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Inner Game melancholy_coffee/r/seduction24/03/21 10:52 AM
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All of that is in the past man, look to the future and how you can change it. Unless you change, you will continue on this path and will be thinking the same things in 5/10 years. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjfClL6nogo You have to accept what happened to you or you will be stuck looking into the past for the rest of your life and you will lose the future. You will lose what you could become if you don't decide to change today. All that stuff happened, so what? are you willing to write off t…
/r/seduction04/04/21 10:09 AM
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I relate to this a lot, my childhood was very traumatic and damaging, right through to turning 20. For a while I bounced around confused at why I was struggling, with women, with people and life in general. Then one night, I went on a date with a girl I really liked, she like me back and the date went really well. We went back to her place and I found myself reliving all the past trauma in an almost panic attack, I was unable to do anything and quickly left. After seriously wondering what the fu…
/r/seduction04/04/21 09:15 AM
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Have some really difficult missions in life that you can wake up and pursue every day. Give zero fucks about what other people expect of you, decide what you want out of life and chase it. Understand what you have to offer as a man, are you ambitious? are you determined? if you end up with her what kind of life can she expect with you? Treat everyone as your equal, which means you don't change who you are based on who you are talking to. Don't be afraid to disagree.
/r/seduction04/04/21 08:49 AM
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Yeah, I've slowly become quite similar, cba with gaining her attention through text, I want her in person and in front of me.
/r/seduction03/04/21 12:45 PM
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Yes they exist, you should also watch the Joe Rogan interview where Adam is challenged on what he says in the video and fails to come up with any concrete studies or proof. At the end of the day, you have people who are more likely to take control of a group of people and there are people who will happily let this happen. Look at how group projects work at uni or at work, there's normally one person who assumes responsibility of driving things forward and getting stuff done. In order to do that …
/r/seduction03/04/21 11:47 AM
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I remember also discovering this, having spent ages trying to "up" my text game with lots of flaky as women. I met a girl who was mad into me and when I hit her up to go on a date, her response was something like "That sounds amazing :)". Instant moment of, fuck trying to text all these girls who don't respond like that when I ask them out.
/r/seduction03/04/21 08:59 AM
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Well, you miss understood the whole work on yourself thing, yes hte focus is on improving your situation but capitalizing on the opportunities that come your way.
/r/seduction02/04/21 08:24 AM
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Lmao, in your test tube analysis yeah. Do you even go out into the real world and try this stuff? Life can get in the way of a lot of things, women can be hesistant to start something new for a bunch of different reasons, she might genuinely consider you to be a great option but she doesn't want to start a new thing because she will be moving away in 6 months. If she is worth it, then 100% push and be persistent like OP said. And some advice to you, drop that mentality, you'll get nowhere with i…
/r/seduction02/04/21 07:39 AM
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Eye contact, kino and verbal game come as a result of being present to the moment not the other way around. Relax, you are attracted to her, don't be afraid of communicating that.
/r/seduction02/04/21 07:30 AM
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No one can tell you what the problem is because we are not in your shoes. But if I were to guess, it's because your attitude towards yourself is bad, women are attracted to strong and confident men. Men who believe that they not only deserve a great life but are willing to make it happen, despite the world trying to shove them into a box. Sure you have had lots of bad experiences but being defeated by them is the worst thing you can do, continuing to believe in yourself and what you deserve out …
/r/seduction31/03/21 11:24 AM
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So you wink at her, then what? Whats the end game of all these flirty glances? it's you going up and talking to her, stop trying to weasel your way out of this. Jesus christ, at some point your going to have to get your penis out, stop trying to hide the fact you like her.
/r/seduction30/03/21 01:39 PM
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Look, I'm gonna be honest here, there's a lot of guys in this community who get nowhere because of one simple reason, they don't learn from the rejections. You need to take a critical look at yourself and really ask if all of this pain and rejection is more likely to be something that you are doing or some great conspiracy against you. If you can't learn that then you will obviously continue to repeat the same shit forever...
/r/seduction30/03/21 11:00 AM
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Number one is confidence imo, having the confidence to define what you want in life and having the balls to go out and make it happen, despite what everyone around you might be saying. You get one run at life, thats it, as a man, you need to use that time build a life which you have defined as worth living.
/r/seduction30/03/21 07:49 AM
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By calling her
/r/seduction29/03/21 10:19 PM
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You don't convert to a masculing man, you are without choice one, nature gave you fists to fight with and a cock to fuck with. As for everyone telling you that you are fine, I disagree, good men have a balance of both qualities, so developing some masculine traits alongside your more caring and emotional traits will help you become someone even better. Start working out or maybe join a dojo.
/r/seduction29/03/21 09:45 PM
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Dk why guys worry about shit tests, it's rude behavior and pointing it out that you are not okay with it is enough to make her realise you'll up and leave if it continues.
/r/seduction29/03/21 09:41 PM
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Pursue better women? they are out there, no one is making you chase girls like this
/r/seduction29/03/21 09:31 PM
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She looks at dominent, assertive guys the same way you look at sweet, submissive women. It's a turn on.
/r/seduction29/03/21 03:25 PM
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As pointed out below, don't be needy, text her from a place of positivity, which means you are offering more value than you are taking. It's way better to be goofy and fun than serious. Not only will it make her interested but she can quickly see the type of person you are. Communicate your kind of humor, literally just say what you find funny, flirt in a fun and lighthearted way. She should look at your messages and smile/laugh. Texting imo is only used to keep in touch throughout the week/day …
/r/seduction29/03/21 03:21 PM
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Totally agree, I think the issue is that most guys here have just never expressed their naturally dominant and masculine side. Something changed in me when I first had a gorgeous girl looking at me in a submissive sexy way, I was just like, ahhh so this is how it works. Most guys just don't view themselves in that way, that's what working out and exercise does, since I started running, doing pull ups and push ups. I'm so much more confident in myself, I sometimes stop and look in the mirror and …
/r/seduction29/03/21 02:31 PM
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As opposed to being a side character in your own life?
/r/seduction29/03/21 07:19 AM
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When your old behaviors feel alien in the same way that returning to your family home feels alien after you have left the nest. It's not that the behaviors have changed, it's just that you have seen so much more of yourself and you can no longer continue being the person you were. Action follows as you look to realise the hero in response. Feel free to use and yes it is, it was enough to jolt me out of my old behaviors and into new ones.
/r/seduction28/03/21 06:59 PM
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I feel like there is a lot of misconception about the Hero, it's an ideal that you hold yourself to in the absence of a god. Since a god is really just a figure who judges your actions, when you lack that, you have nothing greater to judge your actions by and you drift through life engaging in all sorts of bad behavior. The Hero represents a solution to that, which you yourself can describe, it's a greater version of yourself which is supposed to be unattainable, Nietsche called it the Ubermensc…
/r/seduction28/03/21 08:23 AM
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You are totally misunderstanding this, the hero is just a metaphor for a better version of yourself which you chase to become better. Which means what you described is your hero. If money, friends and bitches is what you want, do it but don't shit on other people for their choices...
/r/seduction28/03/21 08:10 AM
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You have multiple missions in life relating to different areas, so finding an awesome partner is one of them and imo a great mission. But yeah, that's what I was getting at, it becomes far easier to wake up early, put in the work and keep up that work when the thing you are working on is something that you have been dreaming of doing. Everyone has those dreams beat out of them but when we stop and ask what is really stopping us from doing the things we want to do, it's almost always ourselves.
/r/seduction28/03/21 07:54 AM
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Vast majority of girls who rejected me, I look back and feel glad they did so, it would have never worked.
/r/seduction25/03/21 08:50 AM
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You are skinny fat, not really too skinny but just high body fat %, reducing body fat and gaining muscle would make a big difference to your body.
/r/seduction24/03/21 07:21 PM
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I regret clicking, you need to change your body, can't imagine many girls being excited by you.
/r/seduction24/03/21 06:38 PM
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Great post, going through this right now after commiting to fitness, health and career. It's amazing the stuff you hear from people close to you just to protect their ego's, I've had people telling me I've been running too much or working too hard, imo all this translates to is this: you are doing more than I could. Remember boys, you are not your friends or family so don't share your limits with them.
/r/seduction24/03/21 06:31 PM
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If you rely on women to send the signals, you might as well just rely on them coming up and saying hello. Cues are a welcome plus but that should obviously be all they are, you shouldn't wait around for them to appear, just as much as you shouldn't wait around for a company to contact you for a job, you get out and find one...
/r/seduction24/03/21 06:21 PM
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Lol, dude, if you live like this you will never actually approach, once you have interacted with lots of women you realise that they all have a unique way of showing interest, there are no universal signals. Seriously kill this side of yourself, the part of you who needs permission first to go do what you want. The only signal you should need is your own, if she is attractive to you then you go talk to her.
/r/seduction24/03/21 10:36 AM
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Here's a formula I use, it's all about getting clear about what your goals are and what you need to do to achieve them: Target, Action, Feedback You need a clear and defined target to orient yourself towards, it's the difference between saying, "I'd like to build muscle" and saying "I will gain 20 kg of muscle by 01/2022 date". Break the goal down into actionable things you need to do every day, again be as clear and specific as possible. "I need to eat 4 meals of atleast 800 calories and 20g of…
/r/seduction23/03/21 07:50 AM
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I think you are viewing that feeling the wrong way, clearly your life is not what you want it to be so feeling a little discomfort about how things are, is good, it'll drive you to make changes towards what you want. I think if you continue to be unhappy with your current situation but feel no drive to change, things will only get more confusing for you. Obviously this is down to you and what you want but just something to consider.
/r/seduction21/03/21 12:27 PM
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Fixing your t levels will be the best way to sort this out, everyone elses comments address the results of low t but not the source. When I fixed mine, my mindset totally changed, I was having to convince myself not to go chat to every attractive girl I was seeing when I was out. It's called sex drive for a reason. I fixed mine through supplementing zinc, magnesium and vitamin D whilst increasing exercise and sleep.
/r/seduction21/03/21 12:03 PM
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Get your testosterone levels checked
/r/seduction21/03/21 11:24 AM
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Yeah exactly be a social leader, introduce people, organise social events, create groups around shared interests. There will be plenty of cute, single girls who will come along to these if you ask. Instead of actively trying to sleep with her, let it naturally progress towards that, have faith that as a man, all you need to do is relax and be yourself around her, as a girl, she does the same and sex is a natural conclusion. You listen to what your body tells you, if you want to kiss her or touch…
/r/seduction20/03/21 09:48 AM
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Totally agree, it's always surprising how many guys don't realise that girls are way hornier than men if you are simply a decent guy. It has very little to do with looks as well, if you are above average at something impressive, girls will be chasing you. The problem is, how many guys are willing to put in the work to have that impressive thing to show? I have a Garmin watch which tracks my runs, I run more than 99.5% of male users according to the app, girls slide into my insta dm's when I put …
/r/seduction20/03/21 08:34 AM
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Do you have any serious goals or ambitions? as in, tangible things you are putting hard effort into every day, like running a race, gaining x amount of muscle, getting straight A's at uni, buying a house. Lots of guys I know just lack stuff to fill their day and since we are all testosterone filled apes, we default to seeking sex as a way to validate ourselves. That ties into social media, you need to have stuff going on to have a presence online, use it as a platform to advertise those ambitiou…
/r/seduction18/03/21 10:43 AM
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Bs, you have it, you literally have millions of years of succesful evolution that drive you to reproduce. This is a limiting belief and you won't overcome it unless you realise that you are imposing this identity on yourself.
/r/seduction18/03/21 09:15 AM
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She needs to be the one to seek your attention not the other way around, she should message you first. I heard from a female friend that when a guy messages first early on, she gets turned off, she wants to try and win you, you should be far too busy to spend your time sending messages over to her. If you do, it's to the point and with an end goal, i.e hanging out. I'm way too busy to give a fuck about replying to random social media apps, my guy friends know this, girls know this, if it's impor…
/r/seduction18/03/21 09:07 AM
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Men are supposed to be challenged, both physically and mentally. It's our job to go out into the world and realise the best possible version we can become, through action and consistant effort. It's literally how we trainsition from boys to men, society has robbed boys of this transition, I know so many feminine guys who I really cringe at hanging out with, they have never been tested or been shown their limits and their weaknesses and it shows. Majority of pickup can be summarized as, stop bein…
/r/seduction17/03/21 09:37 AM
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You know it's illegal to murder people, right? So many dudes on here need to hear this lmao, nice post.
/r/seduction15/03/21 02:06 PM
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Your thinking about this from the male perspective, we are literal and logical, we assess people as they are now. Women are different, they assess men on their potential, if your potential is greater than some guy who has plateud with his career and life. You will be the more attractive option. This is why a guy can become attractive through changing his behaviors.
/r/seduction13/03/21 02:31 PM
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I have friends who are like this, I've been improving myself and working on myself, when I point out the issues that would literally fix their lives they get all defensive and offended. They always have an excuse or a reason. It's all bs and I don't really care anymore, so I just nod along. This is just the way life is for people who choose to step up and improve themselves compared to the sheeple. They never stop to think, what am I doing to contribute to my situation, it's always something els…
/r/seduction13/03/21 09:28 AM
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Great post, we need to first go out into the world and dicover what kind of man we want to be, what our values are, the life we want to live and the impact we want to have. Once you have discovered that, it's so much easier to go out into the world in search of a partner instead of in search of some temporary company. You understand what qualities you want in a girlfriend and when you meet her, it's so noticably easy because you have done the work to discover yourself.
/r/seduction12/03/21 09:55 PM
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I feel so overwhelmed I don't even know where to being. It feels like every aspect of my life is fucked. You want to know how to change? realise that your life will be fucking 100x worse in 10 years if you continue like this and don't change right now. Judging by your comments, clearly you know what to do, so fucking do it and stop masterbating to the idea of change or simply enjoy witnessing your life going to shit. Those are your two options. No one here can make you change.
/r/seduction12/03/21 04:31 PM
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It comes down to how he feels about himself, the magentic guys have this feeling of just being planted in who they are. They have no insecurities, they know what they want and what they have already achieved. If you were to ask them "Why should a girl sleep with you?", they'd probably be able to give you a long list of viable things they have done that show their value. Imo, as a man, you wear these achievements on a chain around your waist, if you go out into the world and do something that 95%…
/r/seduction02/03/21 11:03 AM
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This is probably because they were waiting for you to move things along, at some point you are going to have to show her your intentions (are you going to somehow get her into bed without her realising you want to sleep with her?). Once she realises you aren't gonna do that, she will go find a man who will. Also, no one gives a shit, you could start macking her on the dance floor and no one would bat an eyelid, you could get physical and no one would look twice. Have you tried any of this? just …
/r/seduction28/02/21 06:40 PM
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As someone who looked awful when I was younger, it's something you just get used to really. Enjoy it, the attention is positive and people being nice is far from a problem. You worked hard to lose that weight and build a nice body, let them gawk.
/r/seduction28/02/21 02:44 PM
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Yeah, I'm normally fine after the approach but it's actually turning my thoughts into actions that seems to be the problem right now. I think what I need to do is figure out a way to just say the things I want to, like imagine that she's just a friend or coworker, I shouldn't have any worry about it, I should just say it. Thank you man, that post is really helpful, I'll definitely give that a go!
/r/seduction26/02/21 08:37 PM
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