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Thanks. That is helpful. I doubt I will be the only offer as it has only just gone up for sale. If I make an offer now, she will reject it and wait for other offers.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 05:40 AM
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I understand the approach but I am looking for a solution to this. Selling and rebuying will cost a lot of money which will go to estate agents and stamp duty (tax). Neither of us will benefit from it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 05:34 PM
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Im the one who wants to stop a sale to a 3rd party. I want to buy the house.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 03:37 PM
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I am aware of this. Wondering what my options are. My attachment is not emotional - it makes practical sense for me to stay put. Her reasons are emotional - she wants me out on the street. Wondering what my options are - legally or otherwise. Can I ask the court to review the final order?
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 03:23 PM
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Yup, in the 90% club with broken family sprinkles on top, so we stood no chance. Power comes with responsibility. Either women misuse this new power or they were never in it for benefits rather than for love. I suspect both are true in my case.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 04:40 AM
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Clearly doesn't work as seems women struggle with it more than men. 7 year itch lines up suspiciously with when children start to become less reliant on their mother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 10:03 PM
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Great insight and I have observed the intoxication you mention. Raises the question of whether marriage and monogamy is actually natural.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 09:59 PM
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Yes sir. With hindsight, I accept I chose poorly as the signs were there. Just hard to not occasionally glance when the circus is in town and the monkey is performing tricks! I am also moving forward but cannot bring myself to openly disrespect the person I married in this way. This means I keep my business close to my chest as she doesn't need to know who I am seeing or what I am doing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 05:22 PM
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Boredom....Makes sense despite how dumb it is. Ahh well, good luck to him. No idea how trust will ever be formed based on how they have started.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 02:31 PM
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Im in the same boat of cohabitating and you have discribed my worst fear. This top tier disrespect. I doubt there is much else she can do to top it. For that very reason, cheapen her like the trash she is - do not give her the satisfaction of ANY engagement on the topic. The guy is total scum too. There is no way I could ever disprespect another man like that - ever. I would never set foot in another man's home and her inviting me would tell me all I need to know about her. This is how women get…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 06:45 PM
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Her focus is on you, meaning you are of value to her. She is looking for engagement through your reaction. Women crave attention and clearly, she wants it from you. Complete indifference is the answer - she is no longer of any value to you, so treat her accordingly. Do not react. A response is not required.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:08 AM
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they need time to get a new Plan A. Damn....Truth hurts
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 03:07 PM
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Despite all claims to the contrary it is a very very rare person that can deal with the ex fucking someone else down the hall, and that's where we often see this go sideways. That's the nightmare scenario right there...and no way you can stop them should they suddenly switch from the plan and decide to do so!
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 08:03 AM
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that was my problem and I was stuck in limbo and really still in limbo That's it right there. I'm the same, in a shellshocked paralysis whilst watching someone live their best life in front of you. I feel so rejected by it. Im living it and it is horrible and I would recommend doing it for as short a time as possible as it gets harder the longer it goes on. You feel more lonely when they are there rather than when you are actually alone. The person doing the rejecting may find it easier to manag…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 07:58 AM
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Yup, you won the lottery!
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:10 PM
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Did she have more assets than you?
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 07:05 AM
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Good advice. Going through that phase right now myself. Hard to get out of the funk even though I know I am wasting my time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 08:28 PM
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Come on...you got to give us the story!
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 08:10 PM
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Not much help as I'm trying to work out best action in my situation as well. Responding to keep it live as I too would like to know. Hopefully someone knowledgeable will respond. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/22 03:45 AM
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9x higher tells you all you need to know...
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 05:36 PM
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Totally understand this. Rumination and procrastination. Going through it too. Not much help but wish you well. What I have learnt is that time doesnt stand still as I have and am wasting a lot of it on gri grief. We have to get up man, we have to keep moving. If the divorce is happening regardless the a slow crash is more painful - Im doing it and it sucks. The people on this sub are awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 07:58 AM
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This is the brutal truth
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 05:32 AM
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They show bank accounts held by a person. They might reveal undeclared accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 08:49 PM
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Ok....do credit reports get exchanged during this phase?
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 12:19 PM
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I doubt it. My primary question is about requesting credit reports as this may show bank accounts I know nothing about.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 05:44 AM
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Thanks. What I mean is, can I\ my solicitor require simple exchange of credit reports as part of financial disclosure? I'm in the UK and credit reports would shows all open current accounts in including those closed in the last 6 years. I would then be able to ask for at least a year of bank statements for all open accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 12:25 AM
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No kids or significant assets besides 2 houses one of which she believes I have zero claim to. Also suspect finance have been disposed over time. Lots of emotional manipulation. Just want a managed and fair outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 10:19 PM
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Thanks. Very helpful. So, you self filed the actual divorce? How were each person's solicitor costs accounted for in the process - individual or marital debt? Thanks again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 06:03 AM
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Looks like you have no idea what you are talking about. Please stop.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 05:56 AM
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In what way could a divorce petition hamstring them? Do you actually know how the English system works?
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 05:38 AM
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Ok. What about personal credit cards and loans in individual names? Is this type of debt shared in a divorce? Should I get the Solicitor to file on my behalf or save the money and do it myself? Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 12:14 AM
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Thanks for the ballpark figure. Not yet filed but she has been splurging on clothes etc. My worry is that the credit cards will be split with me. If I pay my solicitor fees with a credit card before filing would that be considered sole or joint debt?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 06:42 PM
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Anyone?
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 05:36 AM
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