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#JustLVMThingsmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:59 AM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:23 PM
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DISCUSSIONmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:36 PM
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LVM LOGICmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:00 AM
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DISCUSSIONmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:36 PM
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LEVEL UPmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 10:31 AM
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DISCUSSIONmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:58 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:00 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:28 PM
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NAH, SISmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:52 AM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:01 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:57 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:07 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:08 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:57 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:09 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:49 PM
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DISCUSSIONmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 02:49 AM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:04 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 04:44 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 08:54 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:03 PM
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LEVEL UPmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 11:41 PM
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How-To High Valuemememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:18 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:39 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:57 PM
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FDS MOVIES & TVmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:47 AM
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DISCUSSIONmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 11:48 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:45 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:48 PM
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NAH, SISmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:02 PM
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DISCUSSIONmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:52 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:55 AM
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DISCUSSIONmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:21 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEmememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:53 AM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 09:45 PM
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mememe88888/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 07:12 PM
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I also have a gun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:55 AM
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This is true. I have multiple licenses and they are not under a po box yet so it would still be east to find me. But at least it can keep a few away- poor ones who aren’t tech savvy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:55 AM
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Which site is it? Most have an opt out page you can Click on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:54 AM
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Great tips that I didn’t think of, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:53 AM
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Good tips- thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:53 AM
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Damn, you are hardcore and I like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:53 AM
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But toddlers are truly loving and caring and sweet lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:19 PM
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If they have feelings. Lots do not have feelings for specific people... they miss the benefits offered by someone. There’s a difference. That’s the point. Wise women will learn the difference. Many men do not have actual feelings about anyone to “process”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:42 AM
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Yeah but not because of you... because of the benefits of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:09 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:43 PM
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This post isn’t about women moving on though or their reasons. It’s about men moving on. However- since it’s been mentioned- most women move on quickly because they invested heavily and did everything they could to make it work. And they become tired and “over it”. They move on psychologically before it’s usually physically over- so when it’s physically done, they are usually long gone mentally. When I divorced my husband, I was never sad about the loss of him. I left him and was seeing someone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:41 PM
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When I was little, my cousins put toothpaste in my water bottle without me knowing. I took a huge drink and I was sick all night with this gross mint feeling in my stomach. Obviously I was little and sad, but also it genuinely made me sick. So not to toothpaste lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:30 AM
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Actually, I’m saying- as a mom- I have to protect myself and child from freaks, murderers, abusers, pornsicks, pedophiles, bad influences, and losers. I left my ex husband in extremely difficult circumstances bc I don’t believe in staying with liars or losers- despite the hardships it costs the mother. I don’t believe in accepting bad behavior where children can emulate and accept it as normal. Women and their kids are much better off alone in many cases. My son does not need a stepfather and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:15 AM
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I’ve been alone for quite awhile. And as a mom, I have even more of a reason to be alone than picking some loser to fill a void. I have no desire to do that. I’m fine with it. But occasionally, it does suck. I feel like humans crave intimacy on levels that exceed friendships and social connections. I’m happy with everything in my life and I don’t feel lonely. However, I absolutely would love to be in a healthy and committed partnership one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:14 AM
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But my problem is that it’s super rare to even meet someone that I could like or put any effort into. So when I do, it might be pickme mentality, but I don’t want to lose them. And that makes me act more pathetic than I would otherwise. Where are these women meeting a bunch of high quality men? Maybe it’s my age range but most are not available- they are married or taken already. The rest are 35-45 and still players, serial tinders, etc Plus, I guess I just have trust issues but I don’t believe …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:20 AM
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This is my new plan if anyone ever tries to pull shit on me again. Actually, I’m pretty bored in quarantine, maybe I should hit up some bumble soon lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:58 AM
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Dirty brown pillow lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:38 AM
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My IG name isn’t my first and last name and it’s private. LinkedIn— nobody there knows I’m on FDS or anything else about my life besides my occupation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:50 PM
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Mine is a specific account for this sub. I follow on my other one but never comment or post on there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:30 PM
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Looking at your profile, I know where you live, where you’re from, your heritage, your first name, what you look like, your age, where you exercise, and your health issues. Go in and delete some stuff, girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:29 PM
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What’s also interesting is that these are the same men who say women are stupid for getting with liars or bad men or being abused... and judge them for having a sexual history, being single mom, etc etc. BUT THEY ARE THE ACTUAL BAD MEN DOING THE ACTUAL BAD MEN SHIT! True sociopaths
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:50 PM
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Amazing point 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:14 PM
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People always do that as some type of power move. When in reality- they just look like fucking idiots for not being able to use google, critically think, and find proper information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:31 PM
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Yes!! Exactly! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:58 PM
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It totally is. And lots of very young women I think- early 20s or even younger- completely clueless about how to hold their own or stand on their own. Just so GD clueless- getting pressured into shit by their lame ass, video addicted boyfriends, and getting further “support” to keep doing it all from men on the sex and relationships sub. If they had any idea of the actual men behind these screens giving them advice- likely overweight, hairy, smelly, agoraphobic, porn sick, and balding. Or 22 yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:37 PM
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*Will risk severe and possible lifelong anal issues and/or gastrointestinal issues for a hug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:29 PM
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Omg read the thread on sex sub. There is a man saying women basically begged him to do this and loved it. Yeah rightttt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:23 PM
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Yes! Waiting for someone to see value in you vs seeing it in yourself instead. Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:08 PM
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The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. These men are obsessed with women- just from an angry perspective. They haven’t gone their own way. It’s not hating women, it’s being angry toward women BECAUSE they want specific women (or any woman) so badly... and most could not have the ones they wanted.. or any. They are projecting their own hate for themselves onto women. That’s why they spend their days doing what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:03 PM
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I love 4c hair, just saying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:46 PM
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I’ve never laughed so hard 😂😂😂😭😭😭 oh lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:04 PM
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Or a cruise to the Bahamas lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:00 PM
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Yepppp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:59 PM
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I feel the same and hear you. When I was a pickme and of lower value, I would settle for most anyone. I’m about to start my masters and I will expect any future partners to be on my education level or higher. This would be the same for most things. If someone is super fit, they probably want someone super fit who can keep up. I am meh fit-one I’m better shape the the majority of people but nowhere near super fit. If a man wanted a super fit woman and spent his time exercising etc, I would unders…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:59 PM
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That’s a lot of words for “I want someone underage, naive, easily impressionable, and without the courage or ability to leave me, ever, no matter what I do.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:47 PM
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Yeah. My ex used to slam things around, straight up IGNORE anything I said so I had to repeat myself or ask questions like 5x in a row and then he’s say: “what did you say?”— total gaslighter. He used to drive really fast with me in the car and clench his teeth— every sign of being very angry with me but say he was fine. He would be pissed as hell but chuckle and make these snide jokes about how everything was great. He would insult me with a big smile on his face. Dude, it was so fucking fucked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:40 PM
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And yes... sitting in the gray, allowing multiple things to exist at one time... so much healing with this mindset- in many ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:28 AM
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Yes. It’s absolutely been so powerful for me, too! For so long, I tried to demonize him and shame myself- both attempts to stop caring or loving him. Now I just accept that it is what it is and I don’t overthink it. I love him but he’s not good for me, my son, or my life. Period. There’s nothing here to overthink. I can’t change anyone—-only my choices and responses. And I choose to protect myself and live a full life without contact with this person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:28 AM
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You cannot force someone to carry their load and leaving and being a single parent is fucking hard. You’re exhausted- EXHAUSTED from carrying a baby 9 months, birthing a baby, and lack of sleep and general parenting duties. This doesn’t even include labor in the home and if you’re working still. I didn’t catch up from sleep deprivation until my son was 5 or 6. Imagine back to back babies, I sure as fuck cannot imagine that level of exhaustion. Sure, kick him out of your bed and/or divorce him an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:08 AM
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You weren’t dumb and you aren’t dumb. You, along with all women, have been trained to respond like this in relationships. Along with that. We have also had our inner characteristic traits in general (caring, giving, loving, forgiving) exploited. Don’t be hard on yourself. Great job on realizing and moving forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:52 PM
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Yep. The reality is that most women feel this way deep down- and rightfully so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:31 PM
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I finally blocked two people and it’s helped me with my self worth and self respect. I really do stand up taller because I know I’m not being a moron anymore. The one- I pathetically and seriously really did and still do love. We were friends for 15 years before we started seeing each other. I was a pickme to the 2837473383737373737th degree. I would have legit done anything for him. I moved out of state to start over but still didn’t have him blocked. My ability to finally block him was exactly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:31 PM
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Yes, a random group of women from anywhere on earth, too. I tutor a woman from Argentina. She is a lawyer in her home country and she refuses to get married because of how awful life can become for a married woman. She said she moved to labor law because family law was so terrible. The amount of men skipping out of child support by lying was so high. Same as the USA If women have one thing in common- it is that we have seen and we KNOW what men have done to us. FDS is not what has “caused” us so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:59 PM
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I had my associates but that was all. I tried to leave like 5 times but kept having to go back bc I had nothing and no way to support myself and my child. So I signed up for my bachelors and maxed out the amount of school loans I could get. I knew when the scholarship and school loan $ was going to hit and how much- I left a few days before and went to my moms, applied for jobs, got a job waitressing a few days later, applied to an apartment by a private landlord- and moved in the following week…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:10 AM
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She def is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:50 PM
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Single mom here!! Hiiiiii FDS ladies and scrotes reading this. I find that group absolutely hilarious. If I want a good chuckle, I visit it. Consider the source of these men. These men are literally the lowest of the low. Most of these men are the type of men living in mommy’s basement with severe social anxiety and agoraphobia and can’t leave or do shit, so they find their power hating on all women. Like probably can’t even order a sandwich at Subway without sweating and shaking. So they get th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:57 PM
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“I’m very spontaneous”- I’ll switch things up on you all the time, demand your time and intrude on your schedule, and then blame you for not being a cool girl about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:00 PM
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Yes. Any time I would start imagining myself being abused in my head to get me off, I would just stop masturbating. It’s really about training your mind to be aroused without perversion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:44 PM
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I literally would imagine what awful things were going on in the rooms next door or what porn scene may take place directly after the video I watched. I just absolutely cannot support this sick, perverse, disgusting practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:43 PM
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Choose to see these people as victims and being exploited and abused. Imagine that in every porn video, someone is being violated and abused. Imagine that behind the screen, there are underage people or people being trafficked and that all you’re seeing is what producers and traffickers want you to see. This is how I stopped watching it. It disgusts me now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:10 PM
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Women think it’s cute and they are needed... until they have children of their own and need a partner- not another child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:34 PM
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I will delete 😭😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:16 PM
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Omg didn’t even think of that! Should I delete this?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:54 PM
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Will you believe me even though I’m lying? Lol, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:46 PM
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Trust me when I say this is the truth. My ex husband gave me his grandmas ring but not because it was sentimental but because he was cheap. He gave me the band because the engagement part got lost— which by the way- he accused me of breaking into his home and stealing it while we were dating. anyone who knows me knows I would literally never steal anything. Anyway, the ring was shit in general and TRUST ME, all the selfishness leaked into everything. When we were at our poorest and I was sick al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:44 PM
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I feel like from a psychological perspective, she is definitely reenacting trauma to heal. It’s very subconscious how people do this. Her psyche is trying to find healing IN the thing that has traumatized her—which was being sexually violated. It’s a normal response to go back to those places and try to regain power for the times you had no power before. The fucked up part is that in situations like this with sexual trauma— it’s just not how it works. The consequences of sex like this (whether s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:09 PM
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This wasn’t me lol but she is on fire for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:18 PM
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Just like Chris Watts- suffocating his sweet babies and putting their bodies in oil containers. WHAT THE FUCK?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:30 AM
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He blocked her 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:05 AM
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This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:46 AM
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Ill take that child! 💯 what the fuck is wrong with these lowlifes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:50 PM
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I started dating someone who lived in my neighborhood- we frequented all the same places. A specific place here, we both go to like 2-3 times a day. Before we met, I was superrrrr hesitant because I didn’t want to bump into him anywhere if things ended. We only went on a few dates and even after that, I still was dreading bumping into him. In the past 7 months, I’ve only seen him driving twice, and I haven’t bumped into him at all thankfully. But it was consistently on my mind so it was just as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:27 PM
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My sons dad is with someone (going on 4 years/ he got with her pretty quickly after I left him) and she is pregnant- I just found out a few days ago. He has talked badly about her the entire time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:03 PM
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Copy and pasted from something I wrote earlier: It wouldn’t matter anyway. There is no legal way to keep him from my son. The courts do not accept that as a reason for keeping a child from his dad. Don’t even get me started on that... there are absolutely terrible, terrible stories of abusers who have access to their children- like men actually abusing their children. The drinking, lying, porn, etc- the courts do not care what my perception of his dad is. Plus I have no proof of anything. Even i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:32 PM
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Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:31 PM
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Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:31 PM
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Proud of you, too! And yes, I’ve mostly been single since I left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:30 PM
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❤️ hugs to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:30 PM
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Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:30 PM
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Thank you so much, I really appreciate your kind words. I absolutely do not feel like that most of the time and I also do not share this part of me or my story so it’s nice to get it out and feel supported. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:30 PM
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You too :) thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:29 PM
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Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:29 PM
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❤️❤️❤️ hugs to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:21 PM
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It is :) just expensive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:20 PM
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YES. All of this! I stopped talking to my family for about a year after I left. So completely alone, no ANYTHING In my name- car phone etc, hadn’t worked in years, no education, waitressing odd hours and jobs, literally just trying to survive. Being judged by EVERYONE, close and far- private and in the public for being a loser single mom. Thankfully I had a few friends... but definitely the hardest days of my life. I have since forgiven my family for their ignorance but that took me 5 years or s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:11 AM
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Because I’m a failure and because I didn’t fuck him enough. My brother asked me if I gave him enough sex and that if I did/ maybe he wouldn’t have been on online sites. Maybe I don’t want to fuck my lying, cheating, and drunken husband yelling in my face and threatening to drive me and my child off a bridge. MY BAD.!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:01 AM
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It is AMAZING To me how dense our society is. Like yes, yes- I am the one at fault. The one who legit has given up all to take care of my son and will continue to do so for his best interest. Not his father who ripped our family apart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:56 AM
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Right? I’m just over here ruining society and sucking so bad at everything- raising a little hellion child and being a waste of space in general lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:55 AM
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I met him at church. At the very beginning, I thought he seemed stable and safe. He was very involved at church which I took as a sign as meaning something. However, my family didn’t like him or trust him- he was very involved with teenagers girls— he was a leader. He was “mentoring” a group of them- one of them told my dads girlfriends son that he was a creep and hitting on her while we were dating. Also people In the church had issues with him too but no one ever told me. We were together 9 mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:47 PM
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Yes, I have complex PTSD. Talk therapy has been helpful in some aspects but this year I am going to focus on somatic therapies. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:15 PM
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Yes. Working at a domestic violence center/sexual assault center- I can confirm! Men do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:10 PM
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Because he said it put crazy ideas in my head lolol. I was reading things about healthy relationships 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:07 PM
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Ooh yess, yes, yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:59 PM
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Thank you so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:58 PM
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True. My ex knew how to play everyone into believing he was a Godly man and so great toward us. Narcs are an entire different level of sick. But I don’t suggest women stick around to analyze and find out if they are narcs or Lvm! You feel that gut feeling that says RUN- RUN. You see those red flags? RUN! Thankfully my son at 3 was so sweet and empathetic. He is almost 8 now and seriously has a gem of a heart. He’s kinder about people than I am
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:57 PM
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Thank you. My sons dads targets are women. He was raised religious also. It’s basically women he views as second class citizens. He is great with my son which is why I would never introduce that kind of confusion into my sons life by badmouthing him. My son wouldn’t probably believe me anyway one day. Thank you so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:44 PM
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Thank you. I grew up in an environment where my only use and role was to obey. The main thing I was taught is to ignore my intuition and that my heart was “wickedly deceitful above all else” (super religious upbringing)... its only the past few years that I’ve learned to hear my own inner voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:22 PM
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Thank you! I actually started therapy in 2015 and my therapist was like.... “you’re in a seriously emotionally abusive relationship.” I didn’t understand what she was saying. I went to a domestic violence center who also gave me advice and said they were truly worried about my well being. I left him a few months later and stayed in therapy for another year or so. Then stopped and became severely depressed for about a year or so. I’ve been back in therapy for about a year now again. It is definit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:08 PM
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I might be sick in the head but I’m loving every seconnnnndddddddd of judging and remembering why I’m single 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:42 PM
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Oh just wait for Jessica later. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:49 AM
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😂😂😭😭 yeppppp #Barnettthebro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:37 AM
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I am committed now. I’ve been right so far in my assumptions. Mennnnnn 🌝🌝🌝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:36 AM
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I literally never, ever watch any of this shit. But I’ve been sick and my sister basically forced me so we could discuss all the losers 😂 it’s been fantastic! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:15 AM
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True. Except I legit have no time for that. Lol. I only want to pour time into things that last and are solid. I’m a mom starting my masters with two internships, working full time, and starting a side business. Along w just normal life and hobbies, friends, family, travel, and things I’ve trying to learn. I would much rather live in my real world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:55 PM
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Literally most human beings who have any sense of manners and respect will offer someone else their food if they are the only ones with food in front of them... it’s just common decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:10 PM
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It’s a cold and harsh world- that is what they would have to face. That they have been tricked and lied to for their entire lives. They would have to face and accept that patriarchy controls everything- they have no power UNLESS they revamp and morph into who they actually are as real women- deep down beyond the bullshit, facades, and etc. This takes courage and it can be hard for people who are brainwashed by mainstream everything. Because mainstream hates this and will hate them. Mainstream ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:56 PM
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It’s also psychological and there’s a cost factor. When women have invested so much of themselves into a man, to walk away and give that up is giving up parts of themselves, too. They likely gave up so much of themselves for him- if they leave, they will be left with nothing left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:33 PM
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Yes and run down that list whenever you’re tempted. Like small and big things, short and long term deal breakers. Then I like to imagine my future man who is way better than this current dude and me looking back thinking “LOL”. It always works. Edited: My standards, confidence, and self respect are actually always rising so it isn’t a lie. Every man I’ve been with has been better overall and treated me better than the last. So I know and can say with confidence that it is true- I will actually l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:22 AM
52

Agreed. I have no loneliness in my life though. I have amazing friends, an amazing child, my life has purpose, I’m working on my goals, my family is great, I am missing nothing. If someone wants to add to my life I’m all about that but I’m not looking because I don’t need anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:31 AM
5

This was amazing. Thank you so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:29 PM
3

🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:20 PM
55

Someone did this to me when I was 16. He was 24. First of all, fucking EW. Second of all, fucking EW. My ass hurt for weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:27 PM
6

Yes, that’s exactly the point 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:44 PM
35

Seriously....Whyyyyyyy?!? I’m so happy so many women are getting CLEAR AS FUCK and can see what’s going on now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:57 AM
3

Yes. Same. I’m actually in therapy trying to access and feel my feelings. It’s definitely not a trait I want to have. I want to be flowy and free again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:16 PM
8

It always reminds me of the movie Pinocchio when the boys are drinking, turn into jackasses, and then become slaves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:22 PM
14

AGREED. I will never again be in ANY type of vulnerable situation like I have been before bc of alcohol. Alcohol puts you in an extremely vulnerable position to be taken advantage of or harmed—-physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. No time for that. I’ll stay sober... and wise like a serpent instead 🐍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:02 PM
2

I’ve been there. I’m so sorry. Trustttttt me when I say that one day, one day and I don’t know when- you will thank the hell out of the universe that it didn’t work out. This has ALWAYS ended up true for me. Always. ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:54 AM
6

I’ve also had this happen before. My body full on rejected being with certain people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:38 AM
5

Yep. Ex husband (together 5 years) was online looking for people when we started having issues. Once I left him, he got with someone else within a few months and is still with her almost 5 years later. She is now about 32 and has wasted so many years on him. He won’t marry her, talks shit about her nonstop and how he doesn’t want to be with her and won’t marry her, how she won’t leave etc. I seriously cannot fathom why she is wasting her youth/life/energy on this dude. He is very basic. She cook…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:08 AM
3

Thanks. Total shit show obviously lol still recovering from that mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:49 AM
9

Why would one even marry a man if they can’t be honest about who they actually are? What is even the point besides financial help??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:50 AM
2

True that. I haven’t read anything by Paglia since 2016 and I was fresh out of fundamentalist Christianity so I can’t say what my perceptions actually were. Based on comments here, I should re-examine anything I know about her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:32 AM
7

Good stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:29 AM
4

I know that she empowers women to strip and sleep around, etc. I don’t agree with her on the majority of things. I mentioned her because that’s where I first heard the thoughts that I mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:10 AM
9

Exactly lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:06 AM
10

Whoooaaaaa. As someone who has been raped, I don’t feel I’m contaminated and def don’t think anyone who has been sexually violated or fucks a dude is contaminated either. I think there is something to be said about energy and women FEEL traumatized from sexual violence for many reasons- one of those things being the violent energy around what happened to them. I’m a sexual violence and domestic violence trained advocate and have worked with countless women in these situations. Yes, it’s psycholo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:34 AM
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Yeah, it might be for some. I grew up crazy religious and in purity culture and it feels very different for me. It empowers ME to think this way about myself—not god and not for any other reason except for me. And my uterus and my physical body are both a part of me. And important parts of me This perspective has taken me out from the pendulum swing of sleeping with everyone in the name of “sexual freedom” after I rejected purity culture. It helps me have a middle ground to protect myself in a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:05 PM
9

You too, sis 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:27 PM
14

But you’re right though, too. And you bring up a good point... It’s honestly every part of us that is sacred
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:16 PM
24

I just feel it’s another perspective to add to the list. Giving birth to me was incredibly vulnerable- it’s not like you can protect yourself from predators or get up and run away during labor. You are at the mercy of nature and those around you. During pregnancy, you are wayyy more vulnerable to everything and anything, also. Thinking about it from an an animalistic and reptilian brain perspective—It’s just like anything— those parts are a part our humanity count, too, whether or not we want th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:32 PM
8

Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:32 PM
10

Yes. Anyone who has called me sweet, I immediately have stopped talking to. Lol for the same reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:16 PM
18

Everyone told him he was fucked up and stuck up for me. This was heresy but I do believe that. But absolutely no one told me to my face or even mentioned it to me. Just the one person told me and then another friend verified it was true. Even a man there who couldn’t stand me (super misogynistic and a druggie asshole) told him he was completely out of line and sick in the head. It blows my mind. If someone did that to someone where I worked, I would absolutely go to HR and demand shit to be done…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 07:44 PM
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This was about 4ish years ago now. I did call the police that day and they actually told me there wasn’t anything they could do which is freaking INSANE in retrospect, I should have asked to speak to someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 05:11 PM
3

One time I had sex w a guy and then made him dinner... he ended up ignoring me after but he did give me two gifts! Herpes and high risk hpv. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:28 AM
21

Omg yes. Like the lost fucking time. It is rare that a man is pouring into your life and making you and your life better. I swear I’ve wasted so many brain cells, aged body organs from stress, lost sleep, lost income, etc etc. that’s not even the big shit like trauma from rape, trauma from being cheated on and lied to by my ex husband, bankruptcy, lost self esteem, etccccc And my ex wasn’t a “Chad” or some hot alpha. He was a typical and non threatening (albeit undercover manipulator and liar) m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:09 AM
4

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:03 AM
7

I like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:24 PM
7

I definitely agree with this in most situations. In some situations, I don’t. I don’t think some men are smart enough to be players or be users. They are going along for the ride. If free sex or other benefits are straight up being offered with no strings attached, men are going to accept that. When I was writing this, I was thinking more about myself and my situations. And in some cases with people I was with, I was the one straight up trying to change people and situations without viewing real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:40 PM
7

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:07 PM
5

I heart you. Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:06 PM
2

Long story short, I ended up as a single mother and bankrupt, with chronic PTSD from allllll the shit I went through (and being gaslighted) and in trying to protect my son at the same time. I’m still in therapy and it’s possible that I just cannot ever trust a man again. I’m only now learning totrust myself again. A liar will destroy your sense of reality and therefore you and your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:00 PM
9

I’ve been watching too much “you” on Netflix.. I thought this said “women love a predator” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:11 AM
13

Damn, yes! Thirties though too if you fucked up in your 20s and married a liar lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:51 PM
17

Right! I called someone out on his underhand insults and called them for what they were. He said “oh, this is going to be fun. Are you sure we’re going to get along?” Lol 😂 not if you keep that shit up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:37 PM
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Today I was thinking about a comment a man made to me... we were talking about me being from Florida... he said a lot of places in Florida are trashy and poor... and he said “are you from one of the trashy and poor places?” 😂😂😂😂 wtf, my man, just wtf lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:35 PM
6

Go youuu!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:32 PM
11

RIGHT! This is true and pathetic that it’s true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:31 PM
7

😂 what the hellll? Ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:20 PM
17

Thank you for posting this. As a single mom, too, I always feel like some type of easy prey and target when I’m out with my son, although I’m the last person to fuck with. I will legit murder someone if necessary... but it feels like people are viewing me as weaker and in need of someone to come save me and my child. FALSE. And I hate when men try to be sweet to my son to impress me- I’ve had this happen MULTIPLE times. Don’t look or talk to us. I am actually getting a german shepherd that looks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:15 PM
10

YEAH. I know. The problem in my head is that it’s pathetic I have to play by these rules. Because I need a man, even a fake and made up one, to protect me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:12 PM
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Lolol I was thinking this and YES, I know. But even last night, just sitting somewhere and this man comes up to tell me how gorgeous I am. Go away. One day, I was literally shoving sushi and chicken wings in my face- not attractive at all- my hands were covered in hot sauce (I had fasted 24 hours the day before), this guy walks up to hand me a note with his number. 😂😂😂 I’m like I literally am shoving chicken wings in my face, man, leave me alone. I just hope the ring will at least deter some of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:10 PM
2

Yesssss 🙌🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:50 AM
3

If someone accepts bad behavior from men,to they are probably accepting it in other areas, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:49 AM
2

Is this a thing? Like do men do this with this mindset on purpose?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:48 AM
2

Same, girl, sameeeee 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:33 PM
2

Let’s gooo! Cheering you on! This year will be powerful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:47 PM
4

My first test was equivocal so not false not positive. Retested again after 4 weeks- it was positive. I know my body and I’m very sensitive to everything— I’ve been under immense stress and I really feel like if I had it, then I would have had some type of symptom. My lab doesn’t do ranges and my gyno said it was possible to have a false positive especially since zero symptoms... she’s seen it before. She’s going to retest me in June after it’s been a year. I’m not that worried about it but it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:46 PM
14

I was leveling up prior to my 2.5 years of abstinence and was pretty wise and cautious during that time. I took those years off due to some depression/survival mode/mid life crisis/not wanting to bother with men. After I felt ready to come back into that world, I slept with one person ONE TIME after a few months of talking. He was a teacher, was respectful, put on a really good front overall... I got high risk hpv and herpes (could be a false positive- I’ve not had an initial outbreak or any sym…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:28 PM
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Yes, exactly! I took 2.5 years off before but it wasn’t in self love, it was out of depression and just being in survival mode. It wasn’t in growth like it’s about to be now. I am so excited to see what I am capable of. Thank you for your comments. I admire you, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:02 PM
4

“lol no” 😂😂😂 these are my 2020 goals, specifically outing married men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:42 PM
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It have me the courage to leave my ex husband who was lying to me and looking for other women etc.. and it gave another friend the courage to leave her ex husband who kept beating the shit out of her nonstop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:40 PM
4

Can I fix it? *got it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:01 PM
11

Lol why is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:18 AM
17

Love this. I have some life questions but didn’t feel it was appropriate to post on FDS. But at the same time, there’s nowhere else I want to ask bc I don’t want random ppl answering me with bad advice...ultimately FDS is relationship advice but it stems from a really solid grounding and foundation in oneself and life. And the people here get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:00 PM
14

Yesss. This was my ex. The first time I met his parents, his dad pulled out a bible and asked me if I was prepared to submit to his son. I was 22. I said yes and really thought I had to prove myself to be worthy. DISASTER obviously lol. He controlled EVERYTHING about me and in our lives (he was also a fucking idiot but I had to submit to al his decisions), destroyed my credit and I had to go bankrupt, after five years with him— I was a shell of a person. I did leave though after finally saying f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:53 PM
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Or fucking ANYONE for $7. Or anything else. Raise yo standardsssss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:04 PM
2

Thank you! I live in a very high Asian population compared to some places... there is an Asian specialty chain store here, I will have to see if they have any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 12:03 AM
4

Wow. Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:49 PM
1

I really wish I realized this earlier in life. 😓😓😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:48 PM
1

Where do you buy them? Somewhere like ulta or online?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:40 PM
1

Thank you!! Super excited to get some!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:32 PM
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Same! 🙏🏻 I believe he was sexually assaulted and fights against that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:28 AM
33

Yes. I remember being married and as a new mother and feeling this. Like CANT I JUST BE A PERSON? My husband, well ex-husband, admitted that he saw marriage in his head as me dressed in like 1800s women’s rags, basically doing whatever he said. That is exactly what it was like for years until I started having a voice... which naturally he became more abusive and hated it. So toxic. I wish I could be genuine and authentic and myself and trust a man and be with someone one day. Like BE with. Me be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:47 PM
13

I know 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:28 PM
5

Ummm is this 4 inches hard???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:08 PM
1

I’ve just been googling and finding various CIA people lol. Lots of NLP stuff, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:22 PM
3

Can’t wait to see what I feel like a year from now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:21 PM
4

I’m going to love the fuuuuck out of myself in 2020. In all the ways I hoped someone else would love or accept me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:20 PM
1

This is true. Thank you for that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:19 PM
1

Can you share some of your favorite masks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:19 PM
1

Yesss. Jungian psychology and the shadow has been paramount for me but I have a long way to go. Also a similar childhood. Learning to sit with the discomfort is helpful but hard. I know it’s necessary though. I’m at the point where there’s nowhere to hide. My previous desires to be something I’m not aren’t rooted in anything foundational and it’s obvious now. My persona and ego are slipping... It’s all broken down. I’m left with the reality of myself and how desperate I have been and how insecur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:16 PM
14

😳😳😳😳😳 thank you, reality check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:28 AM
16

That’s true. I don’t feel that. I feel angry. Really angry at myself because I’ve always known better. I have betrayed myself more times than I can count. Maybe if I can find compassion and forgiveness toward myself, I can move past that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 09:16 PM
10

This is true. I’m going to think about this today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:27 PM
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I blocked two people on social media and their numbers just in case they ever try to come back. Doubtful anyway but actually at some point it’s a high possibility. A third has been blocked for months. I wrote down lists to remind myself what they did to me and the accompanying feelings I had for myself for allowing it. It’s helpful but ooouuchhh, it stings. Any pics during that time period, IG stuff, like I legit want to remove years of my memories due to specific people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:10 PM
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I think it could also be women whose fathers were absent or left. My dad was always busy with work and then when my parents divorced when I was 9, he moved out of state and I didn’t talk to him much (saw him once a year)... he moved back when I was 16 or so but was an alcoholic and busy. We developed a relationship ship that was a bit better when I was around 21 or so but it still wasn’t great. I’m now 32 and he is now one of my biggest supporters and best people in my life. It’s sad it took tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:33 PM
2

My ex husband bought coffee out every day at $75 a month or so but I wasn’t allowed to buy vitamins while super sick and breastfeeding our child. I barely had enough food to keep up my caloric needs but he ate out everyday. Good times. I wish I did things differently for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:33 AM
2

Hahahaha. I am dying laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:26 AM
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Lol I feel like that’s because most men care about literally nothing at all. Especially ones that are just trying to sleep with you- they will say and do anything for that to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 12:55 AM
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I was recently upset about a guy who is 40 and lives with his mom to save on rent money. He has a solid job earning like 100k a year! but... what was that about, self? Lol just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:32 PM
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Paying child support is THE easiest fucking part of raising a child. 🤷🏻‍♀️ like it’s honestly the least that you could do for co creating another human being. Losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:12 PM
20

RADICAL lol agreed. Like come the fuck on now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:10 PM
7

Well for one thing, he looks 12. But yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 02:28 PM
9

Yes 🙏🏻 this is what I am talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:21 PM
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I still think there are changes that are taking place and can take place. If this sub is helping women change then it will at least be a ripple effect for the future. I know I am making a difference with my son. And if every woman decided to take no more shit from men, things would change. Things usually get worse before they get better. I think there will be a “fork in the road” at some time. People will pick a side- it’s already happening now. So in what ways can more small changes make cumula…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:44 PM
9

Yeah, it makes me over the whole species of them with this shit. I don’t have time to cater to them by only keeping their interest by acting like this. If I’m in, I’m in. It takes me awhile to be in though. But I’m not playing games... it’s a waste of my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 03:16 AM
3

😂😂 RIGHT?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 02:28 AM
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Can confirm. With ex for 5 years, married for 4. Huge “Christian” always putting on a great front. Except he was always yelling at me, toward the end- drinking in excess and lying about it all of the time, and becoming really emotionally abusive. I had never checked his stuff before but one night, I just knew. Looked at his Facebook with all these messages to a woman he actually visited at her job and was telling her all about our marital issues. I forgave him. A few weeks later, I looked at his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:30 AM
5

Not sure if this was supposed to be sweeties or sweaties but sweaties is accurate lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:22 PM
11

Let em goooo Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 08:20 AM
19

Thankfully I refuse to date anyone who plays video games. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 10:02 PM
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These people are 10000000% obsessed with video games and that seems to be almost their whole lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 10:02 PM
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I agree! So I’m really just baffled at who these men are dating, if anyone. Are they just living in their little fantasy minds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 09:22 PM
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Is this a common preference of someone who is a porn addict? I dated three people recently- one was 30- didn’t mention anal at all. The other two were 40. One was into anal- we are good friends still- he’s a solid person just not someone I would commit to. We did sleep together but the sex was sooooo terrible and I really think this is probably due to porn addiction/obsession with anal sex/not knowing shit about a woman’s body. The other one- we didn’t sleep together but when we were talking abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 04:44 AM
2

Yes, I would absolutely be happier single than settling and I am right now! And you’re right- thanks for your comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:50 PM
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Agree! And yes, I am in therapy. I am definitely used to dysfunction and working on that. thanks for your comments :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 01:49 PM
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I feel that most (not all) human beings have an internal desire to be in a healthy partnership with someone else in a romantic way. Otherwise this sub wouldn’t exist because no one would care, millions upon millions of dollars wouldn’t be spent on people bettering themselves or trying to learn about the opposite sex, dating coaches, etc. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with recognizing our inherent and true desires to be partnered. I am high value and I do recognize this otherwise I would b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 01:06 PM
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