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Time and years of practice and mistakes.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 05:17 AM
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Telling about your goals is completely counterproductive because : It's approval seeking : you want to be sure people approve. Who cares. If that's what you want to do, then do it. It creates obstacles : as soon as you've stated your intentions, you'll have people trying to stop or discourage you especially if it's something you're not used to do, or if it's fun, or if they're just jealous because their life sucks. It creates expectations : if finally, for whatever reason, you don't do it, you'l…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 07:55 PM
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Failure. Meet new women, embarass yourself, fail big, and survive. Next time you'll be better. It's like lifting. You know you progress when you fail to complete one set. You found your limit. Then push through it. Do it thoroughly and soon you're able to lift weights others can't. It works for your job too : I took on a ridiculously hard challenge, worked my ass off, succeeded despite the odds after some major failures (which I learned a lot from), and now every main player in that game wants t…
/r/askMRP21/06/18 07:03 PM
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OI comes from abundance. You depend on her to have sex. That's the problem. When you reach the point where you don't need her to get sex, because you can get from someone else with low effort, then your reach OI.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 04:36 PM
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Stop the negative self talk.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 10:49 AM
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If behaving like this is so internalized, what’s a good strategy to remind yourself not to fuck this up by acting the same way you always have? STFU is the best strategy ever.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 12:28 PM
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I had a non negilgeable inheritance a few years ago, and it's not a marital asset (and I keep it that way). I told my wife that we didn't need that money and it would be for the kids when they need it. Never touched it and it keep growing because it's for the kids. Note that I live in France and laws are different.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 02:00 PM
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I dunno, it's almost as if they're intentionally trying to degenerate society. Yeah, that's called a shit test. Society is currently failing a major shit test...
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 11:00 AM
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Lying is when you say something you know to be false. There are liars in this domain, but you probably never encountered them. You where thaught this by people who are genuinely stupid and oblivious to the Red Pill mindset. Welcome to Idiocracy
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 08:30 AM
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Mike Cernovich podcast (gorilla mindset) is a bit old (a few years, and quite dead for more than a year), but contains small actionable ideas. Worth going through it. Some of his podcast are a bit corny, but that's OK. It's actionable, and you need to do things, not only to listen to others talking about what they have done.
/r/askMRP29/05/18 04:50 AM
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If your wife told you that she prefers to have sex with another man because she cares about equity and he hasn't had sex in years, you would divorce and find a better wife. If you're as good as you say, then find another company who will acknowledge your skills and pay for it, but stop whining. You lack abundance.
/r/askMRP26/05/18 08:43 AM
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Women are like guns : always handle them as if they were loaded. It depends on the circumstances, on what you do, but ALL women can be like that, like all guns can be loaded, and unicorns don't exist.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 05:03 PM
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I don't see the guys here as a competition (and it isn't competition, I live in France). It's just not rational to create more competition. And the very existence of this place is still mind boggling from a rational perspective. The only rational reason I can see is because those posting here need answers, but can't discuss it with their real life friends because it would create close competition.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 06:24 AM
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I have been on the NMMNG official forum for years. Last summer I was still posting on it and was among the seniors with good insights and was proud of where I was in my life and marriage considering where I had started. I finally gave it up, because I was feeling it was a complete waste of time and I wasn't getting anything to better my life anymore. And that's why I came here because I had many other things to learn (and some to unlearn). And yes, the psychological stuff is interesting (and tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 06:02 AM
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Sometimes I do, and that's one of the reasons I'm here. But it comes from a lack of abundance. If I had true abundance, I wouldn't be here at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 05:51 AM
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Actually, less makes my life even easier. You’re my competition. So keep lifting weights and getting duty sex. When my wife gives you an IOI tomorrow and you’re gleefully enjoying the euphoria of abundance mentality, I’ll be at home fucking her brains out. Tomorrow, I’ll set my eyes on your wife. And while she’s swallowing my dick, I’m glad you’re home cleaning the garage, doing her dishes, and taking care of everything else. I’d hate for her to have to leave early. I like taking my time. This i…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 06:10 PM
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Good question to add, indeed. I work with men on a daily basis (and sometimes women, but that's rare), and some of them are friends. I have Krav Maga with mostly men, and some are friends too, but I don't hang out with friends very often (I did it a few months ago, but all of them are as busy as I am). I recently had a guy's trip with my best friend for a whole week. Was great. But besides this, I rarely hang out with good friends just to chill out.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 02:51 PM
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It is. Well, OK, it is. I guess I should read and practice again the first chapter of Gorilla Mindset. Pro gamers have groupies. I don't want a hobby because it brings me groupies. I want hobbies I really enjoy and spending time on it I don't regret. I already have some, but not to the level I want. This has more to do with you than with your hobbies. Precisely. That's what this OYS helped me figure out.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 05:56 AM
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Good call from both you and and /u/redbeaux. Let me explain. When I say I'm a slow learner, it's just a fact, it's not negative talk. I've been at it for years (discovered NMMNG more than 10 years ago...). I made steady progress but I've been at it for 10 years now, and I'm far from where I want to be. When I say it'll take at least 12 months, it's quite optimistic : I don't want to delude myself. About hobbies. It's just loser's hobbies, because I think I have far better things to do than those…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:29 PM
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OYS Week 20 Why I didn't post I stopped posting in OYS in mid december. I considered it was becoming an empty habit and I wasn't fully honest, nor did I have the will to keep digging on a weekly basis. I decided to take a step back and think things through, and doing things on the side to get out of my head. A few things have changed (like having my wife completely craving my dick just because I wasn't home for one week), but most are still work in progress (with Why I post today I stumbled acro…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 08:36 AM
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I'm glad he fucked you good. Not so good apparently, since OP thinks he's better...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 05:54 PM
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Frame is the difference. One is confident and will approach and make eye contact and use kino, but won't talk much because he's comfortable doing so. The other will not approach or do it awkwardly and will have nothing to say. One is silent because he wants to. The other because it's his sole option.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 09:21 AM
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Just remember that what you have done here is behind you and that you won't be able to use it as an excuse for your future failures ("remember what I did for you"), and that you won't get anything for it either. As Rollo says, hypergamy doesn't care.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 10:05 PM
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A general rule of thumb is to give your girl 2/3 of what she gives you. What did she do to deserve this ?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 08:02 PM
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If you don't tell him, then you know things he doesn't about his relationship. Is he really your friend ? If you tell him, he won't probably be your friend anymore and he won't believe you. There are two things here : Trying to "rescue" your friend will make you drown. Don't tell him what to do, don't tell him about TRP, and be very careful about what you say to him if you say anything You can thank your plate for this mess she put you in. Next her, she's just a plate.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 06:52 PM
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Holy shit ! You're a mess ! It's not about getting a good life, it's about stopping to have a miserable life. If you want to stop being miserable, then stop doing what makes you miserable. It's not about doing good things. It's just about stopping doing crap. Stop drinking Stop whining Stop... many things
/r/askMRP07/02/18 02:48 PM
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Ok so she told me I couldn't have the trainer I wanted because she is a woman. [...] She had the same male trainer as me for a year. She's fucking him, that why she said that to you, because she knows how it can evolve. Trying to read everything here but it's exhausting. I just need some advice on how to deal with the present jealousy situation and any other advice around this whole damn thing. No, you want a shortcut, and here it is : there is no shortcut, do the work.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 08:25 AM
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She, her, she ,her... You're completely in her frame. She sees you as a beta provider who has no social proof and who should walk the dog (whatever the changes you recently made), she has red flags... Then you feel butthurt (see the post on MRP for more about this), and you're sad because she does not love you "as you are"... Have you read the sidebar ? Why are you even with her if you're not married and don't have kids ? Yes, you sound really insecure and as if you don't have abundance.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 08:44 PM
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It's been years since I did anything for Valentine's day. No gift, no restaurant, no special treatment, nothing. And my wife never complains (she thinks Valentine's day is for bland people). Moreover, for Christmas and her birthday, I only offer things I chose or that have an utility and will improve her life (or mine, like lingerie). We have our own date in February (an anniversary), and we hang out, together. No gifts, just enjoying each other without the kids.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 03:49 PM
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It's called own your shit, not hide your shit. You don't own what you did, you just try to hide it, because you don't own it, and you're ashamed. That's a lack in your frame. You probably read it already, but it's worth reading again Persaeus involuntary Dread Level 12.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 08:36 AM
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That reminds me of what happened to my best friend. The story is really fucked up, and way worse than yours. The girl was indeed completely fucked up. He wanted to take her back, and asked me what I thought. I was then in my purple days (not blue pille anymore, but I hadn't grasped the full meaning of TRP). I simply told him that it would be a problem for me, that I didn't want my wife, my kids or me around this bitch, even just once a year. I told him she was unhealthy as fuck. My answer shocke…
/r/TheRedPill29/01/18 09:09 AM
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Problem is I'm thinking "this could be my mission, but will it make me more attractive?" Maybe you should think about your mission as something you want to do, not something you want to get, to have or to become. Looking at your mission as a process, not a goal, might help.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 03:06 PM
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You apologized to her for looking at her sexually or touching her. Maybe you should have apologized for "forcing" her to slap you, it would have been even more unattractive... You don't own your sexuality, you are needy, maybe because you don't have options besides her, or maybe you don't have better things to do (your wife should not be your mission). You have lot of work to do. Work and slowly improving dread (BPP's book should be mandatory).
/r/askMRP26/01/18 02:27 PM
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She, she, she... You're completely in her frame : work on your outcome independence.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 02:52 PM
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You're wondering what to do based on what you think her reaction will be. You're completely in her frame. Don't overthink it, do what you want to do, and own it (STFU, AA, AM).
/r/askMRP12/01/18 07:10 AM
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Make those decisions as if you were single : don't wear clothes that don't fit or that you don't like, and buy your own clothes. My wife has stopped buying me clothes a while ago when I told her to bring back a gift that didn't fit and that was definitely not my style, but the style I had years ago. She tried to pick up a fight by saying "I always ask you about what I wear and listen to your advice. Why don't you do the same ?", and I answered "That's because my body's mine, and your body's mine…
/r/askMRP12/01/18 06:59 AM
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It's kind of refreshing to have only quality posts here. Please don't unlock it too soon. Let that sink in. It'll give time to those who curse you for doing that to read those reposts and then see what a quality post is.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/18 04:12 PM
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I am just getting started. Exactly : you're two weeks in and you expect her to behave as if you had been like this all your life. You should read /u/BluePillProfessor 's book, he really insists on how long it takes. And before changing everything : frame. If you have no frame, every improvement is built on sand.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 02:54 PM
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I struggled (and I'm still struggling sometimes) about this too. I rarely talk about my work, only when there's a major event. At home, in the past few months, I almost completely stopped talking about what I had done, what I was doing, or what I intended to do (slipped some times, but not often). This is just the very core of STFU. The trick I use before doing something is "Would I do it if I lived alone" ? If yes, I do it and I STFU about it, because it needed to be done. I shall confess that …
/r/askMRP10/01/18 12:31 PM
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A couple things here. First for your abandonment issues, therapy can be really useful, and reading "The truth" by Neil Strauss can help you have a grasp on what it takes to overcome it. Maybe you could also read "Taming Your Outer Child" by Susan Anderson, to help getting over it. Second : she said she loves you because your make her feel emotions (maybe it's you or maybe she's really high on neuroticism and always feel negative emotions). Until now, the main emotion she felt was fear. For your …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 01:57 PM
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Mike Cernovich has wonderful tools for that in the first chapters of "Gorilla Mindset". Among those, when you have those thoughts, just get yourself in front of a mirror or record yourself with your phone's camera and let those voices get out. Seeing and hearing it makes a huge difference...
/r/askTRP09/01/18 07:49 AM
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Your first post about this surprised me and I wasn't sure how to think about it. I understood the concerns of others and how it could backfire, but I thought that having your wife as wingman showed how much you had progressed, and it could work if you had a strong frame.. But in this post, I have the feeling that you're completely in her frame. She authorized you to have "affairs", she decides you're getting a hooker... It's not about involving her : it's about getting her approval...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 07:24 AM
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Manipulative, sneaky, dis-honest (withhold a lot of info)... And you're surprised she does not trust you ? After reading NMMNG (gonna reread), I feel like this is a great way to start 2018. I’ve mentioned this to her, that things are going to change with family and myself. After hearing that, be certain that she trusts you even less than before. Women talk, men do. Shut The Fuck Up and Lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 10:43 AM
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Definitely, because Frame is the confidence you have in how you view the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/17 10:13 AM
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Neo: All right, no problem. Free my mind. Free my mind. All right. Neo jumps, and falls. Mouse: Wha...what does that mean? Switch: It doesn't mean anything. Cypher: Everybody falls the first time. Right, Trin?
/r/askMRP20/12/17 02:28 PM
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Went on the NoFap forum (some are note fans of NoFap, but in my case, it was helpful), read a lot on how others did it, did the same. First step : use a porn blocker, like K-9 or Open DNS. And read everything you can find on "Your Brain On Porn".
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 08:58 AM
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also to be brutally honest i have an issue with jacking off and porn that i dont know how to handle and its embarassing and weak that i cant kick the habit. going through top posts like 2guns where he says "i saw it as weak and stopped doing it" makes me wish it was a non-issue for me to that extent too. i know its not good for my brain and i dont want to waste time. To be brutally honest, having gone through this (porn and fap addict for 15 years), wishing it wasn't an issue is pointless and is…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 10:40 AM
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I think its because of my poor ankle mobility since I'm lifting my heels when I'm squatting. Have researched this and its time to work on my stretch. I love to squat so I need to fix this anke mobility issue. Not good. What kind of shoes do you use ? Lifting shoes can help in this case.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 12:16 PM
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OYS Week 19 Pulling my head out of my ass I've had the feeling for some time (6 months) that I was going in circles. My last OYS showed me why. I wasn't really Owning My Shit (again). Moreover, anxiety and avoidance are at the core of the problem. I already know I am high on neuroticism, but fortunaltely also high on conscientiousness. Jordan B Peterson explained in one of his videos that conscientiousness could help a lot to face anxiety. The caveat is that anxiety comes from a lack of control …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 08:34 AM
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That's the conclusion I came to after u/GargantuaBlarg29's post. I didn't Own My Shit on this part. Truth is : it was boring because I was boring (not bored). I behaved as a whiny kid when I should have been the man in charge.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 08:23 AM
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What you wrote here is the very reason why I try to OMS every week. To get a feedback that'll help me understanding and breaking through what is holding me back. You got me a lot to think about and to work on. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:42 PM
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Hmmm... You're right. It does not make sense... Let me rephrase it and be more precise. I couldn't get out with the kids (kid sick), and had to take care of him on Sunday, despite the fact that he had (like his brothers) a scout gathering planned. Saturday was boring (at home). Sunday was good when I was alone with the little one (he's really a fun little fellow), despite the fact that I couldn't do what I had planned since I had to take care of him. The rest of the Sunday was boring. The genera…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:30 PM
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Good call. I already started small a few weeks ago with Story Time I do every evening. They like it. My problem is not effort (I can put things in without a problem, I'm considered a hard worker). My problem is anxiety and control. I have high anxiety on outcomes I can't control. I don't have problem to plan things with them, but this time, one was sick.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:06 PM
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I have read some of those, but I find Sex God Method far more powerful and accessible.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:01 PM
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One of my kids was sick. The two others went to a Scout Gathering, and he should have. In fact the day I spent alone with the little one was a good day.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 03:59 PM
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Anxiety is all my life. It's my nemesis and I've been struggling with it for most of my life. I'm addressing those bit by bit. Frame and sex are part of it. I have anxiety linked to sex, and I want to learn to let myself go. Frame is because I have a weak frame caused by anxiety. I can't handle all my anxiety (I'm very high on neuroticism), but I can proceed it one step at a time. Thanks for the positive framing of a new habit instead of a bad habit. I'll work on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 03:57 PM
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OK, so you want her to "just get it" without having been a slut before... How can she get where you want if you don't lead her ? That's your job, and if you don't lead, she'll become sooner or later either somebody else's slut, or sad and frustrated. Have you read Sex God Method ? Have you read the Creating your slut post by Family Alpha ?
/r/askMRP05/12/17 09:57 AM
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OYS Week 18 General overview What does OYS mean ? I tried to answer that question in u/Senor_Martillo OYS last week : "OYS is about acknowledging your problems and working on it". Then I asked myself two questions : What are the problems I'm not acknowledging right now ? What are the problems I think I have acknowledeged but I'm not working on ? That's the reason why I post in OYS, and not only about me : it helps to get feedback and gain clarity on myself by trying to find my shortcomings in ot…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 08:37 AM
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Very good point. I think I know where it comes from, but it's worth digging. Thanks again.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 04:27 PM
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Consider why "you're not into this kind of thing". Fellow reformed introvert here. I'm now convinced "introvert" is mostly "just be yourself" hamster for i'm scared of being judged by others Everything you say is the very reason I went to it. My wife was surprised, she expected I would stay at home with the kids, but I wanted some practice. between the above comment and "week 17" (LOL); I would recommend you focus on walking before you try out for the 4x400. Week 17 of OYS, not of dread. I've be…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 06:45 AM
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If you have a strong and interesting Frame, other people are eager to submit to it. So two questions for you : How does that "Freedom" make you unique and how does it show in your life ? What does that "Freedom" bring to others that make them want to enter your Frame ?
/r/askTRP30/11/17 03:45 PM
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And what do you want ?
/r/askTRP30/11/17 03:22 PM
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What about your Frame ? What is your mission ? As Rollo said : Frame is everything. And it seems like you upgraded yourself in every way, but with no purpose, and your Frame is precisely what you wrote here : "I am a loser". You let others define your worth. You should define that : that's what being your mental point of origin means.
/r/askTRP30/11/17 02:50 PM
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we both have oneitis for each other Do not imagine you know what she thinks. You hope/think that's what she thinks, but you will never know for sure.
/r/askMRP30/11/17 09:50 AM
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Women don't dread : they branch swing. Your woman can't use dread, because you won't feel dread if you have an abundance mentality and are ready to leave (the stay plan is the go plan, remember that). Dread works on people who are afraid to lose something. What can you do to prevent it besides becoming the best version of yourself ? If she wants to cheat, she will, whatever you do.
/r/askMRP30/11/17 06:32 AM
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Alcohol and its effect on you is not the core of problem (it is a problem, but not the core) : addiction is. 2 drinks a day sounds like a way to feel good about yourself and not find out if you can go without it. OYS is about acknowledging your problems and working on it. It seems like you're trying to avoid the only way to acknowledge this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 03:53 PM
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Feel free to suggest alternatives You know them, dont act as if you didn't. You always knew them, you're just afraid. To be entirely frank, Are you ? With yourself ? Every friend of mine who has gone completely tee-total has become a boring fuck who never goes out, doesn't come on rides, avoids social engagement, And so will you ? Tynan (google him) is a former PUA (he's the Herbal character in "The Game"), and has one of the funniest lives I know, and drinks only tea. If you decide you're only …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 08:42 AM
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OYS Week 17 General overview Week went by without noticing it, and without being able to remember if I did anything important and useful. Probably because I didn't... Felt empty part of the week. Been busy, of course, but empty. If I compare where I am now to where I was 4-5 years ago, I have the feeling I slipped back to some old habits on some parts (not all). I've been working a lot on Frame. "Frame Control", by George Hutton is a good book on Frame, with plenty of exercises, and I started to…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 08:32 AM
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Lifting: Just getting started, have no idea what I'm doing. Ordered weights and weight bench, will set them up in basement when they arrive this week. Going to start with stronglifts 5x5 and also walking because I'm a fat fuck. If you're just starting, focus on very few things, since you're doing it alone : - learn proper form : make a video of your lifts, ask for advice based on those videos, what videos on the tips on proper form, and to ensure you have proper form, start with very light weigh…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 09:58 AM
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That's exactly what I was thinking after replying to your message. Thanks for your advice, you got me to think about it in a different way.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 06:12 PM
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To be precise, it's not the kind of thing I expect on the long run, but it was good and I was tired and not up to more. Thus, in the moment, I did not consider it as breadcrumbs. If it was the sole thing she's willing to do in the long run, then no. But in the moment, I liked it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 04:47 PM
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No, I don't. It was OK because she had hurt herself and I was tired and didn't want to push for sex, but that's not what I expect.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 04:17 PM
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Good point. I'm already aware of this and I lack in leading on some parts at home, but I sometimes tend micromanage things (as I was doing it once at work). Frame is improving, leading has to improve. This is one of the reasons why the Self Authoring program is useful. It takes much time (and I have rewritten some parts more than once), but it helps clarify the mission. The reason why she is wasting time with a loser might be because of the validation it brings. Maybe she considers him as an orb…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 11:30 AM
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OYS Week 16 General overview Something very interesting happened this week. A contract I had established for apartnership had to be approved by a commission. The president of that commission is a perfect asshole. He has Alpha traits, but often appears as butthurt and complaions and lectures everyone about how great he is. He's just annoying, with a big Ego. 80% of my colleagues despise him (the ones who don't despise him are betas). He's also someone I despise and I had to fight against him twic…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 09:34 AM
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Hand job done slowly. More like a caress while cuddling.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 06:31 AM
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I understand what you say, and it makes sense, but I've been in friendships that were dragging me down. 15 years ago, I was blue pill, but I had a friend (my best friend at the time) who was even more blue pill than I was. He got involved with an unhealthy woman, full of lies. He stuck with her. I don't know what has happened to him, the relationship was unhealthy because their relationship was invading my life, so I shut up and took my distance. 7 years ago I had another friend (not the same as…
/r/askMRP17/11/17 02:07 PM
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That's a shit test, and you fail it as long as you're angry. She's testing your Frame to know if you know why you finally decided to do it, and it appears you didn't. STFU, because AA would not come from a place of confidence and any other response would feel butthurt.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 06:47 AM
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Expectation on the outcome is your problem. You don't do a thing because you enjoy them, but because you want something out of it. That's why you're butthurt. You still think that you'll get what you "think you want" (but what do you really want ?) by being Mr Perfect for Mrs Lazyfatass. Time to acknowledge you don't want to fuck her and that she does not deserve you. Start to do what you really want to do and DNGAF about what you don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 06:39 AM
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If he's really your best friend but still can do something as stupid as that, then maybe you should ask yourself questions about your friendships. Not only this one, but about all your friends : maybe you deserve healthier friends. Beyond all this, you should tell him the truth. Don't be judgmental, just tell him that it does not make sense, and nobody in his right mind plans to spend his whole life with someone he doesn't know (all he knows is what she told him, and you already know that you sh…
/r/askMRP14/11/17 03:22 PM
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You have a mindset problem. You're definitely in her Frame. My goal is to have her respect me What is her respect worth ? I guess she has a poor attitude and thus does not deserve respect herself, so her respect is worth shit. Trying to get her respect shows how much in her frame you are. She's still, in your eyes, the one who determines what's good or not. And she doesnt let me go out No : you're not letting yourself go out. It's your decision and she can't stop you from going out. You're just …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 01:28 PM
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Maybe you should consider BluePillProfessor podcast. It's free, and covers the basics. You also have podcasts with Rollo or others that you can find on the internet. It's easier to listen to a conversation than a monologue. Edit : about podcasts, I forgot to mention the Mike Cernovich podcast (Gorilla Mindset) which is really useful.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 10:06 AM
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OYS Week 15 General overview There has been an overall mindset change since my last OYS, last week. I DNGAF about many things and this has led me to change what I do. I'm not sure where it comes from, but working on Frame, my mindset, and things like this is probably what helped me. What has changed : I've been spending more time with my kids and I have started a "story time" with them just before bed. My daughter isn't part of it (she's 16), but my 3 boys are. I started with "Iron John". They l…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 08:45 AM
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Good. You just found out that money doesn't make your life better and that setting goals suck. It's the journey, not the destination, that matters. Why did you have this goal ? Why do you have the other goals (degree, weight loss) ? What are you trying to achieve ? And more importantly : what is your mission ? Remember, a mission is something you do, not something you get.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 03:10 PM
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Married 11 years, and youngest kid is 11. Is that your kid ? What about the other kids ? Would you marry her today if you were not married, knowing that she's useless (I don't even understand what a "good mother" means if she's a crappy example to your kids) ? What do you want your life to look like in 5 years ? She just told you to kill the marriage but does not want to have the guilt...
/r/askMRP10/11/17 11:02 AM
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Seems like you should think about a sex change, since your feelings are way more important than your reason...
/r/askMRP08/11/17 04:28 PM
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Here is what I see in your answers : you will not like it, because there's a lot you don't see. You are ready to move (huge decision) to keep a cheating wife and not be reminded that she cheated. What about the friend who told you about it. You'll lose a friendship too ? And how did that friend know ? How many friends will you get rid of to not remember that ? Will that even be sufficient. You don't know where you're going, you have no plan and don't know what you want in life. (and 4). You rais…
/r/askMRP08/11/17 04:22 PM
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A few questions, because nobody can answer that but you : What will life be with her and him around you ? He's your neighbor. She's your wife. You will live with them around. If both options look like shit, which is the one that will grant you what you really want in 10+ years ? Do you want kids of your own ? How do you see you marrying a single mother with your new red pill lens ? Do you believe her when she says she has never done it before ?
/r/askMRP08/11/17 03:31 PM
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It's even more than that : people wonder what you think about them, not the opposite.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 02:56 PM
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About toxic masculinity and mass shootings, I suggest you listen to Jocko Podcast 98 with Jordan B. Peterson. There's a part on it. Peterson is really mind blowing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 05:43 PM
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OYS Week 14 General overview Had some very interesting feedback last week from /u/Persaeus wich led me to think a lot about myself. I also came across a podcast with the two people I follow the most : Jocko Podcast with Jordan B. Peterson. Those two helped me to think a lot about myself and my mindset. That's why I like what Mike Cernovich does with Gorilla Mindset. It's all about my mindset and the limits I put on myself based on stupid shit I'm not even aware of. Acknowledging this, I decided …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 04:22 PM
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the biggest issue with your anger is that it's fundamentally a beta mindset driven by your scarcity in regard to the past . . . which if you think about it is gay as fuck. being angry at your old self (like when you were 10?) is poisoning your current and future yourself. so are you going to look back a year from now and say i missed opportunities in life because i was angry at my old self? This gets me a lot to think about, thanks. I rationally know that being angry is stupid and counterproduct…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 01:50 PM
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Yes, your OYS is filled with excuses, but that's great because here, you'll have a no BS feedback. That's what OYS is for : knowing where we stand. Remember the basics : Lift : if your do only one thing, it has to be this. It has been said time and time over, but it can't be emphasized enough. Focus on getting the workout done, thus you have to accept to start small if you've never lifted before. My biggest mistake was to have a perfectly built workout that I skipped, because it was too long, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 08:00 AM
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Thanks for those. The first post is interesting but I guess I already read it since it rings a bell and sounds like déjà-vu. The second post will be very useful since I never read it and it has very practical tools.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 07:35 AM
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I'm angry about missed life, missed opportunities because of a beta mindset (I changed it years ago, but not early enough). I'm also angry because I had a mostly red pill father, but I didn't listen to him enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 07:34 AM
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OYS Week 13 General overview OK, so many things happened. Not major things, but many little things, I give some details below, but the general feeling is that I got back on track and I had a lot to think about. It's just that I'm still not used to face shit all the time, knowing that it will be like this forever. I still have the bluepill belief that I can reach a "peaceful state". I'm starting to handle it better than I did in the past few weeks, but still not used to it. The bad Honestly, not …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 08:59 AM
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OYS Week 12 General overview I'm still very angry. Every time I am in a public space with women, I feel angry. I Have a lot of work to do to get over it, but I'm glad it's finally here and unavoidable. The bad Everything went worse than last week. I said last week that I don't want to be on track, and thus I wasn't. Lift : complete fail. I didn't do any workout this week, didn't run, didn't do anything. It felt good though. Sex : no sex. Porn, masturbation. I've gone completely out of control on…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:12 PM
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I don't think less of myself (I'm still lacking confidence, despite having improved it over the years), I take that as a good thing. The most important thing is knowing where I stand so I can go in the right direction to improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 05:39 AM
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One of the points of taking care of that part more than before is teaching my wife that discipline by showing her and making clear what I expect. It's not her fault, it's mine, and it has always been clear in my mind. Having said that, I'm not the only one who has to enforce discipline, because I'm not always here to do so. That's why there is a second officer. As a captain, I have to create the structure so that she can enforce discipline. That's where I Own My Shit. One of the objectives I hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 05:37 AM
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Their reaction to your instilling discipline seems very positive. I'm not sure they react to the discipline, maybe they are just reacting to my presence. Just being here makes a difference. I've worked far too much. The problem with discipline is that my wife is a nurturing mom and she does not know how to enforce discipline. Probably because she does not cultivate discipline on some aspects of her life. I don't mind much about my "bad points". It's just that I failed at many things and it's unu…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 01:02 PM
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On the take no shit stance, make sure it comes from a place of " I'm better than this it can't affect me" rather than "I'm protecting my ego." That's exactly what I have in mind. It's not about protecting my ego, it's about protecting my time. Thanks for the rolling hitch. It's not a knot I practiced, thus I will add it to my practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 12:54 PM
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OYS Week 11 General overview The overview is really simple : I think I regained part of my clarity, but I failed at almost everything I had planned. Maybe that's the real problem : I plan to much, I seek too much to be good and a "real alpha" (puke). I witnessed what others are doing around me, and it's obvious that my morality is an obstacle to my growth. I have hard time accepting that, and focusing on myself is a priority. The good Finished the project I was talking about last week. Huge succ…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 08:43 AM
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Nothing new in the strategies I used : K9 on all my devices : I never could get rid of it without it (the relapse occured while setting up a new computer...). Since then, I only have K9 on my main computer and don't need it for my phone. each time I want to fap, I do 20 pushups instead increasing the quality and quantity of real sex most importantly : work on my emotions (anxiety, fear, and many others) because I always fapped to get some kind of release The relapse is not a problem. I got it un…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 09:13 AM
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OYS Week 10 General fucking overview What's the point in owning your shit when it's not your shit ? That's the question that has been boggling me in the past few days. What pushed me to that point ? Was it meditation and mindfulness, exhaustion ? I don't know and I don't care. The fact is that I'm here, looking back at the 9 past OYS I posted here, and amazed by how clueless I can be. And before you ask, no, I did not discover that my wife was having an affair or something like this. There's no …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 08:53 AM
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I don't know how to handle your main problem, but here are two thoughts : She thinks you cheat and she "trains you to be single" : I wouldn't be surprised to discover she's the one cheating. Have you "ruled out" this one (for now) or is it just that you DGAF ? About withdrawing your time and attention, it's important it if your time and attention have value. What do you think the value of your time is in her eyes, why is she seeking it (that she can't find elsewhere) ? You mention improving on h…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 10:03 AM
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OYS Week 9 General overview Wife gets closer and closer. She's never been distant in the past few years, but she has fun with me, makes sexual jokes, and if she appears to be tired sometimes ('cause of her job), she's never bitchy. She has been in the past, but there have been some positive changes in the past few weeks. But it was a strange week. Many things happened : job is overwhelming and will be until the end of next week. I'm already tired beyond I thought and there are two weeks to go. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 09:44 AM
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I knew what a sloop and a ketch were (Bernard Moitessier's boat, "Joshua", was a ketch), but I didn't know the pros and cons besides what I read about it in Moitessier's books. That was a good one, thanks !
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 02:50 PM
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OYS Week 8 General overview It's surprising how an idea can take time to be completely understood. I've been into this for years. Several years on the NMMNG forums, MMSL forums, discovered the red pill about three years ago, but it was only last week that the "Mental point of origin" made its way to my understanding. Here is the part that struck me in Rollo's last week post : "I’m not the guy who’s going to give that to you, neither is that Purple Blue Pill life coach with the 12 point plan, nei…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 09:21 AM
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It has many benefits : It improves my environment I feel good about myself for having done those things It prevents forms pure thinking : it is applied thinking It's like gaming women : reading and thinking about it is nothing compared to talking to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 09:43 AM
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OYS Week 7 General overview OK. Facing problems and being back in the game is definitely what I needed. I had a hell of a week at work, but navigated through it and handled the problems with no procrastination and pretty well. Damn, I missed action. As Donedreadpirate said last week, I'm far too much into my head. Decided to change that and I'm being much more active and doing things with my hands instead of thinking too much about stupid things I can't control. Being too much into my head has a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 11:20 AM
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I'm still concerned because it can have an impact on my life and the lives of my kids. I tell myself that whatever happens I'll be OK. But yes, I'm still worried, and that's part of my overthinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 10:06 AM
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Woops. Forgot to mention this one... I keep going on this one, I'm far from having given up. It's a very long term goal (about 5 to 10 years), and I'm progressing slowly but steadily. Maybe I should articulate my OYS differently, with long term goals and more action. There's too much thinking in my OYS. I'm still practicing knots on a daily basis, and I've been learning about maps, and the use of VHF at sea. I'll receive a book on sailing next week ("Le cours de Glénans", which is a reference in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:49 PM
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You nailed it, and your post "do the work" really hit home with me. You described in it what I want to do but still struggle to do sometimes. I know I overthink far too much, and I need to live less in my head and much more in the real world. It's easy but it's hard...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 02:50 PM
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BMI obese. Currently 187cm at 102.5kg. Final goal is healthy BMI BMI doesn't mean shit. According to BMI, I am overweight. But my body fat is 13% and my abs are visible. Most of it is muscles. Maybe your body fat would be a better measurement.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:05 PM
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OYS Week 6 General overview Again, this week has been... meh... In fact Im' tired to game, to improve myself, and the old BP thought that "I want to be loved for who I am" comes again with its companions : despair and victimhood. I've gotten much better but the burden of performance takes a toll and still isn't natural to me. I can feel myself slipping back a little bit in old habits. But I won't let it happen. I'm going to focus on the core of MRP (Lift, Read, STFU). I just have to accept the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 11:13 AM
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Guys who have not read at least the Course Prerequisites should not even be allowed to post here, and they should post only comments until they have read the Red Pill 101 books. Because they don't know they are clueless.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 12:27 PM
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A few weeks ago, I decided to try meditate 20 mn a day for 1 week to see what happens. I failed, thus it means there's something to learn here, and I feel a resistance to do it, somewhere deep inside. It's not about going rambo on this one, it's about giving a larger time frame to take the time to analyse the problem. If I succeed doing it for one week, I'm not sure I'd be able to get to the bottom of things and understand what was stopping me. Thus I decided to do it for 4 weeks. I'va already d…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 05:59 AM
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I had suggested we both take solo trips last year, and she was way into it. She later requested that, rather than pay for her trip, that I pay off one of her credit cards instead. So you don't pay for it and thus won't know where she really went because you have no bills ? 1.) this is a ploy to break my frame, because she detects the balance of power shifting and feels insecure, or 2.) this is the truth, and it's just coming out now. 3.) She is cheating and thus suspects you to cheat (like she d…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 04:16 PM
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It's straight ice cold tap water. No hot water, but it's the end of summer, so the water is not as cold as it is going to be in a few months... Please explain the benefit a cold shower every day. That sounds horrible and I don't know what you gain from it. It sounds horrible and it's exactly the reason why I did it. It's about getting out of my comfort zone. How can I be sure tu be able to do the hard things in life if I can't get myself to take some cold showers when there is absolutely no stak…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 03:43 PM
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I want to explore an idea in case of separation: buy a small building, keep one flat for me, one for my wife and children, and rent the other ones. Think about the worst case scenarios here and how you could handle them. How will you react if you see here coming back every night with a different man ? Or if the separation goes wrong and she gets naughty ? And you just said you didn't want to buy a house with her, so why buy a building ? Could the same reason apply ? Those are just questions to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 11:53 AM
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Body weight 209 lbs, target: 176 lbs; BF: 21% target: ~15%. You're currently 209 lbs with 21% BF, which means your lean mass is 165 lbs Your goal is 176 lbs with 15% BF which means the lean mass would be 149 lbs There's a gap of 16 lbs of lean mass (muscles) between the two, and it seems excessive to me : you would have lost 16 lbs lean body mass for 17 lbs of fat. I guess it would be better to have as a goal about the same lean mass (maybe 160 lbs) with 10% BF, which leads to a bodyweight targe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 09:57 AM
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OYS Week 5 General overview SO, here we are. I completely failed this week. Not that I made mistakes, it's just that I didn't improve and let myself go and didn't work enough of the "problem of the week". I've the feeling I'm stuck, probably because I am. I didn't address the right things, did what was easy, and did poorly on some occasions. That's good. Now I know where I stand. I don't feel bad about it (everyobdy fails), I feel empowered since I can see now where my limits are. I see also on …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 09:00 AM
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You're basically asking how to change her, which is impossible. You're in a needy place and can't detach yourself from your emotion, and you aren't even aware of where your emotions come from : insecurity and lack of confidence. How can you even imagine changing her when you just started changing yourself ? You have no frame, and no woman will open up to a guy who has no frame. Work on yourself, that's the best you can do. She said she loves me and cant live without me, but that she doesn't know…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 06:04 AM
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i don't announce shit unless she has to know for logistical reason. better to just do because i want to. point of origin. That's exactly my goal. I already do it most of the time but I catch myself from time to time slipping back in my old ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 02:01 PM
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I used Headspace for one full year. I missed only one day. It's really worth it and it taught me a lot. At the end of the year, I decided to use Calm, because I wanted non guided meditation. That's what I'm going to use now to meditate 20mn a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 01:59 PM
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STFU is a lot about what not to say: DEER Complaining/whining (negative feelz) Self depreciation Supplicating I use it exactly for this but I use it also for another thing which I fail at sometimes : not saying what I've done, like "By he way, I did the laundry" : that's stupid because it's approval seeking and she'll obviously notice it. About being too serious : I'm less and less serious. I act stupid and funny because I like it and the kids do. And she does too...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 01:11 PM
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I've been practicing knots for the past 3 weeks ! I do it in order not to have to think when I will need it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 01:05 PM
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OYS Week 4 General overview Special week : I was on vacation with my wife's parents. It went good. I realize I managed almost everything, led in almost every way, and everyone came along as if it was natural. That's a very good point. But (there's always a but). Something is still missing. I guess it's because there are problems I didn't address and I still lack the confidence I need to handle my thoughts in the best way. I discovered some weaknesses and that's good because it gives me a way for…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 10:20 AM
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General overview Week started... meh. Like the previous one. Then I figured out I'm just a pussy on his computer, and that I needed to move and do actual things instead of getting caught in arguments with people whose advice is no help in my life. Started doing more things, play more with my kids and decided to up my game and become "stupid" with my wife and the kids. But "stupid", I mean I did funny things I want to do without giving a fuck. I restrain myself too much, despite having progressed…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 03:40 PM
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I found Mc Raven's video when I was up to my neck in mud in my job, about 2 years ago. I downloaded it, converted to mp3, and listened to it every evening while stretching for almost one year. It helped a lot, and it's worth listening to if you want to reinforce your resolve when everything is going wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 06:19 AM
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STFU is about playing the game with your rules, not hers. The longer you talk, the more you give her power, because she'll always find something she can argue on. Your wife is a complement to your life, and your life is not something you should negotiate. Here is something I wrote elsewhere about why one should use STFU : 1. Stop seeking approval Talking too much often means that we're seeking validation. This is one of the reasons you should stop talking so much about how you feel and stop tryi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 08:25 AM
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I know there's a war coming. There's always a war coming. When people can't talk anymore, the war is closing by. What I don't understand is how people tend to be dumber and dumber despite all the knowledge we have. Peterson's right : people try to find a solution to their problems in others and blame them. But the solution is to accept the problem and endure it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 06:11 AM
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Besides, news in the NA side paints France as hell on earth atm. Look around, tell me how accurate this is? It's not. I live near paris and there's nothing much going on. Life is cool, but I can see a trend growing, the same trend I see in US or Canada. The real problem I have, about all this, is probably that the trend comes from colleges (I'm a teacher in college), and this should be the place where people learn to think. But fewer and fewer of those kids are able to use their brain efficientl…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 06:08 AM
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My plan in a nutshell: Continue lifting, reading, and self improvement. Blow up our stagnant routine and make life fun again. STFU about my feelings. At some point I’ll have to decide if I’ll ever truly be able to let go of what she did, but I don’t have to make that decision right now. The plan is Okay, but your situation sucks, and while the relationhip is your responsibility, fixing it and what happened is hers. Focus on yourself, and let her be and watch you become awesome. Make an amazing l…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 03:10 PM
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Since Jordan Peterson has over 500 hours of videos, it's no wonder you haven't seen it. Damn that guy is smart ! Almost every time I listen to him he blows my mind ! He also wrote a guide to write essays which is worth reading. About Negative Vizualisation, the best thing is to go there : https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6s4mfa/i_have_been_practicing_stoicism_for_3_years_now/ And no, I don't sail. I don't have a boat yet and I don't live near the sea. I plan to practice it in the nex…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 09:55 AM
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OYS Week 2 General overview Week has been... meh. Not bad, but not good. I'm on vacations, so I take time for me, I play woth my kids, I do things. But something's missing. My sleep isn't as good as it should be, and the time I have to do what I want let me sometimes with a bad taste, as if I was losing it instead of using it. Of course I need a break and some rest, but somehting's missing. Last night ended up in insomnia. What has been going on in the US is bothering me (James Damore, Jordan B.…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 08:43 AM
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First time participating. Some background to start : 41 male, french, married 20 years, 4 kids. Discovered NMMNG 9 years ago. Practiced a lot, went through depression for 1 year 7 years ago, got tired of NMMNG and NMMNG forums, discovered TRP about 2 years ago and practiced a lot. Been into sports and watching my diet for years. Started lifting seriously (3 times every week) in november 2016. Even if I'm new here, I'm not a newbie : I've read all the sidebar except some I didn't finish but I pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 01:02 PM
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Two things : you completely lost frame in the car and that's where you failed yes, that guy has a more interesting life than yours, and of course, awalt The answer is not to call your girl a bitch (she is what she is, and awalt means awalt, not that she's a special snowflake), but to get yourself an interesting life. It's much easier to keep frame when you have an interesting life. Oh, and you don't need to next her, she'll next you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 08:49 AM
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The first rule of fight club is, you do not talk about fight club. The second rule... well, you already know it... The red pill, you swallow it, you go down the rabbit hole all the way, but it's something you have to live, but not one you can talk about.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/17 07:26 AM
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The DGAF mentality is all about what you Give A Fuck about. When you GAF about everything, it's as if you DGAF about everything : everything has the same value in your eyes. Choose what's important to you and DGAF about the rest.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/17 04:52 AM
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So basically, you felt butthurt and tried to justify yourself and make her "understand"... What people write says always more about themselves than about the topic they're writing about. And the minute you try to make a woman understand is the minute you're friendzoned.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/17 04:41 PM
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Okay : 3 goals (and ways) for March : done 3 goals (and ways) for June : done 100 pushups on chest day (ouch!) : done Feeling sore : done Feeling good despite the soreness : done PS : Hunter, what you're doing here is probably of the utmost importance : no man can really know where he is in life unless he assesses it. Thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 05:38 PM
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It depends on how you lift and what your mobility range is, and that's Mark Rippetoe who says that in this article. In a nutshell : according to him if you are already flexible enough and are using a full range of motion exercises, you don't need to stretch. Thus stretching is only necessary if you don't use your full ROM in your exercises or are not flexible enough.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/17 04:37 PM
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It all comes down to one and only one thing : We've talked in general terms about getting married. I am ready to settle down. Why ? Answer this question and you'll have the core problem you need to work on. You're focused on her. Seems like you don't have any other options. This is where you should improve. BTW : do the exercices in NMMNG. Find a group to help you (there is a NMMNG forum where you can do it).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 10:42 AM
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This is a good one. The real problem you're underlying is the problem of giving up control. You can't control your wife, and if she does not want to see you differently, then you're fucked. Wives able to evolve, accept, acknowledge and enjoy this kind of change exist but are rare (and no, they are not "unicorns"). They exists, but BP men tend to not marry this kind of women. In relationship, if one changes, the other has to change also, for the relationship to survive. And it's quite uncommon to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 02:24 PM
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It seems very simple : you haven't given up on her. It's, in your mind, all about her, and nothing else. The day you'll be ready to divorce, things will change in your life. Maybe she'll change, and you won't divorce, or maybe she won't change, and you'll find someone better, but as long as you're not ready to get her out of your life, you're screwed, you have no power, you have no freedom. So no, don't treat her as a plate : she has to be a real plate, not just be treated like she was one...
/r/askMRP06/01/17 02:01 PM
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Of course she's smart. She does pretty much everything she wants and still gets what she asks for. Why would she behave otherwise ? The not-so-smart one is the one who gives her what she wants despite her poor behavior.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 01:53 PM
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I hate this question, because the end state for everyone is death, whatever we do. Acknowledging this, there are a few ways to ask this kind of question. What do I want to have ? Most of the time, when I have it, I enjoy it for some times, then forget it. It was just a goal, and I got it, then lost it. What do I want to be ? When I am what I wanted to be, I lose my goal again. The right question, IMHO, is "what do I want to do". This is a call to action. And action is what we have until we die. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 01:47 PM
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Stop thinking. Lift. Too many people think (and are wrong, like I am when I try to think). Too few lift. Thinking about showing weakness or not is pointless when you're strong. Thus, focus on getting really strong : lift.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/17 06:25 PM
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Everybody should listen carefully to The Wall at least once and watch the movie. There are some RP master pieces : Mother Comfortably Numb Run like Hell
/r/TheRedPill31/12/16 07:59 AM
53

And it's not something new. Roger Waters was already saying it in "Mother", in 1979 : Mother's gonna make all your nightmares come true. Mother's gonna put all her fears into you. Mother's gonna keep you right here under her wing. She wont let you fly, but she might let you sing. Mama will keep baby cozy and warm. Mama's gonna check out all your girlfriends for you. Mama wont let anyone dirty get through. Mama's gonna wait up until you get in. Mama will always find out where you've been. Mama's …
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 05:09 PM
151

The real problem is not only the absence of fathers, but also the omnipresence of mothers (or mother likes). There were many coming of age ceremonies in tribal cultures where boys were taken form their mothers to be raised as men, by manly men. Nowadays, boys are sent to school where they are taught by women, or by beta males... "We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need." Even if the father is present, there will be too many women try…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 01:57 PM
2

It's obvious : make sleep your priority. Have a regular sleep schedule (mine is 10pm-6 am, find yours, we're not all the same) 6 hours is NOT ENOUGH. Sleeping 9h just after is not enough also : it's called a sleep debt. Sleep is like a diet : you can cheat forme time to time, but if it is most of the time, you end up fat... Monitor your sleep : you probably don't have a clue of what you're doing and how much you sleep. If you say 6h, it's probably more like 5h... There a many other things like a…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 11:55 AM
3

Because social media is just the new normal, especially among younger people, and a big measuring stick for SMV. And BP thinking is also the new normal. Does that mean I should give up on being RP, and try BP instead ? By the way : if everyone does something, it probably means you should do something else, or you'll just be as everyone else...
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 11:45 AM
1

Your friends cheat on each other, "play detective" on each other, don't listen to each others advice. They sound like a bunch of insecure people, and I don't even understand why you're wasting your time on this, unless you want to f*ck that girl (is that why you don't want to be "enemies" with her ?). If those are your friends, maybe it just means you need some new friends...
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 10:11 AM
53

Your wife is friend with someone who cheated on her husband and still gets the benefits ? Remember you are the average of the 5 people closest to you. Is Glenda a good friend of your wife ? So no : I don't wish you luck for keeping your mouth shut...
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 09:08 AM
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