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I wonder why she thinks YOU have to get your ex-wife anything?! You got something for the kids to give, that’s where your responsibility ends. You’re gonna eat some shit until the kids are older, you can either give shit back or just keep your mouth shut. I chose to say nothing cause I more live by the “if you give them nothing, they got nothing” mentality, but to each their own.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 03:16 PM
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“Outside chores” get overlooked for this as well
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:33 PM
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I could be totally wrong…..but you have a 10 month old. Was this behavior happening before that child? Cause if not it sounds like undiagnosed postpartum depression.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 02:57 PM
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Like others here have said, don’t move out of the house u til you’re forced to. And by that we mean it’s in your decree that you need to find a new place to live. Yes it absolutely does get better. Most of us were in the same place you’re at right now, we all grieve differently and some longer than others. Might be a month, 6 months, or a year. It’ll hit you one day. One more thing, make sure claiming the kids on taxes is fair. With 3 kids what I’d do is each claim 1 every year and claim the 3rd…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 01:53 AM
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Can always make more money. This is just a generalization, is it worth saving $50,000 in your retirement if you’re just gonna spend it on your lawyer? But if she’s paying for her own attorney then make her go broke too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 01:12 AM
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Sorry to be blunt but you have an ice cubes chance in hell to get it reduced and even less of a change to get it temporarily stopped. Your only chance here is hopefully your ex is understanding 😂😂 and she’ll work with you on it until you get employment.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 03:05 PM
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Would be nice but we’ll never see that because every judge was a lawyer once and they know the longer things get drawn out the more money they make. Who really needs to get punished is cps and whatever agencies allow this crap to go on. They’re the ones with the real power and can drag a case out for months/years with absolutely 0 evidence of the allegations. And the judges take their word as gospel like they never make mistakes or actually do their job right.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 03:13 PM
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Like others have said on here, 50/50 custody split, child support and spousal maintenance according to the calculator, fair split on all debts and equity. The one thing you have working for you is you both have to pay your own attorney so the mindset you need to have and in some way make her believe is either get it don’t quick, fair, and cheap…….or you both go broke fighting. It’s one or the other, no in-between.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 01:04 PM
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Have consultations with every attorney within a 60 mile radius. You’ll block her from those attorneys or find out if she’s talked to any cause they won’t talk to you if she has
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 01:40 AM
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It’s all games perpetuated by her friends and her attorney. Lawyers are just hired guns and do whatever will make them money. So here’s my take, as long as the restraining order doesn’t affect any time with your kids, just take it, ask for all communication to go thru an app like my family wizard and to be strictly about the kids. Say you get this order dropped, there’s nothing preventing her from just getting another one and they won’t stop. By the time my ex got to RO number 3 I figured it was…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 02:32 PM
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Not overkill at all. Unless you plan on having more kids get it done, mine was absolutely painless. The thought of getting it done is worse than the actual procedure.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 05:07 PM
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There’s a child support calculator for texas, just google Texas child support calculator and follow the instructions, should get you close. Things like sports aren’t calculated in it, its just the daily basic needs.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 03:01 PM
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Don’t be sorry, it’s all good information. I was hoping she was going for a restraint order because my ex did that to me. I figured as long as the order didn’t affect my time with my child then I just took the order and didn’t fight it. A year of no contact which I really enjoyed and She can’t take out another restraining order if one’s already in place lol. But anyway, if there’s been multiple allegations against him that have been proven false, I would look into a type of harassment restrainin…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 11:30 PM
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The fact the court continually entertains her false allegations is very concerning. Can you post some other things: Was child support and alimony set according to the calculator or agreed upon by him and her? What is the custody? 50/50? What exactly are the allegations and what is she looking for with them? Money, a restraining order? And yes, family court is an absolute shit show. It’s the only “court” where you’re guilty until proven innocent, and the father goes in with a disadvantage because…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 09:00 PM
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It’s worse for the kid(s) to see mom and dad fighting every day than it is to be in separate happy homes.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 05:04 PM
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Way to go. Don’t get complacent though, there’s always something else right around the corner.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 04:56 PM
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Get as many consultations as you can, especially with the highly rated ones. Once you have a consultation they can’t represent her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:52 PM
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Because women don’t think with reason and logic. They feel you should just be able to look at them and know what they’re thinking. And yea, they’re gonna have to tell us 100 times to. Is keeping them happy a priority, yes. But guess what, the yard needs to get cut, snow needs to get shoveled, shit in the house breaks that needs to get fixed, cars need to get worked on, kids need to get played with. All while they fucking sit there and mope about how unhappy they are so 🖕 women 😂
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 01:44 PM
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You could ask your attorney but you’re not entitled to any of that profit. With my divorce only assets that were split were from the day of marriage to our separation date which was listed on the initial divorce filing. I would assume that’s fairly standard state to state.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 02:09 PM
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4 times. I wish I could put Red Foreman’s “dumbass” meme on here 😂
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 05:41 PM
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Most of understand wanting to go full nuclear but you run a lot of risks even with family as an attorney. Keeping 50/50 is the absolute most important and if you can walk away with that now then take it and be done. More money can always be made later but time with the kids can’t be made up.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 03:41 PM
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Pretty high, something like 8%
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 12:24 AM
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I guess it was easy for me cause my ex and I had basically the same salary so when it came to all the astronomical things she wanted I told her I’m not settling for anything less than what’s fair so either we get it done quick or we both go broke fighting for it. On the flip side I had a buddy get royally screwed cause he had to pay for his attorney and she had legal aid. Legal aids tactic is basically ask for continuances and draw it out till you can’t pay for your attorney anymore then you don…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 05:50 PM
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You’re right in getting the divorce over with as quickly as possibly. I’d present it to her in terms of get the divorce out of the way, then you 2 are free to work on the relationship, go separate ways, whatever you both decide, but the hard part is out of the way. A legal separation is easily reversed in court so I wouldn’t bank on that. It’s a divorce or not game. My ex tried pulling that on me and my attorney ate it up pretty fast. Second thing, it pays to have a good attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 05:36 PM
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I’m 3 years post divorce. I mean yea I still think she’s physically attractive but I can’t stand to be around her so that helps lol. 9.5 years till the kid turns 18 so counting the days 😂
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 05:53 PM
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Well if she gets what she wants we’ll be getting more seasons of Yellowstone
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 08:52 PM
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You’re on the straight and narrow, stay there. Nothing good can come of seeing her or communicating with her outside of what you already do.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 04:29 PM
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they’re not all like that. Judging by what’s in it I’m gonna say “skip” did some bad stuff. Just my take. Mine divorce decree for sure isn’t like that but there are things I wish I would of had put in it, the less room for vagueness and interpretation the better.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 05:38 PM
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Not gonna give heat but don’t be quick with the assumption. I do the same thing with my ex’s daughter but she was also 3 months old when we got together and didn’t know until she was 10 that I wasn’t her real dad. We divorced when she was 12. She knows who her biological dad is but there’s no relationship there. She still calls me dad and for all intents and purposes she will always be my daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 11:50 PM
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I had the same thing happen the first year post divorce, not the woman part lol. I realized my relationship with my kids had gotten way better.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 02:40 PM
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The easy route is week on/week off, if she wants daycare she can do it on her weeks and pay for it herself, he doesn’t go to daycare on your weeks. 7 days is a long time, I do the 5/2 but we are amicable to. The long route is she seems like a undiagnosed psychopath and shouldn’t be left alone with your child. Bringing this to the attention of the courts is useless. Your only route here is to get as much evidence as you absolutely can and go thru cps.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 02:19 PM
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I owned my own home before we got married that was used as a rental which was conveniently vacant when I was kicked out, almost like she was waiting for the right time 🧐😂. But went from a 4 bedroom back to 2 bedroom house.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 05:37 PM
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Dude, keep your mouth shut. And texts CAN be used as evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 02:30 PM
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Don’t even have to read past the heading, yes they’re all delusional
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 05:10 PM
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You’re leaving your kids. The ONLY semi-excusable reason for that would be because you’re making a better life for them in some way. You’re a deplorable person for even thinking about leaving them.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 05:31 PM
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Inherent entitlement
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 06:32 PM
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The last half of that is irrelevant, you’re divorced, it doesn’t matter what you both do, it’s none of each others business. No you shouldn’t feel bad about sleeping with that chick. Now the first half is like reading a story about the relationship with my ex lol. A part of you will probably always love her, you were in love at some point and I don’t feel things like that just go away. Kudos to you for admitting your part in why the relationship failed, a lot can’t do that. Say you and her got b…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 02:27 PM
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How much could you realistically walk away with selling the house? The whole amount, not just your half
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:46 PM
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You can always make more money. 5k is a small amount to get rid of her, just my opinion. How much could you possibly make on the sale of the house? I’d call her bluff and tell her to keep the house free and clear, watch her squirm then. Tell her to refinance it into her name so yours is off it and then she’s free to do what she wants with it. Once she knows she can’t get a loan by herself for it, boom goes the dynamite lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:25 PM
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I think you’re right on all your points. Especially while divorce proceedings are going on the best thing for you is a little contact and communication as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:37 PM
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I Feel like I’m looking in the mirror
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 10:55 PM
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You’re in the same place I was before I got married. I honestly don’t really believe that a ring and piece of paper change anything, the tax break was nice lol but that was really it. The problems didn’t go away, everything was exactly the same. I was given an ultimatum, gave in and got married, same as you I didn’t want to lose her. 5 years later we got divorced because of the same issues, some me and some her. I mourned the relationship, she didn’t. 4 years later, now that the love blinders ar…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 10:51 PM
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Get the “why does she want me” out of your head and ask yourself “how could what she’s doing affect your kids?” ALWAYS assume there’s a hidden reason why she’s doing what she’s doing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 03:34 PM
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should be less stressed with ofw, she has to watch what she says with it lol. As far as the demands, try to tune them out. Mothers are instinctively entitled, mine did the same thing during the divorce process. All you have to do is KEEP YOUR NOSE CLEAN and give your kids the best life you can. Again…get off the shit and keep your nose clean. If she says she wants a drug test you’re fucked. And a little known fact, if it’s alcohol, your body produces a certain protein that gets stronger the more…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 06:19 PM
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Start by getting an appraisal. You’ve only had it a year so the interest is gonna kill any equity you could have had. If you want to stay in the house I can see it as a good bargaining chip for you since you’ll both lose money in selling the house.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 05:57 PM
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Your kids happiness isn’t dependent on you two being together. Yes it’s a shitty situation all around but better to have two happy homes instead of one unhappy home.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 03:33 PM
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The worst part of it all is if you try to explain how you’re not gaslighting or narcissist then they come at you harder with it….”that’s what a narcissist would say”. It’s almost a no win argument.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 03:30 PM
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So this is what happened with me. Post-divorce, I’ve been with this girl on and off for three years. Never had a problem with the “on” times but during the “off” times we’d try to hook up and I would have problems keeping it going. I think subconsciously a part of me needed a connection and knowing it was just for sex affected me. Not saying this is happening to you, but just my 2 cents, could be something to consider.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 01:49 PM
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I dunno how your restraining orders are but in MN the right one for that would be a harassment order. Assuming your state/country has different types of orders. A personal protective order sounds like my states order for protection which is a “I fear for my life” type order, not just harassment.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 11:32 PM
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I’m sure to an extent yes, but in an M night shyamalan twist, she lost all but 1 of her friends cause of all the false accusations and they knew it 😂
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 11:19 PM
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It’s SUPPOSED to be for the day to day needs of the child so they have the same quality of life at each house. So if she’s saying she wants Netflix added to child support then tell her to piss off cause that’s not a daily necessity.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 12:30 PM
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In Mn I had to submit 3 months worth of pay stubs. Then was asked if I agreed to include Overtime on that and since I didn’t know what I was doing I said yes. SAY NO to that. Unless you have contracted mandatory overtime then there’s no reason it should be counted in. If you get overtime for whatever reason just say it’s voluntary and sporadic so there’s no guarantee you’ll get it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 05:39 PM
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It doesn’t have to be. You can get a set of clubs for relatively cheap if you have a used sporting goods store nearby, Facebook marketplace, Craigslist, gooodwill actually. Greens fees can get expensive but I would bet there’s a cheap course near you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 11:57 PM
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Golf, and call of duty for when you’re not golfing haha.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 11:55 PM
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I somewhat agree with this but I would think as long as you’re not having people that on your kid days then it shouldn’t be a big problem.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 07:40 PM
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Like everyone else here said, get a temporary custody order filed with the court asap. She will need to be served the paperwork so there’s how you find out where she is.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 06:59 PM
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Surprised I was the only one that asked haha
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 08:44 PM
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So which gym do you frequent?
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 08:13 PM
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I would say if for whatever reason your name is still attached to the residence be it a mortgage or lease, it should be legal for you to check the cameras and whatnot. Another side to that is It would be up to her to change the settings on the cameras which she obviously hasn’t. You’re in a very grey area and like another user said, don’t introduce any recordings to the court. On another note, since you feel your attorney isn’t on your side, check out the fathers rights pages on Facebook, the ma…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 05:27 PM
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Regardless of why she wants a divorce, what she’s agreeing to is too good to be true. But on the same note if you can get it done quick with what she’s agreeing to then go for it. Right now it’s all about your kids, you can work on yourself after the divorce is finalized. She’s offering you what some here have to fight for years to get, take it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 03:08 PM
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Don’t get in the habit of letting things go. Clean regularly, dishes, laundry. You didn’t say apartment or house but if you own a house now’s the time to get on projects.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 03:09 PM
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If you want love, get a dog. Not trying to be funny, it’s the truth
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 06:23 PM
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Forget about finding someone else, your priority is your kid and custody. Don’t leave the house till the divorce is final. Do everything you can tone to make sure you have her at least 50% of the time and any more you can get.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 06:02 PM
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DO NOT ADOPT ANOTHER CHILD
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 01:36 AM
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Hope everything works out for you. If you haven’t yet, check out the fathers rights page on facebook, lots of help there
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 10:51 PM
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At your kids age it’s all gonna come down to how you both can provide for them. Not financially but can you both get kids to and from daycare/school as easy as the other one? If you had 50/50 would you be there 50% of the time to make breakfast/lunch/dinner when they’re not at daycare/school? That was huge for me getting 50/50 physical custody because we work the exact same hours and are able to do the exact same things for the kids. Now it’s not that easy say if you’re working a rotating shift …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 10:27 PM
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Oh boy. Don’t leave and have someone there with you so she can’t come back and make any accusations
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 03:22 PM
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So you’re worried more about your personal life than your child’s?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 08:56 PM
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