I don't understand most of the advice that gets thrown around here, it seems to be geared towards this idea that you turn on your game when you decide to chat to a girl. Game is never something you are actively doing, it's just the way you are, with everyone. It's the way you chat up an employee at a supermarket or how you chat to a family member, showing genuine interest in what they have to say and being generally a decent person.

That's your base mode, you are just a sociable out-going guy who can strike up a conversation with anyone. You ask questions to find out about them because you are genuienly interested in hearing the answer, you want to find out what makes them tick. What things do they do that they are rediculously passionate about? what do they think about x and y?

It's no different with the hot girl at the bar, your not going to just go up, do some voodoo seduction tricks and have sex. This is the real world, sex makes up a fraction of the time you will spend with her, the rest is spent in genuine, intimate conversation.

For those who actually go out and try this stuff, an interesting experiment is to spend a day/night actively trying not to sleep with women but instead trying only to chat to them. Go for depth instead of bredth, that is, focus on really getting to know one girl. Figure out who she is, what she's into, what her passions are and any other stuff you want to know. Have a genuine conversation. So long as you are being masculine, she will be feminine, there will be sexual tension just from that dynamic alone.

The whole point of this is to make you realise, you don't need to do anything to create sexual tension, it's not something that's actively done. It's something that should naturally happen as you lean into your masculine frame and she leans into her feminine frame.

This should be happening all the time, lots of interactions with women where sexual tension is just naturally present but not always acted on. This is what seperates guys who get it from those who don't. If you are truly leaning into your masculine self, the women around you will lean into their feminine self and sex is a natural conclusion.