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| 3 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).I don't identify with redpill anything but this post popped up on my feed and I think it's interesting. I don't think the mindset that you've identified in your ex, and in other men, is redpill or not redpill. It's the mindset of a user (what women here may call "low-value"). My ex was also a user who expected me to be an attorney/breadwinner, do all the cooking/domestic labor, and be constantly sexually available and bear a high number of kids (Catholics). He also identified as a feminist and a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 11:39 PM |
| 13 | If women are so much more willing to have sex while drunk, Why is there a gray area of consent?The car doesn't pressure or threaten you to get inside and drive it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/22 12:43 AM |
| 8 | Fiancé Didn't Get Me a Birthday PresentYou also said he doesn’t plan dates or go out of his way to do anything special in general. Men in love tend to do these things and make women know. Ultimately, only you know what’s going on, but I would just advise to not try to downplay or power through any gut instincts you may have. Female gut instincts are NOT just hamstering or branch swinging or whatever the terminology is here. They are deeply biologically-driven to keep us from giving our lives to people who who won’t properly protect o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/22 12:56 AM |
| 47 | Fiancé Didn't Get Me a Birthday Presentasked why I was making a big deal This sub occasionally comes across my recommended and I’m going to admit going in that I have a personal bias, having been in a somewhat similar situation (demanding careers, 3 years LDR within three context of 5 years of dating and one year engaged with my ex). This is a kind of gas-lighty response to you expressing a feeling as clearly and calmly as you can, per your description. Birthday gifts are a standard concept even for someone who doesn’t particularly c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 08:44 PM |
| 21 | Religion is by men, for menA point of clarification: the Catholic Church doesn't forbid civil divorce. It separates out civil divorce (for legal, financial, and social protection) from sacramental marriage (a religious commitment to one person for life). Catholic priests supported me in leaving an abuser and divorcing him when necessary. I just couldn't remarry until the Church declared my first marriage null and void, based on the fact that my ex tried to lie and abuse his way into a commitment that the Church takes extr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:26 AM |
| 5 | Men should treat you AT LEAST as well as a good employer! Everyone has different experiences for sure, but I worked for a legal nonprofit for a couple years and the fed government for a couple years before law school; while those are definitely demanding jobs, I don’t think they were comparable to Big Law in terms of billing hours/having to be reachable and working for clients at any given moment of the day/night. And frankly what I mentioned about leaving Big Law for jobs that are less “demanding” is common knowledge — I’m not saying nonprofit work,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:10 PM |
| 29 | Someone inviting you back to their place on first date = automatic LVM?ooo this is good. | /r/askFDS | 17/07/21 05:12 PM |
| 45 | Vetting Men by their job positionThis is partially personal, but I think male teachers deserve extra vetting. Some are absolute sweethearts who genuinely love educating kids, some have deeply embedded control issues and get off on disciplining and controlling teens. It’s like being a cop that no one can criticize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inI (just turned 28F) went out for a date with 36m on Friday. He was smart, successful and very attractive, and we had a nice conversation; I had another event to get to after 2.5 hours and left. We ended cordially and texted once, but otherwise he hasn’t contacted me since. I realized that this made me feel a bit weird (battling pickme urges), but it was a good lesson that the age gap “means something”—while he was respectful, the age gap threw off the power dynamic in a weird way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 10:29 PM |
| 42 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youMy ex wouldn’t even stick up for me when I asked him not to invite someone who assaulted me to our wedding. He did it, behind my back, because “it would be awkward and raise questions if he wasn’t invited.” When I asked what would’ve happened if the guy showed up, my ex said that I was strong, so he assumed I’d manage and have other things to worry about as the bride. I’m as self-sufficient as they come. I always have been. But if your partner, especially a male partner, doesn’t have your back… … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 06:59 AM |
| 6 | Help with a weird coworker situationI think the cover excuse would be “just trying to make sure you got home safe.” | /r/askFDS | 29/06/21 04:37 PM |
| 3 | Help with a weird coworker situationYeah this law firm is super incestuous (multiple firm couples) and fortunately I’m in a specialized practice group already. Would never report to HR simply because I’m not jeopardizing a job offer in any way + he never touched me or technically harassed me, the conversations were just weirdly intimate, and I’ve been essentially trying to figure out if I didn’t set strong enough boundaries (probably or if he was just looking to overshare (yes). | /r/askFDS | 29/06/21 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Sharing my story: "jUsT cOmMuNiCatE bEtTeR" can be the gateway to abuseI should have put this in the post body, but I decided to strip this after someone I know irl messaged me about. I’m sorry and I appreciate everyone’s comments so much, but I’m nervous about this getting back to my ex or his family. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 02:23 AM |
| 7 | How soon to meet a guy in person?No, different person. I’ve considered deleting OLD but I just got on it, work a lot and my friend network is heavily female (few men); apps enable quickly filtering for education/religion/height, at least. Will consider deleting after a month or two. | /r/askFDS | 09/06/21 07:51 PM |
| 52 | How did you know you were ready to date after a breakup/divorce?Physically separated over a year, divorced one year, married less than a year (7 years together total). No kids and no contact after I filed. I was intensive therapy/grieved/dealt with trauma but it started to lighten in December and has gotten progressively better since. He became blatantly abusive post-wedding and I know that getting out was a gift to myself and any future kids I may have. That’s helped. Now, it’s less resentment and pain (which I definitely felt before) and more just... reali… | /r/askFDS | 14/05/21 05:19 PM |
| 31 | Remain friends with a man who didn't meet my standards?So he slept with someone else (not sure if you were already sleeping with him?) and in doing so was disrespectful to you. Strike one: he knew it was a dealbreaker; strike two: his weirdness about getting nervous and sabotaging your relationship, without a hint of an apology--not that you should've/would've accepted it anyway. Friends don't disrespect friends. It sounds like future interactions between you two would be a waste of your time. | /r/askFDS | 06/05/21 01:09 AM |
| 1 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?I’d respond something like “oh, I just took my little nephew/niece (etc.) to ice cream, do you have any lunch places in mind instead?” and if he can’t get the message and work with that... RIP | /r/askFDS | 02/05/21 03:02 PM |
| 21 | When/how to tell dates about divorce?If I dated a man for a couple months without knowing he was formerly married/divorced, I’d take that as a red flag. Also some people flat out won’t marry someone who has already been married, and I’d rather know that about them early so I can cut out. | /r/askFDS | 02/05/21 02:25 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend suddenly making 0 effort for sex?Yeah. I get that this sub can be hard-line in the ‘rules,’ but ‘communication’ implies an attempt at reconciliation. Sounds like you’re telling OP to break up with her bf and tell him why, which is pretty much what others are saying. /communication is a loaded term and your downvoters are probably sick of being told to communicate. I wouldn’t take it personally. Sorry about your ex, sounds like a not great guy. | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 11:56 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend suddenly making 0 effort for sex?I think the risk with framing this as a ‘communication‘ issue is that (1.) men are experts at pretending to ‘listen’ and nod along or even agree but (2.) at the end of the day, actions speak louder than words. Sounds like this guy changed his treatment of OP dramatically, clearly knows it’s an issue (based on his ‘apologies’ and because she’s upset), but doesn’t care enough to address it. FDS isn’t anti-communication, it’s against trying to make men care after they’ve already clearly communicate… | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 11:45 PM |
| 25 | From HV to NV, a short story.I never relied on my ex-husband while ill until I got an insane UTI that had me peeing blood and running a high fever. I tried to wait it out, but ultimately I asked him to drop me off at intensive care so I could get antibiotics (all doctor's offices, CVS, minute clinics. were closed for the night, as it was 10PM). He spent the whole ten minute car ride criticizing and bitching at me for "not being smart enough to go to a clinic earlier" and angry I'd inconvenienced him (he wasn't doing anythin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | How Do I Make Myself Indifferent to My Ex?As someone currently finalizing a divorce after an abusive relationship/marriage— idk if by ‘writing and sharing’ your experience, you mean sharing more stuff publicly to platforms like Medium. If that’s the case, I would be really, really careful. Posting anonymously to FDS? Great idea. Posting on Medium, presumably with your name attached... feels different. If you can do it without a part of you hoping that he and his friends will see it, then you’re superhuman. The first comment on this post… | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 04:48 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend of 5 months didn’t say that he loves me and it’s making me doubtful and insecure since he’s so emotionally expressive in general..he’s so supportive but I feel like something is missing, I feel so insecure and I have trust issues, maybe it’s just the trauma or maybe it’s because he didn’t express much affection although he always compliments me.. Even if you’re not seeing each other that much in person, you’re still in contact between dates right? I feel most men know by 5 months whether they love you. Maybe he doesn’t think he needs to express it to keep you. Which in itself is probably not good. We all have serious insec… | /r/askFDS | 15/11/20 05:14 AM |
| 36 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020I filed for divorce today from an ex who revealed that he'd never been in love with me, gaslighted me about inviting my sexual assaulter to our wedding, but still wanted to stay married and have me become the primary breadwinner and baby maker. It's been a really tough summer and a tough last 6 months. This week I started my second year of law school. I'm living with my parents since my law school went remote, and today was my parent's 33rd wedding anniversary. My dad bought my mom beautiful flo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 10:06 PM |
| 1 | The Skin Deep Couple's VideosThe poly one? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 02:59 AM |
| 8 | ‘Most of words we use for sex are violent, not just fuck. Think about it…. bang, screw, hit it, pound, smash, rail, plow, pound, like our entire culture has tried to remove the concept of intimacy/vulnerability/emotion from sex by associating violent words with the action.Ex loves the phrase ‘blow out her back’ (as in, ‘she got her back blown out’). 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Because everything a woman does is for male attention 🙄...um this is Ayesha Curry. She is married to the textbook definition of a HVM and very happily married in both pics. I am so confused. Edit: https://www.instagram.com/p/CAjMV4vnjFT/?igshid=2g4z25efro6c Her husband has photo credit for the bikini pic lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 01:14 AM |
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