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So this is a very real consideration that will only help oj beginning but still get foot in door. Use AI like chatgpt to right everything I did it once when I had a girl ask what I was looking for in talking to her and I had them adapt my answer into something much more palatable than "I don't know lady I just got out 12yr divorce and your probably a rebound at best".
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 04:30 PM
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I would have stayed in my marriage to give my kid a home. It's. Or like me and my ex fought we just didn't spend time together really. But my ex decided my kid waking up every day with both parents isn't as important as her screwing guys and going out. Now I get to tell my kid "mommy be back soon, she loves you" all time because she's out all time. And now she has two new small apartments instead of big home and yard we had her whole life.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 01:34 PM
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This is online dating, women have unlimited options so if you don't knock their socks off and then keep the dog and pony show going then they will just fade to the 100 other men who swiped on them. I have had maybe 10 conversations and they are all very normal get to know you and I get ghosted every time mid conversation. Nothing weird just I guess not enough they're kind of like Network executive for TV shows I need to sell them on the concept quick or else they're going to pass on the pilot bu…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 01:05 PM
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I feel ya man I lost 30lbs since February after catching her have a affair. F*cking zepbound she lost 80lbs and decided hey time to get something her fat self never could. One thing I can say is when a women is done they are done, they might not be ready to be divorced and out in there ass yet and try make excuses or drag things out but that's just to buy time in reality feelings will never come back to them and the resentment on our part will never go away so no matter what just keep taking one…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 08:56 AM
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Yeah that's my worry as I would peek at the phone records and see her having 2 hour long conversations with the new guy and it just hurt and I'm like why am I doing this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 10:52 PM
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Yeah I guess in the end you really can't lower yourself to their level.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:20 PM
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I'm glad you feel some guilt it's more than I can say for my ex she feels zero guilt about lying and affair. I certainly want to have a civil relationship and for the past two months cohabitating I've been trying but she's slowly is trying to get me to take care of her kid more and more while she goes out with her nee guy(affair guy) more and more. And so when I try to at least make her make up the time so she's watching 50/50, She starts trash talking me and civility it's kind of gone out the w…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 10:31 PM
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I'm not sure if I'm hung up you know I know she goes and is seeing same guy she's had affair with all time while we co habitate but seeing pictures of it would probably be worse also I've always been the one that takes the most pictures by a mile. But still she could be doing something cool or unique with her that I would love to see pictures of. I have Facebook groups with her mother and my mother thinking about maybe just keeping that and sharing photos and hoping she shares on that and blocki…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 10:01 PM
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Yeah I was thinking that but my kid is 2.5 so she can't do much but scribble but I could cut out some shapes and let daughter glue stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:58 PM
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I feel you, my wife was very selfish but I'm not perfect I thought that was just life you don't get perfect but you make it work. And I was happy to be a husband and a father and not ever have to worry about dating again. Now here I have a couple months in and I'm talking to women and it's not great. Because online dating gives you so many opportunities you have so many false starts where are you talking to someone and then they just disappear after a couple days because they have 45 men in the …
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:57 PM
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Hey man be glad she's didn't commit affair like my wife together 12yrs married 6 and we are fine most of them then had kid, was stressful, she then lost 80lbs and had affair and now is in love with this guy right in my face as I go through divorce process. It sucks and I'm not here to compare only to say I have learned a irrefutable fact, when a women has moved in they truly have. Now there are women who can fake it because they need to buy time but once you know a women has checked out you got …
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 02:50 AM
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Plenty of ways around that, plenty of women who have 0 interest in sex who can't find men who don't want sex. Get with dominatrix who gets off kicking your ass. Become a pay pig, there women who pay to cuddle only. This ain't 1990s the entire spectrum exists out there on the internet. Or you can do like other things people say and work out and take meds and just trying it better but I'm just saying if you don't want to get better then don't but there's more options than saying this is it forever…
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 11:58 PM
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Okay the ban was lifted and my comment is back . I did not think a threatening to anyone
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 03:14 PM
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I guess I threated someone in last post as it got flagged, I honestly thought I said I don't know what I would do. But that's just me I don't advise you to do anything. Just feel for you and I guess also have a deep seated fear that that could happen if I'm not vigilant. Good luck in getting a quick and painless divorce. I'm only on week 5 and got a long time to go and my wife relationship is escalating and for some reason this guy like so many boyfriends that wife seem to hook up with don't hav…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 12:37 AM
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I'm f*cking raging in sympathy anger man. That is betrayal beyond even breaking up the marriage and having affair is to bring him into house. My wife says same crap but she talks to guy every single day and I told her the other day she needs to stop talking to him on phone in front of me. If I ever found him in my house I truly don't know what would happen. This beyond her but loving you this means she actually doesn't even care about you in slightest. Or that's how I would take it. Makes me wan…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 12:14 AM
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I mean I have read every reply the good , the bad and the ugly and I even replied to half of them. I been told to suck it up, not be a pussy for wanting respect in my own house, been called a piece shit for having audacity to start dating again. I been told to ice her out, kick her out, forget her. At end day I'm man who has to live in this house and thinks about my future so yeah I'm gonna do what I think is best I just curious what my brothers in divorce thought about topic of wives while stil…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 06:52 PM
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Okay brother I appreciate the support oh wait sorry I meant judgment. comparing her lying , having a affair and breaking up our family to me a month later talking with a girl to feel not so fucking lonely (we been on two dates and guess what it felt good to actually enjoy someone company again) while I live in a house with a wife is fucking another man every weekend. But hey man your a fucking Saint and I'm a sinner we all got are roles to play. Oh and ask her to move out of the house the one in…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 05:39 PM
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Thanks I appreciate it and yeah I've got my 2nd ever therapy appointment today actually so so definitely be something I bring up.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 05:24 PM
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I understand and agree but how the hell am I supposed to respectfully co-parent with a person who blatantly is disrespecting me? Like I thought we were on the same page that fine what happened happens we're going to divorce but we still have to be around each other for the rest of our child's life quite extensively as we'll be seeing each other all the time. So I let the past be the past and stopped throwing in hurtful digs and bringing up the affair and just acted normal for sake of our toddler…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 04:34 PM
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Yeah unfortunately I'm here for a while because we have a home so I'm stuck here until we sell I thought she was going to stay and refinance so I could have left soon as child custody was established but she up and realize that she can't afford the place herself so now we're going to sell which means I have to be here until we sell because I definitely can't afford to pay my part of a mortgage and rent. And I do stay down in the basement but during the time my child get home from daycare till ti…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 04:06 PM
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Well I guess I care because it bothers me, I already accepted when she's out till 4am she's out fucking the guy but at least she has courtesy to keep it vague but to do it in my face in our home while we are technically still married and technically trying to co-parent is just extremely disrespectful. And it's escalating which is why it's hard for me to drop it because it's like the more I don't say something the more she feels it bother me so she's doing it more.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 03:59 PM
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I feel like this is a calm way to ask for mutual respect "'I’ve gone back and forth on whether to bring this up again, but it’s happening often enough now that it’s getting harder to ignore and it’s making an already difficult situation harder. I’m not trying to control what you do, but while we’re still married, living together, and co-parenting under the same roof, hearing you take calls with Aaron in the house is honestly hurtful and feels really disrespectful. I’m asking that you keep those …
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 09:54 AM
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Oh I filed but we are months away from resolution. I gonna send a message , can't believe I have to say. Don't flaunt your fucking affair in my face. 261 min on phone this month, countless texts and hours together she's had enough of guy she can at least keep it out of my face.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 09:44 AM
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I feel you, me and my wife if 12yrs split after she had a affair, when I asked her what made her do it she said she wanted a divorce and didn't know how to bring it up. When I ask why she wanted divorce the reasons where so minimal and some crazy. Like I would say she looked really good and she wanted me say beautiful . Fact is women change , they change after having a kid and after certain age. And they are a different person and that person doesn't love you it crazy but it's true and once they…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 09:10 AM
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This is like a nightmare and I have no experience so I take with grain. What does lawyer say would help you get kids full time, is nay of her behavior considered dangerous enough to get emergency protection order is she neglectful, is house hold unstable. Also wait till she seems strapped for cash and offer her a alimony buyout, one lump sum to have her sign away monthly rights. Your kids is tough, don't play her game, be neutral when mention mom but just be a kick ass dad and if needed a little…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 08:54 AM
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Emotional affair is a gateway drug. My buddy told me about his wife actions and he was sure she wasn't sleeping with anyone but I told her no not yet but emotionally she's cheating and he called her on it and she froze as she realized he hit nail on head. Sure enough months later they got divorced and she got with the guy. See some women in heat of moment sleep with a guy and those decisions arent emotional and they could even try and make it right. But a women who emotionally cheats first detac…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 08:41 AM
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That said you don't have a kid staying with you starting night 1 then maybe say hell with it and don't take much I see most my brothers in divorce say just let her have it but I ain't got the money to buy new stuff as my wife made 40% more than me but I have to get a apartment 2 bedroom in a area that is expensive to stay near her and provide 50% of everything for my child including nights of week so I need everything I can get as I won't get equity pay out for maybe 6-12months so I'm gonna have…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 03:02 PM
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I'm in exact scenario and I plan splitting things down to the forks and knives, not to be petty but she is staying in same place and I'm starting new. I either pay for all new stuff again and take money out my pocket to do so or I be smart and make sure we are both replacing something or better if possible we just have less than before. Now big items I plan taking tvs and already bought new bed so letting her keep our old bed and frame. I plan to ask for equity on some other items because I don'…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 02:47 PM
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Oh not in Illinois is has no bearing on anything here. Only thing it helps with is if your spouse spends marital funds on the affair like you mentioned which you can find in discovery in statements for hotel, fancy restaurants or gifts. But it needs to be in thousands to be worth it because at best you only get back half.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 02:56 AM
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Yeah man this is awful, it's so similar to my situation with 2.5 yr old, except my wife had affair and if you have any feelings about her going out more, being more secretive about her phone, messaging more then trust it. Not saying she's cheating as she wouldn't be giving you a year. Now about the year, that year is for her, buy some time as she's not financially ready yet. My wife got caught so she is unprepared for divorce financials or planning but she's so smitten with new guy she's atleast…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 12:04 AM
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Well whatever state you live in check to see if you're no fault state a lot of states are. What it means is her having affair doesn't mean anything in how anything will be decided if went to court. You can start tracking now your activities with the children versus hers. so who puts them down for bedtime, who cooks some dinner, and take them to school or child care and picks them up. start tracking that information now, so you can show a history of 50/50 child rearing responsibilities. Lawyer is…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 10:02 PM
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Man that sucks and worse she's type who is gonna not let you go as long as you let her have enough free reign to full around. And you could almost say well as long as she's coming home to me and the family you know who cares if she has a little bit of outside fun she'll get tired of it and come back to us and maybe but more likely thing to happen is one of these one night stands will actually develop feeling for and and then I'll become a two night stand to a five night stand to a boyfriend. I'm…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 01:03 AM
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Look for women with history, you think it would be the opposite but actually it means that they are professional and they have been doing this safely for a long time without getting anything or else the person who got it would definitely have reported them to the website would have left comments but if they have a clean site with a lot of history of posts they are safe. It's their job to get you off, not get hurt and not get STD so they are more vested in it than even you are as not only with th…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/26 10:13 PM
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I was on dating app after one week after finding my wife had affair but it was mistake. I didn't want just get laid and I wasn't even remotely ready to be invested in anyone. So it was bad call and stupid as I paid for 3 months on two sites and I barely get on. That said one thing I did enjoy was actually talking to women not to date or sex but just talk common interest, friendship energy and I feel that's a good way to dip a toe in and not be vulnerable, just try and get used to talking to othe…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/26 12:03 AM
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Yeah my wife told me the same thing she's been feeling it for a long time but we just had a kid 2 years ago so why did you have a kid with me if you've been feeling it for that long? Now I lose my kid half the time so she can screw a 35 yr ago bar back(can't even make a drink) . She was out with him till 4am not a single check in on her daughter. Can't wait till I move out and take half of everything so I can focus on my child well being. Hilarious I grew up watching movies where moms stayed by …
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 11:00 PM
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This made laugh but I'm not actually sure it's wrong. I know the system was stacked like this because women used to be stay at home mom's so therefore they had no protections if the husband's cheated and decide to replace them with the younger hotter woman. But that has been over for 20 years women are independent now and have no problems cheating and blowing up the relationship while now it seems like more men are staying faithful. I know me personally I just didn't want to be like my dad and l…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 09:00 PM
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What does everyone think about asking for the wedding and engagement ring back I pay probably three times more for my side than she did for hers. also my wedding band has an inscription so it's not worth crap reselling but hers I think would actually give me at least a few grand back, thoughts if it's worth trying to get in the divorce settlement? I have no problem giving mine back to her that's for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 06:51 PM
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Well man that is a bummer and definitely feel you there. My wife started spinning an hour waxing which now I also wonder if she was also in their messaging that guy cuz she was behind the bathroom door for so long waxing she also bought a bunch of nice underwear and bras but she was never really trying to show them off to me to show me when I got them but then she was never trying to show me when she was wearing them. My wife's definitely been overweight her entire life it was her biggest insecu…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 04:30 PM
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Legit would made me feel better if she said she hated me, then atleast it make sense. But love me, b!tch you were on phone with him for 125min 2 days ago while I have hypertension so bad and my blood pressure is 180/106 and I'm texting her to take my blood pressure because she's a nurse and she's out walking and talking to the guy and never responded till hours later. Luckily doc upped my meds, meds I was off by the way till I found out she was having affair then I had to get back on them.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 02:33 AM
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I mean it's so new it take a decade before we get real answers but i it seems to be a trend.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 02:29 AM
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Yeah not sure how two people who are having a affair can reasonablely think they will last, both are proven cheaters and liars. I mean my wife is more attractive than that guys wife so he would be upgrading but what on earth will keep him from trying to upgrade again. Especially when she can't afford 1600 for that medicine when she's paying a mortgage alone.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 02:27 AM
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Yeah she's on that and Adderall, another friends wife was on Adderall and zepbound and lost her damn mind, weekend in mental institute and lost her job. Not surprising she's one person acting like the situation is bad but not my wife who been having a affair, that is a everyone has a side to the story. I will lose weight old fashion way, stress and motivation to make her regret it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 12:42 AM
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Wild , I can't say I was best husband but I was loyal and provided and awesome dad. But fuck it blow it all up for a bar back, one who been same position for 4yrs cutting fruit because I think he is a little slow. He also works at a elementary school as like a hall monitor, making sure kids get to class. Weird stuff, luckily house has gone up 80k in equity since 2019so she gonna pay me big for my half. Let her bar back help pay mortgage at the new refinanced rate after paying me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 12:27 AM
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Yeah my guy is a bar back who as far as I can tell is also married so not sure how long it's going to last but I'll be long gone hopefully before I ever find out what happened.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 11:46 PM
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Yeah I have a feeling it's going to sh seems to think we can handled this amicably without lawyers but that's because I don't think she thinks I'm going to take half the house equity and half of 401k because she has always made around 30% more than me the whole marriage. I live in a no-fault state so the affair doesn't matter but us buying everything together married and her making more money means I should also get child support I think she's going to have a real big surprise when she sees thos…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 11:30 PM
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I'm only one weekend I don't yet have that mentality. I really look forward to the day I can truly say I don't give a damn what she's doing as long as it's not hurting my toddler.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 11:23 PM
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Yeah talked to lawyer today, will file asap. Got one 2yr old. Just hate the fact that we live life completely normal for our two-year-old. She even has a nerve to tell me she still loves me more than anyone but then I look at the phone records and she she still talking to the guy every other day. It's like I'm living in crazy Land where my life is totally the same as it was a week ago except for in the back of my mind I know there's an expiration date a couple months down the road well I'll lose…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 11:20 PM
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Yeah really did not take long at all. Funny I loved her at her worst was fine with how she looked but she leaves me asap when she's at her best. Worst part is people trying to stay neutral like well both have your reasons. You mean we have 2yr old, sex slowed down she lost weight and decided to get sex elsewhere? Not sure how you could stay neutral on that it's either completely messed up to blow up your family and lie and have an affair. Now was I a cheater or an abuser or a emotional abuser su…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 11:10 PM
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