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metzgie1/r/Divorce_Men11/01/21 01:46 PM
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metzgie1/r/Divorce_Men08/11/20 01:34 PM
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I did what my family at the time wanted- however, she already knew at that point she was leaving. Had I known, I would not have done the surgery. Period. Full stop. She knew.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:03 PM
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Got one after the third kid, then the divorce. Met a woman, whom I married a few years later. The only thing she wishes in our new relationship is if we would have had a kid together. We have kids between us, just not one of our own. It would be a lot if we had a kid together, but I would have done it for her. The ex took that decision away when she pled for my snippage.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 10:16 AM
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Could be a preference
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 11:43 AM
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Yes. Regardless of your ‘fuck her’ status, it’s probably the right thing to do, and you can absolve yourself from any apparent culpability
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 03:01 PM
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It’s all about answering honestly. Ask questions. Listen. Repeat back to make sure you understand. Ask follow up questions. That’s the game. That’s all they really want.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 02:00 PM
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This is the pits. Sorry dude. Same story, without the gory walkin. Keep your head up, walk away, and you will heal.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 09:58 AM
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This is the way. You need to deal with this before it deals with you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 07:51 PM
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You honestly aren’t going to know what issues you are going to have until you start to get some good distance. If you don’t want to bring any of your shit into the next relationship, time and probably therapy are the two best things you can give to your future self and any possible relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 06:38 PM
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I hear you and feel it too. Honestly I feel like so many of us have the same or similar stories. Keep up focusing on you and the kids. Time heals.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 08:35 PM
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Comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on yourself
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 01:19 PM
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Good luck! Take time to unpack the shit you had to deal with. Find a therapist!
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 02:22 PM
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Amen. I learned through my divorce to be open to hear what people say.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 09:35 PM
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Sucks man. A little advice- take some of what she says to heart tho. My ex is a lying cheating whore, but knew me for years. I’d have done myself a disservice if I didn’t work on some of what she said, or at least reflected upon it. In fact, I went to therapy and worked on all that shit.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 01:32 PM
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It’s really expensive and stressful to divorce. Also, remember that once a divorce is ‘final’ , there’s 15 years of check writing, visits back to court, resentment, anger, manipulation… make the decision with a lot of forethought- I’ve since remarried but the ex is still an albatross.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:15 PM
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I gave them to their mom at noon on the first Christmas and basically wept for 4 hours then got blackout drunk. Not my best moment, but I was in the shit, so I get a pass. It gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 01:40 AM
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First Christmas
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 01:13 AM
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Anger is like a burning ember. You hold it in your hand to throw it towards the object of your derision, only guaranteeing your burnt hand. I say this coming from a contentious post-divorce experience. They beat you can do is live your own authentic life and live as if you know the truth, and whether or not someone else knows it is up to them to ask you. Stay strong. Delete her from socials. Ask the people that tell you about what she writes to no longer share that with you. If they are so conce…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 01:26 PM
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Sounds like you are on the right path. Keep it up. The women will come. It’s hard for dudes on the apps- when women sign up, they get inundated with messages from dudes- it’s bananas. Often you just get missed in the scrum. Don’t be afraid to reach out a second time to someone you messaged and didn’t get a response from. 2 years of work on yourself is money.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 11:46 PM
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Time and space away from the divorce would probably be a good start. Follow that up with some self-confidence activities like therapy, hobby, and hanging with friends. Feel good for your own sake before you go out with the ladies.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:48 PM
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This stuff will only work against her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 01:51 AM
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Rage is tough- I feel you. It’s are to see ‘a’ and not correlate it with ‘b’. Thats where I am at, even though I have happily moved on with my life.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 06:38 PM
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I regret not doing it sooner. I was lied to and some reason in my head. I didn’t believe that the lies could happen again. I wouldn’t say a regret having children, but boy having children and being divorced is very difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:20 PM
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Sorry dude. It’s the worst. Therapy and hobbies. Cheating is a real low form of treating someone.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 12:02 PM
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This is all you can control, so control it. The good stuff follows.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 10:47 AM
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I don’t know California law but I don’t know that states like NY (mine) and California have all of these tried and true rules in place where if a prenup isn’t in the picture, it will come down to some simple calculations. Congrats- and fuck her feelings. This is no longer about feelings. When she says, “you aren’t getting my 401k”, consider writing those things down. So you can laugh down the road when you get a big ass check from whichever company she houses it with.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 12:28 PM
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I think it’s okay. The older ones understand more and are sort of accepting of whatever happens. The younger one sometimes wonders why she can’t stay only here with me, and I’m sure she says the same thing to her mother as well. Regardless of how it’s done, the kids will be a bit confused. I think at the end of the day it’s equitable and mixes things up, which help lead to my happiness, which in turn will trickle down to the littles. 7 days away from the kids, which we did for the first month or…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 10:06 AM
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I have 2-2-5-5. For me it was hard to be 7-7, missed my kids too much. Here is how it works for us: She gets them every Monday Tuesday. I get them every Wednesday Thursday. Week 1 she gets them Friday Sat and Sun, and continues with her M-T. Then I get them back on Wed and go through sun then it starts over again. So we each get them 7 days every two weeks, but it’s broken up. I like it- guarantees every other weekend is free for whatever I need. My kids are 6, 12, 14, this arrangement started a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 10:14 AM
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I had a tough go of it when my marriage first split up. According to Spotify I listened to Midnight Organ Fight by Frightened Rabbit 157 times in 2020.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 01:10 AM
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Lolz
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 12:02 AM
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Talk to a lawyer and figure out ways to hide some cash. Start taking cash out of the bank slowly -couple hundred here and there - you know dating- so she can’t take it later. Also- you should thank her. Some woman down the road will appreciate you
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/23 11:46 AM
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I just wanted to get laid. Therapy. Laid. Therapy. Then dating. From Separation to Dating it was over a year. T-L-T was amidst that year plus.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 10:08 AM
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Time, and also, fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 12:16 AM
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Good stuff. Used this sub for support/guidance/brotherhood through the early tough stages. Big help.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 10:06 AM
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Big fan of lasagna- use the pasta that you don’t need to boil. Roasted chicken is pretty easy too, and lasts. Turn the carcass into stock/soup once the chicken is picked. Hard boiled eggs are easy and you can do tons of stuff with them- salad, Sammie’s with bacon/avocado. I find that cooking is a lot easier than most people think it is. Often the simplest food is the most delicious - roasted sweet potato with literally nothing is one of my favorite foods. Other people mentioned it- but salt and …
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 09:56 AM
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Yeh buddy. Start writing in a journal - good things bad things the weather- whatever. Eventually you will get into a groove and start working shit out. Walk. Go to lunch by yourself. Go to a bar and get a beer by yourself. Practice being alone and getting used to it. Read. Go on Reddit. Be a third wheel for some of your friends. Take the kids out to play. Distractions are great, get you through the whole TIME piece that you can’t avoid.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/21 09:07 PM
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I did it and discovered this brand Mavi for pants. They are pricey- like $100 a pair, but damn comfortable and look good on me. 6ft, 210
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/21 01:23 AM
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I had that with a girl I dated. As it started to fizzle she started amping up the ‘motivational’ and ‘inspirational’ memes. It’s how they cope. Women tend to be more emotional.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/21 04:04 PM
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I had to stop watching the show after a few episodes. The infidelity that was apparently rampant in the show was triggering. Especially when my ex-wife watched the show.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/21 12:36 PM
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The grass ain’t greener and she is starting to see that. I hate to be cold, but cut your loses. This attempt at reconciliation from her is temporary. Things aren’t working out with her paramour. None of this will be fun for a while, maybe even a long time, but it will Eventually get there. Sorry dude.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/21 12:55 PM
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Man you have no idea how apropos your bomb reference is.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/21 01:42 PM
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Honestly the biggest burden was lifted when I found out the divorce was final. It felt like a period on a drawn out run on sentence. I felt I could move on a little easier. It’s tough.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/21 11:37 PM
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Yoga and shit for me. Polishing that shit off
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/21 01:28 AM
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Mine was approved December 2, 2020. I feel your pain. Bang and a whimper.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/21 12:14 PM
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Anything you do will be a fight. You are being prudent, but probably will cause an issue. Her family can get fined if they didn’t follow protocol.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/20 05:26 PM
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There are no rules to how things will go. I just suggest you reduce the amount of times you engage with her to as little as possible and try to not argue. It sucks you are going through this. Real crappy situation.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/20 02:29 AM
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Dude- why you marrying someone after a year and a half total together?? I’m not trying to shit on an already tough scene, but it takes a ling time to get to know someone. Years and years. Good luck with whatever you do, but learn from your mistakes.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/20 12:52 PM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/20 09:07 PM
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Therapy is good for everyone imo. You go to the gym to work out muscles, school for brain, therapy for self care.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/20 10:40 AM
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Sucks- have a very similar story. I recommend therapy, a little herb, and exercise.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/20 09:50 PM
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Sounds like you are young- maybe early 40s. Maybe this is a gift. You and me and all of us frankly deserve happiness. She deliberately did something to you and your family that is hard to come back from - she was too much of a coward to either go the therapy or separation route. Instead she dropped a bomb. Call it a gift. You will find someone more compatible with you, considerate, kind, loving, less self email, etc. sucks - real sorry. But hang in there it’s going to be a shitty ride until it i…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/20 12:47 PM
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Happy birthday Dude.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/20 03:51 PM
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Life is short and we all deserve to be treated decently.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/20 06:45 PM
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Nice share thanks man
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/20 10:42 PM
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Call your accountant and they can lay down the facts for you. At times I wish I had declared b, but for my pride I didn’t. A family member did, and rather quickly their life improved.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/20 02:11 PM
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I would try to find a new lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/20 08:31 PM
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That’s all the kids want. Presence, not presents. Amen brother!
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/20 04:26 PM
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That’s the story, it seems, of my marriage. Good for you. It’s as if we are always the one ‘doing a favor’ or as my ex calls it, co-parenting. Keep kicking dad ass!
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/20 04:24 PM
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What an asshole. I bought my ex something for xmas last year- we had not separated yet, and she got me nothing. Then for her birthday a month later I bought her a nice knife for her new place. My birthday 6 weeks later, she got me a $5 St Patrick’s Day shirt from Old Navy. That was too small. Fuck her. I have been thinking about gifts for her for Xmas this year, and I am still going to get one, from the kids for her and let them help pick it out. I have to teach them to be good people because sh…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/20 01:37 PM
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I love you man. It’s gonna be okay. Only time will really heal. Just try to bond with your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/20 05:56 PM
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You gotta do you bro. Maybe since you are just looking for a release, get out of your comfort zone, try to have fun with less judgement for her and yourself, and maybe go for it. She seems dtf with no strings- hate to say go for the low lying fruit, but in this case, why not? Grab a jimmy cap and hold on tight!
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/20 12:08 PM
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Keep evidence of your communications and try to put everything in writing. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/20 01:32 PM
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Dude it’s a no brainer. Leave before you can’t.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/20 08:43 PM
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I did. 3 mos after she dropped the bomb, decided to start dating and the first girl I saw I ended up dating for about 8 months. Very fun, great times, a savior during quarantine, but I knew she wasn’t right for me. Broke it off. I knew I needed time to figure shit out. Not fuller over my cheating ex yet. 3 kids. It’s all hard. Honestly, if you are open and communicative and HONEST, it’s okay to grieve and work on shit while you are in a relationship. It’s just harder as you have admitted. You ar…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/20 01:03 PM
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Good luck man. My divorce papers were filed when the NY courts recently opened back up for electronic filings. I was all peaches and cream until I realized that she was a lying cheating narcissist. Better now than later. Also have 3 kids - and it’s super stressful, being the solo person- I did a lot like you but the things that they did helped and made things easier- so be prepared for a bit of loneliness, anger, sadness and all that shit. But grass is greener- not about another person, but anot…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/20 10:38 AM
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Harsh but true. Damn - I am in early stages of my separation /divorce and all I want to do is mess with that dude and his wife.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/19 06:27 PM
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It’s simple. You need to find one that has been shit on like you I’ve been shit on and the two of you can agree to be civil and normal people. You need someone with similar traumatic situations to know how to not behave.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 09:45 PM
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