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1	As my SMV is increasing, why are betas getting more aggressive? I'm 6'1 200lbs with something between skinnyfat and athletic physique and an imposing look, I'm told. I know I can scare people with my intensity if I get in a mood, as happened when I was younger. I didn't have to fake dark triad stuff when I was younger, rather had to calibrate it downwards, is what I'm saying. But I've been dorky too in some settings. I think your categorization of people is too superficial, though, being serious. People don't divide into alphas and betas. Have you ever met a…	/r/askTRP	09/04/18 11:04 PM
1	As my SMV is increasing, why are betas getting more aggressive? holy shit if you think you can look at other dudes and divide them into alpha and beta you are so fucked in the head its no surprise if others dudes feel your weird-ass judgmental and negative vibes.	/r/askTRP	09/04/18 07:59 PM
2	finding out it was a whole easier for chad Its ok if you don't understand the role of the emotions and the heart in relating. So you may view every interaction where you did not score, as something of a loss. I don't see things that way. Sometimes you get dumped by someone and find someone way better, and give a little prayer to the universe for putting you through that shitty time. So the difference between our viewpoints I would say is I feel tremendously optimistic about the future in general, for OP, you, myself, and all dudes like t…	/r/askTRP	09/04/18 12:05 PM
1	Let's talk about the 800-pound gorilla in the room: sperginess. Can you elaborate on what you mean by this? Right now you're exploring the mental world by asking questions, typing comments, and endlessly pinging Atlas_B_Shruggin. There's an emotional world that exists inside you. You can explore it via silence, stillness, meditation, and diving deep into feelings. Maybe watch a sad movie and see how it makes you feel. Think about your last painful moment, and explore that pain. Dive deep into the felt experience of these emotions, they resonate in the body w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/18 09:15 PM
2	Let's talk about the 800-pound gorilla in the room: sperginess. you should not systematize that which "should not" be systematized. Adding another 'should not' to your rule set isn't an approach that gets to the center of the problem. The desire to systematize springs from anxiety and worthlessness. Figure out the emotional reservoirs from which that anxiety and worthlessness arises, then dive into them, absorb them, by feeling the feelings lovingly and without condition - they will move to a natural point of resolution, and your mind and mental process will…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/18 08:20 PM
3	Let's talk about the 800-pound gorilla in the room: sperginess. People connect on the basis of emotions. Let's write that on an index card somewhere and place it where we can see it. What you're referring to as sperginess is, in my understanding, just a slightly less conventional wiring in terms of how emotions are processed and communicated, and a shit-ton of anxiety and alienation compounding as secondary knock-on effects from the primary cause of having unconventional wiring and not connecting super easily. The anxiety is massively out of proportion with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/18 07:03 PM
2	Let's talk about the 800-pound gorilla in the room: sperginess. To me the concept of social SKILLS sounds autistic by itself Golden, so golden, my friend. It is. You are really onto something there. My pov is that it has to do with an understanding of the self as a machine, which performs functions, vs. the understanding of self as an essence, that expresses. Someone who breaks down the behaviors necessary to socializing misses the core trait which is anti-mechanistic: emotional connection to others. There is nothing to "do" there, much as we try with our ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/18 06:41 PM
1	Why do most people older than you (namely parents, older siblings, family members, etc) give such bad advice on attracting women? Advice like "be her friend". Well, it seems like I struck a nerve with you. I can't defend myself against your critique of my reply, because I don't believe in a laundry list of proper user etiquette and debating tactics, I think we're just two dudes shooting the shit about women and relationships. I know I'm acting in good faith. I did basically say you had a blinkered worldview and low emotional intelligence, and that you are also hanging around and listening to other dudes (Redpill forums) who also lacked life experience…	/r/askTRP	08/04/18 01:49 PM
1	Why do most people older than you (namely parents, older siblings, family members, etc) give such bad advice on attracting women? Advice like "be her friend". I understand what you're saying and honestly, from my pov its a totally valid and cohesive world view. I disagree with it still. I said: Right now you probably frame everything according to your own romantic experience, which is much more limited than the people giving you the advice. You replied with: This couldn't be further from the truth. The reason I look online for answers and don't put much weight to any advice (regardless of subject) I'm given in real life is because I can mentally sift …	/r/askTRP	08/04/18 01:08 PM
3	Why do most people older than you (namely parents, older siblings, family members, etc) give such bad advice on attracting women? Advice like "be her friend". You may end up agreeing with them in 10 years time. Right now you probably frame everything according to your own romantic experience, which is much more limited than the people giving you the advice. As far as what happened to most TRP guys: they pursued an unwilling partner, fell head-over-heals in love with her, were friendzoned, and now are anxious that they will never have sex with anyone. When they hear "be her friend", they interpret it as meaning "be her obsessed, codependent, unreciproc…	/r/askTRP	08/04/18 06:26 AM
2	Why do most people older than you (namely parents, older siblings, family members, etc) give such bad advice on attracting women? Advice like "be her friend". "be her friend" advice literally and using it as an appliqué to get into her pants is dishonest and a recipe for disaster. If you compare the failure rates of cold approach pickup combined with TRP-style game tactics, with the failure rates of 'be her friend', I think you'll find that 'be her friend' works a significantly higher percentage of the time. If you can really 'be her friend', you're chances are probably 20% of getting intimate with her. Nobody that I ever knew was regularly having 20%…	/r/askTRP	08/04/18 06:08 AM
17	Why should I stop following red pill when the moment I do, I become an unattractive beta male? If you think you should keep going, keep going. In my experience, life provided me concrete feedback that I wasn't relating to other people as equals, in kind, compassionate ways - that I was playing a romantic chess-game, that I was sex-obsessed. People laughed at me. One woman kicked me out of her apartment. Others gave me dirty looks. More than any of that, I began to have the sneaking suspicion that I was, on some level, a dumbass. Then I 'broke a woman's heart' and it was for me, really rev…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/18 05:54 AM
2	Girlfriend is doing an internship away for a month, and I have a broken leg. How to not feel like a bitch? Its a good chance to get to know yourself. You're a human being, you need emotional reassurance. If you don't receive emotional reassurance from those you love, you panic, you feel scared. Using the word 'bitch' to describe this means you think there is some hardcore dude somewhere who doesn't feel like that. But people like that don't exist. We connect to each other by our hearts. If you didn't feel nervous that you couldn't talk to your lady love, you'd either be a realized master (buddha-like…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 08:03 PM
1	Urgent You don't escalate. Instead, you connect. The connection is what excites the woman to give you opportunities and make it easy for you to escalate in the future. Focus on the connection. Give the woman what she wants (your attention, presence, connection, appreciation), and if its a good fit, then she'll give you what you want. You don't have to fight and push and wage war for it. A woman who likes you will make it easy to put your hands on her. She doesn't even know you yet so get that figured o…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 05:56 PM
11	Any chance to get past "let's just be friends" talk? Honestly I don't know dude, life is a mystery, and so is dating. Most guys on RedPill blow themselves out because they aren't laid back and cool enough to play the long game, so they save themselves the heart-ache of being put in an ambiguous situation which they are too emotionally needy and intense to handle, by telling themselves this "she was never interested, move on" story. In your first years, when you are getting your footing, its good to approach only unambiguously interested women. Lat…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 05:34 PM
1	How do I fix internal game? So this is about Venus energy, which is your ability to receive love. How good are you at receiving love, and screening for women who will actually love you? This seems to be the area to develop. I'm going to assume your life is similar to mine is some ways. I could end up being wrong, or it could be very spot-on. Have a dry spell. During your dry spell, feelings will arise within you. Feelings of loneliness, unloveability, desperation (will I ever touch a woman again?), self-hatred, hatred of w…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 02:32 PM
1	Is it beta to make self deprecating jokes? Alpha and Beta don't exist, they're only purpose is to fuel youthful masculine self-judgment and self-hatred. Whoaaa mind blown Forget about the behavior for a minute and cast your eyes to this higher truth: your beliefs about yourself are going to be revealed. People who interact with you intimately, or over time, are going to obtain an accurate knowledge of how you view yourself. We are all going to be revealed, to those we relate to, over time. As one my teachers once said: The Self is always…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 01:48 PM
2	Monk moded it for a year, am now borderline fuckable, what now? At this point it's pathetic that I haven't gotten any pussy in 21 years. Translation: I despise myself for being a virgin. I hope I'm not coming across too mockingly for pointing this out. I think you should be aware that everyone who interacts with you either intimately, or for a significant length of time, is going to become aware of this belief that you have. So, your self-hatred is going to be visible to others, just a heads up. Remember, you're "pathetic". Pretty savagely negative view of o…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 01:36 PM
1	Venting. Let me have it. Advice or ridicule. I'm just another dude, so I don't know how to navigate your life. We're probably pretty different as people and may have different relationship goals. Nevertheless, here's some observations. You're kind of demonstrating why its good for a man to have boundaries around sex. You've had sex with this girl without establishing any kind of respectful friendship, so you couldn't sound out her character, or build a connection with her that was based on something besides fvcking. So when it comes time t…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 03:23 AM
2	How does one simultaneously approach women and maintain frame/abundance mentality? Generally speaking, if a man wants to interact with a woman, he must be the one to initiate the interaction. This is assuming you don't exist as part of a shared, larger social context - such as shared living environment, social club, organization, etc. The lack of context is highlighting your individual motivations for creating this interaction in opposition to the normal flow of events. So your motivation becomes all important. How does a man navigate this paradox? If the core motivation is ne…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 03:11 AM
-2	finding out it was a whole easier for chad My general question is how you do rationalize committing to someone, plate or LTR, knowing that someone else has gotten the same thing a whole lot easier? What people offer to one another in a committed relationship is a lot different than what they offer while having random, age-mismatched hookups. If you offered this woman emotional seriousness and commitment, you probably offered her a lot more than the 27 year old guy. What you had with her was probably more real. Maybe from your perspective…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 03:06 AM
2	How do you show value? How do you make yourself valuable as a person to others? Ideally, you would have screened people out of your life that do not value you. Even if this means being totally alone, and going through a lone-wolf phase (which I've done, its not the end of the world at all, very healthy). When you say "make yourself valuable' I think you're imagining a valueless person who has to, by his own action, go about demonstrating value to others. Its simpler than that, imo. You select for people who value you,…	/r/askTRP	06/04/18 02:48 AM
1	Hypergamy is real and it makes perfect sense Thank you, thank you, I'll take the crack hit of female attention for dissing redpill. The circle is complete.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/18 02:32 AM
11	Having trouble with "don't care what others think of you." Rejection is the 90% use case for me. I feel you. Life on this planet is harsh sometimes. Let's see if I can say something helpful. Can someone explain this concept to me? There is a wide difference in the sophistication of introspective toolkits among the human population. Many of the guys here are trying to affect change using somewhat ineffective means. If you had found your way to a depth psychology forum or a metaphysics forum or a buddhist meditation forum, maybe you would find more refine…	/r/askTRP	03/04/18 04:46 AM
3	Question about Frame in TRP I think its an ever-evolving duck and weave game between these two approaches: going deeper into yourself, remembering your motivations and where your mind is; going deeper into other people's lives, opening up more for them, being there for them, offering them more and more value, listening to them more and more. You gain more stability in yourself: you go out there and be more helpful to others. You go out and learn to be more helpful to others: come back strengthened to yourself again. Self-l…	/r/askTRP	02/04/18 01:51 AM
4	Where to draw a line on horniness? How to know when to stop trying to initiate sex? Does it come off as needy beta shit or assertive, dominating alpha? If this is a girl you are fucking, she should be down for sex at any time. In any place. Once she is in your physical presence her body is yours to do with as you please. Nothing says "experienced with women" like a guy tacitly admitting he has no game plan for the case where she says "no". Because you know, like, they never say no. It just never happens. When it does, you just next her and completely destroy the relationship. Cuz that's how things work. She refuses to have sex once, and you do …	/r/askTRP	02/04/18 01:32 AM
4	Hypergamy is real and it makes perfect sense hey hey, appreciation tastes sweet. Thank u right back hands piece of virtual bacon	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/18 09:58 PM
2	Why did the line "I swear I'll behave" work? You're making her feel comfortable by reassuring her that she can decide the pace of escalation. So she gets to have a fun internal conflict over her own obvious passion for you and her mental determination not to do XYZ. She felt safe doing this because you acted like a cool, normal person who was not going to pressure her. Comfort + passion. Good job.	/r/askTRP	01/04/18 09:12 PM
0	Where to draw a line on horniness? How to know when to stop trying to initiate sex? Does it come off as needy beta shit or assertive, dominating alpha? I don't know what the RP soundbyte is, but here's my view. Women express their power, especially immature women, by withholding sex. Its not a way to emasculate you, or destroy you, or destroy the relationship, its not a "final move" in a game of chess - although guys may panic, and in their anxiety, project all these imagined meanings onto it. More often its the only way the woman knows how to say something like: hey, wait. not all my needs are being met here. I want something more from this th…	/r/askTRP	01/04/18 08:50 PM
2	CMV: Its all about whether you are alpha or beta Now we know that girls will categorize you either as an alpha lover or a beta provider. I wonder what the dudes who wrote the articles that infected your brain are doing right now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/18 08:12 PM
34	Hypergamy is real and it makes perfect sense It depends on how much you want to zoom in and focus on the behaviors of teens and 20-somethings, and among these, the most dysfunctional of the lot are always the loudest and most visible. I think there's a more subtle picture unfolding beneath this one. It can't be generalized as strongly and the heroes and villains - the nice guys, chads, stacys, orbiters, freaks, cucks, betas, losers, James Bonds, etc - cannot be so easily identified or typecast. So it makes for way less compelling reading. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/18 05:43 PM
2	Men who sleep with a plethora of women, are they ever negatively affected by sleeping around, or is it always a win-win? One of the greatest commentaries on this whole subject matter (encompassing all the pill philosophies and dating in general, even including ethics, values and history) - I've ever seen is contained in this video: The Myth of The Alpha Male by Steve Mayeda It addresses the topic of alienated sex towards the end. For me if there is no heart connection, there is no point in doing it. But I am a super intense, super picky, really quite weird person who doesn't gel with many people anyway.. =)	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/18 05:25 PM
1	Men who sleep with a plethora of women, are they ever negatively affected by sleeping around, or is it always a win-win? hahhahaha yes	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/18 05:18 PM
1	Remind me what to do in this situation. "We're supposed to be equals"? I'm still taking the girl's side on this one, if the OP doesn't want to listen to me he can just tune in to the majority of voices telling him to disregard the woman's point of view. I think guys in the early stage of game can learn a lot by thinking about the woman's point of view. This woman is probably sexually attractive to OP, she's probably a desirable, attractive woman, and she is giving him feedback. This is a potential learning opportunity. In relationships its very important to maintai…	/r/askTRP	01/04/18 03:44 PM
1	CMV: The "naturals" that women supposedly want are essentially non-existent. Can you elaborate on this negative use of the mind that you described here? Sure, I'll do my best. On the one hand the mind is an endless open canvas that we as artists are free to play with in each and every way we could possibly see fit or imagine. On the other hand, the mind aspiring to a greater knowledge of reality must hold itself to certain disciplines - or, may find it easier to know reality when certain disciplines are adhered to. Attempting to gain knowledge about others by generalizin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/18 01:21 PM
5	If you were in your early 30s and wanted to find an LTR, would you focus more on women in their early 30s or much younger? I'd go for early 30s. A lot of women I met in their 20s aren't stable, just even as people. They are just figuring out what jobs they want to do, for example. They are not even very expressive or developed in terms of personality, there is a lot of "little girl" still in there. You know, sitting next to her as you drive someplace, and she doesn't even have much to say, because she is still in her shell or still nervous. Lame. Or she talks about TV shows or some shit, instead of real life. I can'…	/r/askTRP	01/04/18 02:19 AM
-1	Remind me what to do in this situation. "We're supposed to be equals"? Yeah dude Commanding people to do things isn't respectful. Is that how you talk to your buddies? Is that how you talk to family? Would you even be able to say that to her face? Read this. Comment on my comment. Do what I say. How does that play with you? You want me to command you to do things? No, right? The girl feels the same way. Welcome to the world of being nexted for taking RP too seriously. Learn to moderate the approach, get in deep and good before you start exploring 'domination' modes…	/r/askTRP	01/04/18 01:27 AM
1	Confused by result of cold approach Obviously its hard to really know what happened. Here are some guesses: I said hi and she looked down and I swear she looked absolutely pissed/disgusted. She was triggered/taken aback by an unknown male, presumably with a sexual vibe, speaking to her outside a social context, this caught her off guard and triggered a 'WTF' response. I notice her, look at her and hold eye contact which lasts for a good few seconds, and she gives me a smile and wave and leaves. She decided she liked what happened …	/r/askTRP	31/03/18 08:01 PM
4	How To Respond to "Just Got Out Of Relationship" haha and immediately I regret my asshole tone with you. yeah hope it helps man. :D	/r/askTRP	31/03/18 01:10 PM
3	How To Respond to "Just Got Out Of Relationship" If you want to live in the real world, you are going to have to start believing what other people tell you. Even you, as God-like as you are, trying to form relationships with total strangers and then posting on forums about it - even you have to listen to the feedback that other humans give you about themselves. If you want to understand what is happening in the so-called real world. This woman knows herself way better than you do, and she's giving you an important clue to whats going on with h…	/r/askTRP	31/03/18 01:04 PM
4	Guys who are in their 30s, 40s and older, what do you regret doing when you were in your 20s? I don't regret anything. Every misstep teaches you something. For some reason I was obsessed with chasing hard-to-get women when other, beautiful ones were very interested in me. Finally the universe taught me: Go for the interested ones.	/r/askTRP	31/03/18 12:48 PM
1	CMV: The "naturals" that women supposedly want are essentially non-existent. Don't allow yourself to think about people who you don't know. You don't know "women" and you don't know the guys in those pics, and you don't know "naturals" - you don't really even know the people who describe their lives in these forums. So all this is you trying to describe other peoples' lives, whom you do not know, and who you can't realistically get input from (you are asking us to speculate about other peoples' lives with you, which is encouraging us into unhealthy behavior). Your asking…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/18 12:41 PM
2	“Women can smell desperation a mile away”. How the hell do you not be desperate when you’re doing NoFap and given up porn? I totally get that. And that is a horrible comparison LOL hahaha Yeah man, if you feel you need to focus on women, that's ok too. You know what you need to do more than anyone else knows it.	/r/askTRP	30/03/18 06:30 PM
4	“Women can smell desperation a mile away”. How the hell do you not be desperate when you’re doing NoFap and given up porn? Follow your instincts man. You have an internal compass that knows better than me what you should do. I would recommend a little bit of both - so you can learn about what's less important (women) while you work on whats really important (yourself). I'm very optimistic for you, dude. You sound like your head is screwed on straight. Being young sucks for everybody, I think things will get rosy in the near distant. Good luck.	/r/askTRP	30/03/18 06:10 PM
4	“Women can smell desperation a mile away”. How the hell do you not be desperate when you’re doing NoFap and given up porn? Even doing these things, I still crave sex. Not sure what to do. I hear you. You are at the point where the internal tension is maximal. It will get better over time. Just put the work in, be patient, sounds like you're doing great. Things will start to gain momentum for you in the next two to three years. A lot to look forward to my friend.	/r/askTRP	30/03/18 06:00 PM
1	Girl said shes interested but not showing it She likes you. Just keep going.	/r/askTRP	30/03/18 03:37 PM
169	“Women can smell desperation a mile away”. How the hell do you not be desperate when you’re doing NoFap and given up porn? What a tasty snack treat of a question. What a profoundly challenging and intimate area of life for a man. I'll do my best here. As a young man, a lot of your instincts and drives are turned up to 10. And a lot of your subtle skills and perceptions are not yet developed. When you work in the world of sexuality and relationships, you're entering a world where you are wanting to connect with other people at the deepest and most intimate levels. They, and you, and all of us, are very sensitive crea…	/r/askTRP	30/03/18 03:29 PM
3	Discussion: "Be yourself." I don't really jive with the tone of what you're quoting... I think it lacks the self-love which is what we're all really aiming for. These extremes ("ultimate man" / "loser") are also not really helpful. Using extreme examples is not good, when the main point of the discussion is to develop a more subtle perception. A "loser" who loves themselves, will find that, miraculously, they cease to be a loser. That's how self-love works. It is astonishing. Nobody is really a loser. Even if you don't ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/18 02:12 PM
1	My ego took a huge blow today You gotta do more work to connect to that core of Self within you. If you are fragile enough that this sets you off, you haven't connected with that core very strongly or deeply.	/r/askTRP	30/03/18 01:40 PM
1	Need some serious advice, completely lost on what to do Hey there. It sounds like a vulnerable position you're in. I would just communicate to him that you want more of his presence in your life. You care about him, and you want him to be around sometimes. In the future, screen for men who enjoy your presence more. If he let two weeks pass, he doesn't really enjoy talking to you. I have platonic female friends, honestly, who I enjoy talking to so much, that the only reason I don't talk to them everyday is because I don't want them to get confused or …	/r/askTRP	29/03/18 09:34 PM
1	Need some serious advice, completely lost on what to do remember u from purple, you're a dudette. Still open to any questions you have, probably more so, haha ;D	/r/askTRP	29/03/18 08:18 PM
4	How to get over ex one-itis and get abundance mentality? Learn to face your dry spells like a man. I've found that worthwhile girlfriends come along every 2 to 4 years. Sometimes you just have to wait it out. Hearing your manic sounding description of how you are turning RedPill forums inside out for every possible way to get laid... makes me think you are struggling with some deeper problems. Probably good to look into what those problems might be. Go within, if you want to effect changes in the external world.	/r/askTRP	29/03/18 07:23 PM
2	Approaching fails bc my social status is too low? haha. I put a lot of work in, over the years. Thank you for appreciating it.	/r/askTRP	29/03/18 04:47 PM
1	Need some serious advice, completely lost on what to do anything you want is totally ok to ask my dude.	/r/askTRP	29/03/18 04:46 PM
5	Approaching fails bc my social status is too low? Let's point our lens at you and zoom out, then zoom in, then zoom out again, then do a little dance, and see what we can learn about you. When you're approaching people, you're doing it with the expectation that something will happen. You're "trying to make something happen". I recommend you think a lot about the default state you're in prior to / during the approach, and how you're thinking to change this state. I'm going to use a word that can have some shame attached to it, but doesn't have t…	/r/askTRP	29/03/18 04:10 PM
2	How to master self-amusement? There's a child within each one of us and as you peel away the layers, using meditation/journaling/self-understanding, or whatever other means you use, you will naturally begin to play more. You just have to lessen the extent of the negative inhibiting behaviors by understanding their origins and calming them. The positive action of play will occur naturally and spontaneously, because that child inside has never gone away.	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 10:00 PM
1	[Advice] Physicality/Escaping the Friendzone Ha, ok. We all do things a bit differently. Yeah you should do whatever you feel, disregard what I say if it doesn't resonate or doesn't feel right.	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 05:58 PM
1	[Advice] Physicality/Escaping the Friendzone Well, we disagree. You think I lack sense and experience and I think the same about you. But that's ok, all these are just ideas on how to get with women. I've been intimate wth a fair number of beautiful, wonderful women. I've been in relationships that are very, very meaningful. I've also begged and borrowed and stolen and gone hungry, in relationship terms, and been as desperate as anyone in RedPill. It takes a strong presence to compliment a woman on her looks, and she has to have some level…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 04:34 PM
2	[Advice] Physicality/Escaping the Friendzone Showing her your interested in other girls is a poor replacement for being self-realized enough to actually have the boundaries that (silently) broadcast to her: "If my needs aren't met, I don't go begging. I walk away, sure in the knowledge that other people are out there for me." So its a 'fake it till you make it approach'. There's no point at which these wooden stage props actually evolve into a real castle, though. There's no magic transition point where you're game of pretending to be a ma…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 04:27 PM
3	How did you beat your Approach Anxiety? Yep. I think you are accurately understanding the nature of the problem/scenario. I am, or have been, as scared, as ashamed, as hungry for sex, and as desperate as the next guy. So I know what that is like. But life is trying to teach us this lesson, it seems, which is to fill up your own cup first. Don't go to others with an empty cup. It sucks ass. But once you learn it, life gets better.	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 04:14 PM
1	[Advice] Physicality/Escaping the Friendzone If OP wants a bold move he can do, that's both bolder than kino (in that it requires emotional presence and honesty whereas kino at this point would be engaged from a flighty, "the internet said do this" hummingbird-masculine point of view) .... he can do this move: Look her in the eyes after talking as openly as possible for 20 minutes, and say: "You know what Sandra? You're so beautiful, I've always thought you were really beautiful. How did your eyes get so green? I haven't seen anything like…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 03:56 PM
17	How did you beat your Approach Anxiety? There is no way to get over Approach Anxiety. There is only a chorus of 20-something dudes pumping each other up over the prospect of getting over approach anxiety, and essentially saying "keep going". All the dudes who gave up over the years aren't here to cheer you on or speak about it, because they've departed for other pastures. Its similar to cold calling. If you join the sales wing of some corporate organization, there'll be a couple other guys in fancy suites, telling you about the virtue…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 03:10 PM
0	[Advice] Physicality/Escaping the Friendzone My question is how should I go about trying to get more physical given that we have been friends for like half a year and I have hardly ever touched her? Don't get physical. That's insane. You just can't blindly start touching someone and think "this is all going to end in hooking up, right?". Pay attention to her clues, see where she is at. Watch for positive clues, and negative ones. Getting physical with someone that you yourself tell us you are in the friendzone with - uhhh... how is that su…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 02:33 PM
0	[Advice] Physicality/Escaping the Friendzone Checking out girls in front of her is a lame attempt at jealousy game. I don't recommend it.	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 02:04 PM
3	Should you still only text a Girlfriend/LTR for logistics? haha, you sound like an awesome guy and the relationship sounds great too. Good luck man.	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 04:26 AM
6	Should you still only text a Girlfriend/LTR for logistics? Right now you are like Hamlet in Shakespeare, asking himself: To text, or not to text? I'd say, you have less control over the situation than you currently imagine. Not that you lack control over how many texts you send, but just that this doesn't map 1:1 to pre-understood relationship outcomes like you and some other guys here are imagining it will. My favorite old teacher Tyler Durden from RSD, said roughly 10 years ago, in the Blueprint Decoded: The Self is always coming through. Your true Se…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 03:38 AM
7	Can't connect with girls at my school. As life goes on you can work on the skill of relating generally. As I develop that skill, I find a lot of it has to do with dropping any expectation of the other person behaving in a certain way, and continuing to amp up the sun-like power of my positive projection onto the world and life. This beautifies everything it touches, although I am also careful to see things for what they are, know my limits, and protect myself where needed. If you work on those skills, relating with everyone will impr…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 03:29 AM
1	Girls don't seem to believe I'm into them. Am I failing comfort tests badly? Yeah np. Viewed in a certain light, it may be that, as your friend indicated, your sense of confidence is so deep that its acting as an unwitting screening mechanism - shaking women off the horse who can't muster a similar level of quiet confidence. This sense of confidence also comes through between the lines of your writing, so I think its a real thing. In which case, honestly, it could also be a good thing - you need a woman who can hang back in herself like you can hang back in yourself. So,…	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 02:35 AM
1	Girls don't seem to believe I'm into them. Am I failing comfort tests badly? Seems like you might be triggering anxiety. You can work on being more reassuring. Give compliments, tell them your interested, maybe build a bit more rapport. It may be that this is an indicator that, for whatever reason, you're perceived as very high value - and your aloof demeanor is causing girls to freak out with anxiety or project "player vibe" onto you and psyche themselves out. "A guy this good can't possibly like me!?" "He must be seeing three other women?!" I've psyched myself out the …	/r/askTRP	28/03/18 02:12 AM
2	Girl threatened to stop talking to me. I'm not sure I can explain it, but as an observable fact of reality, its right up there with not crossing the street on red. Doesn't mean some people won't be able to make it by crossing the street on red. Some people will turn those text-volleys into a real thing, but most won't. If pressed to explain it, I would say that texting is the easy approach. So people fall into it, because it feels safe. But people who are ready for 'textationships' generally cannot handle relationships. Texting someo…	/r/askTRP	27/03/18 11:38 PM
1	Q4RP: Are “beta bucks” necessarily unattractive? Since we're all obviously curious about the nature of the dynamic, I submit this video as a really on-point description of the dynamics involved. Horsmon is very refined in his understanding of the subject matter, imo. I'm learning a lot from him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/18 10:44 PM
2	How do I game? ha, I loved that one too! Such a great song, in whatever version. Wishing you fun times with the girlys, my dude :D	/r/askTRP	27/03/18 07:45 PM
2	How do I game? you a Bowie fan? ;)	/r/askTRP	27/03/18 07:39 PM
10	Girl threatened to stop talking to me. If your life is like mine, eventually you'll learn that this much text contact is the sign of a relationship that is never going to actually go anyplace. Its not about you doing this or that, doing something right or wrong - when you are texting someone this much, its because there is no relationship. I can understand wanting to be the exception to that rule.... but you'll basically have to get in line with the rest of us, we also wanted to be exceptions to the rule.	/r/askTRP	27/03/18 07:26 PM
6	How do I game? There's two schools of thought (or perhaps 100 million schools of thought.., but for the purposes of this comment, just two) on how to meet girls. One school says its ok to walk around, thirsty as frick, trying to talk to any and all women you find visually appealing, who are in some kind of social setting. That both worked for me and did not work for me. To do this, you go around making smalltalk with whatever girls look like they are open to talking with you. The second school, which I believe…	/r/askTRP	27/03/18 07:24 PM
5	Need some serious advice, completely lost on what to do It sounds like she can't handle her feelings for you, dude. Or for the situation itself. She can't deal with what you guys have done, its caused emotions to arise within her. When she said she doesn't want to be in a casual relationship, it could be code for "I want this to be a serious relationship". Or she at least wants to see that you take her somewhat seriously. You saying fair enough and smiling at her, can trigger hurt feelings, because its kind of like shirking the emotional responsibili…	/r/askTRP	27/03/18 06:47 PM
1	The idea of AFBB is a deliberate misunderstanding of how women get off. [CMV] haha we're in a relationship now	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/18 05:57 PM
2	The idea of AFBB is a deliberate misunderstanding of how women get off. [CMV] I think you make good points and have a good perspective. Good stuff. For people with penises (who haven't gone through HRT), teasing during sex - letting the anticipation build - is frustrating and can range from uncomfortable to painful. This was the only thing that I don't think holds up in a court of law. On the whole, I like you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/18 05:13 PM
1	CMV: Reducing people to a list of traits and calculating their "SMV" dehumanizes people and sucks the soul out of life. Did you mean to ask if I meant that we are trying to become poets? Just trying to make sure I understand the question..	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/18 03:53 AM
1	CMV: Reducing people to a list of traits and calculating their "SMV" dehumanizes people and sucks the soul out of life. We're trying to become poets.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/18 01:04 AM
3	So I essentially just got handed a few million and now I dont know what to do with my life anymore No thanks	/r/askTRP	26/03/18 07:51 AM
5	So I essentially just got handed a few million and now I dont know what to do with my life anymore Well, if ideas come to you while working, that's cool. I could line up a lot of famous names whose inspiration came in moments of idleness, leisure and solitude.	/r/askTRP	26/03/18 07:36 AM
2	Why do mothers try to embarrass their sons? What you're experiencing is emotional abuse. Our culture has a split-mind towards emotional abuse, with half of the people saying it either doesn't exist or is a totally wholesome or at least forgivable thing - and half the culture recognizing that it is destructive. Emotional abuse is different than physical abuse, its also different than sexual abuse. But it can leave scars just as deep and painful as both these other kinds of abuse, which society is generally taking more seriously now. I've b…	/r/askTRP	26/03/18 07:20 AM
3	Why do mothers try to embarrass their sons? I disagree. This is green-lighting someones abuse rather than standing up to them and calling a spade a spade. She is preparing you for life. Again I disagree. She is preparing him for further abuse. People who suffer emotional abuse at home are more likely to seek out abusive partners, and suffer life long with low self esteem. The world doesn't give a shit about you. There may be a degree of truth in that, but your mother is supposed to care about your feelings. You are justifying the emotiona…	/r/askTRP	26/03/18 07:09 AM
1	I'm bad at first impressions. How can I improve? I'm gonna surprise you and clue you in that this is not something you can actually improve. Terrible, right? You can of course put the work in to become more self-aware, integrated, more in love with yourself - however we choose to conceptualize that. That will smooth the edges of every person that does it. But first impressions are a deep response to a very deep signal - and like other aspects of ourselves, such as our nose, our height, our skin color - there's a point beyond which its no longe…	/r/askTRP	26/03/18 06:56 AM
1	So I essentially just got handed a few million and now I dont know what to do with my life anymore I don't know what you should do, its a novel situation. Here's what I would do. Since you have the maans to do so, you have the luxury of time - take an extended period off from obligations. Let's say 3 to 6 months. Use it to do whatever your heart desires - traveling, eating, visiting friends. While doing this, listen to your heart and journal each day, seeking to know what you want. If you listen for inspiration, it will come to you. If you listen and wait for ideas, they will come to you. Giv…	/r/askTRP	26/03/18 06:46 AM
1	What are the best books to help a man understand female sexuality/attraction? Yeah, I think they do. Even people from the exact same place will have significant differences in their values and beliefs. But I agree that the cultural barriers can be really intense or difficult to navigate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 10:37 PM
1	What are the best books to help a man understand female sexuality/attraction? Yet this does not remove or absolve the major major differences between American culture and Chinese culture, or American politics or Chinese politics. Right. I agree with that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 10:15 PM
2	What are the best books to help a man understand female sexuality/attraction? I'm in deep agreement that these differences, on some level, do exist. Its how that resolves in terms of significance, that I probably differ on. Like I said, Northern African city streets are not clean. Do you now know something about an N. African person you meet, that you did not know before? You don't really. I would argue the conceit that you do have more knowledge about them, can actually work as a misunderstanding, e.g. you think you know something about them because you studied an observ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 09:51 PM
1	What are the best books to help a man understand female sexuality/attraction? Well, I can see what you're saying, but I still disagree. You're saying I really have to understand the depths of Egyptian culture before I connect to someone, or understand the depths of German culture before I connect to someone. That, to me, just isn't true. I think you can connect to people without running a vast analysis of their cultural background. Also some of the friends I'm talking about have been my best friends for years, so I can't take it as a super serious thing that I somehow hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 09:47 PM
1	What are the best books to help a man understand female sexuality/attraction? I see what you're saying, but its my conviction that wisdom consists in seeing the unifying point of view which stands above all specific cases. For example, if you say that the streets of Germany are clean, and the streets of Cairo are a filthy mess, you'd be technically correct. But I've known and loved both German and Egyptian people, and the cleanliness of the streets was not related to who those people were as people. People also behave with different customs, being loud and boisterous or q…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 08:28 PM
12	Why would a women choose a man who’s lower in smv? Because SMV is a third-party observer's abstract generalization about other people's mating choices, not an objective measure of reality or a reflection of the values of the people actually involved in making those choices. You might think a girl is unbelievably hot, but her vaguely "Jewish" looking face is not attractive to huge percentages of dudes. Another girl is super duper hot, but has a hint of a neck-waddle. A whole lot of guys don't want to go anywhere near it. Yet we sit here talking a…	/r/askTRP	25/03/18 08:09 PM
9	Difference between a narcissist and an Alpha? Well, alphas don't exist, its a confused person's short-hand for a self-realized man. Narcissists do exist. There are lots of interesting examples of them. Main difference between self-realization and narcissism would be... hmm. whats the easiest to spot indicator? Narcissists are constantly bitching out other people who are their supposed "enemies", whereas a self-realized person won't have a lot of enemies and will move away from them. Narcissists are always at war with other people. So that's…	/r/askTRP	25/03/18 07:58 PM
1	Difference between a narcissist and an Alpha? The alpha/beta dichotomy originally applied to wolves kept in captivity, before it was proven to not be a concept existing among wolves in the wild. If you've met them, you know who they are. Have you ever spoken with one of these dudes, explaining you thought of him as an 'alpha' and other people as 'betas'? It seems like that would be an interesting way to get feedback about this concept. From the horse's mouth, as it were.	/r/askTRP	25/03/18 07:49 PM
1	Do you ever feel "game fatigue" ? Yeah. I've been there. It was because I was using convoluted personality manipulations on myself to achieve external behavior in the world that I thought was necessary, but ultimately wasn't. I went monk mode, faced my dry spell (3 years), got into a relationship, got out again, and discovered a more meaningful life. But generally haven't done 'game' since them. Similar to doing crash diets (really intensive diets) which I also used to do. It was artificial, harshed my groove, killed the sense o…	/r/askTRP	25/03/18 07:27 PM
1	What are the best books to help a man understand female sexuality/attraction? I think understanding 'women' as 'women' is not useful. Its alluring, has lots of hooks for the mind, something to spin wheels on, and write endless bogs about, but its kind of a false friend. I would say understand what it means to be human. Focusing on the differences between the genders is kind of a dead-end. It further increases the idea of separation and the differences are so trivial, that the sheer idea of separation itself will already influence your mind so much more deeply than the act…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 06:20 PM
1	Why do women (overwhelmingly) enforce a sex toy/masturbation double standard: "you go girl!" vs. "he must be a creepy perv who can't get a girl in the real world", etc? hahaha love the translation	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 08:15 AM
1	[Discussion] Men shouldn’t get resentful when a woman wants to wait to have sex. I was being kind of hard on you in the reply. I think you'll be fine. :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 03:05 AM
2	Some thoughts about "Being yourself", neediness, creepiness, outcome independence, and the cause of men not succeeding with women. I think these thoughts are valuable. I see where you're going and I mostly agree. I believe there is a core Self within each human being that is playful, creative, child-like, but also with connection to higher values and ideals. Over the course of life, we each tap in to this self more and more (if we are making progress). Connecting with this in ourselves, we then connect with it in others. This is the core of psychology, religion, metaphysics, and art: moving closer to this core Self, and cat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 02:55 AM
1	[Discussion] Men shouldn’t get resentful when a woman wants to wait to have sex. Wait as long as you want. I think you should follow your instincts. [edited .. this reply was kind of daft or unnecessary ] . :D Good luck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/18 02:31 AM