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I have started taking a class on Wed from 630pm to 10pm, when I get home she is sleeping with lights out. In fact many nights if I come home after 930 pm, she is in bed and sleeping. I have also gone dancing as well on my own to meet some friends, I am telling you she just does not seem to care. Lately she is just into work and because she is short handed she is stressed out, irritated lots of the time with myself and daughter if she has to spend more than 5 minutes listening or talking ..She se…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/18 02:38 PM
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hmm. I have gone out before to a club with friends. I have also gone out to the gym late at night. I just started taking a class on Wednesday as well from 630pm to almost 11pm. Tonight we were watching a movie with wife and daughter at 950 pm she got up and walked into the bedroom and went to sleep. She doesnt even say good night to daughter or me. Perhaps she is just really tired but this does seem to be the trend at night. I was thinking of going out. Like tonight I feel bored, she is asleep a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/18 05:11 AM
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I feel so bored at night when she decides to go to sleep. I have no idea what to do with myself however I guess that could be me leaving and working out at night or going dancing and meeting women on my own. Who would have thought that this how things get. As far as the conversation, I am burned out from it, she just talks about work, work and more work. I guess I have no idea how to shift the conversation to something else these days. She likes to talk about the world and complain about things,…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/18 02:48 AM
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Thanks for the comments and the reference to - one thing that will inspire you. I feel like I went down that path before and yet I feel as if she was in the same rut...I have to do it for me, however I do feel trapped a bit. I am married, I work my ass off and soooo much is expected of me. I feel like I have a pile on my back that I am carrying and its depressing that I am not a priority when everyone else is to me. I get that all of that is some huge covert contract. I dont want to beg for what…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/18 04:46 AM
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Yes. I just read this and perhaps that is the key. What if you do STFU and walk away. I have put in a bunch of effort and perhaps its more I am sick of hearing the story and information I write, talking about it and to be honest it is a bit depressing when your working on all of this and at a 0 for 12 months...and perhaps things get much worse before they get better. Perhaps its all back to the drawing board. Perhaps I have no idea what to do because its seems to be the same response no matter w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/18 06:13 AM
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I feel like I am on a see saw / merry go round. Seems like I have to restart from the beginning all over again with reading and levels of dread. No sex for a year now. Its eating me up but more so I know that I have lots of work to do... It can really smack you in the face going through all of this
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/18 12:41 AM
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o be honest, when I come on here it kind of puts me in this mode that I have failed at what I want most. Lately I have been in this DGAF mode and focusing on my purpose, working out and etc. I have also let all the work I had put in preparation for being intimate I have just let things kind of go. Its funny - this may sound crazy, I used to shave my body ( chest and privates) more for being smooth for wife and being in a mode where I was super clean with no hair, it would look better to see my m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 05:42 PM
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I watched American Beauty. It seems depressing I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 03:15 AM
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Ok, Guess I have to read it again ! Review it :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 12:29 AM
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This week BAD.. I was sick ! Sucks man . I feel like lousy trying to push through all of this shit ! its getting to me
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 11:49 PM
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I did this. No responses. It must be that bad ..LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 11:48 PM
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OYS Week 6 Stats: 48, Bday this past week, 5’10”, 195, bf 12-13.% . . Her: 50 , 5’5”, 115, strong-willed feminist type. Relationship status: Dead bedroom...This past few days I got sick. Very rare first time in a year. Its almost out of my system have been taking the last few days to recharge my body. LIFTING Been Lifting and Adding in More Cardio . I am seeing much more definition in my arms, triceps and stomach. I have added in more cardio in fact I am thinking of doing cardio workouts 2 x per…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 03:25 AM
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So I know that based on RP theory "STFU" seems to be the focus. Is communication to my wife not important part of trying to improve this marriage/relationship ? There are several books that I feel would be helpful for the wife to read. Perhaps my wife's understanding is limited.. My wife is the type of person who seems a bit behind the 8-ball with information. This past week, I think I tapped out my system between workouts, holiday and my mind extended into multiple outlets. I started a new proj…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 02:55 AM
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I think over the last week as I listened to some topics from relationship experts. There are dynamics woven into our relationship that seem to make our relationship a certain way. Is it helpful in anyway to communicate with your wife and share information? Is this trying to fix someone or being needy ? 1) Here is a great insight on complaining and bickering https://www.estherperel.com/blog/stop-bickering-its-killing-your-relationship 2) Here is one that when I heard it, it reminded me of my wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 02:49 AM
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Nice way to slap me in the face :-(
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/18 06:09 PM
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Ok. Great point ..ill just head to gym and lift ..I'm feeling annoyed today ..not a great week I guess
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/18 05:57 PM
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Level two to three
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:41 PM
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If you were paying attention to my post I've already been lifting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:39 PM
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How do I increase that? I have to instill fear in her of losing me...it's funny if don't instill fear it's all my fault for everything and she has no responsibility for any part of this relationship / intimacy...what's the best definition of outcome independent?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:35 PM
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Yes, you have point . I hear it takes time
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:13 PM
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Here is the point: Why do I even have to threaten to walk away. Is that love? Threatening someone to shift or I am out of here, then on top of that I have to have something in place where if she goes back on what she said she would do, then I am moving ... and then that person is now supposed to want to be romantic with you ? and be excited about spending time with you.. Does that not seem backwarrds ??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:13 PM
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I guess the hope that things would change. My daughter.. Perhaps I thought that all of this would get better . Well its gone to 3 times in three months vs 1 time in a year. Every time I have a discussion with her about this topic.. it seems to just go no where. I just do not even know why all this is the way that it is. We have a great family, we have fun.. We are all busy with life perhaps ..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:11 PM
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How does that work? Then I just communicate to her that the only reason I am considering this is that she has no interest in working on our intimacy and it seems to not be important to her. It actually makes me feel bad I have t o come to this idea.. Never thought it would end up like this
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:07 PM
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I have been lifting for years . I lift a lot ! I lift 3-5 times per week about 12-13% BF. https://www.screencast.com/t/gJf6l5ACd
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:06 PM
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Level 2/3. I guess if you look at the statistics.. There has been improvement. But I do not want duty activity. I want someone who wants me. Funny, I am always meeting people being in entertainment industry. I always share things with wife like I met this girl on set who told me this. Last week I even went to do a scene with a girl at her place and left at 645pm, and came home around 11. It was something I needed to film. My wife never even asked about who is this girl/woman or where did you mee…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/18 04:03 PM
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Ok. I feel bad for where I am in life at the moment. This morning I got up and something came to mind when it comes to my wife. Which morning over the last 2 years has she every been excited in a affectionate/sexual way to see me.. When has she been excited laying next to me in bed to see me ? She does not .. She lays on her side of the bed wanting to be left alone..I will come over and hug her in the morning and I am excited to see her ... Yet, Its as if there is no one home on her side. What i…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/18 03:21 PM
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Guess it comes back to me realizing what I was sold on around marriage was some fairytale... honestly I'm a bit shocked ....I want to be someone with values and morals yet...I guess it's hard to face the real truth of what's so vs what u had hoped for ..
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/18 02:09 AM
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How would u know of I'm fun.... I guess maybe when I write on this form I don't share all the fun things...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 12:31 AM
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I'm also seeing lots of measurable results when it comes to diet and lifting
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 08:12 PM
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I feel like I'm making a lot of Headway for myself when it comes to business and career and income guess I have to break out the mindful attraction plan again I feel focused on the map however I'm just sharing on here about my wife so maybe I should stop sharing about her because when I'm in home I'm not saying anything I'm shutting the f******
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 08:11 PM
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How do you provide value for your wife! I'm focus on the plan for me right now I need to get my finances in order because I'm a little upside down when it comes to resources I provide a lot of value for the business that we run I provide value because I'm there for my wife and my daughter. As far as Dredd I'm still working on this process it's been 5 weeks now and perhaps I'm just not having me live within my wife's frame because before I was eyes doing stuff for her to help her to benefit her t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 08:09 PM
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OYS Week 5 SUMMARY I am 47, Wife 50. Been on this program as a restart for the last 4 weeks. I am in shape but need to move towards BAD-ASS Mode. Have realizations that even though I am fit, why not PUNCH the envelope and take this SHIT to a whole other level of living and game. FRAME This is the biggest thing I need to work on along with DREAD. I was sucked into my wife’s frame and perhaps even other family. I have to really build up my muscles around this and practice staying IN IT ! I know be…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 05:18 PM
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I have watched this before. I will watch again, its been some time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 07:33 PM
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Ok. Ill go figure it out on my own..
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:36 PM
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Thanks . I feel better ..is this about verbal abuse or education?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:36 PM
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Great ..and where the hell do i go from here ..happy birthday to me
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:11 PM
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How do I not feel angry???? Just feel like this is b****all these f*** games
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:05 PM
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Where is the best place to learn how to respond ..what resource allows me to reteach myself frame since I have not had it for the last 10 years..ok...I get that I lack frame...now what
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:00 PM
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I am..I slept in another room last night..my bday is in 48hrs...and my wife is throwing shit bombs at me . Maybe it's a away to be off the hook for my bday..it's fucked
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 02:53 PM
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I feel like many times my wife talks at me...I talk to her ...it's as if she can't control her emotions ..lately she will analyze some of the things I share from projects and work around mindset...I went to a seminar and shared insights around judgements and filters people have ..then she will think..share that how can you not be around judgements and your environment influences you a certain way..it's as if she hears what I say..but then justifies ..how or what's the point of your a victim to w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 01:02 PM
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Right..I guess at the moment .when I work on more things for myself or I work to make more money for the household ...it seems my wife ..then starts doing more at home. A week ago something happened because I work with wife on some business projects ...she then starts explaining that she earns her keep..that she cooks and takes care of daughter and works with some projects for the business .she said she earns her keep...that it would be hard to find someone who could do what she does ...underlyi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 12:34 PM
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Ok, thanks. I have to start reading on KINO, Game and initiating. My birthday is in a few days, I know that does not mean much. Over this last month- I have been super focused on career and money. She seems to always be tired - bed seems to be a complaint with initiating. In fact even if my wife wanted to have sex on my birthday, I am kind of wondering - if I want to just because she feels obligated or its my birthday. The last sex we had was in Nov on anniversary, while it feels good, it just s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:42 AM
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ha ha
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/18 05:58 AM
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I also maybe getting confused between STFU and doing a 180 ...Maybe I am more on a 180...From the community here: Do you do KINO and GAME wife - just to do it ..or because you feel it
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 01:12 AM
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Ok..so anything else I can do..I will have to look into daughters schedule to re arrange all...I mentioned this to wife months back.. Seems I was not there years back ..now I'm seeing the disadvantages of things that I did.. Today I called wife based on clearing up communication..she started telling me all the stuff she does and tried to justify that her work stuff around house and things she does ..that she feels she is earning her keep ..and that no one else she feels could replace what she do…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 12:40 AM
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OYS#4 These weeks OYS has progress and then last night I think I went to far. Somehow my anger was triggered so I know most of you will tell me how I fucked up. What I am looking for is a response for me to use vs my past pattern where I come from red pill instead of beta. INFO 47 - 48 in a week. OMG. Wife 50, married since 2008, 1 child - 8 years old. 1 Month in since starting this again, focusing on dread level 2-3.. Feeling great physically. TRAINING/LIFTING I have increased frequency at the …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/18 07:23 PM
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Wow..this post makes me understand how much work I still need to do..I am not even having sex ...but this post illustrates then there's another 10 levels even above getting to regular sex..building frame..levels of dread..wow. I'm impressed ...I have soooo much to do..wow.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 03:31 PM
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Sure. Lead and work on FRAME, DREAD and GAME. My wife slept for most of the day today while I went to gym for 2 hours, went to party with daughter and a class. Im leading - however I do have to just keep following the dread and 12 levels. Looks like its saying for levels 1 through 7 that its 1 month for each year.. so we are talking doing all of this for 1-1.5 years .. really ? That long ?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 03:36 AM
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Yep..I am a dumbass ..guess I'm too busy trying to support the family ...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 06:47 PM
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Ok, Wife takes daughter to an appointment that is one place. She needs hand holding - address, etc .. Its as if she is going on a trip. Then when she is there she texts me to give me a report of how its going, that they do not have food. Etc.. I am like holly hell.. she just had to go to once place and she is just pulling me into all this stuff while I am not even there. This made me realize a few things.. How needy she actually is for me to do things for her .. Lots of changes need to happen..a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 11:05 PM
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I think I really need to isolate myself and get all of this done. Come to think of it - all I do from 9:30 Pm to bed is lay next to wife and think about how things have to change. She may ask about different things. I think me going to the gym and second time per day and spending an hour on a cardio machine would make me feel much better then looking at what is missing at the moment. I mean getting to 6-7% bodyfat takes fucking work. I think I should be thinking about ME and what is best for me …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 08:44 PM
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Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:55 PM
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You want to know what is a bit frustrating: This morning I worked out with trainer - 530 to 7 am Daughter - School til 8 Errands / Business 10am Working on Businesses working on life all of this ;; The focus on change can at times distract you from working on all of the other things ....How do you steady your mind, get your needs met and do it all at once ...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:54 PM
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What could be another way that I approach this ? If you were in my shoes what would you do ? Is this about me fully disconnecting? How could I shift this when she seems to look at me the same as before even when I am changing, making progress and shifting ? I am the only one in frequent motion daily when it comes to career, income and etc ? Since I have been looking at my relationship from the nice guy, retarded way for the last 20 years - What is another way I could ACT, Look or behave, within …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:32 PM
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I have a lot of work to do. I need to STUDY STUDY Dread and Frame. I need to wake up and get MY SHIT together for me and not get distracted by her all of the time. I have to retrain my myself, my wife and my family after 20 years of this - I feel it will not happen tomorrow. Yet I do want to have the rewards in life for myself and my needs and hard work NOW ! Patience here is quite a bitch. I am READING, STFU, Lifting, Working a few projects and multiple businesses then pile all of the family, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:25 PM
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What is FFS, even your wife gets it > Mean ..? Today my wife because we worked together was talking about issues with a client, I redirected her back to solutions - yet while she spoke with me I felt like I work for her and that is our relationship - doing stuff and working - how do I shift that into fun, when she just seems so focused on work.. and then is that not me now going out of my way to do things to shift our relationship into FUN? How do you look at someone who is never interested in s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:23 PM
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Yes..I will read it again..
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 04:00 AM
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Ok. Tingles. So I have my work cut out for me. Guess at this point I am just a guy that gets the money, works for her and does what she wants me to do to make her life easier. Guess - that does not = sex or = sexual desire. That is the part I need to get.. I am the one that trained her that way. now instead of being a nice guy - i have to go in the opposite direction of that - dread, frame, and game. I have been this was for like 30+ years and 20+ years with her.. I feel fucking jipped of lots o…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 02:24 AM
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When I read this article - the results seem so far away . Fuck - I feel like I have 10,000 miles to go . wow. I had sex one time this past year. I do not even think I ever had sex more than 1 time in a day let alone 5 times in a week.. Wow, I have lots of work to do .
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 01:38 AM
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Probably cook and go to sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 01:26 AM
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It's my perception that based on all this I am responsible for generating everything..perhaps I am tired ...she is not bored at all...she is tired when she is in bed She has no desire for sex with anyone ..and again this seems to be my fault ....I think I need to fuel up..seems like I have world conquer...here for myself ..
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 10:00 PM
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Ok I will keep reading ..sounds like I am responsible for everything
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 06:58 PM
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I have read that ..let's see I give my wife ideas..generate business and brilliant ideas for her ..open her up to new ideas and am a positive force in her new business ...and during week plan trips.to movie and other fun places .she seems to be needy...I am the opportunity shiner..in our lives Is it reasonable for me to have to fox her depression and lack of libido....I share all.pf this on here ...I STFU..work and drive my family life to get out..this morning we are all going to beach and takin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 04:53 PM
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Is sex once per week pornstar sex 1) kino - play 2) initiate - escalate She just seems non responsive to and not into sex...seems she is most concerned with sleep and surviving at minimal energy. I want to take her to doctor ..but I don't want to try and change her and make her do anything she's not into
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 04:40 PM
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OYS - Week 4: HISTORY 47, wife 50, married 9 years, together almost 20. 5'10, 190, 12-13% BF, Lifting, Reading , Vegan, Super Healthy Its week four since resetting again and starting the MRP again. I am feeling anger and mad that I am in this situation with my marriage. Obviously however I chalk it up it seems that its my fault for letting things get to where they are with having sex 3 times in 2 years. I think that my wife falling into her not available state had definitely done a number on me …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 04:23 PM
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So it's interesting to watch how my wife behaves sometimes ..yesterday she stated she did not have any dessert this week and she really wanted to get some dessert last night...it's amazing that if she wants something such as food that it's a necessity especially sugar... Yesterday ..I took daughter to jujitsu..and picked up some groceries ...last night she said daughter wanted to see a tournament at 9 am..and daughter also has a class later in afternoon ...typically I would have taken daughter t…
/r/askMRP21/01/18 03:53 PM
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My birthday is coming in February...my wife asked what I want for my birthday..I don't even know how to answer that question...lol..sex..lol
/r/askMRP20/01/18 06:19 PM
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What you're saying makes sense. I actually don't feel needy. I believe that I want to have a healthy sexual relationship and if anything my wife seems more needy especially with business and other things she handles on her own. I do agree with you that I have to work on myself and that it's because I've been a nice guy and I've done all these things for her hoping that perhaps she would desire me. I had this fairytale expectation that when I was married I would have the best sexual relationship …
/r/askMRP19/01/18 10:00 PM
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Ok, That will be my main focus. I was told not to move up the levels too fast its been 3 weeks since I started all of this again ..
/r/askMRP17/01/18 05:50 PM
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Yes, you are right. I am getting up to speed now. I am relaunching new clients and also restarting an old business that generated an extra 8-10k per month that is simple for me and allows me to get some space.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 05:44 PM
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I took unleash the power from Anthony Robbins. From that even I launched into fitness and working on my state. I lost 35 lbs in about 6 months, that was the start back on fitness train in 2013.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 05:43 PM
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Yes. I have that one. I think somehow I let some other people get in to my mind with what they thought .. Thanks !
/r/askMRP17/01/18 05:31 PM
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Yes
/r/askMRP17/01/18 04:09 PM
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Ok..
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:51 PM
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What's that mean..it's too late so if I stand my ground and do all of this...it be easier for her to have a divorce then do stuff ?
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:32 PM
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I just had something hit me...it seems that I used to have a lot more flow in life..I just realized something major and it's my fault..somehow I managed to start listening more to the opinions and judgements my wife and family had of me and what I was doing ...I did well making money and getting clients ...then I would somehow listen to my wife's thinking which pulled me into her frame...I used to just do things because I felt it was smart. .I started checking in with her more and more and now I…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:30 PM
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I need to read it again...it's been like 5 years now. Obviously I did not get it fully or things would be different ...looks like I need to really really read these a few times and face the truth and grow some fucking balls
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:09 PM
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I need to bring back the FUN I used to have. I think life has gotten serious for me with too much responsibility. Tonight I had this thought about my birthday coming in a month or so.. I thought I should have a birthday party with 300 people. I used to do that all of the time when we first met.. I know soo many cool people, I thought I should throw a party and invite all of the cool people I know to it .. for ME ! I need to laugh more, I need to tease, surprise, flirt more. I think I completely …
/r/askMRP17/01/18 07:34 AM
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You have valid points
/r/askMRP17/01/18 04:30 AM
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That makes sense. I still do need to retrain my thinking. I feel I have been in Nice Guy mode since 15 so to speak. I am 47. So I do need to shift my patterns as well as well as execute on drawing boundaries and new rules and patterns.. Imagine that me changing all of it - it could get worse before it gets better...and I get that its for me to be the best man I can be - not necessarily the relationship. I guess there never is any right time for change.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 04:30 AM
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ok, I will read this as well. Thanks !
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:53 AM
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Yes. Agreed
/r/askMRP17/01/18 02:34 AM
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Yes...well I did fully fit nice guy and all covert contracts in last 20 years...I have to change who I am and value who I am and needs and do what's best for me...lots of work to do ...and build frame and get my mind right for what I decide is next step
/r/askMRP17/01/18 02:34 AM
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Thanks
/r/askMRP17/01/18 02:33 AM
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Before ...last time I went through I felt kind of angry that I don't get to do any of that with my wife....I will read again....I have tons work through steps...
/r/askMRP17/01/18 01:53 AM
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I should read this again. It sounds like I am the one to generate energy in her by me providing relief and an escape from life. So I have to generate the escape..
/r/askMRP17/01/18 01:02 AM
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Important. You mean seeing a doctor an ultimatum?
/r/askMRP17/01/18 01:01 AM
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Read this before ..I will read again . Hmm..
/r/askMRP17/01/18 12:50 AM
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Did Map way before
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:33 PM
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Fix it asap..she avoids all..always excuses and so I guess Iines need to be drawn
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:06 PM
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What does kill the puppy mean..? Based on what I shared ..what books do u feel are most focused to me ..? I definitely need help reprogramming my Nice Guy covert contracts and building a huge frame
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:05 PM
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I don't want to
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:00 PM
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Keep in mind I am sharing much more openly in here ..I do lift 5 to 6 times a week..I have business going on..I have projects going in..generate all income ..I am not like this at home ..taken on STFU and more stoicism ...I do have lots to do
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:00 PM
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I did a session with him..he said she needs endocrine exam..he sad even if I was Brad Pitt she wouldn't notice based on symptoms and descriptions I explained ...I'm just frustrated. Feeling like I'm missing something or I have failed and getting results I desire ..seems like I have tons of work to do on my mind
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:57 PM
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Right. Getting to that one...I am building that esteem and confidence..but the sexual rejection gets to me at times
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:55 PM
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I guess I'm attached to the idea of marriage and my wife and family..it looks as though everything seems great.. conversation..family ..lifestyle and 85% of what's in front of me..we talk about plans of the future and all these great ideas...them when it comes to sex..I'm thinking is it all me..am I the issue here ..what do I have to change ..all seems great...it's the sex / water I'm looking for...I guess take some point nice sounding or not I have to get water ...am I bad for getting water beh…
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:53 PM
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I am also focusing more energy on projects and my career
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:41 PM
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I am not disrespecting my wife. She cooks, workouts out and sleeps a lot .. even my daughter has to wake her up. She is always yawning and kind of low energy which moves into her easily being irritable. Before I used to react and be more serious , now I am trying to find the play and be curious but not take it sooo seriously
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:41 PM
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I guess from a positive. Last year we had sex 1 time. i had sex in Nov, got a massage in December and January. So the frequency has increased to one event per month , HA HA. I guess that would be progress.. its just after all of this reading and things I am seeing on here, I seem to feel MUCH hornier now then before - this gets to me.. and I doubled my lifting/workouts and that takes the edge off. Id rather do that then get butt hurt and aggravated ..
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:38 PM
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Lots of it :-)
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:29 PM
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Anything else I should add in my POST ?
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:29 PM
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3 years ? wow.. I do not have to worry much about the 15%, I am around 12. I would say that I am 8-9/10 guy. I have worked out a lot - I guess if I get to 6% BF that would help me a bit , smidgeon.. I spark a connection with almost anyone on my energy and who I am . Whats the Rollo post ? I think my biggest challenge is I have been in the "Nice Guy" mode most of my life, when I get in a relationship I seem to lose my frame and am a pleaser. That has not gotten me much juicy sex. I really want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 02:42 AM
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I honestly am feeling a bit mentally insane - more so after I have read all of this RP materials. Perhaps the anger is in me and I just fucking feel jipped around the last 20 years. I just am asking myself what the fuck ? Also I realize when your married and have a family - its important to have finances, structure and plans in place to allow openings for sex. Just seems that unless all that shit is handled how can you have the space for sex if your worried about responsibilities. Come to think …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 09:38 PM
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How did you do all of this ? How long did it take you ? I need to trust and relax while time passes and try and be patient
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 09:27 PM
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Yes. how do I get out of that . It does get to me all of this. Its as if I have a silent war going on. Things just seem messed up. Never would have imagined marriage to incorporate such a dynamic as this ..
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 09:05 PM
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Right. I seem to want all of it to change sooner then later. It drives me fucking nuts to be honest. The gap and the no activity just gets me spinning. At the moment this am, I just left the house because at least I was at a coffee shop and around people vs observing her sleep in the same old rut.. I went to coffee shop to send out emails for more work and focus on my plans... Sometime I feel being at home has me just watch the same patterns. I feel better when I am not at home and it shifts my …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 05:25 PM
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No, I just feel confused .. I just want to make progress. Perhaps I have since we have had 3 sexual encounters in the last 3 months. Its up from 1 time in a year
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 03:17 PM
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Drop the expectations ? Take what I want ? Are we talking about having sex with anyone? Is that not cheating and lying ? I would not want her to do that to me... Unless I am reading this wrong.. Like last night my wife lays in bed, she starts telling me how tired she was yesterday and last night and that she does not know why.. I said hmm, ok, that is interesting -wonder why? Inside i feel like saying - do not tell me how tired you feel - you have had these same conversations and comments for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 03:02 PM
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Perhaps in a marriage, my question is why do women TEST. We are married, how in the hell do you have a healthy relationship if you avoid your husband and his needs. And if we have all this on our mind..we should NOT talk about it .Last night I was tired thinking about how long this non-sexual pattern has been in place (6 years)..my wife lays in bed telling me for the 100th time - how exhausted she was today and yesterday where she felt sooo tired, I said ok. I just do not even respond much more …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 02:19 PM
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I get what your saying. Your right, I was in the Marines. I do feel like this is such a battle/push. I started reading extreme ownership. At times because I am reading multiple books and working on many things - I wonder if I am trying to do way too much all the time. I live in a BIG CITY, I would say its just what YOU HAVE TO do in order to make stuff happen. I get what your saying, lately when I initiate or do something sexual, now wife is trying to TAG me with the fact that I ONLY feel love t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 12:46 AM
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Maybe I am trying to do too much all at once?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 12:31 AM
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I feel as if I am focusing on too much all at the same time. So many things in life, what an OUTPUT of energy. I have doubled my lifting, STFU, reading like 3-4 books at the same time. I am working on plans and many other things.. I guess I just have to make sure I make time for meditation two times per day. Am i overcomplicating all of this ?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 12:12 AM
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You are right..I had a chat with a friend whom I was speaking with yesterday I feel that I have withdrawn the romantic aspects of my relationship because my wife stopped being available for sex...I also realize that most of what I have done has been in order to ...I want a healthy sex life badly because of the lack of it over last 6 years... I probably need to read Nmmng like 10 times and really work on removing these patterns ...I think honestly I am afraid of another 6 years going by and I'm a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/18 05:51 PM
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Wow. This makes me think about my life and how I show up as well. Perhaps I am setting myself up to be so much better than my wife. She comes to me all of the time, many times I think perhaps I can play the high card too. Another voice in my head is so jealous of your frequency with your wife. Unfortunately my wife seems to be shut down sexually so your experience would be a dream. Your week of intimacy, shower and sex - is more sex and intimacy then I have experienced in the last 5 years combin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 06:15 PM
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ok. so I am talking too much. Perhaps I feel if I just do not talk that I will appear super disconnected and withdrawn. Is that what you are saying. I am wanting to make progress, lately getting amazing career and work results - its great, I am grateful, yet I am like gosh - why do I feel as if I am doing soooo much work on my own - to make shit happen - she is just comfortable where she is, where i want to to make immediate changes. I am getting a ton of reading in : such as NMMNG, WISNIFG, Ext…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 05:55 PM
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Any thoughts on my POST OYS ?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 12:30 AM
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Ok, any thoughts on my POST OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 12:09 AM
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for her or me ?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 06:10 PM
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For her or me ?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 05:58 PM
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I also get that - I have to not be attached to her changing and getting sex from my wife. I do feel a release of tension because lately when I initiate and she says no, ignores it etc - I just shake it off, no big deal. Also I have been also applying some of the KINO stuff, kisses, touching, and yesterday I walked into the bathroom with her naked and grabbed her but and kissed her.. What is kind of crazy as I was in there looking at her naked, she started talking about work, sending messages to …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 05:44 PM
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I also have to be honest and say - its hard work to STAY fucking cool while your married and not having sex. This reading and work is definitely helping me...especially reading the WISNIFG and NMMNG. My whole things is HOW FAST can all of this change. I also realize that my wife explaining things to me, like she is online looking at these Hacidic Jewish Community with Boys being circumcized and molested and that reminds her of me... Her rationale or reasoning is - the ONLY way that I feel love i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 05:34 PM
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OYS #3 47yo, married 8 years, Wife is 50..together 20 years, 1 child . I discovered MRP 1 year ago, did some reading now I am restarting and have to APPLY this NOW. I was looking for ways to increase sex and improve relationship with my WIFE. Change is long overdue. I realize that I have lived in this "NICE GUY" frame for most of my life. While I am FIT, been lifting and doing sports on the outside - I am in awesome shape and probably 8/10-9/10 but I have majorly fallen into BETA MODE.. It sucks…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 05:13 PM
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Today I went in the bathroom while my wife was naked. I grabbed her ass and gave her a kiss. She proceeded to speak with me about work as she stand there naked. Hmm. I realize how cautious I am around her and in my head after all the past rejection. I listened to what she had to say.. I felt a bit tired from work and gym.. I did learn something from it - I learned how disconnected I have been. I also asked if I am fully energized to initiate and follow through . interesting . I am reading WISNIF…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 06:17 PM
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I did !
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 07:19 PM
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Height 5'10 weight 195..12%bf..bench 225, incline press 220..I don't do weighted chins..or dead lifts..have had trainer since 2013. 32/33 waist..3 days with trainer hard..3 days cardio weights on my own. Just doubled training days 2 weeks ago..ran half marathon 13.1 miles..in 2 hours in Nov..I'm x marine ..goal lately has been to shred to 6 to 7 % bf..I'm an 8/10 looking guy ..it is the Nice guy ..pussy pedestaling..I need to break as been with wife for 20 years ..after her parents died and her …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:57 AM
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I agree..I am the nice guy..I do get out of the house ..I do have hobbies and do some great things in life...I must say I feel in the position I am with wife ...bad about how this has gotten...I feel ignored and mad ..I know I need to work on frame ..and building the foundation ..I just feel it's so far gone and kind of fucked up..to be honest ..it gets to me...I act cool and not need because I'm busy with my business and many other work projects...I do not show all of this emotion in front of h…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:45 AM
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I go to the gym 6 times a week..been lifting with trainer for 4 years ..it's not the fitness and lifting even though I just upped lifting to 6 times per week..
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:30 AM
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Perhaps I need to work on what initiating looks like ...I feel so week in the respect to my confidence. Do I kiss her and warm her up or just be straight out sexual where I kiss her against the wall and perhaps walk away and build to sex... Right now ..we don't even make out ..she's so fucking finiky about everything ...I at times have wanted to even jump in the shower with her...maybe I should just do it ..yet ...I guess the worse she could say is why are u in the shower ...my answer could be b…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:13 AM
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I think I need to work on my thinking because I feel scared to even initiate with my own wife based on all of the rejection ..at night in bed it's not the right time..during the day when she has time ..I feel a bit hesitant to initiate with her..perhaps reading all of these books has me analyzing myself and all of this too much....I feel fucking horny as hell lifting 6 times per week now....I would love to fuck the shit out of my wife ....maybe I need to just be direct and go for it ...I feel as…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 12:57 AM
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So your saying number close them and f-close I am assuming is closing them as far as sex.. I think in my mind I am saying hmm.. I am married and yet your saying f-other women behind wife's back because she cant get with the program.... I guess I want to be straight forward with wife ..and not dishonest, however I guess its how I frame this in my mind.. I guess I could say she does not want to have sex with me any how unless I convince her or work my ass off to get any..?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 10:35 PM
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Ok, I have that one
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 10:23 PM
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I think I just feel angry. I do not know, its kind of fucked how men have it. They cant be emotional, they have to make shit happen, they are not entitled to anything with wives/women. Women can have a bad day and not feel like anything or doing anything and men always are expected to come through and carry the shit . What gets me is the fact that me and wife work at home. She can find time to sort envelopes, read FB, research food, go look at stuff to to buy and everything else under the sun. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 05:31 PM
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So here is a question. Not being in her frame means I do not GAF? So ignore how she seems. And if you are horny.. Would me doing shit that is different be a good idea.. Like walking around naked, pleasing myself in bed next to her or getting myself sex toy be a good idea for me ? I mean it is kind of crazy .. She gets dressed in bathroom or in the dark - Gosh, I mean we are married. But maybe I need to start caring much less and embrace my sexuality much more. Be different . Sleep naked, just be…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 05:01 PM
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What is this: SALSM?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 04:47 PM
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So my wife is 50, and she has periods sometimes every few months because I think she is going through mensturation. As I read this - I asked is ovulation and me tracking her ovulation important? I had a situation yesterday where I went to kiss my wife in the morning. I said good morning .. I was about to whisper in her ear - that i wanted to have sex with her ...I figured I could try being direct with her ... She looked annoyed that I was not leaving her alone in bed.. I said I was going to whis…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 04:38 AM
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I am surprised as well..trust me ..I'm a bit in state of shock..around my whole situation ...is it possible my wife has some mental issue?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 03:09 AM
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I have been lifting for about 4 years now with trainers 3 x per week..I played 5 sports ..was in Marines ..even won dance contests and have appeared on shows..this lifting thing is not new to me it's part of who I am....
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/18 05:47 PM
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After leaving and thinking about this. I am like, for the last 2 weeks every night I have gone to bed early. She has this perception - like I can not sleep or get rest or quiet my mind.. Maybe that is her, definitely not me. I have not even initiated with her in like 2 weeks or more. After this am, and how she reacted - I just get angry after I leave and think to myself..hmm, perhaps I need to do the 180. not return her calls or messages if she reaches out or just say as little as possible... I …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/18 04:52 PM
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So last night I felt horny. I kind of started touching my wife and she did not seem to respond more so because she is going to sleep. I laid there until she was asleep and decided to go watch some TV. Spartagus... I just felt bored as shit and just could not lay in bed after being turned on. This morning I was so horny again. I tried to hug and initiate with wife..saying I have a fun idea ( which was going to be me saying - lets have sex this morning) She started saying - Don't you ever rest you…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/18 04:29 PM
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Ok. I need some help on a few responses. First When I try and contribute to wife when she complains about people, she ends up getting in an argument with me when I was offering an opinion. Then the upset shifts from the person she was speaking about to me, she throws out some - this is going weird, what your saying is weird. Second Going out to dinner with family, brother n law and wife. When we drive to and from dinner.. All they seem to do is complain, My daughter is reading a book and my wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 04:08 AM
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Thank you.. Yes, the anger hit me definitely. Its frustrating that its been so long and my wife is into vegan food and organic foods - I wish she would look at relationship as much as her recipes and cooking - but I will get there. I have faith, obviously I already feel a bit ignored, the fact that everyone counts on me all of the time to generate things in life -- it can get a bit frustrating to say the least
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 02:43 AM
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This does not come up. I have also tried googling for the FREE PDF. https://www.screencast.com/t/nensXDVBt8c
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 04:56 PM
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Does anyone know where I can get a FREE PDF of the "Sex God Method" I think I had this before but I can not find it.. Does anyoen have the link ?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:07 AM
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" What am I waiting on getting started" - I have started doing the work. I have to apply the practices and consistently work on this for some time because it has been 40 years of me being a nice guy.. I guess making a plan, I am working on. In the book it says find a safe person. I am looking for a group where I can work through some of these things. I have a LOT to do ! I have never expected a BJ for taking out the trash. I guess I did expect being married that sex would be a regular part of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 03:44 AM
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Review I want to be a leader..in my life. I want a passionate SEX life ! I want to be the commander of my life and generate RESULTS! I am wanting to remove my doubt around things changing because I think that is what is going against me at the moment. Reading Have started reading NMMNG again. Realizing that I have created much of my unmet expectations and needs. I feel BUTT- HURT around my life and feel like I have JIPPED myself of many of the wants and needs that I have. This is going to take s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 12:41 AM
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Ok..I had a few people tell me on here ..on mrp...I should have a convo..with her and not put up with it anymore ...I'm just going to stay on course ..in my opinion all of this sucks...looking at me letting it go this far ..is kind of depressing...it's aggravating around holidays and at times I feel hopeless around this...my focus has shifted into doing things for me ..and not being attached to results or being attached to her ....
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 09:13 PM
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Not sure if my purpose was seeking this..it's just there seems to be always some excuse..I don't think I'm seeking a sexless marriage ..like even tonight my wife is like ..oh my stomach is weird...I'm not initiating anyways but there is always something
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 05:20 AM
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I just have to retrain myself ..it takes discipline to not slip into talking about issues...just read and work on this especially when the situation can upset u...and the holidays seem to amplify the situation ..reflecting over the year..time going by ..and being at a stale mate while being married and together for total of 20 years of life...u really ask urself wow..I have been committed and don't I deserve the best experience
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 05:03 AM
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I appreciate your personal experience. I am just saying its tough in the beginning as i look at the facts, and data I feel angry that I have jipped myself as well .. It is going to take LOTS !
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 04:29 AM
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I did not do that, I was just checking in so I do not veer off path. I want to be consistent and focused. I have been reading, kind of doing 180 - and STFU, along with doubling lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 03:13 AM
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I must say that ITS tough going through all of this during the HOLIDAYS! I feel emotional and lonely the fact that after being with someone 20 years - they do not see whats right in front of them. I have been LIFTING "EVERY DAY" now ! excited about that as that is all I can be excited about .. I am reading NMMNG, realizing that I need to get back in touch with my sexuality ! I have needs and I need to start being direct moving forward. With my wife I have been kind of doing the 180 on her and ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 11:50 PM
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I tends to really SUCK..around the holidays when your going through this stuff .....
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 04:48 PM
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Reading Reading through NMMNG again. I realize have many of the characteristics and behavior of the "Nice Guy", not only did I lose my Dad at age 4, I also was molested around age 8 as well. So between the pleasing aspect and hiding my sexuality much of this book makes sense. All of the amazing looking girls I asked to dances and proms - ALL said yes, but at the time because of shame around sexuality - I never tried to initiate with ANY of them or was always the "NICE GUY" - great friend aspect …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/17 11:20 PM
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I am Listening ...still reading NMMNG and lifting ...I don't know...just making sure I'm headed in the right path..perhaps I don't trust myself
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/17 04:07 PM
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Ok, so the answer is .. No talking with my wife, no reading with her books. I never said this was me talking, last night in bed my wife brought this up out of the blue.. I guess I was asking what should be my response or ..should I just not respond to what she says. Keep in mind I want to break my patterns that I had before. I am trying to train myself new behavior and new responses... Thats all ! I just got back from lifting and cardio for 1.5 hours. It was great .. Not to mention I saw like 10…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 09:57 PM
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I am asking here...is the answer STFU...and keep reading
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 09:00 PM
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So the answer is ..( No.) .don't read books..she is the one who brought it up? Perhaps she's feeling the disconnect...and do now she's testing me ...to see if she gain insights into what's missing ...? I'm just asking what is the answer to her asking that we both read at night ...? How do I respond...?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 07:49 PM
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As I have been thinking about my past sex..over the past 3 years..I have been evaluating how good that sex..has been..and while it felt amazing and enjoyable I ask myself what am I comparing it too..? Not having any..compared to sex..hmm..well that would seem amazing...as I dig deeper I think hmmm..most of this has been between 945 pm and 11 pm..missionary ..some foreplay ..massage and sex..probably all of 20 minutes..and then I am asking was the sex ..desirable sex..the kind ..that is juicy ...…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 06:03 PM
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What's the thought around reading at night like she talked about ..would that help? If they were books ..that I have that help..of course she did not discuss which books but I feel her mind needs direction in a positive direction ...last 2 books were 7 steps to awakening and one I was reading last at night was a book by David deida called intimate communion ...I could start with that and move into his needs her needs ..just wondering ..I have a feeling me doing my own thing over the last week...…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 05:45 PM
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So here's and update: perhaps wife is detecting some changes..I have kind of being doing a bit of a 180 with me reading working out and doing many activities with daughter and myself... Last night my wife says to me while we lay in bed before sleep: I was thinking maybe we read books at night together like we used to do....before I used to read to wife and she would listen before we went to sleep.... The last books I started with her was intimate union by David Deida... I have a feeling she is p…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 02:53 PM
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Here is another question because I feel this one coming ..based on how I have been different ...if my wife asks me what is going ..ur acting different ....what's the best response to that ? That I'm just working on things for me ..?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 06:44 AM
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I do not see any of that working - unless I change myself first, or its the same husband, having the same conversation, what difference would my wife see ... and if i feel the same as well, more than likely same results as how I did in the past !!... I am trusting to follow this process and keep going so I am SOLID in my stance before I turn my boat upside being the same guy :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 06:07 AM
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I lifted again today, been increasing weights and worked out 1.5 hours today, also did 2 hours of jumping on trampoline, Been reading more of NMMNG... Its been a realization that I have quite a bit of work to do along with creating options for my future along with reading and applying all on here ... I had someone a few days ago suggest the reading of "his needs, her needs" along with having a serious talk with wife clearing communicating what lies ahead if things do not change....however as I l…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 05:47 AM
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Ok, I have been reading NMMNG. I went ice skating twice yesterday with my daughter. It was fun and I ended up bumping into an old friend/work associate. Had a great time getting out and I realize when I go out how I should be thankful and value who I am. I read more of Mr Nice Guy last night. I was up to the part about spending time alone and also doing things for yourself. I went to the gym this morning as I thought about why I feel guilty going often lately... Is it because I am leaving home a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 08:31 PM
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So here is a question for you...someone suggested that I read a book called "his needs, her needs" with my wife ...I am trying to figure out how to shift the dynamic sooner then later ...for example just took daughter skating ...for the night came home wife is working (being busy) in computer and I am now putting daughter to sleep ...it as if she is busy ..and I took daughter skating twice which was fun..it's as if if her working excuses her from responsibilities or paying attention ...how do I …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 06:16 AM
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"On the one hand she is your best friend, and you would hate to lose her. Which brings the question, is she your only friend? If so, that is a big place to start getting male friend(s)." She is not my ONLY friend. I have so many friends that I know. When I used to have birthday parties I would have over 150 people come out to see me. However I have not been actively going out with any friends male or female. Sometimes I will meet up with someone over coffee and I probably make another 10 friends…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 05:36 PM
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I have another question. Since I want to shift my behavior ..many times when I'm in bed wife comes in and lays down...she will start reviewing her thoughts of the day ..ideas she has and many times as me for input on things while laying next to me... At times this can go on for like an hour sometimes even 2 hours of talking ..friend talk ...I don't mind but part of me is like ...all this time we could be doing something fun .... What's the best way to respond differently ...I am her friend but t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 06:29 AM
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Ok. I'm reading nmmng again now before bed. I'm going to bed early going to get up early and lift again at gym.. What's the best way to repolarize my relationship so I'm not my wife's girlfriend / friend and she related to me a man/lover...I feel like I'm always so available for her that the polarity is out of wack... Also today wife layed next to me during day and she said my arm was hurting her ...I joked and said she going to have to get a bit stronger ..because I'm concerned I may hurt her s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 06:05 AM
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ok, I will read NMMNG again, perhaps I was not fully paying attention when I read it the first time. Thank You !
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 05:34 AM
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I have lifted for 4 years now. But I guess I can lift more. I can STFU more and read more. I think major issues at this point could be DREAD, FRAME and BUILDING A LIFE outside of home. That is no problem. I used to have parties where 100-150 friends would come so I can create activities and things to do for FUN without a doubt ..LOL .. I guess all this is getting me
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 09:03 PM
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None of the kissing and running my hands all over her body exists. I guess I am just frustrated that its 2018 and I meandered on here before and read the books here and there. I keep looking for results and I lose my fucking patience. Right now I am amped. 2018 is here and we started these talks in 2012. In the last 3 years we have had sex 5 fucking times. I feel like I am a SCHMUCK/LOSER for the fact that she can use my time for all else she needs and yet I am getting NONE of the stick. I know …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 08:48 PM
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So what the hell do I do. I am mad at myself. I feel like everything I do : whats the point of it , all this work that I am doing and she can just do whatever the fuck she wants .. All is great for her : I just stay stuck in this shit . Perhaps its the fact that 2018 is a few days away and I feel like a fucking failure at making any progress. Perhaps I need to just calm the fuck down.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 07:48 PM
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One thing I don't get is all of the BULLSHIT excuses. I feel MAD about where I am , I feel like a failure when I know that I am not ! Here is the main thing I thought of today. If I had massively big shit going on in my life.. I would nip this shit in the butt ... Now I have distracted myself on whats missing in my life and its annoys me! I am lifting hard and working hard, keep reading but it FUCKING MAKES you ANGRY !! Its all BULLSHIT !
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 07:10 PM
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I am this guy now. I do offer escapes for her: For example, yesterday we went to the get a coffee with daughter, we went to beach played frisbee and also watched some TV together. She did not get up until 1230 PM after she went to bed at 10:30 Pm. Her first meal/snack was at 12:30 Pm. These things I do : https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4fe7pk/how_to_handle_a_wife_that_is_always_sick_andor/d28l473/ I initiated last night in bed. Wife asks what I am doing ? is something wrong, I said no I…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 02:20 PM
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So it saying no matter what u put in an water nothing grows ? Am I missing it ?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 04:47 AM
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I'm trying to get the joke about new sodding...I know what sodding is but how does that relate to this ?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 04:15 AM
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Just so u know I'm just saying in the past when I have been away on trips . Etc. And lately I'm doing what's necessary in order to pay bills and get insurance for my family....I just redirected much of my energy to work ..so it's not like I am never here at home because I also do lots of the shopping .. lots of taking daughter to and from school and I am always emotionally there for my wife ....I'm just saying it seems like men are required to be tough..drive the ship and be the leader and then …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/17 07:18 PM
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I've tried watering it ...I don't think I'm getting the results in either direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/17 06:23 PM
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I must say that you have to understand and others that I ONLY discuss my issues with my wife on here. I do not carry all of this stuff around in front of her. When I get up in the morning - I give my wife a kiss and she barely moves being asleep on her side of the bed. I then get up and start reading the recommended books, working on stuff for my career such as the internet after I go work out. For example, yesterday my wife was dead asleep... I left the house at 7:30 and was back at 10am. At th…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/17 04:25 PM
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Yes...I get it...yet I'm confused ..my wife spends more time cleaning a jar in the kitchen then with me...I don't want to take this personally...it's shocking when I evaluate lots of time she puts into small shit just being busy ...what does that mean...that her connecting with me ...is not a priority for her ...how can. Shift all of this ..should I even be in the same bed with her ? It definitely sucks around the holidays ..all of the time and you start to ask yourself ...what happened to the l…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/17 07:56 PM
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See how well it’s worked out for you ? - It seems that all appears fine on the service. Today, I have created a plan document for my GAME. Also I have read over FRAME post, went today and looked at another gym so I can be lifting 1-2 times per day. As I think of that - when I was in HS and college that used to be normal because of the sports i was playing. I am now researching plans for a 6 day work out to increase lifting and work on my MASTER PLAN ...
/r/askMRP23/12/17 11:18 PM
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I get success in everything I do..it's this one arena that has me working very hard because it's not about working hard at what I know...it's a new territory and philosophy ..so I do have to recreate myself here ...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 06:22 AM
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I'm on a mobile..so your saying because I'm not awesome at posting on here that signifies my life ?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 04:37 AM
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Thanks ..I think I have to believe that working on all of this and will lead me to a much better place no matter what...I keep thinking perhaps this won't work on. Y wife who's 50...or would she really shift her tune..would she change if it's her hormones or depression but I have to trust the community that this will be best for ME...I am not lazy or a loser in anyway ...because I have taken action on apparently all of the wrong things...so I do have to STFU...and trust that if I follow all of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 04:27 AM
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I appreciate it..I'm not a loser..I have to put in more work which is true...in addition to this I have sought the advice of authors and counselors perhaps it all in as ineffective..I do have lots to do..and there is a lot of information and I agree just because I have read the books and done lots of research means I have read about it..so applying it's much different .
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 04:14 AM
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Not..looking for a quick fix..thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 02:44 AM
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Ok, So I am wondering if anyone can guide me who themselves has gone from sex 1-2 times per year to 1-2 times per week? When I read many of the posts and books suggested- I find myself getting mad that my situation is so pathetic from where I want it to be. When I read SEX GOD METHOD, it was so hard to read...Because I am not even having sex.. let alone the type of sex its reviewing. When your partner is only interested in work, cooking and sleeping - how do you even get to SGM or sex 2-4 times …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 02:01 AM
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Its been another week from the last time that I posted. I did not get ANY feedback however - to be honest, I am LOST ! Body Working out - lifting and training as usual. I am looking into increasing weight training sessions and considering martial arts. Much of me wonders if any of this really helps. While I am in great shape -its my behavior, mindset and patterns that need shifting ! Mindset/Reading I keep reading the posts on here. I am reading the book of pook, dread levels, red pill sidebar a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 05:45 PM
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** READING ** I have been reading the following. Many of these again since I was not paying attention the first time. The Book of Pook I have been realizing this time I need to be more sexual. Connect with women on a sexual level and incorporate the physical parts of me Dancing, Eye Contact, Complimenting Women, Thanking Them, Connecting and Doing Kino with my Energy. Owning my sexuality and masculinity. With my wife- I feel a bit handicapped, I am trying to figure out how to be sexual / connect…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 05:50 PM
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** OYS POSTING** Its been quite a while since i have posted here. Perhaps its the ANGER that has gotten to me that I am in this RUT of a situation. Perhaps I am BUTT HURT from the fact that I see people having results, getting sex multiple times per week and it makes me feel pathetic about this STAGNANCY in my relationship with my wife. It does HURT that I thought marriage would be a certain way and its ended up being a nightmare specifically around SEX and INTIMACY. I can make everything sound …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 05:31 PM
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Its also a challenge to stay out of the butthurt land and getting sucked into looking at where things are vs where you want them to be. This past week I just started to re-read the following: The Redpill sidebar 12 rules of Dread The Book of Pook Passionate Marriage She comes first ( not sure - someone recommended) Looking at another gym membership to go earlier at 4 am, and add more weight training days. Looking at idea to get financial income up 200-300%, I figured who I am with I need more PL…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 06:42 AM
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Yes.. I am lost. I am not a troll, just trying to do all of this work. At times its all a hard pill to swallow. You think your doing the right thing in life and then you realize all that you have done actually messed it up more because you have only known the principle that if you do stuff for others, they should have an interest to do things for you or do whats right ... You would think that marriage = teamwork and both people being committed to the same thing - - yet it seems there is differen…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 06:32 AM
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What does that mean ? Feelz ? The night before last night, my wife did something weird. She tells my daughter she can just sleep in the bed with her. So I ended up just sleeping in my daughters bed. I was not BUTT hurt about this in anyway in fact that night I also went to bed later. Because the last few days my wife has been exhausted. So last night, she keeps yawning saying how tired she is for us to leave the party. I decided to stay and wee bit longer and we left at 9:40 pm, it took 15 minut…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 04:38 PM
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I read Mindful Attraction Plan before. Did a session with Athol. I also have read the last several weeks of OYS. I have to re-read Mindful Attraction Plan. I have started re-reading Passionate Marriage, Redpill Sidebar, Book of Pook, Reading the levels of Dread ( which says to gradually apply - month by month ) Decided to go to some Xmas parties for work some with family and some on my own. Tonight, got back from a party. It was weird - wife said how tired she is and now she decided to watch a d…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 07:04 AM
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Looking for SAMPLE Outline of a MAP. To use as a structure for me building mine. I am going to also outline my OYS weekly as well. I need to get in GEAR, Get my PLAN in ACTION ! Work my plan and plan my work ... Love any samples. This SHIT needs to get in GEAR ASAP !
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 09:20 PM
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Thank You. Yes, Rome was NOT built in a day. I agree that it took years to actually get to this point, so I have some REAL work to do on all of this. Today wife and daughter at home and I had work - I decided to get out of the house and work from Coffee Place, get some focused work done and not get distracted. Yesterday I was on way to work and wife had me coach her on her business Ideas. I do not mind helping her but I ended up helping instead of me eating and getting to my destination early. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 07:03 PM
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So I have been reading PASSIONATE MARRIAGE, along with The Book of Pook and the sidebar. As I work on my career and also working out - I have realized that I feel a bit fried and frazzled working through much of this materials.... It gets my juices going. I have also realized that I have overcomplicated much of my relationship by intellectualizing it as well. Lately while reading these materials I do feel obsessed with getting into a state where I am having regular sex ... The improvement is imp…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 06:08 PM
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So yesterday I was reading "The Book of Pook" and the day before reading'The Passionate Marriage".. I have noticed a few things that I have been doing / not doing in my relationship. First, I think I have been hiding my sexual part of myself at any questions, instead of standing in my sexuality. I definitely have been in the nice guy, intellectualizing with my wife. I have been specifically reading about the sexuality in Pook. I think I was ashamed of really going for what I was really feeling a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 03:02 PM
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ok. I would say I have a good year of work to do. What materials talk most about initiating intimacy. I feel weak there as well, perhaps its too premature for that :-(
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 07:00 PM
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What is NGAF ?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 06:47 PM
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I think its multiple things: 1) Her Parents both died within a year 4.5 years ago 2) I started a new business after losing job which added stress to the equation 3) She started menopause over the last 1 year +. Not having periods for months, feeling weird in her body 4) Prior to the incidents; when I was making a ton of money, we were having sex 1 time per week to 1 time every other week. It dropped to 1 time per month ... I feel that me not being in my FRAME, being a nice guy and always trying …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 06:03 PM
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I have been reading through the sidebar and I am committed to coming up with a long term plan because I have realized what this has cost me long term. Having sex and intimacy of any kind only 5 times in the last 3 years is not what I am committed to. I am not looking for a cheat code to trick my wife into having sex with me- I am looking to shift my situation because of the FUNK ; I am in. I do lift, I have been lifting for the last 4 years. I do dress very well. I always dress up and accessoriz…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 04:49 PM
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I just posted something around initiating. Because of the dead bedroom and me having to get through all of this material- as I read I am even questioning whether or not I have been as masculine and black and white as I should be. I have realized that me wanting sex is either me becoming affectionate at night when we go lay down together. Perhaps I am in the gray area too
/r/askMRP05/12/17 09:49 PM
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I have just started reading the sidebar again along with different posts and reading materials. As I am reading this here about initiating and with my understanding that I need to increase my Alpha.... I was wondering if married men can share details of how they initiate with their wives. Usually for me its me getting affectionate in bed when we go to sleep at night or getting affectionate and building from that. However, I want to grow and learn new ways more Alpha and Masculine. Perhaps my ini…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 06:45 PM
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Not AT ALL. Its funny I have had advice before to try and remove stress - try and make more money - etc - find out about her needs. Gosh.. I think I have already tried kissing ass.. and as you said LOOK how WELL that worked for me to be where I am .
/r/askMRP04/12/17 02:33 AM
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At home. I Just am minding my own business. I have only been focused on work. Reading the materials and working out... We will see:-)
/r/askMRP03/12/17 09:09 PM
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Perhaps I am needy on here because I have some urgency. I guess if you have sex one time every 15 months, that would probably make you feel some urgency around all of this. I guess I should not be in ANY RUSH. Just relax and work on my shit. I guess I am not missing out on much... I am reading and going through all of this ..
/r/askMRP03/12/17 09:08 PM
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I posted something a day ago, what would be my CHOICE of behavior if every night my wife watches TV... until she is exhausted. Do I still initiate with her if she is pulling the TIRED card ? I am trying to BREAK MY patterns yet - I want some guidance on this and a way to respond.... Thanks
/r/askMRP03/12/17 01:59 AM
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You are right. Perhaps there is a situation around finances that I need to DIG deep into. Seems like I have to grab my balls and step up. When we went to go before she said it cost $350. We cant afford that or why so much, then what. But with my wife there is so many things that come up all of the time: 1) We need a new bed, she does not feel she is getting good sleep 2) She needs a vacation - even after every vacation - it does not register so she then does not feel satisfied 3) Why spend money…
/r/askMRP02/12/17 05:37 PM
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Are responses working on here ? I am reading these and your right, my posts are ALL about HER. Today I was going to suggest that she do some breathing for her to have time to herself. Perhaps my focus is too much on her. all of the time!
/r/askMRP02/12/17 05:19 PM
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So here is a question about responding to wife... The time that we have alone lately, she will say: do you want to watch something on TV? Last night this happened. Honestly I did NOT want to watch something ... I wanted to be intimate and honestly I am so tired of WASTING my LIFE watching TV while me and her do NOT talk about the stuff she is ignoring : Like our romantic life.. Perhaps an alternative choice could have been offering her a massage, or a breathing session together to get in a relax…
/r/askMRP02/12/17 01:36 AM
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I am reading through all of this recommended. Last night - I felt horny and felt like SEX.. I started massaging myself because that worked last time with my wife. My wife went to sleep. In the morning I felt super horny and continued to see if we could have sex as I moved and touched my wife gently this morning. She ends up - saying : I have NO room on this bed, I am falling off the edge.. she gets up upset and goes into the bathroom..so apparently she moved away upset. I was calm and singing th…
/r/askMRP01/12/17 09:27 PM
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Reading, Reading and Reading !
/r/askMRP30/11/17 05:04 AM
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I am reading that now .. Thank You !
/r/askMRP28/11/17 10:00 PM
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Ok, I am resending myself the "Book of Pook" Dread 4-5 is that on the sidebar. I am making a priority to take your advice aside from reading all of this several times along with journaling through it. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/11/17 07:54 PM
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Ok, thanks for the hard love. Actually I have a while back.. Time to get super thorough and create plans for executing all of this as I read it. Perhaps the key is to read it all. Keep a journal of what I am doing while not expecting or looking for evidence of results until I have been consistent for at least 6 months to 1 years time... She actually went to a doctor who checked the levels for a physical and get this: they said everything was in normal range. That is what they said. That is why I…
/r/askMRP28/11/17 05:13 AM
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LOOKS LIKE I have lots of work to do. No quick fixes here for changes. Amazing :-) Marriage should mean a commitment on both partners to make the best of the relationship. It amazing to me how life works - your in a commitment then that does not mean anything unless its defined...
/r/askMRP28/11/17 03:29 AM
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I realize that I should be leading the family. Yesterday as I read over the sidebar and these responses, it looks as if I have much more work to do to get control of the ship...
/r/askMRP27/11/17 04:54 PM
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Thanks !
/r/askMRP27/11/17 02:52 AM
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Yes it does. As I read the sidebar around finances I realized just now that I have let her run the show around bills and finances while I have focused on bringing in the money... She did this because felt I would not be as responsible as her. When I have told her in the past that I would handle it she would get in fights with me stating that I can not handle it like her.... As I read this one - I see I have work to do in this arena, I reviewed the finances a few months back to find we were wasti…
/r/askMRP27/11/17 02:51 AM
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Even if she does not want to go or spend the money? . I am sure a nutritionalist can do these tests, right ? Perhaps I should just schedule the whole family to get tests done so she does not feel singled out and like someone wants something from just her, out of wellness ...
/r/askMRP27/11/17 02:38 AM
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Thanks. Will do. So when I was applying these principles before my wife then sent me an email saying she does not feel secure and something like this: She felt like I was a 17 year old checking out my muscles and wanting to pick up chicks.. So question is: When I go out and talk on phone about business - wife is always asking me WHo was i speaking with, she also asks me where I am going all the time and checking up on me, when will I be home, its like shes keeping tabs on me... What is the ideal…
/r/askMRP27/11/17 01:32 AM
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I read this "link" on "You suck the life out of her" Actually I do energize things at home, yesterday I read some life wisdom and she brought my daughter and sat next to me for hours as I read a book to everyone and she felt it was a great escape, then I directed us all to go out and take a walk, get fresh air, take a walk, go shopping and take a family break. I have not drained my wife but rather make her life easier. This includes going shopping and taking tasks off her plate, putting daughter…
/r/askMRP27/11/17 12:54 AM
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Just read it all on the sidebar. Is there specific links articles that should be first priority based on my situation. Every time I read this forum I get kind of angry - because I feel like I am being shafted with all I do.. After reading this earlier - I was hungry and my wife started with me and I stood up for what I said and did not buckle. I just feel like this pattern needs to shift and its really getting to me. This was after I lifted, ran and did exercises this morning for a few hours. I …
/r/askMRP26/11/17 11:43 PM
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So that is a signal I need to work on my FRAME and masculinity. I just had a fight today with her and stood up for myself. I am kind of tired of this technology ( phones and computers) enables people to be non-responsive, non communication..I ask a question, no response.. then later I ask and I do not get an answer just drama, today I communicated that its important to communicate and its a pain when you have to pull input from your partner.. I do not know if me having this conversation was good…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 11:37 PM
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no..
/r/askMRP26/11/17 11:25 PM
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ok, I will. How do you format these posts correctly? I want to post correctly. Something new to learn :-) every day:-)
/r/askMRP26/11/17 09:02 PM
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I tried in the past. Everything just got redirected back to me or more excuses for her not to play her part and create a solution together. I guess I am fueled around this. Just really want to solve my life and this in my opinion is pathetic for the success and champion I am in all else .. I feel like a fool around this topic specifically - like I am a retard.. because I can not figure this out ...
/r/askMRP26/11/17 09:01 PM
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She does not believe in doctors or medication. We are more holistic focused family. Her Mom was taking tons of medication and her thought around medication and doctors is negative. I have tried having her see a naturopathic doctor but they did not do any of these tests on her .. I also have a nutritionalist but she started balking at spending money on it..perhaps another excuse to not deal with it. Again if she truly wanted to figure all this out - would she not want to be healthy for the sake t…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 08:59 PM
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I am serious about MRP. I want to get the fun and adventure back into my life. I love her and your are right, I am her BFF, I want to be desired though. If I look at the facts - there is nothing we do much outside of friendship, I wish there was a way to TURN her MOJO/Libido back on. Do women just retire from sex. Lately I feel like asking her - are you done with sex for the rest of your life. Is that anything you want to work on at all ? Are you happy that way, because for me its a huge distrac…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 06:55 PM
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Every Answer is in the sidebar: - I guess I have to read it all again and be a better student and apply it ALL I read them years back and even did a session with Athol. Based on that perhaps I need to be more thorough and really really look at what I applied to all of this I am ruminating yes - because everyday I look at what is NOT happening for me, even though I work harder and harder at life I have a gym membership, I lift heavy weights, I run 15 miles per week and did a half marathon 2 weeks…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 06:44 PM
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ok, that is nice to hear. How do you know?
/r/askMRP26/11/17 05:50 PM
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I read many of the books on red pill, I have been lifting and perhaps I am not an expert on all of this. I just need guidance in staying on track, breaking my own pattern that I have trained into my relationship. For example: Wife rejects me or turns away in bed, how do I react different then before.. I need someone to support me making these changes and I have to become someone that all of this shifts without me being an asshole or mad.. I do not think getting upset or fights work .. And ultima…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 04:55 PM
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I am 47, fit and healthy and so is my wife who is now 50. The sex has dried up so much over the last 4-5 years. We had it 3 weeks ago and before that it was 1.5 years and I just have no idea how to shift all of this. I did the MMSL Primer for sometime but I need some guidance from a husband that has been down this road before. Its frustrating because even though I have asked for counseling with both of us and for her to see a doctor as well based on her low energy and lack of libido nothing seem…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 04:53 PM
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I have begun lifting, I have read many of the sidebar..tried something in past, I think I need to start over. Perhaps I did not execute things as thoroughly as I should have. Guess it is time to start over. I just need help in me training myself to act a new way
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 04:52 PM
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I am 47, fit and healthy and so is my wife who is now 50. The sex has dried up so much over the last 4-5 years. We had it 3 weeks ago and before that it was 1.5 years and I just have no idea how to shift all of this. I did the MMSL Primer for sometime but I need some guidance from a husband that has been down this road before. Its frustrating because even though I have asked for counseling with both of us and for her to see a doctor as well based on her low energy and lack of libido nothing seem…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 04:37 PM
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