matt_the_hat Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Woman causes destruction of property to Uber driver and is only given a small fine Seems like her pussy pass is retroactively denied I'd say she got pretty good mileage out of it. No charges have been filed in the case. This girl is "sorry" and "ashamed" about what happened, and she'll be haunted by a YouTube video that comes up if you Google her name. If a guy did the same thing he would likely be "arrested" and "incarcerated" instead and would be haunted by a criminal record for assault/battery that would come up when he applies for a job or apartment.	/r/PussyPass	27/01/16 06:29 PM
1	Are there any ways to tell how sexually adventurous or kinky a girl is before you really get to know her? In my experience, tattoos and facial piercings (other than the tiny nose stud) are often a good indicator of kinkiness.	/r/seduction	07/04/14 07:17 PM
1	I [M 24] am in a unique situation and looking for tips as to how to improve my hotel game. Chatting up the staff to find out what's fun nearby seems like a good starting point. Bonus if the staff are attractive, but don't worry if they are not. Either way they can help you find the best bars in the area. Stick to bars near your hotel if possible.	/r/seduction	01/04/14 06:54 AM
1	Non-neediness is a very important attribute to have and to convey. buys its better to BE something than to be NOT something. What is a synonym for non-needy? Self-confident	/r/seduction	25/01/14 08:24 AM
2	How can I logistically go out 7 nights a week? What is that like financially? You don't have to go out to bars every night. Do that 2 or 3 nights a week if you can (Thursday, Friday, and Saturday will usually be the biggest nights). When you go out, find girls who you want to hang out with; make plans with them for Sunday through Wednesday. It's also good to set aside some time for doing fun stuff with friends that does not only involve pickup/game. And in college, if you are actually there for an education in addition to the social scene, plan to keep at least 1 night a …	/r/seduction	15/11/13 12:36 PM
1	A guy privately approached me on picking up the girl that was with him, how do i overcome that? Either way, you should not be worried about her failure to respond. Women flake for all kinds of reasons and you can't read too much into the behavior of any one who you don't know well in the first place. But you should be proud that you made the effort, and handled the situation well enough to walk away with her number. A lot of guys would have been too intimidated by the circumstances.	/r/seduction	12/11/13 12:52 AM
3	A guy privately approached me on picking up the girl that was with him, how do i overcome that? You might want to consider the possibility that the real player in this scenario was the girl. She may have been bored/disappointed because the guy she came with was not paying much attention to her, especially if he was wrapped up in the pool game and trying to impress his crew. So she took the opportunity to make him jealous by chatting with you. It worked - definitely got his attention. She may have given you her number just to show him that she has options if he doesn't start paying attentio…	/r/seduction	11/11/13 09:10 AM
8	Giving random compliments to girls by text? IMHO, it would be best to combine what you are thinking with an action plan. So instead of just saying it felt great to hold her, tell her that and follow it up by telling her when you want to see her again.	/r/seduction	05/11/13 01:23 AM
1	Can you instadate someone who's working? You want the girl to be comfortable during your date. If she is anxious to get back to work, she probably won't be comfortable. It makes a lot more sense to chat her up enough that she will remember you, then either get her number so you can set up a date, or come back later when she gets off work.	/r/seduction	29/10/13 01:38 AM
2	Need help with a girl in my class It sounds like the real problem is not figuring out if she's interested - all signs indicate that she is. So why are you asking questions here? Are you wondering how to proceed from where you are now, to getting her in bed? It sounds like you have already established some attraction and comfort, so the key now is to escalate. There is a lot of material online about escalation; I recommend reading up on the Dicarlo Escalation Ladder. But honestly you probably won't need to "game" very hard.	/r/seduction	29/10/13 01:30 AM
2	Need advice on after-date text. Go with your gut. You should not always be worried about doing exactly what the PUA instructors would say. Once you have gotten as far as having a good date, just be yourself. If you want to tell her you had a good time, do it!	/r/seduction	28/10/13 01:46 AM
2	Is it uncommon for a guy to have never talked to a girl at a bar? Actually, that is very common. The "AFC" (Average Frustrated Chump) is exactly the person who never talks to girls he doesn't know at bars, because he can't get over his approach anxiety ("AA"). Helping AFCs overcome their AA and learn how to approach women is probably the biggest reason this subreddit exists, and it is the focus of most of the PUA/seduction techniques discussed here. A lot of the responses here are saying that never talking to women in bars in uncommon, because among the PUA co…	/r/seduction	28/10/13 01:42 AM
1	/r/seduction, what do you think of Bang With Friends? Did you mean to ask, "what do you think of spam"? Seddit is not an advertisement forum, and any information posted should be aimed at helping progress our member's abilities in the arts of seduction. A specific reason why the link is helpful to sedditors should be accompanied in the post or in a comment. Links should be made to actual content, rather than advertising a book or simple a website's homepage. Any blatant advertisement of products that cost money without prior approval from moderator…	/r/seduction	23/10/13 06:27 AM
2	A little help with texting a girl! Don't text so much. Use texting primarily to set up real-life meetings, where you can get back to the in-person chemistry you shared. You could try calling instead of texting. Some girls might prefer texting, but some prefer the spontaneity and more intimate feel of a voice call.	/r/seduction	23/10/13 06:25 AM
1	[fr] Night at the club, K-closed and then dunno WTF happened. In addition to those suggestions, it might also help to work on some fun/cool dance moves.	/r/seduction	22/10/13 11:42 PM
1	What is you're opinion on bringing a second girl (friend) on a second or third date with another girl? You're going to need to use your judgment on this one, because you know the situation and the people involved better than anyone else here. We would need more information to give a helpful response. That being said, under most circumstances I would strongly recommend against bringing a female friend on an early date with a girl you like. It would be very different if you were talking about bringing your date out with a bigger group of people - but if it is just you, her, and a female friend, tha…	/r/seduction	22/10/13 02:44 AM
2	Made a solid approach to pretty attractive girl today even though it wasn't successful. Asked her her name and if she was single. As others have suggested, asking if she is single is problematic. Any form of that question (such as "do you have a boyfriend?" or "are you seeing anybody?") early in the interaction sets her up to dismiss you immediately. You'll likely get better results just trying to chat and build some rapport, then try to set up a future interaction.	/r/seduction	22/08/13 11:56 PM
-1	how do i learn to do "party" conversations? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhaF8m5jtkA	/r/seduction	21/12/12 01:45 AM
3	Reading the "what hints flew over your head" thread got me thinking... Escalating has NEVER lead to a negative consequence I mostly agree with this but I would clarify that you of course have to stop escalating once the girl says "no" or otherwise expresses that she does not want to go further. If you literally believe that escalating physical contact can never be wrong, you don't understand what 'rape' means. I think the issue that OP is addressing is that a lot of guys tend to err on the side of caution, so they never get to the point where the girl says no. That means the guy isn't escalating enough. You'll get f…	/r/seduction	19/12/12 07:38 PM
1	Tired of this. Help me set standards for myself. why do you use a random dell voice number? that seems like it makes it harder for the girl to recognize you when you call, and she might get confused and think the random number is your number... why not just call her from the phone? do you have to pay more for that?	/r/seduction	19/10/12 08:08 PM
2	Field tested opener that's been working great for me! That might be good, but I think something that helps OP here is that the sister is clearly NOT a girlfriend. If a girl thinks you are buying a gift for a female friend, she might assume it is your girlfriend, which might change how she looks at you (might be a good or bad way depending on the girl and your approach to her). Still, if it isn't a sister, it could be a niece/cousin/teacher/whatever.	/r/seduction	15/10/12 09:54 PM
1	Field tested opener that's been working great for me! only applies to men who actually do have younger sisters they're shopping for, or men who would say anything to get ahead with women. But any guy with half a brain could adapt this to fit his situation. If he doesn't have a younger sister, it could be a cousin, niece, co-worker, family friend, etc. OP offered a useful suggestion based on his own experience; readers should be expected to be smart enough to make it work in their own circumstances. this isn't an opener, this is a excuse to talk to …	/r/seduction	15/10/12 09:50 PM
1	Confidence Killers...Hitting on a girl you don't find attractive and getting shot down. Tips and advice? these girls might have lower self-esteem, and be easier to pick up on That seems logical, but it may be more complicated than that. Most of the PUA/game tactics you read about are intended to apply to attractive women, who are used to getting attention from 'nice' guys - the tactics are designed to help distinguish you from the 'nice' guys. But less attractive women may not be used to getting hit on at all, so those PUA tactics might not help with them, and might make them nervous/upset. And if …	/r/seduction	26/09/12 12:03 AM
1	Seddit, I'm in a relationship, and my game's in a rut. I have no clue about the book Jtails linked, but taking advice from someone who wrote a book makes at least as much sense as asking for advice from random people on the internet (which you are already are doing). There is a lot of garbage on the internet, right?	/r/seduction	24/09/12 11:49 PM
2	I'm at a crossroads with my pick-up. Been studying PUAs, practicing, going out more for 8 months now. Could really use some advice. 2 days ago, I contacted every attractive girl I know and completely struck out. No one even responded. Can you be more specific? 1) How did you contact them? Text? Phone call? Email? Facebook? 2) What did you say? Did you propose a specific meeting place and time? 3) Could there be an issue with timing? How far ahead was the plan (did you call on Tuesday for a Thursday date or what)? 4) What indications do you have that these women are actually interested in you as anything more than a friend? Y…	/r/seduction	21/09/12 06:38 PM
1	Messed up in an odd way, feeling terrible. How to regain momentum? Shake it off. Learn from the experience. From what you wrote it sounds like the problem was that you felt like you needed to be 'in seduction mode' to succeed - when in fact, you were doing just fine by being yourself, and things only fell apart when you started worrying about following some rules that you think apply to 'seduction mode.' Attitude is so important. You were doing well as long as your attitude was 'I'm just here to have fun' ... then you started struggling when you started overthi…	/r/seduction	12/09/12 12:50 AM
1	How to prevent from getting into the friendzone? Make sure she knows, early on, that you are interested in more than just being study partners and friends. This can be straightforward and simple. For example, when you are finished studying tonight, smile and look her in the eyes and say "I'm really glad you asked me to study with you. I'd like to get to know you better. Maybe next time we can do something fun instead of schoolwork? How about we go bowling on Sunday?"	/r/seduction	12/09/12 12:39 AM
2	So exactly, how willing are most women to having sex the same night? I'm highly unlikely to have sex on the first night So that means you might under the right circumstances? I thought that was sort of what the OP was trying to get at: are most women absolutely opposed to same night sex? Or are they potentially open to it if the stars align properly? It seems like many inexperienced/sheltered guys think that any woman who isn't a hooker would absolutely not consider having sex with a guy she just met. I think the truth is less absolute; a lot of women might do it…	/r/seduction	29/06/12 10:04 PM