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I completely respect a man's decision not to want to date single mothers. There's nothing wrong with that, and I also refuse to date single fathers. But to say no one wants single mothers feels incorrect. I know THREE single mothers who got married this year alone. All aged between 28-37. So surely, a lot of men don't mind single mums
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:23 PM
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I totally agree with what you've said. But why is everything on here always the fault of 'feminists'? Do you even know if that commenter identifies as a feminist???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 11:07 PM
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Yeah that's been my experience. My dad pushed my to get my degree and then pushed me to get a master's. He also taught me how to create a good resume, interview skills, and how to negotiate my salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:15 PM
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Spot on! Imagine if when feminism first kicked-off they ignored issues like reproductive rights, equal pay, gender-based violence, the right to vote etc. and instead focused on teaching women how to attract men. What a joke that would be! But thats essentially what the manosphere is. They ignore men's suicide rates, depression, homelessness, loneliness, high prison populations and just talk about women. Men actually deserve better!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 10:55 AM
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The perfect society would be one where we view men and women as having EQUAL WORTH but being INTRISINCIALLY DIFFERENT. For example, if both an apple and an orange were priced £1 at the local market. The worth is the same but they are clearly different produce. It's important we see men and women as different because thats the only way to ensure our different needs are met. For example, women are the ones who get pregnant/give birth so they need more time off work to heal. That doesn't mean women…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 02:24 PM
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Most women do not want to date a man who is struggling financially
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:17 AM
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I don't see how what I said earlier undermines this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 09:05 PM
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Nobody is forcing you to do that. You can simply opt out of dating, it's not compulsory
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 06:58 PM
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Historical societal expectations are the reason many women still expect men to pay for dates. While women's rights have improved tremendously, it takes longer for social attitudes to catch up to legal changes. So many women still view men as "providers," though they can now provide for themselves. Having said that, no one can force you to pay 100% of the bill if you don't want to. You paid your half and left and there's nothing wrong with that. Personally, I expect men to pay when we go out. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:08 AM
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Yeah, I totally accept what you are saying. I personally have no knowledge of dating in your 20s v dating in your 30s because I'm still in my 20s. But I think women struggling to date in their 30s should just find other things to focus on. I am of the mindset that you can be happy and fulfilled as a single woman, and that marriage/family is not the only way to live. If the dating pool is that bad, women should just leave it alone. There's no sense in forcing a relationship with a man just for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 07:54 AM
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I'm fortunate to have a good job in a well paid industry, so I can definitely afford to pay for my own dates. I also work with a lot of high-earning men (the type most women aspire to date/marry). These men have always said that a man whose truly interested in me will pay on the first date. Why? Because paying is a way for a man to impress you. As one colleague put it "do you think if I had the opportunity to go on a date with Scarlett Johansson, I'd ask her to split the bill? No, I'd be on time…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 05:47 AM
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To be fair, not being fat doesn't automatically solve a woman's dating problems. I know plenty of women who are single, or who can't find a man that meets their standards and they are all thin. Fat women are not the only ones who struggle in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 05:40 AM
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Yeah, social media and a lack of third spaces is to blame for most of these issues. But it's easier to blame women, so that's what a lot them do
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:28 PM
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Full disclosure I'm a 26yo woman. I do believe the wall exists in the sense that everyone becomes less attractive with age. It's not so much a hard stop (you won't wake up at 30 and suddenly be ugly), but a slow decline. Rather than calling it 'the wall' it should have been called 'the hill' because attractiveness peaks and then goes down. Having said that, do not let the wall scaremonger you into settling down. Your 20s (and even 30s) should be spent focused on your education, building your car…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:17 PM
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I thank God everyday that I am surrounded by normal, stable men whose opinions about women are rooted in reality and not what they see on social media. I didn't realize this was such a blessing until I discovered this forum
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:47 AM
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This is the best advice I've read on here in ages. A lot of men just need to grow some balls. Rejection will not kill you. I recently hit on a man at a mutual friend's party and he turned me down. I took my shot, missed it, and just returned to my friends to enjoy the rest of my night. No big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:33 PM
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Thank you! If you're gonna ask, just ask. But let's not try and hide what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:50 AM
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Yeah, I like to think of myself as a decent looking woman in her mid 20s and my DMs are EMPTY! I don't know where this myth comes from
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:28 PM
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This comment made me laugh because its honestly the most honest and accurate thing I've read on here. Everyone wants the benefits of something and none of the drawbacks. It doesn't mean we'll get it (or that we even should) but its perfectly natural to feel that way
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:08 AM
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Society tells us that men get 'more distinguished' as they age, while women get 'less desirable.' This used to encourage women to settle down early because, if they didn't, they'd age out of their desirability. The problem now is that a lot less women care about being desirable and/or partnering up with men, so it's not a convincing threat any more. There are so many things I want to do with my life: get a PHD, live in different countries, win a noble Prize etc that I'm in no rush to settle down…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:52 AM
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Great mindset. Yes it's harder for men...but hard is not impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:45 PM
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Your response to being asked basic questions like "What are you studying?" and "What do you do for a living?" suggests you are ashamed by your answers. I don't think anyone should ever be ashamed of their job or education (neither defines you), but if you are embarrassed, perhaps you should think about making some life changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:37 PM
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Most men, regardless of size, are stronger than most women. My brother is currently shorter and slimmer than me (he's only 13) but he can overpower me. Size is not synonymous with strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:34 PM
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Yeah, if you don't want to engage in casual sex that's fine. You should always do what's right for you. And there's no need to feel 'bad' about the fact that you are no longer a virgin. You were intimate with him within the context of a 'Long Term Relationship' because that's what you value. Unfortunately, it didn't work out but you did nothing wrong. So you have nothing to feel bad about :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:32 PM
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Girl, don't worry about what men do or don't prefer. Do what you WANT. If that means abstaining form sex, you should do that. If that means having fun with lots of new men, you should do that. I promise you, you can always find a man. And anyway, most men won't know what you've done in the your past unless you tell them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:30 AM
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Exactly. Thank you for having common sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:18 AM
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I don't disagree with anything you've said. But I promise you it feels like work for women to. Firstly, we have to sift through lots and lots of messages to determine which of the men actually wants to get to know us (versus looking for an easy hookup), then have to put a lot of effort into our physical appearance (do our hair, makeup, find the right outfit), travel to wherever the date is (because it's too dangerous to get in a man's car and you need to make sure you can leave whenever you want…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:17 AM
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I have no advice to contribute. I just wanted to say I love this mentality and I wish you all the best ♥️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:25 PM
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There's an episode of Sex and the City where Miranda keeps getting cat called by a builder. Eventually, she confronts him and is like "since you want me so badly let's go have sex right now" and he's like "calm down lady, I'm married"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:22 PM
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You are right. My social circle isn't the world. Fortunately, the UK conducts a census every 5 years and it's mandatory for everyone to compete it (or you get fined). And the results of the census support my claim. Most women date and marry men in their age group. Large age gaps for example 5+ are uncommon. And age gaps of 10+ are VERY rare
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:45 PM
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Honestly, you shouldn't care if you're crucified for your preferences. I'm a woman and some of preferences have got me criticised but I don't care. No one can force me to date someone I don't like who what do I care about others opinions? Have the balls to stand on what you want. And if your that worried, just don't tell people. No one knows what you think in your head if you don't share it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:41 PM
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I'm a woman in her early 20s with sisters and a large female friendship group. Not a single one of us is dating a man in his 30s. The interest just isn't there. I recognise that a man's dating success may improve as he enters his 30s. But he'll likely be dating women in their 30s too as these are his age mates
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:52 PM
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Then why are they his friends? Of course you can't choose your family, but I would not be friends with someone who was unsympathetic or disregarded my misfortune
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:06 PM
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Yes, many women would rather 'rent the Ferrari than own the Ford'. But again, what's wrong with that? Personally, I will only date a man I find attractive and I'm not willing to settle just because my SMV will dwindle. I'd rather stay single and find contentment in other areas of life, than settle for a man I'm not really happy with or attracted to. And I don't think that makes me a bad person. In fact, I think its the kinder thing to do because at least I'm not leading a man on who I don't real…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:53 PM
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Okay then here's a response. Most people make choices based on their options. If women can attract 'Chads' while they are young, why wouldn't they date them? Most men would also choose an attractive woman over an average woman, if the attractive woman was available to them. So why do men begrudge women for doing the same? I don't believe that women's SMV declines with age, but for arguments sake I'll pretend that's true. What's wrong with a woman choosing not to date someone while they have bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:24 PM
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Great idea! You can never have too many friends. Plus being friends with a woman mean's you're likely to meet other women in her friendship group, giving you more opportunities to date women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:12 PM
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I question how true this is. My aunt said that her 30s were better than her 20s by every metric INCLUDING dating. I'm not saying thats the case for everyone, but I don't think 30 year old women are being rejected at rates you guys think they are
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:58 AM
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You did nothing wrong, on this occasion it just didn't work out. Honestly, dating is a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the greater chance you have of finding a connection. You made the first move (always great), conveyed your interest and then respected her boundaries when she said she was no longer interested. You did everything perfectly. Just keep putting yourself out there :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:55 AM
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Firstly, I think this post is totally made up. I don't believe a word you are saying. But to just to play along for a minute, why are you happy that your sisters and/or friends are struggling to date? Presumably you care about them, so why would their difficulties make you happy? I'd understand a bit more if you were talking about strangers, but why do you want the people in your life to suffer like you did??? Don't you think that's a bit warped.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:49 AM
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Why would you want the people in your life to suffer? I'd be a little more understanding if he was referring to strangers. But OP is deriving pleasure from HIS SISTER AND FRIENDS, people he should love and care about, from suffering. You don't think that's odd?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:44 AM
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But these are things were all causes/introduced by men. In order for it to be misandry, they would have to be things that women did. If anything, all your statements do is prove that patriarchy also harms men. Not that misandry harms men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 02:59 AM
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Can you share a reason why?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 02:14 AM
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Phrases aside, misandry just doesn't have the same consequences as misogyny. Activist, Dr Jess Taylor penned a series of questions that prove misandry isn't like misogyny. Here are some of them: Can you name 1 instance where a group of female terrorists abducted hundreds of little boys from their school, to traffic them for sex? Can you name 1 female led country in the world where it is illegal for men to drive a car or have a driving licence because they are perceived as too stupid? Can you nam…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 01:57 AM
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The phrases "misogyny kills, misandry irritates" and "women are afraid the man will be a serial killer, men are afraid the woman will be fat" come to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 01:21 AM
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Back when I was in college, I dated a guy who was the same height as me (5''7). I had no problem with his height...but boy did he have a problem with mine! Once we were going to a party and he insisted I wear trainers instead of heels so I wouldn't be taller than him. When he said no, he threw such a fit that I agreed just to call him down. A lot of shorter guys think their issue is their height but it's not...it's their insecurity about their height. Anyway, after that I said I'd never date a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:13 PM
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Honestly, this sub made me want to date men even less. Fortunately, the men i know in real life provide a healthy balance and remind me than there are men out there who view women as more than holes. The reason I continue to visit this sub is the same reason I watch reality TV: car crash entertainment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 08:58 PM
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Spoken like a true teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 08:55 PM
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Sounds like you have a beautiful relationship. Enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:21 AM
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I'm from the UK and now live in Germany. Age gaps are super uncommon in Europe as well. In my experience, age gaps are only common in countries in the global south. Where women are "required" to marry older men because they cant provide for themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:07 AM
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This is great advice!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:32 AM
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Oh for sure! Most of the older single women I know have well paying jobs, great social networks and support system, and lots of hobbies. They live good lives so they don't really need a man. Sure if the right man came along they'd be delighted, but they're under no pressure to accept a mediocre or bad relationship. So men have to be of a really really high standard to even have a chance with them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:39 PM
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Great advice! And glad it worked out for you in the end. Congrats on your engagement 💍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:47 PM
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Hmmm, I see what you mean. The problem is we can only date who we're attracted to. And attraction isn't a choice. So what can we do if we're just not attracted to 'average' men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 10:35 AM
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Okay mate. Whatever you say 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 10:33 AM
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This isn't about me personally. I have a boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:08 AM
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This is great advice! Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:49 PM
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Once upon a time women were punished for speaking out against gender based oppression too. Women have been lobotomized, declared insane and imprisoned for fighting for their rights. They carried on. If criticism is enough to derail a "men's rights" movement, then the oppression you face can't be that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:29 PM
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Feminism is not about fighting for equality for men. It's about liberating women from gender based oppression. That's like saying that the civil rights movement needs to help white people or that the LGBTQ+ movement needs to centre heterosexual people. Feminism is not a movement for men - the clue is in the world. Feminism is for females. And honestly we do not need men to identify as feminists (it's great if they do) but the changes are happening with or without male support
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:27 PM
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Fair enough. I'll accept that you don't see it as a "us and them issue." But even still - you say you want women to see men's issues and help. But men dont do anything about men's issues either. You don't volunteer, organise, protest, raise money. It's like you just complain that it's not being solved...but do nothing to solve it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:21 PM
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I have never heard/seen feminists do either of those things. But regardless of what feminists do or don't say...there is nothing stopping men or men's right groups from addressing this. It feels like men blame feminists groups for not helping men enough. But men also do nothing to help other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:26 AM
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Genuine question. But why is it the responsibility of feminist groups to change this? Feminism is about libering women from gender based oppression, so surely this is not something that concerns them. It should be men/men's groups leading the change
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:19 AM
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Yup men complain that women's lives have improved while there's hasn't forgetting that women put their blood, sweat and tears into societal change. A woman literally ran in front of a horse and was trampled to death so we could have the right to vote. Meanwhile, men have alllll these problems and they aren't willing to do anything about it. Not protest, not organise, not volunteer, not raise money, NOTHING. They want women to do the work and men to reap the rewards.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:03 AM
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I have no problem if a younger woman decides to date an older man. My response was to your claim that "older women are jealous." Most older women don't care, its usually younger women who care because they are generally not interested in older. There may be some exceptions, but that's the rule. And a census from any country in the Western world will prove that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:27 PM
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Of course, some younger women may like it and he's free to date those women. But OP is claiming that the backlash is because "older women are jealous." But actually, the backlash is because we "younger women" hate being hit on by older men and wish they would leave us alone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:15 PM
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So what? Well you claim that older women are the ones that have an issue with age-gap dating. And I'm telling you that actually younger women don't like it either. Because we are not interested in dating 40yo men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:12 PM
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You know women do talk to eachother. I've had conversations with my sisters, friends, female cousins etc and they all say the same thing. In fact, not one of us is in a relationships with an age gap of more than 3-4 years
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:01 PM
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I have no issue accepting that a 41 year old may be more attracted to me (in my 20s) than his fellow 40 year old women. But while most men are attracted to younger women, most younger women are not attractive to older men. Older women aren't jealous, they just know how annoying it is to receive attention from older men because once upon a time they were young too and had to manage it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:56 AM
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As someone in her early 20s, I am telling you we don't like it either. We are not interested in older men, they are creepy and gross. Please leave us alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:52 AM
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Exactly! The standards in those cultures are even higher because a woman is totally reliant on her husband for everything. It's not unusual for fathers to turn down multiple marriage offers from suitors. At first a woman is financially supported by her father, it's then the father's job to find a suitable replacement for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:21 PM
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I appreciate this response!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:09 PM
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No one can stop men from cheating. But me personally , if my partner cheats the relationship is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:29 PM
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Neither the police nor the press have released the identity of the killer. So that's fake news.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:56 PM
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It's fine, its a reasonable question:) My thoughts are A) A life devoid of romance isn't worse than dying. Just find other things to make you happy B) For arguments sake, let's say a life without romance IS worse than dying. Well I'm still going to my needs before yours. So while your sadness is unfortunate, it's not enough to make me risk myself
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:51 PM
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I'm not saying women should stay inside. I'm saying women have the right to give out fake numbers to men they are not interested in. My post is a response to ALL the posts on here I see where men claim women are wrong to give men false hope
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:25 PM
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No but it's impossible for us to tell the good men from the bad men. So until something changes, women can put their lives before men's feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:21 PM
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Yes I think it does. I have a duty to keep myself safe. If that means giving men fake numbers and false hope I will do so
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:20 PM
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Racism isn't welcome here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:19 PM
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If that's what it takes to keep women safe...I think it's worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:18 PM
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Here to offer a woman's perspective/experience. I have never ever had a man ask about my bodycount. Whether they care or not I'm not sure. But it has never ever come up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:13 AM
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If a man is below average looking, then the issue will be that we don't find them attractive. But for many average guys, a great personality can make up for average looks. Like it'll take a 5/6 to a solid 7. Unfortunately, rarely do men have great personalities. Most men I meet are unmotivated, mysognistic, can't express their emotions, and dont help out around the house. They see childcare and housework as women's responsibility but still expect women to pay 50% of the chores (sorry but you eit…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 05:11 PM
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I'd rather risk damaging the "male pysche" than risk losing my life. When men learn to accept no without getting violent, I'll say it. Until then I'll keep fobbing them off with excuses and handing out fake numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 05:24 AM
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I had a man grab my wrist, push me into a wall and threaten me after I said no (in honestly, the politest way possible). My sister, 70% of my friends have had similar experiences when turning a man down. So how is it an 'extreme' reaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 05:22 AM
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You described my ideal man to a T. Only thing I'd include is that he be involved in feminist activism of some type (not as a job but just in his spare time)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:39 PM
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I agree. We shouldn't raise people today with the view that they will one day go on to have relationships, marriage, children ect. And that goes for men and women. I think if we didn't raise children to have these expectations they'd be less disappointed if it didn't happen. A bit like how we're not disappointed that we didn't win the lottery because we never expected it to happen anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:08 AM
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I'm sorry you feel this way. And I genuinely hope you can find what you need to be happy. But being single isn't inherently awaful. You just need activities/hobbies to occupy your time, and to build a community with others. Of course as you get older many people will be busy with their own families so try to make friends with people who are single/childless by choice. I know a 45 year single/childless woman who lives an amazing life. Most of her friends are gay men, because they are less likely …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:59 AM
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Isn't suicide the biggest killer of men under 40? I definitely think that deserves some attention. I'm genuinely saddened that loneliness is such a big issue for so many men. Regardless of my issues with some of the men and dating takes on here, men definitely have my sympathy in that regard
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:47 PM
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It's for the person in the relationship to determine what is good or bad. Maybe not putting socks in the hamper is fine to you, but if that's bad for someone else they have every right to feel that way. Like i said, you can't force women into relationships. So men can either adapt to what women think is a "good relationship" or they can stay single. Just as women are
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:39 PM
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No problem. And sorry also for assuming you were American. I did the same thing I accused you of
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:37 PM
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I've also seen studies that claim that single women are happier. And it's universally agreed that unmarried women have longer life expectancies. I think the claim should be that women CAN (and not WILL) be happier married than if they are single. But that's only if they are with the right man. And many men fall short in that regard
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:33 PM
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America isn't the whole world. In the UK, we have separate boy and girls scouting associations. My brother's scouts only has boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:30 PM
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The gender wage gap prevails so if my man made less money than me, I'd wonder why he isn't fulfilling his potential
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:23 PM
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Something needs to be done about male loneliness. And I think it should be a society wide effort (just like we expect that white people help end racism, or that heterosexuals support the gay rights movement). However, getting women to date lonely, single isn't the solution. Why? Because you can't force women to date men they don't want to. Instead, we need to focus on building relationships between men. Men need more male spaces, support networks, activity groups etc so they can connect with one…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:22 PM
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Thats a total lie. My 12 year brother is currently in the boy scouts. They meet once a week and have quarterly trips away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:13 PM
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Whether single women or married women are happier will always be up for debate. And research and statistics can be moulded to "prove" either side. What remains certain is that it is better to be single than to be in a bad relationship. Ladies don't settle and be very very choosy. Being single is far from the worst thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:02 PM
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Hugh Jackman's wife is 15 years older than him. I read once than in age gap couples, the younger person is often impressed by the older person. But as the younger person ages and 'catches up' to the older person, a lot of the things that once impressed them (and made them attractive) cease to impress the younger person any more; as they have those things now too. Not sure how true that is but I thought it was interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 11:30 PM
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I'm 26 and personally looking for love. However, I'm not willing to settle just to have it. I'd rather spend the rest of my life looking for the right thing, than settle for the wrong thing. If I end up alone forever, then so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:02 AM
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I'm empathetic to men's dating struggles. I agree that dating is harder for men than women. I agree that dating is the hardest it's even been (in history) for men. I agree that many men are lonely. But I'm confused at what my empathy is helpful. What is it supposed to do? How does it help you knowing that I recognise your struggles? I'm still not going to date or sleep with men I don't find attractive (because no woman or man should do that). So like..now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:54 AM
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We live in Germany not Canada
/r/AllPillDebate15/09/23 05:49 AM
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Yeah, my boyfriend is also a left wing Chad. He's blonde, goes to the gym, 6''7 (which is tall to me but he's Dutch so to them that's just average lol). He's super left wing, BLM and a feminist. Most of the attractive guys I know are pretty left wing. My theory is that because they are so secure in themselves the idea of equality doesn't threaten their world view but I dunno that's just a guess.
/r/AllPillDebate14/09/23 10:55 PM
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Patriarchy doesn't put every man about every woman. It puts every man above A WOMAN
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:42 PM
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Men who complain about their height are free to obtain leg legnthening surgery. It's no different to the myriad of surgical procedures (boob jobs, nose jobs, BBLS, Botox, lip fillers) women have subjected themselves to just to appeal to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:41 PM
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Honestly, this sub has made me raise my dating requirements even stricter. Now if I hear a man mention any redpill phrases/rhetoric in real life, I'll run the opposite way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:39 PM
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Patriarchy puts every man above a woman. So if you're a working class man you'll be beneath middle class men, but still above working class women. The idea is that even though there are men that are superior to you, you'll always be superior to some woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:34 PM
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At the time of the last UK census, 29.3% of single mothers were divorced women. So these women did all the right things, got married before having a baby and still were made single mothers. How is that their fault???
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:46 PM
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I'm a feminist. And quite an active feminist at that (I attend rallies, protests volunteer at women's shelters etc). Most of my friends are the same. It's never effected our ability to get into a relationship. Most men don't care and a good portion of them are actually supportive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:21 AM
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Men telling women they are protectors is the biggest racketeering scam of all time. Men tell you, you need protecting but in reality it's them you need protecting from. Because most sexual and physical violence women experience comes from their own intimate partner. It's like the mafia. They make you pay the mafia...for protection from the mafia
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:12 AM
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As a woman, I really like meeting men and through existing social circles. So you're not our friend, but you're a friend of our friend. The worst places to try and talk to women are places where we're trying to complete a task i.e. the supermarket, the pharmacy etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:09 PM
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Nobody needs to share their experience level. If she outrightly asks I'd caution against lying (in case the truth comes out) but you are under no obligation to tell a woman you have little sexual experience. Just like a woman is under to obligation to tell a man if she's had a lot of sexual partners. Despite what this sub pushes, nobody past the age of 18 asks about body counts. So it's unlikely to come up. Also being bad at kissing/sex does not indicate lack of experience. There are plenty of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:07 AM
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In traditional relationships women cook, clean and care for the children; the men provide and protect. But today the average man (through no fault of his own) cannot afford to raise a family on a single income. Men still want their traditional woman to do her part. But obviously, these women get frustrated that they have to do two jobs (manage the home AND earn money) while the man only does one (earn money). So traditional relationships quickly fall apart in 2023. *Also, the tradwife Tik Tokers…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:03 AM
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Thank you! And I would say both men were average-ish. Obviously, I was somewhat attracted to them or else I wouldn't have approached them but they weren't like a Chad or anything. If anything the first guy was a lot closer to 'average' (he was 5'8ish, and chubby) and he's the one that turned me down. The second guy would be considered by most to be the better looking of the two as he's tall (6''2) and he's the one that said yes. A few months ago, I went on a date with a man that was actually sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:53 AM
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The red pill says that women peak at 18, lose their SMV at 25 and hit the wall at 30 in a bid to encourage women to settle down as young as possible. But time and time again we see that young marriages don't last. Ladies don't get married at 23..you'll only be divorced at 27.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:55 PM
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Women aren't required to date men they don't want to. It doesn't matter if he's a 10 and she's a 4. If she's not interested, she's allowed to not be interested. Instead of focusing on the people who don't want you, focus on the ones that do. I will agree that no one should make insulting/disparaging comments when rejecting someone (unless the person was rude to you first). But the example you shared is from a film it's just meant to be entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:05 AM
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10/10. And this is controversial, but I think everyone should rate themselves a 10/10. If you think you deserve the best you're much more likely to get it, than if you never bothered at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:50 AM
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Those first two sentences really made me laugh 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:41 AM
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I initiated with a guy at a party a few weeks ago. He turned me down. And it was embarrassing for about 5 minutes but then I rejoined my friends and carried on enjoying my evening. I really, really encourage women to initiate. Rather than waiting for the man who picks you, pick the man YOU WANT. Anyway, I tried again on Sunday, and this other guy said yes and we're going on our first date this weekend. So you win some, you lose some
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:33 PM
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I agree with you. I read somewhere that of all the childless people, 10% are childless by choice, 10% are childless because they cannot have children. But the majority, 80%, are childless because they just didn't meet the right man. Which is a shame. I honestly think most women want husbands and children. But we aren't willing to settle. So we'll go without a husband and child, than settle for a man that doesn't meet our standards
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:27 PM
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But then they have children in the U.S. and because those children are raised with 'feminist' thinking they grow up with the same mindset as American/Western women. My family are a perfect example. My grandparents immigrated to the UK. My maternal grandparents had 7 children and my paternal grandparents had 6 children. But because my parents were raised in the West, my mum focused on her career and my parents only had 2 children (despite growing up in a culture that encouraged marriage and procr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:11 PM
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But most women want marriage. And it seems that men are more desperate for women than the other way around. So given that the 'dating' advantage remains with women, men will have to do what women want and marry if they want a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:24 PM
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Women are increasingly shunning marriage and children because it's a net loss for them. In the past it wasn't like this. You needed men to be able to feed yourself (since you couldn't earn money), and there was nothing else to do but have children (since you couldn't earn money). But today's women have to provide 50% of the household income while doing 100% of the cooking, cleaning and childcare. And most of us would rather have one job than two. Men are doubling down on their misogyny to try an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:22 PM
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You're not getting the point. If the men we want don't choose us, and we end up alone WE DONT MIND. We build relationships with other women, we focus on our careers, we travel, we volunteer, we enjoy life. We literally do not need a man (whether he's average or above average) to be happy. So we don't care what our options are. Life is good either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:18 PM
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You misunderstand women. Most of us are not delusional. We know we are not all 10/10 and we know that "Chad" is not going to line up to marry us. But just because we can't have Chad doesn't mean we're going to settle for average guy. Many of us would rather stay single than settle for what we don't want. Being undesirable to Chad, does not automatically make you desirable to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:55 AM
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They why aren't you married to one?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 05:44 AM
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It's universally agreed that women (and men) are more attractive when they are young and get less attractive as they get older. The issue is that people try and use this as a reason to convince other people (MAINLY WOMEN) to settle down while they are still young and attractive. We're meant to fear that the minute we turn 25 our SMV will plummet so we better not be too picky and lock a man down now. But it doesn't matter how old I (and many other women get) we're not going to settle down with an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 01:07 PM
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The topic of older men dating younger women gets more attention than it deserves. Most younger woman aren't interested in older men. The only times you see women in their 20s with men in their 40s is when the man is a millionaire. Statistically, the average age gap is like 2-3 years. Honestly, a 40-something yo hit on me in the street the other day and I nearly vomited in my own mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:26 AM
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I'm so glad someone said it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:13 PM
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