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The other two girls I met on a local Facebook group (the one who ghosted me after 2 dates) and at a social event (the one who made it to 4 dates). This is the way
/r/seduction02/02/24 03:42 PM
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Well, that's the kind of ghosting I could get behind
/r/seduction23/05/23 08:47 AM
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and then get back to work and make Sisyphus proud
/r/seduction10/09/22 07:24 AM
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what's your goal?
/r/seduction16/12/21 06:51 PM
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lots of good advice in this. here's a couple of practical ways I've done this on dates: strong yet flirty eye contact, sometimes i continue looking at the woman after she's done talking. let the silence breathe. and then if she asks, "what?", I just say, that she looks really pretty. and then let the silence breathe for a second or two, and continue the conversation. touch her when it's appropriate the easiest way I've found to do this, "break the touch barrier", is to go for a high-five, when s…
/r/seduction16/12/21 06:49 PM
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Book: The Charisma Myth YT Channel: Charisma On Command These two should get you started.
/r/seduction16/12/21 06:38 PM
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thanks! it's definitely a process of self-reflection like you said. and i get you. i kind of have to avoid indians here as well because they are too often cocooned into their own little worlds and cultural expectations.
/r/seduction10/06/21 03:32 PM
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I mostly use Hinge, where you have to pick 3 prompts to answer. I've put some thought into them and change them as and when I feel like it. but the principles are basically. to present my true self/expectations and not just try to be funny for the sake of it.
/r/seduction16/05/21 07:30 AM
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Once before and once after. It was good for me to understand, identify and work on my negative self-talk and as Burns calls them, the 10 cognitive distortions. With that and some other mental prep that I and my friend did in just reading more about the experience so we knew what to expect, etc.; we did it.
/r/seduction15/05/21 10:23 AM
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Yeah, I know. I struggle with this one the most. It becomes an on-/off kind of thing for me. Hitting the gym isn't fun. I try to do other forms of physical activities like bouldering, kayaking, biking, etc. But of course, for peak efficiency in terms of upping physical attractiveness, nothing can beat lifting weights - which is why I still keep trying as much as I can to get into the habit.
/r/seduction15/05/21 09:52 AM
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Haha. Thanks! I don't know if I test on the spectrum or not, but sometimes I identify with wanting an algorithm for some social situations, especially the minutiae, because some of these behaviours were not what I grew up with - even tiny things like platonic touching/hugging - how long should the hug last, where should your hands be, what should the pressure be, etc. - to the point where I was overthinking myself into paralysis. I'm getting over that part bit by bit :) This is the kind of post …
/r/seduction15/05/21 09:48 AM
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In the beginning, yeah, I had to just go for it, when I felt like it. After doing it a couple of times, I realised it wasn't that big a deal. None of the women ever jerked their hands away - which was my biggest fear. Some of them didn't want to and they would find an excuse to let go of my hand, like adjusting their hair, etc. and then not return. I took that as a sign to not force it further and just went on as if nothing had happened and didn't make a big deal of it. Maybe I'd misjudged where…
/r/seduction15/05/21 09:42 AM
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Amsterdam
/r/seduction14/05/21 03:08 PM
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Yeah, it is. But the principles of it can be found on the sub in multiple posts. Or any book on comedy. Actually, now that I think of it, watching a lot of Craig Ferguson interviews was also inspiring.
/r/seduction14/05/21 03:07 PM
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Thank you for the kind words :) I completely agree with you on the shrooms. They're potent chemicals and should be treated as such. I and my friend did a lot of mental prep before we did our first trips. And I was also reading through a couple of therapy books and working through the exercises - which added to being mentally prepped for what you experience - because as you say, in some ways, you manifest your trip.
/r/seduction14/05/21 02:38 PM
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One more thing I forgot to add was some expectation setting that I did towards the start. I felt sexually awkward and inexperienced and like I was lagging behind. So I asked myself at what number would I feel like I'd made it. Based on the posts that I had read here, and watching shows with hyper-sexualised characters (Barney from HIMYM, Joey from Friends, Hank from Californication, George from Seinfeld, etc.) and the fact that these shows were weekly, I decided 50 would be a good conservative n…
/r/seduction14/05/21 01:03 PM
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Thanks a lot for the kind words! I used to be extremely self-conscious of my body for not having chiseled abs. I'm not fat or overweight, but I also don't have a flat tummy. It took some real googling to find out that I was "average" and that was okay. Would you mind sharing a bit of your experience?
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:52 PM
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Not calling back for a week? In a hyperconnected world? Does the books lessons still hold for the dating app world?
/r/seduction04/04/21 07:55 PM
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Wouldn't that be true for skinny too?
/r/seduction14/01/21 11:12 PM
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Is your name a reference to that nickelodeon show about this girl who could talk to animals?
/r/seduction14/01/21 11:10 PM
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You really cant tell. She might just be Canadian.
/r/seduction22/09/20 10:54 AM
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country where dating isnt allowed if you were in my place what would you do? Move.
/r/seduction13/09/20 10:50 PM
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Any chance you'd share your notes?
/r/seduction09/06/20 09:08 PM
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unicorns ?
/r/seduction04/06/20 06:24 AM
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I just had to take the week off from work because it finally got all way too much for me and I was crying in the middle of the day on Monday. I've been indulging my self-pity with food, sleep and Netflix and reading a couple of books to fight my way out of the spiral, again. Hopefully, it'll be better tomorrow and the day after. But I don't see it yet. Still gotta put in the work, though, right ...
/r/seduction13/05/20 09:44 AM
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So, I'm in a similar situation where I'm a virgin too at 22 but things are going great with this girl and it feels like the next date might be it. But I am freking out about right before I start should I tell her that this is my first time and so guide me a little or just play it cool and go with the flow and possibly bungle it all up?
/r/seduction25/03/16 04:11 AM
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No, no, no. You put the lime in the coconut.
/r/seduction11/01/16 02:58 AM
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How do you start following fashion? Complete noob here and not in the western world, so r/mfa is useless
/r/seduction09/11/15 07:55 PM
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Time: 1.03 pm. Location: x-Mall Approached Subject-412-EI. Proceeded to introduce myself. Subject responded with their designation. Interroagated her for her numb ... wait ... what?
/r/seduction20/11/14 07:35 AM
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