won't be making themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:40 PM
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idk. That kind of stuff is extremely uncommon where I'm at. I'll be lucky to even see very many guys if I'm out for a walk, let alone one that will hit on me. I live in a small city and for over half the year we're all bundled up in winter clothes anyways. I avoid downtown because it's dangerous af and live in a fairly safe area. I've recieved some comments/stares like maybe 2-3 times that I can remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:30 PM
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2 and 3 I don't really object to, but I don't appreciate homewreckers even if the women are being just as shitty by engaging in it. Morality is meaningless unless you have some kind of standard to hold yourself to. Most people don't and are floating around based on what feels right or wrong. Regardless, if your actively participating in hurting another person and contributing to infidelity, I think less of you as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:10 AM
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I can only speak for myself and my own experience. Neither I nor women I'm close to irl engage in casual sex. That could be due to the kinds of people I choose to surround myself with, the location and culture I've been apart of, or because those claims are very selective and don't represent most of women. I think the key thing to look at is whether it truly is "most" women or not. Not really sure. It probably varies between different locations and crowds, because it certainly isn't a popular th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:36 AM
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lmao. If he's dumb enough to overestimate his abilities that much yea. btw I'm thinking in terms of my current bf. He would laugh at himself first. If he's gonna go get his ass beat, Imma laugh. Like obv first I'm gonna make sure he's okay and shit, but it's funny. Idk I'm not a very competitive person and neither is my man. I've never seen him get upset or down about his failures, he always just laughs them off. I do the same. If I went into a fight wholly unprepared after talking myself up to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:28 AM
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I wouldn't lose respect but I'd never let him live it down lol. My man's a heavy set, 6'4" guy. If this happened that'd be funny shit. I wouldn't like him getting into fighting in the first place really, but I know my man can take a loss like a champ. Him losing wouldn't be the problem. Even being upset about his loss at first isn't a problem. It would bug me if he's not able to laugh at himself or pick himself back up after smthn as unimportant as losing a fight tho. If he got seriously injured…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:51 PM
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nah. I'm Christian lol. I don't judge anyone for their own choices regarding this. It's just that if I meet a Christian guy with a huge body count, I would highly doubt they're taking their faith very seriously. edit: missed like half of that post lol. uhh. Idk bout other girls, but I wouldn't start dating a guy exclusively without having a conversation about his history. It'a very important to me to know that we have similar values about relationships, sex, marriage and family before wasting ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:44 PM
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idk if I can answer that tbh. At least half of the men I've been interested in have been non-white. If I had to guess tho, I'd say it's because women tend to look for dependability and success in men. I don't believe white men are any more dependent than others, but there's probably still an implicit bias against ethnicities historically seen as less successful. I think times are changing and these biases are fading but they're still there. I remember my mother telling me how she was very hesita…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:27 PM
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depends on the person. Some people like to date within their own culture/race, some people don't care. For some people it's a requirement and for some people it's a preference. But just being part of a minority group immediately puts you at a disadvantage imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:17 PM
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Yea I know I get in shit for this view, but I kinda believe everyone is a little racist in one way or another. The way our brains work is by categorizing things and drawing connections. Of course we're going to develop biases based on our own experiences or what society emphasizes, especially when it comes to picking people to date. I honestly think a lot of people don't even realize they're being biased or that race may be a reason why they're turned off from a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:14 PM
5

yea. Being in a male dominated environment probably makes a big difference. I could totally see my experiences with men differing if I just spent more time around them in an environment where there are less women to pick from.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:08 PM
2

I see you're a man of culture haha
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:57 PM
10

I prefer low numbers at any age. I'm 20 rn, so if I'm looking for a guy my age I'd prefer as low as possible. 1 or 2 might be okay, I'd still want to know about whether they were hookups or relationships, and how he feels about his experiences. 0 is preferable, but I'm not at 0 myself so it would be strange for me to require that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:48 PM
10

Yea, his ethnicity. I don't think it's a negative. I've crushed on black guys before and I personally find this guy in question to be really attractive. But racism is still a thing and some people may find it to be a negative. It's not a good thing, but negative stereotypes still do exist and a lot of people may categorize men using them whether they realize they're doing it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:48 PM
1

I totally do. I have a great relationship with my Dad which I'm lucky for. So I was one of those people who was dealt a good hand in life. But I remember growing up, my dad going out of his way to make things unfair for me. It annoyed me at the time, but his goal was to teach me that life isn't fair and we just have to make the most of it. Tbh, I think sometimes people who come from more difficult circumstances have more of an opportunity to learn this lesson than those who have had it easy like…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:39 PM
10

lmao ik it's like I'm sorry but idc how desperate you are, if you're willing to bang someone clearly jacked up on drugs from the street (or even consider that as a genuine sexual advance) you've got mental issues 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:28 PM
11

and hes also you know lmao, no one wanted to say it 😂 In all seriousness, it definitely could contribute to the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:14 PM
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I mean, he's certainly attractive. But I probably wouldn't bother because he seems to want someone who can adventure and do all that stuff with him. Or at least it seems like what he's communicating. He seems like he's a great guy, but I'm not a very active person. I like videogames and anime and shit. When you said intimidated, I initially thought you meant the women thought he was scary. But they, like myself, probably just feel like they wouldn't be able to keep up with him. I'm sure being 5'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:01 PM
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Just never happened. My hunch tho is that I don't go out. The last time I was regularly around men(or rather boys) was back in highschool. I don't think boys in highschool are very desperate, and even if they are, there are a lot more girls around to fill the void. I was always left alone. I'm a bit intimidating to people and I wasn't very fashionable or cared for my appearance much back then. I'm also a bit taller than average and there are a plethora of other girls to flirt with I definitely w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:36 AM
4

no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:25 AM
2

I don't want a relationship built on deception.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:22 AM
16

deal breaker. We clearly value sex differently so I'd break it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:39 AM
1

There's a difference between unattractive and not attractive to me. And regardless, I find the majority of men I meet attractive enough, so as long as I look like an average guy, I would be pretty fine being born a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:24 AM
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tbh I think the problem is men are more willing to interrupt than women. It's necessary in certain business cultures to be dominant and take the lead. It's not sexism so much as it is women failing to adjust to the harsh workplace culture men have been inhabiting for years .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 11:29 PM
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1) Not necessarily. But I definitely don't believe they have it easier. 2) No. Maybe if I was born an unattractive male, but I could say the same if I was born an unattractive woman. 3) No. Human beings have inherent value. 4) Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:25 PM
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preferences: Dark hair, stocky/full build, taller than me, dark eyes, not balding, angled face (not super round), no glasses, dick that I can feel but doesn't hurt lmao, healthy teeth Some of these preferences are stronger than others such as the height or balding thing. I also have strong preference against very skinny or lithe figures. A strong preference means I'd only be willing to bend for a very special kind of guy. The others are just things that are pleasing to the eye and will heighten …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:21 PM
2

I never said discrimination doesn't exist nor that that glass ceiling doesn't exist. I think some industries are a lot further along than others, but I also believe that men and women are inherently different and are often better suited to certain positions than others. There will always be women who excel in areas that men are usually better in and I do believe they should have equal access on the basis of their skills and usefulness in the work environment. But I don't believe a discrepancy be…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 08:52 PM
1

I'm not sure because I'm not a person who's had to deal with it. I do know it's possible though. But I couldn't begin to give advice on something I have no experience with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:53 PM
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I think they gravitate to any guy who will give them attention, which mor often then not is a fuckboi. My brother's fiance has huge daddy issues (not meant in a mocking way. She's a sweet girl who got dealt a bad hand) and as soon as she and my brother started dating, she has clung to him like crazy. She genuinely believes he's the only person in the world who genuinely loves her for who she is. Luckily my brother is a great guy and does love her unconditionally. But she could have just as easil…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:10 PM
3

Don't have anything to compare to so... yup 😂 edit: also, it's totally normal to want to be the best for your partner. It was a huge ego boost when my partner told me I was his best. But regardless, I just wouldn't go asking those kinds of questions if it's something you're very insecure about. And if you want be the best for your partner, become the best for them. It certainly took a bit for me and my partner to figure out what works best for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:40 PM
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I agree. For anyone to get to a position of great power, there are a lot of barriers and political struggles to climb through. I also think in general (gotta emphasize that, because I realize there will always be exceptions to the rules lol), men are better equipped to positions of great power as they have less of an issue with being seen as controversial or being unliked. Women have more of a tendency to people please and like to keep as many allies as they can on the way up. Sometimes the glas…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 05:33 PM
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That's interesting. Maybe it's because people who lay low like that are sometimes seen as more respectful? People tend to be more respectful towards those who they feel deserve it. That could be do to charisma or, in this case, due to a mutual respect for one another. That's just a hunch. Either way, there will always be outliers to the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 05:25 PM
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Exactly. It's a way to release oneself of any kind of accountability. It's why I tend to be careful when listening to people talk about their "racist coworker" or "sexist boss". I don't doubt there are still plenty of situations where discrimination happens, but I do take a lot of these situations with a grain of salt because I'm never sure how reliable the narrator is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 05:09 PM
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l mean yea. Even as a woman, I've never had a problem with making my voice heard. If I've ever been looked over, I honestly don't think it's because I'm a woman, but rather my status or how I present myself. Even then, it's rare. I don't doubt that the discrimination some women claims happens does is exist. But part of me wonders how many of these women are being overlooked due to their gender as opposed to other factors of their being. I hear these complaints a lot from women who are overweight…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 04:45 PM
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I agree with this. I'm not one to hook up at all really and neither is my bf, but I would definitely consider my boyfriend to be hookup material (as in if we were both willing to participate in that lifestyle, I'd 100% tap). He's had women offer in the past too, so he at least gets the satisfaction of knowing he's hookup material even if he didn't actually do it. He's also amazing boyfriend material as well imo lol. I think the problem is the women who want to have casual sex for some men but al…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 10:01 AM
4

I don't think 90% are lazy and unnattractive lol edit: also 90% literally can't be below average. I think people are forgetting what 'average' means.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:38 AM
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true. That doesn't make much sense to me. I don't really understand the inconsistency. Either do or don't do casual sex imo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:22 AM
2

Not necessarily. I just know I had a huge lack of self confidence hurdle to get over before my first relationship. My current relationship is my first relationship, so I didn't have any issues vetting. But now that I've managed to get in a relationship, I'm a lot more confident in myself and know I could do it again. So experience helped with that a lot. For maintaining a relationship, I'm sure experience can be helpful, but what's most important is choosing right and having the correct attitude…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:15 AM
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There's a difference between success entering a relationship and success maintaining a relationship. I'd say experience is more helpful for the former rather than the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:07 AM
4

well that's good then. keeping standards consistent at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:20 AM
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I don't hookup with anyone. If a guy engages in hookups, I consider him to not be boyfriend material. Why do men have issues with women who have casual sex and then get upset when they don't want to hook up with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:17 AM
1

What defines acting masculine and at what point is it gross? I've been called masculine by friends before and tbh I don't really understand what makes me too masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:15 PM
1

Absolutely not. I'd be the one getting angry and unmotivated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:27 PM
2

boyfriend*. My boyfriend is way above. some of that opinion may be just cuz I'm in love with him, but he's every ideal for me. Equivalent of tall, dark, and handsome. Got a beautiful dark hair, nice tan skin tone, hairy with a nice beard, exceptionally tall (6'4"). He's gained some weight since we've started dating, so he's got more of a dad bod now. He used to be more lean. I love it tbh, but maybe that lowers his 'conventionally attractive' rating. He's always had girls interested in him befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:50 PM
2

yay 🎉
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:39 PM
1

lol nice. The hair too? I find a lot of women don't like the super short, but I've always had a thing for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:31 PM
1

well good luck with that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:27 PM
1

This is kinda fun, let's see.. From best to worst: 9 5 1 3 4 2 8 7 6
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:25 PM
1

We were close friends in highschool. Me, him, and a couple others had a movie night to celebrate graduation. I got drunk and gathered the courage to make a move. Things progressed from there. Not all relationships start from the guy approaching lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:45 PM
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Never. The times I had have men make a move, they had no idea what I looked like because it was social media platforms. Those chatting platforms where men will message anyone who they think is a girl and try to sext. As well as one other guy who was predator. So I don't really count those as much. But yea. I've never had a guy approach me, but I've been rejected before. A big part of that is because I don't really go outside or to many social environments. I've never been to a bar or club or any…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:40 PM
1

I agree that's a problem. But I don't think invalidating women's struggles is a productive response. I personally wouldn't do that to men because I know how frustrating it is. I've seen plenty of men do the same shit to women. I don't think it's acceptable coming from any gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:24 PM
1

The problem with your first partner isn't just that she didn't find your dick enjoyable, It's also that she didn't care about your satisfaction in bed. It's not just about finding someone compatible with your dick, it's finding someone who genuinely cares about you feeling good in bed. Also communicating about what you enjoy in bed with your partner is extremely important as well. If you live when your partner is enthusiastic about PIV sex, of course it helps to find someone compatible with your…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:20 PM
2

You didn't just say they aren't the same. "- It’s no where near the same at all. - No one becomes Addicted to erotica - No one messes up their genitals because of it (I don’t even think women masturbate to that stuff but idk ) - No ones turning down their partner for it - No ones emptying their savings over it - No ones spending large amounts of their days with it" All incorrect statements. These statements are what I took issue with because they're false generalizations. You're completely dismi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:10 PM
4

I don't understand why it needs to be a competition. Does it really matter who has it more difficult? Even if we somehow calculated on average which gender has it the hardest in the dating world, it's only an average. There will always be plenty of guys who find dating a breeze and plenty of women who find dating to be shit. Vice verse will always exist as well. I hate when people try to make it about aho has it more difficult. It isn't getting things anywhere. It reminds me of those people who …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:14 AM
1

Depends on how he rejected me. I had a guy reject me and straight up bully me for the rest if the time I was in contact with him. Didn't really want to stay friends with that.But aside from smthn like that, if we had a good friendship before, I don't see why not. It would depend on if the guy wanted to remain friends I suppose. Normally I wouldn't make a move unless there were very obvious sign of attraction tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:52 AM
2

yes. majority of my crushes have been that way. There's only been a few people who I've felt very immediate intense attraction towards. I don't have a very specific type either other than not too overweight and not too scrawny. I prefer tall too ofc. But I've still always had either crushes or just guys I wouldn't mind dating fall outside of these preferences. Nothing ever came from those of course because I was staying out of the dating market and I only entered in to start dating a very long-t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:23 AM
5

When I give that kinda advice I'm usually giving it knowing how I am in a relationship. If my man is gonna go all out for me to feel good, I'm going to do the same for him. Sex goes both ways. If he takes care of what I need, I'll take care of what he needs. The enthusiasm and paying attention to what turns him on and what he likes is all part of that. Maybe not all women treat it the same way, but when I say size doesn't matter, that's what I mean. I can still be satisfied sexually regardless o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:59 AM
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Once again I never insinuated it was the same. Your statements where just wholly wrong generalizations. Just because the problem is less prevelant doesn't mean it doesn't exist. And it's also impossible to tell whether that discrepancy is due to the nature of the mediums or the difference between the female and male psych.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:40 AM
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No one "owes" me commitment by default. But if we come to an agreement beforehand that we are going to commit to each other, or he leads me to believe that sex is something he does with commitment attached, there's more of an obligation. Personally, I don't understand the concept of casual sex, so if I find the notion of sleeping with a person and not being in a relationship with them unusual. I realize not everyone feels the same way, that's why communication exists. But nonetheless it would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:29 AM
1

I never even insinuated it was 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:13 AM
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Depends on what the reader is looking for. I much prefer a short lemon to get off than reading a whole ass novel. Maybe you prefer well written stuff, but if someone is using erotica for a fix, which some women do, story development doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 07:45 PM
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I mostly agree with your point, but I also think you're talking about a very specific kind of erotica. With the way the internet has opened up opportunities for sharing, erotica has changed as well. I have read erotica and watched porn and they both serve the exact same purpose to me, erotica just fulfill my needs better because it applies to my female senses. In this day and age, you can find a short smut fic or sexy one shot to scratch any itch you desire. So I wouldn't say all erotica has the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 06:18 PM
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Yes, some women do get addicted to erotica, spend large amounts of time consuming it, and masturbate to it. Please give me your sources lmao I would rlly like to know what got you thinking women don't masturbate. And excessive masturbation from women can lead to painful consequences and does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 05:27 AM
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You'd think it would be. But often times it's impossible to distinguish the ethical porn from the unethical porn because they're all hosted on the same platforms. Pornhub has gotten into huge shit for not safeguarding against stuff like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 05:19 AM
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I don't read actual novels from the store, so covers aren't really a thing lol. Not to mention, if you're reading a book, you're not really looking at the cover the whole time. It's just supposed to be an eyecatcher. I read smut fanfic and I used to read my fair share of doujins as well (I've pretty much kicked the habit now). To me, objectification was never the problem I had with porn. I don't necessarily trust porn in a sense of knowing that everyone I'm watching are completely willing partic…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 05:14 AM
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I've met nice and awful people people from all walks of lifes and they all look different. Maybe it's just cuz I'm a people person and I've been part of so many different groups and communities and met so many different people, but I honestly can't say I've noticed looks and niceness correlate. I've had gorgeous friends who are genuinely the sweetest girls, but I've also met gorgeous girls who have no respect for anyone around them, often including themselves. I've had ugly friends who treat peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:20 PM
5

don't date a shit guy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:54 AM
1

Was gonna say life of the party at first, but the more I think about it, it doesn't actually make me more attracted. It just makes them seem more fun to be around in a platonic way. I think the second guy would be more attractive to me. More down to earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:21 AM
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I'm on the opposite side of this problem. My SO rarely wants to have sex with me whereas I'm up for it all the time (I'm a horny mf lol). I would like it if he did some stuff with me even when he's not in the mood, and I do think to some degree it's an obligation when you form a partnership with someone. I do think partners should engage sexually with each other even when one may not be up for it if that's what the relationship has been established to be. That being said, I always feel bad to tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:47 AM
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I think it is a similar situation. I got taken advantage of when I was 18 by a guy who wasn't worlds apart in terms of age (6 years older). I know plenty of other 18 year olds who would have been able to handle that and see through his shit, but I was extremely inexperienced and had never had a guy show genuine interest in me before. I had no clue what was normal or okay and I just let things happen even though I felt extremely uncomfortable, because I would rationalize it away as normal when it…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:38 AM
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An insecure person is generally not seen as dependable. Men's role in families and society for a very long time has been to be the pillar of the household. They needed to be hardworking and reliable or else they were a failure as a man. Women were taught to rely on men and others for support. Being insecure in something implies that you aren't able to rely on yourself and need more security from other outlets. That's never been seen as a very masculine need and a man that wallows in self pity wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:29 AM
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I consider it to be unfaithful. It's obviously better than him getting those kinds of videos and pictures at the source, but I find it unpleasant to think that he's actively admiring other women's naked forms. I don't make solid rules though. I would prefer he didn't, but I'm not going to break up with him for watching it. When me and my partner got together he had already decided to not watch porn, and I decided to kick my habits as well. Even if we give in sometimes, what's important to me is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:16 AM
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Yea I totally believe men can. I was friends with my partner for four years before we got together. And even then, we didn't fuck right away. He was popular and had other crushes while we were friends. I don't see why it would be impossible for men to develop feelings over time. It's a silly argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:42 PM
1

He forgave me immediately tbh. He's not one to hold grudges. But actually getting back together, working through the issue, and rebuilding trust was more of a battle and he only did so because of some specific details about the nature of the incident. I'm sure there're still scars from what happened and the last year and a half has been rough, but we're doing good now. For him forgiveness wasn't difficult. But he definitely took some time to decide whether getting back together was the right dec…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:20 PM
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Guess so. It's to be expected tho as soon as anyone admits to smthn like that. I've had enough time to process my thoughts and feelings about it I don't let it bug me too much. Betrayal hurts horribly, I don't blame people for reacting strongly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:57 AM
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Yea. I'd either move forward with him being fully aware of my actions and forgive me, or not be in a relationship with him at all. There's no excuse for what happened, but I regretted and didn't want to lose the relationship. But if not losing the relationship meant being dishonest and keeping up a lie, I'd rather just be honest and get dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:43 AM
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I told my partner because I couldn't stand being with him knowing I was hiding something. It was unfair to him to continue being with me without knowing my actions. Of course I didn't wait 14 years, I don't know how his wife could live with herself (and him!) for that long without telling. That would've eaten me up inside. I didn't tell my partner because I wanted the relationship to end, I told him because I wanted the relationship to be real.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:17 AM
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This seems to be something that is for OP to decide. I don't think consulting a bunch of internet strangers with a situation as sensitive as this is a very wise move on his part. He probably just needed some place to get his thoughts out. I always believe people are capable of change, but I also believe the victim in these situations should be allowed the chance to decide whether they're going to stick around for it or not. An opportunity the wife withheld from him for years and only decided to …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:11 AM
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tbh idc about how big his dick is. If he's willing to eat me out and put in some real effort into making sex fun, he's more than compensating for what he's lacking down there and probably doing better then some guy with a big dick who thinks his anatomy is all he needs to please a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:36 PM
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I don't talk about it at all. I just see a lot of shaming coming from both people in my personal life and online. Even if they're not judging me directly I can still feel bothered by the way they speak about things that involve me whether they know it does or not. I'm also not going to totally abandon some of my friends simply because they have certain judgements on my own interests. It's just a frustration to deal with, not necessarily something that keeps me from seeing the positives in their …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:24 PM
1

not sure I've had crushes on overweight men before, but generally it wasn't because they were funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:32 PM
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It can be reversed, but it's not guaranteed to be successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:26 AM
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Not really. I know I'm certainly not attracted to men regardless of what they look like. I think it's natural to have preferences for physical appearance. I just wish men put more weight into other aspects of a women aside from just their appearance. And I guess I wish the standard for beauty wasn't so difficult to achieve. I don't think men need to change anything really, I just find these the more frustrating aspects if male attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:16 AM
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I wish women were allowed to be more open about kinks and sexual interests. Maybe it's just my personal experience, but I feel like I'm often pressured to not be sexual or that I should find my bf wanting sex annoying or smthn. I honestly mostly get these kinds of expectations from other women. Or that I'm not allowed to want to sacrifice or submit to my partner. I simply want to be able to engage in the type of relationship I like without being told I'm too traditional or betraying other women.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:28 AM
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If it's just cuz my bf is good looking, that's pretty weak. I felt I should respond to this post because I think my bf is exceptionally attractive. I'd argue my advice would be good for any relationship, but the context of OP's post is specifically looking for someone attractive. I'd put the same effort in regardless of my partner's looks. Once I'm dating, I'm committed to my partner. He's not going to be handsome forever and definitely isn't as objectively attractive as when we first met, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 07:08 PM
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Well, we're at a standstill. Regardless, maybe refrain from making assumptions you can't possibly prove about someone's personal character. It's alright if that's what your experiences lead you to believe in general about women, but picking at me as an individual I don't appreciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 06:56 PM
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And I said what I said responding to a false statement you made regarding my actions. The truth of my personal motivations in dating isn't subject to your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 06:44 PM
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No, I'd give 100% no matter who I was dating. And not just to keep him around, but because he's my partner and I owe it to him. Even if I put less effort than I am now, I don't think he would leave me because he's a great guy. I just want to give everything because I want to be a good girlfriend, not because I'm worried he'll run off. But OP's question was how to get a good looking guy to stay. If that's a person's sole motivation in dating, I would tell them to be the most amazing partner they …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 06:38 PM
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My boyfriend was very attractive and imo out of my league. I played the long game. We were friends for a long time before dating. I made sure that we had similar values in regards to dating. I cleaned myself up, started dressing more stylish and lost weight. I made sure that he had good character, and eventually we started dating. I don't really worry about him ever leaving because I know his goals in dating and I know that he's in it for the long haul. If you want a good looking guy who's gonna…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 06:19 PM
0

You're not wrong lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:28 AM
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The feminists are crying that this question is being asked in 2022.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:14 AM
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lmao, I don't have enough energy to care about whether the words to a bop align with my own moral standards or not. Idc about comics, movies, games, music, etc. As long as I find it entertaining, idc. Wokeness is ruining creative expression and culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:09 AM
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I love my partner. He makes me want to better myself for him and I want to care for him. He's funny and laidback and helps balance out my more hectic and anxious nature. I love how hard-working he is and how compassionate he is for people less fortunate than him. I admire him for his strength and how he's persevered through difficult situations. He comes from a much rougher background than me, and I appreciate how he helps me see things from a different perspective. He's patient and kind with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 08:57 AM
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I mean that's making a lot of assumptions. It's a possibility I'm sure happens often, but I've also known a good amount of successful couples that had large age gaps and that certainly wasn't the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:28 AM
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wdym?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:03 AM
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I care a bit in terms of warning bells ringing in my head. But warning bells are just that, warnings. Say if I had a friend who suddenly started dating someone 20 years older, I would probably advise her to be careful about it, but wouldn't go much further than that. They could be a wonderful couple for all I know, but I would initially be wary.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:20 AM
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It's an interesting video. I didn't read the study thing, so I don't know if they did the same thing with men and got different results or if they were the same too. It doesn't suprise me. People tend to repeat their mistakes all the way up until they have actual tangible consequences. I feel like this behaviour and phenomenon applies to almost everything. The first time I smoked a cigarette I was very regretful. I still did it again, and again, again, each time caring less and less and less. Sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 11:28 PM
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I think men and women cheat for different reasons. Men are more sexually motivated whereas women tend to be more motivated for emotional needs being met or for sociological or economical gains. I still think a lot of men (not all) cheat for female validation, whereas I think most (not all) women cheat for reasons I just mentioned. It kind of evens it out. It's very rare for a man to cheat because a woman has more money or status, and men tend to be less emotionally needy and happy to just have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 09:04 PM
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If you want to participate in BDSM, learn how to assert and communicate your boundaries then. Otherwise, just don't go for anyone who has BDSM on their profile. If you're not into it, don't do it. If you are into it, do your research and be careful. I agree men should be respecting consent properly and most do. But in case you haven't noticed, tinder isn't the ideal place to find men that will be considerate. It's not the kinks that are the problem, it's the assholes that don't respect boundarie…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:41 PM
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Wanting to beat women up in general is different than a kink reserved to the bedroom. Plenty of sadists are really respectful of women's boundaries and are very careful to practice their kinks safely. If they're doing it in a safe and consensual environment, why are you so bothered? If I ask my boyfriend to hit me in bed, and he does and likes it, is he suddenly a villain?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:19 PM
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Those are two things most men who are into BDSM are not giving to their partners Are you involved in the BDSM community? 50 shades of grey is an extremely poor representation of BDSM because of the lack of consent. BDSM isn't about love or relationships, it's a kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:15 PM
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I'd love a guy who wants to beat me the fuck up lol. What a guy is into doesn't matter, it's how he acts on it. Besides, dominatrix is a thing. Men aren't the only sadists around. I don't think either is worse than the other as long as it's done in a safe and consensual way. A lot of women love dominant men. If we have a whole bunch of women expressing how much they love to be dominated, of course men who want sex are going to step up to the plate and take the role. A large amount of erotica (mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:09 PM
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https://50shadesabuse.wordpress.com/2015/02/06/so-you-think-everything-in-fifty-shades-is-consensual/ There's more to consent than just saying yes. I'm not saying he raped her, but what happened was not fully consensual sex. I'm not saying it's problematic either, it's fiction and if people find it hot, that's fine. But it certainly isn't innocent and vanilla stuff, which the original commenter seemed to imply was the only acceptable range of sexual interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:02 PM
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"consensual sex". dubious at best. There were so many problems with how it portrayed "consent" it can hardly be considered that anymore. Regardless it's got the kinkiest shit in it, we can't pretend women are only into wholesome vanilla sex when that kind of shit is as popular as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 07:42 PM
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So on average men and women have different kinds of fantasies? What's wrong with that? That study done had some issues as well. The women sample pool was greater than 2× larger than the men, which would explain why they had less of an average and had higher numbers. If they had a similar sample size, there would probably still be some difference, but it would be able to average out much like with the women sample. Women are also more likely to lie about their sexual deviances as we've been socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 06:50 PM
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I think having a lot of options does make it easier not to cheat in some situations as strange as that sounds. If it's something you're used to having, the desire to go explore it while in a committed relationship isn't as strong because you don't really need that to feel validated as a person. From the situations I've know where people cheat, especially serial cheaters, it's often because they're average men who never really felt like they had sexual options. When they finally land their first …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 06:14 PM
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What makes you say "more likely"? Women can be into some crazy shit too. You say dubious/no consent when 50 shades of grey exists, written by women for women. Women are overwhelmingly more into supernatural romance or ABO dynamics, and according to this article and the studies it's reporting on, https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/all-about-sex/201508/why-do-women-have-rape-fantasies, rape fantasies are quite common among women. As a woman who has spent a considerable amount of time reading …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:58 PM
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True. I still keep my guard up regardless, but admittedly I can't help but but feel a bit more at ease when I know they have a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:44 AM
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Oh how I wish that was true. lol for the most part that does solve the problem. I've had experiences where it hasn't tho and it's left me more than a little wary.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:34 AM
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I'm sure that happens lol. Personally I like to always keep my guard up a bit no matter what. Although I admit I tend not to worry with my gay friends as they're not usually my type anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:21 AM
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ah yea. I don't fully understand how most people perceive the term. I think I could probably qualify as a pick me according to some people, but it's such subjective term I'm never sure exactly what people mean by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:15 AM
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what qualifies as a pick me?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:10 AM
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I'm not that worried. I still have guy friends who are single. I just have a boyfriend and I find it somewhat more difficult (not impossible) to be friends with a single guy because I would rather not have to deal with him catching feelings. If I know they have a girlfriend (or confirmed to be uninterested by some other manner, eg. gay), I can worry less about him making a move or something like that. If I was single and looking, I wouldn't have a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 04:09 AM
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Been in a ltr for almost two years. Haven't had any issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:38 AM
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yea. I mean I'm not a perfect person, but I certainly wouldn't have a problem with my future son dating someone like me. There are far worse options out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:37 AM
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tbh, I'm always immediately more comfortable when talking to a guy with a gf, cuz I don't have to worry about them being interested in me (for the most part). My best guy friends were always taken, gay, or very explicitly not looking for someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:33 AM
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Sexually successful men act more masculine? hmmmm 🤔🤔🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:01 PM
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It's just entertainment. I've always enjoyed debating, and this is less stressful than debating politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:32 PM
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My bf was a virgin when we started dating (as was I). Not a problem. It's preferable for me. If he wasn't a virgin, it would be something I'd need to have a conversation about before starting a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:53 AM
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I was the fault of my relationship temporarily ending. At least I was the most guilty between the two of us. My partner had his own shortcomings (as all partners do), but what I did was the nail in the coffin and deserving of a break-up. Not gonna go into it, but I definitely learned from my mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:47 AM
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Discovered some memes in highschool, probably at like 16 or 17. Really had no effect on my life. I find it an interesting and entertaining mindset and that's why I kind of hang around and observe the chaos.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:29 PM
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Going on a date with my hunny 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:26 PM
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What I'm saying is, there are plenty of women who don't fall into any of these categories. I'm not any of them (neither FDS or those other groups) and I don't know a single woman personally who is. To frame it as if anyone who's not FDS is automatically any of those three categories is extremely short-sighted. Other lifestyles is everything in between, which is most women, myself included. I've browsed the FDS subs. Compromising standards and preferences is not something that is encouraged at al…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:36 PM
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I know many guys who would take issue with your use of the word "most".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:35 PM
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Being a normal person and having a balance of views. I don't disagree with everything FDS, but much like TRP, they take some things too far. I want a traditional life style and vet and make sure any man I'm going to date is going to be a compatible partner, but I'm willing to sacrifice myself for my partner and compromise on some of my own standards or wants for his sake. FDS and TRP are extremely selfish movements and look out for oneself first. I view a successful relationship as one where par…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:27 PM
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There are people who aren't into FDS that don't fall into these categories tho. You frame it as if these lifestyles are the alternative, not an alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 06:15 PM
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it's legal to have sex at 12 in my country lol. aoc laws don't mean it's illegal to have sex. It just dictates who you can have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 05:20 PM
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was just messing around. sorry if it was in bad taste 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 08:11 AM
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nah. It works. It's even worse then cuz he led you on for a year and a half 🥲🥲🥲 (deeeefinitely not venting from personal experience here lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 08:05 AM
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overall I think they are superior to actual women despite those massive disadvantages. 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:57 AM
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My high school crush did it best. Just bully tf out of her and make her feel humiliated for even thinking she had a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:53 AM
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Yea. I had a friend in highschool who I think had one of these kinds of relationshios. I never talked in depth with him about his experiences, but he was definitely a nice guy, albeit a bit awkward. I remember just kind of mentioning that I considered him a friend, and he seemed so shocked that I honestly felt a bit bad about how outcasted he probably felt. I think it's off-putting to a lot of people because it seems so out of touch with reality when it's taken to an extreme extent. People who d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:35 AM
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I understand where they're coming from...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:08 AM
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I didn't say it should be any different. I'm just saying that someone offering a different perspective is not shaming. I never even told you what my perspective on high n counts is. I don't like it either. But if someone had a different perspective on the issue, I'd be open to hearing it and that wouldn't mean they're shaming me. I may or may not change my opinion, that's up to me. But someone just saying "hey, what about this?", does not mean they're shaming me for my standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:30 PM
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I don't mean telling them their weird for having it. I personally don't think not wanting to date someone with a high n count is weird at all. I'm the same way. But if I saw my friend starting to get close to a really amazing person and they seemed to be a really good match, if she knee-jerk broke it off because his dick was too small, or he wasn't in a good place financially, I would probably give my input. I've never had anyone get frustrated with me simply sharing my thoughts. I don't push it…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:12 PM
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Offering a different perspective on an issue isn't shaming. If I felt my friend was missing out on a great catch, I might try to show them a different perspective on the issue. If they don't change their mind, it's fine. Not shaming them. But just bringing up, "hey, what about this" I don't see how that's a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:57 PM
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I was my current partner's first. He's tall, attractive, got those kinda "cool" vibes, and has had many many girls very interested in him before. He was a huge partier back in highschool and had plenty of opportunities and moments where attractive women were coming on to him. But he never had sex because he doesn't believe in casual sex. Made out with a few, but his only genuine sexual experiences with another girl were with his last ltr. Personally I think his decisions on this play into the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 04:39 PM
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I've never really friendzoned a guy, so I'm not sure. But I probably wouldn't feel comfortable being friends with a guy who's expressed interest in me unless I was sure he wasn't hung up on it at all. I also just don't keep a lot of friends as is, so maybe that's just me. I don't need to risk extra drama by maintaining a friendship (a task I already find exhausting) with someone who wants to really be more than friends. Especially if he was very attractive to me)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:37 AM
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The culture at large, or society, determines what is the standard is. This is the central disconnect. I suppose we have different interpretations for misogyny. I view it as what the word is defined by ("dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women") whereas you seem to view it as a more relative term that is determined by popular opinion. I suppose both are true to an extent. Personally, I wouldn't consider someone to be misogynistic based on valuing aspects of masculinity rega…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 12:30 AM
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I brought up feminists as an aside, because they are generally the ones trying to put build women up and genuinely do sometimes push down men. Essentially the reverse of what you're claiming right here, yet they never get accused of misandry. When it comes to concepts like misogyny, dislike, and contempt, I think it does. How so? If my brother for no logical reason at all thinks I hate him, does it make it true? If I assume someone's a misandrist for giving me a compliment, does that make it tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 12:15 AM
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And what if you only ever discuss the strengths of men and the weakness of women You mean like feminists do? Here's the thing. If I choose to involve myself in men's right activism, I'm more often going to be pointing out male strengths because that's what I'm advocating for. People don't have the time nor energy to advocate for every single people group and show appreciation for every kind of strength in the world. people will assume you only value one over the other. People assuming things doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:52 PM
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So? On average, Men may have strengths in different areas than women, and women may have strengths in different areas than men. Vice versa for weaknesses. I can value them both simultaneously. Are we supposed to just blind ourselves to reality because we're scared of forming a bias? Just because I value a man's physical strength doesn't mean I think women are pathetic because they don't posses that same strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:35 PM
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recognizing differences ≠ misogyny. I recognize there are plenty of differences between men and women. Does that mean I hate men? no.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:26 PM
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I understand the concern. I think in general a lot of people worry about being too needy or appearing weak to their partners. Even I feel that way sometimes, I can imagine the feeling would be even worse for men considering the way society and some women treat them. I just knows it weighs on my bf to not open up and be honest about his feelings, and it's a lot healthier for the both of us to communicate about things and feel able to rely on one another. I just try to keep things open so he feels…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:06 AM
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Thank you. Yea, he definitely goes above and beyond for me as well. What's a partner for if not emotional support.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:51 PM
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thanks for assuming. Think what you want, I know my own relationship far better than some stranger online.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:34 PM
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I'm extremely protective of my boyfriend. Probably slightly moreso than my immediate family (although I am very protective of them as well). He's the most important person in my life right now, so his safety and wellbeing is one of my top priorities lol. Since I'm a girl and there's really not much I can do in terms of physically protecting him that he can't already do himself, it mostly presents itself in me caring for his emotional and mental well-being. Making sure he feels safe with me and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:47 AM
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No. Even though marriage and having a family has always been my dream, there's a lot more stuff I would be able to do if I was single for life. I could be happy both ways. I actually had a whole alternate "back-up plan" in case I never found the one for me. Might still have to fall back on it some day lol. I don't do flings tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:31 AM
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Well don't lose hope. Even though I've had good examples, I'm still learning everyday how to be a better partner and every relationship is unique. Having good examples is a great head start for sure, but if it's something you really want to achieve it's a great goal to have. Even if you have couple failed relationships, you can learn from them and use the experience for vetting and maintaining a relationship with the person who is right for you. My mom had a few boyfriends before settling with m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:59 AM
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Find someone who doesn't use social media then. Most of my friends don't use social media regularly beyond checking in on family and friends. Reddit is the only one I use aside from looking for knitting inspo on instagram. There are plenty of people who are purging social media nowadays because of how detrimental it is for mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:51 AM
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I think it really is dependent on the kinds of relationships people have seen growing up. In my generation, half of us have grown up without an example of a lifelong relationship to look up to, and even those who had parents who stayed together doesn't mean that their parents had a good relationship. For a lot of young people, having a long-lasting stable relationship doesn't seem feasible because they simply haven't witnessed it happen. I realize I'm extremely privileged to have grown up in a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:44 AM
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I mean the video was cringe, but honestly not that far off from my first sexual experiences (which I am grateful for tbh). Me and my boyfriend were both each other's firsts, and whenever we were taking a new step it was kind of uncharted territory. We would stop to check if each other were okay with certain things or ready to try new things (not to the extent of in this video of course, that is fucking ridiculous). Considering the context of our relationship it made sense, and after we had gotte…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:30 AM
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Oh interesting. I didn't really think about it that way. I mean I've been in a relationship for the past two years, So I haven't really been viewing other men as potential sexual partners for a bit now. And even when I was single, I didn't really view men as genuine sexual partners until I was sure they were someone I was compatible with. I really only seriously consider dating a guy if I've known them for a good while and already know we have mostly compatible values and lifestyles. So even tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:29 PM
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Not that I can think of from the top of my head. Maybe there's something that's just not really clicking rn, but most shitty behavior is shitty no matter who it comes from lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:01 PM
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Not fully sure why. I've noticed that with my boyfriends friends and more of the male friends I keep as well. It's a lot easier to debate and discuss without getting heated or holding grudges. I don't really hold grudges, but I've had a lot of women do it to me. I tend to be blunt and say what I'm thinking, and I guess some people just perceive me as mean. It's something about the woman psyche I haven't ever fully understood. Possibly because we've been coddled by society and are used to/allowed…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:57 PM
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Nah. That feminist friend of mine mostly debates when we hang out which is why I enjoy her company a lot. Being able to disagree and explore lots of different issues and still maintain a close friendship is a rare thing to have for women, and it's not difficult for me to let some of the more outrageous comments pass by without getting annoyed. I have lots of good friends now who I can be open and honest with, and I love having discussions with my friends. But trust me, the women I hang out with …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:39 PM
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depends on who the guy is and what girl he's interested in. I had one friend who was selectively mute ask me for advice on how to start something with this girl he liked. He already had a severe disadvantage in that he basically couldn't even speak to her, but luckily this girl was a great friend of mine and an absolutely sweet and kind person. So I gave him advice that specifically pertained to her as a person and would still fit in his comfort range. They did start something later down the lin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:24 PM
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kinda true. I don't really lie to my friends, but even when I was younger in high school and stuff, I would hesitate to tell my friends who I was crushing on because I would often get an "ew, whyyy?" kind of response. I've got better friends now, but the hyper feminists in the group will still try to tell me to break up with my boyfriend over the tiniest problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:06 PM
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I've found most men to be decent. Men that I know in real life at least. I'm not gonna let a collection of weirdos online make me think less of men who have done no wrong to me in my day to day life. Nothing really disgusts me about the male sexuality, and if men are doing shitty things, it's probably because they're shitty men. Are there things I don't/won't ever understand? Probably, I'm not a man lol. But I'm not disgusted by it. I am disgusted by the actions of certain men, but I would no wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:58 PM
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Genuinely curious why you wouldn't date a pansexual person. You don't like the idea that they're not exclusively attracted to your gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:38 PM
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Red Pill is inherently selfish. Love is selfless. As soon as someone puts their needs above their partner's, the relationship starts to fall apart. TRP men are doing that from the start. If I were to be with a red pill man, it would mean being with someone who doesn't trust me, views me as less than, and is only with me for whatever way I benefit him. When me and my current partner decided to commit, we promised each other we'd put in our full effort, even when the other may not be pulling their…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 01:33 AM
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Well as long as I'm getting turned on in bed, idc if he's lying lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:36 PM
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ohhh lol. Yea I guess. I've never seen the term d-count before, so I thought it meant like commited relationship or smthn like that (divorce makes more sense now that you've said it lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:34 PM
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haha no, I just don't have a six pack. I'm fit and healthy. But I really didn't feel like I needed to justify myself to you. I don't need to be desired by everyone, just my significant other (and myself obviously. I want to be able to smile when I look in the mirror). I just wouldn't define myself as very fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:28 PM
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lol. Why is Christian in quotations?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:22 PM
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lmao. I get what I need from my boyfriend. I don't need to be turned on by anyone else but him, and he loves my body. So all g over here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:52 PM
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tbh. I live in a country with free health care. I'd say if it get's to a point where it's a health risk, there should be some kind of fat tax or smthn like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:32 PM
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you kind of just destroyed marriage. To have and to hold... for seven years... If it's this much of a problem, don't get married. Improve divorce laws instead of just dissolving the whole point of marriage (a lifelong commitment).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:28 PM
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My boyfriend lol. But in all seriousness (although that is true) The feeling of being desired and that someone has an innate need for my body. I could go on, but for one short sentence I think that encapsulates the heart of it for me as an individual. I can't speak for other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:17 PM
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So you're admitting that a. They didn't perform the study on women. So they have no way of knowing whether the reaction was a human one or a gendered one. b. The only study they even considered doing would have changed multiple factors thus making it a moot comparison anyway. It sounds like these researchers were so biased they forgot how the scientific method works.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:11 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. It's not like when I view pictures of celebrities I've never met or attractive models I would really view them as a person. The results of that study would've most likely been the same or similar if it had been women looking at sexy body shots of men without faces. I'd argue even faces don't make that much of a difference when it's simply a photo of a person you don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 05:51 PM
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Had a whole response to this written, then actually processed that last sentence. You're either trolling or deranged. Nice talking to you tho 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 01:26 AM
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depends on the intensity of the relationship and the reason for the break-up, but in most cases I think staying friends is a bad idea. And as you said, there is a difference between staying friends and staying friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:23 PM
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I'm a big fan of true crime. Saw this while literally listening to a podcast. I just follow a couple youtubers and podcasts. My interest comes and goes in phases Tbh, it hasn't really worried me or changed my view on anything. We all know there are people who do bad things, but most true crime cases involve people who already know each other and generally have a lot of history. If anything it's made me side-eye my family a bit more lol (not really. I trust all the people closest to me in my life…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:59 PM
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So you'd be fine with ur girl going around getting hit on by other men? It's not just me who doesn't want men commenting on my ass. My bf would also be bothered by that. People can think whatever they want about me, I can't control that. But it's really awkward to get complimented on things like my ass and tits by people who I'm not romantically involved with. That's kind of common sense not to do that. I don't understand your dog analogy. Comparing a dog wagging it's tail, to people I don't kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:46 PM
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I mean I agree. I love getting complimented by my boyfriend and enjoy sex as part of our relationship. But I really don't want to hear people who aren't my boyfriend complementing on certain parts of my body. I don't think that's unreasonable (maybe exceptions for if we're in that pre exclusive flirty stage). Generally there can be common sense used to determine when and where certain compliments are appropriate. And if my bf solely commented on my physical body, that would be a different issue …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:24 PM
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lol. As a woman with a total of six pics on her insta account (only one being my bf), I'm inclined to disagree. Most friends I have who are dating hardly post their SO's, and most don't have very attractive SO's. It's mostly like: "look we went hunting together", "look we bought a cat", "look we went on a hike". The rest of their posts are of just random daily things or selfies. The only time these kinds of things matter to a woman is if they're trying to build some kind of brand. Funny enough, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:50 AM
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I'm not sure how I feel about it. It's certainly not something I could do and I think it takes a very unique kind of person to be able to have sex in that way. I know I would get far too jealous and would have trouble separating the emotional aspect from the act. I suppose I'm just a monogamous person lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:38 AM
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well I think most intimate sexual acts count. I don't necessarily believe in the whole "piece of my soul is given" or whatever (I believe some religious sects do, or maybe it was just an idea that branched off of some biblical ideas). But I do feel like sex is something extremely intimate. You're being completely physically vulnerable with another person, completely baring yourself to them. It's a very unique action and I feel like if I reserve to only share it with whoever I wish to be my lifel…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:13 AM
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I view sex as an important intimate expression of my love that should be reserved to the person I'm going to spend my life with. This probably developed due to my religious upbringing, but is less so pure religiousity and more an important part of my values and expression now. I'm a very sexual person, and must admit that I've jumped the gun a bit on being sexual with people too early, so I confess I haven't always lived according to my values. But ideally, it would be nice if I could keep my se…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:58 AM
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I've witnessed successful and unsuccessful marriages. It's not a matter of odds, I can actively work to make my marriage successful. I fear divorce because it's one of the most painful things I could ever imagine. I have far too many friends who grew up in broken families. Even when they end amicably, there's scars that can't be healed. It's painful and extremely detrimental for my children and it would be painful for me. I'm not marrying for economic benefit (certainly not considering the man I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:51 PM
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I'm not forcing anyone to marry me. If this is how you view marriage, fine. I'm in it until the end. I can guarantee my commitment. I made a vow I intend to keep. Unless there are extreme circumstances such as abuse, I intend to stay. The hypothetical of the post was that we would be together forever. No worries of him or I leaving, so there is no risk to marriage. Divorce is my number one fear in life, I'm sure as hell not gonna initiate it. If I did the ceremony within the church, I'm still ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:30 PM
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it's not about the legality to me. I never plan on divorcing unless things become abusive or unsafe for me or my children. I'd assume in this hypothetical situation, we're both 100% commited and going to be together forever anyways, so why would that be a concern? I'm not trying to legally compel anything. I would only marry him if he's a good partner, not the other way around. I would prefer marriage not be a legal thing altogether, I'd just do it within the church instead. If he's scared of me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:12 PM
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Yes it would be a deal-breaker. I'm female. And also religious lol so that probably gives away a lot of my reasoning. I value the vows to one another and I don't see why we wouldn't get married if he was completely committed to being with me for the rest of our lives. That's basically all that marriage is. I would really question why he was so opposed to marriage if he was at the same time claiming he's 100% in it for life. If it was some sort of "reject tradition" kind of thing, that would prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:59 PM
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same. I never really thought about how I view women in terms of style before (not bi. Kinda questioning rn), but I find myself obsessed with really unique and cool styles on women. Same for men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:47 PM
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none honestly. I only watch porn to fantasize about whatever situation the woman is in, I don't necessarily care about what the man looks like (most porn I watch has some ugly ass men). Even if he's hot af, I have no emotional connection, and if what he's doing to the girl isn't sexy enough, I won't be that into it. It's why I mainly read erotica. I need plot and emotions to get really turned on. It's not about what the man looks like, it's about the emotions and dynamics of the situation. I als…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:22 PM
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I've been rejected by men before. I've never rejected a man, so I can only speak to the rejectee perspective. I handled it well. In no way was I entitled to a man, just because I liked him. The only situation that really hurt was when I was led on. He flirted with me and definitely acted interested in me for quite a while. I eventually tried to start something because he was sending me all the right signals. Obv got rejected, and he would continually make a point to bully me about it for the res…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:14 PM
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I've always made the first move. A few times I've been rejected. Had one guy actually continually make fun of me about it and make snide remarks. Other guys would poke fun, but weren't as malicious about it. I also made the first move on my first and current boyfriend. We were friends for a long time, and to celebrate grad, our highschool friend group had a movie night. I had crushed on him for a long time, and being drunk helped me get past my fear of rejection. I held his hand and cuddled with…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 06:55 AM
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Well not all the tall guys, some friends had wonderful partners who were tall. Those were just examples of situations where expectations were reversed. Tall and short men can be either great or horrible partners. I just find when women eliminate all their short prospects and put looks on a pedestal, they're more likely to get caught up with unsavory characters. Such is life tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 11:06 AM
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lol, my sister wanted to get one of these for winter camping. Genius invention actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:53 AM
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I mean. I don't really judge my girlfriends for who're they're dating (at least if we're only talking looks). Even if I'm not into it, they certainly are, and more power to them. Beside, I remember a specific friend who dated short guy (the guy was below average height, maybe 5'3" ish) but he's got alpha vibes imho. I realize it's a cringe term but idk how else to describe it lol. She definitely scored. And on the flip side, I've had friends who have dated tall men, but they were shitbags. And g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:47 AM
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That article literally stated that despite the brain size difference between male and females, there was no correlating difference in IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:17 AM
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Basically
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:14 AM
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An interesting read. I was reading up a bit as well and found a lot of stuff supporting what that article was saying. I suppose intelligence is somewhat a broad term to use.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:42 AM
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I'm not saying they're stupid. But blue whales, dolphins, and elephants all have bigger brains than humans (and sure they're intelligent creatures). But to say that size is the only determining factor of intelligence is simply wrong. I think it's safe to say humans are the most intelligent species on earth, yet don't have the largest brains. I just don't believe men having slightly larger brains on average equates to them being more intelligent on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:29 AM
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How does intelligence and the ability to have children relate to each other? The problem is you're equating being smaller and having the ability to give birth to being less intelligent. Once again, size is not related to intelligence. edit: love how you keep editing your comments after I've already replied 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:26 AM
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lmao. That's what you came up with? gonna ditch the whole intelligence thing I guess. I was only pointing out how brain size and intelligence aren't really synonymous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:19 AM
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It's almost like men on average are larger than women. You know what else has a larger brain than women? Blue Whales.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:14 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:44 AM
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For the first question, no. I'm not gonna show attraction to someone I'm not physically attracted to. If I can alter the question a bit, it might work better: Have you ever shown attraction towards someone you weren't initially physically attracted to? Yes. Probably 70%+ of the guys I've been interested in I was not attracted to when I first met them. But unlike as you suggest in your second question, nothing about their appearance really changed. But as a guy's personality and positive characte…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:42 AM
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I definitely try to withhold. I don't know if there's much social pressure to (as on most of modern society. I'm Christian so there's pressure there ofc). I would be really proud of myself if I could hold off for a week even simply through sheer willpower. I tend to have a higher sex drive than most of my female friends tho, so maybe I'm just an odd case.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:19 AM
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I mean. I would give up all the sex in the world to be with my partner (and I love sex lol, so that's saying something). Love is self-sacrifice and a choice. I chose my partner and will continue to choose him. I would sacrifice sex if that's what he wanted or required (of course I would prefer that not to be the case, but he's so much more important to me than just someone to have sex with). Of course, since he loves me back, he's also willing to sacrifice things for me, so we generally strike a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:16 AM
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Personally I have never witnessed many of these ideas in real life. At least not to the extent that many people on here claim and definitely not enough to consider it the norm. A lot of that might have to do with where I live and the kinds of people I choose to surround myself with and engage with. I wouldn't invalidate someone's experiences if they feel these ideas to be true in their own lives, but alot of them simply aren't real for me. Generalizations never seem like a good idea to me, and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:42 AM
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I don't have exes. But now that I realize it's not standard practice I definitely will tell any future exes to delete them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:35 AM
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I mean good for you and your girl I guess. I was sharing my own thoughts I would have if a guy had a collection of nudes. Odd you would refer to it as a spank bank if you don't have any sexual thoughts when looking at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 12:06 AM
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I don't really know what you mean by this. Of course history is important and I'd want to know about my partner's past. But them keeping old nudes is a whole other thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:35 PM
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I mean yea I get that. It depends how much the person cares ig. As much as I dislike the idea of an ex keeping nudes of me, it's nothing something I'm gonna lose sleep over. It would just make me kinda mad at them. I never include face, so I wouldn't really be worried about them using it against me or anything. If it's an extreme issue for someone tho, I would agree it'd be good for her just not to send them under any circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 10:11 AM
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There are plenty of other kinds of pictures you can keep for memories other than nudes. So you're just looking at these photos of women you've previously been involved with sexually, posing in sexually provocative ways, naked, and you aren't looking at them with any sexual thought in mind? Sure I can cherish the memories of a great sexual partner, but to hold such intimate photos. I would feel I wouldn't have the right to them anymore as they nature of our relationship has changed. Unless you've…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:57 AM
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You're kind of just assuming they'd be fine with it. And even they are, if you're currently gf isn"t obviously. If it serves a different purpose than porn, then why do you feel you shouldn't look at them while you're in a relationship? Why are you saving them as if they're backup for if you breakup? I would not be fine with my ex keeping nudes of me, even if the breakup was amicable and he didn't share them. The nudes were sent for him because I was in an intimate and loving relationship. I want…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:50 AM
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I mean. My current bf doesn't even keep the nudes I send him in the first place (not cuz I make him, just his own preferences). I wouldn't be interested in a guy who would disrespect my boundaries regarding sensitive photos like that. Even if I screwed up on my judgement and ended up sending photos to a guy like that, it doesn't mean I respect or appreciate him keeping the pictures. It just means he's kinda a shitty person for disrespecting my boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:42 AM
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uhh yea. I would be bothered. I would not want my ex keeping nude pics of me. I would understand if it was smthn my bf just forgot to delete, but a collection? That's really disturbing to me. Why would you need to keep nudes from exes? Porn is easily accessable and far less creepy. Do you think all of your exes would be fine knowing you're keeping and potentially jerking off to nude photos of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:13 AM
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My preferences aren't extremely important. They're what will usually initially draw me to a guy, but if I get to know a guy who's outside my preferences and they have an attractive personality, visual preferences won't matter too much (eg. I'm usually not into black guys as purely a superficial preference, but one of my closest guy friends was black and I definitely considered him as an option because he was a great guy). In fact, the more I get to know a guy and find their personality attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:40 AM
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I have. It's kind of insane how deep it cuts. I've had some awful stuff done to me by people I wasn't close to, but that doesn't even compare to being abandoned by the person you care for most in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 01:30 AM
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oh yea. for sure. It's still interesting to hear people's perspectives and how they came to believe in those things. I don't usually bring religion into what I debate here, it only came up because of the deal-breaker question. I don't like to exist in an echo chamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 10:06 PM
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rp moral? I don't really think that's the case lol. If we're talking about the Christian view of morality, RP for the most part doesn't fit the bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 10:01 PM
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uh yea. I mean, there a plenty of married people here too. It's an interesting convo so lots of people are going to come and share their experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 09:51 PM
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oh lol. I'm not 13 rn lol. I'm 20 haha sorry if that was confusing. Those were just my feelings at 13 and why it was complicated. I have used rope in the bedroom a bit and stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 09:48 PM
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I've never been able to actually practice any of it, but I've been fascinated by the community for about as long as I've known about sex. I realize it's a taboo in a lot of ways (especially the aspects of it that I like the most), so I did have periods of my life where I would have internal crises about it. Especially when you're a 13 year old in a Christian household. The fear of something being wrong with me was strong lol. Now I've found some YouTubers and influencers who are part of the comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 09:30 PM
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I've seen lots of other people here mention they're saving themselves until marriage. Christians still have to date y'know. And it's interesting to hear other perspectives. I don't wanna be stuck inside my Christian bubble all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 09:06 PM
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religious belief or lack thereof. Imo it essentially is. It takes about as much faith to believe in atheism as to believe in theism. But that's a whole other discussion. I just think it's important for partners to have similar views on religion, especially if one is actually part of a religious group.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:40 AM
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lol I'm fine. I just find these convos entertaining to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 12:08 AM
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ohhh yikes. I didn't even think of the "rape" thing. That can ruin a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:45 PM
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6'9" would be a bit much lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:39 PM
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yea. It's not a matter of thinking non-Christians are less-than or wouldn't make a good partner or something. It's just an incompatibility that would be impossible to get over. Especially if I'm looking to raise children with the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:34 PM
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But Tyrone's simply irresistible
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:32 PM
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ok
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:31 PM
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I certainly wouldn't care if I found out he was using shoes. If it gives him and edge on other guys, why not use em. It would probably make me more interested if he looked taller when I first met him. Even if I found out later it was shoes, I may be a bit disappointed, but by then he may have already hooked me with his personality. I'd say it's about as deceptive as make-up. edit: realized I said I wouldn't care then proceeded to say I'd be disappointed. I mean I wouldn't care enough to get angr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:31 PM
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Unless you're religious, as is my situation 😅 Being with an atheist would lead to certain disaster for any relationship I'm going to be a part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:26 PM
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it's best to stick to partners with similar religious beliefs for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:24 PM
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ahhh. okay yea. I get how that's be an issue then
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:52 PM
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how does one use sex as a weapon. Generally curious. I've heard it said before, but I don't actually know how that would be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:37 PM
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How is it cheating if you're not breaking any relationship boundaries?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:28 PM
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imho, no. There would have to be a lot more going on than just that for me to consider leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:26 PM
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I wouldn't say radical (but then again, I suppose I have a bias). By radical, I mean like hate groups attacking other people groups or spewing vitriol. I guess if you think just being a Christian is radical, then sure. But what I'm more worried about is if they're going to start attending riots and stuff or join a cult. Most people I know wouldn't consider me or other Christians I know radical.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:21 PM
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agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:08 PM
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12.64. I find it funny this is something I can calculate lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:07 PM
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I knew a guy once who's wife bought a million dollar home without consulting with him first. Needless to say, they aren't together anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:01 PM
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If they lost faith or weren't Christian (I say lost faith because I probably would never start dating them unless they were Christian). If they became involved in radical political movements and/or shifted ideologies dramatically (enough so that it would cause issues in parenting and raising our children in healthy way). If they vowed themselves to lifelong celibacy lol. If they decided they never wanted to marry. If they came out as gay (obviously) or transgender. There's many other things that…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 05:57 PM
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lol, my boyfriend is convinced he's had visions of the exact setting he will die. He also saw "velvet angels" (idk that's what he described them as), in his old houses as a child and his sisters saw them too. Men with supernatural visions is a must lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:09 PM
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a taste in fiction where a Bland Repressed Girl runs into a dude who acts like a psycho molestor but she's weirdly into it feeling called out 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:06 PM
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Being a human being is interesting enough for me. I don't find people uninteresting generally. If he's too "exciting" I would find that stressful tbh. I never really know what people mean by boring partners. If he doesn't have a whole lot going on I view that more as stability. My current boyfriend is a pretty straight forward guy. Works, games, doesn't think too hard about things, more sensible. Yea it doesn't make him an exciting partner to be with, but I'm really not going for exciting when l…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:03 PM
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It was an example (hence the "e.g.") of what a reputation is lol. It's to show you have a reputation no matter your social circumstances. A potential dating partner will have a reputation and it will affect you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:37 PM
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It was an example (hence the "e.g.") of what a reputation is lol. It's to show you have a reputation no matter your social circumstances. A potential dating partner will have a reputation and it will affect you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:37 PM
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20 and 16
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:32 PM
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tbh. I don't fully get it either. I've never been in the position of being cheated on and I definitely think other's feelings are valid in how they respond to that type of thing, but I don't fully get why it's such a gut punch. I get jealous and stuff, and I probably would be mad too, but I don't get why it hurts so much or even why jealousy exists at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:30 PM
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It's not who you talk about. It's how you view people internally. Eg. My sister has a reputation in our family of being very overdramatic and extremely conflictive. We don't talk about it all the time but we all know and it affects the way we behave around her. Everyone has a reputation and fits in somewhere in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:26 PM
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So you don't have friends, family, coworkers, bosses, extended family, anything? Maybe you're the recluse I'm talking about 😂 If you know people, you have a reputation. It exists whether you want it to or not. If you have a partner, they have a reputation with their own social circles and it will eventually extend to the people you know as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:11 PM
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The only reason I would use the word predator, is because I'm talking about people "preying" on other people. If you're talking about the legal definition that's different. But I'd say anyone who's preying on another person would qualify as a predator, or at least someone who exhibits predatory behaviour (I'm not saying that's the case for all those examples you mentioned). But when saying predator, or predatory behaviour, most people mean they're being creepy and manipulative. The english langu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:08 PM
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I'm not prone to throwing feminine wiles and charms out (don't really know how to do that tbh), so probably neither. I'd rather a guy charm me. If we're talking about the initial phases at least. If I was trying to "charm" him and he didn't respond, I would probably assume he wasn't interested or I was annoying him and stop (and probably feel extremely embarrassed and never ever try charming him again). But that's just me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:47 PM
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It's not the opinions of people I don't know, it's the opinions of people I do know. I don't wanna date a guy who everyone hates. That would cause a lot of stress for me and impact my relationships with my family and friends. And generally a person's status is a byproduct of who they are as a person. If they're a decent person and a hard worker, it probably won't be an issue. Maybe you think it's shallow, but I think it's pretty foolish to not consider a person's reputation and social standing b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:40 PM
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I'd say having good status is more important. Looks fade over time, and as long as he's not butt ugly, I'm not really concerned about attraction too much. But his status will reflect onto me as his partner more than his looks will. If he's got a poor reputation in his community or within groups that we're both a part of, I can see that reflecting poorly on me should I choose to be with him. As long as he's well-liked and respected within the people we hang around and in his workplace, that's goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:34 PM
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everyone at least acknowledges status implicitly. I guarantee you're going to be able to differentiate a well-respected, charismatic, successful person from the socially awkward outcast who's got a reputation as a creep. It doesn't mean you're actively thinking about it all the time, but people's brains are always making connections and associations in the background. If someone is successful socially, we'll notice and most likely be drawn to them and want to make connections. And when making de…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:27 PM
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Just curious. What do you propose this "something new" be? What would I, one individual woman, be able to do to make this whole ass new system? Cuz y'know, the only way I can do anything right is to rework the whole dating market I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 10:11 AM
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I think it might just be an individual thing. I'd say (if we're going on looks alone) about 70% of guys my age that I meet are datable (let me reiterate looks alone). I'm sure I'm maybe a bit out of the ordinary with that. Idk how most men think, but it's not that shocking to me that you're picky. Everyone's got their own standards and preferences and some are pickier than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:43 AM
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No shit they both get hate. Well wtf do you want us to do then? There's only two options here. Give into the system and get hate. Don't give in and get hate. You're not leaving us very many options here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:36 AM
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Shinji?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:10 AM
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If I was married I'd stay no question. If I hadn't reached that point, I might have second thoughts about the relationship. It depends how badly they let themselves go. If it was causing them a lot of health problems or really restricting the activities we could do together, I might leave them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:06 AM
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by long term I would always mean, dating with marriage as the end goal. I would feel like saying marriage would come off a bit strong, and I don't want someone to feel like they're locked in or that we're engaged or smthn. It just means, I'm looking for a potential life partner. At least to me that's what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:03 AM
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Can’t imagine people growing up thinking sex is a taboo and should only be restricted between a husband and a wife and then engaging in nasty acts. I would love to meet these people. hi
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:55 AM
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I don't really know what your belief system is, but I'm pretty sure OP is responding to trp idea of how women are drowning in an ocean of men. That it's apparently far easier for an average woman to get a good looking guy than for an average guy to get a even a below average woman. So when a woman recognizes this advantage and agrees with this idea (an idea mainly perpetuated by trp men), it's suddenly women being unfair? I hear more men than women say the kind of rhetoric OP is talking about. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:50 AM
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I agree to an extent. Picking arbitrary ages where people should be mature or not doesn't make a lot of sense. People can be taken advantage of at any age in their life depending on their circumstances. I just think older guys preying on young people who they know are in most cases naïve and easily manipulated is a problem. That doesn't make up the dynamics of every age-gap relationship of course, and unhealthy dynamics can form in any relationship. But if an 18 yo friend comes to me telling me …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 06:46 PM
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In my country, if you are 12-13, you can consent to anyone 2 years older of less. 14-15, changes to 5 years. 16 is free game.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:52 AM
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age of consent is more complicated than that in most places. eg. in my country, if you are 12-13, you can consent to anyone 2 years older of less. 14-15, changes to 5 years. 16 is free game 🙄. I wouldn't say my country has the best consent laws, but it shows that just because the age of consent has been changed, doesn't mean everyone in that age range can fuck each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:51 AM
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college has never had age restrictions tho. As long as you're qualified and can pay for it, anyone can go. My mom went when she was 16. It's just most people are 18 when they graduate so that just happens to be the age where most people start post secondary education.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:47 AM
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uhh. I didn't go out? I don't drink, have never been to a bar or club. I've only had one boyfriend and plan on marrying him and being a sahm. idk what you think ur talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:35 AM
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I'm a bit of everything. Kind of a floater. My best reference point is highschool (I'm 20 and covid started end of my senior year, so I haven't really been in the real world since highschool, which is quite recent anyways and I haven't changed to much since). I make friends easily, but don't get too close with people. I was band kid, video game nerd, art kid, weeb, druggie, and the Christian good girl all at once. A chameleon I guess. I fit in everywhere I went, but was never a focal point. I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:29 AM
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I'm not gonna leave obv, and of course I would want to be everything my bf could ever want in a partner. But ik that's not possible so I'm not gonna dwell on it. I still wouldn't want him telling me where I'm lacking tho 😅.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:18 AM
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As a 20 yo, I almost agree. Being targeted by men in their mid-twenties as an 18 year old fresh outta highschool wasn't fun. Knowing they felt fully justified in using whatever tactics they wanted to get to me, knowing full well how young, naive and innocent I was, because I was "technically" an adult. I wish I could've called them out for being creepy and predatory, but shit I was an adult so who tf cares. I still don't really know if raising the age of consent is the answer to these kinds of p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:04 AM
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lol yea. tbh idc that much bout getting attention, was mostly joking around a bit with my comment cuz my experiences tend to differ so much from what people here seem to assume about women. I've got a good man for myself, I just had to do all the pursuing. If I'm in need of some male attention, I'll keep the advice in mind lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:37 PM
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Lol. Because an ocean of attention from strangers is certainly appealing. I rather date people I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:33 PM
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Did you mean to reply to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:27 PM
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small city, Canada
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:26 PM
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I don't date online.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:26 PM
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Just saying I've never rejected a man, only been rejected. I've never overlooked anyone, there was no one to overlook. Had plenty of guys I was interested in, but none seemed interested in me. I have a bf now, but I put the work in to get him. I pursued him and gave him attention until he fell for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:25 PM
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C. I'd really like to know where this ocean of attention is that all the other ladies seem to be drowning in, cuz it be dry as a desert over here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:53 AM
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I wouldn't. I don't see the purpose for my son. I understand parents of certain religions and why they are inclined to do that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:33 PM
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If I'm interested in a guy, I generally try to befriend them to get closer to them and see if it's worth pursuing something. I've had lots of friends in the past who I became interested in by just being friends. I honestly probably wouldn't date someone unless I had some prior friendship experience with them, just to get a gauge on their personality. Maybe I'm the odd one out in this, but I definitely wouldn't date someone I don't really know all that well. Was friends with my bf 4 years before …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:30 PM
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Gen Z here. I would never pursue a relationship online and haven't had any trouble finding partners irl. Most of my friends don't use online dating either, other than for a quick hookup. Most people I know meet potential partners through things like, school, work, clubs, and mutual. That's just my experience, there are of course others who might have something different to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:22 PM
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Me and my bf already knew before we started dating. We'd been friends for a long time and were both at a solid zero. He had one ex (coincidentally a close friend of mine) but they hadn't "done the deed" so to speak. I would want to know about my partners experience and would also want them to know about mine before committing to something serious. I'm also a Christian, and in religious circles that's more of a big deal. I wouldn't want to be years into a relationship and get dumped for not being…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:17 PM
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Most nasty individuals I've had to deal with were only in my life because I ignored or rationalized away bad signs. Hindsight is 20/20, and looking back on those situations, the red flags were bright and obvious from the start. I was more naive back then and not nearly cynical enough. "Sniffing out" bad partners is more of a learned skill. Especially when strong romantic emotions come into play, it's easier to overlook things. Afterall, it's hard to tell the flags are red when everything's tinte…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:13 AM
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true. I didn't even think about how many single women abuse the system. I think there should be more regulation in the type of people who have access to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:26 AM
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yea. this kind of thing would be my only concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:18 PM
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I'd say being married is a bit more insurance than just dating. Both me and my partner really value the sanctity of marriage and view that as an important step in our relationship (likely due to religious reasons as well lol). I know anything can happen, and people can change. Even if we both realize we want to spend our lives together, marriage is actually making a covenent with that person, recognized by law and by the Lord (as I'm typing this, I realize it kind of all just ties back to religi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:09 AM
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well there's no guarantee that I will end up marrying him, so there's that. There's other things. We're both Christian, for one. I have a lot more complex and personal reasons as to why, but I don't think I really want to go into that on a public website lol 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:36 AM
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it's funny. Sometimes I just read the post titles out to my bf for a good laugh. It's an interesting mindset people have and I also just enjoy debating. I guess I'm not technically a lurker, but I have a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:24 PM
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yea. It's gotten worse since her last breakup and she's extremely miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:34 PM
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yea. tbh. I'm a girl and this shit bothers me. I have a uber feminist friend, and everytime I talk to her it's like she's convincing me to break up with my bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:26 PM
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I absolutely care. It's something I would feel really uncomfortable about if it was very high. I'm my partner's first, and he's my first. I actually regret not saving it till marriage. I want me and the man I marry to have been exclusive to each other and I probably will achieve that with my current bf. If I wasn't in a relationship and was still looking, if the guy's got a couple under his belt, it wouldn't be a dealbreaker. But I would definitely want to talk to him about the nature of the enc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:08 PM
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I realize that looks aren't number one. But a lot of people on this sub consider looks to be one of the main things that matters. It seemed to be a post talking more about people being insecure about their looks in comparison to others, so that's why I related my experience to it. So yea. I'm obv his first choice overall. I mean, he chose to date me, so that kinda shows I clearly have smthn over other women. It doesn't cause me too much grief, and you're right that looks are only a part of what …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:37 AM
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lol believe me. I give him as many hugs as I possibly can haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:22 PM
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Thank you 😊 He is a really great guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:44 PM
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lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:39 PM
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lol I wouldn't carry a gun even if it was legal (Canadian here), but yea I suppose I could make some changes haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:38 PM
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I don't think he would leave me, he had plenty of very attractive women trying to be with him before we got together that he turned down. It's not like they aren't available if he wanted. I know he's committed to me beyond my looks. It's just basic insecurity. Of course I wish I could be the best for him in every possible way, but it's just not possible. To be clear, I think I'm a better option than his ex in basically every way except the looks department. He's very good looking and sometimes I…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:34 PM
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Everyone wishes they could be their partners first pick. Even I realize that my bf's ex was objectively more attractive than me despite what he tells me. I wouldn't say people "don't care", I think most people just wouldn't let it become a big issue. Does it bug me that there are women who are plenty hotter than me who my bf would probably be more attracted to? Yea, of course. But just cuz I care about it doesn't mean I'm going to end my relationship over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:10 PM
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I think it's natural for people to want to present themselves better than they really are. Some people take it too far of course, but people are only going to show their positives plus some embellishments usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:46 PM
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I wouldn't change anything. Maybe watch my back a bit more because I'm apparently more at risk of being raped lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:27 PM
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My mother was like the kid between my parents. She still cooks and does the shopping ( I don't call her the "kid" to mean she didn't put in effort or anything. She was still a great mother. But if one of them had to be the "kid", it would be her). The house is a mess and my dad always gets after her when he gets home from work. She's also a lot less emotionally mature and holds a lot of grudges over petty things. My dad on the other hand is pretty much perfect. Can't think of a single thing he's…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:49 PM
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My boyfriend has been this way recently too. He thinks it's because of the weather and that he's been less active lately (freezing here in Canada). But basically exact same thing you have going on but reverse the roles and he'll only have sex with me maybe once every couple weeks (and only after bugging him about it a lot). He says he just isn't horny and doesn't feel like sex. Maybe her libido just dropped? Has she changed up her birth control at all? Could be something else like other users ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:11 AM
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It was a simplistic example to get the idea across. It's just to show that sometimes people just aren't compatible with each other. Other examples might be a very materialistic person and a very minimalistic person, a very extroverted person with a very introverted person, an outdoor enthusiast with a indoor hermit, or a very emotionally open person with a very reserved person) Sometimes the change and effort needed to maintain a lifestyle with someone with such vast differences isn't sustainabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:00 AM
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lmao, I'm sorry. I forgot about my female nature. I'll be sure to dump my bf as soon as he shows any sign of emotional vulnerability. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 06:34 AM
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Most people I'd say, as sad as it is. Regardless, it matters to me and is a standard I hold for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 06:21 AM
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Up until marriage I'd agree. "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health." I take my word seriously. Marriage is a commitment. In a relationship that hasn't reaches that point it would be different and very situational. Whether you have kids or not, the financial situation (are you leaving the newly disabled/ill person hanging dry because you've put yourselves in a situation where they are completely dependent on you financially), how long have you been together, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:39 AM
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yea sorry lol. I've had a couple friends go for shorties, but it's quite uncommon. And usually the short guy has to work super hard for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:09 PM
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Ardyn do be hot shit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:07 PM
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Personally I love a masculine men. I don't care too much about defined muscles or anything (although that's nice. I like a bit of softness to cuddle tho) but I like to have a guy who is big and I feel like could protect me. I have little to no sexual or romantic interest in the pretty boy aesthetic. I think they are good looking. Some of the hottest guys I've ever seen fall into that category, I'm just not attracted to them. I love the style and everything and most of the characters I draw fall …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:02 PM
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I'd agree. But it depends how much they'd have to change about themselves. If they're changing who they are so much to the point of it being unsustainable, their dating would probably only be successful for a short time until they reverted back to their old way. eg. If I wanted to date a gym rat. I'm not out of shape, and I could definitely go to the gym every now and then and somewhat incorporate fitness into my lifestyle more. But I would never be willing to make that my "thing". It just doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 04:52 AM
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Every time a concern comes up, I confront it with my partner and we talk through it. If we need to have some time apart to think, or need to make changes or set more boundaries, we talk about it. In times were it got really bad, I would take notes and write letters. Me and my partner both share in our faith, so that plays a huge part in how we navigate it too, but I realize that's not an avenue that's available to everyone. Basically, communication is key. Even if it seems unimportant or a minor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 04:39 AM
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as women, it is our greatest accomplishment as a sex, to be able to say that we don’t need a man. Please don't speak for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 04:31 AM
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it’s interesting to me how men are now saying that relationships are about love and commitment but they don’t really preach that? The men here only want to preach monogamy when it’s beneficial for them and preach using women like rags when it doesn’t. Then it’s about love This is such an unfair observation. These men have always been here. It may suprise you, but not all men hold the exact same views and values. Just because Johnny says he wants 20 wives doesn't mean Tom doesn't value a committe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:16 PM
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I find it tends to be cis "woke" activists who say it the most. Speaking in behalf of an issue most trans people don't care about. Most trans people I know, would much rather date someone who is attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:07 PM
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A man created this post. Most women find him above average, or in my case, hot shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 06:44 PM
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lmao😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 02:34 AM
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Maybe you've already seen it and it's kind of a Christmas movie, but It's A Wonderful Life is one of my favorites.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 02:02 AM
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I like Adam Driver tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:56 AM
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hot shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:54 AM
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First things. Out of everyone on that list, I would put Brad Pitt on top (young Brad Pitt). Joseph Gordon Levitt beats Ryan Gosling and Jaime Dornan (They are objectively good looking people. I just don't find them attractive. In fact I kinda find them unattractive lol, but I can't deny most traditional tastes.) I think Michael Cera is cute. He's more interesting to look at which makes me more interested in him lol (one of my favourite actors tbh.) I realize he's not attractive in a traditional …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:50 AM
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I'd like to have a happy marriage and family. Hopefully grandkids one day too. I'm hoping to eventually marry my current bf. We're taking things slow and planning ahead financially so we can afford a relatively comfortable life. Eventually I would like to be a stay-at-home mom, but that won't be for a while yet. We won't marry until my bf graduates college which will be in around 3 years. I'm graduating next year, so I'm planning to stay at home and save money while working, in preparation for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 08:04 PM
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lol well regardless of the reason I make a point not to send pics to strangers on line 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 06:01 AM
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Rather not send a pic lol, but good to know ig
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:43 AM
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At what point is a woman considered fat? I wouldn't call myself slim, but I've got a nice figure. Nice hourglass, good curves, thic thighs. Everyone refers to slender as attractive and overweight as unattractive. There's a huge hunk of women that sit somewhere in between. Would they be taking uo the market too?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:23 AM
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Guess I got lucky. Honest relationship wasn't that difficult to find 😅 Maybe don't date strangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:19 AM
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If a mother realizes their child is not going to have a father figure, it's their responsibility to do what they can to provide their boys with a healthy view of masculinity. Whether that be introducing substitute male figures, researching, etc. Mothers need to do their part and do extra if they're going to be single. It's not a scapegoat. Fathers are at fault too, more so than mothers. But to simply say "They're doing their best" is silly. For starters, a lot of women don't do their best. I agr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:42 AM
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I agree with you to an extent. Of course fathers should be taking responsibility for their children. There's no doubt that an absent father is thr problem. But I also have a problem with single mothers who push these negative ideas of masculinity on their children. A mother's bad experience with a man doesn't justify her talking shit about men as a whole to or in front of her sons. The last thing a young boy needs to hear is how fucked up he is by nature of being a boy. Even if a mother is only …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:15 AM
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I'd argue this is good advice for anyone showing vulnerability in any situation. Becoming vulnerable with anyone is inherently risky. You best be prepared for it to be thrown in your face, or you're just setting yourself up for hurt. Also if they react negatively like you described, that's you're cue they're not necessarily a person you want to be around. Sure you can possibly maintain interest by taking the rejection and disgust in stride, but you really need to take the time to decide whether …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:53 AM
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I would say being without a father figure would be really detrimental to men in all aspects of life, not just dating. The importance of a positive male influence is extremely important for young men. I know this isn't all single mothers, but certainly a lot of them have resentment and bitterness towards men. No matter how hard they try to hide it (some don't try at all), children pick up on that. Young boys are suddenly given so much expectation. To be the man their father wasn't. They lack prid…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:45 AM
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uhhhh. no. I'd just wait until they're ready. If it was a "No, not ever," that would be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 12:07 AM
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Currently in a LTR of a year and half. Not living together and don't plan on it until marriage so probably in around 3-4 years. Our political views are mostly the same. Any differences are just matter if where we put certain things into priority, not necessarily what we believe in. Our personal values are aligned and we share a religion that we both follow strongly. I believe in completely open communication. We've had enough problems arise from stuff things down for too long, it's important to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:48 PM
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nah. I need a man who can keep a good budget. Frivolous spending is a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 09:49 PM
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average is overweight? He's got a hot face. Nice body. He's hot. Not much more to say lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 09:48 PM
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This is true. I despise taking selfies but everytime I look in the mirror I'm like "damnnnnnn". Avoiding cameras has greatly improved my self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 08:52 PM
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Joseph Gordon Levitt is hot stuff. way above average imo. Not personally my type, but he's hot as shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:12 PM
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A+. Happiness of my heart tells me good job picking. More of a B+ for actually being a good girlfriend tho. age 20. Still with my man year and a half and he gets an A+ for being a great boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:10 PM
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I cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:08 PM
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mothers are not to be underestimated when someone threatens their child.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 12:27 AM
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u just triggered a lot of ppl with ptsd.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 08:17 PM
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I mean, there's a lot wrong with that statement, but I wasn't really responding to that. Like I understand what you are saying about how frustrating and stressful it can be when someone is complaining about a problem, but they won't listen to any advice etc. But what I was saying is sometimes there isn't a problem to be fixed. Half the stuff I cry about is just stuff that's going on in my life that I have no control over. I just felt like your broken car analogy is very short-sighted. Like what …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 08:14 PM
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The only trauma caused by the other gender I've experienced have occurred during my current and only relationship. Because of how my partner responded and because he kinda added to the issue, it definitely has affected my current relationship, and I definitely look a bit differently at men now. Like I always need to watch my back.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:57 PM
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Sometimes there's nothing to be fixed. I cry a lot (smthn I wanna work on) and often times after crying I just feel better. Or I just needed to express what I was feeling, and after talking about it (often with tears) I feel better. Obviously if there is a problem or a solutions, help is appreciated. But lots of the time I just need to get smthn off my chest. Listening is helping.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:49 PM
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My personal preference is a man who doesn't cry a lot. Of course it's okay in emotionally heavy moments. I have comforted my bf a couple times when he really needed a good cry. And I always tell him it's okay to cry and express himself, because I really don't want him to feel like he needs to hold things back (that's a recipe for disaster in any relationship). But I do find myself grateful that he doesn't cry that often. I'm an emotional mess myself, and having him in tears all the time would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:35 PM
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ah yea. I went and looked it up again. idk why I remembered one third. closer to two thirds really.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:12 PM
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Why is "hubby" demeaning? I think it's cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 06:51 AM
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you have a great taste for music.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 06:48 AM
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If someone is coming to me and telling me how happy they are, how much they love their partner, and how much they enjoy being in a relationship, I'm not going to assume they're settling. Not that relationships are happy all the time, but a healthy relationship exhibits love that those close to them can see. I've seen unhealthy and toxic relationships, and I've seen healthy loving relationships (which can still happen even when someone chooses to settle sometimes). I'm mostly talking about my sib…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 02:15 AM
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That was in terms of finance. OP was asking about expectations regarding finance. Not in terms of a whole partner. Finance is only one aspect of what makes a potential partner, and I was only addressing that aspect in my first response (because that was all that was asked).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 11:03 PM
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I don't want to date strangers. I'd rather date people I know and have witnessed to be of quality character. I never said I wanted to date a guy like you. I'm not looking for someone who is just financially succesful or someone who is just good looking or both. Those are nice things, but I want someone who I feel would make good dad. From what little interaction we've had, I really don't think you fit the bill. If there are plenty of guys like you on dating apps, I don't want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 10:29 PM
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Age wasn't the only thing I talked about there. 25 isn't too old. Impressive that you're so financially accomplished at such a young age, I had assumed you'd be older. But I don't know why you're using yourself as an example for this conversation. I've never met you so of course I would never consider dating you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 10:16 PM
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Well you can think what you want. I don't use dating apps, and I wouldn't date a guy just for being financially stable. If I'm gonna raise kids with them, we need to share values, views on parenting, religion, etc. These are most important to me. Of course I want a guy who I'm attracted to, much like every other human being in the world. I prefer someone my age as well. If you're making 300k at 20, that's pretty impressive. But ultimately, having a lot of money and being good looking isn't going…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 10:09 PM
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I think studies have shown that at least a third of women experience rape fantasies. I don't know if it could be linked to rape hysteria. It's possible tho. Actually the more I think about it it could play a significant part. At least in my own experience, I've had rape fantasies and it used to be my main go to for erotica and whatnot. I honestly did see rape everywhere, as weird as it sounds. Like it's not that I literally wanted it to happen, but maybe just cuz it was exciting to think about, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 10:03 PM
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Yea. It was appealing to those who fantasize about BDSM/noncon, not necessarily those who are actually involved in the kink. It was poorly written, but it was essentially porn for a lot of women. Quality wasn't the focal point for women reading 50 shades
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:50 PM
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nice. If it works for you guys, great. I want a similar situation but reversed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:38 PM
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He sounds exactly like my bf to be honest. Often times with my bf, it doesn't even occur to him that those shows of affection mean a lot to me. He communicates his love differently than I do, so it's caused a few problems. Be open abut how you feel, tell him if you need more of some things from him. It's possible he just doesn't realize there's any problem at all. Ask him what investing in a relationship means to him. It took me long time to realize that just because my bf doesn't reciprocate ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:31 PM
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I'm not sure what they mean. I've never felt the same sentiment. My guess is they got into a casual relationship hoping it'd turn into something serious. It didn't and now they're upset. Or perhaps they went in wanting to "change/fix" their partner and (big surprise) it didn't work. To all the other women. Stop doing this. Don't start something with hopes of change happening. You'll only be disappointed and leave whatever man you chose as your project feeling more worthless than they were before…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:04 PM
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oh how could I be so blind? This thing that brings me and others joy and fulfillment on a daily basis, is actually a thorn in my side I'd be better without it. Thank you for showing me the light, I'll be sure to spread the news.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 08:59 PM
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I wanna eventually be a stay at home mom, so he'd need to make enough to provide for a family. Whether that's more or less than what I make, doesn't really matter. As of rn tho, I'm only a college student, so I don't expect my potential partners to be making a family supporting income, or any income at all atm. I'm thinking more in terms of what I need from a life partner. So atm, a potential partner would need at least a good work ethic, and even better a financial plan or career goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 08:49 PM
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I'm more talking about checking the box for women's kinks lol. what's popular will always change with the times, but I'm sure people who are looking for a steamy romance with a hot dom will have 50 shades as a go to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 08:26 PM
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You'd be surprised/disgusted by the shit I've read online. It definitely doesn't end there. Anything you can find in male dominated spaces, you can usually find an equivalent or even more extreme version in the women's writing online.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:50 PM
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nah it was written by a woman originally as a fanfic for twilight. It plays into many fantasies of women. To be dominated by an extremely rich attractive male. Kinda checks the box for a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:48 PM
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I'm a very sexually involved person as a woman (far more than my partner), but I'll admit most of my girlfriends are less so than I am. Most of the women I'm friends with feel annoyed by their partners or feel like they can't keep up with them. It's the opposite for me, as I tend to feel like my partner is far less sexual than me and far farrrr more vanilla (not to drag on him or anything, he's a wonderful man, we're just not the most sexually compatible ig). I don't really know what determines …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:43 PM
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Most of these couples I'm talking about are happily engaged, or married with children. Or at the very least enjoy being in a relationship. If I told them they'd be better off on their own, they'd laugh in my face. Most people in healthy and happy relationships realize the value it brings to their lives. But yea. I'll go tell my bro his girl is just a huge waste of time and money. He doesn't need a family, even though that's pretty much always been his only goal in life. He'll have fun doing shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:09 PM
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It's impossible for me to comment on what's going on with your friend, and you know this. You already did comment on my friend in your post. You commented on my friends, sisters, mother, grandmother, myself. You've already commented on her, don't try to take it back now. LMS is what people pick partners on. Maybe it's what you pick partners for. Maybe it's what most women on Tinder pick partners for. But saying "some women", or "a lot of women on Tinder" is very different than saying "women". I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:19 AM
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Everyone is looking for the best deal sure. No one wants to be suck in an unhappy relationship. But I'm not gonna turn down a possible good catch just because they have low LMS. Like those are nice things but they aren't pivotal in picking a mate. Women don't get with men randomly. I didn't describe women getting with men randomly. It's about people interacting with one another, recognizing compatibility, and dating. My closest friend is with someone well below average in LMS, because he pursued…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 08:17 AM
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If people genuinely operated this way, the majority of the couples I know simply wouldn't exist. I never auctioned myself off to the highest bidder. No women I know personally have done this. We all just existed in the world, formed connections, and started relationships. This is how most people get into relationships. This may have some molecule of truth for OLD (still none I've seen any evidence of irl), but if you're an unattractive person, I really don't understand why you would do OLD anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:24 AM
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I simped for my bf for a couple years, finally landed him. No regrets. These ideologies just cause people to overthink and doubt themselves. If the guy likes simping, let him simp. If the girl likes being simped for, let her bask in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:11 PM
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both me and my boyfriend love cats. No problems as of yet. I'll admit I'm a lot less social, but I didn't get my own cat until this year, so I really don't think it's the cause. My bf absolutely loves cats, has grown up with two cats since he was young, and is way more socialized than I am. He's popular and forms friendships easily, is way more involved in his friend's lives than I am, and is just all around more charismatic than I am. I realize these are just anecdotes, but I know so many diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:06 PM
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this is just a guess cuz I'm not into either, but maybe cuz being at the bar involves a bit more game. I love flirting and everything leading up to the activities probably more than I like the actual thing, so maybe they just prefer the irl experience as opposed to just an online transaction essential. Tbh I just hate texting and stuff, so irl interactions are always preferred. I would never consider OLD but that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:55 PM
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Most people are upset about their entitled attitudes, not necessarily what they're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:50 PM
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MANY woman have expressed they aren't interested in men that only want casual sex. Doesn't that mean it lessens his value across the board?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 09:12 PM
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I don't OLD, so I guess things are a bit different. I would consider myself dating someone once we officially decided together we are a exclusive relationship. That being said, if I felt like things were very clearly going in that direction with a guy, but we hadn't actually discussed it yet, I would probably pull back on any other guys I was flirting with. I've never really been in a position where I'm flirting with multiple guys or anything, but this is just how I'd do it if I was in that posi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:46 PM
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it determines my market value lmao is what I'm saying. Value as a romantic partner is completely subjective to each individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:03 PM
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If they were saying it as a general claim like "I think women are lying about ________." That would be different. But it would still be anecdotal. Still not correct but wouldn't bother me as much. Where the problem comes in is when men are saying it directly to a woman's face. They have no way to know if that woman is lying, so in most cases they simply are wrong. A woman dating an attractive man is not "contradicting" their claims. There is no contradiction there. Attraction is a spectrum. Back…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 07:51 PM
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the point is OP is saying if they're only looking for casual sex they're outta my league. I disagree. Even if someone else considers that man "high value", they simply wouldn't be to me. I'm only looking for ltr, so anyone who is even willing to be involved in that life style is instantly of zero value to me in the dating world. That's reality
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 07:43 PM
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uh yea. they are wrong. tf?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 07:37 PM
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I understand where it comes from, but I see so many trp men call women liars directly to their faces, it's aggravating. It sucks to have a bunch of men call you a liar simply because you're currently dating an attractive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:40 AM
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Children are entitled to fathers. There's a reason why it takes a man and a woman to create a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 04:39 AM
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lmao 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 03:00 AM
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True. I consider that probably one of the most telling things. I am of the opinion the man and women each have their own advantages and disadvantages in this world, but when it comes to the custody of my own children, being a man becomes an infinitely worse option despite what few advantages it might have.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:14 AM
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I really wouldn't consider a man only looking for casual sex "out of my league", no matter how physically attractive they are. I don't struggle with this issue, but a man only interested in me for casual sex is definitely not valuable to me 😂 a man being hot does not make them high value to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:11 AM
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Just because a woman is currently dating a tall, traditionally attractive man, doesn't mean she's shallow or wouldn't be interested in other kinds of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:04 AM
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Taller than me, not extremely obese. These are most important. I have other preferences, but those are simply preferences. I would almost certainly not bend on the obesity issue (almost. Maybe in some rare situations. I did crush on an overweight guy once, but idk when overweight turns to obese so..). The height thing is more up to debate, but a guy shorter than me might have to work a bit more to get my attention (I'm kinda insecure about my height). And I mean, if the guy is just unbearably un…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 09:57 PM
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Kay I don't disagree that past matters. But this argument is weird af
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:07 AM
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Ik lol. Guy A has no redeeming qualities other than not cheating 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 01:23 AM
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yea but that user was responding to the exact same "whataboutism" from OP. OP was basically saying women have it harder than men, and so of course people are going to respond in this way. Every time a man talks about these things it's met with women telling them they don't have it that bad. I see this attitude from both men and women, but I hardly see women get reprimanded for it while men get shit on all the time. All I expect women to do is care.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 08:48 PM
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saying women are assaulted more then men, is false. OP never stated they were talking about sexual related crimes only. The whole post was talking about how women have a harder time then men, not only concerning sexually related crime, but in many factors of life. It's a common misconception that women are more often victims of assault then men. Not clarifying reinforces a false perception that many people have. It's not obvious that's the assault statement was only refering to sexual crimes. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:55 PM
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It was literally a false statement. lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:45 PM
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I kind of think the differentiation is important. It's literally incorrect. Throwing false assault statistics in a list of sexual crimes is a great way to untruthfully exaggerate a case. Besides, you responded to a comment about death statistics by saying women get assaulted more than men die so I don't see how it would be wrong of me to clarify that men also get assaulted more than women. Anyone reading that who didn't know the truth would assume it was just assault and you would be perpetuatin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:56 PM
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I look at my parents relationship. Idk how I would define succes for everyone else, but for myself, if I could achieve even a semblance of what they have, I would consider myself successful. I would say successful dating ends with two partners living together and enjoying living together. You'd have to be at a point where you'd rather live with this person instead of by yourself for the rest of your lives. (this excluding toxic dependency in relationships or abuse and control dynamics). For myse…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:38 PM
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beta
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:27 PM
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A lot of men care, but every time they talk about it people just scream at them how women have it worse. If you look at a lot of men in this sub, they've just given up because so many people say the the same shit you're saying here. They've resigned themselves to the fact that no one cares, so why should they. I'm not blaming women, but it doesn't help when women cry "mysogyny every time a man mentions the shit they have to deal with. Every men's right activist gets labelled as an incel. There a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:26 PM
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sexual assault is only one type of violent crime. if you look at violent crimes as a whole, men are the majority of victims. You only mentioned "assault" in your comment, perpetuating the idea that women are more often victims of assault. Which is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:18 PM
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yea because women already do all the screaming for themselves. I too would find it difficult to care about someone else's shit if they never even sent a scrap of care my way. Women are far more heard than men, yet I rarely see any of them use their platform to address men's issues. The moment a man mentions their struggles it gets invalidated because they're "members of the patriarchy". It's bullshit. If you're so mad about men not caring about women's issues, why don't you exemplify the behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:07 PM
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Who cares who's doing the killing. No one is trying to blame women with this statistic, men just want their voices heard and to be recognized that their struggles are valid too. People are still dying. The least you could do is express concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:55 PM
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It's not about blaming women. It's about recognizing that women aren't the only ones who have to be fearful when they walk the street. We can have empathy for the victims without turning it into a blame game.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:53 PM
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And more men are assaulted than women. Love that you left that part out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:51 PM
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Lmao. Of course 😂😂😂 I forgot by nature of being a woman, I need to hate all man. I'll get right back to it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:42 PM
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I never said they were equivalent. I don't think there is any way to measure who's more disadvantaged in every walk of life. And trying to determine this by huge generalizations such as gender is just silly. There are plenty of men who are extremely advantaged and plenty of women who are extremely advantaged. If anything, taking people's wealth into consideration will mean a lot more than whether they are male or female. Even then, that's something that requires nuance. I just think we should ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:27 PM
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Can't we just accept that women and men have different challenges and advantages in life? I'm sure if you swapped places with a man there would be a whole lot about it you wouldn't enjoy or would admit is a challenge. I'm sure men would feel the same if they experienced life as a woman. Life has all kinds of difficulties and struggles unique to each person's experience. I don't understand those who label themselves as progressive when they still squabble over who has it worse. Isn't another prog…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 08:22 AM
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The specific type of companionship that comes with a committed romantic partner. Knowing he's always got my back and that I'm loved. Knowing I bring value to his life in a way nobody else does. Always having a shoulder to cry on and someone to share my achievements big and small with. Another huge aspect is the ability to start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 08:00 AM
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I've always watched porn for the girls tbh. I'm not lesbian, but girls are hot. I don't really care about the male form too much. I don't watch anymore, but it never made me feel insecure. What makes me feel insecure is my bf watching porn and seeing women who I know are more attractive than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:59 PM
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the only other way to know if it's gonna be a good book is if it has reviews. You could also pick up a boring looking book, read the whole thing, and decide it was in fact boring. Most people choose books by hearing what others have said about it, so I really don't think this is a good comparison. No, a good cover and initial impression doesn't guarantee a good book, but the odds are better than picking a book that draws no interest at all. Besides, looks do matter to women. Most people want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:20 PM
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alcohol of course makes people more bold and act on their feelings. If a girl gets horny while drunk, she's gonna do smthn about it lol. I know from experience. I've never done the casual stuff, and I don't really drink, but the one night in my life I've bern legitimately drunk I finally made a move on my 4 year crush. Alcohol definitely does something. Another aspect might be the environment. Asking someone out at a bar or nightclub, a place where they're ready to socialize and have more fun, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:57 PM
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no. I don't want sex with someone else. I'm a pretty kinky person, but that ain't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:52 PM
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It's miserable for the girl sometimes tho. I'm that girl in my relationship, but my man definitely doesn't return the favor. My friend is in the same situation in her relationship too. A lot of men just get annoyed or tired of their girl texting all the time or wanting to hang out a lot. I wish I was less this way tbh. Generally women like this need a lot of affection in return or they start to worry about their man losing interest (Not me outing my own insecurities 🥲)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:27 AM
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made me laugh 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:19 AM
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I dislike both versions
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:18 AM
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The main reason it would affect my thoughts on continuing a relationship with them would be because I question their money managing skills. It would depend on a lot tho. Like if the improvements were very noticable and have drastically increased their quality of life and self-esteem. Were they secure enough financially to commit to something like that? Specifically what were the changes made? Of course this is assuming these are purely cosmetic surgeries (not because of an accident or for any ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:15 AM
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The main reason I dislike the weight question is because weight can mean a lot of different things for different body types. Depending on height, muscle mass, where you carry your weight, etc. the number doesn't actually mean much unless it's extremely high. idk. you can still ask if you want, but weight and height are two very different things. I would not be offended if someone asked my height. Like sometimes it's a bit embarrassing because I'm a bit tall for a girl, but it's not the end of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:54 AM
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If they had a really low sex drive and were exclusively a sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:42 AM
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Two parent households (husband and wife) is the most ideal environment for children. Even the best single mother couldn't compete with the best two parent household. That being said it all depends on the quality of the parent. One loving parent is better than two abusive/neglectful/narcissistic parents. Two parents definitely have a head start, but if they drop the ball a single mother could easily be better. Same goes for homosexual relationships. Although a husband and wife is ideal for provid…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:36 AM
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what if I cared about multiple things at once 😱
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:58 AM
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Never. The only reason it takes me a bit to tell guys I'm in a relationship is because I can't always tell if they're hitting on me or not. I'm always scared of offending them by assuming that they're interested in me, so I usually wait until I'm absolutely sure they're trying smthn. I rlly don't wanna come across as the "I have a bf" chick, but especially in online chatting it is required. I don't think I've ever had any friends do that either. At least not while I was with them. Maybe I'm just…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:07 AM
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It's basically how I've always seen them. I mean I'm really disgusted by aspects of both sides of the conversation. I tend to have more sympathy for red pillers than blue pillers tho. Even tho I definitely think a lot of the rhetoric is toxic and harmful not only to others, but to themselves, I also understand why the sentiments exists and can't deny the truth behind some of it. Seeing the really ugly stuff gets me revved up a bit, but it's not like I didn't know they thought this way before the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:01 AM
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I think a lot of people don't understand that sex is part of showing your partner you desire them (and just an important part of relationships in general). I have this issue all the time with my bf cuz he rarely wants to have sex or be affectionate with me. Like, I realize that he still enjoys spending time with me and still desires to be in a relationship with me, but the consistent sexual rejection still stings and causes me to question whether they care about my own desires or not. Or whether…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 06:52 AM
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I don't really know if there is a way to define such a subjective thing. Everyone has different things that are valuable to them as an individual. For example I may value a guy who's very family oriented and desires to have children and be dad. Another woman who aren't looking to be a mother would probably not value that in the same way I do. There are obvious things that do increase value such as wealth, positive character traits, good looks, etc. ofc. But depending on what combination of these…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 06:40 AM
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lol I guess so 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 11:27 PM
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no, cuz I'm not gonna starve myself even if it meant I wasn't gonna land a man. If the only way for me to find a partner is to actively harm myself, it's simply not worth it. And if I did starve myself for that reason, it's still a decision I made about my own body. No one forced me to do it. At some point people need to take responsibility for their own actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:51 PM
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hmm. I guess I don't know enough about steroids. But the way I see it, if someone is actively doing something that is harmful in the way steroids are, that's they're own responsibility, not women's. Same vice versa with women starving themselves and shit. They can't blame that on men when they are the ones actively harming themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:33 PM
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Alright yea. I don't have a real answer cuz I don't tend to blame others for my own issues. Especially not just whole generalized groups such as an entire gender lol. I don't get why some women do it other than just to shift responsibility over themselves to others. Like a scapegoat scenario. It puts off having to confront the real problem that is caused by the self by instead just blaming everyone else and expecting them to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:07 PM
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Exactly. I'm not blaming men for it, although I know there are some women who do. Idk if ur mad at me or smthn cuz ur agreeing with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:55 PM
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Like a year and a half. He started working out a month or so ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:53 PM
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I had to block absolutely everything. Even some of his friends that I had gotten to know. I had to come to terms with me being okay and competent on my own before ever even considering dating again. I had to be content with never dating again before I could be ready to look for something new. I hung out with friends a lot and cried a lot too. Most of it just takes time to heal, but never try to push down or ignore how you feel. Confront the feelings and allow yourself to actually express them. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 10:49 AM
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Nah I believe you. My bf recently started working out and he's totally doing it just for himself too. He wants to feel healthier and happier about himself. I sure af know he's not doing it for me lol cuz he knows I love him exactly how he is rn. I mean he is doing it to look more attractive. But attractive to himself, not me. So yea, I definitely don't believe this kind of self-care is always solely motivated to attract other people. Sometimes it just feels good to feel pretty (or handsome if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 10:40 AM
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We went shopping together the other day. He wanted to try painting his nails, so we went and picked some nail polish up among other things. I hardly ever paint my nails so I thought it'd be a kinda fun for us to try it together. We got home and spent the night painting our nails. We both kinda sucked at it but it was fun. Idk if it counts as a date tbh I don't rlly know what does. It was just a fun day we spent together. Every moment I spend with him is absolutely amazing so this qualifies for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 10:26 AM
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I'd rather neither. But option 2 if forced to choose. I rlly couldn't imagine being in a relationship without cuddles, kisses or sex, but at least he could provide for my children. Idk if I would have any with him tho, because we wouldn't be able to model a healthy loving relationship for whatever kids we do have. I don't have the patience to deal with an autistic ugly dude who I'd have to provide for. I literally just cannot deal with autism srry (Ik I sound like an asshole, but I've dealt with…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 10:01 AM
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We all know women aren't attracted to short men (on average), but I'll never understand actively disliking short men, let alone being this cruel. Like I'm as much a fan of a tall guy as the next girl, but I have plenty of short guy friends too that don't deserve this kind of shit. Lack of attraction should not be a reason to dislike a person as a fellow human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:47 AM
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I feel like a mix of both is fine. But other people tend to be far better motivators. Not even just an SO or smthn, but I think of my future children and a family I want to have. I have to improve myself so I can be the best mother for my children and best wife for my husband. I also find motivation for things I just want for myself as well of course, but I still enjoy being recognized by others for my efforts and enjoy the social benefits of it as well. eg. learning how to do make up is somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:17 AM
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tbh, I don't know if I've met a truly misogynistic person irl. Most guys I know are chill and have always treated me as an equal. Sure they make jokes about women and stuff, but that shits funny. It never really comes across as genuine misogyny. I guess a few of the unattractive ones may say some stuff here and there, but often times they're talking about actual women they knew that treated them like shit. It's not misogyny if they're literally just venting about real shit that happened. So basi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:52 AM
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I want to feel desired and attractive. I also want to feel secure that my man isn't gonna drop me for being too needy or annoying. I want a someone who seems to care what I'm doing throughout the day or just think of me while he's at work or smthn. I want someone to have a family with and who I can rely on. A provider. sex is good too lol 😜 Idk. typical relationship stuff ig. Someone I can feel safe to share my feelings with. I guess I just want someone to love me. Like choose me and show their …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:45 AM
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No I wouldn't. But I'm religious lol. If I weren't religious I wouldn't see much reason to get married other than to feel a little more secure that my partner isn't gonna up an d leave me one day. But if I wasn't religious I'd doubt I'd ever feel secure enough to even consider getting married. I'd always be waiting for the day my partner decides I'm not worth the effort lmao 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:38 AM
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I like a guy who I can depend on. I'm a bit of an emotional wreck, so someone I can count on to stay strong even when I'm not. I want a guy who's at least taller than me. Stocky, with a bit of chub to hug. Dark eyes and hair, nice tan or mid-tone skin. Is funny and can be sarcastic. Not too sensitive when it comes to offensive or dark humour. Shares my political and religious values (at least with the most important things). Values family and wants to have kids. Preferably has a good relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:32 AM
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On the women starving themselves topic, I definitely don't think that stems solely from how men view women. I also don't think the steroids issue with men comes solely from how women view men. As someone who has struggled with body image issues, most of the insecurities come from seeing other women post unrealistic photoshopped images of themselve, or images posed in extremely inorganic ways that cause me to desire that. Speaking to a lot of other women who struggle with ED's or body image issue…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:17 AM
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I was mocking the the other user for saying the exact same thing 🙄 ridiculous was the point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 05:10 AM
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fuck off to everyone responding to this comment without looking at the context. I've explained myself enough times, I'm not gonna waste my time on someone who just proved their inability to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:19 AM
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Reminds me how dogshit and delusional literally every kind of "piller" is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:47 PM
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once again. Correlation vs causation. Did you know that women are more likely to get raped if they eat ice cream? If we analyze statistics the same way you do that would be true. But no. Even though rape cases and ice cream eating spikes at the same time, it just happens to be because of the warm weather. Basically all of these statistics do mean something, but there is no way to prove that it has anything to do with women. Like I had already said, there's a plethora of other reason why people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:31 PM
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lol that's a pretty rare find 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:17 PM
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"he isn't really her type" 🙄🙄🙄🙄 They're engaged
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:17 PM
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oh fuck off and read the context. maybe read just a couple comments before this one. I was literally mocking the other user for stating the exact same thing. And u assume my past because of it? Lmao I don't even wanna correct you because it hilarious how wrong you are. that guy said it makes ppl attractive first, don't come at me for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:15 PM
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not really. A bit too beefy for me, and they don't look very approachable for some reason. Maybe if I knew them in person it'd be different. But solely based on appearances, not overly. I like stocky guys, but that much muscle is a bit off-putting tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:42 AM
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👌👌👌
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:23 AM
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I made that in response to what the user had said about guys being fuckbois. He said it made them more attractive. I was just pointing out the double standard. I agree out of context the statement is ridiculous, but I was responding to some equally ridiculous statements the other guy made. I don't actually think it makes her more attractive (I mean maybe for some people, but not the point). My main reasoning for telling OP to not tell his coworker is because could totally see the guy getting ext…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:32 AM
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yea if u want do it, do it that way. That way if he's mad at least it doesn't affect you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:38 AM
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Literally my only reason is cuz the guy will probably get mad at you for it. This whole time I've been saying you'll probably offend him. This isn't about protecting the girl, it's about protecting ur reputation in the workplace. It's not a good look to go around calling people's girls hoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:32 AM
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alright sounds g. Then u'll get ur "I told u so" moment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:27 AM
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everyone's got some shit in their history. Guys and girls. If people can't get over it move on, they rlly shouldn't be getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:26 AM
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I mean tbh, if OP's gonna do it at all, he better do it anonymously. My main concern is that the guy is gonna get mad as shit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:24 AM
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Women can't just "get dick" easily. You're talking to a woman (not even an unattractive one I'd say) who got passed by over and over again in favour of more attractive women. But this isn't even about that. You are assuming that this guy thinks the exact same way you do. Even if men "on average" are really insecure about this stuff, if he's happy and he's about to marry the girl, I doubt he's that insecure. If he is, he shouldn't be getting married in the first place. Either way, it's totally un…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:22 AM
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nah her getting gang banged just proves she's attractive enough to get laid. lmao. It means ur insecure cuz ur obviously worried about her running off and being with other dudes. Her having a history shouldn't mean much if you love her and trust her enough to marry her, as your coworker evidently does.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:02 AM
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soooo... ur just assuming that this coworker of yours is as insecure as you are. There's no way telling him will not be offensive unless he's has no confidence in himself as a partner to his fiance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:58 AM
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yea. He'd prolly just be mad that you were trying to stick ur nose into his close personal relationships. I'd be pretty pissed if a girl I worked with tried to cause turmoil in my relationship by calling my man a fuckboi or smthn. Even if it was something I didn't know about. I just don't think he'd be very appreciative of you essentially calling his SO a slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:48 AM
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I'm kind of traditional and want to one day be a stay-at-home mom, so I want a guy I can depend on and who I feel would be able to provide for a family. I like it if the guy pays for dates and stuff, but I wouldn't like it if they were only doing so because they felt obligated. eg. my boyfriend usually pays because he enjoys treating me. I try to give back to him in ways that are meaningful to him in return and chip in every now and then if he lets me. Basically. I'm open to paying equal and stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:41 AM
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my thoughts exactly 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:27 AM
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I would say more than just women virgin shame. Basically everyone does it. I think it's be best if everyone just let ppl be themselves virgin and slut alike. Shaming is never helpful. But we all know that's never gonna happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:22 AM
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It means nothing tho. There could be any number of reasons for those statistics. If they had actually interviewed women and asked them about their preferences that would be a totally different story. Even then, there would be room for error. Those stats are as valuable as any other baseless statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:16 AM
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lol. I'm just saying if my bf doesn't feel like eating ne out, I'm not gonna force my pussy on his face or put him down because of it. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect the same basic decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:13 AM
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no I totally get it. I mean I get uncomfortable if my bf watches porn and stuff for basically the same reason. I had initially thought you meant it was something she did before you guys started dating. And it definitely is concerning if she doesn't really answer whether or not she would do it if she did have the chance. Have you explained all these concerns to her. Even just having her clarify that she wouldn't even if she had the chance might be reassuring for you. If it's causing distress, it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:11 AM
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ur right. sorry I missed that. But as I was saying before, there are too many variables to actually have those stats mean anything substantial. For starters virginity and romancelessness are definitely not the same thing. There are many reasons for being a vrigin, and many people in romantic relationships don't have sex. It's a no brainer that more people with a criminal background will have had sex than church-goers. People in church communities value saving sex until marriage. People involved …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:05 AM
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I only ever fantasized about fictional characters before I dated. I had to think about smthn when getting off. I felt invasive if I fantasizes about my crushes or smthn. It's essentially the same as watching porn. Like the person in the video is essentially fiction. Ur never gonna get with them irl. some ppl take the fictional fantasizing wayyy to far. But most ppl I know at least had cartoon or celebrity crushes at some point in their life. edit: Just realized u meant she was doing this while c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:48 AM
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What does it mean when my bf isn't interested in having sex with me but still wants to hang out with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:44 AM
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OP didn't give any stats to back the argument tho. The only tangible statistics in the essay they provided was google search statistics which means shit all. There were no studies done on amy of this shit. At least none referenced. Yea I'm speaking from personal experience. It's basically impossible to prove any of this type of stuff through studies because of all the variables. These conversations never get anywhere. OP's views are just as meaningless as mine if we suddenly need to reference st…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:37 AM
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If she doesn't feel like sucking a dick, she doesn't have to. It's not that complicated. Ur literally saying that because she's physically capable of doing it, she's obligated to. She's probably just trying to get out of it without hurting your feelings. A bit rapey imho.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:20 AM
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It's exhausting to challenge people who are soaked in the idiotic pill gender shit. I think all of the sides have some validity to their perspectives, but people get so obsessed with one side or the other it just turns into a screaming match. It feels like most people in all of these communities are just so out of touch with reality that trying to challenge their view results in anger or just being dismissed on the basis of being a woman. I get it from both sides. Being called a man-hater or som…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:14 AM
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Neither of those seem that bad tbh. I wouldn't mind an older guy if he was dependable and nice. That would honestly be a pretty good deal. And ur saying a short guy is still taller than me? lmao. That's not short. I'm happy with anyone taller than me. If you wanna make it more of a challenge, the guy has to be shorter than the girl. I don't really have a preference either way and I definitely wouldn't die for either of those options.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:00 AM
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maybe if your partner is part of a religious groups that honours the sanctity of marriage. Other than that, I'd say marriage only slightly helps your odds. I think the best way is just to be with someone who you can trust and rely on to be there for you in even through the most difficult times. Sometimes that can still backfire. Basically, Marriage won't make a difference if ur married to a shit person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:53 AM
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hmm. Tell that to my bf and most guys I know who are in healthy relationships. Step into reality for a bit. Meet some people who are in real loving and healthy relationships. You'll see that's not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:46 AM
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What gives you that feeling? If he knows and they've discussed it, I doubt they'd be super open about it. Me and my bf have tons of messed up stuff that's a part of our history. We're open to each other and have talked about it and moved past it. No one outside our relationship would know at all. Especially not just a coworker. I doubt you'd be able to tell if he knew or not. I just think it's pretty invasive for you to be going around trying to expose dirt on people's SO's. Chances are he alrea…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:40 AM
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I don't really see any reason to get involved. If he's happy and stuff, why try to ruin a good thing. If he's engaged, I'm sure he knows her better than you do at this point anyways. A lot of ppl tend to settle down once they're out of school and start working too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:30 AM
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I definitely don't really care. I don't like people using emojis excessively, but that's not really a gender preference. Just in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:27 AM
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Honestly should just be common sense. But like. Don't step in to any fight. I would even say hold back if it's a guy fighting. You don't know if the attacker has a weapon or if they're possibly part of a group and the others are waiting around. Not even commenting as part of this whole shitshow gender debate. Just call the cops and don't get involved. I would feel guilty af if I was being attacked and someone else got hurt because they tried to help me. leave it to the police who are trained to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:21 AM
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