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Show those petty men the research that shows sperm quality deteriorates significantly after the age of 30, whereas women have the same eggs from birth until the day they die. So it's their biological clock that's ticking, not ours.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 09:33 PM
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I asked it here before I talked to him actually, because I couldn't bring myself to face him without first gathering my thoughts and seeking outside advice. But we talked and I felt that rather than making me feel worse, my feelings were able to support him. I don't know if it makes sense? We bonded. He didn't make me feel bad at all as I had feared. The conversation went really well and I felt that we understood each other.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 07:42 PM
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Well, it's not like I do not reciprocate the validation and commitment, I was just thinking it is still too new to rush into things, it's been barely a month, that's all. And what I forgot to mention that I'll be gone for weeks during Christmas, so...
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 07:32 PM
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Unfortunately I have to disagree here. I don't think you have to wait until everything is perfect before you're ready for someone. Nothing is ever perfect. If your goals and values align, you are attracted to and like each other, communication is good, you understand each other, you respect each other and all the basics are in place, then why should you put this on hold or call it off? I want to be there for him while he grieves, but I know I can't and I don't want to risk exhausting myself. Tha…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/25 10:29 PM
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I reciprocate him, we are getting to know each other. What do you want me to do after only one month of dating? Propose to him already? I am not emotionally unavailable, I just think everything is too new.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/25 09:53 PM
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He did break up, yeah.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/25 02:56 PM
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Yes, I second everything you said. I just wanted to hear an outside perspective as well, and to be able to criticise myself if needed. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 09:13 PM
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Thanks, I felt hugged :')
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 08:46 PM
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Well, you are not overreacting but you kind of have brought this on yourself a little bit imo. When the insecurities kick in we tend to ask "what's your type" expecting an answer of "you", I understand, I unfortunately do the same from time to time and the only answer I get from my partner is actually just "you", but then, I just don't believe him because he does not seem enthusiastic and I think that he just dodges my question to avoid a fight. So it's kind of a difficult game for men too lol. …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 09:06 AM
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I agree and wanna add: get yourself tested for STIs.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/25 09:46 PM
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I wish I could tell you a secret to understand if he is genuine or faking, but there is no such a thing. Better stay grounded.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 12:06 PM
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So funny to see my diagnosis here lol. I turned 29, I am a lawyer with a masters degree, living and working abroad in a big city, total in girl-boss mode, I had 5 and 10 year plans for my career but now all I can think of is to move in to a suburb house with a garden, have my own plants, eat clean, prep meal for my future hubby and kids. This U turn is crazy
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/25 10:27 PM
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I actually don't find any men attractive other than my partner, I don't even acknowledge handsomeness in others in daily life. I mean I definitely find Henry Cavill ultra handsome for example, but I still don't imagine myself sleeping with him whatsoever even as a fantasy. It is just an acknowledgment, like commenting on art. And I know men are (95%) different in this case and I can sense that my partner finds some other women attractive and as a contra move I try to like some other men in my he…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 08:13 PM
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Never ever quit med school for a guy you know since 2 months.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 08:46 PM
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I can understand your position, I really do. It is the same thought I struggle to decide to move in with my bf, when you say that more space than that would feel like a roommate. It is really hard to find the perfect balance, but not impossible. What I meant with that "space" is also hard to define other than saying "let him miss you". It's a mindset, being laidback. You are aware that you have to have your own life, hobbies and people, yet it still feels you are too available for him. It's most…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 03:32 PM
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I feel you so well. We don't live together, but otherwise I suffer from the same thing. That's why it's not much of a success story, because I am also a work in progress but when I feel unloved, I focus on myself and try to give that love to myself and take a step back. I wait for him to miss me. I give him the chance to miss me and come back to me. It is definitely harder when you live together. It is just an ice-cold truth that they love to chase. It may seem unfair to use terms like 'play', '…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 01:49 PM
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I can totally understand the woman approach to "15 years of friendship" but men don't see opposite sex friendships as we do, he already put your friendship in jeopardy when he tried to have sex with you. Be very clear about your disinterest in him and your current relationship status, I don't think that he is reaching out to you after 2 years just for the sake of friendship, you'd see he'd be the one who is cutting you off completely after you make clear that you are not on the market anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 07:35 PM
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Fake it until make it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 06:29 PM
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Amazing explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 12:19 PM
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Hard situation. Looks like only thing you can do besides breaking up is to move out and turn back to dating phase with him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 12:12 PM
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I think women are way more flexible to change their "readiness" for the sake of man. Men aren't.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 07:57 PM
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Yes I can understand that she's been hurt and betrayed in the past, that kind of trauma can turn you into a villain too, which she also became a "second woman" and now married to a partner who cheated on their ex-spouse with her. It's a power game after all and she won it in her world. She is telling what she believes and what she experienced because she's been on both sides. So I don't blame her at all, that she has lost faith in "love". I just understand.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 06:50 PM
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Men, who have the urge to prove something, cheat. Because cheating gives a hell of fake-self-confidence boost. Getting to know your core self, making peace with it and building a stable self-confidence is not easy but people choose the easy way, so living out of a fake-self-confidence boosts from time to time is a easier way. To be with a good man, we have to work on ourselves first, because I wouldn't recognize a real self-confident man otherwise... Shera is funny. Some stuff she just tells are…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 06:39 PM
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I also think that the “logic” of living together before marriage is flawed. You’d have to live a whole lifetime with someone to be truly prepared for living together. Love this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 10:25 PM
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Omg same! I was also 'that' woman, going above and beyond for my love, but since I got still betrayed and left behind, I just stopped, like for ever. I guess it takes time to get there again... Hope we can feel comfortable about that version of ourselves soon again. <3 Aaanyways; 6 months into the relationship is not too soon, yet I think men don't appreciate that much when the things we do are not their primary love language, so when we get a halfhearted "thank you" or something like that, it j…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 10:22 PM
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Yes I do that as well, I directly give a heads up but it's not always a protective shield and I still can annoy him with my grumpiness further, even though he knows that it was coming. And than it annoys me so much more. I don't know if it makes sense haha. I just aspire to get not bitter afterwards but don't know how.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 10:42 AM
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This is so helpful! Thanks a bunch <3
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 08:18 PM
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Yep, I am annoyed by other stuff (or without a concrete reason even) and he annoys me further without doing anything wrong or slightly annoying comments on things which normally wouldn't bother me but when I am already annoyed, it does bother me. For example I was upset about something during the day, I didn't reflect on him, but then I did reflect on a stranger and kinda blew up unnecessarily, then I told him about that incident and how I feel ashamed that I reflected on someone, he just agreed…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 07:16 PM
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Jokes aside, men who are bragging about how they're "successful" with women (i.e. high body count) is always giving me directly the suspect that they might have narcissistic characteristics and now his reaction like a kid, not accepting that he is not getting what he wanted and blaming you, trying to make you feel guilty about that is just kinda confirmed it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 10:18 AM
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it doubles the ick when they follow acquaintance women without a follow back.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 09:48 AM
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I know they write it with good intentions to "get rid of social media" or "work on your self esteem" but I don't think they're very practical advices though... I got rid of social media and working on my self esteem. Let's dig into it: Since I was recovering from a toxic relationship with a narcissist, I really worked on myself, like a lot, well it is still going baby steps only? Since years! I am proud of where I am now but I still can't feel beautiful / good about myself from time to time. Wor…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/24 02:51 PM
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I don't think it's fair to say her to manage (i.e. "lower") her expectations. She is aware of her worth and what she is capable of, so why would she settle? The pool in her circumstances is very very small and she is seeking advance in this matter, not something else. 50 dates contains most probably men from outside of her pool as well, just to see if it would somehow work out; maybe much younger men, maybe jobless men etc whom she normally wouldn't date. This many dates is already managing expe…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 10:34 PM
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He is 28 and this is what he could come up as an explanation? give me a break...
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 07:56 AM
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First of all, please don't think that without being a mom the life is purposeless. You might not be able to becaome a mom after all because of biological issues etc. There is so much to live for out there! I totally share your concerns when it comes to biological clock though. But pushing someone who isn't on the same page as you does not make time flow backwards, so the clock is still ticking to your detriment. It is better to just accept the situation first objectively. And I totally get that …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 09:30 AM
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Assuring them a good childhood and easy adult life is not only about finances, that's why my limit would be 4 in order to give them all the same & efficient amount of care, love, attendance etc -preferably with a twins so it would be easier to raise 4, realistically 3 probably because being a parent is draining as well and I wouldn't want my last child to get a careless attitude because I am already exhausted with parenting the older siblings. Irl I am most probably only going to have 2 because …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 09:50 AM
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It is such a big deal for me that I was even asking my dates before I spent any night with them and became attached. I wouldn't start a relationship with someone who snores, but it's just me. Earplugs, white noise etc. are good help for some days, but not for every day. You can't do this every day. If no problem would be found and the snoring problem is not solved even after seeing a doctor, I can suggest that he should practice nasal breathing techniques or even tape his mouth at night.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 06:41 PM
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I mean it would be said that it's better to have less body count to maintain pair bonding, but it's actually quite difficult to get to know yourself without experience, so that insecurity follows. Everyone's individual thresholds are different and I think it's wrong to give a precise number, it's good to have as little relationships to not reach numbness, but as many as to not become an insatiable person who hasn't discovered herself/himself and doesn't know what she/he wants. I'd say if you sti…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 12:41 PM
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