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Yes. She was warned. I had drawn up papers previously twice when she was physically rough with two of our rebellious teenage daughters but didn’t serve them because we went to counseling the first time and the second time her mom passed the next day!
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 06:08 PM
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That is my greatest fear with pulling back from the course I have placed us on. The biggest issue is that I am a man of faith who professes to believe that God could change anyone’s heart, but like you, I am very skeptical about her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:39 PM
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This was exactly what I was afraid of is that if I were to turn back now and consider doing counseling (even though that’s what she’s asking for) deep down, she would know that I relented and I did not follow through. Instead of mercy she might view as weakness and therefore be contemptuous of me thereafter.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:25 PM
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I’m curious why were you glad that you did counseling before you ended up dividing up anyhow?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:15 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:03 PM
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I did not put my name on it. I raided my retirement savings and paid cash.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 04:45 PM
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Yes, the mask is already starting to come off and she’s getting nasty
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 11:32 PM
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Thanks. That is super insightful. I will ponder this hard today.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 06:33 PM
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That’s how I have been looking at it too. But it is quite a temptation to believe that it could be real. Like too good to be true. I must stick to my guns and finish what I started or she will just keep up the games forever and I will go insane riding the emotional roller coaster
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 05:01 PM
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I had the opposite. When I finally filed she became “perfect wife and mom”. I was so confused because I was like “where was that person the last 20 years”? She is hoping to work if out but I am scared that it is a trap. I am sure that if I stay low key no energy put into the relationship she will turn back into super b**ch
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 02:56 PM
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I am in the same situation. Literally days after filing divorce. Now she’s putting on the perfect wife and mother act. To me it’s insulting to think well, you could’ve done this days weeks months and years ago but you chose not to and now you can just flip a switch.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 01:05 PM
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Yes. I am really struggling with this idea. It seemed like He was very much arranging things behind the scenes for us to meet at great odds and marry. This belief probably kept me from seeing the loads of red flags that were there from the start because I so wanted to be with the One God had for me. Looking back it’s so easy to second guess. I am also unsure about forsaking the vows I made 22 years ago. Yet she never wants to take personal responsibility for her side of the messes we find oursel…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 12:43 PM
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We used to have great sex. Good cook. Once that diminished just stress and anxiety. Hush that drama. Seek peace.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 03:37 PM
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I filed yesterday after a terrible weekend. I am done
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 09:20 PM
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I tried this but she thinks that therapy is a waste of time and money. She refuses to go see anyone but just blames others and external factors for all of her pain and hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 07:09 PM
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Yes. I can relate to all of this. Just have not yet filed. Need to move one.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 03:29 PM
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That would almost be a relief because then I would have a greater justification according my Christian beliefs to initiate the divorce. I think that she is just extra selfish personally.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 02:07 PM
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I have read that one and really like it. He also has one that’s more specific to teenagers.
/r/RPChristians17/12/20 07:46 PM
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Parenting teenage daughters and sons
/r/RPChristians17/12/20 02:23 AM
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Actually I am almost ready credit the red pill with saving my marriage. I have read through the side bar and I’ve started to do a self assessment 0YS weekly in a journal and also been maintaining frame with the wife. Wow. It really makes a huge difference. I mean it’s not a miracle cure....her hamster still runs crazy but I at least have a point of reference on how to deal with it. I think the biggest thing for me was realizing as Rollo puts it in one of his Iron rules “that a woman is in capabl…
/r/RPChristians18/05/19 01:08 PM
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I have read this book and think that his overall argument makes intellectually. It’s like iron sharpens irons and helps one grow and look more like Christ from the sufferings of marriage.
/r/RPChristians09/04/19 02:02 AM
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I can completely relate. Just found the red pill this year 2019 and I have been dealing with a wife who exhibits all of these BPD Characteristics in a blue pill fashion for 18 years! I have tried marital counseling, appeasement, and crazy amounts of apologies For things and situations that were not my fault. Walking on eggshells and workaholic avoidance of her does not work. It’s so bad that my four children each wish that we would get a divorce but my Christian beliefs preclude this so I’m goin…
/r/RPChristians22/01/19 12:50 PM
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