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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 9 | On Bad Habits - Why Texting That Old LVM Is A Form Of Self Harm, & YOU AREN’T A SPORT! Why He Doesn’t Qualify For A ‘Second Shot’ - Don’t Let Your Vulnerability Be His Advantage.This came at the PERFECT time— always unblocked a man to text him….that would’ve been really embarrassing. Thank you for this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 04:59 PM |
| 17 | Destroy the concept that your teen years are supposed to be fun and once you hit 25, you’re old and it’s over. Some of us had to heal from trauma during our teen years and our 20s (30s, 40s, 50s and so on) and would like to begin a good life without constantly being told it’s too late.Thank you for this remind!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:20 AM |
| 54 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Online dating is disgusting, I can’t believe I was ever on there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:04 PM |
| 50 | He really thought he did somethingI’m obsessed with her 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:01 PM |
| 10 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.This is so heartwarming and sweet 😭❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:09 AM |
| 25 | He proposed on our 1st anniversary. Success story!Congratulations!!! Oh that ring is so beautiful ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:53 PM |
| 51 | For anyone who says 30+ women have hit the wall, this queen begs to differ (credit: @ihopeyousuffer3 on Tik Tok)It seems like she’s single— amazing things can happen when you don’t have a man bringing you down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 06:51 PM |
| 6 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?Oh my god. I am so so sorry. This is the biggest nighmare I've ever read on here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:26 PM |
| 11 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 9 - We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to LieThe old saying still rings true-- "Don't ask questions you don't want the answers to" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inOh my god I matched with a guy from Bumble two years ago who's picture was LITERALLY four years old. He looked so much different, much heavier. I just wasn't attracted to him, the minute I saw him I thought "Oh shit, yeah this is not happening" Have fun on your gal pal date!!! And good luck with online dating :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:26 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI feel this. I FEEL this!!! I'm just trying to remind myself that it's a learning process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inGood idea!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:19 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI think part of what upsets me about how I let men treat me pre-FDS is that now they think it's okay to treat other women like that. I could've broken that cycle. I already posted this on a past thread, but I get so upset when I think about this date I went on. He took me to a mini golf place which ended up being for CHILDREN, we still did the course anyway, and then he asked if I wanted coffee in his car afterwards. I should've said no, but for whatever reason I didn't. I cut it off a couple of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:17 AM |
| 5 | A man who wants you to orgasm is not always HVGood for you! Sometimes it really is just you and your vibrator against the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 4 | A man who wants you to orgasm is not always HVOh most definitely. Glad I've moved on though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 7 | A man who wants you to orgasm is not always HVHe mentioned that he used to be watch p0rn frequently but then he stopped, but I wonder if he really did... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:43 PM |
| 41 | A man who wants you to orgasm is not always HVugh the position changing every five seconds!!! like damn i was JUST getting comfortable. and the whole “my dick is enough” and “you will from my dick” is so reminiscent of BDSM because of this weird ego trip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 08:20 AM |
| 4 | Just a teenage girl’s thoughts on liberal feminism and the acceptance of men’s violent and disgusting fantasies.I have the exact same story!!! It's all a performance, and there's no real intimacy. I'd choose intimacy over performance any day and I hope more women do so as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlIdk if this type of comment is allowed, but are there any other ex-BDSM ladies who are struggling? I’ve been distancing myself from porn and all of that but it’s difficult to let go of something you discovered in your formative years and developed a liking toward. How do you get over it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:34 PM |
| 35 | Nick Miller from New Girl was the worst NVM on TV. The entire sitcom is about the emotional immaturity of men, and this dude represents the worst of our culture. Join me in listing the reasons why he’s the worst. 1. Who dumps Megan Fox in a train????IH MY GOD I WAS JUST CONSIDERING MAKING A NEW GIRL POST ON HERE!!!!! GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE i really never understood why girls love nick miller. he’s a bum imo— a funny, loveable bum but still a bum. all the guys there are technically LVM (esp since they all watch porn) but at least schmidt has a high paying job | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 02:54 PM |
| 7 | A testament that FDS does change how a woman approaches dating (VERY LONG DATE STORY -- hopefully inspirational).Honestly good on you for sticking to your boundaries. Like another lady said, you both had a nice evening and you should take it at that! And another woman is right: he DID ask the question too early. I’m just thinking right now about how crazy it is that men see sex as so, transactional? Like if he couldn’t date you then of course a FWB would work, it’s like men forget that sex is about bonding. That’s why I feel like FWBs are a scam for women because they really only benefit the men: they get … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 05:14 AM |
| 30 | And hobbies you’ve picked up as you’ve leveled up?Piano!!!! I love it so much 💓💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 10:44 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI’m still getting into FDS principles after choosing not to date for a while and I’m just beating myself up because I should’ve ended things sooner with this guy. We’ve only had two dates, the first date was at a mini golf place (first red flag imo) that he’s never been to and did no research on so he didn’t figure out that it’s mostly for kids. i was feeling no chemistry at all and then he invited me into his car to go get coffee. i should’ve ended it there but i didn’t and i’m so mad at myself… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:41 PM |
| 5 | Is anyone else childfree because of misogyny & hatred towards mothers?Oh my god this was so beautifully written!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:18 AM |
| 5 | Is anyone else childfree because of misogyny & hatred towards mothers?Incredibly well said, I feel the same way, especially after discovering FDS and radfeminism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 7 | Is anyone else childfree because of misogyny & hatred towards mothers?Oh my god - LITERALLY THIS!!!! Not to mention being a mother in the US sounds like actual death: horrible, almost cruel maternity leave, no health care, no government child care, schools are terrible, and the overall cultural expectation that if you're not with your child 100 percent of the time-- no breaks or anything, no room to be your own person-- you're a terrible mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 11:50 PM |
| 10 | There is no Dream GirlIncredibly well said!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 11:44 PM |
| 5 | Seven tacos please!Aw, cute!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:31 PM |
| 39 | Pay attention to men with abusive patterns of behaviour, they may just be intentionality trying to to induce a Stockholm Syndrome response in their target.That last paragraph really spoke to me. I really didn't think someone could love me and I had to "settle" for being hurt during sex because why should I get anything else. Cheers for self improvement | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:52 PM |
| 219 | Pay attention to men with abusive patterns of behaviour, they may just be intentionality trying to to induce a Stockholm Syndrome response in their target.If this isn't literally BDSM and "aftercare".... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 02:51 PM |
| 3 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.Manifesting!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:17 PM |
| 4 | Never trust a man who calls himself a feminist.This is why I personally don't trust men who call themselves "feminists." If a man simply respects me and recognizes what women go through, I much prefer that to a man identifying with a movement that is for women by women. This is my own personal boundary though, but guys like these are exactly why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:13 PM |
| 1 | That last one hits home. If it’s not love, then it’s manipulation. Steer clear!!Funny how "witholding affection as punishment" is actually a type of BDSM punishment. Excuse me for even typing this next sentence out, but if your "sub" was "acting out", you can punish them by not having sex with them for X amount of days. Huh. Very interesting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:20 PM |
| 6 | Thanksgiving for the Things That Aren'tI'm thankful for this post :) I definitely needed this, thank you so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?The way I'm manifesting this type of relationship now <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:54 PM |
| 5 | This would have saved me so much time.The way my mouth just dropped right now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Porn-Addiction, Grooming and Healthy AlternativesThat makes sense! What I meant by clitoral stimulation was the actual positioning of the dick. At least that’s what I heard, that the position helps women orgasm quicker because of that. But you’re absolutely right: always trying to copy porn is a no-go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 02:06 AM |
| 0 | Porn-Addiction, Grooming and Healthy AlternativesWait, why is doggy style looked down upon? I thought it was preferred because of the clitoral stimulation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:59 AM |
| 5 | What are the signs a man is pornsick?One time a guy I was seeing said that he put he was kinky on his Bumble profile to look for sexual compatibility because “he’d get bored” if there was no BDSM involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:24 AM |
| 24 | I would leave immediatelyFrom what I remember of the show, Leslie and Ben were definitely a much better couple than Jim and Pam-- by a long shot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:17 PM |
| 4 | I would leave immediately(SPOILERS) At the end though, didn't she also buy a house without his permission? The point still stands though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:14 PM |
| 7 | I would leave immediatelyJust when I thought I couldn't love this subreddit more. I ALWAYS thought they were an obnoxious couple but I couldn't find the right words for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:12 PM |
| 6 | This isn't "being the asshole," it's a power move!Wow, what an actual loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:45 PM |
| 7 | I was just called a bitch over discord by a guy and he was so casual about it.Congrats!!!! 🥂🥂🥂🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 10:43 PM |
| 27 | you need zero!“I’m good with the zero loud chip bite” -my motto forever regarding men ahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 06:44 AM |
| 9 | Exactly! Stop accepting zero effort and start demanding what you deserve!Took me the longest time to realize this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:08 AM |
| 56 | Applies to generic white malesI had a guy call me his "persian princess" before.......dude......I'm from Egypt...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 04:25 PM |
| 6 | The majority of the comments used her mental illness against her and barely anyone told her to be careful. They jumped straight to making excuses for hin. If its a joke, it's not funny at all. There are better ways to spend your time. Yeah...I'm scared of men.Men and their jokes. One time a guy I was dating (pre-FDS) and I were hanging out in his room and we were talking about porn and I told him I wasn’t comfortable with porn but he proceeded to show me some to “convince me otherwise” even though I was really uncomfortable. And then I remember mentioning briefly about the sex trafficking that goes behind a lot of porn and he said something along the lines of “Well if you get sex trafficked, I’ll be there to save you.” I was about to leave because I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:00 AM |
| 13 | Stay away from men who only want you when it's convenient for them (i.e. when a boner is present).This comment is actually scary because I LITERALLY used to complain that guys would, with this exact phrasing, "put me on a shelf". It's so nice to be heard and reassured. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:55 PM |
| 10 | Stay away from men who only want you when it's convenient for them (i.e. when a boner is present).Veeeery good advice right here!!! God I needed this a year ago | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:54 PM |
| 7 | I need other women's opinion on this.I'm genuinely asking here: what is ACTUAL mgtow? Do you mean men who genuinely want to work on themselves and help and support their fellow men? I'm confused | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:39 PM |
| 12 | I need other women's opinion on this.It's so refreshing to hear a man who's anti-porn. Edit: Actually I took a quick look at this guy's channel and I think he's MGTOW? Huh... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:46 PM |
| 85 | How it feels talking to pickmes"It's her CHOICE to be degraded. If she feels confident being degraded, then what's the problem?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:25 PM |
| 10 | BINGO!!AHAHAHAHA but doesn’t it feel weird and dishonest?? When I had dating apps, I would have Never done that— mostly bc four years ago I was a minor but also because I’ve changed so much since then! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 03:24 PM |
| 67 | BINGO!!I just remembered one guy i met on bumble posted pictures that were four years old. I almost didn’t recognize him when I first met him. I don’t care if he’s gained weight, but it’s the almost dishonesty that turned me off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 02:56 PM |
| 125 | BINGO!!also the infamous “let’s just ViBe and see where this goes” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I'm really, really happy for you. I haven't been able to see my university's therapist for a couple of months because of COVID and I just couldn't have the same privacy on zoom as I would in person. But the lessons I learned from here I carry with me ever since I had my first session with her almost two years ago. Best of luck to you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 11:09 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Soooooooo I think I know a HVM, but I don't think I'm going to pursue him, because for the first time in my young adult life (I'm 21), I'm focusing on myself and not thinking about the LVM of the week. I wanted so desperately not to be a girl who only talks about boy drama, and if I pursue this guy, I don't want the only thing I can talk about to my friends is him. He's a great guy. About a year ago we made out in his car and he was arguably the only partner I had that listened to my needs and w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 11:06 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I talk about women sooooo much, I'm starting to think my family thinks I'm bi. Bro...I wish. Avoids so much hassle (of course that's not to say that women are incapable of being terrible but you know what I mean). I see so so many beautiful and talented and bright women, and I wish I can give them a loving relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 10:46 PM |
| 1 | A quick reminder to block and delete such people and level up 🙏🏻💖Well this hit me like a ton of bricks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 08:12 PM |
| 5 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyIt’s so funny that I found this post. There’s this one guy where it was just always expected I give him a blowjob...and nothing else. Nothing for me, and it was always in his car (you may argue it’s bc of space, but even the one time we were at his place he only expected a blowjob). And it was one and done and never speak to me again until the next time. And I’m so glad I got out of that because it just wasn’t fun anymore. As others have stated, I don’t think it’s necessarily bad to give a BJ bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:48 PM |
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