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ADVICEmarceqan/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 03:28 PM
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DATING ADVICEmarceqan/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 10:23 AM
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DISCUSSIONmarceqan/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:34 AM
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I think basic flirting would work. Implying that he is sexy and you want him. Tell him how he makes you feel, if there is an opportunity to brag about him in public, take it. Perhaps even simple statements such as “I’m so lucky to have you!” Would be appreciated.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 01:20 PM
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Many, many things and you are Probably doing some already, im sure you’re doing more than “accepting date invites”. Have you heard of love languages? People are skeptical about it but it might be a good start to find out what your boyfriend’s is. To me it sounds like he might need more verbal affirmation - compliments, telling him what makes him special, how you feel about him etc. I might be wrong though, you know him best so you can figure out what would mean the most to him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 12:00 PM
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Info: Did he tell you he wants a car to impress single women or is that just your assumption?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 06:52 AM
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It has occurred to me that this guy has NEVER been single - from my calculations he started the relationship with the (ex) wife in his teens. He probably doesn’t know how to function as an adult not in a relationship hence is jumping into dating so quickly. “She still controls him like he’s her partner” - he probably doesn’t know how to NOT be her partner, they’ve been together their whole adulthood. OP, be cautious. I’m all for second chances but find out as much as you can about his marriage f…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 07:15 PM
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He is right about number one but wrong about number two - yes, you will have to deal with baby mama drama. She comes in the package the same way some people come with annoying family, you will have to deal with that because that person/people are not going anywhere. Moreover, you need to think and establish boundaries in your role as a step parent if you decide to pursue this. Remember that him and her share a 20 year history and a child so she will always be significant to him in some way and h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 07:57 AM
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I dont think it has ever been said on this sub that by just being cute and feminine men will approach you. Yes, it makes it easier to attract men, but they won’t appear in your living room to ask you out. You need to put yourself out there, it is indeed terrifying and you might get burned, but without trying it’s unlikely you will meet someone. Dating apps are a good start, the topic “where to meet eligible men” has been brought up many times on this sub, it can give you some ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 01:35 PM
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Congratulations! You really deserved better and now you know it. Try not to make the same mistake with this guy, meaning keep a life outside of the relationship and dont do everything and anything for him unless he proves to you he’s worthy. He sounds great to you now because he is so much better than your ex, but remember this was just one date and no commitments made, so continue to swipe on Hinge and flirt with other guys.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 06:37 AM
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What do you mean her actions display that that’s what she wants? And what reasons are you giving her that you’d prefer she stays home? This is not something you can pressure her into also Andrew Tate and Kevin Samuels are NOT RPW resources. If youd like to direct her to RPW resources then recommend this sub or find what books/podcasts/content creators we actually recommend here (“Fascinating Womenhood,” “The Surrendered Wife” etc). If you are really serious about her staying home, suggest that a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 03:47 PM
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Yup, because the backlash is real. On top of that, women who speak against RPW values the loudest are usually on the less attractive side. They are insecure and don’t think they are worthy of a treatment from a man that RPW promotes so they feel safer announcing they don’t want it anyway because it’s “backwards”, “insulting” etc. Dying your hair blue and getting multiple facial piercings is easier than getting fit and learning to do natural looking make up, styling flattering outfits and so on, …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 08:59 AM
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Are you using a throwaway because you think people won’t take you seriously as RPW if you shared this from your main account? Or will any potential attacks hurt less because the commenters won’t know who you are? Or any other reason? I’m just curious because I recently posted and also debated doing that from throwaway and ended up using my actual account and my God did I not expect such hostility from a community that is supposed to be based on sisterhood. I guess if there are more people feelin…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 11:38 AM
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The Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle. I’m currently reading it, while I disagree with many things she recommends (not bringing up the topic of children until engagement being one of them) it’s a very RPW resource that can be helpful for you to switch to the receiving position. I didn’t read your whole post but from the beginning I see that it seems you are the one pursuing this guy when it should be the other way around.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 07:50 AM
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Are you sure it was the birth control? It sounds like you were depressed before and after it. Try to examine all aspects of your life and see what might be causing those feelings. Essentially what you’re telling your bf with this behavior is “on birth control im depressed and without it im a B***h”, he might think that the later is your real personality! When you want to snap at him take a deep breath and think “is it more important to me to release this feeling or to cultivate my relationship?”…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 06:59 AM
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Comparison is a thief of joy. It’s good to be aware what your peers are doing to have an accurate estimate what’s possible, but you are essentially on your own path. The only thing to address anxiety is action - are you doing anything to move out/date/progress in your career?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 06:44 AM
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Like everyone else said, go to a fertility clinic and don’t postpone your PhD. What I would also like to stress as mom to a baby girl, please prioritize your network. It’s invaluable support in the postpartum time and having a baby makes you often feel more isolated than ever (I was terrified to leave the house with her for anything other than a walk/doctor appointment, I wouldn’t want people to come over until she had at least some of her vaccinations etc). I would encourage you to work on find…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 06:23 AM
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Obviously I would not bring him or anyone to even meet my baby until things got serious and I was sure about the man, that goes without saying.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 05:23 PM
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I have, but I might try phrasing it this way. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 02:04 PM
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The irony is that I hold multiple passports one of which is more powerful than his 😂 he knows this though
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 02:03 PM
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My origin is not really relevant. We met on a dating app, he set his location to my country on purpose. His last two relationships were with women from neighboring countries and he mentioned that they were pressuring him for marriage but he wasn’t ready, hence my willingness to give him the benefit of a doubt and potentially assuming good intentions aka he thinks that this is what I want to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 02:02 PM
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We are on the same continent ;) My issue is he doesn’t seem to want to sweep ME off my feet (since he knows close to nothing about me) but a woman/a woman of my origin. He must be saying exact same things to a number of women in my country and the neighboring countries, I have no hard feelings about him pursuing other girls, we are not even a couple and I’m talking/going on dates with other guys too, so these marriage statements are cheap. I guess I might try addressing this directly, even if it…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 01:35 PM
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I would start by reading “The Surrendered Single”, it gives some great tips on how to be open to receiving and why you might be stuck in a dead end relationship. Laura Doyle outlines how a good man takes delight in making you happy. This man clearly doesn’t, so I personally would move on.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 01:29 PM
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Something is definitely not right, I’m just trying to find a tactful way to find out where this rush is coming from. If it’s from a good place such as misunderstanding my culture/women and their desire to get married (just to clarify I do want to get married someday but not just for the sake of it or to anyone I don’t love) or a manipulative agenda. The question is, how do I do that without coming across as accusatory or critical? I’ve already tried stating my desires clearly (“I want to take th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 01:24 PM
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So do you suggest I directly tell him it makes me uncomfortable?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 01:18 PM
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I live in a country that’s one of their destinations. They are usually very disappointed that the women don’t throw themselves at them just because they are from a dollar/euro country. The ones that are interested usually don’t speak much English and are purely money oriented (surprise surprise). I wouldn’t worry about this, those men usually want to live a fantasy and it’s not the men you’d like to date anyway. There are plenty of feminine women in the US, black femininity channels are on the r…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 11:11 AM
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What I’m getting from here is that he is not putting in any effort. Don’t get me wrong, you are doing an amazing job with self improvement but you’re doing it for the wrong man. It’s clear that he doesn’t appreciate you, you’re a place holder at best. You are giving him a message “I will do anything and everything to please you” and he sees he doesn’t need to earn it or reciprocate in any way. Let him show you how much he cares about you and believe him when he shows who he is. Expecting to cele…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 06:34 AM
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I’m a bit confused why it has to be either or. University is a great place to meet men, you can be getting your degree AND working on meeting a HVM. Once you finish your degree and are still single, you can attempt to meet one at work. University in Europe is free, I really don’t see how getting a masters hinders you in a any way. Yes, relationships take time but you can’t be doing just that. Considering you live in Paris, an extremely expensive city, you will probably be working in some capacit…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 11:59 AM
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I didn’t read all of it as it is very long but from the comments I see you explain you are afraid of commitment, but having kids with someone is a bigger commitment than marriage - you can get a divorce and never see a guy again but if you have kids together, he will always be a part of your life. Secondly, when making any decisions you need to always put your children first (as you probably already do) - my perspective is that it is better to grow up in a calm house with a single mom than in a …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 09:42 AM
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It makes you cry because you won’t be with him or because you will be alone? You’ve been together for many years so it’s only natural that you are afraid to let him go. And he won’t change, he was cheating multiple times and each time you didn’t leave him so he knows he can push boundaries. When you say “slim pickings” I’m wondering what you mean, it’s hard for me to imagine someone worse than a cheater, gaslighter and manipulator. You are worthy of love and respect, you shouldn’t deny yourself …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:44 PM
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A lot of great comments on here so I won’t repeat. I’m wondering one thing - did you ever go through something difficult together before you got married? Or maybe even after? Do you see your husband as competent? It’s important that you do. He can’t be good at everything, clearly mechanics isn’t his thing but perhaps he’s good with finance management? Or cooking? I know that ideally you’d prefer to be more competent in the “masculine” stuff but he simply isn’t and he will only get better at it i…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 11:31 AM
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I think it’s BECAUSE you have never experienced it you have so much hope for it. Perhaps your expectations are too unrealistic? “Daddy issues” is a broad category, there is a YouTube video from “The School of Life” on this topic that you might find interesting. Basically it explains why people with daddy issues will never find the person who will take care of their needs such as the need to being taken care of etc. because you need to take care of yourself. I’m not sure if there is any science t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 02:26 PM
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To answer your question why I care - I have recently given birth to a baby girl and was thinking about her future.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 04:46 PM
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Whaaaaat this has been around for years? Where was I lol.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 11:54 AM
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Yes, but this is on an individual level. I’m talking about impacting the culture - just like with my “three dates means sex” example. This concept/phrase is so prevalent that it gives men the opportunity to try to get you to sleep with them by that time and quote it as normal when you feel offended. A “two years means a ring” (it would probably have to be something catchier, ideally it would rhyme) would give women an opportunity to set an expectation to at least bring the topic up. Obviously bo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 11:33 AM
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Exactly. Back when I was dating I had men trying to get me to their house, sometimes even on the first date! Never directly but always some sort of excuse like “I have this great wine/painting/food at home” or a less subtle “let’s watch a movie at my place” after a date. I knew they didn’t mean it personally but I still felt offended and would have to have an awkward conversation about expectations which somewhat ruins the spontaneous vibe. It was clear that other women had done with them before…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:57 AM
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It’s unlikely that a man of that caliber would have dated you if you were 5/10, you’re very fit and take care of yourself so you’re way prettier than you give yourself credit for. I don’t know if your bf has solved the problems you mentioned but the reality is that she didn’t stick around for those (and no shade at all on her for that, they weren’t even married) and you are supporting him through/after whatever it was, so you are a more suitable partner for him and he definitely appreciates that…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 02:46 PM
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Discouraging open communication in relationships. I often see posts here where women don’t want to “nag”/emasculate/be un feminine and won’t openly communicate with a partner on his behavior. I’ve seen posts where it’s clear that the man is hurting a woman with his words or behavior, clearly disrespecting her or even humiliating, and the advice in the comments gaslight her to no end, discouraging any sort of confrontation or direct communication.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 11:52 AM
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Freeze your eggs and educate yourself on fertility just to ease your mind. Keep a healthy lifestyle and test your fertility regularly (I would suggest buying ovulation strips and checking every other month if you’re ovulating, a blood test once every six months, perhaps supplements etc). Like others said, women can have babies easily in their 30s. YouTubers in their 20s that are popular on this sub (Mrs Midwest, Cynthia L, Taylor R) all struggled with fertility despite their age, so even if you …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:02 PM
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I mean If you get engaged tomorrow and get married in a year realistically you will be around 31 years old when giving birth to the first child/children. You can easily have 3 kids in your thirties but I do understand your concern. I also understand his, from my experience men want to make sure that they are “the one” for you, not just someone you settled with because you were afraid to run out of time. Have you discussed the idea of 3 kids with him? Is he on board? Because that’s a lot to handl…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 12:57 PM
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I’ve read somewhere about a woman who was going crazy because her partner constantly told her she smelled bad. She didn’t smell herself and her surroundings assured her she didn’t but she would shower a few times per day, brush her teeth all the time, perfume etc. She finally broke up with the man for this reason and that’s where he confessed that it was his way of making sure she never slips taking care of herself. There was a similar story of a woman whose boyfriend constantly commented on her…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 06:34 AM
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Honestly, just be yourself (the best version of yourself) and go out on dates. You can’t fashion a personality out of “being what men want,” stop focusing on that so much and think about what you want. I will be brutal here - attachment styles, shyness, introversion etc. all of these are excuses people use to avoid doing the things that scare them, most commonly rejection. When men ask you out on a date, just go. Even if you feel lukewarm about the guy, you will get experience and will be less a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 05:12 PM
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Nope, never. If he can’t offer me commitment and exclusivity what does he have to offer as a man? That’s my line of thought. But if it works for you, it works for you. I’ve never seen a successful polyamory/open relationship etc. arrangement, I consider it modern nonsense among gender fluidity kind of thing. I don’t believe a man can respect you and sleep with other women, what does “coming home to” mean really, that he will have a meal and a clean house and a woman to dot on him, while wining a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 03:35 PM
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Came here to find this comment. OP, are you sure he is ok? Excessive sleeping and alcohol as well as laziness might be symptoms of depression. Also, 4 years, 31 male and no ring? Just pointing this out because I see too often on this sub women giving their 1000% and being left after years of relationship. Of course, timing needs to be right, you need to feel confident about him etc. but something to think about.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 09:11 AM
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In my opinion it is not possible. You would essentially be asking your fiancé to be a different person. You say you love your fiancé but it might be the case you see him more as a friend - are you attracted to him and do you respect him as a man? Do you find him competent to be a leader in the relationship? Has he ever expressed a desire to take on a masculine role? You need to reflect whether this is a person you want to be with for the rest of your life or do you just feel safe with him becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 10:06 AM
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Desperate people do desperate things, which is often dangerous. Your friend lacks confidence which leads to desperate people pleasing which causes her to put herself in dangerous situations which fuels her anxiety - it’s a destructive cycle. As a friend you know her best and what would be best way to talk to her. Point out to her the above either gently or tough love style. And fuel her confidence - remind her why you like her, compliment her on her appearance and progress. Just be there for her…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 08:49 AM
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Thank you - to you for sharing your story and opening up a very important conversation and to the mods for allowing it. Too many times I was deeply disturbed on this sub, young women posting about clearly abusive relationships but as long as it wasn’t physical abuse, the community would give tips on how to stay in the relationship, put the responsibility of “fixing” it on the woman or worse, blame it on the victim. Very often the physical abuse is the final stage, it all stats with verbal, gasli…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 05:35 PM
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“He’s not sure what to do to help fix it” - tell him. I would literally spell it out, tell him what your love language is and give examples of what he could do to make you feel loved. There are a few things that could be happening here, one is that you recently moved in together so now you’re just a part of each other’s daily life, the excitement has died down for him and he might think that the conversation you have together over dinner is enough interaction for the day. Another thing that stic…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 08:33 AM
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A tricky situation but I think you handled it well - you stated your desire with a deadline, without nagging or repeating so now the ball is in his court. In the meantime I would take charge of your own fertility and things you can control - do some blood tests to see where you are at, take vitamins and supplements, clean up your diet, if you’re on the pill I would stop taking it (but informing your husband of course). Where is your circle of friends at when it comes to having kids? He might be …
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 08:37 PM
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I’ve been there once and I walked away from the situation (the guy was an investment banker). 3 dates (interrupted on top of that) in 2 months doesn’t sound good. What makes you so sure he is interested in you? Remember that words have no value, only actions. Has he been sending you gifts? Told his friends/family about you? Does he check in every few hours with you when he is away? It sounds like you really like him but the reality is that the two of you are not a couple so asking for more time …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 08:29 AM
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I must say I’m surprised to see so many “it’s 2022, women should pay too” comments on a RPW subreddit, really didn’t expect that! My take is, if you’re still in the dating stage, the man pays for the date and you can pay for something small to show gratitude- if you go to the movies he pays for the tickets, you offer to pay for the popcorn/snacks, he pays for the activity, you pay for drinks/coffee after, he pays for the meal, you cover the tip etc. until you are officially a couple. I did that …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 03:15 PM
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Very reasonable especially considering you’re both in your 30s, crucial even if you are planning marriage and kids. Just ask yourself what “official” means to you - just the girlfriend title? Meeting his parents? Social media official? And then inquire about it in a non pushy way. I would also recommend that you think through your expected timeline like moving in together and when to walk away, too often I see women on this sub posting about being single again after 4 years relationship because …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/22 12:23 PM
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I was analyzing those women and it was almost strange to me how in the end they were more successful than Nadia. Shital found a guy that had all these qualities she was looking for, I think it was the same for Viral. The fact that Aparna was getting any interest was shocking to me since she didn’t seem to be putting any effort into the process. It was almost sad to see that the cute fun Nadia was unsuccessful while Shital and Viral with the boss bitch vibes were (they both have gorgeous hair and…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 05:14 AM
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As everyone said before - so sorry this happened to you, you didn’t deserve any of it. And obviously it’s not the case that you aren’t enough, he isn’t worthy of you. I was wondering if this was a “up and coming” kind of situation (not enough information so just a hypothesis) - you made him a better man and now he has the confidence to go out and pursue women. The important thing to know here is that you didn’t do anything wrong, maybe for the future I would advise not to wait more than 2 years …
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 06:14 AM
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Fear is a strong word but yes. I hate those situations and unfortunately they happen a lot to me as I tend to be outside by myself. There have been times when I’m genuinely worried about my safety but most of the time it’s just being in an uncomfortable situation- a man or group of men commenting on my body, trying to get my attention, trying to get my number etc. it makes me uncomfortable and puts me in awkward situation of having to turn them down and then worry that it might escalate by them …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 05:19 PM
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My advice would be to try to get into relationship(s). It could be the case that in the past being a virgin stopped you from doing so. In many societies men wouldn’t wait till marriage for sex so this could have been a dealbreaker for both of you. Now you can date and make sex conditional for a committed relationship as opposed to marriage. This could lead to your goal of marriage and if it doesn’t, you will get the sexual experience you missed out on. You might be in multiple relationships befo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 10:38 AM
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I don’t care about the rules of this sub, OP is clearly being abused. OP, please consider leaving him. I know this sub makes it sound like hitting 30 ends your life, but it really isn’t the case. He doesn’t want you to get a job because he wants you to be completely dependent on him. An apology is not enough here and he won’t even do this much. What else is he capable of? What if he also abuses the children you have together? By then you might be too financially dependent for leaving to even be …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 06:07 PM
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I would prioritize saving up to freeze your eggs just so you don’t have to make any decisions under time pressure. Remember that times have changed and even a well educated, high earning couple like yourself might not follow the timeline the previous generations did - student loans, the current economy and housing market are only the few factors that make the expectations of having a house and a child before 30 way less realistic. I’m sure there were more reasons that you pursued the career you …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 09:53 AM
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I don’t know much about it but on the surface for sure. Helping people, guiding them, healing seem to be the aspects of that career.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 07:06 AM
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I wish I had a way with numbers! And congratulations on having a female dominated workplace that is friendly, sounds like a jackpot. My HR job was predominantly women but still competitive and a bit jealousy fueled, that environment brought out the worst in women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 07:05 AM
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Excellent! Sounds like lots of fun and bringing people together.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 07:02 AM
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Sounds lovely! I must say a welcoming person behind the counter is what makes me come back to a place like a cafe, it makes me associate it with coziness. With a baby on the way and financial responsibilities I probably couldn’t afford a job like that, but I do daydream of having my own little cafe one day :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 07:00 AM
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My grandmother spent the last year of her life in a facility and the lovely caregivers, especially in the times of Covid, were God sent both to us and to her. Thank you for all you do, I hope you know the immense value you bring to the patients and their families!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 06:48 AM
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He might be using you as a place holder to be honest. He is sleeping with you but will only take you on a date once you lose 30 more pounds and says that it’s love? What is stopping him from committing to you right now and cheering you on in your weight loss journey? I wouldn’t be surprised if once you reach your weight loss goal he will come up with something else like “ I’m worried you will gain weight again, let’s go out once you maintain the weight loss for a year”. He is exploring options a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 04:06 PM
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He might be using you as a place holder to be honest. He is sleeping with you but will only take you on a date once you lose 30 more pounds and says that it’s love? What is stopping him from committing to you right now and cheering you on in your weight loss journey? I wouldn’t be surprised if once you reach your weight loss goal he will come up with something else like “ I’m worried you will gain weight again, let’s go out once you maintain the weight loss for a year”. He is exploring options a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 04:06 PM
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It’s interesting that your cousin approached you at a family function about it, it seems a bit unusual unless the two of you are close. Perhaps she is trying to stir up some drama? Are you actually concerned he is addicted or are you just uncomfortable with him consuming it at all? I wouldn’t worry about him shutting you down once, there are many reasons he wasn’t up for it that night. If this happens multiple times or you two are not having sex at all or you try and he can’t perform, that might…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 10:19 AM
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This is truly unacceptable and in my book counts as abusive. You have been very understanding with your husband which is great but some serious conversation is needed because this could escalate to even worse behaviors. Have you noticed any patterns as to when he has these outbursts? Perhaps something is going on at work and he is taking it out at home? You know your husband best, so pick a step that you think would be most effective- you can sit him down for a conversation and point out that yo…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 04:51 AM
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Unpopular opinion but - don’t. 21 is very young and it’s highly unlike you will find a guy ready for marriage around your age unless you are a part of a religious community or specific culture. You have been single since 18 so you have no experience of serious relationships. Your early 20s is a good time to get that experience. I’m not saying participate in a hookup culture, just go on dates and get to know a guy you really like without interviewing him for a husband position. You might have a c…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 10:09 AM
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Your dream of being a wife and a mother is valid, but it’s very dependent on having a husband and there is no guarantee that you will find one regardless if you go to graduate school or not. If you don’t go, you might find yourself in your thirties without a husband and children and without a dream career/high income. There are things you can do to help your luck finding a husband, but ultimately it’s not in your hands while your career is. I think the most important aspect is whether the money …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 05:37 PM
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Are you actively losing weight and prioritizing it? If so, think about this scenario- you will be losing weight for months, maybe a year, and after all this time and effort you will still not be confident because you will have to start from scratch with the skin/hair/body that you neglected throughout that time. Similarly with being social and living a full life. You will get older and realize you missed out on so many fun experiences because you felt fat. To put it bluntly, it’s better to be fa…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 05:02 PM
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Checked his phone and google translated messages with a 45 years old woman. He is 32.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 03:17 PM
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It’s a good time to be “looking for” marriage but not necessarily be married. You can date someone your age and get married in 4 years or so, it will still be early and you will get to know the person well and he will be in a position to work. This is not something I would recommend of course, but much preferable to getting involved with an older man during your teenage years. Even if they are part of your church, a grown man wanting to date/marry a teenager raises multiple red flags - I won’t g…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 05:31 PM
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Aim for getting engaged now and live with him for a year before marriage and baby. Meet his family, see what he is like in different situations. While it might seem tempting to have a child since you are 30 and a steady income for the next 18 years or so, there are ways this could end in a disaster. It’s rather unusual for a man his age to want to start over again, ask him why - did he mess up with his previous kids and wants a redo? Maybe he is planning to leave as many babies behind as possibl…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 07:04 AM
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Honestly many women live this lifestyle because they have no choice. They are expected to juggle career, family and looks at the same time and if they fail in one of the areas they are incompetent/terrible mothers/slobs. The idea was that when women entered the workforce their husbands would take on half of the housekeeping and family duties but reality rarely plays out like that and even if it does, the woman is still the manager so to speak - more responsibility, in charge of delegating but no…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 09:55 AM
11

While I can’t answer your question, I would like to give you a perspective- one relationship can’t fulfill all of your needs. Have friends that are more outgoing, challenge you, are silly with you etc.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 02:23 PM
7

It’s difficult but you did the right thing by breaking up. I don’t know whether he doesn’t want to settle down or he doesn’t want to settle down with you specifically, the bottom line is that he doesn’t want to and he will not. A year and three months is better than 5 years or however long he would have strung you along. Now you are single and can focus on finding someone else, someone whose goals align with yours and someone who is as into you as you are into them (or more). Let this be a learn…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 06:22 PM
11

That changes everything. This is not a household where the man is the provider and the woman is the homemaker so it shouldn’t be expected for you to do all this. It will be difficult to talk to him about this because boundaries and expectations need to be set early on, now he is used to you doing all those things hence that is his “normal” and it will be a difficult process to adjust him to what he will perceive as “the new normal.” You’re doing your best but you are overwhelmed - he needs to ho…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 11:48 AM
8

Unpopular opinion on this sub but I would say just do it. You are losing money that is already tight rather than taking over the tasks that you have availability to do? Try to see this from a different perspective- maybe he is also stressed and has too much on his plate, that’s why he forgot. I honestly don’t see how doing something that you are capable of doing (I’m assuming here it’s not like chopping wood or some other super masculine task that you physically wouldn’t handle well) is emascula…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 08:51 AM
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Wrong sub. If you want to have sex with a sex worker you pay her, that’s literally her job
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 08:09 AM
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There is a lot going on in this post, I will do my best to address everything. First of all, try to keep things in perspective. You are fighting cancer! And you will beat it and this is huge. The fact that you need to delay pregnancy for one year for the gift of life and health is a minor price to pay. Second of all, people on this sub need to stop acting like life ends for women after 30 because it doesn’t and it will still take years to feel any differently than in your 20s. You have an additi…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 08:06 AM
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I’m quite confused how you would waste someone’s time… men can reproduce till the day they die (that is if they themselves are fertile). Hypothetically, if you found out you couldn’t have kids or that conceiving would require a lot of effort, you wouldn’t get into a relationship or get married? There are ways to get a good idea of your fertility such as getting a blood test to check your egg reserves, ovulation sticks to check if you’re ovulating and tracking whether your period is regular (the …
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 06:34 AM
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He sounds like a nice guy but I would dig a little deeper here. What exactly are his career goals? What does he need to achieve in order to be ready for a girlfriend/wife/family? Is it a level/title that determines his readiness, the salary or perhaps the amount of hours he needs to put in? Get some clarity on that and what that would mean for you. How realistic are these goals and what is the expected timeline? He also stated psychological reasons and that if you two become “official” you will …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:01 PM
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I’ve only skimmed the comments, so I’m not going to comment on his misleading finances. What caught my eye was that you don’t mind paying now since he will be paying when you are a SAHM - girl, NO. You’re not even engaged, not living together, there is zero guarantee that the future you plan together is happening. Courting is the time for the man to show you how much he puts effort by treating you to things. Also do you really want to be financially dependent on someone who has a degree and what…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 06:34 AM
2

Unfortunately this right. This wishy washiness about marriage is a sign that he is not to be trusted - he knows that if you two would get married and he is dishonest (aka cheats in whatever way), you would be entitled to his money and assets as you are a sham. You say what you want is what’s best for your son and in my opinion what’s best for kids is stability. Marriage, unless it’s dysfunctional with screaming matches, abuse, cheating etc, would provide some stability and long term financial se…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/21 05:24 PM
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I won’t speak numbers but only my experience in the US. White men tend to know that they are the most “desirable” among women of all races, they often go for women of color expecting the woman to work harder to keep him interested i her than a white woman would. I’ve heard white men state that openly and needless to say, I won’t associate with them on any level anymore. Many of these guys aren’t good looking lol but they think being white somehow increases their SMV or even compensates for it. W…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 10:46 AM
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Etiquette, good hostess abilities, house management, any sort of creative things Like neeedlework, interior design/decor etc. - I would say those are the “classics.” I’m sure your husband would be overjoyed if you learned to do professional massage, but this is only fun if you enjoy things like that, it’s not for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/21 07:40 PM
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I think it’s more about rewarding the behavior hence encouraging it, especially since many aspects of masculinity are portrayed in a negative way these days. In many places men need to be reassured that it’s not “sexist” to take on leadership, pay for dates or lift heavier things for you etc etc. It’s like your man complimenting you on your beauty - it doesn’t mean that you’re insecure because you like to hear it. Hopefully you already take care of your looks, but being appreciated for it makes …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 08:03 AM
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I disagree that it’s an upbringing thing. Besides, I wouldn’t blame anyone’s parents lol these are adult men, if they lack manners in any way it’s on them alone. I believe people who haven’t had a good upbringing can still have class and be quality partners. As mentioned before, this is a phenomena of OLD, when those men were being raised OLD wasn’t around, it’s a culture that’s still in the making. So yeah it’s not me lowering the bar necessarily, it’s the modern dating culture in most places. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 10:49 AM
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It is a bit discouraging but in my experience this happens only with OLD, men you meet irl don’t do that. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 11:16 PM
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I think playfully pointing out that it’s too early is the way to go. I also feel that it’s disrespectful when a man brings up sex during the first/early interaction but tbh many of them just don’t know any better and fear the “friend zone.” I would let the first time slide and respond with a joke but the next time I would let him know this is unacceptable at this stage. It runs the risk of killing the vibe and awkwardness but I believe in establishing boundaries early on.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 10:27 PM
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No panic, you’re doing great. This sounds like a minor issue tbh, seems that he is trying to see how far he can push sexually. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 09:02 PM
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Woah you’re planning to marry this guy but you’re not even committed? Traditional roles at home? Girl, you’re giving him the husband privileges without him giving you even commitment and exclusivity? Nope, just nope. Threesome is not a need, it’s a fantasy. If this is something you’re not into, stand your ground. He will respect you more plus you will establish what your boundaries are sexually. If you give in to the threesome, you might unleash hell of fantasies being thrown your way. Does he a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 06:44 PM
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This is temporary, just enjoy. It’s quite likely that you’re so infatuated with each other because you don’t know each other well enough to know the less-attractive aspects of your personalities, habits, pasts, bodies etc. It seems that you are aware that this won’t last for ever, which is healthy because it manages your expectations of the long term relationship. I’ve read some studies (can’t remember where so can’t cite) that this can last on average 6 months. The loss of focus at work is quit…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 11:15 AM
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Again, it depends what you consider quality men. If the “mean spirited Stacies” that are doing “just fine” are dating the men you’d like to be with, then you have some models out there to be inspired by. Bottom line is to get a high quality man you need to be high quality yourself. Don’t get tied up in all these strategies and red-pill blue-pill stuff, because who you are is what will make it or break it with a man.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 06:57 PM
2

One of the high value behaviors is being kind hearted and respectful-so here is an idea to take a step towards that direction. It depends what a high value man means to you - wealthy? Intelligent? Well-mannered? It’s quite subjective. While looks are important, they are by no means everything. Make sure you match the guy in the aspects that could be important like being well-mannered, intelligent etc. Being feminine helps attract certain caliber of men so you could work on that in terms of looks…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 06:46 PM
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“He thought him and his ex could try again after we broke up”- wow how easily replaceable you are to him, especially since apparently he loves you. Don’t really see a single reason why you would get back together with him based on the information you provided. If you’re entertaining the idea, make him work for it and see how much he is willing to do to win you back. Words are cheap.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 01:10 PM
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I would say they are SOME overlaps but mostly they are vastly different tbh. Red pill women don’t want to date red pilled men. While both philosophies (if you can call it that) reject the idea of modern feminism, red pill women simply ignore these “feminists,” the red pill men spew hate on them. RPW pursue relationships with men they consider high value while ignore other men, TRP men might pursue a relationship with a high value women while trying to sleep with many women in general (mostly usi…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 09:15 PM
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The loose vagina is usually a jab a man uses when they have a smaller penis or they have trouble with an erectile disfunction. I can’t imagine anything that could be a cause of a loose vagina. Moreover, if you don’t have sex for a few months, it’s going to hurt almost like losing your virginity so if anything the vaginas get tighter. Plus it takes most women a long time to finish, especially without clitoral stimulation. Seriously, don’t be insecure about your vagina. Based on your username I kn…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 04:33 PM
2

A lady posted on here not long ago about her fiancés new gambling problem which occurred for the first time and she was contemplating whether to go through with the weeding. They were together for 9 YEARS at that point. People can surprise you, you never known what they will become in the future but you have a warning so I would advise to take it. Addiction is an illness so show him compassion, especially since he’s so fragile psychologically now. I would say don’t plan a future with him because…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 03:49 PM
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I think you have posted about this already a few weeks ago (if not you, it’s someone with an identical situation). Sorry, but it’s unlikely that you will get a different advice than before or what you seem to want to hear. You’re idealizing the relationship and the man. I don’t want to repeat myself from my previous answer, as we wrote on that other post it’s an awful idea to waste your best years on a cheater that doesn’t give you anything but empty promises. Excuse my harsh words but this is t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 11:47 AM
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I’m not well-versed in what the “official” red pill views are but here are my thoughts. It seems you’re giving into all-or-nothing thinking - you can either be a sham or a career woman, you can either have your dreams be 100% reality or dive into depression. Girl, you’ve accomplished a lot! You look stunning, you enjoy your work, you’re healthier than ever, you make decent money. Appreciate it and enjoy your life. I think in this day and age it’s important to balance things - it’s ok for a woman…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 11:28 AM
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Hahaha omg, and just when I thought I was getting fluent in English... yes, clearly it’s a college kid asking about contraceptives to use with his girlfriend. OP, use condoms unless you don’t mind paying child support for the next 18 years.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 07:56 AM
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Are you going to have this conversation with your daughter? She’s in an adult in college and probably way more informed about the topic than you. If she has any interest in RPW, direct her to this sub. I would discourage any temperature methods or other “natural” stuff - a woman’s cycle can be impacted by stress and other factors so this can be very risky. I would demand that the guy always use condoms to also take responsibility and ofc avoid stds.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 07:04 AM
3

Well, gift giving for Xmas and birthday is a non-optional social convention so it’s not a behavior that needs to be encouraged. With “I want” statements... hm sounds a bit demanding. I think gift giving is my love language because it shows how well you know someone. If I were to tell my partner “I would like you to get me X for my birthday” it would defeat the purpose, I could buy it myself. Ugh the perfume was the worst, because we lived together he knew exactly what perfume I use and that my f…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 01:44 PM
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This is a sweet story, I’m happy for you to have such a thoughtful husband. I think in this case there was only one appropriate way to act and that’s exactly how you did - the gift shows that your husband listens to you and would go out of his way to make you happy. However, while showing appreciation for a gift that you don’t like to others is good manners, pretending to love it if it’s your partner might backfire. Don’t get me wrong, if the gift is a surprise and not for an occasion, anything …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 01:04 PM
1

Just like everyone already said - don’t put yourself in situations where it could lead to sex. Most men will try to pursue something sexual and either you give in and they won’t consider you for a relationship or you refuse and it’s very awkward. Hanging out at each other’s places shouldn’t be an option for first few dates. I’m sorry but he kind of told you what he thinks of you. Yes, you didn’t go all the way, but by engaging in anything sexual the damage is already done. Do not reach out to hi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 10:15 PM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. Gambling is an addiction just as any. If you go through with the marriage, a prenup is an absolute must, he can stop the gambling until the marriage and start back up again after. Just like in any addiction, the first step is acknowledging the problem and your fiancé isn’t even there yet. The influence of his buddies is toxic and the fact he believes he can “beat the system” is alarming. Yes, an intervention is definitely in order. Show him what this has alre…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 09:30 PM
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Try religious apps as well, I’m sure there is one for Christians. I would advise to put it in your bio, it will dramatically decrease the number of matches you may have but that’s a good thing, you will interact only with the guys who are ok with it/appreciate it. A wider age range would help too, I know you don’t want to get married next month but a man who is looking to settle down is more likely to be interested in you than a guy in his 20s who wouldn’t give up sex for years. You’re still you…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 09:15 PM
5

Abuse takes different forms and this is emotional abuse. Just because he is not abusing you physically and verbally (although I would argue about that), doesn’t mean he isn’t doing anything wrong. If one person drowns by a sip of water and another in an ocean the result is the same - they have drowned. You can’t say one thing isnt traumatic because other people experience “worse” traumas. I’m a mental health professional and I’ve seen this form of manipulation a lot, especially by people with na…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 05:20 PM
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Well, this IS abusive. Dismissing someone’s feeling and taking out your frustration on someone is emotional abuse as is gaslighting. This is a serious issue for you and you are his wife so he needs to care about it. If he keeps dismissing you, just inform him “next time you try to take out your frustration on me, I will leave the room and let you deal with your emotions. I’m doing this to help us have a successful marriage” or something like that. Just inform him what you’re going to do and stic…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 05:07 PM
2

Bring it up with him when he is not in that mood. Explain calmly your feelings and let him know how you’d like to be treated. Ask him also how you could be supportive for him in those moments. I had that experience before and my only solution was to tell him “I’m going to give you space now” and leave. Many people when angry look for an “excuse” to fight so even if you have nothing to do with what triggered his anger he might come up with something to do with you to take it out on you. I think y…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 04:48 PM
6

You’re treated differently because of your age. It has very little to do with you, they are probably uncomfortable that their adult son was dating a teenager - 16 and 24 in most countries is a high school girl and a guy who already graduated college, so it will make people feel uneasy regardless of the age of consent. That’s most likely also the reason why he hasn’t told them about you till recently. Don’t rush the marriage, your boyfriend is right to wait until you finish school and get a degre…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 08:31 AM
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Don’t. “Advertising” any sexual preference is improper in early stages of getting to know someone. If you’re brave and use online dating you might write a simple “cuckqueen” to intrigue men, but that depends on what you’re looking for - it will attract tons of men interested in casual relationships and make you seem like a pick-me. If you’re targeting a real relationship, date a man you like and disclose this fetish at an appropriate stage. He might indulge in it or he might not. I would advise …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 08:37 AM
1

Ok so the point is that you want to have to have sex with him again but you want to make sure it’s satisfying for both of you? What you did the second time worked so he will probably please you again. If not, you can always stop it like you did the first time.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 02:41 PM
3

Girl, you confuse me. On the first date you said you didn’t want to have sex and then you did anyway. Then you had sex with him again and it was good but you feel you’re being “used” for sex? He told you on the second “date” that one day you will find your dream man so clearly it’s not him and he is only interested in a casual arrangement with you. If that’s what you want then stop playing games and enjoy it, you’re not being used. He already isn’t interested in a relationship with you and now t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 01:59 PM
56

Girl, RUN! Of course they come back, because they know you will let them back in anytime they want. Maybe they want a relationship but clearly not with you. They will keep trying because if it worked once, it might work again. I’m sorry that this sounds harsh, but things don’t “eventuate” for you like that, you allow it to happen over and over again. I’ve seen a situation like that with a friend of mine and it was a disaster, she wasted her time and the guy ended up marrying the original gf whil…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 11:11 AM
56

Be honest with your partner - tell him you’re on the fence about having children, so that you’re on the same page. Maybe your parents started having children in their 20s, but you don’t have to. Enter the workforce, see how you like the experience and the lifestyle a double income provides. Don’t give into the “all or nothing” thinking, there is a spectrum between SHAM and “career woman” - you could be working part time, working from home, take a break from working until your kids go to pre scho…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 05:09 PM
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Intelligence and being passionate about something is not unfeminine - it’s actually sexy and many men look for that in women they are serious about. As long as you engage in a conversation, not a monologue for either of the sides, you’re good. Ask questions about their thoughts and offer your own as well, the art of conversation is a social skill that gets easier with practice
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 03:30 PM
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They Probably said you sounded like a gay man because they assumed you’re male since that’s the majority of people who game. Deep feminine voice is often considered sexy (Adele, Liz Taylor etc). I wouldn’t worry about it, everyone dislikes the sound of their voice on recordings, there’s been studies about it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 07:40 AM
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Don’t waste your best years on him. He wants to have it all where he can continue to reap the benefits of your relationship while sleeping with other girls. Unfortunately since you agreed to a casual arrangement before it’s unlikely he would believe that this is no longer an option. He might move to Hawaii with you where you will be playing house and he would enjoy it but I doubt that would make him want to commit, it’s more likely he would continue his fomo mentality.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 09:20 AM
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If you guys are teenagers, this is perfectly ok. But adults with zero sexual activity in a year and a half is far from typical. Perhaps he is asexual but he might as well be gay. The only way you can find out is to talk to him. Not sure which culture you are from but perhaps this is also a way to show you respect regardless of religion (although if your mom is concerned about it my guess is that this is not the case). You are confident there is no medical issues involved but there could be plent…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 08:49 AM
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He says literally what every man says. End it, there is no other way. No texting, no “platonic” contact. It will hurt but it will be worth it. I really hope you’re not even considering this 10 years wait. You already are wasting your best years on this man with zero guarantee that he will be with you, actually he openly stated that this will never happen. This relationship is convenient to him, you keep him young. But there is nothing in it for you. You think you have this special connection but…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 08:19 AM
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You’re 22 so it’s not too late for anything. I’m confused why men are annoyed by you but if more than one of them has called you clingy something is off. Do you start talking about marriage on the first date or something like that? This isn’t genetics for sure, there must be something about your behavior or more likely the fact that most men your age look for a commitment free physical relationships. Men don’t marry porn stars and hentai characters so there is no competition for you there. Also …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:59 AM
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THIS. You two are a traditional couple and he is without a job while you have one. He might even resent you for it as his masculinity is undermined so he went after something that would deeply hurt a feminine woman. Immature of him for sure and no excuses for his behavior but it’s an explanation. I say confront him and if he doesn’t so much as apologize - leave him. You are young, attractive and you have a job, you deserve better than someone like that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 10:38 AM
1

Keeping my fingers crossed for you! It would be easy to fall into despair after such shocking news but you are already taking action with potentially going back to school and making difficult decisions about potentially calling off the wedding. I’m sorry you’re going through this but also glad you’re handling it with poise and maturity. All the best!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 07:00 AM
2

Tbh it seems like he is lucky and happy to be with OP. It’s possible that the ex emasculated him either on purpose or just by being more successful. There are two ways of looking at his situation - he found a younger woman who has RPW mentality or he found a simple girl with no ambition whom he met at 20 so she’s easy to control. Instead of owning up to the first statement and being proud, he seems to almost obsessively insecure that his ex might be thinking the second part. While we all want to…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 05:07 AM
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She probably had ambitions and plans that OP’s fiancé couldn’t live up to. And achievements too just proportionate to that age group - grades, quality of college she got into, sport achievements etc etc. 22 is usually the age one graduates from college and gets a first job, perhaps she landed one much better than OP’s fiancé and broke up with him knowing she could do better. But Yeah I’m sure she was also fed up with how he treats people when he is insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 04:23 AM
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It sounds pretty obvious what you want when you send those signals - he knows but he just doesn’t want to have sex. Men are very visual creatures, inspire him maybe with some lingerie or casual half-nakedness? You know What he likes most so have fun with it
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 08:38 PM
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My theory is that she broke up with him because he wasn’t up to her standards, since she is so well-educated, well-mannered and has an interesting life full of travels. He resents that he wasn’t good enough for her so he went for someone completely opposite so that he never has to feel insecure. The way he treated you was not ok - you’ve made plans together and you made a life changing decision based on those plans and now he is embarrassed of being a woman whose ambition is “only” to be a SAHM.…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 07:53 PM
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