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| 6 | Why are so many men not willing to properly move on from women? (Serious question)Maybe it's b/c I don't know a lot of women over 40 Yup, probably this. The women friends and family I have that are older singles past 45 are pretty much fine. And I know all the varieties - widowed, divorced, never married, with kids, without. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 02:56 AM |
| 6 | People here are too quick to dismiss men's lived experience when they tell you many average men peak later in life.It makes no sense biologically as it's harder to have kids at those ages. This is one of the theories behind the increased libido around those ages. You need to have more sex to increase the chances of getting pregnant. Your body knows the clock is ticking. Anecdotally, all my friends and myself as well, were horny as fuck in our 30s-early 40s. Then the sex drive falls off a cliff when menopause hits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 12:02 PM |
| 2 | If you think sex is damaging to women or causes them to lose their “value,” isn’t it lowkey kind of predatory to pursue sex with women?I mean there's your pump and dump chicks and your ltr chicks. yeah,exactly, that's the lack of empathy I was referring to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 02:52 AM |
| 21 | If you think sex is damaging to women or causes them to lose their “value,” isn’t it lowkey kind of predatory to pursue sex with women?Tradcons would be the only ones with cognitive dissonance and that's only if they were pursuing casual sex while also advocating for female purity. It's my understanding that these types aren't generally the pump and dumpers. RP seems unconcerned with morality. They fuck whoever will fuck them, it's not on them to worry about whose future woman they're devaluing, that's some other dude's problem. Men of any persuasion that behave that way just lack basic empathy for women, and probably for other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 02:14 AM |
| 8 | Society is indeed more sexualized than ever, and that is not necessarily a good thingthe audience of the time it was aired on did not necessarily see friendship between a grown man and a girl as strange or alien. On tv where everything was sanitized back then, sure, it was cool. In real life a middle aged man spending alone time with a little girl would be red-flag city. I grew up in the 70-80s, EVERYONE knew there were males to avoid in all different places -2 teachers at my elementary school were known to perv on the 6th grade girls that developed early, there was a flasher in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:52 AM |
| 0 | CMV : Women have become introspective about their dating dynamics with men, but ironically over the wrong thingits that basically push pull game was the only leg up for average men and now that game has been foiled If you mean the average man has a lesser chance to have no-commitment sex with insecure chicks that's a plus for women (especially young ones) and also for the men who constantly complain about "body counts." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 12:31 AM |
| 13 | Rejecting men with a lie or in any vague or non-direct way that isn’t just “No” or “I’m not interested” is spineless and does legitimate damage to the male psyche.This is the type of hyperbolic fear mongering that I think makes any notion of improving the relationships between men & women impossible. I'm in my 50s. I can't think of any of my female friends or family members that didn't have AT LEAST one experience of a pushy, stalker-y male that didn't give a shit why she said she wasn't interested and proceeded to creep on her anyway. It's not "fear mongering" it's real shit we have to tell young girls and women so they don't assume being honest is more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather share a high status millionaire or have a low status/earning man such as a cab driver all to yourself? (the cab driver has no ambitions to change his socioeconomic status in the future)Oh ok. I'd still take the broke dude. I don't share. Edited to add, women voluntarily ok with those arrangements must have different types of needs than women who need fidelity. If my husband wanted to fuck or bond with other women, I'd probably be too sickened by him to stay in love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Why women come to r/PurplePillDebates ?I have young nieces who might need advice in a year or two and I want to understand the dating world they're coming up in. Most people on here seem young and left-leaning so it's the right demographic for me to watch. 2.I've always been fascinated by human sexual dynamics, being an outlier. I like Reddit's text based format. I'm old and nerdy and it's easy to navigate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Do women really want to date older men?I had an age gap relationship during my late teens/ early 20s that put me off them forever. Right before I met my partner I'd started college and a 28 yr old fellow student tried really hard to get with me. I was so flattered by the "adult" attention (I thought he was so impressed at my maturity and intelligence lol)and tried to date him because of that. I was a weirdo that never had much success with boys my age. He turned out to be boring, patronizing as fuck and was way too enamored of the id… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather share a high status millionaire or have a low status/earning man such as a cab driver all to yourself? (the cab driver has no ambitions to change his socioeconomic status in the future)I'd take a broke dude I'm attracted to and doesn't bore me over a high status rich one who wasn't that into me any day of the week. I think most of these women people on here talk about who share just don't know they're sharing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Nervousness or Fear Attracts Women the mostprovided your a certain size, even being super nice still makes women afraid of you. Even small men are a physical threat to most women, and most women are aware of this. A huge dude giving off safe vibes is way less intimidating than a small one giving off unstable vibes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 06:22 PM |
| 1 | If all men want is sex, and women aren't special, why does it matter what a woman's body count is?To me, a high body count would be any ONS or experiences where the man was purposefully sport fucking and not open to starting a relationship, but I'm older so feel free to roll your eyes lol. I don't deny that it is normal for males to want to fuck many women and to fantasize about it, even when married. I also don't deny that women's sex drives are vastly different to men's in general, both in strength and in the ways we get aroused. That said, my original point still stands -not all men who C… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | What type of man should a virgin woman choose?you can't assume a guy with a high body count is going to give you a positive experience. This, all day long. Who cares how well he was able to get other women off, it's only important that he learn to get YOU off. Figuring that shit out together is easy if you've got the chemical attraction part going already and there aren't too many hangups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 05:40 AM |
| 8 | If all men want is sex, and women aren't special, why does it matter what a woman's body count is?A body count in men doesn't tell me anything about him other than he is attractive to women. A high body count in a man absolutely says something about him. Even a hot guy has to make an effort to get laid so it says a lot about how he chooses to spend his time and how he probably feels about women and relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 05:10 AM |
| 2 | How do you reject guys you aren't interested in?I have a boyfriend/husband has always been the easiest shutdown for strangers, before and after I was partnered. For a known person who knew I was single, it would always be awkward. "I'm not looking to date anyone now" got me "Why not?" or "It's not a date, just wanted to hang out." and persistent attempts to change my mind until one of us changed jobs or classes and lost contact. "I just see you as a friend" got me "how do you know?" or a butthurt demeanor and a loss of the friendship, which w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 09:50 PM |
| 6 | Why would a woman marry young if her husband will eventually end up lusting after younger women?When a man marries a woman young, he gets wife goggles. So even as she ages, and isnt as pretty as younger women, he still views her like she was when they met. Agree, as a woman with a same-age hubby,together since late teens, both in our 50s. I swear when we look at current pics of ourselves we laugh at how old we look in the pics when we don't see it live. Unless other aspects of the relationship suck wife/husband goggles are absolutely real. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 08:36 PM |
| 0 | Is a woman having a job a bad thing?Good judgement can't predict the future with 100% accuracy. And often people don't show their true colors until they're under duress. A woman putting all her eggs in the homemaker basket could leave her screwed even if she doesn't believe in divorce. I've been with the same man since I was a teenager but I'd never advise teenage marriage as a goal -I'm aware enough to realize I just got lucky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Is a woman having a job a bad thing?It works when the woman and man have picked perfectly. Otherwise, dude's getting "divorce raped" or the woman's suddenly a broke and undesirable single mom. Nothing wrong with a traditional dynamic, just foolish to bank on it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you marry a promiscuous guy?If he had a high bodycount through failed relationships, maybe. If he'd used women for sex or led women on to get sex, no. Unless he truly regretted his actions, and for the right reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Could you view a man that is crying as a protector?I don't think crying is a problem. It's complaining without attempting to fix the problem, acting woe-as-me all the time, and acting negative or being a quitter. You won't be attractive if you cry and also display those traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/20 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Its the truth 🤡🤡I actually agree with that. So long as it's applied across the board. I don't happen to believe that poor relationship choices are the sorts of things that it should apply to, however. If that were a criteria we'd lose most of our voters and congresspeople...oh wait , maybe that's NOT a bad idea lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/20 08:37 PM |
| 3 | Its the truth 🤡🤡By that logic, TRPs and simps should be stripped of self- governance because of their failures to vet the women they've been cucked or divorce raped by. Shitty sexual experiences =/= inability to be a responsible adult human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/20 08:20 PM |
| 3 | What do you think of this study ?1 in 5 may sound like a lot to some people but when I think about all the women I have known, myself included, I don't know ANY who haven't at the very least had to fend off a dude who didn't want to take no for an answer. I know 3 women who have been outright raped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/20 09:55 PM |
| 3 | Redpill men, what do you make of women who are dominant or have "weird" preferences? How do they fit into RP ideology/your beliefs on women?I definitely agree that most women want sexually dominant men, but where do you get the idea that women who are sexually dominant have to be bi? You've mentioned this a few times in threads like this -it just your own experience or is there some kind of study? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/20 02:59 AM |
| 8 | Redpill men, what do you make of women who are dominant or have "weird" preferences? How do they fit into RP ideology/your beliefs on women?Those aren't dominant women in the sexual sense. That's just a sexually submissive woman with high standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/20 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Why are the men in here so afraid of women with more sexual experience than they have?imo it's usually not fear of the woman's experience or not measuring up (the ones who are genuinely insecure about their own performance with an individual woman never seem to be the ones making the biggest issue of it ), it's fear of what LTRing a woman like that does to his status among other men. If you meet a man who your girlfriend/wife used to fuck (or even hear about her past dudes specifically), you feel devalued before those men because they had your woman when she was in a newer, and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/20 05:09 AM |
| 2 | If according to RP, all women become unattractive after 30-35, why do some RP circles also encourage women to settle down young? Why does it matter if the man will become unattracted to her anyway?If you had great chemistry and sex when young and you don't totally let yourself go, he will still want to fuck you. He might fantasize about other women (AMALT) but that doesn't mean he won't still be into you. Wife/husband goggles are definitely a thing. Moreso, I think, when you can both remember eachother young. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/20 11:32 PM |
| 0 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.I think the only way I'd be fine with a dude not paying would be if there was some provision in the law requiring that before they had sex in the first place, both parties sign and notarize a document stating he's not liable for any birth that results. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/20 06:58 PM |
| 0 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.They're irrelevant to my point -those options aren't there to provide men the freedom to escape responsibility. The options are available because the pregnancy takes place in HER body. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/20 11:57 AM |
| 0 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.Are you really unwilling to acknowledge that it's a mutual choice and therefore a mutual responsibility? Unless a rape was involved both parties are voluntarily entering into a situation where pregnancy is a possibility every time a dick enters a vagina. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/20 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.A man can opt for blow jobs, anal, handjobs, doubling up on other bc methods...men have all the power to not release their seed in a woman's vagina. Unless you were forced to penetrate, the choice was yours as well. It's not a privilege to have to choose between aborting your child, permanently altering your body with a pregnancy, or becoming a single mom/staying involved with the wrong man. And women already DO bear all the responsibility -if they keep it, they're primarily stuck with it's upke… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/20 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.Unless they don't have sex. yes, they. Both made a choice, both know the inherent biological differences and what those entail. If a woman is getting pregnant from precum, pretty good chance there was an unwrapped penis and an uncareful man to share in the stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/20 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.Right, but again you mentioned women and children as far as social services. Do women without children have any benefit over men? Are single male parents denied the benefits single moms can get? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/20 12:01 AM |
| 0 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.Men can nut somewhere other than a woman's vagina. I can't relate to men absolving careless men in this equation. A man has 100% control over whether he knocks a woman up. The only reason men have less control over the outcome is due to the pregnancy not happening in HIS body. Biology isn't fair. Why men think being stuck alone with kids you can't afford is in any way a privilege is baffling to me though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/20 11:55 PM |
| 0 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.Subsidizing the children is just that -taking care of the children. They are separate life forms that most people agree deserve protection regardless of how shitty their parents were. I don't like paying for the mistakes of others, either, but let's be real, we're not just paying for the mom's mistake, we're paying for the dad's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.Other than battered women shelters, are there that many more programs that specifically exclude men who need help? Meaning, do childless, non-domestic abuse victim women really have more access to state/charity resources than men? Not a gotcha, just curious since you're in that field. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/20 10:52 PM |
| 5 | Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women.Aren't these mostly because of the CHILDREN produced by the dumbass decisions, not really out of some desire to coddle women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/20 09:15 PM |
| 2 | From homophobia to homohysteria: How men stopped being afectional with each other because that made them less attractive to womenI just took an online test and scored a 1. I've tried these in the past and that's normally how I come out. I think it's somewhat inaccurate in that it doesn't take kink into account. Some of my fantasies include women but have nothing to do with me actually wanting to have sex with women or being romantically attracted to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/20 08:20 PM |
| 3 | From homophobia to homohysteria: How men stopped being afectional with each other because that made them less attractive to womenNot all of us relate to the submissive partner... there are some things as a dom female I just can't do -toss a dude around, inspire REAL submission from a man, not just feigned (I just don't believe men can respect women the way they respect men, even men who prefer dominant women). But I can get that vicarious thrill through m/m erotica. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/20 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Q4WOMEN: is ‘daddy’ stuff cringey to you?It's cringy to me personally just like some other kinks, but I get the appeal to women who are into the "gentle dom" thing. They want to feel cared for and treasured, which carries a paternal aspect lacking in rougher types of maledom. I mean, I don't think they're LARPing that they're fucking their actual dads, or sexualizing an actual father/daughter relationship. I accept that I could be totally wrong on that, that's just the impression I've gotten from what I've seen/heard. I think some wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/20 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: Married Redditors on PPD, Why Did You Marry, Have Gender Issues Caused Problems, and Would You Marry Again?why did you marry? - We were living together and considering ourselves as good as married for like 7 years until he decided we should make it legal so we could get more adult respect (we were mid twenties). Have gender issues such as unequal chore division of childcare come up? No kids, but he's always been amazing at finding ways to dodge housework so it pretty much falls to me if I don't want to live in a pigsty. And I actually like to cook so that winds up being me, too. The only reason it ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 06:17 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: What do you think of FWB type relationships?Yeah you're right, more like he's wasting her time for the most part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 06:05 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: What do you think of FWB type relationships?To me, real friendship+sexual chemistry= an actual relationship. When I was dating it was the 80s and "FWB" wasn't a thing. From all I've seen from friends of both sexes, it usually looks like a dude keeping a chick around for steady sex, or a woman thinking or hoping it might go somewhere else. Both probably wasting eachother's time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Is sex a need for women?I'd probably be considered high libido for a woman, and if I'm really horny I've had physical discomfort to a degree if I can't get off, but it's ALWAYS been easily taken care of by masturbating. I have no idea what it would be like to feel a true "need" to go out and involve someone else in that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/20 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Why do women who have rape fantasies also have fantasies about forcing men to submit sexually?Idk, I'm a female dominant and the way it expresses with me doesn't seem that different from male doms, apart from the obvious inability to toss my man around like a ragdoll. I have definitely gotten the impression from all I've read (I don't interact with other kinky people irl so research and how my own relationship works is all I understand of it) that women who lean this way on their own rather than being "awakened" by a male partner are way more rare than I would've thought. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/20 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Is women's liberation failing its original purpose?Even if men try to agitate the system, the system will still favor women because they make up more of the voting population. This is definitely a thing for MRA to work on I guess. Getting more dudes to vote and agitate about it. These examples are not equality of opportunity, because you need to take the opportunity from someone else to appease the requirements. Yeah I don't really disagree with you there...requirements should be the same across the board provided they're actually necessary to f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/20 03:40 AM |
| 1 | Is women's liberation failing its original purpose?Rome, the pinnacle of civilisation in the ancient times, thought slavery was good... lol That's kind of my point...the greater good looks different to different groups,at different times. That's why I don't believe any one special group of humans deserves the power to decide which humans own themselves and which humans don't. Because every special group will simply go to preserve their own advantages at the expense of others and then conjure up the justifications for it later if it finally gets … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/20 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Is women's liberation failing its original purpose?Women are more responsible for child rearing. Men are more responsible for financial support. They are also more likely to lose assets when it comes to divorce. Men still work more dangerous jobs than women,and are less likely to be covered by welfare safety nets like insurance, food, and housing. These are cultural holdovers from previous generations. My guess is if enough men agitate for custody and fairness in divorce settlement etc. there will be a shift in the culture to accommodate that. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Is women's liberation failing its original purpose?In order for me to argue your point I would first have to accept the premise that only humans that meet some nebulous criteria for what serves "the greater good" deserve the right to self-determination. I don't, because everyone has their own awesome idea of what the greater good is and it always amounts to whatever that person finds personally appealing at the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/20 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Is women's liberation failing its original purpose?The legal responsibilities? Other then the draft, which I think is wrong for either sex (personally I'm against compulsory state service of any kind), I can't think of any differences still existing in law as far as responsibilities. If you're speaking culturally, women have only had true legal equality for maybe 50 or so years. It's the first time in human history that the mainstream of a society has broadly accepted that women have as much right to self-determination as men, and the first time… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/20 08:15 AM |
| 28 | Is women's liberation failing its original purpose?What are you considering it's original purpose? As an American woman I think recognizing women as independent citizens and acknowledging that they have the same inalienable rights that men do (and therefore aren't being "granted" or "given" rights but are just having the rights they are entitled to for being human acknowledged) was the most basic original purpose. Everything else about women's "liberation," in the US at least, stems from that premise. I don't think it's failed in that aspect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/20 06:27 AM |
| 2 | Is fds a troll pageI've checked out FDS since hearing about it on this sub and honestly agree with some of the other posters here -the strategies are similar to what I heard from my grandma and other older women growing up. And the venting posts describe the kind of male behavior every woman recognizes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/20 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Can a woman ever make a man not desire other women?For sex? No, every man will still want to fuck other women or at the very least will fantasize about it. For a relationship? I think it's totally possible if he's kept sexually and emotionally satisfied. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/20 12:50 AM |
| 2 | What is the natural, pre-civilization state of the SMP? Harems or rape?Rape isn't the most efficient way to reproduce humans (lower chance of impregnation but also dire consequences by her family members to either the rapist, the mother, or the unborn child depending on the culture), so I'd have to say rape was never the standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/20 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Do men love dominating as much as women love being dominated?Maybe a kinky radfem with 3 to 4 genders who wants to feel forced to have a story to tell her friends? I'm not a radfem, but from what I've seen they're not the ones who believe in a bazillion genders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/20 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: How much do you care about a man's sexual history?I wouldn't care about his sexual history UNLESS he was still maintaining contact and/or pining after any of them. Curious, yes, I would ask lots of questions and want all the details, I'm weird like that. Makes me feel like I own that part of him too, even if I wasn't there for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/20 02:44 AM |
| 1 | q4w what do you think is a reasonable amount of sex men should expect throughout the course of a relationship ship?Reasonable is wholly subjective and also tends to change as you age anyway, so what feels reasonable when you're 20 won't be when you're past 30. That said, twice a week seems like a pretty normal baseline throughout. You have to make sure she actually wants to keep fucking you though. Make her coming a priority, don't make it feel like sex is something she has to do FOR you, something you overtly expect from her. Then it looks like a chore. Make sure it's an activity she looks forward to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/20 01:48 AM |
| 2 | What would you do if your partner wanted you to fulfil the dominant role in bed or do a sex act to him that would be considered submissive?I remember reading about a specific dynamic styled as a Queen and her knight, and it just sat right with me. I've always been the dominant partner between me and the hubby and that is pretty much the closest to the feel of our dynamic. It's never felt like I was "emasculating" him. I think people look at femdom porn and really have no idea what dominant women are actually into. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/20 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: At what age did you get married or do you expect to get married?Met at 18, effectively moved in with him within a few days of hooking up, married 7 yrs later. Hadn't thought about a future with marriage or kids at all before I met him, thought I'd wind up the forever-single friend in my circle. Still together at 50. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/20 09:36 AM |
| 1 | What Do You Get Out Of This?I'm old and married. I lurk more than I post because I don't have any skin in the game. I've been fascinated by human sexuality my whole life, so it's sometimes intellectually stimulating around here...plus I have two nieces who will be thrown out into the dating pool in a few years and I'd like to have a grasp on the shit they'll be up against so I can give them advice they won't roll their eyes at. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/19 06:55 AM |
| 8 | Why can't girls just enjoy sex for sex's sake?Because we're not men. Almost all men can come when sticking their dick into just about any woman who doesn't utterly repulse them. So fucking is an activity worth pursuing on its own. Plus, you know, your male sex drive pushing every fiber of your young body to do just that... That's just not biological reality for women. Besides, if she's actually enjoying sex with you (and not just faking it) you're already close to a unicorn so it's inspiring her to want more of you. It should be a complimen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/19 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: do you like to be the dominant in your relationshipsI do. Not really out of a need to control him, just that I'm more focused and disciplined, and generally more decisive. I like that we don't butt heads over the usual stuff and that he genuinely trusts my judgement. Though I'm also dominant in the bedroom. I think I'd probably concede control to him in pretty much any other area of our life, so long as that dynamic stayed intact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/19 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Isn't it interesting that, the more men give women rights, the more women disrespect men?It's so obvious that strength can be used for good things that it just wasn't part of my point. My point was that physical strength is not the attribute in and of itself that inspires respect, especially on an individual basis. It's just a fact of biology, like women being the child-bearers. The example you gave -of COURSE women ain't gonna do that, because for the most part they physically CAN'T. If women were able to easily lift 100+lbs on a regular basis, had thicker skin and greater bone den… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/19 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Isn't it interesting that, the more men give women rights, the more women disrespect men?Do you FEEL respect for every man who can kick your ass? Or do you just ACT more respectful out of fear he might lay you out? If you're valuing respect as outward behavior only, than sure. I agree with you. If you're referring to respect that is actually felt and not just placating behavior, consider that for the most part, if you're a woman, EVERY man will be stronger than you, good men, bad men, and anyone in between. Something OTHER than physical strength is necessary for actual respect to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/19 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Isn't it interesting that, the more men give women rights, the more women disrespect men?Sure. You can fear disapproval, judgement, etc. but fear of purely physical harm is not always part of respect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/19 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Isn't it interesting that, the more men give women rights, the more women disrespect men?Physical strength makes women fear men, not respect them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/19 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Do you think long term/lifelong partners are entitled to complete transparency regarding the other’s past life and sexual history?I think they're entitled to ask for complete transparency, and walk if they don't get it or find out they were lied to. But I also think a person is entitled to keep parts of their past to themselves if there are no STDs, secret children, or collection of sex tapes floating around to blindside the current partner. No one owes anyone an info dump they might not actually want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/19 07:52 AM |
| 5 | Do you wish you could be 100% provided for by your partner?There is no amount of money that would make me comfortable being someone's dependent. My mom was a sahm and my dad treated her like crap and wasted all his money on his own separate social life rather than taking care of his family so I got poisoned to it early on and have worked steadily since age 13. I've actually been the sole provider several times in my marriage though, and knowing my husband had chances to quit work he hated because of me was satisfying. It makes me understand why providin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/19 10:15 PM |
| 8 | Change My View: Women are more sexual and harass-y to men, it's just that we accept itThe problem is that with that logic skinny guys harassing and groping fit women is not really harassment because it's not a threat, the woman could beat the guy up if needed. This is generally not true. Skinny short dudes are still a physical threat even to fit women, unless those women are MMA trained and/or real outliers in size or strength. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/19 08:04 PM |
| 10 | Q4W: purely philosophically, wouldn’t it be more honest for a man initially approaching a woman for the very first time to comment or remark on her appearance, looks, or how attractive he finds her?Every woman being approached by a stranger in a bar knows he's approached because he found her attractive enough to fuck, so leading with that is just redundant and boring? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/19 10:54 PM |
| 1 | The lock and key analogy is a non-practical comparison and only representative of the perspective you personally hold on sex, men, and women.I meant biological as in genetically coded into males, regardless of culture, as opposed to purely culturally-produced disgust (which is what disgust only tied to expectations of investment sounds like). If it's genetically coded into males, the Mosuo are wired differently, either to tolerate a culture with promiscuous females or to be able to accept that culture as it developed for whatever reasons it did. If the Mosuo are men wired like any other men, and it's accurate that they aren't jealous… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 02:12 AM |
| 1 | The lock and key analogy is a non-practical comparison and only representative of the perspective you personally hold on sex, men, and women....only so many productive men can be shamed into suppressing the visceral disgust that promiscuity incites in the male brain. ...In the mosuo tribe no one genuinely gives a flying fuck about female promiscuity because men aren't expected to paternally invest (or do much work whatsoever lol). So in your opinion, is the visceral disgust nature or nurture? Aren't Mosuo men biologically men like any other men? Does this mean if men are raised without fear of paternal responsibility (or possibly sha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Q4Men: why do you think women don’t care about n count?Women want men who are desirable to other women. A man that has been with and has the ability to be with many women obviously fall into that category. That's not necessarily a matter of n-count. Without knowing a man's history, it's pretty easy to see if other women react to them with interest or not and how socially adept they are. He doesn't have to have racked up #s for that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 09:04 PM |
| 6 | What do you guys literally mean by a guy should "Lead" in a relationship?But does your business come first because you're the man, or because it's either the more stable source of income, or more vital to you personally and would make you unhappy to downscale it? If it's more important to you than her house-flipping plans are to her, it doesn't really seem to be an issue of male leadership. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 02:57 AM |
| 8 | What do you guys literally mean by a guy should "Lead" in a relationship?This really doesn't seem male-led to me? This just sounds like healthy, trying-to-please-your-partner stuff. edit: didn't read clearly enough lol missed where you said letting him have the final say. Is that about everything? Like, where's the line where you just concede, after discussing and giving your input? Is he just a better decision-maker in general? Or is it more that you both just let the other have the final say where it matters more to one of you or the other? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/19 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible for most men to be satisfied for life with one woman if they meet young?Me and the hubby got together around the same age, it's been over 30 years now. As long as you don't take eachother for granted, let your bodies go to shit, or stop being sexual (can't emphasize this enough!) it can stay amazing. 7 years is already a long time and he married you rather than try to make you a "forever girlfriend" so you must have a solid foundation. And yes, wife goggles are a thing. According to RP I hit the wall 20 years ago yet he still gets it up for me on the regular. My 2 b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/19 06:00 AM |
| 2 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?Nope, not bi. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/19 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?Yeah I don't know where you got the idea that I was arguing that point. I'm a small female, I've been aware that men are stronger than me my whole life. I think the only disagreement was over the dick being the source of vulnerability. It's not, the REST of the man is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/19 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?lol a foreign object, ok. Maybe if I was being raped, that's how it would feel. Yeah, he's a man, he's stronger, so objectively I'm in a more vulnerable position. Who's arguing that? You seem to have an issue with the fact that I don't feel vulnerable. Like I said, the entire idea of penetration feeling normal and natural, and not necessarily tinged with force or domination, escapes you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/19 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?I really don't, no. We both obviously know I'm physically weaker, but in the context of our dynamic, that's not the focus or interest so when he's in me I don't "feel vulnerable" in some primal way the way you seem to be thinking. It's not like a man's dick is the strong part, it's all that muscle mass. So if he's not actively demonstrating it, that strength difference is pretty easy to ignore. Position and mindset between you make all the difference. I realize it can be hard for a man to unders… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/19 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?This is bad logic. The vagina tissue can be just as painful for a woman. Is a woman with vaginismus always submissive? So that logic of yours flies out the window. I was speaking more broadly, but I guess I'd say it depends on the mindset, just like any other variation of D/s. If a woman with that condition desired to be penetrated despite of, or because of, the pain and difficulty, it would seem more submissive to me, yeah. You are built to be penetrated - by another human with an appendage who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/19 12:34 AM |
| 5 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?A woman in the right position can be totally in control of the action even while being penetrated, with zero pain or prep if she's aroused, while being penetrated anally is just a lot more physically vulnerable. The tissue up there is not as durable, doesn't lubricate, takes practice for it not to just hurt, etc. Not knocking anyone who can feel dominant from that position, I just don't understand it personally as a woman, where there isn't even a prostate up there to have fun with. I mean, gay … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 06:16 AM |
| 2 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?Likes to be the aggressor during sexy times :) Likes to make the man react to what I do to him rather than vice versa. Likes to control the action. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?I'm a dominant woman, and I think I'm the only one I've ever met in real life (though I've never been to any kink events). One of my friends is a switch for her SO on occasion but she's not into it, it's for HIM. Me on the other hand, I thought I was a weirdo as a kid with the fantasies I had, and the lack of turn-on in the normal flow of things with the guys I dated before the hubby. I have no clue why I am the way I am, though. Or why it seems so rare. I'm not particularly aggressive or domina… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?Idk penetrated vaginally, you can still maintain some dominance, but I'd have to agree that being pegged as a guy or fucked in the ass as a woman, I don't get the dominance angle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/19 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Having sex means you're ready to become an adult15 year olds are horny, but they are also capable of making rational decisions when cost greatly outweighs the benefit. Except they're actually not. The adolescent brain is not developed enough to be able to weigh consequences like a fully formed adult. Add fluctuating and excessive hormones, puppy love, and zero life experience to reflect on, and it's pretty much a lost cause. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 04:54 AM |
| 3 | It's ok to sexualize teen girls since they sexualize themselves now, and it's played on the radioAnd honestly, most 19 year old girls I know aren't any smarter than the 17 year olds. This is accurate -the brain isn't really done developing (in either sex) until mid to late 20s. 19 and 17 are pretty much on the same level. Many girls like older guys and feel mature vicariously through association yes, because of the above -brains not done developing and lacking adult, more consequence-aware decision making power. I think we end up infantilizing the girls by pretending like they're incapable … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 12:22 AM |
| 7 | Q4W: you find out your bf/husband would eat out his more attractive ex for hours nonstop but he tells you he wont go down on you because hes not into eating pussy anymore and didnt really like it at the timeI wouldn't sleep with anyone who didn't go down. The reason is irrelevant. the only correct answer :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/19 12:09 AM |
| 2 | The PPD Demographic is too Abstract / Fringe to Have Well Rounded Discussions Around Modern DatingCombo of 2,3 and 4 here. I don't even remember how I found this sub but this and the other pill subs have made me thankful I'm not young and single lol Agree with u/QueenCousland86 that people on this sub (even the trollish ones) have more interest in "whys" than most people. So it'll never reflect the general population. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/19 03:43 AM |
| 2 | What exactly is wrong with female led relationships?But even that one felt like it strained under our... mutual androgyny as time transpired. We opened the relationship for solo stuff beyond the group stuff that had been the rule. She gravitated toward a super tall (she was tall) dude who was classic dark triad stormy bad boy, and i gravitated toward this manic pixie waif who was like 90 lbs sopping wet. Basically it started to feel like we run from the deep grooves of human sexuality, and we can get far and accomplish fascinating things, but eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/19 07:29 PM |
| 4 | Do you think pregnant women should legally be allowed to drink alcohol?I don't like paying ANY taxes, but that's another story. Most pregnant women don't drink because they don't want to poison their baby and/or face public shame. The few that don't give a damn or are THAT ridiculously uninformed are not enough to be a public health crisis, and would easily find another way to get alcohol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Do you think pregnant women should legally be allowed to drink alcohol?I don't think it's anyone's business. If you can legally choose to have an abortion, why can't you legally drink while pregnant? There are tons of things a pregnant woman can do that might harm the fetus, are they going to be made illegal too? Where is the line drawn? If a bar wants to refuse service I guess I don't much care, let public support or outrage be the consequence it has to deal with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 03:02 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of young people that are red pilled?Nah I don't buy the hypergamy thing the way it's used here and applied only to females. What RPs call hypergamy could also be a bad pairing where the woman just happens to leave first. If she winds up with a dude the ex sees as "better", maybe he sees hypergamy and says AWALT. Maybe it makes it easier to swallow to blame female biology rather than look at exactly how you fucked up with your choices. I think some men (and women) are better off not marrying, and some aren't. Totally depends on how… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 06:00 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of young people that are red pilled?That's why I said mature, and picked the right wife. Plenty of men marry unwisely and/or are immature, so yeah, those men might "upgrade." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 04:16 AM |
| 4 | Can Women Opt Out of the FSM?I didn't exactly opt out so much as had no place in it and didn't really get it. I don't like socializing with large groups of women (or girls as a kid) but I've always had a couple of friends whose company I was able to tolerate and that's where I get my social needs met, which aren't many. As a kid, those friends were always somewhat outcast themselves and were always more bothered by it than I was and tried harder to change that. I recently found out I'm an INTJ, and my experience backs up wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 03:46 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of young people that are red pilled?Who wouldn't upgrade their wife to some hot supermodel? A man who entered marriage with a mature mind and had the wisdom to pick the right person in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 12:55 AM |
| 5 | People who have "rape fantasies" or other messed-up fetishes should admit they have a serious problem and stop using the excuse of "It's just a fantasy"I don't know about drawn Guro or snuff porn per se but what I HAVE seen in fanfic (written for and by probably 90% women) even the darkest,most demented, kinkiest shit is often written to wring out high levels of emotional catharsis and almost nothing to do with objectifying the victim. Honestly in pretty much anything I've read the victimized party is healed and fixed by the end. I don't see anything comparable in explicit material made by men for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 06:33 PM |
| 5 | Q4All: Do you have a secret fetish that no one can know about?I don't think anyone could, it's physically impossible. lol I got an early 2000's flashback to Tubgirl after reading this. Oh it's possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 07:47 PM |
| 1 | How has your experience with men in the "friendzone" been?Literally every male I've tried to be "friends" with turned into either a pain in the ass or a stalker. NONE have ever wanted to be friends in any way that didn't involve their penis in me at some point, or the potential of it. The only male friends I've had that were real are the hubby's friends who've known us together long enough that they're family. But it's not like we hang out alone together on any regular basis. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 03:09 AM |
| 3 | What burdens do women carry in relationships and sex?If you're trying to get a woman to relax and feel safe so you can fuck her when you're practically a stranger, than yes, that would be an extra burden because of the ACTUAL physical threat you pose. If it's just normal interaction, flirting, getting to know eachother in a relationship like normal people would, I don't see that as requiring any special effort, no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/19 02:02 AM |
| 3 | What burdens do women carry in relationships and sex?Making a woman feel safe about you shouldn't really require much effort, unless you normally put off rapey-creepy vibes. And guys get hurt during sex too. Dicks and balls are delicate things. I would've argued that men are more often expected to be the more proactive partner in dating and sex, or that they're expected to remain stoic and suck up their vulnerabilities, lest the woman lose attraction. Those are the kinds of things I commonly hear on PPD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/19 01:35 AM |
| 3 | What burdens do women carry in relationships and sex?But what you mentioned in the OP doesn't actually require effort (other than protecting her from OTHERS). I guess as far as what women traditionally do for men (apart from bearing their children) is providing emotional support and ego-bolstering, being the one they can let their guard down around when they can't among men. Those are the basics of what I've observed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/19 01:18 AM |
| 9 | What burdens do women carry in relationships and sex?I'm confused, those don't really sound like "burdens" to me, other than maybe the "making her feel protected from outside threats" part. Not hurting a woman while you're fucking? Not making her afraid of you? Aren't those like... basic human interaction rules? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/19 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you lose respect for your SO if he backed out of a fight?I've been lucky in that my guy never looked like an easy target (tall, broad,and looks like he can handle shit) so he's been able to steer clear of actually needing to fight as an adult. The few dudes I've seen him have conflict with have backed down without it getting physical. He had a reputation as a guy who got into lots of fights when I met him though, and it almost made me turn him down. 1.A guy is looking for a fight and insults you with the intention of getting your SO to defend your hon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/19 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Low N-count women in serious relationships, what kind of man did you pick?For the record, I have zero understanding of the mindset of someone who holds back on PIV but substitutes anal! I mean, it has to literally only be about hymen maintenance at that point and as everybody should know by now, there's really no way to test virginity that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/19 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Low N-count women in serious relationships, what kind of man did you pick?Actually hadn't sucked a dick OR did anal. Made out, dry humped, shit like that. This was over 30 yrs ago, it wasn't that weird. I actually didn't even suck the hubby's dick until after we'd had sex (and showered lol) Not innocent to me meant, I had a filthy mind and was a chronic masturbator lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/19 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Low N-count women in serious relationships, what kind of man did you pick?We were 18, he was my 1st, I was his second.The funny thing is I thought HE was a virgin bc he let me take the lead and do everything how I wanted, and he thought i'd been around the block bc I let him go down on me on our first date and would've fucked him if we'd had condoms. We had sex the next day but I didn't let him know he was the first for a little bit. I had weird issues with how men (and prior boyfriends) looked at taking a girl's virginity or wanting to "teach me" and really hated the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/19 01:05 AM |
| 1 | People in serious relationships (1 year+), do you ever have doubts? Do you ever wonder if your SO is "the one"?Female, 50, LTR of 30+ years. I don't believe in "the one", though I did when we got together (teenage me knew nothing of "limerence", NRE, etc). I DO believe if the sexual chemistry is great, you don't easily bore eachother, you're able to actively keep growing within the relationship, and you both equally value commitment, you won't have much to doubt. If any one of those things is off, though, there's a good reason not to be too confident. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/19 12:20 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: What would you consider a high N-count for a man? How many partners would a man have to have for it to be a dealbreaker?Would never be some particular # that would bug me, it would be the baggage carried over. If they were all regrets he'd never look back on wistfully, he could've been with 100. Any lingering feels over them though, even 1 might be too many. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/19 04:15 AM |
| 1 | "Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid of being killed." Is this truer than ever now?Truer than ever? It's as true as it's always been I'd think. Some men take any kind of rejection badly and I don't know any women who haven't known that and adjusted their behaviors to counter it at some point. We probably all have stories. I don't think RedPill tactics have anything to do with it -if anything, RedPill seems to encourage men to move from woman to woman with as little attachment as possible, and not to get butthurt about rejection. If anything, men actually following RP mindset a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/19 07:32 AM |
| 3 | If sex matters to you, a long-term monogamous relationship is a terrible choiceThe 1% who “make it work” (not with duty sex) are outliers, unicorns (which should be studied further; possible reasons could be hypersexuality of the woman, couples who live apart with no kids which avoids complacency, or the male is much more attractive or high status and the latent “dread” keeps the woman interested) I'm not hypersexual, I've never felt any dread, and we've lived together for over 30 yrs and still have an active sex life. I think it totally depends on who you pick. If sex is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/19 04:42 AM |
| 3 | What do we think of Belle Delphine's business ventures?I think she's making the most of her youth and hotness while she can and don't understand anyone's personal animosity towards her. Sure, she didn't do anything to "earn" her good looks or youth but that's just the luck of the draw. If she's not doing anything actually fraudulent or illegal good on her for finding a way to use her assets to the fullest I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/19 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Have you been sexually penetrated?I like this question, and am unsurprised about all the NOPE NOPE NOPE. lol the stigma is real...my hubby lets me dom the hell out of him but still won't let me go there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 08:34 PM |
| 4 | If sex bots eventually existed widespread to the point of passing the Turing's test, what could be the future of womankind?Honestly, I DON'T think it would take off the same way, just because women are not as sex-driven. The social status thing, idk. I don't think a sexbot partner would boost a man's social status either. Other than a way to show wealth, like an expensive car or watch or something. I guess it depends on if the bot is looked at as the person's luxury toy or the person's only option for intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/19 12:38 AM |
| 4 | If sex bots eventually existed widespread to the point of passing the Turing's test, what could be the future of womankind?Hell once they can make sexbots that complex, why would they stop at female only? That's ignoring a big chunk of the market. A man you can program to act out all your sexual fantasies, hold a good conversation, AND do all the household chores sounds amazing. And as a woman who never wanted to be pregnant, artificial womb +sperm donor isn't a bad idea either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/19 12:09 AM |
| 2 | Why are Red Pillers so against the cuckoldry fetish?You forgot one element: the cuckoldry fetish essentially glorifies a behavior in women that, in ye olden days, would have been one of the worst crimes possible and potentially get her killed (and not without reason). But in reality, the men who want it are more focused on their own sexual gratification through this masochistic/submissive fantasy. It's not really glorifying anything about the woman, she's often just peripheral to the man's fetish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/19 05:18 PM |
| 7 | Why are Red Pillers so against the cuckoldry fetish?... the problem with "cucking" (and the psychological root of why Red Pillers hate it) is that it is basically a man eroticizing his own inferiority to other men . To use feminist-inflected language, cucking is based in internalized misandry This seems similar to certain feminists who are anti-BDSM (as far as female subs go at least) -eroticizing the subjugation of women is disturbing to them because it mirrors real-life victimization but then turns it into something more socially acceptable. If… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/19 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Congratulations, God gave you the authority to biologically restructure human males and females, what do you do?Make the sexes able to morph back and forth at will. (You can do it during a pregnancy, too, if you want a free abortion.) That way you can experience both sexes and either settle on one or keep switching when it suits you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/19 06:56 AM |
| 3 | Q4A: Why do women "offer to split" or "I always pay my half".... but so rarely pay for the entire bill? Why stop at the "split/pay my half" part?I wonder if the paying half thing rather than offering to pay the whole has anything to do with not wanting to offend the man's pride. Offering to pay for yourself is not as dominant of a move as taking the whole check. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/19 08:34 PM |
| 1 | How submissive are you?How submissive are you in general? Mainly how you interact with your friends, family, co workers etc Not submissive but very laid back and go-with-the-flow. I'm kind of maternal with everyone, including employees. I never mind being the decider with friends, family, etc. but I don't feel the need to be unless no one else is stepping up. How submissive are you in your relationship? I definitely let him take the lead when something matters to him more, or it's something he's better at or knows mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/19 07:05 AM |
| 2 | [Q4W] what goes on a women mind when she lies about her sexual partners and does it change later on?Pretty sure legally at least, sexual assault (in the US,not sure where you're from) is not treated like sex. Your other example of a blackout drunk that couldn't remember would also be an example of sexual assault. It just seemed odd to me to use sexual assaults in the same context as whether to consider oral sex as sex. I can see the "hamstering" thing as far as some girls not counting oral, but not wanting to disclose a rape is not at all the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/19 04:23 AM |
| 1 | [Q4W] what goes on a women mind when she lies about her sexual partners and does it change later on?lol maybe to the rapist -if a dude fucked you in the ass against your will, would you consider it sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/19 01:39 AM |
| 5 | [Q4W] what goes on a women mind when she lies about her sexual partners and does it change later on?I guess if you're looking at virginity like it's a magic freshness seal on her pussy rather than a lack of sexual experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/19 10:48 PM |
| 5 | [Q4W] what goes on a women mind when she lies about her sexual partners and does it change later on?Why would anyone count a non-consensual encounter as a sex partner? I would definitely be worried for a woman who would wonder how a rapist might impact her n-count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/19 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?Me and my hubby were together for around 7 years before we got married. Lived together almost that entire time. We literally decided to get married so our relationship would look more serious to family and friends (and tbh wanted to get some gifts after getting stuck going to so many other people's weddings)and thought that would be the only change -that we'd be treated like a real family unit instead of eachother's placeholders. However, once we actually went through with it, it felt more weigh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/19 06:01 AM |
| 8 | How does the orgasm gap between straight men and women affect sexual behavior and sex drive?I haven't done any research but it seems like common sense that if sex isn't producing orgasms, those women are going to care about it way less. What is there to "crave" about sex without orgasm? I don't understand what other way getting sexual can be something to ACTIVELY seek and look forward to, other than kinky playing where you can be riding a different kind of high. I hear from women that it's not necessary to have an orgasm to enjoy sex, and I sort of get it in a LTR sense where sometimes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 12:03 AM |
| 1 | How high is too high? (N-count)I probably wouldn't have cared if my hubby had been with a bunch of women, as long as he never gave a shit about them. Although, if he'd had that sort of personality, I probably wouldn't have been as attracted to him. So for me, his n-count of one shitty STR was ideal for me. That said, the n-count thing is such a common topic on this forum it fascinates me. It's pretty clear that it's a matter of taste, values, and type of personality thing -don't like high n, don't date them. Want a virgin? Fu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/19 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Child support is not a need, it's a woman's desireWhen I was in my late 20s I couldn't find an obgyn willing to tie my tubes, and it wasn't even in a conservative state. That was in the 90s but it sounds like it's still an issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/19 12:56 AM |
| 2 | When it comes to kinks, it seems that there are more submissive men than dominant women.Male dominant, or "do-er" rather "done-to" just seems to be the default, whether vanilla or BDSM. I would guess it's because men have such a higher sex drive and because they're the ones that need to do the active penetrating for reproductive success. And because of the higher sex drive, they are more likely to have a wider variety of sexual interests just by virtue of having more time spent with sex on their brain. I think male subs have a lot more to overcome and so present less often, possibl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/19 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Do some women want a 'strong, responsible' man to take care of things, so that they don't have to grow up? Or is there a different psychology going on?Now, we live in the era of equality. Equal rights, equal responsibility between the genders, or so many espouse. But, we still see tons of women wanting these certain kind of dynamics with men. Why? Women still CAN, without being judged by others the way a man would be? More women than men tend to be neurotic and having someone else lead the way might be comforting? Some women are just turned on by being submissive and it bleeds into the rest of their relationship? Does it fly straight in the fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/19 04:03 AM |
| 1 | What's your n-count?US, 50/f. Just 1, but not for any moral reasons. Had 6 short-termers before that and might've fucked any of them if they hadn't bored me or turned me off before we got there. It was just the luck of the draw that future-hubby turned out to be a keeper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/19 10:11 PM |
| 1 | What would you consider to be a 'high' ncount? or the average experiencelol that prick isn't my buddy, he's a man who's made my cousin's life a lot shittier than it might've been. BUT, that's a smart take on it and something I've always thought when I'd heard men talk about numbers. Thanks for sharing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/19 04:59 AM |
| 1 | What would you consider to be a 'high' ncount? or the average experienceHe'd had 2 according to her. One was a ONS the other was a LTR. I'd say he's using a double standard but he's not very religious or moral. He seems to resent that she "got away" with carefree sex, which is a sentiment I've seen around here from some dudes. I think it's a lack of understanding of what some young women go through. She had a shitty father, and brothers who wrecked her self esteem by picking at her appearance pretty ruthlessly (she was heavy as a kid and not too good looking) Obviou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/19 03:45 AM |
| 1 | What would you consider to be a 'high' ncount? or the average experienceI don't remember, it was under 10 though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/19 01:32 AM |
| 1 | What would you consider to be a 'high' ncount? or the average experienceMy cousin? She's told me 5. But they were in a short period, like from 16-20 or so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/19 01:30 AM |
| 8 | The myth of unconditional loveI wish I could unread this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/19 09:00 PM |
| 1 | N-Count is a proxy for being a “slut” and it is okay to be insecure about dating “sluts”.Holy shit this n-count issue is neverending on this sub. It's rational to avoid either type of "slut", really. It's rational to avoid what you find distasteful in a potential partner, period. Ime just "acting slutty" vs actually having a high n-count are not felt the same with men (not a man, so could easily be off base). Acting slutty seems more linked to a "disrespect" red flag (Is she going to act this way when we're together? Am I going to have to put up with everyone thinking she's sleeping… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/19 01:15 AM |
| 4 | Men of PPD, what would you do if you suddenly woke up in a female body? For this thought experiment the change is permanent.Does this mean you would actually have wanted to be a sahd and be supported by a woman, if society accepted that fully? Or are you imagining if you'd been female your actual goals and drives would change to those? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/19 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Who came up with the idea that concurrently sleeping around with a bunch of people (plating) is a good way to get an LTR?Wow. They sound like reality show contestants or something. You must be SuperChad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 08:30 AM |
| 5 | Who came up with the idea that concurrently sleeping around with a bunch of people (plating) is a good way to get an LTR?Yes, knowing he has other options is a plus. It's an ego-boost when people want what you have. Knowing he's ACTING on them? I've never met a woman who was MORE into a man because he was actively pursuing sex with someone other than her, once he started fucking her. I mean, she might be giving him more sex to try and "win" him, but I seriously doubt she's enjoying that sex more, or feeling that good about it. But that aspect is probably not even on the radar of the man involved in that arrangemen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 08:06 AM |
| 12 | Who came up with the idea that concurrently sleeping around with a bunch of people (plating) is a good way to get an LTR?Idk, seeing other women desire your man has its appeal, but knowing he's actually banging those women...not so much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:35 AM |
| 14 | Why do men have far more varied tastes in women than women in men?Not titles. May I direct you to the repository: https://archiveofourown.org/ . Go through the tags rated "explicit." Yes! Seriously if men want some insight into women's sexuality outside of the "male gaze", AO3 is an eye-opener. I think like 99% of the writers and readers on there are female. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/19 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Older married members (40+) - how many dead bedrooms do you see in your social circle?Me and 2 of my closest gfs are the only women in my circle still married past 45. The ones that divorced, I don't recall dead bedrooms being the final marriage-ender, though they WERE present in all of them. Cheating and/or overall dissatisfaction after the kiddies left and they were stuck alone in a house together seem to have been the reasons, and dead bedrooms might have just been a symptom of shit that was going south anyway. None of the 3 of us have dead bedrooms. Shit slows down but if you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/19 10:21 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: how did you feel when you first discovered Red Pill theory?When I first saw "red pill" online, I got that it was from The Matrix, but didn't realize it was so solely associated to gender stuff (I'm a libertarian so I thought it was mostly an anti-SJW/left thing and also, I wasn't on reddit) I was honestly amused because a lot of it is basically the same shit I absorbed and accepted as truth growing up (I'm 50 and was raised more by my grandma) -men don't usually buy the cow if they're getting the milk for free, full belly/empty balls =happy husband (ok … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/19 01:01 AM |
| 6 | Q4W - Do you care about the n count of your male SO?I loved that my hubby had barely any experience before me. It was a huge selling point honestly and actually a major turn on. Most of the dudes in my area at the time (late 80s) were fucking and chucking lots of girls and I almost passed on him because I thought he was one of them. If he'd been someone who'd used women for sex. ONS or leading a woman on and wasting her time to have steady sex, stuff like that, I wouldn't have gotten invested. That attitude would've disqualified him but because o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/19 06:43 AM |
| 2 | What would you consider to be a 'high' ncount? or the average experienceAhh, ok. That ick that other dude mentioned might not go away. I have a cousin in a relationship with a dude that found out she'd had several partners before him. No ONS but several STRs. She told him within the 1st few months and he initially wanted to dump her but she convinced him he'd get past it so he stayed.They were early 20s like you guys when they got together. Apparently, he never got over it and it's still a sore spot in their relationship ~10 years later. He's cheated on her and defe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/19 05:16 PM |
| 2 | What would you consider to be a 'high' ncount? or the average experienceJust curious, why are you still with her if it's such a struggle? I only ask because everyone else who seems to have that reaction breaks it off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/19 10:54 AM |
| 3 | What would you change about men if you could?I don't live among chimpanzees so that didn't factor into my thinking here. 'Less violent and dangerous than chimps' is still way too low a bar for me as an answer to the OP. Sure, the world in general seems to be less violent (in some first world countries at least)but most individual violence is still male and most wars are and have always been started by and fought by males. And since most men are killed by men and suffer at the hands of men, it's not just women who'd be safer. Or maybe I'd b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/19 01:51 AM |
| 7 | What would you change about men if you could?I like how the longest thread seems to be changing the taste of cum... Idk more empathic and less violent overall? But yeah the cum thing too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/19 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: Do you consider it a complement or an insult if someone would have sex with you, but not a relationship?I'm a woman. As far as our society goes, men get validation from being able to fuck women. If he's only wanted for sex, he's succeeding at something other males respect. Women get more validation by being able to hold onto a quality male. If she's only good for a fuck, her source of validation among women AND men is negated. Not saying I like this, but it seems to still be a somewhat common standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/19 11:56 PM |
| 3 | Older Men-How much sex do you really need?Married to a 50 yr old man, we go at it 4-6 times a week when time allows. At this point, I think I'm the one who "needs" it more. Sometimes I really miss his teenage refractory period! Twice a week? I mean, there's no set rule, it's whether the two of you are satisfying eachother's needs. If you're too out of balance something's wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/19 04:58 AM |
| 2 | Women can’t determine if they want to be viewed as a person or a sex object.Women might not know what every man could possibly be looking for, but they know enough to maximize their best physical attributes based on what most men find appealing -good waist to hip ratio, big tits, nice long legs, etc. You work what you have to get a foot in the door, so to speak. Now, if you're talking about women today actively advertising their bra size and bj skills, I'm just lost. Is this just Tinder and dating-app shit? (I'm old,was married before the internet was much of a thing) I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/19 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Women can’t determine if they want to be viewed as a person or a sex object.In terms of the entertainment industry like the examples you cited, sex appeal and physical beauty are necessary for both sexes. Famous male celebs go to max out their sex appeal as much as possible, too, especially if their appearance is their biggest selling point. When your bread and butter is being hot, it's just smart business to take advantage of that. I count camgirls in this category, too. The sexier you look to the largest amount of people, the more money you earn. I doubt these people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/19 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Hypergamy is male projection — its actually men who are the hypergamous ones.I'm trying to understand if hypergamy the way it's used here is trying to describe something genetic or something cultural. Marrying up for wealth and social status is how it's generally described, but RP seems to use it in a different way. Is it more the idea that each woman has a genetic predisposition to be most attracted to a man who displays specific genetic traits that are the best breeding mix with her? Best chances for healthy survivable offspring? Such as, one woman might pick a man who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/19 05:49 AM |
| 2 | Hypergamy is male projection — its actually men who are the hypergamous ones.Is hypergamy supposed to be part of built-in female biology, meaning as much a part of being female as having XX chromosomes? I'm a little confused on whether the RP idea is that it's a set-in-stone, always- inherited female trait or just that it's been continuously culturally produced and reinforced because of the natural difficulties women faced in pre-modern societies due to being the child bearing and physically weaker sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/19 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?No, seriously. If he's needing comfort or support I don't automatically go into climb-on-his-cock mode but I can make the transition pretty quickly if it's not grief or something serious. Feeling protective towards him doesn't turn me off. This thread is all over the place though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/19 07:46 AM |
| 1 | MGTOW and WGTOWI thought MGTOW was men just living their lives without worrying about romantic relationships with women. So by extension, I assumed WGTOW to be the same, just with women. According to the OP's intent. That was what I was addressing. No idea what female separatists as some political movement have to do with that. It's a silly idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/19 03:50 AM |
| 7 | Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?It took my man a while before he was comfortable being vulnerable with me. Especially crying. He was raised with boys-don't-cry, etc. Once he realized I wasn't put off when he broke down over his dog about a year or so in, he slowly became more expressive and it's never been a negative. That he trusts me enough to be totally open means everything to me since with other people he's not like that at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/19 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?I feel "mommy love" when my man needs serious comfort (meaning protective/nurturing I guess? -not a mom so never experienced literal mommy love!) but it's never negatively affected my sexual attraction to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/19 09:58 PM |
| 6 | MGTOW and WGTOWWhy wouldn't WGTOW be viable? Personally I know 5 older women (past 60) that have stayed single and seem perfectly fine with it. Lots of friends, have or had fulfilling careers, activities, travel, etc. and nieces and nephews if they feel like some voluntary mothering. Hopefully you don't try and steer her too hard in any one direction though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/19 05:01 AM |
| 1 | Why do women fake orgasms or lie about men concerning quality of sex?Lol yeah, no. I've been trying to gently coax her off the old CC since it's clearly a waste of time. She's not even getting off and it's just making her bitter. Got her to come to her senses with the last dude who was clearly only looking for a pump and dump. I was actually pretty surprised that she took my advice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/19 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Why do women fake orgasms or lie about men concerning quality of sex?She's never been diagnosed with anything but she's also not the type to go to a therapist so hard to say. She's always been against marriage and kids, as far as I know, and seems very sexual, has lots of sex toys, is into reading and watching porn, so she definitely CAN orgasm, just not with any of those guys, even though she finds them hot. I wish I understood what was in her head, too. She's intelligent and talented but seems to lack self awareness in a lot of ways and doesn't care to introspe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/19 11:34 PM |
| 1 | Why do women fake orgasms or lie about men concerning quality of sex?One of my younger friends (mid 30s) has had ONS and STR with around 25 or so dudes and has never had an orgasm with any of them. She'd admitted it sort of by accident and I'd asked her about it because it sounded crazy to keep having so much shitty sex and I was curious how that could be. She's an opinionated loudmouth and very sexually forward so it kind of shocked me to hear that she faked orgasms with pretty much all of them. She seemed to back up some of what's been said here, that with ONS … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/19 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What was the moment you knew you were in love with your SO?I'd never thought I was going to fall in love or get married. Had no examples in real life of a marriage or relationship I'd want. I'd had a few short term boyfriends that I'd dumped pretty quickly when I realized I wasn't feeling any real attraction. Had a few major crushes that never reciprocated. I was wondering if I even liked boys at some point. I knew it wasn't my hardware since I'd been getting myself off since around age 5. First date with my SO, that all went out the window. We clicked … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/19 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Do you ever fret that you are not the best sex your SO ever had?You have no interest in being your partner's best sex partner? I don't think it's useful to fret about bygone things or things that can't be changed, but I also can't imagine a sexual relationship with someone where there wasn't some desire and effort to be each other's best. I'd probably die inside if that was the case. I couldn't be with anyone I didn't want to impress. I'm with you on this. Unless it's a one-nighter or short term thing, why wouldn't you want to be the best for the other? Not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/19 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Do you ever fret that you are not the best sex your SO ever had?We are definitely eachother's bests, but we hooked up in our late teens so that's not surprising. What I don't understand is why if the chemistry is right and the desire to please the partner is there (and the kinks aren't wildly incompatible) that you can't get to being the best eachother has had regardless. If you aren't trying to be your SO's best fuck and vice versa it seems like other stuff is wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/19 04:13 AM |
| 9 | [Discussion] How true is the phrase "for a relationship to work, the man has to love the woman more"?Yup there have been a couple of studies in the last few years that support this (that men bail more often on their sick wife). https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19645027 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26315504 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 06:36 AM |
| 2 | [Discussion] How true is the phrase "for a relationship to work, the man has to love the woman more"?This seems like a YMMV kind of thing, but from what I've seen of successful marriages personally (granted these are very few, and also I'm over 50 so maybe different generation than most on here ) the man is more invested. In my own relationship, hubby did the pursuing initially (though I was smitten pretty damn fast) and I think it's worked out fine for us that he seems to need me more. Of course I would never put it that way to him, I'm not an asshole, and I AM in love with him. But the fact t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 03:55 AM |
| 3 | CMV: the SAHM was disrespected by men long before feminism.Before the laws changed, married women did not have any legal right to it (they also couldn't enter into legal contracts on their own). If their husband chose to let her have "her own" money, he could, but it was at his discretion. The legal doctrine was called Coverture, it was based on English common law and the US inherited it. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coverture | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 03:32 AM |
| 5 | CMV: the SAHM was disrespected by men long before feminism.Married women lost the rights to their property and any outside wages they earned to their husbands until the 1830s when states began to pass laws to change that. At least in the US. In the UK I think it took until the 1880s if I recall correctly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 03:06 AM |
| 1 | There's almost 0 LTR with regular active sex without the man applying (consciously or not) RP principles.Since other women are responding anyway, I figured I would too. Apparently I've put those tactics to use on my hubby without realizing it, and can possibly credit them with changing our relationship for the better. Though the "dread" thing is not quite accurate -he recognizes I've always been liked by the other men in our lives and men in general, but he knows I would never leave him or cheat. We got together in our late teens and over the years (over 30 now), I became more assertive/confident (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/19 11:22 PM |
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