| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsHmmm never even thought of it that way. I’ve always just assumed a man asking to spend time with a woman is automatically a date, and they are called “dating apps” but it wouldn’t surprise me if they don’t even wanna put that label on it now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:56 AM |
| 5 | Which Movies Do you Consider a Red Flag if A Man Raves About it and Says it's his Favorite?Anchorman 🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsOh absolutely. I love it when they make it easy to block | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 10:12 PM |
| 39 | In the absence of your own desire to improve yourself, lie to the allegedly superficial women who want an educated, driven partner. His post, my answer. The comments were a cesspool of twisted validation for him and denigration of her. I had to say something.Yes girl🙌🏻🙌🏻 I had a guy try to blame his lack of a job on the pandemic when I told him I only wanted to date men with stable careers at our age(both 28). He hadn’t had a stable career or gotten a college degree even before the pandemic.. but sure let’s blame the last 6 months for a decade of bad decisions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsLmao right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsNope!!🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm Weds❤️❤️😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsOh it was full BS, your quote is exactly his thinking. And thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsRight. Extra sad that I may have considered it a year ago | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsI wrote him off after not hearing from him by Tuesday, and since I have a busy job just didn’t think anything of it again until his name popped up on Wednesday night. I’d already made plans for both Wednesday and Thursday by that point And I get not letting them know what to do better for the next time, but sometimes it’s therapeutic so I choose to do so💁🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:53 PM |
| 7 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm WedsI didn’t, we made plans last week for either Wednesday or Thursday tbd | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Right. I got to know him real quick though and decided I didn’t want to know more 💁🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄This🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:15 PM |
| 9 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Agreed. Men are allowed to act like this because we’ve let them, if they’re forced to more of them will step up. Unfortunately the world is full of pickmes and even decent women are believing this is normal, myself included up until reading fds | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:03 PM |
| 30 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Exactly. Pretty sure I’m the one interviewing here and he didn’t make the cut💁🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:36 AM |
| 17 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Exactly... he should be trying to impress on the very first date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:35 AM |
| 2 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Thanks girl so do you❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:34 AM |
| 6 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Forreal who tf does he think he is🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:34 AM |
| 59 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄I unmatched right away because boy bye, what he was basically saying was “I’ll take you to coffee and then see if you’re worth dinner” like nah I can find 5 other men who will take me on a legit date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:31 AM |
| 13 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Right, I do coffee by myself tbh. Or for studying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:30 AM |
| 69 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄I get that and used to prefer coffee dates, but how I see it now is - if the man isn’t trying to pull out all the stops to impress me and show me he’s a great catch from the get go, he isn’t gonna improve the second or third date. I’m here to be impressed, not to prove that I’m worth a dinner date. Simply by being a female who takes care of herself I am worth that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:29 AM |
| 51 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄Exactly. I’m taking the time to get dressed, makeup, shower etc, and DRIVE to “meet up” so no, coffee isn’t gonna cut it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:28 AM |
| 16 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄THANKYOU❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:27 AM |
| 53 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄RIGHT. Like excuse me I can go to coffee with anyone. ANYONE. Why would I do that as a date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:27 AM |
| 20 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄FORREAL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:27 AM |
| 1 | “And stuff”I hope she does too!! I’m showing FDS to basically every woman in my life lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 10:31 AM |
| 11 | And every single one more than valid:)Yes yes yes I’m so glad you see past their bs and have focused on yourself!! Unfortunately those kinds of friends may never be able to see how sad of a situation they’re really in. It sucks because I want so much better for these women.. as infuriating as pickmeishas are, I was one too, and I know how easy it is to be trapped in that mindset. Much easier than breaking out of it honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 12:19 AM |
| 6 | “And stuff”I believe it was 5:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:55 PM |
| 3 | “And stuff”Omg I didn’t even notice. Gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:42 PM |
| 3 | “And stuff”If I was going to say anything else to him I would have said this.. like take your bad behavior to tinder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:42 PM |
| 1 | “And stuff”Hahahaha thanks 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:41 PM |
| 3 | “And stuff”Thank you!! I unmatched as he was typing I wanted to go to bed hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:40 PM |
| 2 | “And stuff”I didn’t even give him a chance I saw him typing & unmatched hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:39 PM |
| 12 | “And stuff”“Cuddle” “chill” “meet my dog” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:39 PM |
| 3 | “And stuff”Hahhahaha it be tru | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:38 PM |
| 4 | “And stuff”Lmao right. Horny was the first word that popped into my head. Like just say it dumbass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:38 PM |
| 6 | “And stuff”Right!! I have a feeling, and I truly hope it’s correct, that this is slowly going to start happening. We’re waking up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:38 PM |
| 6 | “And stuff”Right & he probably thinks he was being so smooth🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:35 PM |
| 135 | “And stuff”Really like you think I’m gonna drive over and fuck you bro? REALLY?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:37 AM |
| 1 | I have no words & I have no words for the incels in the commentsPorno sex I’m sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 08:36 PM |
| 41 | Back when I was using OLD I had this happen....the audacity is astounding!Came here to say at LEAST have a full head of hair if you’re trying to line up women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:16 AM |
| 6 | I have no words & I have no words for the incels in the commentsGood point lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:11 AM |
| 13 | Frightened by my stalkerPepper spray. Concealed carry & take shooting lessons. Don’t walk alone, always have security walk you to your car (you can get this info from your employer, or if you’re at the mall, concierge or a quick google for the security number). Read “Becoming Bulletproof” by Evy Poumpouras. Self defense classes. Although if he is obese, you can probably just jog away at a casual pace and be fine 💁🏻♀️ Edit: misspelling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:14 AM |
| 11 | Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for themLol I legit replied to one of these men asking how to be more HV, typed a well thought-out response, he just comes at me asking “what’s wrong with a little weed” when I said to keep usage to a minimum, no thanks, no acknowledgment of the multiple other points I made. And when I went back to respond “btw, showing gratitude or saying thanks when people help you makes you more HV too” he had deleted his profile. He has a ways to go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:36 PM |
| 10 | Sicko of the day award goes to Randy (: Why cant you be 10x younger???SALT AND PEPPER WEINER OMG ILY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 10:40 PM |
| 4 | Lust can lead to bad decisionsExactly, I’m done giving someone else pleasure when I end up with pain. As much as I tried to convince myself I was using men for sex as much as they were using me, I still end up needing more. And you’re right! I’m trying to do everything as closely as I can to the FDS handbook, but I know we also have to do things in a slightly different way for our individual needs. I hope it leads to better things for both of us as well!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Suggestions to improve myselfNothing, light is fine, I just assumed someone putting 420 in their username might be using more than lightly, which is why I said I was judging based off of it | /r/askFDS | 27/07/20 11:31 AM |
| 16 | I've started to implement FDS strategies in my dreams!Omg the dreams are happening to me too! I called out an ex for lvm behavior and walked away and felt so much peace. It was great! I’m happy for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:36 AM |
| 16 | Lust can lead to bad decisionsLmao dickmatized. I had a fwb for monthsss that I ended in May after realizing having a pretend relationship wasn’t good enough anymore, but mannn do I miss the sex and physical affection. We’re still “friends” but I’ve been responding less and less to his snaps/dms (I know, stupid lvm behavior) but I prefer to just fade him out rather than block, just because I spend a lot of time at the same places he does. But it is making it much more difficult to be un-dickmatized when I see his name pop up… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:34 AM |
| 6 | Suggestions to improve myselfI’m just judging based off your username, but reducing weed usage is a good place to start, along with making sure you aren’t consuming a lot of alcohol. Social drinking is fine but I’ve always seen it as a red flag if a guy is drinking alone. That goes for anyone, male or female, just imo. I personally find ambition super attractive, and a decent job is great, but I am always looking for someone who’s trying to boost their career. So maybe start focusing on how you can go from decent to great. … | /r/askFDS | 26/07/20 08:45 PM |
| 32 | She’s amazing 😂😂😂PRESSLEY HAHAHAHAHHA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:01 PM |
| 61 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.I have the same feeling, just complete disgust/disinterest. But I think that can be good for healing like others said, but also for vetting when you are ready. You’ll automatically be inclined to not want to add them to your life, so they’re really gonna have to be impressive if they wanna be part of it. That’s how I see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:55 PM |
| 16 | We got a real winner on our hands hereI already swiped left or that would have been greattt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:35 AM |
| 25 | We got a real winner on our hands hereRIGHT. Like at first I thought it was just poor lvm humor, then realized no, no he’s serious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 12:46 AM |
| 22 | What to consider when consciously deciding on your standards and boundaries?No cheating. No lying. No gaslighting, manipulating, brushing off. No pushing for unprotected sex, or sex too early on (or before whenever I feel comfortable). No sexual talk early on, including jokes (they’re not jokes). No booty calls. No pressure to do something I have no desire to do (anal), and no checking out other women, following of ig thots, or interactions with exes. No drinking and driving. No excessive drinking. No smoking. I’m fine with some weed, but no other drugs. No expecting me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:25 AM |
| 3 | 2️⃣🙅🏻♀️1️⃣🤦🏻♀️3️⃣🙎🏻♀️😂😂😂I fucking love this and will now be doing it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020The League limits you to three potential matches to swipe on a day, this keeps both sides on a steady pace! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 03:22 AM |
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