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I started dating 'late' (20s) and that was just the wildest thing to me! Complete strangers expecting I would like, come to their apartment and drop to my knees because...? They exist? This was often before the date or was considered to be the date itself! They legit wanted me to come to their house (or come to mine), have me cook, and then sleep with me (without protection, probably) to uh, 'test compatibility'. Wat. We're about the same age: you're not missing anything. One of my last dates wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/22 02:18 AM
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Don't worry. There are plenty of older virgins. Most just don't admit it because it's 'embarrassing' but, really, no one's business. I went through a phase where I was hyper self-conscious but, guess what? No one cares and no one knows unless you say so. Just carry on. Do what you feel (safely, if at all possible) or not. If it happens, then enjoy a safe, consensual experience. If not, well, most women I've heard from seem to either hate sex or the guy sucks at it so we apparently aren't missing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/22 02:13 AM
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Indeed. "Femcels" and incels could not be more difference. For one, women who are supposedly involuntarily celibate are not celibate because they can't get sex. They're celibate because they can't find the right partner. They're also not shooting up schools or bothering men minding their business on the streets because their pants were so tight they were 'asking for it'. Spinster, thornback, and cat lady are the worst lifestyle insults they have for us but... is being less stressed, less burdene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/22 02:09 AM
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So, I agree in a cheeky way but in all seriousness: no one should have anything forced on them. If they're going to force women to carry and ban birth control/punish women, I do think men need to be held 100% accountable for their irresponsible ejaculations. It takes two to tango. Start charging men half from confirmed pregnancy/heartbeat... since we care so much about the unborn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/22 02:03 AM
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Girl. They never mention STD/Is! They just out here sticking it in everything! 🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 04:38 PM
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Thirded. My father was custodial and my mother voluntarily paid child support. She even paid extra so I could have pocket money. He stole my pocket money (probably a couple hand over about eight years): I only found out that she had even been sending it when I was an older teenager. By the time I was seven I was doing my own laundry, cooking my own meals (with a gas stove, unsupervised), walking myself to school, and doing my homework without help. You'd swear he was a model parent from the outs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 02:04 PM
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-cackles in spinster-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 01:10 AM
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Pretty much. I tell my mentees to be wary of all men between seven and death. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 01:08 AM
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Your girlfriends can also give you niblings! Play it like Victorian England: announce that whichever child is named after you and is sent over for summers will inherit your estate. ETA: I've actually proposed this to my small friend group and have some initial interest drummed up. 😂 College is expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 06:30 PM
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As we get older the much older scrotes who target us just get older too. Sick of men old enough to be my dad daring to think they have a chance with me. And they remain ungrateful. Once had this forty-something I was skeeved out about considering (in my late 20s) even before FDS because of the age gap. I was wondering what was wrong with him and promptly found out, before the date, as on our first phone call he started triangulating me with a woman he worked with. He admitted, quite bluntly, tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:11 PM
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My bad. 😂 His brother was marrying the woman he'd been with for seven years. As in, he'd just proposed to the wedding was still a few years off. They had two kids I think. The worst(?) part of that date was the latter part of my post because he was basically telling me without telling me he planned to waste my time. He'd string me along for a decade and then dump me for a younger woman since she's more fertile. Joke's on him: my grandmother had her last at around 60.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:08 PM
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Of course not: how is it in anyone's best interest for a woman to have to carry a non-viable child to term, to feel them move, to love them, go through labor... all for nothing? How would you answer questions while pregnant about a name? A baby shower? What about after when you come home empty armed? Or an adolescent who is abused and is then forced to either drop out because her visible belly is 'inappropriate' and she's a bad role model for her peers? Hell, what about ectopic pregnancies? They…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:58 PM
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It's six, I believe, but they count from your last period which means you have two weeks. So yes, you would probably not know you were pregnant yet; moreso if you had implantation bleeding. Edit: Or less if you have an irregular cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:52 PM
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That's a good point I honestly hadn't considered. It would be incredibly expensive, however (even if I could probably afford it), and I wonder if it wouldn't make more sense to adopt instead. I'm not dead set on passing on my own genes anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:52 PM
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I had this unfortunate conversation. On a date and the guy tells me his brother is getting married... to his seven year girlfriend. I mention how that is a very long time to make up his mind. He insists it's not (red flag three or four of this date so far) and says his father had him, the oldest, in his forties. I said, yes, but how old is your mother? She was twenty-five. 🤢 So, he wants kids in his 40s and were both late twenties. I pointed this out and that pretty much tanked the remainder of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 02:51 AM
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It's just an example; especially how these things have not been thought through. The state I came from as well as the one I moved to and the next one I'm liable to move to all have some variation of the 'Heartbeat Law' too. I can't possibly even consider pregnancy under those conditions even if I wanted to. But it shouldn't take an actual medical condition for a woman to receive the reproductive healthcare she needs. They need to stay out of our wombs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 12:19 AM
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His body, His choice! He wants to be able to go to school and become president! He has such a promising future! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:18 PM
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Some years ago, a doctor realized I had a peculiar genetic quirk where I have a 25% or so chance to carry a child that, while perfectly healthy in utero, will immediately suffocate to death on birth. It's so serious, my insurance paid for me to see a genetic counselor and then a therapist to make sure I completely understood. The test can only be conducted safely and reliably after 11 weeks. So. Yeah. They're not really accomplishing what they claim they want to accomplish, though they don't rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:08 PM
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One of favorite quotes, though I can't remember where I heard it, is that "no one wants an abortion, they need an abortion". They're not a day at the spa ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:02 PM
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The taking of herbs to promote menstration; whatever that means for the individual in question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 08:59 PM
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As long as this is the case the safest thing to do is take up self-defense, leave men alone entirely, and pull a Lysistrata. And even then, as someone else mentioned, rape and incest aren't exceptions to these laws. Because, you know, Texas will just get rid of all the rapists. Surely other states will too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 08:58 PM
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Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Date a bad guy? Her fault. Change to a good guy? You're a dumb hoe for falling for it and something, something beta bucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 07:56 PM
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For a minute I misread and thought he was angry at her former partners, not her. That would have been heartwarming. 😮‍💨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 07:54 PM
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While wearing a middle school uniform at that. Those assholes knew we were massively underage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:04 PM
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Yeah, I saw the PUA video on that. Something about how your brain breaks the different locations into separate events so it feels like you've been on way more dates than you have. = /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 03:15 PM
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Agreed by another WOC. I'm mid complexioned so my experience is not exactly the same as my deeper conplexioned sisters but in the community the closer you are/the more proximity you have to Whiteness, the more beautiful you are considered to be. Colorism is real. Now, that doesn't mean everyone is calling dark girls ugly. They do of course, I grew up watching other little girls get harassed, but it's not universal. It's a generalization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:46 PM
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Translation: How dare my girlfriend force me to consider my saint mother a person with her own thoughts and interests? She isn't a painted wh*re like her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 10:12 PM
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You... have a point. The only exception is if she was still doing it after her kids. Like, let's say late birth trends continue and she has a kid at 32, is some 14 year old really going to recognize this one kid's mom at 18, 28 years later? There's so much porn being made it'd likely be in the bin unless someone knew it was there and went digging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 10:09 PM
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ISTG it's internalized self hate. That's why there's so much pressure both inside and outside the community to present our hair texture as something it (generally) isn't. The bonnet, just like removing makeup, breaks their porn addict mindsets over what women actually look like. As other posters mentioned, they don't want to see behind the curtain because it makes you human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:03 AM
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We wouldn't even be having conversations about the so-called sanctity of fetal life. What was that snide remark from before? That there'd be vending machines for Plan B on every other block, with flavored options?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 06:29 AM
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Reminds me of that one woman who had her own, successful business and her husband either lost or quit his job at the beginning of the pandemic. He became a SAHD, then decided it was too hard and he couldn't handle the kids. This forced her to scale back and eventually close her business due to lack of childcare. Edit: Found the source.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:20 PM
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Women in the military forces them to face out competence, humanity, and courage. I've seen it in real time: dragging women through the mud and then they remember their best mechanic, Hawkeye, or 1SGT is a woman. They switch real quick to NLOG. Also, female Commanders are way less likely to put up with this shit. IMO they're more pragmatic and just want the job done as efficiently as possible. The male Commanders are more prone to unnecessary showboating. Anecdotal, but just my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 11:15 PM
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I don't think so? It seems men care about children less, in general, but there's a general theme (middle class and up, I guess since poor persons were not always literate enough to leave their own records) in history of them investing heavily in their children. It used to be a point of pride to be a provider and have your wife want for nothing (and if you were rich, it was part of your wife's job to spend money to ensure everyone knew you could afford it). Now? Not so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:49 PM
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Had a SGT inform me he was getting married and after all the pleasantries I ask her name. It was like 'Sunset' or 'Sparkle' or something and I almost had a stroke (PL/Interim Command; for civilians this just means I was responsible for him); very gently asked him to clarify and it turned out she was a mathematics masters student he met through his sister. The struggle is real. Edit: To clarify, I was relieved. It's impossible to convince them that this 18-year-old smokeshow does not have the emo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:37 PM
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Not necessarily. It depends; from a sustainability/earth-friendly viewpoint then yes. Economically or in the view of civil rights? No. The limiting of children has created a reverse economic and social pyramid where one child is forced to support two parents and four grandparents. A couple then has to support four parents and eight grandparents. That's before considering any long lived 'greats'. So, how exactly can they or are they willing to have children at all? The problem then persists. For …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:26 PM
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I don't know either, honestly. It could swing in one of two directions: women have more children (and die more often) or they double down and have fewer. In the latter scenario, I wondered about physical safety as it seems like scrotes would take that opportunity/excuse to pressure/assault women in order to 'continue their legacy'. I mean, China has been having issues with poor women (mostly f4om minority groups but also educated, Chinese women from cities) being kidnapped by men from the countr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 12:22 AM
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^ Yup. In addition, the State won't even protect my right to terminate in case I, the child, or both are in some form of imminent danger (including ectopic pregnancy) so why should I ever put myself in blatant danger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 11:31 PM
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I've never heard of that one. I'll check it out, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 08:57 PM
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There are many exceptions, especially amongst 'high class' convents filled with noblewomen whose families paid generous 'tithes' to keep their relative in comfort but overall they were places where women learned to read the bible and classica; to analyze texts, write their own interpretations, interact with other learned women, give lectures amongst each other, pursue art in the name of God, and generally were supposed to be safe from men. Brides of Christ and all. I'm not an actual historian, j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 07:04 PM
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You're welcome! It's really interesting, isn't it? In short, the ideal for a woman (for protestants) shifted from a vision of perfect virginity and faith in the likeness of the Mother Mary towards earthly domesticism. That was it. You had to be a wife and mother. Period. Preferably a silent one, literally. A woman who was not in the home as a wife with children was merely playing at virtue and was a hypocrite who increased her sins by pretending to be something she was not. They seemed to peddle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:15 AM
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No one can make another person happy. Only add to or subtract from their peace. You're not responsible for him being an ass who doesn't appreciate a good woman. If it makes you feel better, he won't treat her better either; once he's got her he'll just start the cycle over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 09:39 PM
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Because early protestants' original sin narrative was so extreme (mysogynist) that it drove women from the church and since church had no women, men stopped going (to find wives). So, they changed it so women were sinners but could redeem themselves though becoming the moral centers of their communities. Centuries later, you are personally responsible for being assaulted, abused, or cheated on. You weren't a good enough woman/wife. Hope you managed to get all that dust off you. Edit: The history…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:34 PM
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Dafuq? Enjoy what? Being brutalized? If that man thinks rape is so enjoyable than why doesn't he volunteer to put his money where his mouth is by demonstrating with some big, burly dude as his partner? And even that wouldn't be equal because men have prostates. An MMA match with the current female champion? He can just lay on the mat and enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:28 PM
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Agreed. Being okay with not seeing her for weeks is a massive read flag for being a side piece. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 06:30 AM
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His excuse is that hot water makes his body cold and he hates soap because it drys out his skin….Seriously. Lmao. Not an excuse. While I happen to like warm showers, I also can't really do commercial soap or deodorant. However, I still, you know, bathe. I found alternative/herbal products for my sensitive bits. I keep my clothes clean. I dry brush my skin. I'm not a disgusting garbage pit. I smell like a damn botanical garden. Men. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:48 PM
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It's possible that was being worked up to, but she says he "doesn't want her in therapy". Why does your wife being in therapy make you feel insecure, Chad? Is it because it'll help her see the truth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:11 PM
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Preach. My hairdresser is male, but he's an older gentleman and at one point he asked about marriage (he's married with adult daughters). I replied it wasn't a goal of mine and he seemed confounded. I clarified it would be nice, but it's just unlikely. I told him modern men don't actually seem to like women all that much and I'm already a difficult person so my odds are slim. I swear if he'd had pearls to clutch...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:10 PM
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It's more commonly used to mean theft but this is also a clever use of the phrase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:18 PM
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That's because marriage increases labor for women and reduces it for men. There are men who'll be willing to be the primary parent and spouse but those men are few, far between, and are already married to badass women. Recently, I can't remember where, I watched the promotion ceremony of a female Colonel and she said that when she and her husband both made Major that her boss sat her down. He said, "One of you is going to have to sacrifice your career. You should consider getting out/going reser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:14 PM
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Even if women offered nothing else, which we do, do they not realize we are the closest to God (if you're into that rhetoric)? We give life. Life. Men used to die violent and horrible deaths just for the honor and privilege of a woman to bear their children. Now, they just treat children like toys to be discarded when Mommy is mean to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:09 PM
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What? Are both of your wrists not permanently broken from all the dramatic swooning on your schedule? /s 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:05 PM
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Men offer protection from... -checks notes- ... other men? And that's not even true anymore. I've witnessed dudes abandoning women in dangerous situations on more than one occasion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:04 PM
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Not the Sierras! 😂🤣😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:05 AM
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Right? These women could lure them in to be killed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:45 AM
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If he was seriously interested in saving money why not at least suggest turkey basting (ICI) rather than full on sexual intercourse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:01 PM
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Ah. I meant that gyms are notorious for having men show up to treat it like a nightclub for picking up/ogling women. And working out early does not put you at risk for cardiovascular issues but may be hazardous if you have preexisting issues due to low BP. Otherwise, that's just silly. EDIT: Downvote me if you like, it's just not true. If you have empirical evidence to the contrary I'm all eyes. Here's an article clearly making no mention of exercise early in the morning being bad for your healt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:36 PM
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So long as you don't hog the weights, post-work bros and bras are cool with me too. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:21 PM
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That's why, if you can, go early af. The people working out 4-7 AM are not there to fuck around. They want gains. EDIT: Working out early in the morning is perfectly safe, so long as you have permission from your doctor if you also have preexisting conditions. Yes, afternoons and early evening are better for building muscle but morning is good for burning fat. In any case, working out at all, assuming you get enough sleep, is better than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:09 AM
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They'd just complain we're discriminating/practicing eugenics against men with learning disorders and are thereby ableist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:58 PM
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Eeew. I'm so sorry, girl. At least my own father just commented on my weight and not specific body parts. That's just... sketch. Both are sketch but that's worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:57 PM
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I'm pretty sure it's the other way around; it's just that the quality of men is poor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:14 AM
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Agreed. The older (45+), single men in my acquaintance are, by and large, have not aged well and are either some variation of sad and desperate or mean and delusional. Bachelorhood may have been glorious for men back in the day because no matter how old, gross, or horrible he was there was always some desperate woman two steps from having to sell herself that he could take advantage of. This still happens--but far, far less now that we have the ability to work outside the home and keep our wages…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:33 AM
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I was wondering about this. I was always warned that with certain injuries, including burns (potential shock) but especially choking, that you need to see a doctor ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:36 PM
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Agreed. I thought he was fairly decent-looking until I read the rant underneath it. His personality is hideous. Ya'll have already torn him a new one on his misogyny, but can we spend five seconds on the fact that he believes plastic surgery to give him a jawline is acceptable but is also definitely one of those men who complain about makeup being a filthy, dirty trick? Also, I agree with everyone that he's probably balding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:04 PM
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That was my first thought: he's taking Jane as though she's his SO and leaving his actual bangmaid at home with the kid. Once that kid is school aged and he's wrung the life and hope out of OP he's going to leave her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:55 AM
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So, these same men complaining about their mental health, how depressed they are, how lonely they are, how they want to unalive themselves, how women won't give them a chance etc. etc. are our here clowning good women in their youth and throwing them away? Then, years later, whining about wanting a family (but only with a woman 10+ years younger)? This is like lying in the hot sand of a desert when someone offers you a cool canteen of water but instead of being thankful and, perhaps, leaving wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:25 AM
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I don't think asking a relative they're close with or friend to help is a terrible idea so long as he has a general clue. It could even really just be a bonding thing. It's more a muted yellow flag, depending. However, I'm projecting good qualities on terrible people again, aren't I? This dude is 100% just trash all around. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:14 AM
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Mother of a three-year-old. So she was married at, what? Fifteen or sixteen? Only to be kidnapped, physically assaulted, gang sexually assaulted, and tortured for saying 'no' to a young man who wanted her to... commit adultery?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:02 AM
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They have no shame. They and/or he's testing boundaries because he doesn't plan to stop and doesn't want to deal with you calling him out later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:18 AM
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They always come back. My ex texted me a few weeks ago, which I ignored. We broke up three years ago and I’m happily married now. [Delusional] Men like this assume two things: 1) they can do better and, 2) if they can't, you'll be waiting for them. The more pathetic they are, the longer they hold on to the woman who once settled for them. Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:12 AM
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They think sowing their wild oats is some kind of divine privilege and women are just supposed to wait around for then, unchanging and unaging for them to pick us. The audacity of us not putting our lives on hold for their juvenile BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:08 AM
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That was my first thought too. Why is she so invested in the patriarchy when she's not even sexual attracted to them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:41 PM
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Exactly. OP would have been wrong no matter what. That's why both career women and SAHMs get shit on by LV men. They don't care what or who you are, they just want you off balance. Can't have you developing any self esteem or, god forbid, spine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:38 PM
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Yup. It wouldn't have mattered even if OP had acquiesced to his demands either: it would never have been enough. These types of men want you fighting against your own inner nature so that you're too exhausted to fight back at them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 04:22 PM
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Be dead weight. Don't just resist, be a hindrance and fight like your life depends on it because your odds of surviving the secondary location are pretty much nil. Make noise, scream, yell fire, speak on tongues. Someone who's trying to get you away wants to do so quickly and if you're too much trouble they may give up and run away. Otherwise, normal safety tips and carry whatever is allowed on your area. ULPT: If you can't carry pepper spray or a weapon, take up baseball (carry the glove and/or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:22 AM
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Dang, never considered that before. 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:01 PM
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Heh. No, I don't have children but I've done some of the research and poked around. But yeah, it sounds like experiences vary by provider/labs. I think the place I was nosing around suggested using one of their kits or one from Mosiebaby. E: And yeah, it's not super complex at all. If it were actually difficult (barring fertility issues) there would be far, far fewer humans in the world. Including the child of that young woman who got pregnant from being stabbed (allegedly).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:31 AM
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Yes, you can order from a catalog (which includes interviews, voice samples, childhood photos etc.), have it shipped to your door, and use a kit to do it all on your own if that's what you want. Some doulas offer the actual process as a service or may be willing to learn in order to help too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:57 PM
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Girl, I had a dude decide we were soulmates shortly after I bought a mic and he realized he'd been chatting with a woman (we'd raided together for more than a year by then). Despite my insistence he slow his damn roll and stop spamming me, he didn't. In fact, he bought a ticket to my city and informed me that we were becoming an item. It took me way too long to nope out of that one. I blocked him on everything and went radio silent after the ticket bit, finally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:55 AM
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I'd probably dig that but it's very much about knowing your audience. Also, that plushie should have come with some diamonds. 😒🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:50 AM
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Same. I used to think I wanted someone I could play with, but I understood nothing about men and games until much later than I should have. The men I know simply can't handle playing in moderation at all. I hear they exist but I've not met one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:49 AM
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It's fairly well-known that women were touched and penetrated digitally. My understanding is that in asylums especially they were straight up raped and abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:20 AM
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I didn't know this either, so I looked it up. Found a few articles where one owner went on record stating that his clientele was not normal and that he had to 'turn away a number of men with rape fantasies'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:35 PM
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Male physicians invented vibrators because they got tired of manually sexually assaulting their female patients while treating them for 'hysteria'. Now they're mad their creation can do the job better than they can. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:25 PM
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No lies detected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:21 PM
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Ooooh, I see. Despite all that porn, and the power of Google, he still doesn't know where the clit is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:53 PM
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Why thank them though? (I know you're not saying this.) It's unoriginal, shallow, and we all own mirrors and cameras. My standard response to this is now, "I know." followed by a blank, expectant stare/returning to what I was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 08:14 PM
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Girl, for real. Standard female grooming is just... attractive in general. Even the "homeliest" women (whatever that's supposed to mean) tends to look neat and well-put together. Even the men I work with are under this delusion that women don't care about looks and they're the visual sex. Scrote, I can see the difference between white, cream, eggshell, alabaster, and chantilly: I'm not fucking blind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 03:10 AM
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Luckily I don't have the cognitive dissonance of being attracted to but disliking them as I saw exactly TWO attractive men in real life in 2021. Two? In real life? I saw maybe... one...? The rest were average and all of them were either insufferable or happily married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:40 AM
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Yes, make sure he's hot. Really get your money's worth. lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:46 AM
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-raises hand and sighs- And of course, you become the ungrateful harpy for not being ecstatic that your SO doesn't know anything about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:54 PM
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Neither is anything for the house eg saucepans etc Unless it's from a non-SO. I would seriously dig a full kitchen of shiny All-Clad and some fancy China plates from my parents. But yeah, house gifts are almost never appropriate for personal "giving" holidays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:52 PM
48

I feel like being a partner to a single man with kids puts a woman in all kinds of additional abusive situations. I can easily see a corrupt man using kids to bleed the woman dry financially, emotionally, time wise and every other way wise. Ah, I see you've met my father too. Seriously, getting passed around between his girlfriends like a pet and basically raising myself when they ran for the hills (way too late, I remember telling them as a single digit kid that they shouldn't date him) traumat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:27 PM
25

LOL Yes, it was a Black man. And yes, BW have been buying, building, setting, and stocking the table for years. Yet BM want to swoop in and play at man of the house, demanding we submit. Nah, sis. E: Maybe we wouldn't have to be so "masculine" if they would love and protect us, rather than ridiculing and damaging the very women that birthed them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:24 PM
35

Same. Right before I found FDS I remember hearing this question, pausing a moment, and then writing a paragraph back. At some point while I was writing all this out, it just... clicked. WTF am I even entertaining this nonsense? Day 1 of being completely unbothered and divested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:49 AM
14

The new collection is pretty diverse! I literally did a double-take a few weeks ago as I was walking past and saw a doll that looked like me. Not, like, a standard doll mold filled with brown plastic but a brown doll with a wide nose, bigger lips, wider hips, and curly hair. It was amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:40 AM
16

That side effect warning has me cackling!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:38 AM
43

Oooh, I saw this one on YT. I was torn, since maybe he's just being responsible with money (there was a bit where he refused to spend money on a restaurant she wanted to go to and cooked instead) but how broke do you have to be to not be able to save for a single cake? E: I was completely on her side after he suggested she pay for half of her own birthday cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:26 PM
4

75% FDS, 15% technology subs, and 10% happy cow gifs + animals being jerks. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:10 PM
5

You know, I never thought of it that way before. Thanks. Also: LOL @ 'mUh lEgACy'. Bro, what legacy? Is he a hereditary baron? Have some titles and riches to pass on? No? Then he's just another broke scrote with delusions of grandeur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:29 PM
9

My cheating LV father has a recovered-LV cheating father whose [cheating] father had two families. Grandpa told me stories about how his mother (my great-grandmother) used to call the mistress' house to tell her to send "my husband home, I need him to fix the sink". Don't do it. 🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:34 AM
23

I don't understand how getting married is too big of a commitment and 'just paper' but buying a house, car, sharing finances, and having a baby (that he demands have his last name) is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 09:15 PM
39

They'll just claim they can't help it. Which is weird considering they'll endorse weight loss surgery but won't go for hair restoration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:50 PM
40

And they were trying to have kids. He'd been with her for five years, did not marry her, but was trying to knock her up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:48 PM
7

😂🤣😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:43 AM
87

Talking is an extended phase of bullshit where they manipulate you with phone calls, texts, informal, cheap meetups etc. in order to create false intimacy and get commitment free sex. Ex: "That's not my girl. We just talking."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:40 AM
52

Right? JFC, can't she just be, you know, ill? Don't we already have enough issues being taken seriously by doctors? They constantly underestimate our pain and, in the not too distant pass, an assertive or troublesome woman could be given a lobotomy/placed into a mental institution to be further abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:10 PM
58

Exactly, it's projection. The most average woman is just ridiculously more attractive than the most average man imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:08 PM
18

The automod or a real mod is deleting them. There are ways to read them anyway, if you try, but having done that myself it's 100% not worth it. These dudes are vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:07 PM
2

Nope. I'd consider a legal alias, however.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:45 PM
23

At a certain educational and professional levels it's just more sensible for the man to just change his if he's so concerned about matching surnames. It's just a ridiculous amount of administrative work and time for no good reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:42 PM
39

Red Flag: comments on food/snacks you're eating in a negative matter; anecdotal and personal experience suggests that nearly always leads to or is appearance negging. ​ It's also just controlling and rude as hell. You deserved so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:42 PM
9

I'd like to know this too. I've had a singular experience that was so bad I never went back, but I'm at an age where I really should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:23 PM
214

They want to be head of household without any of the work/sacrifices but with all standard and exceptional privilage. Listen, if I'm making the money then I am, in fact, the boss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:14 PM
9

LMAO I did consider it might be read that way. Yes, artificial insemination (IUI, ICI, IVF).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:26 PM
8

Gomez never drops the romance. I thought it was cheesy as a kid but ad an adult it's literally the cutest thing ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:41 PM
6

I want to say I learned from this sub that either the writer or actor refused to play his part unless they ensured Gomez and Morticia were madly in love because, at the time, there was talk of basically making them like every other LV couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:39 PM
24

You just need to explore new authors. I happen to like Kresley Cole's Immortals After Dark series. IIRC most of her female leads are very empowered (but it is a romance so, you know, ymmv) and have absolutely no qualms about clowning the male leads. In Myst the Coveted's book she literally gives Nikolai blue balls for a few decades for fun because she knows most men ain't shit. In Emma's book, there's a serious power and age imbalance but then she becomes the Queen of Vampires and defeats the Bi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:23 PM
62

I confronted it head on, stared directly into reality and thought about possible outcomes/options. Having "backup options" really helped: no bio children? Foster. Adopt. AI. No man? They kind of suck anyway, cultivate friendships by joining a sewing circle. Plan to travel. Take classes. Put on some sunscreen and take a hike. Meditate if it works for you. We've been conditioned to worry about dying alone and childless, but that's always a possibility no matter if you give birth and marry or not. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:04 PM
2

They can’t accept the cold hard truth - they are simply an accessory, and we are just fine without them. They haven't been socialized to because they've never had to until recent generations. Marriage was intended to be at least something vaguely approximating equal, considering men were expected to live and die for their families with their honor on the line. Your wife and children were your mark on the world; after you passed they held your memory. If they starved, there went your legacy. Even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:20 PM
18

Yup, totally self sufficient and outearning (or when not, outsaving) nearly all the men around me. Plus, I just handed in my thesis so I'm about to outeducate them too. It was 'what if'... you get lonely? Want someone to take you out? Get sick? Want babies? Who will take care of you when you're old? E: Dude just didn't seem to get it. There was a younger, pregnant young lady in the office where we were having this conversation and she was nodding along with me; she knew what was up. Modern* men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:45 PM
17

They're so close to getting it, but not quite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:08 PM
63

Girl, got that one for the first time recently and I'm like: "What's wrong with cats? They're warm and soft. Do you not like that they have boundaries or something?" Panic on this dude's face while he starts trying to convince me even harder I need a man because all the 'what if'. It was just kind of darkly hilarious because the argument centered on needing a man to have children to care for me when I'm old. Again, why do I need the man tho'?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:02 PM
7

The tiara sent me! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:02 AM
44

Single mothers are the (usually custodial) parent who stayed. Single fathers are... mostly trash, honestly. My own father used that line about it being so hard and his child needing a mother (my mother is very much alive and well) to reel in women. Then? He neglected/adultified me so I was washing, ironing, and cooking (unsupervised) before the age of 8.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:07 PM
133

You'd pretty much have to book an appointment with a doctor he's not affiliated with and accompany him to the checkup to ensure the [sperm count] results are 1) recent, and 2) legitimate. Pretty much only sleep with men you'd be willing to procreate with after a long vetting period. Whelp, hope these dudes are ready for their casual sex supply to dry up. Better get that suite tailored, brush up on that etiquette, cotillion, and spend months pursuing a woman in the hopes she'll kiss you. Maybe. O…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:50 AM
137

Indeed. If men were so concerned with life, they would want to protect it outside the womb as well. This is about control. No sweat off my back, my legs are tightly crossed (metaphorically) anyhow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:40 AM
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Women who need abortions (No one "wants" an abortion. They're not fun. They're not a spa trip. They're Healthcare. A need.) will have abortions whether they're legal or not and they will start to die. Or SIDs will mysteriously start to rise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:11 AM
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I wonder how hookup culture will fare when women aren't allowed to terminate but men cry that condoms made their PPs feel bad. One step closer to childfree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:08 AM
249

They only care about the sanctity of life before it's born for the potential to hurt the mother. After the child exists, they actively act against its interests because LVM sympathize with other LVM who see children as property to be discarded with the mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:07 AM
42

A happy single woman is a goddamn queen. I have very, very rarely met a happy single man and when I have they tended to be the sort who were widowed etc. not left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:37 AM
12

Don't worry. We're not in any danger. It's just the implication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 05:13 PM
4

IIRC, the actress tried to wear something more similar to the original but it kept tearing, getting wedged in places, and she couldn't do her stunts safely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:26 PM
7

Actual introspection is too much work for some of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:19 PM
5

I'm also interested in the book! Send me to the title too please. <3 I love supporting literature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:37 AM
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Imma just drop here how I've been doing this with my narc father lately: During a conversation a few weeks back, which was fairly pleasant, he stops and goes: "You know, it hurts my feelings when you dismiss me like that." This is response to my 'mmhm' to his attempting to make some distant, someday plans for a particular trip together. It was more a "we're still in a pandemic" dismissal but then I thought about all the times when, as a freaking adorable kid, I would plop down next to him while …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:07 PM
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That sub baffled me. The only reason for it to exist is sexism, since we already have 'entitled people' subs. So, basically, when men are saying is that women aren't more important or vital to the community despite our vaginas (and literally everything else we provide to make their lives longer and better) and that they don't value them enough to protect us? Okay. Stop giving men access to your wombs. Easy peasy. I'm ready to move to the first all-female commune that will take me. Men used to at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:49 PM
26

Bet. Women do not lose attraction to men they were already attracted to enough to marry/be with long term, just because he's a SAH parent or spouse. Most men are just terrible at it and mooch instead, leaving the wife to pick up the pieces, which is what actually causes issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:39 PM
11

Man is talking out of his ass. I wouldn't mind a SAH spouse so long as they were fine with me being the boss. I make the money (and he gets a generous allowance/pay) and he follows the rules and budget. I also won't be doing a majority of the chores or childcare. I work a 12-15 hour day. Help wash dishes? Fold laundry? Vaccum? Yes. Want to hire a maid or occasional babysitter to lighten the load? Sure. However, basic household maintainance is on him. He's home all day! Isn't that what men say wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:37 PM
11

For both LV men and women, TBH. I had a girlfriend I'd known for more than a decade and it got the point where I was having to explain to her that I had feelings, how I felt about her behavior, and why she shouldn't treat me like shit (she was chronically insecure and emotionally dumped on me constantly without listening to advice). Cue instant DARVO from her. Got so fed up, I "broke up" with her right then and there. A person who doesn't care... doesn't care. There's nothing you can do to make …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:25 PM
61

The Bible also says a man should treat his wife as if she were of his own flesh (so tenderly), which is laughable. They treat them like appliances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:06 AM
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Ironically, women are the backbone of the church. I remember reading/hearing a while back that there was a micro crisis within the (wider, probably protestant?) Christian church when the gospel was even more anti-woman than it is now: basically preaching Eve and all women would burn in hell etc. Women stopped attending church in large numbers. According to the source, which escapes me right now, men stopped going to church as much in response since most of them went with their mothers, wives, or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:17 AM
109

Weird, considering only women can create life... 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:12 AM
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As Savannah said in an FDS podcast ​ "Religion is affirmative action for men" Affirmative action for beta males, specifically. 😂 *Every man gets a sex slave just for showing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:10 AM
7

Fair enough. Good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 04:13 PM
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I'm not certain. A quick Google search says he was convicted of sexual abuse/assault at one point. I didn't dig too much. However, the evidence seems a bit shaky--though he was being hella creepy and probably deserved punishment either way. In any case, the bar is low enough and a dead man harmless enough (physically), I feel we can listen to his more feminist songs quietly without too much guilt, no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:23 AM
7

Wait! We can keep Tupac, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:34 AM
99

... He kicked her out because she wanted to be responsible and use backup birth control?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:50 PM
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I'm sure someone else in the comments will put it more eloquently than I, but as women of color we also need to stop limiting our options by skin color and go with whomever treats us best. My father used to tell me all the time I had an obligation to perpetuate the ethnic group/race while he was out there dating the rainbow. He then married a biracial woman who does not resemble himself. Think of the memes about the dark skinned baby mama versus the wife. Or, for a historical example: consider t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:03 AM
9

Been there, joined the club, quickly realized that all those military bros are single/divorced three plus times for a reason. The majority of them are vastly maladjusted and even the ones that aren't are an acquired taste; it takes a very specific (I'd even say hard-core FDS, emotionally detached [as in, perfectly fine with months alone] sort of woman) to be happy in that kind of relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:50 PM
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My understanding is that after a certain age the courts won't force the child to be with him if he doesn't want it. I went through the same thing with my LVM father having primary custody. One day I simply left home (around 13-14) and went back to my mother, he lost his shit--not because he wanted me but because he'd lost control. Tried to go through family court. The judge shrugged and said I was capable of making my own decisions. In hindsight, that shit is wild seeing as the man was literally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 05:41 AM
7

I work in an office as the only woman among a group of men among only one is still with his first wife. The way they talk about women when they forget you are one is... yeah. I swear to God! I swear to God! When I die I want to be reincarnated as a woman so I can do nothing but lay on my back, have babies, and take men's money!* ^This regarding the mother of his toddler son, the love of his life, because she got tired of his binge drinking and left. Never feel bad. Never. They don't feel bad for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:10 PM
8

Aw, thanks. And damn it, I was freaking adorable too! Men have no taste whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:59 PM
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Wow. That hit home hard. My father definitely tried this [abandoning me to start a new family] and failed because the new woman took the GC and left him too. But as is the pattern throughout this thread, now that's he's older and facing his mortality he wants to reconnect "while he's still young enough for us to do things together". Younger me would have killed for him to say that, to want to be with me, to have his approval but mostly all I feel is kind of sad and jaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:03 PM
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This woman is clearly out of his league and he still wants to act like a scrote. Artificial diamonds are beautiful but if she doesn't want one then that's that. And now we have to be mindful of dudes trying to cheap out on the ring by playing the environmentalist, frugal angle. Honestly, a $10k ring is nothing for a woman you expect to have sex with your exclusively for the rest of your life and bear your children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:20 AM
4

No-one's aghast when their child pops out without glitter eyelids. I'm dying! 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 06:47 PM
42

The good ol' days: a society structured on the subjugation of women as emotional and physical punching bags for out of control men without any sort of accountability. My mother's mother told her oldest child that she was lying, to put up with it, and to 'stop trying to steal her man' rather than call he cops on her boyfriend for raping her child. That's what they want us to go back to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:39 PM
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They're married, making it legal. = \ Men can and sometimes do marry the children (because that's what a 16-year-old is, a child) they sleep with in order to avoid prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:26 PM
24

I warned his current wife against marrying him, several times in fact, but she was just 'so in love'. She now listens to the FDS podcast. Interesting question! GC and I are not close for obvious reasons, but I imagine the answer is 'not yet'. Our narc father switched professions when little man was a toddler and now travels constantly for work so, in those small doses where he does see GC, he's likely quite charming and plays his role as the model father fairly well. Note that GC is not his wife…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:26 AM
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As you get older - and your dad gets older - how does the relationship change now that you can see straight his bullshit? As he become older and more frail - does his manipulation change? Is he less of an asshole? Not the person you asked, but yes. Once I had been out on my own long enough to fully see through his abuse it intensified (verbally and then, when I began hanging up on him, emotionally) for a bit while he tried to regain control. When that failed, most of the manipulation stopped the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:06 AM
6

Oh, I've seen that before too. It was especially sad/cruel because the only reason it came on my radar was because the wife came into our office to file a complaint against her husband. He was withholding the paperwork necessary for his 4-year-old daughter to see the doctor. After some digging, and him [our employee] lying that he was paying his child support properly etc., we found out that the whole thing kept being escalated by the mistress mocking the wife over social media that the man only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 04:31 PM
9

Perhaps because patriarchal lineage tracking is unnatural? The saying has always been "Mommy's baby, Daddy's maybe". Matriarchal descent as a method of passing wealth and heritage makes a lot more sense. That and, excepting some sort of abuse, trauma, or loss, I don't think it's possible for a child to have a bond closer than they have with their mother. Not to say men can't be close with their children but they have a startling tendency to screw that up, then complain later when their kids don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:55 PM
6

Love isn't enough. Money is seriously fucking important. All the love in the world won't keep her and her children/pets/loved ones from starving in the cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:49 PM
4

My conspiracy theory is that society/civilization is built on women's subjugation and misery because idle "military aged males" are violent, destructive, and antisocial (in the sociology sense, act in a manner that is not productive to society). Once mass quantities of them stopped dying off in tribal wars, affirmative action for beta males (marriage) was put in place to give them a locus of control. Then Kings sent them to war (to rape, loot, and pillage) and to the fields so they'd stop trying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:41 PM
7

All a woman has to do is work and now half the species is obsolete? Damn. Huh. Well, dang, ain't that the truth. Never thought about it in those terms. It's telling that a non insignificant portion of women will remain single when they aren't forced to pair or starve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:32 PM
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Yes, both of those things. /shudder In addition to vanity, in my case. And what blows my mind is that in the case that you did rack up massive medical bills from said complications or later needed/wanted corrective surgery, somehow it would still be your fault. Reminds me of that Reddit post where the woman didn't want the child but the father convinced her to give birth so he could have custody. She agreed and did exactly what she said she would by immediately leaving the hospital after signing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 07:04 PM
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I've had a weird relationship with my body from growing up in the 90s when dangerously thin was the trend. Now, I have a "trendy" body but even that's undermined by all the dangerous cosmetic surgery. See: "the rise of the slim thick influencer". Giving birth to a child, risking my life, likely permanently changing and/or damaging my body for life for someone who won't appreciate it is a terrifying thought. So, girl, I feel you. The only person I'd ever have a child for is me and me alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:20 PM
3

Isn't age of father positively correlated with risk of autism?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:57 PM
2

They're not. I've looked into it and the most expensive was sub $500 a vial. So, assuming you need around 6 vials (which is plenty and you could probably have two full siblings with those), that's $3k plus the cost of insemination which you can do at home with some careful research or with a doula.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:38 PM
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So what was his solution? "WoMeN nEeD tO bRoAdEn tHeIr dAtInG pOoL!" Black men disliked that The crying about WOC dating outside their ethnicity is like listening to the world's smallest violin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:18 PM
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Ah, I see. It's all good. Yeah, in certain cases it's definitely more beneficial to tweak the standard advice. In not just this instance but in others it may behoove women to just use a bank and live in committed partnerships, outside of areas with common law marriage, rather than going the traditional route.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:27 PM
2

Eh. Research proves that, yes; though I wonder if the results would not be as skewed towards marriage if the single parents in question had good jobs, childcare, and an adequate support network. I've always thought those results were heavily biased due to economical factors. Don't get me wrong, having two loving parents is undoubtedly ideal but, with planning, having a kid alone isn't the end of the world for them or the parent that stays/chooses them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:20 PM
3

You're right. That's why it's such a bad idea for anyone, especially women, in my position especially to marry since the pay scales with the length of the marriage...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:12 PM
4

It's actually a coincidence. The law/regulations/rules were written to protect wives who stop working or only work part time. However, the language is (now) genderless since same-sex marriage is (also now) legal. So, combined with a bunch of other factors including my income, I happen to fall under the category of the 'Provider' by definition. There's some complex rules in play here, but by default I would have to either negotiate for my (again, hypothetical) STBX to sign away his rights to said…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:03 PM
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I'm in favor, but also understand they're easily and often broken when the disadvantaged one doesn't have a good lawyer during writing and dissolution. So, marriage is not always a good idea depending on the circumstances. Like /u/hopeful_flounder93, the way my region's laws are written, along with some policies specific to certain accounts and tax laws, in the event of a divorce my (*hypothetical) husband would (potentially) be entitled for me to pay him alimony for the rest of his life. Yes, e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:25 PM
7

Amen. My mother, bless her, came out of an abusive home/childhood and chose poorly. Every now and then I wonder who I might have been, what I might have done, if I'd had a father who didn't spend every scarce moment he deigned to bestow upon me crushing my self-esteem and being emotionally abusive. Hell, the only thing keeping him from being physically abusive (because he tried that shit) was another man, my Uncle, who threatened him [my father] on Thanksgiving one year because he saw me flinch …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:40 PM
25

Those H/W ratios are either pushing underweight or just plain underweight and unhealthy for a lot of women. /sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:55 PM
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That's how I found FDS too. Someone was calling the group full of female incels and like, the first post I clicked was one against cheating and another for holding men accountable for their actions. Where was the hate? Strongly worded, yes, but perfectly reasonable.. I suddenly realized I wasn't the crazy one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:35 PM
60

Women are burdens. Alright. Cut them loose on their own like men when they become adults. Oh wait, your lives are falling apart and you can't reproduce (i.e. China's leftover men)?Who could have possibly seen that happening? How are men the logical sex? Just treat us like people ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:56 PM
3

She was 28 weeks and viable, he straight up attempted murder and assaulted her in the process. = \
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:41 PM
42

That's part of what the dowry or bride wealth was meant to act as, no? Even though there seems to be anecdotal evidence men abused that too. E: The ring/wedding jewels too. You could sell that for contingency money if he suddenly decided to bounce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:11 PM
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Did some quick reading and this Princess is one of thirty children, has over two hundred aunts and uncles (two hundred and one of which are blood related), and is one of a thousand grandchildren. Inbreeding? Undoubtedly. It can't be anything approaching practical to be able to avoid that many first and second cousins. Also, considering infidelity and affairs, some of those aunts and uncles are undoubtedly married to a close relative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:41 PM
2

I have some personal experience with this. PM me if you want to talk. Short answer: No, don't do it to yourself. Assuming he even goes either nothing will change or you'll come out of it feeling worse. Total waste of time, money, and emotional energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:48 PM
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They do ton of screening at those clinics, plus you get a damn near FBI level dossier on them: childhood, education, hobbies, favorite music, movies, voice clips, interviews and first impressions from staff. Plus, the genetics reports.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:40 PM
11

It's still well under $300 per vial. It's not actually that expensive unless you have some underlying medical issue that would make he turkey baster method difficult. Not everyone needs actual IVF. A diaphragm or insemination kit with the help of a friend would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:37 PM
28

Yup. I did a very cursory info dive on this a while back and I remember it being maybe $250 a vial of Grade A Harvard-level, 6'+ tall, whatever flavor of man you prefer genetics delivered frozen your doorstep. Then, if you prefer to stay away from clinics, you can buy a few extra vial and use a home insemination kit. It's definitely only $2-3k max.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:34 PM
18

Don't forget the mention his girlfriend was pregnant. He killed his pregnant girlfriend and unborn child by locking her outside in the cold in her underwear for a 'prank' for his channel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:49 PM
39

Hat pins! There was a subsequent effort, by men, to make them illegal sometime later if I recall correctly. Which equated to them telling on themselves since women were wearing them to defend themselves from gropers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:09 PM
1

You know what? Good for them. They shouldn't have to take a abuse from sub par men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:11 PM
51

Relevant--went to a nice mall for lunch with my male coworkers and while there I bought some fancy shampoo, set it to the side. No one remarked on it, except, you guessed it: the balding one. Just had to make some snarky comment about my stealing one of the soap dispensers in the restroom and I'm like, "Shut the hell up, you're just jealous of my hairline." Watching get roasted by the other men after that was hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:43 PM
11

What, you don't want some entitled stranger watching you eat and either silently, or out loud, judging you for your dietary choices and how you chew?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:24 PM
8

Send that man an itemized invoice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:22 PM
18

Facts. I should try to sit down and make a post about how prevalent that is in my industry. Tons of housewives basically acting as single parents while their husbands pull 15-16 hour days, acting as though they're thee bastions of time management and efficiency when in reality they've outsourced every single aspect of their lives to someone else. And then they sneer at the unmarried employees for not being able to clap, summoning a Pickme Fairy to bring them a homecooked meal and change of cloth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:21 PM
5

... B-But... eunuchs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:17 PM
18

It's whatever is more convenient for their current argument. Women need to choose better. Women need to stop making men wait for sex. No one wants a single mother. Your eggs are drying up, hur-dur-dur. Men don't care about you education, money, and accomplishments. Women bring nothing to the table, damn golddiggers. It never stops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:17 PM
15

Childfree slash fence-sitters make men and conservatives clutch their pearls in horror though, so they attempt to ban birth control and access to safe, legal abortion. Like, cool, at least vibrators etc. are a guaranteed good time, won't give you STDs or STIs, and can't get you pregnant ether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:13 PM
125

My first thought after reading this was 'he wants someone to pay t be his sex slave?'. Like, how you gonna be an impoverished predator?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:42 PM
6

Yup. I'm fully aware of the consequences when I do something unwise like staying up too late or not studying etc. Some men just seem absolutely Pikachu surprised face when their entire lives start crashing and burning because they play CoD eighteen hours and day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:27 PM
16

Haha! Well, would I be forgiven by directing you towards the otomegames subreddit? Olympia Soiree also comes out tomorrow. Become one of us. One of us. One of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:25 PM
18

Bingo. 10 points for Gryffindor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:53 PM
130

I love games. There's one coming out this week that I'm super hyped to play... after I get off work and finish at the gym. I've also been getting ahead on my graduate work, cleaning my house, buying groceries, and folding laundry so my life is in order and I can play as much as I want without neglecting my adult responsibilities. Men on the other hand, in my anecdotal experience, have issues controlling themselves. I could understand playing 'frequently', maybe staying up a bit too late like you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:06 PM
19

Girl. What is with this dramatic rise in balding in men 35 and under? Is it diet? No exercise? The porn? It's an epidemic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:12 PM
128

Correct. It's always "the enemy is controlling everything and they are evil and oppressive" but also, "the enemy is weak and inferior and we are better".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:36 PM
93

Kevins are men that are simply dumber than can be believed is humanly possible. There's a subreddit for it. I think it's "storiesaboutkevin".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:09 AM
55

They're Kyles.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:07 AM
18

My first thought too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:32 AM
1

Sis. 😂😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:38 AM
34

That was a fascinating watch. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:26 PM
38

😂😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:38 PM
5

... What the actual fuck. I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:47 AM
10

Insert generic slurs accompanied by some pseudoscience explanation as to why women are weaker minded because they choose vanity over life. There was no way for her to win either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:08 PM
28

Yeah, and she pointed out that she asked if she could (when they put it on) and the doctors advised her against it because the potential for infection/losing her leg wasn't worth it. These scrotes would rather her be seriously ill, lose a limb, or die than he unatractive to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:57 PM
16

It's weird. I've found that women, in general, can play video games and be perfectly normal otherwise. But men? It's bizarre. Like they can't separate it from reality or genuinely prefer it to reality. I now feel like a hypocrite because I love games but would never want a man who plays them as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:48 PM
82

I initially thought that was the fitted sheet. = / Oh no...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:10 PM
34

Simone said she was starting to lose track of her body in the air due to her mental state. In that case she could very, very easily land on her head and break her neck. What is there for them to criticize? Let her heal, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:14 PM
1

They've done a move about it actually. The LVW who gets with the youngest man, after campaigning for his human rights etc.) is pregnant (via sexual intercourse rather than cell splitting) at the end and the first thing out his mouth is, "I hope it's not a girl." Instant regret on her face. Edit: The All-Female society and achieved world peace in less than a century.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:32 PM
4

You can’t “cancel” a human being once they are here. Are we sure about that? 😂 Edit2: Man, I've gotten some mean comments/DMs about the video. Relax. I didn't even make it. It's just a tongue-in-cheek, Microsoft paint level animated explanation of the historical practice 'mabiki'. Contextually, those who practiced it didn't believe very young children were human and could be "sent back" to the spirit world like an unwanted Amazon package. If it upsets you, just don't watch it. I found it interes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:30 PM
98

Ditto. When my mother finally did take him to court when I was a teen, he cried about the amount and she caved and settled for like $200. We used that to pay, like, the light bill and a monthly dinner. It was almost literally nothing. Now, as an adult, other women will cry to me and I'm like, "Rob him sis!" 😂 But in all seriousness, it's not about her/them, it's for the child and pride shouldn't stand in the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:18 PM
15

Do we have the same family? Girl. It's never really about them wanting the best for you. It's just about having you off-balance and insecure because your confidence undermines their own justifications and anxieties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:42 PM
30

Savage. 🤣 Men are just afraid of strong women. No, you will not become bulky. Seriously, women don't have enough testosterone (in general) to "get big". You'll become leaner, lose weight, and gain definition but you won't look anything like a man. Genetics also come into play. I have muscular arms and shoulders, regardless if I lift or not. They just become more defined when I do. So, ironically, they get smaller when I'm ar the gym regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:38 PM
23

Fine. If the females have to wear bikini bottoms, the males have to wear speedos. Let's see how they like being objectified while trying to compete. 🤷🏽‍♀️ They'd think they'd like it at first, until they remember it's not just attractive 20 year olds ogling them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:24 PM
30

They only care about punishing women and making them feel bad. That's why the beauty standard is always the opposite of what's (currently) easy to achieve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:20 PM
23

Lawl; they hate to see a grown woman with confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:44 PM
31

You know, I've low key fantasized about this. I'm very independent and the idea of being trapped makes me wants to chew off my arm. What is the line between protecting self and child? I'm torn between wishing my mother had done this but also being thankful she didn't and took me with her when she finally grew a spine. Maybe the pragmatic answer is to just disappear into the night without a word. You can always change the kids' name later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:43 PM
21

We need to re-normalize matron-led elder councils dishing socially condoned street justice on bad men who hurt their daughters. 😒 Let's see how tough they are when a whole gang of Babas are chasing them down the road with shoes, brooms, and sticks while their friends watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:38 PM
38

Yup. The story I read said she refused to be sexually controlled, though there was no evidence she was actually promiscuous, and manipulated into settling down so they ordered the lobotomy to make her docile. They broke her instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:35 PM
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IIRC, they did it because she wasn't a docile woman, she was the wild child but a daughter instead of a son, and they feared she'd gasp participate in premarital sex and have a child put of wedlock with an unsuitable man. WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:33 PM
60

My coworker, who has always been a douchebag (we actually did our initial job training together many years ago), somehow managed to marry, have a child, and divorce in the time since I last saw him. Within the first week, 3-4 days he's complaining about his ex-wife and child support and then, "I wish I could be reincarnated as a woman. Then I could just lie on my back, have kids, and take other people's money." ... wat? I've clearly been doing life wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:21 PM
3

Fancy that: a society/man that realizes that they need to actually be a present, contributing member of society in order to protect their status and legacy. OT: Why is it always "muh legacy"? Are they royalty or something? Most of them literally have nothing to leave their children but debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:43 PM
4

As the child of a man who touted being a single father (he neglected me) and constantly left me alone with strange women (all of whom were mercifully quite sweet or at least benign), I would never date a single father. It's also a large chunk of why I don't have children myself. That feeling of powerlessness and fear is burned into my brain. I can't imagine bringing another life into the world just so they can suffer like I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:49 PM
7

Not the nest, girl no! That post gives me trauma by proxy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:15 PM
31

Monogamous marriage is and always will act as affirmative action for beta males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:58 AM
3

First song I thought of!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:56 PM
17

Nonsense. So when he leaves you he's better off for all the money he saved not having to court or provide for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:16 PM
30

And domestic labor is real labor! If it wasn't, why would you need pay maids, cooks, and nannies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:15 PM
13

Is he going to carry that child for 4.5 months? Gain half the pregnancy weight and all the potential complications, including stitches? Breastfeed half the nights? Take half of those days off when that child is ill? Go to half the doctor's visits by himself? It's nonsense. Women have always been the more valuable gender, biologically speaking. Why do you think it's always 'women and children first' in times of catastrophe? Because you can rebuild a society with women and children, but not just m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:14 PM
10

This man either hates women or doesn't realize he likes men. I SAID WHAT I SAID.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:55 AM
7

Brad is invited to the barbecue. You know he'll bring something and give you all the fabulous hair tips you never knew you needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:49 PM
8

Or if biology "recognizes" that because of the stakes women need to be smarter and quicker. Not so they can please some gross scrote's pp, but to defend themselves and their wombs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:46 PM
23

Yes, she was also pregnant with his child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:42 PM
8

I always thought it was another power play. It's never those tasteful, intention boudoir photos they want but some deranged, voyer nonsense. Then when they get upset or bored they use them to threaten and post them on porn sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:38 PM
56

"Why were these ancient men so concerned with moon cycles? Why are their calendars always 28 days? We've tried nothing and we still don't understand!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:30 PM
32

Currently watching an Asian historical drama where the female lead responds after her grandmother tells her that books are for men and it's not becoming to be a bluestocking, more or less. She responds: "Grandmother, I think that can't be true because otherwise why would men spend so much time reading them. They constantly study like their lives depend on it. I don't think they're that bored. There must be something worthwhile in them. [She points out that high society teaches their women classi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:28 PM
2

Women almost never naturally give birth on their backs. Watch any numbers of videos, look at the birthing chairs of old cultures, the rituals surrounding it: the mothers are almost always standing, squatting head down with hips up, sitting etc. That's because gravity helps. Lying on one's back only makes it easier for the (usually male) physician to see what's happening with less effort. Edit: It really does seem to be culturally learned and women feel they're "supposed to" lie down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:01 AM
13

That... sounds horrifying and incredibly dangerous! I'm so sorry. Men don't appreciate pregnancy for the gift of life and legacy that it is. They don't understand that not all genes are worthy. Monogamous marriage has transformed from responsibility and source of pride to affirmative action for L/NVM. How about we just... not? Oh wait, we are and so they're started passing these "heartbeat bills" (U.S.) with no exceptions for rape or incest so that men can finally, officially, and legally, baby …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:57 AM
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I don't get it, men already see us as objects. What happened to their sUpErIoR lOgIc? > You see a diamond necklace in a window. > You steal the necklace. > Owner calls the cops. > You go to jail. Same concept, minus the incalculable human suffering, years of therapy, and, oh yeah, actually going to prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:29 PM
31

I've been kind enough to show/give general advice on saving for retirement and I do think he's taken up some of it, probably as a token gesture in hopes it would soften my stance. In any case, he's been warned he cannot live with me. I'd shrivel up and die all over again. The irony is he'd been in a much happier, more loved space if he'd be able to keep it in his pants and be the family man he swears he is. His son's mother is draining that mofo dry while my mother never even asked for support. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:12 PM
98

As the living, breathing consequence of a man like this: yes, they should really just eat shit and die. MOFO got the nerve to tell me I 'owe' him and need to take care of him in his old approaching old age (because every good woman he's had has left him). Like, nobody told you to have unprotected sex. Literally nobody. The audacity, especially after mentioning on several occasions that he never wanted children, I was an accident, and then deciding (for a few years) that his additional, accidenta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:20 PM
1

May I present to you this teenage boy out here blowing NVM's spot up. Edit: Part II
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:23 AM
2

Not the nest! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:05 AM
20

All men have is the audacity. It's stored in the balls. I've had a dude I wasn't even into ("give him a chance!") continually try to avoid even the coffee day, sidestep my boundaries, and come over to 'watch movies and play video games'. I didn't know him from Adam. Did he expect me to just let him in my house and fall onto the bed with my legs open?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:01 AM
6

Yup. I didn't realize my headaches and jaw pain were from stress induced (narc father) teeth grinding for years. It's cool though. There was absolutely nothing more I wanted to do than spend 4K on braces and retainers to fix the resulting misalignment. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:48 AM
3

Omg watch the Instagram video of him on the plane! The dude across the isle is giving him A grade side eye. 🤣😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:45 AM
20

I know. I'm about to hit the big 3-0 and I still feel only slightly more mature than I did at 18. I'm still singing aloud at the top of my lungs to the Sailor Moon theme song and eating peanut butter out the jar. Getting married? Oompf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:03 PM
3

It is 100% a job. It's hard as hell. I've seen it close up. The problem is a lot of these women drink, gamble, or shop to cope and instead of getting them help or closing ranks with them, their spouses don't even try and just up the abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:52 AM
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Found a clip of one of them! Here you go~ Edit: LMAO The women are literally rejecting the men for being poor, old, and uneducated. Edit 2: Another clip Not the one I had in mind, but the same essence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:29 AM
38

High. I used to think it'd be nice to marry an Officer. ROFL Don't. I've infiltrated their ranks and you don't want to know what they think of you, what they'll say about you: the woman they supposed love, gave them five kids, keep their homes lives together so they can work 12-15 hours a day, hold it down for 9-12 months while you're away. During a counseling session where a senior NCO had to sit with me and write his 5 year plan he wrote, and I quote: "for my bitch wife to get a fucking job". …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:22 AM
23

Seconded. My father is a raging narc and a low-key sociopath (he's admitted that he doesn't understand the feelings of others). He was a chef when I was a kid, went into engineering, and now hes a civil servant. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:18 AM
15

I would imagine you'd have to have some empathy and goodness considering the much less glamorous lifesaving they do under stressful af conditions. The plastic surgeon gets all the narc highs and praise, but the trauma surgeon keeps the patient alive long enough to get there in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:10 AM
157

It's rather high, especially in the countryside. I watched a show a while back there was an issue with men from the rural areas going into cities with high(er) female populations to try to kidnap/trick/convince them to come be their bangmaid. The women were basically telling these undereducated scrotes to go die in a ditch. The ones that didn't were sometimes... shared. There was also a profile of three generations of bachelors: two brothers and their teenage nephew basically living in squalor, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:58 AM
48

Bet. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:52 AM
228

But that's the thing, ain't it? They thought they were so clever: let's only keep the son. But everyone else had the same idea. Did they think those sons of their could reproduce by cloning or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:52 AM
40

Ma'am, that is an insult to the planet's core. Unlike most men, it is an integral element of our world structure and has never leaned out of window to scream, "How you doing, baby?" to a twelve-year-old girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:52 PM
29

Or IASIP. "The Implication."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:20 AM
7

/cackles in spinster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:50 PM
13

You now need to come clean and pay up by hooking up with the guy, or just come clean and tell him you are ready to move on. Third, Kwamashu be ready for some backlash. This man will not take it kindly that he has spent his precious time and resources on you and now you want to dump him. Dafuq. I just. No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:30 PM
2

I caught scarlet fever from a daycare filled with the children of affluent, antivaxxer parents (who themselves were vaccinated). It was fucking miserable. Definitely could have easily killed a child or a immunocompromised adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:51 PM
2

The dream of being shackled to an unworthy man and involuntarily childless?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:43 PM
1

Had that come up on a first date after hearing him praise his older brother for marrying his forever GF after seven years and three kids. I latched onto that one and he outed himself: he basically believed he could fuck around until 40-45 before settling down to spit out children. I pointed the age issues out and he tells me his parents didn't have any issues. Guess what? Surprise, surprise--mom was almost twenty years younger than his dad. So I asked, "Well, you realize we're the same age, righ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:36 PM
1

It's only a piece of paper until they meet a woman who doesn't want to tie herself to him. Then it becomes a sign of their commitment and how much he loves her and why won't she marry him what a heartless bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:27 PM
14

They want a doll. They're describing a doll they can have sex with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:24 PM
10

You go girl! ​ As someone who's considering AI in the middling future (7-10 years), I'd love to hear about your experiences if you'd be comfortable sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:22 PM
10

She is 100% invited to the cook out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:20 PM
203

Girl, yes. Now more than ever, as a childless woman who's lost that bright-eyed naivete, I'm being told I'll die alone because all men my age have kids. I thought I was going to die alone because I'm over 25? Or because I refuse to date a man without a job ("build a brother up")? Or because I won't tolerate porn and cheating? Or because I don't do hookups? Or because I have too much education? Or because "you're not that pretty"? Or because "if you don't have kids now you'll be too old"? Or beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:10 PM
82

I remember this arrest! It was bullshit then and is bullshit now. The whole prosecution's case is based on an alleged Facebook post/live where she brags about killing him or something. Yet, even if that was the case, she was a child he'd abused. A child. A literal child. There's evidence of him having abused girls children of her ethnicity and age group on multiple ocassions. If the genders were reversed and the victim had gone on social media to crow about his revenge, we'd never have stopped h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:19 PM
7

This woman's ID is screaming at her to get away from her like a mofo and the so-called therapist is just attacking her, making assumptions for her, rather than listening to what she's saying. He lied to her, she doesn't trust him and wants to end it, and they gaslight her to hell by insisting she's just afraid to be hurt. Well, yeah, aren't we all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:45 AM
10

That right there is a man who could build me a goddamned house! Does he have a brother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:31 AM
3

Because they really think all we want is money. They're stuck decades back, without bothering to look at the economic context of women's lives, and clearly are not paying attention to the fact that women with their own money are increasingly better off alone. The more I watch my friends and acquaintances marry (and complain), the more I wonder why going to a sperm bank and raising children in a commune isn't more popular. You get all the joys of motherhood, if that's your thing, in a supportive …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:27 AM
16

And even if she was, that's nothing for him to be proud of. How is proud that he's large and scary enough that she's concerned about being beaten? ​ Has anyone seen the bar recently?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:16 AM
1

This would be a legitimate reason to reproduce, NGL. When I grow up, I too want to be Flemmeth from Dragon Age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:48 AM
18

Same. I'm into skincare and like, every man at or around 30 (and younger!) is balding and/or getting that weird, leathery look to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:46 AM
31

They keep taking those societal platitudes out of context. If you were a woman who wasn't allowed to work, own a bank account, or credit card and you had to either marry or starve to death in the streets like a dog? They too would be reciting poetry in their head while some elderly scrote jackhammers at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:45 AM
30

Exactly. Remind them that if they stop adding value to your life (barring the obvious reasonable excuses such as illness or temporary joblessness etc.) that they can and will be replaced. They would do the same to us in a heartbeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:42 AM
20

Have they ever met a child? Like, a wrinkly, brand-new colicky newborn with soy allergies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:38 AM
24

90-95% of first time moms tear during birth. More than half (I'm not sure of the percentage here) require stitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:37 AM
24

It's not. They just don't tell you when they do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:36 AM
18

Yeah, I did put that in there. They're just more likely to have good social skills. Also, just having good social skills doesn't make you a good person. Arguably, con-artists have good social skills too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:53 PM
79

The weird thing about the hot guy/bad boy dynamic is I swear I read an article about how, scientifically, that's not really true. The gist of it was that attractive people generally have better social skills from all the attention they get. Can they be horrible people? Sure, but so can anyone else. It's just better to choose someone you actually find attractive. At least if they suck, they're still eye candy. Edit: Good social skills =/= Good person; narcs and con-artists can play you like a fid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:07 PM
3

Ditto. I have no idea what's going on but I can feel the bonding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:32 AM
3

Yeah, I just started skimming the book. The author is having some serious conflict with his baser instincts in regards to his female characters. A teenage boy is going to see a teenage girl as about as grown up as he is, and probably wouldn't consider her a child--especially considering that they're already married. An adult man considering a teenage girl sexually would (see her as a child), which is likely the issue as it's leaking into his writing. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:51 PM
38

Bet. I'd been struggling between my fear that I had to date so I could marry soon 'or else' and the fact that even as a heterosexual woman I want nothing to do with 99.9% of men, ever. They're awful. I just wanted to know that I wasn't alone in feeling like that and it was okay to just mind my own business and get a puppy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:40 PM
47

That sounds way too generous. He'd owe hundreds of thousands in unpaid domestic and emotional labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:59 PM
25

You all have me beat. 😂 The one date where almost immediately after I agreed to go out (for the first time) he proceeds to tell me that he's in love with someone else (a coworker) and that he would rather be with her if she responds to his advances. He just wanted to be "honest with me" in the "spirit of full disclosure". I was so confused I literally couldn't respond. In what world, even in the most socially fucked up, is that an appropriate thing to say to someone you're attempting to court? F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:37 PM
18

And what is it they say, "70% of beauty is controllable?" Ya'll have seen that article right? So basically, men know they could wash their behinds, dress better, lose weight, lift, and wear some concealer to he attractive but are too entitled to be bothered. Edit: [Here it is.] TLDR; 63% of beauty is 80% controllable. Allegedly. But only for females, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:59 PM
15

I feel terrible, but that was also my first thought. That child is already at a disadvantage with a father like that. You know that kind of LVM is just going to traumatized both it and the mother even if she leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:51 PM
21

What is dressing like you're 30? That's a perfectly nice, fashionable dress. And why can't she dress how she likes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:46 PM
21

I actually did see a "female friendly" porn video once. I'll never forget it because I completely forgot it was an adult film and started chuckling, nodding along with the conversation these goofy individuals were having about Star Wars, Chinese food, and who was a superior cuddler. It was... oddly adorable? No real recollection of what they were doing, too busy watching their faces since they were making silly ones at each other. No seriously, she kept crossing her eyes at him and he was snorti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:22 PM
17

Noooo! 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:16 PM
59

Add it to the list of things women have historically died of: childbirth, starvation, intimate partner violence, being too cool, being too warm, swooning, sadness, not wearing a shawl*, being surprised, being "delicate", bad air, too much air, not enough air, talking to strangers, hair being too long, hair being too short, exposed ankles, wearing pants, voting etc. *see: being too cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:33 PM
12

Facts. Also, this man has clearly never been to war. I, a woman, have and we-including the bros-are definitely treated fairly well for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:21 AM
19

Agreed. They're often more helpful and kinder than the actual physicians.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:23 PM
4

When I read "skincare" I definitely thought of drugstore products too. There's no way that ungrateful man hooked a sister up with some Tatcha, SK-II, or Sunday Riley. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:54 AM
14

I picked that up from FDS and it's made these situations so much less stressful for me. Being called beautiful is not a compliment, it's a statement of fact. The sky is blue and Queens are beautiful. So? It's such a common, low effort attention grab. Specific compliments are fine, picking out a specific item of clothing or feature and then noting it in a respectful, tasteful fashion--but even then we still don't owe them anything. Not even a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:56 PM
8

Bruh. Are you me? Dude is dead. He went to his death horrified and in despair. Mission accomplished. Now go be nice to Daphne. B-tch gave up a whole ass Prince for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:18 PM
18

Women are doing shit like... couch fabrics on pinterest Why you gotta call me out like that? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:47 AM
10

That's all men tho'. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:33 PM
15

But they deserve an underwear model because muh biology? Women want fit, healthy, attractive partners too. I'm not even 30 and more than half the men my age and a bit younger are balding. Don't even get me started on the weak chins they're hiding behind scraggly beards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:00 PM
2

It wasn't a surprise that he said it, it was the fact it was completely unprotected (total chance of subject, like a compulsive blurt) and I was standing right there. My other coworkers aren't model HVM or anything but even they looked at him--but my knee jerk disgust cut off whatever they might have said in response. = /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:28 PM
107

And lemme guess: married women make less? Men would be perceived as being able to focus solely on work. Women would be seen as distracted, especially if she had kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:49 PM
7

Pre-FDS, I went on a date once where the guy was just a boring POS who lied about his height: he was clearly about 5' but added 3 inches or so, which was awkward when I showed up, in flats, and my short behind, towering over him. But anyway. At one point he mentions his brother getting married after 7 years (and two kids). I was appalled, but he continued to insist it was normal and that he would do the same. I asked about children and he said he wasn't ready and wanted them in his 40s so he cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:39 PM
68

I'm not sure if I've told this ancedote here, but I work in a male dominated field and the things men will say and do when they forget they're being watched? Girl. One afternoon we're out having a colleague lunch, just a few of us,, and having a great time. We finish eating, pay the bill, and then start walking back to the car. Completely unprompted, Resident Fuccboi says something like, "Damn, she [the waitress] is fine. Got a big ass but that face..." Girl, my head spun around so fast you'd th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:14 PM
224

IME "misandrist" women generally avoid men and mind their business. Misogynist men? They harass women. Constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:11 AM
17

Screaming at his infant on Twitch. That poor woobie had no idea what was happening. Like, who gets so upset about a game that they're willing to traumatized their child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:56 AM
11

All young-ish mothers claim its great, they love their kids and are so fulfilled. The older ones and empty nesters have laundry lists of broken dreams and complaints. Not saying not to ever have kids if you want them, but it's nowhere near the pure, unblemished magical experience society would have you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:39 AM
8

/softly exhales air from nose I was literally having a conversation about this earlier today, in particular about the kid named Abcd and Marijuana Pepsi: both real individuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:32 AM
11

I thought I was just being uncharitable when I noticed the weird fit! It looks too small for her hand. Is that some kind of weird neg?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:31 AM
3

That's why "the wall" is 30... and getting younger all the time. No mature, well-adjusted young woman, who hasn't been broken down and indoctrinated, will put up with a scrub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:52 PM
6

Oh, of course. I didn't mean I got no attention, just less and more, uh, how do I put this...? Condescending(?) attention. Edit: 100%. If you're fat you have even less right than those stuck up models who also won't sleep with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:43 PM
12

A boundary. It's them threatening to cheat if you don't allow them to violate your boundaries. Same thing with pressuring women to sleep with them right away to test "sexual compatability". No such thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:55 PM
39

Lost weight. Quantity of attention up, quality still low. It changes nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:52 PM
9

Like a few others have mentioned, I don't date anymore either. I'm just hanging out. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:42 PM
26

I was talking to this with one of my girlfriends this afternoon. It basically boils down to: "So, the only thing they have to offer is bomb sex? Allegedly." And even in that regard they've made themselves useless and cheap. Hop on Tinder or go to the local bar. Better yet, buy a toy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:53 PM
14

The only time I've ever seen/heard a woman comment that she wants to date a man because he's hot/a model... is on television. I've heard women remark that a man is attractive as an opinion or add it to the end of a statement about some other quality or topic, but never in the aggressive/entitled/disrespectful way men do. We don't judge them nearly as harshly as they judge us at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:27 PM
43

There's a mockumentary called 'No Men Past (or Beyond) This Point". It was amusing. The whole plot is that women start spontaneously asexually reproducing at physical maturity and only birth more women, rendering men unnecessary--and unnatural! After about 50ish years, they become a dying species housed on nature preserves so they can live out the rest of their days in government-enforced comfort. The youngest man on Earth is 37 and a slave/housekeeper. All actual leaders are women and there are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:16 PM
13

Oh, it's still a slightly more male dominated space... and I don't think people (read: women) take their children there? It's not as big a thing. There's no tone on the internet so i can't tell if you're arguing with me? I'm agreeing with you though. Even in gender-reversed situations women are better behaved. Pinching a dude's butt is bad (and assault) but none of these women are following them around at night, asking for their numbers, trying to kiss them, and getting physically aggressive. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:49 PM
28

Tilted kilt has male servers. LVW harassed them and kept reaching up their tartans (because traditionally you go sans underpants) so now they wear shorts or pants underneath. That said, you're 90% right. Most female patrons are/were pretty orderly and were happy to only look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:36 PM
2

Strangulation and attempted murder don't sound as Cool Girl as "Breath Play".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:53 PM
2

Interestingly, I had the decent version of this happen. Older neighbor dude rarely spoke to me but always said good morning/evening. Apparently, he attempted to come to my rescue when my my parents came to visit and my routine was thrown off. SD accidentally set off the security alarm and according to him, who is big scary Black dude, my neighbor, another big scary Black dude, came over to confront him about what he was doing near "the young lady's" apartment. He hadn't seen or heard me (I'm a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:07 PM
3

I don't think it'd matter even if it did help you get off. It's not fucking safe or sane. The odds of death are just ridiculously high: do it wrong once and there's no "oops". Just dead. Also, choking can and does have long-lasting effects on the body. I'm not a doctor but I've definitely heard of people (women) dying some time after the fact from swelling or crushing of the airway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:05 AM
5

Bet. Although I think for me the package would be secondary to them just being fit, well-groomed, sober, and asking me about my day~ So, a host club basically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:43 AM
7

I was a little sad at the change until I checked her age. She doesn't look her age at all, just overweight. Now, if anything, I'm a little jealous at how nice her skin is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:38 AM
19

Girl, was it like this knee-jerk physical, deep-gut reaction? It was the strangest, nagging feeling I've ever had and it just wouldn't go away no matter how much I reasoned with myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:58 PM
105

I once stopped seeing a very sweet man because of his weak chin. It was hard to notice at first because he had an, admittedly very stylish, goatee. But once I saw it? My poor ovaries retreated into my chest. Weak genes? I just could not. No matter how hard I tried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:06 PM
9

'Per my last email...' ​ EDIT: For those who don't work corporate or don't email much, this is often the professional equivalent of 'In case you can't fucking read'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:55 PM
13

Ooooh: Kyle the Soundcloud rapper with facial tattoos, lives in his mother's basement, complains about golddiggers, and talks about how he was going to join the Army but didn't because he would punch a drill sergeant in the face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:52 PM
8

Meanwhile, J/K-Pop idols and actors out here with their own skincare lines and fitness looking like snacks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:35 PM
13

TL;CR This 29 year-old NVM became jealous of his 27 year-old girlfriend's three orphan kittens she's handrearing and she walks in on him rehoming them (the family coming to pick them up was physically in the house). He cites her giving them all her attention, sleeping on the floor with them, kittens being boring unlike puppies, and it being a coping mechanism for her "trauma" (he writes it with quotes as if mocking her) so he was only helping. Oh, but she still cooks and cleans but he still want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:23 PM
10

Post contents for those who can't read this train wreck. My girlfriend has a big soft spot for animals, but she has a HUGE one for cats. I personally don’t mind them but I’m more of a dog person. Every morning my gf goes for a jog and she’s noticed a stray cat that roamed kind of close to our house. My gf, being who she is, would bring her food and water but the cat was too skittish to be caught though she would eat the food my gf gave her. She also noticed that the cat was likely pregnant becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:18 PM
10

I find dating intensely stressful and prefer solitude. FDS was the first space that validated my desire to just do my own thing, without social guilt, and it was such a relief. Ironically, the DGAF confidence of single-and-happy seems to be drawing more scrotes than ever. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:02 PM
11

If they don't use SM or use it rarely then it might be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:53 PM
7

This is how you give yourself a damn heart attack. Oomf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:40 PM
1

I have no idea, honestly. I haven't seen any follow up studies and I can't imagine that pharmaceutical companies wouldn't be have a vested interest in sweeping the whole subject under the rug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:20 PM
3

There have been studies for almost 20 years now, pointing out how women on BC make qualitatively less advantageous reproductive choices or, at least different choices than when not on the pill. It screws with not just your intuition via hormones but also your ability to detect pheremones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:58 PM
8

😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:19 AM
5

Looks like Cheaters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:50 AM
24

That made me sad laugh. It's so morbid but also so possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:46 PM
63

Ya'll think he doesn't already have a fiancée? Amateurs. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:42 PM
10

This is my worst nightmare right here. She's at her most vulnerable: scared, angry, losing her sanity, physical fading and all that man--the one that pledged to love her through sickness and in health, forsaking all others--is concerned about is not being there to comfort her in her final days. My heart breaks for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:41 PM
15

It's sooo hard looking after his own spawn! Men. 🙄 But hol' up: when they're not the ones responsible for childcare it isn't a real job? I mean, the babies just sleep all day and watch TV right? Just nothing but manicures and soap operas for those golddiggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:59 PM
46

Your post reminded of that scrote for whom childcare (as in, taking care of his own kids) was so hard for his unemployed ass during quarantine that his wife had to shut her business down to stay home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:59 PM
3

Yup. We all die alone as another commenter pointed out. There are no guarantees in life. Statistically and ancedotally, it makes more sense to invest in being a kicckass mom and ditch the man. At least your children will probably stand by you when you develop cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:24 PM
8

Fr fr I'd join this coven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:13 PM
6

At least you know where you stand with cats. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:12 PM
14

Yup. In the end we're all just bxtches. Even my own father called me that once. That goes to show how deep some men's ability to love goes. But he (my father) is a narc so YMMV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:19 PM
12

Word. 5' 3"ish and I get frustrated at every day tasks turning into parkour with me having to climb all over things to reach them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:20 PM
29

It was. The problem being when we settled into larger clans, with fewer natural deaths (of males, generally via war and hunting accidents) we suddenly had a bunch of extraneous males who had no investment in the community/were destructive/lived in their parents' hut. Why? Most of then women want the Chief, the warriors, and/or whomever else was considered high standing in their community. To get those extra hands working and building shit (so Chief can have more, higher quality women and a sick …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:19 AM
5

I've checked it out. Thanks for the rec!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:38 PM
6

Yuval Harari? That one? My library has a copy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:13 PM
32

She's safe. He was supposed to take her to dinner, but drove her 30 minutes to his house instead to demand sex. Once he sat down she bolted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:26 AM
83

Dude basically kidnapped her. They were supposed to go to dinner and he flipped the script and took her to his house instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:24 AM
11

Ironically, some of your argument* has merit. There's a tribe, in living memory though I'm not sure if they're still culturally intact, where every man who's slept with a woman is considered a partial father. The main husband acts as primary dad, but the other men are considered to have contributed some traits to the child. In case the primary father dies, a secondary one steps into his place. All these men support the child as well. It's normal for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:09 PM
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But if you refused on the grounds you're being lied to, you're a repressed prude. If you give in, you're a dumb sl-t who should've known better. There's no winning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:40 PM
25

The male equivalent of porn is a video where a tall, buff, handsome man just looks into the female leads eyes, holds her close, tells her she's beautiful/smart/caring etc. and gets shit from the top shelf without her needing to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:22 PM
5

She's saying that the phrasing is alarming because the man in question isn't asserting cheating is bad but rather "why cheat to get sex when you have sex at home". Thus, he's more concerned over sexual supply instead of any moral or ethical concerns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:13 AM
5

Lovebot! It's on Webtoon. Also, if you want to read a promising one that seems to be flipping the "two women as romantic rivals" script because the Prince is clearly a creepy, abusive villain, I'd highly suggest "Your Throne".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:54 AM
14

There's a comic I'm reading off and on where humanity has robotic companions. The women in-universe are frequently pictured having them act as SOs, helping care for children,, carrying their heavy bags etc. The men? One of the very first male characters shown is attempting to get a hacker to override the doll's "pain" sensors (which cause them to turn off when under significant distress) so that it'll scream and cry while he esentially rapes it. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:13 AM
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Pay gap: he probably earns more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:29 AM
6

i just want to chime in to say i can see myself in this, as an aegosexual... OT but, TIL. I'd never heard of this orientation before. That's really interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:20 AM
9

Naturally, but I'd err on the side of just playing along rather than risking them actually being uncomfortable. I remember being that kid whose (male) parent assumed every expression of need for food or comfort was manipulation. I was a very sad child as a result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:25 PM
108

You're not wrong. All pregnancies are caused by men. You'd think they would be demanding condoms and vasectomies considering their whining about child support and being an actual parent to their children. A lot of it must have to do with control, gaslighting, and trapping women. If there weren't the measly protections we do have in place, they'd go around impregnating an entire harem of women, rotating through them and demanding favors in exchange for supporting their own children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:03 PM
26

100% of unwanted pregnancies are caused by men. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:47 PM
7

Your wish is our command! Edit: No, it's not taken down. Just well-hidden. I looked up an article on the incident in question and found it embedded there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:45 AM
6

Done. What a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:39 AM
11

Girl, according to my last post "the wall" is after 24. Like, wat? What are we expected to do with that information? 24 was a good while ago for me. I assume now I'll be left alone? Stop being cat called on the streets? Men will stop trying to be my special friend? No? Then what is it good for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:11 AM
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Girl, same. I'm a healthy dose of vain and would rather not speed up my physical decline bearing some ungrateful LVMs spawn. I'd much rather adopt and be a chill parent/mentor to an older kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:05 AM
24

They don't. There was a study a while back, that was linked here, that indicated that the part of a man's brain that lights up when they use tools/are dealing with an object also lights up when they see scantily clad or naked women. There was also a Princeton study about how, in short, men's perception of a woman's capabilities drop if and for how long he sees her naked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:35 AM
11

Agreed. There's a difference based on the individual, what types of games they're playing (CoD or are they playing something that requires brainpower, like 4X games?), and their other interests which round them out. There's a thin line, but it is there, between couch creatures and the dude who just likes games. Never date a "gamer" though. Just don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:17 AM
9

I'd be highly alarmed, but not angry at my family. Exactly like you said, 'What do they see that I don't? What did he do?' It's like when men claim women are just randomly crazy "for no reason". Again, 'What does she see and what did he do?'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:10 PM
1

😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:54 PM
1

I'm crying! 😂 Don't worry, or rather, do. I'm not quite thirty but the unwanted attention never stops. I swear that one major reason I've been so healthy lately is just having to interact with fewer men and being allowed to walk about with my "RBF" without being harassed by a dozen men to sMiLe~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:53 PM
1

I got a PM from a sympathetic incel hoping to score brownie points. Rejoice, ladies, the wall has been moved from 24 to 35. Maybe as late as [gasp!]... 40! Fuck outta here. 50% of the men I know over 25 are balding and their skin is already turning to leather.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:49 PM
2

The irony being that peak childbearing, physically and mentally, is roughly around 24-35ish. Full physical development and mental faculties all in one. And the risks still aren't really that big after 35 anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:46 PM
3

Men need women. Evolutionary, for one, to pass on their genes, but also because most of them are just oddly *put together. Just a seemingly random mishmash of useful/deleterious skillsets, crippled emotional growth, and shitty personalities. They just can't seem to self-actualize without a life manager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:11 AM
7

Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:03 AM
56

I feel bad for the child but she isn't required to destroy her own life and happiness for someone else's bad behavior. She's NTA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:57 AM
4

I think slander only applies to false statements. If you can prove they said the statement and there was no legal expectation or privacy, like a ND, then it's fair game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:51 AM
2

You would think so. You would be wrong. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:45 AM
17

LRP Toleraine Cleanser/maybe a BP wash if my skin is being difficult lately Melano CC or Sunday Riley CEO Glow Paula's Choice Skin Perfecting Liquid and/or CosRx Propolis Honey Toner CosRx Propolis Honey Light Moisturizer or Sunday Riley ICE Sunscreen Sometimes I switch it up with sheet masks, clay masks, or a serum I've picked up. I bought myself one of those fancy LED masks. I don't know if it does anything but it's a good excuse to take a random nap while it's on my face. Edit: I'm brown so I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:47 PM
21

The harp? Badass. It looks so awesome and delicate and hard. And NaNo rocks. I enjoy the years I pick it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:41 PM
76

I think it's because society is structured around the idea of a man being out of the house while the woman acts as his bangmaid, manager, and nanny--and is happy to do so. If they realized how many women weren't "naturally" inclined to motherhood, marriage, and putting up with NVM if there was literally any other option for them, we still wouldn't have any legal rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:58 PM
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Right? I feel like there's a change that happens around mid-twenties to early 30's where the lights start to gradually come on and, if not undermined, you start to develop into your truest self. That must be why men are obsessed with "useless" youth, the discrimination they have between a 22-year-old and a 26-year-old when there's likely nothing materially different (youth-looks wise) about them. It has nothing to do with their appearance and everything to do with them having fully-formed fronta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:24 PM
43

This is a X-post from /r/badwomensanatomy. I barely had time to start scrolling through the comments before it got pulled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:04 PM
7

Thank you for being there for your daughter. She'll respect you so much more for it when she's an adult. My mother made a lot of questionable decisions, but I can at least say she never brought men around me. I rarely even saw her boyfriend of almost a decade (whom she finally kicked to the curb after years of snark from teenage me about him being trash--he lived with his parents). She didn't trust men. She didn't trust men because of her mother who did bring men around. You can guess what happe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:29 AM
25

I just wanted to say you are 100% correct. There's this base assumption that senior leaders can just do whatever at a moment's notice because someone else is back home managing their entire lives for them, including childcare. Yet as a single person (but especially a woman, God forbid you be a single mother) this just isn't true. I tell my young female Soldiers all the time not to get married. It's not worth it if you want to hold onto your career. It's not worth it in general but it's especiall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:00 AM
28

Seriously, there's so much foreplay. 🤭 It's great. Like, the novels, not rwal life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:34 AM
5

If anything, men should be pressuring their fellow men to wrap it up, settle down, and take care of their families. No more sowing wild oats. Choose better, as they always tell us. It'd cut down on the need for the social programs they demonize so much. But oh no, what about their PPs???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 10:23 PM
4

Please see this link for what happens when you let men "choose life". TLDR;At Work: Man hooks up with woman out of his league, she uses him like a man and dips. He big mad. She eventually tells him she's pregnant, but don't worry because she doesn't want the child. He begs her to keep it. She says she won't be involved. He agrees. She signs over custody and dips again. He's shocked. SHOCKED. Now he wants to know how to legally coerce her be his bangmaid baby mama, even though she pays child supp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 09:12 PM
15

"Break Contact". 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:17 PM
8

I'm seeing this play out in real time: she cheated, albeit no actual penatration, and came clean immediately. His heart is now broken, how could she, he can never look at her the same way... ...but he's been cheating on her open secret style for years. He humiliated her constantly, still does. Only now he gets to play the victim and sweep all his bullshit under the rug. The man is a full on raging, destructive narc. All I can do is offer support and repeatedly advise her to leave him. They separ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:56 PM
16

Girl. Here I am, putting my kids (about 200 students/wards) on planes for the holidays and this 50+ year old bus driver keeps standing super close to me, trying to chat, asking me if I'm married etc. while I'm clearly herding sheep. At one point he even mentioned that, "I'm usually more straightforward, but with my job I could get in trouble..." Grandpa, you are older than both my damn parents and God knows you need that pension. Just STFU and get away from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:12 PM
15

Is she asking if she, the fucking primary breadwinner with a grown man in the house, for whom she'd borne children--including one less than six months ago--from her own damned body, giving him her beauty, youth, care, and love for 12 damn years, is justified in being angry he's spending her money on other women? Hold up. Let's ignore the money for a moment and go back to where she mentions he has a "habit of courting and sleeping with" his coworkers. What. The. Actual. Fuck. Mama? She's worth so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:47 AM
27

Girl, I crochet and a few other textile crafts. I almost never make anything for anyone whom won't literally scream with excitement over it. I'm bougie as hell with my supplies. I buy nice blends. I have custom hooks. Have you seen Scheepjes Whirlagig yarn? It's $99 a ball. Plus labor, time, frustration, and pattern costs? Nah, sis: I only love my bed and my Mama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:22 AM
11

What's with this idea that all women have PMS (the way they define it)? I've met maybe a handful of women in my entire life that have severe symptoms and most are just what I'd consider cranky. Waspish. Some cry. Some are super peppy. None are just blindly enraged for no reason. The ones that are, it has nothing to do with just their hormones and everything to do with their punk-ass men being insensitive jackwipes. The condition he's looking for here is premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PDD) and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:51 PM
10

I've been in for a little less. I realized very, very quickly that I wasn't marrying a colleague. So basically, I'm going to be the fun, childless Aunt off on exotic vacations or a SMBC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:00 AM
14

Private First Class in the Army. They're a mixed bag but mostly dumber than rocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:58 AM
8

Seriously, I'm planning out my third degree now and even I don't sound like that. There's a difference between sounding educated, which also involves being able to communicate across audiences, and intentionally sounding like a pretentious neckbeard. Everytime a man starts doing this I'm confused. And not in a good way, either he thinks I'm stupid or thinks he can pretend to be smart and I'll buy it--so he still thinks I'm stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:32 PM
10

The messed up thing is some of us don't mind a nice, clean-shaved dome. It's not the hair loss that makes them a loser, but their being a pornsick, low-T, whiny loser that makes them a loser. Oh, and lose their hair in the first place. = / How about putting some of that effort into recapturing your lost youth into going to the gym, eating well, developing a personality and some hobbies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:27 AM
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Girl, same. It was posed as the "female PUA/RedPill". Read maybe three posts and was like, "What? These people are delightful!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:37 AM
4

They've discovered our weakness: memory foam vaginas! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:00 PM
4

And why do they never STFU about their height, weight, breast, and ass preferences when no one asked? Sis not your cup of tea? Leave her alone then. She didn't ask for your unsolicited opinion. Men out here acting like random hot women are running up to them in their Gucci heels to point at laugh at their peepees. Projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:58 PM
26

Tell 'em, sis! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:43 AM
10

Girl, same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:35 AM
12

"Must be able to get pregnant." So, he's going to rape you and cut the baby out for his wife?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:30 AM
21

JFC. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:15 AM
9

Big Tuna!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:37 PM
17

Pretty much. What's his problem? Being crafty, adventurous, and outdoorsy are all personality traits. The fact that he's either too stupid, lazy, or both to apply kindergarten level critical thinking is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:54 AM
5

Same. Why go dumpster diving in hopes of finding gold when I can just choose from a virtual catalog of handsome, 6' tall models gorgeous men with PhDs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:26 PM
5

My first thought; although I figured it was health insurance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:23 PM
5

That was my thought, however we're also the logical sex. We both know that's not what the men who slipped that in there meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:19 PM
20

Because I once had a young man all but beg me for a date to which he showed up late (I paid for my own meal and was already eating when he showed) and then seemed uninterested. I leave and he tracks me down to beg for another date, logistics and all. Then he started playing fuck-fuck games aka Push-Pull and flaked on the second date he'd begged for. We don't chase because most men just want to feel validated/get their peepee wet. Once you pay them the slightest mind? They're bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:15 PM
33

It's a spectrum. There are plenty of brilliant individuals who happen to have autism. The ones [physicians] I'm acquainted just tend to be a bit quirky or have odd social tendencies. One in particular has problems with understanding certain emotional states/expressions because she's so logical. But she's a woman, of course, so instead of blaming society she goes to therapy and actively works on her bedside manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:09 PM
2

Sounds painful. = /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:52 PM
2

Nooooo, not the field! 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:13 AM
6

And they always start filming after the provocation/gaslighting like, "Oh, b_tches be crazy! Look, she's freaking out for no reason!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:56 AM
5

Same. I remember overhearing kids saying what a conceited b_tch I was in high school. I was just chronically shy and being at school stressed me out; I just happen to have an "aggressive" neutral expression. I cried over that for a good three days. = /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:34 PM
2

Because they're men and Reddit hates women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:19 PM
5

https://api.nationalgeographic.com/distribution/public/amp/news/2012/3/120229-women-health-ovaries-eggs-reproduction-science This is an article reporting on the original study.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:03 AM
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In addition, it's no longer considered 100% true that women are born with all the eggs they'll ever have. Recent studies have revealed the existence of "egg stem cells", which would make no biological sense if they served no actual purpose. This suggests that egg production continues throughout the fertile years, albeit either at low capacity (not full replacement) and/or perhaps in response to specific conditions/stimuli.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:38 PM
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The host's argument doesn't even make any sense. The dating market is skewed towards women, not men. The woman are rare. The men are abundant. Who would have thought selectively murdering the life-giving gender would ever cause population and societal issues? Who??? 🙄 Cue the desperate gaslighting; calling 25-year-old women old and ugly, rushing teenagers to the alter before they know any better. Note the comment below/next to mine: these men are so desperate for wives they're kidnapping them. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:29 PM
19

Oh no. It's real. It's so very real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:15 PM
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Co-signing this observation. Authority: am a Black woman. In all seriousness, our men are some of the worst about gaslighting while also being amongst the poorest. We're [the women] then gaslight further into taking it because of the "strong Black woman/struggle love" propoganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:13 PM
3

😂🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:26 AM
20

You're not the only one! Women are also conditioned to ignore/downplay the pain of other women. My mother (by her own admission) always thought I was exaggerating my period symptoms. She took care of me anyway, but was always upset about how much product I went through. Cue her entering into pre-menapause; she called to personally apologize for not believing me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:38 PM
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He's also ignoring the historical implications of being unable to divorce in, say, the instance of your spouse turning into an abusive, jobless alcoholic or losing a limb. So, now you end up not only running the entire household (while probably needing the additional unpaid labor of your eldest daughter or poor female relation--if they hadn't already been hired out as 'help to wealthy families') but also working some skeevy, low paid job in a factory, as a laundress, as a store clerk if you were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:30 PM
6

Right? I like kids but respect the institution and responsibilities of child rearing way too much to just pop them out all willy-nilly. This goes double if I was stuck rasing them and a man child, working my 60-80 hour a week job, cooking, cleaning, making doctor's appointments, attending recitals, teacher meetings, playing amateur therapist, studying, shopping... [continues ad nauseum].
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:21 PM
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In regards to illness it boils down to men jumping ship, while women less likely to divorce--even if it was in process. The article I read said some nursing departments actually start counseling/notify their psych department after certain diagnoses if the woman if married specifically for this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:15 PM
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My father managed to gain custody of me as a small child and as a result my mother/his girlfriend was still taking me to my appointment because he didn't know anything. By the time I hit puberty (and before that really), I understood he was useless. Come on, I'm 13. You're a grown man. Stop acting squeamish that I need bras and pads!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:39 AM
4

Having money's not everything, not having it is. Very broadly speaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:14 PM
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Right? It's definitely helping me keep the heat on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:09 PM
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The audacity of men. Post-children body? What do they even do besides shoot their shot and sit around bitching for months about their SO getting "fat"? Complaining about stretch marks? Whining about not getting enough attention? If men could get pregnant the narrative would be so different than it is. Roe v. Wade wouldn't even be a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:27 PM
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And even if a young woman was genuinely in love with them, they wouldn't be able to handle it. They'd fuck around and think they can do better or drive her away with their own insecurity. I am 100% convinced men are obsessed with women cheating with every man they come in contact with because that's what they themselves would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:06 PM
15

Same. Same height, same experience. I figured they'd relax but nope. Fuck it. Six feet it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:17 PM
4

Because they all feel entitled to a VS model. 🙄 What is it they're always fussing at us about? Sticking to our "looksmatch"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:46 AM
25

Oh. Oh no. Hun... This is just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:18 AM
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Jesus. And in the same breath they want to call us stuck-up, high maintenance prudes. It can't possibly be just about the sex, because if it was they'd be just as concerned about their partner's wellbeing as their own--if only to increase the chances of a repeat encounter. They're masturbating with women's bodies likw objects and getting pissed off that their fleshlight is talking back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:56 PM
0

LOL I can't with you right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:40 AM
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"... They only care about looks, they only care about appearence, or how much money you make, or what your job is, or how you look, or what you're into..." Excuse me sir, are you upset because the walking flashlight is interested in your looks, employability, and personality? That's, like, the whole man. Hold my latte, ladies, I'm going in. Edit: The longer you watch the worse it gets. Now he's claiming to be a master of the human mind because his six months of psych taught him to read people by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:15 PM
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I think his man tits are bigger than mine. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:06 PM
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This is my plan. I honestly feel as though adding a man to the dynamic would actively reduce mine and the child's quality of life. It's a shackle. One they'll use to stay in your life and harass you indefinitely. My dad did it to my mom and while it's nice not to be a stereotype (a Black woman who doesn't know her father), he is an objectively shitty person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:36 AM
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Much like the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:26 AM
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As a relatively fair-skinned Black woman: it's not any better on this side. They fetishize. Dark-skinned women get the short end of the stick in so many ways and I just never understood. Y'all are damn beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:06 PM
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Projection? These same guys will attempt (and fail, most of the time l) to amass wealth to attract women but then complain about golddiggers. You can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:06 PM
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I've started replying, "I know", "So I'm told", and "I'm aware" in a really deadpan voice while staring at them expectantly. It throws them off but gives them a chance to use their braincells and try again. I have a bit of a curt/sharp personality so if that scares them off then they don't want anything to do with me anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:24 AM
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Lmao This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:23 AM
4

Correct. She was around 17 weeks and the pregnancy was beginning to self-terminate, the amniotic sac "protruding from her body" according to reports. The child was not yet viable (and even if it had, the risks of serious development issues would be sky high) but because of the fetus' heartbeat the hospital refused to help. So, her water broke but the fetus didn't expel and she died of sepsis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:55 PM
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Honest question then, what's the keep the law from "flip-flopping"? Of course, we have cases that radically change certain policies like Brown V BoE etc., but say Women's Suffrage was repealed. If the Justices keep changing as they would with normal term lengths--conservative, democratic, conservative--is it just the discretion/honor of the Court we have to rely on to keep that same law from being reinstated, repealed, reinstated ad nauseum?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:45 PM
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What the fuck are you talking about? Abortions are Healthcare. Healthcare that can change a woman's life when she's not emotionally ready, physically ready, financially ready, in an abusive relationship, been attacked, too young, too frail, doesn't want the physical consequences, doesn't want children, is carrying a child with a disability, is carrying a child incompatible with life etc. Hell, some women need abortions to allow their bodies to heal from incomplete spontaneous abortions from want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:37 PM
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I believe the idea is to keep the court and their precedents stable over long periods of time; i.e. avoiding the current BS happening with RvW. And by being elected for life, the justices can retire whenever they're ready rather than needing to campaign and be mired in shadier politics. Unfortunately, that only ups the ante when the parties play dirty to stack the court. And here's the big thing: you ever notice how so-called "liberals" are almost never trying to take away from anyone but expand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:27 PM
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Isn't it also suggested that he's a widower? He not only raises his son alone and acts as a proper role model, but he doesn't just replace his wife immediately, as though she were a broken appliance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:17 PM
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I'm in. /subscribe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:45 PM
26

Oh my God. This is me. If I stayed with some loser 10 years and he jumps ship for a younger model he'd still be entitled to half my retirement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:44 PM
3

Mhm. The funniest thing about that too is all the bitching in the Black community about "their women" dating outside the race. I thought you didn't want us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:47 AM
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Anarchy can't last. It's against human nature--we're a social/tribal species. Even if these asshats did start systematically harming women, women would start grouping up and fight back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:46 PM
17

A normal, down-to-earth woman. So... Rhianna? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:48 PM
7

They already do this though. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:52 AM
13

This is pretty much my plan if I ever decide I want children. At present, it seems less stressful than futilely attempting to keep a man from reverting to his base nature for 18+ years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:41 PM
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The video that accompanied it (autoplay) is ridiculous too. "Women initiate divorce 69% of the time! Women bad!" That's because unhappy/dirtbag men will ride out the relationship to its last dregs because having reliable sex on tap is more important than their self-respect. They'd continue to screw a woman they abuse and hate for as long as she'll allow it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:18 PM
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What the actual...? I can't even finish. What is that trash? Now I know what you’re thinking: that I’m putting everything on you. I am, and I’m not. Your husband is 100% responsible for his own actions. If he makes stupid choices, such as getting repeatedly drunk, it’s his job to own up to that behavior and stop it. Same goes for his emotional outbursts, if he has them, or his not coming home when he said he would. Or even his having an affair. What I am saying is that men tend to follow women’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:15 PM
3

It's ridiculous. He didn't quit porn, he just switched to the animated form and claims it's not the same. He has a living, breathing woman living with him and carrying his child but can't stop beating off to cartoons instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:03 PM
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I agree with you. A man who wants something will usually be plain about it. If he couldn't make it that day he should have immediately offered an alternative. It's not your job to check his schedule for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:04 PM
3

Lamo! 😂 Seriously, WTF is with these timelines? Why am I running his bath? Grown ass better take a goddamn shower or run his own bath. If we have so many dishes, why doesn't "provider man" buy me a dishwasher? Why am I shopping twice a day and there's no way I'd be done in an hour and a half unless I live in an 18th century village where the butcher is down the road. When do I have time to fold all these damn clothes? Why am I ironing his clothing at 10PM? Talking on the phone after midnight? Se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:10 PM
2

Based on the reactions of the other women, I think it's semen. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:02 PM
1

Every time I've complimented a man, save once, they've taken it as foreplay or something. They say they want compliments, but what they really want is an excuse to proposition you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:42 PM
4

Yes. Once locked gazes with a guy, when I turned away I could feel him staring at me, so I looked again and he took that as a sign to approach. Being a moron, I gave him my number figuring it couldn't hurt. Naturally, first thing he wants to do is come over late at night to "play games" and "chill". Interestingly, I was coming into the 'Anger' stage of disillusionment and tried pushing for a proper date and he just would not stop trying to get me violate my boundaries. Swore up and down he wasn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:52 PM
20

Well, that explains a lot. When I bothered trying to be proactive and approach like a good, modern, liberated young woman I would get constant nags for 'pics?'. Soon after they'd ghost. Every. Single. Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:48 PM
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Same. I was definitely a child and in no way, shape, form--even physically--to survive through conception (rape, in this case) to childbirth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:55 PM
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I think you just changed my life a little. I've always thought I was overly picky (fine by me), but maybe I'm just picking up on weak genes. Ever just look at a man and feel something about them was just off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:45 PM
1

My spinsta-sense tells me a woman wrote this. 🙄 Good lord. Let him go. The next one will be pulling up in 15.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:46 PM
3

Does anyone else here share the trauma of the "cumbox"? I wish there was a way to erase that whole post from my brain. Bleach isn't enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:43 PM
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Thankfully, he never married/reproduced. If I'm understanding the article correctly ("gay" having different poetical uses), he was attracted to men but stopped seeing them when he met a certain woman. But of course he had the audacity to slander a woman who rejected his advances by called her sapphic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:24 PM
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I get told to "smile honey, it can'tbe so bad" (or some generic comment about being too pretty to look so mean) and if I wasn't pissed off before, I am then. It gets really fucking old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:41 AM
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That's true. It takes a village. The problems of modern society make communal child rearing socially difficult, however. It's selfish, but when you're struggling to get by the last thing you're probably interested in is devoting resources to someone else's offspring. Hell, there are people back home who complain about their taxes paying for public schools. Local, close-knit groups make it "easier" (more necessary?) to raise children as a clan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:48 PM
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IRC, the problem with this--although I recently read about a society that actually got around this with some matriarchal semi-gaslighting--is that the men can't be assured of paternity. A woman can only have one child at a time from one man, barring double ovulation etc. This leads to discontent, violence, and the males becoming less/unproductive. The way the abovementioned society handled it was by treating every child as the offspring of all the woman's husbands. And having a large number of c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:55 PM
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For real! None of those things were unreasonable...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:56 AM
2

I ended up in a different thread where they were trashing... married SAHMs. Like, WTF? Isn't that the type of traditional arrangement men so desperately want back? A woman who stays at home gets free room and board and, frankly, that's all she's worth. Wat. Women now want to he compensated for fulfilling their basic roles as mothers? LOL These scrotes really think we need babies like we need air or something. They choose to stay at home-- Hol up. Wat. [Insert long rant about paying for 25 years …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:23 AM
2

Can you adopt me? I don't need money. I just need fashion sense and taste. 😭 Those bags are gorgeous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:43 PM
15

Truth. I'm an Officer and I stack roughly 3k a month between savings and retirement with enough money left over to pay bills and blow on skincare, games, books etc. I want it, I get it. The male officers? You'd think they were impoverished eating ramen for every meal to pay for their Massarati and financed 80" flatscreen. I kid. It's really just alcohol. Lots of alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:25 PM
17

Do you think maybe that's one of the reasons we have hookup culture? Think about it: back in 'Ye Olden Days, women were shamed for not being pure, single motherhood was a virtual death/poverty sentence, and mothers and fathers alike put the fear of man and God in their children. Actually, fathers seemed to be hard even on their sons (though still not as much as the daughters) and expected them to take responsibility. Fast forward and women start working while men are away. Men have greater socua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:00 PM
13

It really stuck out to me that he just assumes this poor young lady he's stringing along is willing to bear his bastard offspring. Because, you know, it's not like he'll marry her while he's still holding out hope for a Caucasian* woman. *This has to be what he means--a WASP--because there are plenty of fair POC as well as non-European people of fair complexion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:43 PM
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I hope he enjoyed being a psychopath to the only woman who would ever love him for anything else but his money. 🙄 I swear, they constantly complain about "the one who got away" and being lonely or wanting something real... but only once they're old, washed up, broken etc. They don't really love us like we love them. They love what we can do for them. Save your hearts, ladies. Get a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:40 PM
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Just say no, ladies. Or abort. Hell, even just dipping out and raising the kid without him at all is probably preferable to the fuccboi games to ensue. How many of us know women whose deadbeat/awful human being baby daddies use the kid as an excuse to harass the same woman they abused? Or consider her their, ugh, property?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:39 PM
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It's weird, because the point of marriage for the most part was being taken care of financially and socially. Now, with women in the workplace they've lost at least 50% (or more, depending on your POV) of their usefulness. The least they could do is be pleasant partners and companions, right? Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:58 PM
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There was a post a few days back where the woman in question was asking for affirmation (she may have already decided to break up) because the "man" in question had suddenly demanded she sign a prenup after they'd agreed to get married; IIRC she may have even been wedding planning already? Anyway, in the prenup he'd done something similar to this scrote where in the event of a divorce all of his property and assets were protected from her, including anything bought during the marriage, bank acco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:54 PM
4

Really? I've never seen it on the man--always on the bride's thigh. The groom then "retrieves" it later in the ceremony in front of all the guests. In fact, at the last wedding I went to the groom stuck his head up the bride's skirt and took it off with his teeth. I would never-- Edit: Actually, perhaps what you've experienced is a method of mitigating this kind of public embarrassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:33 AM
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IIRC (I was told this or read it years ago), back in Ye' Olden Days, pieces of the Bride and Groom's clothing (but especially the bride because they were hypersexualizing women even then) were considered to be lucky or auspicious. So, following the ceremony guests would open tear at them for a piece of their good fortune--leaving a naked, traumatized young woman to be gawked at as her likely drunken husband hustled her to the bedroom for her wedding night. When we moved to more "civilized" cerem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:59 PM
24

Bet. Willing to relocate too. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:55 AM
81

Mhm. Aknowledging their hypocrisy would force them to pay attention to the cost. They want a high maintainence woman without being obliged to maintain her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:10 AM
3

JFC...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 09:56 PM
3

My (also brown) therapist mentioned that to me, sympathizing, when I told her my family doesn't understand and keeps telling me I just need more Jesus in my life. No, no. Jesus needs me to see someone about fixing my imbalanced hormones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:34 PM
8

Another patriarchal lie. Marriage only benefits men--on purpose. If we weren't oppressed there'd be no reason for women to get married. If we didn't need protection from men against men we wouldn't need to be married. Now that we've "liberated" women and single Parenthood is no longer a death sentence (for men's convenience, so they can ditch their responsibilities), they don't get married. Or they leave their deadbeat man-child. Shocker. Children are a woman's/God's/nature's gift to men. They a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:53 PM
6

Bet. Life partners and best friends kicking ass and taking names together? Raising badass kids? I'm in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:43 PM
33

The reason women and children are saved is because of their inherent value to the tribe. In that "we're about to all die" mindset, children are untapped "resources" and the men's legacy (and the woman's but she can always have more). The women are theirs/their wives/daughters/mothers who, as she points out, create life for the tribe. What the actual fuck will the tribe do if the men got on the lifeboats and the women stayed and fought? Right. Die out. 100 women and 1 man can repopulate a society…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:36 PM
4

Worse, an unpaid internship at a company you don't like, won't hire you, and makes you bring your own tools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:19 PM
26

Worse, an unpaid internship at a company you don't like, won't hire you, and makes you bring your own tools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:19 PM
10

Of course we can. Projection much? Maybe this idea that we're broke comes from their obsession with prepubesent girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:54 PM
62

I've had that happen to me twice. No idea if the women were real but, why the hell would you be telling me about your other women? Is this your idea of making a good impression? I stood the last guy up because he eventually said something to the effect of me being a placeholder because there "is a woman at work I really want to be with". So, uh, why are you talking to me then??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:13 PM
18

For real, like, is birthing their children and legacy not special enough for them? For all that we may as well only go after "Chads". At least their genes are (usually) worth a damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:48 PM
13

Trying to collect O-4 pay as an E-1, ya'll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:45 PM
3

Girl, same. I think I was scrolling through a thread on PPD or sommat and they basically called FDS a hate group. I clicked the link and... I've never felt more supported, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:35 PM
8

It's true though. They are sticky and they are expensive. I'm not sure how OPs comment suggests they should be harmed in any fashion. Perhaps it's a personal issue. In any case, I thought it was funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:17 PM
13

I'm guessing she's being sarcastic? I joke like this all the time. They're insidious little creatures, consuming all your time, money, and mental energy with those adorable, smooshy faces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:57 PM
13

I actually made a face at that one. Won't speak but still wants to "smash". As a fair-er Black woman I've had similar comments made about me "being in the house" but that he completely devalued her experience as a person of color (exotic looking white girl?) is just horrible. Throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:03 PM
7

☹✋🏽 Give them a chance right? The insides seem to be worse than the outsides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:42 AM
42

Is that obesity stat true? Source? Because if so that's just gross. Women are genetically predisposed to voluptuousness because of an excess of estrogen. Men, having much less of it, should generally be able to be relatively thin (if not ripped) without even tryin. Edit: so the unofficial Google answer is women are technically more "obese" by BMI standards, which are rubbish anyway, but they're still much healthier. Men of the same or lesser H/W ratio have higher blood pressure, more uncontrolle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:33 AM
41

Guys seem to assume a woman on a dating app must be desperate... Projection. They can't fathom that we don't feel the same sexual desperation they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:10 PM
49

I remember hearing she made it a point to dress comfortably and non-sexually because of the pressure to be a typical "jailbait". Men were/are so creepy about her. There was one of those 18th birthday counters ticking down for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:50 PM
18

That's honestly a good point. In a society where birth control is freely/cheaply available, most women would probably opt out. Assuming they weren't Pickmes, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:54 PM
3

Phyllis Chesler Holy shit. Marriage (to an extremist): not even once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:26 PM
1

It's important to the meaning, in my opinion, since it emphasizes the audacity of the young man/the irony. A vicar is basically a local priest/religious representative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:29 PM
31

I'm single until I'm married. Never forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:53 AM
3

In case you don't understand, you're being downvoted because FDS does not condone tolerating badly behaved men. In short, if what you said is true he needs to either man up or shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:23 PM
2

Her name is Daphnique Springs. Some of her other content is hit or miss depending on how you interpret it. It's sadly hilarious if you take it as critical parody of female-male relationships but cringy if you take it pretty much any other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:33 PM
25

First thing I noticed was her hair, it's so long and glossy~ She's beautiful. Meanwhile, Blokes: She's fat and Rhianna's forehead is too big.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:30 AM
51

An otome game creator I'm acquainted with had to put a blog post/note to players after getting feedback that certain situations with the main character were unrealistic. What was this feedback she was getting? That no woman's period/cycle was painful enough to cause fainting etc. And considering the demographic it had to be other women (or male trolls posing as women) writing this. Like, seriously. I used to lie on the floor curled up in pain for at least the first day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:26 AM
17

I didn't start dating until my early twenties (now late twenties); you're not missing a damn thing. I gave up a while ago. There are very few, if any, Prince Charmings out there. You're not missing anything, save some dude making you uncomfortable all night long and then trying to shove his tongue in your mouth. As a hopeless romantic, albeit a jaded one, I realized that longing we feel isn't just for "a man, any man" but a certain ideal of a man. What's worse? Being alone and cultivating a good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:45 PM
28

That sounds about right. We sound great on paper but then we get all these damned opinions in our pretty little heads and start talking. We should have never been allowed to learn to read. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:21 PM
24

Whaaaaa? Are we not supposed to fall over ourselves for promise rings and commitment ceremonies?? I die a little inside whenever I see that BS. Unless you're renewing vows or whatever, what's the point of essentially having a whole damn wedding but never signing the papers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:57 PM
63

I'm single until I'm married. I'm so single another [man] can snatch me up at my wedding! 😂 I'm not a fan of her other content because she promotes that crazy, obsessed girlfriend streotype, but this one is hilarious. That and shots were fired when she points out that Black relationships tend to be forever situationships until he "guesses" he might as well marry you now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:27 PM
11

I burst out laughing reading these. JA is just so effortlessly dry and witty. How horrible it is to have so many people killed! And what a blessing that one cares for none of them! This is so... applicable. I've never been a fan of the mentality that people are absolved of their sins just because they're dead. If you were a horrible person in life, passing away doesn't make you suddenly beloved. I will not say that your mulberry trees are dead; but I am afraid they're not alive. Why she calling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:01 AM
23

The problem with this kind of incident is not necessarily even whether or not he will (or even can) sleep with this woman: it's that his wife now has her insecurities created/confirmed. She now knows that he would be with someone else if he could get away with it--he even had the audacity to admit it in public, humiliating her. The trust is dead. ​ Personally, I'd file for divorce. He made her look like a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:46 AM
12

The audacity. As another wise FDS'r said: "it originates in the balls".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:43 AM
19

I'm a female officer of color. So, here we go: Be a bitch. No, seriously. You're young, attractive, and, in their minds, vulnerable. You need to shut that shit down right away. You don't have to be rude unless needed but wield that attitude like a whip. Don't engage. Don't smile. Don't let them lure you out anywhere. Don't date them. Be feminine on your own time, away from work. They don't need to know you like that. And for the love of God, again: Don't. Date. Them. Not even in AIT. Not at your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:33 AM
48

Hey, listen, as someone who's been on both sides it's not any better on the busty side. Some (most) men are just awful. Trust me, you're fine as you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:56 PM
15

My personal experience has been pretty unremarkable, honestly. Likely because I generally mind my business and go home after hours rather than going out to drink or "hanging out" with other (male) officers. I refuse to get involved in drama. I keep my female Soldiers out of it best I can too. It doesn't make me the most popular person but it spares me the come-ons I initially recieved (especially from the junior enlisted) when I was more genuinely naive and sociable. That said, I was warned befo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:30 AM
13

Girl! I'm dying! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:04 PM
13

Friends who wouldn't expect you to sleep with them for a McDouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:19 AM
36

> Why would I pay full price to prove myself to mediocre p*ssy? Right there. This line is why. He's literally equating paying for dinner with an obligation to be considered for, if not outright owed, sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 10:23 PM
3

D'aaw. He sounds like a good dude. For me, my mom has been the high value parent even if it took her a while to realize the harm staying together was causing us both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:48 PM
13

Are you me...? Like so many other posters wrote, I'm totally expected to take care of my father in his dotage. It's not going to happen. I'll make sure he gets into a nice home on his dime, maybe visit once a month because I have some empathy but, honestly? The only thing I'm grateful for is that he never diddled me. He preferred hitting until it got too awkward to explain why I flinched everytime he looked at me. Then he switched to screaming in my face at the top of his lungs and throwing thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:22 PM
8

Agreed. I lost a bunch of weight several years ago and went from a 12 to 6. The bullshit only increased since men now want me enough to (poorly) hide their intentions. On the bright side, I have nasty RBF so I have that going for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 12:01 PM
1

There's a few reasons, but in summary: women almost inevitably lose in marriage/LTRs, it's just a matter of degree. Time, fertility, youth, beauty etc. Childbearing is life-threatening work. Men are 6x more likely than women to abandon their deathly ill partners. Married men live longer, married women die sooner. To add to this last point, men remarry almost immediately while women are likely to continue grieving for extended periods of time. Being with a man typically increases your workload an…
/r/askFDS28/06/20 05:52 AM
4

Completely unironically, if you don't mind answering, how were you a golddigger if you were the only one working? Did he go back to being a Goldman Sach's CFO? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:28 PM
44

I've never been married and never plan on it, but from what I've read from you ladies, it seems that a man who's treated well by his significant other loses perspective fairly quickly. They attribute all that love, affection and care as their right and due. Then they project: if they can get one woman to be their slave, surely a hotter, younger one is better? The problem being that that's not the case. It's pretty much never the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:00 PM
16

They think that accidentally brushing against them, usually when they're blocking the damn way, is a come on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:16 PM
28

Women can’t breathe without it being a come-on for men, apparently. "Look at /u/Oskarsmummy, just standing there. Minding her business. Breathing. Fucking slut." 🙄 The audacity. Edit: Although you bring an excellent second point to mind, it's not even the breathing that does it for them. It's existing. Have you ever noticed the sheer amount of naked female corpses on TV? Never seen or heard of a male one. See, we don't even need to be alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:13 PM
7

I got my period at 11 and had breasts at 12-13. That's creepy af. The depravity is unreal. Do they even think of the consequences of that? Oh having some 14-year-old die in childbirth because they can't keep their parts to themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:17 PM
2

I've actually mentioned being a Choice single mother with my parents. It used to be a backup plan but now seems the likeliest, considering that I'm approaching the "wall" (I've never been better looking in my life, I was an awkward 16-24 year old) and can't be bothered with most men at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:20 AM
21

The same healthy offspring they don't want to parent or support, emotionally, physically, and financially. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:58 AM
15

My two takeaways; 1) Men keep talking about 18-year-olds. Why? Is it because thats the youngest age the law will allow? Creepy af. She's a damn child and her frontal libe hasn't finished developing. 2) Men also have this weird fixation with blaming their depravity on "biology"; yet they're somehow the more enlightened sex. Cool. So men are attracted to young women for their fertility. Why is that once that fetyility comes to fruition they want to take off and abandon their offspring? Nature/biol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:54 AM
7

Anyone note that Mister Ted Leadbitter there at the bottom immediately protested against the ruling by complaining, "ThE wImMiNs WiLl mAkE fAlsE cLaImS!" It's been decades and nothing's changed. Everytime we win a right to sexual autonomy they get up in arms about their pee pees and being false accused. They seem to do with nearly everything; maybe because they themselves will always twist and exploit a situation to the max they expect women will too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 01:50 AM
23

Semi-related: I work in a heavily male dominated environment. One day, a few of us had lunch together and the resident fuccboi decided to joke about me going to the strip club with them. I stared at him and asked him to repeat that. Other men took the hint and STFU, Broseph didn't. Said it again. So, I acted as though I was so excited to go. Didn't know he was into that sort of thing. Lemme look up when the next Chippendale's show is. He didn't like that. 😂 In summary, men can dish it but they c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:22 AM
24

I interpreted it as women will see it for the bullshit it is and men will think it's perfectly reasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:32 PM
5

Same. I look ambiguously early-twenties, according to some of the confused comments when I turn up for meetings with contractors. One of them thought I was an actual teenager and was trying to ascertain if I was an intern; maybe it's flattery but I know I look better than a majority of even the younger men I work with. The older ones? Obviously. Like, are their personalities so toxic that even their hair lines are trying to break up with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 05:07 PM
6

What's wrong with being someone's mother? Is that supposed to be an insult? What a douche-nozzle. Also, I'd wager a lot of our moms are way hotter than most of these NEETs even with the difference in decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:12 PM
14

+1 He expects you to drink (i.e. lower your inhibitions) on this random internet date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:52 PM
8

Ooh, let's share traumatic experiences: when I was 15 a 50-something year old man (or 30, hell they don't care of themselves anyway) tried his damned hardest to pick me up on my way to school. I was clearly in a uniform. I had a backpack. I had a Hello Kitty scrunchie. Dafuq. Fortunately, my mom instilled a deep wariness of men in me from a young age. She's not perfect but she's always been real with me. The pornsickness of it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:48 PM
8

Three words: frontal lobe development. Most of us are entirely different people from 20-22 and 25-26. That shit is just straight predatory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:44 PM
121

Right?! Some of those women are smokeshows and the comments are like, "4.5/10, her eyebrows are .013 cm too far apart". 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:39 PM
2

I got a good chuckle out of this. Seriously, I finance my own lifestyle and since I work for the DoD am way more likely to die in war than all but 3-4 men I know personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:12 PM
1

I interpreted that more as if you must have casual sex, have it with women. Probably because it's physically and, likely, emotionally safer. Not that femalexfemale relationships are any less valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:44 AM
97

I remember an AC proposal popping up in the subreddit a while ago, but it had way more visible effort put into it. Dude hopped on with her on co-op after having set up an interesting maze with prizes in it, the sign asking her to marry him at the very end. And of course he had a real ring ready. That was cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:20 AM
16

The virgin angle just attracts a different kind of creepiness which, IMO borders on obsession; they seem to stick around longer because they want to be the first to "defile/break you in". Not because they actually like or respect you more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:29 PM
7

100%. I played in college for about a year and had to quit, cold turkey, because I was developing a problem. That game is just... a lot, for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:29 AM
24

Men say this but have no property/money/title to pass on. WTF are you? Unless I happen to stumble across a Prince, it seems more reasonable that the kids should carry on my legacy. Plus, I birthed them. What did he do exactly? Not knocking good dads, but seriously. It's nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:17 AM
1

"When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses all the red flags... just look like flags."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:04 PM
1

I dug a bit and, for context, it definitely sounds as though he's put his hands on her before; keeping her cowed. One of her deleted(?) comments says she's only staying with him because she's afraid and "he's not a man to be reasoned with".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:18 PM
4

It was even a thing back in their supposed 'Ye Olden Days'; bridewealth or settlements for daughters were meant to protect them from having to depend on, and thereby put up with, abusive husbands or in-laws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:57 PM
22

And peasant men and women married their peers in their mid to late twenties, after they (particularly the men) were established enough to start a family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:49 AM
42

One of us. One of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:15 PM
118

Spoiler Alert: Late twenties here; they don't get any better--just uglier. Ya'll were not playing about the baldness at this level. WTF is happening to men's hairline these days?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:36 PM
8

Gold digging for, what, $3? These broke ass dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:51 AM
9

I'm trying out as many colorful euphemisms as possible. Why do guys get to name their junk and we don't?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 10:12 PM
127

WTF? Even if this was 'normal', she's not even healed yet... Nearly 11 pounds through heaven's gate? Holy hell. The *tearing*.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:04 AM
18

Do you honestly think most men can put together a two-page, double-spaced essay of any substance and stay on-topic with correct grammar and punctuation? They can even be bothered to capitalize their I's in texts--and autocorrect will do it for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:01 AM
15

And get burned for it. Every man I've ever approached even in a friendly manner has instantly assumed I was DTF immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:47 PM
8

I like my perky lil' tits. I like running and not having my tits bitch slapping me in the face. I felt this comment. 😂 As someone who went from a DDD to C, my life has improved drastically. Bralettes are the fucking bomb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:51 PM
4

Honestly, that was my first thought too but it seems so disrespectful to say out loud...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:43 PM
10

Many moons ago, I had a Guild I gamed with fairly regularly and I clicked with a particular guy. At no point had I mentioned or brought up my gender because it was 100% irrelevant. Then, I got voice chat. Holy balls. Long story short, this guy ended up trying to coerce me into a relationship and (supposedly) bought a ticket to my city without even consulting me and planned to come even after I said 'no'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:00 PM
21

Samesies. Now that I'm "attractive", it's all shallow attention and lazy, half-assed attempts to get low effort sex by NVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:57 PM
9

... Wow. This is just garbage. In a vow of 'until death', two years is a blip on the radar. She's still sleeping with him, while she's going through all this despite the fact that it has to be hurting her, at least emotionally. What about his needs again? What about hers? If this was the other way around and he had prostate cancer and lost his balls how receptive would he be to wearing prosthetics or having expensive, cosmetic surgery? Never mind that, why should she do anything she doesn't want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:46 PM
20

I'm one of those women who have a bad time when using anything not prescribed by a doctor anywhere near/at/beside the wishing well. God forbid I even think about colored, non-cotton undies. /shudder Warm water is perfectly sufficient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:52 PM
40

False. Your evidence is anecdotal in the same way that someone who smokes for fifty years and claims to have never had a problem is anecdotal. The vagina is self cleaning and the vulva only require water to clean, wiping gently. More women than not will have issues using soaps and other assorted feminine hygiene products regardless of their supposed "freshening" properties. They kill and/or harm the good bacteria that keep you from getting nasty infections and irritation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:48 PM
13

It's not the years in this case but the stage of life, I think. At 22 your brain isn't even finished developing and closing in on 30 most of us are entirely different (hopefully more mature and confident) people than we were then. A 22-year-old is a new adult, fresh from college etc. trying out the independent world for the first time--note they've been together a year, it's also possible he's been grooming her before that--a someone closing in on 30 is/should be a whole, grown ass adult. More i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:21 PM
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That was my first thought, for one. Second, she deserves better than him. How the fuck are you considering marriage to a woman but the deciding factor is your odds of getting your dick wet with a "more beautiful woman"? He doesn't care about her. She's an object to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:37 PM
11

100%. I'm fairly quiet and try my best not to gossip or say anything I wouldn't say to someone's face. This has led to me hearing what e'rybody has to say about everything like I'm not even there; which is an advantage sometimes since I can tell when there's about to be a drama storm and get the heck of dodge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:40 PM
52

Yes. The biggest problem here is that she'll want to stay in her comfortable fairytale because she "loves" him. The problem is she doesn't. She just think she does because of how deftly he programmed her to feel that way by grinding her down to his level and then stalking her interests to fake his way into her life. In the best case scenario, she does this and everything is lovely. In the worst? I think of it like dating a known woman beater. Sure, he may not hit you now but if you want to leave…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:06 PM
6

Agreed. I'm also a fast driver and 85 on a straightaway in minimal traffic on the expressway isn't really all that scary; my guess is that he was either going way faster than that, jerking the wheel around, taunting her, or ignoring her asking him to slow down. Maybe all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:45 PM
7

I have said it time and time again to both friends and family: if anyone is going to be a fuccboi in my relationship, it's going to be me. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:02 PM
20

That and they're getting off on your reaction either way. Positive? She wants the D. Negative? What a stuck up bitch. I don't generally have problems since I don't give out my number (and when I did I used a disposable one) but my default response to any unsolicited picture of body parts/genitalia is to send one* right back. Dick pic for dic pic. **Not of myself! Google.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:29 PM
71

One of my relatives, and I can't remember which one, said something to me that's stuck for the past two decades: "A man that's going to marry a woman will do so before she gets pregnant and if she does get pregnant, he'll do it before the baby is born. Otherwise, he doesn't mean it." That has never once, in my personal observation, been wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:30 AM
33

It's because they're the equvilant of the kid on the playground snatching up all his busted ass toys that no one wanted anyway and declaring he's going home. Only instead of women flocking to him because of how empowered and unavailable and dark tried he he is... no one cares. It hurts them even more that we don't even care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:26 AM
1

Here, here. I lost a ton of weight a few years ago and went from a DDD to a large C/small D and it's opened up a whole new world. Y'all, did you know that smaller chested women have these magical garments called 'bralettes' that dont have underwire trying to stab you in the goddamned heart???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:22 PM
9

Preach. This is basically shopping for your kids' genes at a trashy Goodwill. Just go to a bank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:56 AM
10

You could be together 20+ years and his fifty, sixty-year-old ass will still take off because he thinks he has a shot with 20-year-old coeds. Getting married is no longer the guarantee of safety (and even then it was a shitty deal) that it once was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:05 PM
8

Someone who sees women doing just that, all dolled up with hair and nails did in uncomfortable, cheap lingerie in front of a camera in porn. You know, as opposed to comfy pajamas in their bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:20 AM
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Seriously. The hairs on the back of my neck stood up and I cringed. It felt like he was about to kill her while she was begging for her life. This isn't cute or sexy or anything but terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:23 PM
4

And men are way more likely to leave their seriously ill wives. So honestly one of the best things that could happen--though heaven forbid--is that he uses that as an excuse to bounce. She's better off without that abusive prick; she needs focus on her and her babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 11:28 PM
16

They have no idea what 120 even looks like, period. Let alone on different frames. I know a woman who weighs almost 200 but is tall and built like a brick house, wearing a size 10-12. She's never hurting for male attention. These LVM would give their right arms to have a chance at her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:37 PM
25

Sounds about right. 140 just seems to be a magic number for men for some reason. I've had something similar happen when I told an admin that i needed a BF measurement to meet requirements and they refused to believe me until I stepped on the scale. We're stacked yo'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:35 AM
6

My own mother got married just shy of 50. No shame in her game. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:16 PM
5

No, they're not expected to do anything but breathe to win the loyalty of the women they dog out; as someone mentioned only Black women tend to get shamed for dating "outside the race" even when our men call is ugly and objectify us. So naturally, their hair is never really made an issue. But Black men typically don't grow out their hair long, as adult anyway. Barber shops are a big part of the culture so they get fancy short cuts instead. Some will wear wave caps to create patterns in their hai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:25 PM
3

In short, Black men want Black women to have the same silky hair as other ethnicities but then mock and shame them for the time, money, and energy used to make it happen. They constantly talk about our headwraps (which are a cultural legacy from our African roots), our texture (bad hair), and complain about weaves as though they're the ones wearing them. Yet they also complain when Black women wear their hair natural or in traditional protective styles. There was a celebrity not too long ago bit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:16 AM
12

All of this. I don't have to factor a damn soul into the decisions I make, including some LVMs offspring. I'll be getting a puppy next year too. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:31 PM
4

I actually don't need anonymity; I can file an informal written complaint (there are boxes for that all over campus) or, if I wanted to really make things move, I could do it in person. We're a federal agency so we have an entire investigative office. My assumption is that he never thought what he was doing was wrong OR he doesn't imagine I would report him. Edit: He hasn't done it again (it was last week) but in the off chance he does, I'll be writing down his badge number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:40 AM
87

I decided to stop obliging this week. My come to Jesus moment occurred when the gate guard at work held my ID while telling me to smile, then kept yanking it out of reach like it was funny. His coworker even started chuckling. I was just irritated and starting to get angry. Holy hell, how about you let me go on about my day and fuck off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:23 PM
17

Exactly. And isn't it weird how men seem to have control issues with these things? I'm a gamer, but I also have a full time job and am finishing up full time graduate school. So? I game responsibly. I watch anime responsibly. Almost no man I've ever met has been able to just pause the game/show and adult for a bit without excessive amounts of prodding and bitching. It sucks that I feel the need to weed out men who have the some of the same hobbies as I do because they just can't handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 05:22 PM
25

I don't get this. Why not just date with intentionality? Only take out women you're vetting for the long term and take that opportunity to flex your resources and generosity? No? Never mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:27 AM
5

I just looked at their site. Those are some cute undies. <3 And they look comfy too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:16 AM
30

Yup. I remember seeing this ad before; just fuck our microbiome, right? Doesn't matter how many infections you get so long as your man gets a dry, scentless cooch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:11 AM
15

Unless you're married or in an exclusive LTR with a HVM, it won't matter. ​ These jokers will just lie about being on it until she gets pregnant and/or contracts an STI. Protect yourselves, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:53 PM
104

It's typically the ugliest men who treat you the worst or have the most audacity. Giving them a chance only seems to boost their ego for the worst because, clearly, your charity means that they can continue to pull women like you whenever they want. Then they're all Pikachu-face when you step. It's like, if we're going to be treated like shit we may as well get some decent genes for our offspring out of it. My first big moment of clarity when after begging for my number some scrub immediately at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:28 PM
11

Same. I'm in indefinite nun mode and can't be bothered. It takes an emotional connection for me to even become attracted to someone in the first place. Hookup culture doesn't support that. What's even the point if I won't enjoy it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:27 PM
9

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/eufui5/when_did_you_realize_that_you_were_the_problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:20 PM
4

But IUI/ICI is relatively inexpensive. Want a baby but not the baggage? Go to reputable clinic, pick from their sample supply of highly educated, attractive, and psychologically screened donors, and if all goes well you've got the love of your life in your arms nine months later. No man drama involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:28 PM
6

I'm of the same mindset at this point. Barring an actual medical condition, there's no such thing as physical incompatibility. He's a man. You're a woman. It works. If it doesn't, it's not a physical issue it's a relationship issue. As in, communication and respecting boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:03 PM
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To be fair this was that "When did you realize You were the problem?" thread. He realizes he was the asshole, which many never will; but OP's point remains. Don't be a doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:37 PM
3

The Madonna-Whore Complex at work. = \
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:06 PM
1

Passive aggressive comment turn to aggressive insults. Insults turn to name calling. Name calling turn to yelling. Yelling turns to shouting. Shouting turns to physical intimidation. Intimidation turns to shoving, slapping, punching, kicking. Physical violence turns to more physical violence until finally he kills you. So yeah, GTFO and stay away. You'd be well within your rights to file a police report and have his ass jailed for assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:51 PM
10

Pretty much every single time (save one, lovely guy just not right for me) I've asked a guy out they immediately assumed I was DTF and began plotting to either get me to their place or weasel their way into mine. It's a no for me dawg. ​ Like, literally--they say yes and within 5 minutes or 3-4 texts they wanna come over and 'chill'. One even had the nerve to expect me to dress up and cook for him. What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:47 AM
8

One of my favorite expressions essentially boils down to, "Only women, children, and dogs love unconditionally".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:53 PM
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They do. Married men succeed more often and live longer, roughly 20% longer because their wives look after them. You know, feed them shit that isn't McDonald's and Popeyes so they don't have a heart attack, clean so they don't die of disease, and schedule their appointments so they don't expire from everything else. Married women actually die sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:22 PM
5

Ahahaha~ ​ Damn ya'll, leave Chika alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:58 AM
2

They are. Married men even live longer. Married women die sooner. Why? They get a friend, lover, mother of their children, housekeeper, chef, and nurse all in one. Women on the other hand get... companionship? Assuming he doesn't leave her. And sex. That's... about it. We could argue economics but if she invests that time in herself, getting an education and being employable his income is negligible for the trade in QOL. And men are about 10x more likely to leave their SO if they become seriousl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 09:00 PM
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I mean, while I agree with the overall point being made most modern clinics actually have more data on these men than the FBI. I've looked into this before and they have pictures from all stages of the men's lives, blood type, genetic screening, voice samples, hobbies, GPA etc. Plus there's the option to opt in to contact once the kid is 18. It's not really all that bad, though it isn't as, erm, free.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:50 PM
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Anecdotally, I've always believed it's not just age, BC, health etc. but also whether you've been pregnant before that determines how "easy" it is to get pregnant later. All of the women I know who had kids in their 40s and 50s (kid was perfectly healthy and naturally concieved) had had their first child as teens or in their twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:46 PM
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Last year, before I found this group I happened to go on a date with a guy like this. Started crowing about how brother getting married... to his girlfriend of 7 or 8 years (and three kids). He seemed to think this was entirely reasonable and was shocked and appalled--APALLED I SAY-- when I offhandedly remarked that I would have bounced after 12-18 months. "How else do you know you're compatible???" Like, what the hell? This guy wanted the same thing basically and also dropped that he didn't wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 08:05 AM
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Come hither, Little Sister and harken to the words of your Elders evilqueenapple.jpg You're fighting a straw man argument against yourself. It's not that you're tired of waiting for sex and physicality; you're tired of waiting for intimacy and love. One of these is easy enough to acquire. The other? Not so much. If you wanted to get laid you could just open Tinder. Or, easier yet, go outside and pick one of the many free, cheap, and abundant penises right outside your door. The question is wheth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:07 PM
18

Ayyy, we should start a club. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:43 PM
11

Yes. Yes, they are. And generally if they're not they're fuccbois instead. I hear the locker room talk daily. Stay away. Stay away. Source: am female in the military.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:25 PM
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Men complain that women only want the top 20% of men, but that's only because that's the percentage willing to put the bare minimum (and above) into their appearance. Women are "hot" on average because we look after ourselves and aren't living in dirty sweats we threw on after rinsing off using Axe 6-in-1 face, body, shampoo, deodorant, antifreeze, engine degreaser, and dish soap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 03:56 PM
12

I'm ded. 😂 Love this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 10:01 PM
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Me too. I recognize a lot of what's going on with her emotionally and she's clearly depressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 01:25 AM
11

There was a series of articles I read about this years ago that pointed out that as we moved from small tribes of hunter-gatherers to farmers, humanity developed a series problem of, well, having too many disenfranchised young men. Whereas before they would die in random accidents (typically hunting or tribal warfare) they were now basically hanging around being destructive or otherwise nonproductive. So, the solution to this was to gradually morph from a "distribution" system where one big, war…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 01:21 AM
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So, he's upset because she's attempting to optimize her mating strategy? Honestly, he should be flattered to be chosen considering how hard FDS members encourage one another to vet. It's like the dating Hunger Games up in here. ​ Assuming this isn't a troll, there are so many 'HOL UP' moments here that I can't even. ​ The short version, apparently, is that he consciously decides to invade her privacy, doesn't like what he found out, and he's prepared to ask a bunch of biased, random internet str…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:08 PM
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Right? Damn, if I ever get married I need to protect my assets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 10:24 PM
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I actually have a relative that does this and it is the scariest shit ever when dealing with him--at least it was until I realized what was happening. Having someone talk so fast and smooth that reality, or your perception of it, is flat out dangerous. He's now married and does this to his poor wife. = / The first baseline I use for knowing to engage my gaslighting shields is when any man starts to deny not my feelings or perception of an event, by the reality of it, by which they mean the manip…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 05:31 PM
4

Oh definitely, they're about to institute (or trying to) those same restrictions where I live now. They've also been trying to run the only "toy" shop out of town. For context, it's owned by a man but caters to women. So naturally, they hate it. So, in summary: no BC, no terminations, no vibrators so we'll be, uh, forced to want their dusty asses. Lol No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:30 AM
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It's always some absurdly attractive woman too--some genetic freak of nature with supermodel good looks that they hold up as their "standard" of women. And believe me, I'm not knocking on those women. Hell, I'm rooting for them to go break some hearts. The problem is that men are incapable of basic critical thinking, hold these women as baseline, and then feel entitled to a woman of that quality; regardless of their own value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:36 PM
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Because that's what pre-WWII life was like. Women didn't work outside the home for the most part, so it was either marry a man who can support you and give you babies, stay at home and be a burden, or become a "confirmed spinster" that other women warned their daughters about. We didn't have options. Now we have options. I honestly think that's what a lot of these bills restricting abortion and access to BC are about now too. They want us to be tied down; good little Christian mothers. Edit: Gra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:35 AM
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I actually agree. Choice Motherhood isn't for everyone, but it is a viable option. Just think about it: all of the HV genes with none of the fuccboi-ness. Win-win. ​ And for those thinking it sounds transactional, I've literally sat in a room while an older male instructor told an entire class that he believes the only way to show true commitment is to have a child. The context being the introduction of this third person makes you dependent on one another and you can't 'quit' as easily. = \ Soun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:42 AM
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Unconditional love and booze? Don't threaten me with a good time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 01:01 AM
7

I realized this the hard way after a month of chatting with some guy years ago. I broached the topic of maybe getting together sometime soon. A joking, 'Hey, if you ask me out I'll do you the honor of accepting! winkwink'. Removed all risk and fear of rejection for him, since I knew he was shy. His response? Something to the effect of 'Oh, you'll be waiting a while. Haha.' If y'all could have seen my damn face. I think he realized he'd blown it later that day, since he started trying to love bom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 09:05 PM
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Follow the advice of the other members here and go out with him if you like him. Respect your boundaries, don't go to his house, and bounce if he looks/feels sketchy on your date *in a well lit, public place*. ​ Dude shot his shot, gotta respect that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 04:33 PM
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I can understand his sentiments, especially as I have certain appearance nitpicks about others. However, I don't know what to think of his bringing it up repeatedly (if that's what OP meant, as that's how I read it). It strikes me as whining/pressuring, which is just entirely unattractive. Just stating his piece and moving on would have been more appropriately mature. ​ Ultimately, it's your choice OP whether to change or not. It's also your choice to decide if this is a flag for you. Does he do…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 04:28 PM
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Just so long as you know what you're getting into. Unfortunately, it's hard to really understand until you experience it. On that note--you are a military girlfriend right now. Not a wife. And we only recognize two relationship statuses: single or married. If you do choose to move in without a ring and a date (and I strongly advise against this) then you need to understand that you are giving up a lot of your rights/entitlements. That is, his chain of command has way less control over enforcing …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 05:50 PM
2

Thank you for your sacrifice and I'm sorry for your loss. PTSD and TBIs can completely change a person until they're nigh unrecognizable. Or even sometimes downright terrifying. Your decision is completely understandable and hopefully it's the right one for the both of you. Y'all get well soon.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 05:44 PM
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One thing to keep in mind--and as a military officer I've seen this play out countless times--is that if you do choose to (eventually) marry him you're going to have to dance along to the Army/Airforce/Navy etc.'s tune. No, seriously. You're talking late nights (he's got 24-hour Staff Duty or his Company is on Red Cycle) and long (9-18 month) separations (sprinkled with two weeks in the field here, a month at NTC there), FRG meetings (with that mean Commander's wife at the helm), Hail and Farewe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 09:07 AM
1

You misunderstand. I meant this very specific demographic [Choice Mothers]. I'm not arguing your base point and your opinion has been noted.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 04:50 PM
1

That's actually a very good question. My official answer? Sort of. Think of it this way: you know the expression "having money isn't everything, but not having it is"? That's very much a factor, especially in the household of the typical single mom. Having access to more plentiful resources allows her to work fewer hours--if desired--feed her child better food, maintain higher quality housing, obtain better childcare, medical care, take the kid to culture/sports/club events, allow them to have a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 05:00 AM
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Anytime. I just really want to stress the nuance of this study: these women had the "village" and the resources to go it not-so-alone. They were prepared. They planned. They executed. These were not what we consider the average single mother. Sure, finding the love of your life and having his babies is ideal but to state with absolute authority that lives are undoubtedly is a bit heavy handed.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 01:43 AM
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Possibly. I'm not much on conspiracy theories but IMHO there's plenty of reasons against it [researching the root causes of positive outcomes in single parent households]. To expand on your point a little, let's think of general interest. Who cares about this study? Not many. Hapoy households are not a problem. Happy, well-provided for children (not on welfare etc.) are not a problem; and research typically seeks the answer to a problem or to magnify a beneficial phenemenon. Who the heck wants t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 01:35 AM
2

I concede your points, as I don't think you're wrong and you should always take everything you read with a heavy dose of salt, but there simply aren't many studies on this topic in the first place. Of course the sample size is small. Most studies of single mothers are referring to unplanned pregnancies by unmarried women. Not women who specifically prepared (in a total lifestyle manner) and intentionally had a child without an SO. And this is because most pregnancies likely are, in fact, unplann…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 09:58 PM
1

Absolutely. Here you go. I will emphasize that the women studied actively chose motherhood. From my understanding these were intentional pregnancies without a biological father present, but that the women and children involved had large social support networks and access to all kinds of resources. Unplanned pregnancies to single mothers (who may or may not stay with the father) are an entirely different animal. Edit: Phrasing.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 08:34 PM
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I agree, with caution. I'm considering this as part of my "in the next ten years" backup plan. However, you really need to be prepared financially, emotionally, socially, and have a ready support network preferrably with at least one reliable male role model. It's not ideal, but statistically "Choice Children" do just about as well as kids in two parent households. That said, single parent adoption is an option too. Ready made kid with none of the physical side effects? Sign me up.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 05:00 PM
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I agree. And if this were me, this would 100% be a deal breaker. I would honestly rather be alone than with a man who cares so much my appearance (stretch marks, seriously?) that he would deny my the experience of carrying my own child (assuming, as you are, that I was capable of doing so). As for his first condition, that's just a big, neon-flashing red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 02:21 AM
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As others have said: you can't negotiate attraction so don't bother trying. If it helps, I'm also a Black woman--a few years older than you--and I also lack strong attraction to Black men. I have always vastly preferred Caucasian and Asian men. There are some exceptions, of course, but I think growing up their attitudes and behavior just sort of put me off permanently.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 08:21 PM
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She's 25. Those pictures are already two years old. Either that or she's still online dating after two years. I dunno which is worse.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/18 09:43 AM
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As a woman, I can tell you that the pressure to be promiscuous is insanely high depending on your social MO. And it mostly comes from other women. The ones who wait get negged something awful about regretting not "finding themselves", being prudes, or being religious nuts. My interpretation of this is sour grapes. The older women have too much baggage to compete and are torn between despising the grapes above their head (commitment) and the younger ladies hanging on to their step stools (chastit…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/08/18 11:14 PM
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If you're serious, she's signaling that she smokes marijuana.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/07/18 09:47 PM
2

My mother would literally be at my door, bags packed, ready to move in before the end of our phone call if I so much as suggested I needed her help raising my children. It's a dream retirement/gig for her to take care of others and be taken care of in return without having to worry about anything else. I'm baffled by the feminist idea that you can be anything and anyone you want, but not a SAHM/domestic helpmeet because that's oppressive. Is it so hard to believe that some women genuinely just w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/07/18 09:59 PM
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Asian culture don't care about your feelings--they're a collectivist culture and fat shame hardcore. To your face. Any time. Any place. Especially the women. Also, disabled? Nope. They're very, very touchy about "bad genes". I'm not saying it's impossible to find an outlier dude, but she needs to move overseas and hit critical mass if she expects this to happen.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/07/18 07:04 PM
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I'm not sure what the majority opinion here is, but as someone with significant assets I wouldn't mind. In fact, I may just request one myself should I ever become engaged. On the off-chance things go horribly south I'd rather not be stuck paying (a rather large) amount of palimony. I'd just want it to be over and move on. That said, actual execution would depend on my partner's wishes and whether or not either one of us considers it a dealbreaker or not.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 03:43 PM
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How do you have 10 children and it just "doesn't work out"? Lady, your "I'm not happy" out-clause ended at least seven or more pregnancies ago.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/07/18 06:59 AM
1

Huh. What do you know. x3
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 06:47 PM
1

Got it. 👌🏽
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 06:18 PM
1

Heh. Is that the answer to the first question or the second?
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 05:45 PM
1

I have the same question as everyone else! I'm chronically single, but go on the occasional date. Is my "guy" someone I've already met or someone I've yet to meet?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 03:27 PM
10

My first thought was "oh no, not the girls!" Why? Just why?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/05/18 08:41 PM
6

That distinct, rambling style of writing is actually indicative of several psychological disorders. She might just be "normal" psycho, but there could also honestly be something wrong with her. My best, educated guess (without more context) is that she's off her meds.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/18 07:07 AM
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This exact thing happened to a male relative of mine. High school/college sweetheart calls him up out the blue after ten years. They hook up and he doesn't use protection because "she's not able to have kids". Disappears for three months and shows up again right after the termination deadline telling him she's pregnant. She doesn't care what he wants (his one child with another woman was nearly grown at this point), he's the father. Several misadventures later, he almost marries her, lucks out w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/05/18 03:20 AM
1

She's both right and wrong. Mostly wrong, however. You can be heavy and carry weight well depending on your genetics, eating habits, and lifestyle. A friend of mine is built like a brick: a little over 5' and around 170lbs but she's a size 6. You'd never guess unless you asked. She doesn't bring it up because she doesn't want to be associated with this nonsense. She also works out 5 days a week and tracks her calories. This is not most women, however.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/05/18 01:58 PM
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It's a group of six Caucasian women and one ambiguously brown woman (who doesn't speak) echo-chambering each other's questionable decisions. The first bit is them talking about passion being more important than earning money, the second bit is about dating and how they want their man to treat them like princesses (not damsels shamed over spending all his money) and buy them things but keep all their own cash for themselves, essentially. "I'm like... total feminist but I'm like, I'm also traditio…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/18 08:40 PM
1

sigh A fupa.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/18 12:09 AM
1

Good. Make an example of her.
/r/MensRights19/09/17 02:38 PM
5

Not much, honestly. I had one-itis the entire four years and frittered away my time pining after him. Not that I ever had a chance. I was an awkward, painfully shy, overweight nice girl. Turns out I was/am just a super, super late bloomer. We're talking 22ish. I'm 25 now and having guys flirt with me still feels bizarre as hell.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 11:55 PM
2

That's true. The woman was clearly... well, I know a few of these types of women in RL. The 'break your windows and key your car' set. They're not emotionally well. In this case, however, I saw it as a woman who already had poor coping/communication skills (not absolving her of guilt) being pushed into sabotaging her relationship by a so-called friend. I can't say for sure what the friend told her but it probably wasn't "I saw x at y bar with a woman I don't know, you should check on this". It w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 03:39 PM
1

No links found. Television. Season 2, episode 11.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 03:17 PM
1

No links, unfortunately. It's season 2, episode 11 of Supreme Justice.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 03:16 PM
1

The stories are undoubtedly exaggerated but probably "real". There was a Judge Judy participant on Reddit the other day and she mentioned them coaching her to "act out" on television to spice things up. The case, however, was real and had already been filed in a normal small claims court. They have a team that goes around just reading files and picks out the juiciest/most interesting ones to invite them on.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 02:55 PM
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I don't "believe in" divorce. That said, I find sexual infidelity so awful, so destructive to the foundations of a relationship (trust, loyalty, honesty) that it'd be a wash for me. I'd never be able to see him leave the house without wondering. He could never be late without me thinking he's with her. Every time we had a disagreement I'd likely bring it up. Everyone involved in that would be miserable. So personally, for me, it's an instant Game Over. I know for a fact I'm just not forgiving en…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 11:44 PM
1

I run about 5K 2-3 times per week and strength train on alternate days. I work in sets of 12x4 or 6x5 and mix it up depending on what hurts and how much time I have. I gym because being home makes me lazy. I've been lazy. That's how I originally got fat. I like how I feel now, I like how I look now, and I need to maintain it. The staples are: 10-30 minutes cardio (sometimes I skip if I'm in a rush) Curls (Barbell or Dumbbell) Triceps extensions Chest Presses Pushups Situps Squats When I absolute…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 04:58 PM
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Oh! No harm done. The Internet doesn't convey tone well. My apologies as well for being a knucklehead. =3 I got a sudden rush of downvotes (that seem to have vanished) and assumed people were taking that as some kind of justification. It was more of a 'if you must x at least y' statement.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 05:11 AM
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I fear you misunderstand me. I meant that it was more predictable, not that it was somehow correct or otherwise encouragable behavior. =_= No need to be rude.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 03:29 AM
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I think it was more that he seemed to be some kind of beta loser than his specifically being short. At least there's some kind of logic to a 8-9 being sucked into the CC for an Alpha.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 01:19 AM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 01:18 AM
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This was pretty much my first thought. As soon as I read: 'But my friends--!!' I immediately thought of the whole DUFF dynamic. By keeping her dowdy and around the rest of the female flock can make themselves more attractive by comparison and have something to lord over/gloat about when she's not around. They may not be as accomplished as she is but look, she can't get a man! Teehee!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 12:18 AM
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I've heard that too. It's almost like pregnancy is some kind of brutal, inevitable murder of the art of self-care/femininity. How about just eating more than the allotted 200-300 extra calories each day while eating well, exercising, and taking vitamins? The extra weight should (more or less) melt right off, especially if you breastfeed. Nine months on, eighteen off seems fair even in the most difficult of pregnancies.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 02:31 AM
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Agreed. Last year I ran into one of my neighbors who is at least 100+ pounds overweight. I was in the process of dropping a large amount of weight myself. As we talked about diets (as in natural diet, not the colloquial 'dieting') she ended up admitting that she didn't bother sticking to her plan all the time. Why bother? She was an older woman who 'couldn't really lose weight' and she'd had five kids. I was annoyed and insisted she was wrong. I've seen pictures of women who look phenomenal afte…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 05:50 PM
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Jesus. -sigh- This reminds of the video from /u/girlwriteswhat that I saw a few days ago. It basically posited that feminists are fundamentally lying about what they want because for women to be truly to men equal we have to be willing to give up our feminine privilege. It is a feminine privilege that people care, deeply, when a woman has been sexually assaulted. When we have been hurt and violated. (Male on male rape or DV is usually posited as "funny" or "emasculating".) To abuse that protecti…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/15 09:19 PM
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Exactly. Their hamsters are running extra hard not to make them feel bad. I went through the same thing in college. "You'll never make it out a virgin! No one does! It'll just happen on accident!" Thank God I never found myself in a position where I just happened to be naked and slipped and fell onto an (also naked) man's penis. Keep sharp, those banana peels are tricky.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 04:34 AM
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Are you referring to page 18 in this book? I thought that it was pretty impressive that of women who were virgins at marriage 80% had a "stable marriage" (defined by 5 or more years of marriage to the same partner and remaining married at the time of study).
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 04:30 AM
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“It’s a scientific fact that sex is a primarily biological matter for boys in their teens to early twenties. They are driven by bodily instincts first, feelings second. For girls on the other hand, sex is an emotional matter first, a physical matter second.” This one. I spoke to my father earlier today and during the course of the discussion (about single mothers and dating in general) he essentially let on (politely and articulately) that in his younger days it didn't really matter whether the …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/15 06:35 AM
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I can hear the hamster squeaking from here. It's like she has no idea what she's on about. /s RPW having no ambitions? No dreams and no life? Seriously? It's like she just picked a generic third-wave feminist argument, aimed at some random sub, filled in the blanks and fired.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/15 01:10 AM
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I'm from PA (United States), early 20's, Agnostic, Brown. I grew up in a tumultuous household where there was a lot going on that I never quite understood until I became older and even then I only understood it "in full" when I came across the Red Pill. The short version is that on one side it was just one long series of events and chain reactions to the women in my family banging their heads against all things feminine and gentle while men fled from them. On the other, the men were happily spin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 06:42 AM
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Ditto. That is so true nowadays, it's downright horrific.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 06:23 AM
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I recently made the conversion to cloth pads myself. I am so much more comfortable on my cycles now. None of the "diaper" feeling or bulk and they're reusable so money on pads and tampons. =3 And staining hasn't been an issue for me yet either. I use Buncha Farmers stain stick and it comes right out. The so-called "ick" factor with handling your own blood goes away within the first day or so. Just my experience, for anyone who was on the fence.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/15 09:27 PM
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Seriously, if you're not comfortable with it (and really, you probably shouldn't be), don't do it. We/You already know what can/will happen and it'll suck. Just don't. The sexual marketplace is already messed up as it is, don't let yourself get caught in the nonsense. My rule for pictures of any kind? Clothes on, tits in, smile up. =3
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/15 08:59 PM
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I don't know if awareness of hypergamy has made my life better but it certainly hasn't made it worse. If anything I'm now more conscious of why I feel compelled to do or say certain things when interacting with the opposite sex. It's also helped screen out a suitor who, although sweet and well-intentioned (I think), just didn't do it for me. In the past I would have wanted to give it a chance but learning what I have from these lovely ladies I knew it would be uncharitable to give him hope when …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/14 03:14 AM
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That's adorable and a win/win for both sides. <3 Happy birthday!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/14 05:27 PM
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In my personal experience my interactions with larger women are either really positive ("They really do have a good personality!") or really terrible ("What the hell is wrong with this person?"). There's rarely much in between. Oddly enough, it seems to scale with weight too. I've noticed the larger of the large women are more likely to be a lot louder, speak crassly, behave inappropriately, dress oddly and do strange things with their hair. The cattiness is unbelievable too when they encounter/…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/14 03:30 AM
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I rarely wear pantyhose but I have a ridiculous number of pairs of tights in a bunch of different colors and patterns. I think they're cute, youthful, and they help preserve my modesty in dresses and skirts while keeping my legs warm.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 08:59 PM
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Does this mean I can finally stop stifling my horror when my much more hair-fortunate associates cut their waist long locks off up to their ears while I struggle to get mine past my shoulders? Ingrates. But in all seriousness, I've never understood why pixie cuts are considered attractive. As stated before, the only compliment you can really give to a woman with one is that she looks as good, not better, than she did with longer, well-kept hair.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 09:53 PM
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What the... what? WHY?! ._.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 03:04 AM
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It doesn't even stop once you've lost weight if you haven't been naturally thin from childhood. I went from a size 14/16 to an 8/10 over the past year and a half. You'd think people would be happy but I actually got a lot of comments about how I was losing too much, how I was too skinny now, that I needed to eat some meat etc. To OP and RoseSausage: people are always going to find something to nitpick at with you, especially your appearance. Just try to look your best and, as advised, smile and …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/14 10:30 PM
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Believe it or not there are men, not boys, who will date you, love you and be prepared to cherish you for the rest of your life without you having to 'give it up' before you're ready. (Sex before even dating? I don't even...) They're hard as hell to find but they're definitely out there, dodging low-SMV women and maybe even spinning plates while they wait for Miss Right. Wait as long as YOU want. Do not sleep with a guy simply because you feel you have to or you might lose him or because you fee…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/14 08:04 PM
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I understand and agree that would be horrible, yes, and if the shoe were on the other foot of either gender I would indeed be upset to a certain degree. I suppose it's not the tests I feel a little confused about (genetic counseling, fertility tests and general blood work are a good thing to have done before marriage, of course) but the idea that he might have chosen not to marry the love of his life because she couldn't have children. It would be different if it were the beginning of the relati…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/14 07:17 PM
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I'm still young enough to remember playing outside and slowly watching as fewer and fewer peers showed up at the park as time went on. I think the world has become a much more risky place in general combined with the demands of the economy (need two parents' income). What strikes me as most messed up about the whole thing is that eventually I wasn't allowed to play outside indiscriminately anymore after a while because the kids that DID come out were generally very poorly parented, if their pare…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/14 11:33 PM
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I'm curious. This was a positive experience, these conversations and tests, yes? I'm kind of reading this in my head in a way that would have caused me to run for the hills if I were the woman in this scenario. That part about him expecting you to get pregnant FIRST is kind of a scary demand in my humble opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/14 11:24 PM
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Indeed. And unfortunately he's much more likely to erm, "get laid" once he downloads their dogma which leads to the viscous cycle of confirmation bias that women don't actually want decent, nice guys but assholes get all the play they want.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/14 09:55 PM
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Yup. The man not only sued but he did indeed win. The woman, from the before and after pictures shown, looked NOTHING like herself by the time he married her. Honestly, I can't even blame the guy. That was out and out fraud.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/14 09:51 PM
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Agreed. It has nothing to do with gender (although I think for men the number of women's sexually partners tends to have a lot more bearing on how they look at them) because any decent woman would be daunted by a man who had up to RECENTLY been partying, drinking, doing drugs, sleeping with random dudes and, I reverse-gender quote, having been: "on all four[s] with dicks vaginas of completely random guys chicks in her his mouth". That's gross. Just gross. If he's honestly having doubts he needs …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/14 08:33 PM
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That's actually a really interesting list. I can just imagine some of my hardcore feminist friends seeing it, however. I'd lose my 'empowered woman' card just for reading it and they'd send someone to repo my vagina.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/14 11:48 PM
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Hello. I'm 22 years old, 23 late this summer, and single. I found out about this sub after stumbling across TRP a few months ago and coming back to check out an article a male friend made reference to in one of our conversations about how to properly manage a marriage. It was interesting 'seeing the world' from a man's perspective and really, a lot of it was just common sense in my eyes, if a bit harsh and blunt. I wondered if there was a sub for women who subscribed to the values of modesty and…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/14 07:36 PM
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